"I knew for the first time that forgiveness was not a gift to the aggressor-it was a declaration of independence for the aggrieved. My father didn't need to deserve it. I deserved it, I deserved to be free, and so do you." What a powerful message! Thank you for sharing!
When i was a missionary i served in his ward! he was 16 at the time and getting ready to go on a mission; he was a great kid... im happy to see how much he was grown and has found peace
My father didn't abandon me, however, he abondend his duity to take care of me. He was an abuser, not a peotector. My mother was not a protector. She was yet an injured child herself. For all my life, up until well into adulthood, I looked for someone to take care of, love and protect the broken little girl inside of me. After many failed marriages with partners who would not and possibly, could not fill that roll for me, I realised I needed to take care of and protect the suffering little girl inside me, myself. I, indeed haven't done it all by myself though. My Heavenly Father watched over me, protected me, provided a nurturing atmosphere for me to heal and become whole. It took many years for me to realise He would do this for me if I allowed Him and if I trusted Him.
Brother, thank you so much, I have learned much from what you've shared, your song is beautiful, brought me to tears, I especially loved what you shared about the Saviour.🙏 You sound like an awesome dad👍
What a very inspiring talk. As soon as he said his Father was at work and was going to call him later when he gets home, the word that came to my mind was 'LIAR'. I agree that regardless of how difficult it is to discover truths, and despite others gently encouraging us not to, for fear of getting hurt, we actually need to take those journeys to see for ourselves what it really is. Only then can we position ourselves to start the journey of healing. I love how this lovely brother pointed out that often we look to those who have caused pain to heal and fix it, yet we know life doesn't work like that. I love how this beautiful talk reminds us of who the true healer is, and who to look to when others have wronged us.. even this is a journey in itself. I love the song, how do you make peace with a lion? We all have lions in our lives... this channel has been a big help and inspiration to me. God bless this brother and his family.
Such a raw & emotional song. I was deeply touched. I have had my own issues with my own Father. I realize that my Father was incapable of being the Father I wanted & needed. I still love him. I forgive him. I try not to judge him, anymore. Or guess his intentions. I forgive because of the Commandment to Honor thy Father and thy Mother. I once thought that my Dad was not worth losing my Eternity over. I wasn't going to lose my soul to stay in hurt, internal agony, & hurt mode. There IS freedom in forgiveness. It gives me comfort to know that my Heavenly Father is the Father I deserve. He is capable of being the Father I need. I can't assume or speculate. I don't know my Dad's whole story. My Earthly Father gave me life. I am grateful for that. I honor them both by trying to be a good person. To realize that I have no idea why things with my Father worked out that way, but all will be revealed in the next life.
Wow! Powerful and beautiful. Thank you for allowing us to participate in the wonderful resolution of your very difficult and painful journey. The song is magnificent, and your emotion and passion are palpable. Your words resonate with the human experience in so many ways. Yours is a talk and song of confronting the insurmountable, of healing, and of the Saviors love. And the power of God to take the seemingly broken, and make of it something far richer. Thanks David. Well done.
God Bless you and your family. You will have many blessings. You are truly a wonderful father and you have such a beautiful wife. Your support of your wife is also the key foundation of your home. Pray together. It sounds like you already do. I admire you and your wife. Thank you for sharing your pain and triumph of forgiveness. It’s such a beautiful thing and the song really brings the spirit into what you endure. Thank you.
David, thank you for sharing this very personal and painful story that you have risen above with great faith and wisdom. And you've got a great family.
Cody, I think that's why I tell this story, bro. Somehow, it gives others permission to do the same. I'd love to hear your story if you'd like to share.
Your words and beautiful song and harmonies at the end are a gift to any who have experienced loss of any sort; thank you so much. One of my sons served his mission for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the Guatemala South Mission. Another connection! I love the peace you've found, and often think of the quote, often paraphrased and cited to multiple sources: "Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die." The scriptures teach that forgiveness is required of all (wo)men, but in reality it is a gift to our own soul, as you so eloquently describe. And the voices of you and your wife are lovely!
A very heart warming lesson. The power of forgiveness. I’m not sure why we have to endure such pain and suffering on earth but, I do know that it is through Christ we are able to let go of such burdens. Christ wants us to be happy. I Thank him all the time. Even for the unanswered prayers. He really does know best and what it takes for us to be truly happy, so we can be with him one day, when that time comes.
Gotta say, this is quite surreal to watch. As someone who has felt abandoned in various ways (though never so acutely as described herein) by my own biological father (the very man who adopted the man you see here, thus causing him to share my name - one source of the feelings), it's a powerful story to hear, filled with mixed emotions. As an atheist, I'm not interested in the path he takes, but... it's a touching story, and the song raises a fascinating question indeed.
Hey David! I just saw this. Wow. I didn't know we shared this story in that way. That just hit me now. It's going to take a while to sink in. Thanks for sharing. We should catch up sometime.
Beautiful message and insight on what pain and healing can do when at war with one another, and how to escape that deep pit dug by others. Thanks David for your courage to stand on stage with your beautiful wife Noel and sing for us. I've shared that song with family and they love it too.
Very engaging discussion and realization of your journey into fatherhood and being fatherless. My appreciation to you for being open enough to share such a personal experience. My biological father passed a few years back. He and I never met in person. Your thoughts are similar to some that I have had and the conclusion is that your wife and son will feel your love stronger and you will give more knowing you had less. Learning comes through our adversity. You got this!
You know this contains an intetesting message for me.... God doesn't always fix things because people don't always want help... but I think one day God will help me understand my own issues and help me understand why they were caused... I know that God heals all wounds eventually and I hope mine will heal with peace and understanding not revenge and anger....
Your " Story, your Song " is and always will be Most Lovingly appreciated by myself and many others. " Thank you and may our Lord Bless you and your Family always & forever. Very Sincerely, Neal Patrick Fry
Even if we haven''t experienced the same things in life, we have all had the experience of feeling shattered. Much like a glass plate, when dropped onto a cement floor, there are things that come into our lives that can leave us in scattered pieces. Unanswered questions, growing older and still carrying the pain from childhood can make us feel less than we are. Some may think that turning to God and placing that pain into His hands is a sign of weakness. It is the opposite of weakness. It is the courage and strength in recognizing that we are His children. As a loving Father, he greatly desires to help us, comfort us, lead and guide us.
David: in the beginning your introduction sounded melancholic , very sentimental for LDS people and far from reality , but as the story rolled on, and I realized what really happened, i got the message: God heals our souls. I did not run the same luck you did, but some family scars still hurt, and other things in life, so in the end your message was really meaningful.Greetings from Costa Rica
Gracias por compartir una experiencia tan personal, estoy seguro q muchas corazones han Sido tocados, hay más ánimo , más deseos de amar, más ánimos de acercarnos a seres amados. Desde la distancia, su hermano y amigo.
My early life echos this to some extent, I was adopted. That family I love, and I have chosen to love and find my biological family too. I still have claw marks m yself. I do trust the Heavenly Father to bind my wounds and heal my pain that I still have despite my choices to forgive - it will be completed because God and Christ are the best and most thorough at what they do.
Can this video please be translated into Spanish? The Latin or Spanish community would love to be able to watch and share this video!! I loved the song!! God does restore any pain and every affliction if we but come to him seek, ask and knock!
I'm not sure of this but to me the Lion that he is referring to is the feeling of the call of blood in the first instance and the second instance is referring to the pain that his father caused him, the pain was like a Lion trying to choke him in his throat but ONLY his believes in a higher power or a Savior that would pay his father's debt would set him free from the Lion, the feeling of resentment. This is his Journey to forgiveness 🙂
"I knew for the first time that forgiveness was not a gift to the aggressor-it was a declaration of independence for the aggrieved. My father didn't need to deserve it. I deserved it, I deserved to be free, and so do you."
What a powerful message! Thank you for sharing!
Incredible story and song thank you again Glory to our Heavenly Father
😥so beautiful, Wow thank you so much for putting this on UA-cam
When i was a missionary i served in his ward! he was 16 at the time and getting ready to go on a mission; he was a great kid... im happy to see how much he was grown and has found peace
JamesMoo wow dude that’s so awesome
My father didn't abandon me, however, he abondend his duity to take care of me. He was an abuser, not a peotector. My mother was not a protector. She was yet an injured child herself.
For all my life, up until well into adulthood, I looked for someone to take care of, love and protect the broken little girl inside of me.
After many failed marriages with partners who would not and possibly, could not fill that roll for me, I realised I needed to take care of and protect the suffering little girl inside me, myself. I, indeed haven't done it all by myself though. My Heavenly Father watched over me, protected me, provided a nurturing atmosphere for me to heal and become whole.
It took many years for me to realise He would do this for me if I allowed Him and if I trusted Him.
Brother, thank you so much, I have learned much from what you've shared, your song is beautiful, brought me to tears, I especially loved what you shared about the Saviour.🙏 You sound like an awesome dad👍
What a very inspiring talk. As soon as he said his Father was at work and was going to call him later when he gets home, the word that came to my mind was 'LIAR'. I agree that regardless of how difficult it is to discover truths, and despite others gently encouraging us not to, for fear of getting hurt, we actually need to take those journeys to see for ourselves what it really is. Only then can we position ourselves to start the journey of healing. I love how this lovely brother pointed out that often we look to those who have caused pain to heal and fix it, yet we know life doesn't work like that. I love how this beautiful talk reminds us of who the true healer is, and who to look to when others have wronged us.. even this is a journey in itself. I love the song, how do you make peace with a lion? We all have lions in our lives... this channel has been a big help and inspiration to me. God bless this brother and his family.
Such a raw & emotional song. I was deeply touched. I have had my own issues with my own Father. I realize that my Father was incapable of being the Father I wanted & needed. I still love him. I forgive him. I try not to judge him, anymore. Or guess his intentions. I forgive because of the Commandment to Honor thy Father and thy Mother. I once thought that my Dad was not worth losing my Eternity over. I wasn't going to lose my soul to stay in hurt, internal agony, & hurt mode. There IS freedom in forgiveness. It gives me comfort to know that my Heavenly Father is the Father I deserve. He is capable of being the Father I need. I can't assume or speculate. I don't know my Dad's whole story. My Earthly Father gave me life. I am grateful for that. I honor them both by trying to be a good person. To realize that I have no idea why things with my Father worked out that way, but all will be revealed in the next life.
Honestly this video deserves the most views, I love David and his story and his song
I love that! That song is replaying in my head now. I want to here that song more often, I love it.
Wow! Powerful and beautiful. Thank you for allowing us to participate in the wonderful resolution of your very difficult and painful journey. The song is magnificent, and your emotion and passion are palpable. Your words resonate with the human experience in so many ways. Yours is a talk and song of confronting the insurmountable, of healing, and of the Saviors love. And the power of God to take the seemingly broken, and make of it something far richer. Thanks David. Well done.
Heavenly Father and his wife are amazing.
God Bless you and your family. You will have many blessings. You are truly a wonderful father and you have such a beautiful wife. Your support of your wife is also the key foundation of your home. Pray together. It sounds like you already do. I admire you and your wife. Thank you for sharing your pain and triumph of forgiveness. It’s such a beautiful thing and the song really brings the spirit into what you endure. Thank you.
Beautiful Song. Great lesson on forgiveness
I don’t really cry, but this made me cry. Thank you.
David, thank you for sharing this very personal and painful story that you have risen above with great faith and wisdom. And you've got a great family.
Wow, what a story. I love this. My father abandoned us when I was 6 months old. I know this man’s pain. I know it! Thank you for sharing Brother.
Cody, I think that's why I tell this story, bro. Somehow, it gives others permission to do the same. I'd love to hear your story if you'd like to share.
David Lindes thank you !!!Amazing journey and I love your song !
Thanks for sharing David. Brings back fond memories working with you back on my mission. Glad to see you're doing well
Your words and beautiful song and harmonies at the end are a gift to any who have experienced loss of any sort; thank you so much. One of my sons served his mission for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the Guatemala South Mission. Another connection! I love the peace you've found, and often think of the quote, often paraphrased and cited to multiple sources: "Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die." The scriptures teach that forgiveness is required of all (wo)men, but in reality it is a gift to our own soul, as you so eloquently describe. And the voices of you and your wife are lovely!
A very heart warming lesson. The power of forgiveness. I’m not sure why we have to endure such pain and suffering on earth but, I do know that it is through Christ we are able to let go of such burdens. Christ wants us to be happy. I Thank him all the time. Even for the unanswered prayers. He really does know best and what it takes for us to be truly happy, so we can be with him one day, when that time comes.
Gotta say, this is quite surreal to watch. As someone who has felt abandoned in various ways (though never so acutely as described herein) by my own biological father (the very man who adopted the man you see here, thus causing him to share my name - one source of the feelings), it's a powerful story to hear, filled with mixed emotions. As an atheist, I'm not interested in the path he takes, but... it's a touching story, and the song raises a fascinating question indeed.
Hey David! I just saw this. Wow. I didn't know we shared this story in that way. That just hit me now. It's going to take a while to sink in. Thanks for sharing. We should catch up sometime.
Wonderful music and song on guitar. Both wife and husband performed in outstanding way.
A lifetime message of restitution that I will carry with me. Beautifully insightful Brother Lindes.
I sobbed
Beautiful message and insight on what pain and healing can do when at war with one another, and how to escape that deep pit dug by others. Thanks David for your courage to stand on stage with your beautiful wife Noel and sing for us. I've shared that song with family and they love it too.
Thanks so much, Chris!
Beautiful testimony.... praise be to God for God's grace and love for u
Very engaging discussion and realization of your journey into fatherhood and being fatherless. My appreciation to you for being open enough to share such a personal experience. My biological father passed a few years back. He and I never met in person. Your thoughts are similar to some that I have had and the conclusion is that your wife and son will feel your love stronger and you will give more knowing you had less. Learning comes through our adversity. You got this!
You know this contains an intetesting message for me.... God doesn't always fix things because people don't always want help... but I think one day God will help me understand my own issues and help me understand why they were caused... I know that God heals all wounds eventually and I hope mine will heal with peace and understanding not revenge and anger....
Great talk great music
Thank you
That musical performance stopped me in my tracks. Phenomenal.
Your " Story, your Song " is and always will be Most Lovingly appreciated by myself and many others.
" Thank you and may our Lord Bless you and your Family always & forever.
Very Sincerely,
Neal Patrick Fry
I love it. Thank you so much for sharing your testimony. I know that this message was for me❤❤. Godbless you and your family
That was amazing David!! It was powerful and heartfelt. I'm proud to call you a friend ❤️
Hey hey Heidi! Fancy meeting you here! :) I love you, too. :)
Even if we haven''t experienced the same things in life, we have all had the experience of feeling shattered. Much like a glass plate, when dropped onto a cement floor, there are things that come into our lives that can leave us in scattered pieces. Unanswered questions, growing older and still carrying the pain from childhood can make us feel less than we are. Some may think that turning to God and placing that pain into His hands is a sign of weakness. It is the opposite of weakness. It is the courage and strength in recognizing that we are His children. As a loving Father, he greatly desires to help us, comfort us, lead and guide us.
Coming across this is 2022, I know it's an answer to my fervent prayers to find forgiveness for my family that has hurt me so deeply.
couldn't bear to watch it, as too close to home.
David: in the beginning your introduction sounded melancholic , very sentimental for LDS people and far from reality , but as the story rolled on, and I realized what really happened, i got the message: God heals our souls. I did not run the same luck you did, but some family scars still hurt, and other things in life, so in the end your message was really meaningful.Greetings from Costa Rica
I loved this so much. Thank you for sharing your story.
Gracias por compartir una experiencia tan personal, estoy seguro q muchas corazones han Sido tocados, hay más ánimo , más deseos de amar, más ánimos de acercarnos a seres amados.
Desde la distancia, su hermano y amigo.
I hope my kids find me. I think about them all day every day.
Bean Jelly
I know how that feels.
Where are they ?
What a touching history, what a touching song. Thank you for sharing this. :D
Thank you for sharing your forgiveness journey.
What a great and powerful message! Thank you. I know there will be a time of answers... Love.
This was beautiful, thank you!
Just beautiful!
Amazing! I loved and needed this. Everything was beautiful!
I love these they are like church Ted talks and I love it.
My early life echos this to some extent, I was adopted. That family I love, and I have chosen to love and find my biological family too. I still have claw marks m yself. I do trust the Heavenly Father to bind my wounds and heal my pain that I still have despite my choices to forgive - it will be completed because God and Christ are the best and most thorough at what they do.
Thank you for sharing.
Can this video please be translated into Spanish? The Latin or Spanish community would love to be able to watch and share this video!! I loved the song!! God does restore any pain and every affliction if we but come to him seek, ask and knock!
Fantastic
Thank you for sharing your experience:) So touched by your talk and healed my heart ♥️:)
That was great
Amazing!
Thanks, I went through the same
Did the church stop doing these “TED TALKS” ?!?! We need more of these ❤
Thank you for sharing. - JD
Those we label as “lions” will never want to return.
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Wow.good work.😀
to those 25 people that disliked this video....i dont even know what to say
The Atonement pays everything. Jesus Christ is everything.
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Gracias hermanos pero me gustaría que enviarán los mensajes en castellano
Spanish Spanish Spanish
The father is no lion. He's a coward.
I'm not sure of this but to me the Lion that he is referring to is the feeling of the call of blood in the first instance and the second instance is referring to the pain that his father caused him, the pain was like a Lion trying to choke him in his throat but ONLY his believes in a higher power or a Savior that would pay his father's debt would set him free from the Lion, the feeling of resentment. This is his Journey to forgiveness 🙂