a pillow talk about feeling lonely and numb
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- Опубліковано 15 лип 2021
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showing y'all some old vlog footage from back in march / april and getting personal about my mental health on my beloved floor where most of my sad boy hours happen. honestly, the floor is the best place to have those moments. anyways, i hope u guys are doing well! i'm doing quite alright recently myself so that's good.
lots of love,
dusty
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Ok but yall know that feeling when u hangout with ur friends then when u go home u just feel so sad like :/
All theee timeeee....
I feel the same way and I'm 15 and I struggle with staying home all the time because I am that type of person that like to go out and to enjoy the weather. Just to enjoy life and to be honest my summer wasn't really good this year so I can definitely relate to Dustin.
us getting sad😔
It could be a bunch more reasonings but the general answer is because you build up so much serotonin so immediately after you leave it drops all t once which is overwhelming
@@Sophie-ls3jz Hi how old are you? I am down esp since you watch Dustin, he is one of my comfort youtubers so I would love to have a friend who shares the mutual like of Dustin that I could talk to about issues and other things ^^
Dustin, it must've took you so much courage to be this vulnerable with us. But I think that's what builds up the connection between you and your audience. I have always been very private about my feelings and emotions but watching you openly talking about your mental health encouraged me to be open about my emotions and not feel ashamed about it. I know you're having a hard time and I hope your therapy sessions go well and you feel better in the future. Wishing you all the best!
ik this is for dustin but tysm for commenting this
@@daysixstrashenthusiast1512 aw, no problem! :)
I feel like we think the same honestly. It’s just a never ending cycle of loneliness and sadness, but Dustin I’m so excited for you to experience a genuine connection with someone that reciprocates your efforts and who would be so happy to spend their time with you. I’m wishing you the best and so much love ✨❤️
I relate so much to that being the initiator part. once you stop making plans, no one else makes them and it's exhausting being the glue to the friend group. hope it gets better dustin
if u stopped mking plans and ur friends dont do anything it just shows how theyre not rlly interested in u :( n how ur not connected with them
ikr! i realize that if i stopped texting first, reaching out first, ill stop having friends.
it also rly sucks when u try making plans several times but everyone seems to be too pre occupied w their own lives and seem too busy for u. like atp i won’t be surprised if i end up not hangin w any of my best friends this summer
same here, i kind of went silent over the winter because of SAD and i don't think anyone reached out to me at all :_)
Sometimes it isn’t even the fact that your friends don’t care about you, but if you don’t arrange anything they’ll just want to go to Lidl all the time or sit at home 🥴
you’re super hella fucking brave for posting this video. we’re all so proud of you coming thus far. you’ve achieved so so much in such a short period of time.
i’m sure others have said this to you already but as a viewer who experiences these complicated feelings as well, your videos feel very validating and calming, if that makes sense. your videos are the highlights for our weeks, they’re like the sun that brightens our day.
thank you, so so much, for posting videos for us, for making content, for being the way you are. we all love you lots dustin, hopefully things will turn for the better for you soon. you can do it
I love this comment omg u are such a sweet person to write all of this sending love 🤍
too sweet ;-; ty
how did you explain everything I feel in this one comment 🥰
@@lilyireland5974 IKR exactly!
this person said everything so well
This video is too relatable man
my social life has become so dry that i now rely on youtubers to fill the hole when i feel lonely
We call that a parasocial relationship. Go out there and talk to people dude. Coworkers, classmates, old friends, mutuals.
@@dontburstmybubble686 we can still be in a crowded room with people, talk to hundreds of people and still feel lonely inside..
@@hadidahelfalah hey I’m not shaming penguin, I feel like that too sometimes but it feels better to have a true friend connection and you find that by widening the pool.
Same here...................
same
as a person who has been lonely, it becomes nice after a while. You become comfortable in the person you become by yourself. The person who will always be there. Prioritize yourself and your health no one else's.
Is there something that helped you transition from feeling lonely to feeling nice by yourself? I’m feeling numb and lonely right now and am trying to be more comfortable doing things on my own and enjoying time when I’m alone but I haven’t felt much better lately.
@@loganmarkell7112 personally I found one thing that I love and no one else does. Since if I can't share it with anyone it became my own thing. (watching cartoons) It took a while but after some time I started looking forward to my nightly cartoon binge. It's just finding the right activity that clears your head but keeps you calm. keep searching.
I relate!! As you've said I've realised that at the end of the day I'm the only one who's always there for myself
Growing up I changes schools a LOT and I was a bookworm and I had high expectations of "best friends" I've fed into that mc and their best friend forever thing and as I grew up more I've realised that it's not real that just doesn't happen
For someone who's constantly changing the pandemic really made me even more of a loner because I rarely text ppl and I've grown to like it
Quiet nights by myself and my thoughts
Ofc it isn't always like that tho sometimes my thoughts are too overbearing and negative but it gets better and that's what keeps me going rn :))
@@loganmarkell7112 I've gotten better at that after starting to actually like myself and enjoying my own presence
I like to think of it as being my own best friend since no one gets me as well as I do I hope that helps!! :)
He’s too pretty and kind. This world really don’t deserve him.
the nobody ever talking to you first HITS TOOO HOME that was my entire highschool experience
I THOUGHT IM THE ONLY ONE LIKE THIS 😭
Same......
I am the same way with friends. This year was really hard for me because none of my friends would reach out and it made me feel like no one loved me. It makes me feel better to know that someone as cool as you has the same issues. I wish you were my friend! Your videos make me feel so much better during these times!
lets be bestfriends with dustin to the point when we go to his house, we dont even have to knock and all of his fam normalize that lol
Same here, and it sucks that you feel alone and no friends reaching out but sadly I got used to it. but lets be friends if you want !
this! I can't express how perfectly timed this video is 😔❤️
Not the title literally describing my life
I've been there, being the leader makes us feel lonely because we're the ones who worry about things and we feel like no one cares enough about us to do the same, it's just exhausting, I wish you meet someone who vibes with the same leader energy Dustin :)
ive been thinking about this cus i am the initiator myself, i was just thinking what if thats how life works i mean the iniatiator will be paired w/ the noninitiator bcs then the energy will fill in each other idk if that makes sense
@@hadidahelfalah indeed, I also feel like if the energy is too similar, you kinda collide with the other person, it's just how it works sometimes
i love the contrast/parallel between the vlog scenes and ~breakdown time~ cause its important to remember that youtube and instagram is just the rose-colored lenses half of someone's life and we really do go through the same struggles no matter how aesthetic someone else's life may seem from the outside
I honestly really relate. I'm the initiator in all my relationships and its exhausting and when I stop no one reaches out to me so I just don't know what to do and it sucks. I'm also an only child with not-so open parents so I feel extremely alone. The fact that all my friends have siblings or parents for emotional support just stings cause I never had that and then I just feel lonely or too dependent on my friends idk. That got really depressing lol.
14:08 happiness is temporary, joy is what lasts and once you have joy in your life it’s very hard for it to leave
I feel the same, but I have found that it’s extremely important to be ok with being by yourself, to feel comfortable in your own silence. I hope someone reads this and understands what I’m trying to say
yeah but sometimes u just crave a connection w someone..and it feels lonely coz u cant find your people
@@daysixstrashenthusiast1512 maybe what she's trying to say is that if the universe somehow makes u lonely, maybe its a sign that u should love urself and be the person u wanted to be with, have peace with urself, but i also get it that we're humans and we need connections with others
The moment at 13:33 was so cute :' )
it's not the loneliness for me, just the feeling of inadequacy that I feel because all my friends always seem beautiful and confident and comfortable, but I can't be any of those things, which kind of hurts my heart even though I want them to be successful. Thanks for sharing Dustin, it makes me feel more okay with myself
i relate to the "initiator" thing so much. so exhausting to have reach out just to have plans and its even worse when they turn it down like kk ill just fk myself then X))))!!"
This is so relatable. Sometimes I feel like everyone around me is going on with their lives while, I’m stuck in time repeating the same day over and over.
Me too and since i moved out for university i can see my dorm friends go socialize w everyone and i am sitting in my room most of the time but actually i am picky about my friendships but sometimes i cant convince myself that i prefer this
Words can’t describe how much I relate to you. I’m closeted and it effects my relationships very much. I feel like I’ve always held back a part of me and it causes me to not connect with friends in a deep way. I’m tired of feeling so isolated.
hey dustin- this time will pass okay? just think of this time as harshest winter u're facing...but when u pass this hard phase u will come into a beautiful spring...and then u would reflect back thinking how much u've crossed in life...so have hope dear friend🌙
that's a beautiful way to think about it. :)
Dustin and Jazzy!!! Are you kidding me? That’s like the best crossover episode I could ask for!
I love the vulnerability of this vid. I also feel so happy when I’m with my friends, and then BOOM. LONELINESS. and I do be having those emotional breakdowns at night 🤠
Idk why but his voice is so relaxing😭
the initiator thing is something i also struggle w/, i feel so un wanted when i constantly have to be responsible for reaching out to people and it’s hard when all i want is to know they also want to spend quality time together and yet wondering whether they’d stop hanging out if i quit initiating :((( this life be so damn confusing :(((
NOT ME RELATING TO THE TITLE 😭
Ive been feeling like this since march too. I couldn't sleep,eat,talk normally. Intrusive thinking ate me alive and i hated it so much and it took so much out of me. Now,months later, i eat normally and can do everyday tasks but i dont feel better. I had a sleepover in june and i really wanted it to help me feel better but i was at my peak too. After that i just had to be alone and being around certain things or people just affected me negatively and i feel so bad. I really hope school helps me get back on my feet and i somehow i guess like you said "get better" but at this point i feel like i just have to wait till it comes back.
Hey, I know this won’t mean that much coming from a stranger but it will get better! Having the feelings of loneliness and numbness is some of the worst feelings to have to experience. Getting yourself out of that hole of negative emotions is difficult and takes a lot of effort to dig yourself out of. It’s always good to recognize the feelings and figure out ways that will make that feeling go away. Maybe a friend isn’t what’ll bring you joy rn but maybe a simple walk w/a pet, doing some art, treating yourself to a date, etc. Finding that niche or activity that’ll help cope with that feeling is an amazing way to help you not have to experience them again. To recognize when you feel like that and do what you need to do to not slip down that hole again. People will come and find out how amazing you are, it’ll feel like an eternity but it’ll be worth it in the end. Quarantine has tested everyone with so many things and everything is slowly coming back to normal but not fast enough. I hope you can heal and find some amazing friends during this time.
I love these kind of videos they just show how vulnerable we actually are dustin we really appreciate u trusting us enough to share this with all of us we love u 💜
The thumbnail is giving what needed to be gave
hi dustin, i know a lot of people have said this already but you’re super brave for posting this video. i think that a lot of people have been experiencing these feelings as well and knowing that someone else, especially someone who a lot of people look up to, is feeling these things too is very reassuring. honestly, i can’t wait until this whole period of our lives is just a distant memory.
I just came from Conan's "People watching" premiere. Love you Dustin ❤️
Same! It was such a good video :)
the fact that i see this after i cried last night for nothing and had fun with my friend all day
MEE
This is exactly what's happening to me right now, where I have to be the one to reach out to people, and it gets overwhelmingly lonely when I stop trying to reach out and make plans with people. This is exactly what I needed. Love you, Dustin
OMG SO TRUE. looking back, I was never really happy for a long amount of time. It’s always feeling happy and everything is amazing and then it slowly declines and I fall into a pit of sadness. I have no motivation to talk to ANYONE or do anything. But I would always “get better”. It’s just a cycle and honestly I have no idea how to stay happy. very relatable dustin
i literally just had a breakdown before seeing this, thank you dustin. it made me feel less alone and a bit more understood. i kinda just feel like i carry the weight of everyone else's problems on my shoulders sometimes and i have so much trauma i'm afraid to come to terms with. we're all on this journey together.
p.s it's super courageous of you to post this and be transparent, it's a very hard thing to do :)
Omg, I was just feeling lonely. This really was a good time for this to be uploaded 😭😭😭
I feel like we are sharing the pain
Just like the moon, we all experience feelings of emptiness before we're whole again ~
I wish all of u reading this a good life full with growth and self love 💜sending love to y’all
aughh thank you so much, wish you the same too🤧❤
@@alungoo_uwu thank u ily keep going have a great one 🤍
I relate to you so much about being the one who always initiates going out with a friend, makes definite plans and sees that they’re carried out. And while it is fun to go out with friends and the people you like, it does get exhausting. That’s why you talking about it gave me so much comfort, I felt like there’s someone who understands how I feel. Also, I hope the therapy works out well for you 💕
This video was comforting cuz I just finished crying in the dark for a whole hour
the way you described my exact feelings right now
omg the part about friends. i feel that so much. like after i hangout, or go somewhere and come back home, i feel so sad. i feel lonely even tho i’m around my family all the time. during virtual school, i was so sad and i thought it was that i needed to see my friends again. and during the second semester, i was happy bc i was in person school. but it was just a distraction. right now(summer), i just feel sad again and all i can do is wait to go back to school again, to get my distraction back. never ending cycle.
I'm really proud of you for telling us this and I really appreciate it. I'm also really proud you're getting into therapy and I truly hope from the bottom of my heart that it will benefit you in any way possible. You rock Dustin, you really do. Maybe you could try writing your feelings down when you feel that your emotions are taking everything of you over, it helps me a lot to gain some insight into my thought process :)
I know exactly how you feel, when I am going out with my best friend, she is texting to her boyfriend all the time and I feel pretty lonely. I really want to discuss with her about the family issues that I have,but I am afraid she won't listen!😥
i really appreciate your vulnerability in this video :c i honestly understand how you feel and im so glad that i wasnt the only who felt that way. also, im proud of you! it takes a lot of courage to actually let yourself get the help that you need-you deserve to be happy, dustin ❤️
dustin is my comfort youtuber
i never in my life thought that i'd find someone who felt the same way i did. i thought i was crazy since i also would feel so lonely and numb without my friends, be the "initiator" since no one also really reached out to me, find that reciprocation from all the love and support i give, and be exhausted from trying so hard to become everyone's friend and satisfy the nonexistent expectations others would have of me cuz i fool myself that they do have them. i also distract myself alot and think i was "fine" for a moment but ends up it was all just suppressed. thank you dustin for not making me feel alone, let's walk onto the path of better thinking, more self love and strength
I literally luv his aesthetic idk there is but sum about it♡︎♡︎
I had to be a little late cuz of conans premiere but we got through it and we here now.🥰🥰
Same 🥰
it’s crazy they posted at the exact same time and the thumbnails are both of them laying in the exact same position 😂😂😂
@@sonnyangellvr 🤣righttt
@@sonnyangellvr ikr the were tight next to eachither too
I really didn’t realize how much I needed this video. I’ve been in the same boat, my mental health has been so bad lately. Hearing someone else say they feel the way I do, in the saddest way possible, is helping. I get it dustin and we’ll get through this💙
I feel like I'm the same because I have always been the person to ask my friends if they wanted to hang. I stopped asking people to hang out and it's insane how no one has asked me to hang out with me. Some of my "friendships" felt one way and I feel like I'm that person who checks up on others but no one does the same to me.
wow i never knew how much i could relate to someone i don’t even know, your videos have so much meaning and power and i love that❣️🫠
yay a video for just when i needed it
Dustin is an entire aesthetic and I am here for it
ily dustin, i am here rooting for you.. for us to do good and be happy! everyday is a new beginning and also a lesson.
Your videos are just so wholesome
exactly when i needed it
sending u love and light, dustin bc i totally feel the same way :(
this was amazing, thank you dustin
this is one of the most relatable videos ive seen, thank u thank u thank u
Did you'all know that loneliness could kill you?
Its slightly killing me
love u dustin ahhh
I feel this so much. Thank you for talking about all your feelings of loneliness and sadness because I’ve felt all of these same things. I just never see anyone talk about it. So thank you
I feel like I had this happen to me at the beginning of quarantine and it was really hard to go through but it'll make you stronger in the end and you'll grow from it
You’ve literally described word for word how I feel rn
We're with you Dustin, and a lot of us feel the same sometimes too. Just know watching your videos has gave me some joy, for that thank you!
i’m so grateful to have dustin because i relate to him so well and he can say everything i’m thinking out loud when i would struggle to put it into words
Lately I've been going through things too. I used to hang onto feelings without being able to do anything about the situation because I feel so overwhelmed. I hope things get better for you soon and that you meet someone who will be there for you as much as you're there for them
The initiating cycle is EXACTLY what happens to me. It's so interesting to hear someone describe that they go through the same exact thing.
Thank you for making this video
It's was such a lovely surprise to see this video in my recommended :) I'm always excited for the content you put out!
i love this video so much
it's so calming and comforting in the sense that i can relate
more power, love and light to you, Dustin!!!!
i love you and thank you for posting this. totally understand you...
major major props to you for putting this out there and being so vulnerable. i love this and i love you
Bro I needed this istg you god 😭😌✨
I’ve been feeling like this, so much in my life is changing and I can’t deal with it I’m changing schools my best friends are getting closer together and I know that they will slowly forget about me I feel like I like I always make the worst decisions and honestly feel like there is no way that I can fix it, I can’t change back to my old school were my friends are and things are getting bad and since thing are getting bad I stop talking and stop responding messages and eventually will loose everything that once made me happy.
Completely understand what your going through Dustin...hope life gets better for you in the future...
Also the little shots of nature you added was beautiful ❤
this brought me comfort ❤️
I really appreciate and enjoy these kind of videos from you! I'm sure they make many people feel not so alone as they think :3
Can't tell you how much I appreciate you for doing this. I just cant.
self care is really important ! take your time to work through it and don't feel bad if you have to take a break :) hope you feel better soon dustin !
i really needed this video especially at the start of summer vacation, thank you Dustin ily
Thank you so much. I been feeling like this for a few years now and i Just feel broken, but knowing that other people feel like this makes me little bit more fine about it.
yo I have felt this way many many times.
okay i totally understand how you’re feeling right now and you’re doing great ma man
i relate to what u said. seeing someone on the internet talking about it kinda helps. thank u:)
i really appreciate you opening up about what you're feeling. i think im not alone when i say that it's comforting to see someone dealing with similar issues of mental health. loneliness can sometimes be hard to talk about because i feel like some people demean your feelings because they have the impression that you're not THAT lonely either because they get the wrong impression from your social media or because you have siblings or whatever the reason might be. but loneliness is definitely a valid feeling that affects everyone, and im wishing you the best in overcoming this c:
Please do more of those you don’t understand how much it helps
I honestly couldn't relate more to this. I've always been the initiator in the relationships that I've had and it gets so exhausting doing the same things and constantly reaching out, trying to find people that match my energy. I end up feeling so upset after a while and start overthinking about a lot of things. These past few months have been particularly hard considering that I've recently lost the relationships with a lot of people whom I was close to. I'm starting therapy soon and I'm hopeful that I start to feel better and I wish the same for you
I'm so proud of you for posting this video and doing your best to convey to everyone what you've been feeling lately. you're so brave, vaild, loved, and important. sending lots of love your way
i feel the exact same way and i understand exactly what you’re saying. it’s weird :| it’ll get better though. love you dustin
waow i would never thought someone could express my feelings that relevantly
thank you for posting this
This year I've had to learn to look for the good of everyday, within myself. Doom and gloom are always going to be so loud when they come but good is so much louder when you reach out to it. Crying, getting out of bed, letting go, feeling the sun on your face, breathing, all of that is good and you have that, all the good and I hope you reach out to it more and more everyday, bask in your struggling because that means you haven't given up, not defeated, and that's so amazing, Dustin.
wow didn't think i would be crying today but here i am lol
the vulnerability in this video is incredible and i really relate with a lot things you mentioned.
Honestly thank you so much for this. I was just in the middle of an anxiety attack/ anxiety period where I was just not in the mood to even get outa bed cuz there was no reason. This video calmed me down and now I feel better. It’s crazy how much it can help hearing other people going though these feelings of loneliness and thinking that happiness is such a fleeting feeling.
Thankyou for making this dustin. It is hard to be vulnerable on the internet, but know that you're not alone
thank you so much for posting this, you literally put the mess of thoughts in my head into words