If your toddler is hitting... do this
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- Опубліковано 22 чер 2024
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If your toddler is hitting because of power struggle and not because of emotional dysregulation, would you send them in time-out? I'm asking because in the few videos I've watched from you, you talk about helping them regulate their emotions, but you don't talk about punishing general misbehavior.
Punishment, no. Discipline, yes. And there is a difference which makes a big impact! You absolutely can set boundaries around unsafe and unkind behavior. A power struggle generally stems from emotional dysregulation or another need not being met. (Even if it's just frustration at being told "no" - they don't know how to handle that frustration.) Always always it's about getting to what's UNDERNEATH the behavior if you want to solve the issue long term. I hope that helps!!
@CassieMomCoach Only relying on the child to stop a behavior is not a good parenting. You can stop the kid from pushing their sibling, but what if they don't want to stop screaming or "do their job" in their pants on purpose? You don't have control over kids' bodily functions, only they do. Also, without consequences (punishment), kids will constantly try to do whatever they want because they're too young to reason with, and no amount of conversations will change that. With too permissive parenting, you'll only go in circles with them until they decide to stop the behavior. And I don't know why all of you permissive parents hate the word "punishment" so much. It's just something unpleasant to stop a behavior. It's not suffering, just unpleasant enough to work. We talk about punishment, not abuse. It isn't something harmful or traumatizing. Don't get me wrong, I'm absolutely against punishing children for their emotions, but there is a line between the need to validate their emotions and the need to set and uphold clear boundaries.
The behaviour is absolutely normal and they don't need punishing. Little humans need guidence and good age related communication. Stop thinking children need punishing.
I'll assume you're talking to me, and I'm genuinely sorry if I misunderstood who you're talking to. If a child hits their sibling, throws their food on the floor or runs dangerously close to the road just because they can and want, they need to be punished to understand that certain actions are unacceptable. If you rely completely on your child's ability to listen without having any consequences, I wish you luck because you'll need an unimaginable amount of luck. Parenting without punishments is too permissive and sometimes even dangerous, for example running to the road or hitting a sibling on the head. The kids will grow up spoiled, too demanding, unable to function in the world. Seriously, have you been in a room with a kid for more than a few hours? Without punishments, kids do whatever they want, and no amount of conversations will change that. Watch Supernanny.