I lost my beautiful brother this past Christmas night and my wonderful nephew this Sunday. I do most of the grieving on my own, it hurts a lot. I have my husband who is the love of my life. I am so sorry to all that has lost loved ones and feels alone. On my behave, I am sorry and I feel your pain and I am with you. My prayers tonight will be for all of you. J.
I appreciate her message on grief, going outside the norm and allowing clients to be where they are, not necessarily conforming to what is considered "Normal!"
One thing I learned about people when your going through painful grief is that if it's not happening to THEM in their life, they really don't give a damn what your going through. They say the most tackiness things to you, which just make you feel worse. That's when you really miss the times your spouse was here to help protect you from this cruel selfish self-centered world. Some, who you thought were your friends, stop calling you because you're not a "couple" anymore and don't fit in anymore.
My soulmate died five years ago. One of the hardest things to handle was the cruel, appalling, thoughtless comments people made. Not “bad” people, just no empathy, no imagination, no clue. No such comments made but those who had known grief.
@@douglaswerts4936 So sorry for your loss. Yes, people can be very thoughtless. When my husband died, just a couple of weeks after, one of my neighbors came over to my house for a visit and she said "just think of it as a new chapter in your life". After only two weeks I was still into me & my husbands life, not looking for new adventures! How dumb a comment is the comment she said & insensitive!
So true. I have learnt a lot about people I thought were friends. For me loosing my wife was just part of it. All the rest, like not living in my own country, suddenly going from having legal rights, to not having many and all of that has made me promise to myself to help people that I encounter with grief issues in the future. Maye I will train to help people with the same trauma that i have.
It's so true Most people could care less. They say im.dorry for your loss, then proceed to forget that you exist. Basically. I can't stand people in general. It's all about them. Most can't sympathize outside their life box
yes grief is abt listenin n sharin. all pain n hurt do not feel the same. who has empathy more than sympathy feels right to share with. knowing the difference is key. the push forward is generated by the help that's felt.
I'd like to share my best friend's story with you, not to compare her experience with anyone else's, but to help you find true peace, comfort and hope. God bless you! Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find our contact info there. God bless! Tribute to Ethan Lakey ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html
I need someone to hold me for hours but not be here with me. I want to be held but alone . I want my wife back. Please leave me alone , oh my god I hate this.
This is very interesting I cannot believe there are so many people that I’m not listen to her I’d like to find out where she is now. I lost my mother and I Lost my life when I was eight. My mother died unexpectedly a couple few years ago my beloved died and I cannot function I really would like to talk to the therapist seriously I need to because I can’t function why not so many people commented or watch
In my experience with strong grief, fighting/denying/suppressing it head on just makes it worse. I'm not sure if an afterlife exists, and also just in my experience trying to "know" there is or isn't one also is counter intuitive. Idk all the fixes (doubtful there are any 100% fixes, for the irreplaceable) but living on in what they would enjoy seeing me do is incredibly helpful, even if something inside me died with them, it's ok. They live on thru me & my job is to make them proud now :,]
I lost my beautiful brother this past Christmas night and my wonderful nephew this Sunday. I do most of the grieving on my own, it hurts a lot. I have my husband who is the love of my life. I am so sorry to all that has lost loved ones and feels alone. On my behave, I am sorry and I feel your pain and I am with you. My prayers tonight will be for all of you. J.
I appreciate her message on grief, going outside the norm and allowing clients to be where they are, not necessarily conforming to what is considered "Normal!"
One thing I learned about people when your going through painful grief is that if it's not happening to THEM in their life, they really don't give a damn what your going through. They say the most tackiness things to you, which just make you feel worse. That's when you really miss the times your spouse was here to help protect you from this cruel selfish self-centered world. Some, who you thought were your friends, stop calling you because you're not a "couple" anymore and don't fit in anymore.
For real everybody is full of shit when it comes to grief
My soulmate died five years ago. One of the hardest things to handle was the cruel, appalling, thoughtless comments people made. Not “bad” people, just no empathy, no imagination, no clue. No such comments made but those who had known grief.
@@douglaswerts4936 So sorry for your loss. Yes, people can be very thoughtless. When my husband died, just a couple of weeks after, one of my neighbors came over to my house for a visit and she said "just think of it as a new chapter in your life". After only two weeks I was still into me & my husbands life, not looking for new adventures! How dumb a comment is the comment she said & insensitive!
So true. I have learnt a lot about people I thought were friends. For me loosing my wife was just part of it. All the rest, like not living in my own country, suddenly going from having legal rights, to not having many and all of that has made me promise to myself to help people that I encounter with grief issues in the future. Maye I will train to help people with the same trauma that i have.
It's so true
Most people could care less. They say im.dorry for your loss, then proceed to forget that you exist.
Basically. I can't stand people in general. It's all about them. Most can't sympathize outside their life box
Very refreshing to listen to a therapist who has known grief personally.
Everyone experiences and expresses grief in a different way that's unique to them.
yes grief is abt listenin n sharin. all pain n hurt do not feel the same.
who has empathy more than sympathy feels right to share with. knowing the difference is key.
the push forward is generated by the help that's felt.
Thank you for this video. It is really needed.
That's interesting, thinking outside the box 👏👍
Thank you.
I would like to be trained Plse can I have the ladies contact details
I'd like to share my best friend's story with you, not to compare her experience with anyone else's, but to help you find true peace, comfort and hope. God bless you!
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
******************************
This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find our contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html
I need someone to hold me for hours but not be here with me. I want to be held but alone . I want my wife back. Please leave me alone , oh my god I hate this.
I try to let grief have it's way..and think or feel what my love would feel for this pain...
👍🏻 insightful
you got 48 hours to comment
Name of this psychologist?
i love it :)
This is very interesting I cannot believe there are so many people that I’m not listen to her I’d like to find out where she is now. I lost my mother and I Lost my life when I was eight. My mother died unexpectedly a couple few years ago my beloved died and I cannot function I really would like to talk to the therapist seriously I need to because I can’t function why not so many people commented or watch
In my experience with strong grief, fighting/denying/suppressing it head on just makes it worse. I'm not sure if an afterlife exists, and also just in my experience trying to "know" there is or isn't one also is counter intuitive. Idk all the fixes (doubtful there are any 100% fixes, for the irreplaceable) but living on in what they would enjoy seeing me do is incredibly helpful, even if something inside me died with them, it's ok. They live on thru me & my job is to make them proud now :,]
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i meant to like it
your sound effects while allowing your guest to speak are very annoying and distracting.