How To Stop Caring What Other People Think Of You

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    Whether we admit it or not we’ve all felt insecure at different points in our lives. And that insecurity can hold you back from things like pursuing your dream job, approaching someone you want to connect with, or just feeling good about yourself.
    But it doesn’t have to be that way. There are tricks you can learn to actually use your insecurities to your advantage. To instantly look more confident and eventually to build deep genuine confidence and stop caring so much what other people think about you
    That’s exactly what we’ll be covering today in this video featuring Pete Davidson, someone who has stated many times that he battles with insecurity, yet still has a lot of friends, relationships, and career success.
    ⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
    0:00 - intro
    1:05 - #1: Embrace that you are not good at everything
    2:38 - #2: Use self deprecating jokes
    4:23 - #3: Answer questions honestly where most people would lie
    6:06 - #4: Raise the people around you
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  • @fatimasamira3695
    @fatimasamira3695 3 роки тому +7775

    "nothing is inherently embarrassing." yes, this is the mindset I want to adopt.

    • @mischake
      @mischake 3 роки тому +97

      This! Powerful mondset. Glad I picked it up over the past two years my life is so different

    • @hel2727
      @hel2727 3 роки тому +128

      yeah, awkwardness usually comes from not knowing what to do in a situation or feeling too vulnerable.

    • @sparkyampersand5951
      @sparkyampersand5951 3 роки тому +50

      You will be unstoppable.

    • @ghlibisk67
      @ghlibisk67 3 роки тому +51

      I remember hearing somewhere that awkwardness is a contract. If one party is comfortable, they usually assuage the other party of any awkward feelings also.

    • @BubblewrapHighway
      @BubblewrapHighway 3 роки тому +13

      JUST DO IT! 😁😁😁👍👍👍
      My favorite drill sgt told us, "Don't be a victim. Be amazing, privates."

  • @tranquilityrelaxationsounds
    @tranquilityrelaxationsounds 3 роки тому +5207

    Not caring what people think is one of the quickest ways to find inner peace and less stress.

    • @Dylan-bj4fx
      @Dylan-bj4fx 2 роки тому +97

      If you just think things like “we’ll all die either way” or “this won’t matter in 5 years” or just don’t care about what anyone has to say. It’s easy once you train yourself to think in these ways

    • @sighz5436
      @sighz5436 2 роки тому +38

      @@Dylan-bj4fx Same, I'm really finding my footing in this although it is depressing sometimes to think were basically nothing.

    • @spookyhours607
      @spookyhours607 2 роки тому +4

      True.

    • @pranav4456
      @pranav4456 2 роки тому +8

      I want to get started how do I do that?

    • @realAfrican
      @realAfrican 2 роки тому +8

      Pete could be a good rapper tho. He has the look & voice. Someone else can write his lyrics as Drake has shown.

  • @DDuffy143
    @DDuffy143 3 роки тому +3558

    "Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you."

    • @xCr0nus
      @xCr0nus 3 роки тому +115

      Thanks Tyrion.

    • @skyisalimit3340
      @skyisalimit3340 3 роки тому +6

      Couldn't agree more.

    • @specialunit0428
      @specialunit0428 3 роки тому +17

      I wore my embarrassment like armour and people never stopped bullying me over it :(

    • @notomnithegodking
      @notomnithegodking 3 роки тому +48

      @@specialunit0428 it's not about being bullied about it it's about not caring if you're being bullied about it

    • @Aryan111ize
      @Aryan111ize 3 роки тому +30

      @@specialunit0428 you faked it and they sense that it hurts you .if you just let go laugh and be playful about it they will love you, all that easy when you learn how to stay outa your head like comedians

  • @crystalfullerton3908
    @crystalfullerton3908 3 роки тому +5844

    It wasn't hard when I realized how deeply flawed all people are.

    • @seifelicechetirispondo5254
      @seifelicechetirispondo5254 3 роки тому +21

      how did you do?

    • @crystalfullerton3908
      @crystalfullerton3908 3 роки тому +154

      @@seifelicechetirispondo5254 I basically just started hating people. I don't care what people think because I'm too busy judging them.

    • @crystalfullerton3908
      @crystalfullerton3908 3 роки тому +108

      @@seifelicechetirispondo5254 I should give a disclaimer and admit that I live in the United States and it's easier to do that here because of the ultra self-entitlement and big egos that we have here. The pandemic really highlighted it very well.

    • @Bilbus7
      @Bilbus7 3 роки тому +297

      @@crystalfullerton3908 that seems unhealthy

    • @connorbetancourt5605
      @connorbetancourt5605 3 роки тому +34

      @@Bilbus7 It seems Unhealthy But Something Is better than Nothing

  • @haanhle6487
    @haanhle6487 2 роки тому +4250

    *"kim and kanye, the cutest couple ever" LMAO THAT DIDN'T AGE VERY WELL DID IT PETE*

    • @FEFELIFE
      @FEFELIFE 2 роки тому +217

      lol I was looking for that comment hahha

    • @Toxiex300
      @Toxiex300 2 роки тому +16

      😂😂😂

    • @cameronwilliams6772
      @cameronwilliams6772 2 роки тому +77

      Daaaamn I just saw that and looked for the comments too lol

    • @rowanpeters9249
      @rowanpeters9249 2 роки тому +67

      As soon as he said I looked down and saw your comment. 🤣 my thoughts exactly

    • @cocoalaux4495
      @cocoalaux4495 2 роки тому +10

      My exact thoughts lol

  • @milkbread5036
    @milkbread5036 3 роки тому +3104

    Self-deprecating jokes to an extreme just ruins the mood.
    My dad is overweight and he always makes jokes of how fat he is (when literally no one is paying attention to that) and it just makes everyone awkward; and he doesn't just stop but keeps going.

    • @SRosenberg203
      @SRosenberg203 3 роки тому +432

      It sounds like your dad specifically *isn't* doing what they describe in this video. I'm just guessing, but based on your comment it kind of seems like your dad *IS* insecure about his weight, but he's just trying to head off the jokes that he expects to get from other people by making them himself first, even when the other people he's with had no intention of making those jokes at all.
      I used to do something similar, not about my weight, but about other aspects of my appearance that I used to be more insecure about, and it took me a while to even understand what I was doing and why, before I could try to move past it.

    • @WillyJunior
      @WillyJunior 3 роки тому +84

      Sounds uncalibrated. He isn't reading the room.

    • @icespicefan4771
      @icespicefan4771 3 роки тому +135

      Its good only in small doses, too much and people wont respect you, I mean why would they? when even you wouldnt respect yourself

    • @hel2727
      @hel2727 3 роки тому +44

      that's true, being overly self-conscious , negative and putting it out there without doing anything to better self-esteem just pushes people away and honestly I don't blame them. I'm no fun anyway
      lmao

    • @jonathanwingmusic
      @jonathanwingmusic 3 роки тому +60

      I've always found self-deprecating jokes to be a fine line and true masters at it know how to walk it with the perfect balance. I think it's mainly about having the ability to laugh at yourself and not take yourself too seriously when making a mistake or looking like a fool - and others will laugh with you (rather than at you) and you'll feel more authentic and relatable. But yes, there is such a thing as being overly self-deprecating to an extreme that becomes no longer funny and more awkward and pathetic than anything. It's hard to really learn that balance but a lot of the better comedians seem to do this naturally, and I'm trying to get better at it myself.

  • @taabishkhanself-improvemen7331
    @taabishkhanself-improvemen7331 3 роки тому +825

    *“You’ll watch an entire Netflix series even when the first episodes are slow just because someone told you that ‘it gets better’, but what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?”*
    Love from a small UA-camr💙

    • @chillvibez9319
      @chillvibez9319 3 роки тому +14

      Underrated comment

    • @Hello16374
      @Hello16374 3 роки тому +7

      I really care about you all! Many people think that the way to get to heaven is by being just a “good” person, but scripture tells us that no one is good but God! So you how do we get to heaven then... scripture like John 3:16 tells us by believing in Jesus... that He loves is our Lord and Savior, we accept that Jesus payed our fine for our sin in full on the cross! God bless you all! Have a wonderful day!

    • @specialunit0428
      @specialunit0428 3 роки тому +4

      Because your past is either cringe-worthy or embarrassing. It is incredibly hard to live a good life without thinking about your past in comparison.

    • @KimberlyLetsGo
      @KimberlyLetsGo 3 роки тому

      Clever way (ok, not really) of sliding into this channel's comments to plug your own channel. Shoo, now!

    • @nicholasdemitro8768
      @nicholasdemitro8768 3 роки тому

      one of the best comments here

  • @privateequityguy
    @privateequityguy 2 роки тому +717

    *5 things to quit for all people:*
    1. Caring about what others think
    2. Not believing in yourself
    3. Not prioritizing your health
    4. Wasting your precious time
    5. Chasing meaningless relationships
    For those who are in the rush of changing their lives :-)

    • @samanthabomba8196
      @samanthabomba8196 2 роки тому +2

      Thank for this :)

    • @greggoreo6738
      @greggoreo6738 2 роки тому +6

      Thank you. I wish EVERY video would give a synopsis to their audience. Bravo for your efforts. Gregg Oreo long Beach Ca

    • @freddielovos2800
      @freddielovos2800 2 роки тому +1

      this just made me realize how many people are blind to facts. . . . you just opened my eyes. thank you.

    • @bruceolga3644
      @bruceolga3644 2 роки тому

      There is no such thing as time; time is a compound word:ti+me, or you+me; time is also Timmy from south park;

    • @bruceolga3644
      @bruceolga3644 2 роки тому

      So much hidden from ewe "huemans";

  • @originalhazelgreene
    @originalhazelgreene 3 роки тому +612

    I love throwing people off by being brutally honest, especially about myself! They have no comeback and it is DELICIOUS. The truth does NOT hurt - unless you've been deceiving yourself/others.

    • @MegamanStarforce2010
      @MegamanStarforce2010 3 роки тому +67

      specifically brutally honest niceness about others is the best. straight up call someone cute or handsome to their face, unwarranted, and let the shock and joy ensure.

    • @lenaxox4167
      @lenaxox4167 3 роки тому +48

      actually it does hurt, for others at least. It's great you can do it to yourself but be careful how you do it to others because it's really easy to hurt others and come across a jerk. try not to tease something about someone they cannot help or change in a few minutes

    • @BadWolfSilence
      @BadWolfSilence 3 роки тому +19

      Is what you are saying to them going to help them better themselves and enlighten them, or temporarily lift your own mood and make you feel superior? Your intentions matter as much as being honest does. The end result matters too.

    • @originalhazelgreene
      @originalhazelgreene 3 роки тому +1

      @@BadWolfSilence Valid point. Hmm... I certainly don't believe my words would have any ill effects beyond momentary confusion about why this crazy chick is so hard to bully. Ideally the person realizes they can't always predict how someone will respond, and they aren't going to get the superiority high they were looking for...and perhaps in the future will consider not immediately blurting out whatever bubbles up in their brain. In a small way, that would help improve their life..

    • @aksprkl6594
      @aksprkl6594 3 роки тому +11

      Be careful about how you do it though. As he said, making it into a joke works better than being a Debbie downer who unloads all her problems/insecurities onto others.

  • @itiswhatitiscat
    @itiswhatitiscat 3 роки тому +805

    He is memorable and incredibly attractive in weird way.. more relatable than other celebrity. I love him.

    • @tadmira127dreamuvtadmir2
      @tadmira127dreamuvtadmir2 2 роки тому +7

      I like him too😹 he is attractive

    • @sebu46
      @sebu46 2 роки тому +12

      Yeah, i think it's because he doesn't really seem like a "super human" if you know what i mean. Usually when i see famous celebrities they seem like the most charming, sexy, funny, confident people in the world

    • @maze9311
      @maze9311 2 роки тому +1

      yah love him

    • @chrisparry8318
      @chrisparry8318 2 роки тому +8

      I don't think he's ugly either, idg why people think he is?

    • @chrisparry8318
      @chrisparry8318 2 роки тому +4

      @@LiveAtEs I don't see anything below average @.@

  • @quoting8583
    @quoting8583 2 роки тому +118

    “We all love ourselves more than other
    people, but care more about their opinion than our own.”
    - Marcus
    Aurelius

  • @Someone-ct2ck
    @Someone-ct2ck 3 роки тому +226

    I'm sure the narrator watches every show with a notebook.

  • @special4363
    @special4363 3 роки тому +83

    My mother was telling "what would people say" so often, I started turning her words from my head

    • @kyo_qi
      @kyo_qi 3 роки тому +2

      Same over here but yunno...that’s just how they grew up- for me stoping putting so much weight on mere words helped

    • @tamaraprecop7633
      @tamaraprecop7633 2 роки тому +1

      same. both parents, all my childhood

  • @070agga
    @070agga 3 роки тому +180

    1:32 Kevin Hart's reaction is so genuine here, that it brought a tear to my eye. Love this!!

    • @Mariquillalapantorrilluda
      @Mariquillalapantorrilluda 3 роки тому +11

      I think he must have felt a bit guilty because Pete's attack was an allergic reaction to the family's dog

    • @Hamppariranskis
      @Hamppariranskis 3 роки тому +6

      @@Mariquillalapantorrilluda i'd feel guilty either way, though it's no one's fault i wouldn't want anyone getting hurt on my show

  • @shravankashyap9437
    @shravankashyap9437 3 роки тому +291

    One video suggestion I would like to request is how to get over, competing with everyone.

  • @Cationna
    @Cationna 3 роки тому +426

    The bad way to do it is to make mean, overt, or constant jokes about things you're actually insecure about in yourself. It makes people super uncomfortable. It stems from the mindset that if you get there first, other people won't be able to hurt you. You present yourself as an ally in their making fun of you before they even start doing that, and in that way you think you're reclaiming control over it. But the thing is, people - especially nice people you actually want to get close to - actually DON'T want to make fun of you, are NOT thinking the mean things you're thinking about yourself, and in fact do NOT want to be allied in that. So it kind of presumes the worst about them, not about you. You're putting them in an unpleasant position, they might feel obliged to laugh at things just because you're saying them about yourself, but because it's obvious you're insecure about it (because you're being mean, overeager, or ironic), they might feel obliged to reassure or compliment you or avoid hurting you, and in general it's just super awkward and uncomfortable and counter-productive.
    Bottom line: vast majority of people are nice, and a great deal nicer than you are to yourself. Give them a chance to be that.

    • @SRosenberg203
      @SRosenberg203 3 роки тому +9

      Exactly. Even if that might appear on the surface to be what is being described in this video, it's totally different because it comes from a place of deep insecurity rather than confidence.

    • @helishah6903
      @helishah6903 3 роки тому +5

      Wow I love this comment you explained it perfectly👏

    • @_Tree_of_Life_
      @_Tree_of_Life_ 2 роки тому +7

      Thank you for naming this. I actually do this and I didn't realise, so this was really helpful.

    • @Pacquaio
      @Pacquaio 2 роки тому +3

      That's actually a very interesting way of looking at this

    • @AlisonWonderland999
      @AlisonWonderland999 2 роки тому +1

      Very well put!

  • @madnessbydesign1415
    @madnessbydesign1415 3 роки тому +75

    I learned quite by accident that recognizing, embracing, and being able to make fun of your flaws and insecurities gives you power over them... :)

    • @tornedsky
      @tornedsky 3 роки тому +10

      yeah but we need to show that we are fine with our insecurities (and actually mean it in our hearts), so when they attack us we can simply attack them back by being confident and like “soo whats wrong with that?? lmao”

    • @madnessbydesign1415
      @madnessbydesign1415 3 роки тому +3

      @@tornedsky 100%. It needs to be authentic... :)

  • @souhaila5879
    @souhaila5879 3 роки тому +878

    it's so hard for a perfectionist like myself to accept my imperfections so fully

    • @user-uf6xl6ds3m
      @user-uf6xl6ds3m 3 роки тому +16

      But you are perfect, keep your expectations of other people ankle height, people are never gonna do things the way you do them, and dont people please, and do something for someone everyday even if you don't like them, it closes the whole in you......if you was perfect you'd be boring.....

    • @souhaila5879
      @souhaila5879 3 роки тому +5

      @@raulbisping9880 OH so wonderful words! really.
      I can change something, but I don't know then if I will be truly myself and live with authenticity.. I can try to not change anything, as my imperfections are harmless anyway, but I feel like my life will be miserable and lonely.
      I will try to live by those beautiful words you said hoping they can become my new mindset😊

    • @STREEEEEET
      @STREEEEEET 3 роки тому +14

      @@souhaila5879 When you change something in you then you become this new thing and the past you is no longer you. Your authenticity is only lacking when you pretend you have changed.

    • @astrokattt
      @astrokattt 3 роки тому +10

      Often times, perfectionism is thinly-veiled fear of rejection or failure.

    • @souhaila5879
      @souhaila5879 3 роки тому +1

      @@STREEEEEET it's productive to see things from this angle, I hope I have the courage to change. Thank you

  • @HHicks44
    @HHicks44 Рік тому +48

    "When you build the habit of seeing the good in other people, you'll have an easier time seeing the good in yourself." This resonates with me and I will always remember it.

  • @CadaverQT
    @CadaverQT 2 роки тому +107

    As a fellow BPD, I always appreciate seeing Pete being himself and being successful.

    • @ViktorDelevski
      @ViktorDelevski 2 роки тому

      wasn't he bipolar and not borderline?

    • @CadaverQT
      @CadaverQT 2 роки тому +5

      @@ViktorDelevski he was diagnosed with BPD. He talks about it in a few interviews on here. They're worth checking out. He's a strong dude.

  • @googleshostage6359
    @googleshostage6359 3 роки тому +66

    "there's a difference between Flattery and praise; one is frowned upon the other is not, one is sincere and the other is not"

  • @_FearNoEvil
    @_FearNoEvil 3 роки тому +64

    I will rewatch this over and over again in the hopes that I come out of my crippling shell of muteness and isolated detachment from the world. Thank you.

  • @Tahia213
    @Tahia213 3 роки тому +193

    I already knew that Pete was funny, layback and kind. Now, I know that’s genuinely who he is.

    • @thinkbooth
      @thinkbooth 3 роки тому +9

      Pete is a vibe mate💯

    • @blue_red_screen
      @blue_red_screen 3 роки тому +5

      He mocked a veteran

    • @DesignzRUs1
      @DesignzRUs1 3 роки тому +3

      Kind? You don’t know the guy lol

    • @Rose-id9sj
      @Rose-id9sj 2 роки тому +2

      @@DesignzRUs1 I literally don’t know the guy, like never heard of the guy. what’d he do?

  • @sweealamak628
    @sweealamak628 3 роки тому +277

    Living in a very judgemental environment can really play on your mind but turns out they are the ones who are insecure.
    Colleagues often “rate” me by the most obscure of things. When one found out what car I drove, he immediately went on a 5 min monologue of how unexpected it was of me to drive a basic car as if it was wrong of me to be seen in such a thing. When I gave my colleagues a lift and drove safely, they again commented on how slow I am, when they were the ones who were late for the appointment making me wait for an extra 15 mins.
    Judgemental snobs are everywhere because they need to feel superior over others. Laying a marker on you is their way of giving themselves self-worth to boost self esteem.

    • @cranter7289
      @cranter7289 3 роки тому +6

      The best thing it to cut out such people from your life. (ofc if it is possible)

    • @Juanico259
      @Juanico259 3 роки тому +15

      You game them a lift and they still complain? No words.

    • @sweealamak628
      @sweealamak628 3 роки тому +3

      @@cranter7289 I eventually did. That’s the good thing about work place environments. You can exit at your own free will.

    • @sweealamak628
      @sweealamak628 3 роки тому +9

      @@Juanico259 They didn’t complain exactly, it was more of a condescending tone of undermining my capability as a colleague. In their point of view, I was “assigned” to be the driver so they feel no need to show any gratitude. They were my superiors in a very hierarchical office culture so there was nothing I could do except to take it as it is.

    • @joannaquanttumphysics
      @joannaquanttumphysics 2 роки тому

      Well put

  • @amaxwiththefacts
    @amaxwiththefacts 3 роки тому +61

    "Never forget who you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you."
    "Ah... I like living."

  • @raymondguzman5083
    @raymondguzman5083 3 роки тому +23

    All u gotta do is accept and welcome the feelings of embarrassment and feel comfortable with it. Honestly its just an emotion nothing is going to happen its just ur reaction to it.

  • @bubushek600
    @bubushek600 2 роки тому +43

    Growing up and going through different experiences also made me care less of what people think. I also often say to myself "I probably won't even see these people anymore in my life" (if it's something embarrassing happening to me in public). This video is great

    • @eliyahukuperman9250
      @eliyahukuperman9250 2 роки тому +2

      Right. And even if you do, they probably won't remember you and your embarrasment. People are focused on themselves much more on their surroundings. Like 1 guy in a video said: "if you are farther than their hands you don't exist, and if you get in their sight you are blurry"

  • @anyomations3997
    @anyomations3997 2 роки тому +3

    I call it RISE (Reversed-Image Spotlight Effect)
    Basically where you remind yourself that everyone is so focused on themselves that no one is focused on you

  • @joshdugina7436
    @joshdugina7436 2 роки тому +11

    Big ooooffffff with the Pete saying Kim and Kanye are a cute couple 🤣🤣🤣

  • @hustlerbunni2299
    @hustlerbunni2299 2 роки тому +6

    It’s still annoying that society pressures us into becoming a clown to prevent becoming a joke. 🤷‍♀️

    • @hustlerbunni2299
      @hustlerbunni2299 2 роки тому

      @Victoria It can feel like a curse to think the way that I do

  • @MoneyTalkwithChris
    @MoneyTalkwithChris 3 роки тому +37

    Let me say you are an INSPIRATION!!! I lost my job right before the pandemic. Since then, I’ve started a UA-cam Channel on Money…and it is GROWING! Thanks for all of your great content, and to everyone else…NEVER GIVE UP!!!

  • @FireJach
    @FireJach 3 роки тому +70

    The key is: be happy and witty all the time. Every single person on these videos is laughting

  • @TakeBackYourMind997
    @TakeBackYourMind997 3 роки тому +28

    - Get your self worth just from being you, don't let it be dependent on circumstances or others opinions.
    - Get to know yourself and accept everything that you are. Then learn to love that.
    - Understand that no one TRULY knows you. Only you know yourself fully, so value your opinion of yourself above all others.
    - Catch yourself worrying about others opinions, reframe those thoughts, tell yourself why they're invalid and then validate yourself.
    - Figure out where your insecurities come from and do the past trauma work to let them go.

    • @jarcau_vegan
      @jarcau_vegan 3 роки тому +3

      "However you feel, whatever you think, no matter what you say or do, you always deserve more love, not less." ~ Matt Kahn

  • @richdude8150
    @richdude8150 2 роки тому +10

    I love how this is about accepting yourself rather than changing who you are. I walk too fast and move to fast most times and I don't even know I'm doing it

  • @alexlaurencastillo
    @alexlaurencastillo 3 роки тому +53

    I’m going to get to see him Tuesday for a zoom meet and greet for my school. (:

    • @5kydragon347
      @5kydragon347 3 роки тому +1

      Lucky!

    • @samuraijosh1595
      @samuraijosh1595 2 роки тому

      @@mattechrome " yo pete I just saw someone on UA-cam exposing how you escape from self harm

  • @imdadood5705
    @imdadood5705 2 роки тому +4

    One thing that have made me better with my social skills, is this rule. People actually don’t care about us. This very thought is a momentum for me to go in front of a crowd and dance. If you aren’t confident. All you gotta do is, fake it till you make it.

  • @OnxlyArtemis
    @OnxlyArtemis 3 роки тому +49

    Almost every clip that's not Pete Davidson has chris Evans in it. Charisma on command may have bit of a crush

  • @sheepisfortheweak6164
    @sheepisfortheweak6164 2 роки тому +12

    For the complimenting thing I made it a point to have a positive thought about every stranger I see when I'm outside or at a party. It makes me feel happy and I think it makes me kinder and more uplifting to others too.

  • @auntihooha
    @auntihooha 3 роки тому +9

    I always tell the truth--not only has that given me confidence, it shows me who my real friends are; those who aren't offended that I don't agree with them.

  • @MindsettoMastery
    @MindsettoMastery 3 роки тому +19

    The six pillars of self esteem is a great book. Highly recommend it to anyone!

  • @ajiturrino3013
    @ajiturrino3013 3 роки тому +61

    Great video. I love the tip about answering questions honestly where most people would lie. So simple yet so effective. I think you guys should do a breakdown on Jay-Z, he is an extremely charismatic, witty, and intelligent person. I feel like you guys would kill it. Thanks for all that you do!

  • @kindboy3140
    @kindboy3140 2 роки тому +8

    How to stop caring what other people think of you
    1. Embrace that you are not good at everything
    Mindset:
    Nothing is inherently embarrassing
    2. Answer questions honestly in situations where most people lie to get confidence
    Don't force your insecurities in conversation just be honest when it comes up
    Tip:
    When you are talking about something you are potentially insecure about.Use a nonchalant or casual tone of voice
    3. Harness your insecurities with self deprecating jokes
    Tip:Use specificity
    Key: self amusement
    Start with jokes that you are less insecure about
    4. Raise up people around yo u with compliments
    Tip:start by when that person is not around

  • @ct6852
    @ct6852 Рік тому +6

    Nice to see someone succeed that you actually want to succeed. Good on Pete for using his troubles to build up what's around him...and getting rewarded for it.

  • @AlisonWonderland999
    @AlisonWonderland999 2 роки тому +6

    My dad said he was at a funeral once and realised that everyone was saying all these eulogies praising the person who had died, and the person who had died would never have guessed people thought this about them. His motto is "Don't wait till someone's dead to say nice things about them." I have tried to follow this rule.

  • @joelrenfrow770
    @joelrenfrow770 3 роки тому +5

    This guy is definitely a relationship guru and I want to thank you for helping people like me. in the past I'm trying to relate to you and get better info so thank you for what you doing keep it up and I hope to gain more knowledge from you

  • @Eitan-Levin
    @Eitan-Levin 3 роки тому +5

    WOW!!! This is exactly the issue that I've been dealing for a long long time!!! I've already proved myself that this method works and this video is just sealed the deal!!!!! 😊😊😊 Thank you so much guys!!!! I've been watching your videos also for a long time and they have been very helpful to me!!!! I must say that thanks to your videos, I feel a lot better with myself!!!!! You made my life better!!!!! So I really thank you guys from the bottom of my heart!!!!! You Are BIGGER than LIFE!!!!! God bless you!!!!!!

  • @kyooyaa4593
    @kyooyaa4593 2 роки тому +1

    I clicked on this video out of curiosity and this is the first year I have made many friends. I took social traits such as being very honest, genuine, and complementary towards other people from people i really liked talking to. Everything this guy has said in this video is true

  • @mallorycarpinski1160
    @mallorycarpinski1160 Рік тому

    I love how so many of these videos are just encouraging people to be honest and live a life you can feel comfortable being honest about.

  • @taabishkhanself-improvemen7331
    @taabishkhanself-improvemen7331 3 роки тому +33

    *”The next chapter of your life has not been written yet, you hold the pen. Write the story you want to read.”*
    Love from a small channel💙

  • @nikkiae8559
    @nikkiae8559 2 роки тому +3

    I really needed this. thanks to you and Pete im gonna start practising these methods so I can finally have a proper social interactions with others and peace in my mind

  • @amritak6605
    @amritak6605 2 роки тому +1

    when i came across this channel, i instantly subscribed because it made me realize that i can't just watch videos and expect to become confident overnight. i have to put in the work and make it happen. the truth is there will be times where you will crash and burn, but that's just part of it. at the end, you'll look back and see that those times that you failed were the ones that really made you the person you are today. thank you! and have a awesome day everyone!!☺😁

  • @sarahdorris4912
    @sarahdorris4912 2 роки тому +1

    I use to struggle with being stiff in most social situations and at first the laughing method was really painful for me. I was deeply insecure, and while I had other things I had to figure out internally, letting myself laugh when other people joke about things I was sensitive about has gone a long way in helping me unwind and be chill I social situations. Thank you for these videos, they are helping me so much!

  • @omnixphobia
    @omnixphobia 2 роки тому +25

    "Kim and Kanye make such a cute couple I love hanging around them"
    well that aged interestingly

    • @nimishtomar
      @nimishtomar 2 роки тому +1

      I was waiting for someone to mention it😂

  • @restingyuckface5955
    @restingyuckface5955 3 роки тому +52

    I'm new to the channel but have been binging these videos for a few days now. I was wondering if there's a character breakdown of steve carell.. I think he'd be great. He's extremely likeable and I have yet to hear a negative comment about him. Just a thought. I love the content of this channel. You guys do an amazing job!

  • @ForeverForys
    @ForeverForys 3 роки тому

    I'm so very glad I found your videos ...everything you say in these videos is SPOT ON and have worked for me in my own life and success. Unfortunately, they have always just been things I've figured out along the way so when trying to explain these actions or midsets, or phrasings to others, (in particular, my own kids) I am often at a loss for words and not really ever able to clearly or thoroughly explain what I'm understanding in a way that they can get it too ... You just saved me a TON of time stress. thank you!

  • @brandonknable7890
    @brandonknable7890 2 роки тому

    I love when celebrities, and people in general are super vulnerable because it makes me feel like its not a weakness to be vulnerable. If anything its a strength

  • @lenaxox4167
    @lenaxox4167 3 роки тому +5

    man i look forward to these videos every single week

  • @kool-aidsapiens1434
    @kool-aidsapiens1434 2 роки тому +5

    Although I appreciate all the contents here from this channel and though I wholeheartedly agree with the first rule:Embrace that you are not good at everything, whenever I watch a video about confidence from this channel I feel like there's something missing. The videos keep saying things like make jokes about your insecurities, make praises for other people and etc, while these instructions are easy to follow and intuitive, from my experience these are just beating around the bushes. From my perspective, the one thing that is hard to practice, abstract and ambiguous yet something that is at the heart of the problem is that we just don't love ourselves. This is really hard if you're not attractive, which is true in my case but after I started seeing other unattractive people(usually comedians like Ken Jeong) living just ok like other people, the thought that maybe living like this isn't too bad had a great impact on me.

  • @violet-fl9ve
    @violet-fl9ve 2 роки тому +2

    Never heard of him before he started dating Kim. But he's my new hero.

  • @steveconn
    @steveconn 2 роки тому +1

    Pete has a great amount of connections and confidence. Helps alot.

  • @doublemintmaple
    @doublemintmaple 3 роки тому +7

    Just the breakdown I needed today! ♥️

  • @pgaudetz33
    @pgaudetz33 3 роки тому +3

    Resilient a book by Rick Hanson could also help for self esteem by showing you how to be on your own side, then you can be fully present for others. Charlie and Ben you're wonderful too. Thanks for helping me be better and more confident at being social. ❤

  • @gauravsobti11
    @gauravsobti11 2 роки тому

    The quality and the way the information is provided in this video. Just wow, wow. Thank you sooo much.

  • @zGibsonLesPaul
    @zGibsonLesPaul 3 роки тому +1

    Just watching the vids you upload on UA-cam is making me more confident and a better friend. I might look into Charisma University in the future.

  • @gongoozleriam9783
    @gongoozleriam9783 2 роки тому +23

    This is so good I'm literally going to rewatch it right now for a second time, right after finishing it :) This is the video I needed, this is why I love Pete so much. I'm terrible at not caring about what others think and I really want to get better at it. :) Thank you for making this :)

  • @davidgreen139
    @davidgreen139 2 роки тому +3

    Lol that Kim and Kanye comment reads different in Dec 2021

  • @saga960
    @saga960 Рік тому

    Thank you to you’re editing team, they are amazing!

  • @darrisnelson5223
    @darrisnelson5223 2 роки тому +1

    I had a very charismatic dad… He was only in my life for a short time before he died at a young 51 years. From a very young age I naturally picked up his mannerisms timing etc. I enjoy making people laugh and I enjoy making people feel good-It’s actually a goal for me and has been for most of my 66 years. It’s always disappointing to me when people hold back compliments or appreciation for someone. Being verbally generous is the easiest thing on the planet to do for crying out loud! 🤦‍♀️ If you’re feeling awkward or uncomfortable you’re probably focused too much on yourself… take the focus off yourself and put it on someone else in a positive way and you’ll find out you’re at ease. People always remember how you made them feel. These are all great tips. Well done!👍🏻

  • @webbers4life146
    @webbers4life146 2 роки тому +3

    One other thing that Pete does well, is he never betrays his true emotions (for the most part). He always has that slight smile and slightly glazed look that makes him seem like he’s always chilled (And yes, I know what he does in his spare time). Being able to portray yourself like you’re chill and in a good mood when around around people, will automatically make you more approachable and make people more comfortable around you.

  • @msrivera360
    @msrivera360 2 роки тому +5

    i laugh awkwardly when i’m nervous so i don’t think the “laughing to cover it up” would work lol

  • @user-vj3ky3lb1t
    @user-vj3ky3lb1t 2 роки тому

    i needed this vid thank you lord. the first thing imma start with is honesty.

  • @kedjigasy5595
    @kedjigasy5595 2 роки тому

    This is the only video I've watched that's worth it , thank you Charisma on command

  • @adamwuilmart2955
    @adamwuilmart2955 3 роки тому +16

    You should make a video analyzing Formula 1 driver Daniel Ricciardo. He is amazing!

  • @enibhroin
    @enibhroin 2 роки тому +3

    not pete saying kim and kanye are the cutest couple ever😭

    • @Zogang69
      @Zogang69 2 роки тому

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @moons4363
      @moons4363 2 роки тому +1

      I know right ... the irony😂🤣😅

  • @AnthonyTurnham
    @AnthonyTurnham 3 роки тому +1

    Great work as always team. Thank you!

  • @zephyr1327
    @zephyr1327 2 роки тому +1

    Finally a video that gets to the point and conveys great advice. Nice vid 👍

  • @williamdaugherty5406
    @williamdaugherty5406 3 роки тому +3

    Can you do a video on Kevin O’Leary? When you watch older videos of him, he’s awkward and quiet, but when you watch him on his vlogs/shark tank he’s incredibly captivating and one of the best story tellers imo. I’d love to see a breakdown on how he is able to captivate an audience, whatever it be about something as mundane as talking about his watch collection or as exciting as discussing his first job, he is able to make it entrancing to watch regardless of the subject matter. I would love to see a breakdown of him, thank you

  • @mohameddiawara613
    @mohameddiawara613 2 роки тому +8

    Yoo I’m watching this in 2021 and when he said Kim and Kanye a cute couple I was weak asl😹😹

    • @jginny
      @jginny 2 роки тому

      makes you question his genuinity ahhaha

    • @Zogang69
      @Zogang69 2 роки тому

      frrr... im laughing out loud 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @rachelgrace2001
    @rachelgrace2001 2 роки тому +1

    I always try to give at least one genuine compliment to a stranger per day. Most of the time, their whole face lights up. If everybody did this I think people would be a lot happier :)

  • @thecitizenjoan
    @thecitizenjoan 2 роки тому +1

    Your doing an important service to all of us sir.

  • @chr1staki
    @chr1staki 3 роки тому +8

    This was a good one, guys 🙌

  • @rogeliorodriguez8518
    @rogeliorodriguez8518 3 роки тому +4

    What helped is questioning ego and letting it die. It went away. Then I stopped caring.

  • @shanedaniel8954
    @shanedaniel8954 2 роки тому +2

    I can’t believe I’m only just now discovering this channel! I see some great personality improvements coming soon lol

  • @monicat101
    @monicat101 2 роки тому

    Im so thankful I found your channel and videos. You give great examples and really breakdown so much that isnt overwhelming. Thank you for these videos

  • @exploradordeideas6393
    @exploradordeideas6393 3 роки тому +8

    This was awesome Ben I am glad you are making videos again. Love your structure

  • @twin_sisterz
    @twin_sisterz 2 роки тому +4

    This video made me understand why I always look so confident when really I’m not 😂

  • @michaeliedon6557
    @michaeliedon6557 3 роки тому +1

    Charlie has stated in past vids not to self depricate too much, i'd say that statement still stands here 👍

  • @michaelpaoneofficial
    @michaelpaoneofficial 2 роки тому

    Some of this is great. Thought I think it all falls withing this context of being liked, or looking good, which might not be the most important thing on earth. What about being committed to something and standing for it, no matter what people think or whether they dislike you? I think that's what is truly authentic and actually changes the world.

  • @ahsa1468
    @ahsa1468 2 роки тому +3

    Let me quickly write this, I've seen hundreds of videos because I terribly suffer from insecurities. And no video actually is there that I found necessarily helpful. But, for some reason, this video straight goes to my head, probably because of Pete Davidson. So, thank you.

  • @sirkmar9756
    @sirkmar9756 3 роки тому +9

    Never heard of this dude, very likeable 😂

  • @outofsomewhereoutofnowhere3751
    @outofsomewhereoutofnowhere3751 3 роки тому +1

    I need this so much. Thank you thank you 🙏🏻

  • @Larry-qz3es
    @Larry-qz3es 2 роки тому

    making people feel comfortable with humor while you dealing with with the honesty of insecurities, Pete knows how to do that very well

  • @rachelgee7894
    @rachelgee7894 3 роки тому +4

    I reached this point about 10 years ago and it is life changing.

    • @nha4318
      @nha4318 2 роки тому

      Any advices? Cause I’m kind of tired of always caring about what others think and it’s kind of making me tired and stressed

    • @rachelgee7894
      @rachelgee7894 2 роки тому

      @@nha4318 people care WAY less about you than you think, no offense. 😅 They won't remember what you did next week, let alone next month, so do what you want! A thought about you in their head means nothing. The guy that thinks you're unattractive? He's more unattractive than you. The person who judges you for not having a spotless home? Is likely judging you from a cluttered mess. You wouldn't take financial advice from broke people, so why do you care what a bunch of random people with their own problems think?

  • @Jarod-vg9wq
    @Jarod-vg9wq 3 роки тому +7

    I love this guy on SNL and I’ll check out his movie the king of Staten Island.

  • @hamadalhababi4259
    @hamadalhababi4259 Рік тому

    I swear to God that as I am watching the vid, i got a feeling of being transformed into another character! Man! This is extremely powerful! As the old saying goes : and of speech speech of magic!

  • @chackachacka6990
    @chackachacka6990 Рік тому

    I have always really struggled with giving compliments even if I really wanted to say it. Definitely something I am still working on but it's a great tool and just a really nice thing to do.

  • @zayyanusmani5360
    @zayyanusmani5360 3 роки тому +3

    Mann I soo needed this video rn. Thanks alot

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    @somzypeters16 2 роки тому +9

    I can't explain how you make me feel right now the joy in me is unexplainable, I’ve made over £50,000 for the past few months through Mia Jansen.

    • @rosepreshh9316
      @rosepreshh9316 2 роки тому

      Believe is essential I gave you my trust and you didn't break it, you are who you say you are, I'll keep letting people know about your good deeds and guaranteed business strategies, Mrs Mia Jansen

    • @aliqadir9
      @aliqadir9 2 роки тому

      I’m so happy I reinvested as you instructed, perhaps you said bitcoin is on the high side and I will earn financially buoyant, all thanks to you and your team.

    • @pablosantiago3046
      @pablosantiago3046 2 роки тому

      Your hard work and effort always pays off! A success well deserved, an occasion worth celebrating! A big thanks to expert Mia

    • @limwong1316
      @limwong1316 2 роки тому

      Managed to raise $8000 and traded it with Mia Jansen and I got $40,000 within 7 working days, how wonderful. Thanks so much

    • @tyresemodro4658
      @tyresemodro4658 2 роки тому

      Waking up everyday to see another withdrawal notification on my mail is the best thing I have ever wished for, Mrs Mia services is awesome!

  • @TheHappyYouChannel
    @TheHappyYouChannel Рік тому

    Wow, this video is a great resource! 🤩 Practicing active listening and reminding yourself why you matter are sure to help build confidence during conversations. Thanks for making it! 😊

  • @rymrym2984
    @rymrym2984 3 роки тому +2

    This video is exactly what I needed! I live in a foreign country and the only people I know are my classmates who I consider to be my family here. We've been close for more than 3 years and I trusted them so much. Then one friend started to become passive-aggressive with me and it affected me a lot. I was being abused the whole time without realising it and when I finally tried to defend myself they all turned against me. I tried to talk to her and she told me that she never loved and she only pretended to. I'm still in shock and sad because I really loved her and thought she did too, but I guess that's how life goes, we just learn things from our experiences..

    • @mildincool5744
      @mildincool5744 Рік тому

      So sad. But you are still a Gem. With or without her.