I literally can't bring myself to do anything. It's pretty horrible. I can't do the dishes, I can't study programming and japanese which I love to do. I need to get out but its hard
I think this goes to the depression spectrum and I know it because I'm in the same situation. In my case I know why I am depressed. Maybe some need to find the root cause to treat it, hopefully with a professional.
Not an expert here, but try listening to music or watching a movie. Give yourself a break. Just come home from work and do nothing. Just sit there and stare out the window. If you get bored, try to count cars by color. OR just go for a walk in a park. Somewhere you have to travel. Basically give your brain a break by experiencing only surface level problems, so that it can refresh and continue doing hard work.
@@NerdyCatCoffeeee I really like the idea of the Pomodoro effect. It's basically working hard for 25 minutes then giving a 5 minute break after. You then repeat this 3 times before giving yourself a 25 minute break on the fourth time. This works for stuff like reading as well just because your brain has time to recoup. I think my problem was that I pitied myself too much. I would say things like I'm "unmotivated" just to convince myself that I don't have to do the work and that it's ok. After I told myself to grow the F!ck up and just do the work, I achieved alot more
Yasss, it's just hard to care when you don't have the external motivation. God is your strength and he loves you. We can get through this. How are you.
Solid video. Key lessons (also things that have worked for me too): 1. Maintain & spend time in inspiring positive relationships 2. Set up Jedi Councils, where you have inspiring convos with inspiring people 3. Take a break or vacation. Give yourself permission to, expect less from yourself. 4. Explore new things & branch out to things you haven't checked out. (mine right now is Piano) Cheers Thomas! :)
King A - . Take this down time to get to know yourself. Only do things that are productive and will help develop you as a person. Cut out things that are hindering you & distracting. If you work hard on these things now, it will be easier on you later. 🍃🌻 trust me. If you keep slacking off, it will only get harder.
You can substitute this a bit with reading books of successful people (i found the one on Musk inspiring), listening to productivity-podcasts or watching UA-cam-Channels like this can help too. I also find it VERY helpful to do sport... it has many positive affects on you psyche and motivation in general.
As a recovering codependent. Do it for yourself. You are worth the effort. Your valuable to yourself. If you see that. You will attract others that will add to your value. If you continue to try to please others. They will see you miles away. Run too you and suck you dry. Do it for YOU. A healthy reproductive relationship will just happen.
I swear, life recently started feeling like a dream, actually more like a nightmare. Childhood friend died, couple months later my dad died. It seems like all I hear about now is people dying or getting hurt. I feel like I lost all emotion and feeling to everyone I love. I don’t know what to do or what’s going on but I know some of you are going through your own things in life and at the back of my mind I know this will make me stronger. Love you all ❤️
Thomas’ personality is so natural. While most other youtubers are faking enthusiasm, Thomas gives us the information we need smoothly and methodically. With lots of nerdy jokes.
A piece of advice. When you praise someone at the cost of depreciating someone else both the effect and message you are trying to convey are taken with a grain of salt.
I must say, the moment that I hit subscribe (this is the first time I have seen this accounts content) -- was the "Jedi Counsel" tip. I loved it. And it felt original, and it did not feel pushed - it was honest - and it got me to subscribe immediately.
At 18 you have your whole life in front of you... Don't make the mistake of thinking the real world is so bleak that you end up making your own life bleak. Trust me I made that mistake at 18 and now at 27 I'm rebuilding
I'm 32 and since my dad died 17 years ago. I've been in a solitary place in my head for that 17 years. No motivation unless I have quite a few beer. You gave some really good insights and for that I thank you and you got a new subscriber!
@@blllllllllllllllllllrlrlrl7059 Although i do not dis on AA if it works for certain ppl. Me i don't like it. I feel that, if you really want to change for the better. You have to do that on you're own. And i have been trying hard to do that.
having online only classes during covid has completely diminished all motivation I have to finish my classes....it's so hard to sit down and teach yourself stuff alone.
Literally me and there is so much distraction because I could literally be doing anything else other then my work. Just try to keep reminding yourself of the "why". Why doing the hard work now will pay off for your future. You will thank yourself
I think motivation naturally follows curiosity and growth. If you're repeatedly doing the same things over, you fall into a rut, but always expanding the mind and learning new things is great for motivation
S M Well I don't only feel like this in Summer but currently I am in between 3rd and 4th year at University but I don't want to get overly stressed when I get back so trying to start my self directed project and dissertation now. :)
every time I feel like i lost inspiration/motivation and fall into a rut, I always come to your videos and I never leave disappointed. Thank you for what you're doing!
[3 ways to get out of Rut] *Ruts=/= Depression 1. Maintain positive relationship with inspiring people. Solitary Confinement. Jedi Council 2. Take a serious break 4:40 3. Branch out - Exploring new interests 7:20
So glad to read these comments. Makes one remember that you’re not the only one going through these things. We’re all connected. And we’re social creatures.
Thank you for this video. Very informative and helpful. I'm 22 and while i do have depression i realised i was beating myself up for not functioning effectively. I realised i needed to be kinder ans more patient with myself and your video has helped inspired me to motivate myself to cultivate better relationships with those who make me feel positive as well as not allowing myself to have a break. I'm going on my first vacation for 3 years this Sunday and i'm really looking forward to it!
I had my ruts on and off, I’m here because I fell into one last year and I’m still there. I’m graduating soon and I never thought it would be like this a couple of years ago. My grades are not that great, I had to give up my hobbies because of the pandemic and it feels like I’m loosing my closest friends. Everyone is going somewhere, some of them met a good partner, others are moving to study someplace else etc. The point is that we barely see each other anymore, and I feel so alone, worthless and left behind. I had to put a lot of things aside just to be able to get up in the morning, I have anxiety every day, I’m not lazy but unmotivated. I can’t get anything done in time and that’s giving me even more anxiety. I don’t know what I want or even can do in life and I don’t *really* enjoy anything fully anymore. I used to hang out with friends, talk to girls, play video games and go to the gym. Now I barely do any of those things, I don’t even enjoy games anymore! That really worries me. It’s hard because I know I’m messing up school and relationships with people but I just can’t bring myself to do anything about it. I’ve never been suicidal or taken drugs, but some days I have the...”what’s the point of doing anything?” feeling stuck in my head. I believe I will feel better someday but right now not a second can pass without me feeling disappointed in myself. It’s crazy how I’m an ambitious person but I can’t stand school! Just needed to vent here in the comments, it makes it easier to breathe sometimes.
Hey Thomas.Y You really helped me at improving my life. Currently I am 15 years old and I have been watching youre videos since last summer. Since I downloaded habitica thanks to youre recommendation I am going to the gym 5x a week, read daily, meditate just as often, eat a healthy diat and try to be the most productive form of myself that I can possibly be, whilst also enjoying life to its limit 👌 Thanks!
Why would you point out that he's attractive physically ? Why would you defend your heterosexuality ? this made me laugh :P you're very young, keep up the learning going ! (and don't break your brain with drugs until it is full grown up) (and maybe 5x a week is too much for your body btw)
TheMylesky I am well informed about the way drugs can affect brain development, but I dont even take drugs. Why do you think that? And concerning my training, my routine is a five day split witch means that I do different muscle groups on different days, so the rest can recover. AlaoI have recovery days placed troughout the week and I try to sleep at least 9 hours for maximum muscle recovery 👍
1. Relationships -> Connect with your friends, family, etc. and interact with other people 2. Take a serious Break ->Give yourself the permission to release pressure and relax. This serves getting the fog out of your head and being able to take a step back 3. Branch Out Explore something new. This serves interrupting the rut.
I used to be a very and y mean VERYYY motivated person... i loved having a engineering class in hs bc i could invent and do whatever i wanted(i won several competitions in my city)... i used to draw, paint, make music, work on my car... i did everything i loved... but then i started college... and that’s where my downfall started. I felt like i couldn’t keep up to the expectations. I used to compare myself to everyone and how they were better than me. I just wasnt feeling college so i dropped out. After dropping out, it just seemed like my family hated me so that just made things worse.. BUT THENN i got a girlfriend... she was very toxic... she would get mad for any reason... i was with her for 2 years.... now i think i have depression... i want to do so many things but i always think of why not to do them... and this is not me... in hs everyone came to me for advice . I used to be a very optimistic person,but now... i turned into everything i hated when i was a bit younger.... i just hope to be the person i used to be... :)
Hey man same right now I’m in college and it’s really time counsuming n burns me out so I feel u bro but dude if u love something then u should go do it it doesn’t matter wat anyone says u got this bro
Ok... this is scary. Every new video is about something I’m going through at the moment or something I just wonder no long ago. Thank you for all yours video, specially this one!
Dude holy moly, what you explained about solidary confinement, just made me understand my situation. When I was a late teenager, I lived with my friends and all we did was play videogames, hang out, saying the same jokes repeatedly. It was exactly what you described. And while it was some of the most fun I ever had; I was also the most depressed/suicidal I had ever been in my entire life. Which never made sense to me until right now.
*My biggest tip to get out of a rut: find a project* Choose something you’re passionate about (for me it’s helping others grow on social media and build their brand) and start a business and start creating content about it. Here’s what I did: bought GoDaddy website builder for $7/month (that was the only cost). Then designed the whole website (3 days), started a podcast, and wrote blog posts. I also have a personal youtube channel (this one) that keeps me busy. Finding a project has given me a purpose all summer and driven me to stay motivated and productive.
I started watching your videos since literally yesterday, and up to now I've watched about 15 of them. My room out of nowhere started getting more organized and started to apply your tips on habits and organization to my daily life. I have yet to put a lot more into it, but so far it has tremendously helped me be more efficient in college, work and life. So thank you💪🤙
no wonder my mental state is declining during the pandemic. i haven't made much connections, and when i have, they're often shallow. thank you for your videos, Thomas. They help me push through with life.
YOUR TIMING IS ABSURD. I'm trying to prepare for medicine admission test, which is on the 4th of September. I haven't started to study efficiently and July is almost over. I feel inept as hell and unable to pass that test. I'm really behind and unmotivated, my family isn't helping me at all, but I'll have two weeks from today of total loneliness. No little brother or mother to bother me. I hope I'll come back and start to focus seriously on my goal. Your video gave me great advice! Thank you
One of the topics you were rambling on about ( Too many goals ) definitely sticks with me as a person. I feel like as a 19 year old time is so short and I barely got time.
Thank you for taking the time to acknowledge the difference between a rut and depression. It might not seem overly important to a lot of others but that meant the world to me.
THIS IS SO AMAZING. YOUR CHANNEL AND CHARISMA ON COMMAND ARE MY GO TO FOR SOCIAL INTERACTION LESSONS AND YOURE FRIENDS. THIS JUST DID SOMETHING TO MY HEART. ALSO YOUR EYES ARE PRETTY.
Thanks so much Thomas!! Ur that one friend I find online who inspires me.. I'm in a serious rut, and I think each thing u mentioned applies to me.. thanks for this vid my dude, I'm so inspired rn to piece myself together... at least for now.. so thanks!!! I love that u have more videos comming! Pleassseeee don't stop ur my life saver😭😂
I'm stuck in a rut, and I also have depression. I'm on meds, but it's the rainy season here, and without seeing the sun for days now, it really makes me depressed.
I don't usually comment on UA-cam videos; but I just felt like you (Thomas Frank)) should know that you really are helping people everywhere wake up and tangibly take steps to work towards their goals - against all odds. I think that's really commendable and I think you shouldn't take it lightly. I write this all the way from South Africa. You're a blessing. That's all xx
Your Megaman and Castlevania posters never get old Thomas. Great video. I totally agree with catching up with people who share my values at least once a week. I know exactly what people I can do that with. Thanks man.
Definitely not depressed. I was a while ago but I'm a happy and fine person, just insanely lazy and terrible at sticking to things. Makes it difficult going into the last year of high school but oh well
Swifteh I felt that way too but once I got too university I really found my way by doing things the way I wanted to do them and i can honestly recommand to grind through the last year(while taking care of yourself ofc) and just doing things your own way in uni which will make you so much happier and can really give you a lot more time, energy, motivation and all of that good stuff
Yea, I've been planning to grind this year. I just live in a country that I don't speak the language and sitting inside my house all the time just kills my motivation. I've been going outside more often but I think I will definitely be better in Uni when I have my own space and I'm back in an English speaking country.
I'm 29, finished my Bachelor's in applied mathematics last year and struggled greatly to find employment for way too long. That, combined with my very unproductive flat mates, kind of trapped me in a state of stagnation. It's starting to fundamentally mess with my mental state. Like, I feel my mind deteriorating in real time. Don't let life get you into my position!
{return -1;} hey it’s gonna be okay, you’ll find a job. Things will get better, your life will get better and you’ll be happier. Just keep trying your best and have hope.
I did two of these things without knowing I should - just because I just thought I needed them: I toke a break and I also went out with friends to break the routine. Turns out they were good things for me. Thomas Frank, you're basically saving my emotional world, thanks.
This video actually changed my life. After watching this I went to doc and got diagnosed with depression and got on some medication. I feel so much better now. Thanks a lot 😍😍😍
Listen up kids to this wise man. As a 43yr old bartender who never prepared for the future properly he’s pretty spot on. Especially about the friends part. I kinda never grew out of the kid phase and although I had one hell of an experience most of those people and connections I formed back when have all moved on, got married, families, found more appropriate careers for an older lifestyle.
i'm just start to fix my chaos life and i'm so glad that i saw this episode so i know what to do when i find myself in that time of listless and whatever.
Thomas, How about a video on obtaining new friends later in life.. say 30 or 40. A good friend network was very helpful when I was younger but they have fallen off over the years. How to make new ones?
It's definitely difficult to do later in life. Once the context and the shared experiences end, it isn't long before those friendships fade. Getting out there and doing things that create that shared experience again certainly helps. I'm 33 and back in college and I've made a lot of friends during this time. I know a lot of those will fade when we graduate, but the good ones should stick as long as I stay proactive in keeping communication open.
This is absolutely true. As someone who has spent three and a half years and actual solitary confinement I can attest well, maybe not the brain damage. I tried to make the best of the situation and learn as much as I could. I now surround myself with people that are constantly doing things that are well. Some people would say even miraculous... I've achieved quite a bit and I intend to achieve quite a bit more. I think you hit it right spot on great video!
Do the best you can in the time you've got: "perfect is the enemy of good (enough)" and the more you practice fast structured learning the better you'll be at it during term/semester.
rachel. Starting is the hardest part just dedicate 10 min to homework. Hopefully you will get on a roll and finish. Gave a great semester and shoot for A's. I know I did.
When I first saw this video pop up in my feed, I needed it so bad. But weirdly, I avoided it. My brain kind of wanted me to stay in that rut. It’s so strange. Now I’ve had enough. I’m getting my life together. I’m watching this video now as a first step.
I just want to say, thank you for stating that your tips may help depression but something more needs to happen. Too often youtubers will act as though their tips will cure mental illness. They obviously don't, but some of the teenage/young adult viewers may not fully understand that. It's a small thing, but thank you. As someone with depression I feel happy that you mentioned it instead of being like "it's so easy to be happy, be positive 24/7/365"
Why do you think you lack the motivation and what can you do to start getting it back? Don't forget to remind yourself to be grateful that you have a job while millions don't. 😀
Great genuine solid content for motivation! Loved it. I’ve 3 questions although the might seem irrelevant they really complete the picture for me: 1) did you get a degree relevant to video edit etc? 2) how old were you when you decided to start UA-cam? 3) how long (on average) does it take you to edit one video?
Hey man! Im a bit younger and in high school, BUT your videos have really helped me stay motivated, improve my performance, and start to get on top of things! THANK YOU!! :)
I'm just getting out of a rut. As always, I'm always blown away with the correlation of fitness and the degree of not being unmotivated. Another factor about health. The degree of your level of health, to a degree, is variable. I enjoy intense weightlifting (5-7 hours/week) and running(12-15 miles). When I'm at 80% and up of my personal health goals, this is when I'm the most productive.
You’re my favorite channel to watch when I feel like crying over how much late work I have to do for an online summer class. I can’t seem to actually get up and do it, so I’m watching this
That’s the thing i really miss about college, being surrounded by so many intelligent young people eager to make change in their society. It did wonders to keep my own motivation up.
I thought I was the only one. Having that University buzz and seeing everyone moving around and going to class and walking around campus really pushed me to do my best
This video proved so incredibly insightful, dang. I was like "eh, I don't need this right now" when it originally came out, fast forward to today I find this video superb to my condition. This guy never ceases to motivate or amaze me
As a straight dude, I have to accept that he is, in fact, handsome... I was surprised by how ugly his girlfriend is... He can do it way better than that...
Just like everybody here, the time was just right for me too. It's incredible that so many people find themselves in a unmotivated rut so often, and this video is a very needed help and those times
I have been at home since wednesday. My school schedule is not the same and I just so happened to find myself with a lot of time in my hands. I recently fell into some bad spell. I felt anxious, I felt depressed. Aside from a cold, I just felt like shit. Like I'm so used to thinking about school and have been studying throughout the year, including summer school, and I felt so burned out and this fall I just let go of control and its driving me mad. I feel like I've become a workaholic and I just can't stop, but I still need some motivation to make me feel like I'm still on my way. Awesome video. Thanks!
It’s a start but at some point you need to add another step, I’m there too... but at least that firststep of doing my bed and cleaning my room got me out of a depression with suicidal thoughts... big improvement just need more step or at least one more step, working out is wiggling into my steps
@@rudymurillo1693 I clean up my room on a regular basis and also make up my bed first thing in the morning. I was starting to think maybe I'm not doing enough but it really does set the tone for the day. Thanks for stating that, it reaffirmed I'm on the right track, I really needed that boost👍. Exercise is my next step too. So have you started working out💪. Howz it going 😄?
About that stagnant feeling: I think you hit the nail on it's head. I, however, feel like when I'm starting to learn new things that I don't spend any time learning stuff that's 'useful' or 'will get me anywhere', because I'm too caught up learning something I know I'm going to be a noob in for a long time. I know it's a weird feeling, but it causes me not to do anything at all, which is not motivating either...
What you described with "that little bit of interest you felt" and how it eventually led to something bigger very much reminds me of how Elizabeth Gilbert talks about ideas in her book "big magic". I really recommend anyone in a RUT to read her book, at least it helped me a lot and it is a light and fun read. Thanks for the video Tom :)
Me I just want my life back😔I honestly don’t see a point of living rn like I’m not suicidal I just could care less if I died right now..I’ve got like nothing in store for me anymore it’s all been taken..just got in a car crash and lost what I love and don’t see a point of anything anymore I don’t know what to do I just want my life back. Just take me back💔
@@braedenmcintyre5223 sorry to hear that. :( Feels stuck right now too, on a constant cycle of waking up then working. There's no future. It's really hard, but may be, soon we'll find light in this situation 😔
Yes on minutes 5:00 this gets to me at my business, I am an entrepreneur and my employees bring their problems to my work site and get to distracted and that effects the growth of my business and I keep changing employees every 2 months since my business is growing, but I am very optimism and positive and now I will get over this Rut
I don't have any training as a therapist or anything but my advice: believe in yourself. You know yourself better than anyone--and although this is easier said than done, I believe that anyone can change for the better and improve themselves. If you are used to giving up and failing, take time to reflect and understand why you failed. How can you get better? If you are doing your best and you still have people giving up on you, then continue improving yourself and lifelong friends will come naturally. Don't rush it. Finally, love yourself for who you are (yes that' cliche BUT IT'S TRUE). Accept your faults and embrace what makes you YOU.
After weeks of holing myself up to my computer in hopes I would get something done, I went out to catch up with a friend I had been putting off for too long. Afterwards I felt a sense of relief and I was able to get started on lesser important things. I realize u need to make time for people or nothing feels worthwhile.
It's so funny. I just watched a video and I was so annoyed and irritated at the way he did the Ad promotion. You way was so natural, friendly that I seriously am going to check out the site. Anyway, thanks for being so gentle.
I literally can't bring myself to do anything. It's pretty horrible. I can't do the dishes, I can't study programming and japanese which I love to do. I need to get out but its hard
same
Hey, me too. currently learning programming and japanese..
I think this goes to the depression spectrum and I know it because I'm in the same situation. In my case I know why I am depressed. Maybe some need to find the root cause to treat it, hopefully with a professional.
Not an expert here, but try listening to music or watching a movie. Give yourself a break. Just come home from work and do nothing. Just sit there and stare out the window. If you get bored, try to count cars by color. OR just go for a walk in a park. Somewhere you have to travel. Basically give your brain a break by experiencing only surface level problems, so that it can refresh and continue doing hard work.
@@NerdyCatCoffeeee I really like the idea of the Pomodoro effect. It's basically working hard for 25 minutes then giving a 5 minute break after. You then repeat this 3 times before giving yourself a 25 minute break on the fourth time. This works for stuff like reading as well just because your brain has time to recoup. I think my problem was that I pitied myself too much. I would say things like I'm "unmotivated" just to convince myself that I don't have to do the work and that it's ok. After I told myself to grow the F!ck up and just do the work, I achieved alot more
I am productive for like 3 days, then unmotivated for a week after.
me tooo and I rarely finish projects and what I started it s like overwhelming
exActly me!!!!
Sameeeeeeeee
That's me rn :(:
Then after every 3 days take a day off instead of weekends ,if possible that is.
That’s how I’m feeling right now I’m the middle of “quarantine”. Anyone else feel that way?
Yasss, it's just hard to care when you don't have the external motivation. God is your strength and he loves you. We can get through this. How are you.
Justin W. it’s 5g bro I’ve been feeling the same way
Yup
Yay
I haven't done my homework for a month now and the virus is certainly the coulprate. Its time I start to try though, you can't do nothing forever.
Solid video. Key lessons (also things that have worked for me too):
1. Maintain & spend time in inspiring positive relationships
2. Set up Jedi Councils, where you have inspiring convos with inspiring people
3. Take a break or vacation. Give yourself permission to, expect less from yourself.
4. Explore new things & branch out to things you haven't checked out. (mine right now is Piano)
Cheers Thomas! :)
Keshav Bhatt You and Thomas are doing the Lord’s work
thanks my brother
Thank you so much, bru
Keshav Bhatt thank bhai 😊
King A - . Take this down time to get to know yourself. Only do things that are productive and will help develop you as a person. Cut out things that are hindering you & distracting. If you work hard on these things now, it will be easier on you later. 🍃🌻 trust me. If you keep slacking off, it will only get harder.
I don't have any relationships that inspire me to be productive.
You can substitute this a bit with reading books of successful people (i found the one on Musk inspiring), listening to productivity-podcasts or watching UA-cam-Channels like this can help too.
I also find it VERY helpful to do sport... it has many positive affects on you psyche and motivation in general.
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As a recovering codependent. Do it for yourself. You are worth the effort. Your valuable to yourself. If you see that. You will attract others that will add to your value. If you continue to try to please others. They will see you miles away. Run too you and suck you dry. Do it for YOU. A healthy reproductive relationship will just happen.
I swear, life recently started feeling like a dream, actually more like a nightmare. Childhood friend died, couple months later my dad died. It seems like all I hear about now is people dying or getting hurt. I feel like I lost all emotion and feeling to everyone I love. I don’t know what to do or what’s going on but I know some of you are going through your own things in life and at the back of my mind I know this will make me stronger. Love you all ❤️
spend more time with those people and you wont feel the numbness anymore
Thomas’ personality is so natural. While most other youtubers are faking enthusiasm, Thomas gives us the information we need smoothly and methodically. With lots of nerdy jokes.
If you speed up the video he sounds like BVS Lex Luthor
Seriously, reminds me alot of why I like wheezywaiter
A piece of advice. When you praise someone at the cost of depreciating someone else both the effect and message you are trying to convey are taken with a grain of salt.
I must say, the moment that I hit subscribe (this is the first time I have seen this accounts content) -- was the "Jedi Counsel" tip. I loved it. And it felt original, and it did not feel pushed - it was honest - and it got me to subscribe immediately.
I’m 18 and feel so unmotivated lmao, the real word seems depressing af
I won't confirm your view on the real world, it will confirm your view for you young grasshopper 🙏🏾
Samir R When you're ready only then will depression present itself in the form of adulthood lol
Oh, it most certainly is lol.
Never forget life will always be what you make it.
At 18 you have your whole life in front of you... Don't make the mistake of thinking the real world is so bleak that you end up making your own life bleak. Trust me I made that mistake at 18 and now at 27 I'm rebuilding
I’ve been in an unmotivated rut for 19 years... I’m 19.
U made my day 😂
The number of likes you have is 19
@@jkp4163 😁
Try being unmotivated for 40 years...... I'm 48.
same but i’m 17
I'm 32 and since my dad died 17 years ago. I've been in a solitary place in my head for that 17 years. No motivation unless I have quite a few beer. You gave some really good insights and for that I thank you and you got a new subscriber!
Maybe go to AA, cause that sounds like alcoholism.
@@blllllllllllllllllllrlrlrl7059 Although i do not dis on AA if it works for certain ppl. Me i don't like it. I feel that, if you really want to change for the better. You have to do that on you're own. And i have been trying hard to do that.
Hope ur doing well now
I hope you're doing alright. Any updates? :)
The only time I hear someone shy away from the word mastermind. You, Thomas, are hereby officially declared a down-to-earth person.
Yeah, Jedi's are a lot more relatable to the common man
god has no ego
having online only classes during covid has completely diminished all motivation I have to finish my classes....it's so hard to sit down and teach yourself stuff alone.
Literally me and there is so much distraction because I could literally be doing anything else other then my work. Just try to keep reminding yourself of the "why". Why doing the hard work now will pay off for your future. You will thank yourself
This video comes at the exact right time for me 😩
Sven Leuschner same
Same!
high 5 , bud :(
God Always Knows WHAT We NEED, when we NEED it...💛🎁
sure, God did this video...
1:02 - Maintain Positive Relationships
4:38 - Take a [serious] break
7:19 - Branch out
I think motivation naturally follows curiosity and growth. If you're repeatedly doing the same things over, you fall into a rut, but always expanding the mind and learning new things is great for motivation
"Reach out to a friend you haven't spoken with in a while and ask to catch up."
I don't have friends.
Johnny that changes now
I’m a loner too
What are friends?
Bro. I'll be your friend.
Mee too
Holy shit, I needed this.. Felt like this the whole summer! Thank youuuu.
Eilidh Harper same, I was just about to google how to get motivated to do anything
Just like me when I came from holidays ahaha
S M Well I don't only feel like this in Summer but currently I am in between 3rd and 4th year at University but I don't want to get overly stressed when I get back so trying to start my self directed project and dissertation now. :)
Same
Hey I find it hard to give compliments, ur really good at that, can u teach me
every time I feel like i lost inspiration/motivation and fall into a rut, I always come to your videos and I never leave disappointed. Thank you for what you're doing!
[3 ways to get out of Rut]
*Ruts=/= Depression
1. Maintain positive relationship with inspiring people. Solitary Confinement. Jedi Council
2. Take a serious break 4:40
3. Branch out - Exploring new interests 7:20
So glad to read these comments. Makes one remember that you’re not the only one going through these things. We’re all connected. And we’re social creatures.
Thank you for this video. Very informative and helpful. I'm 22 and while i do have depression i realised i was beating myself up for not functioning effectively. I realised i needed to be kinder ans more patient with myself and your video has helped inspired me to motivate myself to cultivate better relationships with those who make me feel positive as well as not allowing myself to have a break. I'm going on my first vacation for 3 years this Sunday and i'm really looking forward to it!
I had my ruts on and off, I’m here because I fell into one last year and I’m still there.
I’m graduating soon and I never thought it would be like this a couple of years ago. My grades are not that great, I had to give up my hobbies because of the pandemic and it feels like I’m loosing my closest friends. Everyone is going somewhere, some of them met a good partner, others are moving to study someplace else etc. The point is that we barely see each other anymore, and I feel so alone, worthless and left behind.
I had to put a lot of things aside just to be able to get up in the morning, I have anxiety every day, I’m not lazy but unmotivated. I can’t get anything done in time and that’s giving me even more anxiety. I don’t know what I want or even can do in life and I don’t *really* enjoy anything fully anymore.
I used to hang out with friends, talk to girls, play video games and go to the gym. Now I barely do any of those things, I don’t even enjoy games anymore! That really worries me.
It’s hard because I know I’m messing up school and relationships with people but I just can’t bring myself to do anything about it. I’ve never been suicidal or taken drugs, but some days I have the...”what’s the point of doing anything?” feeling stuck in my head.
I believe I will feel better someday but right now not a second can pass without me feeling disappointed in myself. It’s crazy how I’m an ambitious person but I can’t stand school!
Just needed to vent here in the comments, it makes it easier to breathe sometimes.
Hey Thomas.Y
You really helped me at improving my life. Currently I am 15 years old and I have been watching youre videos since last summer. Since I downloaded habitica thanks to youre recommendation I am going to the gym 5x a week, read daily, meditate just as often, eat a healthy diat and try to be the most productive form of myself that I can possibly be, whilst also enjoying life to its limit 👌 Thanks!
hey bro lets connect, my ig is @dorian_prz_ I'm, also seeking to get the best version of myself and am in your age!
Janis Hoellger
No homo. Say it. Say. It.
Why would you point out that he's attractive physically ?
Why would you defend your heterosexuality ?
this made me laugh :P
you're very young, keep up the learning going !
(and don't break your brain with drugs until it is full grown up)
(and maybe 5x a week is too much for your body btw)
TheMylesky I am well informed about the way drugs can affect brain development, but I dont even take drugs. Why do you think that? And concerning my training, my routine is a five day split witch means that I do different muscle groups on different days, so the rest can recover. AlaoI have recovery days placed troughout the week and I try to sleep at least 9 hours for maximum muscle recovery 👍
Marios Tsal Why are you asking? 😂
1. Relationships
-> Connect with your friends, family, etc. and interact with other people
2. Take a serious Break
->Give yourself the permission to release pressure and relax. This serves getting the fog out of your head and being able to take a step back
3. Branch Out
Explore something new. This serves interrupting the rut.
This is exactly what I needed right now! Thanks a lot Thomas !
me too!
I used to be a very and y mean VERYYY motivated person... i loved having a engineering class in hs bc i could invent and do whatever i wanted(i won several competitions in my city)... i used to draw, paint, make music, work on my car... i did everything i loved... but then i started college... and that’s where my downfall started. I felt like i couldn’t keep up to the expectations. I used to compare myself to everyone and how they were better than me. I just wasnt feeling college so i dropped out. After dropping out, it just seemed like my family hated me so that just made things worse.. BUT THENN i got a girlfriend... she was very toxic... she would get mad for any reason... i was with her for 2 years.... now i think i have depression... i want to do so many things but i always think of why not to do them... and this is not me... in hs everyone came to me for advice . I used to be a very optimistic person,but now... i turned into everything i hated when i was a bit younger.... i just hope to be the person i used to be... :)
Hey man same right now I’m in college and it’s really time counsuming n burns me out so I feel u bro but dude if u love something then u should go do it it doesn’t matter wat anyone says u got this bro
Awesome, just needed this
8:37 THIS PART IS SOOOOOOO IMPORTANT
Always helps me to insist on something when it gets boring or tough.
Honesty, if I had your face, just by waking up in the morning and looking at the mirror I would be motivated!
Omg isn't he so beautiful
He's hot cuz he has his shit together.
It is a bit distracting, ain't it? I dont even listen to what he is saying during the video, i'm just thinking how beautiful our babies would be.
Danielly Fontaniva that's just creepy and wrong, but understandable, lol.
Danielly Fontaniva oh my gosh that's exactly what I do (even though it's creepy)
Working from home and being quarantined for months putting a mental toll on me
Ok... this is scary. Every new video is about something I’m going through at the moment or something I just wonder no long ago. Thank you for all yours video, specially this one!
Same. Best of luck to you!
Dude holy moly, what you explained about solidary confinement, just made me understand my situation. When I was a late teenager, I lived with my friends and all we did was play videogames, hang out, saying the same jokes repeatedly. It was exactly what you described. And while it was some of the most fun I ever had; I was also the most depressed/suicidal I had ever been in my entire life. Which never made sense to me until right now.
thankyou *sobs over dramatically* I just finished school (like graduated) and I've literally done nothing.
*My biggest tip to get out of a rut: find a project*
Choose something you’re passionate about (for me it’s helping others grow on social media and build their brand) and start a business and start creating content about it.
Here’s what I did: bought GoDaddy website builder for $7/month (that was the only cost). Then designed the whole website (3 days), started a podcast, and wrote blog posts.
I also have a personal youtube channel (this one) that keeps me busy.
Finding a project has given me a purpose all summer and driven me to stay motivated and productive.
I started watching your videos since literally yesterday, and up to now I've watched about 15 of them. My room out of nowhere started getting more organized and started to apply your tips on habits and organization to my daily life. I have yet to put a lot more into it, but so far it has tremendously helped me be more efficient in college, work and life. So thank you💪🤙
no wonder my mental state is declining during the pandemic. i haven't made much connections, and when i have, they're often shallow. thank you for your videos, Thomas. They help me push through with life.
I lack the motivation to attempt any of this stuff. 🤷🏻♂️ Quarantine/social distancing/stay indoors etc seems to have sucked the life right out of me.
I’ve been in an unmotivated rut for 19 years... I’m 19.
YOUR TIMING IS ABSURD.
I'm trying to prepare for medicine admission test, which is on the 4th of September. I haven't started to study efficiently and July is almost over. I feel inept as hell and unable to pass that test. I'm really behind and unmotivated, my family isn't helping me at all, but I'll have two weeks from today of total loneliness. No little brother or mother to bother me. I hope I'll come back and start to focus seriously on my goal. Your video gave me great advice! Thank you
One of the topics you were rambling on about ( Too many goals ) definitely sticks with me as a person. I feel like as a 19 year old time is so short and I barely got time.
Thank you for taking the time to acknowledge the difference between a rut and depression. It might not seem overly important to a lot of others but that meant the world to me.
“You have to fuel your little interests so they become a full fire”
That’s one way to put it
THIS IS SO AMAZING. YOUR CHANNEL AND CHARISMA ON COMMAND ARE MY GO TO FOR SOCIAL INTERACTION LESSONS AND YOURE FRIENDS. THIS JUST DID SOMETHING TO MY HEART. ALSO YOUR EYES ARE PRETTY.
Thanks so much Thomas!! Ur that one friend I find online who inspires me.. I'm in a serious rut, and I think each thing u mentioned applies to me.. thanks for this vid my dude, I'm so inspired rn to piece myself together... at least for now.. so thanks!!! I love that u have more videos comming! Pleassseeee don't stop ur my life saver😭😂
I'm stuck in a rut, and I also have depression. I'm on meds, but it's the rainy season here, and without seeing the sun for days now, it really makes me depressed.
UA-cam was so worried about me after hundreds of hours watching. That they send me this video.
I don't usually comment on UA-cam videos; but I just felt like you (Thomas Frank)) should know that you really are helping people everywhere wake up and tangibly take steps to work towards their goals - against all odds. I think that's really commendable and I think you shouldn't take it lightly. I write this all the way from South Africa. You're a blessing. That's all xx
It's like you are posting videos according to what's happening in my life.
I feel that way about the podcast too! It's kinda weird but great at the same time lol
Your Megaman and Castlevania posters never get old Thomas. Great video. I totally agree with catching up with people who share my values at least once a week. I know exactly what people I can do that with. Thanks man.
I've been in this 'rut' for the past 5 years
Swifteh might not be a 'rut' but something more severe, may i recommand research depression
Definitely not depressed. I was a while ago but I'm a happy and fine person, just insanely lazy and terrible at sticking to things. Makes it difficult going into the last year of high school but oh well
Swifteh I felt that way too but once I got too university I really found my way by doing things the way I wanted to do them and i can honestly recommand to grind through the last year(while taking care of yourself ofc) and just doing things your own way in uni which will make you so much happier and can really give you a lot more time, energy, motivation and all of that good stuff
Yea, I've been planning to grind this year. I just live in a country that I don't speak the language and sitting inside my house all the time just kills my motivation. I've been going outside more often but I think I will definitely be better in Uni when I have my own space and I'm back in an English speaking country.
Swifteh why not learn the language? What country do you live in? You might never live there again, but youd have the skill
This is the efficient type of motivation, not the coach conversation of "just do it" and I love it
I'm 29, finished my Bachelor's in applied mathematics last year and struggled greatly to find employment for way too long. That, combined with my very unproductive flat mates, kind of trapped me in a state of stagnation. It's starting to fundamentally mess with my mental state. Like, I feel my mind deteriorating in real time.
Don't let life get you into my position!
{return -1;} hey it’s gonna be okay, you’ll find a job. Things will get better, your life will get better and you’ll be happier. Just keep trying your best and have hope.
Wow you're really smart to major in mathematics. I always thought I picked the wrong major and needed to be good at math to be successful
I did two of these things without knowing I should - just because I just thought I needed them: I toke a break and I also went out with friends to break the routine. Turns out they were good things for me. Thomas Frank, you're basically saving my emotional world, thanks.
This video actually changed my life. After watching this I went to doc and got diagnosed with depression and got on some medication. I feel so much better now. Thanks a lot 😍😍😍
How long did it take to get diagnosed?
Listen up kids to this wise man. As a 43yr old bartender who never prepared for the future properly he’s pretty spot on. Especially about the friends part. I kinda never grew out of the kid phase and although I had one hell of an experience most of those people and connections I formed back when have all moved on, got married, families, found more appropriate careers for an older lifestyle.
Exactly what I needed right now. Thank you!
Watching this from Botswana btw. Keep up the good work. 😁🤗
i'm just start to fix my chaos life and i'm so glad that i saw this episode so i know what to do when i find myself in that time of listless and whatever.
Thomas, How about a video on obtaining new friends later in life.. say 30 or 40. A good friend network was very helpful when I was younger but they have fallen off over the years. How to make new ones?
Mutual interest groups or Meetups can help, or reconnecting with old friends.
It's definitely difficult to do later in life. Once the context and the shared experiences end, it isn't long before those friendships fade. Getting out there and doing things that create that shared experience again certainly helps. I'm 33 and back in college and I've made a lot of friends during this time. I know a lot of those will fade when we graduate, but the good ones should stick as long as I stay proactive in keeping communication open.
Daniel Beer and it's two way
Michael Cunningham try bumble it’s good!
This is absolutely true. As someone who has spent three and a half years and actual solitary confinement I can attest well, maybe not the brain damage. I tried to make the best of the situation and learn as much as I could. I now surround myself with people that are constantly doing things that are well. Some people would say even miraculous... I've achieved quite a bit and I intend to achieve quite a bit more. I think you hit it right spot on great video!
Haha I need this soooo much. School starts in less than 2 weeks, and I haven't done half of my summer homework. Yikes.
rachel. School starts tomorrow and I need to finish a 2000 word essay
Do the best you can in the time you've got: "perfect is the enemy of good (enough)" and the more you practice fast structured learning the better you'll be at it during term/semester.
rachel. Starting is the hardest part just dedicate 10 min to homework. Hopefully you will get on a roll and finish. Gave a great semester and shoot for A's. I know I did.
Thank you for being real and sharing your knowledge. I also found this video very helpful. Thank you!
2:20 so you’re telling me that a years worth of quarantine has actually damaged our brains 🥲
This... moved during covid. It’s been really lonely
When I first saw this video pop up in my feed, I needed it so bad. But weirdly, I avoided it. My brain kind of wanted me to stay in that rut. It’s so strange. Now I’ve had enough. I’m getting my life together. I’m watching this video now as a first step.
6:42 accurate representation of what "working" looks like
I just want to say, thank you for stating that your tips may help depression but something more needs to happen. Too often youtubers will act as though their tips will cure mental illness. They obviously don't, but some of the teenage/young adult viewers may not fully understand that. It's a small thing, but thank you. As someone with depression I feel happy that you mentioned it instead of being like "it's so easy to be happy, be positive 24/7/365"
Who else is watching this because were quarantined and have to work online? :( I have like no motivation anymore
Why do you think you lack the motivation and what can you do to start getting it back? Don't forget to remind yourself to be grateful that you have a job while millions don't. 😀
Mindset Theory im literally a middle school student
The idea to spend more time with friends and people who inspire you really open my eyes. Definitely the advise I needed
Great genuine solid content for motivation! Loved it. I’ve 3 questions although the might seem irrelevant they really complete the picture for me:
1) did you get a degree relevant to video edit etc?
2) how old were you when you decided to start UA-cam?
3) how long (on average) does it take you to edit one video?
Hey man! Im a bit younger and in high school, BUT your videos have really helped me stay motivated, improve my performance, and start to get on top of things!
THANK YOU!! :)
I'm just getting out of a rut. As always, I'm always blown away with the correlation of fitness and the degree of not being unmotivated. Another factor about health. The degree of your level of health, to a degree, is variable. I enjoy intense weightlifting (5-7 hours/week) and running(12-15 miles). When I'm at 80% and up of my personal health goals, this is when I'm the most productive.
You’re my favorite channel to watch when I feel like crying over how much late work I have to do for an online summer class. I can’t seem to actually get up and do it, so I’m watching this
I’m going through the hardest time of my life. I’m straight up suffering
I feel you bro. Hang in there. One small change at a time can make a big difference.
Please visit the website 7Cups. It helped me greatly and i now help people myself. Stay positive! Best of luck. It will get better!
How you doing today?
Now I must say. I really loved this guy. He helps me just in the right moment! 💕
That’s the thing i really miss about college, being surrounded by so many intelligent young people eager to make change in their society. It did wonders to keep my own motivation up.
I thought I was the only one. Having that University buzz and seeing everyone moving around and going to class and walking around campus really pushed me to do my best
So true!! Thomas inspired me to start a UA-cam channel and create videos about self development and productivity! He's a legend 🙌🏼
This is a very good point
This video proved so incredibly insightful, dang. I was like "eh, I don't need this right now" when it originally came out, fast forward to today I find this video superb to my condition. This guy never ceases to motivate or amaze me
Man...You are super handsome.I'm not trolling.
S M takes one to know one.
lol xD
Been saying it all these years. Hahaa I mean his eyes are so dreamy
He's mine! :D but didn't your heart drop a little when he said gf? Haha
As a straight dude, I have to accept that he is, in fact, handsome... I was surprised by how ugly his girlfriend is... He can do it way better than that...
Dude u have no idea how helpful and motivating your videos are 😩 ily don’t stop doing what u do
I'm in a rut right now. This was helpful. Thank you
Just like everybody here, the time was just right for me too. It's incredible that so many people find themselves in a unmotivated rut so often, and this video is a very needed help and those times
Perfect timing
I come here get my will fuelled and think how there still high quilty content in youtube.
keep crushing it 💙
Literally everyone in Lockdown right now
Haha true
Am I the only one still in it?
@@smileyface8434 I'm afraid not :/
I have been at home since wednesday. My school schedule is not the same and I just so happened to find myself with a lot of time in my hands. I recently fell into some bad spell. I felt anxious, I felt depressed. Aside from a cold, I just felt like shit. Like I'm so used to thinking about school and have been studying throughout the year, including summer school, and I felt so burned out and this fall I just let go of control and its driving me mad. I feel like I've become a workaholic and I just can't stop, but I still need some motivation to make me feel like I'm still on my way. Awesome video. Thanks!
Yess absolutely love this!! All of these strategies are great and very beneficial 🙏🏻🙌🏼🌻🌞 thank you for sharing such valuable content!
This is vid was spot on! I am in a rut, despite prepping for an exam that's due in 2 weeks! Thank You Tom!
my solutions before this were:
1. organize your room/living space
2.
why is this so meeeee
I can relate. But i didn't get to finish that task too.
It’s a start but at some point you need to add another step, I’m there too... but at least that firststep of doing my bed and cleaning my room got me out of a depression with suicidal thoughts... big improvement just need more step or at least one more step, working out is wiggling into my steps
@@rudymurillo1693
I clean up my room on a regular basis and also make up my bed first thing in the morning. I was starting to think maybe I'm not doing enough but it really does set the tone for the day. Thanks for stating that, it reaffirmed I'm on the right track, I really needed that boost👍. Exercise is my next step too. So have you started working out💪. Howz it going 😄?
About that stagnant feeling: I think you hit the nail on it's head. I, however, feel like when I'm starting to learn new things that I don't spend any time learning stuff that's 'useful' or 'will get me anywhere', because I'm too caught up learning something I know I'm going to be a noob in for a long time. I know it's a weird feeling, but it causes me not to do anything at all, which is not motivating either...
i’ve been having trouble doing my homework and getting up for class. my grades have plummeted.
me 2
Me toooo
What you described with "that little bit of interest you felt" and how it eventually led to something bigger very much reminds me of how Elizabeth Gilbert talks about ideas in her book "big magic". I really recommend anyone in a RUT to read her book, at least it helped me a lot and it is a light and fun read. Thanks for the video Tom :)
Who’s here bc of corona
no I m before. what s corona btw
Ha...i think this is y'all's first yèar of lockdown
Me I just want my life back😔I honestly don’t see a point of living rn like I’m not suicidal I just could care less if I died right now..I’ve got like nothing in store for me anymore it’s all been taken..just got in a car crash and lost what I love and don’t see a point of anything anymore I don’t know what to do I just want my life back. Just take me back💔
@@braedenmcintyre5223 don t worry bro😟everythink is going to be alright just hope for the best
@@braedenmcintyre5223 sorry to hear that. :( Feels stuck right now too, on a constant cycle of waking up then working. There's no future. It's really hard, but may be, soon we'll find light in this situation 😔
I came to you (ppl who inspire me) to get myself out of my rut which has been going on since 15 days!
Thomas Frank (the channel) and Charisma on Command are related? Mindblown
Yes on minutes 5:00 this gets to me at my business, I am an entrepreneur and my employees bring their problems to my work site and get to distracted and that effects the growth of my business and I keep changing employees every 2 months since my business is growing, but I am very optimism and positive and now I will get over this Rut
Nobody slides into sponsor info like Thomas
This is so refreshing and honest, thank you!!
What if you no longer have positive relationships because everyone has given up on you.
mariah hardnett Tom would not know..... I think you need to speak to a therapist
I don't have any training as a therapist or anything but my advice: believe in yourself. You know yourself better than anyone--and although this is easier said than done, I believe that anyone can change for the better and improve themselves. If you are used to giving up and failing, take time to reflect and understand why you failed. How can you get better? If you are doing your best and you still have people giving up on you, then continue improving yourself and lifelong friends will come naturally. Don't rush it. Finally, love yourself for who you are (yes that' cliche BUT IT'S TRUE). Accept your faults and embrace what makes you YOU.
Then make new ones
@@jazmine7798 You made my day Jazmine! Thank you! 🤗
After weeks of holing myself up to my computer in hopes I would get something done, I went out to catch up with a friend I had been putting off for too long. Afterwards I felt a sense of relief and I was able to get started on lesser important things. I realize u need to make time for people or nothing feels worthwhile.
I’m in this right now Thomas. I’m suffering a lot.
Hugs. Hold on
i been depressed for 8 years i go on youtube and watch people who have a disability and see how they do things makes me stronger
It's so funny. I just watched a video and I was so annoyed and irritated at the way he did the Ad promotion. You way was so natural, friendly that I seriously am going to check out the site. Anyway, thanks for being so gentle.
Thank you so much for this video! It really makes me feel hopeful again :) these are great ideas, can't wait to try them out.