If I am being honest, people do judge you, but you judge yourself a lot more. People will laugh at you when you have an embarassing moment but will forget it in a moment whereas you might remember it forever.
@@windws7137 well I got a pixie haircut, it helped a lot to change my looks since my long hair was too big and heavy. Also it forced me to take better care of how my face looked, so I started a basic skincare routine and some facial yoga. I started drinking more water. That overall helped me like myself better and keep a better mood. I recommend practicing a hobby too, it helped me to feel better and I think that also increases your attractiveness
@@swanne.9 Thank you for the answer!♥️ I'm incorporating little by little skin care, but still sometimes get in into the rabbit hole of "it's over" pill, so it's important to hear what REAL people say
usually I get an ick from videos about self confidence, but this video feels so different from other "self confidence influencers" videos. like, there's so much honesty, she speaks like she truly understands that it's so easy and so difficult at the same time to love yourself and be confident (bc she does!)
16:14 I never thought of it this way, I’m very attached to academic validation and place all my worth on how I’m doing. Any time I get a bad grade I find myself not being able to make eye contact, not wanting to make conversation, having bad posture and overall hating my life. That comment was really enlightening, thank you
i think alot of us the problem isn't lack of confidence it's lack of humility. same difference but we have to just be aware of the duality. if we're too confident in one situation or dynamic, it leaves room for us to lack confidence in another and vice versa, of course. balance is the key. ⚖️
I’m proud of you girl. God will take those who appear to be the least qualified, and qualifies them! And when God qualifies he OVER qualifies! You’re living proof of that. Sending lots of love and encouragement❤️🥰
I always feel like an embarrassment and even heard from a teacher how cringe I can be. I know that too. Sometimes I’m quiet and so, sometimes loud. Thank you for helping me realize that you don’t have to be an embarrassment just because of other people. ❤
@@kookie_2178 It is. I hope it gets better! I usuly think now when I get embarrassed "someone else can be embarrassed for me instead so I dont have to" and then the feeling goes down.
Normally I don't like to reply to videos because I think of what people will say or how they'll react but I'm stepping out of my comfort zone and doing this right now
This is the most detailed video on self confidence I've come across and it's also the first time I actually took down notes from a video into a journal. Thank you for this 💖
i feel like you shouldn’t have to change yourself (like who you naturally are example; an introvert, i am one) you shouldn’t have to pretend to be extroverted if it’s not who you are. i think you can achieve confidence without conforming to societies standards. but that’s just me my self confidence/self love journey will not be faking my personality. being authentic to who you really are i think is better because it’s not exhausting it’s natural and effortless.
Messages 1)Dont care about anyone's opinion do what u want 2)emberresment is choice 3)self love (praize yourself) 4)get to know yourself better 5)realize it is okay to be different
I literally never comment, but all of your ideas are another level and I want to say how much I appreciate it. They're amazingly deep and hit a point. I came across some of them in therapy and also while studying psychology in uni. Might rewatch multiple because every word is valuable
Inner confidence is the hardest for me, having an exam and constantly thinking that you might do badly is horrible! This video helps a lot to remember and appreciate the small achievements of the past. 💜
I took a moment at the end to channel my younger self and tell myself how proud I was of me. I didn’t realise how much I needed to hear that. Thank you for the reminder 🤍
went on a mediocre date today where i could tell the girl was becoming uninterested because i was putting myself down, getting too nervous, etc and looked up videos on confidence because i was just so sick of being like this. a lot of what you said is the same as the things i hear from my therapist but it still made me cry very hard hearing it laid out so plainly. i'll try to act on a lot of the things you mentioned. thank you for making this and i hope one day i can reach the same point you have because it's not worth living life like this
I used to be very shy and I had no confidence at all but I'm still growing and learning from your videos💗 I'm only 14 and everyday I'm trying to be better than I was yesterday and you really helping me thank you so much 💗
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO. i wish i found your page earlier because every single one of your videos that i've watched so far has successfully motivated me. there are lots of content creators who really just provide you with tons of tips and stuff but i never felt the vibe match. i've always been a cheerful and bubbly person but the last 3 years i was so reserved because of my surroundings (i had to live in a place with literally little to no one around). i think we are really similar as a person (you are obviously better in many ways since you have more experience and stuff). some of your words really hit different and i think i'll remember those when i'm feeling like i'm being judged or insecure. the genuine tips (along with the real experiences) are priceless istg. all of this really helps !! 💞
You don't know how important this video is to me 😭thank you so much for your words and advice 💕 you made me understand that confidence is really something you built everyday and achieve progressively ! All you need is faith and constance to put yourself in "those scary situations" 👏
Yoo! This is making me happy to feel like I am walking on the right path because when people judge me for being too cringed or too sensitive to them shaming me, I was feeling like maybe I reacted sensitive was wrong, now after being here I feel authentic and I was standing up for myself, now I feel totally refresh🍃✨ I was about to lose my confidence 😂now just level up baby💛
I'm so glad that I found your channel... Listening to u is better than reading 10 self guide books.. Nd fr! I been suffering with seeking validation and listening to u has started bringing real changes in my life... I'm just so thankful to you.. It's been much better bcz of u❤️❤️
I'm young and I've just started to worry about self-love and confidence. It's been a major issue in my life but it's only now I'm serious and not half-assedly trying to be better. This video broadened my horizon. Good luck to me & my sis/bros out there 💕
You don't have to be someone else just to fit in🥰I love the confidence that's radiating from this video, opens my eyes through a lot of things and idk why but I can't stop smiling while listening to you talk :)) ❤️
I’m so glad i came across your video. I sat through the whole thing without skipping or getting bored and i resonate with everything you said! maybe it’s cuz i also talk fast but i understood everything and i love ur energy lmao 😭 i needed this thank you!!
If you were standing in front of me right I would have hugged you so hard🤗🤗 for telling me that I should love myself first and just don't care how others are think of me 💝
Before I was recommended your channel I was literally crying every day, judging myself , caring abt peoples opinions but when I found your channel , it was so helpful to me . Your tips are so realistic and seriously ◇I CANT THANK YOU ENOUGH◇ Sometimes at night and make sure to down load all of your videos and then I sit down to watch them. Your videos give me a sense that I am not alone and that I will be fine. I cant say I'm totally changed now but tnx to ur vids , i am constantly improving .Tysm dear. Keep up with the good work . I luv u sis 💜❤❤💜❤💖💖💖🥰🥰
Thank you for this video! A lot of the stuff you said has hit me hard and snapped me back to reality, especially when you said embarrassment is a choice. Btw I LOVE YOUR ENERGY 😂❤❤
oh my god thank you so much!! i really needed this because i’m most definitely sure i’m at my most indecisive and insecure point in life but this, this REALLY helped me. I was always depending of the approval of something or “oh i wish i could be her or i could never be her” but you really helped me discover to just embrace myself, be happy with who i am and what i’ve done. I LOVE YOU SO SO MUCH, ALSO YOURE BEAUTIFUL!! I LOVE YOUR STYLE!! it’s the style i always wanted to go for too but again, i was scared of what people what think of me. LOVE YOUU 💓💓💓
One of my new year’s resolutions was to improve my self-confidence. Immediately after I wrote that down, I started to doubt my ability to achieve that goal. I really appreciate you making this video ❤
The fact that i have been working on myself since maybe 11(??). And this last year i changed A LOT like rly a lot. Im happy and grateful ab that, not sad like b4 "oH i WeNt ThRoUgH sO mUcH" NO GORL STOP THAT MIND SET. And the fact that im like tam, The wizardliz and etc.(u can count many accounts that i follow, that mentally and even physically changed me).. Yea i glowed and growed up so muchh, but im not even 15 yet and this MATUREE. Anyways appreciate you and your effort Tam, love you❤😊
Love this video! Id love a video going into tip 7 - self love - how do you get to a place where you love yourself for who you are, and not external stuff like success or relationships? Thank you Tam for such great content ❤
The being grateful for how far ive come,kicked me a few weeks ago. I had over 10k € debts, now i am down to 4K. I was talking about it with a person,and when i said i had yet to pay 4k-his response was-oh my god so much to pay,(the person that pushed me to be depressed for years,and i went crazy with buying things), i told him,what are you judging me, at least i am paying it back and am down to 4 from 10. thats a huge progress and im proud of me for coming this far.-his response is one of a 1000 reason's that i didnt feel safe as a woman with him.
Real self worth will come from working on yourself irl and not on social media. Some of the most active people on social media are usually the most insecure
I have always struggled with confidence and self worth. This year I am dedicating the next two years into transforming into the best version of myself and I know it wont be pretty. I know that there will be ups and downs. The things that are worth it in life are usuals the things that challenge you. So to anyone who needs this: I am proud of you for making the decision to be a better person each day.💖
everything makes sense and i know some of this secretly but she’s putting it in words and saying it outloud and it’s amazing like why did i shed a tear
My problem with filming in public is I feel bad for the people around me because I realize that they probably don’t want to be in the background of a video that’s going to be put on the internet.. and people get upset when they realize they’re being filmed, that’s why I haven’t been able to film in public. Any ideas there? Cuz I’d love to just do it! It would add so much to my videos.
Hey there! I'm new on ur channel here and WOAH! You nailed it! I seriously LOVED the vid like, WOW! All the tips were AMAZING but that YOUNGER SELF tip got me SO SHOCKED. I was like, NO WAY! Bcz, I just implemented this tip myself like without any reference! I just told myself to try things this way & WOW! I saw this on ur UA-cam channel for the first time. Honestly loved it! Keep goin'!❤❤❤❤
Wow, this video really helped me think deeply about the things I'm dealing with. In the end I am the problem and not others. I can literally choose to be embarrassed or not and it's so mind blowing 😅 and I'm the only one who puts stones in the way of not being as confident as I want to be
you're the first youtuber whose motivational talk doesn't make me feel like shit, but actually makes me want to improve :"-) also i love listening to you, you have a really nice voice! 💗
I like how you said that real self love is loving yourself even when you’re not at your best like when you’re not going to the gym everyday. I struggle with that a lot. And I automatically thought that’s exactly how God loves us, he loves us when we’re at our best and he love us when we make mistakes. I am a Christian and I find your perspective aligns with a lot of biblical principles, and the way you live your life you can see the hand of God is on you and he keeps blessing you because you unknowingly understand some biblical principles. May God bless you!!
I also feel like desensitizing cringe and embarrassment does good for you both you and other people as well bc now you can look at people doing stuff you'd judge usually as not that deep
Honestly, Tam, you’ve got to be the only person making this type of content that actually tells you HOW to do these things. Other self-improvement creators are just like “you’re not confident? Oh, well, just try being more confident. Okay, byeeeeee” 😂
You speak really well 🥰✨although it's difficult for me to understand fast english but I was able to understand to you so well.. I was enjoying listening you.. When everyone around me making me feel worthless you lift me up and made me smile love you✨✨✨🦋🌻🖤🤗thanks a lot ❣️
Only 30 seconds into this video but even just that beginning message was something I needed! For the last few years ive had such a clear vision of what kind of person i wanted to become and my 'ideal self' and that person was confident but after a few jears of working on myself...i still feel like im in the same place and sometimes it even feels like im going backwards. at times its felt like ill never achieve true, internal confidence and that people who have the confidence i dream of having are just naturally like that. so all that to say, I needed that beginning message 🥺 I hope in the next couple years I am closer to being as confident and self assured as I dream to be because I dont wanna spend the rest of my 20s being in my own head and unsure of myself lol!
As a trans man, I appreciate alot the comment of being authentically yourself no matter what, with flaws and all. I only truly started loving my body after coming to terms with my identity. Before then, i'd physically beat myself over not having a certain body type, with a lil splash of ED's, but the moment I came to terms with the fact that I could be transgender, my eating disorders stopped, I stopped hurting myself, I stopped crying myself to sleep, and I actually started losing weight and having that typical ideal body that I had convinced myself would be the only way I'd be lovable. In my experience, introspection and self-awareness is key in figuring out what you want, and oftentimes I wasn't allowed to have that in a household with a latina mother. I had to unlearn internalized fatphobia and racism, aswell as not being afraid with defying my mothers expectations of me. And even though my body is still traditionally feminine, I'm talking kim k curves and all, and although it fits a certain aesthetic of femininity which I feel disconnected to, I still accept it and give it as much love as it deserves until I can start my transition process. I think something people need to realize is that, as a trans person, I don't hate my body, my body is quite beautiful, and if I saw a girl with my body type I'd be absolutely in love. But it's just not ME, and me wanting to change into the ideal version of myself in my head is not self hate, I'm just accepting the positive, ideal change I see in myself, theres a difference between self-love and settling. The journey to self acceptance, regardless of who you are, is not an easy one, you'll run into alot of opps and people who don't have you in their best interest, but guess what, THEY DON'T OWE YOU their best interest, you just gotta stunt on them, and let go of expectations of all kinds. I like to think of it this way: Whatever you have to do, it HAS to be done. Personally, I think of everything I want to do like a must, I HAVE NO CHOICE but to be my best self. I don't see it as an aspiration, I see it as a requirement, with some wiggle room for self compassion and humanization of course. I just gotta, you know?
this really helps. I just started my first year of 6th form. most of my friends have left the school and I have to do many things like eating, playing basketball, and just walking around campus by myself. I'm perfectly okay with doing all of this alone but my head quickly gets occupied with how other people my age at the school perceive me. really needed this.
Hey sis, love your videos super motivational! Can you make a video regarding ambition/ Financial goals and motivation? Would love to see your take on this!
I completely agree in this , attaching self love with superficial opportunities, so did I and now feeling bad because last few days have not been embraced by teachers, friends have left me and now I am here HOW TO. BE CONFIDENT 😊
That question how far I've come to myself... Literally felt like time has stopped and I'm not racing . I looked back how far I've came and it made me feel a lil bit satisfying that i actually trying and becoming that person i want and what i want to achieve in my life. Its not complete yet but i will.... I will not give up.
Thank you, recently I started to feel afraid and insecure about my opinions and I feel my opinions aren’t valid anymore especially with internet toxicity and their judgments, it made my mental health state even worse . I don’t feel safe sharing my true self anymore .. idk what to do about it
About the proof portfolio part, I’m 17 and I’m really anxious about going alone to an appointment so I always go with my mom. But one day my mom could not go to the hairdresser with me and I spent a really good time even tho she wasn’t there. I stepped out of my comfort zone and I’m proud of it.
Im getting more and more confident everyday I'm ACTUALLY able to be myself now and not awkward Now I hate it when my friends compare themselves and say that they are ugly bc there are beautiful to me I'm noticing negative things people say more and more and what they say is bad So I ignore it and stay detached
I genuinely realized there’s nobody judging me, and even if a small handful do judge me who are they to do so? Them judging me won’t take anything away from me or send me to the grave so they’re wasting their energy and in reality they’re judging parts of themselves. I realize I have no reason to be insecure because I get to be here as a HUMAN and all humans aren’t the same, we have quirks and I GET to have mine so why not spend time loving what makes me unique and not judging it. I still struggle sometimes but I’m working on it day by day
OMG ! YOU ARE MY IT GIRL , YOU ARE MY IDOL , YOU ARE MY EVERYTHING ! IM A VERY BIG FAN :D BTW THANK YOU SM FOR MAKING ME MORE CONFIDENT AND MAKING ME LOVE MYSELF :) YOU ARE SO PRETTY ;)
Thank you so much for this video. But can you also talk about when we make mistakes and embarass ourselves infront of the people we always see in our daily life.
I love how brave you are, it’s true most likely you will never see judgy people again! And they won’t really care more than a second and carry on. Very inspiring video, 💕 🎉
Apologies for speaking so fast in this video! I got way too excited 🤣 I appreciate your feedback tho! Watch it in 0.75x speed if you need 💓
I came to the comments to say I usually speed up videos. I appreciate the pace lol.
Your pace speed gave me a good shock in the intro. Which helped me pay attention. 😆🤭🤭
What matters is you enjoy making the videos, and I understand you:)
This is the normal speed for me when I listening video and I also speak in this speed if the theme about my passion 😉😉.. so I understand baby
I did that immediately
It hit me hard when she said , " When you think others are judging you ,it's actually you judging yourself. "
yess i feel that too its actually me being too self aware while other people dont really care anyway
This really stuck with me. Going to try to remind myself of this
Yaaa 😞
If I am being honest, people do judge you, but you judge yourself a lot more. People will laugh at you when you have an embarassing moment but will forget it in a moment whereas you might remember it forever.
That's deep honestly. I actually felt it.
I had a glow up at 24, but still it is hard to be confident after feeling an outcast for so long. It definitely requires consistent effort.
Feel this to core
So true ...
Hey what have you done for the glow up if not a secret?
@@windws7137 well I got a pixie haircut, it helped a lot to change my looks since my long hair was too big and heavy. Also it forced me to take better care of how my face looked, so I started a basic skincare routine and some facial yoga. I started drinking more water. That overall helped me like myself better and keep a better mood. I recommend practicing a hobby too, it helped me to feel better and I think that also increases your attractiveness
@@swanne.9 Thank you for the answer!♥️
I'm incorporating little by little skin care, but still sometimes get in into the rabbit hole of "it's over" pill, so it's important to hear what REAL people say
When I speak those beautiful affirmations to myself I also say “I believe every word I just said to myself, amen.” It helps me sleep @ night 🤣💖
Love that!
🤣🤣🤣🤣 such a good idea, thx 🙏
This is profound. Lemme get to trying this omggg thanks for sharing 💓
Y’all are so welcome! ☺️☺️
This is so helpful because sometimes i say things and it seems so impossible that deep down i don't even believe it 😭
usually I get an ick from videos about self confidence, but this video feels so different from other "self confidence influencers" videos. like, there's so much honesty, she speaks like she truly understands that it's so easy and so difficult at the same time to love yourself and be confident (bc she does!)
I appreciate that! Xxx
16:14 I never thought of it this way, I’m very attached to academic validation and place all my worth on how I’m doing. Any time I get a bad grade I find myself not being able to make eye contact, not wanting to make conversation, having bad posture and overall hating my life. That comment was really enlightening, thank you
True, i too face this, and it's more now when I am in my coaching, because you can't keep having outstanding marks
Never have I related to something so much
i think alot of us the problem isn't lack of confidence it's lack of humility. same difference but we have to just be aware of the duality. if we're too confident in one situation or dynamic, it leaves room for us to lack confidence in another and vice versa, of course. balance is the key. ⚖️
I’m proud of you girl. God will take those who appear to be the least qualified, and qualifies them! And when God qualifies he OVER qualifies! You’re living proof of that. Sending lots of love and encouragement❤️🥰
What a beautiful way you phrased it
Made my day. I'm gonna write it down on a paper and paste it on the wall ❤❤❤
I always feel like an embarrassment and even heard from a teacher how cringe I can be. I know that too. Sometimes I’m quiet and so, sometimes loud. Thank you for helping me realize that you don’t have to be an embarrassment just because of other people. ❤
Sorry your teacher made that comment, super strange it probably stems from their insecurities
I get embarrassed easily, it's sad 😢❤
@@yguish thank you and i think so too now.
@@kookie_2178 It is. I hope it gets better! I usuly think now when I get embarrassed "someone else can be embarrassed for me instead so I dont have to" and then the feeling goes down.
Your teacher is cringe.
Normally I don't like to reply to videos because I think of what people will say or how they'll react but I'm stepping out of my comfort zone and doing this right now
You are doing great ❤
Yayyyy you got this ❤❤❤
Her voice is a booster its a burst of gratitude and positive
❤️
Yes❤❤
This is the most detailed video on self confidence I've come across and it's also the first time I actually took down notes from a video into a journal. Thank you for this 💖
I'm so glad!
i feel like you shouldn’t have to change yourself (like who you naturally are example; an introvert, i am one) you shouldn’t have to pretend to be extroverted if it’s not who you are. i think you can achieve confidence without conforming to societies standards. but that’s just me my self confidence/self love journey will not be faking my personality. being authentic to who you really are i think is better because it’s not exhausting it’s natural and effortless.
the way I’m seeing after searching on yt “how to be an extrovert” lmao
yeah idk if I lack confidence or if I genuinely just want to be left alone.
Messages
1)Dont care about anyone's opinion do what u want
2)emberresment is choice
3)self love (praize yourself)
4)get to know yourself better
5)realize it is okay to be different
I literally never comment, but all of your ideas are another level and I want to say how much I appreciate it. They're amazingly deep and hit a point. I came across some of them in therapy and also while studying psychology in uni. Might rewatch multiple because every word is valuable
Inner confidence is the hardest for me, having an exam and constantly thinking that you might do badly is horrible! This video helps a lot to remember and appreciate the small achievements of the past. 💜
You got this🤍
I took a moment at the end to channel my younger self and tell myself how proud I was of me. I didn’t realise how much I needed to hear that. Thank you for the reminder 🤍
went on a mediocre date today where i could tell the girl was becoming uninterested because i was putting myself down, getting too nervous, etc and looked up videos on confidence because i was just so sick of being like this. a lot of what you said is the same as the things i hear from my therapist but it still made me cry very hard hearing it laid out so plainly. i'll try to act on a lot of the things you mentioned. thank you for making this and i hope one day i can reach the same point you have because it's not worth living life like this
I used to be very shy and I had no confidence at all but I'm still growing and learning from your videos💗 I'm only 14 and everyday I'm trying to be better than I was yesterday and you really helping me thank you so much 💗
i love the way you're pushing us to love ourselves ❤
"It's better to be me, than to be liked by everyone"
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO. i wish i found your page earlier because every single one of your videos that i've watched so far has successfully motivated me. there are lots of content creators who really just provide you with tons of tips and stuff but i never felt the vibe match.
i've always been a cheerful and bubbly person but the last 3 years i was so reserved because of my surroundings (i had to live in a place with literally little to no one around). i think we are really similar as a person (you are obviously better in many ways since you have more experience and stuff).
some of your words really hit different and i think i'll remember those when i'm feeling like i'm being judged or insecure. the genuine tips (along with the real experiences) are priceless istg. all of this really helps !! 💞
You don't know how important this video is to me 😭thank you so much for your words and advice 💕 you made me understand that confidence is really something you built everyday and achieve progressively ! All you need is faith and constance to put yourself in "those scary situations" 👏
YOUR VIDEOS MAKE ME FEEL SO COMFORTABLE AND HAPPY OMGG
Yoo! This is making me happy to feel like I am walking on the right path because when people judge me for being too cringed or too sensitive to them shaming me, I was feeling like maybe I reacted sensitive was wrong, now after being here I feel authentic and I was standing up for myself, now I feel totally refresh🍃✨ I was about to lose my confidence 😂now just level up baby💛
I'm so glad that I found your channel... Listening to u is better than reading 10 self guide books.. Nd fr! I been suffering with seeking validation and listening to u has started bringing real changes in my life... I'm just so thankful to you.. It's been much better bcz of u❤️❤️
I'm young and I've just started to worry about self-love and confidence. It's been a major issue in my life but it's only now I'm serious and not half-assedly trying to be better. This video broadened my horizon. Good luck to me & my sis/bros out there 💕
i feel like i can see the authenticity through the screen!! you are slaying SO HARD and inspire me to be just as much of myself as you are of you.😄
Thank you so much!!
Your content is literal gold.✨
Your videos are literal gold TAM, I discovered your channel yesterday and I'm here to stay:) THANK YOU FOR BEING THE older sister we don't have
You don't have to be someone else just to fit in🥰I love the confidence that's radiating from this video, opens my eyes through a lot of things and idk why but I can't stop smiling while listening to you talk :)) ❤️
Thank you so much!!
“You’ll never see them again” that hit me because its so true.
You’re so anointed for this!! 🙌🏽Love your teachings, delivery, and energy! ❤
I’m so glad i came across your video. I sat through the whole thing without skipping or getting bored and i resonate with everything you said! maybe it’s cuz i also talk fast but i understood everything and i love ur energy lmao 😭 i needed this thank you!!
Omg loveeee thank you!!
If you were standing in front of me right I would have hugged you so hard🤗🤗 for telling me that I should love myself first and just don't care how others are think of me 💝
I LOVE that you talk fast I just LOVEEE it I always have to put it on 2x speed but finally somebody who speaks my speed 😍😩
Could you also do a how to spend ur lone time productively and healthy
Check out my solo date vlog on my channel! I talk about it there 💖
Before I was recommended your channel I was literally crying every day, judging myself , caring abt peoples opinions but when I found your channel , it was so helpful to me . Your tips are so realistic and seriously ◇I CANT THANK YOU ENOUGH◇ Sometimes at night and make sure to down load all of your videos and then I sit down to watch them. Your videos give me a sense that I am not alone and that I will be fine. I cant say I'm totally changed now but tnx to ur vids , i am constantly improving .Tysm dear. Keep up with the good work . I luv u sis 💜❤❤💜❤💖💖💖🥰🥰
Thank you for this video! A lot of the stuff you said has hit me hard and snapped me back to reality, especially when you said embarrassment is a choice. Btw I LOVE YOUR ENERGY 😂❤❤
hahah THANK U ☺️💕
oh my god thank you so much!! i really needed this because i’m most definitely sure i’m at my most indecisive and insecure point in life but this, this REALLY helped me. I was always depending of the approval of something or “oh i wish i could be her or i could never be her” but you really helped me discover to just embrace myself, be happy with who i am and what i’ve done. I LOVE YOU SO SO MUCH, ALSO YOURE BEAUTIFUL!! I LOVE YOUR STYLE!! it’s the style i always wanted to go for too but again, i was scared of what people what think of me. LOVE YOUU 💓💓💓
Love u!🥹
the way you express yourself is wonderful and your advices is precious and useful, thank you very much for the video and keep going
So nice of you 🥺❤️
Love the BOLD jewelry and the colors you wear they flatter you.
One of my new year’s resolutions was to improve my self-confidence. Immediately after I wrote that down, I started to doubt my ability to achieve that goal. I really appreciate you making this video ❤
The fact that i have been working on myself since maybe 11(??). And this last year i changed A LOT like rly a lot. Im happy and grateful ab that, not sad like b4 "oH i WeNt ThRoUgH sO mUcH" NO GORL STOP THAT MIND SET. And the fact that im like tam, The wizardliz and etc.(u can count many accounts that i follow, that mentally and even physically changed me).. Yea i glowed and growed up so muchh, but im not even 15 yet and this MATUREE. Anyways appreciate you and your effort Tam, love you❤😊
Love this video! Id love a video going into tip 7 - self love - how do you get to a place where you love yourself for who you are, and not external stuff like success or relationships? Thank you Tam for such great content ❤
I love your energy in these videos, you can really see how passionate you are and you KNOW your ish girl - maddd respect 💓
The being grateful for how far ive come,kicked me a few weeks ago. I had over 10k € debts, now i am down to 4K. I was talking about it with a person,and when i said i had yet to pay 4k-his response was-oh my god so much to pay,(the person that pushed me to be depressed for years,and i went crazy with buying things), i told him,what are you judging me, at least i am paying it back and am down to 4 from 10. thats a huge progress and im proud of me for coming this far.-his response is one of a 1000 reason's that i didnt feel safe as a woman with him.
Рада за тебя! удачи тебе ❤
Real self worth will come from working on yourself irl and not on social media. Some of the most active people on social media are usually the most insecure
Girl, you so wise for 22. I learnt so much here. Thank you for sharing your insights & your experiences. God bless you ! ❤
I have always struggled with confidence and self worth. This year I am dedicating the next two years into transforming into the best version of myself and I know it wont be pretty. I know that there will be ups and downs. The things that are worth it in life are usuals the things that challenge you. So to anyone who needs this: I am proud of you for making the decision to be a better person each day.💖
everything makes sense and i know some of this secretly but she’s putting it in words and saying it outloud and it’s amazing like why did i shed a tear
My problem with filming in public is I feel bad for the people around me because I realize that they probably don’t want to be in the background of a video that’s going to be put on the internet.. and people get upset when they realize they’re being filmed, that’s why I haven’t been able to film in public. Any ideas there? Cuz I’d love to just do it! It would add so much to my videos.
You could always learn to blur their faces
Hey there! I'm new on ur channel here and WOAH! You nailed it! I seriously LOVED the vid like, WOW! All the tips were AMAZING but that YOUNGER SELF tip got me SO SHOCKED. I was like, NO WAY! Bcz, I just implemented this tip myself like without any reference! I just told myself to try things this way & WOW! I saw this on ur UA-cam channel for the first time. Honestly loved it! Keep goin'!❤❤❤❤
Wow, this video really helped me think deeply about the things I'm dealing with. In the end I am the problem and not others. I can literally choose to be embarrassed or not and it's so mind blowing 😅 and I'm the only one who puts stones in the way of not being as confident as I want to be
you're the first youtuber whose motivational talk doesn't make me feel like shit, but actually makes me want to improve :"-) also i love listening to you, you have a really nice voice! 💗
I like how you said that real self love is loving yourself even when you’re not at your best like when you’re not going to the gym everyday. I struggle with that a lot. And I automatically thought that’s exactly how God loves us, he loves us when we’re at our best and he love us when we make mistakes. I am a Christian and I find your perspective aligns with a lot of biblical principles, and the way you live your life you can see the hand of God is on you and he keeps blessing you because you unknowingly understand some biblical principles. May God bless you!!
Love everything about this! Thank you for sharing your story and true authentic self 🙏🙌🥰
such a deep topic yet you made it so fun and light weight
I'm so happy more women are filming about being confident
Thanks for this confidence video Tam 💜 I’m a new subscriber 🙌🏻
Yay! Thank you!
girlie found her color. cant stop noticing your outfit + color choice. you glow girl ✨
I also feel like desensitizing cringe and embarrassment does good for you both you and other people as well bc now you can look at people doing stuff you'd judge usually as not that deep
I love how u can tell she takes time on her videos
Nice to reflect on how far we have come already and what we have done well :)
I love your videos. Could you post one on how to be self aware
thanku! I will do xx
@@tamkaur thank you
Honestly, Tam, you’ve got to be the only person making this type of content that actually tells you HOW to do these things. Other self-improvement creators are just like “you’re not confident? Oh, well, just try being more confident. Okay, byeeeeee” 😂
You speak really well 🥰✨although it's difficult for me to understand fast english but I was able to understand to you so well.. I was enjoying listening you.. When everyone around me making me feel worthless you lift me up and made me smile love you✨✨✨🦋🌻🖤🤗thanks a lot ❣️
Ahhhh that’s so nice 😭 thank you for ur support
This is beautifully done and a lot of things relatable 🥰
Only 30 seconds into this video but even just that beginning message was something I needed! For the last few years ive had such a clear vision of what kind of person i wanted to become and my 'ideal self' and that person was confident but after a few jears of working on myself...i still feel like im in the same place and sometimes it even feels like im going backwards. at times its felt like ill never achieve true, internal confidence and that people who have the confidence i dream of having are just naturally like that. so all that to say, I needed that beginning message 🥺 I hope in the next couple years I am closer to being as confident and self assured as I dream to be because I dont wanna spend the rest of my 20s being in my own head and unsure of myself lol!
omg that "everybody's cringe" line was so real 😂😂
Binging all your videos. Love your content! ❤️
You're the best!
As a trans man, I appreciate alot the comment of being authentically yourself no matter what, with flaws and all. I only truly started loving my body after coming to terms with my identity. Before then, i'd physically beat myself over not having a certain body type, with a lil splash of ED's, but the moment I came to terms with the fact that I could be transgender, my eating disorders stopped, I stopped hurting myself, I stopped crying myself to sleep, and I actually started losing weight and having that typical ideal body that I had convinced myself would be the only way I'd be lovable. In my experience, introspection and self-awareness is key in figuring out what you want, and oftentimes I wasn't allowed to have that in a household with a latina mother. I had to unlearn internalized fatphobia and racism, aswell as not being afraid with defying my mothers expectations of me. And even though my body is still traditionally feminine, I'm talking kim k curves and all, and although it fits a certain aesthetic of femininity which I feel disconnected to, I still accept it and give it as much love as it deserves until I can start my transition process. I think something people need to realize is that, as a trans person, I don't hate my body, my body is quite beautiful, and if I saw a girl with my body type I'd be absolutely in love. But it's just not ME, and me wanting to change into the ideal version of myself in my head is not self hate, I'm just accepting the positive, ideal change I see in myself, theres a difference between self-love and settling. The journey to self acceptance, regardless of who you are, is not an easy one, you'll run into alot of opps and people who don't have you in their best interest, but guess what, THEY DON'T OWE YOU their best interest, you just gotta stunt on them, and let go of expectations of all kinds. I like to think of it this way: Whatever you have to do, it HAS to be done. Personally, I think of everything I want to do like a must, I HAVE NO CHOICE but to be my best self. I don't see it as an aspiration, I see it as a requirement, with some wiggle room for self compassion and humanization of course. I just gotta, you know?
Loved this video🔥 keep them coming!!
Thanks girlll!! 🥰
this really helps. I just started my first year of 6th form. most of my friends have left the school and I have to do many things like eating, playing basketball, and just walking around campus by myself. I'm perfectly okay with doing all of this alone but my head quickly gets occupied with how other people my age at the school perceive me. really needed this.
You are the fastest talker I think I’ve ever heard!! Love the vid
Wow, thanks!
Hey sis, love your videos super motivational! Can you make a video regarding ambition/ Financial goals and motivation? Would love to see your take on this!
Hey thank you!! Ooo yes I will do 💓
broo im just binge awtching her she is amazing
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I completely agree in this , attaching self love with superficial opportunities, so did I and now feeling bad because last few days have not been embraced by teachers, friends have left me and now I am here HOW TO. BE CONFIDENT 😊
being authentic, even when it feels accidental, makes people feel seen. when i get to know myself i see others feel confident.
You talk quickly 😂
She does, but you can go to the settings and slow it down.
This is all so true and things I never hear anyone else say, it's not obvious things it's things I didn't even notice! Thanks allottt
The things tam is mentioning to owm she has all the things now 💞🤍🌷🪞 love her xoxo❤
That question how far I've come to myself... Literally felt like time has stopped and I'm not racing . I looked back how far I've came and it made me feel a lil bit satisfying that i actually trying and becoming that person i want and what i want to achieve in my life. Its not complete yet but i will.... I will not give up.
the intro was so well put with the real life scenes
Thank you, recently I started to feel afraid and insecure about my opinions and I feel my opinions aren’t valid anymore especially with internet toxicity and their judgments, it made my mental health state even worse . I don’t feel safe sharing my true self anymore .. idk what to do about it
About the proof portfolio part, I’m 17 and I’m really anxious about going alone to an appointment so I always go with my mom. But one day my mom could not go to the hairdresser with me and I spent a really good time even tho she wasn’t there. I stepped out of my comfort zone and I’m proud of it.
Im getting more and more confident everyday
I'm ACTUALLY able to be myself now and not awkward
Now I hate it when my friends compare themselves and say that they are ugly bc there are beautiful to me
I'm noticing negative things people say more and more and what they say is bad
So I ignore it and stay detached
omfg!! tam u look gorg in that outfit , i mean real divine🛐🛐
Man I love this girl so much, so glad i'm here
I genuinely realized there’s nobody judging me, and even if a small handful do judge me who are they to do so? Them judging me won’t take anything away from me or send me to the grave so they’re wasting their energy and in reality they’re judging parts of themselves. I realize I have no reason to be insecure because I get to be here as a HUMAN and all humans aren’t the same, we have quirks and I GET to have mine so why not spend time loving what makes me unique and not judging it. I still struggle sometimes but I’m working on it day by day
Just love your energy in this video, how enthusiastic you are when trying to give us the tips to become more confident. Luv yaaaa🥰
Yesss😚💕✨🫶🏽
OMG ! YOU ARE MY IT GIRL , YOU ARE MY IDOL , YOU ARE MY EVERYTHING ! IM A VERY BIG FAN :D BTW THANK YOU SM FOR MAKING ME MORE CONFIDENT AND MAKING ME LOVE MYSELF :) YOU ARE SO PRETTY ;)
you are my big sister, always there for us. You are perfect
Omg I’m actually obsessed with you and your channel! I love your personality! Keep doing you! ❤
Thank you so much for this video. But can you also talk about when we make mistakes and embarass ourselves infront of the people we always see in our daily life.
6:27 Absolutely that's actually true. I know that feeling. ☺️✨
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I love how brave you are, it’s true most likely you will never see judgy people again! And they won’t really care more than a second and carry on. Very inspiring video, 💕 🎉
I can't even describe how much i love this video and how much it's helping me ♥
This was amazing, thank you! I just wanted to point out that being shy and introverted doesn't mean someone's lacking confidence. :)
Thank you and yes true!
you’re so real, this advice is helpful
Oh my god girl! That’s literally the best video I’ve ever saw about this topic , so helpful! 🥹🥹🥹♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️