If I am being honest, people do judge you, but you judge yourself a lot more. People will laugh at you when you have an embarassing moment but will forget it in a moment whereas you might remember it forever.
@@windws7137 well I got a pixie haircut, it helped a lot to change my looks since my long hair was too big and heavy. Also it forced me to take better care of how my face looked, so I started a basic skincare routine and some facial yoga. I started drinking more water. That overall helped me like myself better and keep a better mood. I recommend practicing a hobby too, it helped me to feel better and I think that also increases your attractiveness
@@swanne.9 Thank you for the answer!♥️ I'm incorporating little by little skin care, but still sometimes get in into the rabbit hole of "it's over" pill, so it's important to hear what REAL people say
one thing that helps: DO BETTER. eat healthy. drink water. take vitamins. work out for health. go out. take a walk. sunbath. start fixing things internally and you will feel better and you will gain confidence from the inside. when you feel satisfied with yourself, it will be easier to be confident and go out, make new friends. it is NOT that easy esp when you have depression LMAOOOO (me) but starting this year, i really put effort because im just sick of being depressed for a long long long time and im just sick and done and i want to live life. AND IM LIVING LIFEEEE
@@erine6985 maybe not strangers (since i rarely go out lmao) but i feel more encouraged to start a conversation with my co-workers at the office, and i think that’s a good thing! because i used to be so closed off to the point im afraid to engage in conversations
1:29 external vs internal 2:52 The truth about affirmations 5:20 your proof portfolio 7:09 embarrassment is a choice 9:53 be authentic 15:22 confidence=real self love 17:27 meet your younger self
OMGGG!!!!!! As an insecure 15 year old who does ALL the things you mentioned in your "before", this is SO SO SOOOOOOOOO INSPIRING. With this one video u have literally revived my confidence and given me a new sense of self. I CANNOT THANK U ENOUGH. "When you think others are judging you, it's actually you judging yourself" and "embarrassment is just fear" hit me the most. I needed this video sooooooooooo much. I literally can't thank u enough for uploading this!! You have a new very passionate (and newly confident) subscriber!!!
As an 18 year old i would like to add that also if your confidence journey takes longer you dont have to pressure yourself or force it, when i was 14 i thought i was going to be different i will be mature and confident overnight and it will come to me now, but even tho some things are in your control some factors just come with age or with experience and time, dont rush or pressure yourself that youre not feeling extremely confident now, it will get better and will come
I used to be so incredibly shy and lacked self confidence and even though I’m still on this journey and consistently growing/learning, I’ve come so far. My younger self would be so incredibly proud. I wish the best for everyone’s self love/self confidence journey 💝
My jaw dropped when you said you are 22 years old omg wow, I’m 22 too. I love seeing a beautiful woman embracing her roots, herself, and with an abundant mindset. Currently I’m heavily working on myself and definitely took a lot from this video alone. I so resonated and it really put things in a different perspective. May I add that this is my first video of yours that I’ve watched!! Thank you so much, you’re going big places beauty✨🫶
but also instead of (just a mild suggestion:: may not be true in ALL cases) disconnectiong completely, try to voice ur authentic self infront of those people and even if they arent listening just voice up yourself and leave. whether they listen or not its on them.
Confidence: 1 - trust your own opinion 2 - build a portfolio of proof for yourself (choose things that I think will make me confident that are aligned with my goals) 3 - stop judging yourself (have a conversation with myself to be kinder)
usually I get an ick from videos about self confidence, but this video feels so different from other "self confidence influencers" videos. like, there's so much honesty, she speaks like she truly understands that it's so easy and so difficult at the same time to love yourself and be confident (bc she does!)
Normally I don't like to reply to videos because I think of what people will say or how they'll react but I'm stepping out of my comfort zone and doing this right now
16:14 I never thought of it this way, I’m very attached to academic validation and place all my worth on how I’m doing. Any time I get a bad grade I find myself not being able to make eye contact, not wanting to make conversation, having bad posture and overall hating my life. That comment was really enlightening, thank you
girl this is massively helpful... coming from a brown girl (irrelevant but got to put it out) currently in Ireland for bachelors.. managed to make few international friends... but still made an identity as a shy Indian girl... and its a massive pain when I have to get out of my comfort zone especially the presentations and speaking out. I definitely needed this video.. THANK YOU SO MUCH
I know it is hard when your ethnicity is completely different, specially in those northern European countries. But you need to change the approach and think about yourself as an exotic beauty ✨ you'll drive 'em crazy.
I used to feel so anxious whenever I had to go outside to get something I used to beg others to come along, now it's not even a second thought most of the times. I remember feeling so insecure with the way I looked or the clothes I wore that I couldn't bear to interact much with others. Seeing your video made me realise who far I have come. Thank you so much Tam. Love you ❤️
i think alot of us the problem isn't lack of confidence it's lack of humility. same difference but we have to just be aware of the duality. if we're too confident in one situation or dynamic, it leaves room for us to lack confidence in another and vice versa, of course. balance is the key. ⚖️
I’m proud of you girl. God will take those who appear to be the least qualified, and qualifies them! And when God qualifies he OVER qualifies! You’re living proof of that. Sending lots of love and encouragement❤️🥰
its crazy how when youre insecure you will believe in our own limitations so much you cant see past them and you assume you're right about what you can do and be I bumped into a teacher I had at school and I told her where I am now thinking she will be surprised how far I've come and what I ended up doing she wasn't she actually wasn't when people around you tell you what your limits are what u can and cant do just remember u have no clue how many people in your life you have met that actually believed in you there's no way you can know everyones thoughts on your ability use that too your advantage and understand that sometimes the people closest to you ( including yourself ) have the least idea of where you are going to end up and the amazing person your going to become also remember how many positive thoughts you've had about other people and their potential. I doubt youve told most of them my teacher knew and understood my ability more than I did. always do the inner work and try and analyse what you want and worry about how afterwards
I always feel like an embarrassment and even heard from a teacher how cringe I can be. I know that too. Sometimes I’m quiet and so, sometimes loud. Thank you for helping me realize that you don’t have to be an embarrassment just because of other people. ❤
@@kookie_2178 It is. I hope it gets better! I usuly think now when I get embarrassed "someone else can be embarrassed for me instead so I dont have to" and then the feeling goes down.
This spoke to my soul. I’ve been in a cycle of not being confident and hating myself for so long that I wasnt sure why I was this way or how to work on it. Thank you so much for making this video! I cant wait to try these things out.
14:00 TRUE! i like wearing big girly ribbons and bows and headbands in uni, and im in college already so like nobody wears stuff like that anymore. wearing cute hair accessories is my exposure therapy
This is the most detailed video on self confidence I've come across and it's also the first time I actually took down notes from a video into a journal. Thank you for this 💖
went on a mediocre date today where i could tell the girl was becoming uninterested because i was putting myself down, getting too nervous, etc and looked up videos on confidence because i was just so sick of being like this. a lot of what you said is the same as the things i hear from my therapist but it still made me cry very hard hearing it laid out so plainly. i'll try to act on a lot of the things you mentioned. thank you for making this and i hope one day i can reach the same point you have because it's not worth living life like this
I seriously cried so hard. I have been asking the universe for help because.my self love is zero lately and then your video popped in my page thank you so much 💕🥺✨
Messages 1)Dont care about anyone's opinion do what u want 2)emberresment is choice 3)self love (praize yourself) 4)get to know yourself better 5)realize it is okay to be different
i feel like you shouldn’t have to change yourself (like who you naturally are example; an introvert, i am one) you shouldn’t have to pretend to be extroverted if it’s not who you are. i think you can achieve confidence without conforming to societies standards. but that’s just me my self confidence/self love journey will not be faking my personality. being authentic to who you really are i think is better because it’s not exhausting it’s natural and effortless.
I literally never comment, but all of your ideas are another level and I want to say how much I appreciate it. They're amazingly deep and hit a point. I came across some of them in therapy and also while studying psychology in uni. Might rewatch multiple because every word is valuable
I freaking love your channel. I thought I reached a high level of confidence and unapologetic attitude which is true to some extent, but since a recent crush I realize that the people I actually want to connect with, I still really do feel some insecurity and need for validation that I thought I shook off! Your content is rlly helping. love u girly
If you were standing in front of me right I would have hugged you so hard🤗🤗 for telling me that I should love myself first and just don't care how others are think of me 💝
This is, hands down, the best advice I've seen on building self-confidence. Thank you for addressing my doubts on affirmations! And what you said about seeking reassurance hit hard because that's an area I struggle with.
Inner confidence is the hardest for me, having an exam and constantly thinking that you might do badly is horrible! This video helps a lot to remember and appreciate the small achievements of the past. 💜
I took a moment at the end to channel my younger self and tell myself how proud I was of me. I didn’t realise how much I needed to hear that. Thank you for the reminder 🤍
I used to be very shy and I had no confidence at all but I'm still growing and learning from your videos💗 I'm only 14 and everyday I'm trying to be better than I was yesterday and you really helping me thank you so much 💗
I totally agree with the points you made esp regarding exposure. For a long while I isolated from people which made me develop social anxiety. I was sick of the way I lived but I was also scared of failing or getting rejected when going to meet new people so I applied for a job that FORCED me to meet up with people every single day (worked in customer service) and I forced myself to talk to everybody at first it was so nerve racking and I hated it but after a while of doing it I became much more confident in my social skills and realized that I never actually had a problem in socializing I just gaslit myself into believing I did.
Honestly, Tam, you’ve got to be the only person making this type of content that actually tells you HOW to do these things. Other self-improvement creators are just like “you’re not confident? Oh, well, just try being more confident. Okay, byeeeeee” 😂
You don't know how important this video is to me 😭thank you so much for your words and advice 💕 you made me understand that confidence is really something you built everyday and achieve progressively ! All you need is faith and constance to put yourself in "those scary situations" 👏
Yoo! This is making me happy to feel like I am walking on the right path because when people judge me for being too cringed or too sensitive to them shaming me, I was feeling like maybe I reacted sensitive was wrong, now after being here I feel authentic and I was standing up for myself, now I feel totally refresh🍃✨ I was about to lose my confidence 😂now just level up baby💛
I'm young and I've just started to worry about self-love and confidence. It's been a major issue in my life but it's only now I'm serious and not half-assedly trying to be better. This video broadened my horizon. Good luck to me & my sis/bros out there 💕
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO. i wish i found your page earlier because every single one of your videos that i've watched so far has successfully motivated me. there are lots of content creators who really just provide you with tons of tips and stuff but i never felt the vibe match. i've always been a cheerful and bubbly person but the last 3 years i was so reserved because of my surroundings (i had to live in a place with literally little to no one around). i think we are really similar as a person (you are obviously better in many ways since you have more experience and stuff). some of your words really hit different and i think i'll remember those when i'm feeling like i'm being judged or insecure. the genuine tips (along with the real experiences) are priceless istg. all of this really helps !! 💞
Thank you God for sending me this wonderful angel into my life!! I found you randomly on my recommendations and You really helped me to become more confident and to be my best self Ily so much
You don't have to be someone else just to fit in🥰I love the confidence that's radiating from this video, opens my eyes through a lot of things and idk why but I can't stop smiling while listening to you talk :)) ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing these tips... It makes me feel so seen.....some of the points you made really caught me off guard like deriving my sense of confidence and self worth from external factors and hence never feeling enough... Made me realise the amount of self work need to be done... And kudos to you for transforming so much in a relatively short span of time👍
Watching this vid just made me realise that I'm already confident from the inside and stopped seeking validation and feeling embarassed and judging myself thanks to affirms and wizardliz!! Im proud for coming this far and I hope whoever is reading this achieves the goal too.
I’m so glad i came across your video. I sat through the whole thing without skipping or getting bored and i resonate with everything you said! maybe it’s cuz i also talk fast but i understood everything and i love ur energy lmao 😭 i needed this thank you!!
You really made me realize how much my self esteem is under the ground and that maybe this is the root of all my problems. Because if I will continue to hate myself, I won't go anywhere in my life. So, thank you so much💖💖💖💖
I'm so glad that I found your channel... Listening to u is better than reading 10 self guide books.. Nd fr! I been suffering with seeking validation and listening to u has started bringing real changes in my life... I'm just so thankful to you.. It's been much better bcz of u❤️❤️
I’ve been watching you more recently and when I tell you I have been growing more and more confident!! At first I would always have to make myself look small tried to make my posture more better and tried to hide my double chin but my confidence is literally kicking in making me jump out of my comfort zone wearing more clothes I was so scared to wear in school, and I even got a haircut to match my face and omg when I tell you I have felt so amazing and happy with our thinking “omg what if I look gross in that photo” but now it’s always “I’m sure I look good I always look good” and never care when I throw a shirt on that shows my stretch marks, or makes me look fat because I just pull things off no matter what! And when people look at me and judge me in public for wearing a shirt are just insecure there self when they gain the confidence I did they will be “damn why would I hate that girl?” But then again when she gets that confidence she would’ve probably forgot I would forget to that’s what I mean to that someone opinion really doesn’t matter at the end of the day because neither of you will remember the next day! I just want to say thank you I have built my confidence and have never felt this amazing! Thank you!
10:26 well in this era ppl don't feel embarrassed when they do things in public that they shouldn't be doing and always feel embarrassed for things that are actually not hurting anyone and are okay 🤧
One of my new year’s resolutions was to improve my self-confidence. Immediately after I wrote that down, I started to doubt my ability to achieve that goal. I really appreciate you making this video ❤
I like how you said that real self love is loving yourself even when you’re not at your best like when you’re not going to the gym everyday. I struggle with that a lot. And I automatically thought that’s exactly how God loves us, he loves us when we’re at our best and he love us when we make mistakes. I am a Christian and I find your perspective aligns with a lot of biblical principles, and the way you live your life you can see the hand of God is on you and he keeps blessing you because you unknowingly understand some biblical principles. May God bless you!!
Real self worth will come from working on yourself irl and not on social media. Some of the most active people on social media are usually the most insecure
Love this video! Id love a video going into tip 7 - self love - how do you get to a place where you love yourself for who you are, and not external stuff like success or relationships? Thank you Tam for such great content ❤
Thank you for this video! A lot of the stuff you said has hit me hard and snapped me back to reality, especially when you said embarrassment is a choice. Btw I LOVE YOUR ENERGY 😂❤❤
Thank you so much for this video. I struggle so bad with self love and confidence and your words have helped give me such a great perspective. Specially, doing this for my younger self. It makes so much more sense now❤
i have been looking for a youtuber/page that posted content like this!! ive been watching u on a loop for sometime now and i am only learning and growing confident which is insane! ive always faced problems with being myself and authentic but you addressing this is making soo much more sense now, thanks tam ily so much heheh
Hey there! I'm new on ur channel here and WOAH! You nailed it! I seriously LOVED the vid like, WOW! All the tips were AMAZING but that YOUNGER SELF tip got me SO SHOCKED. I was like, NO WAY! Bcz, I just implemented this tip myself like without any reference! I just told myself to try things this way & WOW! I saw this on ur UA-cam channel for the first time. Honestly loved it! Keep goin'!❤❤❤❤
Wow, this video really helped me think deeply about the things I'm dealing with. In the end I am the problem and not others. I can literally choose to be embarrassed or not and it's so mind blowing 😅 and I'm the only one who puts stones in the way of not being as confident as I want to be
The being grateful for how far ive come,kicked me a few weeks ago. I had over 10k € debts, now i am down to 4K. I was talking about it with a person,and when i said i had yet to pay 4k-his response was-oh my god so much to pay,(the person that pushed me to be depressed for years,and i went crazy with buying things), i told him,what are you judging me, at least i am paying it back and am down to 4 from 10. thats a huge progress and im proud of me for coming this far.-his response is one of a 1000 reason's that i didnt feel safe as a woman with him.
Gurl idk u but 0:47 and I'm smiling and my eyes a bit watery because I'm soo happy for you beca6I really feel your passion and happiness for building yourself up.❤️
girl, sweeety, i just watched your reconanded video from 3 years ago and the way you've grown 🤯 💥 🤯 💥 🤯 💥 🤯 💥 🤯 💥 💥 💥 💥 💥 💥 is the ultimate motivation! hats down! love your vibe, love your content, love your book and blessed be for all the help and impact you do! 💞
shes soo beautiful....i also wanna say that i had been going through something since a loooong time..then i found you and i simply cannot than you enough...alll you 'how to ' videos help me...literally all of them....thank you sooo much... ik im not old enough to be saying this to you(im 17) but..god bless u and thank u
Apologies for speaking so fast in this video! I got way too excited 🤣 I appreciate your feedback tho! Watch it in 0.75x speed if you need 💓
I came to the comments to say I usually speed up videos. I appreciate the pace lol.
Your pace speed gave me a good shock in the intro. Which helped me pay attention. 😆🤭🤭
What matters is you enjoy making the videos, and I understand you:)
This is the normal speed for me when I listening video and I also speak in this speed if the theme about my passion 😉😉.. so I understand baby
I did that immediately
It hit me hard when she said , " When you think others are judging you ,it's actually you judging yourself. "
yess i feel that too its actually me being too self aware while other people dont really care anyway
This really stuck with me. Going to try to remind myself of this
Yaaa 😞
If I am being honest, people do judge you, but you judge yourself a lot more. People will laugh at you when you have an embarassing moment but will forget it in a moment whereas you might remember it forever.
That's deep honestly. I actually felt it.
I had a glow up at 24, but still it is hard to be confident after feeling an outcast for so long. It definitely requires consistent effort.
Feel this to core
So true ...
Hey what have you done for the glow up if not a secret?
@@windws7137 well I got a pixie haircut, it helped a lot to change my looks since my long hair was too big and heavy. Also it forced me to take better care of how my face looked, so I started a basic skincare routine and some facial yoga. I started drinking more water. That overall helped me like myself better and keep a better mood. I recommend practicing a hobby too, it helped me to feel better and I think that also increases your attractiveness
@@swanne.9 Thank you for the answer!♥️
I'm incorporating little by little skin care, but still sometimes get in into the rabbit hole of "it's over" pill, so it's important to hear what REAL people say
one thing that helps: DO BETTER. eat healthy. drink water. take vitamins. work out for health. go out. take a walk. sunbath. start fixing things internally and you will feel better and you will gain confidence from the inside. when you feel satisfied with yourself, it will be easier to be confident and go out, make new friends.
it is NOT that easy esp when you have depression LMAOOOO (me) but starting this year, i really put effort because im just sick of being depressed for a long long long time and im just sick and done and i want to live life. AND IM LIVING LIFEEEE
GET ITTT! You got this 💯💯💯
You've got this ♡
👏👏👏👏👏 You're doing it!!! Same here 💗✨️
Since you’ve become more confident do you feel like more strangers come up to you?
@@erine6985 maybe not strangers (since i rarely go out lmao) but i feel more encouraged to start a conversation with my co-workers at the office, and i think that’s a good thing! because i used to be so closed off to the point im afraid to engage in conversations
When I speak those beautiful affirmations to myself I also say “I believe every word I just said to myself, amen.” It helps me sleep @ night 🤣💖
Love that!
🤣🤣🤣🤣 such a good idea, thx 🙏
This is profound. Lemme get to trying this omggg thanks for sharing 💓
Y’all are so welcome! ☺️☺️
This is so helpful because sometimes i say things and it seems so impossible that deep down i don't even believe it 😭
1:29 external vs internal
2:52 The truth about affirmations
5:20 your proof portfolio
7:09 embarrassment is a choice
9:53 be authentic
15:22 confidence=real self love
17:27 meet your younger self
Thank you :))))
17:27 meet your younger self :))
@@mintpink m lo
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thank you sm
I hope when you sleep, your pillow is cold both sides
OMGGG!!!!!! As an insecure 15 year old who does ALL the things you mentioned in your "before", this is SO SO SOOOOOOOOO INSPIRING. With this one video u have literally revived my confidence and given me a new sense of self. I CANNOT THANK U ENOUGH. "When you think others are judging you, it's actually you judging yourself" and "embarrassment is just fear" hit me the most. I needed this video sooooooooooo much. I literally can't thank u enough for uploading this!! You have a new very passionate (and newly confident) subscriber!!!
🥹❤️❤️❤️❤️
As an 18 year old i would like to add that also if your confidence journey takes longer you dont have to pressure yourself or force it, when i was 14 i thought i was going to be different i will be mature and confident overnight and it will come to me now, but even tho some things are in your control some factors just come with age or with experience and time, dont rush or pressure yourself that youre not feeling extremely confident now, it will get better and will come
I used to be so incredibly shy and lacked self confidence and even though I’m still on this journey and consistently growing/learning, I’ve come so far. My younger self would be so incredibly proud. I wish the best for everyone’s self love/self confidence journey 💝
This year I'm really focused on my glow up. Tired of not doing what I really want bc I feel insecure and put others' opinions first. Thank u beauty
You got this!
Good luck on ur journey babe! I hope to find that for myself as well someday
This is me this year as well!! Turning 20 this year and I'm so tired of being insecure because of my weight. Let's make 2023 our year
@@minfires7572 i hope you reach your goal ❤
My jaw dropped when you said you are 22 years old omg wow, I’m 22 too. I love seeing a beautiful woman embracing her roots, herself, and with an abundant mindset. Currently I’m heavily working on myself and definitely took a lot from this video alone. I so resonated and it really put things in a different perspective. May I add that this is my first video of yours that I’ve watched!! Thank you so much, you’re going big places beauty✨🫶
Thank you so much!!
disconnecting from unsupportive people (including family) helps with your confidence too
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Absolutely !!!
but also instead of (just a mild suggestion:: may not be true in ALL cases) disconnectiong completely, try to voice ur authentic self infront of those people and even if they arent listening just voice up yourself and leave. whether they listen or not its on them.
Confidence:
1 - trust your own opinion
2 - build a portfolio of proof for yourself (choose things that I think will make me confident that are aligned with my goals)
3 - stop judging yourself (have a conversation with myself to be kinder)
Aw the younger self one made me cry cause she was so cute and had such big dreams and now I'm pursuing them! My younger self is such a fan of me! ❤️
Yes!!!
usually I get an ick from videos about self confidence, but this video feels so different from other "self confidence influencers" videos. like, there's so much honesty, she speaks like she truly understands that it's so easy and so difficult at the same time to love yourself and be confident (bc she does!)
I appreciate that! Xxx
Normally I don't like to reply to videos because I think of what people will say or how they'll react but I'm stepping out of my comfort zone and doing this right now
You are doing great ❤
Yayyyy you got this ❤❤❤
16:14 I never thought of it this way, I’m very attached to academic validation and place all my worth on how I’m doing. Any time I get a bad grade I find myself not being able to make eye contact, not wanting to make conversation, having bad posture and overall hating my life. That comment was really enlightening, thank you
True, i too face this, and it's more now when I am in my coaching, because you can't keep having outstanding marks
Never have I related to something so much
girl this is massively helpful... coming from a brown girl (irrelevant but got to put it out) currently in Ireland for bachelors.. managed to make few international friends... but still made an identity as a shy Indian girl... and its a massive pain when I have to get out of my comfort zone especially the presentations and speaking out. I definitely needed this video.. THANK YOU SO MUCH
you got this ❤️✨
I know it is hard when your ethnicity is completely different, specially in those northern European countries. But you need to change the approach and think about yourself as an exotic beauty ✨ you'll drive 'em crazy.
I used to feel so anxious whenever I had to go outside to get something I used to beg others to come along, now it's not even a second thought most of the times. I remember feeling so insecure with the way I looked or the clothes I wore that I couldn't bear to interact much with others. Seeing your video made me realise who far I have come. Thank you so much Tam. Love you ❤️
i think alot of us the problem isn't lack of confidence it's lack of humility. same difference but we have to just be aware of the duality. if we're too confident in one situation or dynamic, it leaves room for us to lack confidence in another and vice versa, of course. balance is the key. ⚖️
I’m proud of you girl. God will take those who appear to be the least qualified, and qualifies them! And when God qualifies he OVER qualifies! You’re living proof of that. Sending lots of love and encouragement❤️🥰
What a beautiful way you phrased it
Made my day. I'm gonna write it down on a paper and paste it on the wall ❤❤❤
its crazy how when youre insecure you will believe in our own limitations so much you cant see past them and you assume you're right about what you can do and be
I bumped into a teacher I had at school and I told her where I am now thinking she will be surprised how far I've come and what I ended up doing
she wasn't she actually wasn't
when people around you tell you what your limits are what u can and cant do just remember u have no clue how many people in your life you have met that actually believed in you
there's no way you can know everyones thoughts on your ability
use that too your advantage and understand that sometimes the people closest to you ( including yourself ) have the least idea of where you are going to end up and the amazing person your going to become
also remember how many positive thoughts you've had about other people and their potential. I doubt youve told most of them
my teacher knew and understood my ability more than I did. always do the inner work and try and analyse what you want and worry about how afterwards
I always feel like an embarrassment and even heard from a teacher how cringe I can be. I know that too. Sometimes I’m quiet and so, sometimes loud. Thank you for helping me realize that you don’t have to be an embarrassment just because of other people. ❤
Sorry your teacher made that comment, super strange it probably stems from their insecurities
I get embarrassed easily, it's sad 😢❤
@@yguish thank you and i think so too now.
@@kookie_2178 It is. I hope it gets better! I usuly think now when I get embarrassed "someone else can be embarrassed for me instead so I dont have to" and then the feeling goes down.
Your teacher is cringe.
Her voice is a booster its a burst of gratitude and positive
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Yes❤❤
This spoke to my soul. I’ve been in a cycle of not being confident and hating myself for so long that I wasnt sure why I was this way or how to work on it. Thank you so much for making this video! I cant wait to try these things out.
You got this!❤️❤️
14:00 TRUE! i like wearing big girly ribbons and bows and headbands in uni, and im in college already so like nobody wears stuff like that anymore. wearing cute hair accessories is my exposure therapy
Love that for u
This is the most detailed video on self confidence I've come across and it's also the first time I actually took down notes from a video into a journal. Thank you for this 💖
I'm so glad!
went on a mediocre date today where i could tell the girl was becoming uninterested because i was putting myself down, getting too nervous, etc and looked up videos on confidence because i was just so sick of being like this. a lot of what you said is the same as the things i hear from my therapist but it still made me cry very hard hearing it laid out so plainly. i'll try to act on a lot of the things you mentioned. thank you for making this and i hope one day i can reach the same point you have because it's not worth living life like this
I seriously cried so hard. I have been asking the universe for help because.my self love is zero lately and then your video popped in my page thank you so much 💕🥺✨
You got this ✨💗
Messages
1)Dont care about anyone's opinion do what u want
2)emberresment is choice
3)self love (praize yourself)
4)get to know yourself better
5)realize it is okay to be different
i feel like you shouldn’t have to change yourself (like who you naturally are example; an introvert, i am one) you shouldn’t have to pretend to be extroverted if it’s not who you are. i think you can achieve confidence without conforming to societies standards. but that’s just me my self confidence/self love journey will not be faking my personality. being authentic to who you really are i think is better because it’s not exhausting it’s natural and effortless.
the way I’m seeing after searching on yt “how to be an extrovert” lmao
yeah idk if I lack confidence or if I genuinely just want to be left alone.
I literally never comment, but all of your ideas are another level and I want to say how much I appreciate it. They're amazingly deep and hit a point. I came across some of them in therapy and also while studying psychology in uni. Might rewatch multiple because every word is valuable
I freaking love your channel. I thought I reached a high level of confidence and unapologetic attitude which is true to some extent, but since a recent crush I realize that the people I actually want to connect with, I still really do feel some insecurity and need for validation that I thought I shook off! Your content is rlly helping. love u girly
i love the way you're pushing us to love ourselves ❤
If you were standing in front of me right I would have hugged you so hard🤗🤗 for telling me that I should love myself first and just don't care how others are think of me 💝
This is, hands down, the best advice I've seen on building self-confidence. Thank you for addressing my doubts on affirmations! And what you said about seeking reassurance hit hard because that's an area I struggle with.
Glad it was helpful! ❤️
Inner confidence is the hardest for me, having an exam and constantly thinking that you might do badly is horrible! This video helps a lot to remember and appreciate the small achievements of the past. 💜
You got this🤍
I took a moment at the end to channel my younger self and tell myself how proud I was of me. I didn’t realise how much I needed to hear that. Thank you for the reminder 🤍
"It's better to be me, than to be liked by everyone"
I used to be very shy and I had no confidence at all but I'm still growing and learning from your videos💗 I'm only 14 and everyday I'm trying to be better than I was yesterday and you really helping me thank you so much 💗
I totally agree with the points you made esp regarding exposure. For a long while I isolated from people which made me develop social anxiety. I was sick of the way I lived but I was also scared of failing or getting rejected when going to meet new people so I applied for a job that FORCED me to meet up with people every single day (worked in customer service) and I forced myself to talk to everybody at first it was so nerve racking and I hated it but after a while of doing it I became much more confident in my social skills and realized that I never actually had a problem in socializing I just gaslit myself into believing I did.
Honestly, Tam, you’ve got to be the only person making this type of content that actually tells you HOW to do these things. Other self-improvement creators are just like “you’re not confident? Oh, well, just try being more confident. Okay, byeeeeee” 😂
You don't know how important this video is to me 😭thank you so much for your words and advice 💕 you made me understand that confidence is really something you built everyday and achieve progressively ! All you need is faith and constance to put yourself in "those scary situations" 👏
girlie found her color. cant stop noticing your outfit + color choice. you glow girl ✨
Yoo! This is making me happy to feel like I am walking on the right path because when people judge me for being too cringed or too sensitive to them shaming me, I was feeling like maybe I reacted sensitive was wrong, now after being here I feel authentic and I was standing up for myself, now I feel totally refresh🍃✨ I was about to lose my confidence 😂now just level up baby💛
She changed my whole mindset
I'm young and I've just started to worry about self-love and confidence. It's been a major issue in my life but it's only now I'm serious and not half-assedly trying to be better. This video broadened my horizon. Good luck to me & my sis/bros out there 💕
Nice to reflect on how far we have come already and what we have done well :)
God you’re so right ! I literally get scared of getting out my comfort zone n don’t do what I need 😭 my social anxiety is baaaddd
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO. i wish i found your page earlier because every single one of your videos that i've watched so far has successfully motivated me. there are lots of content creators who really just provide you with tons of tips and stuff but i never felt the vibe match.
i've always been a cheerful and bubbly person but the last 3 years i was so reserved because of my surroundings (i had to live in a place with literally little to no one around). i think we are really similar as a person (you are obviously better in many ways since you have more experience and stuff).
some of your words really hit different and i think i'll remember those when i'm feeling like i'm being judged or insecure. the genuine tips (along with the real experiences) are priceless istg. all of this really helps !! 💞
Your content is literal gold.✨
“You’ll never see them again” that hit me because its so true.
Thank you God for sending me this wonderful angel into my life!! I found you randomly on my recommendations and You really helped me to become more confident and to be my best self Ily so much
The contrast between the two videos at the start was honestly shocking, what a journey
You don't have to be someone else just to fit in🥰I love the confidence that's radiating from this video, opens my eyes through a lot of things and idk why but I can't stop smiling while listening to you talk :)) ❤️
Thank you so much!!
Wow, this is actually such great advice. It really shows how much work you've done on yourself to be able to have these personal insights
I really love your energy! Sometimes you forget how far you've come in life and where you once were.. Thank you for reminding me! Great advice ♥
Slow down while you talk. Slowing down will make you more confident ❤️
You’re so anointed for this!! 🙌🏽Love your teachings, delivery, and energy! ❤
YOUR VIDEOS MAKE ME FEEL SO COMFORTABLE AND HAPPY OMGG
Thank you so much for sharing these tips... It makes me feel so seen.....some of the points you made really caught me off guard like deriving my sense of confidence and self worth from external factors and hence never feeling enough... Made me realise the amount of self work need to be done... And kudos to you for transforming so much in a relatively short span of time👍
Watching this vid just made me realise that I'm already confident from the inside and stopped seeking validation and feeling embarassed and judging myself thanks to affirms and wizardliz!! Im proud for coming this far and I hope whoever is reading this achieves the goal too.
I’m so glad i came across your video. I sat through the whole thing without skipping or getting bored and i resonate with everything you said! maybe it’s cuz i also talk fast but i understood everything and i love ur energy lmao 😭 i needed this thank you!!
Omg loveeee thank you!!
You really made me realize how much my self esteem is under the ground and that maybe this is the root of all my problems. Because if I will continue to hate myself, I won't go anywhere in my life.
So, thank you so much💖💖💖💖
very well said, you have an amazing way of articulating your thoughts and words. this video was so motivating. thank you
So kind. Thank you
What I've learnt so far in watching her videos is that you need to speak to yourself lovingly and positively in everything you do
I love how real and relatable this is, really helpful
I'm so glad that I found your channel... Listening to u is better than reading 10 self guide books.. Nd fr! I been suffering with seeking validation and listening to u has started bringing real changes in my life... I'm just so thankful to you.. It's been much better bcz of u❤️❤️
Could you also do a how to spend ur lone time productively and healthy
Check out my solo date vlog on my channel! I talk about it there 💖
I’ve been watching you more recently and when I tell you I have been growing more and more confident!! At first I would always have to make myself look small tried to make my posture more better and tried to hide my double chin but my confidence is literally kicking in making me jump out of my comfort zone wearing more clothes I was so scared to wear in school, and I even got a haircut to match my face and omg when I tell you I have felt so amazing and happy with our thinking “omg what if I look gross in that photo” but now it’s always “I’m sure I look good I always look good” and never care when I throw a shirt on that shows my stretch marks, or makes me look fat because I just pull things off no matter what! And when people look at me and judge me in public for wearing a shirt are just insecure there self when they gain the confidence I did they will be “damn why would I hate that girl?” But then again when she gets that confidence she would’ve probably forgot I would forget to that’s what I mean to that someone opinion really doesn’t matter at the end of the day because neither of you will remember the next day! I just want to say thank you I have built my confidence and have never felt this amazing! Thank you!
Wow that’s really kind did not expect it to be that long😭
10:26 well in this era ppl don't feel embarrassed when they do things in public that they shouldn't be doing and always feel embarrassed for things that are actually not hurting anyone and are okay 🤧
thats so true i used to think that i can just love myself when I'll get gold grades or get all things done but thanks tam for changing my mindset
One of my new year’s resolutions was to improve my self-confidence. Immediately after I wrote that down, I started to doubt my ability to achieve that goal. I really appreciate you making this video ❤
I like how you said that real self love is loving yourself even when you’re not at your best like when you’re not going to the gym everyday. I struggle with that a lot. And I automatically thought that’s exactly how God loves us, he loves us when we’re at our best and he love us when we make mistakes. I am a Christian and I find your perspective aligns with a lot of biblical principles, and the way you live your life you can see the hand of God is on you and he keeps blessing you because you unknowingly understand some biblical principles. May God bless you!!
I love your video, it has helped me to become more confident and loving myself. Keep up it!
I’m so glad. Thank you 💖
I want to be confident, and I often feel that way. But my anxiety and overthinking make it very hard.
Real self worth will come from working on yourself irl and not on social media. Some of the most active people on social media are usually the most insecure
Love the BOLD jewelry and the colors you wear they flatter you.
the way you express yourself is wonderful and your advices is precious and useful, thank you very much for the video and keep going
So nice of you 🥺❤️
Love this video! Id love a video going into tip 7 - self love - how do you get to a place where you love yourself for who you are, and not external stuff like success or relationships? Thank you Tam for such great content ❤
Thank you for this video! A lot of the stuff you said has hit me hard and snapped me back to reality, especially when you said embarrassment is a choice. Btw I LOVE YOUR ENERGY 😂❤❤
hahah THANK U ☺️💕
you are my big sister, always there for us. You are perfect
I relate to your journey SO SO MUCH!!! I'm also very proud of myself for how far I've come
I'm so happy more women are filming about being confident
Thank you so much for this video. I struggle so bad with self love and confidence and your words have helped give me such a great perspective. Specially, doing this for my younger self. It makes so much more sense now❤
get to know urself fully, journal, journey inwards, explore ur weaknesses, strengths and style,
i have been looking for a youtuber/page that posted content like this!! ive been watching u on a loop for sometime now and i am only learning and growing confident which is insane! ive always faced problems with being myself and authentic but you addressing this is making soo much more sense now, thanks tam ily so much heheh
aw I’m so glad!! thank you for being here 💛✨
i love her energy sm omg
Thank you for always providing us with best content Tam ❤
My pleasure!!
Hey there! I'm new on ur channel here and WOAH! You nailed it! I seriously LOVED the vid like, WOW! All the tips were AMAZING but that YOUNGER SELF tip got me SO SHOCKED. I was like, NO WAY! Bcz, I just implemented this tip myself like without any reference! I just told myself to try things this way & WOW! I saw this on ur UA-cam channel for the first time. Honestly loved it! Keep goin'!❤❤❤❤
Wow, this video really helped me think deeply about the things I'm dealing with. In the end I am the problem and not others. I can literally choose to be embarrassed or not and it's so mind blowing 😅 and I'm the only one who puts stones in the way of not being as confident as I want to be
love ur energy! thanks for sharing this
thank you 😊
The being grateful for how far ive come,kicked me a few weeks ago. I had over 10k € debts, now i am down to 4K. I was talking about it with a person,and when i said i had yet to pay 4k-his response was-oh my god so much to pay,(the person that pushed me to be depressed for years,and i went crazy with buying things), i told him,what are you judging me, at least i am paying it back and am down to 4 from 10. thats a huge progress and im proud of me for coming this far.-his response is one of a 1000 reason's that i didnt feel safe as a woman with him.
Рада за тебя! удачи тебе ❤
Love everything about this! Thank you for sharing your story and true authentic self 🙏🙌🥰
Everything she said was true......a real life experience speaking through her.
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Gurl idk u but 0:47 and I'm smiling and my eyes a bit watery because I'm soo happy for you beca6I really feel your passion and happiness for building yourself up.❤️
awww thanku girl😭❤️
This actually really helped me, especially the authenticity part, feeling different everyday drained me and hearing this was so helpful, thank you.
Watch it at 0.75x for better understanding 💌
girl, sweeety, i just watched your reconanded video from 3 years ago and the way you've grown 🤯 💥 🤯 💥 🤯 💥 🤯 💥 🤯 💥 💥 💥 💥 💥 💥 is the ultimate motivation! hats down! love your vibe, love your content, love your book and blessed be for all the help and impact you do! 💞
16:18 I think that self love is not doing what you always like to do, sometimes it's about taking necessary steps that are good for you.
shes soo beautiful....i also wanna say that i had been going through something since a loooong time..then i found you and i simply cannot than you enough...alll you 'how to ' videos help me...literally all of them....thank you sooo much... ik im not old enough to be saying this to you(im 17) but..god bless u and thank u
your video on getting over with toxic family perfectly matches with evtg thats going on with me .....its so helpful...thank you