“It’s not me vs her, it’s us vs the situation” I preach this ALL THE TIME to my friends!!!! Y’all are reading my mind lmao I was vigorously nodding my head hearing you say that. Relationships are a TEAM effort and should never be a competition of who’s gonna “win” over the other person! Resolving conflict should never leave one person feeling defeated, because if one person “loses” then you both lose
A resume of what they said: - Financially on the same Table - Have emotional Check up every Week - Get to know the Family - Choose to love not base on your feelings & emotions - comunication is important - In alignment with the heart desires ( when to have kids, where to live etc) - learn eachother " fighting styles" & continue to go on intentional Dates ( quality time) - Cherish every Moment, time goes very fast. Have slow moments and cherish them
@@kwazzik5453 awww you are more!!! Btw I told Jess and gabe in person when i met them in Los Angeles that i will release a song about their love story to inspire people to wait in God's timing. Its coming out next year!!! 🙈🥰 Who will support me?
I'm gonna go ahead and say it. I need a Jess and Gabriel podcast called, "Another Day, Another Pod." If it doesn't happen soon I'm gonna be sad! lol. Just kidding. But for real, if Jess and Gabriel see this comment I love these! Your podcast would be on my weekly podcast listens on my way to work!
I was thinking this. Maybe in the future they can wind down on the couple UA-cam channel and make a video podcast instead and they can still make content for their individual channels.
Now that I think about it. You guys got married realllllly young. Jess was 20 when she got married. And here I am 19 years old and studying for my majors. The idea of marriage doesn't even cross my mind, because I can barely just take care of myself 😅
Ikr. Back when I was in high school and watched them get married I was like that's so sweet I would do that if I met the right person, but here I am at 20 thinking I am in no way shape or form ready for that. I'm not saying it's bad that they got married young, but I do think it shows how incredibly mature they are and were. They're not that much older than us, but they've always been my mentors.
I’m 20, and never had a relationship before, but I’m learning so much from them, especially the part where they mentioned to never invalidate someone else’s feelings just because you disagree. I honestly think this applies in many ways, and friendship-wise, I can totally relate to this. Thank you so much, Jess and Gabe ♥️
i haven’t watched you guys in the longest time, but i’m so glad i clicked on this video. i’ve 100% missed you guys & im SO glad you still say “another day, another vlog”. i remember the video you guys started saying it!!
My husband and I got married just 6 days after you guys. One thing that really works for us is our ‘15 minutes’. Uninterrupted time with no distractions (phone, tv etc) to just talk every day for 15 minutes minimum. It can get hard sometimes with work and being busy to actually sit down and spend time only with your partner & it keeps us on the same page.
also major congrats on your 5 year anniversary!!! i literally remember watching your wedding video, how was that 5 years ago 🥲 forever thankful that i’ve known you guys for this time, you’re definitely my comfort people, thank you for these past 5 years 🤍
Jess out here making me cry again lol I’ve been with my husband since we were 16 and we will be married 3 years next year and together 9. And will be welcoming our first child into the world in June🥺 it’s like my dreams are coming true that I’ve had since I met him and it’s still so surreal to me 😭
My husband and I got married just a couple of months before y'all (10.08.16), so we just celebrated our 5 year as well (and we celebrated 10 years together in November)! I get so excited about landmarks like this because our happy and healthy marriage is something I'm so proud of. That being said, I feel I needed to hear Jess say, "Cherish every moment," because while 5 years ago feels like a different time, it also went by so quickly. I think that everyone needs to practice a little more of living in the now.
seeing Gabe wearing new earth makes me so excited for my own new earth order to arrive!! (i live in the Netherlands, so it takes a bit longer to arrive :))
I'm getting married in a month and a half, and so all this content about being married/newlyweds makes me really grateful. I've been watching you guys' videos for a few years now and I really really appreciate this.
Never in 5 years of me watching their videos regret watching their relationship grow and flourishing into what it is today. Love you guys and will always watch you guys till the day i die :)
This conversation is so pure and real. Many a time being in a relationship it's so hard to sit and have a heart-to-heart convo. because most of the time it's always lovey-dovey or just brushing away seems the most easy way escaping from argument. I love this couple . Am so happy to see this video . Thank you so much
I have been married for 4 years now and we married very young. This year we got a child, all praise to God. It hit me when Jess said “cherish the moments” couldnt help but tear a bit. You two are incredibaly nice and well spoken people. So happy to see a young couple being so intentional about their marriage and the points you touched upon show how much wisdom you both have in yourselves. May Lord bless you and keep you protected from all the evil.
I'm 21 and I got married September this year. It was also a long distance thing. It's still going very well. I love watching these videos that have helpful conversations.
Loved this, Jess and Gabe! I recently just went through a breakup. I was dating this guy for a year and 1/2. What caused our breakup was his lack of communication. I noticed things were getting a little weird between us. I asked him if we were okay and he would always answer with you're overthinking as usual. Obviously that wasn't the case. He waited until last minute to tell me what was bothering him. It got to the point where his frustration turned him into someone very mean and hurtful. Communication is so important. I feel like if he spoke to me more about what was bothering him, than we could've fixed those things together.
The honeymoon phase settles down but then the two people feel a deeper level of love and intimacy. It may not feel like electricity and sparks but it’s a very comforting feeling of knowing that you can fully trust and lean on each other
I remember seeing them when they first started I thought they were moving too fast but their vibe and energy with each other was so strong and I’m so happy to come here and see that you guys are still going strong ❤ I love it
Im literally still a teen but i learned so much from this video. Ill come back when i get engaged! You guys are so cute and understand each other so well, i hope my marriage ends up looking something like yours 💗
So glad you guys opened up about the conflict of where you want to end up. I moved to my fiancés country to be with him and because I had always wanted to live there, but since moving I've dealt with severe homesickness and culture shock - it's been 4 years and it's still so hard. I always wondered what Jess' experience was and if she struggled like I did, and it's also interesting to hear Gabe talk about how he felt guilty (same as my fiance). It feels like an impossible situation, but we've done the long distance so I know that the most important thing to me about where I'm living is that he's there.
Try and do some activities there - sign up for a dance class or art class or something. Get to know the country on your own, apart from your fiancé. Make some friends, create some relationships, and develop certain interests that are independent from your fiancé.
My student loan debt causes me so much anxiety when I think about getting married. But I do want to encourage people that just because you may have emotional "baggage", financial "baggage", or any other baggage, it does not make you any less worthy of being married!
Number one, don't forget the spiritual aspect of marriage, this being the most important will carry you through it all. Let Jesus guide you in all that you do.
So amazing to see you both thriving still. Gabriel you gave me an interest in vlogging and UA-cam back in 2013 and ever since then I’ve wondered if I could do it. Today, 8, nearly 9 years later I’m a 27 year old who just made a UA-cam channel! Thank you so much and keep up the great work! Much love, Tim.
I love that you all have values and faith but you don’t have to hit people over the head with it. This is just a real practical and transparent information. The examples give real solutions and what has worked for you. Instead of, we just prayed about it. Or, you’ll be lead.. no give us toools! Thank you so much.. so refreshing!
I got engaged & married at 21, I feel like that’s very young & many people get shocked when I tell tell them. But these topics are a must to discuss before making this decision. Fortunately my partner & I did talk about a lot of these & we’re still happily married & in love 1 & half years later :) so don’t be afraid to dive deep & have these conversations with your s/o
I’ve been watching for almost 4 years. Crazy that it’s almost 5 years since the wedding! Also, really appreciate you guys talking about these things and being a good example to everyone!
I look up to you guys so much and watching vids like this one really just makes me wanna sit down with you guys and just have a deep convo about life or something😭 you’re really my role models I love u guys so much I cant believe it’s been 5 years!!
First of all, congrats on 5 years!!! it's incredible :) I was wondering if you (especially Jess) could talk about the struggles of moving to the US, residency, being away from home and adjusting to life in the US. My boyfriend is from the US and I'm not, he's probably gonna have to go back next year and I wanna follow him but I would like some insight on how that went down for you and the issues you went through with visas and all that (marriage / fiancé etc)
This is so important. Thank you guys for talking about how real relationships work, and for reminding us that love is a choice that we make every single day. Being in a long term relationship demands lots of comittement and I appreciate you guys talking about such topics here ❤️ I started watching you in 2016 and I've seen you grow as a couple and it's beautiful to watch. Kisses from Europe 🤎
Even though my husband and I have over 10 years on you guys, I always appreciate hearing your advice on marriages. I find myself agreeing with it all and I hope it helps others along their journey of marriage. It is NOT easy, but the joy and reward that comes from persevering is beyond words!
My husband & I only had 45 people (including us) at our wedding! We wanted it intimate and small and it was PERFECT! We were just so excited to get married and only wanted those who were close to us there. We invited a couple friends from both sides, and the family that’s closest to us! Wouldn’t have changed the day for anything!!! Also to your point of communicating, YES. My husband and I when we first started dating, we wanted to always be honest and communicate. We talk about every single thing small or big and it truly helps! Definitely don’t let things build up. If you need time to think before talking, do it. But never go days without talking about something and then don’t bring it up again!!! Love you guys!!!!
You guys are a beacon with this grounding wisdom. And it hits home as someone navigating a long distance relationship with some important, big questions looming about next steps! Thank you guys for showing God's heart in how you lead with your platform!
these videos are so so so so SO helpful. you should do videos like this regularly, or even consider starting a podcast. you guys have so much knowledge on how to have a successful relationship. it’s so inspiring and it’s also very reassuring when you guys talk about issues that you’ve had to work through together. it just goes to show that no relationship is perfect and there’s nothing wrong with hitting a bump in the road that takes some time to work out.
i love that your channel has transitioned with your audience! i am 20 and in a long distance relationship and these videos are so hopefully and helpful!
I just found your channel and truthfully, I am loving it ! The fact that you guys are able to sit down and talk about this on camera and FREELY is great! Fact that you guys do have conversations and do listen to each other most of the time while being calm and composed about it is awesome! That's a SUB from me. Loved the content. Not everything needs to be scripted- learnt that from this video.
I think every video they do podcast like I say “this needs to be longer” I could listen to this all day long and topic like this can help so many people that are either in the road to marriage or are already married.
Hey J&G my dad is Canadian and my mom is German, I grew up in Canada for the first 7 years of my life and then we moved to Germany. We always traveled for 4 weeks in the summer time back to Canada to visit my dads family and it was the most special and fun time. Just fyi for the kids topic🥰 love you both
Jess, I am from Brazil and my husband from USA. I had the same struggles dealing like half of me is here in the US and the other half in Brazil. What I had to realize was that I had to kind like “cut the umbilical cord” from my family in order to 100% be committed and build my family here in America. I will always be half Brazilian half America but that significant thought helped me to follow God’s design for my family. I have been married for 20 years thank God and have learned a lot. Great video you 2 put together. God bless your family 🙏🏻❤️
My husband passed away coming up on 12 months ago. I miss him so bloody much 🥺 we had an amazing relationship and marriage. Your last tip on cherishing every moment is 👌
I just watched your surprising Jess (your 1st time in Australia) & the engagement video & surprising your friends, surprising your Mom for her birthday & the Wedding video just before you posted this, WILD!!!!! I watch them a lot, gives me the feels!! Love you guy's!
Q&A version!!!!! My husband and I got married last month and loved watching this since we’re still newlyweds! I cannot believe it’s already five years for you two though!
Honestly, I'm glad that you guys can share this kind of vídeo, I think that this is the right example for others of a healthy relationship. And ...WE NEED THE PODCAST PLEASE.
who else teared up when Jess did, because I sure did! this video was so adorable and such great advice not just for married couples, but i guess for any relationship! love you guys x
OMG, I’ve been following you since you were doing long distance and when Jess said “cherish every moment “ just hit me how much time has gone by and not even noticed, I just started crying 🥲 ly guys ❤️
Wow. I understand how Jess feels because I’m the same way. I miss home (Texas) but now I live in England. I didn’t understand how much I was going to miss my family and yet how much I love being with my husband. He feels guilty as well. We just bought a house here in England and I’ve been here for 2 years and it’s just starting to feel like home.
My husband and I have just celebrated our 5 year wedding anniversary a week ago! We had a similar start to our relationship as you guys; started dating July 2015, engaged July 2016 and married November 2016. We had an intimate (immediate family only) ceremony at the courthouse. I bought a cheap dress online, did my own makeup, my sister was my photographer, hair stylist, and cake maker, I handmade all of the decorations, we had a casual sit down dinner at a non-fancy restaurant after. I was 19 and he was 21. We now have 2 beautiful boys and wouldn’t have done anything differently ❤️💕
This was beautiful! These types of conversations are so important. This advice was perfect! Definitely very helpful. Coming from someone who is planning on getting married in the near future! ❤
Hey. So similar circumstances, married at 19, same year too of dating, just a few months past 5 years now and one thing I wish I knew or a tip is how is their behavior when they're upset or angry. And not just towards you but your family as well. Its okay to be upset and angry but it's never okay to disrespect or hurt the trust of others, there's a manner of how to handle things especially to those you're supposed to love
I love how raw and real this is. Jess you have me tearing up too, you are so sweet! You are so right though..you always feel good after a little crying moment, you gotta let that stuff go to make room for more positivityyyy. I love you guys so much. Hopefully I'm able to meet you guys one day or be a guest on one of these podcast type vids and we chill and drink coffee and I can cuddle Milo :') a girl can dream
the fact i literally clicked on the notification the second it came up on my screen while i was in the middle of my schoolwork lmao nothing tops a new jess&gabe plog :))
The financial one is SUCH a big one. Be open about that because you need to know where money is going. My husband got student loans for college… we pay close to $1,000 a month on just student loans not including our mortgage, car, bills, groceries, living lol. Be open. My husband told me right away I will have student debt, it will kick in a few months after I graduate and so on. That’s my big one. Be open about finances and also what you want from a marriage and life.. if you want kids that’s something you need to both want to make your marriage and relationship work.
I just got married a few months ago, and this is such a helpful topic. I’d be interested in another video for sure. We talked about a lot of things in pre-marriage counseling, but it’s so different in actual life practice than hypotheticals. It’s a beautiful refining process though I think
Sending so much love and respect to you guys ♡ May your married life prospers with so much love, health , happiness and success . I truly admire you two .
I'll keep this video for ever in my life! Thanks for being vulnerable and share your experiences here 💖 God bless your life and fill you guys with His love. You're an example!
“It’s not me vs her, it’s us vs the situation”
I preach this ALL THE TIME to my friends!!!! Y’all are reading my mind lmao I was vigorously nodding my head hearing you say that. Relationships are a TEAM effort and should never be a competition of who’s gonna “win” over the other person! Resolving conflict should never leave one person feeling defeated, because if one person “loses” then you both lose
Please pin this comment, can't i sub to this comment in any way? love this.
A resume of what they said:
- Financially on the same Table
- Have emotional Check up every Week
- Get to know the Family
- Choose to love not base on your feelings & emotions
- comunication is important
- In alignment with the heart desires ( when to have kids, where to live etc)
- learn eachother " fighting styles" & continue to go on intentional Dates ( quality time)
- Cherish every Moment, time goes very fast. Have slow moments and cherish them
You're so awesome
@@kwazzik5453 awww you are more!!! Btw I told Jess and gabe in person when i met them in Los Angeles that i will release a song about their love story to inspire people to wait in God's timing. Its coming out next year!!! 🙈🥰 Who will support me?
@@PatriStarlight I'll try my best to look out for it and listen when released😊👍 Wishing you all the best on your upcoming project.
We thank you! It's very useful!
beautiful, thank you! amazing video!
Jess cried because she was pregnant 🥺🥺 hormonal emotions!!! I remember watching this and we all had no idea
I’m so happy to see you guys branching into deep topics in this way. Learned lots from you gabe
hi yusuf🐧
oh hey it’s yusuf
I'm gonna go ahead and say it. I need a Jess and Gabriel podcast called, "Another Day, Another Pod." If it doesn't happen soon I'm gonna be sad! lol. Just kidding. But for real, if Jess and Gabriel see this comment I love these! Your podcast would be on my weekly podcast listens on my way to work!
I agree. Please do a podcast!
@Himadri Maru This is an unnecessary comment. If that's the case, then no podcast is original and no business is original either.
I was thinking this. Maybe in the future they can wind down on the couple UA-cam channel and make a video podcast instead and they can still make content for their individual channels.
Yes! A video podcast for those of us who aren’t auditory learners haha
omg this would be perfect
Now that I think about it. You guys got married realllllly young. Jess was 20 when she got married. And here I am 19 years old and studying for my majors. The idea of marriage doesn't even cross my mind, because I can barely just take care of myself 😅
I'm 19 too! I'm graduating from university next year, and I've never had a boyfriend!
@@oliviatownes8383 Same 😂😂😂 because I have never had a girlfriend!
Faaacts... but everybody timing is different yk. Just how I see it
Ikr. Back when I was in high school and watched them get married I was like that's so sweet I would do that if I met the right person, but here I am at 20 thinking I am in no way shape or form ready for that. I'm not saying it's bad that they got married young, but I do think it shows how incredibly mature they are and were. They're not that much older than us, but they've always been my mentors.
I’m 19 and just got married!! I turn 20 in February😅
I’m 20, and never had a relationship before, but I’m learning so much from them, especially the part where they mentioned to never invalidate someone else’s feelings just because you disagree. I honestly think this applies in many ways, and friendship-wise, I can totally relate to this. Thank you so much, Jess and Gabe ♥️
I'm wheezing. Jess is all emotional and crying about cherishing moments together and Gabe is like "yeah I love our moments with Jacko😍"
What time?
@@Emma-vr6qb 17:00
@Alessia 😡😡😡
Love what Jess said “don’t invest so much into the wedding and not into the marriage”
i haven’t watched you guys in the longest time, but i’m so glad i clicked on this video. i’ve 100% missed you guys & im SO glad you still say “another day, another vlog”. i remember the video you guys started saying it!!
Same here ! 🖐️👏
Sameee
Omg same
I love how their content is getting more mature as they’re growing in the relationship. I feel like I’ve been growing up with then too
*“It’s not you versus the other person, but it’s each other versus the situation.”* This hits hard, and is such a very wise thing to remember.
Watching this now after their pregnancy announcement and now it makes sense why Jess got so emotional 🤭
I'm thinking the same thing lol
My husband and I got married just 6 days after you guys. One thing that really works for us is our ‘15 minutes’. Uninterrupted time with no distractions (phone, tv etc) to just talk every day for 15 minutes minimum. It can get hard sometimes with work and being busy to actually sit down and spend time only with your partner & it keeps us on the same page.
Jess’s personality is just soo pure I love how soft spoken calm and kind she is she inspires me to become a better person every time I watch her🥺💕
So blessed
“actually, we are still going through it…”
*proceeds to talk about values with having children*
the baby announcement makes this make so much sense 😂💛
This talk felt so relatable and mature and honest I’m in my early 30s so found this sooooo helpful!
This is just brightening up my entire day, especially in the Podcast setup 😍
also major congrats on your 5 year anniversary!!! i literally remember watching your wedding video, how was that 5 years ago 🥲 forever thankful that i’ve known you guys for this time, you’re definitely my comfort people, thank you for these past 5 years 🤍
me too🥲
I love how you guys show the real and raw side of a relationship! Love you Jess and Gabe 🥺❤️
Jess out here making me cry again lol I’ve been with my husband since we were 16 and we will be married 3 years next year and together 9. And will be welcoming our first child into the world in June🥺 it’s like my dreams are coming true that I’ve had since I met him and it’s still so surreal to me 😭
i’m happy for you! 💓
I like the scene that Gabe moved Jess’s cup he’s literally gentle and I can see how he loves her💜💜💜💜
My husband and I got married just a couple of months before y'all (10.08.16), so we just celebrated our 5 year as well (and we celebrated 10 years together in November)! I get so excited about landmarks like this because our happy and healthy marriage is something I'm so proud of. That being said, I feel I needed to hear Jess say, "Cherish every moment," because while 5 years ago feels like a different time, it also went by so quickly. I think that everyone needs to practice a little more of living in the now.
seeing Gabe wearing new earth makes me so excited for my own new earth order to arrive!! (i live in the Netherlands, so it takes a bit longer to arrive :))
Hoi mede Nederlander ☺️
Hee nederlanderrss :))
Belgje hier 😆
I loved this. It showed that even the couple’s most suited for each other still go through real life together and was very raw and honest.
Please start a whole podcast. 😭 My heart and soul is ready for this.
I'm getting married in a month and a half, and so all this content about being married/newlyweds makes me really grateful. I've been watching you guys' videos for a few years now and I really really appreciate this.
Never in 5 years of me watching their videos regret watching their relationship grow and flourishing into what it is today. Love you guys and will always watch you guys till the day i die :)
Podcast please🥺 Literally just listening to this while I did chores.
Watching this now it’s so crazy knowing she was pregnant at that time and that’s why she was so emotional
This conversation is so pure and real. Many a time being in a relationship it's so hard to sit and have a heart-to-heart convo. because most of the time it's always lovey-dovey or just brushing away seems the most easy way escaping from argument. I love this couple . Am so happy to see this video . Thank you so much
Too many people focus on the wedding arrangements than the wedding itself, my wedding was small and financially helped us a lot!
I have been married for 4 years now and we married very young. This year we got a child, all praise to God. It hit me when Jess said “cherish the moments” couldnt help but tear a bit. You two are incredibaly nice and well spoken people. So happy to see a young couple being so intentional about their marriage and the points you touched upon show how much wisdom you both have in yourselves. May Lord bless you and keep you protected from all the evil.
This is so real & emotion, you guys are so down to earth! 💖🙌🏻
I'm 21 and I got married September this year. It was also a long distance thing. It's still going very well.
I love watching these videos that have helpful conversations.
Loved this, Jess and Gabe! I recently just went through a breakup. I was dating this guy for a year and 1/2. What caused our breakup was his lack of communication. I noticed things were getting a little weird between us. I asked him if we were okay and he would always answer with you're overthinking as usual. Obviously that wasn't the case. He waited until last minute to tell me what was bothering him. It got to the point where his frustration turned him into someone very mean and hurtful. Communication is so important. I feel like if he spoke to me more about what was bothering him, than we could've fixed those things together.
It sounds like not only was this about communication but like he acted, maybe unintentionally, toxic towards you and you don't deserve that :)
@@natascha8028 Thank you so much, lovely!
The honeymoon phase settles down but then the two people feel a deeper level of love and intimacy. It may not feel like electricity and sparks but it’s a very comforting feeling of knowing that you can fully trust and lean on each other
I remember seeing them when they first started I thought they were moving too fast but their vibe and energy with each other was so strong and I’m so happy to come here and see that you guys are still going strong ❤ I love it
Im literally still a teen but i learned so much from this video. Ill come back when i get engaged! You guys are so cute and understand each other so well, i hope my marriage ends up looking something like yours 💗
So glad you guys opened up about the conflict of where you want to end up. I moved to my fiancés country to be with him and because I had always wanted to live there, but since moving I've dealt with severe homesickness and culture shock - it's been 4 years and it's still so hard. I always wondered what Jess' experience was and if she struggled like I did, and it's also interesting to hear Gabe talk about how he felt guilty (same as my fiance). It feels like an impossible situation, but we've done the long distance so I know that the most important thing to me about where I'm living is that he's there.
Try and do some activities there - sign up for a dance class or art class or something. Get to know the country on your own, apart from your fiancé. Make some friends, create some relationships, and develop certain interests that are independent from your fiancé.
My student loan debt causes me so much anxiety when I think about getting married. But I do want to encourage people that just because you may have emotional "baggage", financial "baggage", or any other baggage, it does not make you any less worthy of being married!
True and I don’t think that’s what they meant. I think it was kinda make sure the person ur marrying is aware of it so it doesn’t cause problems.
Number one, don't forget the spiritual aspect of marriage, this being the most important will carry you through it all. Let Jesus guide you in all that you do.
So amazing to see you both thriving still. Gabriel you gave me an interest in vlogging and UA-cam back in 2013 and ever since then I’ve wondered if I could do it. Today, 8, nearly 9 years later I’m a 27 year old who just made a UA-cam channel! Thank you so much and keep up the great work!
Much love,
Tim.
I love that you all have values and faith but you don’t have to hit people over the head with it. This is just a real practical and transparent information. The examples give real solutions and what has worked for you. Instead of, we just prayed about it. Or, you’ll be lead.. no give us toools! Thank you so much.. so refreshing!
I got engaged & married at 21, I feel like that’s very young & many people get shocked when I tell tell them. But these topics are a must to discuss before making this decision. Fortunately my partner & I did talk about a lot of these & we’re still happily married & in love 1 & half years later :) so don’t be afraid to dive deep & have these conversations with your s/o
One doesn’t experience self-transcendence, the illusion of self only dissipates .🎈
Saw someone else comment this: we need a podcast called “Another Day, Another Pod” PLEASSSEEEEE
I’ve been watching for almost 4 years. Crazy that it’s almost 5 years since the wedding! Also, really appreciate you guys talking about these things and being a good example to everyone!
I look up to you guys so much and watching vids like this one really just makes me wanna sit down with you guys and just have a deep convo about life or something😭 you’re really my role models I love u guys so much I cant believe it’s been 5 years!!
First of all, congrats on 5 years!!! it's incredible :) I was wondering if you (especially Jess) could talk about the struggles of moving to the US, residency, being away from home and adjusting to life in the US. My boyfriend is from the US and I'm not, he's probably gonna have to go back next year and I wanna follow him but I would like some insight on how that went down for you and the issues you went through with visas and all that (marriage / fiancé etc)
This is so important. Thank you guys for talking about how real relationships work, and for reminding us that love is a choice that we make every single day. Being in a long term relationship demands lots of comittement and I appreciate you guys talking about such topics here ❤️ I started watching you in 2016 and I've seen you grow as a couple and it's beautiful to watch. Kisses from Europe 🤎
Even though my husband and I have over 10 years on you guys, I always appreciate hearing your advice on marriages. I find myself agreeing with it all and I hope it helps others along their journey of marriage. It is NOT easy, but the joy and reward that comes from persevering is beyond words!
My husband & I only had 45 people (including us) at our wedding! We wanted it intimate and small and it was PERFECT! We were just so excited to get married and only wanted those who were close to us there. We invited a couple friends from both sides, and the family that’s closest to us! Wouldn’t have changed the day for anything!!! Also to your point of communicating, YES. My husband and I when we first started dating, we wanted to always be honest and communicate. We talk about every single thing small or big and it truly helps! Definitely don’t let things build up. If you need time to think before talking, do it. But never go days without talking about something and then don’t bring it up again!!! Love you guys!!!!
I got married at 19 and watching your videos helps me so much❤️
You guys are a beacon with this grounding wisdom. And it hits home as someone navigating a long distance relationship with some important, big questions looming about next steps! Thank you guys for showing God's heart in how you lead with your platform!
these videos are so so so so SO helpful. you should do videos like this regularly, or even consider starting a podcast. you guys have so much knowledge on how to have a successful relationship. it’s so inspiring and it’s also very reassuring when you guys talk about issues that you’ve had to work through together. it just goes to show that no relationship is perfect and there’s nothing wrong with hitting a bump in the road that takes some time to work out.
i love that your channel has transitioned with your audience! i am 20 and in a long distance relationship and these videos are so hopefully and helpful!
Very wise. And what's already on my desk : a light box with 'cherish every moment' on it.
I really enjoy all their wisdom and advice you give us! Love how genuine and sincere you are, love you! ❤️😊
I just found your channel and truthfully, I am loving it ! The fact that you guys are able to sit down and talk about this on camera and FREELY is great! Fact that you guys do have conversations and do listen to each other most of the time while being calm and composed about it is awesome! That's a SUB from me. Loved the content. Not everything needs to be scripted- learnt that from this video.
I think every video they do podcast like I say “this needs to be longer” I could listen to this all day long and topic like this can help so many people that are either in the road to marriage or are already married.
Hey J&G my dad is Canadian and my mom is German, I grew up in Canada for the first 7 years of my life and then we moved to Germany. We always traveled for 4 weeks in the summer time back to Canada to visit my dads family and it was the most special and fun time. Just fyi for the kids topic🥰 love you both
Who else loves long Jess and Gabe videos??
Jess, I am from Brazil and my husband from USA. I had the same struggles dealing like half of me is here in the US and the other half in Brazil. What I had to realize was that I had to kind like “cut the umbilical cord” from my family in order to 100% be committed and build my family here in America. I will always be half Brazilian half America but that significant thought helped me to follow God’s design for my family. I have been married for 20 years thank God and have learned a lot. Great video you 2 put together. God bless your family 🙏🏻❤️
jess: literally crying about how fast their time went by
gabriel: yeah i miss the times with jacko
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The fact that they’ve been married for 5 years and I remember when they first started dating 😭
and when you said you felt attacked or guilty by her sadness/feelings - I understand that a lot too. such good advice!
I love the sound affect every time they hit hands 😂
Can't forget Jacko :""")
My husband passed away coming up on 12 months ago. I miss him so bloody much 🥺 we had an amazing relationship and marriage. Your last tip on cherishing every moment is 👌
My deepest condolences , may he rest peace
I’m so sorry for your loss, I’m sending you so much love rn ❤️
I just watched your surprising Jess (your 1st time in Australia) & the engagement video & surprising your friends, surprising your Mom for her birthday & the Wedding video just before you posted this, WILD!!!!! I watch them a lot, gives me the feels!! Love you guy's!
"Oh my gosh, I forgot how good we sound. I honestly forgot how sexy we sound." - Gabriel Conte
LOL
Each other versus the situation is now my official new favorite way of looking at conflict
Q&A version!!!!! My husband and I got married last month and loved watching this since we’re still newlyweds! I cannot believe it’s already five years for you two though!
Honestly, I'm glad that you guys can share this kind of vídeo, I think that this is the right example for others of a healthy relationship. And ...WE NEED THE PODCAST PLEASE.
the working together hit home… thank you for opening my eyes to that! 🥺
My fiancé and I listened to this together. We learned so much. Thank you!
who else teared up when Jess did, because I sure did! this video was so adorable and such great advice not just for married couples, but i guess for any relationship! love you guys x
Honestly, You guys need to have a podcast on Spotify or smth. This was so helpful!!!
“Im not okay “
Yeah same x
More videos like these please! I’m a newlywed and obviously there is no handbook for marriage and hearing great advice such a this really helps! ❤️
"Its about the marriage, not the wedding day" - jess
I seriously love you guys!! You are the perfect example of what a healthy relationship looks like
OMG, I’ve been following you since you were doing long distance and when Jess said “cherish every moment “ just hit me how much time has gone by and not even noticed, I just started crying 🥲 ly guys ❤️
Wow. I understand how Jess feels because I’m the same way. I miss home (Texas) but now I live in England. I didn’t understand how much I was going to miss my family and yet how much I love being with my husband. He feels guilty as well. We just bought a house here in England and I’ve been here for 2 years and it’s just starting to feel like home.
My husband and I have just celebrated our 5 year wedding anniversary a week ago! We had a similar start to our relationship as you guys; started dating July 2015, engaged July 2016 and married November 2016. We had an intimate (immediate family only) ceremony at the courthouse. I bought a cheap dress online, did my own makeup, my sister was my photographer, hair stylist, and cake maker, I handmade all of the decorations, we had a casual sit down dinner at a non-fancy restaurant after. I was 19 and he was 21. We now have 2 beautiful boys and wouldn’t have done anything differently ❤️💕
This was beautiful! These types of conversations are so important. This advice was perfect! Definitely very helpful. Coming from someone who is planning on getting married in the near future! ❤
Hey. So similar circumstances, married at 19, same year too of dating, just a few months past 5 years now and one thing I wish I knew or a tip is how is their behavior when they're upset or angry. And not just towards you but your family as well. Its okay to be upset and angry but it's never okay to disrespect or hurt the trust of others, there's a manner of how to handle things especially to those you're supposed to love
I love how raw and real this is. Jess you have me tearing up too, you are so sweet! You are so right though..you always feel good after a little crying moment, you gotta let that stuff go to make room for more positivityyyy. I love you guys so much. Hopefully I'm able to meet you guys one day or be a guest on one of these podcast type vids and we chill and drink coffee and I can cuddle Milo :') a girl can dream
Can you guys do a video for your 5 year anniversary in which you're reading your wedding vows to each other 🥺🥺 also I love you guys so freakin much
the fact i literally clicked on the notification the second it came up on my screen while i was in the middle of my schoolwork lmao nothing tops a new jess&gabe plog :))
The financial one is SUCH a big one. Be open about that because you need to know where money is going. My husband got student loans for college… we pay close to $1,000 a month on just student loans not including our mortgage, car, bills, groceries, living lol. Be open. My husband told me right away I will have student debt, it will kick in a few months after I graduate and so on. That’s my big one. Be open about finances and also what you want from a marriage and life.. if you want kids that’s something you need to both want to make your marriage and relationship work.
I wish to see both of them in disney movies as prince and princess. They are too good for this role
5:04 - Jess said "here" in such an American accent!!!!! Omgggg haha I hope your aussie accent never goes away Jess!!
I love hearing stories from adult relationships
aaa i love this not-so-podcast thing you guys did!! ❤️❤️
I just got married a few months ago, and this is such a helpful topic. I’d be interested in another video for sure. We talked about a lot of things in pre-marriage counseling, but it’s so different in actual life practice than hypotheticals. It’s a beautiful refining process though I think
AAAHHH THIS WAS BEAUTIFUL 🥺❤️❤️
Sending so much love and respect to you guys ♡ May your married life prospers with so much love, health , happiness and success . I truly admire you two .
I'll keep this video for ever in my life! Thanks for being vulnerable and share your experiences here 💖 God bless your life and fill you guys with His love. You're an example!