What I Wish I Knew Before Marriage || Stephanie Ike

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  • @user1111-x1i
    @user1111-x1i Рік тому +385

    You don't find a partner in church, you find a partner in Christ. ❤

  • @motivated2010
    @motivated2010 Рік тому +93

    30 plus years of marriage and still learning-God is faithful..

  • @simphiwemanana9127
    @simphiwemanana9127 Рік тому +228

    "You don't know your brokenness until you're in an environment that brings it up".. ❤❤

  • @andrearonaldo11
    @andrearonaldo11 Рік тому +191

    “He’s healed wounds I didn’t even know existed.”
    That.Line.Right.There!!😭❤️

    • @marethabilemakepe6008
      @marethabilemakepe6008 Рік тому +5

      Wooow it helped me so much when she talks about being patient with other people because our journey is different thank you❤

  • @lima_28
    @lima_28 Рік тому +66

    "Everyone is on a journey. Be patient with them "

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Рік тому +36

    You don’t even know what’s broken until you are in an environment that brings it out. That’s good.

  • @lynwilson9259
    @lynwilson9259 Рік тому +138

    "Some arguments you don't have face to face, you have them on your knees".

  • @M.A.Wahome
    @M.A.Wahome 4 місяці тому +29

    She's so beautiful and then you hear her speak and it gets even better😂 woman of God you inspire me so much.

  • @peacefaith9441
    @peacefaith9441 Рік тому +40

    That part. Marry a man that is saved and at least that one challenge that you don’t have to disagree about.

  • @Snackonpoint
    @Snackonpoint 6 місяців тому +25

    "If you are the only image of God I see, do I wanna know Him" ... Deep

  • @bonitabooker4440
    @bonitabooker4440 Рік тому +447

    What about the scripture that says we should not be unevenly yoked with unbelievers? I don’t think it’s wise to go into a marriage if you both aren’t Christians. However like the example Stephanie gave, if we have unsaved friends - both male and female, we can encourage them to come to know Jesus as Savior and Lord by the way we interact with them in love and patience, and especially praying for them. Marriage has enough challenges on its own. Don’t make it extra hard by going into it if one of you is saved and the other is not. What does the Word say? Lastly, if you find yourself in that situation once you are married, continue to pray for your unsaved spouse and walking in love, believing that they will get saved - especially if the unsaved spouse wants to stay married.

    • @m.h6858
      @m.h6858 Рік тому +1

      It is GOD that yokes people together, not religion. He knows the TRUE nature of a person's heart, not man.
      Take Queen Ester, for example, God NEEDED her in that position to save HIS people. King Ahasuerus wasn't a Jew/Hebrew, Ester was even told to hide her identity from everyone.
      So we can't box the Lord up, HE knows the plans He has for us, plans to prosper us, and not to harm us. He knew these plans BEFORE we were formed in our mother's womb. And it is HIS plans that will prevail. We simply must go to Him for our role and TRUST that our Father, our Creator, knows what is best for us🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @Lola-anointed
      @Lola-anointed Рік тому +45

      I love this. The dangers of being married to an unbeliever are too high, because the unsaved spouse needs to show willingness. My parents are married for more than 40 years. My dad hasn't changed and he is not interested in getting saved. He says he believes in cultural customs. He even knows that as his kids, we don't wish to have a marriage like theirs. He is so hard- headed.

    • @spirituallylovingme-11
      @spirituallylovingme-11 Рік тому +5

      💯 right

    • @praise3700
      @praise3700 Рік тому +20

      We need conversations like this from women submitted to God and their husbands!!!!!! I love this

    • @deesharii4893
      @deesharii4893 Рік тому +33

      I can’t even imagine how anyone who is truly saved can go into a marriage with an unbeliever! I think the elephant in the room are those individuals who claim to live and walk by faith but are actually walking in deception. People claim God said but it was really “I want…”.
      True faith does not covenant with the *unlikeness of God.

  • @nazfav2757
    @nazfav2757 4 місяці тому +11

    Submission is beautiful when you're married to the right person 😊

  • @nadinedominique414
    @nadinedominique414 8 місяців тому +18

    Stephanie is so wise! I can listen to her speak all day. I also love how I can connect with the way she thinks and explains everything. What a blessing!

  • @peacefaith9441
    @peacefaith9441 Рік тому +29

    Every marriage has challenges even if married to a preacher or saved man. Pray pray pray. Marriage can be fun when you too are true friends.

    • @ianmcdonald8648
      @ianmcdonald8648 8 місяців тому +2

      Friendship is a critical foundation for any Godly marriage. But that doesn't mean that you have to spend years trying to be a friend. It can happen naturally over a short time.

  • @aliciagreen2206
    @aliciagreen2206 7 місяців тому +19

    Wow! "If you were the only image of God I see, would I want to know Him?" Such a POWERFUL statement!

  • @sikemitayo
    @sikemitayo Рік тому +31

    Our job is to reflect God, not judge anyone. 📌

  • @MissFayeCBL
    @MissFayeCBL Рік тому +18

    This stood out to me, "Creating the right environment for her to thrive" - this is man's responsibility.

  • @efuaa2828
    @efuaa2828 Рік тому +145

    Learnt a lot here today… currently in a study group where young single women are being taught to be whole before they are attached to their husbands

    • @krissmith9952
      @krissmith9952 Рік тому +6

      Hallelujah ~ we are in new time, we need to be whole & love ourselves . Not be pressured into unhealthy relationships, not just marriage💚

    • @marianiwomugulizi3115
      @marianiwomugulizi3115 Рік тому +6

      Perfectly said we need to discover our selves more before inviting the other person in.... especially discovering our Worth and letting God to be the foundation of everything we do

    • @bridgetsapabil5606
      @bridgetsapabil5606 Рік тому +1

      I can I joined the group and how do I join please

    • @chukwumachikamnesokamsy6136
      @chukwumachikamnesokamsy6136 8 місяців тому

      Please, how can I join the group

    • @AmbalaPauline
      @AmbalaPauline 7 місяців тому

      Please how can i join the group

  • @emekaazubuike8432
    @emekaazubuike8432 11 місяців тому +7

    I don't know how i stumbled on this. I must confess that this was such a wholesome, sound, healthy, spiritual and amazing content. Thank you for making it look so easy.😊😊

  • @BiboaraYinkere
    @BiboaraYinkere Рік тому +4

    It is a problem if a woman is under the authority of a 'King' (husband) who lacks maturity. I agree with you. The process of finding out who you are and who you're committing to is important.

  • @ashleyelabo1714
    @ashleyelabo1714 Рік тому +9

    I thinks thats easier said and done when you and your spouse love each other and you both are committed to God.

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Рік тому +30

    That’s such a great answer: it’s not your job to lead anyone to Christ. Your job is to reflect your authentic relationship with God.

    • @ianmcdonald8648
      @ianmcdonald8648 8 місяців тому +1

      you can only lead someone in the good sense if they want to be lead.

    • @ibless7349
      @ibless7349 3 місяці тому

      @terry Amen well said

    • @Maryann4president
      @Maryann4president 3 місяці тому

      @@ianmcdonald8648JPK

  • @rashonmcnair978
    @rashonmcnair978 Рік тому +60

    Stephanie is so dope!! I absolutely love her. True woman and servant of God. Great interview!!❤🎉

  • @mufunwapatience4972
    @mufunwapatience4972 Рік тому +51

    When she says man and wife is " an office in God" 💞

    • @Ad-Lo
      @Ad-Lo Рік тому

      Except that the statement isn’t Biblical.

    • @walkingministries5803
      @walkingministries5803 11 місяців тому

      @@Ad-Lobut how is it Not? We have a duty to speak the gospel to build the kingdom. Is it not? That in its self is a responsibility we are held to

    • @azpersonal
      @azpersonal 9 місяців тому

      @@Ad-Loget the meaning of what she was trying to pass across

  • @TheTierraJ
    @TheTierraJ Рік тому +29

    Thank you ladies for this beautiful, enlightening conversation ❤ whew this is powerful!!!

  • @elshadiebirratu6003
    @elshadiebirratu6003 Рік тому +9

    Oh! Wow! This message is for me. I received it and will be patient to see the transition because I know that whatever I have been and am still praying for, will come in God’s time, which is the right time. Thank you both for this conversation. I have been trying to reach Paster Stephanie, but maybe one day, God will, we will cross our path when the time is right. God is Good! 🙏

  • @tomekiabonds5465
    @tomekiabonds5465 2 місяці тому +3

    Sometimes the season of singleness can be so overwhelming especially when you look around and see everyone boo up but as I reflected on Adam he was alone for a season before God gave him Eve and said its not good for man to be alone so its important be learn to cherish the single season

  • @IbelongtoJesus311
    @IbelongtoJesus311 5 днів тому

    “It’s organic when both people are surrendered to God” Wow!!!

  • @zoniqueoriginals
    @zoniqueoriginals Рік тому +31

    Finally I hear someone be real about what we've learned since being married.I really needed this! Thank you

  • @thando_tlng
    @thando_tlng Рік тому +33

    Pastor Ike is so beautiful ❤

  • @BiboaraYinkere
    @BiboaraYinkere Рік тому +4

    'Authenic to yourself' I love this ❤️

  • @tumelofaith5909
    @tumelofaith5909 Рік тому +13

    I love this, i was laughing through out because i can relate so much, i can't get angry at my husband all day like i cry for two minutes and next moment am happy.

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Рік тому +5

    What!!! Stephanie Ike got married and I missed it. Where have I been

  • @sparklelouison2668
    @sparklelouison2668 Рік тому +36

    Really love Pastor Stephanie, she is such a Lady.

  • @marianiwomugulizi3115
    @marianiwomugulizi3115 Рік тому +4

    Am blessed to hear The powerful message l pray that all beautiful ladies out there gets the message, glory and honor to God who Never goes against his promises, indeed Patience Pays...l have Learnt that we should always know that we're not the Head of our lives But God in our relationships, Heavenly father l surrender all to you for U have better plans for us which are always perfect, Thanks My role model, The Great minister of God Pr Stephanie like long live to talk of the goodness of God for this generation and generations to come we really need U Amen Amen 🙏 thanks to you all who Never give up on trusting God even in hard situations

  • @niceyenuf1
    @niceyenuf1 Рік тому +6

    Great video! Learned lots. I found the interviewer's voice to be low though. Stephanie's was fine

  • @olabisidurojaiye
    @olabisidurojaiye 10 місяців тому +1

    I luv you Stephanie. You really hit the nail on the head

  • @LawrenceOji-o5k
    @LawrenceOji-o5k 3 місяці тому +1

    I only knew about her last night and I wish I knew her earlier. She is very wise. I really admire her loads

  • @carolbagonza4295
    @carolbagonza4295 Рік тому +4

    wow thank you so much, this so encouraging given the fact that tomorrow is my anniversary, we are making 3 years. thank you for shining more light on submission. i love it. Indeed Love is Patient

  • @Saddafk
    @Saddafk 8 місяців тому +3

    God bless everyone listening to this ❤

  • @wendyjali1170
    @wendyjali1170 Рік тому +20

    Such godly and eye opening conversation...learned a lot frm it n so comforted bcs lm not perfect n lm learning tht everyone has issues n we cn just work through them with the Lord's help that's always available...thanks Kingdom ladies 💝🤍💜

  • @abeyruth2598
    @abeyruth2598 Рік тому +4

    Wow so so powerful. I’ll be patient and reflect Christ in everything I do and say. Thank you Jesus 🙌🏾♥️

  • @sharriettefinley467
    @sharriettefinley467 Рік тому +20

    Marriage is two 80%s coming together, in Christ Jesus, to grow in wholeness and holiness together. Reminds me of something that Love McPherson said about interdependence. Thank you young sisters for this blessed conversation. 🦋❤️

  • @lolafmcinga6684
    @lolafmcinga6684 Рік тому +6

    As God prepares him for me and me for him❤❤🎉🎉😊😊

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Рік тому +1

    Love that answer: exposure is valuable

  • @effortlesslynj
    @effortlesslynj Рік тому +7

    Seen Stephanie and had to click! Love hearing from a wise woman! ( before listening to the podcast). Will definitely drop a comment after :).

  • @GraceAdeniyiOlamijulo
    @GraceAdeniyiOlamijulo Рік тому +15

    Yeah...😂 I'm also the processor😂😂😂...and my husband wants to talk about it all right away!😂😂😂😂

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Рік тому +3

    WOW!!!! This is an awesome interview.

  • @faithjoseph9615
    @faithjoseph9615 Рік тому +4

    Wow! 👏👏👏Such an enlightening podcast. Thank You Stephanie! Definitely learnt a couple of things as regards marriage and having an impact as a genuine Christian on people around you living a life reflective of the Gospel of Jesus.

  • @LaRennEstherTV1985
    @LaRennEstherTV1985 Рік тому +5

    I love Pastor Stephanie ! I listen to her all the time!❤

  • @janekogi6442
    @janekogi6442 Рік тому +2

    Also emotionally we are vulnerable,we love 100percent snd men know this,and instead of embracing they sbuse it

  • @judithannorbah6444
    @judithannorbah6444 Рік тому +16

    We are supposed to both lead people to Christ and reflect Christ to them. Its contradictory to say in one breath to be careful who you are married to so you are submitting to a fool, then also downplay the person's walk with Christ. One who is not submitted to Christ will make foolish decisions. No daughter of Zion will be at peace submitting to that type of leader. We need to stick with the word and not mix in worldly idealogies.

    • @junosegabriel3432
      @junosegabriel3432 Рік тому

      Li you 😊

    • @Gerealistic
      @Gerealistic Рік тому

      I agree💯

    • @Ad-Lo
      @Ad-Lo Рік тому +9

      It isn’t contradictory because shes addressing two different groups of women: she saying if you are saved, don’t marry someone who is unsaved. However, some people only become saved after they are already married. In that case, the saved person shouldn’t missionary date, but the Christian who gets saved later shouldn’t manipulate. It’s consistent with the Apostle Paul’s teachings.

    • @daisiesandpandas1218
      @daisiesandpandas1218 Рік тому +3

      Even a saved person has times of making foolish decisions. Submission doesn't mean going with everything you've husband says without thinking. It's submitting to a mission, anything that's being done for the good and betterment of your union

    • @olubusolaawolaja6831
      @olubusolaawolaja6831 Рік тому +3

      The other partner may even be a Christian and they are lukewarm, making foolish decisions. The genuine Christian partner will still be led by foolishness. Marry purpose, marry someone whom you both can fufill God’s purpose together.

  • @jehannedufresne3998
    @jehannedufresne3998 Рік тому +78

    The question is: if you are a woman dating someone who claims to be a Christian but is not, what to do? Hmmm... the answer in this Clip for me was not clear enough.
    I prefer what a commenter said in here: do not be unequally yoked. Let's keep it plain and simple. We, single women of God, have no business dating a man who has no relationship with God.

    • @chosen1316
      @chosen1316 Рік тому +3

      I agree. I didn't know about being unequally yoked until it was said straight from the bible. It's dangerous being unequally yoked as a believer. This should have been clearly stated as you shared. Encouraging video nonetheless.

    • @DSN430
      @DSN430 Рік тому +2

      I think they're discussing it in the context of marriage. Some people become Christians after marriage and they are the ones who ask questions like that.

    • @kannshane9353
      @kannshane9353 8 місяців тому +2

      I humbly offer 1 Cor. 7:12-16 and 1 Peter 3: 1-7
      not to encourage being unequally yoked but there is guidance if you are

    • @OrganicallyYahs
      @OrganicallyYahs 6 місяців тому +1

      Absolutely correct. It’s very dangerous. I could see where there would be some exceptions to this but in most cases, don’t go chasing waterfalls

    • @temiambrose6350
      @temiambrose6350 4 місяці тому

      The question was specifically about people dating not married​ @@DSN430

  • @coco38628
    @coco38628 12 днів тому

    Dear Michelle ❤
    you are where it all started for me. I learnt so much from you..from before you were even a Mrs❤
    GOD bless your beautiful soul ♡

    • @drdafshow
      @drdafshow  11 днів тому +1

      God bless you sis. Thank you for sharing that. God is so good!!

  • @Mvpsavannah
    @Mvpsavannah Рік тому +10

    This video was amazing I sent it to all of my friends

  • @fredajohnson506
    @fredajohnson506 3 місяці тому +1

    These two beautiful women's of God you definitely see God glory on them

  • @peacefaith9441
    @peacefaith9441 Рік тому +3

    That was nice she was able to see someone like Sarah value her home. That touched me. That gives me something to work on since I never seen that.

  • @josephmuganzi5220
    @josephmuganzi5220 12 днів тому

    Lovely interview.....My God...Indeed you two ladies are vessels of God 😇. Blessings & Love from Uganda 🇺🇬🙏🏾

  • @cedarsable1014
    @cedarsable1014 Рік тому +7

    Oh my God, she really dropped wisdom ❤❤

  • @fredajohnson506
    @fredajohnson506 3 місяці тому

    I really enjoyed this interview with pastor Stephanie she's such good teacher of the word i lije break message down even 10 understand it use bible scriptures back it up not own words

  • @cuprunnethover2509
    @cuprunnethover2509 3 місяці тому +1

    I enjoyedy single season too! I traveled and did the things that I wanted to do! I think society puts too much emphasis on being married. What is the point in getting married then 10 years down the road you realized that you married the wrong person!

  • @janekogi6442
    @janekogi6442 Рік тому +3

    My take on oneness is marriage,is a. Teaching on how God yarns for intimacy from us one day back 2017,the Holy Spirit asked me why we make Him,so lonely,God needs a close relationship with us

  • @stepheessel6667
    @stepheessel6667 Рік тому +6

    This was refreshing to listen and watch. I learnt a lot❤

  • @cassandrakwakye5941
    @cassandrakwakye5941 Рік тому +6

    This video blessed my morning ! I admire you both ! God bless ❤

  • @gracegraphics-gp3cv
    @gracegraphics-gp3cv Рік тому +2

    Thank you so much for this episode its so refreshing i learned alot from both of you.

  • @SuccessMfon
    @SuccessMfon 3 місяці тому

    There's beauty in submission.
    Thanks so much Ma for these. I have learnt a lot from this video.
    God bless you Ma ❣️

  • @A__vee
    @A__vee Рік тому +1

    Learnt a lot. God bless you both❤️

  • @adebankebello
    @adebankebello Рік тому +4

    So many profound insights to pick from this. Thank you so much ❤️❤️

  • @aliciasheffield-rw9em
    @aliciasheffield-rw9em Рік тому +7

    So good! It’s the posture of your heart for me! AMEN

  • @adrienejefferson8447
    @adrienejefferson8447 4 місяці тому

    There are those who chose to stay through falls and as sin approaches marriages. You don't know if by you the spouse the other will be saved. That's a different walk and leading.

  • @cherylt.7327
    @cherylt.7327 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for sharing such wonderful wisdom.

  • @lissettegilbert9214
    @lissettegilbert9214 5 місяців тому

    Loved them both , I have learned so much from
    These ladies 💕💕💕💕

  • @abenaachie
    @abenaachie Рік тому +2

    This blessed me. Help me daily Holy Spirit ❤🙏🏾

  • @ruthjanet3222
    @ruthjanet3222 Рік тому +2

    Thank you so much for this amazing content.
    Powerful 🔥

  • @SammyFavoured
    @SammyFavoured 7 місяців тому

    This was awesome I learned alot love pastor Stephanie

  • @Wendie_hiltonb
    @Wendie_hiltonb Рік тому +2

    Thanks for this! 💕

  • @SheilaMackey-v8t
    @SheilaMackey-v8t 18 днів тому

    Respect and honor is key

  • @allthingsunathi
    @allthingsunathi 4 місяці тому

    The ending though👌Convicting and encouraging 😩.

  • @Mrshangryvegans
    @Mrshangryvegans 6 місяців тому

    Best podcast ever! Thank you so much God & ladies !!💗💗💗

  • @florencejohnson6788
    @florencejohnson6788 Рік тому +1

    If you were the only IMAGE OF GOD I'll see, would I ever want to know him? This is my take-home nugget of wisdom . God bless you both 🙏 ❤️ 🙌. You are my Kingdom sisters, and I love ❤️ you both.

  • @kgomotsopetlele7990
    @kgomotsopetlele7990 Рік тому +1

    Wow❤ Thabk you for this💎

  • @KatarinaPervan
    @KatarinaPervan 7 місяців тому +1

    Please pray for me Katarina, thanks, God bless you ...who is my kingdom husband ?

  • @CieraLevelsUp777
    @CieraLevelsUp777 8 місяців тому +1

    Great Interview!

  • @Blue77Blue
    @Blue77Blue Рік тому +1

    I LIKE THE HOST GOOD TO SEE STEPHANIE

  • @mihlalimirandambasane8340
    @mihlalimirandambasane8340 3 місяці тому

    Oh wow what a session♥️🥺🙌🔥💯

  • @vickiehughes9697
    @vickiehughes9697 Рік тому +1

    I enjoyed the interview, and both of you ladies were Awesome!!!
    Pastor Stephanie you are an Amazing woman of God!
    My family, friends and I love listening to you and Pastor Sarah Continued Blessings to you and your church family! We can’t wait to see you at the conference!

  • @Pomaa25
    @Pomaa25 Рік тому +2

    Just what I needed to hear!!

  • @Lenanohmy
    @Lenanohmy Рік тому +2

    This was so good 🩷

  • @rickblackgirlmindset
    @rickblackgirlmindset Рік тому +6

    This was so helpful and definitely needed. I am holding onto these tools these two Godlt women and daughtes imparted to us. Thank you both 💓

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Рік тому +1

    Great Question: if you are the only image of God I see, would I want to know Him

  • @nettas5437
    @nettas5437 Рік тому +2

    I needed this 🙏🏾

  • @nicoleboyce
    @nicoleboyce Рік тому +2

    Truth!! 🤍🙏😇🪽

  • @purityhelah2639
    @purityhelah2639 5 місяців тому

    Am amazed how we miss our a lot of time with God after Marriage its limted

  • @faithphasha2300
    @faithphasha2300 8 місяців тому

    I admire Stephen Ike so much

  • @seratongbaroba3871
    @seratongbaroba3871 Рік тому +1

    Good sermon. 🎉

  • @thomasclarrett1918
    @thomasclarrett1918 Рік тому +1

    JUST FLESH ...IN THE LAST DAYS MAN WILL BE LOVERS OF THEMSELF

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Рік тому

    Know the foundation you stand upon. That’s good.

  • @victoriousqueen1995
    @victoriousqueen1995 Рік тому +2

    Very impactful sis 💖

  • @janelle9410
    @janelle9410 Рік тому +3

    Love this!!!

  • @vickiehughes9697
    @vickiehughes9697 Рік тому

    I strongly agree, Do Not marry un equally yoke!
    It is written! Being in a marriage,submitting,being an example,praying for that spouse’s salvation can be
    long,lonesome,horrible walk!!! I wouldn't want anyone to go through! The marriage ended in a Divorce,Ihonored God and my marriage,God honored and blessed me(my children honored and respected me to the utmost) and so does their father.
    That was 16years ago,a person has to want something for them self,Not to say it won’t ever happen!Our God is Able! I am a true respecter of his timing!
    I am so Grateful to Our Lord,for him rescueing me!
    Ladies/Men date and collect your data!!!
    For you that are already in it,God is in the mist of everything,let him guide you,his will shall be done
    make sure you stay in your walk cause we are held accountable as individuals!! He’s an Awesome God!!!
    Live,Learn,Forgive,Love, and Share!