What I Wish I Knew Before Marriage || Stephanie Ike

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  • @MercyKerris
    @MercyKerris 7 місяців тому +225

    You don't find a partner in church, you find a partner in Christ. ❤

  • @motivated2010
    @motivated2010 6 місяців тому +39

    30 plus years of marriage and still learning-God is faithful..

  • @andrearonaldo11
    @andrearonaldo11 7 місяців тому +136

    “He’s healed wounds I didn’t even know existed.”
    That.Line.Right.There!!😭❤️

    • @marethabilemakepe6008
      @marethabilemakepe6008 6 місяців тому +3

      Wooow it helped me so much when she talks about being patient with other people because our journey is different thank you❤

  • @lynwilson9259
    @lynwilson9259 8 місяців тому +82

    "Some arguments you don't have face to face, you have them on your knees".

  • @simphiwemanana9127
    @simphiwemanana9127 7 місяців тому +149

    "You don't know your brokenness until you're in an environment that brings it up".. ❤❤

  • @lima_28
    @lima_28 7 місяців тому +38

    "Everyone is on a journey. Be patient with them "

  • @bonitabooker4440
    @bonitabooker4440 8 місяців тому +358

    What about the scripture that says we should not be unevenly yoked with unbelievers? I don’t think it’s wise to go into a marriage if you both aren’t Christians. However like the example Stephanie gave, if we have unsaved friends - both male and female, we can encourage them to come to know Jesus as Savior and Lord by the way we interact with them in love and patience, and especially praying for them. Marriage has enough challenges on its own. Don’t make it extra hard by going into it if one of you is saved and the other is not. What does the Word say? Lastly, if you find yourself in that situation once you are married, continue to pray for your unsaved spouse and walking in love, believing that they will get saved - especially if the unsaved spouse wants to stay married.

    • @m.h6858
      @m.h6858 8 місяців тому

      It is GOD that yokes people together, not religion. He knows the TRUE nature of a person's heart, not man.
      Take Queen Ester, for example, God NEEDED her in that position to save HIS people. King Ahasuerus wasn't a Jew/Hebrew, Ester was even told to hide her identity from everyone.
      So we can't box the Lord up, HE knows the plans He has for us, plans to prosper us, and not to harm us. He knew these plans BEFORE we were formed in our mother's womb. And it is HIS plans that will prevail. We simply must go to Him for our role and TRUST that our Father, our Creator, knows what is best for us🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @Lola-anointed
      @Lola-anointed 8 місяців тому +31

      I love this. The dangers of being married to an unbeliever are too high, because the unsaved spouse needs to show willingness. My parents are married for more than 40 years. My dad hasn't changed and he is not interested in getting saved. He says he believes in cultural customs. He even knows that as his kids, we don't wish to have a marriage like theirs. He is so hard- headed.

    • @spirituallylovingme-11
      @spirituallylovingme-11 8 місяців тому +4

      💯 right

    • @praise3700
      @praise3700 8 місяців тому +13

      We need conversations like this from women submitted to God and their husbands!!!!!! I love this

    • @deesharii4893
      @deesharii4893 8 місяців тому +20

      I can’t even imagine how anyone who is truly saved can go into a marriage with an unbeliever! I think the elephant in the room are those individuals who claim to live and walk by faith but are actually walking in deception. People claim God said but it was really “I want…”.
      True faith does not covenant with the *unlikeness of God.

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle 5 місяців тому +19

    You don’t even know what’s broken until you are in an environment that brings it out. That’s good.

  • @aliciagreen2206
    @aliciagreen2206 Місяць тому +4

    Wow! "If you were the only image of God I see, would I want to know Him?" Such a POWERFUL statement!

  • @peacefaith9441
    @peacefaith9441 6 місяців тому +21

    That part. Marry a man that is saved and at least that one challenge that you don’t have to disagree about.

  • @sikemitayo
    @sikemitayo 5 місяців тому +20

    Our job is to reflect God, not judge anyone. 📌

  • @efuaa2828
    @efuaa2828 8 місяців тому +132

    Learnt a lot here today… currently in a study group where young single women are being taught to be whole before they are attached to their husbands

    • @krissmith9952
      @krissmith9952 8 місяців тому +6

      Hallelujah ~ we are in new time, we need to be whole & love ourselves . Not be pressured into unhealthy relationships, not just marriage💚

    • @marianiwomugulizi3115
      @marianiwomugulizi3115 6 місяців тому +5

      Perfectly said we need to discover our selves more before inviting the other person in.... especially discovering our Worth and letting God to be the foundation of everything we do

    • @bridgetsapabil5606
      @bridgetsapabil5606 5 місяців тому +1

      I can I joined the group and how do I join please

    • @chukwumachikamnesokamsy6136
      @chukwumachikamnesokamsy6136 Місяць тому

      Please, how can I join the group

    • @AmbalaPauline
      @AmbalaPauline Місяць тому

      Please how can i join the group

  • @peacefaith9441
    @peacefaith9441 6 місяців тому +11

    Every marriage has challenges even if married to a preacher or saved man. Pray pray pray. Marriage can be fun when you too are true friends.

    • @ianmcdonald8648
      @ianmcdonald8648 Місяць тому +1

      Friendship is a critical foundation for any Godly marriage. But that doesn't mean that you have to spend years trying to be a friend. It can happen naturally over a short time.

  • @mufunwapatience4972
    @mufunwapatience4972 8 місяців тому +38

    When she says man and wife is " an office in God" 💞

    • @Ad-Lo
      @Ad-Lo 6 місяців тому

      Except that the statement isn’t Biblical.

    • @walkingministries5803
      @walkingministries5803 5 місяців тому

      @@Ad-Lobut how is it Not? We have a duty to speak the gospel to build the kingdom. Is it not? That in its self is a responsibility we are held to

    • @azpersonal
      @azpersonal 2 місяці тому

      @@Ad-Loget the meaning of what she was trying to pass across

  • @jehannedufresne3998
    @jehannedufresne3998 8 місяців тому +67

    The question is: if you are a woman dating someone who claims to be a Christian but is not, what to do? Hmmm... the answer in this Clip for me was not clear enough.
    I prefer what a commenter said in here: do not be unequally yoked. Let's keep it plain and simple. We, single women of God, have no business dating a man who has no relationship with God.

    • @chosen1316
      @chosen1316 8 місяців тому +3

      I agree. I didn't know about being unequally yoked until it was said straight from the bible. It's dangerous being unequally yoked as a believer. This should have been clearly stated as you shared. Encouraging video nonetheless.

    • @DSN430
      @DSN430 6 місяців тому +1

      I think they're discussing it in the context of marriage. Some people become Christians after marriage and they are the ones who ask questions like that.

    • @kannshane9353
      @kannshane9353 Місяць тому +1

      I humbly offer 1 Cor. 7:12-16 and 1 Peter 3: 1-7
      not to encourage being unequally yoked but there is guidance if you are

  • @tumelofaith5909
    @tumelofaith5909 8 місяців тому +12

    I love this, i was laughing through out because i can relate so much, i can't get angry at my husband all day like i cry for two minutes and next moment am happy.

  • @carolbagonza4295
    @carolbagonza4295 8 місяців тому +3

    wow thank you so much, this so encouraging given the fact that tomorrow is my anniversary, we are making 3 years. thank you for shining more light on submission. i love it. Indeed Love is Patient

  • @adebankebello
    @adebankebello 8 місяців тому +4

    So many profound insights to pick from this. Thank you so much ❤️❤️

  • @cassandrakwakye5941
    @cassandrakwakye5941 8 місяців тому +5

    This video blessed my morning ! I admire you both ! God bless ❤

  • @LaRennEstherTV1985
    @LaRennEstherTV1985 7 місяців тому +5

    I love Pastor Stephanie ! I listen to her all the time!❤

  • @cedarsable1014
    @cedarsable1014 8 місяців тому +6

    Oh my God, she really dropped wisdom ❤❤

  • @Mvpsavannah
    @Mvpsavannah 8 місяців тому +8

    This video was amazing I sent it to all of my friends

  • @omiquewilliams1478
    @omiquewilliams1478 8 місяців тому +3

    THIS WAS SO GOOD!

  • @rashonmcnair978
    @rashonmcnair978 8 місяців тому +52

    Stephanie is so dope!! I absolutely love her. True woman and servant of God. Great interview!!❤🎉

  • @nadinedominique414
    @nadinedominique414 Місяць тому +1

    Stephanie is so wise! I can listen to her speak all day. I also love how I can connect with the way she thinks and explains everything. What a blessing!

  • @effortlesslynj
    @effortlesslynj 8 місяців тому +6

    Seen Stephanie and had to click! Love hearing from a wise woman! ( before listening to the podcast). Will definitely drop a comment after :).

  • @Pomaa25
    @Pomaa25 8 місяців тому +2

    Just what I needed to hear!!

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle 5 місяців тому +1

    Love that answer: exposure is valuable

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle 5 місяців тому +2

    WOW!!!! This is an awesome interview.

  • @emekaazubuike8432
    @emekaazubuike8432 4 місяці тому +3

    I don't know how i stumbled on this. I must confess that this was such a wholesome, sound, healthy, spiritual and amazing content. Thank you for making it look so easy.😊😊

  • @ashleyelabo1714
    @ashleyelabo1714 8 місяців тому +6

    I thinks thats easier said and done when you and your spouse love each other and you both are committed to God.

  • @wendyjali1170
    @wendyjali1170 8 місяців тому +18

    Such godly and eye opening conversation...learned a lot frm it n so comforted bcs lm not perfect n lm learning tht everyone has issues n we cn just work through them with the Lord's help that's always available...thanks Kingdom ladies 💝🤍💜

  • @elshadiebirratu6003
    @elshadiebirratu6003 6 місяців тому +7

    Oh! Wow! This message is for me. I received it and will be patient to see the transition because I know that whatever I have been and am still praying for, will come in God’s time, which is the right time. Thank you both for this conversation. I have been trying to reach Paster Stephanie, but maybe one day, God will, we will cross our path when the time is right. God is Good! 🙏

  • @abenaachie
    @abenaachie 8 місяців тому +2

    This blessed me. Help me daily Holy Spirit ❤🙏🏾

  • @ruthjanet3222
    @ruthjanet3222 8 місяців тому +2

    Thank you so much for this amazing content.
    Powerful 🔥

  • @BiboaraYinkere
    @BiboaraYinkere 5 місяців тому +1

    'Authenic to yourself' I love this ❤️

  • @cherylt.7327
    @cherylt.7327 7 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for sharing such wonderful wisdom.

  • @victoriousqueen1995
    @victoriousqueen1995 8 місяців тому +2

    Very impactful sis 💖

  • @rickblackgirlmindset
    @rickblackgirlmindset 8 місяців тому +6

    This was so helpful and definitely needed. I am holding onto these tools these two Godlt women and daughtes imparted to us. Thank you both 💓

  • @TheTierraJ
    @TheTierraJ 8 місяців тому +27

    Thank you ladies for this beautiful, enlightening conversation ❤ whew this is powerful!!!

  • @gracegraphics-gp3cv
    @gracegraphics-gp3cv 7 місяців тому +2

    Thank you so much for this episode its so refreshing i learned alot from both of you.

  • @MissFayeCBL
    @MissFayeCBL 7 місяців тому +8

    This stood out to me, "Creating the right environment for her to thrive" - this is man's responsibility.

  • @Lenanohmy
    @Lenanohmy 7 місяців тому +2

    This was so good 🩷

  • @sparklelouison2668
    @sparklelouison2668 8 місяців тому +35

    Really love Pastor Stephanie, she is such a Lady.

  • @Blue77Blue
    @Blue77Blue 8 місяців тому +1

    I LIKE THE HOST GOOD TO SEE STEPHANIE

  • @Saddafk
    @Saddafk Місяць тому +1

    God bless everyone listening to this ❤

  • @olabisidurojaiye
    @olabisidurojaiye 3 місяці тому +1

    I luv you Stephanie. You really hit the nail on the head

  • @A__vee
    @A__vee 5 місяців тому +1

    Learnt a lot. God bless you both❤️

  • @aliciasheffield-rw9em
    @aliciasheffield-rw9em 8 місяців тому +6

    So good! It’s the posture of your heart for me! AMEN

  • @nettas5437
    @nettas5437 8 місяців тому +2

    I needed this 🙏🏾

  • @janelle9410
    @janelle9410 8 місяців тому +2

    Love this!!!

  • @zoniqueoriginals
    @zoniqueoriginals 8 місяців тому +28

    Finally I hear someone be real about what we've learned since being married.I really needed this! Thank you

  • @CieraLevelsUp777
    @CieraLevelsUp777 Місяць тому +1

    Great Interview!

  • @user-mz3ii2cr2u
    @user-mz3ii2cr2u Місяць тому

    This was awesome I learned alot love pastor Stephanie

  • @kgomotsopetlele7990
    @kgomotsopetlele7990 7 місяців тому +1

    Wow❤ Thabk you for this💎

  • @nalukuinaleliliswaniso674
    @nalukuinaleliliswaniso674 7 місяців тому +2

    So much wisdom. Thank you for such an authentic conversation.

  • @Wendie_hiltonb
    @Wendie_hiltonb 6 місяців тому +2

    Thanks for this! 💕

  • @thando_t1723
    @thando_t1723 8 місяців тому +21

    Pastor Ike is so beautiful ❤

  • @abeyruth2598
    @abeyruth2598 5 місяців тому +2

    Wow so so powerful. I’ll be patient and reflect Christ in everything I do and say. Thank you Jesus 🙌🏾♥️

  • @stepheessel6667
    @stepheessel6667 7 місяців тому +6

    This was refreshing to listen and watch. I learnt a lot❤

  • @marianiwomugulizi3115
    @marianiwomugulizi3115 6 місяців тому +2

    Am blessed to hear The powerful message l pray that all beautiful ladies out there gets the message, glory and honor to God who Never goes against his promises, indeed Patience Pays...l have Learnt that we should always know that we're not the Head of our lives But God in our relationships, Heavenly father l surrender all to you for U have better plans for us which are always perfect, Thanks My role model, The Great minister of God Pr Stephanie like long live to talk of the goodness of God for this generation and generations to come we really need U Amen Amen 🙏 thanks to you all who Never give up on trusting God even in hard situations

  • @takeauthority30
    @takeauthority30 7 місяців тому

    This was soooo good

  • @faithjoseph9615
    @faithjoseph9615 6 місяців тому +3

    Wow! 👏👏👏Such an enlightening podcast. Thank You Stephanie! Definitely learnt a couple of things as regards marriage and having an impact as a genuine Christian on people around you living a life reflective of the Gospel of Jesus.

  • @niceyenuf1
    @niceyenuf1 6 місяців тому +5

    Great video! Learned lots. I found the interviewer's voice to be low though. Stephanie's was fine

  • @janekogi6442
    @janekogi6442 7 місяців тому +2

    Also emotionally we are vulnerable,we love 100percent snd men know this,and instead of embracing they sbuse it

  • @Mabel-oe9bv
    @Mabel-oe9bv 8 місяців тому +4

    Learnt a lot in here❤

  • @GraceAdeniyiOlamijulo
    @GraceAdeniyiOlamijulo 8 місяців тому +12

    Yeah...😂 I'm also the processor😂😂😂...and my husband wants to talk about it all right away!😂😂😂😂

  • @angelaaaron9253
    @angelaaaron9253 7 місяців тому +1

    She's so awesome!

  • @sharriettefinley467
    @sharriettefinley467 7 місяців тому +17

    Marriage is two 80%s coming together, in Christ Jesus, to grow in wholeness and holiness together. Reminds me of something that Love McPherson said about interdependence. Thank you young sisters for this blessed conversation. 🦋❤️

  • @seratongbaroba3871
    @seratongbaroba3871 7 місяців тому +1

    Good sermon. 🎉

  • @lolafmcinga6684
    @lolafmcinga6684 7 місяців тому +5

    As God prepares him for me and me for him❤❤🎉🎉😊😊

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle 5 місяців тому +2

    What!!! Stephanie Ike got married and I missed it. Where have I been

  • @faithphasha2300
    @faithphasha2300 Місяць тому

    I admire Stephen Ike so much

  • @user-yd2ie9mh6m
    @user-yd2ie9mh6m 7 місяців тому

    You know what you are saying sister!

  • @milcahh_g2871
    @milcahh_g2871 8 місяців тому

    Awesome 👏🏻

  • @peacefaith9441
    @peacefaith9441 6 місяців тому +3

    That was nice she was able to see someone like Sarah value her home. That touched me. That gives me something to work on since I never seen that.

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle 5 місяців тому

    Know the foundation you stand upon. That’s good.

  • @pilatedndlovu8980
    @pilatedndlovu8980 8 місяців тому +2

    Educative.

  • @nicoleboyce
    @nicoleboyce 5 місяців тому +1

    Truth!! 🤍🙏😇🪽

  • @BiboaraYinkere
    @BiboaraYinkere 5 місяців тому +1

    It is a problem if a woman is under the authority of a 'King' (husband) who lacks maturity. I agree with you. The process of finding out who you are and who you're committing to is important.

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle 5 місяців тому +3

    That’s such a great answer: it’s not your job to lead anyone to Christ. Your job is to reflect your authentic relationship with God.

    • @ianmcdonald8648
      @ianmcdonald8648 Місяць тому

      you can only lead someone in the good sense if they want to be lead.

  • @belledelemos9615
    @belledelemos9615 8 місяців тому

    That was essential

  • @christabeloghinan9664
    @christabeloghinan9664 7 місяців тому +2

    Wow 🔥

  • @thomasclarrett1918
    @thomasclarrett1918 7 місяців тому +1

    JUST FLESH ...IN THE LAST DAYS MAN WILL BE LOVERS OF THEMSELF

  • @florencejohnson6788
    @florencejohnson6788 5 місяців тому +1

    If you were the only IMAGE OF GOD I'll see, would I ever want to know him? This is my take-home nugget of wisdom . God bless you both 🙏 ❤️ 🙌. You are my Kingdom sisters, and I love ❤️ you both.

  • @vickiehughes9697
    @vickiehughes9697 5 місяців тому +1

    I enjoyed the interview, and both of you ladies were Awesome!!!
    Pastor Stephanie you are an Amazing woman of God!
    My family, friends and I love listening to you and Pastor Sarah Continued Blessings to you and your church family! We can’t wait to see you at the conference!

  • @10minword
    @10minword 8 місяців тому +9

    it was difficult hearing Daf

  • @monicabotchway8038
    @monicabotchway8038 7 місяців тому

    I love you woman og God.

  • @nikyahmorgan2603
    @nikyahmorgan2603 7 місяців тому +6

    Thank you SOOO much for giving a healthy more realistic, refreshing perspective of Christianity! We are not to be judgmental, but to embody the character and patience of Christ 😊 You’ll😊😊 get better results!

  • @judithannorbah6444
    @judithannorbah6444 8 місяців тому +13

    We are supposed to both lead people to Christ and reflect Christ to them. Its contradictory to say in one breath to be careful who you are married to so you are submitting to a fool, then also downplay the person's walk with Christ. One who is not submitted to Christ will make foolish decisions. No daughter of Zion will be at peace submitting to that type of leader. We need to stick with the word and not mix in worldly idealogies.

    • @junosegabriel3432
      @junosegabriel3432 8 місяців тому

      Li you 😊

    • @Gerealistic
      @Gerealistic 7 місяців тому

      I agree💯

    • @Ad-Lo
      @Ad-Lo 6 місяців тому +5

      It isn’t contradictory because shes addressing two different groups of women: she saying if you are saved, don’t marry someone who is unsaved. However, some people only become saved after they are already married. In that case, the saved person shouldn’t missionary date, but the Christian who gets saved later shouldn’t manipulate. It’s consistent with the Apostle Paul’s teachings.

    • @daisiesandpandas1218
      @daisiesandpandas1218 5 місяців тому +2

      Even a saved person has times of making foolish decisions. Submission doesn't mean going with everything you've husband says without thinking. It's submitting to a mission, anything that's being done for the good and betterment of your union

    • @olubusolaawolaja6831
      @olubusolaawolaja6831 5 місяців тому +2

      The other partner may even be a Christian and they are lukewarm, making foolish decisions. The genuine Christian partner will still be led by foolishness. Marry purpose, marry someone whom you both can fufill God’s purpose together.

  • @dexteroushearts6808
    @dexteroushearts6808 23 дні тому

    I am blessed

  • @joy222duhwrld
    @joy222duhwrld 8 місяців тому +1

    is there a longer video?!? omg

    • @drdafshow
      @drdafshow  8 місяців тому +1

      Here: ua-cam.com/video/fHVkmG9zYE4/v-deo.htmlsi=NHgH9Ng1mSeEhWSr

  • @SueChef100
    @SueChef100 8 місяців тому +18

    😂😂😂😂❤❤❤Enjoy your singlehood👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

  • @Atalkwith_pjay
    @Atalkwith_pjay 22 дні тому

    Lord i receive my Boaz

  • @janekogi6442
    @janekogi6442 7 місяців тому +1

    My take on oneness is marriage,is a. Teaching on how God yarns for intimacy from us one day back 2017,the Holy Spirit asked me why we make Him,so lonely,God needs a close relationship with us

    • @janekogi6442
      @janekogi6442 7 місяців тому

      Just like we have with our partners

  • @vickiehughes9697
    @vickiehughes9697 5 місяців тому

    I strongly agree, Do Not marry un equally yoke!
    It is written! Being in a marriage,submitting,being an example,praying for that spouse’s salvation can be
    long,lonesome,horrible walk!!! I wouldn't want anyone to go through! The marriage ended in a Divorce,Ihonored God and my marriage,God honored and blessed me(my children honored and respected me to the utmost) and so does their father.
    That was 16years ago,a person has to want something for them self,Not to say it won’t ever happen!Our God is Able! I am a true respecter of his timing!
    I am so Grateful to Our Lord,for him rescueing me!
    Ladies/Men date and collect your data!!!
    For you that are already in it,God is in the mist of everything,let him guide you,his will shall be done
    make sure you stay in your walk cause we are held accountable as individuals!! He’s an Awesome God!!!
    Live,Learn,Forgive,Love, and Share!

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle 5 місяців тому +1

    Great Question: if you are the only image of God I see, would I want to know Him

  • @Ad-Lo
    @Ad-Lo 6 місяців тому

    Where in the Bible does it say that, “marriage is your first ministry”?

  • @rosewangui3409
    @rosewangui3409 8 місяців тому +5

    2nd Corinthians 6:14
    Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers . For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Light with darkness?

    • @Ad-Lo
      @Ad-Lo 6 місяців тому +1

      And those who become born again AFTER they are already married? She needs to appeal to the reality of her audience’s spiritual condition.

    • @mahlatse8605
      @mahlatse8605 6 місяців тому +1

      ​@Ad-Lo I think Christians have this idea that people can't become Christians post marriage and that it is possible for a Christian to no longer want to be a Christian even though the couple were Christians before marriage. This is a reality a lot of people don't think about and refuse to accept. Unfortunately, it's not grounds for divorce. It's something the couple have to work through

  • @lyndianaambroise8177
    @lyndianaambroise8177 Місяць тому

    If you are a divorcee is it a sin to remarry if your spouse is still alive ?