You never know, tho. Maybe they're just stealth because of transphobia or they didn't even figure it out yet because it's so rural and no other people are there who could help them figure things out.
I'm a poly gal(5 years) and I've found that jealousy never really goes away. It's a natural emotion and a lot of people I've seen, try it out to "get over" their jealousy. It's not something to get over but for myself to learn from and how to cope with my own feelings without projecting them onto others
This is a good insight for me. Thanks. In general I think it’s important to destigmatize all emotions so we can learn to handle them healthily, but I hadn’t thought about jealousy specifically...
I was in a poly relationship with a married couple and as long as you have ground rules and stick to them you’ll be fine. I was actually close with both my bf and his wife. My friends had issues later (after I was out of the relationship and had moved out of state) because they let their next partner move in with them. Big mistake, she caused all sorts of havoc.
I find rules to be a very unhelpful framework for polyamory. I find it way more satisfying to talk about what my relationship to my partners is like and what we both want it to be like, rather than make rules about what it should be like. I strongly feel, that no one has the right to demand exclusivity from someone else. I don't like other people making rules for me. My expectations of my partners are mostly around them being honest with me and keeping me reasonably informed about their other connections. I don't think I have a right, nor do I have any desire to limit their other connections. But on the other side of "making rules" there is a huge pit fall of demanding "equality" in relationships. Having a new partner move in with an established couple, has a bit of that vibe. Relationships with different people are different. I have a partner that I live with, the relationship with them is very different from a lover that I see occasionally. And that's okay. Some people misunderstand this as "hierarchy" and try to avoid it. I see it as honestly describing what connections are like. I have been in relationships with that rules mindset. And when I no longer wanted to relate in that way, we had a breakup over it. Since then I have only dated people, who have a similar attitude towards freedom in relationships and it has been way less stressful than the "rules" model ever was for me. There are people who can just be chill.
OMG!!! This Granny is so happy to have confirmation that our beautiful Ty & Christy are together. You guys are so sweet together ❤️❤️ ... anything added to that is fine too... as long as you’re both happy & safe...thank you for sharing 😘😘😘
Thanks for being so open, I'm sure it isn't easy, but it's nice to know us poly trans people aren't alone out here. Congratulations on your Onlyfans, I hope that goes well. ☺️
why did the fact that Christy was excited to take artsy naked photos of you for your only fans make me tear up, like damnnn that's so fucking cuteeee 9:34
Love this. I knew I couldn't be monogamous even before I knew what my gender and sexuality really were, and I think a lot of people go thru the same struggle, which is why this is important to talk about. To people out there who feel like they can't be monogamous, you are not broken. We love you
I *can* be mono (and I am at the moment), it's just not my "most natural state". But sometimes one has to compromise. Love to all the polys out there. It's still a lonely and very misunderstood way of being.
thank you for sharing this with us! im also a trans guy who considered himself straight up until about 2 years ago. since then ive slept with the occasional dude and enjoyed it a lot more than the dysphoria-riddled, usually one sided sexy times with previous girlfriends. it made me feel pretty shitty for a while because i always assumed it was an either/or thing and i could only have one or the other but this video is giving me a lot of hope for the future!
yoooo I identify as polyamorous, I've been in an open relationship with my partner(s) for about 5 years now, and it's super cool to hear this perspective on non-monogamy from someone who doesn't ID as polyam. y'all seem like you have such a great handle on your relationship and I'm glad non-monogamy works well for you!
I'm stupid monogamous. Me and my ex were constantly being offered experiences we never pursued bc we couldn't, we just couldn't. I in no way condemn open relationships though, I've just accepted the fact I can't do it, I feel like I hurt someone else more than feeling cheated on. There's no cheat if you're cool about it, but I never could do it. My ex was the same, we had many friends in this situation, yet we were the odd couple that wasn't into it. And I'm not even a jealous person. Love is such a broad spectrum.
I don't think I could ever be in an open relationship, but I'm happy that it's working for you! It was really interesting to learn something new. Wish you two all the best!
It's like UA-cam reads minds. Nice vid, Ty. I'm also a trans man and have a girlfriend. We love each other and although hesitant to call our relationship "open", have basically decided the same. She can have an occasional hookup with a female and I with a male. We both sit at about a 2 on the Kinsey Scale, where our sexual desire for people of the same gender is more than incedental but not to where we have equal attraction to same and other gendered people (bisexual). We hope to endure our first and separate experiences with people of the same gender soon. Thanks, Ty.
@@niccidean2659 I know I'm not Heather, but I'll explain for you! OnlyFans is a website where creators can upload various types of content for fans, like videos, music, or photography. Many people use it for posting nude or sexual content, as the site allows it. A creator can choose to make following their page free or charge a monthly subscription fee of their choice, as well as choose to put certain content behind a separate paywall. It's an easy site to use for creators to make money off of the content they make, basically! Heather is saying she can't afford to subscribe to Ty's monthly fee haha.
I have to admit, I was a little confused about whether you guys were together or just room mates but it wasn’t my business so I didn’t pry or anything. Thanks for the video! I think a lot of couples could learn from y’all
I wish yall the best, and I highly suggest having a once a year check in with one another to refresh and revisit terms/one another's feelings on the agreement. I hear this is more and more common of a practice for healthy consistency in communication. Stay safe and thanks for sharing. Gl on the OF
Sounds like you had FOMO; a fear of missing out. Totally normal. Super happy for you two as an open polyam person. So many talks, so many conversations, and it just brought me and my partner closer.
I had gotten a bad taste in my mouth to open relationships cuz I had a pretty bad experience, seeing you say that your relationship with Christi is the most important thing makes me wanna rethink my feelings. Thats how it should be really
It's definitely not for everyone, but as with ANY relationship, it can go well or it can go badly. My fiance and I have been open (with similar rules to Ty and Christie, actually) for years and it's never been an issue, but I tried doing an open relationship with a previous boyfriend and it was a trainwreck (but our relationship in general wasn't exactly stellar, lol). It requires a level of commitment and honesty that a lot of relationships just can't withstand. You obviously don't HAVE to try another open relationship if you don't want to, but I would suggest truly examining your feelings about it and considering how much your aversion is based on the previous experience vs the actual ideological/emotional/sexual/etc concept being appealing or not. Either way, wish you the best!
@@azuradawn5683 thank you for that! Ive been needing to for awhile, I would hate to have it brought up again and not even know where to stand on the whole thing. I know the main issue wasnt the openness but everyone there. Like you said, with the right people it'll work, and it does require people willing to put in the work. I just need to learn to separate all the people who didnt recognize that and the people Ive met who did
I am in an open relationship and have been since the beginning of the relationship. It is so refreshing to see someone talk about their open relationship as not a being a huge deal. I love my partner and plan to spend the rest of my life with them and being open doesn't change that. It feels good to be validated ☺. Thanks for making this video
I love the level of communication and how well you articulate your feelings of like I wish my partner was with me and I'm missing their attention vs possessive jealousy
I'm a little over 30 years older than you and it's always amazed me, especially in the LGBTQ+ community, that people have an issue with open relationships. They can't separate sex from love/commitment.
so if my significant other left me, even after telling them I'd be willing to have an open relationship .... then they didn't actually love me. did they??? I agree with your comment. I'm just asking for clarification. this has been driving me insane. I would have let them fuck WHOEVER they want ...... forgave them for cheating on me multiple times ...... but I guess that wasn't enough.
@@thoraneh7365 What does monogamy have to do with straight people? Are you assuming ALL straight couples are monogamous? In my comment, I DIDN'T say "everyone" in the LGBTQ+ community, I said "people". I have been an out gay man for 45 years, so I have just a little bit of experience in the LGBTQ+ community ;) And I have 0 years experience in the straight community, so I can't comment on that. FYI, I have been in both open and closed relationships. My last relationship was closed and lasted until my partner passed away, 10 years on. We had both previously been in an open relationship. Over the 10 years, we did discuss opening up our relationship a couple of times, but neither of us wanted to do it. It was kind of a health check for us.
@@MrChrisbtacos I would say if you were in that situation, there were other things that contributed to the breakup other than whether you were willing to be in an open relationship or not. I'm not the one to ask if they loved you or not, but people can fall out of love also.
loved this video. I gotta say, it's been so cool watching your videos over the years and watching you become more comfortable with yourself and embrace different aspects of yourself. Wishing you and Christy the best!
I bought the long sleeve rad to the bone shirts its one of my favorite, also thabk you for sharing this part of you ty its cool to see peoples takes on open relationships and how vastly different it can be from couple to couple
Thank you for this!! It feels so good to have someone I look up to voice their experience with an honest, open relationship. I’ve had a similar situation to when you went away for a month and Christie was with someone. My partner and I are both non binary but they’re polyamorous and I’m monogamous. During quarantine we’re in separate towns about 2hrs apart for now coz we’re both broke af, which sucks but I love them. They’ve been seeing a girl in their little town and I sometimes feel jealous, but I really think it’s just coz they aren’t directly with me and I miss them, more than I feel like i don’t want them seeing someone else. We talk about it a lot and I know my partner loves me, they just have other partners and I’m okay with that. Sex hasn’t been a huge part of our relationship, actually, and since we’re both young and not really planning on marriage at all it’s been good with my partner. I do have pretty heavy anxiety and I have spiraled about whether or not an open relationship is going to work, but I know it’s irrational and when I really think about our rules and honesty and it brings me out of my funk, especially cause I have my partner to talk to and I trust them.
Thanks for the video mate, this is a conversation my fiancé and I had once I transitioned and had an “oh s****** I’m attracted to dudes” and she missed being with what she presumed was a woman. So far, so good. Communication is key. Great insight ✌️
As a genderqueer person, I have been in open/ply relationships for the past 30 years. Hang in there. I respect you both for your honesty and willingness to tackle the non-binary reality of life (except for pineapple on pizza... that just is an abomination!) Hugs to you both!
I am an older married woman in an open marriage &been told many times that being "open" is the same as being "polyamorous" but I disagree. For us, being open means we are free to be intimate with other people separately, within the boundaries we have agreed upon, while poly for us would be being in a committed relationship with an additional partner. Ultimately, all relationships are unique to the people involved. The rules and boundaries we have decided upon may not work for someone else, and vice-versa. We do not currently have "extras" in our lives due to covid and other factors, but have been successful previously having them involved. When we figure out our "new normal" that might change if things work out.
Love and sex are different things. My husband and I have an ask first rule... because sometimes you'll want to say no. With that rule in place things are amazing.
I would love an open relationship, but my boyfriend is SUPER monogamous (at least apparently). I'm a bi girl and he is the first person I've ever had a relationship AND sexual experiences with, and we've been together for more than 5 years. I've started to really feel the need to experience with girls too, expecially since finding some "incompatibilities" in sex, but I'm afraid that asking that will make him feel like I'm not attracted to him anymore or don't love him anymore, both of which are untrue. Relationships are so hard sometimes :(
Well, now is the time. You are both at the height of attractiveness. Dude, you are one of the most attractive and handsome men I have encountered. Too bad I could be your grandfather.
Dude, I respect everything you're saying. It involves a lot of communication to make something like this work. My partner and I decided 6 mos. ago that we're poly and we've talked about it so much. And we've had fun conversations like finding out what we really are and aren't interested in. Granted, this isn't an open relationship, and I understand they're different. It's just funny how you're explaining this. I've started realizing that I'm nonbinary and my sexual preference is also changing/evolving. I get exactly what you mean by being attracted to someone and not having to feel guilt about it. It's nice and a relief almost. Anyways, lol I appreciate your video. It's good to have representation out there and I know putting yourself out there is a risk. But thanks for sharing!
This sounds great. I'd totally be down with an open relationship, knowing that I wouldn't be able to completely please someone all the time. So many people have such a hard time grappling with the idea of dedication coexisting with open relationships, and they've critiqued me with how casual I am about the idea (thinking I'm too aloof or something). I just don't really get jealous, and I see it as a way of everyone being able to get what they want.
People always ask about jealousy in my polyamorous relationships, but I always tell them that I've never felt jealousy without it coming from some other unprocessed feeling. Every time I feel a twinge of jealousy I look at it more closely and find that beneath it there's an unmet need or unprocessed anxiety in/about my relationship. Most recently I felt a bit jealous of my partner's partner, let's call her M. When I searched my feelings I realized I was really just afraid of M changing her mind about being poly or about me in particular because I don't want anything to destabilise my relationship with our mutual partner. Once I understood and processed the anxiety at the source of my jealousy it went away.
Man, I really wish I didn't get jealous about that stuff. I've been educating myself about open relationships for a while now, hoping it would make me be ok with it. But I guess I'm just not that kind of person. I still get nauseous just thinking about my partner sleeping with someone else.
I understand. I’m similar. I highly respect polyamorous people and polyamory as a whole, but it’s just not for me (at least right now). I know that a lot of it is because of past trauma, so I try not to be hard on myself about it. 🖤
That's totally normal! For years I was never interested in having an open relationship and the thought of it also made me nauseous as well! It was upsetting to think about but well... here we are!! lol it also helps that we have certain boundaries so it doesn't feel like I'm competing with other people. We love and trust eachother very much!
I really don't understand why there should be this need to "make you be ok with it", if it isn't. With all due respect to poly and non-monogamous people, there is also nothing wrong with being monogamous and wanting a monogamous partner (and no, not wanting an open relationship does not make you immature or close minded - it is actually quite mature to know what you want and to not settle for less). :-)
@@Astgsfgt agreed! You never have to do anything you are uncomfortable with and not everyone has to want an open relationship. Being in an open relationship or have a monogamous one is okay. Nobody needs to make anybody feel like one is superior.
I had an open relationship with my last partner from the jump. My partner broke up with me a month ago for reasons not even remotely related to that- However, I think in the future I will not want to BEGIN relationships as open. This is me personally, but may be helpful advice to someone else: I think in building the foundation of a relationship, it is wise to be in a situation that is more conducive to forming a "closed-circuit" bond with each other. Even if the primary partners are comfortable with being open, and maybe don't even take advantage of the openness (like we were unable to for most of the pandemic), you still end up spending attention/energy/mental space thinking about or connecting with other people. (TLDR:) I believe it's more valuable to put that attention/energy/mental space into connecting with your partner when establishing the relationship. Once your foundation is very solid, opening it up would be less potentially detrimental to your connection, imo.
I find this really interesting. I'm bisexual (omnisexual technically, bi is just the term I've always used), and my ex told me she was cool with me getting with a guy if I wanted to experiment (I hadn't done anything with a dude at that time). But I knew that would be problematic, because I'm definitely too insecure to deal with my GF sleeping with other men? Despite her never saying that, it just didn't seem "fair" that I'd have that freedom but she wouldn't if that makes sense? Why am I like this? Thank you for the insight ✌🏻
This isn't a polyamorous answer or anything, I just want to give my view on who I like-- I'm 30 yrs old, and I've been a lesbian my whole life. Men's bodys are art, just like womens, but I find myself wanting to hurl if I even think about kissing a man. Last year during lockdown, I realized I was nonbinary, and earlier this year I figured out that I'm trans. And I am so happy about that finding. Also, all my life, I've found trans guys so attractive and would even date one if I had the chance. Now that I know what my future entails, once I transition, I would really love to be a gay guy who dates trans guys. It's an interesting concept I find myself thinking about a lot.💛
People who believe that an open relationship is damning to a relationship are the ones who are confusing cheating and lying with communication and honesty. If your relationship has great communication you will last. Not denying each other the opportunity to grow and explore not just yourself but other types of relationship is granting and supporting your partners growth. It’s healthy, it’s love, it’s unselfish. Thanks for sharing.
I dont know who this person is but I came for the mullet and found a beautiful man. Holy hell that mullet and stache is fantastic. Edit: Poly just wasnt for me. My girlfriend was married and that forever felt like I was always going to be cast to the side. But we are all really tight still as friends :)
I wonder if you transitioning while you were together was a factor. She went from being in a lesbian relationship to a straight one. Assuming you started after you were already together.
i think any type relationship works as long as you guys know where each other’s headspace are and where your moral core value coincides. Different strokes for different folks. You can live however you and your partner decides if it makes you happy. Cause it’s between you & her. It’s sad that ppl don’t understand that. Everyone has their own preference and you got to respect that. If it’s not harming the two of you than nothing else matters. You live your life. I’m more of a mono to mono. I liike how you express this with great maturity and level headedness it makes sense and sounds fair for the two of you.
"If Grindr's gotta go, it's a small sacrifice to make" I LOVE that. My husband and I are polyam (both transmasc and gay/bi/pan) and our stance is, if it happens it happens. If it doesn't, well our relationship is perfect just the way it is anyway too. :) I mean, one day we'd like to have another partner to share our lives with, but we don't NEED it to be happy
me for half a second "what about non-binary?" Ty: and we live in rural Arkansas.... me: oh makes sense I think you sound like an amazing couple and very happy together and I'm genuinely super happy for you
Super interesting. Thanks for sharing. I actually figured out I'm poly 8 years before I knew I'm trans. Oddly enough the "discovery" moment as I'm calling it was super similar in the sense of both being super powerful and significant. Something clicked the first time I was able to freely be affectionate towards two partners. Specifically at the same time. I felt those feelings at 16 and didn't know the words for things til like 22. Also my first time feeling compersion was groundbreaking. Even though I've tried my best to only find myself in poly situations it's been harder than expected. But I love it when I really click with a metamour of whatever gender. it's a wonderful feeling. Poly isn't for everyone. But if you know, you know. And you should at least explore and educate yourself on the variants of non-monogamy so you don't waste years of your life compressing feelings that shouldn't be compressed. You could live a lot of your life thinking you're a bad person or yo don't love people simply because of your attraction or [platonic/not] love for others.
You explained my current, and longest, relationship perfectly. I call it being poly but it’s not exactly that, calling it open doesn’t exactly feel accurate either. Me and my partner are currently separated by thousands of miles and even if we weren’t we are both free to explore the other genders we are attracted to so we don’t have that pressure of hiding that attraction, plus we are both kinky lil shits and aren’t always into the same ones.
Ugh this is my dream situation. My bf has started to open up with his kinks but they're starting to "pile up" and I feel like somebody else could satisfy them more than me; now I feel less comfortable exposing my preferences because they basically are the opposites of what he seems to want. Fml
I was just in a poly relationship with a couple and it went south very quickly. I was hesitant to date both of them since they were already a couple and it went as expected. The other girl decided to end it because she couldn't handle her boyfriend being with me so I lost 2 people I had been making a connection with and they ended up breaking up over it. Ill be doing solo poly for a while now
Ty, there's two caterpillars on your face and they're about to kiss, watch out
lmaooooo
that legit made me chuckle
That's how gaybies get made
if its between consenting adults who are happy??? leave 'em be and don't be malicious
Thank you!
Yes!
*hops around a cemetery* don't be malicious, don't beeee malicious
My mom’s opinion is that ‘it’s disrupting the sanctity of marriage’, and I’m just like ??? So ??? Is it disrupting the sanctity of _your_ marriage?
Ya he can be malicious towards kc Miller
Bt no one can be malicious to him....
Yaaaa soo right.. he can attack anyone
The comment about not encountering nonbinary people in rural Arkansas killed me 😂 I’m from rural AR and I’m nonbinary but yeah I left for Reasons
Could proably let off the "rural" part even. Although a bit suprised the case even in NWA
You never know, tho. Maybe they're just stealth because of transphobia or they didn't even figure it out yet because it's so rural and no other people are there who could help them figure things out.
my best friend is a nonbinary person who lives in a hunting cabin in the woods in arkansas
@@casemma0101 They're living the dream
Yeah it’s often because it isn’t safe to be out and visible here 😅
“A little bit of gay on the side.”
We stan.
I found a term for my sexuality lol
Yikes
“It doesn’t have to be a huge deal for you to see a huge dill.” LOL
I felt that when he said "I get on grindr sometimes and then get annoyed with that in 10 minutes"
I'm a poly gal(5 years) and I've found that jealousy never really goes away. It's a natural emotion and a lot of people I've seen, try it out to "get over" their jealousy. It's not something to get over but for myself to learn from and how to cope with my own feelings without projecting them onto others
This is a good insight for me. Thanks. In general I think it’s important to destigmatize all emotions so we can learn to handle them healthily, but I hadn’t thought about jealousy specifically...
Does that mean I can flirt with you 👀👉🏼👈🏼 - respecting boundaries and consensually
I was in a poly relationship with a married couple and as long as you have ground rules and stick to them you’ll be fine. I was actually close with both my bf and his wife. My friends had issues later (after I was out of the relationship and had moved out of state) because they let their next partner move in with them. Big mistake, she caused all sorts of havoc.
I find rules to be a very unhelpful framework for polyamory. I find it way more satisfying to talk about what my relationship to my partners is like and what we both want it to be like, rather than make rules about what it should be like.
I strongly feel, that no one has the right to demand exclusivity from someone else. I don't like other people making rules for me. My expectations of my partners are mostly around them being honest with me and keeping me reasonably informed about their other connections. I don't think I have a right, nor do I have any desire to limit their other connections. But on the other side of "making rules" there is a huge pit fall of demanding "equality" in relationships. Having a new partner move in with an established couple, has a bit of that vibe. Relationships with different people are different. I have a partner that I live with, the relationship with them is very different from a lover that I see occasionally. And that's okay. Some people misunderstand this as "hierarchy" and try to avoid it. I see it as honestly describing what connections are like.
I have been in relationships with that rules mindset. And when I no longer wanted to relate in that way, we had a breakup over it. Since then I have only dated people, who have a similar attitude towards freedom in relationships and it has been way less stressful than the "rules" model ever was for me. There are people who can just be chill.
OMG!!! This Granny is so happy to have confirmation that our beautiful Ty & Christy are together. You guys are so sweet together ❤️❤️ ... anything added to that is fine too... as long as you’re both happy & safe...thank you for sharing 😘😘😘
Thank you so much!!!
Where's ty?? I only see El DeBarge
i also love this comment
I know. The 80's hair!😎
.........To the beat of the rhythm of the night 🎶
Thanks for being so open, I'm sure it isn't easy, but it's nice to know us poly trans people aren't alone out here. Congratulations on your Onlyfans, I hope that goes well. ☺️
I’m just saying, the rad to the bone would be really cool on a denim jacket 👀👀👀
YES.
Rad to the bone! I love it.
@@HeatherCadieux right??? Kinda of really want it now lol
why did the fact that Christy was excited to take artsy naked photos of you for your only fans make me tear up, like damnnn that's so fucking cuteeee
9:34
Love this. I knew I couldn't be monogamous even before I knew what my gender and sexuality really were, and I think a lot of people go thru the same struggle, which is why this is important to talk about. To people out there who feel like they can't be monogamous, you are not broken. We love you
I felt this thanks 🙏🏽💯
I *can* be mono (and I am at the moment), it's just not my "most natural state". But sometimes one has to compromise. Love to all the polys out there. It's still a lonely and very misunderstood way of being.
"I'm a genie in a baby bottle"
And I'm dead 😂
thank you for sharing this with us! im also a trans guy who considered himself straight up until about 2 years ago. since then ive slept with the occasional dude and enjoyed it a lot more than the dysphoria-riddled, usually one sided sexy times with previous girlfriends. it made me feel pretty shitty for a while because i always assumed it was an either/or thing and i could only have one or the other but this video is giving me a lot of hope for the future!
yoooo I identify as polyamorous, I've been in an open relationship with my partner(s) for about 5 years now, and it's super cool to hear this perspective on non-monogamy from someone who doesn't ID as polyam. y'all seem like you have such a great handle on your relationship and I'm glad non-monogamy works well for you!
Good talk bout open relationships.
Been Married for 13yrs, and my wife is the Flirty One.... ut she also found me my 2 boyfriends....
I'm stupid monogamous. Me and my ex were constantly being offered experiences we never pursued bc we couldn't, we just couldn't.
I in no way condemn open relationships though, I've just accepted the fact I can't do it, I feel like I hurt someone else more than feeling cheated on. There's no cheat if you're cool about it, but I never could do it.
My ex was the same, we had many friends in this situation, yet we were the odd couple that wasn't into it. And I'm not even a jealous person.
Love is such a broad spectrum.
I don't think I could ever be in an open relationship, but I'm happy that it's working for you! It was really interesting to learn something new. Wish you two all the best!
Hey your FTM fit shirts made my friends extremely excited (there were tears). Do you know when there’ll be a new drop?
Thank you! We're restocking black and white very soon!!!
damn he looks FFIIIINE w/ that mustache
It's like UA-cam reads minds. Nice vid, Ty. I'm also a trans man and have a girlfriend. We love each other and although hesitant to call our relationship "open", have basically decided the same. She can have an occasional hookup with a female and I with a male. We both sit at about a 2 on the Kinsey Scale, where our sexual desire for people of the same gender is more than incedental but not to where we have equal attraction to same and other gendered people (bisexual). We hope to endure our first and separate experiences with people of the same gender soon. Thanks, Ty.
Hey Ty, This is ABSOLUTELY a demand: Do romantic audiobook voice acting.
haha! nice
If I could afford OnlyFans, I would more than likely be looking at Ty's. The "artsy" photos sounds quite intriguing.
Hey Heather, could you please explain what OnlyFans is? 🤗
@@niccidean2659 I know I'm not Heather, but I'll explain for you! OnlyFans is a website where creators can upload various types of content for fans, like videos, music, or photography. Many people use it for posting nude or sexual content, as the site allows it. A creator can choose to make following their page free or charge a monthly subscription fee of their choice, as well as choose to put certain content behind a separate paywall. It's an easy site to use for creators to make money off of the content they make, basically! Heather is saying she can't afford to subscribe to Ty's monthly fee haha.
Hannah Arrow thanks Hannah 🤗
@@notrlylol thanks Hannah!
I have to admit, I was a little confused about whether you guys were together or just room mates but it wasn’t my business so I didn’t pry or anything. Thanks for the video! I think a lot of couples could learn from y’all
I wish yall the best, and I highly suggest having a once a year check in with one another to refresh and revisit terms/one another's feelings on the agreement. I hear this is more and more common of a practice for healthy consistency in communication. Stay safe and thanks for sharing. Gl on the OF
Sounds like you had FOMO; a fear of missing out. Totally normal. Super happy for you two as an open polyam person. So many talks, so many conversations, and it just brought me and my partner closer.
I had gotten a bad taste in my mouth to open relationships cuz I had a pretty bad experience, seeing you say that your relationship with Christi is the most important thing makes me wanna rethink my feelings. Thats how it should be really
It's definitely not for everyone, but as with ANY relationship, it can go well or it can go badly. My fiance and I have been open (with similar rules to Ty and Christie, actually) for years and it's never been an issue, but I tried doing an open relationship with a previous boyfriend and it was a trainwreck (but our relationship in general wasn't exactly stellar, lol). It requires a level of commitment and honesty that a lot of relationships just can't withstand. You obviously don't HAVE to try another open relationship if you don't want to, but I would suggest truly examining your feelings about it and considering how much your aversion is based on the previous experience vs the actual ideological/emotional/sexual/etc concept being appealing or not. Either way, wish you the best!
@@azuradawn5683 thank you for that! Ive been needing to for awhile, I would hate to have it brought up again and not even know where to stand on the whole thing. I know the main issue wasnt the openness but everyone there. Like you said, with the right people it'll work, and it does require people willing to put in the work. I just need to learn to separate all the people who didnt recognize that and the people Ive met who did
I'm sorry you had a bad experience! As long as you're content in whatever you're doing, open or not, that's what is important! :)
I am in an open relationship and have been since the beginning of the relationship. It is so refreshing to see someone talk about their open relationship as not a being a huge deal. I love my partner and plan to spend the rest of my life with them and being open doesn't change that. It feels good to be validated ☺. Thanks for making this video
There is no half and half with pineapple on pizza! The juice gets everywhere!
here for the mullet content
So cool to find out that someone I look up to is also non-monogamous 🥰
If you’re going to look up to someone...isn’t Ty just so lovely ☺️
christy makes the right pizza choice so i think i have no choice but to stan
THANK you
@@christyalexia the truth
I love the level of communication and how well you articulate your feelings of like I wish my partner was with me and I'm missing their attention vs possessive jealousy
Annoyed by Grindr in 10 minutes is an absolute mood.
As a polyamorous person I love seeing how y'all are handling your relationship in a way that works for y'all and being communicative with each other!!
It's beautiful that you two can be so open with each other. More relationships need that and the communication! 🖤
I'm a little over 30 years older than you and it's always amazed me, especially in the LGBTQ+ community, that people have an issue with open relationships. They can't separate sex from love/commitment.
Boom....
so if my significant other left me, even after telling them I'd be willing to have an open relationship .... then they didn't actually love me. did they??? I agree with your comment. I'm just asking for clarification. this has been driving me insane. I would have let them fuck WHOEVER they want ...... forgave them for cheating on me multiple times ...... but I guess that wasn't enough.
What has being LGBT got to do with it.... im lesbian and as monogamous as any straight perso
@@thoraneh7365 What does monogamy have to do with straight people? Are you assuming ALL straight couples are monogamous?
In my comment, I DIDN'T say "everyone" in the LGBTQ+ community, I said "people". I have been an out gay man for 45 years, so I have just a little bit of experience in the LGBTQ+ community ;) And I have 0 years experience in the straight community, so I can't comment on that.
FYI, I have been in both open and closed relationships. My last relationship was closed and lasted until my partner passed away, 10 years on. We had both previously been in an open relationship. Over the 10 years, we did discuss opening up our relationship a couple of times, but neither of us wanted to do it. It was kind of a health check for us.
@@MrChrisbtacos I would say if you were in that situation, there were other things that contributed to the breakup other than whether you were willing to be in an open relationship or not. I'm not the one to ask if they loved you or not, but people can fall out of love also.
I’m so glad you are more comfortable with your sexuality. ❤️❤️ Also, I may not be poly AT ALL (😂😂) but I appreciate you sharing your experience
loved this video. I gotta say, it's been so cool watching your videos over the years and watching you become more comfortable with yourself and embrace different aspects of yourself. Wishing you and Christy the best!
I bought the long sleeve rad to the bone shirts its one of my favorite, also thabk you for sharing this part of you ty its cool to see peoples takes on open relationships and how vastly different it can be from couple to couple
In my opinion, this relationship sounds healthy af, and anyone giving y'all shit needs to mind their own damn business. Happy for you, Ty. 💜
Thank you for this!! It feels so good to have someone I look up to voice their experience with an honest, open relationship.
I’ve had a similar situation to when you went away for a month and Christie was with someone. My partner and I are both non binary but they’re polyamorous and I’m monogamous. During quarantine we’re in separate towns about 2hrs apart for now coz we’re both broke af, which sucks but I love them. They’ve been seeing a girl in their little town and I sometimes feel jealous, but I really think it’s just coz they aren’t directly with me and I miss them, more than I feel like i don’t want them seeing someone else. We talk about it a lot and I know my partner loves me, they just have other partners and I’m okay with that. Sex hasn’t been a huge part of our relationship, actually, and since we’re both young and not really planning on marriage at all it’s been good with my partner. I do have pretty heavy anxiety and I have spiraled about whether or not an open relationship is going to work, but I know it’s irrational and when I really think about our rules and honesty and it brings me out of my funk, especially cause I have my partner to talk to and I trust them.
does this mean you work 4 jobs now? legendary
Thanks for the video mate, this is a conversation my fiancé and I had once I transitioned and had an “oh s****** I’m attracted to dudes” and she missed being with what she presumed was a woman. So far, so good. Communication is key. Great insight ✌️
As a genderqueer person, I have been in open/ply relationships for the past 30 years. Hang in there. I respect you both for your honesty and willingness to tackle the non-binary reality of life (except for pineapple on pizza... that just is an abomination!) Hugs to you both!
love the intro retro vibes
The mustache is taking you to a post Malone look
I am an older married woman in an open marriage &been told many times that being "open" is the same as being "polyamorous" but I disagree. For us, being open means we are free to be intimate with other people separately, within the boundaries we have agreed upon, while poly for us would be being in a committed relationship with an additional partner. Ultimately, all relationships are unique to the people involved. The rules and boundaries we have decided upon may not work for someone else, and vice-versa. We do not currently have "extras" in our lives due to covid and other factors, but have been successful previously having them involved. When we figure out our "new normal" that might change if things work out.
Thank you so much for this, you give an honest and very nice vibe surround this subject. This was exactly what I needed to hear!
Thanks for educating me! I don’t know that much about Poly relationships but I like to keep myself educated! Instant sub!❤️
Love and sex are different things. My husband and I have an ask first rule... because sometimes you'll want to say no. With that rule in place things are amazing.
I would love an open relationship, but my boyfriend is SUPER monogamous (at least apparently). I'm a bi girl and he is the first person I've ever had a relationship AND sexual experiences with, and we've been together for more than 5 years. I've started to really feel the need to experience with girls too, expecially since finding some "incompatibilities" in sex, but I'm afraid that asking that will make him feel like I'm not attracted to him anymore or don't love him anymore, both of which are untrue. Relationships are so hard sometimes :(
Well, now is the time. You are both at the height of attractiveness. Dude, you are one of the most attractive and handsome men I have encountered. Too bad I could be your grandfather.
Dude, I respect everything you're saying. It involves a lot of communication to make something like this work. My partner and I decided 6 mos. ago that we're poly and we've talked about it so much. And we've had fun conversations like finding out what we really are and aren't interested in. Granted, this isn't an open relationship, and I understand they're different. It's just funny how you're explaining this. I've started realizing that I'm nonbinary and my sexual preference is also changing/evolving. I get exactly what you mean by being attracted to someone and not having to feel guilt about it. It's nice and a relief almost. Anyways, lol I appreciate your video. It's good to have representation out there and I know putting yourself out there is a risk. But thanks for sharing!
"Just kidding... Unless? "
This sounds great. I'd totally be down with an open relationship, knowing that I wouldn't be able to completely please someone all the time. So many people have such a hard time grappling with the idea of dedication coexisting with open relationships, and they've critiqued me with how casual I am about the idea (thinking I'm too aloof or something). I just don't really get jealous, and I see it as a way of everyone being able to get what they want.
People always ask about jealousy in my polyamorous relationships, but I always tell them that I've never felt jealousy without it coming from some other unprocessed feeling.
Every time I feel a twinge of jealousy I look at it more closely and find that beneath it there's an unmet need or unprocessed anxiety in/about my relationship.
Most recently I felt a bit jealous of my partner's partner, let's call her M. When I searched my feelings I realized I was really just afraid of M changing her mind about being poly or about me in particular because I don't want anything to destabilise my relationship with our mutual partner.
Once I understood and processed the anxiety at the source of my jealousy it went away.
Man, I really wish I didn't get jealous about that stuff. I've been educating myself about open relationships for a while now, hoping it would make me be ok with it. But I guess I'm just not that kind of person. I still get nauseous just thinking about my partner sleeping with someone else.
I understand. I’m similar. I highly respect polyamorous people and polyamory as a whole, but it’s just not for me (at least right now). I know that a lot of it is because of past trauma, so I try not to be hard on myself about it. 🖤
That's totally normal! For years I was never interested in having an open relationship and the thought of it also made me nauseous as well! It was upsetting to think about but well... here we are!! lol it also helps that we have certain boundaries so it doesn't feel like I'm competing with other people. We love and trust eachother very much!
I really don't understand why there should be this need to "make you be ok with it", if it isn't. With all due respect to poly and non-monogamous people, there is also nothing wrong with being monogamous and wanting a monogamous partner (and no, not wanting an open relationship does not make you immature or close minded - it is actually quite mature to know what you want and to not settle for less). :-)
@@Astgsfgt agreed! You never have to do anything you are uncomfortable with and not everyone has to want an open relationship. Being in an open relationship or have a monogamous one is okay. Nobody needs to make anybody feel like one is superior.
Your mullet is righteous, keep it up brother
I had an open relationship with my last partner from the jump. My partner broke up with me a month ago for reasons not even remotely related to that- However, I think in the future I will not want to BEGIN relationships as open. This is me personally, but may be helpful advice to someone else: I think in building the foundation of a relationship, it is wise to be in a situation that is more conducive to forming a "closed-circuit" bond with each other. Even if the primary partners are comfortable with being open, and maybe don't even take advantage of the openness (like we were unable to for most of the pandemic), you still end up spending attention/energy/mental space thinking about or connecting with other people. (TLDR:) I believe it's more valuable to put that attention/energy/mental space into connecting with your partner when establishing the relationship. Once your foundation is very solid, opening it up would be less potentially detrimental to your connection, imo.
Ty has never met a pair of legs he didn't like
I find this really interesting. I'm bisexual (omnisexual technically, bi is just the term I've always used), and my ex told me she was cool with me getting with a guy if I wanted to experiment (I hadn't done anything with a dude at that time). But I knew that would be problematic, because I'm definitely too insecure to deal with my GF sleeping with other men? Despite her never saying that, it just didn't seem "fair" that I'd have that freedom but she wouldn't if that makes sense?
Why am I like this?
Thank you for the insight ✌🏻
she said yes to pineapple and you're still with her, that has to be love...
Side note loving the new intro and socials animations, looks dope
thank you i worked hard on those!
This isn't a polyamorous answer or anything, I just want to give my view on who I like-- I'm 30 yrs old, and I've been a lesbian my whole life. Men's bodys are art, just like womens, but I find myself wanting to hurl if I even think about kissing a man. Last year during lockdown, I realized I was nonbinary, and earlier this year I figured out that I'm trans. And I am so happy about that finding. Also, all my life, I've found trans guys so attractive and would even date one if I had the chance. Now that I know what my future entails, once I transition, I would really love to be a gay guy who dates trans guys. It's an interesting concept I find myself thinking about a lot.💛
If both of you are happy, nothing else matters...
Positive algorithm comment because people's opinions are TIIRRINGGG. Loved this video ❤
People who believe that an open relationship is damning to a relationship are the ones who are confusing cheating and lying with communication and honesty. If your relationship has great communication you will last. Not denying each other the opportunity to grow and explore not just yourself but other types of relationship is granting and supporting your partners growth. It’s healthy, it’s love, it’s unselfish. Thanks for sharing.
Rural Arkansas gang ✌
U need to make mask with them logos
All I understood from this video was your moustache! Lovin’ your style!
I dont know who this person is but I came for the mullet and found a beautiful man. Holy hell that mullet and stache is fantastic.
Edit: Poly just wasnt for me. My girlfriend was married and that forever felt like I was always going to be cast to the side. But we are all really tight still as friends :)
I enjoy monogamy. Its good for us. Im happy you found what works for y ou guys
"I'm on grindr every once in a while and I get annoyed with that in ten minutes" Such a mood lmfao
Y'all are still together yay!!!
Someone said you're one of the few people who can pull off a mullet and I just-
You're magnificent.
I wonder if you transitioning while you were together was a factor. She went from being in a lesbian relationship to a straight one. Assuming you started after you were already together.
The editing on this video is amazing!
i think any type relationship works as long as you guys know where each other’s headspace are and where your moral core value coincides. Different strokes for different folks. You can live however you and your partner decides if it makes you happy. Cause it’s between you & her. It’s sad that ppl don’t understand that. Everyone has their own preference and you got to respect that. If it’s not harming the two of you than nothing else matters. You live your life. I’m more of a mono to mono. I liike how you express this with great maturity and level headedness it makes sense and sounds fair for the two of you.
“Just a little bit of gay on the side”💀🤣👌🏾
"If Grindr's gotta go, it's a small sacrifice to make" I LOVE that. My husband and I are polyam (both transmasc and gay/bi/pan) and our stance is, if it happens it happens. If it doesn't, well our relationship is perfect just the way it is anyway too. :) I mean, one day we'd like to have another partner to share our lives with, but we don't NEED it to be happy
You two have a wonderful relationship with each other ❤️
Hey my relationship is actually really similar to this it’s nice to know I’m not alone 😅
me for half a second "what about non-binary?" Ty: and we live in rural Arkansas.... me: oh makes sense
I think you sound like an amazing couple and very happy together and I'm genuinely super happy for you
I love how long it’s been since I’ve watched your videos but instantly recognized Christy.
Good for both of you, and thank you for your honesty. It's inspiring :)
I’m so happy for you both. Sending much love,
Hats off to those who are in an open relationships!
Omg Ty I’ve been watching you for a while but I guess I’ve fallen back on watching your content bc WHEN DID THE MULLET ARRIVE! 😂
As a fellow polyamorous non-binary... Thank YOU! I feel alone sometimes.
Good to hear you two have a healthier relationship and found a way to complete both of your needs.
just wanted to say your mullet is perfect it's truly the best mullet i've ever seen
You're rocking that mullet my guy👌🔥
Super interesting. Thanks for sharing.
I actually figured out I'm poly 8 years before I knew I'm trans.
Oddly enough the "discovery" moment as I'm calling it was super similar in the sense of both being super powerful and significant.
Something clicked the first time I was able to freely be affectionate towards two partners. Specifically at the same time. I felt those feelings at 16 and didn't know the words for things til like 22.
Also my first time feeling compersion was groundbreaking. Even though I've tried my best to only find myself in poly situations it's been harder than expected. But I love it when I really click with a metamour of whatever gender. it's a wonderful feeling.
Poly isn't for everyone. But if you know, you know. And you should at least explore and educate yourself on the variants of non-monogamy so you don't waste years of your life compressing feelings that shouldn't be compressed. You could live a lot of your life thinking you're a bad person or yo don't love people simply because of your attraction or [platonic/not] love for others.
*Can’t tell you how jealous I am of your relationship*
Ty you have always been my fav youtuber and still are. your hair totally rocks.. mullets are the bomb!!! Love you ❤😊😛!!!!
Unrelated but ty your facial hair is looking SO good
You explained my current, and longest, relationship perfectly. I call it being poly but it’s not exactly that, calling it open doesn’t exactly feel accurate either. Me and my partner are currently separated by thousands of miles and even if we weren’t we are both free to explore the other genders we are attracted to so we don’t have that pressure of hiding that attraction, plus we are both kinky lil shits and aren’t always into the same ones.
Ugh this is my dream situation. My bf has started to open up with his kinks but they're starting to "pile up" and I feel like somebody else could satisfy them more than me; now I feel less comfortable exposing my preferences because they basically are the opposites of what he seems to want. Fml
I was just in a poly relationship with a couple and it went south very quickly. I was hesitant to date both of them since they were already a couple and it went as expected. The other girl decided to end it because she couldn't handle her boyfriend being with me so I lost 2 people I had been making a connection with and they ended up breaking up over it. Ill be doing solo poly for a while now