Spoken like a true woman!! So true! This is what men need to hear. Once she walks, its too late. She for sure has been telling him. But they call that "nagging".
i'd argue that thats why love is unconditional with men and conditional with women. men will always love you unconditionally, specially when things get rough for you and you change.. women will just walk away cause you changed, expecting the men to stay the same like on day 1.. its unconditional vs conditional love my dear. even the family and best friends of my ex said wtf she doing.. never seen it the other way around
He won’t get right because he thinks she’s always going to be there thinking she loves him soo much that she doesn’t have the energy/ strength to walk away ☮️🤲🏾🙏🏾✊🏾🤜🏾🤛🏾
My wife walked away from me 2 times in 15 years. On the 2nd time I hated her and wanted to NEVER see her again. A year and a half passed by and I had a lot of me time. It was in that me time that I realized that a lot of the problem was me. So I worked on myself so that one day when God sees fit he would bring me the right woman along to share the new improved me. God did bring me the woman of my dreams that I’ve been waiting for and that woman was the wife that left me twice. We’ve been back together for 3 years now and are engaged to get married for a 3rd and final time. This 3rd time around our relationship is 1000 times better than the 1st and 2nd time. I can’t describe it but when God wants you to be together you see God in your marriage.
@Nananana09174The only problem with that is if your praying for someone else to change than more than likely it really means you need to change for the relationship to work. I also prayed that my wife felt that way but it wasn’t until I prayed for change in myself that it worked. 😂
@@subaithanasreenakramWell if I may be honest with you, you do not want a man who is not interested in you. My wife was very interested in me and I also in her. The issue with us was that we both didn’t value each other the way that it was ordained to be. When you have someone who is not interested in you that’s a big difference and more than likely not the man God has blessed you with. Now I will also say this because I don’t know both sides, if you are both blessed to be with each other and your husband is not interested anymore it could also be that he is tired. Now what do I mean? Let me explain. My wife loved me a lot but was tired of me not listening but I couldn’t listen because I was too busy trying to get her to listen to me. So what I’m saying is sometimes it’s not so much your partner as it is you. Take a moment and reflect on what you can do better to satisfy him. Maybe tell him you’re ready to listen to him and actually try it his way. If your relationship gets better than you know it was you had to change more so than him. When I started to change myself and stop trying to change my wife is when our relationship worked. Good luck and I’m rooting for you whether he is the one or someone else God has for you is the one.
I just walked away from a man of 16 years . I love him with all my heart. Worked two jobs to get him to where he’s at. There was absolutely nothing I would not do for him. But when he got a job and on his feet i became nothing to him. It was like he forgot the promise we once made. On my birthday he didn’t even come home to me he was with another woman. At that moment i made a sound decision to walk away for that relationship. An in the mist of this storm I’m allowing God to speak peace to my heart, mind, and soul. I’m break down a lot of times but I know God is going to give me a break through
I agree, no telling how long she had to stay before she got the courage , it took me yrs, but finally one day! Whew... thought I weren't gonna make it!
Yessssssssss.cuz I hv been thereeeeee....thank you Lord for giving me the strength to do a cece peniston....KEEP ON WALKING 1 AIN'T TALKING TO YOU ANYMORE ❤❤
Yup, definitely the best choice I have done for myself. It allowed me to love myself first and save myself. An important lesson I needed to learn before getting back in any relationship. Same idea for putting the mask on yourself first in an airplane 😉
@@realfan91while I’m not big on religion… I believe if having faith in a higher power or a God is what helps people cope and move forward then that’s what it is for them. There is no shame or hate in that because at the end of the day they are better people for themselves and the rest of us.
@@realfan91PSA 4U: EVERYTHING on this earth is God’s business. You feeling salty towards Him is YOUR issue. Don’t you dare tell anyone they can’t bring God. He runs this earth, not you!!
Be careful who you talk to. Because this period is a period of vulnerability and talking to a wrong person will only add to the pain in the long run even when it appears with a relief in the short run. I choose to stay with God when I discovered my wife has been talking to a younger guy for about 2 months prior to my discovery. I was going through a tough time financially and discovering that torn me apart
A woman gains clarity when she realizes Her healing and self-respect is more important than his clarity. Because He was clear when HE showed through his own actions & behavior that he didn’t value her.
What I came to realize is that we can 'love' someone simply because they're familiar to us even when deep down we know they're not good for us. Don't confuse missing someone with loving someone.
Walking away was the best decision I ever made when dating a man who never took any accountability for his wrongdoing. It led me straight to my now husband 😊
I'm I thus but I'm with someone that l break my back for him but it's never enough for him he became under mental health issues I'm lost just can't walk need help
I approve this message. My husband called me a week later after our separation and asked can he come home. NOPE. Peace of mind and loving yourself is God's Greatest Gift.
Most men bring the drama into the relationship and expect the woman to stay in the drama … the lies …the gaslighting … the cheating …the verbal abuse…the physical abuse. Good for you
My ex had a midlife and blew up our entire life. He left & ghosted me for 45 days. I said nothing. On day 45 I filed for divorce. I said absolutely nothing during the year it took to finalize everything. I waited 365 days for him to come to his senses. After divorce was finalized he told me he made the biggest mistake and didn’t know how to fix it, I would have taken a simple “hello”. He still reaches out from time to time. I miss him everyday but for my emotional & physical health I had to leave quietly & am still quiet. I am still healing.
You are stronger than u think. Ssomeone ghosted me for 2 months...we dont deserve it. Everytime u feel like going bck remember how he made u feel when he ghosted.
God loves you. Forgive and close the door dear. Open doors and windows of your life means that person still has a chance. Calls, text messages, emails, cut the communication line.
A lot of them want to get back together again when they've had time to think about it, and they see what's out there and remember what they had with you. But I think they just mourn it and miss it because you're not there. Go back, and it would probably start again - the bad stuff.
It was 4 yrs for me. Heartbreaking. I had to go. It was getting worse and he wanted his ex wife back because she allowed anything. Doormat. After I left, he didn't get why........ seriously?
❤❤❤❤❤ took 24 of pure Wicked falsehood of person, broke my back and hit me, lied FROM the beginning, the church facade and clan of liers covered up his lies..being told not to love her too much because she might cheat on you, when he was who talked about cheat on me and abused me, even called my job and lost cause of him....told lies all over, played in VICTIM, lol. I had bb sepsis pancreatitis and gastroparesis with 2 back surgeries and multiple levels of herniated discs and they still haven't said sorry for breaking your back and almost my neck, Lost my house, my own Adult kids but gained respect...the lie detector tests proved that he was who lied...
Yep that's a woman for you folks, one foot in the relationship one foot out because when things start being rough and not going according to their benefit they run like the wind
Walking away is not done for the purpose of getting a man back, but to preserve, care for and respect herself. Putting her heart first is what he’s referring to.
This is absolutely true. I healed my heart, the heart l never thought would heal. But the distance gave me the healing. And in that time he decided he needed me however it was too late.
@@SusanMarsman-rj8nc I'm glad it worked against his favor in the end! He doesn't deserve your love. Men really don't get any better anyway after they've treated you beneath what you are worth.
I totally agree it can go both ways unfortunately he's pushing u out the door so many times..when u finally don't return he then realizes. SHE'S GONE🎶🎶🎶and he has to learn how to take it🎶🎶😔
This is true but many people think they love and love is NOT rainbows and cupcakes!!! It’s cleaning urine from your diabetic blind dog at 3 am!!!! It’s love that supersedes death!!!!! Peolle don’t understand love! They want money and sex and stupidity!
When a woman learns to walk away from the man that she loves deeply, chances are, her heart is sooo hurt tired from giving so much live & not being loved back properly, and chances are, she'd decide to back off completely from that man. LOVE BEGETS LOVE!🥰🤗✌✌✌
A woman I cared deeply about did this to me and I became bitter about it at first then I realized I was in the wrong but I did work hard on myself and became a better man from it , I thanked her for that
Very mature response.. good for you on becoming a better person 🙌🏾. It will serve your life well in the long run. There are So many incels through the comment section blaming women for their own failures as a man...... their mentality is truly disgusting. Women avoid the collective of males like the plague with the uprise in number and exposure of these dudes.
@user-hr4hh6ow4d Thanks for your honesty for not staying better, and also for being honest how it made you a better person that she walked away. I wish you all the best!!
I did walk away and I loved this person more than I can Prescribe I knew he had no love for me he could not have treated me so wrong I was so honest and faithful pure to this person all I every wanted was his love but u can't by true love it doest work true love comes from the heart it a feeling no one can predict to the next person it's a feeling that doest leave over night it's a love u never forget it's a love you want to live with for Eternity to never end its just a love that's hard as hell to get over 😊
A woman doesn't walk away to give the space in anticipation of a reciprocation from a man. She finally walks away because she understands he's never going to love her back, treat her good , be with her. She walks back because she understands she deserves to give that love to herself that love which she gave to that man , she takes time for her healing , navigates through life, her ex calls her but she understands her value by that time, she deserves better in life, in career, in health and ofcourse in a partner.
No need to hold on to someone who’s not holding on to you. It’s the moment you start to love yourself 1st and enough to walk away. Know your worth!!! Peace Love and Light 💜💜💜
Came across you message heart break 💔 is the worse and I’m going thru it I’m praying to God for his strength because I can’t do this alone it hurts too much
@@jennifervickers4835 Self Love is the greatest love of all. Once you embrace the love you have for yourself, nothing else can compare or compete with it because it’s your inner Peace. Connect with that inner peace and heal. You got this Goddess!!! I wish you Peace Love and Light 💜💜💜
@@OriginalGoddess111 I pray that God will deliver me from this awful pain. He (my husband) just abandoned me in his country I have nothing to go back too. SELF LOVE I PRAY TO KNOW WHAT THAT’S LIKE AND THANK YOU FOR YOU INSPIRATION
Jennifer, God and your angels/spirit guides can give you the guidance you need. Take time to ask for their advice. Have pen & paper beside you & write down the advice that comes to you. We all have trials and challenges. They help us to become better people if we’re open to divine help and guidance.
My husband and I went through this over a year ago. I walked away and he had space to see and think clearly. I left it in God's hands and if God wanted me with him then God would work in him to change if he allowed him. Well God got involved in it and now we're still married but a much better couple. The best apology is actions showing the change. Thank you Lord for working in my marriage and I pray that you stay in our marriage business no matter what and I pray this for others marriages too who want to see theirs succeed.
I've been praying to God to change him but my prayers have gone unanswered so far. I know God is listening though. That's prob why I'm seeing this video. From my heart, I want to say thank you for not giving up on your marriage after he changed. I genuinely mean that. The vowel of matrimony is a vowel taken before God and shouldn't be taken lightly or broken. Obviously there are exceptions but ideally it shouldn't be broken. And today, especially today, so many ppl just give up. Bc society's standards accept it. It's the new normal and that's sad. Love is the only thing in this world that ever really mattered and trying your best to salvage it is such an admirable trait Xo. Please pray for me that I make the right decision. God Bless you and God Bless your sacred vowel of matrimony.
@@jennymac7938God involves in those marriages where He sees that there is still enough love left to heal souls❤I've been through this...do not dispear💪.Nothing without God!🙏
I'm about to stop my relationship cause I don't see any progress. I hope not to regret it, I really need to go and develop my self cause he doesn't want to take us to the next level. This is over two years now but we are still on the same spot 😔
Hoping that person loves or cares enough for you..My ex fiance dropped by and ask if I could take to the airport.. leaving because of job transfer.. When he showed up..ask for a ride..I had recently found I had to have surgery so disease wouldn't spread..II was reluctant to tell him..But he didn't ask anf left .I guess there's Always excuses you make for that uncaring person..As time goes by..You see more clearer with your eye's wide open..And question how do you want to spend quality time.. Possibly open for a quality husband
Stp bringing God into your unholy matrimony, he's not helping you in no relationship tht wasn't sanctioned by him. Y'all really believe you can go against God's will at your will but then turn around and expect him to not let you learn the hard way on your own. Stp being delusional, Marriage is for God's ppl and God's ppl ONLY !
I agree. After 6 years of marriage, I finally walked away. He did nothing to fight for me. Out of nowhere, a man I knew from high school walked into my life and showed me the true meaning of love. A God fearing, man. We are so in tune its mind blowing. I thank God for him every day 😍
Sometimes you're already in that fruitful relationship you just don't know it yet. I'm just saying be as sure as possible before you give up by discussing it with the other person first before ending it.
I personally think when a woman leaves a man that she loves. It gives her clarity. What the man does, however, is run into the arms of another woman. He's not wise enough to take that same time to heal or get the clarity he may need.
That is exactly what I did to my husband. And then after 2 years apart, He said: " it was the best thing you did for me" and He said one more thing that was: " I found out that I lost the best of my life."
You forgot to mention the MOST IMPORTANT part… he had his chance and he lost her! Walking away means more than just waiting on the man she walked away from to gain clarity. Life goes on! And let’s keep it 💯 a man doesn’t realize what he’s lost until it’s gone!
A woman who already saw a lot in her life doesnt want another bullshit in life. All she desires is peace and love and trust and faithfullness from her man. She has no time for anything else.❤
I walked away from my husband and his family. I loved him sooooooooo much with all my heart. I didn’t settle for separation. All or nothing. We filed for divorce and I told God, if it’s not from him then I didn’t lose anything. But I gained life. I chose to heal rather than burden myself with distant care. It’s almost a year now since I left. I even moved states & started over. Job, car, apartment, & I have a new boo who is planning to propose to me. I’m trusting God and I’m thankful my heart is still open AND pure through all the trauma.
@@user-wd9gn8uc2z lol. I can’t be the surest. But only if I put my trust in God. And do it His way. My focus is obedience to the Kingdom of Heaven. No cap.
Sadly some men think women should compromise their values to be with them...that's just too expensive for my tastes. Allah over all and peace of mind and ❤️
My father told me that if a man disrespects me (cheats, hits, calls me out my name etc) even once to let him go and I stand on that….I’m not giving a million chances when u already know what’s right and what’s wrong and u choose to do wrong
Walked away after 36 years of marriage. Got married at 20 years old. This is the first time I’ve ever lived by myself and I’m getting used to it. My heart is healing. My emotions are coming together and self-respect is strong.
Never leave a man expecting him to come back. If you leave, it should be because you have exhausted all possibilities with him. He may change. Who knows? But, life is too short to wait and see if he will change, and more so, will he change for you or someone else? Don’t waste a minute looking back. Look forward.
Also if a man has the power to walk away especially after the man has invested all his money and time into it and walked away with forgiveness and understanding, that is taking your power back and thus power is his fuel to heal his heart and leaves the woman whose heart was broken from others time to reflect on her walls and beliefs and patterns and hopefully that Time will benefit her and maybe she will be able to trust and believe in pure Love again
He will change for someone else.... experiencing all that now. Yrs of my life wasted, prayers and all..I just have kids to show for my time wasted. Now he decides to want to straighten up for the next. It was my fault that I stayed, giving the benefit of the doubt and constantly being disrespected...I can now admit that in reality, I wasn't his choice just his convenient spot. I was told that I was a nagger all because I wanted to try new things and go places... I was told that I was always making assumptions, but in the end those assumptions were right. Now he is showing off this chic and going places with her .. I'm just in awe. I am slowly working on forgiving myself for allowing things to happen in my life. I don't take any of it as a loss but just a lesson.
I have to add this. Not all men are like this. I know many men who adore, respect and admire their spouse and partner. Did not want you think I am a man hater. 😉
I actually know many more women acquaintances and Friends of friends, that do not appreciate their good men. But if the men are staying, then it comes from their own emotional trauma and neglect in relation to the mother wound and they are repeating their patterns, just as a woman who stays and doesn't recognize why she attracted what she did.... dysfunction can only attract dysfunction. Like attracts like. There will always be something someone can heal within themselves Please Never worry about what someone thinks as or does because it has nothing to do with you and will merely be a reflection of what's going on within THEM at that exact particular moment... That's why people's perceptions of you or the external world will change depending on how they're feeling at the time, it has nothing to do with the outside world at all, or the person they are interacting with Another person or situation is just the mirror that reflects back to people what's inside themselves. Don't spend your precious energy even considering how someone views you because it is none of your business, as the saying goes lol. They will see you as they see themselves , it does not matter what you do or what you say or how you act . I wish I could impart that secret knowledge to every child/teenager in the world that is trying to fit in versus discover & stand tall in their authentic self/ gifts instead vs subconsciously creating the false self that we all do, to get our needs met with in the family, and then we carry that into adulthood. No one can see you with clarity if they cannot see themselves clearly . And don't you find it interesting that when someone speaks the truth, unhealthy / toxic people assume it's a complete opposite, if someone refuses an injection it makes them anti injection. If someone speaks the truth about their personal experience, like knowing wonderful men, just as I do..... that doesn't negate what the other person is saying or make somebody a hater of any kind. The world doesn't even realize how they are speaking and thinking in extremes all day long , which is so inaccurate and harmful People are so screwed up with their Duality that they think just because there's new information given or a slight different perspective , that it somehow magically negates the other's feelings/ beliefs🤔 bizarre right? .@@Kathy-wt3ie " those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter"❤ the day people stop putting family members especially, or anyone on a pedestal... is the day they are truly free. Because people pleasing or overgiving without receiving, in a balanced healthy way.... is actually a "fawning" response to Childhood emotional trauma and neglect...😢
I hope he realizes. But that's because i imagine him coming back and making it all right. But that is unhealthy. I need to be ok with him not realizing. I need to not think about him AT ALL anymore. I just need to move on.
Walking away is the hardest part when you love someone, because it’s in that moment that you realize you were not chosen by him and better yet God didn’t choose him for you. You knew it but just didn’t want to believe it. It was best thing that ever happened to me. Because it allowed me to live a more purposeful life, get closer to God, and work on my true calling! God is real! I’m so grateful!!❤
Amen to that, I’m currently going through the process of brokenhearted healing. I talk about it on my channel in hopes of helping others escape the heartaches that I have 😢. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
@@kaytlynngantner1111it’s so hard when you invested all your time into a person you loved dearly 😢. I’m going through that process right now. I hope you find a way out for good. Best wishes to you.
@@TekaLachic it gets easier but it’s still hard and I think about going back still.. and I got flowers so it’s hard to think like is it gonna be different this time?
True. I walked away, healed and found a great life. He changed his ways out of the shock and ended up finding God and becoming a Youth Pastor. By having the courage to love myself I was able to help him too as a human being who needed to grow too.
My ex!! Blame game. My life is so much better and so much less toxic! I have met some amazing people and learning so much from this hell he put me in. Never again will I chose the so called good guy! Con man in disguise and salt and sugar look the same so be very careful whom you let in your life.
Woman doesn't walk away from man to give him space for his clarity. She walks away because her love isn't reciprocated the right way and she should never come back to anybody who ever made/makes her second guess his love for her.
Sometimes ppl new to grow and heal tho....they become their authentic self who is able to show love proper because they are finally able to love themselves. It's called unconditional love.
I walked away 21 yrs ago and found and fell in love with myself. Never looked back and I know was God that allowed it to happen so I can have the peace and beautiful life that I’m living nowadays. 🙏🏽🙇🏽♀️🙇🏽♀️
Walking away means I am done with all the foolish .walking away can be the best thing that ever happen to you.walking away allows you to take control of own life.
There are women that healing is not their priority. They cannot be alone for them being alone is a torturous existence thus, they will bend backwards in order to keep a man next to them and that is their choice.The unfortunate part is bringing a child into the equation because they are stunting the growth and life experience of another human being.
I walked away from a 2yr relationship, I was disrespected and felt so unloved. I was done chasing someone that didn’t want me, he found so much fault in me, but he couldn’t see the good in me. I walked away for my self respect. I’m single now, but I’m at peace. I walked away for the 3rd time for my peace of mind. I don’t need a man in my life anymore I’m good with being alone. My peace is so important to me at this time in my life 64. Single and loving it.
I walked away when I had reached the bitter end. He had the audacity to beg me to stay. I wasted 4 years and refused to waste another minute of my time.
"When a woman has the power to walk away from the man she loves but he's not loving her back the right way. She allows her heart space to heal .You're able It gives the man space to have clarity.. Sometimes Access breeds blindness. The further away you are from it.the more it comes into view." ❤ Preach.
This is so true... For men and women. And when you are willing to walk away you see clearly that what you thought you wanted and needed is not half of what you deserved.
I just walked away from my man today...I had apanic attack this morning. While being w him was disconnected to God and he was not connected to God...I want to go back tomwhat it was before I met my man...only time will tell what ia going to happen
Love this. This is exactly what I just did. Love this man like nothing else but could not tolerate his disrespect and verbal abuse. I picked up all of my belongings with a U haul and went cold Turkey with deep pain in my heart. I believe if he is meant to be with me, he will gain clarity and realize what he lost . If we are meant to be together God and faith will bring us back together. If we are not ., then I accept this is the road and path meant to be.
It only gets better, you might have flashbacks, flash... flames to continue... you are not alone, there are many of us taking the plunge into better, better self, seeing & learning to value & love ourselves
This is The story of every man I’ve left… even after going back they still don’t know. Please, Don’t go back ladies. If he knew what you meant to him he will never take the chance of losing you. Let him stay in his “clarity” and practice that on his next relationship. There is someone out there that will not take you through drama in the name of love.
"Sometimes access breeds blindness." What a Word! God, I heard you say, "Let it go." And although I didn't understand it fully at that moment, I was obedient, and I let that man go. And I am so happy that I chose God's word over my emotions because if I had stayed in that relationship, it would have destroyed everything God invested within me. I would have lost myself. Thank God for another chance to love again. I know that when it's your perfect will, I will have the man of God you have for me. Until then, I will continue to allow my heart to heal.🙏🏽❤
I was sick of his emotional infidelity with the same equally vile woman. I was a bit of a doormat, which is why he kept on emotionally abusing me. I hope he realises the love I had for him, even though it’s way too late. I’m not prepared to waste anymore years on an ungrateful individual, I’ve already wasted 22 years. I walked away to save my sanity and be a better mother.
Why do you need him to realize the love you had for him? He knows …he just doesn’t care! Accept that part and move on. If he wanted to be faithful to you he would have done so. He didn’t want to remain faithful that’s why he kept cheating on you.
@@Bri-nc8yp you’re absolutely right, he doesn’t care, but he has also somewhat abandoned our children too. His Narcissistic Personality has caused so much pain and suffering. I know I’m bitter, but I don’t want him to regret leaving me, but regret the suffering he caused to his own children and to regret destroying innocent lives because of some tramp who goes through men like there’s no tomorrow, especially married men. I now no longer care that his own childhood was crap, he has destroyed his children’s childhood. I spent 22 years being emotionally abused by him, then discarded and left to pick up the pieces while struggling with depression (caused by his behaviour) and trying to be a mother. This betrayal has hit deep, I will get over it, but he deserves a taste of his own poison.
Ha! Most men don't take the time to gain clarity. They put on a strong front, jump right into another relationship and take their confusion with them because that's easier than any kind of self reflection
Rushing into another relationship with only get you to a big shallow mess of rebound relationship and more confusion and regrets. Smart and deep people don't run into another relationship but wait to be healed from the emotional abuse then hope the right person will come.
When a woman walks away...for her self respect❤she aint coming back:")
Spoken like a true woman!! So true! This is what men need to hear. Once she walks, its too late. She for sure has been telling him. But they call that "nagging".
i'd argue that thats why love is unconditional with men and conditional with women. men will always love you unconditionally, specially when things get rough for you and you change.. women will just walk away cause you changed, expecting the men to stay the same like on day 1..
its unconditional vs conditional love my dear.
even the family and best friends of my ex said wtf she doing.. never seen it the other way around
Facts‼️💯🔥
@@howtogetridofhemorrhoids I AM NEVER ALONE...GOD IS ALWAYS WITH ME ...GOTTA LEARN TO BE HAPPY ON YOUR OWN !!!
That's right
When the woman has the power to walk away, she's already tried a million times to tell you what's wrong and gave you a multitude of chances.
N yet the dnt get it
Except for telling directly what you want huh😂
He won’t get right because he thinks she’s always going to be there thinking she loves him soo much that she doesn’t have the energy/ strength to walk away ☮️🤲🏾🙏🏾✊🏾🤜🏾🤛🏾
100000%
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My wife walked away from me 2 times in 15 years. On the 2nd time I hated her and wanted to NEVER see her again. A year and a half passed by and I had a lot of me time. It was in that me time that I realized that a lot of the problem was me. So I worked on myself so that one day when God sees fit he would bring me the right woman along to share the new improved me. God did bring me the woman of my dreams that I’ve been waiting for and that woman was the wife that left me twice. We’ve been back together for 3 years now and are engaged to get married for a 3rd and final time. This 3rd time around our relationship is 1000 times better than the 1st and 2nd time. I can’t describe it but when God wants you to be together you see God in your marriage.
Wow...that's amazing!
Congrats
@Nananana09174The only problem with that is if your praying for someone else to change than more than likely it really means you need to change for the relationship to work. I also prayed that my wife felt that way but it wasn’t until I prayed for change in myself that it worked. 😂
@Nananana09174 I’m sure there are others that pray this to Nananana. Ego and pride holds them back.
@@subaithanasreenakramWell if I may be honest with you, you do not want a man who is not interested in you. My wife was very interested in me and I also in her. The issue with us was that we both didn’t value each other the way that it was ordained to be. When you have someone who is not interested in you that’s a big difference and more than likely not the man God has blessed you with. Now I will also say this because I don’t know both sides, if you are both blessed to be with each other and your husband is not interested anymore it could also be that he is tired. Now what do I mean? Let me explain. My wife loved me a lot but was tired of me not listening but I couldn’t listen because I was too busy trying to get her to listen to me. So what I’m saying is sometimes it’s not so much your partner as it is you. Take a moment and reflect on what you can do better to satisfy him. Maybe tell him you’re ready to listen to him and actually try it his way. If your relationship gets better than you know it was you had to change more so than him. When I started to change myself and stop trying to change my wife is when our relationship worked. Good luck and I’m rooting for you whether he is the one or someone else God has for you is the one.
Me time ahahaha
I just walked away from a man of 16 years . I love him with all my heart. Worked two jobs to get him to where he’s at. There was absolutely nothing I would not do for him. But when he got a job and on his feet i became nothing to him. It was like he forgot the promise we once made. On my birthday he didn’t even come home to me he was with another woman. At that moment i made a sound decision to walk away for that relationship. An in the mist of this storm I’m allowing God to speak peace to my heart, mind, and soul. I’m break down a lot of times but I know God is going to give me a break through
He will. Keep moving forward Sis. Your greater is ahead of you, not behind you 👍🏾🙏🏾
Sending you love from the other side of the world.
A time to tear and a to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak. ECCLESIASTES 3:7 God will give you better than what you lost. Amen.
More power to you girl
❤ amen Sister! Everything is working for your highest good! According to Roman! All the things work together for the good to those who love God!
Never take anyone for granted!
IKR❤
True fact. Knw what you are worth
Amen 🙏
You'll still feel lonely.
Correction, never get married. Stay single men.
When a woman walks away, her heart is already healed. That's what gave her power and strength to walk away.
Massively disagree. Can't heal in chaos.
I agree, no telling how long she had to stay before she got the courage , it took me yrs, but finally one day! Whew... thought I weren't gonna make it!
Not always …. Sometimes it’s the only way out to get some dignity.
Amen
Maybe her heart is too damaged that she feels she can never survive to stay for them.
Once you heal, then you realize it was the best decision you’ve ever made
I’m currently going through this process 😢
Anche io. Sono andata via ma il dolore è ancora forte. So che ho fatto la scelta giusta per me, per amarmi, ma fa male!!!!!
Yessssssssss.cuz I hv been thereeeeee....thank you Lord for giving me the strength to do a cece peniston....KEEP ON WALKING 1 AIN'T TALKING TO YOU ANYMORE ❤❤
I’m moving forward to a brand new city 😊💕🇨🇦
He wrecked my reputation with all his lies and deceit
Yup
Walking away gave me healing and clarity, it gave me myself back, and l thank God for that
Yup, definitely the best choice I have done for myself. It allowed me to love myself first and save myself. An important lesson I needed to learn before getting back in any relationship.
Same idea for putting the mask on yourself first in an airplane 😉
Don't bring religion into this
@@realfan91while I’m not big on religion… I believe if having faith in a higher power or a God is what helps people cope and move forward then that’s what it is for them. There is no shame or hate in that because at the end of the day they are better people for themselves and the rest of us.
@@realfan91PSA 4U: EVERYTHING on this earth is God’s business. You feeling salty towards Him is YOUR issue. Don’t you dare tell anyone they can’t bring God. He runs this earth, not you!!
Thank YOURSELF!
God will give you the strength to walk away . You will never be alone when you have God in Your Life ❤
Amen 🙏 to that!
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God helped me walk away.☝️🙏🏻❤️🙋♀️🙌🏻
❤A. M. E. N❤ To Our Angles and Lord❤
Amen!❤ God has healed my heart. 😊
Never stay and be loyal to someone not willing to be loyal to you! Some people are not worth your loyalty.
It hurts so bad to be abandoned by a husband he has hurt my heart so bad I need someone to talk to
@@jennifervickers4835 can you talk to a therapist, friend or family member?
Beautifully stated
Be careful who you talk to. Because this period is a period of vulnerability and talking to a wrong person will only add to the pain in the long run even when it appears with a relief in the short run.
I choose to stay with God when I discovered my wife has been talking to a younger guy for about 2 months prior to my discovery. I was going through a tough time financially and discovering that torn me apart
I agree with you, BarbaraKellermann!
A woman gains clarity when she realizes Her healing and self-respect is more important than his clarity. Because He was clear when HE showed through his own actions & behavior that he didn’t value her.
What I came to realize is that we can 'love' someone simply because they're familiar to us even when deep down we know they're not good for us. Don't confuse missing someone with loving someone.
So true
Absolutely, familiarity breeds contentment.
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@@yolandawilson9852it also breeds contempt
AMEN 🙏🏽
Walking away was the best decision I ever made when dating a man who never took any accountability for his wrongdoing. It led me straight to my now husband 😊
How come you are watching such videos and spending time and energy
Same! Best decision was to leave 😊
they show up on our algorithm
I am learning to do this. Feels good.
I'm on that same path !! Hope that God will give me the man that deserves me as well❤
If someone doesn't care about you just quietly leave and never look back
Yeeeessss😢
I'm feeling that or confused ❓ everything seems okay but something is missing
Yeasss❤
Amen 🙌🏾
I'm I thus but I'm with someone that l break my back for him but it's never enough for him he became under mental health issues I'm lost just can't walk need help
When a woman walks away, she's protecting her peace and self-respect.
Or she is bored lol.
I approve this message. My husband called me a week later after our separation and asked can he come home. NOPE. Peace of mind and loving yourself is God's Greatest Gift.
You too early and where is yalls fathers
Most men bring the drama into the relationship and expect the woman to stay in the drama … the lies …the gaslighting … the cheating …the verbal abuse…the physical abuse.
Good for you
It's all about SELF-LOVE!!! Amen and AMEN... ❤❤❤😊😊 🙏🏾 🤲🏾 🙏🏾
It's all about the love of jesus that's it
Then if men bother you so much don't be in a relationship
My ex had a midlife and blew up our entire life. He left & ghosted me for 45 days. I said nothing. On day 45 I filed for divorce. I said absolutely nothing during the year it took to finalize everything. I waited 365 days for him to come to his senses. After divorce was finalized he told me he made the biggest mistake and didn’t know how to fix it, I would have taken a simple “hello”. He still reaches out from time to time. I miss him everyday but for my emotional & physical health I had to leave quietly & am still quiet. I am still healing.
Yep!!! Love doesn’t do stupid stuff and it sounds narracistic to ignore another human being!! Toxic if you prefer that term!
I send to you my love and light. ❤ is not easy for me too but we will make it I promise
You are stronger than u think. Ssomeone ghosted me for 2 months...we dont deserve it. Everytime u feel like going bck remember how he made u feel when he ghosted.
Takes a looonnngg time to heal. I’m done, not risking heartbreak again.
God loves you. Forgive and close the door dear. Open doors and windows of your life means that person still has a chance. Calls, text messages, emails, cut the communication line.
Immense truth! Now he wants to be together again...I refuse to go back to anyone or any situation ive had to heal from.
A lot of them want to get back together again when they've had time to think about it, and they see what's out there and remember what they had with you. But I think they just mourn it and miss it because you're not there. Go back, and it would probably start again - the bad stuff.
@@loisbeyer5336Exactly, I went back for 3 months and he went right back to the person he was and I ran!
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AMEN
hmmmmmmm
When a man doesnt love you properly then he isnt "your" man". When you walk away never look back .
Walking away after 25 yrs of abuse, was the best Rx for healing and gaining clarity.
Same here 32 yrs of abuse. I just celebrated 2 yrs of freedom Aug 2023. I feel so much better ❤😌☺️
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@@JessiesFamilybeautiful ❤❤❤🙌🙌 Halleluyah
It was 4 yrs for me. Heartbreaking. I had to go. It was getting worse and he wanted his ex wife back because she allowed anything. Doormat. After I left, he didn't get why........ seriously?
❤❤❤❤❤ took 24 of pure Wicked falsehood of person, broke my back and hit me, lied FROM the beginning, the church facade and clan of liers covered up his lies..being told not to love her too much because she might cheat on you, when he was who talked about cheat on me and abused me, even called my job and lost cause of him....told lies all over, played in VICTIM, lol. I had bb sepsis pancreatitis and gastroparesis with 2 back surgeries and multiple levels of herniated discs and they still haven't said sorry for breaking your back and almost my neck, Lost my house, my own Adult kids but gained respect...the lie detector tests proved that he was who lied...
And when that man is no longer blind and can see. Then it is too late!🖐
That's what happened I walked away
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It might be too late for him to be with her, but at least he gets to be his better self to somebody else
@@joy6453Sometimes they never change. It’s just to go with someone with lower standards who might not leave as the first did
Yep that's a woman for you folks, one foot in the relationship one foot out because when things start being rough and not going according to their benefit they run like the wind
This is why I walk by faith not by SIGHT!!!
Amen ❤❤❤
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@@semakalengmotana6528You are laughing. How strange.
Yep!!! me too!
Walking away is not done for the purpose of getting a man back, but to preserve, care for and respect herself. Putting her heart first is what he’s referring to.
People can become a better person when they have a better relationship with God ❤
Amen.
Is this some religios page? Or do you make choices or your so called god? Brainwashed
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Ew
Let him go because there’s a real and truly deserving man waiting to come in.
Yep and I’ll be here when that happens
So true
Bingooooo🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 and wait patiently 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤❤
I agree❣️
I agree !!!!
WHEW...THIS HIT ME...I AM so GRATEFUL for the ABILITY to walk away & LOVE ME MORE👏🏾❣️👏🏾❣️👏🏾
This is absolutely true. I healed my heart, the heart l never thought would heal. But the distance gave me the healing. And in that time he decided he needed me however it was too late.
Yes, ma'am!!💯🙌🏽🫶🏼
@@SusanMarsman-rj8ncThey always try to crawl back after we let them go for good. Never walk backwards
@@SusanMarsman-rj8nc
I'm glad it worked against his favor in the end! He doesn't deserve your love. Men really don't get any better anyway after they've treated you beneath what you are worth.
@@msdemeanour
I agree with you. They didn't notice your worth then, so don't believe they will notice the next time.
Only through God I was able to break a soul tie of near 5 years. Praise him always
If a man loves a woman ..he'll do anything to keep her...facts❤
It's very sad that the opposite isn't true.
I totally agree it can go both ways unfortunately he's pushing u out the door so many times..when u finally don't return he then realizes.
SHE'S GONE🎶🎶🎶and he has to learn how to take it🎶🎶😔
@@dealswithnormiesalldayit is if she has brains
@@mswateverr if she has brains she'll cheat and devalue her partner?
This is true but many people think they love and love is NOT rainbows and cupcakes!!! It’s cleaning urine from your diabetic blind dog at 3 am!!!! It’s love that supersedes death!!!!! Peolle don’t understand love! They want money and sex and stupidity!
When a woman learns to walk away from the man that she loves deeply, chances are, her heart is sooo hurt tired from giving so much live & not being loved back properly, and chances are, she'd decide to back off completely from that man. LOVE BEGETS LOVE!🥰🤗✌✌✌
Wait what! women are capable of loving someone besides themselves deeply 😮
A woman I cared deeply about did this to me and I became bitter about it at first then I realized I was in the wrong but I did work hard on myself and became a better man from it , I thanked her for that
Very mature response.. good for you on becoming a better person 🙌🏾. It will serve your life well in the long run. There are So many incels through the comment section blaming women for their own failures as a man...... their mentality is truly disgusting. Women avoid the collective of males like the plague with the uprise in number and exposure of these dudes.
That’s growth 🙌🏾 I love this 🙏🏾
They say, people are treated different the second time around
@user-hr4hh6ow4d
Thanks for your honesty for not staying better, and also for being honest how it made you a better person that she walked away. I wish you all the best!!
I did walk away and I loved this person more than I can Prescribe I knew he had no love for me he could not have treated me so wrong I was so honest and faithful pure to this person all I every wanted was his love but u can't by true love it doest work true love comes from the heart it a feeling no one can predict to the next person it's a feeling that doest leave over night it's a love u never forget it's a love you want to live with for Eternity to never end its just a love that's hard as hell to get over 😊
A woman doesn't walk away to give the space in anticipation of a reciprocation from a man. She finally walks away because she understands he's never going to love her back, treat her good , be with her. She walks back because she understands she deserves to give that love to herself that love which she gave to that man , she takes time for her healing , navigates through life, her ex calls her but she understands her value by that time, she deserves better in life, in career, in health and ofcourse in a partner.
No need to hold on to someone who’s not holding on to you. It’s the moment you start to love yourself 1st and enough to walk away. Know your worth!!! Peace Love and Light 💜💜💜
Came across you message heart break 💔 is the worse and I’m going thru it I’m praying to God for his strength because I can’t do this alone it hurts too much
Absolutely true! 🙏
@@jennifervickers4835 Self Love is the greatest love of all. Once you embrace the love you have for yourself, nothing else can compare or compete with it because it’s your inner Peace. Connect with that inner peace and heal. You got this Goddess!!! I wish you Peace Love and Light 💜💜💜
@@OriginalGoddess111 I pray that God will deliver me from this awful pain. He (my husband) just abandoned me in his country I have nothing to go back too. SELF LOVE I PRAY TO KNOW WHAT THAT’S LIKE AND THANK YOU FOR YOU INSPIRATION
Jennifer, God and your angels/spirit guides can give you the guidance you need. Take time to ask for their advice. Have pen & paper beside you & write down the advice that comes to you. We all have trials and challenges. They help us to become better people if we’re open to divine help and guidance.
My husband and I went through this over a year ago. I walked away and he had space to see and think clearly. I left it in God's hands and if God wanted me with him then God would work in him to change if he allowed him. Well God got involved in it and now we're still married but a much better couple. The best apology is actions showing the change. Thank you Lord for working in my marriage and I pray that you stay in our marriage business no matter what and I pray this for others marriages too who want to see theirs succeed.
I've been praying to God to change him but my prayers have gone unanswered so far. I know God is listening though. That's prob why I'm seeing this video. From my heart, I want to say thank you for not giving up on your marriage after he changed. I genuinely mean that. The vowel of matrimony is a vowel taken before God and shouldn't be taken lightly or broken. Obviously there are exceptions but ideally it shouldn't be broken. And today, especially today, so many ppl just give up. Bc society's standards accept it. It's the new normal and that's sad. Love is the only thing in this world that ever really mattered and trying your best to salvage it is such an admirable trait Xo. Please pray for me that I make the right decision. God Bless you and God Bless your sacred vowel of matrimony.
@@jennymac7938God involves in those marriages where He sees that there is still enough love left to heal souls❤I've been through this...do not dispear💪.Nothing without God!🙏
AMEN.
I'm about to stop my relationship cause I don't see any progress. I hope not to regret it, I really need to go and develop my self cause he doesn't want to take us to the next level. This is over two years now but we are still on the same spot 😔
So he had to change!!!!! So you married a man you weren't satisfied with!!!!!!!
If a man can walk away from you when you need him most - you need to walk away and never look back.
Hoping that person loves or cares enough for you..My ex fiance dropped by and ask if I could take to the airport.. leaving because of job transfer.. When he showed up..ask for a ride..I had recently found I had to have surgery so disease wouldn't spread..II was reluctant to tell him..But he didn't ask anf left .I guess there's Always excuses you make for that uncaring person..As time goes by..You see more clearer with your eye's wide open..And question how do you want to spend quality time.. Possibly open for a quality husband
its my first day took my two kids and finally walked away no one knows yet i know in my heart its done, im very sad even though i left.
You exactly wrote my feelings. Thanks queen❤
Yes!!
Preach pastor. When a woman's fed up, ain't nothing you can do about it
When a woman walks away from a man that doesn't love her , that's God's power helping you to move on.
Man’s rejection is Gods protection 🎉
Stp bringing God into your unholy matrimony, he's not helping you in no relationship tht wasn't sanctioned by him. Y'all really believe you can go against God's will at your will but then turn around and expect him to not let you learn the hard way on your own. Stp being delusional, Marriage is for God's ppl and God's ppl ONLY !
Alhamdulillah, im trying to move on, may Allah grant us good spouses😊❤
Kaboom 😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤
Yes 🙌🏽 for all the ladies that have the strength to walk away. God give you power
Sometimes we have to walk away from that unfruitful relationship to make room for the fruitful relationship God has in store for us.
I agree. After 6 years of marriage, I finally walked away. He did nothing to fight for me. Out of nowhere, a man I knew from high school walked into my life and showed me the true meaning of love. A God fearing, man. We are so in tune its mind blowing. I thank God for him every day 😍
Self worth is very expensive and we shouldn't gamble with it
Sometimes you're already in that fruitful relationship you just don't know it yet. I'm just saying be as sure as possible before you give up by discussing it with the other person first before ending it.
How do you do that after three decades of marriage?
I personally think when a woman leaves a man that she loves. It gives her clarity. What the man does, however, is run into the arms of another woman. He's not wise enough to take that same time to heal or get the clarity he may need.
Yup, that's how most men are.....SHALLOW!!!
Amen!!!
And it is not my problem…
So true
I have seen men & women on both ends of this.
I loved him, but I loved myself more. Afterwards he kept looking for me, I married someone else. I did good. 😅 ❤
Well done you!!! ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤
Bravo‼️🏆‼️
Go babes❤
Yasss🎉❤
Same here
That is exactly what I did to my husband. And then after 2 years apart, He said: " it was the best thing you did for me" and He said one more thing that was: " I found out that I lost the best of my life."
Never make yourself too available to anyone as it breeds familiarity and being taken for granted
You worded this sooo perfectly 👏
@@lyv8627 thank you 🙏🏾
Facts!
A hard lesson I had to learn
So dont get married or live with anyone?
You forgot to mention the MOST IMPORTANT part… he had his chance and he lost her! Walking away means more than just waiting on the man she walked away from to gain clarity. Life goes on! And let’s keep it 💯 a man doesn’t realize what he’s lost until it’s gone!
Such wisdom.... walking away when you still love someone can be the beginning of Wholeness. ❤❤❤
Exactly 💯🙏🏽❤️
Facts
What if walking away is not God's will ,what then ha!
@@g-man3731And sometimes it is His will. Ha!
@@brimontXPHow do we know?
A woman who already saw a lot in her life doesnt want another bullshit in life. All she desires is peace and love and trust and faithfullness from her man. She has no time for anything else.❤
I walked away and I am healing. What he says is so true.
together in this dear
So did I, it's hard but I'm proud of you, I'm proud of us ❤
It is better to be alone than to be with someone who don't love or appreciate you .
Omg yesssssssss🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I walked away from my husband and his family. I loved him sooooooooo much with all my heart. I didn’t settle for separation. All or nothing. We filed for divorce and I told God, if it’s not from him then I didn’t lose anything. But I gained life. I chose to heal rather than burden myself with distant care. It’s almost a year now since I left. I even moved states & started over. Job, car, apartment, & I have a new boo who is planning to propose to me. I’m trusting God and I’m thankful my heart is still open AND pure through all the trauma.
WHAT A STORY.BIT ARE YOU SURE THE NEW " BOO" IS GOD SENT OR THE DEVIL ? PEACE . PRAY PRAY PRAY 🙏 WISH YOU THE BEST
@@user-wd9gn8uc2z lol. I can’t be the surest. But only if I put my trust in God. And do it His way. My focus is obedience to the Kingdom of Heaven. No cap.
Sadly some men think women should compromise their values to be with them...that's just too expensive for my tastes. Allah over all and peace of mind and ❤️
Your commiting Adultery!!!!!
@@maxwellwell4998 she's divorced, so no, she isn't.
My father told me that if a man disrespects me (cheats, hits, calls me out my name etc) even once to let him go and I stand on that….I’m not giving a million chances when u already know what’s right and what’s wrong and u choose to do wrong
You don't know what you have until it's gone ❤️ Love yourself much more than you love any man.
Nope. Love others THE SAME way you will love yourself. It's God's commandment
@@user-ko8rd1dl9c No thanks. I do not love unworthy people
@@user-ko8rd1dl9c You can't save anyone else. Work on Your own salvation with fear and trembling.
Thank you
Same to men
Walked away after 36 years of marriage. Got married at 20 years old. This is the first time I’ve ever lived by myself and I’m getting used to it. My heart is healing. My emotions are coming together and self-respect is strong.
Best of luck and may God bless you to realize your individual purpose and self love.
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@@thato2052 🙏🏽🙏🏽
@@xo0101_ 🙏🏽
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Never leave a man expecting him to come back. If you leave, it should be because you have exhausted all possibilities with him. He may change. Who knows? But, life is too short to wait and see if he will change, and more so, will he change for you or someone else?
Don’t waste a minute looking back. Look forward.
Bars!
Hopefully he changes for himself & not necessarily for anybody else.
Also if a man has the power to walk away especially after the man has invested all his money and time into it and walked away with forgiveness and understanding, that is taking your power back and thus power is his fuel to heal his heart and leaves the woman whose heart was broken from others time to reflect on her walls and beliefs and patterns and hopefully that Time will benefit her and maybe she will be able to trust and believe in pure Love again
Amen.
He will change for someone else.... experiencing all that now. Yrs of my life wasted, prayers and all..I just have kids to show for my time wasted. Now he decides to want to straighten up for the next. It was my fault that I stayed, giving the benefit of the doubt and constantly being disrespected...I can now admit that in reality, I wasn't his choice just his convenient spot. I was told that I was a nagger all because I wanted to try new things and go places... I was told that I was always making assumptions, but in the end those assumptions were right. Now he is showing off this chic and going places with her .. I'm just in awe. I am slowly working on forgiving myself for allowing things to happen in my life. I don't take any of it as a loss but just a lesson.
Lord Have Mercy, then it’s really over 🙏🏾🙌🏾❤️👏🏾💯♾️💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
The power to walk away is the most valuable power anyone can possess.
When I said No To Domestic Violence I Walked Away For Me And My Four Sons Because We Deserved Better❤
U go Girl! 👏
You did great decision, sister ❤❤❤ May God bless you
You will never realize the treasure you are holding unless you lose it
Heck no i ain't taking no chances if she trash let her go be another man's treasure
@@g-man3731 do you
OR UNLESS YOU FIND IT! In my case!!
So very true 👍
“Access breeds blindness”, that part is very true, because some partners get so comfortable with things, that they seem to forget ……
Absolutely true… hey Andrea how’re you, you’re so beautiful and if you don’t mind I’d like to get to know 🙈
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Sometimes the man you walk away from is Narcissistic and does not have the ability to self reflect!
They have the ability they just dont want to.
True, cause they to busy with all the other women.
I'm going through this right now 😭 and I don't know what to do
@@tonidamobley9814 Me and you both 🥺
Say it louder for the people in the back
You nailed the truth!!! Sometimes men do not value, respect or appreciate their wives or partners. 👍
I have to add this. Not all men are like this. I know many men who adore, respect and admire their spouse and partner. Did not want you think I am a man hater. 😉
I actually know many more women acquaintances and Friends of friends, that do not appreciate their good men. But if the men are staying, then it comes from their own emotional trauma and neglect in relation to the mother wound and they are repeating their patterns, just as a woman who stays and doesn't recognize why she attracted what she did.... dysfunction can only attract dysfunction. Like attracts like. There will always be something someone can heal within themselves
Please Never worry about what someone thinks as or does because it has nothing to do with you and will merely be a reflection of what's going on within THEM at that exact particular moment...
That's why people's perceptions of you or the external world will change depending on how they're feeling at the time, it has nothing to do with the outside world at all, or the person they are interacting with
Another person or situation is just the mirror that reflects back to people what's inside themselves. Don't spend your precious energy even considering how someone views you because it is none of your business, as the saying goes lol. They will see you as they see themselves , it does not matter what you do or what you say or how you act .
I wish I could impart that secret knowledge to every child/teenager in the world that is trying to fit in versus discover & stand tall in their authentic self/ gifts instead vs subconsciously creating the false self that we all do, to get our needs met with in the family, and then we carry that into adulthood.
No one can see you with clarity if they cannot see themselves clearly . And don't you find it interesting that when someone speaks the truth, unhealthy / toxic people assume it's a complete opposite, if someone refuses an injection it makes them anti injection. If someone speaks the truth about their personal experience, like knowing wonderful men, just as I do..... that doesn't negate what the other person is saying or make somebody a hater of any kind. The world doesn't even realize how they are speaking and thinking in extremes all day long , which is so inaccurate and harmful
People are so screwed up with their Duality that they think just because there's new information given or a slight different perspective , that it somehow magically negates the other's feelings/ beliefs🤔 bizarre right? .@@Kathy-wt3ie
" those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter"❤ the day people stop putting family members especially, or anyone on a pedestal... is the day they are truly free. Because people pleasing or overgiving without receiving, in a balanced healthy way.... is actually a "fawning" response to Childhood emotional trauma and neglect...😢
When a woman walks away, it’s for her to heal and him to realize
Nah it's simply emotional burnout. Woman tend to feel emotional burnout in relationship much than man . this is also happens in lesbian relationship
@@alexryan43244 means they need to heal 🤷♀️
I hope he realizes. But that's because i imagine him coming back and making it all right. But that is unhealthy. I need to be ok with him not realizing. I need to not think about him AT ALL anymore. I just need to move on.
@@estaba.2197I totally feel you on this. Letting go is the hard part!
Trust me they realize they just don’t care
he is 100% right 👍 when it comes to ur self respect and u are getting nothing in return. never wait for that person and move on 💯 👍✨
Walking away is the hardest part when you love someone, because it’s in that moment that you realize you were not chosen by him and better yet God didn’t choose him for you. You knew it but just didn’t want to believe it. It was best thing that ever happened to me. Because it allowed me to live a more purposeful life, get closer to God, and work on my true calling! God is real! I’m so grateful!!❤
This is really true and really good
Me rn … went back so many times but I can’t this time …
Amen to that, I’m currently going through the process of brokenhearted healing. I talk about it on my channel in hopes of helping others escape the heartaches that I have 😢. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
@@kaytlynngantner1111it’s so hard when you invested all your time into a person you loved dearly 😢. I’m going through that process right now. I hope you find a way out for good. Best wishes to you.
@@TekaLachic it gets easier but it’s still hard and I think about going back still.. and I got flowers so it’s hard to think like is it gonna be different this time?
People can become a better person when they have a better relationship with god ❤
Absolutely... He's able to take away irracional fears and lead with clarity
Yes sir, I gave him space 973 miles one way for me, never looked back, living my BEST LIFE, Best move ever in my life 👏🏽👏🏽😁😁🥰🥰
I'm still healing for a month walking away to the man that I love most...I know God is always there for me 🙏🙏🙏
I’m so sorry Molina, you are a very beautiful woman and you deserve the best, if you don’t mind I’d like to get to know 🙈
@@AlexanderFord-sm8ep thank you sir 🙏🙏🙏 feel better now healing is not easy process I know everything will be fine
@@lucilmolina6748 you’re welcome my dear, I would really like to get to know you… do you mind?
True. I walked away, healed and found a great life. He changed his ways out of the shock and ended up finding God and becoming a Youth Pastor. By having the courage to love myself I was able to help him too as a human being who needed to grow too.
How was the experience for you to accept again this person in your life? How you make sure a person has truly change?
At least he changed for his own benefit. Thanks God
@@lofimilkymilactions speak louder than words. God helps people to change
They don't gain clarity. They either blame her or deny they did anything to her. Then they do it again to the next woman.
My ex!! Blame game. My life is so much better and so much less toxic! I have met some amazing people and learning so much from this hell he put me in. Never again will I chose the so called good guy! Con man in disguise and salt and sugar look the same so be very careful whom you let in your life.
Well said
Woman doesn't walk away from man to give him space for his clarity. She walks away because her love isn't reciprocated the right way and she should never come back to anybody who ever made/makes her second guess his love for her.
That's deep ❤
Definitely agree. We rarely heat that point of view.
There are many different scenarios.
Sometimes ppl new to grow and heal tho....they become their authentic self who is able to show love proper because they are finally able to love themselves. It's called unconditional love.
***Access breeds blindness***
So sad, but so true
Appreciate the people in your life. You never know when they won’t be there any longer.
When women walk away it means the woman is brave
You need the space. For healing and clarity. Well said.
yeah ,thats so true..
Healing feels sooo good.
I’m not walking, I’m running!!!
yep
Me too🏃🏼♀️
That is a woman who truly loved that man, and have a lot of respect for herself and truly love herself enough to know when to walk away.
True… hey pretty how’re you, you’re so beautiful and if you don’t mind I’d like to get to know 🙈
I walked away 21 yrs ago and found and fell in love with myself. Never looked back and I know was God that allowed it to happen so I can have the peace and beautiful life that I’m living nowadays. 🙏🏽🙇🏽♀️🙇🏽♀️
🥳🥳Yes! Sweet enough 🥰✨🦋✨🌺
So, because u believe in a higher power you're essentially giving ZERO credit to yourself for putting in the work.
That's a problem
Walk away if you don't get back what you deserve..value yourself ❤
Walking away means I am done with all the foolish .walking away can be the best thing that ever happen to you.walking away allows you to take control of own life.
I walked away and it was the right move.
Very true, every-time I walk away it’s for good! I’m going where I’m loved and respected, not tolerated and dismissed.
Girrrrl, my sentiments exactly! 💯
@@diggetth1397 Great minds think alike ❤️🔥
Yet most men tolerate the garabage that women put them through on a daily basis
It is a privilege to be with me!!! ❤
Fareal!!
😂😂...sure hunnibunn
The woman walking away for her healing IS the more important part ❤
I agree! Heal before opening your heart again.
... no matter how long it takes.
Yeah, I ve been healing for 16 years
There are women that healing is not their priority. They cannot be alone for them being alone is a torturous existence thus, they will bend backwards in order to keep a man next to them and that is their choice.The unfortunate part is bringing a child into the equation because they are stunting the growth and life experience of another human being.
This speaks to any relationship i.e. family & so-called friends
Indeed
Absolutely.
Walking away gives so much clarity you wonder why you stayed so long
If a man walks away from me, then the relationship is over. So, he needs to make sure that it is a final decision for him. I respect reliability.
I walked away from a 2yr relationship, I was disrespected and felt so unloved. I was done chasing someone that didn’t want me, he found so much fault in me, but he couldn’t see the good in me. I walked away for my self respect. I’m single now, but I’m at peace. I walked away for the 3rd time for my peace of mind. I don’t need a man in my life anymore I’m good with being alone. My peace is so important to me at this time in my life 64. Single and loving it.
The only thing you need to chase after is Jesus Amen 🙌
I walked away when I had reached the bitter end. He had the audacity to beg me to stay. I wasted 4 years and refused to waste another minute of my time.
You did well to move on. High 5😊
The further away.Money not trusting God to replenish.
Done the same, all words no actions, done waiting 3yrs for a miracle. Free at last
"When a woman has the power to walk away from the man she loves but he's not loving her back the right way. She allows her heart space to heal .You're able It gives the man space to have clarity.. Sometimes Access breeds blindness. The further away you are from it.the more it comes into view." ❤ Preach.
Walking away, was the best decision I ever made.
This is so true... For men and women. And when you are willing to walk away you see clearly that what you thought you wanted and needed is not half of what you deserved.
I just walked away from my man today...I had apanic attack this morning. While being w him was disconnected to God and he was not connected to God...I want to go back tomwhat it was before I met my man...only time will tell what ia going to happen
@@emiliavieira6871 You will be better than ok. Just be patient with yourself.
@@emiliavieira6871 you'll be fine, you'll be better & receive better
Love this. This is exactly what I just did. Love this man like nothing else but could not tolerate his disrespect and verbal abuse. I picked up all of my belongings with a U haul and went cold Turkey with deep pain in my heart. I believe if he is meant to be with me, he will gain clarity and realize what he lost . If we are meant to be together God and faith will bring us back together. If we are not ., then I accept this is the road and path meant to be.
Abusers seldom change. You did right to leave. Continue to choose your health and well-being! 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
If he comes accept him..dont hurt him ❤🎉
So proud of you 🥹👏🏼
❤
On the same path !. I wish you peace and happiness
You have to love yourself before you can love someone else. Also, never allow a person to disrespect you!!
I’m still very nice to the guy that called me a b and you can feel his energy now. 😂😂
And when a man has the power to run 🏃 away from disrespectful women He has become wise
Just did this, and although I miss him, I am learning how to forget him. Very tough, but my strength comes from the Lord
ITS SO PAINFUL I AM GOING THRU HEART BREAK 😢
You've now inspired me to do the same :)
It only gets better, you might have flashbacks, flash... flames to continue... you are not alone, there are many of us taking the plunge into better, better self, seeing & learning to value & love ourselves
@@jennifervickers4835 there's a quality man waiting to meet you, chin up
This is The story of every man I’ve left… even after going back they still don’t know. Please, Don’t go back ladies. If he knew what you meant to him he will never take the chance of losing you. Let him stay in his “clarity” and practice that on his next relationship. There is someone out there that will not take you through drama in the name of love.
"Sometimes access breeds blindness." What a Word! God, I heard you say, "Let it go." And although I didn't understand it fully at that moment, I was obedient, and I let that man go. And I am so happy that I chose God's word over my emotions because if I had stayed in that relationship, it would have destroyed everything God invested within me. I would have lost myself. Thank God for another chance to love again. I know that when it's your perfect will, I will have the man of God you have for me. Until then, I will continue to allow my heart to heal.🙏🏽❤
I touch and agree with you on this
Amen to that
It’s not about a women or man walking away it’s about that person walking away from things they don’t need & they life
I was sick of his emotional infidelity with the same equally vile woman.
I was a bit of a doormat, which is why he kept on emotionally abusing me.
I hope he realises the love I had for him, even though it’s way too late. I’m not prepared to waste anymore years on an ungrateful individual, I’ve already wasted 22 years.
I walked away to save my sanity and be a better mother.
This is it right here! Thank you for saying this as I am dealing with the same. It hurts so bad, but it had to be done. 😢❤
Why do you need him to realize the love you had for him?
He knows …he just doesn’t care! Accept that part and move on.
If he wanted to be faithful to you he would have done so. He didn’t want to remain faithful that’s why he kept cheating on you.
@@Bri-nc8yp you’re absolutely right, he doesn’t care, but he has also somewhat abandoned our children too.
His Narcissistic Personality has caused so much pain and suffering. I know I’m bitter, but I don’t want him to regret leaving me, but regret the suffering he caused to his own children and to regret destroying innocent lives because of some tramp who goes through men like there’s no tomorrow, especially married men.
I now no longer care that his own childhood was crap, he has destroyed his children’s childhood.
I spent 22 years being emotionally abused by him, then discarded and left to pick up the pieces while struggling with depression (caused by his behaviour) and trying to be a mother.
This betrayal has hit deep, I will get over it, but he deserves a taste of his own poison.
The most important is walking away for your sanity, not for the other to clarify his feelings.
I'm grateful I had the courage and strength to walk away from him, coz I loved him in a way that I was blinded by his lies.❤
Ha! Most men don't take the time to gain clarity. They put on a strong front, jump right into another relationship and take their confusion with them because that's easier than any kind of self reflection
True lol
Rushing into another relationship with only get you to a big shallow mess of rebound relationship and more confusion and regrets.
Smart and deep people don't run into another relationship but wait to be healed from the emotional abuse then hope the right person will come.
Sometimes you don’t want to but you have to let it go and focus on praying healing loving yourself 🙏🏼❤️