Why Working Hard Isn't The Answer | Aubrey Marcus on Impact Theory
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- Опубліковано 20 тра 2024
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Modern-day philosopher and Onnit CEO Aubrey Marcus believes optimizing our lives comes down to our daily choices. He teaches that by taking the time to learn our fears and insecurities we can start making decisions to counteract them leading to healthier, more balanced lives. The author of Own The Day, Own Your Life discusses how to master your willpower on this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu.
SHOW NOTES:
Aubrey breaks down the science of optimizing his work ethic. [2:47]
Aubrey discusses how to weaponize the power of belief for success. [7:26]
Aubrey on dealing with fear and the consequences of pursuing fearlessness. [14:07]
Aubrey details what he’s learned by being in an open relationship. [21:02]
Aubrey shares concepts and stories that display the power of choice. [25:16]
Aubrey gives some practical tips for living optimally. [31:21]
Aubrey reveals the impact he wants to have on the world. [35:00]
QUOTES:
“And I think the psyche is just the same as the body in that we perform best when we have periods where we push and then periods where we reflect, integrate, recover.” [3:13]
“You gotta realize there is no such thing as failure, there's just learning.” [12:18]
“You just gotta understand, the only thing that you're responsible for is your best. You can't do better than your best. You just do your best. And if you try to obsess too much, you're not doing your best, you're gonna be paralyzed.” [14:08]
“We have the ability to tap into that superpower of choice, that superpower of free will.” [29:20]
“We have way more power than we recognize, and what people will tell us that we have.” [34:15]
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COURSES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
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REST is the most underrated skillset, refresh, integrate and then get on with it. But it is key to know what works best for YOU. Your body whispers clues, shut up and listen.
Or actually prefers her friends to you.... setting up for failure
I have not had a holiday for more than four years. I feel exhausted.
I could not agree more
@@martin2466 every cloud has a silver lining. With the Corona I get to stay at home and relax, isn't that great?
@@martin2466 I am glad as well.
"The cave you fear to enter the most holds the treasure you seek" - Joseph Campbell
Fear is a compass leading you in the right direction
Unless it's a tiger that rips your face off
@@daviszollars3356 right. Unless there is real danger and not some esoteric fear of crickets lol
hhooo rraahh ... JC ....
Don't be afraid to die. Do extreme sports and live. Dont try and preserve life, realise it is for living for today.
How to work out the cave?
PLEASE READ: It's interesting what he says about rest and sleep. I've been reading "Blue Zones" they visit the land where ppl live to 100 and are happiest. They say rest and purpose are the main factors.
If you are interested in Blue Zones, check out Dr. Joel Fuhrman's books, UA-cam interviews, and PBS specials.
wooow legit today i woke up at 5am went to the gym, done some wim hof breathing took a cold shower had a nap at around 2pm got my work done read a book, and then i bump into this video for him to say the exact things i done today i think i am heading in the right direction!
Wim Hof breathing?
Your Personal Workforce yes
Now keep it up for a year!
Wow, aren't you a badass
Awesome
Honestly this has been my favorite interview thus far on IT. Aubrey's calm demeanor and vastly different message than many others is just a great relief, as well as his trust and experience in psychedelics. I believe those are a powerful tool, and to see someone like him promote them for positive use, for growth and to explore the nature of our inner reality, will be an amazing example to show those who disbelieve that we really DO need the help nature is trying to provide.
Thanks for this interview, I'm definitely going to check out his resources, and I'm even inclined to reach out just to give some positive feedback.
@Tom Bilyeu, you're one of the best hosts out there!
I listen attentively to everything you say along side your guests! You're a master of your craft! Amazing!
Let us flip this around & see you get interviewed :)!
Hey man, check out this interview of Tom, it's incredible!
ua-cam.com/video/Iic-p7oTxcg/v-deo.html
If the chosen one says so, you best believe it!!!
lol
Yes!
He truly is amazing!
“The only thing you are responsible for is your best” well said 👏🏼
Working hard it is important but it is strategy that is much more critical to success. Many people work hard making minimum-wage and never better their lives.
In the video, Aubrey mentions it's important to work hard, no where did he mention to not. But I think Impact Theory wanted to let us know, before the work (that we always knew about, but so tough to get around to), it goes back to our foundations and how we believe in our selves. It starts from there. It's fear that prevents us from making progress! I love what he said at the beginning of the video: "Fear is a belief that something negative is going to happen, rather than something positive is going to happen. So that's like on the other side, you are almost believing in your failure, rather than believing in your success. So you have to go out and tackle and collapse those fears."
The minimum wage has increased
Midoriya! Honestly, minimum wage jobs are tough financially. But I'm still grateful. Many minimum wage jobs offer raises with more seniority. Also, the best thing has been being around humble, amazing people. I feel like it's easier to find such people working in these types of places. I love it. And I couldn't have handled the usual cut throat environments others places have. So I'm ever grateful. But yes, regardless, there's so room for growth. I've been working on internal growth and now really trying to increase my knowledge and skills that I can apply. Anyway, yea you made me realize people knock minimum wage jobs. Do what you gotta do. Every job is important. Just steer towards your goals and what you love. And we'll get there soon enough. In the meantime, go beyond, plus ultra!!
I only liked this comment because I one of those guys and I guess that's why I clicked on this video
I agree, I see too many people working hard full time at Walmart and aren’t surpassing anyone physically or mentally. Working hard should be subject to use only for goals worth attaining. You’ll know the goal is worth if it improves your way of life in some form. Slaves always work hard. But who ever cares about slaves? Exactly
Just taking a cold shower every morning is so powerful ,especially if you’re “not a morning person.” Aside from the health benefits, starting your day off with a cold shower gives you a “mental victory.” As so many of us have allowed our bodies to become the mind and control us; always seeking pleasure, constantly looking for the path of least resistance , and avoiding discomfort at all cost. Taking a cold shower in the morning helps start the day off with the mind in control. That one mental victory can set us up for more mental victories throughout the day.
We've allowed our bodies to control our minds?! Some of us just like a hot shower, cuz we can!
F A “allowed the body to become the mind”
Marten Dekker you may want to research the cold water training the Navy Seals go through, and the logic behind it. They seem to be pretty tough humans. But thanks for your input anyway.
Well said! 👍👍👍
@@glenntravis7014 Ill skip the part where i forcibly put my body into shock right when i wake up because some people say its good for me. But thanks for your input anyway.
He is really eloquent and well read, and done lots of inner work. This is my second watch of this interview
I love how he put balance of when to work hard and when to rest and how it logically makes sense to know when to rest or reflect otherwise you’re actually burning yourself to the ground and getting worse instead of better. Also love how he said you can’t do any better than your best and I agree a lot of us are so hard on ourselves when we really are doing our best. We should love ourselves where we are and say hey I can do better, but I’m still happy where I’m at. So many gems in this interview!
I really Loved it (and of course all the episode you've made before ) what I love the most about the impact theory is that we have living people giving a real insight of life style, understanding oneself and cashing on it. I personnally leanrt a lot and kept me motivated a long the way in this distracted environement
Open relationship freezes you from needing the validation of our own self worthiness of love. That is really new and interesting. Lots of us would need to add this stressor to our lives to train more self love. I’ve heard Lisa Nichols saying something that can relate to this too, I want to love myself so much that the love oozes out that it’ll be enough for everybody else. And I won’t need love from other people because I am enough. This interview really opened my eyes. Thank you Tom. And Aubrey’s book, Is amazing.
Different strokes for different folks, I suppose. Some people feel that open relationships help them grow, but for others, it's simply a way to indulge in their own neediness - always turning to others for validation/entertainment, instead of looking within themselves.
Self-reliant people don't necessarily need an open relationship - they get most, if not all, of what they need from themselves, and one partner provides more than enough comfort/joy/entertainment/support for them. Some people simply don't need or the company of others enough to have multiple partners, and an open relationship isn't something they want to spend their brief time on the planet engaging in. Open relationships also introduce many levels of risk to one's life (the risk of a partner leaving, risk of contracting a venereal disease, risk of being victim to a crime of jealousy), and some people just aren't prepared to run that risk.
All life-partnerships are a challenge, so it really comes down to what kind of challenge is more worthwhile for the individual - monogamy or polyamory, because neither is easy.
@@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559 In my experience they end up disasters. I try to warn people, but they don't listen. I am not the I told you so type though.
Absolutely love this guy!!!! Thank you Tom for having him on
Thank you for bringing Aubrey in!!
Striving everyday to have a clear conscience by not procrastinating, avoiding unnecessary conflict and focusing on feeling good has helped me a lot. I dont work too hard, but focus on the end goal, good things always manifest.
Love Aubrey. Such a shining example and a lighthouse for reshaping my life.
I love the talk about a healthy relationship and forgive yourself. I never knew about it. I was thought to get married be a pleaser person have a bunch children and live happily ever after not in my case. I was in two relationship one was in mental abused,but I am ok and happy I had to forgive myself as the gentle said I am grateful right now,but I can thrive for greater life. Again thank you Tom for bringing these amazing people 🙏🏽🙋🏽
work smarter not harder and repetitive actions is the key to excellence.
Mohammed ACHGAR What if someone works hard and smart both? You’ll get beaten by them!
+Prajwal Dhiman if you do both means you will above and far from average .superman good luck.
Mohammed ACHGAR repetitive CORRECT actions are the key to excellence. Sometimes repeating something isn’t the answer it leads to insanity and delusion.
If gentics matter tomas addison wouldn't creat light from darkness and he would say i'm stupid so its all about will and practice .
Mohammed ACHGAR work smarter and harder.
Tom Bilyeu--another great interview with another great guest. Thank you.
Tom! You’re communication and psyconess is off the charts! 💪🏻
Love seeing someone so in tune with himself, so much simple but yet powerful little lessons which we can apply today.. and after 31:31 is the perfect cherry on top that I needed.. Thank you Tom for having Aubrey, and thank you for the impact theory by itself. Thank You Aubrey for sharing your wisdom on here and your podcast. P.S thank your for Onnit Alpha Brain it really helps me with my Memory and Focus through my days.. Thank You 🙏
Tom never fails at interviewing. does his research, great questions.
The thing I admire about you both is the complete willingness to surrender to openness, always questioning yourself and the way things are, as well as embracing the mentality of being an eternal student. The type A optimiser in me enjoys what Aubrey does but as he also says it's not just about perfectionism and crazy execution, but that it brings actual, practical benefits and improvements to your life that are ultimately going to make you so much happier.
Simply an amazing guest! And Tom a top-notch interviewer as usual!
What I think is so special about Aubrey is his balance between masculine and feminine energy. While you hear other "inspirational people" talk about "breaking" your mind, "toughen up" etc, you can hear in his words and feel in his being the wisdom of plant medicine (sacred feminine spirit) that he`s been blessed with. To me he`s an exemple of growth through trust in yourself and actual self-love instead of controll and grinding. Being a dancer and thereby connected to the wisdom of heart and of belly has probably also been part of him becoming who he is now. I appreciate him.
New to your channel; and your guest is amazing! He is truly authentic based on his experiences and the blessings he's receiving due to his own personal work. I so relate to his message (how he incorporates mythology, philosophy and paying attention) through practical insight in our journeys. This talk will remain a teaching in my favorites...for real!
So incredible what people are capable of achieving! Always love hearing others' stories.
I've just had a cold shower! When I got out of it I felt really energized. I felt like going skydiving or rappelling... something like that... awesome!
Tom you are really really articulate and a great host mate, great show!
I have made great progress at changing my beliefs the last few years. It is not as easy as it sounds sometimes, though it is possible. Changing inside and outside...aligning my whole self with my true self allows me to navigate any circumstances with a positive mindset.
Tom, thanks for bringing all these beautiful people onto your show. You and the work you do are so very special.
Was waiting on this one for a long time. Thanks Tom, an awesome interview! I love Aubrey's podcast, and this is a golden nugget.
I took this from John F Demartini @Aubrey Marcus which I think is an ancient Egyptian philosophy: “Spirit Without Matter is Expressionless, Matter Without Spirit is Motionless.” I got into your work after months on the Rogan bandwagon and I felt I found a home esp when you talk about spirituality. You do great work bro, thank you for sharing your story and your principles.
Awesome episode, thanks Tom, just hit me how much watching your show helps
“From fleshlight to flash light” lol. Nice word play there Tom 😂
I dont mean to be off topic but does someone know a way to get back into an Instagram account??
I somehow lost the password. I would appreciate any tricks you can offer me.
@Everett Huxley instablaster =)
Absolute truth on fear...confront it and get through it. That's where our power lives
Tom, thank you for your hard work and all in what you do
Another top notch interview, thank you, Tom, for always providing amazing value!
Everyone have to “working hard” at beginning of trying anything, to become a person to achieve anything..the difference between the person who achieve more than others is “how much work harder”... most people never know how much is “how much work harder”....that makes difference.
Great interview! Many important takeaways, particularly listening to your body instead of taking a pill, having another coffee, etc.
Tom=Living Legend.Thank you Sir you changed my life!
The open relationship thing did not resonate with me but I took the parts that did! Very interesting discussion indeed.
TOM IS CHANGING THE WORLD...I APPRECIATE YOU...THANK YOU BROTHER...PEACE FROM TORONTO CANADA...LOVE UR WORK...GREAT INTERVIEW
Loved this interview!
When he talked about doing his best he touched his ring....and was very nervous. Sending him healing thoughts✨
Brilliant.
34:00 "you've got to forgive yourself, you've got to forgive yourself for everything that has happened in the past. You've got to understand that you're not the same person you were then. You're the person that has learned from all those things. Heraclitus has a quote "no man steps in the same river twice for it's not the same river and he is not the same man".
You had me at "Weaponizing Belief." I've never heard of you, Aubrey Marcus, but wow...the timing of this information feels deliciously perfect. Thank you. This episode felt like a 7-course very expensive meal that you desire mastery on the highest level of studying every single morsel. "Collapse the penalty for Failure." WhWhWhWHAT! Way love that!!! And Tom the Amazing Bilyeu. Your introductions are legendary. You, Sir, will be remembered for this....know that....Gotta get back to the rest of the episode...
People like to feel more worthy when they work hard, and they feel less so when they don’t. And it can make them feel superior to those not grinding. They get to do all that ‘hashtag grinding’ ‘hashtag humble brag’ and so on. It’s like the internet. Everyone does stuff to seem bigger and better and to place themselves above others and hand out judgment from that position of authority.
Thank you sir God bless you and good vibes
Tom Bilyeu you are an amazing interviewer. Aubrey Marcus, your books and concepts are life-changing and I'm incorporating so many of your lessons. I love Impact Theory.
How's it going now?
This man is on point!
Objectivity observation is key to Ego Cleansing and Personality change! Be more conscious with your actions
Thank you Tom and team!!!! 🙂🙂 I dont think you guys realise how many lifes change because of these interviews.
Great questions Tom! Audrey, you're such a wonderful storyteller and using that gift for the greater good. The stories you tell uplift and comfort others around you by having that ring to them of truth, which is our home and source. Much respect to you and Tom.
Thank you, Tom and Aubrey! Wonderful talk.
Epic as always Tom, thank you for introducing me to Aubrey🙏
Thank you for bringing him on your show. Mr. Marcus was awesome. Best Mehran from San Diego.
Really like Aubrey Marcus..he has some of the best podcasts I've ever heard. Great interview 👍
Humans love job security but fear commitment just shows how weak we are hence why so much cheating and open relationship and divorce type shit these days. I'm not religious or a believer in marriage for everyone but there's something naturally honorable about being committed.
Great episode.. thank you..
Thank you! Without all the details, this speaks to a health crisis in our family and is the BEST reference point for me as a parent moving forward today and tomorrow and every moment after. Sincerest thank you to you both.
I've just heart about 5minutes of the interview and this is really the message I miss from most speakers.. I always thought I was the only one who couldn't grind like 24/7, and maybe thought I wasn't motivated enough because I really néed recovery time
Thank you for doing this one! You guys are great together. I could see some kind of epic partnership in the future. Man I love your show more and more. You are changing lives my brother
Great video!!
Side note: if you are a female still of reproductive age and you make it to the end of this video, cold showers are best during the estrogen dominant phase of your cycle (1st two weeks- day 1 is usually 1st day of period) when your body is trying to cool itself down. Switch back to warm showers during the progesterone phase of your cycle (2nd two weeks). Your body is trying to turn up the heat during that time and the hot showers optomize your hormones.
amazing channel.. been following you for a while .. great guests.. keep giving us great content!!!
We loved this episode. It is exactly where we are in life with making changes to better ourselves and those we interact with.
One of my favorites👌🏽 im a fan now of Aubrey. Love your channel, thanks for your hard work Tom.
Bless you both guys, Thank you for great episode
A Strong mind -(work hard) = Strong Life. Thx great topic
Yet another great interview! He discussed so many things I was thinking but didn't quite know how to verbalize
Thoroughly enjoyable discussion. Thank you.
So nice to hear someone saying these things being on same wavelength all the way. Also experiencing same, and also concluding that is so freeing it's unbelievable, yet it's real! Thanks Aubrey. Nice to know I'm not an only one.
I love this series so much! Keep going!
*ALSO FASTING!*
29:40 He agrees "if you can't do that use other methods" & fasting is another way to build self control after "choice".
Help full. Thanks.
Such an awesome interaction! Aubrey Marcus just thought me how to love myself!
I had not seen this episode before now, seems like my favorite yet!!! But that is the beauty of your show, every episode feels like the best one you've heard! This guy just seems to make so much sense to me though...really...
1 of the best shows for sure on this channel. maybe the best
Hi Tom, I really enjoy your channel and learning from everyone so thank you for that. How do you choose your habits from learning all of these different viewpoints?
I love every moment of the interview.
thanks Tom! you are amazing for sharing this :)
People think “working hard” is all physical, in reality it’s mental physical emotional
So true
Couldn't said it any better.💯
Loved this one Tom! Cool to see you finally got him on! I've missed so many of your recent ones but keen to get back into it! Keep up your Amazing work man!
Wow!!! What an amazing interview! Lots to think about! 🙏
Loved this episode
AMAZINGGGGG - Thank youuu
Inspiring interview. Inspiring ideas ❤️
This guys point on open relationships is gold.
Being in open relationship means he is getting validation from many other girls outside of his primary relationship.
Being in monogamous relationship means you are getting validation from 1 primary relationship.
What is golden?
So unless he is in half open relationship, him not having all that pu**y, I call BS on this!
listening to it the 10th time. still a lot more to grasp. great talk.
“Now go do it” Love that quote. Now I understand whats the meaning of person of action. He is someone that does not stop. Gonna follow him, to be inspire as I follow you Tom. Thanks, everyday thanks.
Awesome. Yet another really interesting interview. And thanks so much for the skillshare link, Tom.
I was intrigued by the headline and thought, FINALLY, someone who knows energy! However, there is a definite energetic component that locks belief into the body and mind that is so important yet so overlooked. Getting over your fear has nothing to do with "logically" forcing yourself to get over something. It has an energy/frequency component that is trying to keep you safe. When you release "that" part, then the struggle and fear dissolves!
The better thing, I think, is to say, you are good where you are AND you can do more. You are perfect AND you can do more. The 'but' implies imperfection and lack. You can say to yourself, "I am a both a masterpiece and a work in progress."
My favorite talk. Well done
24:00 - Kaizen & Kansha, my two favorite concepts!
GREAT EPISODE!!
I don't work hard at everything I do, but when I do it is on what is important to my work, life, and relationships.
✊🏾
Yep true
Seenery 5 am q
Impact Theory is like a Book and All these Interviews are different Chapters! Think about it..
Thought I was the only one.
He should see this comment. He could literally take all of the transcripts and extra footnotes of information for each episode and put them into a book or quarterly magazine of some kind and it would be an amazing self help resource. Reading the answers that these experts give can lead to a deeper understanding of their message that simply watching/listening to them can't offer.
hmmmm
@@Chikimefuiki That's why I take notes on these and then review them later.
Choice nr1 meet aoman that enjoys spending time with u more than mind transposing your brain into psychiatry w
Great interview!! Thank you
Another fantastic video. Thank you! When strong emotions come up, look at yourself in the 3rd person, question and view things from the outside. Consciousness will shine. And if I know I should, then I should be doing it. No more "I should be doing..." JUST DO!