One of my goals is to be a tourist in my city & through life! I constantly say I want to try new places, go to this town, etc. but I am determined to really push myself & see my city/state as much as possible
I got into strength training around a year and a half ago, after having done only yoga and running for years. I started by buying myself a set of adjustable dumbbells (from 2 to 10kg) and exercised by following at home workout videos 3 to 4 times a week (I went through a few month long programmes by Justina Ercole. I love her!). I learnt so much about functional training, correctly positioning my body and just what exercises I can do (how many reps, sets, what tempo) through those videos, and all of it at home, with no awkward “I don’t know what i’m doing” feeling. After a few months I started dipping my toes into going to the gym, and anytime I went I would just find a bench, get myself some dumbbells and do my at home workouts, so I never felt lost or stupid, because I knew exactly what I was doing. Eventually I replaced my dumbbell deadlifts with a barbell. Then I started using a pullup machine. Then another time I would try a rowing machine. The next time another machine. And slowly but surely I got to the stage where I now know exactly what I’m doing at the gym and why. I’m still learning new things, but I feel so confident walking up to a weight rack and working out, even if I’m surrounded by hunky dudes. i never thought I’d get there :). So my biggest advice is committing to a good at home workout program. Some real stuff with dumbbells heavy enough to challenge a beginner. Adjustable ones are best, as then you can use the lighter setting for upper body and the heavier one for lower body. You’ll find yourself confidently entering the gym before you know it :)
For the hair; you could go icy blonde and enjoy that for as long as possible then go for a big chop, dye your hair back to its natural colour, then grow it out. I did that a few years ago and it was a good way to go out regarding hair colouration.
Love the video! And some advice from someone who went icy blonde: do it once to get it out of your system. I only kept mine for like 8 months because of the cost of upkeep and the damage. With my natural hair color being pretty dark, my roots were never as icy as the rest of my hair and I never felt like I got it to look the way I wanted it. That being said, I always wanted to do it and anyone telling me why I shouldn’t never changed my mind. Doing it and not loving it made me really love and embrace my natural hair 😊
If you want a medievalist revival book, you should read The Last Unicorn by Peter S Beagle. It was written in the 60s and it has beautiful imagery partnered with great insights into what it means to have autonomy (especially as a woman.) It quickly became one of my favorite books I have ever read
My sister loves that book! I watched the movie with her when I was a kid and that bull still haunts my dreams. But it is absolutely beautiful. I still have the book laying around here, maybe I'll read it one day
my fitness advice: i tried to Be A Runner for the same reasons as you (free, alleged "runner's high", etc) and it just wasn't fun or worth it for me. now i roller skate and do strength training and actually enjoy exercising! there are so many kinds of exercise out there and it should be something you look forward to. like others i highly recommend checking out different home workouts on youtube so you can get a better sense of what you like and go from there. wishing you all the best for the year and i can't wait for all the videos you make!!
Feel you so hard on the exercise topic! I’ve been struggling with staying consistent in the gym, running, etc. as well but the thing that really motivates me are the people around me. Running has never been my thing, too, so I substituted it with martial arts and what kept me on track were the amazing people I’ve met there and even became friends with! Going to the gym was an additional thing since some of the people from that class went to the same gym as I did and offered to go there together. So my advice would be to find like-minded people who may have the same struggles, but will motivate each other to exercise together and feel less awkward in the gym for example. :)
Loved this video ♥️ Strength training has been SO transformative for my relationship with my body and food!! There are also a lot of free online resources like programs and tutorials :)
Omg this is so weird My saved pinterest pins looks like yours too, that’s how I visualize this year or maybe this kinda lifestyle I’m willing to take. I really love your videos, didn’t know you were a Leo. Same sis 🫶🏼 Maybe that’s why I relate with you and your content so much! Idk♥️ I wish you all the wonderful things in the world and hopefully u get more blessings that you expected from your vision board. 🖤 (and im currently reading the bell jar lol)
They are plenty of workout programs free on UA-cam! From beginner to advanced just find which instructor fits you ❤ I've done Sydney Cummings programs from 3 years now. She includes stretching and does little motivational talks at the end. At the end of the day, any movement makes our bodies feel good 😊💌
love your vibe, style and the sun tattoo😍✨ I'm planning to get a moon tattoo with clouds 🌜✨ I just started exercising with my sister because I need to gain strength and better my posture and uff 😮💨😅 it's not easy after not excessing for year but much needed 💯
I’m exactly the same when it comes to exercise. I’m going to start swimming this year as it’s affordable, I don’t have to see anyone else and it’s quite relaxing
For the hair - go icy, it’ll look sooo good. And for the workouts - you can try at home pilates for beginners, 10 to 15 min at a time, 2 to 3 times a week.
Big time for reading: get an app like Fable. It really helps hold me accountable as someone who loves to read but then proceeds not to for months at a time. It asks if you’ve read that day and tells you want percentage of a book you’ve gotten through, which has really motivated me to finish them instead of setting a book down and not picking it up again
when is comes to working out and and eating “healthy” pls be careful cuz it can be a slippery slope for some with disordered eating. this isn’t to discourage you for doing those things but i think it’s best to start with one or the other, i think when we dive into both you can get unrealistic expectations on how fast results come because most of time you get the most results after the first few months and hit a very normal plateau and makes us think “if we just eat cleaner” or “workout even more” we will continue to get those fast results… my recommendation start by focusing on working out and getting familiar with the gym and then you can lean into eating more of an 80/20 diet (because processed food aren’t always bad) anddd always prioritizing a healthy mind and body not a small body
I really enjoyed reading Longitude by Dava Sobel. It's a non-fiction about the history of how humans made clocks precise enough to know where they are in the world. You can figure out you're latitude (how North/South you are) using only the sun/stars, but to know your longitude (how far East/West you are), you're going to need a really good clock.
7:56 American Dutchess actually has this type of witchy victorian boots being available for pre-order! I've been dreaming about these boots, but I live in a country where it's really difficult to buy something from the US, and it's barely possible to find a similar type of boot in where I live😭 also, if you have wavy hair, I'd say that Curly Method is really worth trying as a help to grow them out, and in some ways also has potential to ease the daily care routine. my hair are wavy/lightly curly too, and when I started doing curly method and use a softer shampoo instead of the usual harsh one, after about one year of this, my hair just naturally became less oily, and now I have to wash them just once a week! (and there are styling products out there that can also hold for a week, so it's really convenient actually)
Goth really can be a plethora of things. I enjoy the music style just as much as I enjoy the fashion and makeup, but there's really no rule about what "true goth" means. If you ask me, it's about accepting the darkness in life and seeing the beauty of the hurt and suffering we can go through to make life lighter and happier without glorifying those. I know there's a lot of gatekeeping and hierarchy in the subculture, but if anything I think it's nice to see "non-goths" (whatever that can be) exploring it as part of their personal journey. Who knows, they might stay, and even if they don't, maybe they can help revitalize things. I know it was only a stray thought on your video, but it made me want to comment. Cheers, I love your style, the video was superb too.
I'm not goth but my favorite place to dance in my city is a goth club that has been around for about 25-30 years. The warmth, comradery, and carefree expressiveness of the people I've met there is more than other clubs I've been to. That's why I go (plus good music and people are there to dance more than to be seen, and for me dancing is therapeutic). I usually feel very at home there even though I don't look goth. I've never felt gatekeeper vibes. Maybe it's different with younger goths now? I'm 42 and most at this club are my age or older.
I'm just like you in terms of being the least athletic kid in class growing up. I do reformer pilates 2x week (plus home yoga) - pilates is expensive but worth it. See if there's a studio near you that does a discounted trial membership. I promise the reformer isn't nearly as scary as it looks! Also I know you said you're not a fan, but maybeee consider a Kindle/e-reader. As a PhD candidate who basically reads for a living, there's no way I'd read as much as I do without one. Book rec - Practical Magic series. I think you'll find those books delightful
As the previous GM of a Club Pilates studio, definitely try pilates. Low impact with great results. It WILL kick your ass but in the best way possible. Don't forget your grippy socks! 💜😊
I struggle with exercises sm but u should look into some chill things to do like rajio every morning (it's like 3 min almost a stretch movement u daily) or some growwithjo walking workouts. I'm still having problems doing stuff but those are usually easier steps to take than actually go to the gym or something
one book rec off the top of my head that i haven’t read yet lol but the vibes seem like you’d like! piranesi by susannah clark, described as haunting fantasy. the cover itself is so beautiful!
I wish I could go to the gym with you & teach you some of the machines!! There is still a lot I don’t know but once you learn & can be confident in the gym it becomes such a magical space. I *also* was the slowest with the mile & horrible at sports in PE.
From your movie interest, I think you should check out Jay Kristoff books (especially Nevernight and Empire of the vampire). However, they are very much fantasy dense, but awesome.
if u want more fantasy books, i highly recommend the dwarves by markus heitz or the way of kings by brandon sanderson! i will admit, they’re a bit of a bore in the beginning, but once u pass the first few chapters and get the adventure going, u get sucked in and its absolutely magical!
If you love fantasy and clearly are a fan of vampires haha, I recommend the Empire of a Vampire series by Jay Kristoff. It’s super immersive, romantic and hard to put down ❤
Loving this video! I am feeling very inspired. Re: exercise, you could look into partnering with or trying train well. Also what lip liner are you wearing?
A great book for anyone looking for help regarding disordered eating and body image is When Food is Love by Geneen Roth, so insightful and helpful x Love your videos so much 💜
One of my fave books is Patrick Suskind's 'Perfume', its a historical fantasy novel and it is very much on the strange and bewitching side of literature but that is kinda the appeal haha🌟🌟🌟
love the medieval inspired fashion revival as well, especially thinking of ren faire outfits for this year (& incorporating them day to day) the making fun of actual goths is not it tho lol.. from my pov we're just a bit tired & wary of everyone using goth to mean anything with black or dark colors, it's not specific to u. it's a music subculture so we tend to take the music & community aspect more seriously but i get that it's more colloquially used to just mean "dark aesthetic" now. i think ur comment just rubbed me the wrong way & comes across as a bit mean girl imo. no hate intended, i think your style is beautiful & enjoyed the video, aside from that comment :)
Try pole dancing! I never enjoy sport in my life, body goals or health never pushed me enough to get over myself, but when you wanna execute a cool trick - that's one hell of motivation. It's hard, veryyyyy challenging, beautiful and addictive. And combine artistic expression cause it has dance elements
If you're a slow reader and not into reading, picking up The secret history isnt the best choice. Personally I didnt like the book, i recomend you "Piranesi", its short and interesting
Heather robertson on youtube is who helped me with my fitness journey! I was postpartum going through it! Scared to go to the gym too and she really helped me not only get into shape in my own home, but teach me the movements that I could do in the gym with actual machines
You actually didn’t really butcher the pronounciation of Ann Demeulemeester in my opinion as a Belgian girlie 😉 her stuff is so badass the boots are to die for! Also the tattoo thing is real, my partner isn’t allowing me anymore to travel for tattoos 🥲 fortunately there are very talented artists in Belgium but still there are some artists on my list that are abroad…
One of my goals is to be a tourist in my city & through life! I constantly say I want to try new places, go to this town, etc. but I am determined to really push myself & see my city/state as much as possible
I got into strength training around a year and a half ago, after having done only yoga and running for years. I started by buying myself a set of adjustable dumbbells (from 2 to 10kg) and exercised by following at home workout videos 3 to 4 times a week (I went through a few month long programmes by Justina Ercole. I love her!). I learnt so much about functional training, correctly positioning my body and just what exercises I can do (how many reps, sets, what tempo) through those videos, and all of it at home, with no awkward “I don’t know what i’m doing” feeling. After a few months I started dipping my toes into going to the gym, and anytime I went I would just find a bench, get myself some dumbbells and do my at home workouts, so I never felt lost or stupid, because I knew exactly what I was doing. Eventually I replaced my dumbbell deadlifts with a barbell. Then I started using a pullup machine. Then another time I would try a rowing machine. The next time another machine. And slowly but surely I got to the stage where I now know exactly what I’m doing at the gym and why. I’m still learning new things, but I feel so confident walking up to a weight rack and working out, even if I’m surrounded by hunky dudes. i never thought I’d get there :).
So my biggest advice is committing to a good at home workout program. Some real stuff with dumbbells heavy enough to challenge a beginner. Adjustable ones are best, as then you can use the lighter setting for upper body and the heavier one for lower body. You’ll find yourself confidently entering the gym before you know it :)
Amazing advice
For the hair; you could go icy blonde and enjoy that for as long as possible then go for a big chop, dye your hair back to its natural colour, then grow it out. I did that a few years ago and it was a good way to go out regarding hair colouration.
Omg the bell jar mentioned 😍 Variety and too late by coolen hoover are good.
Love the video! And some advice from someone who went icy blonde: do it once to get it out of your system. I only kept mine for like 8 months because of the cost of upkeep and the damage. With my natural hair color being pretty dark, my roots were never as icy as the rest of my hair and I never felt like I got it to look the way I wanted it. That being said, I always wanted to do it and anyone telling me why I shouldn’t never changed my mind. Doing it and not loving it made me really love and embrace my natural hair 😊
If you want a medievalist revival book, you should read The Last Unicorn by Peter S Beagle. It was written in the 60s and it has beautiful imagery partnered with great insights into what it means to have autonomy (especially as a woman.) It quickly became one of my favorite books I have ever read
this sounds right up my alley - thanks for the rec!
The animated movie is also gorgeous! A fave from my 90s childhood 🦄
My sister loves that book! I watched the movie with her when I was a kid and that bull still haunts my dreams. But it is absolutely beautiful. I still have the book laying around here, maybe I'll read it one day
Youre my comfort creator I can’t wait for all the videos you’ll post this year!!
I am so happy to see someone so relatable in so many ways! Keep being You in 2025
my fitness advice: i tried to Be A Runner for the same reasons as you (free, alleged "runner's high", etc) and it just wasn't fun or worth it for me. now i roller skate and do strength training and actually enjoy exercising! there are so many kinds of exercise out there and it should be something you look forward to. like others i highly recommend checking out different home workouts on youtube so you can get a better sense of what you like and go from there.
wishing you all the best for the year and i can't wait for all the videos you make!!
Feel you so hard on the exercise topic! I’ve been struggling with staying consistent in the gym, running, etc. as well but the thing that really motivates me are the people around me. Running has never been my thing, too, so I substituted it with martial arts and what kept me on track were the amazing people I’ve met there and even became friends with! Going to the gym was an additional thing since some of the people from that class went to the same gym as I did and offered to go there together. So my advice would be to find like-minded people who may have the same struggles, but will motivate each other to exercise together and feel less awkward in the gym for example. :)
Oh my gosh let those curls shine girl!!!!! ❤️🫶🏽
Can't wait to see how you decorate your place! The aesthetic is beautiful 💫
this nightgown suits you so well omg 😍
Loved this video ♥️
Strength training has been SO transformative for my relationship with my body and food!! There are also a lot of free online resources like programs and tutorials :)
Omg this is so weird
My saved pinterest pins looks like yours too, that’s how I visualize this year or maybe this kinda lifestyle I’m willing to take. I really love your videos, didn’t know you were a Leo. Same sis 🫶🏼
Maybe that’s why I relate with you and your content so much! Idk♥️
I wish you all the wonderful things in the world and hopefully u get more blessings that you expected from your vision board. 🖤
(and im currently reading the bell jar lol)
I love your voice, is so calming ✨
I’m making my own chainmail this year! I’ve wanted to make chainmail since I was a kid. Very excited for this trend
They are plenty of workout programs free on UA-cam! From beginner to advanced just find which instructor fits you ❤ I've done Sydney Cummings programs from 3 years now. She includes stretching and does little motivational talks at the end.
At the end of the day, any movement makes our bodies feel good 😊💌
love your vibe, style and the sun tattoo😍✨ I'm planning to get a moon tattoo with clouds 🌜✨ I just started exercising with my sister because I need to gain strength and better my posture and uff 😮💨😅 it's not easy after not excessing for year but much needed 💯
Love your videos !! My recommendation for reading is don't feel pressured to read the classics, read silly romances or fantasy and have fun :)
Just found your acct and I love it here! 💋💋💋
This is great. One thing: Gunne Sax is pronounced "gunny." It is a play on another name for a once-common object, the burlap sack.
I’m exactly the same when it comes to exercise. I’m going to start swimming this year as it’s affordable, I don’t have to see anyone else and it’s quite relaxing
14:55 my jaw dropped!!!! You are so beautiful, wow ❤
omg do the natural hair that would look so good on you and more realistic long term!!
For the hair - go icy, it’ll look sooo good. And for the workouts - you can try at home pilates for beginners, 10 to 15 min at a time, 2 to 3 times a week.
yesssss this made my day😍 loving the 2025 vision
Big time for reading: get an app like Fable. It really helps hold me accountable as someone who loves to read but then proceeds not to for months at a time. It asks if you’ve read that day and tells you want percentage of a book you’ve gotten through, which has really motivated me to finish them instead of setting a book down and not picking it up again
when is comes to working out and and eating “healthy” pls be careful cuz it can be a slippery slope for some with disordered eating. this isn’t to discourage you for doing those things but i think it’s best to start with one or the other, i think when we dive into both you can get unrealistic expectations on how fast results come because most of time you get the most results after the first few months and hit a very normal plateau and makes us think “if we just eat cleaner” or “workout even more” we will continue to get those fast results…
my recommendation start by focusing on working out and getting familiar with the gym and then you can lean into eating more of an 80/20 diet (because processed food aren’t always bad) anddd always prioritizing a healthy mind and body not a small body
I really enjoyed reading Longitude by Dava Sobel. It's a non-fiction about the history of how humans made clocks precise enough to know where they are in the world. You can figure out you're latitude (how North/South you are) using only the sun/stars, but to know your longitude (how far East/West you are), you're going to need a really good clock.
Loved this ❤
For the hair I vote you go to your natural hair color but get a fabulous long icy platinum wig! Love your style so much ❤
7:56 American Dutchess actually has this type of witchy victorian boots being available for pre-order! I've been dreaming about these boots, but I live in a country where it's really difficult to buy something from the US, and it's barely possible to find a similar type of boot in where I live😭
also, if you have wavy hair, I'd say that Curly Method is really worth trying as a help to grow them out, and in some ways also has potential to ease the daily care routine. my hair are wavy/lightly curly too, and when I started doing curly method and use a softer shampoo instead of the usual harsh one, after about one year of this, my hair just naturally became less oily, and now I have to wash them just once a week! (and there are styling products out there that can also hold for a week, so it's really convenient actually)
Goth really can be a plethora of things. I enjoy the music style just as much as I enjoy the fashion and makeup, but there's really no rule about what "true goth" means. If you ask me, it's about accepting the darkness in life and seeing the beauty of the hurt and suffering we can go through to make life lighter and happier without glorifying those.
I know there's a lot of gatekeeping and hierarchy in the subculture, but if anything I think it's nice to see "non-goths" (whatever that can be) exploring it as part of their personal journey. Who knows, they might stay, and even if they don't, maybe they can help revitalize things.
I know it was only a stray thought on your video, but it made me want to comment.
Cheers, I love your style, the video was superb too.
I'm not goth but my favorite place to dance in my city is a goth club that has been around for about 25-30 years. The warmth, comradery, and carefree expressiveness of the people I've met there is more than other clubs I've been to. That's why I go (plus good music and people are there to dance more than to be seen, and for me dancing is therapeutic). I usually feel very at home there even though I don't look goth. I've never felt gatekeeper vibes. Maybe it's different with younger goths now? I'm 42 and most at this club are my age or older.
I'm just like you in terms of being the least athletic kid in class growing up. I do reformer pilates 2x week (plus home yoga) - pilates is expensive but worth it. See if there's a studio near you that does a discounted trial membership. I promise the reformer isn't nearly as scary as it looks!
Also I know you said you're not a fan, but maybeee consider a Kindle/e-reader. As a PhD candidate who basically reads for a living, there's no way I'd read as much as I do without one. Book rec - Practical Magic series. I think you'll find those books delightful
As the previous GM of a Club Pilates studio, definitely try pilates. Low impact with great results. It WILL kick your ass but in the best way possible. Don't forget your grippy socks! 💜😊
As a New Year’s resolution I decided to comment on content I like so here I am, hi everyone !
I struggle with exercises sm but u should look into some chill things to do like rajio every morning (it's like 3 min almost a stretch movement u daily) or some growwithjo walking workouts. I'm still having problems doing stuff but those are usually easier steps to take than actually go to the gym or something
Find a mat pilates class! It feels similar to yoga, but it's still strength training which is the best kind of exercise for bone health.
one book rec off the top of my head that i haven’t read yet lol but the vibes seem like you’d like! piranesi by susannah clark, described as haunting fantasy. the cover itself is so beautiful!
I wish I could go to the gym with you & teach you some of the machines!! There is still a lot I don’t know but once you learn & can be confident in the gym it becomes such a magical space. I *also* was the slowest with the mile & horrible at sports in PE.
15:05 if you want to have ice blonde princess curls but you don't think it will work out, maybe you could save up and buy a wig of decent quality 🤷♀️
I think you might enjoy the one dark window duology 🖤 the vibes and story were good imo!
I also have a lot of wavy hair that i try to get knee length, now i have them almost butt lengh and it's hardcore to take care of but soooo worth it
From your movie interest, I think you should check out Jay Kristoff books (especially Nevernight and Empire of the vampire). However, they are very much fantasy dense, but awesome.
if u want more fantasy books, i highly recommend the dwarves by markus heitz or the way of kings by brandon sanderson! i will admit, they’re a bit of a bore in the beginning, but once u pass the first few chapters and get the adventure going, u get sucked in and its absolutely magical!
If you love fantasy and clearly are a fan of vampires haha, I recommend the Empire of a Vampire series by Jay Kristoff. It’s super immersive, romantic and hard to put down ❤
Hey!!! Happy new year dear 🖤🖤😊wishing u all the best. Really enjoyed every video you've put out this year✨
Last year?😅
Loving this video! I am feeling very inspired.
Re: exercise, you could look into partnering with or trying train well.
Also what lip liner are you wearing?
A great book for anyone looking for help regarding disordered eating and body image is When Food is Love by Geneen Roth, so insightful and helpful x
Love your videos so much 💜
One of my fave books is Patrick Suskind's 'Perfume', its a historical fantasy novel and it is very much on the strange and bewitching side of literature but that is kinda the appeal haha🌟🌟🌟
FELT that gym comment, don't think I'll go back to the gym for a whileee
love the medieval inspired fashion revival as well, especially thinking of ren faire outfits for this year (& incorporating them day to day)
the making fun of actual goths is not it tho lol.. from my pov we're just a bit tired & wary of everyone using goth to mean anything with black or dark colors, it's not specific to u. it's a music subculture so we tend to take the music & community aspect more seriously but i get that it's more colloquially used to just mean "dark aesthetic" now. i think ur comment just rubbed me the wrong way & comes across as a bit mean girl imo. no hate intended, i think your style is beautiful & enjoyed the video, aside from that comment :)
I have the three of swords tattooed in the exact same spot (but upside down). I hope all of your tattoo dreams come into reality 🗡️
Love your style. For your hair, instead of risking breakage and being able to get color and length you want, invest in a good wig.
Omg where’s your phone case from please? So nice!✨
burga :)
There is a book called “Poet, Mystic, Widow, Wife.” Which are accounts from women in the medieval ages. Sounds right up your alley!
off topic but i LOVE your voice 🫠✨
Shin is veryyy painful but so worth it. I’m a nurse so i dont have any visible tattoos so they’re all on my legs❤
Try pole dancing! I never enjoy sport in my life, body goals or health never pushed me enough to get over myself, but when you wanna execute a cool trick - that's one hell of motivation. It's hard, veryyyyy challenging, beautiful and addictive. And combine artistic expression cause it has dance elements
My goal is to not fit into aesthetic and just buy pieces I like
If you're a slow reader and not into reading, picking up The secret history isnt the best choice. Personally I didnt like the book, i recomend you "Piranesi", its short and interesting
Can we talk about how aesthetic is this video?
Nooo! don't 'do anything with your hair. It really looks great this way!
Heather robertson on youtube is who helped me with my fitness journey! I was postpartum going through it! Scared to go to the gym too and she really helped me not only get into shape in my own home, but teach me the movements that I could do in the gym with actual machines
You actually didn’t really butcher the pronounciation of Ann Demeulemeester in my opinion as a Belgian girlie 😉 her stuff is so badass the boots are to die for! Also the tattoo thing is real, my partner isn’t allowing me anymore to travel for tattoos 🥲 fortunately there are very talented artists in Belgium but still there are some artists on my list that are abroad…
15:05 if you want to have ice blonde princess curls but you don't think it will work out, maybe you could save up and buy a wig of decent quality 🤷♀️