Situations like this is WHY I ASK WHO ALL OVER THERE before entering a room with people i know dont like me or i dont like them and most times ..it be family!
The ending!! when she said “ God said I have to take some things from you because you not getting it” she’s saying it’s a bigger picture!! God will strip you literally and make you over again! 💯
@@ChuckNorrisFake See yall just talk.. Do you read your bible frfr?? God tested so many people in the bible to see if they were loyal to him!! God will give to you and also take from you to teach you something! that doesn’t mean not one bit he’s intentionally hurting you!! but sometimes it takes a little hurt for certain people. God will take your job your car your house & everything else if your focus isn’t on what he has for you!!! so pls reply to someone else i’m not it ! this in me not on me!
So where does her husband fit within all of this? Is she the main character? And sacrifices have to be made specifically around her? Why does he have to be taken away because SHE "didnt get" it? See, YALL just talk. No logical consistency, you have the right to believe in whatever you want to believe in, just like everyone else has the right to ask questions and believe otherwise if said answers don't make sense. The problem is everyone believes they're the main character in life, that the things THEY believe in is more truthful than what anyone else believes. Also, the Holy Bible is just one of hundreds of religious scripture, have you READ ALL SCRIPTURE??? Then you don't get to look down on someone who hasn't read the book YOU believe in. Educate yourself on EVERYTHING or you're JUST TALK. We as humans don't know shit and we'll be long extinct before we do. But since you clearly DONT read, I don't expect you to have made it this far in the comment.
Sometimes you can’t mix your partner & certain family members. You really gotta know who to bring around who, ESPECIALLY with liquor involved!!! Thank you all for supporting my podcast love you all!
Love you back Chris. I absolutely love your content on this channel and you are a good interviewer. You know how to keep your supporters engaged. Keep up the good work. I am a strong fan. Also, R.I.P to this ladies fiancé, he didn't deserve to be shot. No one does unless it's self defense. I wish her a prosperous, happy and safe future moving forward.
This is sad. Family generation curse. That trauma runs deep. You love the family you’re born into but you also love the family you create. Ain’t no words for that pain.
Baby both of the brothers turned out to be killers. The whole family is violent she said even the women. There is a deep root of abuse here. Those boys were hurt and angry at something/someone.
I loved her honesty and pls don’t judge this woman cause we’re all did things we wasn’t to proud of.. she deserved happiness and if it took for him to bring her that then be it ❤
@@kisha1UP yep 2018 google it 2018 Decatur Ga. Slit my niece throat & waited until my sister unlocked her room door getting ready for work & he jumped on the bed while she in the shower & stabbed my sister fiancé in the neck 🤦♀️🤦♀️ still can’t comprehend what happened that day! & what makes it even sadder my sister haven’t been in her right mind since 🥲🥲🥲🥲🙏🤦♀️
@@kisha1UP girl I’m still tryna put it together & I’m still mind blown! All I can say is drugs lead to mental illnesses & yea🤦♀️ ❤️❤️❤️ love sis GOD got us
This is deep. I’m not sure if she realizes the generational curse/ trauma that they all must break before this violence is passed down to their kids. I pray for her awareness and her families healing. 🙏🏽🥺
This is why I don’t go around my fam. I learned early on being in the hood & on the streets from addiction that being around unstable, unhinged, mentally incapable, and emotionally uncontrolled people can be fatal. The positions we put ourselves in MATTER, the family/friends/acquaintances in our circle can/will comprise our wellbeing.
True....I can agree and relate to all you said. On top of that I have brothers who are unpredictable as hell. One was my best friend nearly all our lives but he has gotten too far off that bottle trying to numb his pain and it I can handle seeing him slowly kill himself but also, I can't deal with the unhinged behavior. A lot of sober ppl font even need to be carrying guns much less intoxicated ones. Like I tell these youngins....this ain't GTA or some video game this is REAL LIFE!!!
Then the crime her other brother accused of …. I couldn’t be friends with her people with that much violence and chaos drama always spills over into your life . She needs to separate far from her family if she truly wants peace . And therapy to make sure the same demons aren’t running through her .
Family can be so toxic, and the worst possible people for you to spend your time with. There are so many stories in my own family about violence among members, including my grandfather shooting his own son! Distance and healing are in order ❤❤❤
Thank you all for the encouraging words. And tobtjose who dont understand i can understand why you wouldnt. To God be the glory and the thank you tremendously to Trappin Anonymous for the outlet
Have you started going to therapy consistently now and are you going to get a DNA test for your daughter? She deserves to know which one is truly her birth father. Many blessings to you on your journey ahead.
@@hoopermetcalfhey don't pay the negative comments no mind.these people know you better than you know yourself.it took alot of heart telling your story.
Bad discernment of her ! If your brother and fiancé had past beef WHY would y’all get drunk & high together. I got annoyed listening .Sad story cold game
It’s crazy to me how she just snowed over the fact that her fiancé slapped her brother and thought nothing was gonna happen. They knew he wasn’t all the way there.
She said she thought they was gonna fight and her brother was good with the hands but she was trying to stop him from going in the Fannie pack. Did I hear that wrong?
@@Poor_unfortunate_soulyess because she said she though her brother was in something and her brother and fiance had a beef! So yes she would be in her finance side.
Because he wasn't even supposed to get out the car had he not get out the car and got in his face it wouldn't of got slapped. Only the sister and fiance were supposed to switch seats.
This video popped up on my feed it seem so surreal via the intro , I went to highschool with him and he was like a big brother to me. 😢 I still can’t believe he’s gone
I can’t stand a nicca like that. The kind that will instead of saying “hey you hurt my feelings” or “hey I’m not even on that”((w/trying to turn down a fade they know they’re scared of)), they’d rather create a permanent solution for a temporary problem. Makes no sense. & he shouldn’t have been there. He was already getting into it w/ his son is why she had to pick him up. & now her nicca? I’m sorry it wasn’t everyone else. He was on one. & it wasn’t self defense. Since when a s l a p warrant a m u r d e r?
@@victoriabarnes9476Sounds like her Fiance was slangin to me also. It's all a mess but.....I feel like her brother brought the fuel AND fire to this situation. Her Fiance was not innocent in the entirety of this situation though. Like she said, they had other history of bumping heads.
Sis I understand you and your honesty. Love is a verb, we all evolve and rarely we stay in love with the one person during our "cycle" of "loves", this is not Karma! This is Life! Please don't punish yourself, you chose the energy of love, no coincidences hun, your fiancee gave you what you needed, just for the season 💖💫💥 Guilt is a Wasted Emotion.Period. Take it from a woman who has been here 70 years 💯
This is why it’s important to stop domestic violence.. our community is notorious for sweeping things under the rug .. for every action there is a reaction this is the prime example of not thinking it through. Sad for everybody involved. Your hands, your bodily fluids (spitting on someone) and items used to touch another person are all weapons you can’t tell me how to react to you assaulting me.
But since she was in a relationship with her side piece, she could have found out if he was the real dad instead of giving her child the load to carry. I hope her ex-husband is living his best life, drama free with his person.
I love her realness❤️ Dang these stories remind me to be thankful even when things isn’t going my way b/c always somebody out there going through worse🥺
She needs to get a paternity test asap it's not fair to the child .I would've of never let the brother and my fiance be together in a car if they didn't get along. The little brother is chaotic and needs meds if he's bipolar and not self medicated.
She said he pulled the condom of and she didnt know it. Then she laughs about it. Thats not funny at all. He was jeopardizing her life. He could have gave her anything. A dude thats quick to pull a condom off the very first time without my permission I would have a serious problem with that. Trust me, I wouldn't of been laughing about the situation. Thats just sad 😔 and disrespectful 😮. But on another note R.I.P to her fiance'. He didnt deserved to be murdered especially by his fiancés brother. My condolences to the young lady. I hope she has a happy, healthy and fulfilling future ahead
Her and her childhood sweetheart became bored and comfortable w one another. Then the street dude come in with his swag and charisma and made her feel alive again. Tore apart her family because she wasn’t content with her blessings. We all know toxic stuff is wrong but it sometimes be fun. This her truth. It’s easy for us to point the finger but we’ve all done something we aren’t proud of !
I don't usually comment but this is so frustrating, what are people going to learn especially Africa Americans😔 You don't need alcohol and drugs and drama in order to have a good time. Also to build a relationship with God. It's the most important thing you going to learn that you'll live a much more peaceful and blessed life. We're in the latter days the stuff is like is going to increase. People are starting to hurt people for reasons smaller than this. Seek, the Lord while he may be found. Call on hin while he is near. Jesus is returning soon🙏🏾 I also pray for her healing. Glad she's getting into the things of God. Hope that continues
Her holding her brother durning the shoot out was a Nono, the fiancé probably didn’t shoot to kill because she was in the way while the brother had a clear shot
Ok. Cuz certain situations I’m not gonna be in!! And I took an oath in 1994 that I would not drink and drive or get in a car with an impaired person 🥹👏🏾
This story mirrors mine sooo much, all i can do is cry and hold my baby girl! I had to send this to my mom and sisters cuz this shit is so similar to my story its crazy!💯😢
My sincere condolences to the life that was lost. Im sure we will all have different opinions about her. The violence in her family didnt stop with the brothers. Shes no angel. However the way she ended the conversation lets me know she's seeking closure and direction from a higher power 🙌
So... If her brother has bipolar issues.. anger problems, basically, and have beef with your fiance since the past. Why are they all hanging out and drunk in the same space? I say that because my brother is the same way. Whenever there's a family function, I dont go. Our sister doesn't go either. It's always drama. She knew better but was too caught in the moment. Her fiance started it when he slapped that man, knowing he had an anger problem. In this day and age, everyone is quick to pull out something, which is sad because we can't go anywhere and have some good ole fashion fun without a fight leading to a death.
@@ashleyandarondrarusselland3295 his/her family may not be perfect but that doesn't mean they're dysfunctional either. My family's not perfect but they're nowhere near where this family is on the dysfunction scale
Wow is all I can say… Listening to her story when she was married… I understand where she was coming from… It’s crazy… we know it’s not ok to cheat in your relationship… but sometimes relationships “Die”… I will say tho… after 20 years… I’m thankful I left my Ex…. I believe that in this Lyfe you hav one chance to fall in love… or to find True Love… In this season of my Lyfe I’m learning to love just Me…. I Love your content 💯 Blessings
Yeah if they had past beef and knowing your brothers behavior,they should have NEVER been in counter with each other on that level they were on smh ill see if it was a family outing and they kinda have to be there because of there partners but THIS Come onnnn smh sad af💔 R.I.P brother 😞
I work at a bar and I see white men argue more with each other and get kicked out 98% more than black so it’s just human period and I’m not black myself.
@@Raspremier 🤷🏾♀️ everyone's situation is different. The ex husband was ok but you're not aware of those past ups and downs that was happening during the marriage at that time. But i do like your point of views, Interesting!!
@@hoopermetcalf no excuse for cheating. If things aren’t working out you move around. Marriage isn’t a frivolous relationship. It’s a vow. A commitment. There’s no room in a marriage for cheating. Just end your relationship. Don’t play with GOD or your significant other that way. It’s filthy and there’s no excuse for it.
This story is so sad and unfortunate. My heart truly goes out to this young lady. I’m not a victim of these particular circumstances. However, the similar dysfunction runs rampant in my family as well…which can go from 0 to 100 in a milli-second unfortunately. I’m a “ppl pleaser” too…especially when it comes to my family and ppl I love/care about. I don’t necessarily see anything wrong with possessing that characteristic, but it somewhat gives u a false sense of control imo bc it makes u feel as if u can control situations and etc/thinking things will not get out of hand in your presence. Which isn’t true bc bs sometimes pops off without having time to intervene and/or being not able to altogether. Her story hit me so hard, and I think it’s bc I identity immensely with all the family dysfunction. My heart truly broke for her, and I cannot and will not judge this woman. Regardless of how ppl feel things should have been handled is neither here nor there…just pray for her as she continues trying to maneuver through the tragic aftermath bc no one is perfect. It’s easy to say what u would or wouldn’t do after something life-changing like this occurs, but majority of the time logic tends to go smooth TF out the window when you’re actually in the thick of the buffoonery. Trust‼️ I’m asking that everyone just prays for her bc what’s done is done at this juncture. I’m sending nothing but prayer, love, light, and healing energy to this woman. #GODis🙏🏽
Wow! I really appreciate your post! Each day is different for me as I'm learning to re-cope with people and certain places. Life is not the same for me. I'm no longer that people pleaser nor do i give any fks about anyone lately besides my children and my fiancé parents💯. This situation has really grown me up to pay more attention and to definitely stay away from any bs once spotted on sight💪🏾
There are several factors involved. Guns, Alcohol/Drugs and Mental Illness. I'm not going to a party I need to bring a gun to. I'm not gonna be around no one (fam or friend) that is volatile and I can't de-escalate.
Definitely gotta keep your hands to yourself, and by them having past issues thats why they shouldn't have been around each other, sorry for your loss. 😢
Yessssss! Finally UA-cam gives me a notification for this channel!!! And I’m just getting home ready to chill…perfect timing ❤ much love from Florida 🌴🐊🌞 Edit: it’s okay to cry beautiful ❤ my heart hurts for you
@@TrappinAnonymous aw I’m feeling a little bit star struck right now 😝 you’re so welcome! Thank you for your hard work,time & dedication to keep us informed,entertained and on top of our 💩 ! Y’all are so appreciated!!
I’m glad she grew from this and learned that’s what’s it’s about a lesson learned even if it had to take pain to learn bless her and her family sorry you had to go threw that ❤
I’m not even 10 minutes in and I just feel so upset I’m so sorry this happened to her and that she had to go through something like this that will forever change her life but the fact that she knew her bf and brother has had past beef she should’ve never had them around each other in the first place she knows how her brother is and how he acts when he drinks and still brought him around and provided the alcohol smh this is so sad I wish she made better choices again I understand I shouldn’t speak on something I’ve never been through because you just never know how you will handle a situation when it happens in the moment but this could’ve been avoided but on a serious note the word family doesn’t mean anything because those same people will backstab you worse than a stranger on the street my heart goes out to her and her fiancés family this is so sad
I truly enjoyed her story telling skills. Sorry for her loss but I'm sure she's got a lot more to offer. Keep sticking with your higher power it's coming
@trappinanonymous Tragic story but Great interview. I appreciate the questions you asked and how you challenged her with different perspectives, accountability etc. As it pertains to the why me? Interview I didn’t see that from you. It felt that you didn’t challenge her or hold her accountable. Barnes spoke as if she just went out to eat and got into an accident. Wasn’t a mistake but rather a bad choice by drinking and driving.
I’m so blessed to have the most levelheaded husband, brothers and brother in laws. My husband married me when I was 18 he was 19, we’re now 35 and 36 and neither of my 6 bothers have ever even came close to arguing with my husband. They all hang out and get along so well plus my husband 5 brothers and my sister’s husbands. All of those men be together here and there and NEVER bump heads. They’re all amazing husbands and fathers 🙌🏾🙌🏾. I love my tribe and this makes me love them even more because they have a lot of respect for one another and all of us women that are involved. I’m so sorry for your loss sweetheart!
If you’re fiancé slapped your Brother first why are you mad at your brother for defending his self. Did he go overboard no he may have felt like you was holding him for your fiancée to shoot him. And if you know your brother was bipolar all the more reason you should have kept them away from one another.
This whole things a mess cheating on husband family killing family fuckin brothers gf everybody in jail.. bringing your scary ass brother around your man when they got beef this a mess for real
Girl please!!!! Your Fiancé was WRONG for KNOWING that man was Drunk and he still Slap TF out of that man. What was he expecting for that man to fight him knowing he was going to lose because he was drunk. Come on now! No matter how you feel YOUR Fiancee was the Aggressor no matter what your brother said your fiancee had no right to put his hands on that man. Honestly if I was your brother I would feel some type of way that you are holding a grudge towards me for not letting your fiancee beat tf outta me. This was just an unfortunate situation.
Man it's kinda hard for me to post this but this is so true because by the sister steady standing there holding her brother asking him to stop shooting is the real reason that her husband is dead. It would've been impossible for her husband to get a good shot off with his wife standing there in the way. So she basically was a shield for her brother and probably don't even know it! I haven't seen the entire video yet that's why I'm writing this, but I wonder if the interviewer is aware enuf to even look at it from my point of view!
What's crazy is I work for this health care company and I actually got the chance to talk to the victims mom and omg to remember that day she called in literally broke my heart because she couldn't stop crying but was still trying to handle her business and me and the mom talked for over an hour on the phone and as we were talking I realized that she literally lived on the next block as me esc iykyk and she is the most beautiful woman and we just talked and talked we prayed and cried and prayed some more so to hear this story and now be able to put a face to everything and everyone is so sad 😢 send hugs and prayer to everyone involved ❤️
Great story: I pray she find healing and comfort. At some point you have to let the hood lifestyle go it only bring destruction. I think the whole family needed therapy. Past trauma can cause sum ppl to make irrational decisions.
Why? She had already cheated…. She did right by leaving, it just didn't go in her favor in the long run! everything happens for a reason make no mistake about that.
It Don’t Sound Like This Was Even A Healthy Relationship. As A Big Sister I’m On DEMON Time With ANYBODY Who Hurt My Siblings And My Rage Get So Bad Its Possible I’d Kill Over Them. Maybe He Disliked Him Because Of The Mistreatment Of His Sister. An Another Thing She Told A Story Where She Said Her Brother Asked Him To Stop Calling The Female He Was Dating A Bitch And Her Man Responded “Well You A Bitch Too” Another Time Her “Fiancé” Was The Aggressor. He Should’ve Kept His Hands To Hisself. Her Brother Ain’t Wrong
There's a lot of toxicity with this family. A lot of trauma that mixed with drinking and smoking isn't a good combo. This could have been prevented in so many ways. There's ppl that come from all walks of life, so please don't think I'm being judgemental.
Please follow @trappinanonymous on Instagram and DM if you have a story that needs to be told.
Situations like this is WHY I ASK WHO ALL OVER THERE before entering a room with people i know dont like me or i dont like them and most times ..it be family!
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I noticed she joked her brother mood was bipolar at the start . I don’t hang around people like that at all they are too irrational .
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Seriously, I don’t either. Family or not; for me, when you have an “anyone can get it” attitude, I keep far away from you. Don’t care.
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Yeah, mixing liquor with the bipolar meds is the worst thing you can ever do!
Yes ma’am!
The ending!! when she said “ God said I have to take some things from you because you not getting it” she’s saying it’s a bigger picture!! God will strip you literally and make you over again! 💯
Whew
@@ChuckNorrisFake See yall just talk.. Do you read your bible frfr?? God tested so many people in the bible to see if they were loyal to him!! God will give to you and also take
from you to teach you something! that doesn’t mean not one bit he’s intentionally hurting you!! but sometimes it takes a little hurt for certain people. God will take your job your car your house & everything else if your focus isn’t on what he has for you!!! so pls reply to someone else i’m not it ! this in me not on me!
AMEN!
So where does her husband fit within all of this? Is she the main character? And sacrifices have to be made specifically around her? Why does he have to be taken away because SHE "didnt get" it? See, YALL just talk. No logical consistency, you have the right to believe in whatever you want to believe in, just like everyone else has the right to ask questions and believe otherwise if said answers don't make sense. The problem is everyone believes they're the main character in life, that the things THEY believe in is more truthful than what anyone else believes. Also, the Holy Bible is just one of hundreds of religious scripture, have you READ ALL SCRIPTURE??? Then you don't get to look down on someone who hasn't read the book YOU believe in. Educate yourself on EVERYTHING or you're JUST TALK. We as humans don't know shit and we'll be long extinct before we do. But since you clearly DONT read, I don't expect you to have made it this far in the comment.
Some people are just dumb and ghetto, this has nothing to do with god, just pure stupidity, foolishness, and ignorance.
Sometimes you can’t mix your partner & certain family members. You really gotta know who to bring around who, ESPECIALLY with liquor involved!!! Thank you all for supporting my podcast love you all!
I love your work and have a story to tell
Love you back Chris. I absolutely love your content on this channel and you are a good interviewer. You know how to keep your supporters engaged. Keep up the good work. I am a strong fan. Also, R.I.P to this ladies fiancé, he didn't deserve to be shot. No one does unless it's self defense. I wish her a prosperous, happy and safe future moving forward.
@@kayg3461love is free! Peace unto you.
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@@TrappinAnonymous what’s your email. ?
This is sad. Family generation curse. That trauma runs deep. You love the family you’re born into but you also love the family you create. Ain’t no words for that pain.
That lil brother is reckless sleeping with the brother gf and then shooting his sister fiancée like damn he out here hurting his family
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Baby both of the brothers turned out to be killers. The whole family is violent she said even the women. There is a deep root of abuse here. Those boys were hurt and angry at something/someone.
@@SweetestNya I wouldn’t even be involved in no family like that couldn’t pay me
I loved her honesty and pls don’t judge this woman cause we’re all did things we wasn’t to proud of.. she deserved happiness and if it took for him to bring her that then be it ❤
Shiiiddd My brother killed my niece & my sister fiancé‼️ stay away from these type of family members because they ruin your life ‼️ literally 😢🤦♀️🙏🙏🙏
Wait, what?
I'm sorry to be in your business but wtf happened, like how did this happen? My condolences to you and your family 🙏🏽
@@kisha1UP yep 2018 google it 2018 Decatur Ga. Slit my niece throat & waited until my sister unlocked her room door getting ready for work & he jumped on the bed while she in the shower & stabbed my sister fiancé in the neck 🤦♀️🤦♀️ still can’t comprehend what happened that day! & what makes it even sadder my sister haven’t been in her right mind since 🥲🥲🥲🥲🙏🤦♀️
@@kisha1UP girl I’m still tryna put it together & I’m still mind blown! All I can say is drugs lead to mental illnesses & yea🤦♀️ ❤️❤️❤️ love sis GOD got us
@sgburgersanddeserts5778 keeping your family in my prayers, peace, love and continued blessings🙏🏽❤️
This is deep. I’m not sure if she realizes the generational curse/ trauma that they all must break before this violence is passed down to their kids. I pray for her awareness and her families healing. 🙏🏽🥺
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Whew!! This is a lesson I’m still learning. 😮💨
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At least she holds herself accountable 😞
This is why I don’t go around my fam. I learned early on being in the hood & on the streets from addiction that being around unstable, unhinged, mentally incapable, and emotionally uncontrolled people can be fatal.
The positions we put ourselves in MATTER, the family/friends/acquaintances in our circle can/will comprise our wellbeing.
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Agreed. people need to stop ignoring things just because people are "family"
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True....I can agree and relate to all you said. On top of that I have brothers who are unpredictable as hell. One was my best friend nearly all our lives but he has gotten too far off that bottle trying to numb his pain and it I can handle seeing him slowly kill himself but also, I can't deal with the unhinged behavior. A lot of sober ppl font even need to be carrying guns much less intoxicated ones. Like I tell these youngins....this ain't GTA or some video game this is REAL LIFE!!!
I literally fell out when the interviewer told her"You left your husband for a bag of rocks?😂😂😂
😂😂😂 the shade!!!
This situation was DOOMED from the get
Then the crime her other brother accused of …. I couldn’t be friends with her people with that much violence and chaos drama always spills over into your life . She needs to separate far from her family if she truly wants peace . And therapy to make sure the same demons aren’t running through her .
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I moved away from my family for the same reasons 😞 I need to see about me you so right about that
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Exactly sometimes we excuse too much when it comes to family. Don’t let them be your down fall. We can love people from a distance.
I agree that she should love them at a distance, generational curses are real. Guilt is a Wasted Emotion!
Family can be so toxic, and the worst possible people for you to spend your time with. There are so many stories in my own family about violence among members, including my grandfather shooting his own son! Distance and healing are in order ❤❤❤
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Thank you all for the encouraging words. And tobtjose who dont understand i can understand why you wouldnt. To God be the glory and the thank you tremendously to Trappin Anonymous for the outlet
Have you started going to therapy consistently now and are you going to get a DNA test for your daughter? She deserves to know which one is truly her birth father. Many blessings to you on your journey ahead.
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I love you Sis you are one strong, intelligent, beautiful woman!!! Thank you for sharing your story!!
I’m not gon lie her story busted my head but I like her and her energy. Sweet lady 💕
Right! She’s honest!
They had multiple past run ins so many red flags . 🚩
Yes and my wild brother can’t be around my man I live in the house with 💯 Siblings don’t be shit sometimes
@@BiancaBarajas Siblings can be your worst enemy sometimes...😢
I loveee her energy this was a great story I hope she gets the healing she needs
Slowly but surely working on it❤️🙏🏾
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@@hoopermetcalfhey don't pay the negative comments no mind.these people know you better than you know yourself.it took alot of heart telling your story.
Bad discernment of her ! If your brother and fiancé had past beef WHY would y’all get drunk & high together. I got annoyed listening .Sad story cold game
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She’s irresponsible
@nbd6213 don't blame her for another humans actions
@@TorreyTy girl bye
@dallythetruth444 1st off I'm not a female 💀 and thank you proving what you said Ain't shit
It’s crazy to me how she just snowed over the fact that her fiancé slapped her brother and thought nothing was gonna happen. They knew he wasn’t all the way there.
She said she thought they was gonna fight and her brother was good with the hands but she was trying to stop him from going in the Fannie pack. Did I hear that wrong?
@@SweetestNya no you didn’t, but still in my opinion she has the fiancés side more than the brother.
I rather for somebody to punch me than slap me it's gonna definitely be a problem;
@@Poor_unfortunate_soulyess because she said she though her brother was in something and her brother and fiance had a beef! So yes she would be in her finance side.
Because he wasn't even supposed to get out the car had he not get out the car and got in his face it wouldn't of got slapped. Only the sister and fiance were supposed to switch seats.
This video popped up on my feed it seem so surreal via the intro , I went to highschool with him and he was like a big brother to me. 😢 I still can’t believe he’s gone
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Love how she kept it 1000% and did not sugar coat nothing. She said hotel motel Holiday Inn 🤣 love her realness
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Some family trauma makes you addicted to chaos. She doesn’t recognize all of them have patterns of self sabotage
This is so true. I dated a guy for 10 years whose family was like this and didn't want to change . But they were definitely addicted to chaos
I don’t think her brother was in fear for his life I think he was in fear of getting his ass whooped he shouldn’t have been there
I can’t stand a nicca like that. The kind that will instead of saying “hey you hurt my feelings” or “hey I’m not even on that”((w/trying to turn down a fade they know they’re scared of)), they’d rather create a permanent solution for a temporary problem. Makes no sense. & he shouldn’t have been there. He was already getting into it w/ his son is why she had to pick him up. & now her nicca? I’m sorry it wasn’t everyone else. He was on one. & it wasn’t self defense. Since when a s l a p warrant a m u r d e r?
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That part
But her boyfriend was strapped also
@@victoriabarnes9476Sounds like her Fiance was slangin to me also. It's all a mess but.....I feel like her brother brought the fuel AND fire to this situation. Her Fiance was not innocent in the entirety of this situation though. Like she said, they had other history of bumping heads.
I love how she was honest with the husband when it happened and how she also let her daughter know what happened.
Sis I understand you and your honesty. Love is a verb, we all evolve and rarely we stay in love with the one person during our "cycle" of "loves", this is not Karma! This is Life! Please don't punish yourself, you chose the energy of love, no coincidences hun, your fiancee gave you what you needed, just for the season 💖💫💥 Guilt is a Wasted Emotion.Period. Take it from a woman who has been here 70 years 💯
@hoopermetcalf I hope you saw this ❤️ praying for you
This is why it’s important to stop domestic violence.. our community is notorious for sweeping things under the rug .. for every action there is a reaction this is the prime example of not thinking it through. Sad for everybody involved. Your hands, your bodily fluids (spitting on someone) and items used to touch another person are all weapons you can’t tell me how to react to you assaulting me.
But since she was in a relationship with her side piece, she could have found out if he was the real dad instead of giving her child the load to carry.
I hope her ex-husband is living his best life, drama free with his person.
😢 Grief will steals your joy. I wish her all the best.
Man brother, this is the best podcast I’ve ever listened to 💯
Peace my brother thanknu
His interview question’g is craaazy 🔥
Thank u!
I love her realness❤️ Dang these stories remind me to be thankful even when things isn’t going my way b/c always somebody out there going through worse🥺
Her holding the brother back why they tussling probably didn’t help the self defense claim ….. this is just tragic
Finally watched the whole interview it was a great listen I pray she gets the healing she needs and again my heart goes out to them all 🩷🩷🩷🙏🏾
She needs to get a paternity test asap it's not fair to the child .I would've of never let the brother and my fiance be together in a car if they didn't get along. The little brother is chaotic and needs meds if he's bipolar and not self medicated.
yeah i was confused on the irresponsibility of it ALL.
She said he pulled the condom of and she didnt know it. Then she laughs about it. Thats not funny at all. He was jeopardizing her life. He could have gave her anything. A dude thats quick to pull a condom off the very first time without my permission I would have a serious problem with that. Trust me, I wouldn't of been laughing about the situation. Thats just sad 😔 and disrespectful 😮. But on another note R.I.P to her fiance'. He didnt deserved to be murdered especially by his fiancés brother. My condolences to the young lady. I hope she has a happy, healthy and fulfilling future ahead
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This!!!
Taking a condom off without my permission would've been an immediate turn-off. I would've blocked him right after he told me & got tested immediately.
Ummm I know how it feels to lose your soulmate, that hurt is different! Hugs sis🤗, the paim never go away but with time it get easier to deal with!!
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Definitely a different type of hurt 🥹and to have witnessed it💔 took away a big chunk of my heart
She said right is right and wrong and wrong ….but was having an affair. Karma really do come back around crazy
You're absolutely right karma is everything!!
Her and her childhood sweetheart became bored and comfortable w one another. Then the street dude come in with his swag and charisma and made her feel alive again. Tore apart her family because she wasn’t content with her blessings. We all know toxic stuff is wrong but it sometimes be fun. This her truth. It’s easy for us to point the finger but we’ve all done something we aren’t proud of !
She needs to go get a dna test. Stop hurting that child by not telling her
This woman's heart, open and honest on display. That takes a unique kind of strength. Thank you for sharing your story ❤
I don't usually comment but this is so frustrating, what are people going to learn especially Africa Americans😔 You don't need alcohol and drugs and drama in order to have a good time. Also to build a relationship with God. It's the most important thing you going to learn that you'll live a much more peaceful and blessed life. We're in the latter days the stuff is like is going to increase. People are starting to hurt people for reasons smaller than this. Seek, the Lord while he may be found. Call on hin while he is near. Jesus is returning soon🙏🏾
I also pray for her healing. Glad she's getting into the things of God. Hope that continues
Her holding her brother durning the shoot out was a Nono, the fiancé probably didn’t shoot to kill because she was in the way while the brother had a clear shot
she was trying to prevent her brother from shooting more shots?
I’m praying for everyone affected. So sad and senseless 💔❤️
The story started off crazy.. on 2 bottles and driving... let me keep watching..
Whew
Don’t forget they was smoking too.
Smoking too much
Ok. Cuz certain situations I’m not gonna be in!! And I took an oath in 1994 that I would not drink and drive or get in a car with an impaired person 🥹👏🏾
This story mirrors mine sooo much, all i can do is cry and hold my baby girl! I had to send this to my mom and sisters cuz this shit is so similar to my story its crazy!💯😢
How
How?
Mine too, I swear
She’s scandalous. Something ain’t right about her.
My sincere condolences to the life that was lost. Im sure we will all have different opinions about her. The violence in her family didnt stop with the brothers. Shes no angel. However the way she ended the conversation lets me know she's seeking closure and direction from a higher power 🙌
Amen
So... If her brother has bipolar issues.. anger problems, basically, and have beef with your fiance since the past. Why are they all hanging out and drunk in the same space? I say that because my brother is the same way. Whenever there's a family function, I dont go. Our sister doesn't go either. It's always drama. She knew better but was too caught in the moment. Her fiance started it when he slapped that man, knowing he had an anger problem. In this day and age, everyone is quick to pull out something, which is sad because we can't go anywhere and have some good ole fashion fun without a fight leading to a death.
So true
I love your honesty, ty for sharing your story.
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This is just a dysfunctional family. 🤦🏽♂️
We all have them
So yours perfect ?
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You're yt so I know you're family is dysfunctional as a mf 💀
@@ashleyandarondrarusselland3295 his/her family may not be perfect but that doesn't mean they're dysfunctional either. My family's not perfect but they're nowhere near where this family is on the dysfunction scale
I respect her pure honesty, praying for healing and strength and absolutely love her energy ✨️🙌🏾♥️
Wow is all I can say… Listening to her story when she was married… I understand where she was coming from… It’s crazy… we know it’s not ok to cheat in your relationship… but sometimes relationships “Die”… I will say tho… after 20 years… I’m thankful I left my Ex…. I believe that in this Lyfe you hav one chance to fall in love… or to find True Love… In this season of my Lyfe I’m learning to love just Me….
I Love your content 💯 Blessings
They family is crazy wtf they got going on brothers killing each other boyfriend and girlfriends they all need to pray
Ain’t no way as a sister I would ever be around my brother if I know they are like that . These kinds of people are dangerous
Yeah if they had past beef and knowing your brothers behavior,they should have NEVER been in counter with each other on that level they were on smh ill see if it was a family outing and they kinda have to be there because of there partners but THIS Come onnnn smh sad af💔 R.I.P brother 😞
My ex husband was killed by his 17 yr old nephew! Also died in my arms. And also destroyed all relationships with that family.
2 black dudes +alcohol+past beef= Death
Smh
Not true. Humans actually. This is just a sad story
Funny you say that cause yt men do it more
I work at a bar and I see white men argue more with each other and get kicked out 98% more than black so it’s just human period and I’m not black myself.
I love how she knew her person was and didn’t waste the other man’s time
Life is hard it ended badly
Got straight to it
You mean the husband she cheated on?
@@Raspremier 🤷🏾♀️ everyone's situation is different. The ex husband was ok but you're not aware of those past ups and downs that was happening during the marriage at that time. But i do like your point of views, Interesting!!
@aaroncollins9750 women always want to make excuses for cheating but when a man cheats he just a dog.
@@hoopermetcalf no excuse for cheating. If things aren’t working out you move around. Marriage isn’t a frivolous relationship. It’s a vow. A commitment. There’s no room in a marriage for cheating. Just end your relationship. Don’t play with GOD or your significant other that way. It’s filthy and there’s no excuse for it.
This story is so sad and unfortunate. My heart truly goes out to this young lady. I’m not a victim of these particular circumstances. However, the similar dysfunction runs rampant in my family as well…which can go from 0 to 100 in a milli-second unfortunately. I’m a “ppl pleaser” too…especially when it comes to my family and ppl I love/care about. I don’t necessarily see anything wrong with possessing that characteristic, but it somewhat gives u a false sense of control imo bc it makes u feel as if u can control situations and etc/thinking things will not get out of hand in your presence. Which isn’t true bc bs sometimes pops off without having time to intervene and/or being not able to altogether. Her story hit me so hard, and I think it’s bc I identity immensely with all the family dysfunction. My heart truly broke for her, and I cannot and will not judge this woman. Regardless of how ppl feel things should have been handled is neither here nor there…just pray for her as she continues trying to maneuver through the tragic aftermath bc no one is perfect. It’s easy to say what u would or wouldn’t do after something life-changing like this occurs, but majority of the time logic tends to go smooth TF out the window when you’re actually in the thick of the buffoonery. Trust‼️ I’m asking that everyone just prays for her bc what’s done is done at this juncture. I’m sending nothing but prayer, love, light, and healing energy to this woman.
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Wow! I really appreciate your post! Each day is different for me as I'm learning to re-cope with people and certain places. Life is not the same for me. I'm no longer that people pleaser nor do i give any fks about anyone lately besides my children and my fiancé parents💯. This situation has really grown me up to pay more attention and to definitely stay away from any bs once spotted on sight💪🏾
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I wouldn’t want to date anyone from that damn family 😭
Chile…smh they are addicted to chaos
NONE OF THEM!
@@cobri6839 they bad energy and luck lmfaooo
Not even the women I would want around, if I was a man... let them date each other. In their situation incest should be allowed.
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There are several factors involved. Guns, Alcohol/Drugs and Mental Illness. I'm not going to a party I need to bring a gun to. I'm not gonna be around no one (fam or friend) that is volatile and I can't de-escalate.
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Definitely gotta keep your hands to yourself, and by them having past issues thats why they shouldn't have been around each other, sorry for your loss. 😢
At tf all..Recipe for disaster 😢
Heavy on the keep your hands to yourself
I love you girl 😢😢😢 you’ve got this! Please never lose who you are!!!! You’re a light ♥️
The interview should’ve been longer. I love hearing her talk😭
Generational curses, generational sin, generational addictions.
Yessssss! Finally UA-cam gives me a notification for this channel!!! And I’m just getting home ready to chill…perfect timing ❤ much love from Florida 🌴🐊🌞
Edit: it’s okay to cry beautiful ❤ my heart hurts for you
Thank u for ur love and support Dawn
@@TrappinAnonymous aw I’m feeling a little bit star struck right now 😝 you’re so welcome! Thank you for your hard work,time & dedication to keep us informed,entertained and on top of our 💩 ! Y’all are so appreciated!!
She knew not to hangout with them and she did it anyways just cause they family doesn’t mean they should still be around
I’m glad she grew from this and learned that’s what’s it’s about a lesson learned even if it had to take pain to learn bless her and her family sorry you had to go threw that ❤
I’m not even 10 minutes in and I just feel so upset I’m so sorry this happened to her and that she had to go through something like this that will forever change her life but the fact that she knew her bf and brother has had past beef she should’ve never had them around each other in the first place she knows how her brother is and how he acts when he drinks and still brought him around and provided the alcohol smh this is so sad I wish she made better choices again I understand I shouldn’t speak on something I’ve never been through because you just never know how you will handle a situation when it happens in the moment but this could’ve been avoided but on a serious note the word family doesn’t mean anything because those same people will backstab you worse than a stranger on the street my heart goes out to her and her fiancés family this is so sad
That was deep y. Styles you never disappoint my boy..
Love
I truly enjoyed her story telling skills. Sorry for her loss but I'm sure she's got a lot more to offer. Keep sticking with your higher power it's coming
the realest podcast ever ...keep these stories coming iam learning from them real talk ..wow so many lessons ...
These stories be all over the place and then I realize it’s bc they have so many thoughts running through minds racing this has got to be hard 😢
Yall, im on a BREAK BEAT MEDIA bindge watch session. This channel let's me know. im not alone. Bless this program, Father.🎉
@trappinanonymous Tragic story but Great interview. I appreciate the questions you asked and how you challenged her with different perspectives, accountability etc. As it pertains to the why me? Interview I didn’t see that from you. It felt that you didn’t challenge her or hold her accountable. Barnes spoke as if she just went out to eat and got into an accident. Wasn’t a mistake but rather a bad choice by drinking and driving.
I love this channel and I love this guy Christylez. Thank you for your story Lisa.
Great interview CS. I wish them all peace and healing
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I like that she didn't try to minimize her role, she was being honest.
THE LIQUOR AND PAST ISSUES MAD ETHIS HAPPEN
I understand what she’s saying about him not being empathetic towards her and the fiancé family. That was the least he could do.
I’m so blessed to have the most levelheaded husband, brothers and brother in laws. My husband married me when I was 18 he was 19, we’re now 35 and 36 and neither of my 6 bothers have ever even came close to arguing with my husband. They all hang out and get along so well plus my husband 5 brothers and my sister’s husbands. All of those men be together here and there and NEVER bump heads. They’re all amazing husbands and fathers 🙌🏾🙌🏾. I love my tribe and this makes me love them even more because they have a lot of respect for one another and all of us women that are involved. I’m so sorry for your loss sweetheart!
❤❤❤love this show appreciation for the stories very sad but Real life thanks for sharing
I feel for her. The paint she’s experiencing is heavy. My heart goes out to you. It’s a double edge sword. 😢
If you’re fiancé slapped your Brother first why are you mad at your brother for defending his self. Did he go overboard no he may have felt like you was holding him for your fiancée to shoot him. And if you know your brother was bipolar all the more reason you should have kept them away from one another.
Let's goooo been waiting for a new joint to drop 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽 trin to keep my lil homies (kids) off the streets ❤
Hahahaha u know how we do
This whole things a mess cheating on husband family killing family fuckin brothers gf everybody in jail.. bringing your scary ass brother around your man when they got beef this a mess for real
Exactly, the whole family is wicked.
Girl please!!!! Your Fiancé was WRONG for KNOWING that man was Drunk and he still Slap TF out of that man. What was he expecting for that man to fight him knowing he was going to lose because he was drunk. Come on now! No matter how you feel YOUR Fiancee was the Aggressor no matter what your brother said your fiancee had no right to put his hands on that man. Honestly if I was your brother I would feel some type of way that you are holding a grudge towards me for not letting your fiancee beat tf outta me. This was just an unfortunate situation.
Point Blank Fucking Period!!!!! You Feel Like I Do.
Man it's kinda hard for me to post this but this is so true because by the sister steady standing there holding her brother asking him to stop shooting is the real reason that her husband is dead. It would've been impossible for her husband to get a good shot off with his wife standing there in the way. So she basically was a shield for her brother and probably don't even know it! I haven't seen the entire video yet that's why I'm writing this, but I wonder if the interviewer is aware enuf to even look at it from my point of view!
What's crazy is I work for this health care company and I actually got the chance to talk to the victims mom and omg to remember that day she called in literally broke my heart because she couldn't stop crying but was still trying to handle her business and me and the mom talked for over an hour on the phone and as we were talking I realized that she literally lived on the next block as me esc iykyk and she is the most beautiful woman and we just talked and talked we prayed and cried and prayed some more so to hear this story and now be able to put a face to everything and everyone is so sad 😢 send hugs and prayer to everyone involved ❤️
He’s fighting and he beat a woman to death with his bare hands 😮
Great story: I pray she find healing and comfort.
At some point you have to let the hood lifestyle go it only bring destruction. I think the whole family needed therapy. Past trauma can cause sum ppl to make irrational decisions.
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She messaged up should of stayed with her husband fr
Why? She had already cheated…. She did right by leaving, it just didn't go in her favor in the long run! everything happens for a reason make no mistake about that.
This is heartbreaking... her and this family are in a lot of pain. There's just too much pain/mental health issues in our community 💔
Blessings to you and your family. Keep God in your heart and get consistent counseling.
It Don’t Sound Like This Was Even A Healthy Relationship. As A Big Sister I’m On DEMON Time With ANYBODY Who Hurt My Siblings And My Rage Get So Bad Its Possible I’d Kill Over Them. Maybe He Disliked Him Because Of The Mistreatment Of His Sister. An Another Thing She Told A Story Where She Said Her Brother Asked Him To Stop Calling The Female He Was Dating A Bitch And Her Man Responded “Well You A Bitch Too” Another Time Her “Fiancé” Was The Aggressor. He Should’ve Kept His Hands To Hisself. Her Brother Ain’t Wrong
You can’t slap someone and not expect them to defend themselves when they know the other person is carrying as well. Bad situation regardless.
There's a lot of toxicity with this family. A lot of trauma that mixed with drinking and smoking isn't a good combo. This could have been prevented in so many ways. There's ppl that come from all walks of life, so please don't think I'm being judgemental.
Praying for you for sure Sis. 🙏🏾💪🏾. Best podcast around. ❤️