When Iyanna told Jarrett that she liked him as a person but didn't see the value in having him as a partner...wow...that right there was straight up truthfulness. I respected and felt that.
I will say this though..in any relationship there's some type of growth you can obtain from it. Whether it's to leave them and simply learn to never be like that person, there's still something to grasp. The value Iyanna obtained in having him as a partner for that time was growth/love in long suffering. It built more strength in her and solidified a true standard...that being realized, the value in keeping him as a partner was none. True joy is moving forward. I just turned 37 and have endured my own long sufferings as well, which in time has truly evolved my understanding in the most spiritual, loving and self aware way🙏🏼❤
I felt the statement itself was cruel even if it was how she truly felt. Telling someone you don’t see the value in having them in your life feels incredibly hurtful to hear especially if that person loves you. I’m not saying she’s a terrible person by any means, but I believe if you are sharing those kinds of feelings it should be tactful and handled with extreme care because of the risk of destroying someone’s self esteem. Its not what you say it’s how you say it, put yourself in their shoes. Just my personal opinion. Sad they didn’t work out. Must have been a difficult ride for both of them. Sending them love.
@@carmenwg when you love you do. I think it's cruel to say you love someone but yet continue to hurt them.. especially when a husband continues prioritizing a night life with friends over establishing security and quality time with his wife. Why continue a relationship with someone who's actions consistently are stagnant? A relationship is yes, about growth independently but also together. When the situation becomes one sided/selfish it does eventually no longer hold its benefits. I probably would've used the word beneficial.. but Iyanna was truthful and said it in a calmly loving manner which we call tough love. I'm sorry but it was needed...so I still agree with what she said. I mean hey some would've just literally said.. I'm settling with you and I want out 😬 smh...but everyone is entitled to their opinion and I appreciate you sharing yours. Thank you🙏🏼
@@bk8mom Of course, I'm just saying like the concept of the show isn't what's off (love is blind, using personality/conversations vs seeing each other and physical attraction) but the timeline of it muddies that.
The man is very disrespectful. He just couldn't help himself. Iyanna is the woman a man needs. No nonsense, down to business. Jurrot is on some next level immaturity. I hope he learns from this, marriage is not for everyone. Stay away if you're still in arrested development.
@@SrChalice I believe anyone has the capacity to grow, but some people will not. In order to change, you have to leave the social group. He shouldn't be with someone he's not interested in, but he will not ever love anyone or have a lasting partner as long he thinks that person owes him what his mother didn't give him.
Not sure if it’s correct but what I think it means is, just because someone is in-tuned with their emotions and is able to express themselves doesn’t equate to them being able to be emotional present in a relationship
Iyanna is so incredible. She is the only one who stayed so consistent and genuine throughout the season, she is like Lauren and Cameron combined lolol I hope she gets everything she’s desiring
I loved Iyanna so much during the show. And Deepti too. My two favorite ladies. Full of grace, beautiful, compassionate and intelligent. I wish both of them the very very best.
What I truly admire about Iyanna is that she is so beautiful. She went through so much trauma but still love with such love, softness and purity. I also deeply admire your parents.
So true. A true Empath👏🏾. I can relate. She seems so sweet & kind. Such a beautiful soul can't be broken for too long no matter what happens. A loving person is a loving person regardless. I love her pure childlike spirit💕💥
I love Iyanna. She is so emotionally intelligent. She is a beautiful person inside and out and one day she will meet someone who is on the same page as her.
Iyanna settled. However, she definitely knew what she was getting into before she said "yes", so hopefully lesson learned. We all want love and companionship, but it should never be at the expense of our own sanity, our own peace and contentment. I like Iyanna and wish the very best for her future.
Iyanna is such a bright light! Even “successful” marriage can be hard and complicated, so I fully honor and respect the decision she and Jarrett made. Only they were there when the cameras turned off, so her wisdom has to be her guide. I’m wishing her all the best!!
Can’t help but love Iyanna and she looks like her adopted father. I wouldn’t have never knew she was adopted by two wonderful parents. She has such a beautiful and pure spirit, that I know she will find her Righteous soulmate. You are so beautiful. May you be blessed in every step you take.. stay beautiful inside/out❤
Iyanna is so sweet, to be honest whiles watching the show I never want her to marry Jarrete but is a learning process and she follows her heart. Jarrette doesn't realise he lost big time....
@@chyrellegraham5788 because he's a man and the world is sexist lowkey. Even them saying he doesn't realize he lost out is bs because he's very vocal about taking accountability and has said he wanted to stay married
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I must say in interviews she comes across way more mature than on the show. I understand part of it being that anxiety but I much prefer listen to her now than back then.
You have such a beautiful spirit. You treated Iyanna with so much care during your interview. You definitely got a new subscriber from me. Continue to radiate light and high vibrations doll ✨️
I love how her god parents showed up for her on the show and kept it real. Her god mother seemed very supportive and like she dont play about her baby.
Jarrett is an alcoholic, he totally acts like an addict but he is ashamed of it but also in denial about it. He calls it going out but it’s drinking. He is too old to be going out until morning for fun.
Great conversation, watched the entire thing . Cameron and Lauren are too my favorite couple ! Iyanna is such a sweet , genuine soul , and I hope she finds someone that chooses her first . I think the entire cast are great people , however no one was choosing who they really should’ve went with .
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Best wishes to Iyanna. Take the lessons out of this experience and hope for better in your next relationship. Don't beat up on yourself, it's call life.
I think the bottom line is most people just wanted to see love win, even if the fairytale is a lie. It took people time to switch gears to the contrast of seeing Iyanna and Jarrette together on vacation two weeks prior to reading the separation announcement. It felt out of left field and a sharp contrast to what they displayed online. The fans were not privy to the friction of the relationship (and rightfully so). I think folks invested in their love story just needed time to adjust. Great interview! Keep pushing Iyanna ❤
Iyanna seems to be a beautiful person. And I know that she is ment to help others. Because God only gives this type of bubbly smile and infectious laughter to those ment to uplift others. I can't promise you things will go smoothly for her, because usually highly intelligent people with such a lovely disposition on life find it hard to find a suitable mate. And they end up goimg through hell and back. But I can promise you that God will protect her, keep her safe, and provide her with the joy she needs to get througn it all. Walk by faith! ❤️
I am only half way through and I am loving this conversation so so much 💛 I followed both of them for a while but I was always surprised that there were so much drinking and partying happening and many many shares were happening in hangover mode. I remember that she wasn’t enjoying partying so much and was more into staying at home and having a calm time coddling and reading …
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Jarrett got validation as a human being by living his immature life that leads no where. Family is so important and obviously you value yourself. You deserve better. This is not a show this is your life.
Ladies, please know there are a lot of good men still out here. I promise you. If you're not happy with the results you've got in relationships it's okay. Don't give up on the search. True to your podcast title, I empathize with both of you and your stories.
So glad your channel popped up! Wow, this was one of the best interviews I've watched in a long time! You did an amazing job with your questions and weren't too pushy. I hate this happened to Iyanna. She was my favorite one on the show. However, I knew the red flags would escalate into problems in her marriage. Apparently, Jarrett wasn't the right one for her. I really hope she finds the man who will put her first and treat her like the queen she is. I like that you gave insight on certain situations and related to them. Empath is the right word for you! New subscriber here, and hopefully many, many more.
Thanks love! That’s exactly what I was aiming for, I can’t help but relate to my own experiences, it’s more because the empath in me wants the other person to feel validated and comfortable. And we just vibed so I think it became more of a conversation . Thanks for your kind words
Oh My God! When you said 'emotional vulnerability does not equal emotional vulnerability' this grown woman just learn something right there! I had to STOP the video and let this sink it. WOW!
I honestly commend Iyanna for walking away. I am similar to both you ladies. However, against my better judgement I got married and after experiencing a lot of issues and no growth in 3 years. I continued to stay. I eventually had a baby and I kept fighting for our 1 sided marriage. all of this emotional and mental turmoil led to infidelity. I tried to file for divorce but ended up staying and having a 2nd child. Now I feel so trapped. We have been married over 10 years and nothing has changed as far as how we are with each other. We are embarking on a new journey right now and I am really still in limbo. I still feel like if I walk away now I can probably live a great life for the rest of my life. But I still feel like I lost the best years of my life and I feel like I really could have done better in my life if I had a chance to understand and experience myself more before marrying. Additionally, I wish I had someone in my corner like your dad and mom. I think having a soft place to land when you are going through stuff like this is very helpful. I am trying to grow but it's hard doing that in my marriage. I respect you for walking away because sometimes it works out but sometimes it does not and you could have stayed and ended up like I did.
All I hear from you are excuses and here you are 10yrs later. I am living in a country where I have zero family but I had to file for divorce. I had no 'soft place to land'. I mean my family and friends were available on the phone but it was rough, with 2 kids. 6 yrs later I'm thinking how strong and resilient I am. You can do it!
Jared wasn't ready for a marriage, he didn't love her enough TL make that change. She deserved a better guy. Still need to heal and think about herself more.
She was his second choice that was all the red flag …. She loved him way more than he loves her. In the end his lost this girl is a gem not for boy but a great man
Favourite woman on the show. I really wanted her to wish for more than Jarrette. At the time she gave it a chance and she has shown the courage to break away from a toxic situation. Keep shining bright queen.
I hope she shares more on their relationship regarding his friends. Did his friends have girlfriends, does she think they played a part of him going out multiple times, did she ever go out?
You weren't naive in thinking marriage was the ultimate stability. And honestly if you found the right person, I strongly believe you would have found that stability.
In terms of lifestyle they were so incompatible, just like the other couple that has divorced. So interesting to see unfold on screen how the willingness to be in a loving relationship kept them hopeful but it wasn't enough. the right person will be compatible and it will feel seemless, not like settling.
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New subscriber here. I really enjoyed how you broke through a lot of the conversation. You’re extremely intuitive and I’m glad you did this interview because this is how I found you!
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Could also be weight loss for the stress/heartbreak of divorce. I lost tons of weight after my breakup. You never know if it's happy weightlossnor not!
I think ppl really have to understand attachment styles and you'll often find its not so much as being a empath but being anxiously attached having abandonment or childhood needs not being met and abandonment wounds. Putting others before us isn't healthy at all. I grew up thinking it was. I thought I had to sacrifice my needs for loved ones. Ppl who love you don't want you abandoning yourself.
a beautiful woman with a beautiful soul who deserves only the absolute best. In due time, God will provide you with your perfect match. I am sad to see things end however I wish only the best for the both of you and Jarred.
Great interview...I feel like I'm talking with my girls... all we can do is continue working on ourselves from the inside out and our time will come...patience. ❤
I'm so glad she "womaned up". For him to say he's working on it is bullshit. She gave him too much time and space to come around. He is an immature man who isn't ready to put his lady first, so glad she is divorcing him
I love Iyana she deserves better am proud of her she chose herself life is too short to live unfulfilled life with a partner who doesn't give what you need yet you are a full package babe and next time if a man doesn't choose him first never allow to be second if should be either number one or nothing at all babe.
Everyone should take what happens in the beginning as the truth ...Jarret chose the other woman and they made it both clear they were meant to be together and try it out..the thing is people find it hard to be honest and admit their feelings ...even after the reunion he could not even look at that other girls face he had feeling for her and noone in the room would come out and say it , take people serious when they have shown you who they are no ones perfect but there was so much issue with peoples way of handling drinks and emotional erratic behaviors.
So Mallory did to Jerrod (he was her second choice) what Jerrod did to Ayanna. Ayanna deserves the best person for her, and Jerrod was not it. I pray she heals and moves on to who is the absolute best for her. She’s awesome!
Jared is still a child. He went on the show when he was not ready. He still in that phase in his life where friends and partying is more important. He should of stayed there. Why put a woman through that? Talking about you want babies but you coming home at 7 am…. Ummmmmm nope! Good for her. She held her grown and didn’t give in to love or lust. She’s logical. We can learn A lot from her!! May God give her someone who is her equal!! And I hope he lives the life he wants and when he’s ready may god bless him with the woman he deserves.
I genuinely love and appreciate Ayanna and you do you I’m sorry it didn’t work the way you want but I want you to keep pushing you have the nicest soul you will come on top at the end marks my words
@@diana-pn2hu she was projecting her own feels. You could see it by how she reacts and treats her hubby on ‘stage’...its hot and cold. SCORPIOS. Omg I’m being such a troll! 😅 kinda fun to step out of my box LOL ohhh the internet
As a married person, and understanding the struggles of marriage, I am so happy for Iyanna! There is NO WAY she should stay in a marriage that she's not getting what she needs! It's much better to be by yourself than to suffer with someone, and if he's not going to step up, than damnit, save yourself!!
When he chose her as his second person...then went around telling his family and friends about how he just knew in his heart she was the one.... I'm like he is lying and spinning this narrative 😂😂💯💯 Red flag for me!!!! Be honest and tell the truth... I was shocked Iyanna didn't want to know the reason he didn't Initially choose her!!!!!!! I wanted to know so bad, it was so important to know for me!!!
OK first of all don't say yes if there are still reservations. However, hear me out, it's crazy to think that all of the kinks would be solved in just a year. Going into it with that mindset was a recipe for disaster imo. Marriage is ALWAYS gonna take work I don't think she'll ever meet a person who it's gonna be smooth sailing with and they say especially the first year is haaaard. So I think moving forward she needs to be aware that integrating her life with someone else is gonna take real work.
What an amazing podcast episode ! I can so relate to you guys, I also have recently discovered I am an empath. And man it’s tough being an empath 🤦🏻♀️😆. We are always thinking about other peoples emotions before ours and we can just easily carry other peoples emotions whether good or bad. Excellent conversation ladies ! I love to see other empaths doing podcast because it’s helps me feel less alone in my feelings 🙏🏼. My husband and I also have a podcast. Maybe one day we can meet 🤗. I am going to subscribe to this channel right now 😆 -Jessica
I really liked them as a couple but he just wasnt ready for marriage and after the last episode, i felt like she was disgusted by him but he better not start dating malory now😅
No one ever said marriage was completely easy. love is patient and forgiving. Moving out your first year is a sign that you rather live by yourself! Just be real- love is not blind and you didn’t really love him that much. Not much commitment - more like letting go of a boyfriend than a husband.
When Iyanna told Jarrett that she liked him as a person but didn't see the value in having him as a partner...wow...that right there was straight up truthfulness. I respected and felt that.
I literally told her that lol!!!
In other word's. He adds nothing to her life.. If many start seeing that it would save alot of time. ❤❤
I will say this though..in any relationship there's some type of growth you can obtain from it. Whether it's to leave them and simply learn to never be like that person, there's still something to grasp. The value Iyanna obtained in having him as a partner for that time was growth/love in long suffering. It built more strength in her and solidified a true standard...that being realized, the value in keeping him as a partner was none. True joy is moving forward.
I just turned 37 and have endured my own long sufferings as well, which in time has truly evolved my understanding in the most spiritual, loving and self aware way🙏🏼❤
I felt the statement itself was cruel even if it was how she truly felt. Telling someone you don’t see the value in having them in your life feels incredibly hurtful to hear especially if that person loves you. I’m not saying she’s a terrible person by any means, but I believe if you are sharing those kinds of feelings it should be tactful and handled with extreme care because of the risk of destroying someone’s self esteem. Its not what you say it’s how you say it, put yourself in their shoes. Just my personal opinion. Sad they didn’t work out. Must have been a difficult ride for both of them. Sending them love.
@@carmenwg when you love you do. I think it's cruel to say you love someone but yet continue to hurt them.. especially when a husband continues prioritizing a night life with friends over establishing security and quality time with his wife. Why continue a relationship with someone who's actions consistently are stagnant? A relationship is yes, about growth independently but also together. When the situation becomes one sided/selfish it does eventually no longer hold its benefits. I probably would've used the word beneficial.. but Iyanna was truthful and said it in a calmly loving manner which we call tough love. I'm sorry but it was needed...so I still agree with what she said. I mean hey some would've just literally said.. I'm settling with you and I want out 😬 smh...but everyone is entitled to their opinion and I appreciate you sharing yours. Thank you🙏🏼
Maybe love can be blind... but it shouldn't be rushed...
she deserves to be a first choice, not a safety net. I was a bit saddened when she accepted the proposal.
@@bk8mom Of course, I'm just saying like the concept of the show isn't what's off (love is blind, using personality/conversations vs seeing each other and physical attraction) but the timeline of it muddies that.
Facts
Agreed!
Now that’s a whole bar!!!!
When Jarod had that sidebar conversation with Malory at the bar in the beach, I knew right then that he wasn’t good for Ayanna.
The man is very disrespectful. He just couldn't help himself. Iyanna is the woman a man needs. No nonsense, down to business. Jurrot is on some next level immaturity. I hope he learns from this, marriage is not for everyone. Stay away if you're still in arrested development.
@@SrChalice I believe anyone has the capacity to grow, but some people will not. In order to change, you have to leave the social group. He shouldn't be with someone he's not interested in, but he will not ever love anyone or have a lasting partner as long he thinks that person owes him what his mother didn't give him.
@@creating1_c1999 Why must you leave your social group for a partner? (respectfully)
I felt the same.. I was rooting for him not to mess that up
Me too
I also respect her decision to walk away. This has saved her years of additional trauma.
Emotional vulnerability does not equal emotional availability. That is a word right there!
YES THIS WAS HUGE 😳
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how i don't get it?!
Not sure if it’s correct but what I think it means is, just because someone is in-tuned with their emotions and is able to express themselves doesn’t equate to them being able to be emotional present in a relationship
Iyanna is so incredible. She is the only one who stayed so consistent and genuine throughout the season, she is like Lauren and Cameron combined lolol I hope she gets everything she’s desiring
Yes I totally agree
She is a beautiful soul. I pray that she finds a man worthy of her lovingkindness.
The irony, she is bi- racial ( I think).
I loved Iyanna so much during the show. And Deepti too. My two favorite ladies. Full of grace, beautiful, compassionate and intelligent. I wish both of them the very very best.
Deepti was a bitter bully
What I truly admire about Iyanna is that she is so beautiful. She went through so much trauma but still love with such love, softness and purity. I also deeply admire your parents.
So true. A true Empath👏🏾. I can relate. She seems so sweet & kind. Such a beautiful soul can't be broken for too long no matter what happens. A loving person is a loving person regardless. I love her pure childlike spirit💕💥
@@TemsD That's how I know she gave it her all and doesn't deserve people telling her to raise that grown-ass manbaby.
I love Iyanna. She is so emotionally intelligent. She is a beautiful person inside and out and one day she will meet someone who is on the same page as her.
Iyanna settled. However, she definitely knew what she was getting into before she said "yes", so hopefully lesson learned. We all want love and companionship, but it should never be at the expense of our own sanity, our own peace and contentment. I like Iyanna and wish the very best for her future.
So reading between the lines, Jarrett was still prioritizing the streets over being home with his wife 😅
Looks like 😭
Which is crazy , grown ass man smh
@@Same_ol_jee just because he old don’t mean he grown
@@pineappleice100 agreed. Age definitely does not mean wisdom.
I remember an episode when he told her how close he is to his ex
I loved how Iyanna was soo sweet, but still held firm on her boundaries! ❤️
Iyanna is such a bright light! Even “successful” marriage can be hard and complicated, so I fully honor and respect the decision she and Jarrett made. Only they were there when the cameras turned off, so her wisdom has to be her guide. I’m wishing her all the best!!
Can’t help but love Iyanna and she looks like her adopted father. I wouldn’t have never knew she was adopted by two wonderful parents. She has such a beautiful and pure spirit, that I know she will find her Righteous soulmate. You are so beautiful. May you be blessed in every step you take.. stay beautiful inside/out❤
Iyanna is so sweet, to be honest whiles watching the show I never want her to marry Jarrete but is a learning process and she follows her heart. Jarrette doesn't realise he lost big time....
Why do you believe it’s only his loss?
It is. She loved that man
@@chyrellegraham5788 because he's a man and the world is sexist lowkey. Even them saying he doesn't realize he lost out is bs because he's very vocal about taking accountability and has said he wanted to stay married
@@chyrellegraham5788 because he's more concerned with being out in the clubs and living the single life. no women is going to value that.
@@julie-mt2xr Precisely.
I love iyanna! This needs more views 😩, it’s such a great and important conversation.
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Iyanna seems so genuine; I hope she finds her happiness.
I wish nothing but healing to Iyanna
I hope Iyanna can hold on to her childlike innocences it is a good example for all of us!
I must say in interviews she comes across way more mature than on the show. I understand part of it being that anxiety but I much prefer listen to her now than back then.
My thoughts as well. Very mature
You have such a beautiful spirit. You treated Iyanna with so much care during your interview. You definitely got a new subscriber from me. Continue to radiate light and high vibrations doll ✨️
I love how her god parents showed up for her on the show and kept it real. Her god mother seemed very supportive and like she dont play about her baby.
He’s gonna regret not settling down. I mean she’s the full package. Feeling sorry for him. He got lost in the times/culture.
He won't regret he chose another woman so this was bound to fail
Iyanna is such a light. Wishing her well
Iyanna is gorgeous ☺️☺️
Jarrett is an alcoholic, he totally acts like an addict but he is ashamed of it but also in denial about it. He calls it going out but it’s drinking. He is too old to be going out until morning for fun.
Great conversation, watched the entire thing . Cameron and Lauren are too my favorite couple ! Iyanna is such a sweet , genuine soul , and I hope she finds someone that chooses her first . I think the entire cast are great people , however no one was choosing who they really should’ve went with .
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Best wishes to Iyanna. Take the lessons out of this experience and hope for better in your next relationship. Don't beat up on yourself, it's call life.
I think the bottom line is most people just wanted to see love win, even if the fairytale is a lie. It took people time to switch gears to the contrast of seeing Iyanna and Jarrette together on vacation two weeks prior to reading the separation announcement. It felt out of left field and a sharp contrast to what they displayed online. The fans were not privy to the friction of the relationship (and rightfully so). I think folks invested in their love story just needed time to adjust. Great interview! Keep pushing Iyanna ❤
That's exactly it. It's the story that is told on social media versus reality...
Iyanna seems to be a beautiful person. And I know that she is ment to help others. Because God only gives this type of bubbly smile and infectious laughter to those ment to uplift others. I can't promise you things will go smoothly for her, because usually highly intelligent people with such a lovely disposition on life find it hard to find a suitable mate. And they end up goimg through hell and back. But I can promise you that God will protect her, keep her safe, and provide her with the joy she needs to get througn it all. Walk by faith! ❤️
she's extremely gorgeous good for her for making the best decision for herself !!!!!!!!
I am only half way through and I am loving this conversation so so much 💛
I followed both of them for a while but I was always surprised that there were so much drinking and partying happening and many many shares were happening in hangover mode.
I remember that she wasn’t enjoying partying so much and was more into staying at home and having a calm time coddling and reading …
You're right about that
She is so beautiful to me ❤❤ She seems so sweet...super resilient 🙏🏾💕
Very!
Being an empath myself (team cancer ♋️) I love this interview
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Emotional vulnerability does not equal emotional availability *snaps fingers*. Lesson I'm learning!
Jarrett got validation as a human being by living his immature life that leads no where. Family is so important and obviously you value yourself. You deserve better. This is not a show this is your life.
She's an incredibly emotionally intelligent young lady. I wish her all of the best.
Ladies, please know there are a lot of good men still out here. I promise you. If you're not happy with the results you've got in relationships it's okay. Don't give up on the search. True to your podcast title, I empathize with both of you and your stories.
So glad your channel popped up! Wow, this was one of the best interviews I've watched in a long time! You did an amazing job with your questions and weren't too pushy. I hate this happened to Iyanna. She was my favorite one on the show. However, I knew the red flags would escalate into problems in her marriage. Apparently, Jarrett wasn't the right one for her. I really hope she finds the man who will put her first and treat her like the queen she is. I like that you gave insight on certain situations and related to them. Empath is the right word for you! New subscriber here, and hopefully many, many more.
Thanks love! That’s exactly what I was aiming for, I can’t help but relate to my own experiences, it’s more because the empath in me wants the other person to feel validated and comfortable. And we just vibed so I think it became more of a conversation . Thanks for your kind words
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@@moniquemishelle hope you enjoy!
Oh My God! When you said 'emotional vulnerability does not equal emotional vulnerability' this grown woman just learn something right there! I had to STOP the video and let this sink it. WOW!
Changes everything when you understand this concept!
I honestly commend Iyanna for walking away. I am similar to both you ladies. However, against my better judgement I got married and after experiencing a lot of issues and no growth in 3 years. I continued to stay. I eventually had a baby and I kept fighting for our 1 sided marriage. all of this emotional and mental turmoil led to infidelity.
I tried to file for divorce but ended up staying and having a 2nd child. Now I feel so trapped. We have been married over 10 years and nothing has changed as far as how we are with each other.
We are embarking on a new journey right now and I am really still in limbo. I still feel like if I walk away now I can probably live a great life for the rest of my life. But I still feel like I lost the best years of my life and I feel like I really could have done better in my life if I had a chance to understand and experience myself more before marrying.
Additionally, I wish I had someone in my corner like your dad and mom. I think having a soft place to land when you are going through stuff like this is very helpful.
I am trying to grow but it's hard doing that in my marriage.
I respect you for walking away because sometimes it works out but sometimes it does not and you could have stayed and ended up like I did.
❤ I don't have the best words, but i truly wish you all the happiness you deserve. Sometimes, fear holds us back and keeps us down...
All I hear from you are excuses and here you are 10yrs later. I am living in a country where I have zero family but I had to file for divorce. I had no 'soft place to land'. I mean my family and friends were available on the phone but it was rough, with 2 kids. 6 yrs later I'm thinking how strong and resilient I am. You can do it!
Jared wasn't ready for a marriage, he didn't love her enough TL make that change. She deserved a better guy. Still need to heal and think about herself more.
I love this .. I want to be on your podcast im in Orlando I have a lot to add to being an empath had no idea I was an empath until I saw this episode
She was his second choice that was all the red flag …. She loved him way more than he loves her.
In the end his lost this girl is a gem not for boy but a great man
Favourite woman on the show. I really wanted her to wish for more than Jarrette. At the time she gave it a chance and she has shown the courage to break away from a toxic situation. Keep shining bright queen.
I never saw the chemistry between them
I hope she shares more on their relationship regarding his friends. Did his friends have girlfriends, does she think they played a part of him going out multiple times, did she ever go out?
You weren't naive in thinking marriage was the ultimate stability. And honestly if you found the right person, I strongly believe you would have found that stability.
Iyanna is so precious!!!
In terms of lifestyle they were so incompatible, just like the other couple that has divorced. So interesting to see unfold on screen how the willingness to be in a loving relationship kept them hopeful but it wasn't enough. the right person will be compatible and it will feel seemless, not like settling.
So happy to have found your podcast & channel through this interview. You both are beautiful souls & this interview was so nice to listen to.
That makes me so happy to hear, make sure you’re following on a podcast listening platform because I don’t post videos for every single podcast. So there are some episodes that you may miss out on
@@diaryofanempathpodcast8808 Oooh! This just got me so excited. Just followed on Spotify & cannot wait to binge! Thanks for letting me know.
Amazing conversation! Really impressed by both of your abilities to show emotional vulnerability and depth in this episode as well! ⭐️
Thanks for watching!
And rule #1 baby girl Iyanna....never accept being a man's second choice hun....NEVER!!!!!
Say that!
True!!!! It played out on the show
@@crystalgoldskin6198 It sure did 💯😀
She is so Sweet and authentic🤍💕
I wish her the best in the future
New subscriber here. I really enjoyed how you broke through a lot of the conversation. You’re extremely intuitive and I’m glad you did this interview because this is how I found you!
Thank you much! Make sure you are following the podcast on a podcast platform because I don’t always post videos, especially for solo episodes. Glad you are tuning in!
@@diaryofanempathpodcast8808 got it okay thank you!
@@NicoleIvory not sure I can post a link but I will try lol
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Notice that as soon as she left Jarred, she lost the weight she gained with him. Some people are so toxic they drain the life out you.
Could also be weight loss for the stress/heartbreak of divorce. I lost tons of weight after my breakup. You never know if it's happy weightlossnor not!
I Iyanna is so my favorite ❤ she is such a graceful, innocent loving and kind person
15:57-16:08 When I say I cannot thank you enough for these words of wisdom?!! I mean it - Thank you! I needed to hear this; it’s very timely… 🤗🙌🏾
Awww prayers for her! But watching season 2, I believe Jarrett loved that other girl, forgot her name though.
Yup he did, Mallory was her name
@@natashajasper9270 thanks so much!
She is soo naturaly sweet 😍 💕
I think ppl really have to understand attachment styles and you'll often find its not so much as being a empath but being anxiously attached having abandonment or childhood needs not being met and abandonment wounds. Putting others before us isn't healthy at all. I grew up thinking it was. I thought I had to sacrifice my needs for loved ones. Ppl who love you don't want you abandoning yourself.
a beautiful woman with a beautiful soul who deserves only the absolute best. In due time, God will provide you with your perfect match. I am sad to see things end however I wish only the best for the both of you and Jarred.
I really was rooting for iyanna and Jarret but wish them both happiness
It’s nobody’s fault; They we’re just incompatible.
Exactly and I felt ut from the beginning
loved this!!! It was so honest and relatable!
I was sooooooo rooting for them
I wish her all best that God has for her
Great interview...I feel like I'm talking with my girls... all we can do is continue working on ourselves from the inside out and our time will come...patience. ❤
I'm so glad she "womaned up". For him to say he's working on it is bullshit. She gave him too much time and space to come around. He is an immature man who isn't ready to put his lady first, so glad she is divorcing him
Thank you for not saying "manned"!
Great interview...love you Iyanna!
I love Iyana she deserves better am proud of her she chose herself life is too short to live unfulfilled life with a partner who doesn't give what you need yet you are a full package babe and next time if a man doesn't choose him first never allow to be second if should be either number one or nothing at all babe.
Everyone should take what happens in the beginning as the truth ...Jarret chose the other woman and they made it both clear they were meant to be together and try it out..the thing is people find it hard to be honest and admit their feelings ...even after the reunion he could not even look at that other girls face he had feeling for her and noone in the room would come out and say it , take people serious when they have shown you who they are no ones perfect but there was so much issue with peoples way of handling drinks and emotional erratic behaviors.
Dang I need to go back and watch the reunion
You said it
@@rosaclick1995 I felt it like just tell her how you feel !!! Like cmon u lion that’s the problem today ..ego to big
So Mallory did to Jerrod (he was her second choice) what Jerrod did to Ayanna. Ayanna deserves the best person for her, and Jerrod was not it. I pray she heals and moves on to who is the absolute best for her. She’s awesome!
@@monique0096 yes all people have to do is stop looking but I knew it wouldn’t last cause it started as a lie
Jared is still a child. He went on the show when he was not ready. He still in that phase in his life where friends and partying is more important. He should of stayed there. Why put a woman through that? Talking about you want babies but you coming home at 7 am…. Ummmmmm nope! Good for her. She held her grown and didn’t give in to love or lust. She’s logical. We can learn A lot from her!! May God give her someone who is her equal!! And I hope he lives the life he wants and when he’s ready may god bless him with the woman he deserves.
Lyanna was the only one who was marraige material. Sweet lady.
Skip to 20:23 for divorce talk
Thank you 😊
This was the most unsurprising breakup maam
Yup
I genuinely love and appreciate Ayanna and you do you I’m sorry it didn’t work the way you want but I want you to keep pushing you have the nicest soul you will come on top at the end marks my words
I can relate I’m an empath too, narcissist draw to us
in the reunion episode i couldn't stand how the host is obviously biased against some of them. like hating them
that was soooo wrong!!!!
I do agree a neutral approach would have been better as a host
I knooooow! Like why the hell was she screaming at Shake?!
@@diana-pn2hu she was projecting her own feels. You could see it by how she reacts and treats her hubby on ‘stage’...its hot and cold. SCORPIOS. Omg I’m being such a troll! 😅 kinda fun to step out of my box LOL ohhh the internet
As a married person, and understanding the struggles of marriage, I am so happy for Iyanna! There is NO WAY she should stay in a marriage that she's not getting what she needs! It's much better to be by yourself than to suffer with someone, and if he's not going to step up, than damnit, save yourself!!
Im feeling really intuned with this podcast as an empath
Make sure you subscribe on Spotify or iTunes! I don’t always post videos
When he chose her as his second person...then went around telling his family and friends about how he just knew in his heart she was the one....
I'm like he is lying and spinning this narrative 😂😂💯💯 Red flag for me!!!!
Be honest and tell the truth...
I was shocked Iyanna didn't want to know the reason he didn't Initially choose her!!!!!!! I wanted to know so bad, it was so important to know for me!!!
Well, what we do know. He wasn’t ready and she’s better off! Lol
OK first of all don't say yes if there are still reservations. However, hear me out, it's crazy to think that all of the kinks would be solved in just a year. Going into it with that mindset was a recipe for disaster imo. Marriage is ALWAYS gonna take work I don't think she'll ever meet a person who it's gonna be smooth sailing with and they say especially the first year is haaaard. So I think moving forward she needs to be aware that integrating her life with someone else is gonna take real work.
I too see so much of myself in Iyanna. Y'all were both speaking to me!!
Yes!!!!I was just about to comment this.
Is anyone surprised. Called it very early on
You deserve your peace.
I'm happy for her she divorced him. She obviously deserves much better
Come to Europe ladies gentlemen are here.
When that dude jaret was talking to Mallory, I knew he was not the one for Iyanna
💔💔💔 sad to hear, i loved them!!
Enjoyed watching the podcast, Wishing Iyana al l the best, love how strong you are.All the best. From South Africa
It’s Ohkay
She’s amazing, glad you enjoyed
@@diaryofanempathpodcast8808 she is phenomenal. I enjoyed watching her on LB2
The show may have rushed yet it prompted deep analysis.
it was the same amount of time I believe for Season 1
So I'm confused?!?! Why did Iyanna get a divorce?!?! lol we need the DEETS!!
Hey you are a strong lady everything going to be ok.
What an amazing podcast episode ! I can so relate to you guys, I also have recently discovered I am an empath. And man it’s tough being an empath 🤦🏻♀️😆. We are always thinking about other peoples emotions before ours and we can just easily carry other peoples emotions whether good or bad. Excellent conversation ladies ! I love to see other empaths doing podcast because it’s helps me feel less alone in my feelings 🙏🏼. My husband and I also have a podcast. Maybe one day we can meet 🤗. I am going to subscribe to this channel right now 😆 -Jessica
good interview
I really liked them as a couple but he just wasnt ready for marriage and after the last episode, i felt like she was disgusted by him but he better not start dating malory now😅
15:57 Yessss so true❤❤🙏
No one ever said marriage was completely easy. love is patient and forgiving. Moving out your first year is a sign that you rather live by yourself! Just be real- love is not blind and you didn’t really love him that much. Not much commitment - more like letting go of a boyfriend than a husband.