It's entirely possible to love someone and still cheat. Her betrayal was circumstantial, not planned. That's precisely why it's necessary to set boundaries, because circumstantial betrayals are always lurking, all it takes is the perfect environment, a moderate amount of alcohol, the approval/coverage of friends, etc.
@@brunojose7607 So it is alright to cheat if opportunity and circumstances present itself. Nothing harmful just a series of decisions warped as a single "mistake". By this logic any wrongdoing is okay because you know opportunity and circumstances were there. Be it law breaking or heartbreaking. As long as it was not pre-planned.
@@F4AltplusF4 I never said it's ok to cheat. It never is and never will be. But that not everyone who cheats does so out of hatred for their partners, lack of love, etc. It remains an unforgivable mistake, however.
the op is really something else, she really makes me mad. But I was noticing Claire in this story: brings op ex to the party for op, agrees to not tell and say it's normal the "fling", then she HAS A PHOTO and delivers it to Alex, telling about the cheating. To me it seems Claire already knew about Op character and made this trap, maybe to set Alex free but maybe because she was interested in Alex.... JUST THEORIES (btw I'm not excusing OP at all, I was just thinking about Claire because it was messed up to invite OP ex - they broke up in bad terms)
Yeah. I get bad vibes from someone who invited the ex, knew about the cheating, said they’d hide it, then exposed it. Idk, something about that feels icky like she wants the finance or she really hates the OP
Literally a lot of questions because you invited her ask encourage this and then you told her not to feel bad and then you tell on her?? Like yes OP is awful but Claire what are you doing?
Claire definitely intentionally sabotaged OP. But it’s also driving me crazy why OP was so naive as to not put her foot down and send him away. It’s a bachelorette party!!! Only women should be there. Why is a male there??? Also he not only betrayed OP in the past but also her fiance so not only is it disrespectful to OP but it’s disrespectful to Alex as well for him to even be there. She had so many valid excuses to tell him to go F himself and leave but she just let it happen!
The worst choice wasn't even the cheating. It was the deliberate hiding of the fact that she had cheated. They might have been able to reconcile had she confessed immediately but once Alex found out about the cheating days later and from someone else at that, it was 100% over
Depends on the kind of guy Alex is. Considering the fallout, I don’t think it would’ve happened any other way even if she confessed. The fact is she was in love with a great guy, engaged to be married, and let her stupid thoughts/feelings get in the way for a one night stand that ultimately ruined her life and future. Flat out, she shouldn’t have even entertained the other guy. Glad that Alex got out before they got married
I don't think OP's ex should cut her off completely because when he moves on and finds someone else and starts a family, he'll need a clown for his kids' birthdays.
The only person I really feel bad for in this is Michael. Claire is sketchy as heck because she might have her own malicious motives for exposing the cheating. Jake is a piece of trash who gets off on hooking up with "taken" women and OP is a absolute selfish idiot who screwed up a great relationship for sex.
I think Claire just wanted to show Op's true colors to Michael so he wouldn't make a big mistake marrying her. She's a real one for trying to protect someone from Op's, since she was her friend I'm sure she had a better picture of what kind of person Op really is...
I think in the og story She accidentally typed "Jake is everything I want in a man" instead of Alex and people called her out on it 😬 She only changed it after people called her out
@@aribrahman5998 theyre just saying with the way other stories have gone and the actions of Claire, the next part of the story may be that Claire is dating Michael. OP hasnt actually said anything since the update
The least she could do was fess up, but instead she threatened everyone to stay quiet. Then she proceeded to do it AGAIN to her parents despite knowing the consequences that followed when she hid it the first time. I can't wait for an "I got disowned" update!!
Girl needs therapy to fix this self-destructive behavior. Bro needs to just try again and just choose better. Word will get around how well he treated OP and he'll have his pick of girl.
You can literally do and be everything someone could want and someone will still do irredeemable scummy behavior. How can you be that broken and function as a human being?
i have zero empathy for OP. she should’ve gone to counseling with alex ab any underlying feelings she may have had for her ex, or just called off the engagement so they can work things out. the update feels like she’s begging for ppl to feel bad for her, but this is her karma. she cheated on a wonderful guy with a shitty excuse of a human
I never feel empathy for people who cheat, or do other stupid stuff and it backfires on them. I got absolutely no empathy towards people like that. Its too bad some of those people never get to feel the punishment for what they have done.
womp WOMP consquences, you cheated on a kind caring and successful man who treated you like all the love most poeple would kill for and was willing to let you have no job and just stay at home with a abusive ex, who cheated on you, neglected you and never cared asbout other than sex? also dont be surpirsed when your "friend" see the gold mine you cheated on and starts to date him
I realized most of this typicall bachelors or bachelorette parties ending up with someone cheated on their partner and it seemsed no friends was helping to prevented that. Why bother to do such things when the % of one being cheated on it quite high? 🤨
Why do women always say how perfect a guy is/was, then cheat on him and cry about it? You should have thought about what you can loose before cheating. But they never do, they cant escape the feelings in the moment where nothing else matters than that moment. One of the stupidest cheating story ever.
1. How are you different Jake? You knew she was getting married to somebody because you were at her bachelorette party. 2. Claire totally wanted Alex for herself. She invited the ex on purpose and showed Alex the photo on purpose. 3. OP getting drunk is no excuse for cheating. Work on improving yourself before even considering getting into another relationship.
Another reason why a woman's past is so very important. Always pay attention to the "one that got away", because that's the one who's living rent free in her thoughts forever.
I feel like Claire set this up on purpose inviting the ex taking a picture of her cheating then assuring her she wasn’t going to say anything then doing it anyway she’s probably in love with Alex or doesn’t want to see her friend happy misery loves company either way Alex should avoid them both, birds of a feather flock together.
Of corse she cheats on the nice guy with the cheating AH badboy, that already cheated on her in the past.. This is why these type of dudes exist.. Because they can literally break chicks hearts and STILL come back and smash them at their bachelorette party....
@@TomasM303 I get that thinking, but it will just make you more cynical and resentful. I'm not someone who likes relationships for a number of reasons, but thinking that not getting cheated on makes you the exception is ridiculous. You just have to be self-assured, honest and yourself. Guys and girls alike hate the dating 'game' for the fact that it takes a while to find the right person usually. Just don't settle for the first person that you date/hook up with for the sake of it - that's where these problems start.
@@muzikkification I used to be pretty cynical about it, but I’ve come to accept that things are what they are. I’m not actively looking for any relationship, but if it happens I’ll keep being myself and enjoy what I can while it lasts. Life, and the things in it, is/are impermanent; nothing lasts forever. I think realizing this fundamental truth would help a lot of people.
Does anyone know where I can post a reddit story without the group having all these rules? So many groups on reddit where I try to post are so strict on rules.
@@shanel4294They really don’t. Most of the moderators don’t even follow their own rules. They just decided they don’t like you and ban you for no reason.
She's self aware but she doesnt realize she got set up and perhaps even drugged. I read the comments and stuff she said and.. this girl got set up with even more depth 💀 She's defo not the "villain" but got manipulated to become one til its late. Like bro from all the perspective.. everyone is a villain apart Alex and those two dudes. Probably op can be excused if we find mroe stuff.. like asking jack and claire. Like bro this is weird. And i am not going to blame her immediately cuz girl seems like she got drugged or something..
I don't think so. She had the chance to kick him out of the party but didn't. OP enjoyed Jake's presence and attention. I wouldn't be shocked if she changed some details in her post to make her look a little better. Was it really a surprise bachelorette or was she involved in planning who to invite? OP still seemed to be hurt by Jake's indifference during their relationship and breakup. I wonder if she invited him as a way to tell him "this is what you're losing". And everything just got out of hand.
I kind of sensed something was off too. Like none of it makes sense and Jake and Claire both seemed life they almost planned this together. It feels premeditated somehow.
Not defending what she did. It was deplorable. But how exactly should she frame it? If she coldly confesses folks would be mad that she has no remorse and didn’t care what she did.
She's not a clown, shes the entire circus
W reference
How can she say she loved him so much when she did that? Like... what?!
I would feel safe if this kind of human hates me or wants to delete me.
It's entirely possible to love someone and still cheat. Her betrayal was circumstantial, not planned. That's precisely why it's necessary to set boundaries, because circumstantial betrayals are always lurking, all it takes is the perfect environment, a moderate amount of alcohol, the approval/coverage of friends, etc.
@@brunojose7607 So it is alright to cheat if opportunity and circumstances present itself. Nothing harmful just a series of decisions warped as a single "mistake". By this logic any wrongdoing is okay because you know opportunity and circumstances were there. Be it law breaking or heartbreaking. As long as it was not pre-planned.
@@F4AltplusF4 I never said it's ok to cheat. It never is and never will be. But that not everyone who cheats does so out of hatred for their partners, lack of love, etc. It remains an unforgivable mistake, however.
the op is really something else, she really makes me mad. But I was noticing Claire in this story: brings op ex to the party for op, agrees to not tell and say it's normal the "fling", then she HAS A PHOTO and delivers it to Alex, telling about the cheating. To me it seems Claire already knew about Op character and made this trap, maybe to set Alex free but maybe because she was interested in Alex.... JUST THEORIES (btw I'm not excusing OP at all, I was just thinking about Claire because it was messed up to invite OP ex - they broke up in bad terms)
I agree, OP is disgusting for cheating, but why would Clarie invite her ex? That is really sus
Yeah. I get bad vibes from someone who invited the ex, knew about the cheating, said they’d hide it, then exposed it. Idk, something about that feels icky like she wants the finance or she really hates the OP
Oh yeah, Claire is a shit stirrer for sure. I don't even think she had any other motives besides just ruining lives for funsies.
Literally a lot of questions because you invited her ask encourage this and then you told her not to feel bad and then you tell on her?? Like yes OP is awful but Claire what are you doing?
Claire definitely intentionally sabotaged OP. But it’s also driving me crazy why OP was so naive as to not put her foot down and send him away. It’s a bachelorette party!!! Only women should be there. Why is a male there??? Also he not only betrayed OP in the past but also her fiance so not only is it disrespectful to OP but it’s disrespectful to Alex as well for him to even be there. She had so many valid excuses to tell him to go F himself and leave but she just let it happen!
The worst choice wasn't even the cheating. It was the deliberate hiding of the fact that she had cheated. They might have been able to reconcile had she confessed immediately but once Alex found out about the cheating days later and from someone else at that, it was 100% over
Depends on the kind of guy Alex is. Considering the fallout, I don’t think it would’ve happened any other way even if she confessed. The fact is she was in love with a great guy, engaged to be married, and let her stupid thoughts/feelings get in the way for a one night stand that ultimately ruined her life and future. Flat out, she shouldn’t have even entertained the other guy. Glad that Alex got out before they got married
The fact it was with the guy who slept with his last girlfriend ensures he would leave her.
I don't think OP's ex should cut her off completely because when he moves on and finds someone else and starts a family, he'll need a clown for his kids' birthdays.
You really made my day man, i can't stop laughing 😂
OP’s ex should adopt, the village is a better mother than any modern woman
That's really her fault though
Yup, at least she's self-aware T-T
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The only person I really feel bad for in this is Michael. Claire is sketchy as heck because she might have her own malicious motives for exposing the cheating. Jake is a piece of trash who gets off on hooking up with "taken" women and OP is a absolute selfish idiot who screwed up a great relationship for sex.
I think Claire just wanted to show Op's true colors to Michael so he wouldn't make a big mistake marrying her. She's a real one for trying to protect someone from Op's, since she was her friend I'm sure she had a better picture of what kind of person Op really is...
I think in the og story
She accidentally typed "Jake is everything I want in a man" instead of Alex and people called her out on it 😬
She only changed it after people called her out
considering both are fake names and her emotional distress rn, the accidental switch up really doesnt mean anything
@VeryGoodDeals true, but I just wanted to point it out
@@VeryGoodDeals True, but it's still ironic given the story's contents.
@@ybm820 she is an alpha widow so in her mind "Jake" shall always come first.
Next update, Claire is dating Michael
Is this actual or fake?
@@aribrahman5998 theyre just saying with the way other stories have gone and the actions of Claire, the next part of the story may be that Claire is dating Michael. OP hasnt actually said anything since the update
@@VeryGoodDeals tbh i woukdnt be surprised, but it's true then claire is a two head snake
oh no! consequences...
Damn.
Alex is 2-0 against Jake.
He's a better man than me because I would've done something I'd regret.
No woman is worth going to jail, mate.
All I can say to this is - womp womp
The least she could do was fess up, but instead she threatened everyone to stay quiet. Then she proceeded to do it AGAIN to her parents despite knowing the consequences that followed when she hid it the first time. I can't wait for an "I got disowned" update!!
What did she think was gonna happen🤦🤷
Jakes not a good guy she knows that. It's on her for cheating. Alex deserves better
As jordan peele once said: “CON-SE-QUEN-CES”
Girl needs therapy to fix this self-destructive behavior. Bro needs to just try again and just choose better. Word will get around how well he treated OP and he'll have his pick of girl.
You can literally do and be everything someone could want and someone will still do irredeemable scummy behavior. How can you be that broken and function as a human being?
i have zero empathy for OP. she should’ve gone to counseling with alex ab any underlying feelings she may have had for her ex, or just called off the engagement so they can work things out. the update feels like she’s begging for ppl to feel bad for her, but this is her karma. she cheated on a wonderful guy with a shitty excuse of a human
I never feel empathy for people who cheat, or do other stupid stuff and it backfires on them. I got absolutely no empathy towards people like that. Its too bad some of those people never get to feel the punishment for what they have done.
womp WOMP consquences, you cheated on a kind caring and successful man who treated you like all the love most poeple would kill for and was willing to let you have no job and just stay at home with a abusive ex, who cheated on you, neglected you and never cared asbout other than sex? also dont be surpirsed when your "friend" see the gold mine you cheated on and starts to date him
That bachelor's party was the first red flag
I realized most of this typicall bachelors or bachelorette parties ending up with someone cheated on their partner and it seemsed no friends was helping to prevented that. Why bother to do such things when the % of one being cheated on it quite high? 🤨
Yup what friend invites your EX to your bachelorette party?!?!?
And with the guy who stole her fiance's ex, no less. Damn.
It always stays true.
Nice guys finish last bad boys finish inside
Why do women always say how perfect a guy is/was, then cheat on him and cry about it? You should have thought about what you can loose before cheating. But they never do, they cant escape the feelings in the moment where nothing else matters than that moment. One of the stupidest cheating story ever.
This feels like the highest level of rage bait.
1. How are you different Jake? You knew she was getting married to somebody because you were at her bachelorette party.
2. Claire totally wanted Alex for herself. She invited the ex on purpose and showed Alex the photo on purpose.
3. OP getting drunk is no excuse for cheating. Work on improving yourself before even considering getting into another relationship.
Claire is the real villain here
You can clearly know she isn't someone loveable
It's not hard to not cheat. It's not hard to drink a bunch.
why didn't she leave or ask jake to leave the moment he got to the party???
Agreed, Claire would’ve gotten an earful from me
That’s what I’m wondering. If he was so awful to her and her fiance she should have sent him away.
@@BrightElk Another question is "Why do her friends associate with him still after what he did to OP?"
Another reason why a woman's past is so very important. Always pay attention to the "one that got away", because that's the one who's living rent free in her thoughts forever.
I feel like Claire set this up on purpose inviting the ex taking a picture of her cheating then assuring her she wasn’t going to say anything then doing it anyway she’s probably in love with Alex or doesn’t want to see her friend happy misery loves company either way Alex should avoid them both, birds of a feather flock together.
Wait til she finds out Claire & Alex are with each other now , No way Claire was letting that oportuinity slip .
Why did her friend take pictures?
She had a plan all along cause why would you invite her ex to her bachelorette party
She wanted Alex obviously. Dude was a good guy on top of being hot, tall and good in bed. Idk what op was thinking LOL
@@tinycindy2977 she wanted to be a clown at Alex's future kids' birthday party(stolen)
I feel like the smart thing to do would have been to send Jake away before the party even started.
Anybody else get that Claire is behind it all? She invited the ex, pushed them together and the told on her after promising not to.
Of corse she cheats on the nice guy with the cheating AH badboy, that already cheated on her in the past.. This is why these type of dudes exist.. Because they can literally break chicks hearts and STILL come back and smash them at their bachelorette party....
Yeah, it makes it very hard to see any point in trying. You’d have to be really lucky to find someone worthwhile it seems.
The silver lining is, Alex wasn't ugly or even average. Dude was tall and handsome and good in bed 🤣😭 OP just liked the trouble.
Yeah but this woman is either neurotic at best or has some sort of personality disorder.
@@TomasM303 I get that thinking, but it will just make you more cynical and resentful. I'm not someone who likes relationships for a number of reasons, but thinking that not getting cheated on makes you the exception is ridiculous. You just have to be self-assured, honest and yourself. Guys and girls alike hate the dating 'game' for the fact that it takes a while to find the right person usually. Just don't settle for the first person that you date/hook up with for the sake of it - that's where these problems start.
@@muzikkification I used to be pretty cynical about it, but I’ve come to accept that things are what they are. I’m not actively looking for any relationship, but if it happens I’ll keep being myself and enjoy what I can while it lasts. Life, and the things in it, is/are impermanent; nothing lasts forever. I think realizing this fundamental truth would help a lot of people.
Clare is a real one for telling the guy about her cheating good on her Alex deserves happiness not this tramp
If this is loving to moon and back ... ... wow.
It's a holly jolly Christmas hahah😂
Ain't no way this is real.
Her friend is not her friend, because why did she invite Jake? Her friend is a health friend
Satisfaction 100
Bad boy tingle.
If he is so great, why did you cheat? You are a horrible person!
I have no sympathy for cheaters
Does anyone know where I can post a reddit story without the group having all these rules? So many groups on reddit where I try to post are so strict on rules.
4chan
The rules keep us safe tho
@ not rly half of them are stupid
@@shanel4294They really don’t. Most of the moderators don’t even follow their own rules. They just decided they don’t like you and ban you for no reason.
@@BrightElk idk what threads you’re on but I’ve never been banned in the 4 years I’ve been on there.
Claire 100% knew what she was doing when she invited the ex. OP is still the asshole though
People are so stupid lmfao. At least she is taking full accountability unlike most stories I see. She’s still an idiot though
I agree what OP did was pretty stupid but just remember when you say people are stupid that you are people too.
Hope this is fake, the reason i think that is women always stop updating once news is bad.
Whomp whomp
Ironically someone named Jake stole my girlfriend too. Seems like that name is associated with negativity
She's self aware but she doesnt realize she got set up and perhaps even drugged. I read the comments and stuff she said and.. this girl got set up with even more depth 💀 She's defo not the "villain" but got manipulated to become one til its late. Like bro from all the perspective.. everyone is a villain apart Alex and those two dudes. Probably op can be excused if we find mroe stuff.. like asking jack and claire. Like bro this is weird. And i am not going to blame her immediately cuz girl seems like she got drugged or something..
she was drunk not incapacitated, by her own admission she knew what she was doing. why ru defending a cheating slut?
I don't think so. She had the chance to kick him out of the party but didn't. OP enjoyed Jake's presence and attention. I wouldn't be shocked if she changed some details in her post to make her look a little better. Was it really a surprise bachelorette or was she involved in planning who to invite?
OP still seemed to be hurt by Jake's indifference during their relationship and breakup. I wonder if she invited him as a way to tell him "this is what you're losing". And everything just got out of hand.
@@gailyuuyodubAGREED, where she messed up was not kicking him out and giving Claire and earful of bad words
I kind of sensed something was off too. Like none of it makes sense and Jake and Claire both seemed life they almost planned this together. It feels premeditated somehow.
@@gailyuuyodubThis is also very possible. Folks tend to omit details in these types of confessions because they are humiliating.
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The confession of 304.....😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨
I hate how badly she's trying to victimize herself
Not defending what she did. It was deplorable. But how exactly should she frame it? If she coldly confesses folks would be mad that she has no remorse and didn’t care what she did.
All these channels that post these stories need to organize and not post the same story again and again.
Was it possible she was drugged and didn’t know it? I have to ask.
Nahhh more that Claire had other intentions
🧂🧂