Why I Deleted My Coming Out Video (Brennan Clost Coming Out)
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- Опубліковано 8 чер 2024
- #ComingOut #LGBT #BrennanClost
In 2016 I posted a video titled "Coming Out" on this UA-cam channel, and then a few years ago, I deleted it. I wanted to explain why I took my "Coming Out" video down, and how I hope this new video can represent what I originally wish I had posted.
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I can hear the emotion in his voice when discussing the difficult bits. Then he goes from sweet and polite to ‘how fucking dare you’ and ‘for what’ with a death stare 😂 working those chocolate brown eyes
this video is older now but im sat here crying because ive watched you for so long on tns and now that im turning 17 im finally comfortable in my sexuality, despite being bullied constantly for it. hearing ur story and then also seeing how school was made hard for you is so relatable rn and im just so thankful for your content and your authenticity ❤
aw thank you so much for this comment
Hi, Brennan! I would like to say thank you for sharing all of the insecurities you shared with everyone. You are so brave just to be open-minded and it's cruel to hear the people being unkind to you. I'm proud of you! In case if it cheers you up, I suffered from autism and went through loneliness from my friends. So, I can relate to your story. No matter who you are, Brennan, you are beautiful. I stand by you and we shall be kind to each other! ✊🏾😢👏🏾👏🏾👍🏾👊🏾💯☺☺
Hun if you got diagnosed with Autism that is for life it’s not something you really get over, you can find coping mechanisms for things that can be difficult for you in certain situations like if you don’t like or struggle with loud areas or crowded places you can get ear defenders or fidgets which can help ground you and give you something to focus on and the ear defenders can help with blocking out loud noises if you prefer to have music in those situations then maybe try finding some wireless earbuds (you can find some brand new that are relatively cheap on eBay if you don’t fancy spending like 150-200 quid on some) that have decent noise cancelling on them which you could always pair with ear defenders over the top of them if you need more noise cancelling in certain situations. If you suffer from sensory overloads (which can happen due to too much input they can take anywhere from 5-10 minutes to calm down to around 2 hrs (that’s my experience with them anyway) and also need glasses you can always get prescription sunglasses which mean you can still see while also blocking out any excess light if you don’t need glasses a regular pair of sunglasses can help too.
Sorry this is a lot of information, this comment isn’t meant to be rude or mean or anything like that I also have autism and thought it might be helpful if I shared some of my own coping mechanisms. Hope these help! If you want to ask any questions you can always reply to this and I’ll try and answer as soon as I can :)
Life is not a rehearsal. You are wise, brave, thoughtful and clearly recognize that fact. Happiness is not possible if one does not accept and love oneself. You have overcome being treated incredibly bad by thoughtless, selfish people and have moved past that to become a successful mature human being and a role model for others.
I am loving the consistent videos. Can you perhaps also make longer videos like day in the life vlogs. I really love watching your videos. 💖
Dude, how can you be so relatable/inspirational! thank you for helping me realize that I don't really need to put a label on myself, and I can just be who I am and figure out who I am as a person.
With time and counseling, you outgrow your coming-out experience. At 33 it's like it never happened.
depends, that’s your privilege speaking
I am sorry you went through that, I honestly can’t Believe don’t see The damage they cause by assuming people’s sexuality and forcing them to be out 😓
I have to watch this later. Husband just home and we are going out for lunch. I came out long time ago. It wasn’t easy and NO ONE I knew had ever done it. Thanks for being open. It will help 100 x more people than you will ever know.
You are amazing! I recognise myself so much in ur story with the bullying and confusion… no one should have to go through that! Thank you for sharing and I’m glad (and a little bit envious) that you have come to turns with everything and found the love for yourself you deserve. I’m still working on it. Lots of love from Sweden!
Brennan, thank you so much for this video, it meant a lot to me since I recently came out as bi to my parents and my dad didn't take it well. I kept asking myself what did I do wrong, but with some help from my amazing and supportive friends I realised that I didn't do anything bad, it's my dad the one who was wrong for yelling at me and saying awful things. Anyways, I'm so glad the internet exists to help us find our people, and I wanted to say that your video made feel accepted and I hope that in a few years it'll get better💜💜
truly so glad the internet exists so we can all find people that accept us, if we don't have any around us irl! I'm sorry your dad didn't take it well, I hope in time he'll love and accept you just the way you are
hi brennan, i’ve been a fan of urs since tns s1 and subscribed since brit & bren. i just want to say we love you no matter what u are u are a beautiful person and i’m so hapoy to see u thriving in life x 💕 - from england
aw thanks so much
omg you are the cutest ! Missed your videos so much♥♥ so authentic! (even with the weird dance breaks hahaha) keep up the REAL content it's the best feeling growing together with you♥
I cant even imagine how hard this must’ve been. This is such an amazing video for people that may have struggled similar to you and I’m honestly so proud of how brave you were to put this out :)
Thank you so much!
ily brennan, always going to support you no matter what! ❤️
Can't say anything else than this is a great video which does help the guys who still are struggeling with their coming out, a lot more than watching coming out videos of other guys!
I just want to say I'm so proud of you
Brennan, you have answed almost all 60 comments, thats so care full of you !!!
Hi Brennan, thank you for being so open about a matter that is so personal to you - you gave some great advice and p.s daniel was my favourite character! ❤️❤️
Hi from Australia thank you for sharing your story and I hope who ever you love you have a very happy life. Just keep smiling. Lots of love from Australia
Thank you for posting this, it provided food for thought and growth. Good for you taking control of your own story, and defining who you are yourself, rather than being pidgeonholed by others. There was a lot of lessons in here, from how believeing to be supportive can feel intrusive and almost dictatory for the person you want to support, to how difficult it is to find one's way when being on one's own a long way from home and one's loved ones, trying to fit in with a new crowd, as you were at Juliard. The boxes people try to pidgeonhole people into are simplifications that don't accurately reflect real life. Rather than thinking of sexuality as boxes, we should imagine it more as a line and percentage between straight and gay. Very few on that line would be 100% straight or 100% gay, most would land somewhere inbetween. I use to calculate that people who refer to themselves as bi tend to usually be at least 60 to 70% gay - those below that tend to see themselves as straight. The more straight people are, the less of a problem they feel gays, bis and more to be. Homophobes tends to be those terrified by seeing one in the mirror every day. Even if their gay percentage is as low as 10 to 15%, those 10 to 15% scare them so much they become obsessed to supress them. Hating and attacking what scares them automatically follows as the next step (no pun intended). The need to escape what scares them, or an attempt to hide their true self, are what motivates most homophobes - who believe that by attacking homosexuality and gays no one will realize they themselves could be gay. Because being found out to be gay is what scare them most, because of their religious or ultra macho environment, many homophobes automatically see homosexuality as being the evil, instead of the intollerance from people not willing to accept gays, and who either freezes gays out, or attacks them. You are absolutely right that people themselves must be allowed to define who they are, and how and when they want to communicate that to the world. Tolerance, understanding, acceptance and respect must not only be reserved for people fitting into the pidgeonholes, but also for those who feel they fall between those holes.
I’m sorry you had to go through that. But every video from you makes us smile ✨⭐️💕
aw I'm glad I make you smile :)
It's ture!
I grew up in the eighties, had to wear glasses and was one of the poorer kids in my class. Being gay just wasn’t an option with all the bullying I already got, so I lied to myself for way too long. Your story really took me back to how that felt. I didn’t have anyone out me though, and I’m sorry you did. Loved you in TPT, and even more getting to see the real you.
I love how real he is with us and to himself! :) he always makes me think deeper and I don’t know how to explain but I feel like he’s just so wise and I could listen him all day!
I saw the Next step some chapters and
tiny pretty things too , i appreciate you❤️ . You are a good actor, a very kind person 🤍🥰 greetings since Spain. You are the best 💟
thank you so much :)
thanks for this
Thank you for sharing your heart, and that beautiful message with us. You are amazing!! I love you ❤️❤️.
Thank you so much!
I’m so proud of you I only found out about tiny pretty things recently and it’s my new comfort show I love it so much and I love Shane so much he was my favorite so I started researching about the actor I can’t wait to watch more of what you have in the future and your incredible dancing
I really hope the internet is more what you would have wanted back then too. I remember that time quite well but now being a questioning person it holds more weight for me I think
You story is so inspiring for me. I’m so sorry you had to experience that. Being a young LGBTQ person is really hard, and hearing you talk about what it’s like to be LGBTQ was so relatable. Thank you so so so much for this. my friend likes to joke that I got pulled out of the closet and beaten with the hangers. And she is kinda right. Hearing that I’m not alone is a gift. Thank you brennen. I’m messy and different and ever-changing. Thanks to you, I think I’m ok with that now. I know this video is a bit old but I’m finally comfortable talking about this online.
aw thank you for this comment
Beautiful video Brennan- I’m definitely in agreement with you regarding not labelling sexuality- less separation that way!
I am very glad and in a way proud to see how well u deal with all of this. Just shows us again how strong you are.much love to you hope u will be an inspiration for a lot of fellow gay bi queen etc. People
Thank you for being an inspiration for others :) I'm so proud of you Brennan! am looking forward to the day when all sexualities are respected, accepted, and normalized. I hope the next generation grows up in a world where coming out isn't as big of a deal as it is now, because it's becoming a real. It's become a normal thing, and I don't want it to sound like people don't have the right to keep this information in as their personal secret, but people need to learn to grow up, and that people can live however they want as long as it does no hurt anybody. Love you and all your videos! See you next week🥰
I hope so too (about the next generation being able to grow up in a more accepting society)!!!!!!!!!!!!!! see you next week xo
when I started coming out years ago I mostly came out to my colleagues at work and I know some of them were gay so it just naturally became something that spread through the rumor mill. Likewise I never came out to my father but he found out and told my relatives back in Europe and none of them minded. Also, my sister in California outed me to her husbands relatives and no issues there either. On the other hand a few years ago a colleague spotted me at the gay bar and they did not out me to anyone. It really depends on the circumstances and I know that some people really get upset when they are outed to others but truth is people are always curious. When it becomes a problem is when someone discriminates against us because they heard about us through the rumor mill. This is how hate crimes can happen. In the end we have two choices, be scared and live in fear or be brave and face our fears.
Well done post. Yup, don’t pressure anyone to take a very difficult step. You can encourage a leap but you can’t shove. You must be there with a net if needed. That is support. Look forward to seeing you back on stage, silver screen, Broadway, TV or whatever you do next.
thank you so much, and agreed! It's a difficult and very personal step!
Thank you for sharing your truth, I'm sure t wasn't easy. Very proud of you.
Hey I just want to say I’m proud of you and keep your head up🫶🏾🫶🏾
Hey Brennan, just found you and subbed. For me this was both heavy, which I liked, and joyful with its outcome. I am very happy for you and thank you for making this. Love you bro...............Ray
Thanks for the sub & for the sweet comment
it was a deep video but its what needed to be said!
so proud of you💗
Brennan, thank you for this video. Some people can just be cruel and stupid. You are a good man. Continue with your life as YOU want.
Loving these videos at the moment but we need to see you and britt react to some more tns! ❤️
okayyyyy deal I'll see if she's down to film a rxn video with me :)
I get it, I kinda came out to people in my school by being confident when they asked and didn't bring it up again so I could be the friend who's gay instead of the gay friend...or not friend anymore for some :/ but school is starting soon so we'll see what happens. Maybe give someone else the confidence to be themselves or even think they could talk to me. Someone they can trust.
I think you're very brave. It takes a lot of courage to be this honest.
I am so so sorry that happened to you !! :(
As a pansexual teenage girl who's is openely gay in secondary school, it's hard. Most of my friend group is LQBTQ + and most people in the school hate us and think we are weird and it's honestly just plain homophobia. It makes me so angered.
Honestly it makes it so hard for people in the world to come out to anyone. This video was really amazing and I am happy you are open about this instead of hiding your real self 💘
aw I'm glad you have a great group of friends, but that sucks the rest of the school aren't super accepting :(
Same :(
It's my last year at this school and next year I'm going to a new school and I hope that it will be better at the next one.
Lots of love from Germany :)
@@sirbaxelord6228 Good for you! Hopefully it will be a less toxic environment. Thanks for the support 💝
Love from England :)
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You make me smile and your videos make my day (:
aw thank you so much :)
Brennan thank you for this video...means so much for me... I am bisexual and it's so hard for me sometimes.... Love 💜💜🌈
Looking forward to it 😊
Aw thank you so much 💖
Sorry u had to experience that but ur an amazing dancer and actor and hope for the best for u stay strong
aw thank you xo
@@brennanclost ur welcome
I am bisexual but like boys more and my mom's homophobic so.. anyway videos like this to show that just because your different to most people it doesn't mean its a bad thing. I have mire girl friends than boy friends and my only boy friends are either ones from primary school or ones that have been through the same as me. I have already been outed to all the staff and it feels so weird but my older dance friend rhat are about to leave 😭😭, have litterly helped prevent a mental breakdowns . And I'm so thankfully for them. Just coming out is so scary for me it makes me worried what she would do to me.
I'm sorry to hear that about your mom, I hope she'll eventually love and accept you just the way you are... because you're right, being different or "not straight" isn't a bad thing
Thanks💖
Good for you . Am very sorry to hear you were bullied who needs it !
Can you next video be spilling the tea on your falling out with Brit 😁😁😁😁😁😁
there's no tea! We uploaded a video to explain the parting of ways - it's linked at the end of this video :) Called "what happened to Brit and Bren"
Just be you 😊😊😉😉I love when you are yourself 😍😉😉😉
I understand you very well and I don't want to belittle the difficulties you have had. When I was a child, there was a law in Germany (!) until 1969 that sentenced gays to 2 years in prison. Coming out at that time was completely impossible! Even after this law was toned down, it was still extremely difficult. By the way, the Nazis sent gays to the concentration camps where thousands of them were tortured to death. Today, there are still countless countries where gays are persecuted. In Saudi Arabia, for example, gays are still punished with lashes. Sometimes it helps to put one's own problems into perspective. All the best to you and thank you for your openness!
OMG I JUST GOT TO KNOW ABT YA , YA GOT AMAZING ACTING SKILLS U ARE SO BRILIANT ND SUPER COOL !!!!
When are you updating the movie called tiny pretty things
i love u, u r amazing💓
I'm so glad you have your family and friends support. Fuck everybody they are small.minded people. You are a great artist and dancer( performer). Good luck for the future. I just watched the miniseries on Netflix. Great work 🎉🎉🎉
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I like how you came out but even know it's kinda hard coming out to parents and I can actually understand why coming out is kinda scary bc homophobics and mean people mostly I see why you deleted the video and also it doesn't matter how you act walk talk it doesn't mean LGBTQ+ they could be straight but I will accept you bc I'm actually questioning myself but I love the LGBTQ+ bc there actually really fun to learn about even you are fun to learn about
a lot of straight people don't understand that it's a really personal choice to come out. no one should be forced out even if it's super obvious. we all have our reasons why we might wait or not talk about it.
totally agree, it's such a personal choice/milestone
Always a fan of yours and I totally support anything but gay
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I just love u dude
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Whait, the fallout is not with brittany right?
No
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I love this funny intro and i love u so love is love and that's it❤️😍🌈
thanks :)
Good video
thanks!
All we know is that you like men too 👍 you do you 💅
Hey. Remember me? We did Little Miracles back in 2013. I used to call you Mr Mad. I’m not sure why I did that. After all these years, I’m finally telling you I’m sorry.
I think this is you. Please respond as soon as possible
Nn capisco niente..ma coming out ..in Italia... vuol dire....DICHIARARE D' ESSERE GAY.... FA' LO STESSO...SEI BRAVISSIMO A BALLARE COME POCHI
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I’m so proud of you! 🤍 I’m sorry you had to go through all that bullying and hate. And I’m so happy to see how far you’ve come, and how authentically you live your live now 😘 An inspiration!
aww thank you so much 😘
I am loving the consistent videos. Can you perhaps also make longer videos like day in the life vlogs. I really love watching your videos. 💖