@@eamonia Experience isn't pulled out of thin air. Some jobs require you to have X years of work experience, but how can you get experience without having a job beforehand? It's the same thing with dating a trans person, how can someone have experience with dating a trans person, if they've never dated one before? She stated that trans people should only date people who have experience with dating trans people, but how does she think they got that experience? Dating Trans People For Dummies?
I totally agree and it sounds crazy but i love women with long hair. I am happy that my wife has long hair. She tryed it with short hair but she dont liked it. That was good for me. ;) I love my wife with long and short hair! But when i was a young man i only was interested in women with long hair. Why? I have no idea. :) That one preference and not one person say something against me the short hair phobic man. :D
And it also happens that you can find someone attractive at first but the longer you get to know them you can find them unattractive later all without even learning what their genitalia even are
They labelled any polite disagreements and rejections as "phobias", they want to break the boundaries of others, which is disrespectful by itself. No wonder why they are rejected, it’s such a terrible behavior. They are also forcing their ways on survivors of abuse.
Trans activists drive me bonkers. When you transition your dating pool gets smaller. That's a fact. You're going to have a smaller number of men and women who are going to be interested in you as a trans person. If you have surgery, the group gets even smaller. If you don't disclose you're trans then you're putting yourself at risk of all sorts of horrible things. Throwing a tantrum saying it is everyone else's fault you can't find someone to date certainly doesn't help the cause. Dating is rough for everyone, regardless of being trans.
Dating is hell. I do get, though, why some people would long to know whether or not they could be loved for who they are and how they appear, without the prejudices that come with being 'identified', even if that identification is inevitable and ultimately it just sets you up for heartbreak. 🥺
Correct. It’s taking life - which can be difficult- and making it more complicated and more difficult. Something people need to think about before choosing this path in life.
Surgery to look more like the gender you identify might actually help you get more people interested in dating because it helps improve sexually dimorphic traits of the gender you identify
Dishonesty in a relationship is a huge turnoff and a MAJOR dealbreaker for most people. So lying/misleading someone about something like _this_ , is beyond bad. 😝
@@lynnm6413 yes! Imagine falling for one then find out it has male bits when you thought it was a real woman! Yes it is criminal and harsh sentences would make them be honest.
I'm a plain ole woman (I refuse "cis") who never, ever wanted kids, I wouldn't even play with dolls when I was little. I always tried to find out asap (without being rude) if my date wanted children. If they didn't, I gently broke it off. Early on, I didn't do that & the guy kept pushing the issue, insisting that I'd change my mind, that I didn't know what I wanted, that all normal women wanted kids therefore I must be a lesbian (that one REALLY made no sense). All in our last date. I didn't get up & leave early b/c I was fascinated to see how many wacko ideas the dude came up with.
"No one wants to sleep with me!" Then they turn around and say to not sleep with someone who hasn't slept with trans people before. Make it make sense!
So what these trans women are saying is that they’ve just discovered what it’s like to date as a woman. They’re experiencing guys sleeping with them and never calling them again. They’re experiencing guys having a few dates and the disappearing. 🤦♀️ it’s not just you….
Nice that he pointed out the contradiction between "it's okay to be trans but not okay to be gay". Aren't we supposed to be OK with being gay in this day and age? Well said!
Maybe he is trans because he couldn‘t deal with being gay? I feel that a lot of transwomen who deny having two penises in the bedroom is anything but still haven’t DEALT WITH THEIR OWN INTERNALIZED HOMOPHOBIA
But they don't want to be seen as "trans", they want to be "real women". This attitude will create conflict in their mind. They want to have straight men because they are real women. If the man is openly (in the relationship) struggling with his sexuality, the trans woman feels like she's being called out. That's what I see. The trans person is struggling with their identity more than they think and they project that onto the partner. Maybe, that's just what I see.
@@jayaom4946 trans people mostly have issues with reality. As long as they pretend to be ‚real‘ women, they will never be happy. It is the same for everyone…as long as you don‘t love yourself as you are, how can you truly love someone else
Marcus/Marca is unfortunately caught up in their own hypocrisy, they’ve admitted to be female/woman but they insist on legally remaining male and trying to mimic males, using male spaces and so on. I cannot see this as anything but hypocritical, I find those who believe that they actually are a male or female more consistent then.
All new relationships are "experiments" aren't they? You can't know whether you and your new partner are compatible unless you try them out, so to speak. This is true for all people, not just trans folks.
I am so against people not being upfront with a potential partner. When I was young, I started dating a guy I met a bar for a few months. I found out he was married and had a fit. Looking back I do realize that I made a mistake not asking him if he was married when I first met him but I was young and assumed he wouldn't be at a bar hitting on women if he was married - yes, very naive! I felt awful and dirty afterwards so from then on, the first thing I asked was if they were married. I will be honest, if I started dating a transman and didnt know it and it came down to having sex, I would not take it well at all. I might could adjust if I knew it going in but after starting to build a relationship and then finding out would shake me. I would constantly be wondering what else they were hiding.
I don't think you made a mistake by not asking him if he was married when you met him- it is normal to assume that anyone who is married would not be seeking a relationship with another person. The fault lies with him for not being faithful to his relationship.
In the USA, it’s called “rape by deception” and is a sex crime. Since these trans people can reasonably assume that the other person would not want them if they knew the truth, intentionally hiding it in order to sleep with that person qualifies as deception. Very predatory behavior.
I can't tell you how much I absolutely detest people who make clips interviewing themselves. Hate it, hate it, hate it; so infantile and stupid. Anyway, thanks Marcus for another informative video, good work!
Telling a future partner or someone I'm into in that I'm a pre op trans woman is the first thing I tell people. I've never tricked anyone into sleeping with me
No matter how passing trans people are, their true gender shines through. Some people are fine with that, some people see and feel a mans arm with nail polish.
@@knrdvmmlbkkn This maybe hard to swallow but most women in Hollywood, also the music industry are trans men. I recall watching a guy telling his viewers Britney Spears was trans. I laughed my arse off. However the more videos of other celebs I watched the more it becomes obvious. It's not just the entertainment industry it's big business, the so called elites, royalty...
yea I dont have a "genital preference" I am just hetrosexual and not attracted to men even when they outwardly look like a women, and no pre or post op dosent matter one bit
Im going to say it, this is how people get hurt. Some men feeling tricked will get violent. There is no reason not to be straight up with someone. Why waste time with someone who if they knew. Would not want to be around you.
A guy in my town dressed as a woman and went on a date and got sexual with a younger man, and then revealed his identity and the guy went berserk and killed him because he felt tricked. His reaction was so overblown to result to that, but he did feel assaulted essentially and deceived so that’s why he reacted that way.
@@DellikkilleD I think it’s deceitful but calling it rape is overblown. I don’t see why knowing someone’s chromosomes or not makes it non consensual. Most people don’t even know exactly what their chromosomes are, just what they generally appear they are. Plus the guy wasn’t forcing himself on him, all he did was tell him what he was after they had done a couple sexual things. It’s deceiving and disgusting behavior but I don’t think I would define it as rape either.
When I was dating I even disclosed my mental disorders pretty early on because it’s a lifelong thing I have to deal with so it’s also something a prospective partner would have to “deal with” if you decide to get/stay together. It’s also sometimes something that can get passed down through genes to your children so that’s another thing to think about.
honestly I dont think thats biggest reason, I think the whole dating thing as well as men in womens sports mostly comes down to affirmation, so these people "can feel like a women" there is a reason the focus is on dating HETEROSEXUAL men, The irony being that any man attracted to a trans women (who know they are trans) is not straight, nothing wrong with that.
Manipulation, coercion & gaslighting should never be minimized or conflated with “they’re just insecure😓”. You’re a sitting duck for abusers of any kind if you can’t discern the difference.
This idea that breaking up with someone because they’re not what you thought makes you ‘phobic’ is ridiculous. It just means you weren’t into them like that. If you’re not 100% man or 100% woman, and that’s not what the other person wanted, it’s not a phobia-it’s preference. They were looking for a real relationship with someone of the opposite sex, not something they didn’t sign up for. And honestly, not being upfront about who you really are can be dangerous. Some people I know wouldn’t hesitate to react harshly if they found out they were deceived. That’s playing with fire, and the consequences could be severe.
If breaking up becausse what was in their pants was not what you expected is anything, it's trapping. Which can be excused by not wanting to talk about this even before the first date, which I can understand. But being rejected for things like this simply comes with the territory. It could actually be much worse than simple rejection.
@@Fuzz82 I know dozens of men who are just going to be alone forever because they cannot handle being tricked and lied to anymore. Stop with the they are predators narrative, they are the victim in this.
"If you’re not 100% man or 100% woman" That's a big "if". *Everyone* is either 100 % man or 100 % woman. There are no other possible percentages. "and that’s not (...) phobia-it’s preference." No, not necessarily. It can be sexual (and/or romantic) orientation. A preference is something you *prefer* over something else. I don't _prefer_ tea over coffee - I outright _refuse_ to drink coffee.
As a trans girl who has been dating my boyfriend, I'm his first trans girl (he's dated two self id trans "guys" and a trans "girl" but I'm the only one who actually is transitioning and has gender dysphoria) and I have no problem with this. He's pansexual which is pretty much bi to anyone who doesn't know, and I'm not insecure about it at all. All that matters is that we are happy, we love and care for each other, and he treats me like a princess. Dating and being trans isn't hard, but putting your delusions and ego aside seems to be for trans activists.
I'm honestly really happy for you 🫶 There's nothing like trust in a relationship, if you're gonna get jealous and insecure that relationship is not going anywhere.
Well said, being upfront and honest is how genuine relationships are formed, the bad rep that a small but very vocal minority effects others negatively.The dishonest dating practices these people indulge in is both delusional and childishly egotistical. If someone knowingly decieves another to have a relationship that's disengenous deal-breaker.
@@kevincurr4641 They're not a small group. In wokie Washington we live in pure hell because predators are everywhere and they win, always, no matter what. They can be beating you up and they will be the victim, you will be the one escorted out by police. All they have to do is say "I am nonbinary" or "I am trans" and that is the catch all that wins all.
When a man presents as a woman, and the man believes he IS a woman and that man doesn't reveal the truth until the nitty gritty, HOW DARE THAT MAN BLAME THE GUY FOR BEING CONFUSED OR ANGRY? That's bait and switch! False advertising.
These people say “I fear for my life” but wait months to tell someone or wait until the person just ends up finding out themselves.. Like you can’t fear for you life that much if your willing to risk it doing that!
If a person doesn’t truly believed they were a woman why would they transition? I actually find what Marcus/Marca doing worse because they’re fully aware that they’re a female or woman according to themselves yet lie on by using male documents. How would you support that?
@@roizashegal I’d say it’s because they actually have a mental condition that makes it so they can’t live as a woman you can acknowledge something without having to live as that something. They transitioned to alleviate the symptoms of gender dysphoria not to become a man and also who’s looking at Marcus and seeing a female now? It’s just easier to document as a male to avoid useless confusion
People seem to think that having the right to do something means they can do it and the rest of the world needs to compensate for any downside. No. Do what you want, and accept the downside.
What the heck is wrong with these people thinking it’s “ok” to hide *_major_* parts of themselves - parts that intimate partners *NEED TO KNOW* _prior_ to engaging in things with them….. Not just trans… but the other day i saw a guy saying he doesn’t warn people he is HIV positive……. 🤯🤯
Does anyone HIV positive have to wear a badge on their shirt just in case you might have a crush on them at some point? Yeah, it needs to come up before you get intimate, but your feelings may have progressed quite a bit by that time. You have a right to your preference, but that's it. If someone tells you something about themselves that is a dealbreaker for you, you break it off and move on with your life, like a grown adult. If someone revealed they're trans to me, it wouldn't matter to me. Of course, I *am* bisexual. 🤷 What irks me about most trans people I meet is not that they're trans, it's the woke totalitarian cult mentality, the sanctimonious moral superiority, and an extremely irritating tendency to give zero poops about how *they* might be prejudging *me* because of how they identify *me* .
@@mikicerise6250 lol no they don’t need to wear a badge - put your emotions on check and re-read what my comment actually said rather than what you seem to think it said….. First - I’m bisexual too lol 😂 I’m more than happy to date anyone with any parts…. If someone was trans it wouldn’t matter to me in the slightest…. Also… yeahhh I know… that’s why my comment said “things that _intimate partners_ need to know prior to engaging in those things…..” - but if you’re going on dates with people - it’s pretty much a given that intimacy (even kissing is being intimate with someone) will most likely occur at some point in the near future….. A first date - maybe not if you have standards - but if you’re aiming for a second date with that person - they have the right to know these things.
@@mikicerise6250 also - I am disabled but don’t look it, and have mental health issues…. If I go on a date with someone - those are some of the *_first things_* I’m telling them…..
@@CharliStar Sure, if you're dating them and starting to be intimate you need to tell them. But I'm sure you know as well as I how some people can be about intimacy. Some people want to take it slow and leave things ambiguous for a long time. Some people declare undying love in their second message. Some people will coyly call themselves demisexuals in their profile and then immediately have their tongue in your mouth on the first date. 🙄 I'm just saying, dating is complicated and people are unpredictable. There is no clear fast line between, "oh, we're 'dating' now, this is no longer hanging out, so let's get into sexual details now" and "this person is still just a friend". It's legitimately complicated.
@@mikicerise6250 that’s the thing… too many people lie about themselves…. The world would be so much more easier if people were more honest. I’m not saying make it the very first thing… but personally - as I said in my second comment, my issues are some of the first things I tell someone… I cannot do all the things a regular person can… so I don’t like misleading people…. But that’s just me.
I was with a man for 3 years I was in my late 30s it was my last chance to have children. He didn't tell me he was sterile at the beginning of the relationship and told me was able to have kids we even tried at certain times of the month. Not a problem with trans people but was so important to me. I'm open to anyone but just be honest in relationships if you want your forever relationship!
Thank you guys I was just trying to make the point that having children is really important to some people I wouldn't mind been with someone trans if they had the same goal as me just don't waste peoples time no matter what and be honest
Ive dated a trans person. Never again. They were too uncomfortable to do literally anything w me but did w men? Like just say youre gay and stop doing this. Were friends now after i didnt talk to them for a decade. Down low is messed up, period, sorry not sorry and so is trickery
"The term, "genital preference" is so gross." I disagree. The term comes across to me as useful. It might be actually be a matter of genital preference(s) in some cases.
Part of me does feel bad because I can understand how it could be frustrating and upsetting to not find people attracted to you. However, I lose sympathy when these people start shaming others for not being attracted to them. All I can ask is would you really want someone to date you and fake their attraction?
@@grgapitic5768"Probably "origination" wasn't a typo" Origination: The process of starting or developing something, or causing it to happen. So it's not a very good fit in this case. I think it was autocorrect.
i am an dude and like only biological dudes and I see they are ppl who have issues with that ,when everyone have their preferences, they want to force their views on everyone so what if we want something else. This is why I am glad my country is full with biological men.
I know we live in 2024, dating isn't only about "dating" (one night stand) but starting a family. Also, there are trans who did all surgeries, including buttom. I know it doesn't work like the real things, but it not addressed either (it should be disclosed either way).
Welcome to the rational side! I enjoy it over here, too. Marcus and Blaire helped me snap out of the Diversity and Inclusion movement in the world of therapy/social work.
Omg are people *still* arguing that not wanting to be with a trans person because of their biological sex makes you transphobic. I thought we left this shit behind in 2017. 🤦♂️
Anyone that lies and cheats to get someone to sleep with them is preying on people and deserves the contempt and outrage they receive. Act respectful and kind, get respect and kindness in return. It’s a simple as that.
I'm so glad you're channel blew up found you when you had about 50k subscribers & wanted you to blow up I knew you would also though because you tell the truth are very logical & a LOT of people need to hear you ❤
OMG....SEX IS NOT EVERYTHING!!! People " doctors" have always said you have no relationship worth it ...if both are not completely compatible in the bed.I fell for it and sexually my first husband and I were PERFECTION in the sack.But we couldn't stand each other in every other way.If you are lucky enough to be able to STAY in bed....go for it.But if you have to work,walk,talk with others....find MORE that you have in common.
I don't want to date anyone. I am an extreme introvert and have an extrovert job. I don't want to deal with anyone when I get home. I just want my space.
The second girl talking about guys being nervous. When they know she's trans. To me, that's probably just because it's the first date, not because she's trans.
This guy really does so much good, I’m often Called a bigot for saying these things and after awhile you start to believe it. Thank you for showing truth and justice is important and personality comes second to it
The funny thing is that if they meet a man who HAS dated other TW and likes them specifically, he's a chaser. He's committing the grave sin of noticing a difference. People can't win, basically. If we notice their sex, we're transphobic. If we don't constantly center their identity though (which requires acknowledging their sex), we are also transphobic. Basically, RUN FOR THE HILLS
I think men attracted to trans have an extra difficult journey to accept themselves. They've heard of gay, they've heard of transgender but they've never heard a label for people that are genuinely attracted to trans women. I remember Blaire White had her boyfriend on her channel once and I thought he even had a difficult time talking about his sexuality. "I guess I'm a little bit gay." Right now there's a lot of trans people speaking up proudly. But I've never seen another person besides Blaire 's boyfriend talk about being attracted to trans people. Those people seem quiet.... and now these trans women are mocking them and emphasizing that when they are new and confused that trans women will not have the patience for them!!
I agree. I'm gay, but I would... date a trans man. Holy cow, I should have it kept for myself, I was called bi and straight all over. It's laughable because all my sex encounters were with men, and I only entertain this as a possibility (to this day, the only vaginas I ever seen are on internet, lol). I'm not touching anything that is remotely feminine, I can't be bisexual. I had to endure 30 years of my life to accept myself as a gay, I'm not changing my sexuality as if it were clothes. I guess guys that are attracted to transwomen has those problems too, being called bi or gay, when they wouldn't touch someone with a slight hint of masculinity. So, I have chosen to keep this hidden. Fortunately for me, finding a trans man in my country would be like winning the lottery. It's not happening anytime soon anyways.
These people are allergic to logic. And sanity. And they seem to spend all the time theyre not making insane TikTok videos thinking up wacko rules just to give them more opportunities to get wildly upset & offended. YT does have a sense of humor: the 1st ad after this vid ended was for Temu 😂😂😂
"Would you rather listen to the angel on your shoulder scolding you for your own good, or the devil selling you sweet lies?" Dating is hard enough WITHOUT being trans, so be brutally honest with yourself, it'll save you a lot of pain in the long run
If I had to answer this question- in the first date, maybe no, but I was never in a rush to get physical with anybody, but if you like someone and would like to be physical with them - absolutely should say such important information.
Please don’t use the term cis. Not only is it offensive. It is a term that they took from another part of science that doesn’t relate in any way to the trans ideology, and the trans term that they try to compare it to is short for a completely different meaning.
ive never dated, but from what i hear about dating in general, it seems like these types are trying to circumvent Normal stuff that everyone has to deal with. not everyone will like you for various reasons. you can't force people to date you for any reason. having to make a good impression on someone is standard for everyone. what is this nonsense? they're treating being trans as some sort of "skip to having a partner" button when it is not.
I agree with her when she says a trans women shouldn’t date first timers I feel the same way about it. She’s entitled to her opinion just like you are .
I used to go to the afterhours clubs in Hollywood from 2000-2019 and there was a huge trans community there but they would definitely prey on cis men and I use the word prey because they weren’t forthcoming about it. They knew everyone was on ecstacy, K, GHB, alcohol, shrooms and you couldn’t see straight. It happened to a few newcomers and you can see their face when they found out they were making out with a guy. It’s disturbing
'Could you maybe ask him?' I don't know why but that line cracked me up so much lol. People really will do anything to avoid asking how their partner feels
Is it just my thinking or is everytime you are intimate with someone for the first time a new experience and you are always kind of like a first timer? Because for me, the way I see it is that everybody is different (physically, preference wise etc.), it doesn’t matter if someone is cis or trans. And when you have your first time together you always have to get to know each other in a new way and learn what do you like yourself, what does the person like and how both people make this work together. So even if you had sexual experiences before, you kind of start at zero together to create a intimate relationship that makes both of you happy🤔
Do they have a problem with just saying: "I don't want to be a one night stand."? Communication is key to any relationship. Edit: Some of these trans women would not date a trans man for the same reasons they say some cismen don't want to date them. Thats my experience and I think its hypocritical.
I will never hide the fact that I’m a whole as Tranny but I don’t want to be an experiment for mostly chasers for the rest of my life. I’d rather be a person that just doesn’t have sex. I became aware of this when I was in therapy before transitioning. I’m 4i years old I’ve a 7 year relationship a 1 year relationship and 6 months relationship and far too many dates that went nowhere afterwards because I disclosed being trans. I don’t have much time left on earth I’m not going to waste it being a coach mentor or trainer. I’m thankful that sex is not something defines me.
My daughter is straight. But Dr's were still trying to mess her up. They were trying to get her to have. Big breast reduction. To help back pain. Then they put her IUD in wrong she had to have surgery on her uterus. My other child who is super girly. She always has been. They convinced her she's a lesbian. She wasn't even confident in that decision. She had a full ride to an elite university. She is now paying to get her masters in gender studies. But she tells me she's a better person than me. I'm a horrible human and shouldn't exist.
@@julipatootie Yeah, apparently they suggested a breast reduction to alleviate her back pain. Diabolical. This has gotta have something to do with LGBT, it's just gotta.
Ooooh god the IUD. I'm so sorry she went through that. I also had an IUD put in wrong and the doctor insisted he did it right. Had to go to a different doctor to get it taken out because the pain became debilitating (it was caught on my cervix). Fortunately once they pulled it out all further symptoms were minor and temporary. A little bit of bleeding from scar tissue opening up when I got pregnant, but not enough to cause problems and it went away after a couple weeks. I can't imagine having to get surgery over it. 😨 God bless you and your daughters, hopefully things will get better.
Another point to add would be if your looking for a committed long term relationship guy STOP kissing all the noncommittal frogs. Be honest about who you are, what your looking for, hold that boundary and the people looking for the same qualities will show up. Just work on yourself and live up to your boundaries and when conflicting people show up you say “no thank you” and keep on your chosen path. Again if you know yourself and know what you want in life no one need to be bothered by people who can’t match your values and integrity. Just live life and the right people will show up when they’re supposed to
I dgaf if a lunatic calls me "phobic", maybe they need to worry about their mental and emotional stability before trying to f^^k up someone else's life.
Prior to these individuals "transitioning", did anyone tell them that they might not have a wide selection of willing partners to choose from? That it might be difficult to find someone who is okay with a partner who outwardly looks like one gender but--in terms of the actual "equipment", etc.--is not that gender? These people seem mystified, and it makes me wonder what sort of counseling they got prior to their "transition". Also, I'd sure like to hear from more transgender _men_ on this subject and find out what their experiences have been. *PS:* I could be wrong, I admit it, but I think the "trans" women in this clip probably would reject a date who really wanted a meaningful relationship but turned out to be _fat_ . Or a date who did not at least look like an "8".
@@Nyawilliams666 No one should have to settle. No one. If you discover that your blind date, or the person you met online, is too fat, too thin, too ugly, too tall, too short, is of a sexual/gender orientation that is not what you want, etc., you should not have to settle. Period.
my trans friend is pretty nonchalant about this and very upfront with the people interested in dating her. for men who ask her out, she usually tells them right away that she's trans, and then that's end of story for those str8 men typically.
When i first met my girlfriend, about 3-4 months ago she was upfront in both her profile and her messages between us that she was trans. We had some things intrests in common, and when she asked me if i was alright with her being trans. I told her she is my first transwomen i have considered taking out to dinner, and said I'd be willing to give this a try. Going into 5 months, she has been very kind, sweet, understanding, and supportive despite me not being home a lot due to the two surge deployments 2 months at a time I've been on recently. I think once my surge deployments are finished, me and her can spend more time together, quite possibly be in for the long haul.
Marcus. Darling. Treasure. Sage One. When did you get to be so goddamned intuitive? You cannot be more than maybe 27 years old but you express as the ancient philosophers did. You are ALWAYS spot on with your observations. I'm beyond impressed with your - well, wisdom. Just sayin'
Sooo, there are lots of people I find enormously attractive without wanting to have sex with them. Isn't it great when someone thinks you are beautiful and enjoys being with you?
Look...if you decide to be with a partner that has never been with a transwomen before, as their partner, it is your responsibility to guide them through this. Just like if you agreed to be the first partner of a virgin. It requires a lot more empathy and caring. If you can't give that, don't do it.
So in other words, they don't want a "virgin"?...people have all sorts of preferences, get over it. and YES, it's YOUR responsibility to be honest and disclose your biological gender, not doing so makes you a sexual predator in my opinion, deceiver at best because that guy may want his own biological children.
Second one is pure immaturity. Everyone is a "representative" for their demographics all the time constantly. This is merely a part of being alive as a social species. You SHOULD feel that you have the responsibility to positively represent your group -- that's being pro-social, and caring about someone other than yourself. Should you overly beat yourself up over every mistake? Of course not. Should you *care* about the effect you have on others? 🤔 When folks complain about the "loss of community" and how selfish people have become, this is a great example.
These trans women are all over the place one minute they want men who are experienced but then will accuse men who have been with multiple trans women a chaser
Okay but one of these girls makes sense - the 'first timer' one, she's basically saying that she's not in for experimenting, she's in for a long run. And I think it's okay. Not everyone wants a sexual relationship with no strings attached and not everyone wants to ask about a serious relationship *ater* they've had sex with someone - some people prefer it the other way around. So I'm with her, unless she also rejects the guys who want to be in a serious relationship with her, than it's kind of strange to me, because one can gain more security and experience during a relationship.
Ya no shit it’s important, lots of people don’t usually sleep together on the first date and if the trans don’t say anything for the first let’s say 5/6 dates and the person really falls hard then finds out! Ya I wouldn’t trust anyone any time soon
It's all about honesty. This is who I am; this is who I'm looking for. And I know I'm an old fuddy duddy, but it's okay to not to have sex right off the bat. Just be friends to start off with. If you're meant to be more, it will happen. Be honest.
I think it makes sense that someone who could pass as a woman attracts someone who later doesn't want to engage in a sword fight, and that shouldnt make them transphobic, they just want to plunge their sword, not fight with it.
It needs to be a crime for Trans pple NOT to disclose as that has to he the #1 cause for violence against them along w it being morally repugnant NOT doing so along w NOT disclosing HIV/AIDS for 'undetectable' is NOT anything to justify keeping something that serious to oneself.
I'm a heterosexual cis man, with sapio- and demisexuality as secondary preferences. I've been fysically attracted to women, but then rejected them because of their character, their (lack of) intelligence, ... . That does not make me a misogynist, does it? I would also reject someone when I find out they have the 'wrong' tool between their legs. That does not mean I would reject them as friends, but nothing more could ever come from that. That does not make me a transphobe. And yes, I would expect a trans woman to tell me this before anything happens. I'm not a violent person, but I can imagine pushing them away from me if I have to find out during the act. Remember how I referred to being demi and sapio as secondary preferences? The female reproductive organ is my primary preference. Please do not mess with peoples primary preferences if you want to be safe ... Furthermore I consider 'kinks', or even the complete absence of kinks, to be tertiary preferences. The combination of primary, secondary and tertiary preferences makes for a scala of potential reasons to be attracted to someone... or not. So to find your match, get out there and meet people. Don't bully/shame people if their preferences do not align with yours.
Why is it a problem when trans people get rejected ? Anyone else gets rejected at one time or another ,that's dating 101 . You can't expect that anyone you want wants you back ,that's not realistic . And it has nothing to do with transphobia .
This is a really unique take on "Can't get a job without experience, but don't have any experience to get a job" thing.
Exactly! 😅
Pardon my lack of identifying the parallel here but that one went about 10 feet over my head. What?
Exactly!
@@charliefarrar7149 Can you fill me in here? The comparison went over my head. I'm not exactly sure what perspective it's coming from. Help me out?
@@eamonia Experience isn't pulled out of thin air.
Some jobs require you to have X years of work experience, but how can you get experience without having a job beforehand?
It's the same thing with dating a trans person, how can someone have experience with dating a trans person, if they've never dated one before?
She stated that trans people should only date people who have experience with dating trans people, but how does she think they got that experience?
Dating Trans People For Dummies?
Men and women are rejected everyday based on tons of preferences! These people need to get over themselves!
I totally agree and it sounds crazy but i love women with long hair. I am happy that my wife has long hair. She tryed it with short hair but she dont liked it. That was good for me. ;) I love my wife with long and short hair! But when i was a young man i only was interested in women with long hair. Why? I have no idea. :) That one preference and not one person say something against me the short hair phobic man. :D
Facts
And it also happens that you can find someone attractive at first but the longer you get to know them you can find them unattractive later all without even learning what their genitalia even are
well said
agree, this is the rules of the dating world, we all experiment trying new stuff
The word ‘phobic’ has lost all meaning.
We can also assume that a lot of trans women want to date a so called ‘cis’ man…..that’s ThEIR preference.
It would be like labeling ones food preferences phobias. 😂
so many words have lost its meaning, like phobic, racist, woke, race baiting. anytime I hear any of those words, I already tune out
They labelled any polite disagreements and rejections as "phobias", they want to break the boundaries of others, which is disrespectful by itself.
No wonder why they are rejected, it’s such a terrible behavior.
They are also forcing their ways on survivors of abuse.
Let `trans women` date `trans men`.
@@QueSeraSeraaaaYES its the same as trying to "turn" straight people. Its just straight up WRONG.
"Don't talk to me about your feelings or problems, because i'm a person with feelings and problems."
_O...k...._
😂😂😂 IKR 😂😂 lol
Trans activists drive me bonkers. When you transition your dating pool gets smaller. That's a fact. You're going to have a smaller number of men and women who are going to be interested in you as a trans person. If you have surgery, the group gets even smaller. If you don't disclose you're trans then you're putting yourself at risk of all sorts of horrible things. Throwing a tantrum saying it is everyone else's fault you can't find someone to date certainly doesn't help the cause. Dating is rough for everyone, regardless of being trans.
Dating is hell. I do get, though, why some people would long to know whether or not they could be loved for who they are and how they appear, without the prejudices that come with being 'identified', even if that identification is inevitable and ultimately it just sets you up for heartbreak. 🥺
Correct. It’s taking life - which can be difficult- and making it more complicated and more difficult. Something people need to think about before choosing this path in life.
Surgery to look more like the gender you identify might actually help you get more people interested in dating because it helps improve sexually dimorphic traits of the gender you identify
I experienced it differently. The dating pool got much bigger.
@@mikicerise6250 They don't get to fulfill their "longing" by deceiving people into bed 🤮 that's a grapist mentality
Dishonesty in a relationship is a huge turnoff and a MAJOR dealbreaker for most people. So lying/misleading someone about something like _this_ , is beyond bad. 😝
It‘s criminal, is what it is, and should be dealt with as such
@@lynnm6413 yes! Imagine falling for one then find out it has male bits when you thought it was a real woman! Yes it is criminal and harsh sentences would make them be honest.
Guys will dump real women who can't have children. It happens all the time.
I've also known men that have been broken up with for this reason also.
@@bethdouglas4674 it‘s basically one of our primary human impulses
And also vice versa, sometimes people just have different priorities and it's okay, but at least do and end it properly.
I'm a plain ole woman (I refuse "cis") who never, ever wanted kids, I wouldn't even play with dolls when I was little. I always tried to find out asap (without being rude) if my date wanted children. If they didn't, I gently broke it off. Early on, I didn't do that & the guy kept pushing the issue, insisting that I'd change my mind, that I didn't know what I wanted, that all normal women wanted kids therefore I must be a lesbian (that one REALLY made no sense). All in our last date. I didn't get up & leave early b/c I was fascinated to see how many wacko ideas the dude came up with.
@@lynnm6413 well, they get alone then. Their choice
Or babytrap another woman
"No one wants to sleep with me!" Then they turn around and say to not sleep with someone who hasn't slept with trans people before. Make it make sense!
these are the kids that needed a candle to blow out even if its their sisters birthday
Yes!!
"these are the (...) their sisters birthday"
Not only a candle but a bunch of presents.... on their third cousin once removed's dog's birthday.
Great analogy! 😂🤣😂
So what these trans women are saying is that they’ve just discovered what it’s like to date as a woman. They’re experiencing guys sleeping with them and never calling them again. They’re experiencing guys having a few dates and the disappearing. 🤦♀️ it’s not just you….
Nice that he pointed out the contradiction between "it's okay to be trans but not okay to be gay". Aren't we supposed to be OK with being gay in this day and age?
Well said!
TRAs erased us in our own events by any means possible, yet, they turn around and scream "PHOBIA!!!" If someone is rejecting them.
Maybe he is trans because he couldn‘t deal with being gay? I feel that a lot of transwomen who deny having two penises in the bedroom is anything but still haven’t DEALT WITH THEIR OWN INTERNALIZED HOMOPHOBIA
But they don't want to be seen as "trans", they want to be "real women". This attitude will create conflict in their mind. They want to have straight men because they are real women. If the man is openly (in the relationship) struggling with his sexuality, the trans woman feels like she's being called out. That's what I see. The trans person is struggling with their identity more than they think and they project that onto the partner. Maybe, that's just what I see.
@@jayaom4946 trans people mostly have issues with reality.
As long as they pretend to be ‚real‘ women, they will never be happy.
It is the same for everyone…as long as you don‘t love yourself as you are, how can you truly love someone else
Marcus/Marca is unfortunately caught up in their own hypocrisy, they’ve admitted to be female/woman but they insist on legally remaining male and trying to mimic males, using male spaces and so on.
I cannot see this as anything but hypocritical, I find those who believe that they actually are a male or female more consistent then.
All new relationships are "experiments" aren't they? You can't know whether you and your new partner are compatible unless you try them out, so to speak. This is true for all people, not just trans folks.
I am so against people not being upfront with a potential partner. When I was young, I started dating a guy I met a bar for a few months. I found out he was married and had a fit. Looking back I do realize that I made a mistake not asking him if he was married when I first met him but I was young and assumed he wouldn't be at a bar hitting on women if he was married - yes, very naive! I felt awful and dirty afterwards so from then on, the first thing I asked was if they were married. I will be honest, if I started dating a transman and didnt know it and it came down to having sex, I would not take it well at all. I might could adjust if I knew it going in but after starting to build a relationship and then finding out would shake me. I would constantly be wondering what else they were hiding.
I don't think you made a mistake by not asking him if he was married when you met him- it is normal to assume that anyone who is married would not be seeking a relationship with another person. The fault lies with him for not being faithful to his relationship.
In the USA, it’s called “rape by deception” and is a sex crime. Since these trans people can reasonably assume that the other person would not want them if they knew the truth, intentionally hiding it in order to sleep with that person qualifies as deception. Very predatory behavior.
"if I started (...) well at all."
Of course you wouldn't take *it* well, as it can't be easy to get those fake dicks erect.
I can't tell you how much I absolutely detest people who make clips interviewing themselves. Hate it, hate it, hate it; so infantile and stupid. Anyway, thanks Marcus for another informative video, good work!
and they pretty much always use strawman arguments
Telling a future partner or someone I'm into in that I'm a pre op trans woman is the first thing I tell people. I've never tricked anyone into sleeping with me
I just want to tell you that i have nothing against trans people, i just can't support their activism.
Good on you
otherwise those people are straight up deceptive and not only is it morally wrong it could be criminally wrong
I have nothing against trans people, just these crazy activists.
I’d be fine dating a pre op trans woman
appreciate the honesty! Best of love and hugs to you❤
It's like consent is no longer a thing 🤷♀️
No matter how passing trans people are, their true gender shines through. Some people are fine with that, some people see and feel a mans arm with nail polish.
Sadly we all have been fooled by Hollywood. If you know, you know...
@@brazil-y2y"Sadly we all (...) know, you know..."
I'm not sure I know. Could you be bothered to enlighten me?
@@knrdvmmlbkkn This maybe hard to swallow but most women in Hollywood, also the music industry are trans men. I recall watching a guy telling his viewers Britney Spears was trans. I laughed my arse off. However the more videos of other celebs I watched the more it becomes obvious. It's not just the entertainment industry it's big business, the so called elites, royalty...
@@knrdvmmlbkkn I tried but youtube deleted it
Any date not based in honesty is somewhat a manipulation.
yea I dont have a "genital preference" I am just hetrosexual and not attracted to men even when they outwardly look like a women, and no pre or post op dosent matter one bit
Ok, good for you.
@@caomunistadoggo4129 Thank you
Well said friend. Everyone has their preferences and we should not be forced to date people we don't like just so we "seem" like a "good person".
Im going to say it, this is how people get hurt. Some men feeling tricked will get violent. There is no reason not to be straight up with someone. Why waste time with someone who if they knew. Would not want to be around you.
This is also how people get killed, unironically.
A guy in my town dressed as a woman and went on a date and got sexual with a younger man, and then revealed his identity and the guy went berserk and killed him because he felt tricked. His reaction was so overblown to result to that, but he did feel assaulted essentially and deceived so that’s why he reacted that way.
@@Goldenretriever-k8m You dont get to decide his reaction was overblown. Most people believe this is a perfectly legitimate defense to attempted rape.
@@DellikkilleD I think it’s deceitful but calling it rape is overblown. I don’t see why knowing someone’s chromosomes or not makes it non consensual. Most people don’t even know exactly what their chromosomes are, just what they generally appear they are. Plus the guy wasn’t forcing himself on him, all he did was tell him what he was after they had done a couple sexual things. It’s deceiving and disgusting behavior but I don’t think I would define it as rape either.
@@Goldenretriever-k8m its attempted rape, BY DEFINITION. if you dont fully disclose before hand, you dont deserve to survive the encounter.
When I was dating I even disclosed my mental disorders pretty early on because it’s a lifelong thing I have to deal with so it’s also something a prospective partner would have to “deal with” if you decide to get/stay together. It’s also sometimes something that can get passed down through genes to your children so that’s another thing to think about.
Seems like theyre just insecure and scared of rejection 😓
honestly I dont think thats biggest reason, I think the whole dating thing as well as men in womens sports mostly comes down to affirmation, so these people "can feel like a women" there is a reason the focus is on dating HETEROSEXUAL men, The irony being that any man attracted to a trans women (who know they are trans) is not straight, nothing wrong with that.
Scared? No, angry, unable to take "NO" as an answer, which is the attitude of a rapist.
Manipulation, coercion & gaslighting should never be minimized or conflated with “they’re just insecure😓”.
You’re a sitting duck for abusers of any kind if you can’t discern the difference.
Insecurity is their biggest issue but they always project and gaslight. Its like being called “jealous” by someone with an imagination friend.
It's like these people are allergic to open and clear communication. 😂
Also what if that person wants to have a child of their own in the future? Everyone has their needs and preferences.
This idea that breaking up with someone because they’re not what you thought makes you ‘phobic’ is ridiculous. It just means you weren’t into them like that. If you’re not 100% man or 100% woman, and that’s not what the other person wanted, it’s not a phobia-it’s preference. They were looking for a real relationship with someone of the opposite sex, not something they didn’t sign up for. And honestly, not being upfront about who you really are can be dangerous. Some people I know wouldn’t hesitate to react harshly if they found out they were deceived. That’s playing with fire, and the consequences could be severe.
If breaking up becausse what was in their pants was not what you expected is anything, it's trapping. Which can be excused by not wanting to talk about this even before the first date, which I can understand. But being rejected for things like this simply comes with the territory. It could actually be much worse than simple rejection.
@@Fuzz82 I know dozens of men who are just going to be alone forever because they cannot handle being tricked and lied to anymore. Stop with the they are predators narrative, they are the victim in this.
"If you’re not 100% man or 100% woman"
That's a big "if". *Everyone* is either 100 % man or 100 % woman. There are no other possible percentages.
"and that’s not (...) phobia-it’s preference."
No, not necessarily. It can be sexual (and/or romantic) orientation. A preference is something you *prefer* over something else. I don't _prefer_ tea over coffee - I outright _refuse_ to drink coffee.
As a trans girl who has been dating my boyfriend, I'm his first trans girl (he's dated two self id trans "guys" and a trans "girl" but I'm the only one who actually is transitioning and has gender dysphoria) and I have no problem with this. He's pansexual which is pretty much bi to anyone who doesn't know, and I'm not insecure about it at all. All that matters is that we are happy, we love and care for each other, and he treats me like a princess.
Dating and being trans isn't hard, but putting your delusions and ego aside seems to be for trans activists.
I'm honestly really happy for you 🫶
There's nothing like trust in a relationship, if you're gonna get jealous and insecure that relationship is not going anywhere.
@taxidancing87 thank you 😊
Well said, being upfront and honest is how genuine relationships are formed, the bad rep that a small but very vocal minority effects others negatively.The dishonest dating practices these people indulge in is both delusional and childishly egotistical. If someone knowingly decieves another to have a relationship that's disengenous deal-breaker.
@@kevincurr4641 and it‘s called grape for a reason….no consent given!
@@kevincurr4641 They're not a small group. In wokie Washington we live in pure hell because predators are everywhere and they win, always, no matter what. They can be beating you up and they will be the victim, you will be the one escorted out by police. All they have to do is say "I am nonbinary" or "I am trans" and that is the catch all that wins all.
When a man presents as a woman, and the man believes he IS a woman and that man doesn't reveal the truth until the nitty gritty, HOW DARE THAT MAN BLAME THE GUY FOR BEING CONFUSED OR ANGRY? That's bait and switch! False advertising.
These people say “I fear for my life” but wait months to tell someone or wait until the person just ends up finding out themselves.. Like you can’t fear for you life that much if your willing to risk it doing that!
If a person doesn’t truly believed they were a woman why would they transition? I actually find what Marcus/Marca doing worse because they’re fully aware that they’re a female or woman according to themselves yet lie on by using male documents. How would you support that?
@@roizashegal I’d say it’s because they actually have a mental condition that makes it so they can’t live as a woman you can acknowledge something without having to live as that something. They transitioned to alleviate the symptoms of gender dysphoria not to become a man and also who’s looking at Marcus and seeing a female now? It’s just easier to document as a male to avoid useless confusion
People seem to think that having the right to do something means they can do it and the rest of the world needs to compensate for any downside. No. Do what you want, and accept the downside.
What the heck is wrong with these people thinking it’s “ok” to hide *_major_* parts of themselves - parts that intimate partners *NEED TO KNOW* _prior_ to engaging in things with them…..
Not just trans… but the other day i saw a guy saying he doesn’t warn people he is HIV positive……. 🤯🤯
Does anyone HIV positive have to wear a badge on their shirt just in case you might have a crush on them at some point? Yeah, it needs to come up before you get intimate, but your feelings may have progressed quite a bit by that time. You have a right to your preference, but that's it. If someone tells you something about themselves that is a dealbreaker for you, you break it off and move on with your life, like a grown adult. If someone revealed they're trans to me, it wouldn't matter to me. Of course, I *am* bisexual. 🤷 What irks me about most trans people I meet is not that they're trans, it's the woke totalitarian cult mentality, the sanctimonious moral superiority, and an extremely irritating tendency to give zero poops about how *they* might be prejudging *me* because of how they identify *me* .
@@mikicerise6250 lol no they don’t need to wear a badge - put your emotions on check and re-read what my comment actually said rather than what you seem to think it said…..
First - I’m bisexual too lol 😂 I’m more than happy to date anyone with any parts…. If someone was trans it wouldn’t matter to me in the slightest….
Also… yeahhh I know… that’s why my comment said “things that _intimate partners_ need to know prior to engaging in those things…..”
- but if you’re going on dates with people - it’s pretty much a given that intimacy (even kissing is being intimate with someone) will most likely occur at some point in the near future…..
A first date - maybe not if you have standards - but if you’re aiming for a second date with that person - they have the right to know these things.
@@mikicerise6250 also - I am disabled but don’t look it, and have mental health issues….
If I go on a date with someone - those are some of the *_first things_* I’m telling them…..
@@CharliStar Sure, if you're dating them and starting to be intimate you need to tell them. But I'm sure you know as well as I how some people can be about intimacy. Some people want to take it slow and leave things ambiguous for a long time. Some people declare undying love in their second message. Some people will coyly call themselves demisexuals in their profile and then immediately have their tongue in your mouth on the first date. 🙄
I'm just saying, dating is complicated and people are unpredictable. There is no clear fast line between, "oh, we're 'dating' now, this is no longer hanging out, so let's get into sexual details now" and "this person is still just a friend". It's legitimately complicated.
@@mikicerise6250 that’s the thing… too many people lie about themselves….
The world would be so much more easier if people were more honest. I’m not saying make it the very first thing… but personally - as I said in my second comment, my issues are some of the first things I tell someone…
I cannot do all the things a regular person can… so I don’t like misleading people….
But that’s just me.
I was with a man for 3 years I was in my late 30s it was my last chance to have children. He didn't tell me he was sterile at the beginning of the relationship and told me was able to have kids we even tried at certain times of the month. Not a problem with trans people but was so important to me. I'm open to anyone but just be honest in relationships if you want your forever relationship!
That is monstrous that he wasted your time like that. I am sorry that happened to you.
literally diabolical
What a bastard! I'm so sorry.
Thank you guys I was just trying to make the point that having children is really important to some people I wouldn't mind been with someone trans if they had the same goal as me just don't waste peoples time no matter what and be honest
I'm sorry this happened to you!
I missed my window as well😢
Kind of crazy that the people who want the world to accept them being trans aren't willing to disclose that they're trans
Ive dated a trans person. Never again. They were too uncomfortable to do literally anything w me but did w men? Like just say youre gay and stop doing this. Were friends now after i didnt talk to them for a decade.
Down low is messed up, period, sorry not sorry and so is trickery
That first video was crazy! Straight up contradicted herself!
Anyone else tired of these people constantly telling others what they arent allowed to do?
Very tired of it.
True trans keep their lives private, predators scream the loudest.
It’s not genital preference, it’s science. My dogs know the difference. Chimps know the difference, etc, etc. etc.
The term, "genital preference" is so gross. It's just a rebranded version of portraying innate, immutable sexual orientation as a choice.
"The term, "genital preference" is so gross."
I disagree. The term comes across to me as useful. It might be actually be a matter of genital preference(s) in some cases.
Part of me does feel bad because I can understand how it could be frustrating and upsetting to not find people attracted to you. However, I lose sympathy when these people start shaming others for not being attracted to them. All I can ask is would you really want someone to date you and fake their attraction?
My sexual origination is not a preference
Not "origination" but "orientation".
@@knrdvmmlbkkn Probably "origination" wasn't a typo
@@grgapitic5768"Probably "origination" wasn't a typo"
Origination: The process of starting or developing something, or causing it to happen. So it's not a very good fit in this case. I think it was autocorrect.
i am an dude and like only biological dudes and I see they are ppl who have issues with that ,when everyone have their preferences, they want to force their views on everyone so what if we want something else. This is why I am glad my country is full with biological men.
Most countries are... 🤣
I know we live in 2024, dating isn't only about "dating" (one night stand) but starting a family. Also, there are trans who did all surgeries, including buttom. I know it doesn't work like the real things, but it not addressed either (it should be disclosed either way).
‘That’s what happens when you buy things on Temu’ THE SHADE😂😂💀
no dislikes yet, amen. Love your vids, Marcus. Your and Blaire Whites videos got me out of the blue cult
Welcome to the rational side! I enjoy it over here, too. Marcus and Blaire helped me snap out of the Diversity and Inclusion movement in the world of therapy/social work.
Omg are people *still* arguing that not wanting to be with a trans person because of their biological sex makes you transphobic.
I thought we left this shit behind in 2017. 🤦♂️
Isn’t any dating, straight or gay, an experiment? Sometimes it is worth it and sometimes it is not.
Anyone that lies and cheats to get someone to sleep with them is preying on people and deserves the contempt and outrage they receive.
Act respectful and kind, get respect and kindness in return. It’s a simple as that.
Since when did we start calling sexual orientation "genital preference"?
I'm so glad you're channel blew up found you when you had about 50k subscribers & wanted you to blow up I knew you would also though because you tell the truth are very logical & a LOT of people need to hear you ❤
Have ya'll ever been to your biologie lessons? Some signs on how to detect a TS. Hands, Feet, Adam's apple, Back (Shoulders), Hips and Voice.
OMG....SEX IS NOT EVERYTHING!!! People " doctors" have always said you have no relationship worth it ...if both are not completely compatible in the bed.I fell for it and sexually my first husband and I were PERFECTION in the sack.But we couldn't stand each other in every other way.If you are lucky enough to be able to STAY in bed....go for it.But if you have to work,walk,talk with others....find MORE that you have in common.
I don't want to date anyone. I am an extreme introvert and have an extrovert job. I don't want to deal with anyone when I get home. I just want my space.
The second girl talking about guys being nervous. When they know she's trans. To me, that's probably just because it's the first date, not because she's trans.
This guy really does so much good, I’m often Called a bigot for saying these things and after awhile you start to believe it.
Thank you for showing truth and justice is important and personality comes second to it
The funny thing is that if they meet a man who HAS dated other TW and likes them specifically, he's a chaser. He's committing the grave sin of noticing a difference.
People can't win, basically. If we notice their sex, we're transphobic. If we don't constantly center their identity though (which requires acknowledging their sex), we are also transphobic. Basically, RUN FOR THE HILLS
unfortunately, the word "transphobic" has lost any power due to over use. Just like racist, bigot etc.
It’s okay to be gay! …wait a minute… never mind that’s not okay anymore, I forgot the new rules…
I think men attracted to trans have an extra difficult journey to accept themselves. They've heard of gay, they've heard of transgender but they've never heard a label for people that are genuinely attracted to trans women. I remember Blaire White had her boyfriend on her channel once and I thought he even had a difficult time talking about his sexuality. "I guess I'm a little bit gay." Right now there's a lot of trans people speaking up proudly. But I've never seen another person besides Blaire 's boyfriend talk about being attracted to trans people. Those people seem quiet.... and now these trans women are mocking them and emphasizing that when they are new and confused that trans women will not have the patience for them!!
I agree. I'm gay, but I would... date a trans man. Holy cow, I should have it kept for myself, I was called bi and straight all over. It's laughable because all my sex encounters were with men, and I only entertain this as a possibility (to this day, the only vaginas I ever seen are on internet, lol). I'm not touching anything that is remotely feminine, I can't be bisexual. I had to endure 30 years of my life to accept myself as a gay, I'm not changing my sexuality as if it were clothes.
I guess guys that are attracted to transwomen has those problems too, being called bi or gay, when they wouldn't touch someone with a slight hint of masculinity. So, I have chosen to keep this hidden. Fortunately for me, finding a trans man in my country would be like winning the lottery. It's not happening anytime soon anyways.
These people are allergic to logic. And sanity. And they seem to spend all the time theyre not making insane TikTok videos thinking up wacko rules just to give them more opportunities to get wildly upset & offended.
YT does have a sense of humor: the 1st ad after this vid ended was for Temu 😂😂😂
"Would you rather listen to the angel on your shoulder scolding you for your own good, or the devil selling you sweet lies?"
Dating is hard enough WITHOUT being trans, so be brutally honest with yourself, it'll save you a lot of pain in the long run
If I had to answer this question- in the first date, maybe no, but I was never in a rush to get physical with anybody, but if you like someone and would like to be physical with them - absolutely should say such important information.
With my trans ex, it was clearly in her bio, but she also told me on the second phone call because the first one we talked about anime and memes.
Well,I guess I'm proudly transphobic if that's the case!🤷🏽♂️
Please don’t use the term cis. Not only is it offensive. It is a term that they took from another part of science that doesn’t relate in any way to the trans ideology, and the trans term that they try to compare it to is short for a completely different meaning.
They do realize everyone has a first experience for everything in life, right? RIGHT?
I’ve been called a transphobe because i said i would date men, women, and TRANS MEN but not trans women. Like… idk
ive never dated, but from what i hear about dating in general, it seems like these types are trying to circumvent Normal stuff that everyone has to deal with. not everyone will like you for various reasons. you can't force people to date you for any reason. having to make a good impression on someone is standard for everyone. what is this nonsense? they're treating being trans as some sort of "skip to having a partner" button when it is not.
But I mean, don’t people in general get the back burner of sleeping with someone once and never calling them back
I agree with her when she says a trans women shouldn’t date first timers I feel the same way about it. She’s entitled to her opinion just like you are .
I used to go to the afterhours clubs in Hollywood from 2000-2019 and there was a huge trans community there but they would definitely prey on cis men and I use the word prey because they weren’t forthcoming about it. They knew everyone was on ecstacy, K, GHB, alcohol, shrooms and you couldn’t see straight. It happened to a few newcomers and you can see their face when they found out they were making out with a guy. It’s disturbing
Hookup culture breeds all this.
Maybe get to know people, develop a relationship, before sleeping with them?
'Could you maybe ask him?' I don't know why but that line cracked me up so much lol. People really will do anything to avoid asking how their partner feels
Is it just my thinking or is everytime you are intimate with someone for the first time a new experience and you are always kind of like a first timer? Because for me, the way I see it is that everybody is different (physically, preference wise etc.), it doesn’t matter if someone is cis or trans. And when you have your first time together you always have to get to know each other in a new way and learn what do you like yourself, what does the person like and how both people make this work together. So even if you had sexual experiences before, you kind of start at zero together to create a intimate relationship that makes both of you happy🤔
you have helped me so much, markus 🙏🧡
Do they have a problem with just saying: "I don't want to be a one night stand."? Communication is key to any relationship.
Edit: Some of these trans women would not date a trans man for the same reasons they say some cismen don't want to date them. Thats my experience and I think its hypocritical.
I will never hide the fact that I’m a whole as Tranny but I don’t want to be an experiment for mostly chasers for the rest of my life. I’d rather be a person that just doesn’t have sex. I became aware of this when I was in therapy before transitioning. I’m 4i years old I’ve a 7 year relationship a 1 year relationship and 6 months relationship and far too many dates that went nowhere afterwards because I disclosed being trans. I don’t have much time left on earth I’m not going to waste it being a coach mentor or trainer. I’m thankful that sex is not something defines me.
Beautifully said I pray you find your soulmate never settle and never accept being someone's fetish
My daughter is straight. But Dr's were still trying to mess her up. They were trying to get her to have. Big breast reduction. To help back pain. Then they put her IUD in wrong she had to have surgery on her uterus.
My other child who is super girly. She always has been. They convinced her she's a lesbian. She wasn't even confident in that decision. She had a full ride to an elite university. She is now paying to get her masters in gender studies. But she tells me she's a better person than me. I'm a horrible human and shouldn't exist.
I'm sorry you're going through that
Who is "they"? The Illuminati? The techno-necromancers from Alpha Centauri? 🤣
@@mikicerise6250the person that wrote this said “Dr’s” i’m assuming a acronym for doctors?
@@julipatootie Yeah, apparently they suggested a breast reduction to alleviate her back pain. Diabolical. This has gotta have something to do with LGBT, it's just gotta.
Ooooh god the IUD. I'm so sorry she went through that. I also had an IUD put in wrong and the doctor insisted he did it right. Had to go to a different doctor to get it taken out because the pain became debilitating (it was caught on my cervix). Fortunately once they pulled it out all further symptoms were minor and temporary. A little bit of bleeding from scar tissue opening up when I got pregnant, but not enough to cause problems and it went away after a couple weeks. I can't imagine having to get surgery over it. 😨 God bless you and your daughters, hopefully things will get better.
Another point to add would be if your looking for a committed long term relationship guy STOP kissing all the noncommittal frogs. Be honest about who you are, what your looking for, hold that boundary and the people looking for the same qualities will show up.
Just work on yourself and live up to your boundaries and when conflicting people show up you say “no thank you” and keep on your chosen path.
Again if you know yourself and know what you want in life no one need to be bothered by people who can’t match your values and integrity. Just live life and the right people will show up when they’re supposed to
I dgaf if a lunatic calls me "phobic", maybe they need to worry about their mental and emotional stability before trying to f^^k up someone else's life.
I could date a trans person, I mean, if I wasn't married.
Prior to these individuals "transitioning", did anyone tell them that they might not have a wide selection of willing partners to choose from? That it might be difficult to find someone who is okay with a partner who outwardly looks like one gender but--in terms of the actual "equipment", etc.--is not that gender? These people seem mystified, and it makes me wonder what sort of counseling they got prior to their "transition". Also, I'd sure like to hear from more transgender _men_ on this subject and find out what their experiences have been.
*PS:* I could be wrong, I admit it, but I think the "trans" women in this clip probably would reject a date who really wanted a meaningful relationship but turned out to be _fat_ . Or a date who did not at least look like an "8".
So are you saying that TW should simply settle?
@@Nyawilliams666 No one should have to settle. No one. If you discover that your blind date, or the person you met online, is too fat, too thin, too ugly, too tall, too short, is of a sexual/gender orientation that is not what you want, etc., you should not have to settle. Period.
my trans friend is pretty nonchalant about this and very upfront with the people interested in dating her. for men who ask her out, she usually tells them right away that she's trans, and then that's end of story for those str8 men typically.
When i first met my girlfriend, about 3-4 months ago she was upfront in both her profile and her messages between us that she was trans. We had some things intrests in common, and when she asked me if i was alright with her being trans. I told her she is my first transwomen i have considered taking out to dinner, and said I'd be willing to give this a try. Going into 5 months, she has been very kind, sweet, understanding, and supportive despite me not being home a lot due to the two surge deployments 2 months at a time I've been on recently. I think once my surge deployments are finished, me and her can spend more time together, quite possibly be in for the long haul.
I want kids. the conversation ends there. theres no phobia or bullshit about it. I want kids. You cant provide them. goodbye
Marcus. Darling. Treasure. Sage One.
When did you get to be so goddamned intuitive? You cannot be more than maybe 27 years old but you express as the ancient philosophers did.
You are ALWAYS spot on with your observations. I'm beyond impressed with your - well, wisdom.
Just sayin'
Sooo, there are lots of people I find enormously attractive without wanting to have sex with them. Isn't it great when someone thinks you are beautiful and enjoys being with you?
These ones all seem to be acting like they think they are superior to everyone else.
I think these kind reeealllly dislike women.
Look...if you decide to be with a partner that has never been with a transwomen before, as their partner, it is your responsibility to guide them through this. Just like if you agreed to be the first partner of a virgin. It requires a lot more empathy and caring. If you can't give that, don't do it.
What about folks not wanting to date trans due to spiritual reasons and wanting a traditional relationship?
So in other words, they don't want a "virgin"?...people have all sorts of preferences, get over it. and YES, it's YOUR responsibility to be honest and disclose your biological gender, not doing so makes you a sexual predator in my opinion, deceiver at best because that guy may want his own biological children.
Second one is pure immaturity. Everyone is a "representative" for their demographics all the time constantly. This is merely a part of being alive as a social species. You SHOULD feel that you have the responsibility to positively represent your group -- that's being pro-social, and caring about someone other than yourself. Should you overly beat yourself up over every mistake? Of course not. Should you *care* about the effect you have on others? 🤔 When folks complain about the "loss of community" and how selfish people have become, this is a great example.
These trans women are all over the place one minute they want men who are experienced but then will accuse men who have been with multiple trans women a chaser
I dont care if its "transphobic" whatever that means. This lady is right.
Okay but one of these girls makes sense - the 'first timer' one, she's basically saying that she's not in for experimenting, she's in for a long run. And I think it's okay. Not everyone wants a sexual relationship with no strings attached and not everyone wants to ask about a serious relationship *ater* they've had sex with someone - some people prefer it the other way around. So I'm with her, unless she also rejects the guys who want to be in a serious relationship with her, than it's kind of strange to me, because one can gain more security and experience during a relationship.
Ya no shit it’s important, lots of people don’t usually sleep together on the first date and if the trans don’t say anything for the first let’s say 5/6 dates and the person really falls hard then finds out! Ya I wouldn’t trust anyone any time soon
It's all about honesty. This is who I am; this is who I'm looking for. And I know I'm an old fuddy duddy, but it's okay to not to have sex right off the bat. Just be friends to start off with. If you're meant to be more, it will happen. Be honest.
I think it makes sense that someone who could pass as a woman attracts someone who later doesn't want to engage in a sword fight, and that shouldnt make them transphobic, they just want to plunge their sword, not fight with it.
You can't force someone to like you. All of these trans people are engaging in sexual harassment and it's illegal.
It needs to be a crime for Trans pple NOT to disclose as that has to he the #1 cause for violence against them along w it being morally repugnant NOT doing so along w NOT disclosing HIV/AIDS for 'undetectable' is NOT anything to justify keeping something that serious to oneself.
I'm a heterosexual cis man, with sapio- and demisexuality as secondary preferences. I've been fysically attracted to women, but then rejected them because of their character, their (lack of) intelligence, ... . That does not make me a misogynist, does it? I would also reject someone when I find out they have the 'wrong' tool between their legs. That does not mean I would reject them as friends, but nothing more could ever come from that. That does not make me a transphobe.
And yes, I would expect a trans woman to tell me this before anything happens. I'm not a violent person, but I can imagine pushing them away from me if I have to find out during the act.
Remember how I referred to being demi and sapio as secondary preferences? The female reproductive organ is my primary preference. Please do not mess with peoples primary preferences if you want to be safe ...
Furthermore I consider 'kinks', or even the complete absence of kinks, to be tertiary preferences. The combination of primary, secondary and tertiary preferences makes for a scala of potential reasons to be attracted to someone... or not. So to find your match, get out there and meet people. Don't bully/shame people if their preferences do not align with yours.
Why is it a problem when trans people get rejected ? Anyone else gets rejected at one time or another ,that's dating 101 . You can't expect that anyone you want wants you back ,that's not realistic . And it has nothing to do with transphobia .
Dude putting on the hat to imitate a man had me laughing so hard! 😂