This Young Trans Activist’s Story Is Concerning
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I completely agree with you. So sad that the internet has spread this and that doctors are not trying to help people anymore. How did it come to this? It seems unreal.
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Same bro, keep on keeping on 😊
If he suddenly decides that he wants to detransition.. that "chosen family and community that's helping him survive" will be gone in a flash.
Not only that, but they'd turn on him like rabid dogs
@@Violetbunnyfish- That's an insult to rabid dogs; *they* can't help it, after all, but "the community" can.
Exactly. They silence detrasitioners quicker than they silence women.
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@@alabama.worleythank you Bama.
As a biological heterosexual female, it took me 7 years and bleeding for the last 5 months without stopping to have my diseased uterus taken out. 7 years. No one would perform a hysterectomy. Why? I was 34.
It took me 1 year of therapy aside from my regularly attended therapy, specific for evaluation so i could have a breast reduction. I had a 64 inch bustline. 38HHH bra. A split thoracic vertebra and chronic pain because the crack wouldn't heal. One year and therapy for a simple breast reduction.
The fact that all the surgeries i fought for to regain a normal quality of life are doled out to gender confused humans in less time than it took me, boggles my mind. And pisses me off.
This, this is what makes me mad. Claim your trans, all the medical professionals will come out to give you drugs and surgery when there is nothing physically wrong with you, but if you actually have something physically wrong with you, it takes forever to get any action. And it's usually the woman who have the difficulties.
Totally agree. I have PCOS and am constantly ignored by medical professionals. I can’t even get on ozempic even though I have insulin issues and over weight. But medication for hormone therapy are getting thrown at people like this.
I think part of that is due to you being heterosexual, yes there should be some safeguards, but the whole hysterectomy and breast reduction shit seems a lot like the "husband stitch".
You're heterosexual so the doctors won't address your legitimate health concerns because what if your future husband wants kids or likes your huge breasts?
A young woman or man getting sterilized should be an option to them, and there should be some safeguards and therapy to figure out if it's a temporary whim, but when you have actual medical issues revolving around your genitals or breasts those safeguards shouldn't take so long to address.
It's all about balance. We've seen the pendulum swing from too much regulation to none at all. I'm sorry the system is so slow to help you but so quick to harm others. I hope you're well now
My friend’s nephew who recently transitioned just got a check for $18k from the State of Massachusetts for his breast augmentation. He hasn’t paid one cent for any of his 1 year gender affirming “treatment”. I wonder if Massachusetts pays for breast reconstruction surgery for cancer survivors? Members of the itty bitty club? Breast feeders of multiple babies?
I was bleeding out so much every month, that I was anemic to a life threatening point. I was 40 years old. Still my gynecologist wanted to give me hormones. While she was explaining that I might grow a beard from that, among other fun things, I interrupted and ask if we could remove the uterus. She paused, and very reluctantly agreed. I was 40!!! Luckily the surgeon was pretty cool and didn't send me to a psychologist, which he was supposed to do, instead just made me look into his eyes and ask "Are you done with your family plans?". After a strong yes, he was satisfied. I'd like to add that I would've waited 6 months for an appointment with a psychologist, so my surgeon was literally a life-saver.
For people who are supposedly uncomfortable in their own bodies, they like to film themselves A LOT.
😂😂😂🎉
IKR!
Right. I can't show my face in public let alone on camera due to my dysphoria. If I do take a photo, I have to obscure or blur out my face. That's what it does to you.
The fact these people are prancing about in front of a camera tells me they aren't really trans/suffering from the disorder.
Yeah, strange that. Right 🤔
Right? 😂
Friendly reminder:
Refusing to participate in those "trans" people's delusions DOES NOT make someone "transphobic".
Exactly. If you don't validate psychosis of a schizophrenic, does that make you schizophreniphobic?
of course.
Thank you.
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yeah huh! Cuz a blue/pink haired 23 year old tri-sexual reverse-androgynous non-woman said so, and as we all know, anyone under 27 knows everything
It seems that "gender" has come to mean personality traits to some, these days.
I was thinking this today. It has nothing to do with gender at all, they’re only attaching gender to certain personality traits and it is actually very damaging.
It totally is. And taking hormones is just a new cosmetic procedure.
And my mom wants to change my personality because I'm a man
The problem is that they are viewing through the lens of sociology which by definition observes emergent phenomena and are trying to claim they are innate. If you look at everything they do you’ll find it’s just an inversion of sex associations
Or in some cases, it comes to mean you like to look like a cartoon version of the gender you want to be. And quite offensive, if that's the case.
i was HORRENDOUSLY mentally ill when i started my medical transition at 18. no therapy required and only a handful of appointments needed. i’m 29 now and living life as a woman. i’ll never be able to take back the years i spent on testosterone or my double mastectomy. WE NEED MORE SAFEKEEPING!!!
The same way people who are actually trans and not confused like you was, can't take back features from puberty.
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That must have been so hard but congratulations for coming out the other side ❤
Can you sue?
That’s the only way to stop them
🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶 I am so sorry they didn’t give you the medical and psychological support you actually needed. 😢
Other side of the coin, my wife just started menopause but can't get hormones to treat hot flashes because there is a shortage here in SoCal because of the "unexplained" raise in demand for hormes. So for men that want to be women, the hormones are a civil right but if you are a biological woman that needs it for your actual health and physical well being it's not even covered by all insurance.
I don’t know if this will help but my mother takes Black Cohosh capsules for her hot flashes and it helps a lot, it’s a natural supplement and can’t hurt to try. ❤️
Sad
That is infuriating.
Right? So infuriating, and a huge double standard.
The same occurs for women who need to have hysterectomy for health reasons. It is a nightmare trying to get anyone to talk to a woman who wants to have her uterus removed for issues related to PMDD, endometriosis, even uterine cancers! There is appointment after appointment where they talk about “preserving fertility” with people who voice that they don’t want children (“you might change your mind, you can’t make such a huge decision this quickly” 🙄🙄🙄) and with people who, fertility or no, are at risk of losing their LIVES. It’s insane.
Damn she used to be so pretty…
I know! Soooo many beautiful girls are making themselves so gross looking 😢
i hate to be the person to say that, but i was just about to type that !
she couldve just embraced not comforming to gender stereotypes and saved on a bunch of money and permenant decisions (especially if she doesnt have actual gender dysphoria...)
I was literally thinking the same thing!!! That she was so pretty!
So true! So sad that many of them with nose rings and blue hair look ugly and unhappy. One day maybe she will wake up!
Which leads one to wonder if she is trying to ugly herself up to protect herself for some reason. I think there is a lot more to her story and a true professional should have spotted that.
When I was deep in my anorexia and when my body dysmorphia was at its peak I didn't even leave my bed for days. You couldn't have PAID me to record my body, let alone post it for millions to see. These people have no idea what dysmorphia of any kind is.
amen
100% 👏🏻I’m sorry you went through that, i’m sending you love❤️🩹🫶🏻🫶🏻 It’s like - it does not make sense whatsoever that you can be trans and feel comfortable showcasing your body if it doesn’t look like the body that you feel like you should have. There’s also this argument that the number one reason for why people detransition is because of transphobia and harassment from the world. And i’m not gonna say that it’s never the case for anyone, but I have a hard time believing that if you were truly dysphoric that you would go back to the gender you were dysphoric about, and go through those feelings again. And if one deals with a lot of bs then they would solve it in other ways, find communities and receive help. I want our societies to discuss, a lot more, the complexities and nuances of what it means to be human and what trans is. There’s so many layers to this debate: some people will transition and feel happy because it alleviated their dysphoria, some people transition because they were influenced by trans influencers in a time where they felt lost. MAYBE some people detransition because there’s a real threat to their lives when they’re out in the world as a trans person, but many people detransition because they made a mistake - they were just growing up and figuring out their identity naturally and doctors didn’t do a good enough assessment of their psyche. Why is it labeled transphobic to ask questions, to deconstruct established truths in life? I honestly think the ability to do this shows true empathy and emotional intelligence. The only thing I don’t agree with is being mean or cruel to people, but asking questions and being curious is a normal part of being a human - trying to understand the world we live in and the people we interact with.
@@sarasolen I know that if you can conceive of it, it's probably happened somewhere. But the idea of people detransitioning because of transphobia seems so extremely unlikely to me.
If you were in a region where there was a genuine threat to your life and you couldn't move away - even then, it's like why transition in the first place??
I don't want to underestimate actual transphobia that happens in the world. But it's hard not to, when you know that people are more accepting than ever and you still hear that word bandied about more than ever.
Even in some Arabic countries (or maybe one in particular, I forget), where it's illegal to be gay, they're okay if someone is trans because then that makes their homosexuality okay by their logic, if you see what I mean.
I think it will always be a ridiculous cop-out to blame transphobia for the uncomfortable truth the trans community extremists don't want to face; that it will be a mistake for a lot of people. But of course they will blame transphobia.
I really appreciate that you shared this difficult story because this is the kind of thing people need to hear to gain some perspective on the issue. Sending love. You deserve it!
The "Trans Community" at this point seems more like an Echo-Chamber.
Hence the reason why the word community has become distasteful to many because in many areas regardless of the topic it is.
No "seems"about it.... it is
It's a cult that has been created by and continues to be driven by wpath and queer activism.
You can’t make a “community” out of a debilitating diagnosis of the mind. So yes, you are correct.
It’s a cult
Let me just put it this way:
In order for a woman to be signed off for a breast reduction (as an actual medical procedure and not a cosmetic one) then she first has to be monitored by her doctor over a period of time (usually at least a year), and she has to first try to alleviate the breast and back pain through other methods. Method one is weight loss. If that doesn't work, then method two is buying better fitting bras. If that doesn't work, then method three is to go see a chiropractor. If that doesn't work, THEN they can start discussing surgery.
But trans? Hormones? Same day, baby. And they see nothing wrong with that.
This is because that's what the pts medical insurance dictates to the physician that has to be done before paying for surgery. If a person had the money to pay for the procedure they could just skip all that bs and get relief. They do this to people extensively before they treat you with any decent meds for chronic pain if they do prescribe them to you.
@@DrAmayaDeakins thanks for literally reiterating my point.
@@DrAmayaDeakins Relief? From having normal breasts. Give me a break. This is all physiological. The relief of surgery only lasts until the phantom pains show up. We need to be teaching people that they are themselves as the body they were born into. Teaching people that this is normal in any way is morally wrong. These surgeries and medications have only been around 20 years or so. Out of a human history of hundreds of thousands of years and people are told they will commit suicide if they don't have this elective surgery. So wrong. On all levels.
@@xxxxOS Breast reduction is only done on women who have very huge and heavy breasts that cause them back pain. So for them the surgery really does cure physical suffering.
@@ghostthelizard I would hazard its simpler- because doctors tend to actually listen to men if they say they are in pain. Women get told 'its normal or 'your over reacting' or 'you couldn't possibly have xyz'.
Deadass in my life I've been kicked out of the ER under the lable of 'Having a manic episode'. I wasn't manic- I'm ADHD, hadn't slept in 2 days had been throwing up for 3 days keeping nothing down with debilitating pain and was actually in need of emergency surgery.
Ive had other issues of not being taken seriously by doctors by that was the worse and could have ended up killing me.
ADHD, bipolar, and OCD sure seems like autism to me. All her doctors failed her including her psych. Girls often go undiagnosed with autism and instead collect a bunch of other misdiagnoses.
Jordan Peterson was talking about how autistic women relate more with men than other women and I theorize that's why there are so many autistic trans FTM. I'm autistic & it's heartbreaking thinking that if I had different parents or grew up a few years later than I did, I'd be trans right now 😢 I ticked all the boxes, only wanted to play with boys, total tomboy, hated my body, etc. i love being feminine now
@@LishaV81my story exactly. I hated getting attention from my guy friends (had girls who were friends too) during puberty so I dressed baby but as I learned to field those interactions better, I become more comfortable. I think most girls go through this.
There is a case for comorbidities with Autism so the others might not be excluded. Also, there is a hypothesis that because girls have greater social pressure to conform, they are better at masking and social cues. There is another hypothesis that it has something to do with the sex chromosomes and so guys present more strongly because they only need one mutation on the X whereas women might have some covering by the other X.
Another thing that might be at play is gender anxiety where a person has anxiety about their gender role in society. It would explain why so many young women think they're trans when with all that they're getting bombarded with on social media and media in general, they've got anxiety over their place as an adult woman in the world. Unfortunately there's very few studies on it at this time because the activist set keeps pushing the 'no, you're trans, end of discussion' agenda.
In my youth I was told I am "half a man", the most manly Person in my school class. If I want to have a Sex change. The thing is, autistic girls genuinly are "not like the other girls" and it is so painful, so the thought is "If I am not girlish, I have to be male." They don't even think that like original Mulan (the one without magical powers) they might not fit there either. Because in reality you are "not like other people " IT just isn't as obvious, because males expect you to be a bit weird and not like them if you are female or transmasculin so they don't comment on it as often.
One week to get on testosterone is just beyond me. i'm a trans guy who's almost 21 and it took me two years to get testosterone (some of it has to do with me choosing to delay and get therapy and what not which i advice all of you do) but taking testosterone the quickest way would've taken me a minimum of six months, it's a tough desicion that should be taken very seriously
It took two years as well. I'm 28 now, went on it I think around 20ish? I had to go through medical checks (including analyzing any medical issues I had), live as my identity for at least a year, and speak with a therapist for that year as well. Then, a few years ago, 1 week after someone came out (literally came to the realization, no time to process their identity), and boom, they were on T the next week. And then I saw more and more of that.
That’s the problem. They don’t take this seriously bc they keep getting told how wonderful it is. That it’s the best choice they ever made. I’m honestly surprised more people aren’t transitioning bc of how amazing they make it sound.
"It’s life or death" type of thinking. The most dangerous one. Those kinds of people feel a constant panic & rush. And tiktok makes it even worse for them
The cancer risk was just revealed in leaked emails. Stay safe, and get yourself regular cancer screenings.
@@arwenstrong2818and you think this is safe ????? Wake up plz
The whole "trans affirmation" thing is absolutely WILD to me.
"Doc, I'm in the wrong body. I know I have XX chromosomes, a womb, boobs, and so on, but I swear I'm a man!"
"WHY YES YOU ARE!"
"Doc, I'm the opposite sex! Can I have medicine for that?"
"Why yes you can! I know you're a minor and you may never be able to have kids or an orgasm but this is right for you!" they say after a couple hours.
Disgusting.
Its pronounced conversion therapy not affirmation.
The irony:
“Doc, I’m a 33 year old biological woman who knows I don’t ever want kids, I want my tubes tied, I’ve thought about it for years and ik this is the right decision for me”
“Hmmm… Nahh u might change ur mind”
“Doc I’m a 13 year old trans man and I want my boobs cut off. Permanently”
“U got it! Come in tmr”
Sick that these doctors are supporting a CULT
for money
H@@yerro504so true!
@@yerro504 before: being gay doesn’t make one any less of a man or woman just like straights having masculine/feminine traits!
Now:!oh, you like said hobby/interest or act a lil zesty? Did you know you’re Transgenda??? 👰🏻♂️ SMH!’n
As a 23 year old with BPD, it’s a miracle I did not fall victim to this. I briefly tried to be “they them” when I was 19 to my woke friends and they actually told me “I see you completely as a woman.” I was kinda pissed but that phase passed real quick and thank God they actually had some sense!!
Agreed.
I believe BPD is one of the most vulnerable disorders to this awful woke trend.
I think about it all the time. I know I would’ve been a mess and lost if I was a teen when this all became what it now is.
I see BPD in so many of these kids. I feel like when you have a personality disorder, it’s kinda easier to spot it in others.
"If you cant accept yourself, then why do you expect me to accept you?"
YES!! why do these people try to force us to except them, like stop looking for external validation. I'm not here to validate you nor am I consenting to be apart of your delusion!
RED FLAG. "Tiktok is one of my favorite places" when refering to "chosen families"
Yikes and bikes!! Looking for validation on tiktok may not be a healthy thing. But thats just me😐
Definitely not just you.
TikTok followers aren't friends, they aren't community and they sure as hell aren't chosen family. Online parasocial relationships taking the place of real connection is a massive part of the issues these young people face
ANOTHER SUCCESS STORY FOR THE CCP!!!
It's crazy to see these young women preening and twirling in the mirror, talking about being uncomfortable with their body.
Right? That's baffling. I was anorexic. Which is a real body dysmorphia disorder, not like that ridiculous gender dysmorphia made up bullshit and I would never record or film myself or broadcast myself in any video for the World to see!!
See: Emma Corwin posing in a binder like it's a ballet costume.
I wouldn’t have been caught dead preening. I hated mirrors but as I grew older and got more comfortable with addressing the attention of others, I became more comfortable.
Attention is a hell of a drug
god you sound so fucking stupid
"Women should never be on testosterone"
-Sally McNeil, a female bodybuilder
After menopause there are lots of women with very low or zero testosterone and it a must for our health. But I understand where you’re coming from
I work with teens. Of course they think you are caring and loving when you give them what they want with no pushback. It’s only when they’re older and see why you asked questions or set boundaries that the actual appreciation comes out.
The k you for saying this. My tween son I think will feel this way as he gets older.
My students in high school used to complain that I wasn’t “nice”. I told them that I am kind. Nice means letting them do whatever they want. Kind means setting them up for success now and in the future because I truly care to see them have whatever opportunity they want in the future. Kind means you might not like me right now because I am enforcing consequences but that is okay and I will not hold it against you. I cheered them at their games. Talked to them like people. By the end of the year, I was the only teacher with no major discipline issues that needed intervention and also the only teacher that could control any room in any classroom. I was subbing for another teacher and I had two of my students in the room. This room was usually pretty wild. Another student was winding up and my student quickly told him to quit because I didn’t “play”. Kids don’t want a free for all. That generates anxiety from uncertainty. Just look at the last few years. Sometimes you get lucky and they appreciate it in the moment.
I remember reading about a detransitioner. Wanting to sue his psychiatrist because it turned out he was autistic and not trans. The amount of hate this man got was disgusting. Saying he's an adult so it's his fault and oh no what about trans people? Seriously what did they expect him to do? He basically did everything right. He knew he was struggling so he got help from a professional. How was he supposed to know that he was misdiagnosed and got the wrong treatment? He wouldn't have asked for help if he wasn't struggling mentally in the first place.🙄
which is exactly how they'll treat the children they are encouraging to transition today...when those kids grow up, regret it and blame the adults who participated in harming them.
Honestly as an autistic person I think autistic people are more likely to think they’re trans when they aren’t. No matter what we do we don’t fit in, which could lead to looking for some sort of fix to this, like transitioning. You’re a girl who doesn’t fit in with other girls? Must be a boy. And vice versa.
Funny they say he is grown up he knew what he was doing but when teenagers detransition they are called transphobic.
I have Borderline (EUPD) and Bipolar and it horrifies me that anyone with these conditions especially can get treated so easily; we don't have a stable sense of identity always
exactly
My husband has bipolar and went unmedicated for over a decade and no therapy. In Sept 2023 his dr gave him an antidepressant - NOT a psychiatrist - he went right into mania. In Nov 2023 he told me he was a trans woman. The private gender clinic gave him A 15 MINUTE ZOOM INTERVIEW AND IMMEDIATELY PRESCRIBED IN ESTROGEN AND TESTOSTERONE BLOCKERS. He didn't get the meds until January of this year and has been on them since, ignoring his bipolar still. His dr won't talk to me either to listen to the fact he's manic. It's awful and I can't leave.
Why can't you leave? Please don't let yourself drown while trying to save someone else who refuses to help themselves.
$500 for "that didn't happen", Alex
You have to make sure you are safe and stay healthy. This sort of situation can be physically and mentally devastating to the carer.
@@gilgameshofuruk4060she's not a carer, caretaker, or POA... She's a wife. Big difference. If she was a carer she'd have access to his medical records and be speaking with his doctors, as it would be required as a part of the care plan and her duties. He's a guy that knows his wife is against what he's doing so he's trying to get his way by blocking her from speaking with his doctors. He's selfish as a husband. She needs to give an ultimatum and leave if he doesn't follow through with it or she just needs leave(not divorce, just move out and let him live without her for awhile) and wash her hands, until he wakes up and hopefully he doesn't damage himself too much in the process of their separation.
@mandielou I was using the word carer in the sense of someone who is caring for a relative, not a paid carer. I should have made that clear.
She has been thrust into the role of carer by his bipolar disorder, for which it appears the medical authorities are providing little to no help.
Spouses, parents and children, siblings and as in one case I remember 1st hand, niece and aunts, can all end up as carers. Unofficial, undervalued and, even if they _can_ get welfare payments, struggling for money.
When the cared for person is abusive, the carer cannot request a different assignment and, more often than not, feels they cannot walk away or indeed ask for help, because of blood ties, or the remains of love for the person the ill person used to be. I have the greatest sympathy for people in the position of the OP and I did not mean to diminish her role by the use of "carer".
I’m a straight black woman and I watch your videos because I’ve been labeled transphobic only bc I stated that women are women and men are men. No matter what you do to your body it still doesn’t negate biology. You can be whatever you want, but please don’t invite me to dive into this delusion with you. I’m not sorry I can’t call a Man A Woman and vice versa I rather not because I feel the moment I Affirm someone then I’m loosing a sense of myself to live in reality and I’m sorry no matter what you can’t just mysteriously change your sex.
That's a very well written opinion which is actually shared by many, and should gain the support of more. Candace Owens, an American commentor in UA-cam has steadfast opinions of these issues. Her content is worth looking into if not already.
Congratulations! We’re sane.
You're not alone. I'm a gay white man and share the same convictions. In a time of so much division I think our hearts and minds should bind us and remind us we're all just humans and have so much more in common than some would like us to believe. It can be hard not to succumb to believing the accusations that Im a transphobe or a bigot -- things I really would least of all want to be. I just try to keep challenging my own views, reminding myself that I could be wrong. In some ways life would be easier if I were wrong. But so far every time my conscience brings me around to: no, the gender ideology is wrong; what these doctors are doing is wrong; do what you can to stand up for the young people caught up in this. In any case, I'm only one guy, not very powerful or even that smart, but for what it's worth Im with you.
Amen 🙏🏽
If you lose your sense of self due to someone’s pronouns,then that’s not their problem and in no way their fault.
I shared my (and my stepson's) story with Benjamin Boyce. My stepson has a dad with bipolar and a mom with alcoholism who was a neglectful parent after they separated - so, lots of childhood traumas. And free access to questionable internet communities, such as DeviantArt and DerpiBooru. My stepson was eventually diagnosed with bipolar disorder himself after going thru diagnoses of: ADHD, Tourettes, C-PTSD, developmental delay, and ODD. Later, he became Type1 diabetic.
He came out as a Furry and Bronie when he was 12, and as Trans when he was 13. 2013. He'd never been interested in presenting feminine, never had feminine interests before this, was a rough-housing, rowdy, dirty boy with typical masculine interests. He dressed as zombies, ninjas and army men for Halloween.
Although he'd been in therapies since 2nd grade due to behavior problems, his endocrinologist who he'd seen since his diagnosis in 3rd grade, offered his mom puberty blockers as soon as he gave different pronouns from his sex. Right in the office with him in there. Gave him all the benefits. Didn't say anything about PB interactions with his mental health or his diabetes, which was also poorly controlled at that time - his A1c was too high and his mental health med levels inconsistent over several years. She didn't ask his therapists if they ever talked about gender (they didn't). I was concerned about these issues, all other parents agreed & he didn't take the blockers. He did however move in with his dad & me. Later, with just me, as his dad's illness got worse and untenable.
I got my stepson's bipolar meds stable, his blood sugars good. His behaviors improved a lot. His social life also improved and he stopped so much online life. Meanwhile I coached him on living feminine such as learning modesty in dress and manner, and interrogated his ideas of what it meant to him to be trans, and also female.
Meanwhile, when he turned 16, his endocrinologist offered him estrogen. Again, no check in with mental health professionals treating him. He declined on his own this time.
His online communities had convinced him that the transition drugs could change him down to DNA, but I showed him the truth. He thought that women have an easier life than men but I asked him to be more observant. That being a woman is just being sexy. Again, I asked him to be more observant. He had a caricatured idea of womanhood, honestly. He also had some caricatured ideas of what it means to be a man, and a less than ideal, mentally unstable father to blueprint off of. Also a raging teenage sex drive and this is what the teens were doing - roleplaying sex chats as the opposite sex. (He was careless with browser windows and I saw some of the DMs. 🤢)
Once all this was unpacked for him, he realized that he wasn't trans, that he had no problem being who he was, and that transgender activism (not transsexual) had lied to him in many ways.
He realized he'd done it to fit in and have friends where he'd had few or none before.
There's a lot of kink + social awkwardness + mental illness in the modern trans community and folks could go to National Alliance for Mental Illness to find friends with things in common but M.I. is still stigmatized in a way that being trans no longer is.
I don't believe "everything happens for a reason", but it sure seems like you were called to be a parent to this young man for a reason. Bless you for stepping up to the job. You have saved him a life of pain, maybe from losing his life altogether.
It takes over a month just to get a prescription for an anti-inflammatory for arthritis.
Yep been there. And I'm a 63 year old man who has low testosterone. Can I get it? Nope.
Ikr?!? It took years for my bipolar 1 dx. And then almost 2 years to get the right meds.
As Buck says, trans activists fought hard for gender dysphoria as a mental illness because then they could recieve the medical care they needed. Having seen this in just a few short years become an internet crazy and an ideology is absolutely terrifying. I don't see how this can be allowed to continue.
Back to square one.
It certainly shows how weak the mind of a human is. Easily influenced and molded, from little hurt teenagers to bigwigs in power. Terrifying.
The medical business love the money it's bringing in.
I have friends that medically needed the gastric band surgery to help their health. THEY EACH had to be vetted with mental health providers (an entire team) In order to be cleared for surgery. They also had to under go hoops and hurdles In order to qualify for the surgery. ( loose a certain amount of weight, get weaned off medicines that could get in the way, seek counselors, track an active lifestyle, consult a nutritionist and dietician and log meals with workouts…. Etc) The entire process took 18 months for them to get further assistance in helping their health. Really shows where the priority is when it comes to healthcare
I hate the "why do you care so much" argument. The answer is "because I'm not a heartless monster "
The problem with "adults" like her is they are influencing children and adolescents.
Marcus, you are a warrior. I am so glad you are out there speaking up for these misguided people.
It's truly insane how much harder it is for older people who need hormone replacement therapy (due to physical diseases) to get it bc of possible health risks while young people can just get cross sex hormones bc of a claim of gender dysphoria without any worries about their health outcomes.
You are exactly right, she needs psychiatric help BEFORE transitioning. I'm an old battle-axe and I cope with Bipolar 2 with psychotic features. I am bisexual, but my promiscuity stemmed from my illness. Once I was able to get my Bipolar in check, the promiscuity stopped, and I got to learn who I REALLY am. 😊
This is how my stepson's bipolar relates to his time identifying as trans (age 13-17). He had regular teenage horniness + manic hypersexuality which led him to unsavory people/ places on the Internet where cross-sex sexual roleplays were sought and hosted and being transgender was a mark of cool. Furry and Bronie communities.
Once his illnesses were more under control his IRL social life bloomed and the "too-extra" trans persona slowly faded away as he was made to interrogate who he really was without mania.
“The best part is you need to be invited in, you need a code” and then gives out the code to eight billion strangers. 😂
I just saw a youtuber who identifies as male, and has been dressing with womens clothes but never considered himself a woman or trans, doesnt have disphoria nor does he want to be called she or her. But has decided he is trans and has started hormones, but at the same time doesnt want to grow breasts so he is taking blocking hormones to prevent breast tissue development. And I just dont get it.
I left a comment saying that I dont get why he would choose to harm his body if he doesnt even have disphoria and that he is not trans. And I got comments saying that you dont need disphoria to be trans,just to slightly identify as different from your assinged at birth gender. I dont get it. What is the meaning of gender then? And trans? It just doesnt hold. This person would absolutely not be taking hormones if he didnt have the fanbade he has. I would bet an arm on it.
Yeah makes no sense. The whole point of being transgender is gender dysphoria
Finnster? If I were to guess it's because he wants to keep looking feminine because that's his fan base.
@@jeremyud Finnister makes about 30K+ every month to dress as a girl, just wondering if the hormones are a way to keep the audience engaged.
I got that comment on Reddit They got upvoted and I got downvoted for saying that to be trans you need gender dysphoria. it stated “ It is not,that is not the whole point of being trans… people can transition for a plethora of reasons. And there is genuine people out there who are trans and have no dysphoria. There are people out there who do not want to medically transition, and are fine with their body being the way it is, and yet are still trans… I’m not going to argue over what you think of trans people are and what they actually are, but …yeah, you’re not right… not to mention, not all dysphoria is gender dysphoria, there’s a plethora of different type of gender, and anyone can experience these dysphorias and not be trans, and someone can experience none and be trans, it’s different for everyone because everyone is different…”
My 1st comment was “biologically they are still a woman so I sorta understand it but I also don’t.. understand? Why would they even want the benefits wouldn’t that be dysphoric that got me -4 downvotes
My ex wife got her meds with her first appointment. Max dose. No therapy or anything. It affected her so badly. One day she got so emotional she tried unalive me, our child and her mom. Got multiple felonies. I feel like all the hormones suddenly in her body was something she couldn't mentally handle, as do others. Transitioning needs to be look at more closely and seriously.
(I'm not saying every person transitioning is going to do this, and I'm not entirely blaming it, but if you're in your 30s and suddenly are going through puberty for a woman and all of these changes, it can be hard without help)
Hormones don't cause a person to go through the puberty of the opposite sex, much less at 30, if that's what you meant. All that is accomplished by putting the wrong sex hormones in one's body is to damage one's body. It will not make the person the opposite sex - just changes secondary sex characteristics and destroys reproductive capability.
You don't need to write a " disclaimer" .
It's YOUR story
Absolutely 100 percent agree. @@1tommyday
Not to mention that much T is known to cause aggression
Oh my dear god 😱 I'm so glad you're all ok
In the 1970s and 80s before a "sex change operation", an adult had to dress like the opposite sex for 2 years before the medical team would consider surgery.
When I see young people that throw around identities they made up to feel unique, the only thing I think of is...that these "identities" are their generations version of what was punk, goth, emo etc for my generation...except we didn't get sucked into a cult that told us we have to permanently alter our bodies to fit in...
As a teenager you get to hear the phrase "it's just a phase, you will grow out of it" etc from parents.
And you know why? As a grown man in his 40s I know now...that they were f'ing right and they knew, because they went through the same thing when they were teenagers...
But nowadays "going through a phase" has the potential to destroy your whole life.
So yeah, I agree that a good doctor should ask questions, give a lil push back and actually make a real medical assessment...because the alternative is teenagers maybe destroying their life over a "phase" and most likely end up dead by self deletion...
The trouble is that people this age feel like they have to figure out what gender they are instead of just figuring out who they are, themselves.
The one does not answer the other.
THIS!
Here in Canada a Canadian doctor blamed the Premier of Alberta Danielle Smith of killing his 37 year old trans nephew as the nephew had committed sucide. Now I am assuming when this uncle said " nephew " I am assuming the trans nephew is a biological woman. Now the Premier of Alberta Danielle Smith had made it perfectly clear on the news media that even a two year old child could understand. Danielle Smith wants to make sure all the children in her home Province of Alberta are protected by the law of Alberta. Kind of like Ron DeSantis the Governor of Florida. Anyway she explained that any adults 18 and over will continued to receive medical treatment for the transgender adults. So why would this doctor's 37 year old nephew commit suicide ? In the news media they are always bring up teenage transgender children committing suicide if they don't get their way with their parents. But what they don't talk about is the fact of transgender kids killing themselves after their procedure of transitioning from one gender to the other gender. Why is that ?
I read this! The very fact that this doctor is trying to link Danielle Smith's new policy to protect KIDS to the suicide of his 37 year old ADULT nephew is such a huge stretch. It's also extremely bothersome that people lack the ability to think critically and realize that clearly the 37 year old had other issues going on that lead him to commit suicide.
Alberta Magas are almost as gross as the ones homegrown in the states - what a bunch of hillbillies!
Canada is a far-right hellhole that routinely euthanises its own citizens. People being killed saves them a fortune because you don't have to treat people who are dead. Don't expect anyone in Canadian "healthcare" to care about the well-being of the people in their care.
Canada is a far-right hellhole that routinely kills its own citizens. People being killed saves them a fortune because you don't have to treat people who have been killed. Don't expect anyone in Canadian "healthcare" to care about the well-being of the people in their care.
Canada routinely kills its own citizens. People being killed saves them a fortune because you don't have to treat people who have been killed. Don't expect anyone in Canadian "healthcare" to care about the well-being of the people in their care.
The doctor's of course gonna be really sweet until you lose your insurance.
I’m scared of this new world. I’m scared to have kids. Imagine what they will go through. It’s a sad reality. Only way I can protect my children is not get pregnant with them in the first place. I can’t imagine them being brainwashed by stuff like this. Body or gender dysmorphia is something I can’t understand and it’s a scary situation when a doctor is egging you on to mutilate your body for their own satisfaction. It seems like doctors and most health care professionals these days are using people as test subjects. It’s fecking scary. People are going nuts.
I have the exact same fear, I’m a woman in my mid 20’s and I so badly want to have kids with my husband but I don’t want to have to shelter them from the world because of how F’d up society is now. things are getting too weird, too fast.
Don’t be afraid , you’re more powerful than you’re imagining.
😢 I think that's what "they" want you to feel. The ultimate goal is population control.. I have kids. I worried about them. Worried being the key word. You can have kids. Just create an environment where they TALK to you. Where they WANT to talk to you. Don't use public school. Teach them that you love them unconditionally and they will love themselves. Teach them all the GOOD things you have to teach. They will be fine.
@@reality_is_the_key thank you for the good advice, really helps put things into perspective hearing it from other women who can testify that it’s possible… I’m still enjoying my life being kid free and trying to fully become an adult so I can actually be a responsible parent, but definitely helps the road ahead seem less rocky.
It's one of the reasons I don't have kids... the world is so screwed up (and that was 2015 when I came to the realization that I don't want Kids)
So glad I was born in the 70s, because now I'm a happy, married, successful owner of an all female construction company. IOW- a TOMBOY.
When I was in pre adolescence, around 10 years old, I insisted I was a boy, crying because my "pee-wee" hasn't grown in yet. I almost want to be an activist at this point. I'm so upset about this. What they're doing to young girls. So sad. Thanks for what you're doing.
I wouldn’t buy a car without a test drive. I wouldn’t change my gender before testing it out for a bit
The test drive portion of the process would be just socially transitioning and slowly dressing more affirmative.
@@DrAmayaDeakins People have a hard time finding the right words to use when discussing this subject. However, I suspect the person above was referring to having treatments that would change their body. Changing your vocabulary and your clothing tells you precisely _nothing_ about what it would be like to undergo physical changes to your body.
Almost every older person, aged 40+ know's that as a teenager, they tended to lean toward being narcissistic. It's part of growing up. It's nature's way of preparing youth to emotionally distance themselves from the hierarchy of the core family they grew up in. This helps enable them to strike out on their own, determine what they like and dislike, and develop their own views, based on experiences they live through. Unfortunately, many young people today are "living" life in a virtual reality online bubble, misconstruing "friend's" (most of whom they've never met) comment's as caring, and willing to do whatever it takes to be accepted. They have no concept that what they are doing is not real life.
I’m 47 now but I remember my friends Father transitioning when I was around 14. At that time, in the UK, you had to live for 1full year as the sex you wanted to transition to while seeing various Health Care Specialists before you would even be considered for ANY Permanent treatment. Doing this meant that Men couldn’t just put a wig on an say they were women and then go to women’s prisons, take women only jobs, use women’s bathrooms… But now you can be a “man” at breakfast time, a “woman” at lunchtime and a “dog” by teatime. Make it Make Sense!!!! Btw: Marcus U R Awesome 🤩
I am biological woman, female presenting, and I would never wear that female "costume" he wore. All I want to say is that women can present themselves however they want, and nothing will ever deprive them of being women. We did not come from the same mold.
Amen!!! Now from someone who actually does cosplay…
I generally crossplay at sci-fi conventions or as a slightly gender bent male character. (That means cross-gender cosplay.) This is because I identify with male characters more often, I do NOT like the skimpy sexualized costumes you often see for women at cons, and also weather for the local con is unpredictable and I need layers so I don’t freeze my ass outdoors OR indoors if someone blasts the AC.
But I am still a valid female and I can crossplay without it having something to do with my identity.
@@nerysghemor5781I’m a cosplayer too! I’m a super girly girl, I like dresses and heels and do enjoy cosplaying women but my favorite is men with big weapons. Cloud Strife is one of my favorites to do, I’m currently working on a Dion Lesage and I really want to be NieR from NieR; Replicant but I also do characters like Bulma and I’m working on a Sailor rn 😂
I didn’t like the sexier ones at first but probably bc I used to have ANA, I’ve recovered twice and now trying to wear the more daring outfits is helping me in my journey to recovery. Just thought I’d add my journey here too ☺️
@@EmiL_from_NieR Congrats!!!
what are these people going to do when 'transitioning' stops being as trendy and stops getting the attention it currently gets and all they are left with is these permanent changes to their bodies.
They are going to be happy or they will detranistion. Whichever makes them happy.
@@kokupotts3914yet their voice will be male, they have no breasts and are most likely infertile. Also the changes in their body and face stay, making them look more like a man.
Sadly, the pay that these Drs are getting, is too much for them to pass up on. It's very very rare, to actually get one that'll treat you properly without "backlash" from those pushing all of this
Yeah, it’s hard to get a doctor that’s dedicated to you and treating your wellness rather than slapping a pill on it for any reason. Literally any reason. It’s mind-boggling that it’s the case for something so life altering.
We’re not talking about figuring out what an allergy is rather than giving me a cream. This is changing someone’s entire life.
It's not even the pay, IMO. My kid has diabetes and thought he was trans, and his diabetes doctor was the gender doctor too. She thought she was a hero by trying to give him gender meds. When you're a hammer, and people cheer when you hammer a nail, everything will start to look like a nail.
I can’t imagine how hard it must be to struggle with and overcome a disorder that almost wrecked your whole life then to watch it get turned into a trend by people who would’ve been emo last generation, goth the generation before. Then they co-opt the disorder, start speaking on it and becoming the faces of it without any understanding of what it even is, and give explanations and advice that is wrong, hurtful or the complete opposite of the truth. I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with all this.
she was so beautiful. Damn. Another girls life destroyed.
Whoa. That… wow.
I’ve had issues with dysphoria, and while I’m happy with how I’ve handled things now, I do 100% agree, I’ve torn myself into knots to look as much like a guy as possible and finally just… found some weird happy medium because my biggest problem is from nerve damage I was born with and can’t do any thing about. It’s very confusing when your brain and your body literally do not match what your eyes see, because you never could feel whole sections of your body. The “today is a perfect day to cosplay a girl” just… threw me so hard it gave me whiplash.
That… that is… just wild.
Diagnosed with with bipolarism back in the 90’a …,never thought I was trans.
It might be due to the fact that there was less of this nonsense showcased for the whole world to see in the 90s, and less people advocating for it and trying to indoctrinate every preteen and teenager into becoming this way. If you grew up in todays society, I'm sure there might've been a chance you'd be a victim too.
Who knows if that person in the video (the one that Marcus showed) is even bipolar. They're claiming to have a million mental health issues. It could just be for attention.
Did you ever have manic hypersexuality, and did it ever lead you to unsavory places/ people? This is how my stepson's bipolar disorder relates to his brief time identifying as trans.
@@ShineOnBenevolentSun yeah it sucks…like waves of emotions…. and the insomnia kicks in.
I saw someone say he fell down a staircase and hit his head so hard it turned him gay. I wonder if he was suffering from bi polar?
Sad thing is some people just like having all the labels. Many of them are way over diagnosed. We are a narcissist society.
Most of these people claiming OCD don't actually understand what it is. It is sometimes paralyzingly, physically painful to have things incorrect. I often have intense panic attacks if I can't correct a trigger to my standard...
... It might frustrate you when your books are out of order, good for you... Try having it haunt you for days of a vacation and completely engulf your full attention no matter what extremely fun activity is going on, it basically ruins your day and trip cause you know something is out of place, and you can't fix it.
I am so sorry, it hurts when your brain is out of your control.
As a caregiver this is very true, one of my clients is this way and it’s very crippling for her.
This happens with everything. Nowadays everyone has ADHD because they have rotten their brain into only paying attention for small amounts of time. Tiktok, YT shorts, etc. Practically every young person nowadays can’t focus enough to even read a book and that’s very sad, but it’s not ADHD. It makes you more “interesting” and quirky to say it is tho, you can put it in your social media bio like it’s a personality!
@@nostalgiagatunaADHD is another “faker” attracter like trans. Thing is ADHD is very real, a dysfunctional dopamine receptor which causes faulty logic in the executive functioning which helps your brain prioritize activity and attention. The receptor doesn’t trigger easily but when something does it’s almost like it gets jammed in the on position because your brain can’t change lanes. Every bit as debilitating as OCD.
OCD can also be obsessive thoughts I have been diagnosed with that
I’m a 46 yr old woman. When I was about 5 I really believed I could grow up and be a man. I was a big tomboy and now a masculine ish woman. If it was like it is now I would of been encouraged and put on hormones and all that. The reason I thought I could grow and be a boy is my earliest childhood memory I have I was about 4 1/2 ish is my Dad saying the biggest regret in his life was me and my big sister because he wanted boys and that was repeated throughout my life directly to meI wanted to be his son. Hell I still try to be his son even thought at 75 he’s told me plenty of times I never will be good enough to be his son. Anyway I didn’t mean to share that much but yeah.
Sorry to say, your dad maybe a narcissist.
Narcissistic parents see their kids as property like clothes they can picked.
Healthy dads & moms love❤ their kids UNCONDITIONALLY.
It's extremely damaging that your dad still says that narcissistic hateful words to you. Tell him to stop!
This is not going to end well for a lot of people
Marcus mentioning her suffering from OCD made my ears prickle.
There is a form of OCD called Transgender OCD, where sufferers obsess around the thought of maybe being trans.
Allowing anyone to start to medically transition within a week of starting the process is wrong and dangerous, but letting someone with OCD do so and not looking in to their OCD for maybe being the cause of them wanting to transition is even worse.
My husband's endocrinologist was not afraid to question if transition was right for him and even asked me to agree with it and said that i better not come back at him if I am later unhappy with my husband's transition. Everyone reviewed him horribly saying he was really rude, but we need more doctors that aren't afraid to be rude to make sure they are giving the right treatment.
There absolutely needs to be gatekeeping for adults as well as kids. Since gender dysphoria is a psychiatric illness, it needs to be properly diagnosed and there needs to be a period of time of adjustment and therapy before hormones are prescribed. The vast majority of people will decide, during their adoption of their believed preferred gender, to change their minds. Accept themselves as they are. And get on with building relationships with whichever sex they are attracted to. Hallelujah. Agree with you so much that the vast majority of people who think that they are trans are just trans trenders and not actually dysphoric. The waves of detransitioners are a cautionary tale and they are people who actually decided to embrace reality and themselves. People who have to have to trans in order to live in their body should have to absolutely prove it to a professional who doesn't have a stake in making them transition.
I agree with you. People might regret their haircut, who theyre in relationships with, etc. We need to protect people from themselves. Want to buy that extra soda then youll need to fill out a survey and wait 20 minutes to find out if you qualify. It doesnt matter that its your money or your body what matters is whether people will regret their decision.
When I was at my worst with my mental illness I couldn't even make choices about daily life. I couldn't keep myself safe. I would not have been able to competently make a life changing choice of any kind.
I'm a male US Army Disabeled Veteran with a neck injury, TBI, and other issues. Now, I am not trans and I have issues I think with testosterone so it has taken me since 2016 to even get testosterone activity test and my accident was in 1999. I still haven't taken the test yet. I am whiling to bet if I was a female then I probably have it by now.
Putting used needles on a canvas is a biohazard.
I believe we should call the trans activist not fake trans but tik tok trans.
tiktok trans made me laugh really hard
If the U.S. government bans Tik Tok. I am afraid some of the younger gen Z will have a breaking point. Who knows where their mental state will be.
If Tik Tok is banned, Gen Z will be forced to go out and get jobs instead of spending so much time on Gender(TM Pending)
is it bad that im hoping they do ban it???? because all it has caused is problems since day 1.
That would not be a bad thing, necessarily, because they would have to venture outside of their echo chamber and reckon with the real world.
Their false identity is just going to be solidified the longer time goes on, so we need to dismantle the brainwashing while the false identity, especially of those “they/thems” before its too late
It should be banned tbh.
It's one of the worst apps a developing child can use.
It creates a dopamine addiction in a brain that's not fully developed.
Why do you think so many young adults now have ADHD.
One of the main issues with ADHD sufferers is a lack of concentration, a lack of focus, and easily distracted.
Apps like Tictoc shove tiny pieces of video, most are less than 30 seconds long to younger people.
They watch, then swipe, watch, then swip ad nauseum.
They lose the ability to concentrate because they never have to.
Add to that the company Bytedance is a CCP controlled company, and when you sign up to Tictok, you agree to have them read EVERYTHING.
Including facial recognition via your phones/pc camera and your keystrokes.
Sorry for the wall of text.
tiktok is better off being banned. It'll do better for society in general. (Lets hope they dont move to insta or yt shorts)
You are so intelligent and beautifully eloquent. It's a breath of fresh air in all the ridiculousness.
I have IBD and ended up with massive decay and necrosis in my gut. It still took me 6 months to get the life saving surgery I needed. 3 of those months were just to sit and think through all the life changing effects this surgery would cause. I had to meet with a psychologist 30 times and talk through the after effect of surgery. I had to have him then report to the surgeon. The side effects were MASSIVE. It greatly changed my quality of life for tue worst, I lost the ability to bear children, there are many vital nutrients I cannot ever absorb again. And still without that surgery I would have died. So how is it so easy for people to get elective care within a week? How are we taking the time to walk through life changing medical care when there is decay and necrosis involved but not when it is an elective care on an otherwise healthy body. It doesn’t make sense to me.
I agree. Spot on Marcus- i can back up -with EXPERIENCE NOT MERELY OPINION- what you’ve pointed out in this video. This recent obsession with being trans and even the obsession with being gay !! My social worker is a gay man. He doesn’t get into being. ‘The gay community’. He is part of THE community. And he is busy thinking about his elderly parents who is caring for , his cats and dogs and cat, his job as a high- level nurse, hunting, crochet - and his friends. The only issue in his life that involves being gay is - his partner is a man. Also, there’s a trans woman in our church. She doesn’t go on about being trans (she became trans decades ago). She us busy being a journalist, and being involved with the various community groups she is involved in.
Please do not make the classic mistake of thinking that the physician is incompetent as this is not the case. Rather the physician is willing to go along with the global agenda for a possible financial incentive prehaps....your videos are very much needed, thank you & no a mentally ill person cannot give consent💜
Of course "trans doctors" are so sweet and kind. They want your money. I loved your interview with Buck, Marcus. I'm so happy you two are friends!
If waiting time for a psychologist is way longer then its no wonder the procedure of councelling feels rushed when it should not be.
Missouri passed a law banning transition, hormone therapy etc for minors. The law also specifically says that an adult who wants to take hormones and transition is required to go through a few years of therapy before being approved just in case they're wrong. People are pissed about that gatekeeping. I may disagree with a lot of laws, but I support this law.
I agree with you. People might regret their haircut, who theyre in relationships with, etc. We need to protect people from themselves. Want to buy that extra soda then youll need to fill out a survey and wait 20 minutes to find out if you qualify. It doesnt matter that its your money or your body what matters is whether people will regret their decision.
MO has passed pure gate keeping legislation when it comes to the therapy they require, which is thinly veiled conversion therapy. It's purely put in place as a road block that most transgender people will not be able to cross. So it only does the state good, but I do agree with you.
@@DrAmayaDeakinsconversion therapy?? Trans IS conversion therapy of lgb children. No child should EVER go through transition. Bcoz you do more harm than good given that most dysphoria resolves after puberty!
That’s a good question about whether a person with a mental illness can consent. I lived with 20 years with untreated anxiety and dysthymia (most of the time, unless it got bad), and although I was functional enough to keep a job and not majorly screw up my life, that was because of a lot of VERY FORCED rationality and also because of highly rational parents who were not the type to favor or encourage emotional decisions. Plus (funny enough with talking about what people think of with rationality but true) my faith also provided a lot of structure and guidance in decision making. But if I hadn’t had those guardrails? I could EASILY have wound up in a bad place, especially during the two worst crises I had. Instead I did the opposite to what these activists encourage, and I reached for my family and my faith. And yes, during my final crisis (the one where I got a diagnosis and the right help), I DID actually get to a place where I couldn’t make decisions and my parents did need to make some decisions for me before the meds kicked in. THANK GOD I had my connection to my family and knew I could trust them to do that!!! These activists are literally cutting people off from those other critical IRL resources.
You and I have a similar story, although without the religion. I refer to my own very forced rationality as a 'mental straightjacket'
It's so sad that young people are being taken advantage of.
What happens to this person if or when Ticktock or the other apps disappear? They'll be alone with their mental health and bodies damaged and broken.
SO MUCH of this so-called movement is about social media attention. Without it, there's not much point in transitioning for so many of these young people :(
@@pisceananarchyvortex7223. That's so true.
My biggest issue is that doctors and other professionals are often not transparent and honest about the downsides of transitioning. Even with mental illness, a large portion of people properly informed would not go forward with transitioning.
Beyond that - yes, I think an adult is responsible for themselves unless they have suffered a complete break from reality. But - I acknowledge mentally ill adults can sometimes be easily swayed, especially when they have things like BPD and they are mentally childish in many ways.
The consequences of infantalizing people.have to be weighed against the pros of implementing certain protective measures.
With that said - no professional worthy of being in medicine or psychotherapy should be able in good conscience to help people medically transition who do not have dysphoria. At that point it goes beyond treatment or body modification to mutilation of someone with an otherwise healthy body.
So I don't want to rob an adult of their choice, but I do think there should be consequences for affirming, affirming, affirming when we're talking about people who often have no idea who they are and less drastic measures have not been exhausted first.
As far as I am concerned - a grown adult has the right to cut off their arms and legs with a chainsaw if they wish. It's their body. But damn anyone who would help them do it and not try to guide them down a healthier path.
I would 10000000% be a detransitioner if I was born in 2005 instea of 1995. I have ADHD, OCD, PTSD and bipolar disorder. I also have sexual trauma and I'm attracted tk women. For a period in my life when I was around 18 I only wore my brother's clothing. It's scary to think about.
It is actually is pretty scary. I hope you are doing better.
Omg I'm so worried for her. She is definitely going to regret this ... If she wasn't even willing to shave her head or wear men's clothing before t is pretty alarming.
And now that she has transitioned in such a public way..even if she has doubts she will think twice, three times before expressing them because of backlash.
Being transgender seems part of a personality instead of just a facet of someones life. I hope that when my children reach puberty in ten years, we will see this phad for what it was: a trend.
Thank you, Marcus, for speaking out!
Why does every young person have to be an activist nowadays? 😮
It’s sad and pathetic that doctors take advantage of people with mental health issues. Doctors are responsible for being HonesT with their patients. They took an oath just to help people. Are they breaking their oath? Yes. Should they be held accountable? Absolutely!
I remember when I was working as part of an orthopaedic surgical team I spent weeks with a consultant who was fighting tooth and nail not to remove a guy's foot. There was no medical need for the surgery and the understanding I got from the doctor was that the dude wanted the quick and easy way out. I then contrast that to the speed at which people are passed through the system in regards to transitioning and I seriously feel like something has gone badly wrong.
Thank you for this. I keep saying this. There are trans people who are just trying to live their life. And then there are people whose whole identity is getting attention and affirmation for their journey.
I definitely see the difference. The trans people in my circle of friends are mostly just trying to live their lives. There are a few I worry about because they’ve had mental health and addiction issues as long as I’ve known them and now suddenly they are trans…. When previously there was no question about their identity genderwise. And I’m worried that they are just trying to fill a hole in their lives with the support community there is with transitioning.
This is the most based, level headed and logical take on the topic I've ever heard coming from a trans person. Absolute respect. As a conservative (all being a more libertarian one) man I must say, we have absolutely no problem with people who actually suffer from disphoria and ate just trying to find a better life for themselves, more power to you all in that situation. But the people falling for the lies of the mob and doing it out off it being trendy, or getting brain washed at vulnerable time, people who reject reality thinking that there is no difference between them and people remaining in ther biological gender, and most of all trans activists GOING AFTER CHILDREN are not only a danger for society but also are undermining the struggles of people like you going through real issues. You have an important message and I respect you for sharing it
Meanwhile in most EU countries, if you're a guy with hypogonadism/low test levels, it's a struggle to get TRT that would actually help you.
I also find it perplexing that there's more of a stigma of guys taking TRT even among doctors, but not with trans people taking testosterone. I will say it's probably not the same doctors though.
I went through a nonbinary phase when my closest friend at the time was trans, super into the ideology and suoer mentally ill. I have bipolar 1, autism and struggled with bulimia for a decade. Thank God my mom argued with me on it and didnt "affirm" me.
Ugh. Borderlines deal with this. Searched for an identity my entire youth thinking if I got my appearance right it would make sense. No it didn’t. Turns out I just obsess and hyper focus…
Snapped out of all that when I started hyper focusing on my job instead of my body and it gave me some semblance of identity that was not self destructive.
A lot of these kids just need purpose.
I live in a more conservative country where this kind of ideology isnt commonplace. But I do have this friend, who is biologically a woman, and presents very feminine - dresses, skirts, floral prints and the like. Yet she claims to be trans and everyone in our class, even my lecturers call her a "he". She says she's experienced feeling uncomfortable in her own skin and not recognizing herself in the mirror, which I wont deny because that can very well be valid. What does confuse me is like what was stated in the video, how a person wants to be trans but still presents as their original gender. I cant quite understand her logic and I dont dare speak with anyone about this because everyone seems to accept it and play along.
She is quite clearly having a mental health crisis and health practitioners are not only encouraging it, but cheering it on, like some sort of experimental trial. Sickening.
I came across your channel today & have watched a lot of your videos.
This one hit home.
I thank everything listening that the Internet wasn't around when I was growing up!
I'm 47 now, I have longterm mental illness, that has manifested into physical illness.
If I had access to these other ideologies, I would have transitioned. No doubt about it.
Thankfully, I'm an older female who understands that they're Borderline.
I was brought up in a family of 5 brothers & 6 sisters, this is after being abused by my "father". Neglected by my "mother"
I hated my Foster family for a long time. Until I had my own children to be precise.
When I learnt that I had to look inside myself to see why I did not "fit"
I'd always been (still am lol) the damaged "tomboy"
I always felt like the one that ppl just didn't give two pennies about.
Thanks to the consistency of my Foster parents, I learnt that it was OK to be to me.
That I've broken the cycle I "should" be a part of.
It is about ME. not in the "I'm great" but in the I do me better than anyone.
Mental health IS a thing. Being happy with who you are absolutely is a thing!
I'm thankful that I was able to eventually find me.
Did I like the road? NO.
did I need to go down it?
YES.
No-one should pick/choose/decide that path for you.
Marcus. You speak undeniable truths and I commend you for being a voice of the reasonable.
If I'd been born in this day n age. I'd stand no chance!
The Internet is the best & worst thing to happen.
I love that I get to learn from you. But I do not think I'd be here now if it was a thing for me growing up. Seriously.
Thank you for being you 🫂🙏❤️🩹🩶
One of my best friends transitioned and their whole personality changed. They are snobby and judgmental now. I tried to hang out with them and their new friends once and was basically bullied because I am cis. It’s getting ridiculous. I don’t even know who my friend is now.
At one point I felt uncomfortable in my own birth gender but you’re right. I tried to wear women’s clothes and did make up and all that without the medical procedures and I found out I’m much more happier being a Gay biological male that likes Masculine men. I’m thankful I didn’t do anything permanent because that would have made my already mental illness even worst.
My take, as a doctor, is that doctors have always done horrific things to patients. Unethical treatments, unethical practices. This is the one we are doing in this era of ours. It's the thing future doctors will look back on and say "How on earth did doctors do that???!!! How was it allowed????? How come the public didn't say anything???!!!". So good for you for speaking up. You are incredibly wise and insightful.
Back when GD/GID was properly diagnosed, studies proved that with NO treatment at all, 82% of 139 prepubescent children were completely cured by natural puberty. That's 4 out of 5 kids cured - 2 gay and 2 straight - and the other one now has the choice as an adult with 50% more life experience to choose to not be sterilised. This girl was absolutely gorgeous, so feminine that my first thought was the same - how can anyone genuinely dysphoric so totally embrace her femininity then wake up and need to transit1on? 😥
I have ADD and Bipolar disorder. I've been in ongoing therapy for years, and I take all of my meds exactly as prescribed. I STILL have swings where I get impulsive AF, or have persistent suicidal ideology. The meds just give me enough clarity to keep me from acting on it most of the time. I've spent my life savings, alienated people I've known for years, and made other really stupid decisions. I'm 58, and no way would I trust myself with the decision to transition, if I were so inclined.
The majority of these trans doctors are just in it for the money, and that's why they want kids to start transitioning too. Getting money from informed adults just isn't enough for them. Greed rules.
I identified as a trans man back in the pandemic TikTok craziness. I had been suffering from Major Depressive Disorder since I was 16, so I was easily dragged along to the trend. I convinced myself I had gender dysphoria and felt uncomfortable when people used she/her pronouns. Even when I identified as trans, which I wasn’t, I watched Ains’ tiktoks and felt weird about how often he’d bring up the fact that he was trans. One time he was even telling a story about how he bought a futon with 4 trans friends, concluding the video with “trans people can do anything”. He’s obsessed with his transness.
I have so much genuine respect for you to show concern for a complete stranger. This is how we should treat one another. With concern and respect.
I wanted to comment to say thank you for your videos. I was so relieved when I found your channel. Finally, information from someone who has experienced transgender surgery etc that’s conveyed to the listener in a rational, grown-up, hate-free way. I’m the mother of a young man, 20yrs, who has struggled with various severe mental health issues. Most of these caused by environmental factors beyond his control growing up; but none were related to body dysphoria. A few months ago he came to me to discuss the possibility that he might be trans. However it wasn’t a revelation that he’d arrived at through self-analysis, no, it had been suggested to him as a possible cause for his MH problems while he’d been talking to people online. I have to admit I was totally shell-shocked since I’d not seen this coming in a million years. I was even more horrified when he then confided that he’d found a few discord forums & spoken to some of the members that were “trans”. They had explained ways that he could speed up & even bypass waiting times so that he could expedite the process. We’ve talked a lot about it, however it’s been almost impossible to find any information that isn’t highly polarised or driven by underlying agendas. Years ago I was a psychologist, but I was forced to retire to care full time for one of my other children who is disabled & has complex medical needs. From a psychological perspective I couldn’t agree with you more. I’ve watched many of your videos and recently subscribed to your channel, which I’ve shared with my son. I am appalled at the cavalier attitude the medical & psychiatric professions have adopted when assessing & treating individuals who are clearly vulnerable & struggling with complex psychological issues. I’m also devastated by the fact that we now seem to have lost the ability to actually engage in any honest dialogue or open scientific debate for fear of being seen as “phobic” & the public backlash that being stigmatised thus causes. It’s just horrendous. No one seems to be prepared to consider the long-term consequences that the increasing prevalence of gender reassignment could & will have, nor do many acknowledge the permanent, irreversible repercussions or that any surgeries performed are major procedures that in themselves carry immense risks to the patients & positive outcomes are far from guaranteed. It confounds my understanding that in the name of tolerance/equality we’ve actually tipped the balance to the opposite extreme. We are now allowing those, like my son, who are very vulnerable, & easily open to suggestion/persuasion because they desperately seek acceptance & mental equilibrium, to actually allow themselves to be moulded into facsimiles of a current societal trend. There is absolutely no way that adults with serious MH issues are capable of making such huge life altering decisions & the fact that children can now also access these drugs/surgeries is tantamount to abuse. As you said anyone who genuinely isn’t comfortable in their body to the extent that they are a candidate for surgical intervention would present as having done their utmost to try to achieve their desired outcome by whatever means were available to them prior to seeking that intervention eg. Clothing, chest/genital wrapping, make-up, prosthetics etc. I spent time with my son trying a few simple things like dressing as female, wig, make up. It at least helped me to show him that the issues he is struggling with are far more than his appearance. This has at least helped me buy time to convince him of the need for deeper enquiry. My biggest worry is that, like many young people who suffer from similar MH issues, he has terrible impulse control & can get stuck in circular logic & obsessive thoughts. These “helpful” people who thought that suggesting shortcuts to hormone therapy was a good idea never stopped for a moment to consider the potential danger they were placing my child in or the catastrophic consequences their ill-thought pseudo-science advice could have for him, and many young people in similar situations. Let’s not forget that suicide amongst young men is statistically significant. I’d urge people to think carefully before they assume the role of “mentor” or “advisor”. I adore all my children & would do everything in my power to secure their happiness, but I will not prostrate myself upon this current rollercoaster of societal butchery. Thank you so much once again for your videos. They have given me hope & information from a reliable source and I commend you for having the courage to stand up & share your experiences, on a topic which most of us have no personal experience (and are therefore told we cannot hold an opinion because of our ignorance). Thank you once again. Much love xxx
Wow. It took me literal years and a multitude of doctors to be prescribed CBD for chronic pain, which has been fobbed off multiple times a just being in my head (one GP told me I just needed to go to the gym and get some friends, I had two herniated discs).
No a person should have therapy before any medical transition. It’s hard to go back to the way life was before. I can hear how frustrating this is for you Marcus……..on a side note, love your hair
Is this an American thing? Getting testosterone so easily. I'm a male who stopped producing testosterone naturally so I have to get injections every few months. I had to go see an endocrinologist, who made me wait weeks and get multiple blood tests before getting anything. Then they started me on pills for a month. Then gel for a month before finally getting injections and even with a prescription I have to see a GP before I can get the injection. To this day I have to jump through hoops to get the hormone that my body would produce anyway and if I try and get it a couple of days early they tell me to come back. How are these people able to get it so easily? I almost feel like it'd be easier just to get estrogen. Seems like as long as you're not the gender that would normally produce the hormone they hand it out like aspirin.