Being a victim of CSA at age 15, I understand how important this is, I hope videos like this can help parents. Because CSA is a life changing thing that doesn't ever go away
Thank you so much for explaining this! I grew up in a Catholic home where my "talk" happened at 18 and was more of a declaration that I should "use a condom". So needless to say, I have taken my job as a parent seriously. Thank you for linking the research and also book recommendations. I will be purchasing!!
I’m glad you’re here and feel empowered to have these talks earlier and more comprehensively! If you’re interested - I have a webinar coming up in January on how to have the where babies come from talk!
Personally, I am not against it at all. If it's age appropriate, of course. My mother gave me a sex ed book for children at age 7. And it has saved me frome a pdf file who already lured my friend and I into his apartment. I did not freeze, I fought back and called him names like "pervert" and told him that I knew exactly what he's trying to do. I got really angry... He realised I knew too much and that I wasn't a quiet one who wouldn't tell. He got spooked and let us both out. Even gave me some hush money... Sick bstrd... Yet I do not have rose colored glasses on. The knowledge that I had only helped me a little bit. It's not panacea AT ALL! We just got lucky. He probably was a very inexperienced pdf file at the beginning of his predatory ways. Because, come on! We were already there, and the door was locked... A grown man against a couple of skinny 7 y.o. girls? That's not even a fight, let's be real. Quite frankly - if he already had experience before that and knew exactly what he was doing - I wouldn't be writing this comment right now. Me and my friend would just join some statistics of kids gone missing, and that's that. And just like you said - that dude was a stranger. Attacks by strangers are quite rare. If it's someone from the house or someone with free access to the child - it gets WAY more complicated. Chances that a child will tell on the perpetrator even will all the knowledge in the world - get significantly lower. So do the chances that a child will be believed if they decide to tell. Or that any action will be taken against the perpetrator even if they are believed... Hell, even I never told my parents about what happened. Was just happy to escape and didn't want them to get mad. Because they did have several stranger danger talks with me, and we still brainlessly went with that dude... ... Even when my mom found the hush money and questioned me where I got them from - I didn't tell... Yes. Several years later I realised what I've done... That I just let him go free that day to continue his filth... By that time it was too late, he was long gone from our neighborhood without a trace... And yes, the thought of the next kids that probably never came out of his place don"t leave me to this very day. I'm 42 now. It never goes away. If only I would just tell that day... How many kids could be saved?.. But I digress. The main thought I was trying to communicate here is that although sex ed can be helpful - it's definitely not panacea. It might help prevent some cases, but definitely not all of 'em. Because it's very complicated, especially if it's happening within a family home. I would not put THAT much emphasis on it and would be very careful about raising red flags and low key accusing any parents who don't want to educate their child on that topic too early. What you said at the end of this vid kinda sounds like "If you don't do what I say is right - you either don't want to prevent CSA to your kid or you're planning to commit it yourself! Red flag!". Seriously? What kind of reaction do you expect to follow after that? I'm not surprised at all that some ppl in the comments got defensive and angry. Pls, you're kinda supposed to help parents protect their children, you actually have a common goal here! The vast majority of parents are only trying to protect their kids from all evils of this world. They're hesitant to have those talks with their kids only because it's too scary to even think about it, let alone passing that fear onto a child by telling them about horrendous acts that someone VERY CLOSE TO THEM might do. They need help here! Throwing accusations of neglect or "red flags" - not a good way to go. You guys also need a better PR. Can you figure out some other name than Sex Ed? Majority of ppl get a major ick when they hear the word sex next to the word child or a "5 y.o". I mean, it's kinda understandable if you think about it. Call it "Child protection protocol" or something and a hella lot more ppl would want to implement it. And finally - there must be a threshold after which you just gotta stop and step back. Parents decide when, where and how to talk to their kids. If they are educated on the topic, well aware of all the risks and still decide to delay that convo with their child - it's their decision. You might hate it. I might hate it. But we gotta respect their right to do that. Without resorting to name calling and empty accusations. Just my humble thoughts, of course...
I being teaching my daughter about sex in scientific and medical way. From age 3 she enjoyed learning about plants, seeds, animals and how they have babies, in preschool they teach them about respecting their bodies and respect others personal space, that’s when we had the talk about the importance of not letting anyone touching parts or showing genitals, also I made sure her doctors were females and she knows only doctor can check on her when mommy is in the same room, not being alone with an adult besides mommy or daddy, and to understand that mommies from every specie biggest priority is to protect their babies, so no matters what she can always count with me to protect her from anything. Around 5 I teach her about how woman have eggs inside body and man have “seeds”, how babies develop inside womb, she loves watching videos of babies from 1 week to 40 weeks of gestation. And when she turned 6 I teach her the medical name of the seeds (sperm) and how goes from male body to female body, first she said ehw, but then we went over about how different species do it (fishes, sea horses, chickens, whales, etc) and in the past 6 months we have go over how humans reproduce, age of ovulation etc. Some of her 1st grade friends have older brothers and sisters and they already passing the information to younger kids and in the playground this little kids talk to each other about what big bro or sis told them, so I’m happy my daughter understands about the topic and ask me questions, like how same sex couples have kids, why some women don’t have babies, why the young teen at the store was pregnant. I decided to have this conversations at early age because when I was little I witness my father molesting my older sister for years, then he tried to molested me as well but I was able to defend my self. Sex talk was a taboo in my household, and because I didn’t feel comfortable talking about sex to my mother lot of things happened, I was sexually harassed by other kids in elementary and middle school. When I was little lot of my friends talk about the creepy uncle. As an adult some of my friends have open up about their assaults. I’m not letting this to happen to my baby.
I find this obsession to explain sex to 5 year olds concerning. Also, following up several times with the mother and painting the father immediately as a probable deviant just because they do notvwant your help....my alarmbells go off. I would not want you near my family either.
I'm concerned why you feel so defensive about this. Everything she explained was actually helpful to people who think that 7-9 is too early... also she states many times this is just an example.
@tenzindongak320 I believe that it's a necessary thing to teach young children some of these things because CSA can happen at any age for children. In my case, the teacher used fear and physical harm to stop me from doing anything. At age 15, I knew that what he was doing to me was wrong, but saying NO and STOP over and over didn't do anything. Afterward, I struggled with finding the correct language to explain what had happened to me because of the lack of sex talks from my parents and sex ed. And has a result i kept it hidden away for 15 years because my brain was trying to protect me from what happened, so it's important to teach young children age-approprite content. And yes, because of my experience, I have a different view on this topic, but I don't see that it has being a bad thing
I wonder why the concept of "sex" wouldn't be known already at that point. Since my son is not even two I can't tell from the parenting side but from my own childhood in the countryside, the concept of animals having sex to have offspring was conveyed rather easy at a young age.
An influencer posted a video discovering her husband had assaulted both of their daughters (aged 2 and 4) and her children were able to let their mother know who touched them in her video titled “I married a monster”. Child abuse happens often and unfortunately ❤️🩹
I hadn't seen that. Those kids are so young! It's so unfortunate that this happens but you are right - it happens often. I encourage parents to have these talks to prevent abuse but age-appropriate education can also provide the recognition and language to stop the abuse earlier rather than later.
Being a victim of CSA at age 15, I understand how important this is, I hope videos like this can help parents. Because CSA is a life changing thing that doesn't ever go away
You are a survivor! Thank you for being here and supporting age-appropriate sex education!
Thank you so much for explaining this! I grew up in a Catholic home where my "talk" happened at 18 and was more of a declaration that I should "use a condom". So needless to say, I have taken my job as a parent seriously. Thank you for linking the research and also book recommendations. I will be purchasing!!
I’m glad you’re here and feel empowered to have these talks earlier and more comprehensively! If you’re interested - I have a webinar coming up in January on how to have the where babies come from talk!
Personally, I am not against it at all. If it's age appropriate, of course. My mother gave me a sex ed book for children at age 7. And it has saved me frome a pdf file who already lured my friend and I into his apartment.
I did not freeze, I fought back and called him names like "pervert" and told him that I knew exactly what he's trying to do. I got really angry...
He realised I knew too much and that I wasn't a quiet one who wouldn't tell. He got spooked and let us both out. Even gave me some hush money... Sick bstrd...
Yet I do not have rose colored glasses on. The knowledge that I had only helped me a little bit. It's not panacea AT ALL!
We just got lucky. He probably was a very inexperienced pdf file at the beginning of his predatory ways. Because, come on! We were already there, and the door was locked... A grown man against a couple of skinny 7 y.o. girls?
That's not even a fight, let's be real.
Quite frankly - if he already had experience before that and knew exactly what he was doing - I wouldn't be writing this comment right now. Me and my friend would just join some statistics of kids gone missing, and that's that.
And just like you said - that dude was a stranger. Attacks by strangers are quite rare.
If it's someone from the house or someone with free access to the child - it gets WAY more complicated.
Chances that a child will tell on the perpetrator even will all the knowledge in the world - get significantly lower. So do the chances that a child will be believed if they decide to tell. Or that any action will be taken against the perpetrator even if they are believed...
Hell, even I never told my parents about what happened. Was just happy to escape and didn't want them to get mad. Because they did have several stranger danger talks with me, and we still brainlessly went with that dude...
... Even when my mom found the hush money and questioned me where I got them from - I didn't tell...
Yes. Several years later I realised what I've done... That I just let him go free that day to continue his filth...
By that time it was too late, he was long gone from our neighborhood without a trace...
And yes, the thought of the next kids that probably never came out of his place don"t leave me to this very day. I'm 42 now. It never goes away. If only I would just tell that day... How many kids could be saved?..
But I digress.
The main thought I was trying to communicate here is that although sex ed can be helpful - it's definitely not panacea. It might help prevent some cases, but definitely not all of 'em.
Because it's very complicated, especially if it's happening within a family home.
I would not put THAT much emphasis on it and would be very careful about raising red flags and low key accusing any parents who don't want to educate their child on that topic too early.
What you said at the end of this vid kinda sounds like "If you don't do what I say is right - you either don't want to prevent CSA to your kid or you're planning to commit it yourself! Red flag!".
Seriously?
What kind of reaction do you expect to follow after that?
I'm not surprised at all that some ppl in the comments got defensive and angry.
Pls, you're kinda supposed to help parents protect their children, you actually have a common goal here!
The vast majority of parents are only trying to protect their kids from all evils of this world. They're hesitant to have those talks with their kids only because it's too scary to even think about it, let alone passing that fear onto a child by telling them about horrendous acts that someone VERY CLOSE TO THEM might do.
They need help here!
Throwing accusations of neglect or "red flags" - not a good way to go.
You guys also need a better PR.
Can you figure out some other name than Sex Ed? Majority of ppl get a major ick when they hear the word sex next to the word child or a "5 y.o". I mean, it's kinda understandable if you think about it.
Call it "Child protection protocol" or something and a hella lot more ppl would want to implement it.
And finally - there must be a threshold after which you just gotta stop and step back.
Parents decide when, where and how to talk to their kids. If they are educated on the topic, well aware of all the risks and still decide to delay that convo with their child - it's their decision.
You might hate it. I might hate it. But we gotta respect their right to do that.
Without resorting to name calling and empty accusations.
Just my humble thoughts, of course...
I being teaching my daughter about sex in scientific and medical way. From age 3 she enjoyed learning about plants, seeds, animals and how they have babies, in preschool they teach them about respecting their bodies and respect others personal space, that’s when we had the talk about the importance of not letting anyone touching parts or showing genitals, also I made sure her doctors were females and she knows only doctor can check on her when mommy is in the same room, not being alone with an adult besides mommy or daddy, and to understand that mommies from every specie biggest priority is to protect their babies, so no matters what she can always count with me to protect her from anything. Around 5 I teach her about how woman have eggs inside body and man have “seeds”, how babies develop inside womb, she loves watching videos of babies from 1 week to 40 weeks of gestation. And when she turned 6 I teach her the medical name of the seeds (sperm) and how goes from male body to female body, first she said ehw, but then we went over about how different species do it (fishes, sea horses, chickens, whales, etc) and in the past 6 months we have go over how humans reproduce, age of ovulation etc.
Some of her 1st grade friends have older brothers and sisters and they already passing the information to younger kids and in the playground this little kids talk to each other about what big bro or sis told them, so I’m happy my daughter understands about the topic and ask me questions, like how same sex couples have kids, why some women don’t have babies, why the young teen at the store was pregnant.
I decided to have this conversations at early age because when I was little I witness my father molesting my older sister for years, then he tried to molested me as well but I was able to defend my self. Sex talk was a taboo in my household, and because I didn’t feel comfortable talking about sex to my mother lot of things happened, I was sexually harassed by other kids in elementary and middle school. When I was little lot of my friends talk about the creepy uncle. As an adult some of my friends have open up about their assaults.
I’m not letting this to happen to my baby.
I find this obsession to explain sex to 5 year olds concerning. Also, following up several times with the mother and painting the father immediately as a probable deviant just because they do notvwant your help....my alarmbells go off. I would not want you near my family either.
I'm concerned why you feel so defensive about this. Everything she explained was actually helpful to people who think that 7-9 is too early... also she states many times this is just an example.
@tenzindongak320 I believe that it's a necessary thing to teach young children some of these things because CSA can happen at any age for children. In my case, the teacher used fear and physical harm to stop me from doing anything. At age 15, I knew that what he was doing to me was wrong, but saying NO and STOP over and over didn't do anything. Afterward, I struggled with finding the correct language to explain what had happened to me because of the lack of sex talks from my parents and sex ed. And has a result i kept it hidden away for 15 years because my brain was trying to protect me from what happened, so it's important to teach young children age-approprite content. And yes, because of my experience, I have a different view on this topic, but I don't see that it has being a bad thing
What age would you feel more comfortable explaining this topic to a child in your opinion?
@@KathleenHemaOP will say 16 😂😂
I wonder why the concept of "sex" wouldn't be known already at that point.
Since my son is not even two I can't tell from the parenting side but from my own childhood in the countryside, the concept of animals having sex to have offspring was conveyed rather easy at a young age.
An influencer posted a video discovering her husband had assaulted both of their daughters (aged 2 and 4) and her children were able to let their mother know who touched them in her video titled “I married a monster”. Child abuse happens often and unfortunately ❤️🩹
I hadn't seen that. Those kids are so young! It's so unfortunate that this happens but you are right - it happens often. I encourage parents to have these talks to prevent abuse but age-appropriate education can also provide the recognition and language to stop the abuse earlier rather than later.