How We Lie to Ourselves
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
- We are liars of genius when it comes to hiding uncomfortable facts from ourselves. But there’s real wisdom in understanding how we manage to deceive ourselves - and real utility in learning to be a little bit more honest with ourselves.
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"Lying to our selves is more deeply ingrained than lying to others. " Fyodor Dostoyevsky
Is that from "The Idiot"?
@@Yotrymp The Brothers Karamazov
Sometimes u need to hit rock bottom to wake up and realize that lying to yourself is the most toxic thing you can do.
So true. We find ourselves in our shadows.
Matt at that bottom of life, the point when you cannot hide that lie anymore, that's the moment when true enlightenment can happen, and I often think about this what do we need to beat ourselves to that point to understand the lie we're living
Matt Boi, u will always lie no matter wut. Ur run by so many things. Ur "free will" is none existent. If you want to eat it is because of your stomach telling u to eat and what to eat. Pretty much every move u make is done by factors we bearly fully know yet. You are but a clueless living deed thing that is made up of many deed things that make many living things into one sort of not dead thing, that has the nerve to claim it has free will.
Realization and acknowledgement is the first step to solving a problem so first step DONE
First step DONE indeed :)
Damn the animation on this one is crazy
ResmaDnB UK ikr, so realistic
holy shit ur right its absolutely STUNNING
i don't know, guys, this was made long after cory white house de chou taihen, but that anime had a more appealing style and fluid animations, in my opinion. you would assume that something that was made in 2017 would be better animated.
Overly Asian lmao
Overly Asian I don't really care about the animation that arc was trash I'd much rather forget that anime existed
Awkward party...
this is the weirdest thing on their channel, why is everyone so normal about this video in the comments lol
I'm going to slip into something more comfortable..........like a taxi
See Festen. Or Melancholia. THOSE are awkward parties.
Aren't all our parties are like this?
They simply magnified the problems in this video.
César Andrade I got you beat.. Watch 'happiness' if you want awkward
I convinced myself I had no more feelings for him. I convinced myself I have commitment issues. Why? Because I am afraid. Afraid of being hurt, but also afraid of being loved.
"Afraid of being loved"
Cliché as that sounds, it's painfully true for a lot of us. I spent so long being deathly scared of rejection, before finally realising that what really terrified me was the possibility of someone else actually loving me. Still working on my almost non-existing self love, but at least now I know why all those crushes failed terribly. Deep down I never gave them a chance
Wow, I can relate so much. I used to friendzone girls that liked/loved me without even noticing that. I was just rejecting them. Probably because I wasn't capable of loving and accepting myself. I still struggle with this, though.
Now, I've finally come across someone who has had the same experience in life. Thank you for your comment :)
NebachadnezzaR there are realities in clichés I guess
Nikolai Shulgin not one human experience is exclusive, which is scary but reassuring
no some will
Damn, this hit home. All scenarios made me somewhat uncomfortable and weird. Good job.
They are good, Melancholic Thug. Some days I wonder if I have been brainwashed into a cult.
+coreycox2345
Hello there! I wanted to confess you that I have seen all of the 538 videos from this channel. And I really don't feel like I am brain washed at all! :- ) It has been an invaluable source of wisdom and enrichment for me. We should never be afraid of knowledge. We all have the capacity to judge and decide whether we can use these insights for our lives or not. In order to go through a " brain wash" you should be separated from your family and friends and be indoctrinated 24/7 for quite some time. Watching two youtube videos a week, 10 minutes all together, will never harm you :- )
I am just saying, so that you can enjoy these videos without fearing anything.
Hope to see you under another video. Have a nice weekend :- )
I don't know i'm getting a very cult vibe from this person. Very friendly, I dont trust those smilies
A Starkman I suspected that this was the work of an anonymous madman who has been trying to brainwash me. I am determined to manage my own critical thinking. Whatever.
A starkman
This is how far we have come in this world...If you are kind you become suspicious..How sad really.
All of your videos all so valuable. The hard part is remembering the advice constantly and implementing it into our lives.
We dont want to change ourselves.
We don't want to change our circumstances.
We don't want others to change too drastically.
We simply hate change, because it requires effort and open mindedness.
I try to be open minded, I try to deal with constant feedback but it does not work all the time.
I find myself so often telling myself some nonsense, but in that moment I still believe it and react to it.
sometimes we slip but recognize it too late.
Shit happens.
path of least resistance: staying the same
I often tell myself it’s ok to eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches every time my tummy rumbles...
The GearShots stay strong warrior
Really? If that's your biggest problem in life you live one hell of a blessed life.
I might be missing a joke here, but I will take it seriously nonetheless: Well, I think it might indicate some other troubles or worries. While it might sound like something simple, silly or not-important, it could in reality feel as or be something much more serious and troubling. Alright, I've had my say; cheers, all~! :)
This is why I love UA-cam comments.
does this involve weight or is this a joke i missed
School of life it's my third parent
my first, actually
I wish they were my grandparents parents.
We're parents of someone else. Imagine the change.
I really like reading comments on this channel. Seeing in a way people with similar thoughts.
Jameske87 it usualy does. In normal yt channels.
The person that started acting all defensive is the most typical one i see, it might be just because its the easiest to see and because my mom does it a lot. She is a designer and illustrator and she sometimes asks me for my opinion and im a pretty honest person so I tell her the truth and many times she acts defensive and yet she keeps asking for my opinion. Strange, how the mind works.
It appears that you're offering pretty good advice if she keeps coming back for more lmao.
Well I agree with the other comment. Maybe she gets defensive at the moment to avoid immediate pain, as the video suggest, but later she would think about it and find it useful and then comeback for more advice. Keep being honest.
The School of Life is a huge step forward in human society. It teaches us all the important things that public institutions failed to.
I lie to myself about friends. I believe they will all go away. So I don't need them. I lie about feeling good about my body, I'm fat and I want to be pretty again. I lie about being the strongest emotionally, I just want someone to take care of me. I'm tired of being the one in charge.
The topic made me recall L monsters speech. Do you know death note? L said we humans are lying monsters we pretend to have a lot of popularity but in reality we feel lonely. We eat but we aren't hungry. And he goes on listing humans contradictory habits
Don't tell me some imbecile is trying to shame you, icieWind Snitram?
haha this is so weird. I read in the comments before that someone likes reading comments on this channel because they come across people who really feel similar. And I'm like yea maybe but also all I'm reading is pretty general and expected. And then I read your comment and I get kinda startled with each word how so similar I'm feeling nowadays. It's like I was sleep walking and I wrote these words.
The Manic Happiness is the saddest one. Their pain is so masked and people often don't see through it.
danekarl True. It is sad because maybe it's what happens to someone around us, but it can be more difficult to recognize, so we can't help very much.
I'm happy TSOL is trending -- it's exactly what this world needs most right now
I regret that I had my speakers out loud
Rattler same here
Thank god you said speakers.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I feel srry 4 ppl who listened without earphones and volume at full
LMAO ME HAHAHHA
IM SO FUCKING HAPPY RIGHT NOW
I Don't Skate Why?
Thomas O'Malley Sure it can last long
You sure you're not just "fine"?
2. Manic cheeriness
Cannaman Why?
1. My mother loves to talk about her prison days in Mecca!
I am so sorry that she ended up in jail back then, but frankly, it was all her fault. But there is something very charming and interesting about the way she denies it. Of course, the lies we tell ourselves are always more beautiful than the reality they replace.
So my mother doesn't obey any rules she herself hadn't set. That's why on that journey she didn't care that her visa was expired. She wanted to stay longer , so she did. One day she got assaulted by two thieves.
Then the police came and the thieves accused my mother of being the thief! She doesn't speak Arabic, so she couldn't defend herself.
She didn't even had her passport with her so they took her to jail. Imagine to be locked up in a foreign country where you don't know anybody! Besides, she had no idea how long she was going to stay there.
But she was convinced that it was all organised by God, for her to have the experience, to meet the people there, to suffer, to endure and to prove her faith to Him no matter what disasters life brings.
Some days later a man from the Turkish embassy visited her in prison. She explained to him that she was innocent. And when he asked her how she was doing she said:
" I am very fine. I am observing the people here."
Two weeks later she got out, escorted by the police to the airport and sent back home to Turkey.
Imagine how humiliating all this can be, for a woman in her sixties.. But she went through all that like the hero of a drama extra written for her by God.
Unfortunately I am not a believer, but I do envy all the possibilities of consolation, that the believers have. My mother will never have to ask:
" Why me ?".
Instead she will firmly say:
" Precisely me" , because God wanted it for me.
Oh and in my case, I could only say: " Why NOT me ? Anything can happen to me anytime....And as Seneca says: A ship may also sink at the port...."
Well, indeed, if it doesn't hurt anybody, sometimes, it may be alright to avoid the truth. I would never recommend my mother my approach. If a person successfully deludes herself, and you have nothing better to offer her instead, you may also let that be. Of course on this channel there is a great lesson on this subject too:
" Can lying ever be kind"
In some strange cases like my mother's, this may even apply to the lies we tell ourselves...
2. And here is the joke I love the most on this subject:
" So there is this guy who suspects that his wife cheats on him. He hires a private detective to find out what's going on. After one week of a business trip he comes back and asks to the detective:
- So what have you seen?
- Sir, the first day when you were gone, your wife met this very handsome young man. And then they went to a fancy restaurant. After that they went to see a movie. After the movie, late at night, they went to your place , right to your bedroom. Then they hugged each other.
- And then ??
- Then they closed the curtains.
So the husband says:
- God damn it! You pay a fortune to a private detective and even then, you can't be absolutely sure!!
3. The best cure for this is Alain de Botton's "Philosophical Meditation". You must watch the video they have made about it.
Sorry that this comment got out of control and became too long :- )
Thank you for this very valuable lesson!
As always, thanks for the mirror!
the maniac happiness one hit me hard. i’ve always thought that i was that kind of crazy happy person and mental illness brings me down, but it honestly might be a coping skill when times get rough because it will come out of the blue
I don't care for the insinuation that when we decry something as weird or disgusting, we're secretly into that thing for that kind of thinking leads to opening too many Pandoran boxes and invalidating many righteous movements.
Fear breeds curiosity.
NoirRaven I allways hated that train of tought! x). It's a cheap way to try to invalidate someone's opinion. Even tho the girl was over-acting to make the point, it's not a Smart way of thinking.
NoirRaven I don't think that's what the video is saying, though. It might be what people take from it but all the vid's saying is that criticizing something CAN be used to hide one's own shameful feelings. It wasn't saying that's always the case. However, I can see people watching this and thinking that every time someone gets a little too self righteous, they can just invalidate what they're saying by going "the only reason you're saying that is because you probably secretly like it" which is extremely annoying. Like you said, thinking like that can get in the way of movements.
Using hypercriticism as a defense mechanism is probably used far less than genuinely believing a thing is wrong, but it does happen. Think of how many people decry, for instance, the LGBT community, but that's only because they're gay themselves.
The message is good, but not complete and wrong in some cases. We lie to ourselves because we choose comfort over risk.
If I'm making music and have a decent fanbase and income from my songs or albums I might tell myself that trying something else won't work and I don't need to do that anyway.
Assuming this is a lie (aka using the fact that I play/produce music as the reason about why an idea about changing the way I make music is wrong), then the reason we tell the lie is to save ourselves from the possibility of financial instability and loss of fans/rejection.
The message of the video is "Facing up to your lies leads to growth", but if I am lying to myself about having a romantic attraction to my opposite gendered best friend out of fear of never being friends again or if I'm using my known musical experience as a misdirection so i don't have to take a risky move with my production or whatever, being truthful in either situation can backfire or else we would fucking ask our best friend out and stop using voice synthesisers.
The biggest lie I told myself was that I was straight
Jeanne-Marie Tchoumak well,is not a lie anymore
damn thats deep
Jeanne-Marie Tchoumak ha! Gayyyyyyy
That happens to a lot of people. It's sad, but really common.
Click every single video you see from these guys
TSOL? Yeah sure, teach me about the "pleasures of outdoor sex!" LOL some vids are great, some ridiculous
+Sebastian Elytron Censorious, are we?
A B No, just fucking sick of people lauding the School of Life like it's some Godsend that never puts a foot wrong and is always relevant to their lives. Decent UA-cam channel, but no more than that.
+Sebastian Elytron if so many people find it relevant to their lives, it must be relevant.
"if so many people find it relevant to their lives, it must be relevant" or maybe it's just a way of avoiding things that are relevant.
Could you make a video about Relationship Anxiety and how to cope with it? I'd love to see it.
Wolfgang Romine They have some videos that talk about this subject, I think you'll be able to find them on their video list.
My whole life is a lie.
another jewel from the school of life, I've been feeling down lately and this video helped me realize that its got allot to do with the fact that I haven't been very honest with myself lately. Thank you school of life.!)
Amazing job! I have been following your channel for a while and your content has molded my ideologies about life. Thank you for helping me learn 😊.
The School of Life is not thanked enough for such incredible videos.
Thanks.
I often lie to myself that I like something just to make it easier to do well in it. I forced myself to love Physics because I wasn't doing well in class and now that I'm in Engineering, something makes me feel like I don't really belong.
Feeling offended takes up all our attention. It muddies the waters. When we are defensive, we no longer pay attention to information that may - at its heart - be correct but challenging.
Today it's my birthday, and this actually made me feel like I can change things for good, since I'm only 22, thank you school of life.
I agree with that guy at the end. There's nothing more important to me than space in my apartment. That's why I prefer 2D women; the only space they take up is on my hard drive.
Hard drive or hard-on?
As we pursue the truths of ourselves, let's not forget these lies are told with the best of intentions, and should be dealt with cautiously and respectfully.
Fam use headphones
Phantumix thanks fam. Watch out for the surprise orgasm!
I just watched it in a bus 😅
BUT IT'S OK
Fam use VR
This is a great video, and necessary for out narcissistic times. That said, the trouble with lying to yourself, is that you typically don't realize it in the moment. That's why self-deception is so terrifying and powerful; that tendency, a very natural psychological defense mechanism made up of various self-serving biases, is hard wired in our CNS, and one typically doesn't realize (maybe can't realize) the degree of self-deception that they are exercising, until after the fact. It's one of those "hindsight is 20/20" things, really. Knowing that we all have a tendency to self-deceive, and understanding the specific biases that function in that process is a big part of fighting self-deception, but it'll never be good enough to completely eradicate one's tendency to do so. The "need" and/or "desire" to be right, correct, better, the best, etc., in any given moment is usually so strong that even if one understands the biases, they still can't completely control how they are reacting and processing information moment to moments well enough, or in such a way as to assure that they're never engaged in self-deceit.
If you understand how the mind/brain works, particularly how emotions function in information processing in our CNS, and subsequently understanding that science and philosophy have ruled out free will (libertarian free will, that is), then you're well aware that one can never completely overcome self-deception, because you really don't have control over it in the moment. That said, one can learn to gain immense control, and become a master at controlling these things, much better than the average joe/jane, but one can never completely achieve full control. ✌🏼
To critize something, does not mean we secretly want that. That's a dumb logic. If I Say: "The emoji movie is a piece of shit", trust me, I don't wanna watch it.
Obviously not everything we criticize stems from a hidden desire on the subject.
The lesson focuses on looking at ourselves when we do it in extreme measures, without knowing enough about the thing.
A bit more like encouraging us to look at ourselves and explore why we really feel so negatively on that subject.
I frequently practice this meditative exercise of looking at why I strongly feel against something, e.g. like watching a Horror movie.
First, I don't like Horror movies.
Second, I'm already suffering from hyper anxiety.
Third, I have better things to do.
Fourth, I need to be able to sleep at night.
...
Then I shift perspective, and try to find reasons for doing it.
First, I could potentially toughen up through this experience, learn from extremes and feel good about not being in that kind of reality. (only a potential, and has never worked previously, so doesn't change my opinion)
Second, I would have a wider range of friends who could come over and watch horror movies with me.
(not that many people out there who only like horror movies and wouldn't be just as happy with any other genre of movie to watch, that would make me happy. Hence not worth paying much attention too)
Third, I would feel more alive after having watched it, than I would have, having watched a comedy.
(I watch movies in the evening to night. Being awake and anxious is not what I want before going to sleep.)
Having done this in the past, I have occasionally been out with friends and watched a couple of horror movies. But I also know deep down, why I don't like them and why that is unlikely to change in the future.
The Char Lie Lhama yeah, it's so satisfing to understand why we react in a particular way to things, the surface reaction is usually a hint of something we can learn about ourselves.
SunTzu The video wasn't saying that. It's saying being hypercritical of something CAN be used to deny your own shameful feelings, but that doesn't mean every time you say you don't like something it means you secretly do.
SunTzu Nvm someone already answered! Cheers 😅
Yes, I see that point now. It kind of triggered me, hehe. The human physique is so strange sometimes...
Great production! The acting, music, cuts, mood and messaging - so well integrated - but especially the messaging. Kuhdooz!
I'm working really hard this year trying to understand and improve myself. I spend an awfully large amount of time on introspection and trying to be objective about myself. I quit porn, eat healthier, reduced alcohol and caffeine intake, meditate daily, exercise more, tried dating again after 5 years, try everything that comes my way etc.
Unfortunately, it hasn't improved how I feel about myself at all. In fact I'm now even more acutely aware of what a pointless human I am. I don't really want to do anything with my life. I have no idea what I want anymore. I think about how glad I'll be to be dead one day. Literally never felt so bad about myself. Ignorance really is bliss.
One of the most useful videos on youtube i have come across recently. Great work.
Sometimes lies are helpful. I used to believe the lie that if I was a good person, and was confident, outgoing, assertive, funny, and interesting, it wouldn't matter how short, scrawny, and ugly I was...eventually I'd meet a woman who wanted to go out with me.
Because I kept believing that, I met, and tried to ask out thousands of women. I always put my best foot forward, and made a lot of strangers smile, laugh, and have meaningful conversations with me.
I'm pretty much an old man now (old enough to reject the idea of being 70 years old with teenaged kids), and I've still never been on a date. But at least I can say I tried my hardest. If I hadn't believed the lies that were told to me, and I told myself, I wouldn't have kept trying as long and as hard as I did, and now I'd have a lot of "what if I hadn't given up?" regret. At least the lies saved me from that.
"Living in a lie? I live in like 27 lies" George costanza.
Im a simple man. I see Dr. Hannah, I click
Dr. Hannah xD
A few years ago,I discovered I was a filthy liar.Hardly ever lie to others but deceived myself non stop.
In the name of GROWTH we endure a shit ton of PAIN already.
Guys, you're fantastic in what you're doing. This world needs this information. Thanks.
This touched on so many open wounds, you don't eve realize. Thanks.
I don't lie to myself. (Get it?)
Thank you!
I don't feel very well these days
Roberta Nimrod I hope you get put of that mood soon! Cheer up, life can be really beautiful and hard times will pass eventually! 🌺
Parnian thank you! That gives me hope
I wish you all the best
Thanks for calling out these lies. Well done.
If only more people could and would recognize
the mere existence of these problems ....
Channel for Positivity l Understanding l Justice I guess the majority know about these problems, but sometimes it's easier to keep doing the same (in this case lyring to ourselves) because we're afraid of changing our way of doing somehing. At least, I know that I've lied to myself for a very long time, but at the moment, I couldn't stopped because I thought that it would be catastrofic.
I often tell myself I want to conquer the world to help people, but then I laugh hysterically and have a power trip of thinking about conquering the world
this is sick, like too much overcomplicating life! take it easy folks, let people live natural how they are
Your most important video yet..., imo. And I'm a big fan who finds alot of the work produced here critical.
Thhinking about unsubscribing, while these videos always seem to speak to truth all they ever do is depress me even further.
Relative Reality funny you say that. I think their videos are liberating! Maybe it s the way each of us sees things!
If they depress you, it means they trigger you in some way! That could be a signal for you to get working on some things ;)
@slayagecentral Almost definately, but its difficult to say what I am supposed to do. For example, I am not as social as I would like to be, but I dont want to go against my introverted nature and force myself into situations ill be uncomfortable in. For some things there just arent ideal solutions :L
i am also an introvert and you sound verry much like my former self, dying to be social but not wanting to be uncomfertabal being social. being too much around strangers, being too much around a bunch of people is not my cup of tea, this just is one of the quirks of being an intovert. it just is the hand you have been given, acceptance is key here. only when you accept yourself with all your imperfections you can start to grow as a person. off course there is no simple trick for overcoming this. i guess it is about being bold and stepping out of your comfort zone and once out of your comfort zone, it just is going to be unpleasant for you, but if you explore those tiny steps in the growth zone, you will enhance your comfort zone. i myself have had a great deal of personal growth stepping out of my comfortzone practicing mindfulness, which has made "more social" one could say, i am still the introvert as always but i interact more with people then i ever did and i feel much more happier because of this. check the article regarding this, best of luck being an introvert in this extroverted world! ;) neurosciencenews.com/stress-social-competence-7678/
Its not the fact that I want to be social myself though, thats the thing, I get all the human interraction I need meeting friends every two weeks or so & talking with the people I live with. its other peoples needs im concerned with, Im expected to join my parents over the holidays for 2 weeks for example and my social battery usually dies by day 4. I would like it if I could be more social for them & others, thats the problem though, there is nothing to be gained for me personally by putting myself out there aside from pleasing others. And im not sure if putting on a mask is any healthier than being a bit distant (not rude mind you, just quiet), I would be lying to myself about who I am and what I want.
Im facing a similar career problem, I have the choice between a higher paid office job and a job that seems like fun and is less emotionally draining but also less well paid. One is bad for my wealth, the other bad for my happiness. Whatever choice I make in either situation I will regret it :/ But thank you for the article nonetheless, I will read it in a bit when I have more time :)
As always, great video. Especially in this one, I think the chosen piece of music fits perfectly.
Absolutely everyone lies to themselves in some form for some reason. Even just thinking that ‘chances are’ this thing, whether good or bad, is more likely to happen, is a lie to an extent. Something that isn’t a lie is acknowledging all bits of information, and seeing the chances of something as it is, or having the idea of it open in your mind.
There is just some point where it may become clinical, or maybe even before that point, where it should be addressed.
This has been the most relevant, beautiful and brutally honest thing I've seen to date.
honestly expressing ones emotions isn’t as hard as we believe, just let go.
This is wonderful. Perfect for introspection. Thank you.
Very good, we really have to be more honest to grow.
Incredible material. Thank you guys.
These theatrical performances are my favourite content in the channel.
I've realized all of these points at age 15 and have truly understood them
Im just trying to watch a YT video, then this first guy appears to be watching porn at full blast with no headphones. Chill out
I lie to myself to escape reality , because reality is painful , and dream is so beautiful .
For example :-
I was in love with a girl but unfortunately due to circumstenses we arent able to get together , so i lie to myself that she is living with me everytime in my memory , i dream about her everytime , i know it kills productivity , and put away from reality , but i am so in it that i dont want anything else , like drugs .
Lying about life is part of the social convention, and a show of strength. If you show weakness - that is, by telling the truth - you will be made an outcast.
Very helpful and insightful. I'm always trying to learn about myself, I do lie to myself but I usually end up at some point facing my truth.
Love the new presentation form. Better than the flash moving dummies , the are distracting and noisy.
But also we missed your voice Alan! :(
Very well put together! Bravo!
This video leads to question am I really expressing an opinion that I believe in or am I just lying to myself? It's confusing now
This says so much about our society and me! Surely my favorite one from school of life. Brilliance!
I really like The school of life, but many times when I finish watching videos that discuss themes about the relation of oneself to life's issues, I get quite depressed. I'll explain why. Through the school of life I learned a lot about myself, my feelings, encouraging lessons about not being ashamed of my vulnerability, and various other issues involving relationships, life challenges, and life itself. But what makes me depressed is knowing people's hypocrisy, their ignorance, even though they all share the same feelings. The world is indifferent. Although the school of life teaches us in a didactic and comforting way how to accept ourselves, and accept our reality, and the reality of how people and the world are, and how we deal with them in order to obtain a satisfying life to the fullest, we know that this does not happen. we live in an ignorant world. We are faced with reality and to get ourselves into the world we have to mold ourselves, hide our feelings, follow patterns and behaviors, deal with judgments, wear masks, prove injustice and do injustice. We can not learn to be emotionally intelligent, we have to learn by observing suffering and experiencing suffering, ultimately by living. Not reading a book or watching videos on UA-cam, this is not a criticism of the school of life. As I said, I really like The school of life. But I believe that the reality is very obscure and indifferent to the solutions proposed here.
I love this video. But, I have one flaw with it. As I do love to hear the truth of our flaws, I also appreciate knowing how to fix them. After all, this is the "school" of life.
Nope. As a child I believed all liars spend eternity in the lake of fire. That doesn't mean I never lied to anyone, but after my father shot himself when I was 15 and had brought home a flue and after 3 obvious warnings I blamed myself for waking up to see him sitting on his bed naked in prayer and went back to sleep.
I do not lie to myself to escape inner anguish because I do not seek an escape from mental pain. I prefer to suffer.
How ironic that such an event made me completely different from the rest of humanity who do lie themselves.
Whoever lies to himself is not a genuine truth seeker.
Damn! Everybody looked at me when those porn noises began, and I had to explain that its just an School Of life video
School of Life: How to Make Life
Bwahahaha XD
#5 ohhhh boy this one’s prevalent in the art community
I liked the new format. I find these behaviors to be true. I would like to see some of the hurdles and life challenges middle age brings on.
Best youtube video I have ever seen! Thank you!!!
What's it called when we're afraid to take joy in things because of we think we're worried we're covering up something else and can't identify it?
Thank you. This video is a part of my wake up call.
I also like how everyone in the video had a problem
Oh fuck. I have been calling everything boring for the last few days and you just made me realise that it is actually me who is really being boring. ugh. Life is so difficult
a lovely video of our inner thoughts
I WASN'T READY
Is there then a right way to be? Or would we just be deluding ourselves if we claim to be?
I love these.
Damn, this taught me that I might be more defensive about many topics than I thought.
Sometimes what people are saying is just that. Face value. It's up to individuals to be honest with themselves and others; people are not mind readers and shouldn't be expected to be. Sometimes it's just not that complicated.
Thanks School of Life.
Thank you. Just thank you. Video is amazing as always
We can't know what is real until we stand outside the world as it is.
Sometimes I know exactly what I'm lying to myself about and why but I do it anyways
Thank you for keeping the text in longer
beautiful video. Thank you ~
Thank you school of life
Thank you for the self-facing content. It is truly beneficial to my life.
I needed this. Thanks