Addiction and Recovery: A How to Guide | Shawn Kingsbury | TEDxUIdaho
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- Опубліковано 29 сер 2016
- Shawn, a promising athlete, took a turn towards alcohol and drugs. After 18 years of addiction, jail, detox, and treatment facilities, he found sobriety. Shawn began rebuilding his life. In an effort to bring help to others who were struggling, he founded a Pura Vida Recovery (PVR), an active sober community. In two short years, PVR has changed the landscape of recovery in Spokane, welcoming over 400 addicts walk through the front doors that display the organization’s motto, “Fit for change, Fit for life.”
Shawn, a promising athlete, took a turn towards alcohol and drugs. After 18 years of addiction, jail, detox, and treatment facilities, he found sobriety. Shawn began rebuilding his life. In an effort to bring help to others who were struggling, he founded a Pura Vida Recovery (PVR), an active sober community. In two short years, PVR has changed the landscape of recovery in Spokane, welcoming over 400 addicts walk through the front doors that display the organization’s motto, “Fit for change, Fit for life.”
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Excellent my friend ... here is a great quote ... “Your addiction wasn’t your problem. Your addiction was your attempt to solve the problem. In all cases of addiction that I have seen, there’s deep pain that comes out of trauma. The addiction is the person’s unconscious attempt to escape from the pain. " -- Gabor Mat
Teacher Robin 100💯💯
Teacher Robin thank you for the inspiration and motivation, I needed to see this quote today
Thank you!
In many cases trauma is exactly what is wrong
But it doesn't apply to all of us
🙏
I “failed” treatment 4 times, too! The difference in the fifth program is that my counselor made sure we had not just a plan for what NOT to do (use drugs). We each left with an individualized plan for how to replace it with meaningful activity and connection. Connection with our deepest selves, our purpose, loved ones, and community. We were always encouraged to come back, talk about how it’s going, and adjust it…anytime. I went from thinking I would never get off the streets and on drugs… to only 3 courses and a culminating project left in a degree program. I’m motivated, at peace, and eager to give back the help I received. I no longer beat myself up for experiencing addiction. Unconditional acceptance taught me not to judge others, and that every single person is equally valuable. I am grateful I survived…many don’t, especially today. If I’m still here, there must be a reason. This is the core belief stigma destroys in people struggling with this devastating disease. No wonder the recovery rate is too low. We don’t tell people with most any other disease they are unworthy of recovery, or failures if they don’t, although there are a few we treat similarly. Some mental illnesses and metabolic, endocrine, and inflammatory diseases that cause weight gain come to mind. Everyone needs to know we are not our disease, and we all deserve to be here. We all have a purpose. ❤️🩹
"Opposite of addiction isn't sobriety opposite of addiction is connection"
YES! The opposite of addiction is not sobriety -- it's connection!
Dah 🤦♀️
So what's your point? DUMMY!.
I made the choice to change today and that's what brought me here. I've tried quitting drugs before and only ended up relapsing. Never again, this is not the life I want. I'm tired of being a disappointment to my folks and my pals😪. Hopefully I'll get through this ✊🏾.
God bless you 🙏
I'm sending you love. Addicts do recover. I can be among your support brother if you want?
very well spoken... inspiring shawn thank you ...im checking into a 3 month inpatient rehab program... pray for me guys ... im done with destroying myself.. i want to be fully clean and sober
5 months later bro !!! I hope you’re doing well ❤️ I love you, you got this
Hope ur doing well and it's working out for you
Starting my recovery today. Very scary but i do have a plan.
Just for today
Good luck❤️
Hey bro doing drugs and drinking alcohol is ok. You're truly rehabilitated when you can do them appropriately.
Have a beer or a glass of wine or 2 with your partner after work. Smoke a joint on Friday night staying in with Netflix. And when you are out on the town? Bang a few lines with your boys and have a good time.
But go home. Go to bed. Get up in the morning when you're supposed to.
Keep doing the things you need to do.
Taking a hit, dusting a few beers or banging a few lines socially is not a bad thing. Neglecting your responsibilities is.
Be a man. Take real control. There is no need to lock yourself away from certain things, or frequent certain people. Truly be in control you will respect yourself so much more. And with self respect comes things only the lotto can bring.
Hope you are doing well and sticking with it because you're worth it!!
@@garrywhitelaw8723 This might be the case for you, Garry, but some people are literally incapable of doing "just enough" and then go home at the end of the night. It's literally all or nothing for so, so, so many addicts....and I think most addicts in recovery would say that those who do try to casually drink or do drugs, they're playing with fire. Someone might tell himself that once he's been sober for 6 months, he'll allow himself to go out for a beer or two with friends, and the night ends with him passed out in a gutter. It's not about willpower, it's an illness. You're fortunate enough that your brain allows for the casual use of these things, but many people's brains can't handle that.
This is wonderful!! Physical activity is something that is not promoted in the recovery community enough!! There need to be more programs like this!
Today; 3/17/22 I AM 4 YEARS CLEAN!! at the height of my active addiction, I went to sleep each night praying I wouldn't wake up.. because I was TIRED. Tired of the chase, tired of lying, tired of scheming/stealing to get my next bag of pills.. my hubby found out what was going on and told me I had 2 choices: pack a bag and go to my mom's and get clean, or pack a bag and just get gone, he couldn't continue to watch me destroy myself, our girls, and our marriage.. I took the 30 days and got into a MAT program. Now here I stand..4 freaking years! I see and feel the world differently now..and use the coping tools to express my feelings..good or bad ones.. because numbing them doesn't solve them!! We. Can. Overcome. Addiction!!
PLEASE, can I get in contact with you?
Email, something?
I NEED HELP
I REALLY NEED HELP!!!
Can we please be in touch somehow?
Tell me your formula? Step by Step
PLEASE
I'm unmarried
But I'll not want a guy meeting me in such a state
I'll be 27 by August
@@sammiee.4310 go to church ⛪️
6 years clean from h addiction used iv. Lost alot. Trafficked by rehab owners and employees in South Florida. Drugged and assaulted. Abusive relationships. Crimes. Deaths of my sister, best friends and family members. Became a nurse while in drug court, probation dropped when I was facing 15 felonies put into 1. Graduated number 6 in my class. Raising my daughter and little son, tried to open a peer center, spoke on a conference w people from the white house and traveled the country to share our stories. Started ths channel breaking chains the Whitney Project. It's been an amazing ride.
I am very proud of you Shawn. Thank you for sharing your story on such an influential platform. And I agree that recovery will greatly benefit from a tribe of like minded people. I am excited to be involved! Thank you
Thanks Shawn for your personal story and inspiring service!
I'm going to rehab tomorrow, I'm ready to live free.
Sending you love and prayers. I can be among your support group
What a great program! Connection, community, compassion make up a powerful trio for long-term recovery.
The problem is the community. No one wants it in their back yard
Great Ted talk from a great human being. Thanks for your compassion and commitment to help society .
Shawn is the real deal and someone who gets what needs to happen to change from the inside out.
I needed to hear this, I am in Seattle Washington. Dealing with wanting to relapse currently. I have a wife and three kids and it’s sad how much addiction has control over me. I will not let it get the best of me but it’s hard not to give in.
Duane Jones i don’t know you but I am wishing for you to hold strength inside yourself; a stranger living in Houston Texas. By the way to show you sincerity i chose today as the day i put down crystal. We can do this & i wish you a happier life.
Duane Jones stay strong do you use subs that will help w cravings please stay strong ITS NOT WORTH IT ITS NEVER WORTH IT
I gave into a relapse after 5yrs of sobriety I lost my job, my savings, my family, and the right to see my kids it's not worth the consequences and this time it only took 5mths for this too happen. Being sober may be hard at times but it's easier than all the work I have to put in stay sober it's better
@@ryan8430 amen
@@ntactime_w3488 brooo me too these withdrawals sum bro wtf
Thanks for this message, Shawn - very encouraging.
This is the most blunt and plain TED i have seen
Awesome Buddy... Paying it Forward... The Act of Kindness Love it...
I am interning as a Clinical psychologist in my state hospital and this Corona virus lockdown has unexpectedly caused an influx of the victims of Drug addiction due to the unavailability of drugs in this lockdown. Most of my patients have had relapses before and I needed to watch this video .
Whenever something bothers me. Tedtalk is my go to place for knowledge. Love it.
Thanks for your insight Shawn and congrats on your recovery!
Going on week so far sober going be tuff road I cam feel it
Good job keep it going and be steady. You will soon be fully recovered and free❤
Yes, yes, yes!! Exactly!!
Each one is as unique as their fingerprint.
Brains continue to grow and can be rewired. 💕
I’m ready
Thankyou & God Bless 🙏❤️🙏
So much respect 🙌 to all those helping others heal. 🦋 It's a true calling. I absolutely found my purpose in telling my story of borderline death ☠️ and life implosion 🤯 to healing my brain and body to get my life back! Much luv! 🕉 You can heal!
PLEASE can you help me do that for myself?
I'll REALLY want that for me
I know I can heal too
Thanks for sharing Shawn!
What a great video. Thank you for sharing this insight with all of us!
I love that this video was 5 years ago, and my sobriety anniversary is 5 years today.
Awesome
I work with people in active addiction and this speech is powerful. You are an inspiration. Each and every person I support is as unique as their own fingerprint ! I will always hold what you have said in my mind when I support my clients. Thank you
Please can you help me too?
My mom overdosed for the first time yesterday. She's lucky to be alive. My sister and I are going to be there to help try and reset her course into treatment with a social worker.
It is turning me into a best that I have notice that I with in help
Today day 1 once again i need you're prayers.
You got this
I’m currently a bad alcoholic but I’m so bloody ready to change my life
You can do this...one step forward and one day at a time...❤️😊☮️
I hope you succeed. Alcohol has taken almost everything from me. I wouldn't wish this addiction on anyone. All I want is to be free from it.
@@destined2sleep thanks bro my city has useless social services so my detox date has been pushed way back but trying to keep positive
@@Lifeswicked do you have insurance?
@@madeinhisimage9277 no
This is amazing ❤️
There is a different way to live thank you for your story. After stopping learning how to live and living is a step many people miss and because we forget this important step we go back out some die.
Thanks again for this video
this just make me want to cry
💌
Keep coming back....broo
Thank you Shawn.
Great
Currently 36 days clean from meth this last year I lost alot thank God no trouble with the law
i hope you are doing well sir
67 comments, this content needs to reach more, 1 love my addict friends wanting to move on in life and show the people we love that we actually love.....
Wow!!
Love one another as I have loved you....
Amen!
Very Informative...Keep it up.
2 days clean
2 years soon
I leave in 9 hours. Terrified, but extremely ready, all at the same time
thanks
I relaps 8 times i feel i cant .i no i not going give up on myself that i cant do..will not all get it right oneday
I've relapsed four times after leaving detox. I'm wishing you the best. I'm stopping tomorrow I've had enough. Don't give up on yourself I'm not.
Raven Matta, how can I help?
It’s so hard I’m so happy for everyone who betters themselves everyday
I agree totally and i am in recovery myself. I tend to lapse when i am around those who are actively using and for me, it is hard to make friends with anyone as i am fearful of trusting others and the words they speak. I consistently meet people with only one interest in mind, using substances........
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Thanks, I also went through the same and I found sobreity
The opposite of addiction is connection. Connection that supports you to nourish yourself, mind, body and spirit. Get consistent with those things and the world becomed your oyster. 👏👏👏
Love this
Thank you :-)
The opposite of addiction is self love by working thru n healing the past...to thine own self be true N love
I wan u to love me
Dana , your right !! It’s the ability to say I’m ok , may be broke but not broken …
U see this now u blessed
Dont use anymore
Proud of you, brother...
syoell Yoell Spokane Spokane Washington?
Shawn you are inspiration to all the men hear at Pura Vida, me included, thank you for everything you do for us, and when my damn collar bone heals from the recent fracture, I'll be back to put in some service hours at the house that's being renovated right now also even with only one good arm I'll help you get that piano to the 1804 location, thanks for giving me another chance at recovery. Though I'm not a religious man, it feels right to say God bless you 👌
Thank you
Pray for my soul
As with many other addictions, substance abuse addiction can be a life and career threatening experience that requires a lot of conscious effort to overcome, which is what has been shown here. I also recommend having a workbook like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Worksheets for Substance Abuse by Portia Cruise can be a very handy companion to track your progress, stay motivated, and avoid relapse.
great stuff
People who don't know how pained it is expecilly how people who want to leave alcohol, those who have been doing it for years
Okie dokie
Another common denominator of Of successful recovery that I've noticed is taking what we've been through and using it to help others .
Hence the promise, we will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.
great talk
I love this video
Such an amazing post, I love watching all your videos. They are super amazing and informative at the same time. Subscribe your channel already, keep posting more.
I need this
I’d advise you hit up this mate online who sells em drugs and psychedelic substance he’s got good recommendations to help you out on anxiety, depression and ptsd and also help you trip he as been my savior over time
Chubbcrack
He’s on telegram App
Anybody knows the name of the neuroscience podcast he talks about?
I'm getting clean and doing it on youtubev
Addiction is hard man
is this Kyle Kinsburys brother?
I only went to TREATMENT Once &stayed Clean ever since 06/26/2005 whats wrong with me
It’s not the alcohol that’s “cunning, baffling, and powerful”...it’s the “ism”!
Participate in life I like that
Recovery only way to live
I completely agree with you Shawn..i feel so alone every day and that makes me want to use. If we had something like this in my area i would jump on the chance to participate. Unfortunatley NA meeting really dont cut it for me. Id be more into a community like you described. Do you know if there is anything like that in Oceanside ca? Thanks! And thank you for what you do. :)
Same I've been clean for awhile now but I smoke pot and have a couple beers here and there
Shawna T , I feel like NA Meetings will trigger me to find a fellow addict and get high with them, 😳
@@jawallin8734 🤣🤣🤣 how are you clean !!! Pot and alcohol ARE DRUGS !!!
@@simond.7912 well I'm actually off the pot now and I haven't been drinking either
@@simond.7912eeek!!! Judgement does more harm than u could ever truly realize
I haven't never been in jail because of drugs or nothing esle but I have been though d ts and really hurt
… I’m an alcoholic. I us my addiction to sleep. I had a bad pill struggle that I quit….
I see this as a very great way…. I gotta get motivated. “See me, at my best and at my worst.”
See me as a person that is still discovering his self, I love booze.
Wish I could be there.
Imma get back to road work. My legs never did me wrong.
I don’t ever want to be completely alcohol free.
I want my drinking to be manageable for my lifestyle.
99% of Drug addiction stems from unresolved trauma. I wish these "mental health professionals" understood this. Rarely do they even ask why a person turned to drugs to begin with. That my friends is a crying shame. Perhaps if they treated the trauma things would get better. My best advice to anyone dealing with drug addiction is to make peace with your past. None of us can change a thing about our pasts, but we can all start today and lay to rest the ghosts of who we use to be. I ask all my friends share this. I have a feeling someone needs to read it. Let's make an impact.
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Wow thank you iam struggling with addiction right now my plan is to stop tommorow but I say it every day
How can someone contact you for treatment? Most Sincerely 🙏🏻
Gail Freeman have you found help?
The treatment is within you Your just lazy and distracted to take time for yourself
How do I get my brother to go to rehab
Thank you for seeing the truth...how do I contact you or your program?
Kathy Fields, have you found a way to get involved?
I feel down, when i get a chance to use i always take it. Ive made some progress but im struggling to take the final step. I used to wake up everday committed to using with no real goal(otherthansuicide). I would use untill i literally couldnt buy anymore every single dollar i had would go to drugs everyday. Id steal food at the end of the day just to put off the hunger pain. Ive stopped the everyday thing and worked to a time period of between a week or 2 but as soon as i get a chance i relapse and become completely consumed. I go till i just cant buy anymore then wait a week or 2 and do the same. I feel pretty weak everytime. i wonder if ill ever truly stop. Its like part of me just doesnt want to. At first i thought this was rebellion or commitment to bringing about my own destruction, now i just dont know anymore ive worked on my soul/self alot but when i get a chance i let it take over and i cant take back control. In a very real way im not seeing any progress. Im still doing exactly what i used to just less frequently and for less of reason. When i start i always think that i can handle it but by the end of the day i just fail myself. I have a mental illness that adds stress/difficulties to my life/perception of reality i hear the voice of a thing that constantly wants make me feel miserable or small and alot of the time i dont want to go on living I dont have some grandiose reasoning for stopping Im sure ill die worthless and meaningless.
But i dont want this.I dont want to be a freaking junkie i dont want to die a freaking junkie. I started using because i thought maybe its a good way to commit suicide maybe id overdose in a bando and nobody would find me in time. I wished for this begged for it even. I still have times when its all just too much but i know the drugs wont change that. Its just this isnt working, you know.
Hey, you sound so much like me, and others I know, and you described that well I thought. You're definitely not alone there.. I hope that you and I can both find meaning, you sound like you're switched on. All the best from Sydney in Australia.
Try going to church it will help coz your not alone
This is literally my life on point smh
So far I've watched 2 Ted talks on addiction. Looking for some kind of help. So far I've found 2 people throwing sales pitches for their "treatments". Nothing a person can really use on day 1.
Eddie Neal Guitar
Treatment facilities are big business. AA is a option. Often it’s a great start to recovery. It’s free.
Hey brother, Im just a guy in Recovery. I play guitar in a Sober Punk Band
This is a free program. Shawn has helped many men get sober, get off the streets, get housing and get jobs. It's not a treatment facility. It's a community.
Sadly I need help , well that’s what I tell myself for once I wanna stop, but can’t please show me the way ,help me become strong minded it’s not ever to late for myself ,so I see that but why do I still catch myself Relapsing …. I hope nun but the best to those .god bless us
Hello
Wishing for you to gain strength and hope to get through it! Remember that you are stronger than you think that you are, you can do it! And for the things that you can't do, it's ok to ask for help, from others and from a higher power. Reaching out takes strength and courage. One step forward and one day at a time. Much love and hope to you! ☮️❤️😊
Hlo friends i want to ask something related to drugs is it right to not help someone who is dying from drug addiction pls reply if its right or wrong in my opinion that's totally wrong
If you smoke put your ciggeretes further in another line of place.
Step 11 is prayer and meditation. Step 12 is service. Go to as many meetings as possible. Hang around other sober people. Get with a Higher Power. It's called AA
Don't encourage people in recovery to join your cult, please. There is no such thing as an allergen for alcohol, implying people are powerless and must give up all hope and control to your group and some Santa Claus God strips them of their ability to be truly free. NIAA research proves AA helps about 3-7% of addicts recover permanently, whereas spontaneous sobriety is shown to be 3-4 times more effective. You are relying on 70 year old literature made up by a Christian Extremist (Bill W of the Oxford Group) who regularly took LSD to achieve the very "spiritual enlightenment" he went on to insist his followers achieve drug free and only by following his exact dogma. Come on now it's 2021 AA has been a useless group for old men who are full of themselves and hide their broken but blown up ego behind cigarettes and their own personal definition of God. Pshhh.
That’s not the only path to a new way of lot brother, what works for you might not work for everyone else. I respect your path 🙏🏽
Step 1 is Prayer
I understand ur message and I vouch it… if y’all think this guy doesn’t wna help, ur tripping
Good testimony but still no help for a addic how to get help with no insurance where to walk in where to start how to start.
nikola georgiev exactly
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He left that part out...but jail is answer to ur question
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