The WORST Red Flag She Can Have
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When her father gets no respect, you will not get respect.
Had this same issue recently. Chick told me she HATED her father, then said I was just like him in many ways, “but you so sexy” which was odd 😬. I asked why the hate and she said “because he always thinks he’s right and so serious” 🤔
interesting
Maybe he is a bad guy though. That’s not the child’s fault. You can’t choose your family. We would all wish for a great mother and father, but not everyone gets them.
@@meteorworlds 🚨!watch out! THE NOT ALL POLICE!🚨
True true my wife hates her dad and my wife thinks she can pipe back at me all the time with attitude and disrespect
I experienced this first hand. Dated a hot 25 year old, who's father was an alcoholic & he died when she was young. The chick was raised by her single mom. What i experienced?
Lots of disrespect, mocking behaviour, masculine energy, agressive outbursts, constant chit testing & playing games.
Other red flags.. High body count. Irresponsible drinking.. Associating with low quality female friends. LOTS of male friends.. Never apologises. It was CHAOS
Even the good fathers with no vices that paid the bills and provided structure and protection get hated in this society once they’re feminized.
How was the sex😂
Just be glad you came out relatively unscathed!
Never apologize...right into gaslighting.
Same. Divorced my ex cause she was the same. Her dad passed away when she was young and mom let her do whatever she wanted. She could not be led. I have never been so disrespected in my life.
Top 5 Red Flags:
1. Daddy issues
2. Single Mom
3. High body count
4. Feminist
5. Boss babe
Boss babe is the same as ratchet girl. I’d be willing to bet that 9/10 women who have one of these major red flags has daddy issues as well. Instead of high body count, I’d add “addictions”. Things like constant thirst traps, high body count, drinking every weekend etc. put that all in one.
My X wife checks off all the boxes. For realz. 😂
High body count is just asking for hell.
My ex has all of them too. I have pity for her boyfriend.
1, 3, 4 and 5 is the factory setting in America. Some models come from police auctions with some “light mileage” and #2 mods, but they’re no longer discounted in this economy.
high body count , single mom , playing games or drama .....
Yes. Don’t bring chaos into your life.
Had 2 LTR’s with women who had BPD. Both had similar backgrounds (abuse, neglect), but the main component was abandonment. Never, ever get into an LTR with these women, it’s great at first- they put you on a pedestal and seem very normal. But, they’re survivors and they have developed a great ability to hide their mental illness. One, two years into it, you’ll start to see the signs (anger, controlling behavior, accusations of cheating, etc). In the end, they’ll do everything they accused you of and return to their “normal”, chaos. That’s their background, CHAOS - parents that left them, moved them all over the place or abandoned them. Took me two LTR’s to finally learn, sad for me, but I’m free now. I survived.
You just perfectly described my last relationship. Her parents were split and she was abused by her stepfather. She seemed pretty normal for the first 1.5 years (besides the 273947329 times she told me I could never leave her or saying that I was going to leave her) she ended up monkey branching to a colleague because she was unhappy in our relationship but never told me
I honestly feel bad for them but you can't save them. Somehow these girls are always really hot too.
My sister is a BPD monster. I haven’t had anything to do with her in 25 years. But when Amber Heard was on the witness stand it gave me chills to watch. EXACTLY the same attitude and facial expressions my sister displayed. Verbally and physically abusive nut job.
Bpd and covert narcissism present themselves quite similarly. Though bpd is more serious, and doesn’t present as often as covert narcissism does in modern America. Tough either way.
Awwww hell, BPD is the worst! It cannot be cured. I have a family member who has it. Trust me, the only solution is to go no contact. They love bringing in the drama and the cops too. Run!!!!
A few years ago, a young male co-worker asked for my thoughts about his situation.
He was engaged, about to go Active Duty Military and be deployed. Had just returned from a formal military function with the fiancee, there had been a contentious discussion on the trip. Girl keeps texting/talking to her mom, now the man has 2 women arguing with him.
I told him that if he wanted to know what his future wife would be like, to take a good, hard look at the mother because that was what he was going to get. Next time I saw him, he had broken up with the fiancee.
I am one of these girls , had a most terrible abusive father.
I was / still am independent girl never needed any help from anyone financially included.
But since I met my partner I started to change.
He loves me so deeply , I was able to go through all the trauma and I think I conquered it now.
Big love from a good man can change a woman .
that's wonderful to read this. thank you for your contribution and for not getting angry at the truth being spoken.
I think the fact is : yes, they are right in the video, no doubt.
but if the woman really wants to (and does) take ownership of her shit, it's good. and by the way, taking ownership or your problems is a very good point, it's the opposite of not taking accountability (one of the worst red flags in my opinion)
so, you are right too, I would just add "if she really wants it deeply and takes actions towards it" at the end of your last sentence.
Lucky you ! God bless you...
Absolutely beautiful.
Unfortunately there are not enough good men to go around.
Thusly, we high quality women MUST BE SATISFIED alone as it is better than miserable with a man who drinks his problems away or cannot receive a woman’s love.
Last woman I hooked up with told me she had daddy issues. Told me that directly. I played it cool, we did the dirty that night. I woke up that morning and followed my normal routine. Made breakfast for us, she wasn’t thankful or cared. I never talked to her again. We see each other on occasion passing by, and I can tell the cold/ghost I gave her after that drives her wild. Sometimes the best tool in a man’s tool box is to walk away.
I've done it more times than I can count.....but I've told younger guys, let the broad dump or ghost you.....a woman scorned is a very dangerous thing
Missed that opportunity to walk away.....you walked right into it. Could be her new baby daddy😂
@@susanhaines7358 it’s been a year, I saw her a few days ago. We just pretend like we don’t know each other. I’m in the all clear with that one. Also help’s not shooting swimmers into guts. 😎
It's always the best tool. Second best tool is saying "No".
First rule u broke is sleeping over or having a women sleepover thats not your gf.. second one was cooking for a women that is not your gf..
Single Mom to me is the #1 worst Red Flag.
Single moms are for recreational use only .. Zero commitment
alot of kids grow up and see there mother in bed with a bunch of men and the kids think thats ok behavior
At least It is one that usually can't be hidden.🤣
Not always, i had a single mom that treated me always like a king, and at same time a woman without any kids who treted me like she was the prize. Not dating a single mom just for that is stupid
Yep. Walking false dv allegations. Even though she started it. Even thought you didn’t hit her. Even though she hit you
I’ve learned in my 30+ years of dating that issues with a parent (especially a father) is the overall top red flag. These women are incapable of being in a healthy relationship with a good man.
Being a single mom is not only a red flag, but it is a woman’s frame and would become the frame of your relationship that you cannot overpower. To accept a single mom is to forfeit your frame and to play into her. Iron Rule of Tomassi #1 Always control the frame
😂 any man entering into a Relationship turns into a simp 😂
You apparently haven’t had enough experience or took a good look that she has “just as much power” as you do 😂
It’s called you are entertaining her for P. That makes you a simp regardless because the more and longer she gives it the more you’re going to have to do for her or she closes shop and finds another simp that will
You pay an entry ticket no matter what. Anyone thinking otherwise is delusional
Rollo has to be the lamest dude I ever seen. Half his pictures and mannerisms are zesty af. Lol
Guarantees she will hit the destruct button randomly with no remorse and bounce np matter what. Leave
😊 really thats number 1? i didnt know that, i must be a black sheep and out there because my number 1 rule is: The only winning move is to not play the game
Yuck
one the "really" worst : being a untreated borderline, narcissist, psychopath/sociopath , all these are in the same class of personality disorders, I met with a silent-borderline type which is harder to detect and you must be in a relationship to detect the full extent of the disorder.
Whilst they have extended time to work their evil under your nose. Guys don’t let them systematically wear you down to submission. Trust signs of danger, leave.
I don't think therapy can fix toxic behaviour in a woman. That would require taking responsibility for their own actions. Rather therapy is to make women feel better about themselves.
@rolfjohansen5376. True! I know a woman like this now passed away and I didn’t see these signs as I was totally naive to them. I sensed something was far amiss and she was a very angry woman that engaged in verbal and physical abuse. She’d kick like a child and punch on occasion. I met her father once and he was less than cordial to me and I think he was a controlling narcissist and she definitely a Borderline with NPD traits that also engaged in DID as she clicked into toddler behavior on two occasions and an unregulated emotional roller coaster of instability and rage.
Can you give some details
@@Andrew-sj9tr They are scary to the untrained eye. She liked me but knew I wasn’t interested. I believe but clearly have no proof she had a hand in having me terminated. I did everything right and then I didn’t with having more work dumped on me compared to her across from me and two others within eyesight. I think she doodled to look busy and real sneaky to be in with the others. I went to a show with her once and it didn’t hit me right away, but she giggled like a baby instead of laughing. These people are emotional roller coaster and perhaps she was medicated at work. I saw her go glazed trance eyes while driving pedal and break constantly for no reason. I saw her go black eyes and dart her head around in paranoia once while in my home. I told her to get out and she buttressed herself in my door frame. I thought I’d have to call the police for the first time. Unstable and act up to see what they can get away with as part of their manipulative schemes. What thirty-something adult takes their finger and rims the base of a cake on the table for others?! She was like a child during her splitting episodes which can happen in seconds to someone else in there that’s not within their faculties. That was my experience.
My Top 6 Red Flags
1. Single mom. I’ve been there 3 times and I’ll never return. I learned my lesson.
2. When she tells you over and over again that she hates drama. *SPOILER!* She’s into drama.
3. When she won’t STFU up about her ex. Even worse is when she knows she talks too much about them and continues to talk about them.
4. When she critiques your life (past and/or present) but she has nothing to back up why her life is better.
5. Tattoos/piercings. If you know, you know.
6. High body count. I had an ex tell me while we were making my bed: “You know, I slept with *A LOT* of guys before I met you.” She didn’t even break eye contact or nothing. She then told me that in 3 years she slept with 30 guys. Which, by woman math it’s more like 45-60. I absolutely lost all interest in her after she said that.
you know you know, keep the frame like he says.
shes basically a street worker, shes no better than somebody working at the Red Light District, i dont know why guys cant see this? Now saying all that she might be ok for a weekend get together every once in a while, go to the beach, see a movie, spend the night, stuff like that, but keep it casual and get rid of her if she has an attitute but some of them can be cool
Alcoholic and abusive behaviour while intoxicated biggest RED flag she could have .
Any drinking is a RED flag .
100%
Correct
My ex. Abusive when drunk. 100%
Wandering eyes is the biggest red flag for me.
My last partner had eyes for everyone and always would put it back on me for my insecurities. Regardless that it messed with my confidence and made me feel like I wasn’t enough.
My ex (6 1/2 years together) immigrated from a country in the Middle East. She landed in England in 2010, and moved to the US in 2012. Single mother who was divorced from a man she married through arrangement. I met her in 2017 after she was divorced from husband number 2 who she met in the US. The biggest red flag for me was her Brazilian Butt lift. I didn’t figure it out until a few months into the relationship, when an acquaintance asked me if she had butt implants. Either way, the procedure had to have cost over 15-18K (the plastic surgeon did a good job) To me the butt lift is nothing more than an advertisement for her nice big round butt that you could place a beer can on. I found out she was cheating on me almost a year ago, and I’m mad at myself for not getting out of the relationship sooner. Tight dresses, sweater pants ect… guys were looking and she was eating it up *literally* I think she had a Kim K wannabe complex, and at 55 years old she can have at it…without me tagging along.
Having male friends!! 💯
Just ended a 5 month thing after a womans 3rd attempt to water down my request...which I clearly stated right as she wanted smthin monogamous.
Never ever accept this kind of BS.
I told my young guy co-workers that if you don't have a sister or 2, you have no female friends
Wife has a lot of male friends and this play brother she always hangs out with..I talked to her about it she started crying..smh
Male friends are fine, but where I draw the line is one-on-one time. If it's just her and him talking for hours....no. I feel no need for one-on-one time with any of my female friends, because I would consider that a date. That's my girlfriend's job...
Biggest red flag
Even Tom Brady was not enough!
then dont marry a model
@@ThatGuyOverThereWeird regrets
@@ThatGuyOverThereWeird or just don’t get married
@@ThatGuyOverThereWeird All women think they are a model.
Tom Brady sometimes seems to have the disposition of a golden retriever.
I mean, he is a world-class showdog, but he obviously lost frame.
Also Giselle had an astronomical bodycount.
Red Flags:
1. Single Mom
2. Credit Card and Student Loan Debt
3. Raised without a Father
Single mom, sole property owner 4xs , successful kids…ex dead beat dad, never on a single title, mommy bought his playboy car.
I was raised without a father. My children are both beautiful and healthy. So why is single mom a red flag?
@@perfectloveIAMBecause the child will never belong to the new guy. The new guy will be expected to take care of it. The baby daddy will always be baggage. The least baggage is if the poor guy died. It's baggage if he didn't want the kid. It's more baggage if he wants to be in the kids life because he'll always be around and a potential person for the woman to cheat with.
@@davidjacobs3275 nobody considers the positive affects a wonderful man can have and the wonderful rewards that come back to them. I’ve seen it in several relationships. Heros and unconditional love are not that common because it does take a selfless solid capable person. Enjoy your best life, blessings.
@@perfectloveIAMstrong men find strong women. Men who are self confident judge a woman on many levels, most important is the content of her character not how many kids she has. Some men simply don’t want the additional responsibility of a child. Others welcome the child and will raise it as their own. Having a checklist for a woman as if you’re buying a used car usually limits your ability to find happiness with a good person. A man that is truly confident in who he is wants someone he can rely on when the shit hits the fan. When looking for advise, I’ve always asked people who were where I wanted to be, ie. successful and happily married with kids. The advise they have given to me has always been spot on. If you need advise on how tune a carburetor, ask a mechanic not a plumber.
Her parents were heavy cheaters. If the dad was a cheater, she's going to cheat on you as "revenge" against men, and to avenge her mother. If the mother was a cheater she's going to cheat on you because the mother taught her cheating was the best way to punish men.
FACTS. Good point.
Discipline.
Women who lack discipline, be that; time keeping, health issues through lack of care, etc
100% correct. If they don't care about their own health, , or have no self awarenesd...get away .
Time keeping is one HUGE thing I rarely find..
Ok so here’s my red flag:
When a woman has to constantly assert that she’s independent, run away.
That woman is an avoidant, and will leave as soon as the relationship gets real or as soon as there is any semblance of emotional intimacy. These people are incapable of any emotional vulnerability and infact when you start being real with them, their fears of abandonment, rejection and engulfment, are triggered and they will just deactivate.
My ex’s dad left when she was two, she was raised by a nanny, completely emotionally neglected as a child, went from one bad relationship to another, and often found herself moving to another city after each toxic relationship just to get away from her exes. I treated her like a Queen and she sabotaged it within months. Because real emotional intimacy is such a trigger for them. By the way she lasted 5 years in an abusive marriage, and another 7 with a guy who was emotionally unavailable, but me, the good guy? 2 months… what a nightmare…
@@joekamleh6049 nothing but the truth there. I had an ex with a very similar background
If a girl has grown up seeing her mom disrespect the dad and treating him like an incompetent fool, what are the odds she is going to treat you any better?
Yes this is very important. A woman can have a good relationship with her dad because he's more like a friend to her. I knew a few women like that growing up. They hung out with their dad the way most girls would hang out with mom. But these women did NOT value masculinity or could see a man as a leader since their dad was such a weak role model.
😅 even worse what I saw was my exwife disRespecting her father when her father would come visit her, at the time it didnt occur to me that sooner or later it would be my turn, the relationship lasted 12 years, its finally over tho Thank God
I feel they give men who haven’t really dated a lot of women great advice. I will say this, once you’ve dated a lot of women seriously it becomes easier to find the unicorn and you need to just roll thru a lot to get that one but my wife was a single mother, she had her son at 20. She left his father because he was content with living in an apartment and not doing more. She said his lack of ambition and laziness made the relationship impossible. We’ve been together 8 years, have a 3 year old daughter, I run a successful company that she really pushed me to do. “She said “we have money in the bank, we have an apartment, and if we go broke trying we can figure it out. She loyal, supportive, makes my life easier, never starts trouble or dramas and always defends me. Loss her best friend because her besties child shot me with the hose after I told him not to, I yelled at him and he cried. She took my side and they’re no longer friends. My point being, most women want to fit in with other women, they are exactly the same and pretend like they have views and brain, it doesn’t matter. Find a women that would stick by you thru thick and thin. Overall, just find the women who wants you, there’s no mold. The red flags and rules are loose guidelines until you date enough that you can see exactly what women are for you and what women emotions change with the wind
All the best to you. I agree with every word 👍
Best, also. My fiancé just moved out. We still text daily. Meeting her for breakfast Saturday. Not sure what to think or what she wants…?
@@wassomebody2386 leave her. at worst she wants to cheat on you, maybe already did. at best she needs her own space and cannot stand living with you. in any case, break your engagement !!! there is no other good solution for you. if you don't, you certainly expose yourself to no good bro......
Rich makes a great point about women having to share some blame for picking bad men - at times they act like they had nothing to do in choosing the jerk.
Men aren't exactly accepting blame for picking loser women either.
Agreed, but some choose good men but turn them into a jerk.
If you still believe you can trust them you haven’t learned your lesson
So very true. At 60 I dont even trust female family members.
Women that have trauma, parents divorced and Dad left, she went wild, all damage a normal relationship as she is always looking for someone to give her butterflys and excitement, they lack pair bonding.
they were DONE way before you ever met them, you had NO CHANCE 😅
2 Simple, but key red flags:
1) Loud talker. Never, ever date a woman whose laugh or speech dominates a room.
2) Lacks fitness. If she thinks it’s okay to not go to the gym or work out in any way, just don’t. That said, you ought to be fit yourself. If you’re not, you may not attract a quality woman who respects herself.
Good points
@@BrayoTintsAndWraps Thank you.
Yes!! Everyone should go to the gym and eat healthy to keep fit. If you’re looking for someone with a killer body you better have one yourself.
What is that first point about? My gf is a loud talker and her speech does dominate the room. Please elaborate
@ Perhaps I should’ve been more specific; It’s not the volume itself but the intention; Women who feel the need to speak loudly, laugh loudly and dominate discussion are, in my experience, difficult and entitled people.
I was dating a chick that one night challenged me about an outfit she was trying to wear out with friends. later than night she said "my dad used to get on me about my clothes" that told me everything I needed to know. I ended that relationship less than a month later
she fumbled the bag 😏
@@MrSamadolfo Mark Sanchez butt fumble LOL
Tattoos
Student Loans
Sub-700 FICO
Her ex was "toxic"
This eliminates all.
Lol
Those are all big ones!
If all her exes are a-holes, the common denominator is *her*.
🙂 nobody is worthy
Sub-700 FICO!!!!😂 LMAO!!!!!!!
“Birds of a feather flock together “ You can judge any woman by the company she keeps.
Been there done that what is being said is true ! My ex wife was exactly the red flags that are being presented
1. High body count
2. Multiple kids different dads
3. No accountability
4. Emotional Damage !!!
I've had girlfriends like that, and one of my exwives was that as well, at the time I didnt think it was going to become such a problem
Also: love bombing, excessive swearing, loves to travel alone or with girlfriends.
The #1 red flag I look out for is bad etiquette. Bad manners is behavioral and can be observed because most of it doesn't come from her mouth. Women with bad etiquette display any red flag you're looking for in 1 date night.
In my experience, women with good etiquette are much more thoughtful and intelligent. They will mind their words and their actions and be cognizant of their surroundings. The point is that they will think of you first.
Modern women are all narcissists. There is no you. It's just about them.
This is the best comment here.
Last sentence is GOLDEN!!!
It may not be HER fault but SHE doesn't have to be YOUR problem. The woman who I recently dealt with had daddy problems, BPD, narcissistic traits etc. Her disrespect towards me was off the charts. She tried to make me codependent on her with manipulation tactics. I asked her why I would tolerate her abuse when I'm just fine on my own and don't need her or anyone else for that matter. I see through everything and was indifferent to games. It took some time before she got the message and gave up.
I dated a girl without a father, raised my only a mom. Same, dealt with disrespect, constant games and chit testing. Combative attitude. Masculine personality. Was a toxic mess with her. She was hot though
You just described my last relationship, they love codependency and if you don't accept it they will hate you for it.
@Vision-dd8flmasculine personality as well and a hottie in bed-also, it may not be her FAULT but it is her RESPONSIBILITY!!
From my first hand experience over the past 4-5 years of dating in my mid-late 30’s, I’d honestly say #1 is if she’s on SSRI’s, ADHD meds, or anything like that. The last couple women I dated were on a cocktail of pills to get through the day (because they need therapy and/or are perpetually refusing to take accountability for their actions etc). Of course I didn’t know about this when things began, otherwise I would have passed, or kept things casual only. But holy cow, when they miss a couple days of meds, or drink a little too much etc. the level of crazy is unreal. Definitely something I’m screening for now, prior to meeting
Facts
holy shit this really makes sense. but how do you screen for their meds without directly asking?
@@gnarlytothemax well, I have a solid true story to tell when women ask in return “how long have you been single?” (Something I always ask within a couple messages, which 99% of the time is asked back at me). I tell them about my ex with empathy so I don’t come off like a douchebag, but make it clear that I’m over her. Surprisingly, I’ve been getting a lot of “don’t worry, I don’t fail to take my meds” OR “don’t worry, I’m not on anything besides a multivitamin.” Granted, the former is like 75%, but my angle is seeming to come off disarming enough that I’m not getting blocked and reported 😂
this is a good one. If they have to take meds just to wake up and go to sleep, big problems
Well, this is how kooky can be. Someone asked my ex wife why she divorced me and she said well after I kicked him out of the house he built and stole most of his money and his car he started behaving really erratically and angrily so that's why I divorced him Although I never behave like that before the divorce. Yeah you read it right that's the irrational minority report precrime excuses they can come up with.
100%. Mine, after 23 years of marriage, said she really was going to go thru with the divorce, despite admitting that I'd 'done everything she asked me to do (change wise etc) because "I don't believe you will keep doing the laundry list of things I've asked for in perpetuity". By this point she had her 2nd hand FIRMLY attached to her future new husband by way of a Monkey-Branching. I find it despicable that so many wives cannot have the common decency to say they want out of a marriage vs lying/cheating/stealing from the marriage &/or family. Like in boxing "Protect yourself at all times" should be the rule.
yup, It's always going to be your fault
Her mom cheated during the marriage, mom told my daughters i was this and that. Man can do it ALL right she will still cheat.
Eight years divorced, neither daughters have been back in my house
Stay strong brother, keep doing what is right.
They will come around eventually, and when they do, tell them the truth.
Stay at it my man. I was faithful, successful, non-abusive etc for the entire 23 years of my first marriage & she, instead of saying she didn't want to be married any more, commenced to lying/cheating/stealing from me & the family... I put up with it for years 'for the kids'. BIG BIG mistake. I'd never recommend anyone staying around 'for the kids'. You are 100% right though, there's no guarantee they'll honor the vows & odds say they will bail at some point. Monkey-branching is the norm when they do step out.
Keep yourself available for your daughters when they get a clue
😒 sorry brother, alot of children alienate their fathers, and society makes fathers to be the bad parent, its really strange, at the end of the day they have to figure it out for themselves cause we are not going to be around forever
Daddy/mommy issues is the worst. I ignored this red flag because she convinced me she had done enough work on herself that it turned the red flag to green. When the relationship became serious her issues were triggered and she blamed me. She slept with my friend (ex friend), as a way to hurt me.
The worst I think is single mother because there is absolutely no benefit to be had here. You will never be the priority. You can't discipline the kid. But you'll be expected to provide for both her and the kid. You'll be in the middle of the drama between her and the baby daddy. It's the equivalent of just being a beast of burden. You work for her and her kid and they get full ATM privileges.
Biggest red flags . 1 .If she disrespects father then your getting same treatment.
2 .Single mother of a child that has no boundaries.
3. Wants you to be successful even though she isn’t .
4. Parents have enabled her poor decisions in life .
5. She withholds her child from its biological father .
100% My ex and her sisters treat their elder widower dad like absolute garbage... exactly how their mom did before succumbing to cancer.
💯 on this. My dad inherited a gold mine with my mom. I inherited a salt mine. Young and stupid, I can stick it out. 20 years later, I couldn’t. Listen to Rich on this one, he will save you years of misery. How Dad treats his daughter sets you up for how she expects you to treat her. If he was a failure, you will be expected to be the same. Even if you aren’t, she will treat you as a failure.
Not always. My Dad was a complete failure. I've been with my husband since we were 18. We're now 32. I admire his resolve to be and do better every single day. There isn't a man on this planet I have more respect for.
🙂 yes for the most part that is true, altho ive been with many GFs that grew up with a Father and all seemed to be well in their household and it didnt matter the relationship failed anyways, so dont feel bad, its the sign of the times, its just not in the cards for most no matter how knowledgable you are
Time wasters and time blindness, I can't stand.
I was dating this girl who couldn't keep being anywhere at any time. She even had clients for her career she couldn't be on time for. She even talked about it.
One date that ended it for me. I go to her house to pick her up. She's not ready. I watched her brush her hair for another twenty minutes and then she messed it up because she wanted to put some lotion on her face. So she started the rushing her hair.
After 30 minutes went by and thinking it'll be another 30 if not longer. I called off the date and left. I told her, her lack of being able to manage her time will never work for me.
She called me impatient and I said, maybe but watching you get ready when you were already suppose to be tells me that you don't care at all for my time. The one thing you never get back. I was imagining dating her long term and wondering just how many hours would be wasted waiting for her..
Wise decision.
High body count and single mothers... it's just so telling.
No daddy is the worst that i have ever come across. There is no respect shown or learned.
Always a guarantee dumpster fire 🔥
I dated a girl who had no father, raised by a single mom. She turned out to be disrespectful, very combative, agressive and masculine. And she had high body count with lots of male friends
I can’t agree with you on this one. Did I cry a lot when my dad died, yes. Was I sad a lot for a while? Yep. Do I know how to be respectful to a man I’d date? You better believe it.
@PinkHydrangea you're not what we mean when we say no daddy.
Rip to your father, I can only imagine the pain. I'm a father and it scares me to think that I pass early with my sons needing me.
Well thank you, and now you’ve got me curious. I appreciate your kind words. It’s scary to think that I have outlived my dad. It’s amazing what the human spirit is capable of enduring.
😅 if she doesnt have the Fear of God in her for her Father, you can forget about it, you should have seen my Grandfather LOL
To me after being married for 12 years and then getting into another relationship and it ending after 9 years, the biggest Red Flag is the ability to say sorry and admit when they are wrong. The last two relationships I've been in both women have had issues admitting when their wrong and what kills me is when they have the gull to sit there and tell me that I have a problem admitting when I'm wrong. BFS!!!!
I’ve never met a woman who would admit she was wrong
The worst red flag by far: a woman who has had an abortion. I would like to see a show on that topic.
would be interesting
And the men who leave said woman high and dry......rearing a child alone?
@@sundancer7381 Make better choices and spend more time vetting men in your life and you would eliminate or lessen this chance
@@aheathenoutdoors I see a lot of women who have become disillusioned with men - or romance. Not to sure the "easy availability" (birth control, Plan B, condoms, etc) of sex solves that many problems......
@@sundancer7381 Give it up to adoption then - d'uh...
My red flags that I ignored were all with the same well spoken, educated girl:
1. Seduced me
2. Liked me wanted a relationship, so I went with it
3. Over the next month, proceeded to list her body count which included her University lecturer in the first term of her first year.
4. An half- hearted feminist. Never exercised, insisted on keeping ALL body hair, however long and straggly.
5. Didn’t do anything about her fitness or weight.
6. Sat around listening to miserable Joni Mitchell songs
7. Didn’t work. I did. Lent her £3000 to pay off her lenders.
8. It was reported that I was a really handsome man who was fit ( I never think like that).
But after a while I started night shifts in my holiday job at the local teaching hospital . Took about 1 day to become known to the nursing intake.
Rollercoaster riding from there.
The relationship with the bag of hair didn’t last, as you may guess. Never bothered to chase after the £3K.
bro 😂
Little respect for herself, others, is #1. Weight, tats, drinking, smoking, drugs, anger, piercings, etc.This means she will Never respect her man.
Tats are a huge turnoff for me. Sadly most women have them now. I don't understand the need to look trashy.
I think you left out, diversity. I know a beautiful woman, young, slender, petite, educated blue eyes, silky long hair, awesome narrow hipped cup cake buns , sculpted to perfection. She told me her family was all crazy and she didn't associate with them.
Red Flag #1.
She was at the pub with a tall, attention seeking guy, about six foot, missing front teeth, didn't impress me as a Rhodes Scholar, ya know? Tatted up, made me think she watches too much interracial porn. She could pick n choose any successful young man in this whole area.
But, look who's she seen in public with?
Mind you, this area is like 98.7% white.
And, she has a little blonde blue eyed son.
I feel bad for the kid.
Giant fucking red flag, there.
I was the different kind of guy for my soon to be ex-wife… She could not adapt to the normal life. She was so embroiled in the trauma and drama… My silly self thought that I could fix it. But I could give her a better life, but all ended up doing is damaging me
Do NOT let your daughters hang out with other girls that are being raised by a single mother. They can be friends at school and after school, but do NOT let them sleep over night after night week after week, go there after school for hours. Don't do it. Every time my daughter spent time with the single mothers I had a fuking riot on my hands when she got home.
There may be an exception, but I haven't seen it.
Anyone who uses the F bomb within the first say minute of speaking is presenting you with a HUGE red flag! Run!
Fuck im out
Interesting video content, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Lol you scam jokers.. People ignore these comments. They are scammers pretending to get there exes back.. Ignore these fools
The worst red flag she can have: notch count.
her virginity is the most valuable thing she can give a guy and she gives it away almost immediately these days like she has no other trick or trait that makes her pleasant to be around
A Red Light District Worker, samething 😊🚨
@@MrSamadolfo At least with the red light district worker, you pay her, you F. But wit dating, you pay her, you don't necessarily get to F. Might as well be with the red light district girl
@@HamsterPower26 FACTS 😎
@@MrSamadolfo Her notch is an open buffet for chads
Alot of people miss out on one of the worst red flag issue of them all. Mommy issue. I've dated a few women with this problem and it was the worst. None of them were in touch with their feminity. They had no clue on how to be a woman or a girlfriend. They had no affection whatsoever. Definitely fellas look out for this one
Sad. It goes to show how
messed up mothers can be.
I know. I had one hell of a mother with pathological narcissist disorder. THAT takes a lifetime to get over.
Dude if you actually find a woman with no issues you have found an angel. Everyone has issues. The big question is, how much does that person own them? How much does that person project them onto you? THAT will
make the difference as to what to keep her
or return her to the dating pool. How much is a person willing to work on themselves?
@@KatWoodland very true, in the case of the women that I've dated none of them wanted to change. They had too much pride and zero accountability.
Multiple prescriptions for every aspect of dealing with life and emotions, and excuses for taking each one of them.
If they're a part of ARE WE DATING THE SAME GUY, pages on social media.
Multiple and alternate social media identities.
Not returning generosity and consideration when it comes to miles traveled, effort extended, money spent.
Having sex, 1st date, unprotected.
Lovebombing up front and early on.
Emotional out bursts over daily life challenges or minor difficulties in navigating in general, that effect the way they communicate and treat you, when you have nothing to do with them.
Woe is me, eff all men, I'll be single forever mentalities.
Over obsession and reliance on relationship with an animal. Ie dog mom/cat mom. (Yes animals are wonderful, bright, and to be loved and shared joy with. But I've lost animals, and I've lost a parent, NO, the grief is NOT on the same level.)
Speaking ill of past partners, especially early on.
Saying I Love You, in under a month of knowing each other. You don't know anything about a person that early.
Less to be desired group of friends, or no friends at all.
Over obsession with body art and changing hair color once a month.
If they have a Breeze in their purse.
Tattooed single mom is hard no
In my most previous relationship, this woman did NOT have a good relationship with her father, and I was called controlling on multiple occasions. It still hurts a little that it ended, but ultimately, I dodged a bullet.
Mom treated the dad with coldness, no care, with no emotion other than fighting and anger. That's what she learned and that's what I got. So glad it's over.
Daddy issues are REAL. I've known many women whose fathers abandoned their mothers, the fathers were "rolling stones", and so on. Because the women cannot punish their fathers for their irresponsible behavior, they punish the men who love them, or who want to love them.
I dated a girl without a father. Was toxic, very disrespectful, agressive and combative
Like rich just talked about. Women with childhood trauma. If it’s unresolved and there was no solution to that trauma, that’s another red flag you need to be aware of.
I married a woman who dad passed away when she was 10. She was the worst. She could not be led. Fights fight fights. It was a battle daily. I don't recommend it. Next time I date first question is going to be " how's your dad doing?"
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣So true. Same here mate, same question.
1. Single Mom
2.Feminist
3. High bodies
You cannot assume all single mom's are trouble. I met a single mom 5 years older then me and we stayed together for 32 years until her recent death from cancer. She was the love of my life!
Sorry to hear about your ex. The point he's trying to make is if you're a single man looking to make a family you would rather start it with his own family then raise another person's family
You’re the exception not the rule!
You had a unicorn. Very rare.
She says something mocking/disrespectful on a first date. Big red flag. The first date is where you should be 'selling yourself' like in an interview, this gives a taste of things to come
I'm gonna have to agree with you on this. I experienced this firsthand almost 3 years ago with a chick that my married friends tried to hook me up with. We went on a double date with my married friends (stupid idea), and one of her first comments to me upon meeting was mocking/disrespectful. Although the rest of that date went well, there was never a 2nd date. It's unfortunate in one way because this woman had a great bond with her dad but also a bit confusing because she was in the process of divorce from her husband when we went on this date. Very strange.
@@spacecowboy5995 I've had women complain I won't marry them even though they're still married to their ex. Bonkers 😄
If she doesnt/didnt respect her dad as head of a household growing up, move around fast
Every woman i have dated had some red flags, so it was basically finding one that had minimal issues and pursuing her.The higher the value male you are, gives you choices in dating the best woman, ie those with minimal red flags.Thats been my experience,so guys work on being successful in whatever that maybe.
Now I know this guy knows his shit. Described my wife and her past to a T. But story’s not over. Im learning and getting stronger and she’s learning and working on herself, but boy it’s hard work.
One of the biggest red flags that isn't mentioned enough in the manosphere: The more time a woman spends on IG, the worse partner she will be. It is a direct correlation, and there are no exceptions to the rule.
sure =)
Oh yea, bottomless pit of attention.
Good eye brother. 👍
Oh yea, bottomless pit of attention.
Good eye brother. 👍
I would say 95 % this is true
Having married one with daddy issues... I must agree with this 💯
Single mom
Single mom with multiple kids by different father's
Her name is Jennifer, Tammy, or Jessica
Her car is a wreck
Her house is a wreck
She has no female friend's
She has tattoos , and piercings all over
I could go on and on..... Ty
And smokes like a chimney
Thats some fun times between the sheets. Just dont give her your last name
Worst for me was a skank with 2 kids by 2 different dorks and her name was Jessica. Man are you right about this.
4:02 Does that mean I don't deserve love?
No but how does it mean I'm supposed to supply you love? I didn't damage you. How does your misfortune become my debt?
#1 red flag single mom
For a second there I thought I was watching the Hobbit and one of the dwarves was talking to me...😂
Lol😂
I dated a very attractive single mother, her mother cheated on her father when she was 6 years old, not only that the dad vanished for 20 years without a word. My ex was a daddy’s girl, and felt deserted for years… I started a job in aviation that meant I was away 5 days at a time. It changed everything between us. Suddenly she became a nightmare, did not trust me, and that I was selfish doing my job…All the issues she had inside came to the surface.
Whether Dad leaving is her fault or not, it's about whether she carries that baggage with her. How much blood is she letting spill over onto others. It's a big ask to make, but if a woman can truly carry that shit and not make it a point that dictates her life, then she is a real one.
When i heard the words "Fairy Tale" in any context - I run away at full speed.
“Princess”"…………..RUN
Rich good input for relationships/ "WHAT ARE YOUR DEGREES IN "?THANKS
It’s hard for me not to be boring. I work 5-6 days a week. All my free time is for casual work outs, learning day trading and things around my house. Don’t have the energy or time to socialise.
Ironically, you're doing all the right things. My life is the same right now.
Unfortunately I married a girl with daddy issues and we only lasted 3 miserable years. I never really believed the whole daddy issues thing until I noticed how my ex would treat and talk to her dad.
She would literally call her dad by his first name and I never really thought too much about it until I eventually asked her why. Then I realized daddy issues really exist because she would treat me like she treats her dad, talk condescendingly towards him, easily get mad at him, ignore him, etc etc.
Also there's a lot I later discovered about the dynamic between her mom and dad and witnessed first hand how her mom would verbally punish her dad until he would shutdown or leave.
It's too bad because my ex was hot physically 😢
Always the hot ones right ?
Same my ex was age 24 and hot.. but.. daddy issues, history of anti depressants, disrespectful, combative, doesn't follow a mans lead.. They are hot, but make terrible wives. Will often cheat on you
My ex should have been on meds and wasn’t. Actually she still won’t accept she needs meds and somehow found another sucker and remarried. Why he stays with her is something I have never understood.
This reminds me of my best friend and her sisters calling their parents by their first names. I always found it really odd.
FACTS, you described my fourth wife, it lasted 12 years, I saw it and I knew it wasn't right, I should have realized alot sooner that this was going to end eventually. It was a waste of my time and money.
It’s good for us women to witness intelligent conversations amongst you men folk.
Well said gents. 💯
Can u trust her and if she flirts or making u jealous
The biggest red flag I've found is how she speaks about her ex(s). If they are all jerks, morons, idiots or assholes then either she has really crappy judgement or she is actually the problem and she is just projecting.
Women in general is the No.1 biggest red flag.
does she always seem to contact you when she needs money and then disappears for a little while
Have you noticed with single mothers when they talk about there ex or the child's father , "He's always the bad guy " & she's always the victim , but as time goes by you soon pick up why he's her ex and exactly what she was doing to him to leave her in the first place. Alot have delusional expectations of fatherhood or drive him away by not having sex with him anymore, which to a man is punishment and certainly not a loving relationship anymore. Don't get me wrong, childbirth does affect a woman's sexual desire for a period of time, and men can be patient, but years and not months is a health problem for a man in the making & a lifetime of taking pills for erectile disfunction brought on by his wife is surely going to create hate & resentment for his wife and the divorce court at a later date .
Ex wife had the daddy issues and about 10 others from your list.
Biggest red flag for me by far looking back we’re her anger issues. At first I just thought she had a quick temper and I could just let her be for an hour or so and she’d be fine. But those ‘hour or so’ became hours and days later on. I tried to deal with it but you can’t physically protect yourself against a woman as I later -found out-. But since I couldn’t deal with it properly without getting in trouble it got worse and worse and the disrespect that followed was unbelievable.
I don’t think you should hit a woman but man… they’d deserve it sometimes.
If you’re in with a angry woman, please don’t stay unless you need to protect your children👍
Helpful, thanks
between those red flags is 99.9% of American women
But we still take the bait 😂
Everybody has a list of their own red flags. Everybody needs to identify the ones that are significant to them. A person should not compromise their standards. If you do, it will probably not end well. A person that has made bad choices in their past will probably effect your future if you get involved with them.
My thoughts exactly. Every guy is different and depending on his life experience, there are issues he can’t get past.
The real tragedy about these issues is they just go on and on and continue in a vicious cycle. daughters of single mothers often become single mothers themselves.
It's really really unfortunate. One of my best childhood friends is going through it right now. His wife is bpd and all of the above. Yes those women deserve love... but they have to deal with their shit and not drag others into their dread.
I was dating someone: 50's divorcee of 6 years, extensive dating, nobody ever met her friends, independent, lots of friends Inc male married friends,
If she's working a high end job and went to college. Run!!!!
best piece of advice ive heard on this. her dad will be you in 10 years. however she treats him or acts around him is exactly what she will eventually do to you. she might say this or that about him to justify it but that will be you.
When she tells you she can count all of her boyfriends on one hand. She trys to act all innocent like JLo does.
The girl I was dating said two hands lol. Is this really a thing?
Daddy issues! Her experience with her dad sets the tone for all future male relationships! I had to learn the hard way!
What a sad perspective. So, no woman who was ever abused or treated horribly by a man or her Father is worthy of love? My goodness we are doomed as a species. 😢
My ex-wife has daddy issues. I was concerned before getting married, but thought it would be okay. It wasn't. Don't ignore these things.
And damaged women attract damaged men. Lets not forget the obvious.
Yup. It takes 2 to tango.
Freaking facts!!!! And add....masculine women attract feminine men
We are all damaged, mostly from childhood. This is why it is so important to take your time with women and allow her to reveal her issues. My ex was bi polar and was able to hide it till after the marriage. I blame myself because I did not vet her long enough. Lesson learned🤷🏻♂️
@@GBU61 if you are a human being living on the planet, you have baggage
\ damage. Step 1 to having a good life is, acknowledging\ dealing with your own baggage.
Hot women attract all men*