@@donsettie344 So very much inside as well, She is A FABULOUS HUMAN BEING. Ahhh, ALAS, she IS ONE of THE MOST HIGH'S CHOSEN PEOPLE, VERY CHERISHED AND SO VERY PRECIOUS TO THE LORD.
My mom did this with me out of pure poverty, since she was a teen mom. I was fully potty trained by 12 months. I never knew this was an actual thing, though!
Hello Mayim, last Thursday I made the Spanish translation of the subtitles of this video, in order to all the people of my country who don´t speak English can watch and understand you because the message you give seems fantastic to me. Take a look at them and it would be nice you publish them. My best wishes.
My boyfriend actually introduced this to me! Of course he didn't call it E.C. or give it any name. I actually thought he was joking but he was completely serious like, "No my mom did this with us. You learn what the baby does whenever he's about to go... and then you just bring them over the toilet. Mom did it to save money on diapers." I was completely astounded by the idea as I had never heard anything of the sort! What a way to be cost-effecient, help the environment, and not having to go through the switch from diapers to potty. My bf is from Singapore and of Malay descent (an Asian ethnicity) so she's right when she says that many cultures practice this!
I have never heard of this, and I'm intrigued. How come no one I know speaks of this? I am almost 25 (Living in Norway) and I know a lot of people with baby's. This is why I follow you, to learn new things.
I also live in Norway and I only heard of this through the Internet. We did this with my daughter, namely with the poop. We also used cloth diapers which was a great for both baby's bottom and the wallet.
Linn Jeanette I live in Norway too. My son is now 11, and I heard about this, mostly via a Norwegian online forum for baby-wearing (one that no longer exist, unfortunately, «Tett Inntil»). Lots of parents there practised more of what Mayim Bialik speaks about, Attachment Parenting. Co-sleeping, baby-wearing, EC, baby-lead weaning (no mashed baby-foods when introducing solids), long time breast feeding etc. I didn’t go «all in» with every aspect of attachment parenting, for various reasons, but I picked those I felt could work for our little family. (EC unfortunately not one of them). I hope you will find more info online, and maybe a community too. (Facebook-groups, perhaps?). There is a site called Ringblomst.no - not sure if the forum there is still alive. Check it out if you feel like it. :)
Because most doctors will tell you, this causes a thickened bladder, which is not a good thing, and can cause serious health issues later in life. I'd much rather use a diaper as an infant than one by age 30.
For everyone that's asking how to do it, research it/get the book she mentioned in the video. For everyone saying it's crazy or you have a legitimate reason why you or your child can't do it, she clearly states that it's not for everyone. She's not trying to guilt anyone for doing things differently, just providing insight on another way of doing it. If you're interested, research for yourself; if not, there's no reason to be ashamed or rude. Great video! 🙂
Just know your baby, you don't need research... if you were using actual washable diapers and having to wash them by hand and having to sterilize them by boiling like it used to be before disposable diapers you would be motivated enough.
Well keep in mind that it isn't all or nothing, you can just do it part time if it works better for you, some is better than none. Also there are good resources on this topic that are available out there such as godiaperfree.
right now as people are wiping diaper shelves clean and others are crying over not having disposable diapers this is a very important video. wish more people saw this
I watched this before I fell pregnant with my first and it remained in the back of my head as "interesting information" I found the courage to try it when he was just over 2 months and couldn't believe how easy it was and how much sense it made. I now can't believe mom's survive without it. Thank you for introducing me to the world of EC :)
I saw this video on Friday afternoon while my 8 month old was sleeping. We cloth diaper and do signs already so I thought let's try it when she wakes....now it is Sunday and Baby Kate has been using the potty all weekend. I cannot believe it. She is signing Potty and even saying all done when finished. We are floored. She just turned 8 months. This video described perfectly how to start. We have even had her use restrooms while out and about. She seems so happy we understand her. I am so thankful she now has a bigger voice in our family. Thank YOU!!!
@@claudiatoyou I don't even believe me! She is now 10 months still going strong. She does potty in the cloth diapers too. But mostly on the potty. Crazy ..last night she was dry all night. Trust me...I don't believe me lol
My sister friend taught her own baby how to sign too. She’ll sign “milk” every single time she fed them, so when they’re hungry the baby would sign “milk” too. I thought it was amazing. She never had any issue identifying what her baby needed, cuz her baby was basically signing to her. ❤️
I'm a 53 year old mom and now Nana, in every generation there has been new and improved ways of raising and training children to successful adults. Every good mother freaking out because someone else was doing it differently (so somehow better than she was). We put completely unnecessary bars up to ourselves and to each other, to gain this unattainable label of Mother of the Universe. As long as your baby/child has adequate and healthy food, a good healthcare regimen, safe and clean living conditions, and people around who provide guidance and unconditional love, that is ALL that tiny human needs to grow up successfully. But hey, if her method rings your bell, go for it. And rock on, Mama.
Very supportive, but I hope more moms will consider landfills and waste. Because we are wasting our time banning plastic straws when diapers are the top wasteful and harmful things in landfills and probably oceans, when there are now ATLEAST two other options.
@@Volleyball_Chess_and_Geoguessr Yes, cloth diapers are a big plus. I am in the process of building my stash from all-secondhand diapers right now. But EC is the ultimate ecological footprint decreaser. 😉
We cloth diaper too. She's nearly nine months old now and has never had a diaper rash and hasn't out wet the absorbency overnight (she sleeps 8p-8a straight through) since we figured out the night diaper that works for her.
I find this similar to Dunstan's Baby Language. I thought it was totally nuts at first. Babies can't talk! But then I started listening and it changed my life. While I hadn't heard of E.C. when my kids were born, I have no doubt that if babies can communicate when they are tired and hungry, they can indicate they have to relieve themselves. It's more about training parents, rather than kids, but I'll take it.
It is so different then when I had, well just one child. She is in college now. Guess I am a bit too late to try that:) Maybe she will. When she is finished with college👍
You are brilliant. I didn't know this was possible! On the other hand, my son hated being dirty so much, the moment he peed in his diaper, had cry. I started leaving him out of diapers and by 11 months and 25 days, he was potty trained. So easy was my son as he grew up. He just got married yesterday to his fiance, Andrew.
To anyone reading this that has unsuccessfully attempted "E.C." it can be exhausting mentally and physically to try and understand a newborn. In my experience, I tried to learn my daughter's cues when she was a newborn but I missed some or interpreted them wrong a lot and often. So, this "E.C." method didn't work for us. It made me stressed out and after a C-section the last thing I needed to do is bend down and clean up baby dung off the floor and feel like a failure because I couldn't understand my own baby. I respect Mayim and many other people for being able to implement "E.C." successfully but for me, I am happy I used diapers and not let myself be beaten down by the fact that I couldn't read her cues. "E.C." is ideal but not something any parent should lose sleep over, like I did. Don't feel like a failure if you see "E.C." isn't working, keep trying, try something different, or use diapers but most importantly take it easy on yourself and love your baby above all.
Many times one of my children would have a bowel movement while I was feeding them and although I could tell when they were about to go, it was only a few seconds warning. No way would I have made it to a potty on time. Not to mention all the times I am helping other children, the times I was working, cleaning, etc. But, man, it sounds awesome and I say give it a try if you can because diapers are expensive and we almost all have had that bit of shame over a diaper rash.
You can use timing. If you take them regularly, they will hold it until then. It starts with about every 20 minutes then increases as they get older and can hold it longer. Babies that you are not taking to the potty will not give you any notice, why would they? Babies feel the fresh air when you pull their pants down and recognize the position they are in and they pee or poop. Until then, they hold it, assuming you are taking them regularly. I loved it because it was a great way to show them that I was there for them. It seemed to help us connect more.
Jaya O'M ..... Legit question. If you are doing this every 20 minutes in the beginning, won't regression happen at night when you would go longer stretches? Or did you do this 24/7?
I've started practicing E.C. when my son was two weeks old. He is one and a half months now. I can see when he needs to go to a toilet but seems like I'm too stressed to miss a pee or a poo so he will cry when I hold him above the bathtub and poo or pee a couple of minutes after. It very frustrating :(
I saw this practice all over China. I never did understand how they did it even after living in the culture for 13 yrs. Your explanation helped me. Whenever I asked a Chinese person to explain it to me, I always got the deer stare
My husband grew up in India and this is how he and everyone he knows were potty trained. No one used diapers because they are expensive and possibly harmful to the baby's health since with the heat and humidity it's easier for the baby to get rashes and other irritations. I don't think you''re crazy at all! In fact, he thinks we are crazy for letting our babies sit around in their own waste.
I have to agree, I am almost 60 and this is how my mom did us and she grew up in Japan where they are super hygiene conscious. My mom use to complain that mothers who use diapers are too lazy to train their babies. She thought the invention of paper (disposable) diapers made children not want to use the potty and she thought that was very disgusting.
My nanna thought it was amusing when I told her about evacuation communication. She said we just used to call it toilet training. By the time all of my girls (she had 4 children, all girls) were 1 they were fully toilet trained. I asked her how she did it, especially with her babies all just over a year apart. She said very matter of factly 'You can tell when they need to go!' Haha! That was the normal thing apparently 65-70 years ago. She also said she didn't have time to be messing with nappies as she had a farm to run.
Exactly. When I heard about it they were talking about 5 month-old babies, and in that case I'm reallt skeptical. But my mom had me out of dipers, including night dipers by 18 months - after I requested it verbally... Nowadays work/daycare is a huge problem to accomplish that...
I doubt you'll see this cause your comment is 3 years old but how did taking all those kids to the toilet each time save your grandma time running a farm? I have two kids, one is fully potty trained and one is about 3/4 of the way there and it's an almost constant back and forth of someone going potty lol
EC is more humane imho. I wasn't a believer at first, but so glad my ex persevered. Clothe diapers are not as bad as I thought it would be. I went to buy disposable diapers once, what a scam. That changed my perspective on everything. I try to look at how humans have tackled challenges throughout history, before modern 'convienences'. Great video!
@@marielenagarcia5799 great question! When we needed child care, we looked for or asked child care providers if they were experienced with clothe diapers or EC. Our daughter was 'potty trained' by 18 months, which would have been sooner if I got on board sooner.
Girl, I came from a destitute brazilian family, and all my nieces and nephews, and also my generation never used diapers. So by my baby's 7 month I started and with 10 he was fully potty trained. Which nobody believed. That was fun
The earlier you potty training your child you will see the benefits of it.My little girl is 3years old and the last 2 years she been going through the night dry and clean.
The earlier you potty training your child you will see the benefits of it.My little girl is 3years old and the last 2 years she been going through the night dry and clean.
It's a shame more people don't know about E.C.! It worked beautifully! People think it will be more work but, at least for us, it was not at all. And it saved us a FORTUNE! Not to mention, no chemically diapers on baby's bum! Love it! You are right, it's not for everyone... I sing it's praises for anyone who will listen! Out of my friends and family, 7 of them tried it and only one did not want to continue with it. Everyone else is so happy they did it! I think you have to be lucky enough to be with your baby consistently to work with them, and obviously, not every one can. But if you can, do you your research, and you might be very surprised how easy it can be to bond with and work with your little one in this way! Fun that you shared this Mayim!
Thanks so much for this video. You inspired me to read the book by Ingrid Bauer and take on EC two weeks ago. My son is now 6 weeks old and I am catching most of his poops and pees, and I feel great to be responding to his needs so quickly, not letting him sit in his own urine and feces, and helping the environment! My husband and in-laws are on board too, as they are Chinese and this is part of their culture and how my husband was potty trained. We live in China so EC-friendly clothes are easy to find. I also really enjoyed your matter-of-fact attitude in this video, just the right amount of humor and sass :-) 2:36- “...and eventually use the throne potty. Oooh!”
Fortunately I'm no longer in the stage of life where this information is relevant but...I would have very much appreciated it when my kids were little. Potty training is not fun and causes a lot of stress for both the children and parents. I hope that many who are at this stage and watch your post will take it to heart and investigate the logistics. Sadly, many don't understand that parenting is not about finding the easiest way for the parents to "deal with" their children. Parenting is about sacrificing, teaching, disciplining, all in love, and the rewards are great. [Me now stepping off my soapbox. LOL]
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Thank you.. I started ec and I agree with you. I feel like I can give my son everything he needs. I have such a deep understanding of him and I know he appreciates it!
In my country diapers were a luxury when I was a baby. My mom also had to wash all our laundry by hands, because a washing machine was a luxury as well... My parents just learned my potty patterns, and didn’t think of an accident as a big deal. There weren’t many of them anyways. All of my aunts are still using the same method with their babies, even though the diapers are available now. Thank you for your video!
I never knew what I did with my baby had a name... I had her in 88 by myself and just didn't have a lot of money lol. So I would feed her and wait and then when I would watch for a shiver or wiggle and then before she was one she just knew . Wow EC or poor mom plan lol.
This was what we did, too! I didn't know there was a name for it. I had the luxury of being a stay at home mom, so I thought it was my "job" to know what my baby wanted. Both of my kiddos had very different cues, but they communicated their needs pretty efficiently. Totally cool knowing it is actually a thing!
If you were a single mom, weren't you at work all day? (Asking because I can't see how this system works for working parenting with no funds for a nanny.)
@@womanofacertainage5892 I am from a small southern town and I worked as a live on site nanny . It was 1988 and I was just a teenager . No it doesn't work with someone who depends on others to raise their children. So yeah I only made 120.00 a week but with a few unconventional ways that worked for hands on parenting I was able to parent ,work and support my baby girl.
I get the whole environmental aspect and the other stuff, but hearing you talk about it convinced me that it was the best thing for us to have stuck with diapers! I was so, so ridiculously overwhelmed by every. single. thing. when my kids were babies that I know for sure that every miss would've felt like the end of the world. My friend's got her 1 yr olds potty trained, though, and full credit to those who can manage! Oh, one more thing. Diaper rashes were never a chronic issue for us because we moved from baby wipes to washing their little bummies very early, as per our religious requirements. My son's nanny, who was American, couldn't believe how rashes were not a problem.
3monsters014: I used cloth diapers and I didnt use rash cream. First because my kids never sat in a wet diaper for more than a minute or two, and second, if they did get a rash for whatever reason (sometimes just sweat from the plastic cover pants) I used browned flour and it worked better than any rash cream. I was told how to make it by an older latina neighbor woman and it worked wonders. You just put dry flour in a cast iron skillet or a non stick pan will work too. Then just brown it to a nice nut brown color by stirring it around the pan over medium heat. Cool it and put in a shaker and there you go. Only make enough for a week or so and then replace it to prevent any kind of mold issues. Especially in humid weather.
This sounds totally fabulous, no shaming the baby, none of the reward system, just flat out communication. I love it. Thank you, I am going to share this with my daughter in law, I have grandson wh is soon going to be a year and this technique sounds like something I should have done 28 yrs ago with my kids. Thanks once again.
I love the point about it increasing intimacy with your children. A lot of parents are so divorced from non verbal communication and zoned out - it really saddens me as this is how we learn 'secure attachment' and make our children feel seen and noticed. Never heard of EC, but I like it!
The first time I heard about this was from a coworker who had spent her childrearing years wayyy out in the boondocks of Alaska. Diapers wasn't an option for them, and she actually signed back and forth with her babies. I thought it was awesome but impractical because of the training that it would take. But honestly, babies learn fast. I may have to give this a go. I was looking at clothe diapers and even that's really expensive. Kids are better at learning than we give them credit for!
You are so very right! After both my children were grown, Mother told me that her own mother never had dirty diapers to wash. I was shocked. Immediately after feeding, Grandma would put a teacup under her baby's bottom. She monitored each one throughout the day to keep him/her on track and cultivate the urinary-&-bowel-control habit. As the children grew, each graduated to a larger potty, then eventually to the backyard privy. Mother was born in 1918, before automatic washing machines, and with a family of six, keeping everyone in clean clothes and linens was a lot of work; Grandma certainly didn't need to scrub dirty diapers, too. Why did no one ever tell me about this when I had my own babies?
Thank you Mayim! Excellent video! One friend from Spain told me about EC. I'm 33 weeks of pregnancy and I'm learning a lot about this method. I found it incredible but also so logical and close to our animal nature! I definitely will try it! Greetings from Argentina!
My mom told me I was toilet trained at 8 mths, never believed her, but my sister who is 10 years my senior, confirmed it. My mom sat me on the pot after every meal and throughout the day. She said I got the hang of it very quickly. My sons were out of diapers by two, and I worked full time. Just have to work with them and invest in your children.
My grandma raised her family in "the sticks" of Arkansas. She had her first child trained to pee over a newspaper at 6 weeks old. They only had cloth diapers back then & washing them took a lot of her energy. This was a great energy saving trick.
I have heard about this before but never seen anyone put it into practice. Idk why there's so many haters. This is a great idea for saving money and for limiting waste going in the landfill. Win win.
I'm not exactly a hater, I'm happy for the parents who are able to do this. But it's not a reality for all parents and you shouldn't feel bad if you are unsuccessful at it. Plus, some parents work a lot and rely on child care services who will not do this.
When my daughter was 6 months old I saw this video and it got me excited! We started that same day and got 4 pees. It was eye opening. By one year she was trained and only missed when I wasn't paying attention. She is now one and a half and it's so easy. I know she likes it too because she hated diapers and I feel like she is happy that we anticipated to her needs. I'm soooo glad we did this! Thank you Mayim!
I did EC. My husband was always on board from day 1 with our first. I didn't read any books, someone just told me about it (in some detail of how it worked) and it made complete sense to me. Our babies start right away with a desire not to pee/poop on themselves but they can't easily move themselves so they make little attempts to let you know that it's time to move them. I always just held them over our own toilet, with their back against me and held them in a little squat. Pooping was always fast. I had to train my son to use a diaper at night because I couldn't keep taking him to the potty several times at night and he screamed and screamed when I told him to just pee in the diaper. Definitely the best part of EC is learning that your tiny babies are communicating or trying to all the time!
This is also why baby sign is SO important! The babies I cared for in the daycare who knew sign were peaceful and happy babies because they were able to communicate effectively and have their needs met!
It makes sense to this grandmother...wish I'd heard of it when my sons were young. Actually, if you ever have a puppy, this is how you train them to go where you want them to. It works for puppies, why not babies? Thanks for your wisdom and sharing.
I wish I had done this with my only child five years ago, I knew and was well informed about that method. I always thought before I became a mother, that once I became a mother I would do a lot of things that I just didn't do. Among many things, I couldn't do those things because I was so depressed after given birth that I could barely handle feeding a child that usually refused to nurse and sleep more than an hour of consecutive sleep. I was depressed, concerned about my child's sensory issues, and socially isolated. After years of Therapy, my child is doing much more better and I was finally able to overcome depression. My son wore diapers until he was 4 and a half. And for a long time, I had to listen to people telling me how spoiled my child was. Most of them didn't know about all the developmental issues behind his behavior. And even those who knew were not supportive at all. They just talked about their own experiences as if their children were better just because they stopped wearing diapers at a very early age. Today, I can relate to those mothers that struggle to do their best but still can't be perfect or even struggle to be average at raising children. Sometimes motherhood is not that easy for everyone. However, I still believe that If I ever had a second child, I would try to put into practice some of the things that you share and give advice about in your channel. But this time, understanding my limits and forgiving myself for not being the perfect mother I imagined myself being many many years ago. (Sorry about my mistakes, I am not native speaker)
Sonia Arboleda, I feel like so many of us women do that....we think we are going to be perfect...I am trying to fight that way of thinking myself and tell myself that it’s ok to just do whatever is best at the time. Your advice was encouraging, thank you for sharing your story, and wishing all the best to you and your child ♥️ by the way your English is great! I’m not a native speaker either, your English is awesome!
My Indian friends had their daughter "potty" trained at 6 months by taking her to the bathroom sink and making a "shhhh" sound, every couple of hours. Started her at two weeks old...no joke! They had a handful of cloth diapers they put her in, but she got to the point, rather quickly actually, where she would NEVER use her diaper to pee or poop in. It's very popular in India and other non Western cultures. #🤯
I heard in India some people actually pee and poop in the streets, that a politician in that country actually ran on trying to get people to use toilets. So, seems gross.
Um... considering it is a third world country...but they didn't do it in India...they did it in the US. For the lower class it's likely... however, middle and upper class train their children at a very young age regardless, by letting them run around without bottoms on...and when the child has to use the restroom, they go into the water closet and go on the floor by the drain. They are usually potty trained in a week... Also for your information, a "toilet" in the majority of places in India IS basically just a hole in the ground...
I'm in China right now, and they do the same thing, except they whistle. It conditions the child so that the parent has even more control past just watching for signals from the child. Really smart if you ask me. I'm not sure if I could do it though, since I've never seen someone from my home culture do it. It's intriguing though!
Now if parents or child raiser's would be able to have an appropriate amount of time off so they're able to do this before they had to go possibly to an early childhood education center so family can work that would be great unfortunately so many people have to go back to work right after giving birth that they can't try this and that's kind of sad that they can't even give it a try but I am going to start trying to pick up more on the cues of the children I work with to try and at least make their diaper changing quicker so they sit in it less so thanks for sharing
You can do EC part time, it reduces the number of diapers and makes potty training very easy when the time comes. Starting early was the key for me, from the time they were newborns I held them over the potty after eating and if you're consistent they pick it up fast.
Working full time does make it harder, but it’s possible to do EC part time! Babies are pretty smart and get the difference between day care, where they need to use the diaper, and home, where they can use the potty.
The way you explain how to do this makes alot more sense then other videos I have seen on this concept. The other people I have seen talking about this talk about having your child undiapered so misses go everywhere. I think you did this in a very practical way. Thanks for sharing.
It's very normal in India they never use diapers.....everyone trains their kids from day 1....we use cloth diapers for first few months which is basically thin like a link cloth and as soon as kids are couple of months older they put them in underwear very tiny cute ones....mom's just train there kids to go in a pot and by one year they are trained....of course there are accidents even when they are older but it's never made a big deal and is treated like go with the flow kind of thing...it is economical and good for health as kids can heat up in a diaper in India's weather.
Why do you feel you have to find a way to undermine Dipti's comment? Your comment is irrelevant to what Dipti was trying to share with viewers. Even if what you shared is true (and maybe it is and maybe it isn't), it doesn't make Dipti's statement invalid or less credible, and it doesn't mean what was said has no value. Yet that's what the words you chose and how you chose to use them do. It makes no sense.
@@Liz-irk thanks so much for saying that. There is this constant need to somehow put down any wisdom that comes from any country that isn't western or pre-approved by some weird pretentious benchmark with fake stats.
@@ronita1984 You're welcome! You are absolutely right and it disgusts me that most westerners act this way, and it's very ignorant. It also shows a lack of exposure to other cultures and the beautiful world out there that we live in and the beautiful people, cultures, traditions, wisdom, and nature within it. There is so much to learn from one another, but unfortunately so many people think they are too high above others to realize we all have value to offer to one another's lives. Anyhow, sorry for ranting! Lol I'm glad it was meaningful to you to see someone speak up and defend someone being devalued. So many more westerners (and human being in general, but I'll emphasize those in Western countries because that's where I live and I witness this behavior and lack of respect everyday- sometimes subtly and other times blatantly) need to learn to do the same. Have a lovely day Ronita!
Candorsmayhem I really didn't see anything wrong your comment. It's a fact. And many people know, including Indians, that water supplies have been heavily contaminated by improper disposal of eliminations. It's a health crisis and hepatitis A kills many native countrymen and foreigners there every year. Geez, some are so ready to attack and play savior or white knight. I don't get it. Thanks for presenting some truth, sorry to see you got jumped on. You and the original poster both made valid points.
I was born in 1975, and my mother and grandmother potty trained me in a very similar way. They found out that I tended to poop every day at the same hour (routine was key, I guess), so, by the age of 12 months I was only peeing in my (fabric!) diapers and completely abandoned them by 18 months. I guess instinct and also a loath of diaper laundry played a great part. Also, my mother states that her long term of relationship with cats as pets played a great role in her understanding me as a baby 😂
I started part-time ec with my baby when she was 4 weeks and now we are 3 weeks into ec and it is going good. Few days ago I told my mom about ec and she laughed and said, I didn't know it had a name but I did the same thing when you were a baby, in fact most mom's of my generation did it. I live in India and I just realised how the western culture of diapering has taken over the country and now I am trying to learn this "new thing" called ec through internet sources of mostly American origin. Instead I could have just asked my mom 😂 or any other older women.
That is awesome! The first thing that come to my mind is how conscious this is to all parties involved. As a former nanny I have done thousands of nappies and this sounds like fresh breath of air. You explained very clear and I can totally see how this works. My question would be how did deal with nights?
OMG I am 8 months pregnant and I just discovered your channel, I literally cant think of anyone better to help me with baby things, thanks! You rock girl 🙌🏻
I certainly read about EC when I was pregnant/new Mum but decided that I really didn't have the right temperament (or the right kind of floors I guess lol) to be dealing with EC on a daily basis. There are just so many things to try and juggle as a new mum that certainly in my situation I just didn't think I could do it if I didn't need to. I had enough worries going on post-c-section that one less thing to think about was needed! But bravo and well done to Mums and Dads who do, do EC and found that it worked for them.
I was really blessed that my Mum was on hand, because of how it worked out my husband had to go back to work part-time about 4 or 5 days after our son was born. My Mum is self-employed so she worked on my computer while helping me with the baby. Now the baby is 4 and has started school!
I did E.C. part time with my daughter just for fun started at two weeks and really just did it randomly from then on. By 6m I had gotten to know her cues and she would like give me this look and I never had to change a #2 diaper again which was awesome. I didn't do it with my second child which I regret, I started too late and she hated the potty.
@@moorek1967 I did not know was not serious. Does not matter antway as I had typed. But, THANK YOU for letting in on them. HA, HA, HA, I guess joke on me. THANKS again. THE LORD Bless you, and THE LORD keep you and your families healthy .
@@elianamiller2666 It is ok, don't apologize. The term for the joke is "clickbait", an advertisement or title that is intended to catch your interest by making a false claim. Hence, the advertisement the poster was referring to would be the clickbait "diaper companies", and because she gave advice contrary to what diaper companies want you to believe to buy their diapers, that is why they "hate" her, because it is a false claim, therefore, clickbait. My joke was also from clickbait, because they make the false claim that people in your area buy the product. Don't apologize if you didn't know, and no, the joke is not on you.
Started to do this but I had some medical problems so it was put on hold until my son was older. I got flack for this from family, but with a background teaching history and being a frequent traveler, I know my thoughts are far from crazy even they are in America today. Thanks for having the bravery to not underestimate our children and ourselves and do you!
I did this with my first and she was actually telling me she needed to pee by 15 months. But realistically still not potty trained until 2 years old. (E.c. is not potty training.) I am blessed that my husband supported me and ESPECIALLY my MIL who had her kids potty trained by a year old. When I was hanging out with a group of 80 year olds they all potty trained at one years old. Pretty cool to see different parenting methods.
i watched your videos before and it inspired me to try EC with my son. I did more research on how to do this. My son is four and a half months old now and we have been practicing EC for last 2 weeks. It is going great.
I think this system is amazing if it works for the individual. I have 3 teenage sons and I have to be honest I had never heard of this. However with that being said, I never ever had a baby with a diaper rash. I don't think it's fair to assume all babies that wear diapers get rashes, especially if they are changed and cleaned promptly. The new ideas that imerge over time are very interesting to me, thank you for sharing. 😊
My grandmother had me on the toilet, at 9 months old. Back then, there wasn't cute little plastic potties, that sat on the floor. There was a kind of toilet seat, put on the regular toilet seat, that had a smaller hole and a goose's head and neck in front, to hold on to. I was put on it and held on to that's goose's neck for dear life. My mom or nan always stayed in the bathroom with me, of course. My nan was almost militaristic in her practically. She thought it was better to spend the time getting a baby potty trained, as early as possible, than constantly changing diapers.
I was born January of 1977. My mother found out at her checkup that she was pregnant again (lesson for all - you’re more fertile after giving birth, even if you’ve been trying for 7 years since your first one!) My sister was due December of 1977 (bookend babies!) My mother said she could not mentally deal with two children in diapers, breastfeeding and/or on bottles at the same time and thus the journey began. My mother and grandmother did the 70’s version of E.C. with me, using only a standard toilet. Years later my mother would laughingly equate it to the human version of housebreaking a pet! They would watch for signs after I ate or drank and before and after naps and she said eventually I would make it known that I needed to go to the bathroom myself. There were many accidents, to be sure, but by the time my sister was born I was 11-months-old, potty trained, off the breast and bottle and walking. My mother’s approach would not work for every child or even every parent but my mother was motivated and she said I was an easygoing, curious child who seemed to thrive on moving to the next developmental milestone early or she would have taken a different approach. I’m still the most independent and self-reliant of my siblings and I think it started from that point. BTW - My mother was so exhausted by the time my sister came along she said she could not go through the process again so soon and used diapers for my sister until she was almost 1.
Lisa, I was told that I was potty trained at about 8 months old. This is probably what happened. For my daughters, I didn't do this. I didn't know about it then. But I certainly could read their queues. It would have worked for us
I was born in 1971 and I had more than one potty. Back then, kids learned how to potty by going in to the bathroom with mom when she went in. My mother said I trained myself by watching her. She went back to work when I was one and the daycare teachers were amazed that I asked to use the potty and my cloth diaper was dry. She didn't tell them because, she thought it was normal. I was her first child and she didn't babysit much as a teen.They were also surprised I was talking and walking early, although some of that could have been because I was smaller than most babies. My three siblings were not trained at one though.
I wish I had heard about that before I had my babies!! My youngest is 18 months... i wonder... is it too late... I am sure going to read more about it NOW!! We practiced EC not knowing it.., in some ways ..., we use signs for a lot of things like hunger, milk, all done (or finished), shower. However this no dipper deal blew my mind. #MOREPLEASE I am considered an unconventional parent amongst my family and friends. Here in Brazil hardly anyone (yes, no one I know other than me and the USA moms on the internet with which I first heard about signing for not mute or deaf) use signs, or practiced Baby Led Weaning. I feel very privileged for been able to understand English it really opened the knowledge of the world to me! I first started watching your videos because of lovely Amy, but I am sure staying tuned FOR MAYIM!
It's definitely not crazy. I first heard about it when my oldest was 7 months old. A friend, who's daughter was a week older than mine was going this. I was intrigued but never tried with my oldest. With my next two, I definitely became more aware of their cues and tried E.C. to varying levels but was never 100% committed to it. We used cloth diapers so while catching their cued meant I had fewer diapers to wash every day, I didn't mind washing them and never bought disposables so there was no incentive to save money. I found babywearing made it much simpler to see/ hear their cues.
I am SO THANKFUL you did this video!!! I EC'd with my daughter and so many people misunderstood what we were doing - thought I was early potty training (as though you could from birth). It was wonderful, and I wouldn't do it any other way - but I'm amazed because in spite of the fact that we talk about her early years my daughter sometimes brings up diapers and babies as though that's the only way. It's what she picks up from our social surroundings, but I was disappointed that she didn't remember any of it. It was really nice to share this with her :)
My mother said I was “potty trained” at 9 months. This was often the practice in the fifties. I guess it’s coming back in fashion. How does it work with children at childcare, though?
It doesn’t! This is only for stay at home moms or Dad’s. I doubt a daycare worker looking after 5-10 kids have time to watch for “cues” when baby needs to pee it poop.
You can do it part time until they're old enough for the daycare. We told our daycare that our oldest was using the potty at home when he was 18 months and they said they would just put him on a potty every hour during diaper change time. Within 2 weeks he was out of diapers. Now they're trying to get the other kids to train early too! It really is in everybody's best interest.
I work at a daycare and we definently don't have time for this. If the kids are old enough to speak or othervise tell us it needs to go, then off course we will sit them on a potty, but looking for a bunch of one year olds "cues" is not possible as there's just to many kids to look after. But still, I would encourage parents to introduce the potty early on and have them use it when they're at home. It is better than to suddenly introduce the potty at a later age.
This is what we did for my puppy haha When he’d bark and bite at our sleeves, we’d let him out. What we did after a while was keep a time chart of when he ate and when he pooped, figured out he needed to go out 4 hours after each meal! Easy peasy toilet training
I remember that my mom told me, that I stop using diapers on my own before I was 15 month old. She says it was pretty obvious how much I hated diapers. So, no you're not crazy. Greetings and love from Germany
I read about this in your book when my daughter was a couple months old but I had to go back to work so I ignored it. I ended up working from home and now I'm starting it really really late at 10 months. I figure if I can stay consistent, even this late, she will figure it out eventually.
I love the videos and also the articles on Groknation about parenting. I don't have kids yet, but I think I might try some things I heard/read from you. Very interesting video🖒
I saw this video a year ago and just had my first baby 2 months ago. I thought I’d give it a shot. Today I caught my first poo! Thank you for spreading awareness!! ❤️
Yupp it sounds crazy, but it actually works. We do it with our five month old and our two year old potty trained in one day. We use cloth diapers as a backup for our five month old. Godiaperfree dot com is a wonderful resource and she has youtube channel filled with free info.
Will they just keep lettiing you know when to go then? Trying it with my 15month old wish i heard about this sooner but he did a poop and 4 wees in his potty today 😄 I know when he wants to go and he will signal so i just whip him on haha
The short answer is yes. Here is the summed-up long version of our experience: Our (now) almost two and a half year old daughter: never heard of ec. cloth diapered from birth. When she was around 12 months, I just sat her on the potty (figured it couldn't hurt), and she peed. This continued for the next few months and by 15 months old, she was basically potted trained (even transitioned to cloth pull ups). Oh, and we assigned a sign of making a little fist and shaking her hand when she had to go, she caught on within a week at 12 months old. That's how she would signal us. Around 15 months, we hit a big regression when my parents moved to town and went back to cloth diapers. After reading the book from godiaperfree.com, it looks like we should've just stayed the course. Anywho, so after her 2nd birthday, we followed the potty training course from godiaperfree.com and she potty trained within a day. We've had some accidents here and there, but nothing major. While at home, she doesn't even signal to us anymore - just walked herself to the bathroom, uses the step stool to get on the regular sized toilet, wipes, and then washes her hands. We have a toddler sized toilet for our minivan. She still uses the sign when we're out and about. Our son has been doing the ec thing since one month old, he's about five months now. We don't have a signal established yet, but I just look for the cues outlined by godiaperfree.com (ha - I swear I'm not a spokesperson). I typically get about half of his pees/poos each day. I figure anything is a bonus that'll make potty training easier. At 15 months, you could look into potty training... good luck :-)
It's common in India. Diapers r not good for kids. It causes rashes to baby. If u r going out then it's ok. But for long time it's not gud. I have 2 kids and I didn't use diapers to them
anindita sarkar there are no rashes if you change them after you recognize they went. You just don’t leave them fir hours in a dirty diaper. What do you do at night?
What ?" Rashes are normal"wtf rashes only happen when you leave them in a dirty nappy for HOURS ! Like what is wrong with you? Do your job and be a better mum
It only causes rashes if you leave them in it for hours or your child has sensitive skin. I have three kids, the only one I had an issue with was my middle one, he had SUPER sensitive skin. If parents aren't a holes and leave their children in wet or dirty diapers for hours the child most likely won't get a rash.
India is nasty BECAUSE everyone shits everywhere!? They don't have germx OR clean water like we do. Disease is everywhere, but all anyone can think about in India is having more and more babies!?!? Clean water and contraception could do wonders for A LOT of countries
I Recieved a similar reaction. When I told my roommate I'm going to train out cats consent, respect of boundaries. And not to go I to the tables it countertops for mischief. And similar to you, when I produced results. He became a believer and no longer thought it was a crazy idea. So EC sounds like a great idea I can pass onto any new or expecting parents I meet. (that ask. They have to ask first. I'm not going to give unsolicited advice to parents.)
Awesome video! We started ec at 10 days old and catch lots of his business, he's now nearly 3 months old and beginning to use sign language that we're teaching him as a signal. We Love ec. Andrea Olson's podcast and videos really helped us have enough info to take this path.
This is fascinating! I don’t know that I could have done it when our son was born, because I was so damn tired (we had an almost 3 year old already, and he had terrible colic),and I only had 6 weeks of 40% paid maternity leave from work. Both my husband and I work full time, but if I was an at-home mom i would want to try this, mainly for the cost of buying diapers. This is interesting!
I did not see that coming!! When she said “...and you know when you are up and about I used... trees 🌲. 🤣🤣🤣 I thought she was going to say diapers. Lol
@@elianamiller2666 really? They may be a common sight but I wouldn't feel comfortable bringing my child behind one so they could relief themselves. Ew.
My baby (3 months old) pees before bedtime, then when he wakes up for a feed (twice a night), I will take him to the toilet beforehand. He wakes up and fusses if he needs to pee at any other point but it’s pretty clockwork if I stick to his bedtime routine.
My daughter never peed at night for some reason.... I even asked the pediatrician. It was easy to potty train her, but I did have to buy another potty because she saw the 1st one we bought and didn't want to use it. She used to follow me to the bathroom like all kids and I got her the potty that looks like a grown up at 14 months and by 15 months she was using it on her own. My son was potty trained before 2... and he peed that first night, he hated the smell of pee and pee all over him so he didn't do it anymore.
I didn’t practice E.C. with my daughter until she was about 6 months old. Basically when she started sitting on her own and not having misses at night anymore. Still, it was not until she was about 18 months that she was only having 0-2 misses a day. Then, she regressed for about 3 months (around 25 mos to 28 mos). Now she’s 30 months old and no misses at home. But she refuse to go in public restrooms and she will hold it in as long as she can then have misses. Yes she only had 0-2 incidents by the time she was 18 months. Yes we only hit 3 months regression. Yes she’s doing excellent at home before the age of 3. I did enjoy saving money on diapers by sitting her on the potty at such an early age. And it was nice not having night incidents at such an early age. And yes it definitely was more hygienic. However, I personally think waiting until they’re two or even 18 months old to potty train would seem to be an effective approach as well.
My daughter would also refuse to go on public toilets until we figured out she was scared she would fall in. So we just kept a child's toilet seat in the car for when we went out and if she needed to use the bathroom I would go get it from the car and... Problem solved (for us). Actually, we went on vacation to Finland last year and there most public bathrooms (usually the handicap/changing room stall) have potties or children's seats. It was a breeze.
Angélica Ko-Pe We do have a folding potty seat that I bring with me all the time. I ask her if she needs to go in the potty when we are out and about. Just patiently waiting for her to be ready. She used to go in public all the time. It just became an issue recently when she regressed for about three months.
Lauren Fry Yes. So lately, we haven’t been out for more than 3 hours at a time. And we use regular undies outside so it can get messy if she does have an accident. I didn’t want to put training pants on her because like I said at home there hasn’t been any accidents. I’m just patiently asking her all the time she needs to go in public. Looking for cues and what not. I’m sure when she’s ready she’ll go. I figure if she’s doing so well at home and she can even hold it in/control it while we are in public. Then it’s only a matter of time. Right?
I started E.C. with my 2nd at 6m when she could sit. She was Soo scared by the potty she would just break down and cry. It was a total bummer. I did E.C. part timewith my 1st and had her cues down by 6m it was awesome. We had no #2 misses from 6m on and she would crawl to her potty later on. Since we only did it part time it was a win in my book.
We did something similar but not exact. My now 6 yr old was fully potty trained by 13 months. Now-a-day's, it is really funny when I look at her and tell her she needs to go potty and she gives me a load of sass about how I can't possibly know if she has to go or not. I tell her it is mom magic.
I am from Turkey and potty is a 500 years' tradition from Anatolia, before the wipes and diapers are invented. I used potty for my son for a year and then he started using our own toilet with an additional lid when he was only 12-13 months old. Best way ever. Thanks for sharing 🙏🏻
You have the perfect voice for audio book narration
You are so right, Monica Jones, @Mayim Bialik sure does,
and beautiful
Right?! I could literally listen to her all day lol
@@elizabethpascual780 So very true, yes I sure can as well.
@@donsettie344 So very much inside as well, She is A FABULOUS HUMAN BEING. Ahhh, ALAS, she IS ONE of THE MOST HIGH'S CHOSEN PEOPLE, VERY CHERISHED AND SO VERY PRECIOUS TO THE LORD.
My mom did this with me out of pure poverty, since she was a teen mom. I was fully potty trained by 12 months. I never knew this was an actual thing, though!
haha i turned your 69 likes into 70 :P just saying...
@@EmilyGrobler Haha, my kind of person! I do that, too. 😋
Your mother sound resourceful. Respect
That’s dope! Question though: how do they survive daycare with EC? Or this is only for stay at home parents?
Hello Mayim, last Thursday I made the Spanish translation of the subtitles of this video, in order to all the people of my country who don´t speak English can watch and understand you because the message you give seems fantastic to me. Take a look at them and it would be nice you publish them.
My best wishes.
Please share! I want it for my husband please :) thank you
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she has not authorized it yet
You know, I speak fluent Spanish too... Lightbulb!
Thanks a lot!!! Greetings, I, m from Alcoi!!!
My boyfriend actually introduced this to me! Of course he didn't call it E.C. or give it any name. I actually thought he was joking but he was completely serious like, "No my mom did this with us. You learn what the baby does whenever he's about to go... and then you just bring them over the toilet. Mom did it to save money on diapers." I was completely astounded by the idea as I had never heard anything of the sort! What a way to be cost-effecient, help the environment, and not having to go through the switch from diapers to potty. My bf is from Singapore and of Malay descent (an Asian ethnicity) so she's right when she says that many cultures practice this!
I'm Indonesian, my mum did this!!!
I have never heard of this, and I'm intrigued. How come no one I know speaks of this? I am almost 25 (Living in Norway) and I know a lot of people with baby's. This is why I follow you, to learn new things.
I also live in Norway and I only heard of this through the Internet. We did this with my daughter, namely with the poop. We also used cloth diapers which was a great for both baby's bottom and the wallet.
Because capitalism doesn't want you to know it.
Linn Jeanette I live in Norway too. My son is now 11, and I heard about this, mostly via a Norwegian online forum for baby-wearing (one that no longer exist, unfortunately, «Tett Inntil»). Lots of parents there practised more of what Mayim Bialik speaks about, Attachment Parenting. Co-sleeping, baby-wearing, EC, baby-lead weaning (no mashed baby-foods when introducing solids), long time breast feeding etc. I didn’t go «all in» with every aspect of attachment parenting, for various reasons, but I picked those I felt could work for our little family. (EC unfortunately not one of them). I hope you will find more info online, and maybe a community too. (Facebook-groups, perhaps?). There is a site called Ringblomst.no - not sure if the forum there is still alive. Check it out if you feel like it. :)
Because most doctors will tell you, this causes a thickened bladder, which is not a good thing, and can cause serious health issues later in life. I'd much rather use a diaper as an infant than one by age 30.
@@rockiwahl9906 how would it cause all of these problems ? I need explanations
For everyone that's asking how to do it, research it/get the book she mentioned in the video. For everyone saying it's crazy or you have a legitimate reason why you or your child can't do it, she clearly states that it's not for everyone. She's not trying to guilt anyone for doing things differently, just providing insight on another way of doing it. If you're interested, research for yourself; if not, there's no reason to be ashamed or rude. Great video! 🙂
Amanda Reese if you have a special needs child it’s harder.
@@sierrahjustus4467 Amanda litterally said that for people who have legitimate reasons why they can't do it then it's not for everyone...😑
Just know your baby, you don't need research... if you were using actual washable diapers and having to wash them by hand and having to sterilize them by boiling like it used to be before disposable diapers you would be motivated enough.
Well keep in mind that it isn't all or nothing, you can just do it part time if it works better for you, some is better than none. Also there are good resources on this topic that are available out there such as godiaperfree.
right now as people are wiping diaper shelves clean and others are crying over not having disposable diapers this is a very important video. wish more people saw this
Or there's also cloth diapers
@@thereseo4655 you can do EC and use cloth diapers as a back up to save time and energy having to wash the diapers
I watched this before I fell pregnant with my first and it remained in the back of my head as "interesting information" I found the courage to try it when he was just over 2 months and couldn't believe how easy it was and how much sense it made. I now can't believe mom's survive without it. Thank you for introducing me to the world of EC :)
Plz can u spelling how could this training
I saw this video on Friday afternoon while my 8 month old was sleeping. We cloth diaper and do signs already so I thought let's try it when she wakes....now it is Sunday and Baby Kate has been using the potty all weekend. I cannot believe it. She is signing Potty and even saying all done when finished. We are floored. She just turned 8 months. This video described perfectly how to start. We have even had her use restrooms while out and about. She seems so happy we understand her. I am so thankful she now has a bigger voice in our family. Thank YOU!!!
I don't believe you.
@@claudiatoyou I don't even believe me!
She is now 10 months still going strong. She does potty in the cloth diapers too. But mostly on the potty. Crazy ..last night she was dry all night. Trust me...I don't believe me lol
@@AkS143joyful lol you're funny! ❤❤🤗
Alana Stanton public restrooms? Now that is gross.
Yea but she is close to the age that depending on the baby you could potty train her.
My sister friend taught her own baby how to sign too. She’ll sign “milk” every single time she fed them, so when they’re hungry the baby would sign “milk” too. I thought it was amazing. She never had any issue identifying what her baby needed, cuz her baby was basically signing to her. ❤️
I'm a 53 year old mom and now Nana, in every generation there has been new and improved ways of raising and training children to successful adults. Every good mother freaking out because someone else was doing it differently (so somehow better than she was). We put completely unnecessary bars up to ourselves and to each other, to gain this unattainable label of Mother of the Universe.
As long as your baby/child has adequate and healthy food, a good healthcare regimen, safe and clean living conditions, and people around who provide guidance and unconditional love, that is ALL that tiny human needs to grow up successfully.
But hey, if her method rings your bell, go for it. And rock on, Mama.
Very supportive! Thank you so much! ❤
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽brilliant advice
Awesome comment!
Very supportive, but I hope more moms will consider landfills and waste. Because we are wasting our time banning plastic straws when diapers are the top wasteful and harmful things in landfills and probably oceans, when there are now ATLEAST two other options.
Kim Pratt but it’s the opposite this is the old way
Mayim is right about this!
It'd be amazing if more people tried this method out. The amount of waste that is caused by diapers is insane in our country.
Cloth diapers also help. I'm on baby #3, and haven't purchased any diapers for this baby.
@@Volleyball_Chess_and_Geoguessr Yes, cloth diapers are a big plus. I am in the process of building my stash from all-secondhand diapers right now. But EC is the ultimate ecological footprint decreaser. 😉
@@Volleyball_Chess_and_Geoguessr Yeah but it's unhygienic
mrlnxf what’s unhygienic about it?
We cloth diaper too. She's nearly nine months old now and has never had a diaper rash and hasn't out wet the absorbency overnight (she sleeps 8p-8a straight through) since we figured out the night diaper that works for her.
I find this similar to Dunstan's Baby Language. I thought it was totally nuts at first. Babies can't talk! But then I started listening and it changed my life. While I hadn't heard of E.C. when my kids were born, I have no doubt that if babies can communicate when they are tired and hungry, they can indicate they have to relieve themselves. It's more about training parents, rather than kids, but I'll take it.
It is so different then when I had, well just one child. She is in college now. Guess I am a bit too late to try that:) Maybe she will. When she is finished with college👍
I think you’re wonderful! The world needs more mothers who want this level of intimacy with their precious children.
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You are brilliant. I didn't know this was possible! On the other hand, my son hated being dirty so much, the moment he peed in his diaper, had cry. I started leaving him out of diapers and by 11 months and 25 days, he was potty trained. So easy was my son as he grew up. He just got married yesterday to his fiance, Andrew.
Congratulations! :)
congratulation!
Congratulations!
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Aww congrats!
I have raised 6 kids and never heard of this! This would have been wonderful to start early. Glad you are sharing it so others can try it.
To anyone reading this that has unsuccessfully attempted "E.C." it can be exhausting mentally and physically to try and understand a newborn. In my experience, I tried to learn my daughter's cues when she was a newborn but I missed some or interpreted them wrong a lot and often. So, this "E.C." method didn't work for us. It made me stressed out and after a C-section the last thing I needed to do is bend down and clean up baby dung off the floor and feel like a failure because I couldn't understand my own baby. I respect Mayim and many other people for being able to implement "E.C." successfully but for me, I am happy I used diapers and not let myself be beaten down by the fact that I couldn't read her cues. "E.C." is ideal but not something any parent should lose sleep over, like I did. Don't feel like a failure if you see "E.C." isn't working, keep trying, try something different, or use diapers but most importantly take it easy on yourself and love your baby above all.
Many times one of my children would have a bowel movement while I was feeding them and although I could tell when they were about to go, it was only a few seconds warning. No way would I have made it to a potty on time. Not to mention all the times I am helping other children, the times I was working, cleaning, etc. But, man, it sounds awesome and I say give it a try if you can because diapers are expensive and we almost all have had that bit of shame over a diaper rash.
You can use timing. If you take them regularly, they will hold it until then. It starts with about every 20 minutes then increases as they get older and can hold it longer. Babies that you are not taking to the potty will not give you any notice, why would they? Babies feel the fresh air when you pull their pants down and recognize the position they are in and they pee or poop. Until then, they hold it, assuming you are taking them regularly. I loved it because it was a great way to show them that I was there for them. It seemed to help us connect more.
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Jaya O'M ..... Legit question. If you are doing this every 20 minutes in the beginning, won't regression happen at night when you would go longer stretches? Or did you do this 24/7?
I've started practicing E.C. when my son was two weeks old. He is one and a half months now. I can see when he needs to go to a toilet but seems like I'm too stressed to miss a pee or a poo so he will cry when I hold him above the bathtub and poo or pee a couple of minutes after. It very frustrating :(
I saw this practice all over China. I never did understand how they did it even after living in the culture for 13 yrs. Your explanation helped me. Whenever I asked a Chinese person to explain it to me, I always got the deer stare
My husband grew up in India and this is how he and everyone he knows were potty trained. No one used diapers because they are expensive and possibly harmful to the baby's health since with the heat and humidity it's easier for the baby to get rashes and other irritations. I don't think you''re crazy at all! In fact, he thinks we are crazy for letting our babies sit around in their own waste.
EMalavathu212 thank you, I’m going to have to buy a book and give it a shot
www.huffingtonpost.com/rose-george/open-defecation-india_b_7898834.html
Ya let's do that.
Ew, people do that?
I have to agree, I am almost 60 and this is how my mom did us and she grew up in Japan where they are super hygiene conscious. My mom use to complain that mothers who use diapers are too lazy to train their babies. She thought the invention of paper (disposable) diapers made children not want to use the potty and she thought that was very disgusting.
thenitenurse22 That's so interesting! Thanks for sharing.
My nanna thought it was amusing when I told her about evacuation communication. She said we just used to call it toilet training. By the time all of my girls (she had 4 children, all girls) were 1 they were fully toilet trained. I asked her how she did it, especially with her babies all just over a year apart. She said very matter of factly 'You can tell when they need to go!' Haha! That was the normal thing apparently 65-70 years ago. She also said she didn't have time to be messing with nappies as she had a farm to run.
Exactly. When I heard about it they were talking about 5 month-old babies, and in that case I'm reallt skeptical.
But my mom had me out of dipers, including night dipers by 18 months - after I requested it verbally...
Nowadays work/daycare is a huge problem to accomplish that...
I doubt you'll see this cause your comment is 3 years old but how did taking all those kids to the toilet each time save your grandma time running a farm? I have two kids, one is fully potty trained and one is about 3/4 of the way there and it's an almost constant back and forth of someone going potty lol
EC is more humane imho. I wasn't a believer at first, but so glad my ex persevered. Clothe diapers are not as bad as I thought it would be. I went to buy disposable diapers once, what a scam. That changed my perspective on everything.
I try to look at how humans have tackled challenges throughout history, before modern 'convienences'.
Great video!
What about when you need a babysitter? What's the protocol?
@@marielenagarcia5799 great question! When we needed child care, we looked for or asked child care providers if they were experienced with clothe diapers or EC. Our daughter was 'potty trained' by 18 months, which would have been sooner if I got on board sooner.
I saw this video before I was even pregnant and it inspired me to do EC with my baby, who’s now 3 months old! Thank you, Mayim!
Girl, I came from a destitute brazilian family, and all my nieces and nephews, and also my generation never used diapers. So by my baby's 7 month I started and with 10 he was fully potty trained. Which nobody believed. That was fun
How? They can’t even sit straight?
If you didn’t use diapers what did you use? If you started at 7 months?
What about baby being in the daycare?
@@znadiaster6630 by 6-7 months babies can sit up.
I'm currently pregnant and this sounds amazing
The earlier you potty training your child you will see the benefits of it.My little girl is 3years old and the last 2 years she been going through the night dry and clean.
The earlier you potty training your child you will see the benefits of it.My little girl is 3years old and the last 2 years she been going through the night dry and clean.
Me too! And since I'm self employed in a family business I will be able to take baby with me so I'll have the attention necessary for it.
How did it go?
Perfect timing, @Victoria Anderson.
It's a shame more people don't know about E.C.! It worked beautifully! People think it will be more work but, at least for us, it was not at all. And it saved us a FORTUNE! Not to mention, no chemically diapers on baby's bum! Love it! You are right, it's not for everyone... I sing it's praises for anyone who will listen! Out of my friends and family, 7 of them tried it and only one did not want to continue with it. Everyone else is so happy they did it! I think you have to be lucky enough to be with your baby consistently to work with them, and obviously, not every one can. But if you can, do you your research, and you might be very surprised how easy it can be to bond with and work with your little one in this way! Fun that you shared this Mayim!
Thanks so much for this video. You inspired me to read the book by Ingrid Bauer and take on EC two weeks ago. My son is now 6 weeks old and I am catching most of his poops and pees, and I feel great to be responding to his needs so quickly, not letting him sit in his own urine and feces, and helping the environment! My husband and in-laws are on board too, as they are Chinese and this is part of their culture and how my husband was potty trained. We live in China so EC-friendly clothes are easy to find. I also really enjoyed your matter-of-fact attitude in this video, just the right amount of humor and sass :-) 2:36- “...and eventually use the throne potty. Oooh!”
Fortunately I'm no longer in the stage of life where this information is relevant but...I would have very much appreciated it when my kids were little. Potty training is not fun and causes a lot of stress for both the children and parents. I hope that many who are at this stage and watch your post will take it to heart and investigate the logistics. Sadly, many don't understand that parenting is not about finding the easiest way for the parents to "deal with" their children. Parenting is about sacrificing, teaching, disciplining, all in love, and the rewards are great. [Me now stepping off my soapbox. LOL]
While watching this, I couldn't help but hear Sheldon Cooper's voice ask, "When do you evacuate your bowels?"
.... Lol !!!
Lmao
@MAD GRUMPYMAN THAT IS @Gabrielle Birchak-Birkman REAL NAME, AND IS BEING USED PROPERLY. Look AT WHAT YOU ARE USING. YOU ARE USING WHAT YOU ARE---NO PERSON HAS THAT AS THEIR NAME. STOP BULLYING PEOPLE.
@@nicolecourtney8688 Can you people ever JUST LAUGH? Or are all of you just so in-capable of what is just so easy to do.
@MAD GRUMPYMAN Ummm. I do not get what you typed-----What are you ASSUMING of me, without cause in regarding you words "I know you want that all left up to" [they are God's House, House of God, House of Prayer, not 1 is God's Church], mass media and government. Why are you typing of such?
Thank you.. I started ec and I agree with you. I feel like I can give my son everything he needs. I have such a deep understanding of him and I know he appreciates it!
In my country diapers were a luxury when I was a baby. My mom also had to wash all our laundry by hands, because a washing machine was a luxury as well... My parents just learned my potty patterns, and didn’t think of an accident as a big deal. There weren’t many of them anyways. All of my aunts are still using the same method with their babies, even though the diapers are available now. Thank you for your video!
I never knew what I did with my baby had a name... I had her in 88 by myself and just didn't have a lot of money lol. So I would feed her and wait and then when I would watch for a shiver or wiggle and then before she was one she just knew . Wow EC or poor mom plan lol.
This was what we did, too! I didn't know there was a name for it. I had the luxury of being a stay at home mom, so I thought it was my "job" to know what my baby wanted. Both of my kiddos had very different cues, but they communicated their needs pretty efficiently. Totally cool knowing it is actually a thing!
@@kestrelravensong6056 exactly how I felt about this . I guess we got that natural instinct that others read about lol.
If you were a single mom, weren't you at work all day? (Asking because I can't see how this system works for working parenting with no funds for a nanny.)
@@womanofacertainage5892 I am from a small southern town and I worked as a live on site nanny . It was 1988 and I was just a teenager . No it doesn't work with someone who depends on others to raise their children. So yeah I only made 120.00 a week but with a few unconventional ways that worked for hands on parenting I was able to parent ,work and support my baby girl.
You guys are awesome!
I get the whole environmental aspect and the other stuff, but hearing you talk about it convinced me that it was the best thing for us to have stuck with diapers! I was so, so ridiculously overwhelmed by every. single. thing. when my kids were babies that I know for sure that every miss would've felt like the end of the world. My friend's got her 1 yr olds potty trained, though, and full credit to those who can manage!
Oh, one more thing. Diaper rashes were never a chronic issue for us because we moved from baby wipes to washing their little bummies very early, as per our religious requirements. My son's nanny, who was American, couldn't believe how rashes were not a problem.
Pampers and Huggies are going to have a fit over this. 😁
*shrugs*
Less diapers in a landfill. Yay!
camia fiscus so right!
Biodegradable diapers or cloth diapers use rash cream with each diaper change. Just like that no land fill issues and no diaper rashes.
3monsters014: I used cloth diapers and I didnt use rash cream. First because my kids never sat in a wet diaper for more than a minute or two, and second, if they did get a rash for whatever reason (sometimes just sweat from the plastic cover pants) I used browned flour and it worked better than any rash cream. I was told how to make it by an older latina neighbor woman and it worked wonders. You just put dry flour in a cast iron skillet or a non stick pan will work too. Then just brown it to a nice nut brown color by stirring it around the pan over medium heat. Cool it and put in a shaker and there you go. Only make enough for a week or so and then replace it to prevent any kind of mold issues. Especially in humid weather.
This sounds totally fabulous, no shaming the baby, none of the reward system, just flat out communication. I love it. Thank you, I am going to share this with my daughter in law, I have grandson wh is soon going to be a year and this technique sounds like something I should have done 28 yrs ago with my kids. Thanks once again.
I love the point about it increasing intimacy with your children. A lot of parents are so divorced from non verbal communication and zoned out - it really saddens me as this is how we learn 'secure attachment' and make our children feel seen and noticed. Never heard of EC, but I like it!
The first time I heard about this was from a coworker who had spent her childrearing years wayyy out in the boondocks of Alaska. Diapers wasn't an option for them, and she actually signed back and forth with her babies. I thought it was awesome but impractical because of the training that it would take. But honestly, babies learn fast. I may have to give this a go. I was looking at clothe diapers and even that's really expensive. Kids are better at learning than we give them credit for!
You are so very right! After both my children were grown, Mother told me that her own mother never had dirty diapers to wash. I was shocked. Immediately after feeding, Grandma would put a teacup under her baby's bottom. She monitored each one throughout the day to keep him/her on track and cultivate the urinary-&-bowel-control habit. As the children grew, each graduated to a larger potty, then eventually to the backyard privy. Mother was born in 1918, before automatic washing machines, and with a family of six, keeping everyone in clean clothes and linens was a lot of work; Grandma certainly didn't need to scrub dirty diapers, too. Why did no one ever tell me about this when I had my own babies?
Thank you Mayim! Excellent video! One friend from Spain told me about EC. I'm 33 weeks of pregnancy and I'm learning a lot about this method. I found it incredible but also so logical and close to our animal nature! I definitely will try it! Greetings from Argentina!
My mom told me I was toilet trained at 8 mths, never believed her, but my sister who is 10 years my senior, confirmed it. My mom sat me on the pot after every meal and throughout the day. She said I got the hang of it very quickly. My sons were out of diapers by two, and I worked full time. Just have to work with them and invest in your children.
My grandma raised her family in "the sticks" of Arkansas. She had her first child trained to pee over a newspaper at 6 weeks old. They only had cloth diapers back then & washing them took a lot of her energy. This was a great energy saving trick.
I have heard about this before but never seen anyone put it into practice. Idk why there's so many haters. This is a great idea for saving money and for limiting waste going in the landfill. Win win.
It's not a bad idea.. but you have to be patient because it seems time consuming. Not easy for a working mom though
I'm not exactly a hater, I'm happy for the parents who are able to do this. But it's not a reality for all parents and you shouldn't feel bad if you are unsuccessful at it. Plus, some parents work a lot and rely on child care services who will not do this.
When my daughter was 6 months old I saw this video and it got me excited! We started that same day and got 4 pees. It was eye opening. By one year she was trained and only missed when I wasn't paying attention. She is now one and a half and it's so easy. I know she likes it too because she hated diapers and I feel like she is happy that we anticipated to her needs. I'm soooo glad we did this! Thank you Mayim!
I did EC. My husband was always on board from day 1 with our first. I didn't read any books, someone just told me about it (in some detail of how it worked) and it made complete sense to me. Our babies start right away with a desire not to pee/poop on themselves but they can't easily move themselves so they make little attempts to let you know that it's time to move them. I always just held them over our own toilet, with their back against me and held them in a little squat. Pooping was always fast. I had to train my son to use a diaper at night because I couldn't keep taking him to the potty several times at night and he screamed and screamed when I told him to just pee in the diaper. Definitely the best part of EC is learning that your tiny babies are communicating or trying to all the time!
This is also why baby sign is SO important! The babies I cared for in the daycare who knew sign were peaceful and happy babies because they were able to communicate effectively and have their needs met!
It makes sense to this grandmother...wish I'd heard of it when my sons were young. Actually, if you ever have a puppy, this is how you train them to go where you want them to. It works for puppies, why not babies? Thanks for your wisdom and sharing.
You were and still are very patient and understanding. My mom used cloth diapers with me and I use them, off and on, with my son too.
I wish I had done this with my only child five years ago, I knew and was well informed about that method. I always thought before I became a mother, that once I became a mother I would do a lot of things that I just didn't do. Among many things, I couldn't do those things because I was so depressed after given birth that I could barely handle feeding a child that usually refused to nurse and sleep more than an hour of consecutive sleep. I was depressed, concerned about my child's sensory issues, and socially isolated. After years of Therapy, my child is doing much more better and I was finally able to overcome depression. My son wore diapers until he was 4 and a half. And for a long time, I had to listen to people telling me how spoiled my child was. Most of them didn't know about all the developmental issues behind his behavior. And even those who knew were not supportive at all. They just talked about their own experiences as if their children were better just because they stopped wearing diapers at a very early age. Today, I can relate to those mothers that struggle to do their best but still can't be perfect or even struggle to be average at raising children. Sometimes motherhood is not that easy for everyone. However, I still believe that If I ever had a second child, I would try to put into practice some of the things that you share and give advice about in your channel. But this time, understanding my limits and forgiving myself for not being the perfect mother I imagined myself being many many years ago. (Sorry about my mistakes, I am not native speaker)
Sonia Arboleda, I feel like so many of us women do that....we think we are going to be perfect...I am trying to fight that way of thinking myself and tell myself that it’s ok to just do whatever is best at the time. Your advice was encouraging, thank you for sharing your story, and wishing all the best to you and your child ♥️ by the way your English is great! I’m not a native speaker either, your English is awesome!
My Indian friends had their daughter "potty" trained at 6 months by taking her to the bathroom sink and making a "shhhh" sound, every couple of hours. Started her at two weeks old...no joke! They had a handful of cloth diapers they put her in, but she got to the point, rather quickly actually, where she would NEVER use her diaper to pee or poop in. It's very popular in India and other non Western cultures. #🤯
I heard in India some people actually pee and poop in the streets, that a politician in that country actually ran on trying to get people to use toilets. So, seems gross.
Um... considering it is a third world country...but they didn't do it in India...they did it in the US. For the lower class it's likely... however, middle and upper class train their children at a very young age regardless, by letting them run around without bottoms on...and when the child has to use the restroom, they go into the water closet and go on the floor by the drain. They are usually potty trained in a week... Also for your information, a "toilet" in the majority of places in India IS basically just a hole in the ground...
I'm in China right now, and they do the same thing, except they whistle. It conditions the child so that the parent has even more control past just watching for signals from the child. Really smart if you ask me. I'm not sure if I could do it though, since I've never seen someone from my home culture do it. It's intriguing though!
Yeah, it's really smart to risk giving your baby a bladder infection by making them hold in their pee for however long suits you.
@@tifjea12 no its not just hole in the ground. Where do you get all these false information?
Now if parents or child raiser's would be able to have an appropriate amount of time off so they're able to do this before they had to go possibly to an early childhood education center so family can work that would be great unfortunately so many people have to go back to work right after giving birth that they can't try this and that's kind of sad that they can't even give it a try but I am going to start trying to pick up more on the cues of the children I work with to try and at least make their diaper changing quicker so they sit in it less so thanks for sharing
My spouse and I both work full time and more, our daycare did EC :) I loved having a child not in diapers before a year old :)
You can do EC part time, it reduces the number of diapers and makes potty training very easy when the time comes. Starting early was the key for me, from the time they were newborns I held them over the potty after eating and if you're consistent they pick it up fast.
Yeah it's about 15 - 30 mins after they feed that they make 'the face'
Yes, and the same goes for breastfeeding. It's so sad 😔
Working full time does make it harder, but it’s possible to do EC part time! Babies are pretty smart and get the difference between day care, where they need to use the diaper, and home, where they can use the potty.
The way you explain how to do this makes alot more sense then other videos I have seen on this concept. The other people I have seen talking about this talk about having your child undiapered so misses go everywhere. I think you did this in a very practical way. Thanks for sharing.
It's very normal in India they never use diapers.....everyone trains their kids from day 1....we use cloth diapers for first few months which is basically thin like a link cloth and as soon as kids are couple of months older they put them in underwear very tiny cute ones....mom's just train there kids to go in a pot and by one year they are trained....of course there are accidents even when they are older but it's never made a big deal and is treated like go with the flow kind of thing...it is economical and good for health as kids can heat up in a diaper in India's weather.
Dipti Kadam yeah, but India makes up 75% of public elimination. Not exactly the best example of bathroom hygiene.
Why do you feel you have to find a way to undermine Dipti's comment? Your comment is irrelevant to what Dipti was trying to share with viewers. Even if what you shared is true (and maybe it is and maybe it isn't), it doesn't make Dipti's statement invalid or less credible, and it doesn't mean what was said has no value. Yet that's what the words you chose and how you chose to use them do. It makes no sense.
@@Liz-irk thanks so much for saying that. There is this constant need to somehow put down any wisdom that comes from any country that isn't western or pre-approved by some weird pretentious benchmark with fake stats.
@@ronita1984 You're welcome! You are absolutely right and it disgusts me that most westerners act this way, and it's very ignorant. It also shows a lack of exposure to other cultures and the beautiful world out there that we live in and the beautiful people, cultures, traditions, wisdom, and nature within it. There is so much to learn from one another, but unfortunately so many people think they are too high above others to realize we all have value to offer to one another's lives. Anyhow, sorry for ranting! Lol I'm glad it was meaningful to you to see someone speak up and defend someone being devalued. So many more westerners (and human being in general, but I'll emphasize those in Western countries because that's where I live and I witness this behavior and lack of respect everyday- sometimes subtly and other times blatantly) need to learn to do the same.
Have a lovely day Ronita!
Candorsmayhem I really didn't see anything wrong your comment. It's a fact. And many people know, including Indians, that water supplies have been heavily contaminated by improper disposal of eliminations.
It's a health crisis and hepatitis A kills many native countrymen and foreigners there every year.
Geez, some are so ready to attack and play savior or white knight. I don't get it. Thanks for presenting some truth, sorry to see you got jumped on. You and the original poster both made valid points.
I was born in 1975, and my mother and grandmother potty trained me in a very similar way. They found out that I tended to poop every day at the same hour (routine was key, I guess), so, by the age of 12 months I was only peeing in my (fabric!) diapers and completely abandoned them by 18 months. I guess instinct and also a loath of diaper laundry played a great part. Also, my mother states that her long term of relationship with cats as pets played a great role in her understanding me as a baby 😂
What person ever has a conscious memory of peeing or pooping in a diaper🤔
Elvis 4 Dee literally no one
Elvis 4 Dee seriously lol I’ve never met anyone who was like “I remember this one time, back when I peed and took shits in my diaper...” lol
actually, many people who have to wear them
as adults would indeed
I know children using diapers at 6-7 years old... I bet those can remember diapers.
@@thickesthoneyyy lmfaooo
Wish I would have known about this 31 almost 32 years ago, Miyam. I so would have tried this!!!! This is incredible!!!!
I started part-time ec with my baby when she was 4 weeks and now we are 3 weeks into ec and it is going good. Few days ago I told my mom about ec and she laughed and said, I didn't know it had a name but I did the same thing when you were a baby, in fact most mom's of my generation did it. I live in India and I just realised how the western culture of diapering has taken over the country and now I am trying to learn this "new thing" called ec through internet sources of mostly American origin. Instead I could have just asked my mom 😂 or any other older women.
That is awesome! The first thing that come to my mind is how conscious this is to all parties involved. As a former nanny I have done thousands of nappies and this sounds like fresh breath of air. You explained very clear and I can totally see how this works. My question would be how did deal with nights?
What?!?! I had no idea this was even a thing. Thank you so much for sharing an opening my eyes!
OMG I am 8 months pregnant and I just discovered your channel, I literally cant think of anyone better to help me with baby things, thanks! You rock girl 🙌🏻
I love and respect you Mayim, but I could honest not do this. As a mum with chronic illness I only have so much energy.
Praying for you. Try the book A More Excellent Way from Be In Health.
I certainly read about EC when I was pregnant/new Mum but decided that I really didn't have the right temperament (or the right kind of floors I guess lol) to be dealing with EC on a daily basis. There are just so many things to try and juggle as a new mum that certainly in my situation I just didn't think I could do it if I didn't need to. I had enough worries going on post-c-section that one less thing to think about was needed! But bravo and well done to Mums and Dads who do, do EC and found that it worked for them.
That's a good point. This would be very difficult for mothers recovering post C-section. But I guess that's what grandparents are for lol
Lana..not everyone has help
I was really blessed that my Mum was on hand, because of how it worked out my husband had to go back to work part-time about 4 or 5 days after our son was born. My Mum is self-employed so she worked on my computer while helping me with the baby. Now the baby is 4 and has started school!
I did E.C. part time with my daughter just for fun started at two weeks and really just did it randomly from then on. By 6m I had gotten to know her cues and she would like give me this look and I never had to change a #2 diaper again which was awesome. I didn't do it with my second child which I regret, I started too late and she hated the potty.
'Diaper companies hate her for this one simple trick 🤣
People in (insert your area here) are shocked at this crazy trick
@@moorek1967 Not all whatsoever.
@@elianamiller2666 So you didn't get either joke. These are from spam advertisements.
@@moorek1967 I did not know was not serious. Does not matter antway as I had typed. But, THANK YOU for letting in on them. HA, HA, HA, I guess joke on me. THANKS again. THE LORD Bless you, and THE LORD keep you and your families healthy .
@@elianamiller2666 It is ok, don't apologize. The term for the joke is "clickbait", an advertisement or title that is intended to catch your interest by making a false claim.
Hence, the advertisement the poster was referring to would be the clickbait "diaper companies", and because she gave advice contrary to what diaper companies want you to believe to buy their diapers, that is why they "hate" her, because it is a false claim, therefore, clickbait.
My joke was also from clickbait, because they make the false claim that people in your area buy the product.
Don't apologize if you didn't know, and no, the joke is not on you.
Started to do this but I had some medical problems so it was put on hold until my son was older. I got flack for this from family, but with a background teaching history and being a frequent traveler, I know my thoughts are far from crazy even they are in America today. Thanks for having the bravery to not underestimate our children and ourselves and do you!
I did this with my first and she was actually telling me she needed to pee by 15 months. But realistically still not potty trained until 2 years old. (E.c. is not potty training.)
I am blessed that my husband supported me and ESPECIALLY my MIL who had her kids potty trained by a year old.
When I was hanging out with a group of 80 year olds they all potty trained at one years old. Pretty cool to see different parenting methods.
Whatever works and it sounds great for the environment and pocketbook. 💚 The patience would take a lot for me, lol.
You are brilliant! This is so cool. I don’t have children. This seems so respectful toward them. No burning from pee or poop. Way better.
i watched your videos before and it inspired me to try EC with my son. I did more research on how to do this. My son is four and a half months old now and we have been practicing EC for last 2 weeks. It is going great.
Should you be a stay at home for this. This sounds amazing and all im just concerned no caregivers will do anything
I think this system is amazing if it works for the individual. I have 3 teenage sons and I have to be honest I had never heard of this. However with that being said, I never ever had a baby with a diaper rash. I don't think it's fair to assume all babies that wear diapers get rashes, especially if they are changed and cleaned promptly. The new ideas that imerge over time are very interesting to me, thank you for sharing. 😊
My grandmother had me on the toilet, at 9 months old. Back then, there wasn't cute little plastic potties, that sat on the floor. There was a kind of toilet seat, put on the regular toilet seat, that had a smaller hole and a goose's head and neck in front, to hold on to. I was put on it and held on to that's goose's neck for dear life. My mom or nan always stayed in the bathroom with me, of course. My nan was almost militaristic in her practically. She thought it was better to spend the time getting a baby potty trained, as early as possible, than constantly changing diapers.
Lisa Heisey I was born in 2004 and had one of those
I was born January of 1977. My mother found out at her checkup that she was pregnant again (lesson for all - you’re more fertile after giving birth, even if you’ve been trying for 7 years since your first one!) My sister was due December of 1977 (bookend babies!) My mother said she could not mentally deal with two children in diapers, breastfeeding and/or on bottles at the same time and thus the journey began.
My mother and grandmother did the 70’s version of E.C. with me, using only a standard toilet. Years later my mother would laughingly equate it to the human version of housebreaking a pet! They would watch for signs after I ate or drank and before and after naps and she said eventually I would make it known that I needed to go to the bathroom myself. There were many accidents, to be sure, but by the time my sister was born I was 11-months-old, potty trained, off the breast and bottle and walking.
My mother’s approach would not work for every child or even every parent but my mother was motivated and she said I was an easygoing, curious child who seemed to thrive on moving to the next developmental milestone early or she would have taken a different approach. I’m still the most independent and self-reliant of my siblings and I think it started from that point.
BTW - My mother was so exhausted by the time my sister came along she said she could not go through the process again so soon and used diapers for my sister until she was almost 1.
Lisa, I was told that I was potty trained at about 8 months old. This is probably what happened. For my daughters, I didn't do this. I didn't know about it then. But I certainly could read their queues. It would have worked for us
I was born in 1971 and I had more than one potty. Back then, kids learned how to potty by going in to the bathroom with mom when she went in.
My mother said I trained myself by watching her. She went back to work when I was one and the daycare teachers were amazed that I asked to use the potty and my cloth diaper was dry. She didn't tell them because, she thought it was normal. I was her first child and she didn't babysit much as a teen.They were also surprised I was talking and walking early, although some of that could have been because I was smaller than most babies. My three siblings were not trained at one though.
Our family called it "the duck".
I wish I had heard about that before I had my babies!! My youngest is 18 months... i wonder... is it too late... I am sure going to read more about it NOW!! We practiced EC not knowing it.., in some ways ..., we use signs for a lot of things like hunger, milk, all done (or finished), shower. However this no dipper deal blew my mind. #MOREPLEASE I am considered an unconventional parent amongst my family and friends. Here in Brazil hardly anyone (yes, no one I know other than me and the USA moms on the internet with which I first heard about signing for not mute or deaf) use signs, or practiced Baby Led Weaning. I feel very privileged for been able to understand English it really opened the knowledge of the world to me! I first started watching your videos because of lovely Amy, but I am sure staying tuned FOR MAYIM!
I agree! Our great grandparents were practicing this. Not exactly brilliant. It simply makes sense.
It's definitely not crazy. I first heard about it when my oldest was 7 months old. A friend, who's daughter was a week older than mine was going this. I was intrigued but never tried with my oldest. With my next two, I definitely became more aware of their cues and tried E.C. to varying levels but was never 100% committed to it. We used cloth diapers so while catching their cued meant I had fewer diapers to wash every day, I didn't mind washing them and never bought disposables so there was no incentive to save money. I found babywearing made it much simpler to see/ hear their cues.
I don't even have a baby, yet here I am watching Mayim explain how she made her baby signal her for potty. 😐😐😐😐
My “baby” just turned 37 and I am watching also 😂😂
@@fayewhite7541 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I have no plans for having a baby for at least another 10 years and I'm still watching this video 😂
@@sophiefraser3995 omg! He he! 😂😂😂 You can help others with the new found knowledge I guess! This is actually very interesting..
I am SO THANKFUL you did this video!!! I EC'd with my daughter and so many people misunderstood what we were doing - thought I was early potty training (as though you could from birth). It was wonderful, and I wouldn't do it any other way - but I'm amazed because in spite of the fact that we talk about her early years my daughter sometimes brings up diapers and babies as though that's the only way. It's what she picks up from our social surroundings, but I was disappointed that she didn't remember any of it. It was really nice to share this with her :)
My mother said I was “potty trained” at 9 months. This was often the practice in the fifties. I guess it’s coming back in fashion. How does it work with children at childcare, though?
My thoughts too
It doesn’t! This is only for stay at home moms or Dad’s. I doubt a daycare worker looking after 5-10 kids have time to watch for “cues” when baby needs to pee it poop.
Our daycare practiced ‘timed’ ec based on age basically all kids were taken to the bathroom at very young ages and more frequently if younger
You can do it part time until they're old enough for the daycare. We told our daycare that our oldest was using the potty at home when he was 18 months and they said they would just put him on a potty every hour during diaper change time. Within 2 weeks he was out of diapers. Now they're trying to get the other kids to train early too! It really is in everybody's best interest.
I work at a daycare and we definently don't have time for this. If the kids are old enough to speak or othervise tell us it needs to go, then off course we will sit them on a potty, but looking for a bunch of one year olds "cues" is not possible as there's just to many kids to look after.
But still, I would encourage parents to introduce the potty early on and have them use it when they're at home. It is better than to suddenly introduce the potty at a later age.
This sounds awsome. Im currently 7 months pregnant and im planing on doing this... but would you go more into detail? What you used. How and when?
This is what we did for my puppy haha
When he’d bark and bite at our sleeves, we’d let him out. What we did after a while was keep a time chart of when he ate and when he pooped, figured out he needed to go out 4 hours after each meal! Easy peasy toilet training
I think this is also a great way to eliminate unnecessary amount of plastic waste!
Thank you for sharing!
Oh the whole video i was thinking of carpeted floors in horror
Haha I’m a care aide and I completely agree with this message
She said she used diapers, you put the child in diapers if there is a missing then just change the diaper
Why even have carpeted floors..dont they collect so much bacteria!! Lol
I remember that my mom told me, that I stop using diapers on my own before I was 15 month old. She says it was pretty obvious how much I hated diapers. So, no you're not crazy.
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Me too! I was 11 month old. I told my mom NO, when we were at the church, I had to pee, and she told me to use diapers. :D
I read about this in your book when my daughter was a couple months old but I had to go back to work so I ignored it. I ended up working from home and now I'm starting it really really late at 10 months. I figure if I can stay consistent, even this late, she will figure it out eventually.
Consistency is key. It's a marathon.
My mother followed this practice and I am eternally grateful.
Not only am I more in touch with my bodily functions, I do not feel shame about them.
I love the videos and also the articles on Groknation about parenting. I don't have kids yet, but I think I might try some things I heard/read from you. Very interesting video🖒
Thanks! This is so useful, i have a 7 month baby boy :) keep posting videos about parenting please!
I have a 7mo, as well. Is this too late to start EC successfully?
I saw this video a year ago and just had my first baby 2 months ago. I thought I’d give it a shot. Today I caught my first poo! Thank you for spreading awareness!! ❤️
Good girl. You go Mommy. Truly wonderful, dear.
You first introduced me to this idea and we now EC with our son and at 6 months we’re loving it!
Yupp it sounds crazy, but it actually works. We do it with our five month old and our two year old potty trained in one day. We use cloth diapers as a backup for our five month old. Godiaperfree dot com is a wonderful resource and she has youtube channel filled with free info.
Will they just keep lettiing you know when to go then? Trying it with my 15month old wish i heard about this sooner but he did a poop and 4 wees in his potty today 😄 I know when he wants to go and he will signal so i just whip him on haha
The short answer is yes. Here is the summed-up long version of our experience:
Our (now) almost two and a half year old daughter: never heard of ec. cloth diapered from birth. When she was around 12 months, I just sat her on the potty (figured it couldn't hurt), and she peed. This continued for the next few months and by 15 months old, she was basically potted trained (even transitioned to cloth pull ups). Oh, and we assigned a sign of making a little fist and shaking her hand when she had to go, she caught on within a week at 12 months old. That's how she would signal us. Around 15 months, we hit a big regression when my parents moved to town and went back to cloth diapers. After reading the book from godiaperfree.com, it looks like we should've just stayed the course. Anywho, so after her 2nd birthday, we followed the potty training course from godiaperfree.com and she potty trained within a day. We've had some accidents here and there, but nothing major. While at home, she doesn't even signal to us anymore - just walked herself to the bathroom, uses the step stool to get on the regular sized toilet, wipes, and then washes her hands. We have a toddler sized toilet for our minivan. She still uses the sign when we're out and about.
Our son has been doing the ec thing since one month old, he's about five months now. We don't have a signal established yet, but I just look for the cues outlined by godiaperfree.com (ha - I swear I'm not a spokesperson). I typically get about half of his pees/poos each day. I figure anything is a bonus that'll make potty training easier.
At 15 months, you could look into potty training... good luck :-)
Thank you so much! I've been wanting to start potty training my little boy, but I had no idea where to start!
@Team Queen’ s Fearn Tucker and Bentley Forever didnt ask for your opinion or to be mom-shamed.
Team Queen’ s Fearn Tucker and Bentley Forever Children are different. A child with autism, for example, may take much longer to potty train.
It's common in India. Diapers r not good for kids. It causes rashes to baby. If u r going out then it's ok. But for long time it's not gud. I have 2 kids and I didn't use diapers to them
anindita sarkar there are no rashes if you change them after you recognize they went. You just don’t leave them fir hours in a dirty diaper. What do you do at night?
What ?" Rashes are normal"wtf rashes only happen when you leave them in a dirty nappy for HOURS ! Like what is wrong with you? Do your job and be a better mum
That’s crazy!
It only causes rashes if you leave them in it for hours or your child has sensitive skin. I have three kids, the only one I had an issue with was my middle one, he had SUPER sensitive skin. If parents aren't a holes and leave their children in wet or dirty diapers for hours the child most likely won't get a rash.
India is nasty BECAUSE everyone shits everywhere!? They don't have germx OR clean water like we do. Disease is everywhere, but all anyone can think about in India is having more and more babies!?!? Clean water and contraception could do wonders for A LOT of countries
I Recieved a similar reaction. When I told my roommate I'm going to train out cats consent, respect of boundaries. And not to go I to the tables it countertops for mischief.
And similar to you, when I produced results. He became a believer and no longer thought it was a crazy idea.
So EC sounds like a great idea I can pass onto any new or expecting parents I meet. (that ask. They have to ask first. I'm not going to give unsolicited advice to parents.)
Awesome video! We started ec at 10 days old and catch lots of his business, he's now nearly 3 months old and beginning to use sign language that we're teaching him as a signal. We Love ec. Andrea Olson's podcast and videos really helped us have enough info to take this path.
This is fascinating! I don’t know that I could have done it when our son was born, because I was so damn tired (we had an almost 3 year old already, and he had terrible colic),and I only had 6 weeks of 40% paid maternity leave from work. Both my husband and I work full time, but if I was an at-home mom i would want to try this, mainly for the cost of buying diapers. This is interesting!
I did not see that coming!! When she said “...and you know when you are up and about I used... trees 🌲. 🤣🤣🤣 I thought she was going to say diapers. Lol
Oh yeah because there's trees everywhere. I usually love Mayim but when she said this I thought okay this is too far.
@@sarahbarrett1247 No, pretty common.
@@elianamiller2666 really? They may be a common sight but I wouldn't feel comfortable bringing my child behind one so they could relief themselves. Ew.
And out in public
Where is the privacy
With sickos our there no thanks
How did you manage it at night or when they were napping
That's what I'm wondering. What about overnight?
My baby (3 months old) pees before bedtime, then when he wakes up for a feed (twice a night), I will take him to the toilet beforehand. He wakes up and fusses if he needs to pee at any other point but it’s pretty clockwork if I stick to his bedtime routine.
@@katied8734 wow
Reusable pee pad, just in case.
My daughter never peed at night for some reason.... I even asked the pediatrician. It was easy to potty train her, but I did have to buy another potty because she saw the 1st one we bought and didn't want to use it. She used to follow me to the bathroom like all kids and I got her the potty that looks like a grown up at 14 months and by 15 months she was using it on her own. My son was potty trained before 2... and he peed that first night, he hated the smell of pee and pee all over him so he didn't do it anymore.
Brilliant. My little on is 8 months doing the same thing. Didn’t believe it until I saw it with my own eyes. Love your personality!
I didn’t practice E.C. with my daughter until she was about 6 months old. Basically when she started sitting on her own and not having misses at night anymore. Still, it was not until she was about 18 months that she was only having 0-2 misses a day. Then, she regressed for about 3 months (around 25 mos to 28 mos).
Now she’s 30 months old and no misses at home. But she refuse to go in public restrooms and she will hold it in as long as she can then have misses. Yes she only had 0-2 incidents by the time she was 18 months. Yes we only hit 3 months regression. Yes she’s doing excellent at home before the age of 3. I did enjoy saving money on diapers by sitting her on the potty at such an early age. And it was nice not having night incidents at such an early age. And yes it definitely was more hygienic.
However, I personally think waiting until they’re two or even 18 months old to potty train would seem to be an effective approach as well.
My daughter would also refuse to go on public toilets until we figured out she was scared she would fall in. So we just kept a child's toilet seat in the car for when we went out and if she needed to use the bathroom I would go get it from the car and... Problem solved (for us). Actually, we went on vacation to Finland last year and there most public bathrooms (usually the handicap/changing room stall) have potties or children's seats. It was a breeze.
Do you worry about UTI's if she refuses to go in public toilets? It's not always possible to rush home in 15 minutes :(
Angélica Ko-Pe We do have a folding potty seat that I bring with me all the time. I ask her if she needs to go in the potty when we are out and about. Just patiently waiting for her to be ready.
She used to go in public all the time. It just became an issue recently when she regressed for about three months.
Lauren Fry Yes. So lately, we haven’t been out for more than 3 hours at a time. And we use regular undies outside so it can get messy if she does have an accident.
I didn’t want to put training pants on her because like I said at home there hasn’t been any accidents.
I’m just patiently asking her all the time she needs to go in public. Looking for cues and what not. I’m sure when she’s ready she’ll go. I figure if she’s doing so well at home and she can even hold it in/control it while we are in public. Then it’s only a matter of time. Right?
I started E.C. with my 2nd at 6m when she could sit. She was Soo scared by the potty she would just break down and cry. It was a total bummer. I did E.C. part timewith my 1st and had her cues down by 6m it was awesome. We had no #2 misses from 6m on and she would crawl to her potty later on. Since we only did it part time it was a win in my book.
We did something similar but not exact. My now 6 yr old was fully potty trained by 13 months. Now-a-day's, it is really funny when I look at her and tell her she needs to go potty and she gives me a load of sass about how I can't possibly know if she has to go or not. I tell her it is mom magic.
I was born in 1961 My Mother did This With Me, IT Worked!!
I am from Turkey and potty is a 500 years' tradition from Anatolia, before the wipes and diapers are invented. I used potty for my son for a year and then he started using our own toilet with an additional lid when he was only 12-13 months old. Best way ever. Thanks for sharing 🙏🏻