Meltdown Moments in Foster Care
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- Опубліковано 7 сер 2019
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How amazing is Miss A that your first meltdown in foster care actually had nothing to do with her 😂
Right!? That was kind of our point
Be The Village The love the two of you have to share is an absolute joy to behold. Thank you for being you ❤️
I cannot say that Darcy peeing everywhere is not funny. It seems like Miss A is thriving in your household. It really makes me happy to know that you are going to try to do what is best for the child, not the business.
This cracked me up. I’m potty training my triplets and I can’t for the life of me figure out how pee get EVERYWHERE. I mean the boys I get it, but my daughter? How????? 🤣
Right!?
To potty train a boy teach him to pee on a tree but I've also heard that some people have put cherrios in the potty to make it fun, I'm a 40 year old and remember 1 of the best things about about camping when I was little dropping your britches in the woods but I'm so country I didn't care who was looking that was the hardest thing for me while camping having to hide but know that you weren't squatting in poison ivy! Yeah a bit of a tomboy until I started having seizures and everyone got over protective of me at 10 years old I never got to go camping again and that was 30 years ago!
Hey miss A I’m starting a new middle school and I really hope that you have a great school year because you deserve the best. I wish I could write you a letter and send it to you but I don’t want to embarrass myself with my bad hand writing. But I hope you have a great school year!!
you could always type the letter
That was so sweet 💕 I hope you have a great school year to Mixed vibe sorry I couldn't spell your name how you have it
It is normal for adults to get into arguments and disagreements. It's normal for voices to be raised sometimes. What isn't normal is for adults to completely hide their disagreements and arguments. My last foster parents (who were very nice people and did the best they could) never. Ever. Ever. Argued in front of us. It was weird. I think you guys are doing a great job and you're showing your kids how healthy adults handle disagreements 💚
This makes me feel so much better, thank you for your perspective :)
@@BeTheVillageCommunity you're welcome 💚
If you can manage to stay respectful to one another, arguing in front of the kids is exactly how you teach appropriate conflict resolution. Kids learn by example, not instructions.
Miss A, your braids were beautiful and I'm sure any hairstyle you wear will be beautiful as well. Keep your spirits up you have a lot of people who are cheering for you!
Hi Miss A. Remember that we can't always control the circumstances that we are in but we can always control our reaction to them. Know that you have people in your life that unconditionally love you and will always support you in any way that they can.
Hey miss A I don’t know if your reading this but I’m about to be 19 and I really hope when I turn 21 and can foster that I get a child as amazing as you! PS loved your braids
Our daughter that we adopted from foster care 7 years ago just turned 18 yesterday, we are so grateful for the good foster homes she had-because there were not all good! Love your mission and your devotion to these kids. One simple wish is amazing too! It TAKES A VILLAGE!
you guys are the best foster parents i have ever seen. you guys care about the kids so much and you can really tell
Her braids were so gorgeous I can't wait to (hopefully) see her new hair style!
I absolutely love how laid back y’all are it’s so refreshing to see and hear such a happy couple and how you guys can joke about your “meltdowns” after the fact. I don’t think Miss A could ask for better foster parents, thank you for your kindness and sharing your experience with all of us. Hope all works out in your favor!
Hi Miss A, hope school is amazing next week! You are living the good life. ( I am a 66 YO woman, I was in foster care from 8 to 13. ) You got this!
Love love love that you guys are sitting with your arms around each other laughing about the fight you had a few minutes/hours before. Amazing stuff, especially how you addressed it with Miss A!
Lol so true!
Dear Miss A,
I really hope you have a fantastic school year no matter what happens, make the most out of it. The most important things you learn in school aren’t just maths and science, you get to learn about all different kinds of people and precious time management and organisational skills. Stay on the good side of your teachers and you’ll do just fine 😁 The other students are going to love you even if it takes them a little while to get to know you.
Best of luck Miss A!
From:
A random lady on the internet x
Miss A
Just wanted to send you a little message to say you are beautiful and strong.
I had an extremely difficult childhood so I know how much strength it takes to get through everyday.
You could print off all the lovely comments you are getting from people and keep them in book or put them on your wall, so you have a reminder that there are good people in the world that care about you and want the best for you.
Sending love all the way from the UK. Helen x
What a great idea!
It’s incredible how you both are so involved in parenting. A lot of times either the mom or the dad is more involved with the kids but you both are and you guys do a fantastic job. It’s is so great that you guys are foster parents because you guys are amazing foster parents. You never make Miss A feel singled out or make her feel like “just the foster kid”. I love your family and your channel. You guys are a great influence on other parents and foster parents.
If that’s a big meltdown you guys are amazing!!! Parenting is hard. You both amaze me. Btw Ms. A you are amazing too.
Miss A! I wanna wish you good luck starting school this fall! You can do it, so many people are rooting for you!
Miss A you are a rockstar!!! School can be so fun, I hope you get involved in some activities that you enjoy. That’s the best way to make friends! And you two are incredible parents.
i wish i stayed with you guys for the short time i was in foster care!!! would’ve made the whole experience 1000 X better
It's okay to argue. That's a part of being human. It also shows our kids who have seen fights be worse understand that not every disagreement has to become a violent situation. That disagreeing or feeling our emotions is okay. For our kiddos it helped them with their own anger issues as well to see that we can have a disagreement and express our feelings without the need to become violently angry. You can definitely feel how much yall care and what great parents yalls are!
That’s what marriage is all about 💞 I’ve been married 23 yrs and no marriage is perfect but talking things over works miracles 💞💞💞💞💞 you’re amazing! Sending love from Whittier California ❤️💙💙
It is real life! It is not reality TV where you can edit out the negative. Even though, I am sure you wish you could edit out the pee everywhere. lol! Keep doing what you are doing because you both are doing excellent.
So glad you appreciate us sharing real life :)
As a past foster child I actually avoided this video because I figured it would trigger me, but holy crow how refreshing. I love this so much. Thank you guys for normalizing this stuff and making it clear not just people in foster care have bad days. Thank you for normalizing having a bad day and it not being the end of the world. It took me so long to learn that everyday is a new day and every bump is a learning opportunity. Im thankful Miss A has that kind of example. You guys rock.
❤️❤️❤️ so glad we didn’t trigger you
i love how transparent you are about the ups and downs of your journey. So encouraging!
Thank you for covering this topic, it's really sad to see agencies not provide the level of sympathy and support for these children. I've commented before and as a previous foster child I experienced and witnessed some of the corruption in these systems. Thank you for taking the time out to make miss A as comfortable as you can and sharing your struggles and good experiences. So hopefully you can inspire and inform future foster parents like myself.
Omg you guys are just like my husband and I and it's rare to find your true love.Were grandparents now.What you guys are doing for these kids is amazing.
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Hi! I love your videos! You guys are awesome! I'm a case manager and future foster parent. It's been so discouraging and stressful lately that I've been wanting to quit every day. I'm so tired of getting blamed for every little thing and getting everyone's emotional backlash, when i try so hard every day.
We definitely need more good foster parents like you guys! Thanks for spreading awareness! :)
Don't give up!! We appreciate so much what you do
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Thank you!! :)
I love how you guys care so much
I love your honesty.
I was in foster care for about a year when i was a child and i can tell u some horror stories from things i saw and personally experienced, it would've been a dream come true to be in a safe home that yall are providing for these children. God bless both of you. You're making a difference in some of these kids lives.
My heart goes out to you ❤️
Yay!!! I’m so happy y’all got a look box!!!
Good Luck this new school year Miss A! With amazing foster parents we know you will rock it.
You guys are the best foster parents I've ever seen you make sure they're comfortable and happy just truly the best!! Love y'all❤️!!
Love how you both are now laughing !!!
PRAYING for peace and love in your heart
You are wonderful people and doing great
Nobody is perfect, but you guys are amazing! Thank you for all that you do for Miss A! ❤
You two are adorable 💜
Awww you guys are so sweet
You guys are AMAZING! Miss A I hope you have the best school year yet!
Thank you for sharing your experiences with foster care with us ❤️❤️❤️♥️❤️ please keep posting and sharing advice and experience! (When I get older I want to be a foster parent)
You guys are great! Miss A - We are praying for you and believe in you!! 🥰😊🙋🏻♀️
You guys are doing great! A lot of people could learn for you.
We support you Miss A! 😊
We love hearing about all the new things you're experiencing 💖
Best of luck in the new school year, Miss A...we're all rooting for you!!
You two are a gift to humanity. Thank you for what you are doing for Miss A. You two crack me up. Miss A, have fun at school! Y
I hope all goes well with you guys, and everything in your situation works out. Miss A is so lucky to have you two! I’m praying for you ❤️
It is so amazing that people are willing to take in the kids that have often been damaged by their own parents.
I give you all who foster so so much credit! My friend now has 8 children! 5 from one mom ( all addicted) oldest with severe autism , 3 from another mom same with addiction. I cant believe what a wonderful person she is. It takes a truly special kind of person to handle this kind of life. She has dedicated her life to care for someone elses children. they have adopted a few of them, but have had the others all since birth.
Hey ms. A I’m a senior in high school and my middle school years were the best!! I know you’re really gonna enjoy it . Good luck
Hi Miss A!
I start school next week as well! I hope you have a great first day. Don’t be nervous!! You’re going to meet so many new people and experience so many new things this school year. Try to have a positive mind going into to it. I know middle school can be scary especially since you’re going to a new school. Don’t stress to hard! Middle school is a lot of fun! As long as you try your hardest that’s all that matters. I’m not sure if your new school has lockers but when I was in middle school I decorated my locker! Maybe you should do that too! It’s super fun. Anyways have a great first day! Go make this year the best one yet!💕
I was in foster care from 14 to 16 years old, and I'm glad I found your channel. I was very fortunate to stay in the same foster home with my younger sister until we were adopted together. Y'all are adorable and Miss A seems like a wonderful young lady. :) I love my foster family and we are connected through Facebook til this day. :)
Good luck, Miss A! You got this! 💗💗
Miss A, you rock. You are the best. Happy return to school. You are beautiful, you are worthy of love, You are smart.
you guys seem like amazing foster parents!! it seems like miss a is really thriving in your household with darci and sawyer. hope she has an amazing school year in a new school💗💗
I love you guys so much let me say as a former foster child ITS AMAZING WHAT YOUR FAMILY IS DOING SO THANK YOU FOR OPENING YOUR HOME TO HELP US (YES IM AN ADULT BUT I WAS A FOSTER CHILD) HAVING TO EXPERIENCE FOSTER CARE THE DYNAMIC OF THE FAMILY YOU GO TO DOES IN FACT PLAY A HUGE ROLE IN THE CHILD AS THEY MOVE ON THROUGHOUT LIFE SO THANK YOU FOR BEING A GOOD WHOLESOME HOME
Miss A,
I’m sure you’re nervous to start a new school but that just means there are new friends to make. You got this!
This is late, but miss A, you’re incredible! You have such courage to be able to stay positive and do your best in a new, different, and maybe a little bit of a scary situation. I wish you the best in all that you do! I’m hopeful that you’re adjusting well and that things are starting to look up for you!
Awe I love Miss A!!! I can’t wait to see her new hair style☺️
You guys truly are amazing. I aged out of foster care years ago & the one positive thing I have is my foster family. The genuine love you give is beautiful. Remember progress not perfection. Miss A just know you'll always have a place in the hearts of people who care. You have a remarkable soul, keep shining!
What a great line, progress not perfection.
You guys are the best💚🌴💜
Dear Miss A,
I’m so sorry you are going through this. The system is hard and unfriendly for young girls and boys, but you will make it. Let yourself grow from this experience and let it drive you to be bigger and better. You are very important and loved.
From someone who get it,
Much love.
I don’t know if Miss A reads the comments on your videos but if she does this is for her.
Hey Miss A! I’m adopted so I sort of understand what you are going through. I’d just like to say that you are so strong and I’m sure you are a beautiful girl! You are probably going to start school soon so I hope you find friends that are nice and that you deserve! Be yourself and don’t let anyone stop you! Stay strong girl! 💕
I love your realness. Thanks for that!
You are so welcome!
You guys are done good keep doing it your great foster care parents
Ms. A, I'm 32 now, I was in foster care between the ages 8 to 16. I can tell you have great foster parents. This experience you are going through...these people are really showing you love. As much love that they show, they will have the right to lecture you, punish you and correct you when needed ok? Much love beautiful, and remember....everything happens for a reason. Hugs.
This channel is the absolute best! I know I won’t get around to writing Miss A a note so I’ll write it here instead.
Dear Miss A,
You’re about to start a new school year which, is exciting and usually a little nerve wracking too. My advice to you is to be yourself always. Don’t ever try and fit it by being someone you’re not. YOU are awesome, amazing and enough exactly as you are. Stay true to that and you’ll find you’ll attract the types of friends who will see you and love you for it. Stay focused and determined because anything worth having takes hard work. Lastly have fun choosing that all important first day outfit ❤️
You guys are amazing
Good luck miss A for school, you'll be fine, everyone in your year is in the same position, just be you and everything will work out 🍀 You got this!!
Good luck with the new school Miss A, :) you will find friends in no time, good people attract good people! ☺️
You guys are amazing!
I love you guys so much. I don’t comment much but I do watch every single video. I’ve wanted to foster and/or adopt ever since I got my first emergency kinship placement at 22 (for a 17yr old! Seriously, who puts a 17yr old with a 22yr old?!?!?!). It turned out to be a fantastic experience and only brought me and the “child” closer. I’m 25 now and I am working even harder now to get my life together so I can bring more kids into a place of safety and security and constance. Thank you for being honest and vulnerable. It’s so important for people to see the good with the bad. ❤️❤️❤️ I’ll be praying for y’all especially this week as school starts and schedules change.
Thank you so much for watching ❤️❤️❤️❤️
This is the first time watching one of the videos. Nice video .
I have a best friend she unfortunately got taken by her parents and was put into foster care. I was devastated but I knew it was for the best. We were very close and I haven’t seen her for a little while. My mom arranged plans with the foster parents and they are super nice and they said me and her can see each other for the first time in 3 months this Monday and I’m so excited! You guys inspire me so much and I love your Chanel! Thank you ❤️
You are such great parents and you have really big hearts. After watching your videos I have so much respect for you. Meltdowns happen in all families 😉
Thank you so much for your kind words!
Our Guardian ad Litem program uses One Simple Wish! Great organization!
I love your vids. I have been a foster parent for the past 6 years. I can tell you from my experience how messed up the system is. I have seen a lot of decisions that were not in the child's best interest and it can be very upsetting. Just continue to give the love you have been to ms A. I am sure she needs it.
God blesses us with angels on this earth, and you guys are some of them💖
Sorry to hear what is going on with y’all. But we love you Ms. A!!!
These videos have made my husband and I decide to become foster parents. Y'all are changing lives! And good luck in school this year, Miss A! Back to school time is my favorite because every year is a new beginning 😊
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Hey Miss A, you are going to do great in school. There will be an adjustment, but you will succeed in anything that you do. You have an advantage because you have the backing and support of thousands of people. No matter what happens remember that love will be with you during this time and in your life ahead. May that love guide your heart in all that you do.
I honestly feel like you guys are so great, I can’t write enough. Every video, you prove to me, and all of your other subscribers, that you guys are the literal best parents ever. Keep going
Aw, thank you so so much!
Thank you for sharing your journey. I just popped over to One Simple Wish and gifted a trip to Disneyland to a beautiful soul there.
My heart is exploding!!!!!! Can you please email us at bethevillage2018@gmail.com ? We want to more directly thank you for your generosity to this organization and specifically for that kiddo
Miss A I think you will love your new school! Just try to keep in mind this is a fun time in your life...enjoy it! I had a lot of problems at home when I was your age, and I probably should have been in foster care, but school was always enjoyable. Just get involved there! I worried about my parents hurting each other. I went to the ER myself when my dad hurt me. I went to the first day of my junior year of high school with stitches and a black eye.
School was the fun part. You get to come home to adults stressing over a 3 year old peeing everywhere! Not your problem! Just try hard, be friendly and enjoy this time in your life! 😊❤️❤️❤️
Lol I would live off of hot fries if I could! I'm loving your channel. We have our home tour next week! watching your videos gives me positive vibes!! Thanks for sharing 💗
Best of luck on your home tour!
Miss A,
I was bounced around the system a lot as a kid. I know how hard it can be and all I can say is it gets better. It may not seem like it right now but it does, you find your light. I had to attended 13 different school while in care, and the best advice for starting a new school is to:
1. be care who you trust (I don't starting off kind of negative) but don't tell everyone everything about you at first, get to know them. Make sure they are trustworthy because unfortunately not everyone is.
2. Don't be afraid to be yourself. (I know you've probably hear this a million times) but don't be afraid to be the weird kid or the nerdy kid. In reality, that doesn't matter. Don't be afraid to speak up for what you believe in and certainly don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and other. Don't let anyone take advantage of you.
3. Don't base your self-worth on popularity. I know it probably seems cool to have a ton of friends, but remember quality over quantity. Its better to have a small group of friends who you can tryst and hang out with all the time, as opposed to tons of friends who you never really get close to and cant really trust.
4. Remember you deserve the world. You are you and you deserve nothing less than the best, so don't settle for mediocre. Ask a teacher for extra credit if you don't like your grade. Don't let anyone treat you like you don't deserve to be there because you do, you deserve to be there the same as, if not more than anyone else there.
I hope this helped. Remember I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. I understand what you're going through and all I can say is stay strong. You got this! Don't be afraid to lean on your moms shoulder for support or even a shoulder to cry on.
Good to luck to Miss A for starting a new middle school I hope she has a great year in a new middle school.
THANK-YOU.
I loved that you shared this!!
When I told john we should talk about it he hesitated and then was like, you’re right... this is what we need to share!
Tell Miss A I’m rooting for her, and if she’s nervous about making new friends at school it’s always nice to go up to someone else who looks a little scared, introduce yourself and ask if they’d like to sit with you at lunch time (most kids are dreading whether or not they’ll have someone to sit with by lunch time, so I just got that out of the way by 1st period😂). Believe it or not that’s how I met my best friend freshman year of high school and were still close 6 years later! My current fosters have 4 legs and bark, but once I’m done with school and financially stable I’m going to foster kids as well! 😁💜
i really want to look into being a foster parent in the future now, after watching your videos! i’m really interested in it!! i love how y’all try to make them feel comfortable and happy.
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Augh! Potty training is tough. I trained 4 children. Stay strong!
U never know what a little one will do. U r never prepared. Just go with the flow.
I’m also 14F and I’m going into public school (was homeschooled) for the first time in a couple weeks. New school = no big deal to us! We got this, Miss A!! Keep being awesome!
You go girl!
I hope everything with the agency is alright now! I wish you luck with the potty training as well!!
Miss A if your reading this I hope you have a good time at school. Kids can be mean but I hope you make some friends and enjoy yourself because you are amazing!!!!!
My son used to pee all over his room on purpose, OH BOY lol. I know the feeling
Oh wow!
Oh my God lol
One question:
What was his reasoning?
shadjuice Hahaha! Oh the potty training days. It’s my opinion that boys are easier in some aspects like when you’re out & about without diapers those first few times. It’s easy to find a discreet place that’s not an actual bathroom.
The consequences to that though are mine wanted to pee outside but like ALL THE TIME. Getting out of the car at the grocery store, turn my back for a second & my 4yr old has already got his pants opened and is peeing on the tiny bush in the parking lot!
The other one liked to pee off the balcony. This was something the neighbors downstairs didn’t always appreciate it. Hahaha! I had to go wash off their deck far too many times!
Thankfully they’re 27 & 29 and while I’m sure they still pee outside, they’re a lot more discreet about it now.
Don’t worry. There will be bad days. When my mom got her currently three adopted set of girls (sisters) she had bad days with the system. But she fought long and hard and finally adopted them.
I’m getting my MSW so I’m gonna work on fixing the system since I know it from experience 😉
Miss A is amazing and you are all amazing. I’m incredibly proud of you all and all you do for your family. It makes my heart happy.
Thank you for all that you are doing!
Make sure she gives that hair a brake inbetween braids. Super important! Hair will break off if not. Trust me that’s from experience. Love the channel. ❤️
SO true! How much of a break in between? She took it out and cared for it with moisturizer and stuff and then had it cornrowed for her next hairdo...
@@BeTheVillageCommunity oh shoot just saw this . rule of thumb about as much time as it was in is how much of a break it needs. so typically braids can stay in a still look good up to 3 to 4 weeks and that's how long she should break in between. Get ends trimmed and check for damage every hair type is different especially if she is natural, she may not need as much time in-between hair styles. My hair is relaxed so i wait a little longer. and let my natural roots grow in so the braids don't break off my hair. I would ask a hairdresser (yes a black one if possible) to give a recommendation for her type of hair. idk if she has 3c or 4c roots if she is relaxed or natural so i can't really be to help much. i'm so sorry this response is so late.
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Lmao true