If it's an imaginary version based off someone in real life but you like the imaginary version and not the actual person... Wow. That's a bit confusing. Perhaps the version you like is not really like the actual person. Maybe the version you imagine is actually based mostly off your ideals. If you can, try to identify why you prefer the imaginary version. Personality? Appearance? Thinking about it may help you to understand yourself better.
@@HelloThere-pb6lm Oh if we're judging that and I can already tell you're a bad person by reading your comment and you have made it very obvious. And wtf does this have to do with the video? stop being a bully
@@Commielyn yoooo i know exactly how you feel, trust me but i dont think you're a giant loser at all. I've experienced the lowest point in my life you know. So bummed that i had self-doubts and negative thoughts. Good things dont happen to me everyday but i try looking up at the night sky and see millions of opportunities more, also believing that we'll all be alright in the end.
I'll be that person to say, isn't it better to say everyone have different tastes? Putting other people down (they don't have a great taste) to feel better isn't good... Sometimes people just doesn't click together, right. I do agree there are people who are suck as a human being. I'm glad you're at a better place!
It can be really hard when you went out with too. I think it might seem harder when you did not because we have a lot of fantaisies /imagination about it
Hi! When you are done, if you can, please comment on the videos about what you think about them. Cause I think they are so bad. Also, don't subscribe to that girl named, NaTanya cause she is so ugly. Dislike the videos too.
@@HelloThere-pb6lm dafuq? I have no idea who you are talking about but trash talking people and claiming they are ugly is a sign of a being a horrible person. I doubt this person is anywhere near as ugly as you.
Likewise lately. I was getting plenty of girls as a teen but once I became an adult, it flipped and I barely attract anyone or date at all due to it being one sided
The hardest part of figuring out that it wasn’t meant to be is not even the pain of “losing” that person you hardly knew, but the loss of hope and the fantasy life you created with them.
Ikr? Like my crushes doesn't like me back most of the time anyways or even if they do dating with that person would be hard since I have strict parents and I'm not mature enough for something like that. Wish I could control my feelings
I never had a crush but my classmates do Well I mean I'm not saying having a crush is bad but technically their crushes don't like them back either so it's kinda sad.
yow i saw your comments and YES! thats true that its okay to have crush on someone but the problem is they dont like you back especially what i experience back then (when i still have crushes) they dont like me back because i was ugly HAHAHAHHA
and what i hate about crushes (my experiences) is that they dont talk to me even tho Im being friendly. Mabey they just dont like me becuase im too clingy HAHAHA
@@cloudiesyt yeh, donating money to the channel to help them produce more videos with animations, ect. Kind of like patreon I can pay to become a member for like 2 or 5 dollars
0:52 They're already in a relationship 1:17 You're in the friendzone 2:03 They barely know you or acknowledge you 2:35 You find yourself obsessing 3:06 You're being led on 3:37 Your crush might be just using you
@@fuiii_ okay i know this is going to be hard to hear but you have to be patient in order to move on. Its very hard to move on if your mind is constantly thinking about moving on because your fixated on it. Just try to focus on yourself more. Maybe try a new sport, or learn something new, try cooking a new recipe! Or even simply do nothing differently. Its hard to stop obsessing (I would know im doing it currently, ive been obsessed with my crush i cant do damn near anything without thinking about them) but if your patient, youll look back at yourself and find that all this time youve felt as though you were “still obsessed” you had already moved on and were too blinded by the idea of moving on that you tricked your mind into continuing to think about your crush. Remember that you have many other people out there that feel the same way right now but the most important thing is that you are gaurenteed to feel better with time. Patience is the most important part of moving on. Think about how much your life has changed in the last 4 months, and think about what 4 months from now will do for you. It just takes time!
For all the people who just realized it’s time to move on, I JUST moved on from a situation like this. The way I got out of the situation was admitting to them I had feelings for them, but telling them we were better off friends. We’re still friends, and it was a little awkward the first two days, but we’re still good friends. It’s better to bite the bullet and get it over with, and if you’re lucky, they might admit to liking you back. Either way, it’s the best advice I can give. It might suck but you’ll save so much time and joy.
"The hardest thing to let go is someone that never became yours" But remember love is unconditional. Whether you wait for your crush or let her go. Don't force yourself through that person life. "She/He may not have memories of you but at least you have lovely memories of her/him" I hope that someday you find that special someone in your life 🙏🏻
The annoying part is that my crushes are never as into me as I’m into them and I don’t have that many crushes or the urge to really go look for someone. So a person that I’m actually interested in really only shows up in my life like every 2 years. In between that I’m just emotionally neutral (just content with life) and when another crush comes along and we hang out I start back feeling that wonderful rainbow of things.
@@diezuckerbackerin5112 There is no point being someone's doormat and there is no point bullying someone into liking you. That is why people learn to detach. If that relationship is not working out, it is time to detach. What if your crush is already married? No point being a homewrecker. What if people you invest in kicks you out and did not want to invite you? You have to learn how to respect their decision.
Crushes: You are falling for the idea of them. How you want them to be like for you. When you’re blinded by it, you dont see these signs until you finally move on.
I think I have abandonment issues. Everyone I have ever dated used me, and abused me verbally and with their mentality and actions. Now that I am 49 and divorced I have a different way of interacting with men. I watched this video and others, thank you for helping people with their experiences and giving reasonable answers to understand what we can find ourselves needing. Please keep it going! God bless you all.
I have the diagnosis and I never dated but had a poor childhood at times so it stuck with me and takes over at times. Sometimes it's great to meet someone like you with the same struggles but sometimes its hard cos if both have a very bad trust issue, what will result?
@@myrkflinn4331 I can answer that question simply. It may sound a bit pessimistic but nothing will result. Both me and my crush had or have trust issues and we both went in circles around each other because both of us were too shy to actually make a move. Except I opened myself up to him I was alright with it but he just simply didn't trust me. He didn't want to talk to me open up do anything and I was trying yet it resulted in nothing. We have the same problems shyness, trust issues yet I tried to work past them but he didn't and eventually it ended up with him blocking me and cutting of all contact
Crush = The feeling of attraction. Date = The act of commiting on attraction & testing its durability. Avoidance = The act of avoiding risks, that may or may not crush your expectations.
Adding one situation: when you crush shows interest, but at the same time tries to manipulate and/or gaslight you when you stand on your ground. It can be confusing, because of the attention received before. Pay attention to any signs of disrespect or even abuse. Time to leave the situation. Run and protect yourself. It's not real care.
If you are unsure if you're in the friend-zone (#2), hold on to the crush. I wasn't sure if I was in the friend-zone for a long time. After I took initiative and expressed my thoughts, it turned out that my crush liked me back! Good luck to everyone! I hope this helps.
I think if the person you're 'friendzoned' with is single, you should definitely just tell them how you feel. It's obviously a lot more dicey if they're in a relationship already. In that case, you should probably just distance yourself from them as your friendship with them isn't worth dealing with the emotional strain of unrequited affection.
I wish I could throw reason #1 at a friend of mine. She has been crushing on a married coworker for half a year now and does nothing but obsess about what he may or may not think of her. I told her many times to swallow her feelings and move on, but she stubbornly insists that you can't ever deny your feelings and so she keeps wallowing in misery and refuses to talk about anything else with... anyone really, because to her we all just can't understand her. It's so frustrating to watch and makes me feel helpless...
I had a crush on this girl who I was good friends with but I kept it to myself and then I found out they had a crush on me I told them my feelings and now we’re dating
A few weeks ago, i was in a similar situation, after months of being stupidly obsessed with my crush, i finally picked myself up and texted her, i struck up a conversation and then asked her if she's free this weekend, she said that she's gonna be spending time with her family and then she's going on a trip to the mountains, after doing a quick social media stroll i discovered that she's actually not going to the mountains at all and was likely just talking her way out of the situation! That's when i finally moved on. I am very, very glad that i tried it because 1. I would probably still be obsessed with her, 2. I would probably curse at myself for the rest of my life for not growing the balls and at least trying and 3. It has gave me a very valuable lesson that indeed the worst she can say is 'no', and you'll just have to move on. Never be afraid to give it a shot my friend!
#1 Already described my situation. I was so broken hearted when I discovered my crush already had a boyfriend, but I don't know how to move on... It's really hard to just forget someone you really like.
I fell in love with a girl a year ago when we became really close socially. I hoped the next step would be us getting even closer as she said things to me that was beyond friendship and we always talked for hours and hours. But since we work together i thought it best to take it slow, even though we saw each other outside of work going to the movies and for coffee. Then she started to date someone else. And now I can't let her go with my emotions. I think about her all the time although i try not to and i wish i wouldn't. I've felt this strongly only once before in my life during the exact same circumstances. How do you turn off the sun with a light switch?
Thanks for being so vulnerable and letting yourself out. But time heals all wounds and know this you deserve much much better. Sometimes it just letting go and moving on.... For the good.
Ikr same for me I liked a guy he said a lot of things that you can not pass of as just being friendly it was obvious that he looked at me more than a friend but then he just started dating other people and I found it very confusing
So i had a crush on this guy for almost 8 yrs now and I finally took the courage to talk to him and he rejected me, I'm literally dying of embarrassment🤣 I'll never forget this
When a crush just only contacts you for their own convenience, it's time to step away from them completely. Don't even be friends with them, because all that's showing them is that you're okay with them doing this to you
As direct and honest as I’ve been for three months and still barely feel any spark i got to call this one quits It really hurts psychologically but disrespecting yourself also ain’t cool either
For everyone here I'd like to give you hope. I've been down in the ditch for many years. I've had many crushes and it also crushed my life when things go awry. Because just these few weeks I start to like a girl, she's a customer at first. Then I prayed to God about her. Mind you, I was shy and I knew it is going to be hard for me to start up the convo and everything but God took care of that part. We eventually get to talk together these few days and to my surprised, she's the one I have been looking for all my life. And I'm feeling it's mutual too since she's the one who asked for my contact first. For those of you who is worrying, worry not. I can say this because I realized that it is stupid to just worry. There is a time for everything. When it comes, it comes in an abundance that you wouldn't actually believe it. Cheers.
No the sad part is I rarely have a crush and it’s never been reciprocated. If it’s not to the point of me having a crush I have very little interest in most people so my dating life really has no drive. I have a crush like every two years. I just turned 20 and I still don’t understand how people find it so easy to make it into happy reciprocated relationships all around me but it seems I’m nobody’s pick.
I feel like we’re twins! I am mildly attractive to both men and women but not enough to actually have feelings for people. I’ve never had a real crush. I was starting to think I was AceAro (I wish I was it’d make things easier) but nope, I discovered two things, I’m demiromantic and suddenly my feelings for my friend hit me like a ton of bricks at the same time, but he’s already with someone else. It hurts so bad. And honestly I’m giving up on love. I’m never going to find anyone, so why bother? I’m not worthy of it anyway.
All I would like to say is There is this amazing person in future who is waiting for you ... Your Ideal person .... Wait it will be worth it ... Till then have your sanity together and be never let anyone feel you bad ... I love you take care of yourself It will be worth it I promise ♡
My best friend and I just talked about this. We haven’t had crushes in a long time. It’s been 11 years for me. I asked out my TA in college, he was good looking. That was the only time I remember ever liking someone a lot. We went on a date but he was gay.
Nice try. If any of my crushes felt the same way, we would have dated ages ago, because my one-sided affections are obvious enough for the blind to see from outer space.
Im stuck in a situation where i barely knew her and confessed instantly, when she said an indefinite answer it makes me think whether i should continue trying to make her like me or just give up.
Dating in general is a hit or miss scenario. Nobody is guaranteed to be together. Who knows you may find someone better. Life is a waiting game, it happens when it happens in time.
I think a lot of this advice can be applied to other relationships whether platonic, or business. Regardless of what your situation is, if the writing is on the wall, it’s time to move on. I was just given a hard reminder of this recently. If someone is not interested in what you have to offer, don’t force it. Do not obsess over things outside of your control. Admittedly, this is easier said than done. Edit: A word.
I’m trying so hard to move on. I’ve focused my attention to more important things like my health, my work, my friends, but can’t seem to this woman out of my mind.
Its hard to forgot your crush when he/she give you a lot of good memories and show he/she love too but started to ignore you and hurt you.even if you let go this memories will stayed.
As a confident person I can say most of my crushes were one sided. I had a lot of ppl that were intimidated by me also so they went another way. Crazy thing is I’m an approachable individual , have a lot going for myself and that shouldn’t scare anyone
I‘m trying to move on from my crush being a crush to really being friends („zone“). On a friend level we get along very good. What makes it complicated is that she is in a relationship, but not happy as she says. She also has psychic problems and she says that she doesn‘t want to be in a relationship at all (at least at the moment).
I would like to thank you so much because I've been going through this with my best friend for the last little while now and a lot of those points hit the nail on the head. Thank you so much for the content you guys provide. keep up the amazing work.
Watching this on New year's day. Trying so hard to convince myself not to text my crush because he has moved on while I'm still living in my imagination
Hi! When you are done, if you can, please comment on the videos about what you think about them. Cause I think they are so bad. Also, don't subscribe to that girl named, NaTanya cause she is so ugly. Dislike the videos too.
That's amore I think it’s important since you said they’re not that good of a person, I would recommend trying to destroy the romanticized version of him.
I ‘dated’ a girl who was from a Muslim family and she kept filling me with false hope that one day she can be with me properly but a year went past and she was still flip flopping and leading me on so I just cut ties with her completely to save my dignity. We all know the feeling, waiting around for the off chance you’ll end up together. You’re worth more than being someone’s backup plan.
If you have a crush on someone who doesn’t see you as anything more than a friend, even after you made your own feelings clear to him/her, then it’s not good to stay friends. It is best to admit the inevitable, and go your separate ways. If there’s any unrequited feelings involved, that’s when things get tragic. It’s best for both you and your crush to just go your separate ways. Wish that person well in his/her endeavors and move on with your life.
I've done that with my previous crush. With my current, it's a bit harder. She's in my friend group, and I really don't want to lose them, they are the most important people to me and losing them would kill me, but having this crush is also killing me. It's exactly the situation you've described and I can't follow your advice. Guess I'm check mate, whatever I do, I die😅
Most of my crushes ended up being a toxic person ... The mental abusive kind .. I really don’t have experience so i can’t tell if it’s a green light or red flag
Sending this to my friend cause not only is one of her crushes taken, but also states that he doesn't like her. Sis stop chasing someone every day. It's boring and just energy wasting. We ain't gonna do everything for you-
Had a crush on someone from work for the past few months. Thought he was interested because even though we didn't talk much, we often found ourselves catching each other's gazes across the room. I learned by accident he's already in a relationship with someone and I dropped that crush so hard. Like. Yes, it hurts and is disappointing but I'm not going to touch that either. I'll take a little heartbreak over constantly longing for someone who's unavailable.
I had one crush for 4 years. He was dating other girls and deep down I was really hoping that he would break up with them. Soon enough we dated but I realized that he was too good to be true and broke up with him. He wasn't even phased when I called it quits and I was okay with that
I've learned the hard lesson that it's best to keep your crush a secret. Telling someone you have a crush on them can only lead to rejection and heartbreak in the end.
But you’re not being a strong person if you cannot handle rejection. You need to be able to handle these emotions. That’s the whole point of some of these UA-cam/motivational videos
@@firdausvlog7760rejection to lead to depression on some ppl. It’s not for everyone so if you can’t handle it to protect your mental health, just don’t tell the person. Move on instead
I support this video and actually gives a thumbs up. (I rarely gives thumbs up). Do not ever have one way traffic or one sided love. It is garanteed to fail. And yes from the video! Respect yourself. Have self respect. Do not let yourself be abused by your crush who never even confirm any relationship with you and worse might be just making a fool of you.
1. She's close to someone 2. Friendzone? i got something worse: ignored 3. yes she barely know and acknowledge me and she always ignores me 4. i'm maybe a little obsessing 5. i don't even chat her 6. How can i even be used if she barely knows me? Why am i doing this..
Last year, I had a crush on someone. He was perfect in my opinion, it wasn't until now that I realized he was using me. It broke my heart. If you've been used, remember that we're blinded by love sometimes, and that the reason they use you isn't because they think you're foolish, they're jealous that you're perfect, and you deserve the world
Then in that case, it needs to start with agreeing with what your crush said. I mean if your crush does not get any impression you don't think like your crush, then your competitors may have a better chance to win your crush's heart.
One guy had nearly all the signs from here: the girl in question was in a relationship, he was obsessing (always checking her social media and sometimes even stalking), he was partly in the friendzone, partly not known, she sometimes used him as a private driver and she also was 99,9% sure that he faked his feelings to get his hands on her apartment... And than she finally realized that her boyfriend treated her as an entertainment for himself, not as a person who had deep feelings for him. And she also realized that the guy in her friendzone treated her much better and he had far more good qualities than her boyfriend. That girl is me, and the guy whose crush I was is now my husband. And we're very happy together.
I love that this channel always go right to the points, and never wasting the viewers time by not using any clickbait pict on the thumbnail. Always very informative and helpful. Much love from Indonesia 🇮🇩❤️
Man, number 4 really sounds like me :/ I already knew I was being obsessive but seeing it makes it more real. I don’t think the girl I like likes me back, but moving on is so hard, and I like her a lot. I think my self respect sucks, I’m too clingy and obsessive, and I only end up hurting myself. The thing is, I want her to be happy, and if that means I’m not in the picture I want to be fine with that. Hope can be good, but I think its just making my mental health worse even more than it already is.
I friend zoned my now partner for about 5 or so years. They were my best friend and I couldn’t let that go. Now we’re together so we’re a kind of rare case. Didn’t have any type of feelings for them up until recently sometimes you really can fall in love with your best friend.
I have a crush and i've been liking them for like 3 years, and this video has been popping on my recommendation for like two times, THANK GOD i'm not experiencing any of these situation, on the first and two years, i'm REALLY obsessed with my crush, but on the third year, i've realized that i had to wait and just wait cause i don't think they like what i was doing, and after i stop obsessing, they act kinda soft to me, and i've been getting mixed signals it makes me confused. So basically i'm happy that i shouldn't move on lmao
i cant stop thinking of him and it NEEDS to stop. everytime i try to avoid him he finds a way to just come back to me or something. although i do enjoy it when hes around and like it when he is, i just dont want him to be with me 24/7 to the point where i cant stop thinking of him
It hurts so much when you’ve liked them for 11 months and found out that they hurt your friends and are toxic, and probably manipulated you too. And even though i knew some of the stuff they did a few months ago, I was in denial but now I fully accept it and am ready to leave them behind, no matter how hard that may be.
This is why I don’t fall into personal relationships; you never know when or even if you have been backstabbed (meaning that they have someone else in mind to live with in the future or you’re being used). This is like how venom goes into a persons’ bloodstream and intoxicates him/her. Getting this will seem hard to understand but the things here are important based on many factors especially a few like when a friend loses interest in you, how will they react, how they respond back, who else are they friends with, and how much do you and your ‘crush’ spend time with each other and interact. For me, always staying in the ‘safe zone’ will always help especially psychologically because I don’t have to worry about breaking up, thinking if my ‘crush’ is actually more in a personal relationship than to me. Several ladies in Highschool came and I all knew what they were up to (having a relationship with someone obviously). They wanted me in, but I didn’t want to break any of their hearts so I forced to politely say no and I am not interested. This itself kept me safe from destroying my mental health as well as disobeying my religion. Aside from that, I didn’t have to have ruin my relationship with other people if I had to get them involved. Best thing for me to do is to remain humble, yet also give others the respect they need.
"Lord, give me a sign."
The sign:
hahahaha saaadd
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Ahhh same xD the sign I've been looking for xD
The sign: Warning!
Djjdjd same
I like the imaginary version of the person i created in my mind not the actual person
If it's an imaginary version based off someone in real life but you like the imaginary version and not the actual person... Wow. That's a bit confusing. Perhaps the version you like is not really like the actual person. Maybe the version you imagine is actually based mostly off your ideals. If you can, try to identify why you prefer the imaginary version. Personality? Appearance? Thinking about it may help you to understand yourself better.
I’m attracted to his looks more than his personality.
I like someone who thinks its funny that I had a crush on him... it's not
@@HelloThere-pb6lm Oh if we're judging that and I can already tell you're a bad person by reading your comment and you have made it very obvious. And wtf does this have to do with the video? stop being a bully
@@HelloThere-pb6lm stop self promoting
If someone doesn't like you back, remember not everyone has great taste. 😂
What if i am just a giant loser
@@Commielyn yoooo i know exactly how you feel, trust me but i dont think you're a giant loser at all. I've experienced the lowest point in my life you know. So bummed that i had self-doubts and negative thoughts. Good things dont happen to me everyday but i try looking up at the night sky and see millions of opportunities more, also believing that we'll all be alright in the end.
I'll be that person to say, isn't it better to say everyone have different tastes?
Putting other people down (they don't have a great taste) to feel better isn't good... Sometimes people just doesn't click together, right.
I do agree there are people who are suck as a human being. I'm glad you're at a better place!
@@Commielyn If you feel like you are a loser then put in steps to improve yourself. Not to attract a crush, but to be a better version of yourself
Ye i kinda gave up on crushes, i don't want to go threw that mess again
“it hurts like hell when you know that you need to let go of someone but you can’t because you’re still waiting for that impossible to happen.”
Exactly i can totally relate, but dont give up! Patience its everything... Because Im really close to being with the person im inlove with!😊
@@princessyasharahla4159 chille I thought the same but one min they’re showing serious signs of liking me the next they liking someone else
@@melanin4735 well damn i hope they make up their mind already n stawp playin😭
@@princessyasharahla4159 Good luck! I'm not as close to being with my crush, but I'm hoping for the best!
I wonder who still alive in these comments cuz someone could be dead, if so rip
"Move on with self respect" I felt that
what self respect?
Just like any self-skill, you learn to respect and envy yourself @@widM_
It’s so much harder to get over someone you never dated / your crush than someone you actually went out with ...
Absolutely!
Omg yes! That's the hardest thing! I'm going through this now and let me tell yah, it's no walk in the park! 😂
It can be really hard when you went out with too. I think it might seem harder when you did not because we have a lot of fantaisies /imagination about it
I don't know about that one...
@@SHVideografie I think I also have a problem with getting ahead of myself and imagining a future with a crush haha
My crushes were always onsided. I never actually crushed on anyone I dated, they were all 'it'll do' kind of relationships.
Hi! When you are done, if you can, please comment on the videos about what you think about them. Cause I think they are so bad. Also, don't subscribe to that girl named, NaTanya cause she is so ugly. Dislike the videos too.
Same...I feel you. but all of my relationship didn't Work out because of that.
@@HelloThere-pb6lm dafuq? I have no idea who you are talking about but trash talking people and claiming they are ugly is a sign of a being a horrible person. I doubt this person is anywhere near as ugly as you.
Likewise lately. I was getting plenty of girls as a teen but once I became an adult, it flipped and I barely attract anyone or date at all due to it being one sided
@@HelloThere-pb6lm Not to be rude but trash talking about people is mean.
Plot twist: *You've already moved on.*
Too relatable mate
yes😀
Maybe haha
Yesssss same 🥰 love that for us!!
Yep. Can’t talk to her face to face due to COVID. A little shy talking to her on phone
The hardest part of figuring out that it wasn’t meant to be is not even the pain of “losing” that person you hardly knew, but the loss of hope and the fantasy life you created with them.
True.
Damn, I felt that
The little hope and dopamine i had during depression gone cos of rejection... Yeah not fun
I felt that. I really did.
Oh I know what you mean 😢
I'm done with crushes. Every time I did like someone they were either already in a relationship or not interested.
Relatable as f
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Same!
I don't want to have a crush again its wasting my time
Ikr? Like my crushes doesn't like me back most of the time anyways or even if they do dating with that person would be hard since I have strict parents and I'm not mature enough for something like that. Wish I could control my feelings
@@rururue I have the same problem bro
I never had a crush but my classmates do
Well I mean I'm not saying having a crush is bad but technically their crushes don't like them back either so it's kinda sad.
yow i saw your comments and YES! thats true that its okay to have crush on someone but the problem is they dont like you back especially what i experience back then (when i still have crushes) they dont like me back because i was ugly HAHAHAHHA
and what i hate about crushes (my experiences) is that they dont talk to me even tho Im being friendly. Mabey they just dont like me becuase im too clingy HAHAHA
I used to like having crushes, but im realizing how damaging it actually was....
Yes
sadly i b crushin on ppl rlly quick i hate it
@@AnimeVibeHarmony 🤣🤣 Now, this was funny.. It's true though.
@@AnimeVibeHarmony same
same.
EEEEEKKKK these member emotes are too cute
How did you get this ?
@@g.i.r.l. yea xP
@@lolatiffhur paying-
@@cloudiesyt yeh, donating money to the channel to help them produce more videos with animations, ect. Kind of like patreon I can pay to become a member for like 2 or 5 dollars
4th one be like
Nani
0:52 They're already in a relationship
1:17 You're in the friendzone
2:03 They barely know you or acknowledge you
2:35 You find yourself obsessing
3:06 You're being led on
3:37 Your crush might be just using you
No replies yet? Wth
Thanks!!
this feels like everything happening to me
how to stop obsessing
7. you can only watch tarot readings instead of really talking to them
@@fuiii_ okay i know this is going to be hard to hear but you have to be patient in order to move on. Its very hard to move on if your mind is constantly thinking about moving on because your fixated on it. Just try to focus on yourself more. Maybe try a new sport, or learn something new, try cooking a new recipe! Or even simply do nothing differently. Its hard to stop obsessing (I would know im doing it currently, ive been obsessed with my crush i cant do damn near anything without thinking about them) but if your patient, youll look back at yourself and find that all this time youve felt as though you were “still obsessed” you had already moved on and were too blinded by the idea of moving on that you tricked your mind into continuing to think about your crush. Remember that you have many other people out there that feel the same way right now but the most important thing is that you are gaurenteed to feel better with time. Patience is the most important part of moving on. Think about how much your life has changed in the last 4 months, and think about what 4 months from now will do for you. It just takes time!
I remember seeing a quote that relates to this. "Sometimes the person that you want doesn't deserve you"
For all the people who just realized it’s time to move on, I JUST moved on from a situation like this. The way I got out of the situation was admitting to them I had feelings for them, but telling them we were better off friends. We’re still friends, and it was a little awkward the first two days, but we’re still good friends. It’s better to bite the bullet and get it over with, and if you’re lucky, they might admit to liking you back. Either way, it’s the best advice I can give. It might suck but you’ll save so much time and joy.
Nice man
Ya it happened to me too
When will we get a season 2😣
I did this as well but I still have feelings for him. Jokes on me I guess 😂
But I'm scared 😅
"The hardest thing to let go is someone that never became yours"
But remember love is unconditional. Whether you wait for your crush or let her go. Don't force yourself through that person life.
"She/He may not have memories of you but at least you have lovely memories of her/him"
I hope that someday you find that special someone in your life 🙏🏻
Thank you
I wish you the same thing Raymond!
The annoying part is that my crushes are never as into me as I’m into them and I don’t have that many crushes or the urge to really go look for someone. So a person that I’m actually interested in really only shows up in my life like every 2 years. In between that I’m just emotionally neutral (just content with life) and when another crush comes along and we hang out I start back feeling that wonderful rainbow of things.
Yeah, I know this neutral stages myself. Mine are even longer than two years😅.
Wish you all the best!
@@Elfenlied1 thanks buddy. You too. 🤝
@@Roan.bot.
Thank you!
Ahhh that's so true. It's so annoying. For once why can't my crush like me back... just.once. so fed up.
omg are you me? i love those periods of feeling emotionally neutral though
I think we all know, deep inside, whether we should move on or not.
Never get too attached to someone; sometimes it's irreversible 😔
Bullshit. You just have to work on it.
@@diezuckerbackerin5112 There is no point being someone's doormat and there is no point bullying someone into liking you. That is why people learn to detach. If that relationship is not working out, it is time to detach. What if your crush is already married? No point being a homewrecker. What if people you invest in kicks you out and did not want to invite you? You have to learn how to respect their decision.
Crushes: You are falling for the idea of them. How you want them to be like for you. When you’re blinded by it, you dont see these signs until you finally move on.
Preachhh
I won’t say this is true EVERY time tho but yah much of the time
The last two is often very difficult for people to identify, as they don't realise they're being lead on or used
i’ve been used by a girl before, she said she was bi for attention and said i was her girlfriend. i could hardly tell.
You'll know... because there will be a discrepancy between their actions and their words.
I think I have abandonment issues. Everyone I have ever dated used me, and abused me verbally and with their mentality and actions. Now that I am 49 and divorced I have a different way of interacting with men. I watched this video and others, thank you for helping people with their experiences and giving reasonable answers to understand what we can find ourselves needing. Please keep it going! God bless you all.
God bless you too!
I have the diagnosis and I never dated but had a poor childhood at times so it stuck with me and takes over at times. Sometimes it's great to meet someone like you with the same struggles but sometimes its hard cos if both have a very bad trust issue, what will result?
Sorry to hear that you have been used and abused..
@@myrkflinn4331 I can answer that question simply. It may sound a bit pessimistic but nothing will result. Both me and my crush had or have trust issues and we both went in circles around each other because both of us were too shy to actually make a move. Except I opened myself up to him I was alright with it but he just simply didn't trust me. He didn't want to talk to me open up do anything and I was trying yet it resulted in nothing. We have the same problems shyness, trust issues yet I tried to work past them but he didn't and eventually it ended up with him blocking me and cutting of all contact
Crush = The feeling of attraction.
Date = The act of commiting on attraction & testing its durability.
Avoidance = The act of avoiding risks, that may or may not crush your expectations.
Basically a crush can be one-sided, a date (hopefully) isn't
👑
@@saracecchinelli3740 Exactly.
So true
That feeling when you both like each other but you still avoiding him cuzz you've avoiding attachment 🤧😑
It's hard to move on without confessing
Fall in love with your best friend really hurt af than fall in love with stranger.
100%
How tf do you fall in love with a stranger
@@stenarsk6877 many ways like meeting new friends/partner in online platform.
ive nva been in that situation but i can imagine the damge oof
@@AnimeVibeHarmony yeah it totally hurt cuz i had face it before.
It's already done,i'm confident that it's will never work between us two so i give up on him
HELLO DEAR THERE IS A WOMAN WHO CAN HELP YOU OUT WITH YOUR PROBLEM OR ANY RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
I don’t mind being rejected. I know exactly where I stand. But being led on is the worst. Giving someone hope where there is none is just awful.
“ I asked her out and she said no” I think thats a pretty good sign lol
Adding one situation: when you crush shows interest, but at the same time tries to manipulate and/or gaslight you when you stand on your ground. It can be confusing, because of the attention received before. Pay attention to any signs of disrespect or even abuse. Time to leave the situation. Run and protect yourself. It's not real care.
My crush now knows I exist.
Im finally letting my voice be heared
If you are unsure if you're in the friend-zone (#2), hold on to the crush. I wasn't sure if I was in the friend-zone for a long time. After I took initiative and expressed my thoughts, it turned out that my crush liked me back! Good luck to everyone! I hope this helps.
I waited many years, but i cant express my feelings. Idk what to do
@@milecraft634 do they give signs of liking u too?
u lucki
I think if the person you're 'friendzoned' with is single, you should definitely just tell them how you feel. It's obviously a lot more dicey if they're in a relationship already. In that case, you should probably just distance yourself from them as your friendship with them isn't worth dealing with the emotional strain of unrequited affection.
I'm soo happy for you!! Imagining right now how that must feel like😢
I wish I could throw reason #1 at a friend of mine. She has been crushing on a married coworker for half a year now and does nothing but obsess about what he may or may not think of her. I told her many times to swallow her feelings and move on, but she stubbornly insists that you can't ever deny your feelings and so she keeps wallowing in misery and refuses to talk about anything else with... anyone really, because to her we all just can't understand her. It's so frustrating to watch and makes me feel helpless...
I had a crush on this girl who I was good friends with but I kept it to myself and then I found out they had a crush on me I told them my feelings and now we’re dating
Psych2Go: «You can't wait forever»
Me: «You understimate my patience! Don't start a fight you can't win»
I waited for 5 years and eventually moved on
@@MP-ut6eb yea I don't know what had happened to me in that years now I know
@@MP-ut6eb Ohh..I didn't think you judge me tho you too have a happy life
@@MP-ut6eb bye ;)
My cruch is in a rolasionship its hard to find a girlfriend these times
i've read this somewhere on facebook,
if they love you/got interest in you, you will know...
if they not, then you will be confused most of the time.
What if you know, but they won't ask you out, it's torture
@@sandlforever6254 then, ask them out, my friend :) and you will get a solid response.
A few weeks ago, i was in a similar situation, after months of being stupidly obsessed with my crush, i finally picked myself up and texted her, i struck up a conversation and then asked her if she's free this weekend, she said that she's gonna be spending time with her family and then she's going on a trip to the mountains, after doing a quick social media stroll i discovered that she's actually not going to the mountains at all and was likely just talking her way out of the situation! That's when i finally moved on. I am very, very glad that i tried it because
1. I would probably still be obsessed with her,
2. I would probably curse at myself for the rest of my life for not growing the balls and at least trying and
3. It has gave me a very valuable lesson that indeed the worst she can say is 'no', and you'll just have to move on. Never be afraid to give it a shot my friend!
A crush crushes your life.
#1 Already described my situation. I was so broken hearted when I discovered my crush already had a boyfriend, but I don't know how to move on... It's really hard to just forget someone you really like.
are u ok now?
@@userm180 Thank you for asking. I'm better now. I'm trying to not think about it anymore... We don't see each other often so that helps.
@@kevinkite3418 ahhh i see. im glad ure better now. if u need to talk to somebody im here
@@userm180 Thank you very much.
Same situation but her new boyfriend is a old friend of mine :(
I fell in love with a girl a year ago when we became really close socially. I hoped the next step would be us getting even closer as she said things to me that was beyond friendship and we always talked for hours and hours. But since we work together i thought it best to take it slow, even though we saw each other outside of work going to the movies and for coffee. Then she started to date someone else. And now I can't let her go with my emotions. I think about her all the time although i try not to and i wish i wouldn't. I've felt this strongly only once before in my life during the exact same circumstances. How do you turn off the sun with a light switch?
Totally relatable.
Thanks for sharing this.
Thanks for being so vulnerable and letting yourself out. But time heals all wounds and know this you deserve much much better. Sometimes it just letting go and moving on.... For the good.
Ikr same for me I liked a guy he said a lot of things that you can not pass of as just being friendly it was obvious that he looked at me more than a friend but then he just started dating other people and I found it very confusing
hey dear, im sorry. are u ok?
So i had a crush on this guy for almost 8 yrs now and I finally took the courage to talk to him and he rejected me, I'm literally dying of embarrassment🤣 I'll never forget this
When a crush just only contacts you for their own convenience, it's time to step away from them completely. Don't even be friends with them, because all that's showing them is that you're okay with them doing this to you
I think this goes for friends in general
As direct and honest as I’ve been for three months and still barely feel any spark i got to call this one quits
It really hurts psychologically but disrespecting yourself also ain’t cool either
tbh sometimes i dont even pay attention to ur videos i just listen to it in the background because of your voice
The worst situation is when you can't move on even when this person is starting to be mean to you.... :(
Sorry to hear that... got any social medias like discord?
I thought that it was impossible but time does heal.
For everyone here I'd like to give you hope. I've been down in the ditch for many years. I've had many crushes and it also crushed my life when things go awry.
Because just these few weeks I start to like a girl, she's a customer at first. Then I prayed to God about her. Mind you, I was shy and I knew it is going to be hard for me to start up the convo and everything but God took care of that part.
We eventually get to talk together these few days and to my surprised, she's the one I have been looking for all my life. And I'm feeling it's mutual too since she's the one who asked for my contact first.
For those of you who is worrying, worry not. I can say this because I realized that it is stupid to just worry.
There is a time for everything. When it comes, it comes in an abundance that you wouldn't actually believe it.
Cheers.
How are you two doing right now?
"It takes two hands to clap"....them cheeks
Lmfaoo
Bruh 😂
Asexuals: how bout no.
No the sad part is I rarely have a crush and it’s never been reciprocated. If it’s not to the point of me having a crush I have very little interest in most people so my dating life really has no drive. I have a crush like every two years. I just turned 20 and I still don’t understand how people find it so easy to make it into happy reciprocated relationships all around me but it seems I’m nobody’s pick.
Relatable, hope you found someone!
I feel like we’re twins! I am mildly attractive to both men and women but not enough to actually have feelings for people. I’ve never had a real crush. I was starting to think I was AceAro (I wish I was it’d make things easier) but nope, I discovered two things, I’m demiromantic and suddenly my feelings for my friend hit me like a ton of bricks at the same time, but he’s already with someone else. It hurts so bad. And honestly I’m giving up on love. I’m never going to find anyone, so why bother? I’m not worthy of it anyway.
Better fall in love with fictional character than real person.
Yeah 😓🌠
Like i fall for Berlin in Money Hiest
🙋🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️mee asf
Yesss eren 😍😍😍😍
@@tetsu8171 yeah like for example, I'm in love with Holt hyde from monster high😛
This art style is too frigging adorable.
Hey how’d you get that
@@kaielyse9313 (s)he's a member
@@kaielyse9313 she paid so she's a member
ikr
Me watching the video: BROKEN HEARTED
Sad but why do you have that profile
All I would like to say is There is this amazing person in future who is waiting for you ... Your Ideal person .... Wait it will be worth it ... Till then have your sanity together and be never let anyone feel you bad ... I love you take care of yourself It will be worth it I promise ♡
@Mr. 7Reality same
I understand you it's awful 😢
My eyes are sweating
My best friend and I just talked about this. We haven’t had crushes in a long time. It’s been 11 years for me. I asked out my TA in college, he was good looking. That was the only time I remember ever liking someone a lot. We went on a date but he was gay.
Here’s the thing. I want to get over him, but at the same time he’s the only thing that makes me happy 😭
I'm watching this because I want to forget my crushes because I know in the first place, they wouldn't crush me back hehe
Giving up on crushing PERIOD cause no one wants me
Not to be rude but thats usually the kind of attitute that lead to that result
i only like anime people because real ones suck 🤧
Don't lose hope! Let the time go and maybe one day you'll have a crush that love you too
Same
Accurate
Plot twist: Your crush is also watching this because they also felt the same way as you do.
Hope is a dangerous thing
@@pallavimenon6299 I know haha
Hope is my middle name ;)
We are all clown 🤡 😂
Nice try. If any of my crushes felt the same way, we would have dated ages ago, because my one-sided affections are obvious enough for the blind to see from outer space.
Im stuck in a situation where i barely knew her and confessed instantly, when she said an indefinite answer it makes me think whether i should continue trying to make her like me or just give up.
Dating in general is a hit or miss scenario. Nobody is guaranteed to be together. Who knows you may find someone better. Life is a waiting game, it happens when it happens in time.
I dunno, this love thingy is complicated
I think a lot of this advice can be applied to other relationships whether platonic, or business. Regardless of what your situation is, if the writing is on the wall, it’s time to move on.
I was just given a hard reminder of this recently. If someone is not interested in what you have to offer, don’t force it. Do not obsess over things outside of your control. Admittedly, this is easier said than done.
Edit: A word.
No one writes that they dont like you on a wall /j
I have had the same crush for 6-7 years,I honestly don’t even know how to move on-
I Think...It's More Than a Crush. May Be You are In Love With that Person
I’m trying so hard to move on. I’ve focused my attention to more important things like my health, my work, my friends, but can’t seem to this woman out of my mind.
I am 41 and I needed to hear this. Thank you.
Its hard to forgot your crush when he/she give you a lot of good memories and show he/she love too but started to ignore you and hurt you.even if you let go this memories will stayed.
As a confident person I can say most of my crushes were one sided. I had a lot of ppl that were intimidated by me also so they went another way. Crazy thing is I’m an approachable individual , have a lot going for myself and that shouldn’t scare anyone
I‘m trying to move on from my crush being a crush to really being friends („zone“). On a friend level we get along very good.
What makes it complicated is that she is in a relationship, but not happy as she says. She also has psychic problems and she says that she doesn‘t want to be in a relationship at all (at least at the moment).
i don’t have a crush but still watched this because this person’s voice really calms me down and gets me in a very good mood
I would like to thank you so much because I've been going through this with my best friend for the last little while now and a lot of those points hit the nail on the head. Thank you so much for the content you guys provide. keep up the amazing work.
Watching this on New year's day. Trying so hard to convince myself not to text my crush because he has moved on while I'm still living in my imagination
it's been more than a year and I still can't 😃👍 (he's really nice and I respect so many traits that he has, I think that just makes it harder for me)
Moving on is not an easy process.. until we find hope for something else.
Seym😞
Hi! When you are done, if you can, please comment on the videos about what you think about them. Cause I think they are so bad. Also, don't subscribe to that girl named, NaTanya cause she is so ugly. Dislike the videos too.
That's amore I think it’s important since you said they’re not that good of a person, I would recommend trying to destroy the romanticized version of him.
@@NarutoUzumaki-ky5jn u are right :)
Without crushes life will be boring sometimes 😀
yeeeep
I ‘dated’ a girl who was from a Muslim family and she kept filling me with false hope that one day she can be with me properly but a year went past and she was still flip flopping and leading me on so I just cut ties with her completely to save my dignity. We all know the feeling, waiting around for the off chance you’ll end up together. You’re worth more than being someone’s backup plan.
not seeing him for ages helped me pick myself up. it's been four years, my feelings are still around, but they've faded. thank goodness.
Sign 7: she is on a vacation with a guy in another country
Ouch!😬 Good luck, and be strong
I’m sorry 🥺💔
@@nicollezendejas4692 why
Hahahaha
@@svrzainim93 idk
If you have a crush on someone who doesn’t see you as anything more than a friend, even after you made your own feelings clear to him/her, then it’s not good to stay friends. It is best to admit the inevitable, and go your separate ways. If there’s any unrequited feelings involved, that’s when things get tragic. It’s best for both you and your crush to just go your separate ways. Wish that person well in his/her endeavors and move on with your life.
I've done that with my previous crush. With my current, it's a bit harder. She's in my friend group, and I really don't want to lose them, they are the most important people to me and losing them would kill me, but having this crush is also killing me. It's exactly the situation you've described and I can't follow your advice. Guess I'm check mate, whatever I do, I die😅
Most of my crushes ended up being a toxic person ... The mental abusive kind .. I really don’t have experience so i can’t tell if it’s a green light or red flag
Lol me too hahaha
Sending this to my friend cause not only is one of her crushes taken, but also states that he doesn't like her.
Sis stop chasing someone every day. It's boring and just energy wasting. We ain't gonna do everything for you-
Had a crush on someone from work for the past few months. Thought he was interested because even though we didn't talk much, we often found ourselves catching each other's gazes across the room. I learned by accident he's already in a relationship with someone and I dropped that crush so hard. Like. Yes, it hurts and is disappointing but I'm not going to touch that either. I'll take a little heartbreak over constantly longing for someone who's unavailable.
I had one crush for 4 years. He was dating other girls and deep down I was really hoping that he would break up with them. Soon enough we dated but I realized that he was too good to be true and broke up with him. He wasn't even phased when I called it quits and I was okay with that
Fun fact : I don't have any crush....but still watch this video...
yea same
same
lucky
I've learned the hard lesson that it's best to keep your crush a secret. Telling someone you have a crush on them can only lead to rejection and heartbreak in the end.
But you’re not being a strong person if you cannot handle rejection. You need to be able to handle these emotions. That’s the whole point of some of these UA-cam/motivational videos
I heard that’s a bad mentality
Very relatable. I hope you've found the right person for you and have told him/her your feelings, and it appeared he/she likes u back!
That's only true if you ignore the signs they don't like you. It's not bad to make a move, but you have to be sure the move will be received well.
@@firdausvlog7760rejection to lead to depression on some ppl. It’s not for everyone so if you can’t handle it to protect your mental health, just don’t tell the person. Move on instead
I support this video and actually gives a thumbs up. (I rarely gives thumbs up). Do not ever have one way traffic or one sided love. It is garanteed to fail. And yes from the video! Respect yourself. Have self respect. Do not let yourself be abused by your crush who never even confirm any relationship with you and worse might be just making a fool of you.
1. She's close to someone
2. Friendzone? i got something worse: ignored
3. yes she barely know and acknowledge me and she always ignores me
4. i'm maybe a little obsessing
5. i don't even chat her
6. How can i even be used if she barely knows me?
Why am i doing this..
Last year, I had a crush on someone. He was perfect in my opinion, it wasn't until now that I realized he was using me. It broke my heart. If you've been used, remember that we're blinded by love sometimes, and that the reason they use you isn't because they think you're foolish, they're jealous that you're perfect, and you deserve the world
i disagree... no one is perfect and if someone uses you they just dont care about you, let alone love you
i sent my crush this video. we had a great conversation about disagreeing with everything that's said here. i think i wont give up on her.
Lmao 🤣 🤣
Best of luck ♥️♥️
😂😂lol bhai
Then in that case, it needs to start with agreeing with what your crush said. I mean if your crush does not get any impression you don't think like your crush, then your competitors may have a better chance to win your crush's heart.
And I was just about to tell this girl that I like her.🤡
Why not? Go on and tell her...
Do it sir/mam
One guy had nearly all the signs from here: the girl in question was in a relationship, he was obsessing (always checking her social media and sometimes even stalking), he was partly in the friendzone, partly not known, she sometimes used him as a private driver and she also was 99,9% sure that he faked his feelings to get his hands on her apartment... And than she finally realized that her boyfriend treated her as an entertainment for himself, not as a person who had deep feelings for him. And she also realized that the guy in her friendzone treated her much better and he had far more good qualities than her boyfriend.
That girl is me, and the guy whose crush I was is now my husband. And we're very happy together.
I love that this channel always go right to the points, and never wasting the viewers time by not using any clickbait pict on the thumbnail. Always very informative and helpful. Much love from Indonesia 🇮🇩❤️
Man, number 4 really sounds like me :/ I already knew I was being obsessive but seeing it makes it more real. I don’t think the girl I like likes me back, but moving on is so hard, and I like her a lot. I think my self respect sucks, I’m too clingy and obsessive, and I only end up hurting myself. The thing is, I want her to be happy, and if that means I’m not in the picture I want to be fine with that. Hope can be good, but I think its just making my mental health worse even more than it already is.
HELLO DEAR THERE IS A WOMAN WHO CAN HELP YOU OUT WITH YOUR PROBLEM OR ANY RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
Whatsapp her for 🆘
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I friend zoned my now partner for about 5 or so years. They were my best friend and I couldn’t let that go. Now we’re together so we’re a kind of rare case. Didn’t have any type of feelings for them up until recently sometimes you really can fall in love with your best friend.
Here after moving on 13 times.
The only sign I get : "Ew"
THEY BARELY KNOW YOU........... that one hurts
"You find yourself having bean in this situation before"
I recently just gave up on him after draining the heck out of me just wanna focus on myself now😁
you honestly probably could've just asked him out and got a yes. guys are very easy to win over as long as you have a good heart
I have a crush and i've been liking them for like 3 years, and this video has been popping on my recommendation for like two times, THANK GOD i'm not experiencing any of these situation, on the first and two years, i'm REALLY obsessed with my crush, but on the third year, i've realized that i had to wait and just wait cause i don't think they like what i was doing, and after i stop obsessing, they act kinda soft to me, and i've been getting mixed signals it makes me confused. So basically i'm happy that i shouldn't move on lmao
It's been also 3 years I have a crush too! We will win this fight with patience🤝✊
@@echeffe4168 omg that's so coooolllll i hope you'll end up with them!
They say never give up
But someone say to give up
And this is why the word "dont give up" Only make it worser for me
Don't use give up then. Try tactical retreat.
@@willskywalk ok,thx
Never gonna give you up
Never gonna let you down
i cant stop thinking of him and it NEEDS to stop. everytime i try to avoid him he finds a way to just come back to me or something. although i do enjoy it when hes around and like it when he is, i just dont want him to be with me 24/7 to the point where i cant stop thinking of him
It hurts so much when you’ve liked them for 11 months and found out that they hurt your friends and are toxic, and probably manipulated you too. And even though i knew some of the stuff they did a few months ago, I was in denial but now I fully accept it and am ready to leave them behind, no matter how hard that may be.
This is why I don’t fall into personal relationships; you never know when or even if you have been backstabbed (meaning that they have someone else in mind to live with in the future or you’re being used). This is like how venom goes into a persons’ bloodstream and intoxicates him/her. Getting this will seem hard to understand but the things here are important based on many factors especially a few like when a friend loses interest in you, how will they react, how they respond back, who else are they friends with, and how much do you and your ‘crush’ spend time with each other and interact. For me, always staying in the ‘safe zone’ will always help especially psychologically because I don’t have to worry about breaking up, thinking if my ‘crush’ is actually more in a personal relationship than to me. Several ladies in Highschool came and I all knew what they were up to (having a relationship with someone obviously). They wanted me in, but I didn’t want to break any of their hearts so I forced to politely say no and I am not interested. This itself kept me safe from destroying my mental health as well as disobeying my religion. Aside from that, I didn’t have to have ruin my relationship with other people if I had to get them involved. Best thing for me to do is to remain humble, yet also give others the respect they need.