I think this is also true for us guys din. Nakakainis kapag sinasabi ng mom ko na "gusto kita magka-anak kasi sino mag-aalaga sayo pagtanda mo?" This is a nice talk, Bianca!
I'm 34 (turning 35 na nga eh), walang asawa pero may jowa for 10yrs, walang anak. Yung mga taong mas naiinip at naeexcite pa kesa saken na maikasal ako at magkaanak wala naman talaga ako pakelam s kanila kasi di naman sila bumubuhay saken. Pero iba pala kapag.... C nanay nung isang gabi kinausap nya ako, "anak hindi ko kayo pinupush na mag asawa or mag anak if ayaw nyo pa ng ate mo, pero tumatanda na kasi kami ng papa mo, gusto ko lang kapag mawala man kami dito sa mundo ng papa mo alam kong ok na kalagayan nyo" 😭😭😭😭
I'm 26 and I can relate to this. Whenever I am asked the same question, I usually answer by saying "Wala akong balak". Right now my priority is myself first, cause my ex and I already talked about our future plans, and then one day isang araw iba na mahal niya. It happened during my lowest point in life (my grandma died (October 2019), and I was the favorite apo and I couldn't come home sa pinas because we're here sa US) and so I am still healing from everything that happened. Naubos kasi ako in that aspect. Maybe in the future, I would want to, try to love again and maybe build a family. I dunno. But for now, ako muna :)
"even if you follow timeline, there is no guarantee of happiness and fulfillment for you." Wow! Thank you ladies for this inspiring message. Nkakapressure na rin minsan kapag tinatanong ako na ganyan. I am almost 30, but I still have plans for myself before I settle down. But sometimes I feel lonely because I have no one to lean on, then I realized that I have circle friends that always been there for me. So I learned to be content of my life now. ❤
I am frustrated over comments suggesting I should just stay at home and take care of my kids - that I am lacking as a Mom because I opted to work, have a career. I just tell them, "Motherhood is not just the title I want to carry. I also want to live my dreams as an individual person." Yung iba kasi, parenthood is a dead end for them. Bahala kayo jan. Haha
I think this topic is for me 😊 I'm 37 years old and everyone around me is asking if why I'm still single, mahihirapan na ako magkaroon ng anak. They even suggested na magpa buntis ka nalang..huh? 😁 nakakapa pressure talaga. Pero ano ang magagawa ko kahit gustuhin ko man wala talaga. Hindi naman pwede na bigla nalang ako mag aabang sa kanto ng mga lalaki at sasabihin ko tara pakasal tayo 😁.
True sis grabe mang pressure mga tao. Di naman sila papasok sa relationship at pagbuo ng pamilya. Mom told me dapat may sarili akong paninindigan and not be swayed by their pressure. Equally pressured too pero go with the flow na lang.
@@dolly1833 sa kin kasi, di lahat ng tao capable bumuo ng pamilya at maging mga magulang. My parents' generation (boomers) are fond of asking relationship and marriage questions because during their time, they marry for security. They expect us too to follow their path. Kwento lang, daming kwento ng nanay ko na mga SHS students niya, mga galing sa broken families, abused physically and emotionally. Some people are not meant to be parents because of their own hang ups and unsolved internal issues. I don't want that kind of life for my own family just because I gave in to pressure and settle for less. It's not about high standards. It's knowing what you don't want and non-negotiables. It's loving yourself and being the best you so kung may makatuluyan ka man, the partner won't be your therapist. Kung may makatuluyan man ako, or wala, I know how to be happy. Pero umaasa pa rin hehe
hala, natawa ako d2, parang advices lang sa akin ng family/friends, i am 42 and wala naman ako jowa, paano ako magkaka anak and beside nde sya naka accord sa pinaniniwalaan ko. sabi pa nila, kawawa ka kung wala ka pamilya, wala mag aalaga sa u, i will save for it, para kukuha ako ng mag aalaga sa akin like private nurse. wala e, nde talaga para sa akin, accept ko na lang ng maluwag and be content with my life. God is still good.
@@maroco543 you do you 😊 ang anak hindi investment plan para alagaan ka pagtanda mo. A lot of people get this wrong. May sariling pagkatao ang magiging anak ng isang magulang at hindi kabilang doon ang taga-alaga sa magulang kapag tumanda na. Kaya ang daming mga anak ang may sama ng loob sa parents nila. The parents want them to be somebody they're not or don't want to do. Have kids because you want to together with your partner. At mamahalin mo sila. Yung lang sa akin.
Just want to say that this "Time Table" pressure also applies to men. Thanks for this, Bianca. Because I for one, have another episode of this pressure creeping in. This help me feel at ease. And if there is Fear Of Missing Out(FOMO), there is also the Joy Of Missing Out(JOMO).
For me, what helps me overcome the issue of timeline is looking at the brighter side of my situation. Wala pa nga akong asawa at anak at my age pero because of this nagagawa ko pa ang mga gusto ko. I can still spend my money the way I want. I look at the things that I can do because I didn't followed the timeline. I'm 27 and my bf is 28 and we're not yet getting there but we do talk about it. Di pa nga lang talaga sa ngayon 😅
2 days after this premiered and still no dislike vote and DEF SHOULD STAY THAT WAY! Such a timely topic. Thank YOU superbianca and superbffs!!! :D Looking forward to more topics you 4 would discuss in the future. Much ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
We are now living in a society where there is such Fear of Missing Out, that's why people expects a lot.of something from you. Timeline is like giving me a deadline , but as long as you know yourself, I'd rather not stoop or ignore into people's expectations.I Surround myself with people who inspires me to do better as a person and just focus into myself than stressing myself with such small mind concept.
Self love makes you realize that the timeline is not so important. ❤ as NBSB I learned have to value myself and makes a wise decision kahit na hindi pasok sa timeline I would be thankful because I was not in the wrong person or what. The important is you as yourself happy alone, can stand by your own and so independent is so much grateful. ❤ Btw. Thanks ate bianca, God Bless Po ❤ Looking forward for more learnings in this channel ❤
After watching this, I have come to a realization that I have to stop putting so much pressure on myself. I'll follow my own timeline and not other's timeline for me. They're not the one's who will bear the consequences of whatever timeline I will follow. I know myself more than anyone else.
Ganito yun, kung wla kang bf tatanungin ka kelan ka magkakajowa, kung me jowa naman At matagal na kayo, kelan kayo pakakasal. Kapag kasal na, kelan kayo magkakababy, kapag magkakababy na, kelan nyo susundan... our society admit it had this mindset. If you’re. Woman , you have timeline to get married and have baby.
This type of content really deserves more subscriptions and likes. Keep helping people by sharing your thoughts, Ms. Bianca. Very timely! Great job, as always! ❤
Really insightful..very on point we really have our own timeline..and not following the traditional timeline for women does not makes us less of a of women.. Btw..this girls remind of of the girl friends in kdrama "to all the guys who love me" those girls also have different points and priorities re: being married and single.. All have beautiful reasons just like this girls..💕💕💕
Mga sis Asian culture in general may pressure to settle down pero sabi ng friend ko sa Western countries, wala sila paki. I wish people here will be more open na di lahat meant to be mag pamilya lalo na kung choice nila na ayaw nila ganoong path
(Kami ng mag 8yrs ng jowa ko) Yung feeling na kung sa gusto lang na magpakasal eh nung 2019 pa sana pero if yung tadhana talag ayaw pa magpatiming and especially alam din namin na financially di pa kami handa wala din eh.. pareho pa kaming struggling to provide the needs of our families since kami yung pwedeng makapag provide as of now. At the same time parang pine-pressure din kami na magpakasal na para magkaanak ng maaga. Yan din sana gusto eh, kung susudin lang namin ang gusto kami rin kawawa financial wise. Hoping kami na sana makahabol kami sa gusto naming timeline hindi kung kelan ang gusto ng nakapalibot samin. Skl😅 Hoping we could
Title pa lang ng video. Napalike na ako. :) "Kelan ka ikakasal?" Bakit single ka pa din. Sino na mag alaga sayo pagtanda mo? kanya,kanya tayong timeline. Exactly! :)
“Even if you follow a timeline. It doesn’t guarantee happiness and fulfilment for you” ito yun e But omgeee why did you interrupt her may sasabihin pa sya 🙈
Gourl... I turned 31 last january... And people or my titas were pestering me with "ay mahihirapan ka na nyan" words since I was 28 And Ive been single since I was 26 or 27 Also I LOOOOVE THAT this is also in the podcast para mapakinggan at manamnam ko habang nagfifreelance And I want to thank you for this. Its like your episodes were just what the universe ordered for me I love all of you lalo na yung response na you answer in a respectful way (kahit gusto ko na mag rant out): " why did you ask me that question?(or bakit? Anong meron? In a friendly chatty way) 👏👏👏👏👈 Game changer I swear Thank you all so much I love you all At salamat kase nasa podcast mo to Have a great day
What does this reveal about you??!!!! OMG!!! Worry, so true! yun din ang Worry ng mama at lola ko sa akin. pero I want to assure them na I'll be perfectly fine.
I think this is also true for us guys din. Nakakainis kapag sinasabi ng mom ko na "gusto kita magka-anak kasi sino mag-aalaga sayo pagtanda mo?"
This is a nice talk, Bianca!
I'm 34 (turning 35 na nga eh), walang asawa pero may jowa for 10yrs, walang anak.
Yung mga taong mas naiinip at naeexcite pa kesa saken na maikasal ako at magkaanak wala naman talaga ako pakelam s kanila kasi di naman sila bumubuhay saken.
Pero iba pala kapag....
C nanay nung isang gabi kinausap nya ako,
"anak hindi ko kayo pinupush na mag asawa or mag anak if ayaw nyo pa ng ate mo, pero tumatanda na kasi kami ng papa mo, gusto ko lang kapag mawala man kami dito sa mundo ng papa mo alam kong ok na kalagayan nyo" 😭😭😭😭
I'm 26 and I can relate to this. Whenever I am asked the same question, I usually answer by saying "Wala akong balak". Right now my priority is myself first, cause my ex and I already talked about our future plans, and then one day isang araw iba na mahal niya. It happened during my lowest point in life (my grandma died (October 2019), and I was the favorite apo and I couldn't come home sa pinas because we're here sa US) and so I am still healing from everything that happened. Naubos kasi ako in that aspect. Maybe in the future, I would want to, try to love again and maybe build a family. I dunno. But for now, ako muna :)
"even if you follow timeline, there is no guarantee of happiness and fulfillment for you." Wow! Thank you ladies for this inspiring message. Nkakapressure na rin minsan kapag tinatanong ako na ganyan. I am almost 30, but I still have plans for myself before I settle down. But sometimes I feel lonely because I have no one to lean on, then I realized that I have circle friends that always been there for me. So I learned to be content of my life now. ❤
Thank you for this topic. Just yesterday me and my mom argue why I am still not married with my boyfriend for 5 years.
'Sit with your discomfort' very important. 💓
I am frustrated over comments suggesting I should just stay at home and take care of my kids - that I am lacking as a Mom because I opted to work, have a career. I just tell them, "Motherhood is not just the title I want to carry. I also want to live my dreams as an individual person." Yung iba kasi, parenthood is a dead end for them. Bahala kayo jan. Haha
I think this topic is for me 😊 I'm 37 years old and everyone around me is asking if why I'm still single, mahihirapan na ako magkaroon ng anak. They even suggested na magpa buntis ka nalang..huh? 😁 nakakapa pressure talaga. Pero ano ang magagawa ko kahit gustuhin ko man wala talaga. Hindi naman pwede na bigla nalang ako mag aabang sa kanto ng mga lalaki at sasabihin ko tara pakasal tayo 😁.
True sis grabe mang pressure mga tao. Di naman sila papasok sa relationship at pagbuo ng pamilya. Mom told me dapat may sarili akong paninindigan and not be swayed by their pressure.
Equally pressured too pero go with the flow na lang.
@@user-jv2wc1xh6o true. Hindi naman nakakabawas sa pagkatao natin bilang babae kung hindi tayo makapag asawa 😊
@@dolly1833 sa kin kasi, di lahat ng tao capable bumuo ng pamilya at maging mga magulang. My parents' generation (boomers) are fond of asking relationship and marriage questions because during their time, they marry for security. They expect us too to follow their path.
Kwento lang, daming kwento ng nanay ko na mga SHS students niya, mga galing sa broken families, abused physically and emotionally. Some people are not meant to be parents because of their own hang ups and unsolved internal issues. I don't want that kind of life for my own family just because I gave in to pressure and settle for less. It's not about high standards. It's knowing what you don't want and non-negotiables. It's loving yourself and being the best you so kung may makatuluyan ka man, the partner won't be your therapist. Kung may makatuluyan man ako, or wala, I know how to be happy. Pero umaasa pa rin hehe
hala, natawa ako d2, parang advices lang sa akin ng family/friends, i am 42 and wala naman ako jowa, paano ako magkaka anak and beside nde sya naka accord sa pinaniniwalaan ko. sabi pa nila, kawawa ka kung wala ka pamilya, wala mag aalaga sa u, i will save for it, para kukuha ako ng mag aalaga sa akin like private nurse. wala e, nde talaga para sa akin, accept ko na lang ng maluwag and be content with my life. God is still good.
@@maroco543 you do you 😊 ang anak hindi investment plan para alagaan ka pagtanda mo. A lot of people get this wrong. May sariling pagkatao ang magiging anak ng isang magulang at hindi kabilang doon ang taga-alaga sa magulang kapag tumanda na. Kaya ang daming mga anak ang may sama ng loob sa parents nila. The parents want them to be somebody they're not or don't want to do.
Have kids because you want to together with your partner. At mamahalin mo sila. Yung lang sa akin.
This topic gives courage to those women who doesn't know how to deal with insensitive people.
Just want to say that this "Time Table" pressure also applies to men. Thanks for this, Bianca. Because I for one, have another episode of this pressure creeping in. This help me feel at ease. And if there is Fear Of Missing Out(FOMO), there is also the Joy Of Missing Out(JOMO).
For me, what helps me overcome the issue of timeline is looking at the brighter side of my situation. Wala pa nga akong asawa at anak at my age pero because of this nagagawa ko pa ang mga gusto ko. I can still spend my money the way I want. I look at the things that I can do because I didn't followed the timeline. I'm 27 and my bf is 28 and we're not yet getting there but we do talk about it. Di pa nga lang talaga sa ngayon 😅
2 days after this premiered and still no dislike vote and DEF SHOULD STAY THAT WAY! Such a timely topic. Thank YOU superbianca and superbffs!!! :D
Looking forward to more topics you 4 would discuss in the future. Much ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
One of my favorite youtuber kasi mas marami kang matututunan compare sa ibang vloggers. Sobrang helpful. More powers. 😍
We are now living in a society where there is such Fear of Missing Out, that's why people expects a lot.of something from you. Timeline is like giving me a deadline , but as long as you know yourself, I'd rather not stoop or ignore into people's expectations.I Surround myself with people who inspires me to do better as a person and just focus into myself than stressing myself with such small mind concept.
Self love makes you realize that the timeline is not so important. ❤ as NBSB I learned have to value myself and makes a wise decision kahit na hindi pasok sa timeline I would be thankful because I was not in the wrong person or what.
The important is you as yourself happy alone, can stand by your own and so independent is so much grateful. ❤
Btw. Thanks ate bianca, God Bless Po ❤
Looking forward for more learnings in this channel ❤
Feeling ko barkada ko na din kayo ♥️ sana monthly o kahit quarterly guest na sila ♥️
My favorite guests of you ❤️
After watching this, I have come to a realization that I have to stop putting so much pressure on myself. I'll follow my own timeline and not other's timeline for me. They're not the one's who will bear the consequences of whatever timeline I will follow. I know myself more than anyone else.
Just dropping a random comment to say thank you Ms. Bianca for worthwhile contents
Ganito yun, kung wla kang bf tatanungin ka kelan ka magkakajowa, kung me jowa naman At matagal na kayo, kelan kayo pakakasal. Kapag kasal na, kelan kayo magkakababy, kapag magkakababy na, kelan nyo susundan... our society admit it had this mindset. If you’re. Woman , you have timeline to get married and have baby.
Very empowering and insightful. Hope this will be watched by larger audience.
It's important to have Friends that will always call you out when they see you going through the a decision that will harm you. ❤😍
Was a fan of Coffee Break!!!
This type of content really deserves more subscriptions and likes. Keep helping people by sharing your thoughts, Ms. Bianca. Very timely! Great job, as always! ❤
Really insightful..very on point we really have our own timeline..and not following the traditional timeline for women does not makes us less of a of women..
Btw..this girls remind of of the girl friends in kdrama "to all the guys who love me" those girls also have different points and priorities re: being married and single.. All have beautiful reasons just like this girls..💕💕💕
Thank you for this 💕Something I really need right now na nalalapit na mawala sa kalendaryo🙊
Thank you very much Ms. B... God bless you and your family
Browsing UA-cam and saw this again :) Love the topic! ;) God Bless you FOUR!
Soooooo timely!!!! Thank you for this very insightful conversation!
Mga sis Asian culture in general may pressure to settle down pero sabi ng friend ko sa Western countries, wala sila paki. I wish people here will be more open na di lahat meant to be mag pamilya lalo na kung choice nila na ayaw nila ganoong path
Aaaaahh I needed this episode!! ❤️ Sobrang insightful, ang refreshing!!!
Favorite guests!!! So much to learn💯
Super kilig sa Coffee Break Reunion!! 💖
Edited: Super love this episode! Super duper helpful. Thank you Ms. B, Ms. Anna, Ms. Lynn and Ms. Chely! 💖
Need this!🥺 Thank you so much, Ate Bianca.❤️
Diz Help me a lot.. 💝💝💝. I'm 32, not yet married.. Thank you po
So relatable! So empowering!
my favorite guests :)
If you've watched this video, I highly recommend that you listen to the 42-minute podcast version. :)))
Yasssss thank you! Mas meaty! Wahahaha
Lynn, Chely, Anna and Super B., thanks for the enlightenment. you're Amazing! each points, Tumpak!!!
The best group!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Ganda,🌻🌻🌻
Sana my podcast 🙏😍😍😍😍
Yes! There is a podcast, full convo! open.spotify.com/show/5WwC6d477meWae7bmy6Fgt?si=4JdXQSw3QG6rrS6IUT2yUQ&
Oooooh I like that!! ❤😍
Rewrite your narrative
Thank you for this topic ate B😘❤️
Thank you for this topics. Got another subbie here.
❤️❤️❤️ MIA for how many weeks. Missed you all Supers!
@iamsuperbianca deserves more subscribers! Like, come on guys!!
Hi bianca i think there's part 2 of this topic many can relate 😊
I needed this. Thank you for this.
(Kami ng mag 8yrs ng jowa ko)
Yung feeling na kung sa gusto lang na magpakasal eh nung 2019 pa sana pero if yung tadhana talag ayaw pa magpatiming and especially alam din namin na financially di pa kami handa wala din eh.. pareho pa kaming struggling to provide the needs of our families since kami yung pwedeng makapag provide as of now. At the same time parang pine-pressure din kami na magpakasal na para magkaanak ng maaga. Yan din sana gusto eh, kung susudin lang namin ang gusto kami rin kawawa financial wise. Hoping kami na sana makahabol kami sa gusto naming timeline hindi kung kelan ang gusto ng nakapalibot samin. Skl😅
Hoping we could
Love it... 💯 makes sense miss bianca
Love your content always :) Thank you, Bianca!
Thank you so much!
I learned a lot from all of you❤️
#smartwomen
Gandaaaa!!
I love this 😍😍
Just in time!!!!!!
#waiting 💖
Lynn, 👍👍👍 ❤❤❤
Title pa lang ng video. Napalike na ako. :)
"Kelan ka ikakasal?" Bakit single ka pa din.
Sino na mag alaga sayo pagtanda mo?
kanya,kanya tayong timeline. Exactly! :)
Happy Women's Month everyone!!! ❤💋💋
“Even if you follow a timeline. It doesn’t guarantee happiness and fulfilment for you” ito yun e
But omgeee why did you interrupt her may sasabihin pa sya 🙈
Because i know people who have kids, who have such a big family- - - -
Bitin 😶
Gourl... I turned 31 last january... And people or my titas were pestering me with "ay mahihirapan ka na nyan" words since I was 28
And Ive been single since I was 26 or 27
Also I LOOOOVE THAT this is also in the podcast para mapakinggan at manamnam ko habang nagfifreelance
And I want to thank you for this. Its like your episodes were just what the universe ordered for me
I love all of you
lalo na yung response na you answer in a respectful way (kahit gusto ko na mag rant out): " why did you ask me that question?(or bakit? Anong meron? In a friendly chatty way) 👏👏👏👏👈 Game changer I swear
Thank you all so much I love you all
At salamat kase nasa podcast mo to
Have a great day
#relatemuch #30plussingle
from listening to podcast..to checking this profound women face.
Agree so much..
U don't care anymore until ur shaken again..
I’m turning 34 this yr and kinakabahan na ako hahahahhaahhahaha
👏👏👏
What does this reveal about you??!!!! OMG!!!
Worry, so true! yun din ang Worry ng mama at lola ko sa akin. pero I want to assure them na I'll be perfectly fine.
I hope you ate B, and Ate Ma could guest at ToniTalks, same goes with Ate Tin guesting in your very own channel
Sana mag guest ka ng pro-choice women.
Me ?' I.wish to.find.a girlfriend.willing.to be a.surrogate wife.as we get married in the future.