Good catch!! Exactly right! He doesn’t want women who expect to be treated like human beings. He wants women who are willing to be treated like objects there solely there for his convenience & happiness & does not expect to want to be happy in return. He literally doesn’t care if she’s happy or not. Which is why they “want to go back to traditional relationships”, because back when women couldn’t work or own houses, they needed men to survive so their happiness came after their need to mfn SURVIVE so many many women were completely miserable with a terrible man but couldn’t leave because they need a roof over their heads & food. Which is the entire reason why they made it that way. They purposefully set up society in that way for this exact reason. They WANTED women to need men to survive because they knew that would force women into a position where they basically had to cater to men & do whatever they wanted out of fear & had to settle for nothing in return except a roof over their heads & food in their stomachs & anything more than that they had better be grateful for because his providing a roof & food for her should be enough & since he’s doing that, she shouldn’t be complaining about “not being happy” with him if she’s living in HIS home, eating HIS food, living off of HIM. Smh They did all of this out of fear that if women had the same rights men did then women will be more choosy & might not choose men so easily & they’d actually be expecting men to be decent human beings & better husbands... we see this happening right now. This is part of the reason why all these “alpha male/incel” accounts exist, they’re mad that women have the same rights now & we are no longer having to put up with whatever men dish out & can be more choosy & these awful excuses for human beings.. of course... aint getting chose! They want so desperately to go back to the days where a job & a room is all you had to have to get a wife! They didn’t care at all about how men treated their own freaking grandmas even, or if she was happy or anything. They want to go back to where they can be a terrible human being but have a job & can have a woman under their thumb because she needs him to survive!! It’s sickening. They really are terrible individuals. How dare women expect men to treat us like humans & expect men to be decent human beings themselves & treat them with love & respect... you know... all the things THEY are demanding women provide them but not wanting to provide themselves!!
This man better be a virgin, obey his partner and the law, and nourish and respect her. He'd loose his mind if a woman asked for this from her partner.
Facts. I remember when I was like 14/15on reddit I said I wanted a boyfriend who was "cute and nice :)" and some redpiller dmed me calling me a used roastie who "had too many demands". His entire account was just redpill and men rights stuff. These goons don't see the irony in their behavior.
@@bitchpuke I agree but that’s with consent and role playing during sex times and not a partner who actually believes that their partner should be obedient constantly (consent is key)
Fun fact: If you identify as a woman, you cannot do things for yourself (i.e. dressing sexy, etc) it’s actually physically impossible! One time I tried to do something nice for myself and not simply for my boyfriend and I actually spontaneously combusted before I was able to complete the task
this morning at a boutique I wanted to try on a dress i liked so i asked the employee if i could use the dressing room, she said sure but asked where my boyfriend was and i told her he was at home. she then went to the back of the store, came back with a gun and fatally shot me
@@Papismackmyassss omg. Your comment just gave me the idea for a joke: What do you call it when a woman whose breasts randomly catch on fire? Spontaneous comBUSTtion
The way he’d refer to his friends as “good people” and women as “good females” is just one of the glaringly obvious language choices that show women aren’t people in his eyes
Somewhere out there is an alternate universe where all the "just say no" anti-drug campaigning is about threesomes instead and people are always warning teenagers that, at any time, they could be offered a threesome by anyone, even their friends, and that it's okay to say no.
For Jarvis, and for JARVIS ONLY. It is okay for you to spill coffee on your hoodie. IT IS OKAY FOR YOU TO SPILL COFFEE ON YOUR SHIRT. IT IS OKAY FOR YOU TO TURN DOWN A CHANGE OF CLOTHES BECAUSE YOU DON'T WANT TO BE INVOLVED IN THAT.
I hope so but unfortunately often times these ppl don't (see assault, violence, probably cat calling) or worse, they obey the law because the law doesn't deem those acts bad enough to make them proper crimes and punish accordingly... :((
And even if she is a virgin when the relationship starts, the moment he sleeps with her, that vagina becomes “used” so is he supposed to ditch her and go chase other virgins now?
Toxic Masculinity: "men are more worthy than women" Positive masculinity: "men are beautiful and deserve happiness, love, and the right to express their emotions, and be vulnerable." You executed this video perfectly, Jarvis. -Max Ann
Btw- women * "this is for WOMEN! and WOMEN ONLY" * if you have a BF /male partner... Introduce them to bath bombs and candles. They will enjoy it. Together or separate ;3 Men- * " this is for MEN and MEN ONLY!" * Try bath bombs ^_^ they are very fun. Nobody will know if you're using bath bombs to relax. It's okay. They're really fizzy and fun to throw around in the tub until they explode. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Men like this get so mad that no girl wants them that they lie until they believe that this unreasonable list is why they aren't dating and not them being trashy
“Women aren’t like this anymore!” meanwhile there are so many women, some of who like traditional things, but that includes mutual respect and the man having her best interest in mind, not the way he is wanting to control some imaginary woman.
And it‘s so funny cause they all talking about wanting a „traditional“ woman who stays home. But I know for a fact that my grandma, a traditional lady who stayed home while her husband worked, would have wiped the floor with their asses. Yes, she is traditional, but watch her scold my grandpa trying to come in with dirty shoes and you won‘t think any of these guys would have a chance. She‘s legit scary if she wants to be.
@@Chelsea34567891 exactly! But sometimes it's so scary being 'traditional' around people who are sexist and horrible just annoying! It's not related to relationships but my dad is extremely sexist and believes in women staying at home and taking care of the kids (there's nothing wrong with that but he believes women can't have careers) and the career I've chosen is childcare and I feel horrible talking about it because he always makes comments about how its a good job for a women! It's ridiculous
I don't get why people like this guy are always talking about "chasing women" and whatever. Like dude, women aren't prey, there's no reason for you to be "chasing" them... unless of course women always run away from him. That would explain a lot.
The term chasing women is used alot it just means being a simp for a girl and trying to get her to like you its common word thrown around in highschool
Honestly, besides all the sexism, I just want to point out that blind obedience is one of the worst things you can have. That is how dictatorships work. Following the law is good, but not blindly. Same goes for anything else. You need to weigh whether it fits with your own values to obey. Holocaust was legal, hiding Jewish people was not. Blind obedience is poison.
“It’s not that your friend is a bad person” for hitting on your partner? Uh yes they are. This man is so caught up in defending/catering to men that he can’t call a man in the wrong in a situation out, and say that he is in fact in the wrong.
I overhead a phone call in which a man was explaining that he doesn't let his male friends hang around a woman he's dating/married to because he doesn't trust men not to try and get with them. I'm thinking, "sir, those aren't your friends."
@@parkerisles7256 yeah, I’ve heard a lot of people like this say that men “just can’t help cheating because they are men.” Okay, then what would make them qualified to tell a woman what she should do if men are so easily swayed? Lol
Yeah the victim blaming blew my mind, it was such a curve ball. He's like "male positivity!" And "misogyny rules!" But then has the audacity to say that if a man's partner cheats it's HIS FAULT?!?! Wtf!?!?! Ahahaha I'm so done here bro
i was about to say ur significant other is more at fault because its her responsibility to be loyal to u, just like its urs to be loyal to her, and tht a random guy doesnt even know you. But then i saw tht u said “friend” in which i say yeah hes a shitty person and a worse friend/:
I know the "used vaginas" phrase is horribly misogynistic, but it also makes me laugh every time. "Come on down to the used vaginas store, it's our year end blowout!"
The average man is way dumber than they obviously think. They don’t bother or care to learn about women because we aren’t people to them and they only go to eachother for advice 😂
Watching a video of you constantly saying I’m a person is really nice. I had my dad tell me, over and over how a key that can open plenty locks is a good key, but a lock that can be opened by multiple locks is a bad lock. For as long as I remember, all family members would say my worth is based on whether I’m ‘used’ or not. After my sexual assault I felt like my worth was stolen from me, but I wasn’t ‘used’ yet. After my depression, my ex(boyfriend of the time) told me I’d be worthless to him if my assault ‘loosened’ me. It made me angry. I knew what he was saying was untrue, but part of me felt like once I ‘lost’ it, I’d become a different person, someone else, i felt like I wouldn’t be “me” anymore, that I’d be a terrible person or worse, a doll deprived of choice. I lost my ‘virginity’ to my best friend. The euphoria afterwards was intense. I cried. It was good, and safe, and I was the same. I’m just as ‘me’ as I was before, my body didn’t change. The only thing that changed, is that me and my best friend have a deeper connection, I feel more in touch with my body, and I am more certain than ever that a ‘used’ vagina and virginity as a whole is a stupid concept.
I'm so sorry for your experiences, but so glad that you can look back with clarity and see their lies for what they are. It's sad that we ever have to unlearn this, but we are never 'used up' by the people we choose to get intimate with, it's simply another of life's experiences, a moment of connection, and it bears no relation to our worth. Best wishes to you :)
@@sazbear3913 yeah, I used to see women's worth based off of the amount of partners they had... an incredibly shallow view of humans. never saw women as people, even other men as people, because I didn't feel like one. I'm just glad I grew as a person, and can see people are just like me. the humanity we all need to see in each other, regardless of our differences ❤
@@adrianguzman6563 As a woman that is a virgin saving myself, i would only ever be with guys who are kind and respectful like you. The guy in the video can only dream ab having what he is describing, since no sane woman would be with that. God bless you mate and the op who wrote abour her assault in a previous comment. I am so sorry THAT IS NEVER YOUR FAULT. God bless whoever sees this, we gotta spread more love on this Earth
hey, just wanted to reach out as a fellow SA victim. I grew up in a conservative household thinking that I would "lose my virginity" once I was married, and instead my first time having sex was a rape. I thought that being raped made me unmarriageable, worthless, and "used" and I believed that my rapist "took" some irreplaceable thing from me (my virginity) which I could never get back. I spiraled for many years but I am glad to say that I know better now. Virginity is not real, sex is not immoral, and my worth has NOTHING to do with who has touched me or how they did so. I wish that other people would stop spreading the harmful message that womens worth relies on sex because every time this "body count" conversation comes up- even in casual conversation- it forces people like us to remember what happened to us. Every time a man says "women are used a little every time they have sex" I really want to scream at them, because I know that I do not deserve to hear that shit after what happened to me. We are not fucking "used", because we are not objects. Anyways, thanks for sharing your story.
Hearing Jarvis say women aren't cars actually made me tear up. My dad used to constantly tell me to remain a virgin because "nobody wants to buy a dented car". It's really really nice to hear I'm a person. Thank you Jarvis
@@suzygirl1843 i always hold men to the same standard they hold us. I used to ask them how many women they have dated and if it was more than 3 I would tell them I couldnt date them because they were sluts. I mean, it's the truth. Right?
Those analogies make me so mad because penises don’t have magical powers to devalue anything they touch, and if they did, cis men would be completely worthless as people because they’re literally attached to penises all the time. Like if 10 minutes in contact with dick can dent you, imagine what decades must do.
I'm so sorry bae. You are a person and it doesn't matter how many partners you have. What matters is a kind heart. Don't let those statements eat at your conscious. Cause people say fucked up shit that is a reflection of the hurt they've sustained in their journey. You'll make you're own hurt. You don't have to carry the burdens of other people's life lessons.
Omg. It’d be the perfect antidote to these sexist alpha males’ ideology. Just literally twist their own lingo into a feminist punk band as a force for good
I sing. Let's get this rolling!! WE CAN DO VAGINA FACE PAINT. But make them all crusty, cracked, flaky, ashy, etc. So we look used. OMG I really wanna do this now...
Jarvis just constantly spilling drops of coffee on himself was honestly everything 😂. I’m glad I’m not the only clumsy individual who is just consistently spilling things on themselves (even though he chalked it up to the cup lol).
As a gay (well, bi, m spec leaning) man it’s bewildering. Like.. how??? Why???? For what reason??? I’m a trans man so I’m probably the rare “genre” of men who understands women in a deeper than surface level way but like 🙁 Why do straight cis men. Like why.
@@zach7877 Please don’t put this man in the „Straight Cis Man“ category. He‘s not representative of the entire community at all. Put him in the „horribly narcissistic and controlling person“ category lmao
as a pansexual man i'm extremely confused 💀 like what goes through your mind to think that treating women like this is okay??? i'm trans so I've experienced gender roles to some degree and it pissed me off even as a little child
love the part where he’s like “…and it’s not because your friend is a bad *person,* or she’s a bad *woman* …” like, he definitely views those as separate categories.
But also, it does mean that they aren’t a good friend or partner to you if they are willing to cheat on you any chance they get lol Further, if they are going to cheat with your friends, they could cheat with anyone but you just don’t know lol (I know that’s not what you are saying but still)
The idea that your girlfriend should never hang out with your friends is so unhinged. Compartmentalizing your life out of fear of being betrayed is truly some Gamma Male Shit.
I would have lost out on some fun friendships (even if not that close) if I'd never met my pals' girlfriends. All of the ones I've met are lovely people, and I'd be sad never to have met them. And, yes, to be clear, I have hit on literally every one of them. (Kidding, to be completely clear)
The anger behind so many of those statements about "putting a woman in her place" is so terrifying. When dudes ask what we're so afraid of, it's that. I'm so certain this man has hit or thrown things at a woman before.
It's so funny how all of these "alpha" guys giving relationship advice on TikTok are admittedly unsuccessful at dating. Dude... Are you sure you're qualified for this? 😂
A commenter, Miss Bee, said, "he made a video about it saying to the people trying to shame me for living with my mom there’s nothing wrong with living with my mom it doesn’t mean I don’t have a good job blahblahblah"
All of these "alpha males" are not in commited relationships and are horribly unhappy. Please take advice from people in actual successful, happy relationships
@@siobhanifill5917 I swear if he was likeable and a good person, then no one would attack him, or ppl would defend him. because honestly, there isn't anything wrong with living with your parents. it's common in asian countries even. and with how expensive rent is depending on where you live, and you get along great with your family, why not? but he's terrible and he lies and has a distorted view, so I doubt he's even a good house mate for the mom.
"women have to act like men" the fact that he equates freedom and independency to masculinity...reeks of misogyny. if you don't see a problem with that you're gonna have to get someone else to explain that to you because I simply don't have the willpower to break down easy concepts that should be easy to understand
Yeah, and what does that thinking make feminine? Kindness? Should I be beating my dog instead of telling her she's good? Should I act angry all the time for no reason instead of using my head to think through problems? The issue is these dudes are insecure and want to shuffle all their issues into an easy box to slap a label on, when the truth is humans in general are built of complex psychological blurred lines that don't boil down easily to what's distinctly feminine or masculine.
@@Sahiyena11 exactly my thinking. dude like this, and in general anyone who thinks there is such a divide between men and women are stupid. they act as if we are two different species, but we are not. we are all one species and we are complex beings because we have a conscience. it's pointless to divide ourselves up as if we aren't all the same thing, human.
Man literally demands his girlfriend to have no personality and just be attractive and subservient and then complains that the people he dates don't have interesting personalities
@@cambuck2231 ooh good I was sooo worried that my religious mormon family would hate me if I decided to be a stay at home trad-wife 😭😢 but now that randy says it's okay I have nothing to fear. But it's too late, I already went with my second option of being an asexual aromantic and forever single mother to as many dogs as I can find, and I can't turn back now.
IT IS OKAY FOR YOU TO BE A TRADITIONAL NEW WAVE FEMINIST GIRL BOSS WHO MAYBE DRIVES A HONDA CIVIC AND DOES DAY TRADING ON THE SIDE WHEN NOT MANAGING YOUR VERY SUCCESSFUL LAW FIRM!!!!
A huge problem with guys like this is that they want their women to be virgins but they also expect them to put out. Like, bro, you can't have your cake and eat it too.
So many young guys I know just blame women when they struggle with dating not realizing that you can't force or push relationships to be genuine and meaningful. The more they blame women, the more they become spiteful. What you said about Randy at the end really reminded me of that. People put so much of their self-worth into relationships and it's just unhealthy.
Because they really "beta" , one of my 'friend' messaged my girl when me and her were in a rough patch to go eat some tacos at 10pm , she told me and i messaged HIM , that we are no longer friends and not to try to reach out me or her ever again , plus i asked her to send the screen shot to HIS gf , i didnt get mad at HER for something SHE didnt do lol idk why people like this guy can't grasp responsibility
@@eVaSpArTaN714 why are you emphasizing HER and HIM so much homie? Also, it's not about men being "alpha" or "beta" or whatever; basing yourselves off wolf hierarchy is weird to begin with lol. It's just about being a decent person
@@HeyHebi I put beta in parentheses cause thats how they classify it , and i caps him and her so people see that clearly who im referring too , sorry its a youtube comment section habit
they are literally so insecure, if you know that the only reason why your girl would stay with you is if you put her in a bubble of sort then you are insecure. and seeing them act like it is because she is untrustworthy is so funny bc you know it’s just bc they are scared
The thing that makes me really sad is that, in addition to the toxic misogyny, he’s purposefully appealing to men (and teenage boys!) who have legitimate grievances, who have been mistreated and put down, by affirming repeatedly that their pain is real and they ARE valuable and they ARE worthy of love and respect. He’s drawing vulnerable people in by telling them something they desperately need to hear, and then indoctrinating them with misogynistic bullshit once they come to trust him as a source of validation and support. He’s tricking these guys into thinking that WOMEN are the cause of their emotional pain and loneliness, but don’t worry, it’ll all be better once you can subjugate a girl and make yourself feel superior to her by treating her like an object! Men and boys absolutely do deserve to be affirmed, valued, and treated with love and respect, and they don’t deserve to be mistreated just for being men. But women are not the problem, and patriarchy is not the solution.
Sadly enough, this sort of indoctrination is a huge rabbit hole into an ocean of white supremacist thinking. You don't even need to be racist to be indoctrinated into white supremacy, just a sad lonely boy, they take these sad lonely boys and first tell them they're better than all women and women are worthless, and women create all the problems in the world for them. But then it's too broad to say only women, it's gay and trans people too, now. Watch-out! Their pronouns are gonna get ya! But it doesn't stop it actually gets worse from there, and escalates really fast the more they successfully isolate their target, until their on 4chan being told all their problems are caused by Jews and black people. You ever notice how these channels have spokespeople that are almost always men of color? I think what happened is these men of color have been indoctrinated into white supremacy, which is done to further obscure the message lying underneath, because they're useful (for now). Then they go out and indoctrinate more people with the fact that "it couldn't possibly turn racist or come from extremely racist ideologies because a black man is saying it" that's exactly the point. Yet their rhetoric is almost always talking specifically about black Women and other Women of color. It's not a conscious system either, somehow it works itself into this sort of rabbit hole, but those who are straight up neo-nazis or keks are giving shit eating grins to all these videos, they know these are their Men. These are the pipelines to them. I know it sounds crazy, but that's how it's supposed to be, there were studies done finding HUGE connections between subtly sexist media that went very quickly and sharply into white supremacist and neo-nazi conspiracy theory propaganda. When it happens to you you won't even notice. If you've ever heard of cults, this is gonna sound a lot like I'm calling it a cult. That's because it is. Stay aware.
👏 this is what so many people need to understand, it's not enough to blame the alpha males, we have to protect their vulnerable audience and redirect them to something positive.
Him: "IT IS OKAY TO BE FEMININE!" Me: "Okay. I agree." Him: "IT IS OKAY FOR YOU TO TURN DOWN A THREESOME BECAUSE YOU DON'T WANNA BE INVOLVED IN THAT!" Me: "Kind of out of left field but.... I agree?" Him: "IT IS OKAY FOR YOU TO SUBMIT TO YOUR MAN!" Me: "Some of your opinions seem to be in conflict with each other."
@@usrnewxnew5227 BDSM is all about trust. If there's no respect outside of scenes then it's not BDSM it's just abusive and controlling. There's a lot of guys who claim to be doms when they're just these alpha male types who think they'll be able to meet the submissive sex doll of their dreams and that being a Dom is just being controlling and doing what they want. It's gross and beyond predatory.
A fresh coffee stain underneath “Trying My Best” is tragically, comically, joyously, painfully relatable. Distracted me from whatever Randy was saying (which is good, as I’m a woman and it is forbidden knowledge)
Isn't it funny how he says you shouldn't have your "woman" around your friends because something might happen but it seems like he doesn't hold his friends accountable for that at all? Must be because they are men and therefore worthy of respect.
As much as its easy to believe hes just being sexist(he certainly is a sexist person lol) i feel like a part of it is also the toxic mentality that the person who is single and messes with a taken person isnt actually at fault since they arent in a relationship. And even if he didnt mean it that way fuck people who think that garbage. If you knowingly have sex with a taken person you suck just as much as the person directly cheating without question.
@@mikedavidson6454 I mean the logic will always be that the single person has nothing to lose, therefore people usually empathize with them. They would be sick since they both know what's at stake, but being a homewrecker will always be different than being the one *in* the wrecked home. + Remember that we went through that time where the person getting the anger pushed onto them was the single person, and all over TV you'd see them get their asses get handed to them since forever, or on Worldstar especially like 5-7 years ago. Obviously there's a lot to unpack there, starting with why anybody has to be hit at all in the situation, but that's a separate conversation. Only more recently have people started to shift more blame away from the other person likely because of that.
A women will literally birth children, make the home, grow/cook the herbs and food, organize and manage appointments for everyone in her household, and offer endless advice and wisdom to her loved ones just for a man who cant even afford a barber to call her "used" and accuse her of having no value. This world is backwards.
I agree. I have this sweater (looks similar, actually) with intentional "paint" stains on it. It says CREATIVE. If you like coffee, you should have a shirt with stains on it and in all caps, COFFEE 🤣
Women have been fighting back against being referred to as a "prize" for generations because it reduces them to objects, and then this guy comes along and says, "MEN ARE THE REAL PRIZE." He absolutely has no idea about the world outside of himself. 🤦♂🤦♀
It's so interesting that he expects women to be subservient, obedient and obeying - but at the same time complains that the women he has been dating have felt bland and boring and without personality. Like... Yeah.
Yeah, a certain subset of society, mostly cishet white males - but clearly the subject of this video, and many other "alpha male" content creators, show that non-white men can also feel this way (and of course women can as well, albeit less frequently)- seem to believe they and theirs are being attacked by anything done to uplift people *different* from them, in one way or another, because they believe that uplifting any group requires another "opposing" group be brought down.
"Friends who are bad influences" immediate red flag, someone who controls who you can be friends with turns definitely abusive 'Oh but I can think of a scenario where that's not true' great, not the scenario I was thinking of
Some friends ARE bad influences but the people out there like that guy think any woman who says "you're a grown-ass adult, you don't need to update your boyfriend on what you're doing every 5 minutes" is a bad influence.
Obedient is such a weird way to describe a person; like on report cards and shit. The only place I can see it being used is to say how good of a boy a dog is
@@cursed-cat9126 I tried to think and the only possible "obedient" can describe a human being respectfully is when they are in some sort of armed force lol like "Yeah Bill is good at taking orders from people and is really calm in stressful situations"
When people like him say it's "okay" for women to be traditional, they're actually saying that women SHOULD be traditional in a shitty attempt to be more palatable.
There was a point in the middle of watching this where I realized that this guy is sitting in his car, ALONE, just screaming about men and women and threesomes and from that point on, I was in tears I was laughing so hard. I kept mentally panning back to this imaginary shot of him sitting (again, alone) in his car wildly gesticulating and yelling at nothing and it got funnier every time.
mans said, "i want a weak, submissive, subservient woman who answers my every beck and call and treats every word that falls from my mouth as gospel but like i don't want her to be boring or anything :///" like bruh !!!!
exactly! Oh you think I want to date a person who is always controlling and shit? hell no, not when I know there are men who can respect me and treat me as a person exist.
They also never fully define "traditional" so women could easily make some real traditional demands like you must own at least 2 cows and a plot of land to show you can provide and are a quality man. Also the Amish have the exact rigidly gendered life they claim to want, throw away your phone and just go join them lol.
I'm pushing 40. So a little old for this kind of content. I think you're hilarious, thats why i watch. And, just wanted to say, I think your morals and outlook on life that you spread to others is awesome and positive. And it's good to see this on UA-cam. Good stuff dude!
So, when i was 19 i had my first relationship, and my girlfriend was friends with all my friends, and I thought this was amazing! First because i loved them all, and secondly because it was hella fun. She was very beautiful, funny and charismatic, so it was understandable that everyone was attracted to her. And i was the vocalist of a rock band and i consider myself a amazing dude, so yeah, understandable too. The confidence we had in each other made the relationship stronger, because we had to have a confidence that surpassed all this idiotic misconceptions about "men can't see women because they're animals and will instantly enter coitus, hur dur". This became an internal joke even, in the parties there where some really messed guys that tried to flirt with her when i wasn't near (or sometimes in me face), and she mocked then, and never ever called me to help her, because she could stand by herself, so she told with a straight face: "i don't have any interest in you" and that's it. It was not "oh, i am in a relationship so i can't", it was a straight "i don't want you, period". Sometimes, when the "alpha male" was really inconvenient and tried to fight me or something like this, she would stop him mid-drama and demolish him saying things like "You seein this dude? This skinny hairy mf that looks like a teenager girl? Yeah, you won't EVER be HALF the man he is in any point of your entire life, because you are so shitty that you can't even respect a woman, so shitty that you can't even respect yourself. So fuck off, and lick the ground where he stands". This teached me to don't be jealous, have confidence in the ones i love and to have a healthly communication. And mess with this kind of lame macho men without having to lift a finger was the best thing i could ever experience. Also, my friends admired our relationship so much that when we had our down moments, they would talk us out and cheer us up because they loved seeing us together. And all my other relationships followed the same respect dynamics, my friends where friends with all my exes and this never caused any kind of headache.
Yep. My partner is friends with my friends and I'm friends with his. They're all so adorable and sweet and I love them but completely platonically. Most of his friends are girls and most of mine are guys so jealousy has been a very limited problem since we understand and trust eachother
True that. I, myself a lawless, "female", have ticked, 'I have read and agree to all the terms & conditions stated above', without actually reading them too many times. Pish-posh all terms and conditions. You don't tell me how to live my life. Not today.
Not even as a young teen I understood the whole "don't let your partner have opposite gendered friends" or being controlling and trying to limit them.... bc my reasoning was always "Well, if they wanna be unfaithful.... that's kinda a problem in itself tho? I can't control that? " (Remembering when my then bf at 14 years old was mad at me for not being jealous or controlling, lol)
I remember being told that once your married you cant have opposite sex friends anymore. I was told that men and women just can't be friends without sexual tension. This made even less sense to me after I realized I was bi and wasn't experiencing constant sexual tension with most of my friends.
"She should be obedient." "She should provide nourishment." This guy wants women to behave like they're his daughter or mother lol. So basically anything but a partner that is equal to him.
Yeah “EqUaL” when it benefits you🤣 You won’t pay for the dates tho or pay the bills or plan anything. Only pick the nice things in your favor from equality and the rest is “you should treat me like a lady”🤣and then when it is mentioned -> “ugh it’s 2022” or “you’re so backwards”
@@MK-hw2ir bruh when did I say any of those things. also, your solution to this whole issue is that you'll treat women horribly? tf dude. this is what happens when you've had like zero interaction with women. you don't treat them like people, rather someone you're constantly supposed to compete with, be jealous of or hate.
@@LieseFury there is a difference between using narcissist as an adjective vs a personality disorder. Same way there's a difference between describing someone as anxious vs having an anxiety disorder
@Zone Doll Narcissist isn't an adjective, it's a noun. Narcissistic is an adjective. A narcissist is someone with NPD. For your example, "They are an anxious person." is the use of an adjective . "They are an anxiety person." Isn't the use of an adjective, it's a noun. I'm a person with a personality disorder (BPD, it's cluster B just like NPD, ASPD, and HPD) and yeah, you shouldn't use narcissist as an insult. You may be using it as a term for "arrogant loser", but there is an intense stigma around the word. All people with NPD are seen as bloodsucking monsters by the majority of people. So the usage of narcissist to describe bigots and abusers needs to be denormalized. I'm not trying to attack or be condescending btw, just offering a diff perspective and explaining the others' views. I hope this makes sense.
@@kallamarsspouse just a question… I agree with not diagnosing people. But how do you separate abusive and manipulative behaviors from people with NPD when that’s literally what they do?
I wonder why the women he has dated don't feel comfortable enough to show their personality around somebody who wants to control what they wear, who they hang out with, and how they conduct themselves as a person.
Damn Lawrence on that sigma male grindset since the day he was born He’s such a sigma he only goes after other men Gotta retains that masculine value so he never gives it to a “FEmAle” (Incase people cant read sarcasm I’m joking lol)😆
@@Doctor-Infinite Honestly theres a lot of things Im surprised ended up being viewed the way they do. The two biggest ones for me is- First: Women not being viewed as high as men back then. When you think about it, while men are "biologically stronger/sUpErIoR", people who are able to bare children are required for reproduction, so its weird how we were seen as less than men And second: Like what you said, being a gay guy couldve been seen as you being so manly and masculine, youre only attracted to other guys to offset your manliness. Yet it was seen as being feminine, aka weaker Thats just my two cents though ✌️
notice at 12:31 how he says “it’s not that your friend is a bad PERSON and it’s not that she’s a bad WOMAN” like women are somehow different from “people.” like women and personhood aren’t synonymous in his brain
It is a sad state of affairs when saying the obvious counts as an argument against people who treat other humans as objects. Amazing video as always, Jarvis, keep being the kind hearted, amazing person you are and always have been.
As someone who chose to be a housewife, and also has worked in places where there are far more men than women, no one has judged me for either? I tell people I’m a house wife and people are like “ oh, cool, it’s nice you can do that” and when I told people I was a mechanic they’re like “ oh, cool, can you help me fix my car?” like you can do whatever you want and most people don’t care either way- just do what works for you
tbh i wish there were more women who were mechanics. as an afab person nothing makes me feel safer than finding a woman in a place where men notoriously screw female-presenting people over.
Also, in the first TikTok, when he starts doing the ‘this little piggy’ thing to list ‘bad’ traits, he talks about this theoretical ‘perfect woman’ as if they’re his daughter when he mentions stuff like a ‘disrespectful mouth’ and ‘irresponsible friends’. Definitely super controlling.
One of the best things that can happen in relationships is your partner(s) and your friends bonding with each other into a big happy chosen family. It's incredibly sad that there are people out there who feel the need to actively try to prevent that from happening.
These men somehow want their partners to be their mother (who takes care of all their needs), daughter (whom they can control and have obey them) and sexual object, all in the same package. It's weird.
"She can obey the law so she can obey her man" Presumptuous and inaccurate, my gf obeys nothing, laws included because she's a baddie and also wanted in 14 states
“You non-binary pals got it in your head, that you are worthy of love in respect? Not in Randy’s world. But in my world you are, in my world you are premium, in my world you are worthy of love and respect, you are worthy of a grand old time.” Made me smile .
I feel like if your friends are hitting on your partner after you introduce them, then they are bad friends though. Its weird that he sees that as a normal and acceptable behavior.
He's doing that to excuse his own behavior of hitting on his friends' partners, guaranteed he'd flip the fuck out if a friend tried to hit on his partner. Guys like this are ALWAYS hypocrites.
it makes sense that this guys friend group is a snake pit, considering his attitude. Could you imagine anyone kind or genuine deliberately spending quality time with this POS?
i realized that when dudes like this say "women are trying to act like men" they just mean women doing normal human things, but their view of women is so nonhuman that they think it's encroaching on their role as men or something lol
7:15 "I have a shirt" jarvis, you joke, but women love to wear their partner's hoodies so you've already given us more of an offer than this man did in the entire first tiktok
That line confuses me so much. Like, do laws only apply to women? Is robbery or arson not applicable to you if you are a man? If men have to obey the law, do they also have to obey their man? I need answers
His obedience analogy is basically like “oh you take insulin? Well then I should be able to force you to do cocaine. They’re both drugs, so it’s fine!”
I am convinced every time he goes through something he makes a tik tok about it to remind himself what he needs to hear later when he doubts his actions. “Randy’s advice for Randy only”
i bleeped the no-no phrase because i didn't want any of us to have to hear it more than once
Ok
Thank
thank you!!
thank you premium man jarvis
Much thank
As a woman, I would like to emphasize that I am perfectly fine with this man not chasing me or any other women
i’m glad he’s gonna be single forever ❤️
@@nelle1899 God, I wish that were true =( I know it's their right, but there are women who simp after guys like this. =(
@imouse1 Yeah, like I try not to judge but I do be judging you know?
He’d never reach up to you anyway he’s only 5’1 haha
@@missbee7462 so am i leave me alone😞
"Women acting like men"
He sees men as people.
So when women act like people, he thinks they are acting like men.
Underrated comment 🤣
love the pfp
Yep it’s pretty disgusting just how much sexism still exists
I want to frame this comment somewhere, you put it so well.
Good catch!! Exactly right! He doesn’t want women who expect to be treated like human beings. He wants women who are willing to be treated like objects there solely there for his convenience & happiness & does not expect to want to be happy in return. He literally doesn’t care if she’s happy or not. Which is why they “want to go back to traditional relationships”, because back when women couldn’t work or own houses, they needed men to survive so their happiness came after their need to mfn SURVIVE so many many women were completely miserable with a terrible man but couldn’t leave because they need a roof over their heads & food. Which is the entire reason why they made it that way.
They purposefully set up society in that way for this exact reason. They WANTED women to need men to survive because they knew that would force women into a position where they basically had to cater to men & do whatever they wanted out of fear & had to settle for nothing in return except a roof over their heads & food in their stomachs & anything more than that they had better be grateful for because his providing a roof & food for her should be enough & since he’s doing that, she shouldn’t be complaining about “not being happy” with him if she’s living in HIS home, eating HIS food, living off of HIM. Smh
They did all of this out of fear that if women had the same rights men did then women will be more choosy & might not choose men so easily & they’d actually be expecting men to be decent human beings & better husbands... we see this happening right now. This is part of the reason why all these “alpha male/incel” accounts exist, they’re mad that women have the same rights now & we are no longer having to put up with whatever men dish out & can be more choosy & these awful excuses for human beings.. of course... aint getting chose! They want so desperately to go back to the days where a job & a room is all you had to have to get a wife! They didn’t care at all about how men treated their own freaking grandmas even, or if she was happy or anything. They want to go back to where they can be a terrible human being but have a job & can have a woman under their thumb because she needs him to survive!! It’s sickening. They really are terrible individuals. How dare women expect men to treat us like humans & expect men to be decent human beings themselves & treat them with love & respect... you know... all the things THEY are demanding women provide them but not wanting to provide themselves!!
This man better be a virgin, obey his partner and the law, and nourish and respect her. He'd loose his mind if a woman asked for this from her partner.
Oh definitely, if a woman said this it would she would be attacked and her "standards would be too high"
Yeah, the double standards are definitely there.
@@heather7408 u r rigth 100 %.
Facts. I remember when I was like 14/15on reddit I said I wanted a boyfriend who was "cute and nice :)" and some redpiller dmed me calling me a used roastie who "had too many demands". His entire account was just redpill and men rights stuff. These goons don't see the irony in their behavior.
He doesn't want a partner. He wants a prisoner.
"IT IS OKAY FOR YOU TO TURN DOWN A THREESOME BECAUSE YOU DONT WANT TO BE INVOLVED IN IT" coming out of absolutely nowhere made me lose my fucking mind
It is okay to kiss a worm in your backyard.
@@cowoooo YES!!!!!!! YES!!!! YES!!!!!!!
@@cowoooothis makes more sense than his existence
Studying for biology and hearing "alpha males" saying shit like that makes me wanna quit(english is not my first language sorry if its worded badly)
@@goldiebonsimpYTno you’re doing great ❤❤ good luck in your studies 🙂
“obedience” is not a word that should be used in a relationship. ever. period.
You are spitting facts
I mean... if they're into BDSM then it might be. but outside of that, no it shouldn't.
@@bitchpuke I agree but that’s with consent and role playing during sex times and not a partner who actually believes that their partner should be obedient constantly (consent is key)
@@alexschneider1667 yes, I know. which is why I said outside of that it shouldn't be.
I dunno, sometimes I wish my relationship with my cat would have it being more obedient 🤔😂
Fun fact: If you identify as a woman, you cannot do things for yourself (i.e. dressing sexy, etc) it’s actually physically impossible! One time I tried to do something nice for myself and not simply for my boyfriend and I actually spontaneously combusted before I was able to complete the task
I hate when that happens i tried to get my nails done for the esteeme and Imploded when I walked in the salon
this morning at a boutique I wanted to try on a dress i liked so i asked the employee if i could use the dressing room, she said sure but asked where my boyfriend was and i told her he was at home. she then went to the back of the store, came back with a gun and fatally shot me
@curs3s_ Did your face melt off before you disappeared a la Raiders of the Lost Ark? lol
this! I did some eyeliner to feel good about myself and instantly the fire alarm went off, before I knew it I was on fire.
@@Papismackmyassss omg. Your comment just gave me the idea for a joke:
What do you call it when a woman whose breasts randomly catch on fire? Spontaneous comBUSTtion
"If she can obey the law, then she can obey her man"
Randy obeys the law, too, right? So, by his own logic, he should obey his woman.
No he also obeys his man
@@antonykun9940 MLM, a pyramid scheme of Men Layered on Men. It's men all the way down
@@antonykun9940 gay king 💅💅
@@maksimally the ally we never new we had
This comment section literally deseased me
when he went "It seems like I choose violence at night. FOR WOMEN, AND WOMEN ONLY" i thought he was saying he supported violence against women 💀
Only at night, though.
@@Manigeitorain working hours? Nah.
At night? Yah
Imagine he somehow has a wife and he had a bad day and is just waiting until the clock hits nights lmao
“Three more minutes until I can beat her up..”
your pfp makes me experience pain both mentally and physically
I mean, he probably does support that 🤷♀️
The way he’d refer to his friends as “good people” and women as “good females” is just one of the glaringly obvious language choices that show women aren’t people in his eyes
That's how I tell if a man respects women as human beings when I first meet them. I look for this.
@@birdsofabone5127 Lol I think you’re gonna need more criteria then just that bro
@@TheUnstableNutcase nah
@@TheUnstableNutcase Sir no one's gon listen to an unstable nutcase
@@jerusha4jesus Where was I wrong though 🤔
genuinely confused
Imagine walking down the path at night and to see some guy screaming in his car saying "IT'S OKAY TO TURN DOWN A THREESOME"
🤣
Somewhere out there is an alternate universe where all the "just say no" anti-drug campaigning is about threesomes instead and people are always warning teenagers that, at any time, they could be offered a threesome by anyone, even their friends, and that it's okay to say no.
@@RyanTosh "I'm Michael Jordan and I'm here with McDonald's to say stop it. Get some help. When people offer you threesomes, just say no."
Gta
LMAO
For Jarvis, and for JARVIS ONLY. It is okay for you to spill coffee on your hoodie. IT IS OKAY FOR YOU TO SPILL COFFEE ON YOUR SHIRT. IT IS OKAY FOR YOU TO TURN DOWN A CHANGE OF CLOTHES BECAUSE YOU DON'T WANT TO BE INVOLVED IN THAT.
HAHAHAHA
My God, you chose violence today!
Preach!
LMFAO
DID YOU SAY THIS IN YOUR CAR?!?!?!?
This man is the embodiment of "I got rejected so i'm gonna go cry about it on Twitter without being direct about what's wrong"
"If she can obey the law, then she can obey her man." Sir... don't YOU also obey the law?
I hope so but unfortunately often times these ppl don't (see assault, violence, probably cat calling) or worse, they obey the law because the law doesn't deem those acts bad enough to make them proper crimes and punish accordingly... :((
bold of him to assume women obey the law
@@johnnyneedscash6753 Very Presumptuous! 😁
Why are you, as a man, obeying the law? To impress other men?
@@serapekkala8238 ...maybe. 🏳🌈
"She can provide nourishment for her man". Oh no. The TrueStories breastfeeding lore returns
😤😂
@Mushie Ayy, I love it when two of my favourite UA-camrs somehow align in a comment.
@@livecamsex-checkmylink9000 of all the fucking comments ya coulda replied to
dude i forgot this exsits
thank you sooooooooo much for reminding me it does
@@livecamsex-checkmylink9000 Your comment makes 0 sense
Funny how no one ever refers to a man's genitalia as "used"
And even if she is a virgin when the relationship starts, the moment he sleeps with her, that vagina becomes “used” so is he supposed to ditch her and go chase other virgins now?
@@JBC352 A
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Which is weird because men’s genitalia is primarily how STIs are transmitted between people. So it more consequential if they’ve been used or not.
Damn, as a trans dude, I'd love to buy a used dick.
@@aldranzam3456 this comment made my day
Toxic Masculinity: "men are more worthy than women"
Positive masculinity: "men are beautiful and deserve happiness, love, and the right to express their emotions, and be vulnerable."
You executed this video perfectly, Jarvis.
-Max Ann
Btw- women * "this is for WOMEN! and WOMEN ONLY" * if you have a BF /male partner... Introduce them to bath bombs and candles. They will enjoy it. Together or separate ;3
Men- * " this is for MEN and MEN ONLY!" * Try bath bombs ^_^ they are very fun. Nobody will know if you're using bath bombs to relax. It's okay. They're really fizzy and fun to throw around in the tub until they explode. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
i loved this comment but audibly laughed with the little sign off at the end, also i completely agree :D
As a woman, I wholeheartedly agree! Men deserve everything that women do, good or bad.
i think signing your comments is really funny
- reo
@@reoakiodesui think it’s cute lol, it’s sweet
"IT IS OKAY... TO PUT YOUR WOMAN IN HER PLACE!"
Absolutely saw that coming. Especially after that weak backpedal.
Same
Wtf does that even mean?? What’s he gonna do, hit her??
It's ok to not listen to her opinions or what she want's. It's ok🙂
this language is literally why women cannot walk alone at night - (some) men are truly scary….
@@professionalname4627 It's not okay. The not listening part is why we're in this situation
Men like this get so mad that no girl wants them that they lie until they believe that this unreasonable list is why they aren't dating and not them being trashy
“Women aren’t like this anymore!” meanwhile there are so many women, some of who like traditional things, but that includes mutual respect and the man having her best interest in mind, not the way he is wanting to control some imaginary woman.
But but but women used to know their place and this didn't use to be a problem and and and media and lesbians and MSM and and and 🤯🔫
And it‘s so funny cause they all talking about wanting a „traditional“ woman who stays home. But I know for a fact that my grandma, a traditional lady who stayed home while her husband worked, would have wiped the floor with their asses. Yes, she is traditional, but watch her scold my grandpa trying to come in with dirty shoes and you won‘t think any of these guys would have a chance. She‘s legit scary if she wants to be.
@@Chelsea34567891 exactly! But sometimes it's so scary being 'traditional' around people who are sexist and horrible just annoying! It's not related to relationships but my dad is extremely sexist and believes in women staying at home and taking care of the kids (there's nothing wrong with that but he believes women can't have careers) and the career I've chosen is childcare and I feel horrible talking about it because he always makes comments about how its a good job for a women! It's ridiculous
Well the list IS why they aren’t dating.. just not for the reason they think lol
I don't get why people like this guy are always talking about "chasing women" and whatever. Like dude, women aren't prey, there's no reason for you to be "chasing" them... unless of course women always run away from him. That would explain a lot.
i mean alotta the time those kinda men do more of less see women as prey considering they use terms like "hunt" or "chase"
The term chasing women is used alot it just means being a simp for a girl and trying to get her to like you its common word thrown around in highschool
Underrated comment!
@@keepinreel5752 key thing here.. around in high school. These are grown ass adults still saying that women NEED to be chased and simped after.
@@cactoyote I'm pretty sure he was saying you shouldn't be chasing/simping after women but whatever
Honestly, besides all the sexism, I just want to point out that blind obedience is one of the worst things you can have. That is how dictatorships work. Following the law is good, but not blindly. Same goes for anything else. You need to weigh whether it fits with your own values to obey. Holocaust was legal, hiding Jewish people was not. Blind obedience is poison.
“It’s not that your friend is a bad person” for hitting on your partner? Uh yes they are. This man is so caught up in defending/catering to men that he can’t call a man in the wrong in a situation out, and say that he is in fact in the wrong.
For real though, that statement threw me. He seems the type to only blame 1 person for cheating instead of both of them, smh
I overhead a phone call in which a man was explaining that he doesn't let his male friends hang around a woman he's dating/married to because he doesn't trust men not to try and get with them. I'm thinking, "sir, those aren't your friends."
@@parkerisles7256 yeah, I’ve heard a lot of people like this say that men “just can’t help cheating because they are men.”
Okay, then what would make them qualified to tell a woman what she should do if men are so easily swayed? Lol
Yeah the victim blaming blew my mind, it was such a curve ball.
He's like "male positivity!" And "misogyny rules!"
But then has the audacity to say that if a man's partner cheats it's HIS FAULT?!?! Wtf!?!?! Ahahaha I'm so done here bro
i was about to say ur significant other is more at fault because its her responsibility to be loyal to u, just like its urs to be loyal to her, and tht a random guy doesnt even know you. But then i saw tht u said “friend” in which i say yeah hes a shitty person and a worse friend/:
I know the "used vaginas" phrase is horribly misogynistic, but it also makes me laugh every time. "Come on down to the used vaginas store, it's our year end blowout!"
Not the blowout 😭😭😭😭😭😭
"Also take advantage of our Overstocked Overies sale! Buy one get the second half off!"
Second hand vaginas in mint condition, 50% off select ovaries.
I'd take a new stomach organ cyst free and a new ovary also cyst free if you have it :P
Do they take trade-ins?
Saying a women's parts become loose from sex makes as much sense as saying men's parts become stick thin from sex
Literally like. That’s not how the anatomy works 😭
The average man is way dumber than they obviously think. They don’t bother or care to learn about women because we aren’t people to them and they only go to eachother for advice 😂
The second part seems legit though…
Stick thin and all
Edit: ok, I'm not that much of an idiots. It's just a joke
He sounds way too use to talking about and watching anal lmaooo
my hooha's ph balance is so drastic that it actually makes all my partners parts become stick thin. sorry guys but he's right.
Watching a video of you constantly saying I’m a person is really nice.
I had my dad tell me, over and over how a key that can open plenty locks is a good key, but a lock that can be opened by multiple locks is a bad lock. For as long as I remember, all family members would say my worth is based on whether I’m ‘used’ or not.
After my sexual assault I felt like my worth was stolen from me, but I wasn’t ‘used’ yet.
After my depression, my ex(boyfriend of the time) told me I’d be worthless to him if my assault ‘loosened’ me. It made me angry. I knew what he was saying was untrue, but part of me felt like once I ‘lost’ it, I’d become a different person, someone else, i felt like I wouldn’t be “me” anymore, that I’d be a terrible person or worse, a doll deprived of choice.
I lost my ‘virginity’ to my best friend. The euphoria afterwards was intense. I cried. It was good, and safe, and I was the same. I’m just as ‘me’ as I was before, my body didn’t change. The only thing that changed, is that me and my best friend have a deeper connection, I feel more in touch with my body, and I am more certain than ever that a ‘used’ vagina and virginity as a whole is a stupid concept.
I'm so sorry for your experiences, but so glad that you can look back with clarity and see their lies for what they are. It's sad that we ever have to unlearn this, but we are never 'used up' by the people we choose to get intimate with, it's simply another of life's experiences, a moment of connection, and it bears no relation to our worth. Best wishes to you :)
@@sazbear3913 yeah, I used to see women's worth based off of the amount of partners they had... an incredibly shallow view of humans. never saw women as people, even other men as people, because I didn't feel like one. I'm just glad I grew as a person, and can see people are just like me. the humanity we all need to see in each other, regardless of our differences ❤
@@adrianguzman6563 As a woman that is a virgin saving myself, i would only ever be with guys who are kind and respectful like you. The guy in the video can only dream ab having what he is describing, since no sane woman would be with that. God bless you mate and the op who wrote abour her assault in a previous comment. I am so sorry THAT IS NEVER YOUR FAULT. God bless whoever sees this, we gotta spread more love on this Earth
@@adrianguzman6563 what made you finally come to that mind blowing conclusion and how long did it take?
hey, just wanted to reach out as a fellow SA victim. I grew up in a conservative household thinking that I would "lose my virginity" once I was married, and instead my first time having sex was a rape. I thought that being raped made me unmarriageable, worthless, and "used" and I believed that my rapist "took" some irreplaceable thing from me (my virginity) which I could never get back.
I spiraled for many years but I am glad to say that I know better now. Virginity is not real, sex is not immoral, and my worth has NOTHING to do with who has touched me or how they did so. I wish that other people would stop spreading the harmful message that womens worth relies on sex because every time this "body count" conversation comes up- even in casual conversation- it forces people like us to remember what happened to us. Every time a man says "women are used a little every time they have sex" I really want to scream at them, because I know that I do not deserve to hear that shit after what happened to me. We are not fucking "used", because we are not objects.
Anyways, thanks for sharing your story.
Hearing Jarvis say women aren't cars actually made me tear up. My dad used to constantly tell me to remain a virgin because "nobody wants to buy a dented car". It's really really nice to hear I'm a person. Thank you Jarvis
Gotta love dads and their crazy analogies. Sure know how to make a girl seem special. Geez. Mine wasn't any better either. Hugs.
@@suzygirl1843 i always hold men to the same standard they hold us. I used to ask them how many women they have dated and if it was more than 3 I would tell them I couldnt date them because they were sluts. I mean, it's the truth. Right?
Those analogies make me so mad because penises don’t have magical powers to devalue anything they touch, and if they did, cis men would be completely worthless as people because they’re literally attached to penises all the time. Like if 10 minutes in contact with dick can dent you, imagine what decades must do.
I'm so sorry bae. You are a person and it doesn't matter how many partners you have. What matters is a kind heart. Don't let those statements eat at your conscious. Cause people say fucked up shit that is a reflection of the hurt they've sustained in their journey. You'll make you're own hurt. You don't have to carry the burdens of other people's life lessons.
@@elfiot I’m DYING lololol
the only positive i’ve taken from this is the fact that “used vagina” would be a sick band name for an all girl punk band
Omg. It’d be the perfect antidote to these sexist alpha males’ ideology. Just literally twist their own lingo into a feminist punk band as a force for good
I sing. Let's get this rolling!! WE CAN DO VAGINA FACE PAINT. But make them all crusty, cracked, flaky, ashy, etc. So we look used. OMG I really wanna do this now...
😂 That's a more positive way to look at it
@snake and spider stew me ✋
@snake and spider stew me!!
"Women should be and dress like women." (Woman wears a cocktail dress, low cut blouse, or mini shirt) "No not like that."
Too much skin, that s**t
Exactly 😂 It’s all bullshit and men like him just want to control women.
Whatever you do it is not okay
“I only want you dressing like you’re living in colonial Williamsburg!”
What’s a mini shirt?
Jarvis just constantly spilling drops of coffee on himself was honestly everything 😂. I’m glad I’m not the only clumsy individual who is just consistently spilling things on themselves (even though he chalked it up to the cup lol).
Seriously that part made me bust out laughing. It was amazing 😂
Especially when they dripped under the phrase "Trying My Best"!
he needs to wear tie dye so whatever he spills on himself won't be visible
being a gay woman and watching straight men give other straight men dating advice is wild. I cannot imagine having my friends and partner not interact
As a gay (well, bi, m spec leaning) man it’s bewildering. Like.. how??? Why???? For what reason??? I’m a trans man so I’m probably the rare “genre” of men who understands women in a deeper than surface level way but like 🙁
Why do straight cis men. Like why.
@@zach7877 Please don’t put this man in the „Straight Cis Man“ category. He‘s not representative of the entire community at all. Put him in the „horribly narcissistic and controlling person“ category lmao
@Ai.C valid
I apologize to the straight cis man community for lumping this monster in with y’all 🤧🙏
as a pansexual man i'm extremely confused 💀 like what goes through your mind to think that treating women like this is okay??? i'm trans so I've experienced gender roles to some degree and it pissed me off even as a little child
Me too. Blows my mind that some people actually have this mindset.
love the part where he’s like “…and it’s not because your friend is a bad *person,* or she’s a bad *woman* …”
like, he definitely views those as separate categories.
But also, it does mean that they aren’t a good friend or partner to you if they are willing to cheat on you any chance they get lol
Further, if they are going to cheat with your friends, they could cheat with anyone but you just don’t know lol
(I know that’s not what you are saying but still)
The idea that your girlfriend should never hang out with your friends is so unhinged. Compartmentalizing your life out of fear of being betrayed is truly some Gamma Male Shit.
worlds colliding! he watched that one episode of seinfeld and didnt realize it was supposed to be a joke
Off topic, but I love your profile picture :)
When I think I'm paranoid but then I'm reminded of those kind of people lol.
I would have lost out on some fun friendships (even if not that close) if I'd never met my pals' girlfriends. All of the ones I've met are lovely people, and I'd be sad never to have met them.
And, yes, to be clear, I have hit on literally every one of them.
(Kidding, to be completely clear)
Sigma Males let their partners interact with their friends bc they have faith that they won't be cheated on by their friends
“To men and men only, YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE AND RESPECT “
sorry ladies guess we don’t get those things 😢
Men arent worthy of love and respect.
Unfortunately, I think that’s honestly what he meant.
@@ahobbit1273 me too 😔
I mean we don’t already based on laws & the way many men treat us already.
The anger behind so many of those statements about "putting a woman in her place" is so terrifying. When dudes ask what we're so afraid of, it's that. I'm so certain this man has hit or thrown things at a woman before.
No doubt! And in his mind, it was HER fault!
For sure 😯 I’m scared of men like this
literally sent chills down my spine-
It's so funny how all of these "alpha" guys giving relationship advice on TikTok are admittedly unsuccessful at dating. Dude... Are you sure you're qualified for this? 😂
A commenter, Miss Bee, said, "he made a video about it saying to the people trying to shame me for living with my mom there’s nothing wrong with living with my mom it doesn’t mean I don’t have a good job blahblahblah"
All of these "alpha males" are not in commited relationships and are horribly unhappy. Please take advice from people in actual successful, happy relationships
@@siobhanifill5917 I swear if he was likeable and a good person, then no one would attack him, or ppl would defend him. because honestly, there isn't anything wrong with living with your parents. it's common in asian countries even. and with how expensive rent is depending on where you live, and you get along great with your family, why not? but he's terrible and he lies and has a distorted view, so I doubt he's even a good house mate for the mom.
Thrice divorced, selling gumroad courses on successful relationships
@@siobhanifill5917 I can understsnd why hed be bullied for living with his mom. His videos make me feel like she is in danger.
"women have to act like men" the fact that he equates freedom and independency to masculinity...reeks of misogyny. if you don't see a problem with that you're gonna have to get someone else to explain that to you because I simply don't have the willpower to break down easy concepts that should be easy to understand
Yeah, and what does that thinking make feminine? Kindness? Should I be beating my dog instead of telling her she's good? Should I act angry all the time for no reason instead of using my head to think through problems?
The issue is these dudes are insecure and want to shuffle all their issues into an easy box to slap a label on, when the truth is humans in general are built of complex psychological blurred lines that don't boil down easily to what's distinctly feminine or masculine.
@@Sahiyena11 exactly my thinking. dude like this, and in general anyone who thinks there is such a divide between men and women are stupid. they act as if we are two different species, but we are not. we are all one species and we are complex beings because we have a conscience.
it's pointless to divide ourselves up as if we aren't all the same thing, human.
Jeez then the next guy is all like "women need to stop acting like men!!??!" 🙃
That's not what misogyny means but okay.
@@snatchadams69 so according to you prejudiced hatred against women is not misogyny. what do you think misogyny is then?
Man literally demands his girlfriend to have no personality and just be attractive and subservient and then complains that the people he dates don't have interesting personalities
As a gaslighting, gatekeeping, hyper-feminine, girlboss, i’m so glad Randy said it’s okay, i was beginning to think it was wrong
LMFAO
I'm so glad that randy here finally made it ok for all of us women folk to be *checks notes* exactly what society has created for us
@@cambuck2231 ooh good I was sooo worried that my religious mormon family would hate me if I decided to be a stay at home trad-wife 😭😢 but now that randy says it's okay I have nothing to fear. But it's too late, I already went with my second option of being an asexual aromantic and forever single mother to as many dogs as I can find, and I can't turn back now.
IT IS OKAY FOR YOU TO BE A TRADITIONAL NEW WAVE FEMINIST GIRL BOSS WHO MAYBE DRIVES A HONDA CIVIC AND DOES DAY TRADING ON THE SIDE WHEN NOT MANAGING YOUR VERY SUCCESSFUL LAW FIRM!!!!
A huge problem with guys like this is that they want their women to be virgins but they also expect them to put out. Like, bro, you can't have your cake and eat it too.
These type of guys r not themselves virgins.
Which is silly because that’s exactly what cake is for!
@@paularunslondon when you eat a cake you no longer have it
You could say… They can’t eat their cake and have it unused too
I’m sorry
@@Mumiah862 don't worry, a vagina doesn't dissappear after sex.
As a man, I'm concerned for the safety of any woman that encounters this man.
Same
So many young guys I know just blame women when they struggle with dating not realizing that you can't force or push relationships to be genuine and meaningful. The more they blame women, the more they become spiteful.
What you said about Randy at the end really reminded me of that. People put so much of their self-worth into relationships and it's just unhealthy.
Fact. Just like when some women in tiktok blame all men.. because their ex was a piece of $hit.
I love how these kinds of men punish their partner because their own friends are predatory. Makes so much sense
Because they really "beta" , one of my 'friend' messaged my girl when me and her were in a rough patch to go eat some tacos at 10pm , she told me and i messaged HIM , that we are no longer friends and not to try to reach out me or her ever again , plus i asked her to send the screen shot to HIS gf , i didnt get mad at HER for something SHE didnt do lol idk why people like this guy can't grasp responsibility
@@eVaSpArTaN714 why are you emphasizing HER and HIM so much homie? Also, it's not about men being "alpha" or "beta" or whatever; basing yourselves off wolf hierarchy is weird to begin with lol. It's just about being a decent person
@@HeyHebi I put beta in parentheses cause thats how they classify it , and i caps him and her so people see that clearly who im referring too , sorry its a youtube comment section habit
@@eVaSpArTaN714 ah okay
they are literally so insecure, if you know that the only reason why your girl would stay with you is if you put her in a bubble of sort then you are insecure. and seeing them act like it is because she is untrustworthy is so funny bc you know it’s just bc they are scared
The thing that makes me really sad is that, in addition to the toxic misogyny, he’s purposefully appealing to men (and teenage boys!) who have legitimate grievances, who have been mistreated and put down, by affirming repeatedly that their pain is real and they ARE valuable and they ARE worthy of love and respect. He’s drawing vulnerable people in by telling them something they desperately need to hear, and then indoctrinating them with misogynistic bullshit once they come to trust him as a source of validation and support. He’s tricking these guys into thinking that WOMEN are the cause of their emotional pain and loneliness, but don’t worry, it’ll all be better once you can subjugate a girl and make yourself feel superior to her by treating her like an object!
Men and boys absolutely do deserve to be affirmed, valued, and treated with love and respect, and they don’t deserve to be mistreated just for being men. But women are not the problem, and patriarchy is not the solution.
Sadly enough, this sort of indoctrination is a huge rabbit hole into an ocean of white supremacist thinking. You don't even need to be racist to be indoctrinated into white supremacy, just a sad lonely boy, they take these sad lonely boys and first tell them they're better than all women and women are worthless, and women create all the problems in the world for them. But then it's too broad to say only women, it's gay and trans people too, now. Watch-out! Their pronouns are gonna get ya! But it doesn't stop it actually gets worse from there, and escalates really fast the more they successfully isolate their target, until their on 4chan being told all their problems are caused by Jews and black people.
You ever notice how these channels have spokespeople that are almost always men of color? I think what happened is these men of color have been indoctrinated into white supremacy, which is done to further obscure the message lying underneath, because they're useful (for now). Then they go out and indoctrinate more people with the fact that "it couldn't possibly turn racist or come from extremely racist ideologies because a black man is saying it" that's exactly the point. Yet their rhetoric is almost always talking specifically about black Women and other Women of color.
It's not a conscious system either, somehow it works itself into this sort of rabbit hole, but those who are straight up neo-nazis or keks are giving shit eating grins to all these videos, they know these are their Men. These are the pipelines to them. I know it sounds crazy, but that's how it's supposed to be, there were studies done finding HUGE connections between subtly sexist media that went very quickly and sharply into white supremacist and neo-nazi conspiracy theory propaganda. When it happens to you you won't even notice.
If you've ever heard of cults, this is gonna sound a lot like I'm calling it a cult. That's because it is. Stay aware.
My friend, this was the best possible way to put this out there, and I applaud you. You have my immediate respect 💪
this is late but holy shit you just spouted a bunch of facts that why most people find solace in tate
👏 this is what so many people need to understand, it's not enough to blame the alpha males, we have to protect their vulnerable audience and redirect them to something positive.
This is awesome, you worded it super well.
Him: "IT IS OKAY TO BE FEMININE!"
Me: "Okay. I agree."
Him: "IT IS OKAY FOR YOU TO TURN DOWN A THREESOME BECAUSE YOU DON'T WANNA BE INVOLVED IN THAT!"
Me: "Kind of out of left field but.... I agree?"
Him: "IT IS OKAY FOR YOU TO SUBMIT TO YOUR MAN!"
Me: "Some of your opinions seem to be in conflict with each other."
i mean the third does have a use case in bdsm rp lol, not outside the bedroom tho
@@usrnewxnew5227 BDSM is all about trust. If there's no respect outside of scenes then it's not BDSM it's just abusive and controlling. There's a lot of guys who claim to be doms when they're just these alpha male types who think they'll be able to meet the submissive sex doll of their dreams and that being a Dom is just being controlling and doing what they want. It's gross and beyond predatory.
@@yukikanegawa7470 yup a lotta fake doms out there
@@yukikanegawa7470 The amount of dudes I met who claimed they were doms, but were just actually super selfish in bed is mind blowing.
@@yukikanegawa7470 fuckin' A!
"Let them chase you". Gets confused when every time he looks over his shoulder, no one's there.
A fresh coffee stain underneath “Trying My Best” is tragically, comically, joyously, painfully relatable. Distracted me from whatever Randy was saying (which is good, as I’m a woman and it is forbidden knowledge)
lmao I was also distracted from the forbidden knowledge. good.
i am cackling about it i am actually crying tears i don't know why its so funny
Where can I purchase said sweatshirt?!
😐
calm down.
Isn't it funny how he says you shouldn't have your "woman" around your friends because something might happen but it seems like he doesn't hold his friends accountable for that at all? Must be because they are men and therefore worthy of respect.
1st rule of misogyny is that women are responsible for what men do
@@carolinehoak I mean what's he supposed to do? He can't help it if his friend's woman comes onto him, the vile temptress!
As much as its easy to believe hes just being sexist(he certainly is a sexist person lol) i feel like a part of it is also the toxic mentality that the person who is single and messes with a taken person isnt actually at fault since they arent in a relationship. And even if he didnt mean it that way fuck people who think that garbage. If you knowingly have sex with a taken person you suck just as much as the person directly cheating without question.
@@mikedavidson6454 I mean the logic will always be that the single person has nothing to lose, therefore people usually empathize with them. They would be sick since they both know what's at stake, but being a homewrecker will always be different than being the one *in* the wrecked home.
+ Remember that we went through that time where the person getting the anger pushed onto them was the single person, and all over TV you'd see them get their asses get handed to them since forever, or on Worldstar especially like 5-7 years ago. Obviously there's a lot to unpack there, starting with why anybody has to be hit at all in the situation, but that's a separate conversation. Only more recently have people started to shift more blame away from the other person likely because of that.
I have a feeling that he has a lot of really shitty friends because he, himself, is a really shitty person and doesn't see the issues.
Never chase women. Assume we all carry pepper spray and a multitool.
I assume women have rocket launchers in their pockets(bear with me).
@@you_tubeslonelyheartsclubband 🐻🐻🐻🐻🐻
@@TwocanToucan thank you for participating with the bear-ing.
@@you_tubeslonelyheartsclubband is the bearing I must do related to the fact that you mentioned having pockets?
I don’t chase, I just stay single at home, never disrespecting anyone
A women will literally birth children, make the home, grow/cook the herbs and food, organize and manage appointments for everyone in her household, and offer endless advice and wisdom to her loved ones
just for a man who cant even afford a barber to call her "used" and accuse her of having no value.
This world is backwards.
The little coffee stains on a hoodie with “trying my best” on it was perfect irony, love it! The hoodie should be made that way intentionally lol
I used to work at Starbucks - occasionally the cups have defects that cause that dripping issue.
I agree. I have this sweater (looks similar, actually) with intentional "paint" stains on it. It says CREATIVE. If you like coffee, you should have a shirt with stains on it and in all caps, COFFEE 🤣
he do be dripping fr
I would by that version
i just said something similar lmaoo
Women have been fighting back against being referred to as a "prize" for generations because it reduces them to objects, and then this guy comes along and says, "MEN ARE THE REAL PRIZE." He absolutely has no idea about the world outside of himself. 🤦♂🤦♀
He still reduces women to objects even while talking men up.😅
he counts on his fingers like he's making points, but the look on his face is like he's playing with action figures
I mean, he can’t really count considering he has no brain
@@Kaunoe sheesh dude you fucking cremated him lmao
@@dragonicbladex7574 This was fire
Daaaammmnn
I never want to hear someone yell "It is okay for you to submit to your man!" again. That activated my fight or flight response.
does that mean if you go to a gynecologist after sex, your vagina is no longer used but refurbished?
If so, mine was thrifted 🙃
OMG this comment killed me. ROFL Nice one
@@imlostinthefade dead 💀💀💀 BEST REPLY HAHA
He isn't a prize, he's a coupon. Get one Randy and you get emotional trauma for free
This deserves more likes im literally cry-laughing
LMAO 🤣
Coupons are valuable so... I'm confused by what you mean? 😂
Lol 😂😂😂😂
Let him expire!
It's so interesting that he expects women to be subservient, obedient and obeying - but at the same time complains that the women he has been dating have felt bland and boring and without personality. Like... Yeah.
Seeing Jarvis actually get mad at the “used cars” analogy is the sweetest thing I’ve seen.
I do love the blatant absence of what he (the alpha males of the world) is bringing to the table. Like, go on. Tell me.
That's the real question, isn't it 😝
they’re obsessed with women and it’s giving “i’m lonely and insecure” lmao
Did you miss that sweet piano music 🤦🏻♀️
Isn't it obvious? They think the only thing they need to bring to the table is dick.
Go bro give us nothing 😍
Men like this are abusers in training, if not there already & I’m so serious. Thank you for calling out this behavior Jarvis!
I dont think he’s in training i think hes graduated 😬
@Abigal Christenton Nah he’s a professor
To them it's a zero sum game, you can't uplift men without putting them above women. To them putting down women is the same as uplifting men.
Yeah, a certain subset of society, mostly cishet white males - but clearly the subject of this video, and many other "alpha male" content creators, show that non-white men can also feel this way (and of course women can as well, albeit less frequently)- seem to believe they and theirs are being attacked by anything done to uplift people *different* from them, in one way or another, because they believe that uplifting any group requires another "opposing" group be brought down.
Classic bully behavior :(
@@R0D3R1CKV10L3NC3 imo when it comes to this it just applies to cismen in general, no matter the race. The sexism is everywhere
@@jennamallow Agreed! Racism and sexism are completely different and not rly comparable imo. Sexism is everywhere
Controlling your woman doesn’t make you a man. It makes you insecure.
"Friends who are bad influences" immediate red flag, someone who controls who you can be friends with turns definitely abusive
'Oh but I can think of a scenario where that's not true' great, not the scenario I was thinking of
Some friends ARE bad influences but the people out there like that guy think any woman who says "you're a grown-ass adult, you don't need to update your boyfriend on what you're doing every 5 minutes" is a bad influence.
the second line made me laugh out loud - writing that down for future use (most likely in yt comments)
He definitely means friends who support the woman and encourage her to leave abusive situations. i.e. friends who would help her get away from HIM
There is never that scenario. There is abusive control or there is trust and respect.
I’m a 32 year old adult, I’ll be single for the rest of my life before I am ever described as obedient. So gross.
It’s so cringey lol
Obedient is such a weird way to describe a person; like on report cards and shit. The only place I can see it being used is to say how good of a boy a dog is
@@cursed-cat9126 I tried to think and the only possible "obedient" can describe a human being respectfully is when they are in some sort of armed force lol like "Yeah Bill is good at taking orders from people and is really calm in stressful situations"
Wait until you know what middle eastern women go through because of this "obedience" thing
When people like him say it's "okay" for women to be traditional, they're actually saying that women SHOULD be traditional in a shitty attempt to be more palatable.
There was a point in the middle of watching this where I realized that this guy is sitting in his car, ALONE, just screaming about men and women and threesomes and from that point on, I was in tears I was laughing so hard. I kept mentally panning back to this imaginary shot of him sitting (again, alone) in his car wildly gesticulating and yelling at nothing and it got funnier every time.
😂
I'm choosing to believe that he has to do this in his car because his mom will hear him if he does it at home 💀
@@alisonb1942 HAHAHA
And then after, quietly pick up his phone to stop recording,make a caption,then post it.
No wonder he tries to make the video as dark as possible 😂 god, what a looser
mans said, "i want a weak, submissive, subservient woman who answers my every beck and call and treats every word that falls from my mouth as gospel but like i don't want her to be boring or anything :///" like bruh !!!!
What cracks me up is that the guys that talk about "quality" women are in no way quality men.
exactly! Oh you think I want to date a person who is always controlling and shit? hell no, not when I know there are men who can respect me and treat me as a person exist.
They also never fully define "traditional" so women could easily make some real traditional demands like you must own at least 2 cows and a plot of land to show you can provide and are a quality man.
Also the Amish have the exact rigidly gendered life they claim to want, throw away your phone and just go join them lol.
I'm pushing 40. So a little old for this kind of content. I think you're hilarious, thats why i watch. And, just wanted to say, I think your morals and outlook on life that you spread to others is awesome and positive. And it's good to see this on UA-cam. Good stuff dude!
“And it’s not that your friend is a bad PERSON or not that she’s a bad WOMAN…”
Men are people to him. Women are other. Disgusting.
I'm so glad I wasn't the only one who caught that.
So, when i was 19 i had my first relationship, and my girlfriend was friends with all my friends, and I thought this was amazing! First because i loved them all, and secondly because it was hella fun. She was very beautiful, funny and charismatic, so it was understandable that everyone was attracted to her. And i was the vocalist of a rock band and i consider myself a amazing dude, so yeah, understandable too. The confidence we had in each other made the relationship stronger, because we had to have a confidence that surpassed all this idiotic misconceptions about "men can't see women because they're animals and will instantly enter coitus, hur dur". This became an internal joke even, in the parties there where some really messed guys that tried to flirt with her when i wasn't near (or sometimes in me face), and she mocked then, and never ever called me to help her, because she could stand by herself, so she told with a straight face: "i don't have any interest in you" and that's it. It was not "oh, i am in a relationship so i can't", it was a straight "i don't want you, period". Sometimes, when the "alpha male" was really inconvenient and tried to fight me or something like this, she would stop him mid-drama and demolish him saying things like "You seein this dude? This skinny hairy mf that looks like a teenager girl? Yeah, you won't EVER be HALF the man he is in any point of your entire life, because you are so shitty that you can't even respect a woman, so shitty that you can't even respect yourself. So fuck off, and lick the ground where he stands". This teached me to don't be jealous, have confidence in the ones i love and to have a healthly communication. And mess with this kind of lame macho men without having to lift a finger was the best thing i could ever experience. Also, my friends admired our relationship so much that when we had our down moments, they would talk us out and cheer us up because they loved seeing us together. And all my other relationships followed the same respect dynamics, my friends where friends with all my exes and this never caused any kind of headache.
We stan a healthy dude! With healthy relationships:D
holy shit i aspire to have a relationship like you did.
I FUCKING LOVE THIS 🥺
Damn, I love her
Yep. My partner is friends with my friends and I'm friends with his. They're all so adorable and sweet and I love them but completely platonically. Most of his friends are girls and most of mine are guys so jealousy has been a very limited problem since we understand and trust eachother
As a woman: I don’t always obey the law 🤷♀️ SOME LAWS ARE DUMB
True that. I, myself a lawless, "female", have ticked, 'I have read and agree to all the terms & conditions stated above', without actually reading them too many times. Pish-posh all terms and conditions. You don't tell me how to live my life. Not today.
True my horse should be allowed to eat fire hydrants all it wants. ( This is a real law)
@@randomnarwhal9272 it’s all fun and games until your street floods and your horse gets colicky.
@@UnicornWranglerRed my horse is just trying to create a sprinkler for the children in the street
@@randomnarwhal9272 your horse sounds very altruistic. I dig.
He films in his car so his mom won't smack him
Not even as a young teen I understood the whole "don't let your partner have opposite gendered friends" or being controlling and trying to limit them.... bc my reasoning was always "Well, if they wanna be unfaithful.... that's kinda a problem in itself tho? I can't control that? " (Remembering when my then bf at 14 years old was mad at me for not being jealous or controlling, lol)
I remember being told that once your married you cant have opposite sex friends anymore. I was told that men and women just can't be friends without sexual tension.
This made even less sense to me after I realized I was bi and wasn't experiencing constant sexual tension with most of my friends.
Being a closeted bi and hearing this was so confusing. I can't have friends?
"She should be obedient." "She should provide nourishment." This guy wants women to behave like they're his daughter or mother lol. So basically anything but a partner that is equal to him.
That’s gross…
@CowoO yeah exactly
Yeah “EqUaL” when it benefits you🤣 You won’t pay for the dates tho or pay the bills or plan anything. Only pick the nice things in your favor from equality and the rest is “you should treat me like a lady”🤣and then when it is mentioned -> “ugh it’s 2022” or “you’re so backwards”
@CowoO wtf does that even have to do with what I said
@@MK-hw2ir bruh when did I say any of those things. also, your solution to this whole issue is that you'll treat women horribly? tf dude. this is what happens when you've had like zero interaction with women. you don't treat them like people, rather someone you're constantly supposed to compete with, be jealous of or hate.
No… this guy couldn’t be a narcissistic controlling and abusive person… definitely not.
Let's stop normalizing the casual use of personality disorders to describe violent bigots.
@@LieseFury this ⬆⬆⬆
@@LieseFury there is a difference between using narcissist as an adjective vs a personality disorder. Same way there's a difference between describing someone as anxious vs having an anxiety disorder
@Zone Doll
Narcissist isn't an adjective, it's a noun. Narcissistic is an adjective. A narcissist is someone with NPD. For your example, "They are an anxious person." is the use of an adjective . "They are an anxiety person." Isn't the use of an adjective, it's a noun.
I'm a person with a personality disorder (BPD, it's cluster B just like NPD, ASPD, and HPD) and yeah, you shouldn't use narcissist as an insult. You may be using it as a term for "arrogant loser", but there is an intense stigma around the word. All people with NPD are seen as bloodsucking monsters by the majority of people. So the usage of narcissist to describe bigots and abusers needs to be denormalized.
I'm not trying to attack or be condescending btw, just offering a diff perspective and explaining the others' views. I hope this makes sense.
@@kallamarsspouse just a question… I agree with not diagnosing people. But how do you separate abusive and manipulative behaviors from people with NPD when that’s literally what they do?
I'm forever disgusted by social media allowing people like this to have a platform, yet ban other people for the smallest things
I wonder why the women he has dated don't feel comfortable enough to show their personality around somebody who wants to control what they wear, who they hang out with, and how they conduct themselves as a person.
randy: as a man you need to hear this
me, a guy: ok i'm listening
randy: stop chasing women wh
me: way ahead of you 🏳️🌈
Then he would get mad cuz he's 100% homophobic no doubt
@@pissapocalypse oh absolutely Randy is homophobic
@@pissapocalypse was it that obvious?
Damn Lawrence on that sigma male grindset since the day he was born
He’s such a sigma he only goes after other men
Gotta retains that masculine value so he never gives it to a “FEmAle”
(Incase people cant read sarcasm I’m joking lol)😆
@@Doctor-Infinite Honestly theres a lot of things Im surprised ended up being viewed the way they do. The two biggest ones for me is-
First: Women not being viewed as high as men back then. When you think about it, while men are "biologically stronger/sUpErIoR", people who are able to bare children are required for reproduction, so its weird how we were seen as less than men
And second: Like what you said, being a gay guy couldve been seen as you being so manly and masculine, youre only attracted to other guys to offset your manliness. Yet it was seen as being feminine, aka weaker
Thats just my two cents though ✌️
notice at 12:31 how he says “it’s not that your friend is a bad PERSON and it’s not that she’s a bad WOMAN” like women are somehow different from “people.” like women and personhood aren’t synonymous in his brain
Imagine stumbling upon this joker in the wild just screaming and pointing in his car lmao
Conservative men screaming in car seats has become such a trope that I want a top 10 of this kind of people. Or a bingo card game.
the conservative men screaming in cars to conservative toxic masculinity podcast pipeline needs to be investigated
Pretty sure it is on Hannahreloaded's channel.
they cant do it in their mothers' basement or else their mom would take their xbox
It is a sad state of affairs when saying the obvious counts as an argument against people who treat other humans as objects. Amazing video as always, Jarvis, keep being the kind hearted, amazing person you are and always have been.
The guy made some good points though right...
@@charlesriley2717 uhhh like what? lmao
@@charlesriley2717 another misogynist sexist
@@charlesriley2717 like?
@@Jess-iq1bw I'm not really sure, but the guy sounded passionate, which convinced me.
As someone who chose to be a housewife, and also has worked in places where there are far more men than women, no one has judged me for either? I tell people I’m a house wife and people are like “ oh, cool, it’s nice you can do that” and when I told people I was a mechanic they’re like “ oh, cool, can you help me fix my car?” like you can do whatever you want and most people don’t care either way- just do what works for you
tbh i wish there were more women who were mechanics. as an afab person nothing makes me feel safer than finding a woman in a place where men notoriously screw female-presenting people over.
Also, in the first TikTok, when he starts doing the ‘this little piggy’ thing to list ‘bad’ traits, he talks about this theoretical ‘perfect woman’ as if they’re his daughter when he mentions stuff like a ‘disrespectful mouth’ and ‘irresponsible friends’. Definitely super controlling.
Damn I needed to feel gold today and clowning on toxic misogyny sure is premium
that transition from "it's okay to be feminine" to "it's ok to not want to be in a threesome" took me the fuck out lmaooo
🤣
like,... wait...
what???
Rule number 1 of the internet: Don't trust a guy who gives advice from his car, his mother's basement, or his illegitimate podcast.
What’s an illegitimate podcast?
Unless is it's Ticked off Vic. The videos in his car are the best.
@@g33xzi11a If you can listen to it in podcast form, it's an illegitimate podcast
Amen
One of the best things that can happen in relationships is your partner(s) and your friends bonding with each other into a big happy chosen family. It's incredibly sad that there are people out there who feel the need to actively try to prevent that from happening.
These men somehow want their partners to be their mother (who takes care of all their needs), daughter (whom they can control and have obey them) and sexual object, all in the same package. It's weird.
"It's not that your friend is a bad person if they come on to your partner."
I mean, it does mean they are a bad friend.
"She can obey the law so she can obey her man"
Presumptuous and inaccurate, my gf obeys nothing, laws included because she's a baddie and also wanted in 14 states
💀💀💀💀
Shes 🤭 a bad 😈 bitch 🥰 who needs 🤷♀️ no laws 📝 holding ⛓ her ♀️ back 💅
@@samarnadra She's working on it
I love her , good for her
“You non-binary pals got it in your head, that you are worthy of love in respect? Not in Randy’s world. But in my world you are, in my world you are premium, in my world you are worthy of love and respect, you are worthy of a grand old time.”
Made me smile .
dude i CRIED at that
In a parallel universe Randy is angrily yelling encouragement to their fellow nonbinary pals.
same ^-^
“she obeys the law doesn’t she?” *bold of you to assume that*
I feel like if your friends are hitting on your partner after you introduce them, then they are bad friends though. Its weird that he sees that as a normal and acceptable behavior.
Just goes to show men are mainly the problem and they refuse to acknowledge or admit it
He's doing that to excuse his own behavior of hitting on his friends' partners, guaranteed he'd flip the fuck out if a friend tried to hit on his partner. Guys like this are ALWAYS hypocrites.
it makes sense that this guys friend group is a snake pit, considering his attitude. Could you imagine anyone kind or genuine deliberately spending quality time with this POS?
@@Manigeitora
100%. Probably also has the mindset that if a woman is talking to a guy "she's cheating" bullshit these people spew.
“This little piggy went to therapy.”
“Oh. That piggy’s dead.”
That caught me off guard.
i realized that when dudes like this say "women are trying to act like men" they just mean women doing normal human things, but their view of women is so nonhuman that they think it's encroaching on their role as men or something lol
I get what your point but nah, there's some girls tryna do some shit you see men doing. Not saying they can't but its just unusual.
@@grandpacereal1549 such as..?
@@dictatorshiki ???
@@grandpacereal1549 such as?????????? Bitch answer the fucking question
@@grandpacereal1549 wanna give some examples?
7:15 "I have a shirt" jarvis, you joke, but women love to wear their partner's hoodies so you've already given us more of an offer than this man did in the entire first tiktok
I'm here as a woman explicitly for research purposes I promise
Same
@samshortstuff hi ded I’m dad
hmmmmmmmmmmmm....
@@livecamsex-checkmylink9000 hi mom :D
As a non binary person same
"She can obey the law, so she can obey her man" I haven't laughed this hard in a while. Uch
That line confuses me so much. Like, do laws only apply to women? Is robbery or arson not applicable to you if you are a man? If men have to obey the law, do they also have to obey their man? I need answers
She can obey the terms of her nondisclosure agreement she can obey her man.
@@angrynoodletwentyfive6463 I farted 💩😐
Nah I never drive the speed limit. I'm constantly breaking the law.
@@WatsonandSherlock shhh they’ll start saying women cant drive again 👀
His obedience analogy is basically like “oh you take insulin? Well then I should be able to force you to do cocaine. They’re both drugs, so it’s fine!”
I am convinced every time he goes through something he makes a tik tok about it to remind himself what he needs to hear later when he doubts his actions. “Randy’s advice for Randy only”