PRACTICING MODESTY
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- I love practicing modesty! We are all called to modesty in todays world where our culture is over sexualized. In this video I talk all about how beautiful we are and how we need to use our beauty to honor God:) Hope you enjoy!
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A Catholic Mom's Life I couldn’t agree with you more, on every single thing you’ve said here....just wish I could get all this thru to my step daughters and their dad.
LOVE THAT YOU DID THIS TOPIC!!! Great Advice and ideas!
And as a reminder to married men. We are expected to be chaste even in marriage, our wives are joined to us and we to them. We also have custody of our eyes, and should always be mindful of where our gaze lingers.
Amen 🙏🏼
Married men should keep their eyes to their wives only.
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When I started watching this video , and then u said we are all daughters of GOD, I cracked up 😂.. not in a bad way but that I’m a guy following your channel..great video btw
Ch Hy love it! Lots of guys watch this channel😊. All are welcome here!
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That is so very funny!!! It never imagined that guys would watch this channel! Many blessings to you and your family! May Jesus and the Virgin Mary fill your home with Heavenly Graces! Amen!
A modesty look-book or ‘what I wore this week’ would be a fab video idea! God bless 💫
Sure! That would be a fun video thanks for the idea:)
in 1917 Our Lady at Fatima said, amongst other things "Certain fashions will be introduced which will offend My Son very much." It's amazing to think that only 100+ years ago every woman wore long skirts/dresses and never shorts/pants (let alone bikinis!). There are also lots of passages in Scripture that support modesty - for both men and women. AND frighteningly, Our Lady also said "more souls go to hell for sins of the flesh than any other reason".
Thank you very much for your comment on the Lady of Fatima! I was not aware of this! And yes, it is very choking to me the way that some women dress out in public! Many blessings for you and your dear ones!
“Daughters of God” YES! I agree with your idea of thinking about what would the King think of the outfit, so good
Your channel is such a blessing! Greetings from Brazil.
Good point about the Mormon women. I also noticed how fashionable they are. Many of them have startes clothing/ fashion lines that are awesome. I would like to support a Catholic company but haven't found one yet. Anyone have suggestions?
Kirsten Joubert right me too
I agree! I haven't found one either!!
I recently found your channel. I was searching for a Catholic mom channel that would help fill my soul and wow, I’m so thankful for your channel. I have been binge watching you for 3 days, I’m not creepy I promise, he he. Thank you for talking about the topic of modesty. I find that even with little girls’ clothing it can be hard to find cute modest clothing. I have a 6 year old daughter (and 4 boys ages 5, 3, 1 & 8 months) and I am always searching for shorts that hit the knee and dresses that don’t have an open cut in the back. It’s really sad to me that the fashion industry wants us to dress our little girls immodestly and like small versions of older girls. That can be a topic in and of itself. The clothes that some stores sell, I wonder who wears that stuff sometimes.
YES! I agree with you 100%! Heather you are so wise. I love the way you explain things. God has blessed you with so much wisdom, courage and humility. You are not afraid to speak the truth and I just love that about you. I wish you lived close to me so we can chat over a cup of coffee while our kids play, Lol. I need more women in my life like you! I will keep you in my prayers and may God continue to bless you and your family!
Karla 514 that would be so awesome play date! 😊
For me personally I don’t like wearing even a 1piece alone to the beach. I wear shorts and a tank top over it, especially since I’m married now I don’t want anyone seeing too much lol
Nice! Thanks for sharing:)
I have a really cute one-piece and wear it with linen shorts. It's great
Catholic Working Mom I live in Indiana so, very sadly, no oceans. We go to small beaches that are usually very family friendly. I’d say about half of the women all wear cover ups or shorts with their bathing suits. but yes I can’t believe what some people wear.
Mrs. Sanchez same! I grew up in a modest catholic household and wouldn’t change a thing about it!!
Thank you Heather for this video! I started in the RCIA program at my parish and coming from a protestant background.
Hey Heather, once again great topic. Firstly, yes we are daughters of God and we dress modestly to honor God, also because his Holy Spirit dwells in us, and we dress modestly for ourselves because we know who we are and we know our worth. Yes, men maybe visual creatures but we don’t dress modestly primarily for them. What would happen in a situation with no men around? Out of respect for God and ourselves we will still have to dress modestly. Secondly, my heart dropped when you said tribal women don’t wear tops because they can’t afford to. That is their culture, influenced by environment and tradition. In their tribes, they are not dressed immodestly, and despite men being visual creatures, they don’t look at their women with lust and have impure thought about them all the time. Women in those tribes are respected and not objectified by their men. There are women in our western culture who are so extremely poor and indigent, (even poorer than our tribal sisters) but they still wear tops, because that is what our western culture dictates. The objectification of women seems to be a big problem by our men in the western culture....because as you said, women can be dress modestly and men still have impure thoughts about them. Just wanted to clear that up. Please take this in the gentle and loving spirit with which it is meant. I am 100% a supporter of dressing modestly, so as not to grieve the Holy Spirit and for the love of God. As daughters of God and sisters in Christ, let us all be a reflection of our Father, who is love.
Thank you for sharing! Good to know!
Thank you, so true!
I would be careful with teaching your children that men are mostly visual. A priest gave a good talk about this subject. This is a priest who has been through a lot and has done a lot of research on the topic. He said the worst thing you can do for a girl is to tell her that all men are visual and that she needs to cover up for boys. He says it gives the message to young girls that they should dress for boys and that should not be true. An easy fix is to just talk about modesty in the terms of being humble. Secondly, it is very damaging to tell girls that guys are more visual. There are many girls who struggle with that too. It is just done more "secretly" through things like erotic literature or online porn. They are more private about it because there's more shame. It is an issue for both genders.
***I understand you mean well. I was at a Catholic conference where a priest gave a talk about this subject. It was very eye opening.
I understand you mean well:) I did say that in GENERAL men are more visual! I understand not all of them but many are! And maybe that priest who gave that talk doesn't struggle with it like other men do. I have been to A LOT of talks and conferences (Some by Priests as well) about modesty and men have asked that us women be more modest in our dress and action! they are saying that we are worth more and we are! I understand that some women struggle with impurity as well but that is for another video this is simply to help women to help our brothers:)
I understand. The priest has struggled with porn since he was very young. Now he counsels people going through similar issues. I think his point is that our society makes the claim that men are visual. The reality is both a large amount of men and women are visual and have struggles. It's just that it's more socially "acceptable" to say men are visual so women aren't as vocal about it. I understand you can't explain everything in one video and this video was more about women dressing modestly.
"What would the saints be wearing today" I love that!!
My sister-in-law is Jehova Witness and she dresses very modestly but her outfits are so beautiful. She dresses very classy, elegant and fashionable. Sadly we live in a culture that teaches that "the less you wear, the more in fashion you are".
Great video! I watched a video from a Catholic UA-camr that was recently received into the Catholic church . She was saying that in her opinion bikinis are okay to wear because of our culture. I was saddened by the video and I felt i had to unsubscribe. I really want to support Catholic you tubers but not all channels bring us closer to God. Thank you for this video .
Are you talking about LizziesAnswers? Give her time..! She'll come around.
I don't think our culture should ever dictate how we practice our faith or decide what is moral. But I am also pretty sure that there is no where in Catholic teachings that says wearing a bikini is sinful. It's an interesting topic. I personally don't feel comfortable wearing bikinis b/c I feel way too exposed. I agree with you that Heather's Channel is awesome and it's really nice to watch someone really living the Catholic faith.
I agree. I lost some interest in her channel as well because of this. She is still new, so hopefully she will realize, with time, that she is sending the wrong message. Especially since she has a large following.
I don't know who you are talking about but I get where that statement comes from. I think someone dressing "modestly" as in completely covered up draws more attention to themselves than someone in regular swimwear. Ultimately people have different standards and beliefs when it comes to modestly, there is no right or wrong.
Hey girl, great video! I’ve been wanting to do a video on this modesty for a while but I’m terrified that I’ll make lots of people angry 😂 will you be offended if I jump on the bandwagon? I have a question for you, where do you draw the line between “bringing men to near occasion” and it being on them? That’s a weird distinction I’m wrestling with.
I would love if you did a video on this! I will NEVER be offended if you want to do a video on the same issues! That is my hope to form community on these issues! So YES! Please do the video:) As far as bringing men to near occasion of sin... I just do the best to be modest and hope that guys will honor that and if they still sin it's between them and God. Hope that makes sense:)
We all bring different perspectives on the same topics! As Jesus showed / told me one day, 'Don't let 'competition' stand in the way of _______." For example, I noted that when I was shopping one day, there is a Subway, Jimmy John's, Jersey Mike's Subs, Firehouse Subs (my favorite lol!) You get the idea!
That's a great analogy! I totally agree! There is always room for more view points not enough people are talking about how to dress modestly. I feel like it can be a confusing topic for young women because a lot of what people think of is frumy clothing that is not flattering and it doesn't have to be that way.
Yes you need to do a video on this topic as well! I'll be waiting :D
ua-cam.com/video/jtt737Jlgxk/v-deo.html I took the leap! Thanks for the inspiration as usual Heather!
So, it's not ok to wear a bikini but what about guys walking around topless? I, as a woman am very tempted by some of them. A lot of women are just as visual. And if it's hot outside I'll wear shorts and such. I can show my knees and shoulders without being objectified but some people will objectify me no matter how much I cover up. I think it's best to consult your own conscience in such matters. God bless.
Kindly make a video on helping us to understand Gods will in our lives and to discern it in the right way and not to follow our choices in life but GODs choices.. thank you
Also, I love the way you dress Heather🌸
Mariah Miller thank you!
I see what you are saying and agree that modesty is a notable virtue, but I am concerned about some of the choice of words you happen to use, and its possible implications.
I think Emily Wilson’s way of framing the issue in her video, “The Thing I Couldn't Stand About Modesty Talks”, is the word choice I would use. She essentially said that, rather than looking at it as what clothes will “prevent” men from lusting, one should instead look at it as what clothing reflects how one views himself/herself as a child of God with inherent dignity and of complex character that is more than just his/her outer body (which might incidentally promote chastity for the opposite sex as a secondary by-product).
The reason why I would prefer modesty to be described that way is because if we make it only about men’s impure thoughts, these could be the unintended implications.
1.) It can often be taken to mean that it a woman’s appearance that inherently seduces men into lust, rather than the man himself having disordered desires/attachments which primarily leads him into temptation. I know you do not intend to say this, but that can easily be taken a few steps further and promote this other mentality, which has been one of the major contributing factors for rape culture and victim-blaming in society. It can become such a factor because people assume that men are not the first ones that should be held accountable or work towards improving themselves, when they are thinking of objectifying women. I recall Pope John Paul II even mentioning in Theology of the Body that Adam and Eve being “naked without shame” in each other’s presence was one of the most notable signs of a sinless pre-fallen world. Nudity and the human body itself is not supposed to be the enemy.
2.) It can further reinforce this anti-Christian stereotype where Christians supposedly believe that men’s sexual desires are just a destructive biohazardous pathogen, causing marriage to be grudgingly constructed by God as the only safe way to “contain” it. This is different from the idea that sexual desire is supposed to be a naturally good thing created specifically to help build marriages. In turn, this can also open the door for marital sex being seen as a one-sided “duty” to keep the husband from stumbling, rather than a mutually pleasurable/affectionate act of love. In turn, this can then lead to married couples not thinking of how to make marital intimacy enjoyable for wives.
3.) By focusing too much on “men’s lust”, it opens the door for women’s sexual desires for the male form to be downplayed or less acknowledged. I would not know how “visual” an average heterosexual woman is compared to the average heterosexual man, but I imagine that female sexual desire does have at least some of that same facet. Woman too can struggle with things like pornography, requiring them to have some support and acknowledgement as well. (Plus, I do not think we can emphasize it enough that men can also be objectified/victimized by women).
4.) It could still suggest (whether intentionally or not), that woman should view themselves as completely under men’s thumb and be constantly in fear of their changing whims, rather than suggesting that a Christian woman should first look to how God views her as one of his dignified children. If the primary concern is how to “prevent” men from lusting, then what would hypothetically stop a society from turning into some of those Middle Eastern societies ruled by Radical Islam, where women need to cover everything except their eyes under threat of further shaming/persecution?
Mark Cobuzzi 🤦♀️ ummm ok did you watch the full video? Emily also talks about how we do need to be mindful of Men too...
I know that she talked a little bit about that too, and I sincerely appreciate that. I was just trying to give that as general advice to keep in mind, to make sure that people dressing that way because of them being sons/daughters of God is always given far more emphasis than trying to avoid “tempting” men.
When the subject of modesty come up, there is always this concern at the back of my mind, because I know that when people misunderstand what we are trying preach regarding modesty (or hear from fundamentalist, misguided, or corrupt/hypocritical people about it who actually deliberately teach some warped morals surrounding it), so many problems can occur that can actually drive people away from the Christian faith or not live out their faith in the best way. That’s why I would feel like I have to go to extreme lengths to emphasize what I did about how one should and should not view the virtue of modesty, if I were to try making a similar commentary video and raising awareness about the multifaceted problems surrounding this issue.
I am sorry for being this overly-obsessive, and I did not mean to say that anything she said was wrong. It’s just that I find this to be an issue where it feels like anyone trying to talk about it is treading on thin ice, and I am the type of person who is easily worried about how people hear our messages.
Mark Cobuzzi well if you ever have the courage to do a video on modesty I would love to watch it😊. God bless you
Thanks. God bless you too. :)
I did see the video titled “Please Be A Catholic UA-camR!!!” a while back and plan to watch “BE A CATHOLIC UA-camR PART 2 #CATHOLICUA-camR” when I get the chance. I am slowly starting to build my own UA-cam channel and, while I might not be making many videos where I directly commentate on an issue (like this video does), I do plan on making videos focusing on pop-culture, through which I could convey these same values.
If any of these ideas of mine for future videos interests you and/or family, just let me know and I’d be happy to tell you when they are eventually up on my channel:
1.) Since I am a movie buff, one hobby of mine has been to come up with my own ideas for hypothetical full-length movies, make a series of detailed PowerPoint presentations on it (each one laying out an individual scenes like a PowerPoint), and share my outlines with friends/family. In years past, one of my ideas was a live-action remake of Disney’s “The Hunchback of Notre Dame” that is done in a similar way as “The Jungle Book”, “Cinderella”, “Beauty and the Beast”, etc. and incorporates a lot more material from the original book, stage musicals, and my own ideas for the characters. Having recently taught myself how to use iMovie, I am now converting these outlines into video format. I am currently working on converting my 32 Hunchback PowerPoints and putting them into a playlist on my channel, and have already converted an earlier project I did into a playlist, which was a hypothetical movie adaptation of a video game called “Resident Evil” (in case anyone wants an idea of how I will format these). That novel by Victor Hugo, along with its animated musical adaptation by Disney, is one of my favorite stories in part because of how it delves into themes like prejudice towards outcasts, religion, striving for faith, pride vs humility, kindness/compassion in bad times, Medieval culture, the significance of the Church, corruption/hypocrisy, unrequited love, and even sexuality. Through the way I present my hypothetical version of the story and characters, I could convey some of those same values, including those related to love and chastity.
2.) When I start doing video reviews of books, movies, and video games, I do plan on summarizing Bram Stoker’s “Dracula” novel, analyzing some of its potential themes (some of which are rooted in Catholicism, due to the story being not just a Gothic horror, but also a love story and Christian morality tale of good vs. evil), and comparing it to the movie adaptation by Francis Ford Coppola.
3.) I might also do some reviews and commentary pertaining to J.R.R. Tolkien and certain adaptations of his works like the Hobbit or LotR.
4.) A few quick mashups and tribute videos.
These are just a couple of current ideas and I have more on my mental list, some of which might also have some Christian commentary incorporated. If any of those sound interesting to you all, let me know. Take care and God bless!
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I know this is five whole years later. But since we last conversed, I have been able to start working on some of that UA-cam content I talked about making, which could allow me to indirectly share some aspects of the faith with others.
Most recently, I finished and uploaded a video essay, which gave me the chance to compare Catholic writer J.R.R. Tolkien’s work and philosophy to those of George R.R. Martin in one segment, among many other things. Some of my religious family members really enjoyed watching that segment of my video retrospective in particular, and I was wondering whether you might like it too.
If you would like, I can elaborate more on it and tell you which part I recommend. Either way, have a great week and God bless you once more.
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This is such a good video. It’s a shame that so many woman especially Christian woman dress inappropriately its not that hard we should be covering ourselves its not only biblical but also common sense. We all need to c this video!!!!
So, I’m not sure I’m ready for a one-piece pool-side BUT you had made me think more about modesty and so I cut my jeans to longer Bermuda-style and I love them!!! Now I feel covered up but still have shorts. I have the hardest time finding shorts. They’re either too short or unflattering. I think bc these were old jeans they just fit perfectly! Thanks for helping us all be closer to God. I particularly love the idea you brought up of us being “God’s daughters.” Definitely creates a much stronger impression re modestly. 😊
There are some bikinis that are more modest one pieces. Mine are mostly 2 pieces but they are the retro style with the big ruffle on the front that come down almost looks like a tankini. And the bottoms are the highwaisted. I will not wear string bikinis and finding a ine piece to fit is very hard so its usually two pieces and tankinis for me. Howver I do opt for the full coverage they are out there.
I like modesty more because I’m showing respect to my Creator, and actually therefore myself. And I do look at it as societal, so what is the norm in one land isn’t the norm in another, so I think it can change for the culture where you are. Just like we want to look decent when we go to Mass, as a show of love and respect for God, I think of how I cover my body in my daily life in a similar attitude. And while I respect when people choose to be modest for our brothers... I’ve always had a bit of a problem with that mentality. It gets taken too far, because it’s so subjective. But I love your POV, and I love your videos.
There’s a lot of wisdom here for men who are truly committed to practicing their Catholic faith.
I view modesty, properly understood, as a disposition of the heart. I believe this means that we have the responsibility to never purposefully arouse lust in another person as Catholics, by what we wear, say, or do. It is not about hemlines. Anything we wear with innocent intention and peace of heart is modest, and it is the responsibility of each person to discern their intention before they put on or take off a piece of clothing. Because of this personal discernment, influenced by culture and personal experience, two people may arrive at different conclusions about the same piece of clothing, and that is fine. As long as each person dresses innocently according to their own discernment, they meet the obligation of modesty. A person who adopts a higher standard of modesty does so by choice not obligation.
*One fallible opinion based on my search for the proper understanding of modesty.
Very well said! Modesty is so important. 😊 There is a wonderful book on this topic called "Dressing with Dignity" by Colleen Hammond. I highly recommend it!
Thank you very much for recommending this book. I will be looking for it. Many blessings to you and your dear ones. May Jesus and the Virgin Mary fill your home with heavenly Graces! Amen!
Thank you for talking about this topic. God bless.
Great video! I would love to know who you all get modest fashion inspiration from.
I agree with you
By the way, I get my fashion inspiration from the 40’s and 50’s. Specifically my dresses. I recently started shopping on amazon and they have a nice selection of vintage inspired dresses that are modest, beautiful, and super inexpensive. I feel the most fashionable now that I am aMom, more than when I was single. I love that you were excited to be called a “soccer mom.” I love my vocation of wife and mother. Thanks again for your channel and May God bless and protect you and your lovely family.
Great video. Thanks for discussing this topic. It is hard to find modest clothing with certain trends but if you stick to the classics it is much easier. I just purchased a swimsuit on Amazon which is a one piece swimsuit "dress". It has built in shorts under the skirt. It seemed to be one of the more modest feminine choices without drawing attention by not wearing a bathing suit at all. I also always wear a cover-up if I am not actually in the water.
Thanks for touching on this 🙂
This is the question I ask myself in the morning. If I ran into God would I be embarrassed for what I have on? Years ago when my mom came to visit, (she is a divorci living wild) my teenagers made a comment that she dressed younger than me! So yes I try to dress modestly but stylish. One tip I got from a Mormon UA-camr was using long undershirts to be play it safe.
That is a great way to look at it! Thank you for sharing:)
I wear jeans to the church and a very nice polar shbut sure.
My wife. I wear jeans and a polar shirt and Tennis shoes.That's the only kind of shoe I can wear.It's very expensive for my shoes because I take a four e
God that for me Grab me some nice shirts
THANK YOU FOR SHARING MODESTY TOPIC. I SHARE MANY VIDEOS ON THIS TOPIC AS WELL
Hi Heather I just wanted to ask you about the requirements. From my reasearch I thought it was two finger’s below the hollow of the throat and long sleeves and full length skirts? Any insight in this I would really appreciate. ❤
I'm a practicing Catholic the reason I like wearing jeans and the button-up shirt because when I'm listening to the priest I'm going to feel comfortable so I can pay attention.
I think for me the importance of modesty is this. I want people to see my inner heart. There are things I can wear to express my heart and there are things i can wear to distract people from seeing my heart.
I think the spirit of the law is more important than the letter though for sure.
Mariah Miller beautiful!
I love that! I've never heard modest dressing put that way before
Awesome! Well said😊
Oh the "modesty" you get to see nowadays especially at church on Sundays😔😔😔.....some super short skirts or dresses that even as a woman I feel uncomfortable looking at them. Too much is too much,if I didn't notice how the panties are visible I would want someone to get my attention......if I happen to be stupid enough to wear those things that is. I'm glad I was never into uncovering my whole body especially out and about.
Great video sweetie,you're always spot on! God's blessings to you all!
Preach it sister!
Beautiful testimony, Catholic Mom. Thank you.
God created us naked but sin gave us guilt & shame, expelled Adam & Eve out Garden of Eden and God made clothes out of leather to cover their nakedness; Genesis 3:27 “Unto Adam also and to his wife did the LORD God make coats of skins, and clothed them.” So, in effect, Adam and Eve were clothed first with innocence, and later with sin and shame.
I've never thought about the way I dress before but I just got this thought like, you wouldn't wear bikinis or booty shorts in front of your father so why wear them in front of God. Same with men, would they wear less clothes in front of their fathers and God? I wouldn't, I'm always covered up (and I'm really self conscious 😂)
well said! :)
As a husband and father of 4 girls ranging from 18 to 3…. You should dress in a manner that brings focus to how you wanted to be interpreted. If you are dressing in a manner that reveals your intimate parts or leaves little to the imagination then you’re sending the wrong message and your point on we are more than just our bodies is exactly the point that are close should echo or reflect.
My family has mostly lived in warmer climates whether it was Southern California or Florida so yes we wore a lot of shorts and sleeveless T-shirts tank tops but it’s never been OK to wear crop tops it’s never been OK to have super short shorts your clothing should not mimic underwear.
Being a full figure petite women. It is hard to find skirts and tops etc. Modesty..is hard in my case. If you have a friend who has the same plroblem. Please video. Of that.
This is a good subject even though I'm a guy there's some things that makes me impure thoughts when a woman doesn't cover her breast properly since I struggle in that area women need to cover their breasts breast
Thanks for the video! When I was listening, the only thing that surprised me is that you said that tribal topless women can't afford tops, and that's why they go topless. That doesn't sound quite true to me, my instinct is that its a cultural norm. Would love to hear more from anyone that has research about this. Thanks!
My thoughts the way women dress the dress should not be very short have you at the beach you should not be wearing bikini it should be swimsuit at one piece not two piece. But at church it should not be a very short dress below the kneesor a dress all the way down the ankles
Im Catholic and this is what I want my channel to be about!!!
Why wear a one piece when you could wear a burkini (full body coverage, like Muslim women wear)?
Thank you so much for making this video! This is great and something that everyone needs to be aware of.
Hey Heather! Thanks for this video! I would enjoy more videos about this. I was wondering if you have a favorite brand or website that has modest clothes? When I shop, I look for things that aren't too tight, sheer, low cut, and at least knee length or longer. It's hard for me to find trendy, semi-casual, affordable, clothes for the office and church. It's tiring looking at many different places and only find one item that matches all my criteria.
I am not sure of any but I'll see what I can do to find some! I get most of my clothes from Marshalls in the ladies section:)
We should dress properly when we go to Mass . I wear jeans and a nice shirt that's a proper for going to mass. And the reason I wear jeans I don't have nice pants set fits me
Love this Heather! Yes, please do more videos on beauty!
Noticed the same about Mormon dress listening to them sing. These reflect the dress of the 50ts and are very modest.You are dead right about men being visual. Enjoyed the video and plain talking.
I think that modesty is not just about covering up, but it's also about not concerning oneself too much with the trends! I have never liked to show my skin, but I have certainly been TOO interested in dressing well (stylish).
Firstly, thank you for your videos. I have learned so much from them & enjoy you so much. Secondly, would you do a video on wearing or not wearing a veil to mass? Thank you & God Bless.
I completely agree ! Bravo!
HELLO FROM A SUBSCRIBER. WELL , I AM A MALE BUT IS THERE A PLACE FOR ME HERE ? JUST KIIDING. NICE SHOW.
Cool! I am getting to know about it now. In Brazil only more tradicional people discuss about it. Thanks God I am feeling that way too.
You are so right! I have been trying to get this point across in my family for many years! Of course most of it falls on deaf ears! God Bless You!✝️🙏🏻
I absolutely love and respect you and I really look up to you. I love what you say about “what wold the saints wear” - such rich food for thought, thank you for that.
As a British catholic whose parents originate from Nigeria, it is highly inaccurate to say that African and other tribal cultures don’t wear shirts because of affordability. I would lovingly encourage you to do a bit more research on the topic and would also be happy to discuss/educate/share info with you!
Thank you for pointing that out!
I was wondering if you ever read what Saint Padre Pio had to say about modesty? We also have some guidelines given to us by the Vatican under Pope Pius XI. May Mary guide you all through your humble modesty journey.
Catholicmodesty.com has some great ressources.
Mamande4 i haven’t but I love Padre Pio! I’ll have to check it out😊
Thank you so much for this video! Dressing modestly was something that took a long time for me to understand. Even though in my heart I never felt comfortable wearing a bikini. I am still able to wear a lot of the cloths I used to wear I just put tank tops on underneath things or cardigans on to make it more modest. Love everything you do Heather!
You are a young woman, and you makes me happy. I am old man that so loves the Lord
That's the way my mom used to dress very long dress.
Tribal people wear less clothes because they generally come from hot parts of the world - not because they can’t afford shirts !
Melissa Hutchins they don’t need them - it is hot
Yes, you are daughters of God. Yes you are beautiful.
Totally recommend withloveleena here on UA-cam as well!! She is a beautiful Muslim woman who wears hijab and is soooo stylish and very very modest!! 💕
Yes, you are a soul, first and foremost
Can you do a video about chastity and humility?
I will write it on my list:)
Yes, you are a good person.
You have such a gift of speaking! No wonder God wanted you to make a UA-cam channel. You approached this topic beautifully. I wasn't going to comment, but then you said you'd welcome our thoughts. I don't think one-piece bathing suits are modest. Basically one's whole body is showing...The part that isn't showing is covered in skin tight clingy material. I've heard men say that for them skin tight (pants etc) is the same as if the woman were walking around naked. What do you think of this? Does your husband also say that? I usually go to the beach in knee length loose shorts. I feel really daggy, but I would prefer to be daggy and cover up and honour God. What do you think? Am I being over the top?
What would you say is the Catholic point of view of women wearing head covering. I see it is biblical. Xx
Praise the Lord.
Thanks✝️❗️
Do you subscribe to the monthly fashion boxes? Where do you typically shop?
Dad used to be christian i was raised in a christian home but no meal blessings not dad does not approve of religion and including wicca ect
"religion should not be taken seriously"
so i cannot have a altar in my room i am a adult but an thinking of making a portable altar or shrine and getting a catholic altar this channel and assesion presents are inspirational
I'm sorry, but the reasoning of dressing ourselves in such a way as not to lead others to sin is misguided. Yes, it is true to a certain extent about men being visual etc - but it's absurd to make it the main basis for standards of modesty. There is really no end to it, because who decides what's most attractive to a given man? Hair can be very sexy, why not cover it. Faces are beautiful, why not cover them. Eyes can be very alluring, gazes flirtatious, why not cover them to make sure. This is the logical consequence of this line of thinking, which we know comes true in certain parts of the world. And it's not very Catholic. On the other hand, I think it also an outdated view that completely ignores female sexual temptations. Modern idol culture shows very clearly that we can lust after a guy's looks, and although yeah, it's a bit different than with guys, noone thinks to call it immodest for a guy to roll up his shirtsleeves (which would in many ways act on a girl like a deep décolleté would on a guy) or be outraged about a well tailored suit. Neither men nor women should dress with the other sex in mind; we should all dress for God. And then, maybe a bit for the art of it in itself.
So I think that while we all have to be kind to one another and generally speaking not parade half-naked publicly (that includes boys without shirts), I think it's most important to think about ourselves AND each other in terms other than sexual. Women should not present themselves to the world as sexual objects, not because some guys won't be above accepting this message on its face value, but because it is a fundamentally untrue and unwholesome way of looking at a person, ourselves or another. If you think your sexual appeal is the only or the best thing you have to offer the world - you don't have a healthy understanding of your own identity as a Child of God, as a human being. Our bodies are good and beautiful; we are not even souls that have bodies, we are people of both material and spiritual nature; treating your body as if it is a thing, to flaunt or to cover in shame, is a skewed view. Our body is how we function in the world. How we present ourselves matters as an expression of the internal attitude and as the shape of our interactions. That's why we should dress in a way that expresses our belonging to God and as a visualisation to others of our wholesomeness.
And it'd be pointless to deny that the specifics of that dress are based in culture and context. Climax, tradition, situation, even fashions dictate different standards; as well as one's personal tastes dictate the choices. It's one of those situations when every Catholic has to discern what is suitable AND in accordance to the virtues we want to cultivate in ourselves.
I think we need to remember that modesty is just that, a virtue, and not a set of demarcation lines on arms and legs and neck. It's not even a part of chastity; it's about a way of life consistent with Truth. And the most relevant truth here is: our beauty is not about sexual attraction or even physical perfection, but about our nature and our relationship with God. We tend to forget that part of Christian modesty is also simplicity of life (tending rather towards poverty than overt luxury), as opposite to an attachment to the material - and again, not primarily in order to make it easier for others to avoid the sin of envy (although it would in fact be sinful if this WAS our goal and a reason for flaunting wealth), but to express and shape our own hearts as looking towards Heaven and not towards earthly riches.
It's not a sin to want to look pretty and pay a healthy amount of attention to our looks, or even to want to look attractive for our spouse - nor to take care of one's own or one's family material needs, appreciate and enjoy what we have, work for things we wish we could afford. It's a question of balance and making sure our intentions are pure and God-led. And it's hard to discern for someone else. So I think the best course of action is probably to try not to judge others, and presume their good intentions, and when faced with temptation - no matter if actually "meant" by someone or not - fight it off without focusing on blaming people for the difficulty (even righteously).
I do hope I don't come off too argumentative; it's not lije you've said anything that was wrong, or even neglected something. It's just that I thought the accents weren't placed in the best places. And I think modesty is very important in our hypersexualised age and society.
So much good brain food here! I literally just filmed a video saying many of the things you just expressed (albeit far less eloquently). I love it when intelligent people can put logical words to ideas i have in my head. As you stated, Heather is correct in her statements but you bring up points that are all facets of modesty that go beyond dress. I would argue though that modesty is part of Chastity since it falls under the virtue of temperance which is related to purity of heart, body and soul (modesty being related to purity of body). I’m no theologian but it makes sense to me that chastity, temperance, purity of body, would all be related. Thoughts?
TheCrunchyCatholics Oh!! Thank you for your kind words :)) (btw I'm a subscriber of yours, too, and love your videos!) Well, you're absolutely right and modesty would fall under chastity if one thinks about it in terms of the classification you've brought up; but I would say it can also be looked at as falling more directly under temperence. Within the seven cardinal virtues, chastity is seperate from temperence as such, and with that in mind I guess I was trying to argue that a way of dressing according to our dignity should be perceived in more general terms as a part of a temperete lifestyle - rather than focusing on the inchaste aspect of overtly expressing our sexuality through clothing. I feel like that would help avoid bringing it back down to just how it relates to sex and thus help underline the point of thinking about human physicality more wholesomely (thus better combating both disordered view of sexuality AND other evil roots and causes of immodesty). Idk, I'm not super attached to this point; maybe I'm going too far with these fine distinctions. Your clear point gave me a pause, maybe I was dangerously close to oversimplifying sexual chastity instead. (I'm definately no theologian either, and I suspect you're much better versed in various sources; to my defence what I have read was largely not in English and not even in any of the English-speaking scholarly traditions, so I might be sometimes simply fuzzy about translating my understanding correctly, or possibly used to different interpretations - although here I wasn't thinking of any specific one other than my own). In the end, you are absolutely right that temperence, purity and modesty are all irrevocably linked, and in any case will support each other. And that's probably the most important thing.
Do you have any ideas on how to teach modesty to a toddler? Lol! My 3 year old loves wearing dresses but she lifts up her dress or sits and moves around in ways where she’s flashing. After telling her repeatedly to sit properly, it’s like she’s not getting the message (probably because she’s only 3) so I just gave in and got her biker shorts to wear under her dresses. Am I missing something in doing that? I figured I would just keep doing that until she’s old enough to understand.
I think that's great I would do the same thing since she is so young:) Shorts under a dress is the best way to go!
no fashions/ trends r modest
Hi Heather, great video as always! I work in a college town and everyday I see everything from women who show great modesty to women who pretty much put everything on display. I don't remember the exact quote but I remember watching a video featuring the Venerable Fulton Sheen who referred to what he called "Sanctifying Beauty", I believe modesty is part of that.
Love Fulton Sheen! Thank you for sharing
Of course. I love Fulton Sheen as well. I recently discovered his videos this past month and he is an amazing speaker!
Yes, let's get everyone get to heaven.
Do you like Skorts
Love your videos x while I dress modestly I'm struggling with on how to remain modest but still look attractive to my husband. Is it a sin to still want to be attractive to our husbands or to wear fancy night wear. Its so hard to know where do you draw the line. Please speak on this. Xx
I think it is a great thing to look attractive for our husbands! From what I understand Mother Mary was very attractive so there is nothing wrong with looking attractive but we want to cloth our self with dignity at the same time:) It might be a fine line with our husbands because even in marriage we don't want to be a object. I recommend "The Good News about Sex and Marriage" by Christopher West he talks all about Theology of the Body which is from Pope John Paul II I think that might be helpful! :)
A Catholic Mom's Life thank you for getting back to me x love your videos😚
I’m all for dressing modestly. I feel like there is too much skin out there whenever we go outside. If more people dresses modestly then it would be sort of the norm alongside with the bikinis. I like your thought about how people that show more skin are hiding their true selves.
Yes, Joanna Gaines is cooler than cool
I’m sorry but I couldn’t care less about what men CHOOSE to do with their thoughts after CHOOSING to look at me as an object and the consequences they will face for it The majority of men don’t even try to practice self control and it makes me so angry. They are fully capable but they literally don’t even try. Of course not all of them are like this. Certainly men of God aren’t like this. I dress modestly for God and MYself only not for them. I know it sounds selfish and it’s something I should work on but i don’t know. Experiences I’ve faced in the past unfortunately ticked me off and now I don’t care about dressing modestly for their sake.
If women help men get to heaven by being modest (because men are visusl) and men help women get to heaven by not using flattering words (because women are audio) especially in the work place, the world will be a better place .It is like denying yourself and your own pleasure for the other's good. This is the central commandment- to love the other as yourself.
Similarly women work against abortion which is a great sacrifice on their part, and men speak against rape. Otherwise it is just men screaming against abortion and women screaming against rape
Most men I know don't lust after women they see them as a beautiful person being themselves. And why would be a lot more boring if we all dress like that