I feel that Victor’s confidence provides an appreciation for the women that many men are incapable of reaching. Some men instead feel threatened or their ego does not allow them to appreciate a confident forthright woman.
This video was super helpful for me! As a 23 year old virgin there is SOO much judgement on not only me but also others who aren’t necessarily waiting for marriage, but are waiting for the right person!
It’s just insane to me. There will always be those kinds of people that no matter what you do, it’s wrong. I went through high school being the ‘prude girl’ of my friend group. And then pretty much the whole school. But a few other of my friends who were more experienced, got called all kinds of names. Sometimes as women we feel we can never win! But the older I got, the more I started to not care what people think! That’s amazing that you’ve been able to do what YOU want to do, and not feel pressured by people or just todays society. Bc it’s crazy out there, I get it! You’re amazing!
Growing up with this mindset I was always so proud of my decision to wait.. even when someone said I was being prude or whatever, I never saw it as a negative, but I also expected my partner to have the same value and I wouldn’t date someone who didn’t have that belief as well so it’s personal opinion and looking back i would 10000% choose this again
Sarah girl, trust me, you aren’t missing anything!!!!!!! it will be a beautiful thing waiting for marriage, or just the right setting/person! The car isn’t a cute place
Just a reminder that everyone is different, sex drives, relationships etc. and that’s okay! - Normal amount is what feels good for you and your partner :) however, I want to point out having sex once a week is actually statistically average. Just wanted to add that incase anyone felt poorly after you mentioned it should be five times a week ❤️ No shame! But when in a long term relationship that typically starts to decrease quite a bit! Everyone is different ☺️
My partner and I have a pretty non-sexual relationship (religious trauma/shame) and we’re honestly so happy. Learning how to just be happy and not force ourselves to society’s expectations of sex has been so freeing
This is the first video I've seen of people saying sex is normal, great, and should be discussed, while also having the body language to back up that they actually believe that. I've seen other videos of people making the same statement and then look super awkward once the questions start coming in, and while those videos are still good at promoting a better dialogue about sex, it's just nice to see people make that statement and then actually look like they believe it. I love this video.
I love that he brought up how the us is weird about sex vs other countries being open about sex. Loved this video! It’s so important to have a positive view of sex as opposed to a shameful one. Definitely something I’m doing with my kids 🖤
You’re the realest, most transparent online personality. I’ve seen so many of these types of videos but none this in depth or honest. This really felt like talking to my best friends or older siblings!
Adult Kat has such good advice, the inner child exercise, where you give little kat a voice about her wounds and feelings and then let adult kat comfort and reassure her. Self care is very literal.
I think this is the only not-bait video I’ve ever watched about this subject. Thank you so much for doing this, because showing how comfortable you are with sex and with talking about it helps lots of people. Really, great video Kat!
This video is helped me so much with what I’m worried/insecure about: 26(going 27) and still a virgin and what to do when the time comes. It’s like the anxiety before taking a test lol. Y’all took a HUGE weight off my shoulders. Thanks Kat and Vic!
Sex, without emotional attachment, is not worth having!!!!! It's a waste if it's no emotion. That's the whole point of it so you can BUILD a better connection through sexual intimacy. Everyone who continues to give themselves away constantly, wow. I could never.
It’s important to remember a lot can factor into your sex drive/life. Medication, depression/anxiety, chronic illness and relationship problems. Just in case anyone needed reassurance about how often they have sex rn 🤗
When I was pregnant, my sex drive increased like crazy. As it can feel uncomfortable later in pregnancy, there are some comfortable positions you can be in when pregnant!
Kat, I agree with your decision not to disclose certain things. Your head is on straight. At no point would you want your daughter to hear you speak badly about "him." I saw a video where you looked a little sad. First one. Read some of the comments and didn't know what happened. Now I do. This may not be something you want to hear, but... I guarantee no matter what the situation your x misses you. You are probably in a different place now since it's a year later. You will have bad days. You will rise above it. Now have some fun! 😉❤❤
So interesting to hear victors perspective on sex in Latino culture bc as a woman from a South American country (Ecuador so not too far) my experience was soooo different. Sex was something you don't talk about. The sex talks I got were so vague and uncomfortable and I didn't discuss the topic even with my best friends.
Yeah it’s night and day as a Latin@ woman vs man. Women aren’t allowed to talk about it openly or enjoy it as much, that “openness” with “everyone talking about it” is mostly for men. Women are still kept in a virgin/madonna box and ofc purity culture is huuuuuge…! Way bigger than in US imho. Waiting for marriage is still stressed by the older generation. Unless you’re a boy, of course. 🙄
There’s research backed evidence that having sex too early before you’re able to really process the emotions that come up around it or before you have developed a little maturity to reflect on the feelings that come up can actually have harmful long term effects. I think having sex later is great!
On the spiritual side- everyone has spirits(aka demons) they deal with and sleeping with a person is connecting spirits. Therefore, you will end up with theirs and yours and vice averse 😮 The Bible says “you become one flesh” Whether you believe it or not it is emotional and science shows the hormonal effect. Be wise and protect yourself from promiscuous people especially when you both may feel lost 😞
I’ve been saying this so much that sex is not talked about enough!!! Great job Kat. !! Pretty sure I spelt your name wrong in a previous comment haha 🤦♀️❤❤ Thanks for being so real.
This was a great vid!!! I wish I could have seen this at 16. I was a late bloomer too. Victor and I are in the 19 year old club 😁 honestly, when you’re a teen, it was just there early bloomers who made everyone else feel insecure. Anyways, loved both of your answers 😁🥰
Great informative video for all .. happily married for 21 years ! I have a 15-year-old son thank you Victor for the good advice I talk to him about sex, maybe I should do more! 😊again thank you kat! love and light to you all..♥️🌀
I feel like size doesn't matter I think it's more the emotional connection matters more. I don't necessarily think it's bad if someone prefers bigger but I don't think that should be their only intention behind finding someone. they should want the connection for themselves I feel like everyone deserves to be truly happy with someone and if all you see someone for is their size then that's not much to keep someone for a long period of time I feel like. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say I'm not good with words sometimes in a message lol
I’m the weird 39 year old girl watching you, Kat! But you’re the cutest girl and I love the confidence you portray to other women! I felt the pressure to lose my virginity. I kept getting mixed messages from society. What’s a girl to do 🤦🏻♀️ I was 19 when I lost my virginity and it was to my high school sweetheart. But it was terrible sex! Terrible! Now, I wish I could go back. I was diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer. I had a full hysterectomy. I can’t take hormone replacement so my sex life has ended! Live it up ladies!!! Don’t have regrets! Xo
My partner and I were married at 17yrs old we are both now 61yrs old and we have very recently purchased some new toys for the bedroom. We are on holiday ATM, I’m still not brave enough to put them in my luggage though 😂😂
I think the emotional part of sex is more important for a woman than a man..just my opinion. I'm 57 and it's different at all ages. But from my perspective and experiences, I needed the feelings and love to be sexual with someone. I did have an experience that there wasn't any emotional feelings with the guy and I hated it, but he was totally fine with it. It did not last long..lol. Do any of the women on here agree with me or no? 😁💖✌️. Ps..it's best to pee before and after sex!!! I used to get many bladder infections after I became sexually active (I've had kidney issues since childhood) peeing before and after sex helped sooo much!!! 😉
Should be a stress relief. If its exhausting you are probably in need of some R&R but if thats not normal for you then thats ok too. Everyone has different sex drives & no one should feel bad about how often or how rarely they have it unless its bothering you yourself within your relationship if that makes sense
It's 3am here, I have a newborn with reflux who just won't sleep. So am holding him to sleep, put my earbuds in and watching this video for some semblance of sanity 🤣.
I feel that Victor’s confidence provides an appreciation for the women that many men are incapable of reaching. Some men instead feel threatened or their ego does not allow them to appreciate a confident forthright woman.
This video was super helpful for me! As a 23 year old virgin there is SOO much judgement on not only me but also others who aren’t necessarily waiting for marriage, but are waiting for the right person!
Yes love this !
@@katstickler5757 I love the female empowerment that is always oozing out of you! Thank you 🥺❤️
It’s just insane to me. There will always be those kinds of people that no matter what you do, it’s wrong. I went through high school being the ‘prude girl’ of my friend group. And then pretty much the whole school. But a few other of my friends who were more experienced, got called all kinds of names. Sometimes as women we feel we can never win! But the older I got, the more I started to not care what people think! That’s amazing that you’ve been able to do what YOU want to do, and not feel pressured by people or just todays society. Bc it’s crazy out there, I get it! You’re amazing!
Growing up with this mindset I was always so proud of my decision to wait.. even when someone said I was being prude or whatever, I never saw it as a negative, but I also expected my partner to have the same value and I wouldn’t date someone who didn’t have that belief as well so it’s personal opinion and looking back i would 10000% choose this again
Sarah girl, trust me, you aren’t missing anything!!!!!!! it will be a beautiful thing waiting for marriage, or just the right setting/person! The car isn’t a cute place
Victor seems like a great partner not because he’s great looking, but because of the way he is so open about intimacy
Just a reminder that everyone is different, sex drives, relationships etc. and that’s okay! - Normal amount is what feels good for you and your partner :) however, I want to point out having sex once a week is actually statistically average. Just wanted to add that incase anyone felt poorly after you mentioned it should be five times a week ❤️ No shame! But when in a long term relationship that typically starts to decrease quite a bit! Everyone is different ☺️
My partner and I have a pretty non-sexual relationship (religious trauma/shame) and we’re honestly so happy. Learning how to just be happy and not force ourselves to society’s expectations of sex has been so freeing
Sex also drops of as you get older .. aaand sex doesn’t have to include penis vagina/anus penetration.. there’s so much more than that
Foreplay begins ... "as soon as you wake up" ... physical or not ... even an uplifting/thoughtful text.
Great advice (reminder).
This is the first video I've seen of people saying sex is normal, great, and should be discussed, while also having the body language to back up that they actually believe that. I've seen other videos of people making the same statement and then look super awkward once the questions start coming in, and while those videos are still good at promoting a better dialogue about sex, it's just nice to see people make that statement and then actually look like they believe it. I love this video.
Yup i also wanna say that but you said first ..
After a month i got notification from this video like 😂
I love that he brought up how the us is weird about sex vs other countries being open about sex. Loved this video! It’s so important to have a positive view of sex as opposed to a shameful one. Definitely something I’m doing with my kids 🖤
You’re the realest, most transparent online personality. I’ve seen so many of these types of videos but none this in depth or honest. This really felt like talking to my best friends or older siblings!
Never been so early to a video! The playfulness of Kat and the maturity of Victor such a good combo. More videos together pleaseeee
Coming right up!
Y’all have such a sweet, open relationship. Love that you’re on here sharing more of your life ♥️
Thank you so much for being here Molly ! 💕
Victor is so mature! Love the openness with y’all in this video.
HE IS! Thank you !
Adult Kat has such good advice, the inner child exercise, where you give little kat a voice about her wounds and feelings and then let adult kat comfort and reassure her. Self care is very literal.
i love how comfortable you are talking about this with your cousin 😅
😂
I think this is the only not-bait video I’ve ever watched about this subject. Thank you so much for doing this, because showing how comfortable you are with sex and with talking about it helps lots of people.
Really, great video Kat!
Wow thank you so much Ana! 💕
This video is helped me so much with what I’m worried/insecure about: 26(going 27) and still a virgin and what to do when the time comes. It’s like the anxiety before taking a test lol. Y’all took a HUGE weight off my shoulders. Thanks Kat and Vic!
Sex, without emotional attachment, is not worth having!!!!! It's a waste if it's no emotion. That's the whole point of it so you can BUILD a better connection through sexual intimacy. Everyone who continues to give themselves away constantly, wow. I could never.
It’s important to remember a lot can factor into your sex drive/life. Medication, depression/anxiety, chronic illness and relationship problems. Just in case anyone needed reassurance about how often they have sex rn 🤗
Yes exactly !!
Such an attractive family. I love that you guys are all so close. I wish I had grown up with siblings.
I am so impressed with this! I love how openly and matter of factly you talked about this
When I was pregnant, my sex drive increased like crazy. As it can feel uncomfortable later in pregnancy, there are some comfortable positions you can be in when pregnant!
YES!
Kat, I agree with your decision not to disclose certain things. Your head is on straight. At no point would you want your daughter to hear you speak badly about "him." I saw a video where you looked a little sad. First one. Read some of the comments and didn't know what happened. Now I do. This may not be something you want to hear, but... I guarantee no matter what the situation your x misses you. You are probably in a different place now since it's a year later. You will have bad days. You will rise above it. Now have some fun! 😉❤❤
Not victor looking shy but being a freak on the low
So interesting to hear victors perspective on sex in Latino culture bc as a woman from a South American country (Ecuador so not too far) my experience was soooo different. Sex was something you don't talk about. The sex talks I got were so vague and uncomfortable and I didn't discuss the topic even with my best friends.
Yeah it’s night and day as a Latin@ woman vs man. Women aren’t allowed to talk about it openly or enjoy it as much, that “openness” with “everyone talking about it” is mostly for men. Women are still kept in a virgin/madonna box and ofc purity culture is huuuuuge…! Way bigger than in US imho. Waiting for marriage is still stressed by the older generation. Unless you’re a boy, of course. 🙄
GOODNESS GRACIOUS☺️ HE DOESN’T HAVE TO TRY TO LOOK HOT!!! HIS SEXY “CONFIDENT” SMILE SAYS IT ALL!!!! THANKS FOR THIS VIDEO!!!! YOU GO GIRL!!!
I lost my v card at age 19 almost 20 when I got married to my husband who also was a virgin at age 22. Being a virgin is NOT a bad thing.
I completely agree!!!
Wonderful video, loved Victor! Thank you for being real!
Great video - well done.
Victor - you did great!!!!
Thank you both for sharing.
If these two people are together then they will never ever ever ever last. It will never last.
wow Kat you are so amazing answering to all of the comments here?? thank you for being as authentical
Thank you so much for being here 💕
Why does Kats cousin look like a Hispanic Justin Bieber, if he were to shave his beard I think they’d look so much alike😳
I can definitely see that!
Omg I can’t unsee a Hispanic Justin Bieber now 😆😆😆😆
I have heard this a lot !!!😂
There’s research backed evidence that having sex too early before you’re able to really process the emotions that come up around it or before you have developed a little maturity to reflect on the feelings that come up can actually have harmful long term effects. I think having sex later is great!
Yay victor! This video was brilliant Kat. I love the open conversation.
Love this!! This is sooo helpful and not talked about enough!
So informative & confidence boosting! Honestly didn’t feel as awkward as I thought it would haha
Im glad 😂
I was brought up here in US but my mom is Venezuelan, so a lot of your videos are so relatable to me lol keep up the good work!
ok we love victor. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 i hope he meets his lady soon!
Awe very sweet !!
How do you talk this way in front of your cousin I would be mortified 😱😅 and I’m Hispanic 😅
Colombia represent!🇨🇴 Such an important topic to de-stigmatize, loved watching!
Thank you so much!!!
Goodness girl! With a 6,4 and 2 year olds once weekly is the most we usually get 😴
I could imagine !
On the spiritual side- everyone has spirits(aka demons) they deal with and sleeping with a person is connecting spirits. Therefore, you will end up with theirs and yours and vice averse 😮
The Bible says “you become one flesh”
Whether you believe it or not it is emotional and science shows the hormonal effect. Be wise and protect yourself from promiscuous people especially when you both may feel lost 😞
Love the video & tips, Kat!!
Also PS
Please be careful with the Boric Acid and be sure you check with your gyno before use! It’s not for everyone
This was refreshingly chill & honest! Also, your primo is a fox! Raawr!
I’ve been saying this so much that sex is not talked about enough!!! Great job Kat. !! Pretty sure I spelt your name wrong in a previous comment haha 🤦♀️❤❤ Thanks for being so real.
I’d be so nervous that my parents would see this! Lol but like you said, it’s a different culture! You go guys!
Waiting to hear from them soon
😂
This was a great vid!!! I wish I could have seen this at 16. I was a late bloomer too. Victor and I are in the 19 year old club 😁 honestly, when you’re a teen, it was just there early bloomers who made everyone else feel insecure. Anyways, loved both of your answers 😁🥰
Sex without romantic feelings is great. Aren’t embarrassed and more open to trying more since I don’t care what they think.
First video I’ve ever watched and you are the cutest. So mature and playful
Thank you for being here Kaylyn💕
I am overweight in general but let me tell you, when I was pregnant and huge, thats when I felt the sexiest! It was so weird! Lol
I’m ☠️ at Victors face when you were discussing PH balancers
Soo confused 😂
@@katstickler5757 just another ✨secret of womanhood✨
thank you so much for this video and the product links. i can't trust everyone and their reviews of products, but i knew i could trust you
Great informative video for all .. happily married for 21 years ! I have a 15-year-old son thank you Victor for the good advice I talk to him about sex, maybe I should do more! 😊again thank you kat! love and light to you all..♥️🌀
Thank you so much for being here !💕
I wish I had watched this before my last relationship...which was my first after divorcing 30 years ago..
Can you do a whole video on how you balance? PLEASE ❤️❤️
I feel like size doesn't matter I think it's more the emotional connection matters more. I don't necessarily think it's bad if someone prefers bigger but I don't think that should be their only intention behind finding someone. they should want the connection for themselves I feel like everyone deserves to be truly happy with someone and if all you see someone for is their size then that's not much to keep someone for a long period of time I feel like. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say I'm not good with words sometimes in a message lol
Yes I completely understand what you are saying ! 💕
Perfect 🥰 I love this 😀 and the cousin duo is amazing 👏
I’m the weird 39 year old girl watching you, Kat! But you’re the cutest girl and I love the confidence you portray to other women! I felt the pressure to lose my virginity. I kept getting mixed messages from society. What’s a girl to do 🤦🏻♀️ I was 19 when I lost my virginity and it was to my high school sweetheart. But it was terrible sex! Terrible! Now, I wish I could go back. I was diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer. I had a full hysterectomy. I can’t take hormone replacement so my sex life has ended! Live it up ladies!!! Don’t have regrets! Xo
NOT WERID AT ALL!💕 Wow Kara that you so much for sharing your story! I hope everything is well with you and sending all the positivity your way!
we like victorrrr
I’m loving you UA-cam channel ❤❤❤❤
wow I fully expected the comments to be about Victor 😂 aight time to watch 🧐
They love some Victor!
My libido disappeared so quick after I gave birth. Still nonexistent after 4 years🙃
My partner and I were married at 17yrs old we are both now 61yrs old and we have very recently purchased some new toys for the bedroom. We are on holiday ATM, I’m still not brave enough to put them in my luggage though 😂😂
Great video! Confidence is definitely key!
Thank you !!
I think the emotional part of sex is more important for a woman than a man..just my opinion. I'm 57 and it's different at all ages. But from my perspective and experiences, I needed the feelings and love to be sexual with someone. I did have an experience that there wasn't any emotional feelings with the guy and I hated it, but he was totally fine with it. It did not last long..lol. Do any of the women on here agree with me or no? 😁💖✌️. Ps..it's best to pee before and after sex!!! I used to get many bladder infections after I became sexually active (I've had kidney issues since childhood) peeing before and after sex helped sooo much!!! 😉
Love the new intro Kat
Okay, you're both 10x more intimidating after this, but thanks for the tips and links!
of course!
We need a Like 👍🏼 Love ❤️ We want more please 🙏🏼 button!!!
👏🏼Nice job Victor!
Your confidence outshined your nervousness 10 fold!
Thank you so much Rebecca!!!
Omg cousin victor ! Is a hottie 😍
I LOVE YOU 😍😩 I’ve never been so early!!!
I love you !!!
Is this real life?! 😍
Love your energy Kat 🥰
Thank you so much Reneta💕
I adore Kat! ❤️
The first time I had sex after being divorced, I cried in front of the guy. It was so embarrassing lol
I opened this and started playing it at a hair salon. I closed it so fast 😂😂
My apologies 😂
@@katstickler5757 hilarious I laughed!
This was great! Loved it.
Thank you Louisa !
Yessss haha sticking with #katskittens I love it
Yay go Victor! 👏🏽
5 times a week?! Girl, that sounds tiring. Lmao even for a new relationship 🤣
It is possible, even the several times a day. It depends on the libido of each!
Strong emotional connection 👍
he reminds me so much of a younger jake Gyllenhaal
I heard that and Justin Bieber!
5x a week? Oy. Sounds exhausting lol
really?!
I second this 😂
Facts lmao
@@katstickler5757 I don’t think so at all if it works it works!! Some people are more sexually intimate than others
Should be a stress relief. If its exhausting you are probably in need of some R&R but if thats not normal for you then thats ok too. Everyone has different sex drives & no one should feel bad about how often or how rarely they have it unless its bothering you yourself within your relationship if that makes sense
I LOVE VICTOR
Heyy victor 😊
Go Victor!!! 🙌🏻😂
Mujer you are the best I love your spirit
It's 3am here, I have a newborn with reflux who just won't sleep. So am holding him to sleep, put my earbuds in and watching this video for some semblance of sanity 🤣.
Yep! Got my headphones in too because my 8 month old is sleeping in my room haha
@@sydney2141 Cheers mamma! 🍻 Not all superheroes wear a cape.🤣
This means so much to me! 💕
@@scribblepixi Best of luck with your little guy! I’m sure that’s been tough but he has a great mama! ❤️
@@sydney2141 Aww thank you . Good luck you too 😊
Victorrrrr hola guapitooo!
Victor is so cute
He's single!
I believe this falls under public service information. 😄
He. Is. Gorgeous.
Ok but your cousin is cute 😂
Go get a toy kat 🤣 you’re awesome. We love you💜
LOVE YOU!
Wearing that awesome lipstick!!!! : )
Is it just me or does Victor look like Justin Bieber with black hair and an accent..?!
Boric acid is the GOAT. Period!
I couldn’t tell he was nervous at all. And I wish he would take that sweatshirt off so I can see the view 😅 he can be my kitten girlllll 😂 🤤
😱😱😱😱 okay now can we have him
😂
Holy shit. Your cousin is Manny Ribera.
I LOVE YOU KATTTT ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love you !!
That# called for play . Trust me unless you work at it sex can become for a man robotic. He really needs to learn control and communication !
Part 2!
No man should be allowed to be that good looking. Oh my lanta.
He says thank you !😉
Okeeey Victor, cuando te das una vuelta por sudamerica