Why “self help” isn’t helping your ADHD

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  • @tomoakley760
    @tomoakley760 2 роки тому +87

    I'm beginning to think that creative expression is to ADHD peeps what self help is to 'regular' folks. I can get into flow state when taking photos, or writing fiction, or dicking around in Super Mario Maker, far more than I get from 'self help habits' like meditation or gratitude lists etc. The best self help is whatever *actually* helps yourself, and nothing helps me like having a creative outlet.

    • @TheFoxkid4444
      @TheFoxkid4444 2 роки тому +4

      Same here, being creative is what helps me the most.

  • @christiankleiser733
    @christiankleiser733 Рік тому +11

    "I'm always trying to be that future version of myself instead of joining the present version of who I am"
    This blew my mind... YES!!!

  • @Eonchamp
    @Eonchamp 3 роки тому +43

    not tying your self worth to where you're at in life WHILE still working toward being a better you is spot on. great video

    • @typierson
      @typierson  3 роки тому +4

      I’m glad we see eye to eye on this! I feel like it’s so important

  • @wolvilataniere
    @wolvilataniere 3 роки тому +50

    I can totally relate to these experiences, except for the socialising part. I've been diagnosed with ADHD 2 month ago, at 34, and I'm probably also autistic. Basically spent my whole life wondering why everything everyone seems to do easily is so hard for me (working 8h a day, do the dishes, hangout with people...), except for my special interests where I tend to shine.
    Diagnosis (and treatment) are liberating.

  • @matanbitton
    @matanbitton 3 роки тому +25

    I have never in my life related more to a video than this one before.
    I probably read and listened to more than 100 self help books, watched hours of videos, tried implementing dozens of strategies but nothing lasted they all worked for a a lil while and that’s it.
    I tried meditations (1 hour everyday), working out, sleep schedule’s, diets,
    But still I wasn’t able to accomplish anything I wanted.
    I always had this feeling like I wasn’t living to my true potential and now I’m beginning to realize that my ADHD might be the cause.
    Time to try medications.
    Thank you for this very important video!

  • @constanceb8620
    @constanceb8620 Рік тому +4

    This is very relatable. I have been diagnosed with ADHD a few months ago and starting my medication today. Everything you are sharing about your feelings of trying your hardest to better yourself because you feel something's up but can't quite figure what, failing at it, therefore being harmful to yourself...man...I feel seen. The problem was never us, just the ignorance of how an ADHD brain works. Knowledge is power !
    Thank you for this video and sharing all of those dark times you went through, I wish a younger me would have found a video like yours. I am sure this is reaching the right people. You go Ty ! And thank you.

  • @graysonovery1449
    @graysonovery1449 3 роки тому +5

    This whole video was a “mic drop” moment

  • @nichlasgronlund2758
    @nichlasgronlund2758 2 роки тому +8

    Pretty much everything resonates, diagnosed at 41 and with medication all of a sudden i don’t feel (or act) like an big bag of unfullfilled potential! Lifechanging!

    • @typierson
      @typierson  2 роки тому +1

      Stoked for you!!

    • @DigitalPRCourses
      @DigitalPRCourses Рік тому

      How you doing now?

    • @nichlasgronlund5328
      @nichlasgronlund5328 Рік тому +1

      @@DigitalPRCourses doing great! It’s not an magical “fix all” taking medication, but just getting life to run smoother and (for me) the shift in, and maintaining an healthy mindset can not be overstated!

  • @TwistedSisttaa
    @TwistedSisttaa 2 роки тому +5

    Omg! Yes! You described it perfectly. Im 46. Got diagnosed 3 days ago. I spent my whole adult life trying to change/ imrove myself and failing. Now i know why. Thankyou for this video.

  • @maddiek9961
    @maddiek9961 2 роки тому +5

    I cant tell you enough how much I relate to your journey and gained insights. I chased habits & self help books & productivity hacks and I burned out bad after two years. I’m grateful I did therapy for a year beforehand, though, because I would have been absolutely in the dumps emotionally & mentally right now. But I gained a more realistic, balanced & compassionate attitude towards productivity & my ADHD.
    Your channel & content are so good & inspiring. I hope to start an Arabic ADHD YT channel soon.

  • @ttul
    @ttul 2 роки тому +5

    Ahh sheer gold. You’re describing my life. I just have a few more years under my belt. I am grateful you got diagnosed before you were an old man.

  • @cathyl3526
    @cathyl3526 3 роки тому +12

    Well, I didn't expect this video to make me cry! I'm about 5 months post-diagnosis and a lot of this was really relatable.

    • @typierson
      @typierson  3 роки тому +1

      Aw that melts my heart! I’m really happy you could relate!

    • @cathyl3526
      @cathyl3526 3 роки тому

      @@typierson Thanks! I'm 59 and was just diagnosed last spring. So many things make sense now and Adderall has been a game changer.

  • @renewhopellcjovanmcclarty3931
    @renewhopellcjovanmcclarty3931 3 роки тому +19

    Week three of Adderall. Glad to have found a community of people like me.

  • @whoisCWYNN
    @whoisCWYNN 2 роки тому +1

    this video deserves so many more views based on how relatable it is, the quality, it’s just very well done

  • @serenaraquel3961
    @serenaraquel3961 Рік тому +2

    You’re so self aware it’s amazing lol the pickal ball part made me chuckle

  • @iminsideyourwalls9432
    @iminsideyourwalls9432 День тому

    Imagine the pain of needing to workout constantly,meditate constantly,eat healthy constantly,only for your brain to function a tad bit better but still under the way normal brains work

  • @mikaelhugg1112
    @mikaelhugg1112 2 роки тому +2

    How your channel hasn’t exloded yet?! Your content is golden and very high quality. Keep up the good work, man! 💪🏻

  • @loadingmikke7451
    @loadingmikke7451 Рік тому +2

    Ive never been able to focus on multiple aspects of my life. If i wanna work out and become strong/muscular, i spend 2-3 months on that. Just watching videos about exersice, thinking about different programs, diet and everything. But when the newness is over, it gets boring and i forget to go after a while if i focus on other parts of my life. Like relationships, moving, changing routine. Ect.

  • @nick1luke
    @nick1luke 3 роки тому +7

    dude im pretty sure im undiagnosed ADHD because i can relate to a ton of what you say here
    it gives me hope that you have been feeling better since your diagnosis because i do feel some shame and denial about it, please keep posting

    • @typierson
      @typierson  3 роки тому +3

      Thanks for your comment! If you’re open to it you should definitely think about getting tested for ADHD. It helped take a ton of the shame away that I had about myself!

  • @aurorak9189
    @aurorak9189 2 роки тому +1

    I'm so happy I have clicked on this video.
    Thank you a lot, you are so great at telling

  • @Purplelovered
    @Purplelovered 7 місяців тому +1

    Hi. I stumbled upon your videos today. Im a mental health therapist. Thank you for sharing your personal experience. It definitely helps clinicians like me to have better insignt on what our clients woth ADHD may be feeling/thinking/experincing. I want to also emphasize the importance of going to therapy while taking medication (or even if you're not taking medication). If possible of course. There are many benefits, when you find the right therapist for you.

  • @reanaaa
    @reanaaa 2 роки тому +1

    I loved this so much and it resonated with me deeply. Thank you for creating a safe space for people like us.

  • @John-md6uu
    @John-md6uu 3 місяці тому +1

    Great video. Very genuine. Appreciate you sharing.

  • @copiouscat
    @copiouscat Рік тому

    Ive watched this twice and the second time it just let go of holding back tears and just cried…… i just turned 29 and got Diagnosed and WILL be beginning meds soon (vyvanse) and i am floored how you explained my life to a T. 😮‍💨😔🥺😫 thanks for this Video you truly dont know how much clarity and language youve equipped me with to be able to communicate and express myself in various crucial aspects of life. Thank you so much for this. Now im going to check out that pickleball situation as well as do the work to reach a better Spaces like you have. Thank you so so much!

  • @officialWWM
    @officialWWM 2 роки тому +16

    Reading a book? Ha, that’s hilarious! More like reading the same paragraph over and over and still not comprehending what it is you just read…

  • @big-anvil
    @big-anvil 7 місяців тому

    I was recently diagnosed with ADHD. It’s crazy just how much I relate to every sentence in this video.

  • @bigj664
    @bigj664 3 роки тому +4

    Loving the channel. Thanks for the advice, and great work.

    • @tylerpierson7967
      @tylerpierson7967 3 роки тому

      Thanks for watching it! I really appreciate it!

  • @ishantaryal6994
    @ishantaryal6994 8 місяців тому

    I have never related to a video more than this one, this quite litterally explains everything i feel and more

  • @milosflaca
    @milosflaca 2 роки тому

    Watching your video gives me a lot of hope. Thank you for uploading this.

  • @AK-yf6fv
    @AK-yf6fv 3 роки тому +1

    I love your videos!
    They’re honest and relatable

  • @swizzleswiz4246
    @swizzleswiz4246 2 роки тому +1

    This is definitely me, Im a senior in HS, always wanted to be the guy who could just have productive day after productive day. Construction or other hands on jobs have been the best for me. haven’t been able to read a book since like 5th grade, I got diagnosed about 2 weeks ago but still waiting for medication

  • @NWCyclist
    @NWCyclist 7 місяців тому

    Thanks for sharing, I wonder where you are now, what you would say now. Seeking, forever seeking, is my vice too.

  • @willinglyalive
    @willinglyalive Рік тому

    so very happy for you seem a good person. i hope one day i'll get the right drug for my ADHD, thanks for recording this awesome video.

  • @albertsalazar276
    @albertsalazar276 3 роки тому +3

    On point!

  • @bridgetteblueeyesandgoodvi3853
    @bridgetteblueeyesandgoodvi3853 2 роки тому +2

    Yup I mean I believe exercise and self help meditation can definitely help but you have to do it all the time. Because you have bad thoughts you feel anxious and stuff you gotta teach yourself to not be like that and it's definitely easier said than done. But again it's like I wanna help myself do things but I can't even stick to helping my Flippen self ...like a routine ! And then I beat myself up for it.
    Again why I believe in medication and seeing a therapist and working on what you need.i also believe that's why I rely on medication because I've spent all my life trying to make my brain focus for me to stick to a routine and I just can't :( and bam it's called dopamine we don't have and our medication gives us that. Don't be ashamed to need medicine when all your life your sick and tired of having ADHD symptoms

  • @deb2319
    @deb2319 9 місяців тому

    Have u tried Reiki!? And and going on a 80-10-10diet?

  • @autobotdiva9268
    @autobotdiva9268 9 місяців тому +1

    minimalism is best

  • @deb2319
    @deb2319 9 місяців тому +1

    I hope u are well today🎉 you seem like a great creative guy-perhaps u had sum lack in parenting- Seems.ur taking on your own life ...nervous energy is definetely a childhood wound...many wounds r deeply buried in the sub conscious...jus saying. BE WELL🖼🌠🙏💜

  • @KrisSummitSeries
    @KrisSummitSeries 2 роки тому

    Big fan of your channel. Can I asl what lighting and equipment do you use? Your videos are so beautfuly done.

  • @greenjewel8652
    @greenjewel8652 2 роки тому

    So did you go the stimulant or non stimulant route?

  • @riasingh11
    @riasingh11 Рік тому

    if you know you know

  • @diamond852
    @diamond852 2 роки тому +1

    So why does self help not help adhd? Video doesn't answer that.

  • @cmore138
    @cmore138 2 роки тому

    Q: what do these things have in common?
    A: easy, those are all the things I keep saying I’m going to do but don’t ever do.

  • @prappypat
    @prappypat 2 роки тому

    I feel personally attacked...

  • @allymichelle2255
    @allymichelle2255 2 роки тому

    ADHD and vegan for 8 years!

  • @mindaugasmaslauskas1213
    @mindaugasmaslauskas1213 2 роки тому

    go vegan