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  • @atomiumjae
    @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +4950

    Thank you so damn much for everything recently. YOU are awesome man (I know some of you needed that today).
    Screw vanity metrics, just watch more of my content so youtube recommends this message to more people.
    ua-cam.com/play/PLNT30nTRmwDHTWmOeoABpPMFbtiI8n698.html

    • @nonefvnfvnjnjnjevjenjvonej3384
      @nonefvnfvnjnjnjevjenjvonej3384 3 місяці тому

      this is another one of these bullshit youtube templates you guys are following arent you? to make a bunch of nonsensical crap titled in this manner. have some originality. i have seen this from a bunch of youtubers now.

    • @mansikushwaha4811
      @mansikushwaha4811 3 місяці тому +41

      That was really life-changing...THANK YOU ❤

    • @Risingofthephoenix
      @Risingofthephoenix 3 місяці тому +45

      Im not a young teen watching this I am a 35 year old lady. and I fear death too and its been on my mind alot too. Thanks for this video hun! You are very insightful you deserve a hug lol and a ofc a lifetime of happiness!

    • @HelperBot
      @HelperBot 3 місяці тому +21

      This video legit helped me stop doom scrolling lmao

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +62

      Thanks everyone man, glad this helped you. Watch my other videos yea (when ur free)

  • @harrypotter7652
    @harrypotter7652 3 місяці тому +10200

    *TOP 5 REGRETS OF THE DYING.*
    1. "I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me."
    2. "I wish I hadn't worked so hard."
    3. "I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings."
    4. "I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends."
    5. "I wish that I had let myself be happier."

    • @skippy4905
      @skippy4905 3 місяці тому +306

      Thanks, Harry Potter

    • @ceoofselfish
      @ceoofselfish 3 місяці тому +46

      yeah because at that moment, their survival skills have failed them and wished like fools to not have bothered with them at all
      the truth is, hating yourself will build enough character to take the world on

    • @harrypotter7652
      @harrypotter7652 3 місяці тому +214

      @@ceoofselfish huh? im sorry im having a stroke reading this help💀

    • @harrypotter7652
      @harrypotter7652 3 місяці тому

      @@skippy4905 _Avada kedavra,_ brother

    • @cicicave1279
      @cicicave1279 3 місяці тому +97

      @@ceoofselfish This isn't about their survival skills failing them. This is different for every individual especially for those individuals who had very un-supportive parents for their dreams. My mom is a bit more supportive than my dad in terms of me wanting to follow my dreams. And my dad is def. supportive to some level, but an example is that he never once allowed me to pursure the creative arts fields when I went to community college. I *easily* could have pursued various careers within the entertainment industry and nope, he didn't support me taking music courses and things like that-creative course I know for a fact that I *would* have succeeded in.
      I did succeed in other courses, but not the ones that could have gotten me super far in life. I will never stop loving music let alone singing, but I def. get super shy when it comes to singing. Both parents and friends alike need to learn how to say things that can actually help those they care about. I prob. took this too deeply, but I'll never forget when my dad told me this: "Photography is a really hard industry to get into right now,"-he knows I def. have the skills for that, but that statement alone-what will that do to one's mentality? For some, it makes them take major action and pursue it further, but for others like myself, it's literally just another "dream" that gets shut down tbh. My family might not agree w/my decisions, but the least they can do is at least Trust me and Support me...idk abt the trust part, but I feel like I don't have the support I need in regards to things like that. My original pursuit was going to be something to do w/Science until my dad made me drop a course back in high school-and yes, ik I'm dwelling on the past which can't be changed now since I was totally pushed towards creative arts fields instead & creative arts is expansive.

  • @JC-dt7rn
    @JC-dt7rn 3 місяці тому +16211

    “Every man has two lives, and the second starts when he realizes he has just one” - Confucius

    • @Snaaake_Beater
      @Snaaake_Beater 3 місяці тому +89

      You only have 1 life and thats why my heart is my guiding key.
      thanks yen sid

    • @CyrusHan1206
      @CyrusHan1206 3 місяці тому +17

      now.

    • @IrraCtical
      @IrraCtical 3 місяці тому +1

      Xdd

    • @Supersilly_goober
      @Supersilly_goober 3 місяці тому +31

      I do believe every man has 2 lifes though lol,the second one being way better (I am a Christian)

    • @user-eu5ol7mx8y
      @user-eu5ol7mx8y 3 місяці тому +23

      That's so true. Reminds me of my mom, it took her well over 50 years of life before she realized this and started living the way she wanted. Better late than ever but it serves as a reminder for the rest of us.

  • @Apurwasp
    @Apurwasp 3 місяці тому +5625

    "Time spent having fun is not time wasted" thank you for this.

    • @Snaaake_Beater
      @Snaaake_Beater 3 місяці тому +18

      but sadly just playing games or having fun doesnt give you money

    • @nemrichu7290
      @nemrichu7290 3 місяці тому +244

      @@Snaaake_Beater its not always about the money. memories and experiences will always be much more valuable than money

    • @Snaaake_Beater
      @Snaaake_Beater 3 місяці тому

      @@nemrichu7290 i know but like i said. you have to pay your bills and just having fun is not working

    • @clouds-rb9xt
      @clouds-rb9xt 3 місяці тому

      @@Snaaake_BeaterHow vapid of you

    • @AndreiIsOkay
      @AndreiIsOkay 3 місяці тому +5

      ​@@nemrichu7290so by what you are saying, we need memories and experiences to live and survive in this world? Seems a bit lame for me.

  • @juanpablo_avb
    @juanpablo_avb Місяць тому +451

    "i don´t want that to be you"
    this hit hard man... but thanks for the excellent video

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  Місяць тому +20

      np man, stick around

    • @Fregiator
      @Fregiator 9 днів тому

      @@atomiumjae Ofcourse I always knew but you pointing it out again...I will always look back and be like "I wish I wasted less time on youtube that day", "I wish I played less hours of video games lonely that day, I could have gone out with my friends...or cleaned up my room...or worked out". Like freaking hell thats all the kinda shit that fuels your brain with "fun" while you do it but most of the time that fun doesnt last, infact it might turn into sadness. Sometimes I feel like social media might be the worst legally available drug there is. Have a good day dude, keep making these videos. They remind people of stuff they would forget about.

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  9 днів тому +1

      @@Fregiator Thank you man, I’ll keep doing my best to make them
      glad to see you actl like them

  • @whoknowsnvm
    @whoknowsnvm 3 місяці тому +15056

    "Days might be long but decades are short "

  • @AdrianMark
    @AdrianMark 3 місяці тому +5132

    "Life is too important to be taken seriously," - Oscar Wilde.

    • @ChinCo1
      @ChinCo1 3 місяці тому +10

      Not really, life is not important.

    • @Hadeth_a_stepa
      @Hadeth_a_stepa 3 місяці тому +252

      @@ChinCo1 Literally the only thing you've got 🤨

    • @AdrianMark
      @AdrianMark 3 місяці тому +61

      Ahh I see, depressed for depression's sake. Interesting life strategy.

    • @xandex69
      @xandex69 3 місяці тому +4

      to be taken seriously or to not be taken seriously?

    • @Hadeth_a_stepa
      @Hadeth_a_stepa 3 місяці тому +22

      @@8bitglobe You won't know this without life. You would not be able to see the beauty of the universe without light hitting your eyes and soul.

  • @faa1412
    @faa1412 3 місяці тому +3326

    Good advice young man. Keep this in mind, "When I was 20 years old, 40 seemed so far away." I'm now 39. I'd give almost anything to go back to my 20-year-old me.

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +205

      yep, thank you bro

    • @theresponsibleuser90
      @theresponsibleuser90 3 місяці тому +63

      Don't worry, You are still better than someone who is at 79

    • @codyhanson1344
      @codyhanson1344 3 місяці тому +70

      "when I was 20 years old, 40 seemed so far away" as a 26 year old, I actually don't feel the same. 30 feels like it's coming faster than it should, and I know 40 is just another 10 years from that. I am currently taking steps, slowly but surely, to hopefully improve my life significantly within the next few years or so, but nothing is guaranteed. I know I'm still young, but I'd like to be well off enough soon enough to be able to enjoy my life to the maximum degree by my mid to late 30s for peak satisfaction, but idk if I'll get there in time. We'll just have to wait and see I guess. 40 is still a little over 50% of my life away after all.

    • @theresponsibleuser90
      @theresponsibleuser90 3 місяці тому

      @@codyhanson1344 I wish you a better life,work hard for yourself, your family, our society, and humanity and Enjoy the life at present 💝

    • @GuichoSax
      @GuichoSax 3 місяці тому +36

      @@codyhanson1344 You really don't know that, it's dangerous to give for granted your life percentage when diseases or fatal accidents happen. Haven't you ever heard of somebody randomly dying young? Nothing guarantees that "40 is over 50% of life".

  • @berserkguts6212
    @berserkguts6212 29 днів тому +90

    The fact that you think already like this at your age makes you ahed of 99% of people and im 31 and only like 2 years ago I started to think this deeply.

    • @maximusdecimusmeridius13
      @maximusdecimusmeridius13 26 днів тому +2

      I started to think this much deeply since last year when i was 19

    • @saltylemin
      @saltylemin 9 днів тому

      I thought about this type of stuff when i was about 16 and think about it even more now that im graduated

    • @soniasharma3531
      @soniasharma3531 4 дні тому

      Mine is age 17 ..when I started to think about these things

  • @malhawkeye6427
    @malhawkeye6427 Місяць тому +3099

    I hate how I only ever find inspirational videos like these at 2am when the best thing I can do for myself is go to sleep

    • @Skittle_editz7570
      @Skittle_editz7570 Місяць тому +62

      Real it’s like 2:23 am I can’t process all this rn

    • @naturalnewbie98
      @naturalnewbie98 Місяць тому +41

      save to watch later and watch ....... later 😊

    • @M.m222
      @M.m222 Місяць тому +10

      Sleep and wake up to remember it thru the day appreciate it and take it as your starting morning thought

    • @kawaiistarr
      @kawaiistarr Місяць тому +2

      REAL

    • @thefortnitecuh4900
      @thefortnitecuh4900 Місяць тому

      @@Skittle_editz75703:10am lol

  • @simaoski5560
    @simaoski5560 3 місяці тому +2585

    i'm not a young teen, i'm 32 and i just felt like a kid watching a young teen telling me shit i always forget
    thank you bro

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +187

      thank YOU

    • @NightinGal89
      @NightinGal89 3 місяці тому +76

      Same am 35. I used to think about death a lot as a teen. And even now. But I figured the best way to prepare for death is by living and enjoying as much as possible.

    • @hansdasnehalata007
      @hansdasnehalata007 3 місяці тому

      lllpp​@@NightinGal89

    • @cozycoffee953
      @cozycoffee953 3 місяці тому +9

      ​@@NightinGal89 death doesn't have to be the end. atleast we Muslims don't believe so. Maybe try looking into the Quran? you never know maybe the answers you're looking for are there.

    • @jaycrunchfest22
      @jaycrunchfest22 3 місяці тому +7

      @@cozycoffee953what about the people who belief in reincarnation? (And no I’m not referring to Hinduism where people are reborn as animals). More like starting over into another life with another family. Just the past life memory’s are gone.

  • @user-ec4so8ej7s
    @user-ec4so8ej7s 3 місяці тому +9183

    "Ask yourself at every moment, 'Is this necessary?' " - Marcus Aurelius
    Update: This quote may mean many different things to different people, to me, it's simply this: Is what you're doing "right now" good for you/for other people? Is what you're doing rn making you a better person than yesterday? If not, it's unnecessary.
    Thank you for the likes

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +316

      yep

    • @coolboysgaming307
      @coolboysgaming307 3 місяці тому +45

      What if you don't know the answer

    • @unknown-pl5hb
      @unknown-pl5hb 3 місяці тому +181

      ​@@coolboysgaming307 then question yourself will this matter in next 5-10 years ?

    • @Syeda_Fizzah_Azeem
      @Syeda_Fizzah_Azeem 3 місяці тому +124

      plz don't say this while im studying for my physics exam

    • @fxETA
      @fxETA 3 місяці тому +38

      @@Syeda_Fizzah_Azeem It does affect your tomorrow

  • @Sou-o1t
    @Sou-o1t Місяць тому +119

    At night I panic just thinking that one day Im going to lose everything because of death so I scroll on TikTok to cope. But this video really did change how I feel about life

    • @lapisFarm
      @lapisFarm Місяць тому +13

      Don't fear death, my friend, turn to Jesus.

    • @Michael_Yeager
      @Michael_Yeager 23 дні тому +4

      @@lapisFarmAmen Brother✝️❤️

    • @jilice3441
      @jilice3441 13 днів тому +1

      Same bro I get scared of how short of a time I have left before everyone leaves us

    • @Arcanilumia
      @Arcanilumia 11 днів тому +4

      Don't fear death. What's most likely to happen is that in the end, you'll return to how things were before you were born. Just... Nothing. No consciousness to think, and so, no suffering. You won't even know it happened. So, instead of fearing it and letting your panic get the better of you, take a deep breath, and enjoy things in the moment. Live for the experiences, for the people, for the places. For the joy. That's what makes it all worth it.
      I find it helps to refuse belief in an afterlife as well. This is the only life we have, which is why it's worth living. You only have one life to live, so live it well, just for the sake of living.

    • @kenshirojenova1359
      @kenshirojenova1359 11 днів тому +3

      @@Arcanilumia Just Nothing ? u might want to seek for more info my friend

  • @SmolTheodore
    @SmolTheodore 3 місяці тому +15297

    "I assume you're a young teen if you're watching this"
    me, 22: yea...

    • @fapl2649
      @fapl2649 3 місяці тому

      I'll be 32 this year ~~

    • @sliter2566
      @sliter2566 3 місяці тому +834

      and me here with 33? :T

    • @WendigoLumberjack
      @WendigoLumberjack 3 місяці тому +426

      24 over here lol

    • @Gimrison
      @Gimrison 3 місяці тому +661

      me 51 😉

    • @nuiscorner
      @nuiscorner 3 місяці тому +614

      I'm actually 35 years old :P So I was shocked when he said, "you're 35" xD hehe

  • @gamersephiorth8865
    @gamersephiorth8865 2 місяці тому +1598

    we never knew we were making memories right? we were just having fun.

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  2 місяці тому +74

      yep

    • @josephahn1024
      @josephahn1024 2 місяці тому

      Hey, my friend! I have the most important message to share with you!! Please read EVERYTHING!
      Bad news: we are all sinners, and as the punishment for all of our sins, we must spend eternity in hell after we die.
      Good news: God still loves us far beyond measure, and he sent Jesus Christ, his only Son, to take the punishment for all of our sins instead, on our behalf, by dying on the cross. Then, on the third day, Christ rose back from the dead!
      Jesus paid the debt for all of our sins (past, present, future) on the cross so that we wouldn't have to go to hell but be able to go to heaven!
      However, God considers that the debt for all of our sins is paid *the moment we truly believe* that Jesus paid the debt for all of our sins on the cross. All we have to do is believe to go to heaven (John 3:16)! Therefore, please do so!
      Praise and Glory to our God the most high!
      I want to tell you that God is always there for you with open arms! We are all beautiful sons and daughters of the Most High. Each and one of us are extremely precious to him! God wants to give us the greatest happiness and joy that doesn't compare to what the world provides. God is the only one who can fill the void that we have in our hearts. God loves us far beyond measure! God wants a relationship with us! He wants to be our best friend! We simply have to be open and let him into our lives.
      "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." Psalm 147:3
      "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Isaiah 41:10
      I love you, and God loves you so much more!! Have a wonderful day :)

    • @nozzle8208
      @nozzle8208 Місяць тому +39

      Dude living in the present is so hard, but when you actually do, it's fun. Goddamn fun.

    • @giaaaacomo
      @giaaaacomo Місяць тому +4

      winnie the pooh quote that always hits

  • @johnnylee9332
    @johnnylee9332 3 місяці тому +1709

    When you said that last part, "Remember that on your deathbed, you won't be wishing you played more video games, scrolled more, or pleased the kidsi n your highschool. Many people die wishing they'd chased their dreams, spent time with their loved ones, or fulfilled their purpose," that moved me. Thanks for this amazing video.

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +68

      thanks man, just stick around for better content yea (you can watch my old videos too)

    • @josephahn1024
      @josephahn1024 2 місяці тому

      Hey, my friend! I have the most important message to share with you!! Please read EVERYTHING!
      Bad news: we are all sinners, and as the punishment for all of our sins, we must spend eternity in hell after we die.
      Good news: God still loves us far beyond measure, and he sent Jesus Christ, his only Son, to take the punishment for all of our sins instead, on our behalf, by dying on the cross. Then, on the third day, Christ rose back from the dead!
      Jesus paid the debt for all of our sins (past, present, future) on the cross so that we wouldn't have to go to hell but be able to go to heaven!
      However, God considers that the debt for all of our sins is paid *the moment we truly believe* that Jesus paid the debt for all of our sins on the cross. All we have to do is believe to go to heaven (John 3:16)! Therefore, please do so!
      Praise and Glory to our God the most high!
      I want to tell you that God is always there for you with open arms! We are all beautiful sons and daughters of the Most High. Each and one of us are extremely precious to him! God wants to give us the greatest happiness and joy that doesn't compare to what the world provides. God is the only one who can fill the void that we have in our hearts. God loves us far beyond measure! God wants a relationship with us! He wants to be our best friend! We simply have to be open and let him into our lives.
      "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." Psalm 147:3
      "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Isaiah 41:10
      I love you, and God loves you so much more!! Have a wonderful day :)

    • @billyjoelbeans
      @billyjoelbeans 2 місяці тому +20

      @@atomiumjae I know this is a little belated, by I feel regrets on the deathbed are probably not all that correlated with the actions one took in their life(after all, there are an infinite number of things to regret), but their propensity for regret, itself. The best way to prevent that is not necessarily to take any particular speculative action, its to prevent regret in the strongest ways one knows how. I think it might just slightly be putting the cart before the horse.
      The sentiment is still solid; *do what you think matters* ; but don't act solely based on potential regret. This is seemingly backwards

    • @tdotitan8855
      @tdotitan8855 2 місяці тому

      ​@@billyjoelbeans yeah I feel like people on their deathbed will naturally regret things.
      At the end of the day If we try to live our lives to not be regretful that in turn may make us more inclined to make bad risks instead of healthy ones and bad things happen.
      You will regret either doing something or not doing something. I think there is some freedom in accepting we make the best decision with the information we have and thats all we can do... and I think people that accept they did the best they can are able to accept regret. We can't get caught up in the what ifs or possibilities. Life is full of choices and we don't always know the right ones but we can try our best.

    • @mccookie3755
      @mccookie3755 28 днів тому

      Honestly yes

  • @keagus
    @keagus Місяць тому +38

    I actually NEEDED this video. I've been having thoughts of death as well. I want to try to have fun in life. I want to try to make every second worth it.
    My P.E teacher used to always lecture my class and tell us to "live like tomorrow is your last day". I should have taken his words seriously. now I will.

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  Місяць тому +4

      thank you man, watch more yea

  • @CheasterSeville
    @CheasterSeville 3 місяці тому +1123

    this would now prompt me to ask myself everytime
    “is this time well spent?”

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +66

      yep, go ask yourself that

    • @BytesizedL
      @BytesizedL 3 місяці тому +5

      you’re pretty @CheasterSeville

    • @ConeTheBoss559
      @ConeTheBoss559 3 місяці тому +19

      ​​@@atomiumjae Easy crippling anxiety to only achieve and never relax unlocked

    • @trixfox45
      @trixfox45 3 місяці тому

      ​@@ConeTheBoss559 already got that unlocked because I know I'm wasting my time but my issues don't help me with changing that in a second :')

    • @IrraCtical
      @IrraCtical 3 місяці тому +2

      I always ask myself that, yet I always don’t answer it properly
      (Aka idk’s/this feels like wasting time/I should do something more productive/this feels repetitive)

  • @ExecutionSommaire
    @ExecutionSommaire 3 місяці тому +778

    "work or play, nothing in between" is the best quote in this I think

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +40

      yep, stick around for better content yea

    • @kingkarp333
      @kingkarp333 2 місяці тому +5

      I mean after this I’m hooked, keep up the good work ❤

    • @rns6889
      @rns6889 Місяць тому +2

      I dont quite get this, why would you want this. Both leads to a mess, work all the time? You'll lose yourself in the way and have less meaning. All play? You'll have no discipline, be out of touch, and be a failure. I know both tropes, I wouldn't want to be them, but the all work person is still much more respectable, though a little.. Dull to put it mildly.

    • @ExecutionSommaire
      @ExecutionSommaire Місяць тому

      @@rns6889 I interpreted that phrase more like "there are times to play (play, relax, etc) and times to work, and both should be done fully"

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  Місяць тому +4

      @@rns6889 bro I mean either focus on work, or play, at a time. Did you like miss the complete message of the video.
      What im saying is when ur working, don’t scroll on ur phone at the same time. When ur having fun, no need to worry about work. Live in the present

  • @mybrokenfingerz
    @mybrokenfingerz 3 місяці тому +1287

    as a teenage girl who has been reflecting on her past a little too much (although i havent exactly been around that long, lol) and scrolling/ using social media and everything to drown my feelings out, im finally done with it. i've deleted all of the pointless apps on my phone and im going to go study for my math final. thank you for this video, as solemn as it was, our generation needs more of this.
    EDIT: thank you so much to all of the people wishing me luck on my final, I've seen all the comments and I appreciate it a lot. I didn't do as well as I hoped to, so now I'm studying for next year's classes.

    • @Sillyman443
      @Sillyman443 3 місяці тому +25

      Hell yeah! I hope you’re doing well and that your final went well! I wish you the absolute best

    • @mybrokenfingerz
      @mybrokenfingerz 3 місяці тому

      @@Sillyman443 aww thanks, thats so sweet. 🥹 i wish u the best too

    • @arnavmogha9334
      @arnavmogha9334 3 місяці тому +7

      Good luck

    • @banana8840
      @banana8840 3 місяці тому +6

      hope u do well

    • @candycat64
      @candycat64 3 місяці тому +5

      gl on your final!

  • @heiner1504
    @heiner1504 Місяць тому +41

    "time spent having fun is not time wasted." very well said.

  • @M0NTY.Sodosverison
    @M0NTY.Sodosverison Місяць тому +1298

    “Don’t be cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” -Dr Suess

    • @user-oh8co9vs7s
      @user-oh8co9vs7s Місяць тому +7

      How can you smile when you dead

    • @javierdanieltosta621
      @javierdanieltosta621 Місяць тому

      ​@@user-oh8co9vs7s😂 dont take it that way

    • @Mafka6932
      @Mafka6932 Місяць тому +14

      @@user-oh8co9vs7sIt’s not about death tho. Even if it is, you can smile last moments of ur life

    • @ianmarshall270
      @ianmarshall270 27 днів тому +8

      Please don’t fear death. Understand that you can spend eternal life with your creator, God. God is simply the Father wanting relationship with his son that he has created. Please accept this invintation and let Jesus justify and forgive your sins as he already has but you must have faith that he has done this. Recognize also that you are saved by Gods free gift of salvation (grace) Confess Jesus as Lors and that God rose Him from the dead. Repent of your sins and follow a life of living like God and build relationship with your creator.

    • @OrangeObject605
      @OrangeObject605 27 днів тому

      @@ianmarshall270amen

  • @Samidha-NITRkl
    @Samidha-NITRkl 3 місяці тому +614

    Dude is a fresh breath of air on internet. Not a follower, not a leader, just a sage with his own ideology and who is the beacon of his own life. I immediately subscribed as this guy hits home

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +33

      thank you. i mean i do have "leader" (in quote marks) in my bio haha.
      Yea everyone lives their own life. and ive stopped tryna control others because in the end thats what will control you.
      watch my other content it'll help you out (especially the latest video)

    • @Jesus_Christ_loves_you_alot
      @Jesus_Christ_loves_you_alot 2 місяці тому +8

      Hi there! Jesus says to you today: "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest." -Matthew 11:28
      May God bless you! 😊

    • @clementbarrieu
      @clementbarrieu 2 місяці тому +3

      I also recommend you Jak Piggott. He's also this type of content and he's relaxing to listen to

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  2 місяці тому +2

      @@clementbarrieu oh yea Jak Piggott himself commented on my uncomfortable exercise video lol

    • @VegetaPrinceOfSaiyans
      @VegetaPrinceOfSaiyans 2 місяці тому +1

      Very Buddha-like sentiments from this video, i had similar outlooks when i was in my last two years of high school and felt great until basically being forced to enter the life of a workforce pawn. This was a good reminder of my original plans for myself.

  • @戦士06
    @戦士06 2 місяці тому +2043

    “Why should I fear death? If I am, death is not. If death is, I am not. Why should I fear that which can only exist when I do not?” - Epicurus

    • @kizmet6472
      @kizmet6472 2 місяці тому +24

      Needed to hear this. Thank you

    • @戦士06
      @戦士06 2 місяці тому +5

      @@kizmet6472 You're Welcome

    • @floppy_gaming
      @floppy_gaming Місяць тому +13

      but the thing is, you will exist. unless you find Jesus you will feel the wrath of God. I understand its one of those stereotypical Christian comments, but I want you to think about it. Suffering in fire forever. Even if to some people theres the slightest chance its true, dont you think thats terrifying? Please think about what I have said and remember we didnt just show up here only to die and not exist anymore.

    • @kizmet6472
      @kizmet6472 Місяць тому

      @@floppy_gaming there’s zero chance it’s true, because it’s always been Christian copium to farm money from those dense enough to believe it.

    • @戦士06
      @戦士06 Місяць тому +1

      @@floppy_gaming I honestly don't know and I'm not christian

  • @datilhite916
    @datilhite916 25 днів тому +7

    I needed this. I've spent the last few months worrying about the future. I spent a long time focused on nothing. Not the present, not the future, nor the past. I just glided through the last 20 years of my life as if nothing happened. I recently realized how little I've planned for my life, and started basically scrambling to plan. Worrying about what I'll do, where I'll be, ect. And while these are important for me to think about, it was all I thought about. I'm often too stressed to actually do anything because I'm thinking too hard of what I need to do tomorrow, and I don't do anything today. It's late for me as I type this, but I very much need to focus on the now. I'll spend the night trying to relax, and worry about tomorrow's issues when it comes, and get it all done when it becomes today.

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  25 днів тому +1

      np man, please watch my other ones too yea, they'll help you even more:
      ua-cam.com/play/PLNT30nTRmwDHTWmOeoABpPMFbtiI8n698.html&si=FIC_Q_9sCU8CkPOa

  • @peaceful__presence
    @peaceful__presence 3 місяці тому +786

    “The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.” - Mark Twain .
    Everyone dies , but not everyone lives. Live as it's last day. The 5 minutes spent on this video were definitely worth it.

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +38

      thank you bro, much better content coming soon

    • @peaceful__presence
      @peaceful__presence 3 місяці тому +2

      @@atomiumjae best wishes for future🌟

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +4

      @@peaceful__presence thanks bro, u can msg me @atomiumjae on discord

    • @peaceful__presence
      @peaceful__presence 3 місяці тому

      @@atomiumjae 👍

    • @endlessnameless6494
      @endlessnameless6494 3 місяці тому +3

      Never drive drunk. Never drive distracted. Thanks, guys. Arrive home alive!

  • @divinkitty9452
    @divinkitty9452 Місяць тому +723

    As someone who's nearly 30, I'm speaking from experience here. When I was younger I had similar thoughts. It's when you first realize that life is limited and you start thinking like this. It can last years. But I found as I got older and really looked back at what had passed and how much time I (likely) still have, you start to calm down a bit. Instead of rushing to do everything because I'm scared of missing it before I die, I just slow down, take my time, enjoy the moment I'm in now, and stay in the now. Stay in the now. Don't stress about the far future. Just live in the moment now and appreciate it. I could die tomorrow, and that would suck, but we also don't yet know exactly what happens to the conscience mind when we die, so why worry. It's helped a lot with my mental health to not worry about the future and instead stay in the moment, charish those I'm with now, and do what makes me happy.

    • @vadymvv
      @vadymvv Місяць тому +20

      That's the right way. Came to the same conclusions only after a big war in my country(Ukraine) have began. You have a moment now, tomorrow is not certain, and it will be a gift if you live another one day.

    • @schwoondoggle
      @schwoondoggle 29 днів тому +1

      ​@@vadymvv Good philosophy. Stay safe man. Love from the UK 🇬🇧🇺🇦

  • @DuckxLOriginal
    @DuckxLOriginal 2 місяці тому +477

    "Time spent having fun is not time wasted, time spent doing things you love is time well spent."
    Wise words.

  • @KarseenKing
    @KarseenKing Місяць тому +127

    2 Corinthians 5:6-8; Philippians 1:23
    For believers, death means being “away from the body and at home with the Lord”

  • @AGothNamedWednessday
    @AGothNamedWednessday 3 місяці тому +302

    When I was a child and throughout my teenage years I was certain I was going to die by 18. I was living in an abusive home, and I belived I had had some premonition about my death before 18. It wasn't a fear at the time, it was a fact, at least that's how it felt. I had had this feeling from a pretty young age, so I had a long time to come to terms with it. On my 18th birthday I had a severe panic attack, not entirely because I was afraid i was going to die, but because I was still alive and that wasn't right, and I was afraid on a cosmic scale. I wasn't afraid that I would die, just afraid of not knowing how. But I lived, and then the next couple years I felt like I was living on borrowed time. But the years kept going by, and now I'm 26. I'm thankful and happy to be alive, and that's not really something I ever thought I would feel. I don't fear death, it will happen when it does and I made peace with it many years ago; but I am thankful for every day I have on this earth, in this body

    • @pip5667
      @pip5667 2 місяці тому +4

      I had a similar experience and, to an extent, still do. My 18th was my first *happy* birthday in a few years. I'm turning 20 in October, and the idea of a new decade is equally strange to me. I'm still not yet at the point where I can clearly picture myself existing in the future, but I'm closer than I used to be.

    • @uznik399
      @uznik399 2 місяці тому +2

      Your situation is so same to mine, but im only 15. And yes, i do think ill die by 18. I just dont know why and how i will get to the adult life

    • @ummmuhhh4756
      @ummmuhhh4756 Місяць тому +3

      I relate a lot to your sad experience. When I was in middle school I thought I was going to k!ll myself after I graduate, but I didn't do it. When I was in high school, I also thought I was going to k!ll myself after I graduate, but I never had the nerve to do it. Having untreated mental health problems from a very early age, coming from an abusive household and being bullied made me feel like there was nothing good I could experience in life and that death is the only way to stop hurting.
      But life goes on and as we age, we gain more and more tools in our toolkit that can help us alleviate the pain and cope with life's difficulties. Currently I am 22 and life is so much easier than when I was a teen. I am capable of making my own decisions, I have a job and, most of all, I have a strong friend support network that I can rely on. A lot can change and the best thing we can do is let our hardships be learnt from, let them be turned into a guide telling us how to be kind and help other people with similar problems. This unique experience of being human can be so, so difficult, but also very rewarding and it is essential for us humans to help each other when we have the chance to.
      All my suffering has shaped me into the self I am today and in a way I am grateful for that. I haven't fully recovered yet, but it is somewhat comforting to read about similar experiences. I found your comment inspiring and I hope I can achieve your mindset one day.

    • @turn_to_Jesus_815
      @turn_to_Jesus_815 16 днів тому

      I relate. When I was younger I couldn't see myself past the age of 24-25. I struggled a lot with depression and social anxiety, so I was too scared to live as an adult. All the responsibilities seemed so terryfying and I didn't know where I belong in this world and how I would manage to survive. My plan was to end my own life soon after being done with college.
      Luckily, I gave my life to Jesus. Also the pandemic started right after I finished college. My first thought was "woah, I didn't die as I scheduled so I guess that broke the universe or something and created this disaster" which I now know was silly and not true but it felt real at that time. Everything closed in my country so I had enough time to just sit still at home, rethink everything, apply the Bible to my life and make some changes.
      Now I'm almost 30 and I thank God a lot that I didn't do anything drastic to myself. Life is worth living, especially when you live it for someone so amazing as Him. ❤

    • @turn_to_Jesus_815
      @turn_to_Jesus_815 16 днів тому

      ​@@uznik399Keep going, please. Do not stop at the age 18. The future might seem scary, difficult, without meaning or impossible to get to but there's also a lot of joy waiting there for you.

  • @flutterbree
    @flutterbree 3 місяці тому +398

    "time spent having fun is not wasted" is so profound, you may have just help me justify years of my young life. thanks for the reminder 😊

    • @user-oc8jp2bk2y
      @user-oc8jp2bk2y 3 місяці тому +10

      Honestly that's a comforting lie. Having fun is good, but you always want adequate balance in life. Not working for yourself now, cutting on future you. Yep you can die any moment, but there is also a good chance you will live a long live, and more you develop yourself early, better you live afterwards.
      Having said that you should not really regret having fun instead of grinding early life, that's not totally wasted... but you know, you could probably do better if you overdid that. Youth is objectively the best time to have fun... yet yeah you want balance.

    • @BlueBlueBlue-6
      @BlueBlueBlue-6 3 місяці тому +13

      ​@user-oc8jp2bk2y I watched the whole video and it was obvious that's not what he was saying.

    • @IrraCtical
      @IrraCtical 3 місяці тому

      @@user-oc8jp2bk2ythank you, I agree with that

  • @vox-ex
    @vox-ex 3 місяці тому +740

    28 year old here - this video gives me so much hope for your generation. You are setting an excellent example for what masculinity and mindfulness looks like. These sigma male manosphere types are snake oil salesmen. You have nothing to sell, and are exhibiting wisdom beyond your years. I'm way outside the demographic you predicted but I'm happy to have stumbled upon this video today. Be well my dude, keep spreading your words ✌🏼

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +118

      Thank you man. I’m actually surprised how many people here are in their late 20s or even 40s. I even got a 75 year old to comment aswell.
      I mean I do have a channel membership, and probably will start a patreon soon. But will never sell any bs courses on their own and add an imaginary 20x value.
      Stick around for better videos to come yea.

    • @robross5687
      @robross5687 2 місяці тому +13

      This is a wholesome comment but out of curiosity why is masculinity an aspect in this?

    • @Bachiruh
      @Bachiruh 2 місяці тому +9

      ​@@robross5687yeah... i think women can do the same? This isn't really masculinity?

    • @ethann4348
      @ethann4348 Місяць тому

      Everyone has a belief on what life they should live. Some want a vision to chase, some just want to chill. No ones a snake oil salesman here.

    • @lucky7bolt456
      @lucky7bolt456 Місяць тому

      28 too…
      This hits hard and hurts hard.
      But it also makes you feel.

  • @jonnaas
    @jonnaas 13 годин тому +1

    I'm a chronic overthinker. I keep stressing exams, and i keep wishing the weekend came early, and every now and then i'm told to live in the present, and the short amount of time that i do live in the present is absolute bliss that i just can't seem to replicate myself. Thank you.

  • @onmyway8262
    @onmyway8262 3 місяці тому +183

    Beautiful insights!
    A German author, Erich Kästner, wrote: "Only those who grow up and remain a child are human."
    My mom liked to quote that. Now 53, at the top of my list of important things is to do exactly that, or better yet, to stay that way. Living in the moment opens your heart and vice versa. I wish you the best of luck on your journey. No matter how rocky it gets, never forget how to laugh at yourself and your heart will keep its wings.

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +11

      Thanks for sharing!

    • @onmyway8262
      @onmyway8262 3 місяці тому +4

      @@atomiumjae A pleasure. I wish I would have been half as wise as you at your age.

  • @kenan-nynor
    @kenan-nynor 2 місяці тому +472

    "Time spent having fun is not time wasted."
    I 100% agree on this. I think having fun is the most important thing in life and I absolutely hate that other people are trying to say the opposite.

    • @mahapatrasohamm
      @mahapatrasohamm Місяць тому +2

      Only works if you respect time. And if it is actually true fun
      I don’t so really, time I am trying to have fun is really false fun.
      I waste both fun and time.

    • @TheRealDoomRoblox
      @TheRealDoomRoblox Місяць тому

      Is playing videogames and having fun count?

    • @tilthat
      @tilthat Місяць тому +1

      Yeah I agree

  • @avionyellow1712
    @avionyellow1712 Місяць тому +582

    We are often told "Life is short, so enjoy it". But everyone seems to forget that "Eternity is long, so prepare for it.

    • @kwadwoagyapon-ntra2176
      @kwadwoagyapon-ntra2176 Місяць тому +5

      This right here! 💯

    • @favextar
      @favextar Місяць тому +7

      Yo. this is so cold 😮

    • @upliftbiblereader
      @upliftbiblereader 29 днів тому

      Agreed. God created each and every person and He loves us so much, He doesn’t want anyone to go to hell. The bad news is we choose to go to hell when we die by committing sin any time we lie, steal, hate someone, look at a person with lust, or take God’s name in vain (by saying JC or OMG). I’m paraphrasing here, but the Bible says anyone who breaks even one of God’s laws is guilty of them all. A guy who murdered a cashier and stole the money 40 years ago would still be guilty of that crime no matter how many good things he does later in his life. You and I are the same way. In the eyes of a perfect God, we’re all guilty and deserving of an eternity separated from His love in a place called hell. And we’re helpless to save ourselves because, as the Bible says, all our righteousness is as filthy rags (we can’t make ourselves clean with a rag that’s already soiled with dirt). But God did something really wonderful to save us from having to spend out eternity in hell. God sent His only begotten Son, Jesus Christ, to take our punishment by living a sinless life and then dying for the sins of the whole world. Jesus Christ died and was buried, but on the third day he rose again to life and is now seated at the right hand of the Father in heaven. And anyone who repents of their sins and believes in Jesus Christ is able to receive God’s free gift of salvation. All you have to do is pray to God with a sincere heart, admitting that you are a sinner, and asking Him to forgive you through His Son Jesus Christ. You’ll become a new person because God’s Holy Spirit will come to dwell inside you, He’ll give you a new heart with new desires and He will guide you through prayerfully reading the Bible, which is God’s word, and He will help you live your new life in Christ. There’s an online ministry called Video Game Gospel on TikTok and Discord that gives out free Bibles. They also have a Bible Study that meets on Discord on Fridays at 8 or 9 pm EST. They answer lots of questions there and on their website as well, for anybody who has them.

    • @ianmarshall270
      @ianmarshall270 27 днів тому +20

      Please don’t fear death. Understand that you can spend eternal life with your creator, God. God is simply the Father wanting relationship with his son that he has created. Please accept this invintation and let Jesus justify and forgive your sins as he already has but you must have faith that he has done this. Recognize also that you are saved by Gods free gift of salvation (grace) Confess Jesus as Lors and that God rose Him from the dead. Repent of your sins and follow a life of living like God and build relationship with your creator.

    • @TheRealEclipse602
      @TheRealEclipse602 24 дні тому +3

      ​@@ianmarshall270preachhh brotha amennn 🙏✝️

  • @invin_2940
    @invin_2940 Місяць тому +58

    I'm only 19, the endless thought of death keeps on filling my head when I was already 16, I have no friends, no siblings, I'm asian (chinese), and during my school days back when I was 16-18, if I'm not indulging in video games or meaningless online interactions, all I can think of would be the meaning of my life, why do I exist, what am I even doing, it is almost as if my life is already over before it even started, and the thought of that death will come to me one day and I can do nothing to stop it is always there. It is because of this thought that got me to not feel like doing anything in my life at all, as I know it will all end anyways, even before this happens, I had never tried to study hard anyways, I had never do my homeworks, I already have a bit of addiction to playing video games or being online in general, I had never felt like trying to accomplish anything in my life, and these thoughts only solidified them, and it doesn't help that I started highschool the same year when covid happened, I thought I would finally be able to put effort onto studying, and work for a better future for myself, but I just never did, I think not having any friends at all really did a dent to my mental, I was never good at socializing at all, so I just feel like a loser that have to resort to staying online to feel good. On top of the though of death being inevitable, I basically gave up on my life. But somehow, because I was born very intelligent, I was still able to get a good enough grade for a university degree with minimal studying (I only started extremely hard focus on my study 2 months before the very final exam). Now, I'm an adult, and a university student, and just by turning 18, I have finally realize the truth of life, and I was very fortunate I was given a chance to redeem my life, even though I basically gave up it. At the start of my semester, I was still struggling, struggling to keep up with the self-discipline nature of being an adult, or being an university student in this case, I was so used to my teachers and parents putting pressure on me, giving me soft way to learn, but for adults, there is only learning the hard way, I got 1 gpa only the first semester, and I had to learn the hard way, nobody can help me other than myself, and now I think I have grown from this, really. I am no longer strangled by the thoughs of my life being worthless, the thoughs of giving up my life.
    Now, watching this video, it really feels like I am being completely called out, even though I had a really bad childhood, I still feel very nostalgic, the carefree-ness I've had, the different video game I have played for such a long time, just to inevitably give up on them due to a loss of passion, they really strike me hard when I look back at the memories. I already knew this would happen, I already knew that being an adult is not better than being a child, but time doesn't care about that, and now, I am in the state that I knew would happen to me, it's like you said, time just goes and it is just like that. So treasure the moment, live your life to your own fullest, ans that is exactly what I plan to go.

    • @junelove777
      @junelove777 Місяць тому

      please watch this. it explains why u feel this

    • @solomonwoodall3148
      @solomonwoodall3148 Місяць тому +2

      Our purpose is to glorify God. His name is Yahweh. His son is Jesus Christ. A judgement is coming for all of our actions. We can live with greater purpose by loving God and lifting up the name of Jesus. “Not by might, not by power, but by my Spirit” Zechariah 4:6

    • @illusionoftruth7091
      @illusionoftruth7091 Місяць тому

      Quran:
      [52:35-36] - Were they created by nothing? Or were they themselves the creators? Or did they create the heavens and the earth? Rather, they are not certain.
      [79:46] - It will be, on the Day they see it (i.e., the Hour, the Resurrection), as though they had not remained [in the world] except for an afternoon or a morning thereof.
      [20:124] - And whoever turns away from My remembrance - indeed, he will have a depressed [i.e., difficult] life
      [51:56-58] - And I did not create the jinn and mankind except to worship Me. I do not want from them any provision, nor do I want them to feed Me. Verily, Allâh is the All-Provider, Owner of Power, the Most Strong.

    • @invin_2940
      @invin_2940 Місяць тому +1

      @@junelove777 read what I said

    • @SChocker2008
      @SChocker2008 Місяць тому

      Hey man if you’re struggling we can talk. Wish you the best

  • @Itswoock
    @Itswoock 2 місяці тому +47

    4:00 bro stopped living in the present moment for 3 seconds

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  2 місяці тому +14

      well I stopped to collect my thoughts, I need to say stuff after all
      thanks for even making it that far into the video lmao

    • @Itswoock
      @Itswoock 2 місяці тому +12

      @@atomiumjae I actually listened to you through the whole video and appreciate your thoughts. Just felt like commenting something stupid :) thank you too

  • @TheK5K
    @TheK5K 3 місяці тому +158

    As an old guy (53) I can completely agree. Do NOT stay in the hotel. You've got (on average) only 25,550 days here on Earth. Spend each one like it was your last!

    • @RG_Eph
      @RG_Eph Місяць тому +4

      53 isn’t old by any stretch! Neither is 63. And 73 is the new 63. Humans are living longer, looking younger for longer, and are more educated about what they need to do to keep their bodies healthy.

  • @M4jayama
    @M4jayama 3 місяці тому +214

    It actually makes me so sad i cant enjoy anything right now and my future self will think back and be so disappointed in me

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +58

      who said you cant? life is about enjoying what youve built for yourself

    • @aminansar5294
      @aminansar5294 3 місяці тому +12

      Don't be sad. This life is really just not for having fun. Yes that is a part of it but that's not its purpose. The purpose of this life is that God tests us who is righteous and who is not so that He may reward everyone justly. The life that is desired, having never ending fun, is the one after death, in the paradise. If you don't believe in God or hereafter, this might be difficult for you but I assure you when you look into it with open heart you will realize what I am saying

    • @spiralghosts
      @spiralghosts 3 місяці тому +30

      why would your future self be disappointed? They are you. Your future self can understand with hindsight what you were thinking, why you're acting the way you do. There is no need to feel ashamed. Take on one day at a time to, some day, be your future self. You might not see a lot of progress with small steps, but if you do enough tiny things to make yourself feel better and to work with your own brain, it's gonna add up one day. And sometimes you "just" have to let the bad pass for a bit, as hard as it is.

    • @beans9288
      @beans9288 3 місяці тому +4

      Do the best you can when you can. Understand your own circumstances and know that you tried. Good luck.

    • @endlessnameless6494
      @endlessnameless6494 3 місяці тому +6

      Never drive drunk. Never drive distracted. Thanks, guys. Arrive home alive!

  • @eli_mb97
    @eli_mb97 27 днів тому +5

    I'm 27, so no young teen, but damn you speak some true facts. Ever since I was a child I'm afraid of death. Being close to my 30s now and it's only getting more serious. I count it as I'm already on 1/3rd of my life (If i were to live til 80-90 years). Maybe I'm already over half my life, you never know when it ends..
    Recently I was on a weekend holiday and had a advertisement of skydiving. I've always wanted to do it, so I was like fuck it I'm going for it. Being afraid of heights I wondered how it would be. It was very tense to jump at the start, but after that it was pure enjoyment. Lived that in my full 'present moment' and a core memory has been saved for the rest of my life.
    I just wanted to share this and I hope to encourage others with this to do the same. Don't leave opportunities for granted, because you never know if it will occur again!

  • @Asparagnoda
    @Asparagnoda 3 місяці тому +301

    I met this woman on holiday, and she told me “tomorrow isn’t promised to anyone.” After she said that to me i have been going out with friends so much more and going places wouldn’t usually go. I treat everyday like its the best thing thats ever happened to me.

    • @josephahn1024
      @josephahn1024 2 місяці тому

      Hey, my friend! I have the most important message to share with you!! Please read EVERYTHING!
      Bad news: we are all sinners, and as the punishment for all of our sins, we must spend eternity in hell after we die.
      Good news: God still loves us far beyond measure, and he sent Jesus Christ, his only Son, to take the punishment for all of our sins instead, on our behalf, by dying on the cross. Then, on the third day, Christ rose back from the dead!
      Jesus paid the debt for all of our sins (past, present, future) on the cross so that we wouldn't have to go to hell but be able to go to heaven!
      However, God considers that the debt for all of our sins is paid *the moment we truly believe* that Jesus paid the debt for all of our sins on the cross. All we have to do is believe to go to heaven (John 3:16)! Therefore, please do so!
      Praise and Glory to our God the most high!
      I want to tell you that God is always there for you with open arms! We are all beautiful sons and daughters of the Most High. Each and one of us are extremely precious to him! God wants to give us the greatest happiness and joy that doesn't compare to what the world provides. God is the only one who can fill the void that we have in our hearts. God loves us far beyond measure! God wants a relationship with us! He wants to be our best friend! We simply have to be open and let him into our lives.
      "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." Psalm 147:3
      "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Isaiah 41:10
      I love you, and God loves you so much more!! Have a wonderful day :)

    • @RG_Eph
      @RG_Eph Місяць тому

      Do you notice a big difference in your happiness?

  • @alkhemist6631
    @alkhemist6631 3 місяці тому +204

    I'm 38 and this video is something everyone should watch.

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +15

      damn I’m legit less than half your age
      would like to chat with you, do you have a discord? Mine is @atomiumjae

    • @faa1412
      @faa1412 3 місяці тому +2

      When you're 20 yrs. old, 40 seems so far away, now look at us; 1 (me) and 2 yrs (you) away from 40!

    • @lighting4001
      @lighting4001 3 місяці тому +1

      ​@@atomiumjae are you 19?

    • @razersedge2k974
      @razersedge2k974 3 місяці тому

      Absolutely agree. I'm 38, and i spent most of my life in survival mode from trauma, too scared to try things, always telling myself i'd do it tomorrow (endlessly) so it never actually got done. I've wasted probably a good 20 years of my life. I'm married with kids now, bought my own home (which is exactly the goal i wanted for myself) but part of me still feels empty and unfulfilled. Not because of my family, they are amazing and bring joy to my world every single day. It's the impending thought that death comes for all of us, and I wasted so much time and only got maybe to 15% of my full potential. The silver lining is that I still have time, and that's the only thing that keeps me sane, but there's something that weighs heavy about knowing you could have been so much better, had you actually applied yourself rather than escaping life playing video games, partying, or scrolling UA-cam mindlessly. If you are young and reading this, please heed my warning... pushing things to the next day is always going to leave you unhappy. In some scenarios it might even leave you with immense guilt. My dad and I's relationship wasn't too good, and on one particular day I thought I should call him, but the procrastinator in me was playing some video games, and I told myself i'd finish my game and call him after. I never did call him that night, and the next morning my sister called me saying he passed away. This absolutely crushed me, but there's some good to this. I know make it a MUST every single day to let my wife know how much i love and appreciate her. She receives it very well and me being forced to come to face with my past failures made me learn to never ever mess up like that again. I now show gratefulness and appreciation for the things I do have, and am still working on fixing my mindset of not thinking about the past in the sense of "things I shoulda had, had i tried harder" as that's a road that just brings misery.

    • @CoolScratcher
      @CoolScratcher 3 місяці тому +1

      @@lighting4001 he's 16, it says so in his bio

  • @kumkumbanjare7284
    @kumkumbanjare7284 3 місяці тому +183

    "The only memories you have is when you were in the present moment" THIS! this opened my mind
    Thanks a lot for this video!

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +9

      np bro

    • @dhillaz
      @dhillaz 3 місяці тому +1

      This one got me too

  • @TheKrazykyleman
    @TheKrazykyleman Місяць тому +8

    I'm 26.
    My living situation just changed and I'm at a friend's house with my dog waiting for them to get out of work.
    Idk where my life is gonna go from here, but there's been so much SHIT that I've struggled through and continue to struggle through.
    There's been improvement and I'm proud. It's still draining on me and my loved ones...
    Someone like this every few years or so. I want to see this again

  • @Ren-yw7tm
    @Ren-yw7tm 3 місяці тому +370

    as a 16 y/o girl, I've veen very plagued by thr thought of my life having no meaning. I'm preparing for an engineering entrance exam ( jee ) and that has consumed my life to the point that I haven't listened to music for months now. there us no way to stop, I know that, but I feel very lost at the thought that all this might have no meaning someday. I never made friends, never did anything except study and now, I regret not living my life when I could afford to. I know this is very overdramatic and I'm the only one who can solve this, but your video gave a this boost. thank you so much and please continue to do what you do. I hope you, and anyone who might be reading this, have a good day.

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +69

      thank you, I’m so glad to see my videos are actually helping people. As the f*cking academic weapon I can easily be if I actually study like a few hours, you need to take breaks bro. Studying for so long actually gets counterproductive.
      If you want, message me @atomiumjae on discord

    • @maruthimacha1847
      @maruthimacha1847 3 місяці тому +15

      not listening to music is actually guud
      dont exhaust urself ever, study as much as u can, and u know what things are a waste of time and unproductive, so live mindfully and regretless
      all the best for ur exam

    • @Zappkinwastaken
      @Zappkinwastaken 3 місяці тому +14

      I feel you, im preparing for JEE too.. Its really overwhelming sometimes

    • @Idkatthispoint794
      @Idkatthispoint794 3 місяці тому +11

      😭 this. I’m preparing for NEET

    • @callme_jadenoodle
      @callme_jadenoodle 3 місяці тому +19

      I don’t think you’re being over dramatic at all, I’m in a similar situation like you fighting for my entrance exam, I do get lost and drown in the cycle of studying and it’s exhausting
      Just so you know, even if I’m just a stranger passing by, I hear you. There’s a lot of people fighting like you including me, you’re not the only one feeling this, it’s probably not going to be easy but I have my best wishes on you, you got this.

  • @kajiuce
    @kajiuce 3 місяці тому +50

    3:35 when he said how time is well spent it actually made me happy, cause I’m really not wasting my time making videos

    • @PHALSEPROFITKZW
      @PHALSEPROFITKZW 2 місяці тому +1

      Making videos is definitely not a time waster, even outside of what he said. You could even make money from it in the future if you wanted.

    • @kajiuce
      @kajiuce 2 місяці тому

      @@PHALSEPROFITKZWye, but I’m probably not gonna reach monetization cus I need 4000 watch hours on just videos

  • @beanie.0
    @beanie.0 Місяць тому +242

    The UA-cam algorithm is scary. I'm gonna be an adult soon and there are so many regrets I have. I feel like I didn't get to spend my childhood how I wanted because of studies and insecurities. This video did really change my views on life and how I should cherish the time I have because I still have time. Thanks, I really needed this. ❤

    • @gingertale_
      @gingertale_ Місяць тому +2

      This will not happen suddenly. The number will change. You're changing smoothly, so you're adapting.

    • @NIGHEGNFERBBC3522
      @NIGHEGNFERBBC3522 25 днів тому +1

      As a Palestinian supporter this guy is teaching atheism and yall being emotional to him is insane😂

    • @NIGHEGNFERBBC3522
      @NIGHEGNFERBBC3522 25 днів тому

      When life goes bad
      Really fucking bad
      You lost job
      Your wife left you wit the kids
      And you siting there…what will you do? You have debt you have a boring job no friends and probably addicted to some bad things
      You. are. in a downward spiral
      What will think about?
      What will keep you going search atheists death by unal¡ving themselves theres no one worst than that there is the devil you will actually meet him and believe he’s real
      But worst if you don’t believe in god you did very bad things
      But if you trust god seriously just trust allah he’ll make whole he will make you better

    • @h1u2
      @h1u2 25 днів тому

      We are same ❤

    • @pykeplayer4007
      @pykeplayer4007 24 дні тому

      @@NIGHEGNFERBBC3522what? Has he said stuff about Palestine? What does this have to do with anything brother

  • @Wesleygraham2301
    @Wesleygraham2301 Місяць тому +27

    Ephesians 5:15-16: “Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men, but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil”

  • @Kekini_The_1
    @Kekini_The_1 Місяць тому +1284

    Please for anyone who‘s reading this like this comment so i get remembered to this 🙏

    • @Ryumario0
      @Ryumario0 Місяць тому +8

      Save it to your playlist. Your so lazy

    • @Kekini_The_1
      @Kekini_The_1 Місяць тому +4

      @@Ryumario0 nuh uh i always forget it there😭

    • @noahbabomabo7109
      @noahbabomabo7109 Місяць тому +7

      @@Kekini_The_1L-L-L LIKE BEGGER

    • @Kekini_The_1
      @Kekini_The_1 Місяць тому +1

      @@noahbabomabo7109 why would i?😭 what advantage would i have if i get likes?

    • @SwagTheCat-i1d
      @SwagTheCat-i1d Місяць тому

      @@Kekini_The_1 “like this comment so I can remember this” 1. You’re like begging
      2. What happened to your grammar?

  • @k22kk22k
    @k22kk22k 3 місяці тому +29

    Let me share my experience.
    I’m 32 and I’ve heard the same“seize the day” type of advice many times and tried to practice.
    What I learned from this is, this mindset can easily burn you out.
    I tried to maximize my productivity, set my goals clearly and go like an unstoppable train.
    I started churning out what my emotions want to do to achieve what rationality tells me. No doom scrolling, yes to practice and act effectively.
    It looks so right, but I constantly suppressed inner conflict between emotion and rationality. Mental war rages in me everyday, everywhere.
    Often I “win” and it gives some satisfaction, but I
    was never able to stop the fight.
    Eventually I got so tired that I felt like my dreams are no more fascinating and therefore useless. I lost passion and became numb. The habit of doom scrolling came back gradually.
    After some time, I realized I can’t keep negating my unproductive emotions anymore. No matter how stupid it is, what I want is uncontrollable. Shame on me, but this is the reality I face.
    So I let it go. But it was the time I started to recover.
    The more time I spent unproductively, the more I can feel right. My brain started working again. Also I regained the interest for my dreams.
    I still do scrolling mindlessly (so I find this video haha), yet I feel like I lead my life naturally.
    TL;DR: don’t neglect your emotion to stop wasting your time. It will hurt you.

    • @gappuma7883
      @gappuma7883 Місяць тому +1

      True you can't be on top 100% of the time

  • @von_daphnel
    @von_daphnel 3 місяці тому +28

    "Time spent having fun is not time wasted"
    I always thought of that phrase of one of the best ways to see life, and I'm glad to finally find someone who agrees with that. Amazing video, thanks for sharing such valuable advice!

    • @cof...
      @cof... 3 місяці тому +1

      cool person pfp

  • @nicholascheng8995
    @nicholascheng8995 6 днів тому +1

    "He said one day, youll leave this world behind, so live a life you will remember"

  • @Bevzthejcs
    @Bevzthejcs 3 місяці тому +50

    I'm 54 years old and if it means anything to anyone, in my experience this is good advice and the holiday analogy is a good one. One thing i will add that never meant anything to me when i was young but i see it now... as well as having fun, at some point in your life try and build something that's important to YOU, so when you look back at the roller-coaster ride that will be your life, there is something there that you can be proud of and say "I built that, just me". Oh and don't get hung up on age/timeframes, it doesn't matter WHEN you do anything (despite what society will have you believe) as long as you fit it in at some point.

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +3

      Thank you man. This video is reaching an older demographic man, I’m getting people who’s like 30+

    • @indiasupportsthereturnofth1475
      @indiasupportsthereturnofth1475 2 місяці тому +1

      @@atomiumjae yep 34 here and felt old until I saw the 50+ years imao.

  • @justabasichuman5057
    @justabasichuman5057 Місяць тому +144

    4:50 "Many people die wishing they'd chase their dreams, spent time with their loved ones, or fulfilled their purpose... I don't want that to be you." I think this video might actually change my life. I cannot state how much this has changed my mindset. Thank you.

  • @nics0ul
    @nics0ul 3 місяці тому +156

    im 29 years old watching this and i still feel like im 12 inside hahaha. life still blows my mind. "keep on going despite there being nowhere to arrive. there's no finish line, just an endless softening into love and equanimity."
    i believe theres an afterlife though, at least i really hope thats the case so i can see my cat again

    • @Cuteemogirl94
      @Cuteemogirl94 3 місяці тому +4

      Same

    • @PhDincriminilogy
      @PhDincriminilogy 3 місяці тому +5

      Same and i am 27.

    • @isiii4793
      @isiii4793 3 місяці тому +10

      I really hope you’ll see your cat again someday, you both deserve to :)

    • @yamaracuya
      @yamaracuya 3 місяці тому +3

      I am literally crying

    • @brybrybry995
      @brybrybry995 2 місяці тому

      I really do think there is an afterlife BUT that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t live life as best we can on earth, enjoying our time, doing the best we can to help others, and be present in the world with others.

  • @Pvm1-
    @Pvm1- 5 днів тому +2

    there has never been a video that touched my heart as much as this one. thank you so much, i can't express my gratuity.

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  4 дні тому

      glad I was able to help you :)

    • @Pvm1-
      @Pvm1- 4 дні тому

      @@atomiumjae 💚

  • @jvne_furuta
    @jvne_furuta 2 місяці тому +182

    watched this on 1.5x so I'll get 5 years and 100 seconds of my life back.

  • @wxdnesdayfilms
    @wxdnesdayfilms Місяць тому +61

    i gave you 2:30 min. 2x speed for the win

    • @ohlord1514
      @ohlord1514 Місяць тому +45

      My guy only got 2 and a half years back😭

    • @InvertedBread
      @InvertedBread Місяць тому

      😂​@@ohlord1514

    • @holymonkyman
      @holymonkyman 25 днів тому +1

      @@ohlord1514 LMAO NAH

    • @user_cy1er
      @user_cy1er 21 день тому

      @@ohlord1514loop this when sleeping,get infinite life(no)

  • @jsangel.mm2
    @jsangel.mm2 2 місяці тому +25

    I am a young teen watching this, and my dad passed away in 2017. I wish he lived for even just a few more years, because although I know I would still be sad now, I would have more memories with him. The only thing I remember was his last vacation in the summer before he died, I don't remember anything else, even if I try really hard. And he wasn't around for half the trip because he was going to car auctions because he loved cars, he rarely went with us to the amusement park we were there to go to. He spent the last friday that we were there at the amusement park, and all i remember from that trip was walking on the sidewalk with him to a bakery in the morning and going on one of the rides at the amusement park with him. This trip wasn't even a happy trip either, he was drinking a lot (the cause of his passing), but I didn't know that. To have only one memory with your father is very sad. My message to any teenagers out there seeing this comment that are always like "mom, drop me off over here, i don't want them to see"; your life is too short for that, your parents life is too short for that, yes, your parents may be alive today, but you don't know what will happen. You never know how much time you have left with your loved ones. So, please, just let your mom drop you off and don't give a crap who sees. Nobody is ever going to remember that, because it's not important for them to remember it, it's not a problem. If you play video games a lot, set them aside for a bit each day and spend time with your family. The video games will not stop being there, they won't vanish. You may want to stay on the games now, but later on you'll regret not spending more time with your family, and you won't even remember playing those video games, or scrolling through TikTok, so please, go spend some time with your family. I know how it feels to get time cut short with someone. Make the most of the time you have with them, please.

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  2 місяці тому

      I’m saving this comment.
      Thanks bro, and you can message me @atomiumjae on discord for a chat

  • @billy9964
    @billy9964 17 днів тому

    "Time having fun is time well spent."
    Thank you bro, needed to hear that

  • @duckgooseyswan
    @duckgooseyswan 3 місяці тому +26

    “Time spent having fun is not time wasted.”
    Gosh, I wish that thought would imprint in my head more since the early era adults just conditioned me the opposite mindset. You know, the “you are wasting time by having fun” kind of mindset.

  • @ajscorp
    @ajscorp Місяць тому +33

    39 here….. 😂😂🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️
    But seriously, remember this - you’re never too old to take advice.
    To all the younger ones (or older) watching this video, its never too late to take action & get your perspective corrected.
    I am so inspired by this video bro, life changing & touched me so deep….. I needed this although I was already on the path to self improvement.
    Thank you again for this 🙏🙏🙏
    From your big bro 😅

  • @J5MNE
    @J5MNE 3 місяці тому +64

    I used to spend the majority of my time pondering over how I wish I could go back to the past. I spent days crying in my room telling myself “Things will never be the same as before.” But I realized that’s what makes life.. life. Change is going to happen whether anyone likes it or not. I’ve been living more in the moment, thanks to this video for helping me notice that.
    To add on some other thoughts; I really do feel scared for my dad. I hate to even think and say this, but I know he’s nearing the end of his life. I’m just starting my adulthood, I actually graduated HS a few days ago. I did it to make my dad proud, because I know he probably won’t live to see my little brother graduate in 5 years from now. My dad’s the strongest person I know, I hope he enjoyed his life. Even though he’s still primarily healthy for an 80 year old, anything can happen anytime.
    Tell your friends and family you love them.

    • @cozycoffee953
      @cozycoffee953 3 місяці тому +5

      you didnt ask, but i just feel like you're a nice person and wanted to say; maybe try reading the Quran? Muslims don't believe that this life is the end, we believe that the hereafter is our actual home and destination. it's also extremely comforting to know that this life isnt the end. I request you to look into it (the Quran).

    • @Yourhandleisntavailable
      @Yourhandleisntavailable 18 днів тому

      I love you, old friend!

  • @koshkamatew
    @koshkamatew Місяць тому +14

    well said, this video made me start overthinking at 3 am

  • @alkoxide860
    @alkoxide860 2 місяці тому +24

    Listen to your heart. Do what you want, do what makes you happy. We all die. Tbh today is the funeral for an uncle i've known all my life. He simply came home from work and went to sleep never to getup again. Idk the cause of his death but he just went like that. Life is too precious to please others, please yourself. Always make sure you're happy and contempt with what you do.

  • @Aniketht1
    @Aniketht1 2 місяці тому +64

    This. Exactly this is the type of content is what I pay my internet bills for❤ Thankyou for making this video buddy❤

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  2 місяці тому +1

      np man, watch more of my videos yea

  • @JANNET-hj6fe
    @JANNET-hj6fe 3 місяці тому +26

    I love how raw and natural this is. It makes the message even more clear and straightforward. Thank you friend!❤

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +3

      np bro, just stick around for better videos yea. U can watch those on my channel already too

  • @ryan99842
    @ryan99842 Місяць тому +550

    drop everything youre doing and find a book called 'Unveiling your hidden potential' by Bruce Thornwood. trust me on this

    • @d1ssolv3r
      @d1ssolv3r 29 днів тому +19

      Crazy how a bot comment gets a bunch of bot likes and ends up in the top 5 comments, advertising a $13 book that nobody's ever heard of, on a sketchy site. Tell me, if you're real, what's great about that book that another one can't show you? Can you summarize it for me?

    • @somerandomguy1
      @somerandomguy1 29 днів тому

      @@d1ssolv3r how is he a bot vro 😭

    • @d1ssolv3r
      @d1ssolv3r 28 днів тому +2

      @@somerandomguy1 Did you look up the book? lol

    • @somerandomguy1
      @somerandomguy1 28 днів тому +3

      @@d1ssolv3r okay I cant even find info about the author so yeah I guess you're right

    • @maximusdecimusmeridius13
      @maximusdecimusmeridius13 26 днів тому

      Woah

  • @CheziBurgoirEpic
    @CheziBurgoirEpic 2 місяці тому +10

    3:28 "Time spent well is time well spent."
    -atomiumjae

  • @KNYGirlAri
    @KNYGirlAri Місяць тому +40

    The fact that I remembered the last two shorts- 😅(And that was hours ago…)
    Still, I’m almost 14, and this video actually helped me a lot. I’m always worrying about stupid things I’ve said in the past, first impressions on people I saw as a bad display, embarrassing moments, and publicly brain farting. And when I’m not worrying about the past, I’m worrying about the future! I’m starting high school this September and I’m nervous, I’m worried whether or not I have the right career idea in mind, if I’ll make enough to live when I’m older, when I’ll move out, if I’ll get to experience the miracle of becoming a mother someday, if I die alone or young… I know I’m just “a kid”, but I’ve always felt older than my age inside and it’s like I’m always waiting to really get out there and start a life for myself.
    People always push children into growing up way earlier than they should be, teaching them that they have to colour perfectly inside of the lines and be successful or else you won’t be taken seriously. And I find that the age where this pushing starts is getting younger and younger each year! In today’s society, you’re considered a child for about five years and then it’s time to toughen up. That’s what I see happening, at least.
    As a cause, we lose our inner child and wish we could go back to the carefree days of play and innocence. Nothing’s stopping you from doing something you used to love when you were a kid to experience a bit of that again.
    Back to the point, this was a great video. I know I’ve been typing this comment way longer than the actual video’s length, to which I apologize for. I tend to ramble when it comes to writing at times, though it’s the complete opposite with me speaking in person. 🥲
    I wish more people would see this! Have a great day and live life to its fullest!
    -Ari.

    • @Paxseko
      @Paxseko Місяць тому +1

      I'm twice your age-- I want to say nothing has changed from when I was your age. Yes, you will have the wrong career, sometimes you won't make enough to live, you may never be financially successful or successful enough in a relationship to be a mother, you may die young. I can't reassure you because so far all of that has happened to me but the dying young part. But you will be okay. And if you aren't okay, you won't be alive to know it, ha ha. Life is a struggle and if it wasn't, we wouldn't have motivation to do better, be better, and make the world better. I'm sure that's not reassuring to know, and I don't mean to act as if your choices mean nothing- they do. But the best laid plans of mice and men gang aft awry. Just do the best you can-- it will be enough.

  • @benmoon8412
    @benmoon8412 2 місяці тому +106

    “It’s tempting to linger in this moment, while every possibility still exists. But unless they are collapsed by an observer, they will never be more than possibilities.” - Solanum, Outer Wilds

    • @OMarc11711
      @OMarc11711 2 місяці тому +1

      Thank you, this was one of my favourite quotes, and I forgot it without realising it

  • @AlannTheChildee
    @AlannTheChildee Місяць тому +6

    Dude, you have no idea how much I needed to hear this. Lately, I've been thinking so much (I'm an overthinker, yes, but I've been thinking a lot more than usual.) This literally brightened up my mood, and made me so much more hopeful. Now, because of this, I think I can keep going without worrying. You have no idea how much I needed to hear this. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

  • @Mishaco810
    @Mishaco810 2 місяці тому +75

    0:19 Bro, this is the exact same thoughts I have been thinking a lot, especially at night time when I go to sleep. I ve been having panic attacks at night, sometimes i cried until I fall sleep. I dont know what to do, except try not to think about it, Im always using my cellphone to distract myself, sometimes staying awake until 4am when my body just collapses for how tired it is. Never found a video that talks exactly what Ive been thinking until now. It felt nice to know that Im not alone. Im almost 22 (birthday is in july 5) so I don´t know if Im your target audience, but still thank you. Greetings from Peru, Paddington's new adventure (Yay!)

    • @kofabillion
      @kofabillion 2 місяці тому +4

      Happy early birthday! It’s July 3 for me so it’s almost July 5.

    • @alem2988
      @alem2988 Місяць тому

      Happy birthday for the 5th bro, it's now the 18th (from the UK)!

    • @joemama3681
      @joemama3681 Місяць тому

      Happy belated birthday bro! I hope you get some rest, sleeping is important :)
      No te preocupes demasiado que vas a estar bien, amigo

    • @helenm1085
      @helenm1085 Місяць тому +3

      I hope you can talk to someone you trust about this. It's the kind of thing that a lot of people think about, but if it's consuming your life, you deserve to get some extra support. I know it's not always easy, but for me making sure that I did things that I found enriching in my day, and planning my time so that I lived with purpose (even if I was too tired and I could only plan playing video games or watching TV - resting is good for you, and longer absorbing activities are better for your brain and sense of self than a lot of the short form content you get on the internet these days) distracted me from nastier thoughts, and brought my brain back to good things. I'm rarely kept awake by my thoughts spiralling these days (I also use a sleep podcast or familiar quiet music if I am caught in a spiral). I hope you get some peaceful sleep :~)
      - Helen in Australia

    • @fates-reward
      @fates-reward Місяць тому

      ​​@@helenm1085 This, about filling your life with more engaging things, is so important. I think this is absolutely the best way to combat these sorts of thoughts, to fill your life with other things that you end up really spending time to think about instead. But, even in the event that you can't, due to circumstances for example, you are still never powerless.
      I personally also struggled with existential dread, and panic attacks because of that dread, every night for years as a teen. I was very sick and isolated, but I also just got so sick of that fear, I had to do something. I got sick of distracting myself all the time. I wanted life within my own headspace to not feel so terrifying all the time, and figure out how to confront these thoughts directly so that they could no longer have that power over me.
      So...to do this, I turned to my self-talk. If you tell yourself something enough times, you will start to believe it. This is very personal, of course, so you have to figure out what feels most comforting to you. I started telling myself every night things that I find to be comforting related to death and existence. What has helped me most personally is to tell myself that existential dread is simply proof that I do not need to understand existence, or that I am not meant to, and this allows me to come up with my own reasons for existence, and my own purpose. Over time, I began to experience that I suddenly had much more control over my train of thought than before, able to redirect my thoughts away from that fear in a way I had never experienced before...because days of telling myself that became months became years, and I truly began to believe it was true.
      I am no longer sick and isolated as I was, and am generally in a much better place. I still have to tell myself this every night to this day regardless. The ways my life has become richer all help occupy my mind, but even then every once in a while I still have moments of panic. And I have other somewhat odd triggers, such as that I can't even read or think about outer space because the idea of how small I am in such a vast universe brings me so much terror. I experience derealization due to the trauma of that isolation and that makes it even worse. But, again...that self-talk, which I have now been doing every night for about 6 years, makes it all seem so insignificant to my life in general. I am now very quickly able to ground myself as a result even when I do slip back into panic. Hope this all makes sense, tried not to ramble too much 😅 About distraction, I think it is still a more than valid (and often necessary) coping mechanism, but in my own experiences here, to always constantly attempt to distract rather than confront and redirect can end up backfiring, in which case I believe changing one's own mind in this way becomes a very useful tool.

  • @christianpier
    @christianpier Місяць тому +15

    3:23 „Time spent having fun is not time wasted.” 👌

  • @joplacuesta
    @joplacuesta 3 місяці тому +63

    Today, on my way to work, I just witnessed a road motor accident and someone died. Your vid makes me appreciate life even more! We only have a very limited time and truly we have to make the most out of it and worry less! Thank you for this! Keep it up!

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +9

      damn holy shit. You never know when times up man. And thank you, I will try my best okay. New vid out this saturday

  • @KarseenKing
    @KarseenKing Місяць тому +8

    Ecclesiastes 12:7
    "Then shall the dust return to the earth as it was; and the spirit shall return to God who gave it"
    1 Thessalonians 4:13-18
    Believers in Christ will rise first, be caught up with the living in the clouds, and meet the Lord in the air

  • @learning5088
    @learning5088 3 місяці тому +20

    "I don't want that to be you" your last line did a lot to me, thanks for giving this realisation:)

  • @cerspence
    @cerspence Місяць тому +13

    You’re brilliant dude!

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  Місяць тому +1

      just sharing things i think will help people, kinda surreal to see so many genuinely benefit from my content
      just stick around for better content yea, thank you for the comments.

  • @bloodlessangel
    @bloodlessangel 2 місяці тому +43

    "Time spent having fun is not time wasted." Amazing quote there bro. I'm 13 years old as of right now and I'm going to many mental struggles such as psychotic depression, severe paranoia and anxiety, and also constant thinking periods about the concept of life and death which have developed into severe theophobia. Forgive me if my grammar is bad. Thank you so much for this video. You've earned a sub and big fan.

    • @CastleHassall
      @CastleHassall 2 місяці тому +4

      hey i found it helps just to think of big and small things you would like to do (even making our space we are in nicer for us, or building up a skill in something we would love to get good at) and to do even small steps to build up doing them.. that takes our mind off the stresses.. also doing things like burpees and getting our heart rate up (if it is safe for you to do that) helps flush out the depressing and stressful feeling biochemicals from our system
      and be kind to yourself..
      and yes it can be depressing, but avoid watching stuff that is heavy, that helps a lot.. our thoughts get affected by the input we get so if you do watch videos it helps to watch fun inspiring ones..
      good luck!
      when i look back on my life i wish I'd just not worried so much and just spent real time with people who liked me.. spend some real time with a friend, just having a laugh about things and cheering each other up, they may feel the same and would be glad to spend some nice time with you and that can build up how you feel too

  • @corn-lh9mx
    @corn-lh9mx Місяць тому +1

    ive always seen videos like this and they all just seemed to run over my head, but when i saw this show up on my feed and thought to hear you out. i feel like im at a point in my life where im able to start making changes but ive always thought "whats the point" and "is all gonna end anyway" but i genuinely felt this. now i know this isn't going to send me on some epic cosmic journey where i find the meaning of life or make some revolutionary discovery, but i feel like its a push in the right direction, thank you.

  • @mstr293
    @mstr293 3 місяці тому +79

    I envy that you're still young when you realized this. I'm about to be 33 next week but I'm still trying to navigate through the edges.

  • @humairafroz5616
    @humairafroz5616 3 місяці тому +30

    I like the rawness of the video man. Everything authentically said.

  • @agustinlopezcarignano9490
    @agustinlopezcarignano9490 3 місяці тому +89

    This video is SO DEEP! I'm 20 years now and I have this feeling that I've already lived too long without truly enjoying life.
    As you age, you might become less energized and more responsabilities steal your life time like it's nothing. Also your perception of time becomes less accurate because of repetition and routine and now 1 day might feel like 1 hour when you was a child. Therefore, a 40 year old is not half way, but more than half way to death. So if you're 20 years like me, PLEASE enjoy your damn life once for all before it vanishes from existence!

    • @6ixXxnonymous
      @6ixXxnonymous 3 місяці тому +2

      Real

    • @Soulis98
      @Soulis98 3 місяці тому

      Same

    • @FurokkuFurokku
      @FurokkuFurokku 3 місяці тому +3

      28 here.
      This is so effing true.
      I thought my mentality would stay young forever and I always wondered when and how one turns into an adult mentally because at 24 I thought I should already have turned into an adult... And then at some point the inner child gets quiet and a preform of death begins.

  • @oliverrhys5351
    @oliverrhys5351 Місяць тому +1

    “The only memories you have is when you were in the present moment.”
    Me, with a severe dissociative condition and complex amnesia
    (Regardless of that, this is such a good video to have showed up on my page. I respect how you seem to know so much more that’s so much more correct than most people I’ve spoken to, most people way older than myself, it’s crazy to me to see people who have a healthy outlook on the inevitability of death like this. Full heartedly agree with the message, i just don’t know if I ever really can live in the present, sadly.)

  • @Domi_Know
    @Domi_Know 2 місяці тому +18

    You made me laugh, get teary-eyed, feel relieved, reflect on myself and inspired me in a 5 minute time span. Thank you for your words.

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  2 місяці тому +5

      damn, thanks man. Watch my other videos too yea

  • @powerthepower1363
    @powerthepower1363 3 місяці тому +23

    I completely agree living the present is the best thing and chasing my dreams!!! Thank you for the advice and goodluck chasing your dreams!

  • @Strange_Traveller
    @Strange_Traveller 2 місяці тому +18

    I actually started tearing up for some reason I can’t explain.

  • @TheMasterGamer69420
    @TheMasterGamer69420 Місяць тому +1

    So nice see an actually genuine content creator with a meaningful motto. Truly inspiring.

  • @snailcat86
    @snailcat86 3 місяці тому +9

    "You didn't know you were making memories, you were just having fun."
    I've had this quote in the back of my mind for some time now. I'm not a person who thinks about death, as I've understood that it's just a natural thing that's not worth thinking about. Life is meant to be lived, not to be thought out in your head. Enjoy life, go about your day, have fun. Start that project, or continue that project, talk and hang out with your friends and family. Do things even if they might be scary at first. That's what life is about: to be explored, have fun, and be unique to you and your experiences. I truly believe there's not more to it than that, and I'm thankful for that. Because it means I can choose for the most part on how to live it. Do what makes you happy, and if you can't, then strive to get there someday in a way that's meaningful to you.

  • @lawsome2068
    @lawsome2068 3 місяці тому +27

    Im 23 and I definetly wish I'd put more effort in my studies, I've still passed and succeded but not nearly to my fullest potential, additionally having fun is definetly not time wasted and you should use the advantage of youth to discover your passions, Interests and make as many great memories as you can. 😊 because when you look back and think of the life you've lived you will be satisfied when you remember the wonderful memories you have made you will feel better in the present its a beautiful mood booster and I say this from experience.
    Also as someone with a very small group of friends who all live long distance, don't be scared to go out and have fun by yourself. Take yourself out ,explore the world (your corner of it at least) and live life actively. When you do meet up with your closest friends make the most of it.

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  3 місяці тому +4

      yes, but trust me when you do find friends who you truly fw, you will be so much happier

  • @Spacekid_Productions
    @Spacekid_Productions 3 місяці тому +42

    I read Marcus Aurelius meditations, and it focused a lot on the topic of death. Its actually surreal to think that there will be a last time for everything; a last time to argue, a last time to forgive, and a last time to hug... I have recently been appreciating life gifts more, and Im glad for all the things I have. Life is just a mere flux of time... a visit in a strange land.

  • @jacoanimationstudio-di7hi
    @jacoanimationstudio-di7hi Місяць тому

    that was one of the best videos I’ve ever watched, literally my school therapist couldn’t explain it better

  • @Mythikal13
    @Mythikal13 2 місяці тому +74

    I ain't gonna be on my deathbed wishing I didn't play more video games. I enjoy them, most of the time, but when I don't I stop playing. It's okay to have things you do for leisure, as he said time enjoyed is not time wasted. Just be less judgemental of yourself, you can either look at it as I played this game for 1000 hours, what a waste, but usually when you look back you remember the fun times you had playing, you can also look at it as you spent 1000 hours enjoying yourself and having fun. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  2 місяці тому +10

      yea the problem is for a lot of people (including me) we barely remember any of the hours we spent. Like the video said, time spent having fun is not time wasted

  • @Bokuga-Kira
    @Bokuga-Kira 3 місяці тому +6

    I like this saying that I found somewhere and it stuck with me, "Dance the dance of life."

  • @CoolScratcher
    @CoolScratcher 3 місяці тому +9

    Fellow 16 year old here, you are a VERY good speaker. Subscribed, can't wait to see more from you. You are also someone who has good editing. Considering how heavily I value MY editing, I really can recognize someone who has an eye for subtle and effective editing/storytelling.

  • @_iannboy076
    @_iannboy076 Місяць тому +1

    this man is changing lives and he just changed mine thank you so much bro. Much love to you!

    • @atomiumjae
      @atomiumjae  Місяць тому

      np man, just watch more of my videos later yea

  • @elaineross9365
    @elaineross9365 3 місяці тому +16

    Enjoy your youth my friend. Don't worry about death, don't worry about the future. The future is an illusion, it will never come. The past is gone. Don't waste time with it. Before you know it, you'll look in the mirror and see an old person looking back at you. So be happy, enjoy your life, all you need is already within you. It is not in external things. You have much to learn but it is already in you. You are already complete my friend. Be still and listen to your inner self, it knows. Your mind will chatter shit at you. But be still and listen to your inner self and follow that. Have a great life. You are already great!

  • @awes0men0b0dy9
    @awes0men0b0dy9 3 місяці тому +5

    I needed this, I’m starting my junior year when the summer and I’ve drifted away from my friends, I’m scared because I want to look back on high school with good memories, and I want to meet people, I need to step out of my comfort zone

  • @run_eclipse
    @run_eclipse 3 місяці тому +19

    Nice video! I remember I was 22 when I thought I was gonna die that one night in June, and I was like so this is it?
    My body was paralyzed, my head aches as my vision kept spinning, and I was struggling to breathe. Memories flashed through my mind in an instant, and all of it was how I take life too seriously. I realized I hadn't enjoyed my time in elementary, high school, and college because I was too focused on grades and achievements to make my parents proud. In college, I experienced depression, and after graduation, I faced burnout which is why I choose a menial job despite graduating with honors. I missed out on enjoying my youth because I was so afraid of the future and worried about falling behind others.
    I'm a woman and everyone is pressuring me to work hard as much as I can so I would have a good family. But that night I can't even control my body, I was crying and my mom is yelling at me to stop while massaging me. I felt alone and I told God that giving me a few more years will be a gift and I'll try to enjoy life. Right now I'm less anxious compared before 😂 Know to differentiate doing your best vs pushing yourself so hard