Sons of Single Mothers
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- Опубліковано 25 сер 2024
- Visiting my mother's grave has always been something I did alone, but this time I was led by the Most High to do something different. Recently I've received an influx of messages regarding the challenges single mothers are having raising their sons. So as I was cleaning my mother's headstone, the Holy Spirit told me to share my heart with sons of single mothers. I pray this video will enlighten the sons of single mothers but also, encourage their mothers to stay hopeful and their absent fathers to be present. #SavingBoys #TeachTrainTransform
20 years old grew up with no father i needed to hear this brother thank you
As a single mother, I thank you. And I want to remind you to forgive yourself for being a young man doing what young men do. Your mother knows this about you and is pouring love down on you.
Sarah Coolidge thank you for the encouragement. Although I have forgiven myself, I still wish I had those teenage years back to love her like she deserved.
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As a single mom of 3 kids.. This made me cry. Thank you
Just sat here and showed this to my 12 year old son... I am raising him and his sister and lemme just say it has not been EASY!!!! 😭😭😭😭my only comfort comes from the Most High!
Bring a man in before it’s to late ……
I was raised by a single mother I wish u the best ❤but please he needs a masculine role model a women can’t raise a Man U have never been a man
Stay with God and you will make it. Ask for God to help you and He will. Ask for wisdom in how to raise your children.!Teach Bible always, take them to children Bible classes.
I completely understand the need for boy to man but women have to move with caution bringing someone into their lives these days
I'm going through this currently and I feel horrible. I've never seen someone as unhappy as my son is and it breaks my heart. I hope this phase passes and he can bounce back. This video gave me hope thou... thank you
Thank you brother for sharing, my father was very abusive and my greatest influence as a child was my mother. God bless you and thank you for sharing your words of Godly wisdom
Thank you, brother. It takes a lot of strength to show this type of vulnerability. Keep up the great work that you're doing!
This just hits home. Your story is mine. This is deep brother. Thank you for sharing, and showing what it is to be a man. We hated, we cried, we had grudges. Not to late to fix our problems.
Philippians 3:13 “Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus."
You have to also forgive yourself, you have to understand that when you were younger you didn’t know anything. Don’t regret your mistakes, just learn from them and move on. Kids will be kids. And You were a kid.
Black Excellence amen! Mom made it easy for me to forgive myself. Watch this video - m.ua-cam.com/video/NZ3lc5ZdOrs/v-deo.html
Thank you Sir for all that you do❤❤❤,I am a single mother and my son and daughters father abandoned them and not because we don't/didn't get along ,he just stopped reaching out to them and my son who is 17 don't understand why and it breaks my heart to see him struggling about it😢😢😢
Hey, I’m a daughter and this ministered to me. I had so much resentment towards my mother because my father was not present. But I have learned and I’m still learning to look past her frustrations to really see her heart and I know that she cares and she’s concerned about me and my brothers. Right now if something were to happen to her, I don’t know what I would do. I don’t know if I could be as strong as you. I can only imagine how you are feeling and I pray that God continues to provide peace and comfort to your heart. Thank you so much for sharing. This really is a wake up call.
Just curious to why you were mad at mom for dad not being present did he not have a say so. Good to hear your being open minded
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Thank you Lord for allowing me to see this video when needed. God Bless you for your transparency in Jesus name AMEN 🙏🏽
Thank you for this. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!
My son is 12 years old and we had a really rough night last night. I went outside to get some air and ran across this video. Had to be divine intervention.
After listening to this, I played it for him.
I wanted to share something I wrote many years ago:
" *My thoughts as a single mother*
I see pictures on social media a lot saying, 'Proud Single Mom!' This really bothers me. I am not PROUD to be a single mother. I do not take PRIDE in the fact that my child has no relationship with his father or daily positive male role model. I am not PROUD of picking the wrong person to make a child with.
Here are the things I AM proud of; I am proud that my beautiful son calls ME, mommy. I am proud that my God entrusted me with such a wonderful gift to honor, cherish, protect and above all, love. I am proud that I am able to take care of my son on my own and proud of myself for working hard and instilling good values, manners, morals and kindness into my child's every day life. I take pride in the fact that my son trusts me and my judgement. I am proud that he wants ME to kiss his boo-boo's, read him books, teach him things, etc.
THOSE are some of the things I am proud of.
One thing I am NOT proud of is being a single mother, because the one who hurts the most because of it is the one person I would do anything for, to avoid him feeling any pain.
My son.
I can teach him a lot of things but I cannot teach him how to be a man."
I couldn't have said it better
Wonderful message and strong beard game.....
Blessings to All single mothers
I am a single mother 😓😓😓 4 sons... first one I had young...his daddy convinced me to let him be my first. Cheated on me and broke my heart. Years later I ran into the father of my other three. My mother’s drug addiction when I was a child masked the probability that my husbands alcoholism would be a real problem. So eventually I left. It’s been 3 years now. My sons miss him so... please pray for us...
GloryBe2TheMostHigh Forever praying now!
You got this girl. Stay strong, consistent and let you expectations be known(in LOVE). They are listening and watching. Everything wr do WILL manifest at some point. Speak LIFE into your sons. They will be GREAT!!!
i honestly see that u make the choices you do because you want ur kids developing without those bad examples around them. you're honestly doing what i feel is the best thing to do for your children. ur a good mother because u put them first. and u might feel like ur taking something good from them but their fathers got the responsiblity to step up and fix their problems. they are human beings capable of making descisions so they should be able to say, "i wanna see my kids so i will fix myself to become a better role model. " the first father, not much to say. maybe tell his kid, wut he done is pretty messed up and to think about the woman's feelings before doing things that mess with other people. but the one with the alcoholism needs to take a good look at himself in the mirror and decide if he wants to stay in that crappy hole he's dug out for himself with the help of bad genetic predisposition or if he wants to climb out and join society to see his children again. u did wut u could as a mom: removing them from that bad environment. i got respect for u!
my aunt had a kid with her first husband but left him when his drug problem started getting more profound. my other uncle that was a cop, found him passed out on the skid row streets of my hometown. she left him because his daughter, my cousin, was unsafe in that kind of environment. she resents her mother for several reasons but one of them is for that, even to this day as a 40 year old woman. she doesn't knw that her father was that bad of an addict. she always thought her mother removed him from her life because of the money issues. it would seem like that to her because she still has no idea about the drug problem. she reconnected with her father when she was an adult and he had recovered from his addiction but now she hates him over some political disagreement. honestly she hates everyone but yea. he never really told her how bad his addiction was.
I'm not in any sports but this really got to me. I'm 26 and I know I haven't been the best of sons.
Thank you for your words. I'm blessed and grateful that I still have time to make amends.
Appreciate the time you gave us and the real spill OG thank you
God My God My God 💔💔💔as a single parent what my kids went through…my heart is hurting has always hurt as I said never, not me that is what happens to others not me and I did everything and anything for this not to happen…it’s still shocking and surreal working and going to school working up to 3 jobs and ppl saying (not all) that my best was not good enough physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Nobody had to ever tell me that my best was not good enough, was always hyperaware of this. I fasted, prayed, went to therapists, social workers and desperate to keep my family together.
Thank-you for sharing your story and heart on this personal story. 🙏🏽♥️ Words are trite rn listening to this and the infinite gratitude, appreciation, and blessings to you, wife, family, and each and all that you are teaching. 💗
I'll be showing this video to my son. Such an important one filled with words of wisdom and sincerity. Thank you for your candor and desire to teach our sons. Blessings to you and your family~
Shalom Brother. Thank you so much for sharing this. I realize you made this six years ago, but it is blessing me in this moment today. I am the eldest son who was raised by a single mom-I have two brothers. I am now a married adult with children of my own. When I was younger I had a good relationship with my mom, but as I’ve gotten older there’s been a number of issues to come up and lots of repressed anger has come out. At the moment I am not on best terms with my mom. I pray our relationship can be repaired while we are alive because it would really pain me if things were to end like they are now. 🙏🏾
Just read your comment. I am asking you to please go and make it right with your mom because tomorrow is not promised to any of us all we have is today there is no tomorrow every tomorrow is today. Talk to Almighty God about it to give both of you peace and calmness in the situation then go to your mama in a peaceful and humble way tell her you’re sorry for whatever happened between both of you, she might broke down and cry and forgive you or she might try to bring up what happened in the past that’s okay do not engaged in it just stay humble say mom I love you and I am sorry I hurt you can you please forgive me I’m not here to argue or fight with you, you are my mother and I love and respect you as my mom. Whatever she says do not argue with her because you are proving to her that you have changed and you’re not that person you use to be. If she’s not listening to you say mom I love you I see you’re not up to talking right now I’ll come back another day and we’ll try again then leave. Trust me all of that will be playing in her mind so the next time you call her to tell her you’re coming by to see her so y’all can talk she’ll be in a much softer position to receive what you’re about to tell her. I wish you the very best with your mom I believe y’all gonna be back together as mother and son loving each other. I’m a 65 yrs of age and a mother of 2 children so I’m able to speak to you like this even though I don’t know you. Take care and Almighty God bless you and the family 🙏🏽
Thank you, Ms. Regina. Your message is heartfelt and I receive it. I actually called my mom this past Friday and apologized. I was able to spend time with her on yesterday. While we have a long way to go, I was very grateful to have had the opportunity to hear her voice and give her a hug. A family member’s mother passed this weekend and it really put things in perspective even more. You and my mom are in the same peer group-I felt the loving tone in which you conveyed the message and I really appreciate you taking time to respond. God bless you abundantly. Much love
Hi Justin congratulations on you reaching out to call and spend some time with your mom that was such an honorable thing to do, this is where the healing begins, no matter what happens when you’re coming from a place of love ❤️ if will be felt, I know your mom felt the love even if she didn’t say it. Let me tell you something Love covers a multitude of evil, why? Love ❤️ sees no evil it just keeps on loving. Always remember to tell her that you love her and show her as well, randomly bring her flowers 💐 for no apparent reason or something that you know she likes just because you love her, only what you do in life will last not what you didn’t do. My mother use to say give me my flowers 🌸 now I’m alive so I can smell and enjoy them not when I’m dead I can’t see or enjoy them. When you converse with your mom try and get to know her better ask her questions like what her childhood and young adulthood was like growing up because a lot of times we as parents don’t talk about that because we’re to busy working and talking care of our children, give it a try you’ll be amazed at what you’ll learn. If she says why now say in a loving way I just want to know you a little bit more because I love you and it would be nice to know what my mother was like when she was much younger, sit close beside her with your head leaning on her shoulder. Sometimes take her or send her to get her hair done also a manicure 💅🏽 and pedicure once in awhile if you have a car take her out for lunch occasionally or take her for a ride in the car and enjoy each other’s company trust me she’ll enjoy it and remember when your visit is over always give her a hug and say I love mom. Hope this was of some help to you. Peace and Blessings Love and Light Always 🙏🏽
This breaks my heart. Every situation is different. Some people, whether Mother or Father, aren't cut out for parenthood. My son will be 5 years old next week & I fear the day he starts to ask questions about his Father. I never kept that man from his child. Whenever he would ask to see him, I always agreed. It's going on 4 months of him not seeing his child. He'd rather be in the streets getting high & doing what other street dudes do. I tried to hold onto that relationship for the sake of my son but it was too much for me.
Sometimes women have to let go ESPECIALLY if the situation is toxic. I know that I can't be the male figure that he needs & I'll always feel guilty about that but I know I made the right decision for the mental/emotional well-being of my son. I couldn't continue to watch that Man choose the streets over & over rather than be with us ...and I wasn't gonna allow my son to grow up watching that either.
So it's not always women keeping fathers away, some of them keep themselves away with their behavior.
The story of my life. Thanks for sharing, Sis😣🙏❤
My son is 11 now. His dad chose not to be there. Now my son is 11 and his father wants to be a dad. It makes me so mad. The only reason my son it with his dad today is because of an illness that caused me to loose the ability to walk, and caused cognitive issues like memory. I raise my son 11 years by my self. now im married. I actually miss so much being a single mom. It 10x easier. The only thing i regret is working to much to make sure i was able to give to my son as much as a married couple gives to their child. I worked 12hour shifts sometime 16. Made good money. Not enough time with my son.
Thank you so much for this, Brother. Thank you for all that you do. 🙏🏾❤️
Thank you for sharing this beautiful message. I am a single mother & I pour my all into my son(5) while continuously praying for the growth of his father. It's a fear of mine that the inconsistencies of his father may one day negatively affect him, therefore as you stated it is very important for single mothers to take advantage of those "step-fathers" in their children's lives. We've been blessed w/ two(his Godfather & his grandfather(his dad's dad)...the videos you share, although many miles away, help mother's like myself so thank you again sir.
Thanks for your story... Your mom knows you did your best. I have a 10 month old son and another on the way as the father left to be with someone else. I know this was made for the guys, but your story helped me see that I have to really check my anger cause these babies did nothing wrong. I don't want them thinking they did anything wrong. Thank you!
This was absolutely beautiful! Thank you so much for this video. God bless you and your ministry to young men❤
I'm all tears😭😭😭😭 Thanks for sharing😢
God bless you man, I'm sure ur mama appreciated you towards the end and know you were a young man back then that had lot to learn but did learn that, I miss my mom everyday and thank her for all she did
This was Great to hear. Thank you. We need you in all of our cities sharing your messages and teachings to our Sons.
Candise Brown please help share our most recent video "A Building for the Future" so that our academy can bless more boys, young men and families who live outside Detroit
Thanks for this video; I'm a single mother of 4 cuz of domestic violence and your video just describe my pain and daily routine struggles... i really need a man like u in my life ❤ who fear god, who value us.
May you mother spirit rest in peace cuz she raise a great son ❤
Love the people who love and take care of you for God giveth and God taketh away.
Thank you for your transparency... I am a single mother with a 16yr old son and I struggle a lot mentally, spiritually and emotionally but in order for him to learn to know Jesus for himself I must remain consistent and obedient to Gods will!! I truly commend your work and pray Gods continued blessings over you and all the lives you touch🙏🏾 I truly pray your teachings are spread throughout the world!!
I've watched a few of your videos today and I am happy to have discovered your work. You are a decent man doing good work. Peace be with you sir.
If the fathers TRULY want to be in the childs life, than the mother should at least let the father be part of the childs life. Both need to agree to give the child the best they can, and not slander the other parent around the child. Both did the deed to bring the child into the world, so they should work together for the childs best upliftment. My mother was and still is a single parent, now raising two children by herself, and most single mothers deserve so much better. Much respect my friend. God Bless
I've never seen a mother cooperate after they end their relationships with the fathers. I'm sorry but I don't feel any sympathy for these single mothers because I know the overwhelming amount of them are spiteful, hateful, and toxic vindictive child abusers. They are to be avoided and left to there own avarice.
Respect ❤💛💚 I'm not in that City but I'm very grateful for these videos my 11 year old son just watch the video thank you Creator for this man and what he's doing
Thank You Brother ❤
I am a single mother, thank you for this video. My son needed to see this. I wish you were here.
Long live the single mothers🙏🏾
thank you so much.i love this man.good job man.great job.God got Angels all over.thank you.
Aaisha Tillman hey hey hey it's me goodnight goodnight goodnight goodnight
Kevin Kinseyy ugh get off of here
God bless you my brother
I am the oldest amongst my 3 other siblings. I used to hate my mom with a passion. My mom has severe bipolar disorder and refuses to take her medication she instead smokes weed . As a child my head was fucking spinning from the lack of consistency in my life. My mom was very unstable, in and out of the hospital and for 1 whole year she was in the psychiatric ward. My grandparents took care of me. That year with my grandparents was the smoothest year of my childhood. I am now 17 years old and I love my mom and help her as much as I can around the house. I was blessed to be around educated and wise people who guided me through childhood. I started seeing a psychiatrist at age 16 because someone close to me said I had PTSD though they couldn’t definitively diagnose that. I do have PTSD though and my psychiatrist recommends that I love my mom from a distance and continue to self improve and meditate.
This got me right in my heart.
I'm 21 years old, I hate my self, i live in a eternal depresion, sometimes i want to die, this got me crying hard for the way i interact to every person and mostly my mother.
My mother over protected me but she tried the best all alone to give me what i needed.
she is a controller person and now that i have changed my personality our relationship in like strangers, because i dont let her to control me but also i dont have any normal interaction for me over acting the same personality
I was bullied in school and every place i went
Now i try to be a man, but i dont know what it is to be one, i dont want to be passive anymore but know i'm not happy either
Now i dont know if i am protecting my integrity, being submissive or being an idiot
I'm lossing friends, my mom and posible girls for that. Cos i dont know what is acceptable or not
Thank you for sharing this with me. I feel honoured that you would open up the way you did for your following. I am a 22 year old male who was raised by my mother since I was six. I am learning every day how to appreciate her more and more thanks to you and many other males role models in my life. I was wondering, how do I re-connect with my father? I am afraid and upset because over the years in trying he has hurt me a lot. I don't know what to do because I have no room in my heart to hate.
Ocean Man brother reconnecting anything sometimes is a challenge, but the key is walking through the process. I had to connect with my father because we never were connected. The process was painful but in the end, before his end, we both were healed.
Thank you. I will try. My father has not been a good one to me. It upsets me every day.
Thank you for the testimony!! Awesome, my grandson is going through this right now. Thank you for your wisdom.Im a grandmother standing in the gap. Sometimes, I get so tried. But God's grace is sufficient!!!❤❤
Thank you so much for sharing. I so wish I was back near Detroit just so my son could attend The Cave.
Thanks for sharing! I'm in a big trial. In sorrow and tears. My christian daughter backslided to drugs, gangs and abortion. Please somebody help me! :(
I am praying now for you, please do not lose hope. I didn't have time to share in this video but I rebelliously ran from the Most High's calling for my life for a decade. I went through a lot to get back where I am but that's what it took for me to say like Daud (David) "Before I was afflicted I went astray: but now have I kept His word." - Psalm 119:67
Eduardo Rodriguez I'm believing God for your daughter's testimony. How she will win many souls for the Lord, in the magnificent name of Jesus, Amen!
As a Jamaican. i respect you for your humble word love and respect brother your a great man
This brotha is ALWAYS on point. I’m glad he shares the wisdom so we can improve on mistakes early
AMEN!!!!!!!..... BROTHER!!!...... AMEN!!!
Im a single mother of 4 Sun, their father is serving 25yrs in prison 12 yrs so far.....your videos are inspiring thank you
Cave 313 I feel you and I'm here crying for your mother. I don't understand how it feels to rised by a single mother but I'm being by a single father and if lost my father I don't know what would come of me but I can kinda understand you. And sorry for your lost even know this old news I hope you see this message.
Thank you, brother!
Thank you for this message.
Thank you ❤
Wow! I'm so thankful that you are walking in obedience! I blessed the Lord for your ministry. I can see the many souls being healed. May the good Lord protect and bless you and your family all the days of your lives in Jesus' name, Amen!
Thank you for sharing... My Dad died I was only 3. Raised by a single mom!! 💪
Wow! This took a lot. So proud of you. Thank you!
Thanks for sharing this Mr. Wilson. While listening to you, I remember my mother and how I was when I was young. I am struggling but I am going to give my best to my mom.
Thank you for sharing this...peace and blessings to you
Thank you!!! Awesome ❤
She destroy my personalty , I feel somthing destroy me cuz the way she raised me
Lord PLEASE send someone who can sit and speak with my son...I have faith but I need help. Amen
Shalom Sis. Sorry I just came across this channel and saw this message. I'm willing to provide you my email address so you can have him get in contact with my husband.
Thank you for this message, brother!
Incredibly moving video, my man. Bridging a lot of boundaries here. Every word you've said rings true.
May our heavenly Father continue to bless you with wisdom and long life. ❤😥
This was touching brother. I pray The Most High works within me, the way he has worked within you 🙏🏾
Big brother thank you so much for this message, I'm getting closer to my mom day after day. Your videos have a great impact keep doing what you do. May the highest bless you
Your AMAZING!!!! and all your work is not in vain. Your Mom did an awesome job with you, I pray that I can do the same with my son and daughter, God bless you.
As the son of a single mother, and now, the father of a son, living with his single mother, we need to dive deeper into the social truth about why this keeps happening.
It’s like the system wants a divided family unit. Exceedingly Ironic but welcome to the United States
We know the answer. We just don't like the truth because it doesn't taste good.
She still raised a good man. I hope you can take comfort in that. If you come to the conclusion you came to now(even this late), she did something right.
Thank you my brother for this post. I’m a young cat myself who can relate to the narrative. Improving on my purpose ✊🏾
Thank for sharing this
Your Mama is in you and around you. Continue to let her spirit melt you, fill you and mold you. Bless up. Stay Earthstrong.
Appreciate this brother!
Thank you for your powerful words, brother. Blessings, courage and strength to yourself and your family through these trying times.
Shame on those who have disliked these video. Your pride will not take you far because you can’t handle the truth. Thanks Cave for touching so many sons and daughters. I’m glad to have my mother and will always thank God for her. 😭 tears 😭 watching your video with mama. You were a good son and to those who don’t have both or missing one parent God is the father to the fatherless. If you have one or two start doing what you haven’t been doing because one day you will never they will be gone and even painful if you don’t repent. obey your parents for this is right so you may have many years here on earth or anybody who is a guardian to you. To those who lost a parent or both may they rest in peace and may you be a good role model to your sons and daughters and even if you are a single mom or dad keep loving them and don’t give up; God is the father to the fatherless and mother to the motherless.doesn’t matter what your parents have done forgive them and love them and treat them right
Thank you so much, I needed to hear this…much love big bro❤️🤞🏾
I had to learn to do this for my mother. And for my father. Many times women make certain decisions that put themselves in these situations and it by proxy stresses the children. Fathers are also amazing and many of them are in their children's lives as well. They are worthy flaws and all.
Thank you so much for sharing this. Your testimony is a blessing.
This is awesome 😢😢l went through hell with my son!
People accuse me of abandoning my son. I didn’t abandon him. I did my best. I gave my best and my best was never good enough.
Mother can never feel the void never feel the place of our father never no matter how she tries
im subscribeing cuz i appriciate this man doing what he's capable of doing.
Thank you 👍
Amen....Amen! The world needs more pple just like you. Single mothers are exhausted, irritable and overwhelmed. But mom's also got to understand it's not the kids fault....kids are going to be kids and teens are going to be teens. Life is a struggle
Thank you brother, wise and honest words, amen. ho!
Thank you for what you do, Jason
Man I just discovered this today Jason this was on point everything you said I'm come from a single parent home being my mom...and having son and daughter from women that are relationship is not at it's best man especially coming from the black family aspect man I suffer from all this and I have to do better thank u for expressing this brother I kno the most high has been using your for the Righteous purpose you are a true servant and continue to the work thank you brother Shalom. 🙏
Single mother of four boys. Wish my boys could hear this but it'd be self-advertising. It truly is the message every mum wants to hear and every son should hear.
My eldest who is nearly thirty has had time to reflect now but it takes those years to accumulate wisdom.
Being the dad and a mum is hard. "you're stricter than other mothers?" is often thrown. Mother and sons can be a complicated relationship.
Literally my whole life in a nutshell from mom to dad !
Amen!
Thank you for understanding , my situation may not be to that extent but i am the primary provider of my childern and i cant say i cant when they at time can, I am fortunate to have a relationship with my children father but at times its still difficut due to me having the kids in my home and being the primary provider.... thanks for understanding
Thank you brother for your courage and honesty
As a single mom, I approve...not that you need it. But thank you for acknowledging how hard it was. Aa a single mom I send you a spiritual hug of thanks. God bless you. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💖💖💖😊 By God's Grace indeed.
Thank you sir🙏
Thank You Sir I Needed This...
GOD bless you your words have touched many
Shalom brother/ach of cave313. I am a grandmother of 4 boys and 4 girls I heard you. you are fulfilling your purpose on this earth. I hear your story and see my daughter raising 4 young men. I see them grappling for what it is to be a man. I pray someone could talk and direct them as I have seen up do for my brothers and their future men. Shalom and be increased.
We all have things we wish we could do all over again and do the better. This is called wished. We also need to know how to forgive ourselves. If we don't learn this we're unable to forgive other's
Thank you for this message 🙏.
Thanks for being here. 🙏🏽
Much luv and many blessings to you 100 fold💪💪💪💞💞💞✨✨✨