How Single Moms Can Raise Boys Into Exceptional Men- Dr. Alduan Tartt

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  • Опубліковано 12 вер 2024
  • Psychologist Dr. Alduan Tartt provides seven tips for how single moms can raise boys to be exceptional men regardless of circumstance. Single moms have been and will continue to raise boys into the world's most powerful men.
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  • @jasmineramsey2389
    @jasmineramsey2389 2 роки тому +16

    Here in 2022 trying to find ways to properly raise my 7 year old son as a single mother. Some days are easier than others but I am being obedient to God and focusing more on finding ways to continue making my son an exceptional man! Thank you for this.

    • @MsTYouTube
      @MsTYouTube 2 роки тому +1

      @Jasmine Ramsey I know exactly what you mean by saying this. How are things going for you?

  • @maritablake8360
    @maritablake8360 3 роки тому +44

    I dont believe in making excuses for dads! Many of us mothers go through the same exact struggles and we don't abandon our children.

  • @laurencontella87
    @laurencontella87 6 років тому +40

    I’m a single mom of 3 with zero involvement from my kids dads and you just changed my life with what you said, thank you 🙏🏼

  • @Knaeben
    @Knaeben 5 років тому +17

    I mentor a boy with a single mom and am looking for ways to inspire him.

  • @j.sony.
    @j.sony. 6 років тому +20

    Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom! I am a single mother of 3 teen boys and a little girl, with no family to help. It is most definitely a challenge! I am so glad I found your channel. Thank you

  • @ashleyelizabeth1173
    @ashleyelizabeth1173 4 роки тому +9

    You have blessed me with this 6 year old video. God bless this man in the Jesus' name- Amen!

  • @takeauthority30
    @takeauthority30 8 років тому +16

    Right on time.... Needed the advice for my son, so Good... Thank u

    • @laurencontella87
      @laurencontella87 6 років тому +1

      Ericka Dillon right on time! I know that’s right!

  • @AM-wn7rk
    @AM-wn7rk 2 роки тому +5

    Amen! Give our sons a relationship with God. Raising my son to be a man of valor.

  • @familyroutes2895
    @familyroutes2895 5 років тому +8

    Just came across this video and wow! This confirms all the things my instincts have told me in the reading of my son. It's tough at times but he's a great kid. THANK YOU so much for this insight.

  • @yycchickie
    @yycchickie 9 років тому +8

    Dear Alduan, I want to thank you for your honest and real advice. I am sitting here in South Africa with a 14 year old son and you have now caused me to cry my eyes out :D Your advice is spot on and your heart felt goodness touched my heart today. Never stop believing and doing what you do. You inspired me. Sending you blessings all the way from Sunny South Africa

  • @altargirl89
    @altargirl89 10 років тому +17

    I'm pregnant with a baby boy and trying to read up on how to raise a gentleman. Nice video

  • @lookthereshope7820
    @lookthereshope7820 3 роки тому +4

    So much help 😩 I love this . I didn’t realize I lacked in so many areas . Today is the start of a new beginning !

  • @MsSweetfifi
    @MsSweetfifi 8 років тому +10

    I'm a Muslim mum with a husband so I'm not a single mum but needed to hear this so much good advice wish you could come to the uk and so talks

  • @shanmarie2424
    @shanmarie2424 5 років тому +10

    Thank so much gotta change my attitude because sometimes my son behavior is really hard to deal with he's only 4

  • @ndidiamakaokpareke7857
    @ndidiamakaokpareke7857 6 років тому +5

    Amazing video! Thanks for all the info. I will implement immediately, as a single mother of three boys. I love how you've instructed to "parent from the overflow."

  • @prettyparadoxicalwoman8285
    @prettyparadoxicalwoman8285 3 роки тому +3

    Single mom of three boys never married never had a long term healthy relationship . I'm poor I don't get child support. Nobody really understands my situation and I NEED videos like this thank you. Been isolated in an RV for two years due to poverty and covid. They never had a male role model ...ever. No family around us. I'm very confident and tell them we are what we are and I'm happy with that and there's nothing wrong with us but my 14 year old DOES think we are crappy compared to the world . the dad's have never been there but they met a few times but there is no bonds there and it's safer this way.

    • @prettyparadoxicalwoman8285
      @prettyparadoxicalwoman8285 3 роки тому +2

      The math thing is what I told my kids that we accept that turnips cannot be tomatoes ...that doesn't mean a turnip is bad and it's not my fault I don't have relationships but still fought to have kids because I wanted them :) it's not the dad's don't want them they just aren't dads

    • @chandras9873
      @chandras9873 3 роки тому +2

      Praying for your success and endurance needed to be a single parent. I was poor I had to believe that I need to do what I need to do to make my kids life better. Ex. Going to school, more than 1 job, career mentoring, personal mentoring, faith mentoring. See if there are free job resources career resources in your state. My state had funds for certificates in specific areas of study.
      I wish you and your kids the best.

  • @nickysolomon6037
    @nickysolomon6037 Рік тому +1

    THANK YOU!!!! I WAS RAISED ON THE SAME MORALES YOU TALKED ABOUT... NOW I HAVE 2 GRANDSONS WITH SORRY DADS MYSELF AND THE GRANDFATHER IS IN THEYER LIFE AND WE HEAR WHAT YOUR SAYINY EXACTLY 💯 😉....YOUR AWSOME!!!!!

  • @LisaReynolds46
    @LisaReynolds46 10 років тому +16

    As a single/widowed mother of a 15 year old son, this really gave me a lot of insight and tips on raising a son and not to baby him simply because he is my 'baby' and i'm a nurturer and 'helicopter' type mother. Thank you for sharing!

  • @ayeshhas5641
    @ayeshhas5641 7 років тому +4

    Dr alduan, thanks for the tips. Although not going to college doesn't equate lack of success. We needed to hear these tips to be exemplary mothers, teachers and inspirers to our children

  • @faithb6981
    @faithb6981 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much for this...As I continued the work in progress of bettering myself, unfortunately the collateral damage became my relationship with my STBXh/sons father...There's an order in place prohibiting contact on both sides for safety reasons so at this point all I can do is pray that he does what he needs to do to see his son...his reasons are exactly what you speak of...please keep doing what you're doing...I got so much encouragement from your video as I experienced feelings of sadness recently realizing that as more time goes by it seems that this will be my unintended situation...when you said that we CAN raise a man, it's all about our attitude, that was HUGE for me...with God first and support and self-care, I now feel prepared...May God bless you mightily...

    • @DRTARTT1
      @DRTARTT1  2 роки тому

      Faith, I sincerely pray that all works out and that you find peace and resolution even through the storm!

  • @Sarah-yw2yu
    @Sarah-yw2yu 7 років тому +2

    i already said...it starts with family...once they leave...its how they treat their family is how they will treat their own!

  • @myrellamacias9966
    @myrellamacias9966 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you for this video, I'm having so much trouble with my son. I'm praying to god for his help and giving me strength.

  • @senseofpeace6442
    @senseofpeace6442 Рік тому

    I appreciate your intro. I am a single Mom from divorce after 10 years of marriage. I never kept my sons from their father but he decided to leave the country in 6 weeks. Packed two suitcases and has been gone for a year. Hardly FaceTime our sons. He is contributing financially because I had to go through the courts unfortunately. People feel bad for me and act like my sons are going to fail at life. That is not an option for them in my eyes. I will do all I can to help them be healthy, Goal driven, loved, intelligent, teach them to make conscious decisions in life, experience being supported by their tribe and be a supporter of their tribe, know their presence in my life and our families life are valued. I communicate with them when I am in a space were I’m not fully emotionally available and I need a minute so that I won’t be short tempered with them… I call it personal time lol I’m starting my art business and they see me working and developing myself. Every day after school, we do homework together and read together. I have many discussions about life with them. I support anything they do. I brought my sons to college campus that we drive by many times and when we took a walk through the campus… and I talked about how the extra studying is to help him get to a higher level like college… it increased his desire to learn. It’s a hard job to be a single Mom but to see their happiness and how much they try… heaven on earth!

  • @kethiafequiere5946
    @kethiafequiere5946 3 роки тому +1

    I’m a new mother to a beautiful baby boy. I’m off with a great start after watching this. Thank you

  • @andreabrava6899
    @andreabrava6899 3 роки тому +2

    My son is realy proud that I am a doctor, we have vacations and a good life, but it also robs my time. I want to give him more time, but how?!

  • @atruthseekerwords1941
    @atruthseekerwords1941 3 роки тому +2

    This is the best 👌 thank you I have o many practical ways to help raise my son .. thank you

  • @cancandycan
    @cancandycan 3 роки тому +1

    Amazing. You are so encouraging! I love that your words provide guidance and inspiration at the same time. I'm so glad to have stumbled upon your video.

  • @StPantologizt9
    @StPantologizt9 3 роки тому +3

    Single mom of 7 (3 boys)

    • @DRTARTT1
      @DRTARTT1  2 роки тому +3

      You can do it Rita!

  • @bellefemmekenisha
    @bellefemmekenisha 10 років тому +2

    I am a new supporter .....You are great at what it is you do, this is he third video I watched and I will continue on :)
    I look forward to your views being in the thousands, millions :) you deserve it!

  • @tinaamoretti2204
    @tinaamoretti2204 6 років тому +3

    Very inspirational. Thank you

  • @lizb8850
    @lizb8850 2 роки тому

    This video may have been posted 8 years ago but I just came across to it, and it’s the right time for me as I start my journey with my 2 yr old son. Thank you, Dr.!

  • @lila-Bey
    @lila-Bey 6 років тому +3

    Loving video, thank you for posting, Gbu :)

  • @magalilugo2367
    @magalilugo2367 9 років тому +5

    Great information.

  • @jzen1032
    @jzen1032 3 роки тому +1

    In 2020, I needed to hear this. Thank you for the blessing.

    • @DRTARTT1
      @DRTARTT1  3 роки тому +2

      I'm am glad. This made me smile.

  • @mrslatham
    @mrslatham 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for an amazing video!

  • @KiDDREcOrdS
    @KiDDREcOrdS 8 років тому +2

    I definitely took notes Thanks so much for the video

  • @taylortaylor4464
    @taylortaylor4464 3 роки тому +1

    Awesome video!

  • @shelleythomas2852
    @shelleythomas2852 7 років тому +5

    Thank you for this

  • @Sarah-yw2yu
    @Sarah-yw2yu 7 років тому +8

    its not just african american men who need this!

  • @debbieartis9140
    @debbieartis9140 7 років тому +2

    Awesome video😁😁 It really helped me...such a blessing.

  • @crystalwhite4799
    @crystalwhite4799 3 роки тому +1

    Your teaching is excellent. I'm so glad you didn't leave The Lord out of your teaching.

    • @DRTARTT1
      @DRTARTT1  2 роки тому +1

      Crystal, without God, I don't have a base. God is my rock!

  • @denisexx6337
    @denisexx6337 5 років тому +3

    Thank u so much for this

  • @beautifullife728
    @beautifullife728 8 років тому +2

    Very interesting!Thanks for sharing!

  • @mphephethevilakazi8320
    @mphephethevilakazi8320 4 роки тому +2

    Thanks Dr you came at the right time my son is 14years smart & I'm busy searching for a mentor & I'm also planning going back to school at 48years. I'm proud of my work 🤗

  • @aspiringrootwoman24
    @aspiringrootwoman24 2 роки тому

    wow, i love the penny as a reminder to praise and encourage!

  • @Nomvula26
    @Nomvula26 Рік тому

    These tips are top tier, thank you Sir 🙏🏾

  • @glamruzgigi9638
    @glamruzgigi9638 7 років тому +2

    Yes! Thank you & God Bless.

  • @SpeakinofLadyD
    @SpeakinofLadyD 10 років тому +3

    So what happens when you feel guilty for taking care of your needs first? Also, what's the best way to explain this to your children?

    • @luckyc336
      @luckyc336 7 років тому +8

      La'Cresha Lee I could be wrong here but I truly believe that if we can't take care of ourselves we can't take care of our children so sometimes you have to put yourself first as long as it doesn't come to the point of neglecting your children

  • @portiamtabasinde6968
    @portiamtabasinde6968 4 роки тому +1

    This is very helpful. Thank you🙏

  • @abeautifulfamily8654
    @abeautifulfamily8654 Рік тому

    I’m married with a present father and we found this helpful in 2023

  • @kaylastarlight7252
    @kaylastarlight7252 6 років тому +2

    Good parenting advice for all

  • @gabrielacorral2773
    @gabrielacorral2773 7 років тому +1

    Wow I Love your video. Great advice it really gave ma clarity on how to raise my son! Me and my sons dad are seperated and it's a little difficult for me. It's exactly how your saying. Thank you and God bless you!

  • @MsTYouTube
    @MsTYouTube 2 роки тому +1

    God brought me to this video today because I needed this perspective. Thank you.

    • @DRTARTT1
      @DRTARTT1  2 роки тому +2

      Ms. T, I pray that what ever is going on passes and gets successfully resolved.

    • @MsTYouTube
      @MsTYouTube 2 роки тому

      @@DRTARTT1 Thank you

  • @N_Breeze
    @N_Breeze 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you.

  • @deeb2156
    @deeb2156 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you so so much ❤️

  • @mr.wonderful4307
    @mr.wonderful4307 6 років тому +1

    Well said sir. I love your optimism.

  • @JoifulFamily
    @JoifulFamily 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much

  • @sweetesthing84
    @sweetesthing84 9 років тому +2

    Spot on. Thank you!

  • @erikareyes5174
    @erikareyes5174 8 років тому +1

    great Video!!

  • @erikareyes5174
    @erikareyes5174 8 років тому +2

    great Video

  • @VirgoT123
    @VirgoT123 Рік тому

    Great tips!!

  • @KarmabyCara
    @KarmabyCara Рік тому

    Some moms are raising child alone because their husbands are working like truck drivers, men who work in the oil industry, etc.

  • @deannab4175
    @deannab4175 7 років тому +5

    i really needed to hear this... thankyou

    • @luckyc336
      @luckyc336 7 років тому

      Brandi clemons I love it when people are seeking to better their lives and especially their children's lives. Kick butt Brandi

  • @snowlady4803
    @snowlady4803 6 років тому +1

    Very very good! Amen!

  • @tiffanyjohnson1676
    @tiffanyjohnson1676 5 років тому +2

    Thank you Dr for speaking life to my son this morning 🔥💪

  • @sephardishalom2693
    @sephardishalom2693 6 років тому +2

    Beautiful! Go and up in Jesus mighty name!

  • @prettyparadoxicalwoman8285
    @prettyparadoxicalwoman8285 3 роки тому +3

    Holy crap that just changed everything . ASK first ...THATS THE PROBLEM my kids are entitled that means cuz they get up do tech I'm out of control with that n fight after this IS my issue!!! Read the Bible before the tech ASK first RIGHT FRICKIN ON!! AWESOME SAUCE.

  • @bellefemmekenisha
    @bellefemmekenisha 10 років тому +1

    thank u so much!

  • @19brittani
    @19brittani 2 роки тому +1

    i was raised in in the 60s and my pops gave one warning then he put hands on my brother and i. we both turned out alright. no jail time and married with kids. we learned at the school of hard knocks..lol

    • @DRTARTT1
      @DRTARTT1  2 роки тому

      Some things from old school need to return, Brooks.

  • @lexl8041
    @lexl8041 6 років тому +1

    Thank you so much for making this video really gives me strength
    As a young single mother raising a man

  • @queenj7720
    @queenj7720 5 років тому

    Thanks!

  • @fitzgn78
    @fitzgn78 5 років тому

    Will you be coming back to the Philadelphia area?

  • @michellej.462
    @michellej.462 10 років тому +1

    This was a very helpful video! Thank you!

  • @jewelthompson9034
    @jewelthompson9034 5 років тому

    My older son said mom you can't raise me? You will have to let me do me? Your a woman you don't know how to raise me. You don't get me you'll never be able to raise me into a man? And all I can do was say sorry and walk away.

  • @Suzelaniful
    @Suzelaniful 3 роки тому

    I am interested more in what your saying around 25m.
    I have a young boy who is very very smart.

  • @KeepinItOneHunnnid
    @KeepinItOneHunnnid 4 роки тому

    by jumping in a time machine and choosing a better father for their kids that's the only way how.

  • @melissawaggoner7509
    @melissawaggoner7509 Рік тому

    Um… shaving and changing a tire has nothing to do with being a male

    • @DRTARTT1
      @DRTARTT1  Рік тому +1

      Boys needs to learn these things. Girls need to learn to change a tire too. The point is boys need to be shown how to do things expected of a man. If you are talking about something else, my apologies.

  • @edric01prim77
    @edric01prim77 7 років тому +1

    Great video!

  • @erikareyes5174
    @erikareyes5174 8 років тому +1

    great Video!!

  • @sweetesthing84
    @sweetesthing84 9 років тому +1

    Spot on. Thank you!

  • @erikae3178
    @erikae3178 5 років тому +1

    This is great information

  • @rachellej5699
    @rachellej5699 8 років тому +2

    Thank you so much

  • @moor13floor
    @moor13floor 10 років тому +1

    Thank you.