How To Forgive A Cheating Spouse

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  • @mariceldb2990
    @mariceldb2990 3 роки тому +210

    Forgiving is hard....forgetting is the hardest.

    • @vaibhavyadav6606
      @vaibhavyadav6606 3 роки тому +5

      going thtrough the same phase

    • @trentizaiah6498
      @trentizaiah6498 3 роки тому

      you probably dont care but does any of you know a tool to get back into an instagram account?
      I was stupid lost the password. I appreciate any assistance you can give me!

    • @charodale3154
      @charodale3154 2 роки тому +3

      I am struggling on this

    • @richcar3434
      @richcar3434 2 роки тому +23

      Actually I think the forgetting part is impossible.

    • @freakangel21
      @freakangel21 Рік тому +7

      I've heard from their podcast - you are not supposed to forget. Forgive yes. Forgetting might cause you and your marriage to stumble on the same issues/that you had

  • @caliboyz8314
    @caliboyz8314 Рік тому +63

    It's the hardest thing in life besides death.. especially from someone u never would expect it from .. I'm currently going thru this and it ruined my life

    • @RareGod4_
      @RareGod4_ 6 місяців тому +2

      Any update? Did u stay with her? I’m going through the same thing right now

    • @rhinz1125
      @rhinz1125 6 місяців тому +1

      It ruined me right now 😭

    • @chillvibeswithstickshit8391
      @chillvibeswithstickshit8391 5 місяців тому

      Same any update?

    • @baryl3969
      @baryl3969 4 місяці тому +1

      The pain…the refusal to give full disclosure…the repeated D days…the trauma starting at zero all over again over three years…It ruined my mental and physical health. Started dissociating. Forgot who I was. Got lost driving. Killed my spirit. Went to different doctor who wasn’t even aware of my mental state and she could see my spirit was gone-dead. You never forget even after you choose to leave. Their shadow still hurts.

    • @simbamakwinja6512
      @simbamakwinja6512 4 місяці тому

      Shame lm going through this right now😢

  • @Holycow94WoW
    @Holycow94WoW 3 роки тому +102

    I’m so glad I found this video. I was planning to devote my entire future to hurting my wife the way she hurt me. But it’s true, no matter what I do, I’ll never know if she truly feels the pain I do. I’ll only become the villain of my own story. Forgiveness and healing isn’t about knowing your partner won’t do it again, it’s about how you have changed yourself inside to accept reality, forgive your partner and create a new and better marriage than you had before.

    • @euliebernette4108
      @euliebernette4108 3 роки тому

      Hello I know of someone who can help you he helped me get my ex back and he can also help you as he did mine too

    • @euliebernette4108
      @euliebernette4108 3 роки тому

      Whtspp him

    • @euliebernette4108
      @euliebernette4108 3 роки тому

      +,,,,2,,,3,,,,4,,,,8,,,,1,,,,5,,,,6,,..8....9.....6,,..4,..,.3.,..6

    • @Dubblesteel
      @Dubblesteel 3 роки тому +2

      So true

    • @Kopp203
      @Kopp203 2 роки тому

      Simp.

  • @nomoretears2112
    @nomoretears2112 2 роки тому +81

    I am struggling because I really want to forgive him . I can see all the growth he’s made as a person and I don’t want to give up on him, but I can’t stop hurting over this affair after he broke my trust. I’m still struggling to look at him the same way

    • @Hisarahkim
      @Hisarahkim Рік тому +7

      Im going through the same thing now after finding out a month ago. Has it gotten any better for you?

    • @kingbiebs175
      @kingbiebs175 Рік тому

      @@Hisarahkim what happened with u?

    • @jenniferwhite2402
      @jenniferwhite2402 Рік тому +3

      Same here. He is trying to win me back but it is hard.

    • @cherryberrynancy6153
      @cherryberrynancy6153 Рік тому +1

      SaMe here 😢

    • @abby0810bailey
      @abby0810bailey 10 місяців тому +4

      I found out two weeks ago, and I’m still struggling very hard.

  • @volleyballjerry
    @volleyballjerry 5 років тому +94

    I never forgave her and was never sorry for having not done so. We had an explicit agreement on the actions that are deal breakers and infidelity was #1 on the list. No regrets. There are too many decent woman out there who deserve a chance for me to give a second chance to someone who does NOT deserve it.

    • @PC-dc1kv
      @PC-dc1kv 5 років тому +22

      Forgiveness is not the same thing as reconciliation. You can forgive someone and not have them back in your life.

    • @silkus
      @silkus 4 роки тому +11

      I guess there wasn't much on the table in the first place? How about kids? What about her? In my opinion everyone does mistakes and only the ones that do have a chance to learn to never do it again. So in this kind of thinking don't you think you're better to find a person who have already been unfaithful to some other person and then you can have good relationship? What are the guarantee that the person who have never cheated won't do it? No one marries just to cheat on them. We're all flawed humans, that's part of life.

    • @ricardokanimin812
      @ricardokanimin812 2 роки тому +11

      @@silkus cheating is not making a mistake she or he made a choice to being unfaithful.

    • @jdkorave
      @jdkorave 2 роки тому +6

      Cheating is not a mistake.
      It's a DECISION!
      Forgive, forget, let go and move on with out them.
      Don't be an Insurance Policy

  • @hannahsmith9816
    @hannahsmith9816 2 роки тому +18

    One thing I’ve noticed is that my physical body holds me back from my spiritual future. My life on earth is nothing compared to what my eternal life will be. Carrying myself with a pure heart and honest intentions is all that matters. Evil is everywhere in this world, it’s our job to not pay attention to it an focus on the good. The saying is true “this too shall pass”.

    • @willylumpnj
      @willylumpnj Рік тому +1

      I love your wise words

    • @PB8man
      @PB8man 5 місяців тому

      You can pass right into my DMs :) I could use a buddy to help me heal.

  • @s.l.griffin1009
    @s.l.griffin1009 4 роки тому +88

    How did you know? A movie that won't end in my head. I picture them together, laughing, making love, cuddling on the couch, talking....its a nightmare. It won't stop.
    My husband says hes left her. I believe him. He tells me he wants me and the kids back and he made a huge mistake. I haven't let him come home yet. He's staying with his Aunt. I want to believe him but it's hard. I don't want to get hurt again. AND THAT MOVIE in my head....it will not stop! It makes me cry. It hurts me. I want to make him hurt like he hurt me...sure there are other guys willing for a one night payback time but that's not who I really am. I'm scared I'll just end up hating myself if I go through with it.
    I don't know what to do:(

    • @faithocomments
      @faithocomments 4 роки тому +3

      S.L. Griffin right it’s all I can think about

    • @mursal4024
      @mursal4024 4 роки тому +2

      Set some tough conditions for him to fulfill for you. If he fulfills your conditions then he is really loves you and regretting from what he did to you and children and then you allow him to come back home.

    • @shirleystarnes733
      @shirleystarnes733 4 роки тому

      @@faithocomments it was her step dad that got h
      er. P. G. .OK.

    • @justinc2625
      @justinc2625 4 роки тому +6

      @@mursal4024 If he REALLY LOVED , why would he keep cheating?

    • @kiarajassmin7562
      @kiarajassmin7562 4 роки тому +2

      Cheat on him with his friends :) make out with them infront of him but don’t sleep with them that way you will always have the upper hand 🤚 then allow him to see his kids give him a little taste of his own medicine see how he likes it and give him the mental picture

  • @jenniferwhite2402
    @jenniferwhite2402 Рік тому +24

    I want to forgive and let it go. I truly believe my husband is sorry. I am
    Just do angry and feel out of control when I triggered. I think I am ok then like a punch the pain is there.

    • @bittehiereinfugen7723
      @bittehiereinfugen7723 5 місяців тому

      This is something you can work on and your partner can help you with.

  • @Potrvlb
    @Potrvlb 4 роки тому +14

    Dr Joe I don’t know if you will see this but I want to say thank you to you. Your videos are a really big deal to me and help me more than I can articulate. Even your voice is brings comfort while watching. I have never experienced pain like I’m going through and hope never to again. I have/feel hope again. 25 yrs married and I thought we were so happy, picture perfect marriage but that is not how she feels, obviously. I simply cannot stress enough how reassuring and comforting your videos are. Your voice. Like a very wise grandpa dispensing words of wisdom and hope during a very dark and painful time. I am grateful to you for providing these videos.

  • @taracorkett2038
    @taracorkett2038 3 роки тому +20

    His voice is so soothing

    • @TickTockScott
      @TickTockScott 3 роки тому +1

      Yes, that's why I love listening to him, he helps me cope with the loss of my marriage....x

    • @MrsBryant1024
      @MrsBryant1024 3 роки тому

      Yes!!!!! Omg I was just about to say this

  • @RyanEstep5877
    @RyanEstep5877 4 роки тому +8

    Fear, doubt, and mistrust are the enemy.

  • @katiebr
    @katiebr 5 років тому +44

    I think if I haven’t found this Channel I would have gave up of my broken marriage already! So many knowledge words, so much I didn’t know! Funny that people say that to save a marriage both need to want. I’m learning so much and having hope, nothing like professionals who have been in the same situations and show that it’s possible!
    Working on my forgiveness, great tips! But also when we start praying for that person we start having compassion and is easier to forgive 👍

  • @lenb8413
    @lenb8413 4 роки тому +23

    I was at rage last night because of anger to my husband and the affiar partner. And think of revenge. This morning I watched your video. And it sink in to me that anger swallowed me. I would try my very best to follow all your advice. Thank you.

  • @michaelsinaloense6449
    @michaelsinaloense6449 3 роки тому +12

    Thank you so much for these videos. You are providing hope and tools during a very hard time.

    • @naomibeitefore6310
      @naomibeitefore6310 3 роки тому +3

      Going thru the same thing right now. Hope also to forgive.

  • @AnnetteAllen-c9w
    @AnnetteAllen-c9w Рік тому +5

    I will never forgive or forget but I am learning to find peace and live in the present. It’s hard but not impossible.

  • @JOEY22445
    @JOEY22445 5 років тому +18

    Thank you for video. These always inspire me that things will get better.

  • @dizzitoast
    @dizzitoast 4 місяці тому +1

    This was beautiful.... I have to watch it a few more times to internalize... But it's hard my friend... I"m still so blinded by pain. This is a great direction. Thank you

  • @nicoletso2529
    @nicoletso2529 3 роки тому +39

    Video was an eye opener. My marriage is just about broken. I’m having a really hard time forgiving when I never had to forgive to this extent in my life. The question is how do I forgive?

  • @sahran7000
    @sahran7000 3 роки тому +2

    Love hurts the most ,,, yet it’s the best

  • @rachaelfrady5845
    @rachaelfrady5845 2 роки тому +26

    I’m currently going through finding out my husband had an affair. Thank you for this ❤️

  • @140ex5
    @140ex5 2 роки тому +6

    My wife has told me that our marriage is over because of broken trust. I hope i can convince her to watch your video series and possibly the marriage course. Thank you so much, you’ve given me hope when I felt there wasn’t any.

    • @xolilezulu6921
      @xolilezulu6921 2 роки тому +2

      Did she forgive you, if so, can I talk to her I'd like to know how. I can't live with myself anymore, I just want someone to tell me what I can do to get through this.

    • @pi772nty
      @pi772nty 2 роки тому

      I want to know how to forget, how to trust again. How??

  • @ValiunDH
    @ValiunDH 2 місяці тому +1

    You forgot to add that we have to also forgive ourselves.

  • @fridahkapembwa3649
    @fridahkapembwa3649 6 місяців тому +3

    I don't have the strength anymore to forgive...am just not willing to give my kids a broken home even if am not happy

  • @phiendiesimelane7919
    @phiendiesimelane7919 2 роки тому +3

    I CHOOSE TO FORGIVE

  • @marynyangau1716
    @marynyangau1716 3 роки тому +5

    This is indeed inspiring and an eye opener that no matter how bad situations are in a marriage,,there is hope that with such information, things will work out for the better

  • @drsteviejasengnsangma8739
    @drsteviejasengnsangma8739 3 роки тому +8

    Your videos gives something which every human being needs at some point of their lives.."HOPE"
    and Hope is sometimes the only reason to stay alive.
    God Bless you all 🙏❣️

  • @pattyterry6432
    @pattyterry6432 8 місяців тому

    Excellent advice on how to move forward into a better life. Thank you!❤

  • @carlososcarcomedy
    @carlososcarcomedy 2 роки тому +9

    Divorce. The trust is NEVER going to be restored.

  • @stevensrp2music985
    @stevensrp2music985 2 роки тому +2

    I really appreciate the amazingly kind words of optimism

  • @robertmatos4553
    @robertmatos4553 2 роки тому +4

    Glad I found this. Forgiving is extremely difficult when you are so broken and broken from the person you put all your trust in (besides Jesus of course). Deciding divorce and me move across country or remain and work on marriage. I am sooo lost

  • @aug07broken
    @aug07broken 5 років тому +17

    it's been 3 months and no remorse. We had our 17 yr wedding anniversary last month, and nothing. I think I forgave him and just want him to feel sorry for hurting me...I wish he could say a kind word or ask if I am ok. Anything to show that our life together wasn't a mistake. 😔

    • @PC-dc1kv
      @PC-dc1kv 5 років тому +2

      Aug07broken I truly understand your pain. I’m going through it myself. I believe he will be sorry in time. I wouldn’t want to be the betrayer because he will have to live with the guilt of what he’s done.

    • @katiebr
      @katiebr 5 років тому +7

      Pray for him, keep praying! Same happened to me, he hated me to found out his limerence, just because they didn’t have physical contact he didn’t see anything wrong, omg! I wanted to kill him! It takes time, he finally realized, and also how much I’m hurt, it’s horrible, it’s painful!! I prayed a lot for him to soft his heart and to realized! Also therapy is helping, it’s a long road.. but eventually he will see it how fool he is being! Be patient and pray

    • @aug07broken
      @aug07broken 4 роки тому +2

      khawaja Mazhar I have been watching so many of these videos, so for me I feel it takes as many sorrys as the betrayed needs. Sorry I hurt u, sorry I was made u sad, sorry I made u cry, sorry I was late, sorry I wasn't there, sorry I only got 2 lemons when u asked for more....u did the worst thing that a married person can do. It's our worst nightmare! Show some compassion and kindness and love. I won't treat u like a slave husband, u r not at my mercy, well, not totally anyway.

    • @perception-reception
      @perception-reception 4 роки тому

      I have tried to move on with my wife that cheated and she has done alot of good things but just shuts down when im hurting and to respond to a comment on here i believe that the unfaithful should be willing to take and accept those days that the betrayed spouse is insecure and just nothing they (the unfaithful) say or do if anything at all is good enough. They should be open to take that heat knowing that if they want to save the marriage they and only they made the choice to cheat. I am not saying that when an affair happens there aren't problems within the relationship but to choose to step away and out on the one person you have in so many cases build up so much with like homes, kids, assets, etc. Then you the unfaithful should be willing to understand that the betrayed is so hurt, does not feel trust nor safety within the marriage, and the betrayed are constantly worried about another BOMB of new information being dropped or found out that puts recovery back to ground zero.. I have been trying with my wife but her lack of empathy and her ability to turn the affair blame around on me has me ready to give in. It's been 4 months and I really feel so much anger more so now then ever. Yes I go to therapy she goes to therapy but nothing is improving other then I don't believe she is still seeing him but what do I know. I caught her in a picture from her phone 2 weeks ago with her wedding ring and engagement ring off and she was wearing a gold ring I have never see before. Maybe This should be a sign that I should truly just move on where did she get that ring was it from him? It makes me so angry how she can be so great one day and then the next this type of stuff. We have been married nearly 14 years and have 2 kids with one in highschool and she (my daughter) found out about my wife cheating because the things she was doing so i also have that side of it too... My kids just want me to divorce her isn't that so sad. They have asked me their dad to leave their mom so they can live with me and they want her to move out. What am I doing? What should I do I am so lost ??????

    • @paolomarano4457
      @paolomarano4457 4 роки тому +1

      Be the best person you could be put yourself . Mentally and emotionally and physically. Make her see what she lost. No more fighting nor chasing. If it doesn't work you will be the better person for someone who deserves you.

  • @elindigeno1215
    @elindigeno1215 3 роки тому +11

    My wife chooses to be with another man. I choose to stay marry, i keep blaming myself all the time and that never goes well. I always end up in tears. I need to control myself i don't want to end up homeless. I miss my wife and kids.

    • @iamblessed3377
      @iamblessed3377 2 роки тому +1

      Sorry to know this. Surely, it is painful to imagine that.

    • @elindigeno1215
      @elindigeno1215 2 роки тому +3

      @@iamblessed3377 It was painful, but I overcame it. I am now single

    • @iamblessed3377
      @iamblessed3377 2 роки тому +2

      @@elindigeno1215 happy to know that time healed you.

    • @elindigeno1215
      @elindigeno1215 2 роки тому +6

      @@iamblessed3377 Most definitely. A year ago It was rough with depression and suicidal thoughts. Now I look back and laugh at the situation.

    • @kavithaganesan-y1l
      @kavithaganesan-y1l 9 місяців тому

      ​@@elindigeno1215 good luck for your future brother now I'm facing a similar situation in my life ....I don't know what to do .

  • @lieutenant_dan27lt.d45
    @lieutenant_dan27lt.d45 4 роки тому +6

    I found out about my spouses infidelities while under stay at home orders. It sounds like hell, and it is. However: I firmly believe that it was a blessing. If life had been normal, we would not have been able to work it out. Instead we were forced to be with each other, speak with each other and fall back into each other. These videos were sent to me by God himself I am sure.

  • @hibiscussunset3801
    @hibiscussunset3801 4 роки тому +2

    I got all the advice I needed form Carrie Underwood “before he cheats”

  • @bostonluyasar7045
    @bostonluyasar7045 2 місяці тому +2

    Simp training 101. never forgive a cheater

  • @juanmaldonado3288
    @juanmaldonado3288 3 роки тому +9

    Forgive your spouse but dump them immediately. The work that has to be done is way to much snd is not worth the while. The cheater can have another chance but wuth somebody else. To stay with a cheater is detrimental for the betrayed spouse.

  • @369.0
    @369.0 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you Dr. Beam...your words are like medicine for my heart and mind...many thanks!

  • @mursal4024
    @mursal4024 4 роки тому +26

    I am so broken 😭 dont think can heal ever.

    • @shirleystarnes733
      @shirleystarnes733 4 роки тому +6

      God will heel u . read your bible as much as u can . on TV watch. T,B,N like I do . good bless u . l love u .

    • @mawanden
      @mawanden 4 роки тому +1

      Prayer prayer and more prayer. Read your Bible
      Please if you can, watch this "fighting Words for wives" by Nicole
      And Lysa Terkeurst. They are both here on UA-cam
      I hope you will find some hope and strength. God bless you ❤️

    • @anthonybell6219
      @anthonybell6219 Рік тому

      I'm with you

    • @thecallawayfam8710
      @thecallawayfam8710 4 місяці тому

      Did you ever heal? I'm in this situation rn

  • @johnbrockman4193
    @johnbrockman4193 2 роки тому +5

    Getting rid of them is the best way

  • @lorenzocarrillo
    @lorenzocarrillo 4 роки тому +1

    Phenomenal information for a better YOU. Thank you!!!

  • @jaymarkdecenabringino3090
    @jaymarkdecenabringino3090 2 роки тому +8

    Literally the pain I feel right now going to send me to church

    • @jeanjoseph7905
      @jeanjoseph7905 Рік тому +1

      It has been 30 years my husband cheated and I still remind him of it ever so often....I don't really care of what he thinks....he says it was a mistake....I disagree Christians don't make mistakes they sin willfully...he wanted to do it and then says if GOD can forgive him who is me...all I tell him is I AM NOT GOD.

  • @tanimotsumi694
    @tanimotsumi694 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you Dr Joe you are the best.

  • @loanpalmortgage5208
    @loanpalmortgage5208 28 днів тому

    awesome work

  • @yhackbajao4673
    @yhackbajao4673 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you for your advice. Hoping I can handle my problem right now. Hope & pray that I will be healed. Help me.

  • @aidaguillen6337
    @aidaguillen6337 3 роки тому

    Love all your videos! Always with lot of information.

  • @ivywildwss
    @ivywildwss 6 місяців тому +3

    Just think about something else - yeah right. I've meditated since 2017 and dday was Oct 2023. All the mindfulness in the world doesn't help a traumatized brain from ruminating on the dysfunctional memory caused by the betrayal.

    • @FoCrazy
      @FoCrazy Місяць тому +1

      Well said!

  • @KabulJan1233
    @KabulJan1233 3 роки тому +2

    Amazing learning lessons thanks alot 🙏

  • @Kelly-ps3ci
    @Kelly-ps3ci 5 років тому +3

    This gave me reassurance for my marriage

  • @mjperfume1523
    @mjperfume1523 3 роки тому +2

    How do they get consequences, I hope he gets so filled with pain He still cheating everytime every day todas dias

  • @theguynextdoor4978
    @theguynextdoor4978 3 роки тому +2

    Two wrongs won't make a right. You either forgive them and step out of it. Or takes the time and work necessary to forgive them.

    • @Confessions089
      @Confessions089 10 днів тому

      Two rights don't make a left either. I say do what you gotta do and leave the relationship immediately. Then stay single and heal however that takes place. Don't rush into a relationship again so fast next time. Live your life the way you want to. I'm all for hurting the other person back in a way that is legal and moving forward.

  • @albertbasa1580
    @albertbasa1580 Рік тому +1

    You can forgive your cheating wife but you can never forget what she did and she had to earned the trust in order to get full benefits of love and relationship

  • @black_mutt764
    @black_mutt764 2 роки тому +4

    I already caught my husband in an emotional affair…. He says he regrets it and he wants to work on the marriage but also wants space to “figure things out” we still live together and I am having major issues trusting him. I still suspect he is either seeing her or someone else. I don’t know what to do. I’m working on my PIES but I am worried that I’m just wasting my time seeing if he is actually wanting to stay in this marriage.

  • @jbouse64
    @jbouse64 Рік тому +2

    I challenged the affair partner many times after she lied to him and tried to make me a bad person. He just put his eyes to the ground and avoided me like the plague. He is a character ridden coward. She is a horrible person.

  • @awesomeshorts1163
    @awesomeshorts1163 4 роки тому +8

    What if your spouse won’t admit to the affair? I’ve never found concrete evidence and I think without it he’ll never admit to the affair. Am I just supposed to continue on as normal? I don’t feel right about living a lie. How can we move forward if he’s not going to admit and continues with it?

    • @michaelstrau1278
      @michaelstrau1278 3 роки тому +1

      Same Problem

    • @standground7956
      @standground7956 2 роки тому +1

      Wait, he’s having an affair that you can’t validate with evidence or proof? Is he allowed to accuse you of being unfaithful with no proof or evidence?

  • @Rahimdxb
    @Rahimdxb 4 роки тому +2

    Much more thanks for this video. I've seen lot of videos but all of them in the middle age or young people. You are a doctor and old too. So you can say how can manage the situations. Because you have life experiences.
    Actually my friend in this situation, I want help him. Thanks again - love from kerala - india

  • @alive4627
    @alive4627 Рік тому +1

    Pardon, exonerate, absolve, making allowances for, and letting go, all seem to be better terms than “forgive”. I can’t forgive the betrayer and the affair partner but I can make allowances for what happened and, for my own sanity, I can and must let go. Sad that my wife could not be me, even momentarily, to feel the love and adoration I had for her before discovery.

  • @angietadlock4319
    @angietadlock4319 4 роки тому +6

    How do you deal with when u actually seen it with your own eyes because they recorded them cheating on you

  • @themafrederickmasalila4899
    @themafrederickmasalila4899 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much. Much appreciated

  • @mariahduke1667
    @mariahduke1667 2 роки тому +5

    It’s so hard to not hurt them because I don’t think I’ll ever love them the same . Or nearly ever as much .

  • @graceosullivan1367
    @graceosullivan1367 3 місяці тому

    Very wise man

  • @stephaniepike27
    @stephaniepike27 3 роки тому

    You are a very nice grandpa, thank you sir!

  • @jiviteshbakshi2093
    @jiviteshbakshi2093 Рік тому

    U shall, Not.

  • @number1dink
    @number1dink 2 роки тому +1

    I don’t know how to forgive him for abandoning us. Not just the infidelity.

  • @namratasobti5366
    @namratasobti5366 4 роки тому +5

    what if the spouse keeps on cheating even after once or twice promising to not to do it again?

    • @maxreviews3418
      @maxreviews3418 4 роки тому

      Just find god may not think hes real but what if he is

    • @blowyourbrainz
      @blowyourbrainz 3 роки тому +8

      Then you just move on, this time without cheating bastard in your life!

  • @sandiebeach0926
    @sandiebeach0926 Рік тому

    I want my husband to heal and forgive me. He had an emotional affair, I had a physical affair and now he had a physical affair. He doesn’t for give and is still in his affair.

  • @lumpyspaceloki5075
    @lumpyspaceloki5075 3 роки тому +1

    Easy, you dont

  • @michaelsinaloense6449
    @michaelsinaloense6449 3 роки тому

    What great advice

  • @49Lynnette49
    @49Lynnette49 3 роки тому +1

    My spouse won't acknowledge it and do it over and over I don't get a chance to forgive him.

  • @tinar1310
    @tinar1310 10 днів тому

    It hurts so much, I don't know what to do. Please help help

  • @ShoeGames83
    @ShoeGames83 2 роки тому +2

    So my wife has left and I know their is someone else and my emotions have been up and down I know that Jesus Christ is going to walk with me through this. I could have taken revenge but I didn’t cause I’m better than that mess plus we have two girls and I want to set the example of what a real man/husband they should look for when they grow up. Now she filed for divorce and I’m going to drag it out so she can see the pain and how hard this path is because it is hard for me living at home and taking care of all the debit we both have rack up and she doesn’t pay

  • @emiliemingming8785
    @emiliemingming8785 3 роки тому +1

    How can I repair our marriage while my husband left us

  • @inlandsea7462
    @inlandsea7462 3 роки тому

    Wisdom only wise person this is

  • @GordonPavilion
    @GordonPavilion 3 роки тому +2

    Without forgiveness,
    you are only harming yourself.

  • @gokulvrindavan1858
    @gokulvrindavan1858 10 місяців тому

    Its better to thank a person who cheated you because he ended your illusion. I think its better i forgive myself for choosing him... i don't want to suffer myself while he is enjoying multiple relationships...

  • @marianosena7880
    @marianosena7880 3 роки тому +2

    i really want to forgive and i am doing everything to be likeable so he will forget her but still in my mind i am doubting that maybe he is still seeing her.

  • @butchgallagher8049
    @butchgallagher8049 9 місяців тому

    Forgiveness is hard forgetting is impossible. That's something a cheater would want to happen. Some of us are not cheaters and the rest of us are and you want us to forgive every little thing that you do. Maybe we can but we would never forget and we will die broken.

  • @breederman86
    @breederman86 5 років тому +3

    Maybe it is something I'm doing wrong. When I click on the Harvard link a page come up that says 404 link not found ?

  • @jasphergapuz3357
    @jasphergapuz3357 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much.

  • @gammazhit8059
    @gammazhit8059 6 місяців тому

    Not forgiving or forgetting. He started cheating eight after my son's funeral and treated and treats my like an old shoe.

  • @Designbluejv
    @Designbluejv 2 роки тому

    I'm not married but I have a hard time forgiving anyone. I usally break up with my partner. I stay stuck in this state of anger and bitter.

  • @eveliamendoza6735
    @eveliamendoza6735 6 місяців тому

    I feel broken 💔

  • @bannedtwice7767
    @bannedtwice7767 2 роки тому +2

    Easy: don't. F 'em. Move on with your life.

  • @inlandsea7462
    @inlandsea7462 4 роки тому +5

    Sir you are doing really great Job Allah Bless you

  • @GengenLovee562
    @GengenLovee562 3 роки тому

    I’m sorry God 🙏🏼💔☹️

  • @josmaxtv6234
    @josmaxtv6234 2 роки тому

    Am much more relieved now and willing to forgive

  • @float-city168
    @float-city168 3 місяці тому

    Hi, im currently struggling because my wife cheated on me, and i don’t know what to do and where to start.

  • @jdkorave
    @jdkorave 2 роки тому +2

    Cheating is not a mistake.
    It's a DECISION!
    Forgive, forget, let go and move on with out them.
    Don't be an Insurance Policy

    • @MarriageHelper
      @MarriageHelper  2 роки тому

      Hey jackson korave, thank you for your comment. However, we disagree. We believe there is ALWAYS hope for a marriage no matter what. If you have had a bad experience in the past that has caused you to feel this way, we understand wholeheartedly. But there is always hope. If you change your mind and decide you would like to seek help for your marriage, we would love to talk to you and will always remain a safe place for you. You can call us directly at 1 866 903 0990 if you'd like to chat. Blessings,

  • @suzee2
    @suzee2 5 років тому +4

    Do you offer help to unfaithful spouses who feel remorse and shame, yet who left the outside relationship to hopefully restore a very unfulfilling marriage and now just live with a thousand regrets? It’s such a feeling of loss and hopelessness. Back to the same old problems with a spouse who is happy enough, but you have illicitly experienced something better. Punishment is living in the hell of what you have done, but also knowing what you have lost.

    • @suzee2
      @suzee2 5 років тому

      khawaja Mazhar I hope and pray for that 20x a day. Thank you.

    • @cklckl6649
      @cklckl6649 4 роки тому +2

      This is a good lesson to learn about delusions, distortions and greed. What was done was done. It is not for regrets. I am sure if you knew it was like this, you would not have done it. There is always something better....Being content is a gift and lesson to be well learnt. Not just on relationship, being content with everything you have is a VIRTUE !!!! Pray for you to move forward and don't look back. Focus on what are delusions, distortions, greed and being content. Bless you.

  • @megaboulin
    @megaboulin 10 місяців тому

    i knew my husband is flawed, often makes a mistake. but how do I face him after I know he's cheating on me and he ruined the trust I gave him?
    how to not cry when I face him? how long will it take for me to forgive him?
    it hurt so bad I dont want to see his face

  • @KingBreezy777
    @KingBreezy777 Рік тому

    Thanks

  • @RhodaYadamu
    @RhodaYadamu Рік тому +1

    How can I forget and forgive my spouse? I am suffering in the hands of my spouse cheating on me in my very face. I left because of that,I love my husband and my children. I am suffering in silence

    • @MarriageHelper
      @MarriageHelper  Рік тому

      Rhoda thanks for your comment! So sorry to hear you are going through this right now We would love to be a guide for you during this time. Have you talked to anyone on our team yet? They can point you to the right resources for your situation. I'd be happy to connect you. You can call us at 1866 903 0990.
      But something you can do immediately is to check out our free mini course. It guides you through what to do to get your spouse to come back, and to fall back in love with you again. You can find it here for free:
      your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course

    • @anthonybell6219
      @anthonybell6219 Рік тому

      Sending love

  • @nickywaggs8672
    @nickywaggs8672 Рік тому

    Leave. It’s that simple. If your wife wants another man that means you weren’t the 1st option and never will be. Leave

  • @lolainegorre5078
    @lolainegorre5078 3 місяці тому

    My husband dont do anything to mend, no actions, harsh words always, am the one to be blame, of how i think.

  • @jbouse64
    @jbouse64 Рік тому +1

    Who says I want a happy life after what she did.

  • @CharlieDoesntSurf
    @CharlieDoesntSurf 3 роки тому +1

    thank you

  • @normarobinson5956
    @normarobinson5956 3 роки тому +1

    Help me he got issues n problem it’s his Lustful spirit I forgave he never apologize I always work n he lie to God about loving me here I’m 21 yrs later finding 10 yr affair he has a double life n still chose her n left us

  • @pacmanwocka
    @pacmanwocka 3 роки тому +1

    It didn’t work 😒

  • @Richibald1
    @Richibald1 5 років тому +1

    Joe, I don't see your link on mindfulness. Can you post please, thank you.

    • @MarriageHelper
      @MarriageHelper  5 років тому +3

      Hi Rich, here's the link mentioned by Dr. Joe Beam in this video: bit.ly/HarvardStress

    • @Richibald1
      @Richibald1 5 років тому +1

      @@MarriageHelper great, thank you very much.

  • @bobbobbington3615
    @bobbobbington3615 3 роки тому +4

    You can forgive... but you should still move on with your life, without them.

  • @standalonelandclearingllc
    @standalonelandclearingllc Рік тому

    I'm in the process of reconciliation and there's a lot of days when the Conversation is very good then it goes back to days of no communication how Address these setbacks