I mean, at least they are honest about it, not as teachers and schools who push their own stuff and assume their ideas shall be default and told to every child.
they also don't really know what that word means, it's just everything they don't like is ideology and of course it's all the same ideology of a shadow cabal that wants to turn their kids into transgender communists or something
@@Aster_Risk I guess their arguments are like those used by native Americans against boarding schools. They want their children to be thought their own culture and values.
Love this. My best friend tells me all of the time that she wishes her parents responded to her curiosity with honesty and openness the way I do with my kids. I agree with your dad and approach any question from my kids the same way
Haha idk, my sister and I asked my mom what sex was or maybe we asked "where babies come from" when we were 4 and 6 respectively and she tried to explain and we got grossed out and she was like "Are you too young for this?" and we said yes and left the room. She tried to be informative but we definitely weren't old enough just because we asked. Then I think she forgot she hadn't actually given us "the talk" and we ended up learning about sex on the school bus and stuff from classmates. *shrugs* development is different for everyone.
@Arionlappy That was NOT you asking about sexuality that’s you asking about human development…it wasn’t directly tied to sex in your question and buses are NOT the ideal way to learn about sex. bffr just because you didn’t get any misinformation in the playground (you certainly did) doesn’t mean others won’t be harmed by such things. Your mom just handled the question wrong but that doesn’t mean kids genuinely curious about human sexuality (not just mom’s baby bump/the stork) should be shielded from the truth.
I was homeschooled my entire life (didn’t properly graduate either) I had to do a “worldview test” where it would ask me questions about my beliefs on God, homosexuality, abortion, and how I thought the earth was created. I never properly learned how to do math, but I ended up very queer regardless of all the attempts and haven’t willingly went to a church in years
ngl the “politics don’t belong in the classroom” argument always gave “i don’t want my kids to be exposed to any opinions that aren’t mine”. like, how do you expect your children to actually think for themselves with that mentality???? 💀
Also there's tons of conservative teachers too, what actually happens is kids are exposed to a *variety* of opinions, which can be scary and overwhelming but it's the only way they'll develop their own unique worldview. The real issue is Conservatism is an *incredibly* narrow ideology vs the wide blanket term of "liberals" who famously disagree constantly. And nowadays if you have any amount of tolerance/empathy in your worldview you're pretty much automatically disqualified from a dozen of the right-wing culture-wars going on at any time and expelled from any conservative space.
As someone who was homeschooled by conservative parents who didn't teach about "the abcs of lgbt", I can assure you I am still queer. If your kid is gay, they are gay, it doesn't matter if they learned about it in school or not. Let your kids feel supported and seen by learning about queer identities.
This applies to a huge variety of issues, and it all stems from the flawed logic of “people can’t participate in or believe in things I don’t like if they don’t know about them”. “If I protect my kids from learning about being queer, they’ll never know that they can be queer and thus will be guaranteed cishet” “If I protect my kids from sex education, then they won’t be having it” “If we ban abortion, people will ‘take responsibility’ and birth and raise those kids”. When, in reality, gatekeeping this stuff doesn’t stop people from getting involved with it; it just ensures that many will get involved from a deeply uninformed place and are more likely to be harmed because of it.
Yup. Transgender and homeschooled k-12. I was raised to believe queer people were bad, and my parents tried to push straight relationships on me and wonder why I kept failing. Now they are surprised I have an actual dating life now I accepted I was queer
The book reference at 8:28 is "it's perfectly normal". Kat Blaque did a review of it and she got emotional reading it because this book is one of the very few books made for children that honestly tells kids what sex is. And she felt like she needed a book like this one when she was younger. And this book has been credited in court for helping a child realize that they are experiencing sexual assault. Yes it doesn't hide from what sex is, but it isn't porn either. It's literally just an honest explanation and makes abundantly clear that sex should happen with consent. Wild concept. 10/10
Kids def need to learn this stuff so they can be safer. I have always used real words with my son and told him things. Nothing graphic or over his level of comprehension, but it would be a disservice to him if I hadn't.
I found it on google and did a quick flip through. This book would have been great for me when I was younger! If I ever have kids it'll definitely be one on my bookshelf in the future
I dated two guys who were homeschooled. The first had parents with backgrounds in education and had a very structured school experience. His parents would make a point of having him socialize with other homeschooled kids. The second was homeschooled starting at 10 by a hyper religious mother who frankly wanted him to be a live in nurse for a sick family member. He was isolated and his mother provided decades old books to him and he would basically have to educate himself based off these books. No structure and a lot of Christian BS and fearmongering that still affects his mental health and sexuality. So what I'm saying is home schooling needs to be monitored and regulated. If you're just isolating your kids for the sake of religous brainwashing and putting zero effort into their upbringing and education, you should be charged with child abuse and neglect.
That's a hugely overgeneralized statement. I've been married for 20 years to a man who was homeschooled from 2nd grade on. He is kind, self-motivated, agnostic, and a wonderful supporter of my pagan bisexual antics.
@@MonatamiWhich one? Saying one person had decent parent became a good adult or the guy who didn't having issues? Or are you supporting people homeschooling to enforce religious dogma and abuse their kids?
the lgbt topics thing is wild too bc like have you seen those little baby shirts with jokes about being a ladies man or whatever like whatever the fuck that is is FAR more inappropriate for children than being told that sometimes a girl will like a girl
You are psycho. Explain to me now what is sexual about aaying to a kid "sometimes Sally and Jenny love each other and get married, and sometimes Tommy and Peter do, too." @XMUSEX0
@@XMUSEX0I think you fail to realize that the reason adults can struggle to learn is because they themselves can set mental blocks of taught binaries or lock their associations that limit their learning; whereas children are blank slates where terms like "boy" or "girl" have little meaning to them beyond newer, basic associations placed on them from their relatively little life experiences. Adults are socialized as children to understand information; so out of everyone, children will (and are more willing to) learn and understand concepts that you asserted as hard for adults. To children, the pronouns of he, she, they, zir, and it are all equally new concepts to learn and none of them are inherently more difficult for children to understand.
Ideology = being LGBT+ CRT/DEI = black people/culture Brainwashing = knowledge of non dominant cultures/peoples The evolution of language is so fascinating. (/S)
as someone from Eastern Europe where we don’t have homeschooling, the idea of a random parent who most probably failed some of the classes grading and teaching their child is crazy to me. Teachers in my country have to get a degree to have a deeper understanding of a subject they teach, as well as an understanding of child and teenage psychology.
EXACTLY. And it's pretty common for universities to have programms specifically directed at future teachers that don't only teach them about their chosen field, but also about how to pass on this knowledge. And they have a mandated curriculum to teach at school, you can't just pick random subjects as I've heard it happen in America.
Eeeh the understanding of child and teenage psychology is a bit of a stretch. The overwhelming majority just have a degree in the subject they teach and have to take a test about teaching. Ultimately there's very little work or understanding of child and teenage cognitive development and psychology. Most commonly only the lower grade teachers need a specific degree in being teachers for this age group. And if we're being super honest here, most of them show a very determined lack of care or desire to learn about it and improve.
The number one argument for sexual education is that *it* *helps* *children* *understand* *when* *they* *are* *being* *abused* *at* *home*. You can argue about how to calibrate it and what exactly to include but anyone who just OPPOSES sexual education is either an unserious person (usually) or a perv.
Sex ed was the entire reason I figured out I was being abused at home, I had no idea otherwise that what I was experiencing was unusual, abusive. Of course, after being taught all of the signs of SA, I still denied the fact that I could check every single box for a year, it was difficult to come to terms with.
I tried so had to explain this to my European roommate and she was like “it doesn’t happen that often to justify sex ed” and I thought “how naive”…wish i had said that out loud lol
@@grrawesomenessc.8399 just wanted to say that i'm really sorry you experienced that. it really is hard to come to terms with such a vile form of abuse--especially from the people who are supposed to protect you the most. i am so glad that you eventually gained the words/understanding needed to recognize what was happening. i hope your healing journey has been restorative for you 💙💙
As someone outside of the US and with many teacher friends in countries around the world, the country that claims to be the richest (it’s not) and more free (it’s not, and far from it), I find it unbelievable that teachers having to buy supplies is a thing for even one teacher. So many though. The USA is doing badly, but it’s not for the reasons Trump claims, it’s the opposite and it’s because of people like him.
Coming from a country that just doesn’t have homeschooling, the fact that it’s acceptable for parents who possibly failed courses to then teach their children, is absolutely wild to me.
also from a country eithout himeschooling here, I find homeschooling to not be awful per se, if the parents are actually knowledgable and do a LOT of research on how to teach, or just get a private tutor or even online classes I think it' great. other than that... no. oh and I find it wild that parents can just choose what not to teach from the curriculum...
Which country do you come from out of curiosity? I agree with your point. I feel as if some people in the U.S. equate teaching with little more than being a parent. I don't think that everyone truly respects education as a profession.
It's illegal where I'm from to not send kids before the ninth grade to school. After the ninth grade it's okay for them not to continue their education but any grade before that, their caretakers will be in violation of the law even if they are "homeschooling".
@@aimeekessell5022 the courses in school are generally useless in real life. A kid just needs to learn what he needs and likes. Not algebra and physics
Right? You see all this discourse around parents buying communal classroom supplies and people don't want universal free lunch cause they're like "fuck all the other kids except mind" meanwhile he's out here buying stuff for random teachers and kids when he's not even a parent himself.
Schooling is a way for teachers to also see if children are meeting their developmental goals, aren't being abused at home and have healthy communication skills. My parents never taught me about menstruation, sex education and good touch/bad touch, because these were "taboo," but my school teachers did and I'm so thankful for that.
It sadly is also the main vehicle for which many children get their meals. I see no sadder indictment of my country, the United States, than the pervasive belief that free lunch should not be available to every child attending a public school. It should not take a genius to figure out that this alone is not only the right thing to do, but something which also pays for itself.
It pisses me off so much that people think only the parents should teach about stuff like that when there’s many parents like yours who refuse to speak about it. I’m so glad you were able to be taught that in school
It's crazy how, during the pandemic, this country was all about not shutting down because "KIDS NEED TO BE AT SCHOOL..." but of course it's all subjective right?
I don’t normally comment on videos but as someone who was homeschooled for my whole life (and didn’t even pass fifth grade because of this) I just want to say, thank you so much for discussing this. There as so many states in America where it’s perfectly legal to completely deprive your child of a proper education and not many people are aware of it. It is such an overlooked issue in my opinion so thank you for bringing attention to it ❤
I was homeschooled as a child. It was done as a method to keep me isolated and only schooled on specific things. A lot of my fellow homeschooled kids ended up being incredibly intelligent and for a while I was one of them but then I got lazy, as children tend to do, and didn't bother trying learn things I didn't care about like math. Being homeschooled is one of the things I despise the most about my childhood. I'm socially awkward, struggle with jobs but do my best, and I have giant gaps in my education. My parents somehow escaped getting my tests done so my highschool diploma isn't considered valid. It's frustrating to explain to employers now. If you're going to homeschool your kids, do it right at least - if you're lazy, it'll cause a thousand problems for your kids into their adulthood.
i grew up when virtual school first started to come out and in my opinion it is still better than homeschool. while regular school is better for interaction at least virtual gives you some interaction with students as well as you can join clubs. I also joined stuff outside of school that gave me interaction with kids my age. as result i wasn't socially awkward. Joining extracurricular activities outside of virtual school really helped. I feel like straight up homeschooling at home is not a good solution though.
i was moved to home school about a year ago after always doing public school. And i agree so much with you. If i was still in public school I would be so much more social and have better mental health, and a better chance at jobs and collages. I feel as though home school only works if you devote so much time to being social, to being educated, and how to bring in character development such as self discipline.
Failing to teach children the science of their own bodies will lead to: 1. They grow up feeling ashamed and embarrassed about how their bodies are changing. And 2. They are more susceptible to being abused or manipulated by adults with nefarious intentions. KNOWLEDGE IS POWER.
@divine555 And that's the reason why you teach them using books appropriated to them. What do you think SE is? Watching p0rn? No, dear. Children would find p0rn, gore, violence, and other traumatic media by themselves (in this internet era with irresponsible parents you can see the consequences already), and if they didn't learn in an appropriate way about those topics, they will replicate those actions and being in danger. When I was 6 yo, I was SA, and being raised in a catholic, conservative house with nobody to talk to me about SE, I never realized that was abuse until almost 10 years after. So don't try to say that SE is "a danger, violence, abuse to the poor, innocent children". Negligence is sending these same children to a world full of terrors without tools to defend themselves. I don't want to see my story and other's replicate.
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I had a friend like this.. Her ‘ideology’ was basically, ‘It’s fine if he’s taught he can be whatever he wants to be, unless he wants to be a girl.’ After that, was a conversation about how she stopped taking him to a library reading group because a ‘visibly trans person’ started bringing their kid and she didn’t want to explain why they had a beard and was wearing a dress.. I didn’t stay friends with her after that..
Honestly though, parents that don't think it's necessary for children and teens to be taught about their bodies in school and then won't teach them themselves are shooting themselves in the foot. That's how I ended up as a teen pregnancy statistic at 17 😅
Literally. My mom got pregnant at 16 and I was the result of that. Like, there are statistics proving abstinence only education results in higher rates of STIs/STDs and Teen Pregnancy.
not to mention other things like the risk of a child being sexually abused and never mentioning to anyone bc they think it isn't appropriate or, worse, they think it was their fault
I was home school. My mom was a nurse. She sat me down and told me about the birds and the bees in such graphic clinical detail that I was completely uninterested in having sex until I was an adult.
I knew a girl who got pregnant at 12. Genuinely had no idea that sex leads to pregnancy, even if you're not married. She thought she was too young to be pregnant even though she started her cycle. She didn't know having your period = fertility.
I think one of the things we don't talk enough about is that kids deserve their own life apart from the family. I don't know what my kids are up to at school. They're under the care of responsible adults at all times, but during those hours that theyre gone, they're discovering new things about themselves, making some mistakes, forming important bonds outside from us. That's so special. I don't need to know everything about my daughters. They shouldn't be under my watchful eye at all times. They're human beings with their own "selfness" that deserves to be explored.
Parents aren't qualified to be teachers unless they go through the education and training to be one. They had other things to focus on. I'm pretty sure they can't teach updated calculus or computer science courses.
As a person that comes from a country in which homeschooling is prohibited, I can't imagine not have been able to have my privacy\private social life that public school gave me. I'm admittedly extremely territorial with my spaces and my personal privacy, but it would've been an absolute nightmare for me to have my parents control that side of my life as well, and they were already very controlling. Like, I'm neurodivergent and socially anxious, but even with that I'm grateful I had the experience of public school, I'd be much worse without it. I'm happy my country doesn't allow any of this crap, the cons vastly outweight the pros.
I'm a parent and therapist in Oklahoma so I'm considering homeschooling my kids for the opposite reasons most of these homeschooling parents give. Our superintendent, Ryan Walters has mandated the Bible be taught in every classroom, hired a Twitter troll with no experience that lives in another state to determine what library books we should ban, and worst of all is trying to replace school counselors with Christian chaplains. He doesn't want professionals with pesky ethics telling kids that it's OK to be lgbt. That's in addition to all the anti lgbt rhetoric and accusing every other teacher of grooming of they acknowledge lgbt people exist or indoctrinating our kids with CRT for teaching basic historical facts. I'm just sick of it and i decided to homeschool for pre-k and we'll see next year if things calm down. I'm worried about violence at this point and we already lost one trans student because of all the rhetoric. I want my kids to learn about a much more diverse reality than they are trying to teach here in Oklahoma.
@@TreeWars i know it's nuts right now 😔 my kids are 2 and 4 and my daughter is already ahead so i wasnt gonna make her go to half day prek at a random school she won't see again. We're on a lottery in our district and our local elementary doesn't do prek so it just seemed pointless when she's already learning to read and do basic math. I'm hoping things calm down and leadership changes in the next few years because i wasnt planning on staying out of work forever, but I'll do what i have to. Gotta figure out some groups to involve the kids in though.... it's like if you don't go to church, there's very few options for making friends or homeschool social groups. Maybe I'm just not looking in the right place though.
If I were in your spot I’d consider homeschooling too, as long as it wasn’t too isolating for my kids. I grew up in a rural area so for some school was the only way they socialized.
Hey, I’m an Okie too! I’m doing my Senior year of HS in Epic for reasons unrelated to that weirdo, but I’m glad I got out of the public system before all that. I feel bad for my past teachers though. I was in Mid-Del and the teachers I had support the things he doesn’t and don’t support the things he does. Didn’t he say that teachers who didn’t abide by his rules would have their licenses revoked? That’s just absolutely nuts. There are so many explicitly catholic/christian schools in this state, I was in one from PK-7th. I don’t see why public schools also need to be Christian too when those are supposed to be places for everyone regardless of expression.
13:33 That is exactly right. I remember my mom telling me "now that you're in college, remember: Cs get degrees" when dropping me off and I couldn't believe it because for my entire life anything less than perfect wasn't good enough. I think she thought she could undo all that conditioning by just saying the words out loud, but I still pushed myself and beat myself up to seek perfection all the way through college. It's only in therapy years later that I've been learning to be kinder to myself and lower my expectations.
Yes! Oh, my heart when I saw that. I'm not in a great financial state to support myself, so I was so grateful to see that he did that. For a moment, things got better! It still makes me sad that even the very basic things out there we don't have for the kids. It broke my heart.
It's the exact same people who are fully convinced there are litterboxes in classrooms for furry children to use 🙄 I encountered one of these once and she was soooo convinced that it was really happening
as a home schooled kid, the worst and most scary thing about unregulated home schooling is just how easy it is for a parent to abuse that kid and that child having no where to go to report it or get help, they end up with no other adult figures in their life to run to or to talk about that abuse and understand it as wrong and i feel like that isn't talked about nearly as much as it should when the topic comes up, it's really sad, i feel like a lot of home schooling parents want to home school because they know they can do whatever they want to the kid and no one will be able to judge them or ask them questions like a teacher might, i know a lot of people have had a really good experience with being home schooled, but i think home schooling can just attract some really nasty parents
@@civet-coffee4442 parents should not need to register with the government to do nothing. Kids still get abused in school, lol. Why yall care how others parent?
Definitely! I think in general it takes a village to raise a child, and children should be able to develop healthy and safe relationships with other adults, which is something a child can do more easily at a public school with caring teachers. Removing that village or preventing it from even developing can be harmful even if the parent doesn’t have malicious intent imo
That is an extremely rare occurance--99.99% of homeschooling parents are just sick of how inept and beauracratic the public school system is (dont even get me started on the complete lack of enforcement on bullying policies). And abused children, sadly, usually do not speak to their teachers anyway about that kind of stuff.
@ErezElene do you have proof of that percentage? Do you have proof 99.9% of parents are all perfect angels who won't abuse having control of their child's education?
@Quinn-he3vn What I'm saying is, child abuse stats show abuse rates are the same across the educational spectrum (public, private, etc). Abusive parents are going to be abusive. There is nothing particular to parents who choose homeschooling that makes them more likely to abuse their kids. And it's insulting to imply that.
I was homeschooled from 2nd grade until freshman year of high-school by an abusive parent. My mother used homeschooling to isolate and control her children. My siblings and I were not actually taught for more than the 1st week of the school year. After that my mother got bored and expected us to learn completely on our own, we were not allowed to leave the table for any reason until the days school work was completed. I struggled and often was forced to stay at the table from 6 am until midnight until my father felt bad for me and sent me to bed. Eventually we began pretending to be done so that we could leave, my mother never checked if we actually did any work until the end of the school year when she would realize we did only a weeks worth of schooling the entire year and lose it on us. Then my parents would help forge work and backdate papers to make it look like we had done our schooling so we could pass the state evaluation and be moved to the next grade. This worked every year.
Jesus that's fucked. Kind of similar to me. Got homeschooled cause religion. The world is too dangerous and sinful after all. Got held back a grade because they obviously didnt know what they were doing. Sucks.
Oh you got moved to the next grade? Mine just got so bad to the point where I was 15 and cleaning and cooking for the family with nothing but a 4th grade education. I just lie and tell people I was unschooled. My sister got to have an expensive private school education at the same time btw.
For most home schooled children, home schooling is done badly and even worse than in the state school system. Some parents pull their child out of school because of a disability like being hard of hearing or being on the spectrum so they fall behind. Isn't that what special schools and SEN teaching assistants in normal schools are for? State school education isn't perfect. Teachers are underpaid and schools too large. They should have a maximum size of 500 children or students.
22:57 I’m about to cry 😭 as someone finishing their SPE. ED. degree it means so much to see you donate to classrooms. Like you were saying earlier, I’ve learned that it’s not “smartness” or an “achievement gap” it’s a lack of resources 100%. Anyways, your kind actions and kind words towards teachers really does mean a lot to a “selfless” job where we’re just suppose to make it happen and “remember our why”
Homeschooling was used to abuse me and my siblings, and unfortunately, it's more common than some people think. So many people in our homeschool circle were being neglected or indoctrinated to think the world was evil, or abused. My mom was not even a little bit prepared to help me once I passed 3rd grade. I was never taught how to write a high school level paper. I stopped doing math in 4th grade when I stopped understanding. The only reason I graduated highschool is because the qualifications for graduation for homeschooling in my state were extremely lax, and I did really well in English because it was my special interest. Homeschooling messed me up for life, and now at almost 30, I'm still trying to overcome what homeschooling did for me. However, I fully agree with you that it can be helpful for specific situations!
I'm so happy to know I wasn't the only one who had "homeschooling" actually be neglect. My parents weren't present in teaching me at all and I do not understand basic education. I'm so proud of you for graduating! I'm trying to get mine despite dropping out of high school. I truly hope you'll be able to fully heal and overcome the abuse, neglect, and mindset that came from your experience.
was very interesting to hear D’Angelo talk about his learning style because my learning style is exactly the opposite of his and i was the “dumb kid” in school. I learn so much better with a human showing me/telling me and getting visuals than i ever do reading something, i just need that hands on experience.
I'm so tired of conservatives in this country lying to prove a point. I don't even care what the point is, if you have to lie then you've already lost me.
It's not just this country, pal, it's sadly a very common conservative mindset and it really IS an ideology. I live in Russia, and everyone but especially our government of course has decided that we're some kind of beacon of traditional values, and a couple of people from other countries have already "fled" here to seek asylum from "the crazy progressive west". And those that live here but don't support this propaganda are also supposed to move somewhere or just shut up and try not to go to prison. 🥲
@@b666rchd5 The Netherlands banked hard extreme-right in the end of 2023, and we are now having 4 extreme-right parties, all who embrace ultraconservative ideas. Along with the typical misplaced nostalgia for a time or a society that never existed. The number 1 party is "The Party for Freedom" from Geert Wilders, a party with just as much disdain for the concept of freedom as the MAGA-extremists have. His party has several very, VERY problematic views scarily identical to the NSDAP of Adolf Hitler. I honestly don't know why so many people want to go back to the 50's. We have a former lawyer who loves to tout her knowledge of the law and how nuanced her takes are, who got convicted for group discrimination of muslim people literally for not being nuanced... She claims to be a feminist, but is a transphobe who at 54 went after a 22 year old transwoman, and wrote a transphobic manifest in which she destroyed feminism as something stupid and moronic. And too many people EAT her statements up as if it's completely fine and normal :| .
“If your kid is old enough to know what Johnny likes Sally means, they’re old enough to know what Johnny likes Jimmy means” That is such an amazing comment, because it’s true! Conservative people tend to act like LGBTQ concepts are inherently sexual and so they can’t be taught to kids in appropriate ways. But that’s not even close to correct, it really is as simple as “Claire used to be a boy, but now she’s a girl, she’s transgender” or “Penny and Sarah like each other, they’re Lesbians.” Wow, no “sexual” language required!
they also act like just having gay teachers around will turn all the kids gay. which is just straight up bs. I had an openly gay teacher (after a few years his bf started working at my school, everybody knew that they’re dating) and literally NO ONE cared or "decided" to become gay.
The first trans person I ever met was when I was in the 2nd grade. She was around our age, give or take a year, and the way teachers explained it to us was literally so simple. "Gina was born a boy but she's always felt more like a girl, so now she's gonna be one" and that was mostly it. We didn't need more details aside from the fact that wearing dresses and being called 'Gina' was gonna make her happy, so we called her Gina and complimented her dresses. Literally that simple
Also i get the feeling that when she says she teachers other religions it’s probably “these religions exist, here is how these religions evolved over time” like in a history sense, but then she’s like “but here’s the right one”
@@Sarah-re7cg I don't like school because it's generally a waste of time and money, it doesn't help the kid in life and completely slows their development. Other people are free to have their reasons
22:44 as a 3rd year teacher in a community that is typically underserved, thank you for doing that for another teacher. I’ve seen some of my coworkers faces light up when things they need for the classroom get donated.
I'll never forget a panelist at a writer's convention who told us "you don't know every spelling mistake I've made in this speech" in regards to her dyslexia. She was an American professor with a full career in academia. It forever changed the way I view people who have grammatical errors in their writing; errors that can deny a grant to someone w a disability like dsylexia & lack of access to multiple editors when they submit their work for review. ONE error caught, and tens of thousands of dollars could go out the door for that writer immediately. Academic achievement and intelligence are not the same!
That's why I think people who are so quick to point out errors in spelling/grammar online (usually in a really snobby way) are not nearly as smart as they want to portray themselves. Like I know you still understand what the other person is trying to get across, why do you care so much if they used the wrong form of 'to' or forgot an apostrophe somewhere. If all you bring to a conversation is corrections to punctuation you are not bringing much lol.
@@samg6888 Being a butthead about spelling is the fastest way to get me to throw your opinion in the trash. If the difference between "to" and "too" were actually all that important they wouldn't sound exactly the same.
@@holli3716 To add on to this topic, I think people who disregard an opinion just because of spelling or grammar are being ridiculous, for sure. I do think that for people sharing an opinion, it is important though to proofread what you wrote. If a comment is littered with typos and bad grammar, it tells me they either don't speak the language natively (which is fine, obviously), or that the person just didn't care enough about what they said to make it intelligible. Obviously I only apply this to dumb stuff, like I don't care about the grammar for an opinion on something random or trivial lol. But I do think words hold a lot of power and people should be thoughtful of what they say if they're commenting on something serious or controversial. Like people should try to make their point as clear as possible to be the most effective, if that makes sense.
@@valerielevasseur8674 Funny thing, that. The reason why we call them “avocados” is based on the Spanish word for lawye (abogado, literally “advocate”) through a French intermediary word (“l’avocat”).
It really is WHO teaches kids who ARE homeschooled. And there’s no teacher in public schools “forcing” kids into “liberal” ideologies. Because teachers have SO many others things to worry about 😭
seriously! before i went full no contact, my mom tried to tell me that my school has tried to indoctrinate me to approve of lgbt (i wasn't even out to her yet) and when i said we didnt even learn a single inkling of lgbt issues in a single one of my classes, even the civil rights movement just casually omitted stone wall entirely in my senior year, she responded to that with "well you are following the devil" like how. you got what you WANT which is that it wasnt taught and when i say it wasnt taught somehow thats also wrong???? like im just wrong about my own experience in school lmao. i came out right after that and didnt immediately get disowned but as mentioned i am no longer in contact so you can see how well things have gone lmao.
Not going to lie, there is one exception. Social studies teachers have too much leeway to be political if they wanted to. Almost everyone of my social studies teachers were libertarians. For example, I watched a lot of John Stossel. Keep in mind this was in middle school by the social studies teacher for the center based gifted program.
homeschool can also make mental health issues and abuse much harder to spot. Speaking from unfortunate experience. As a young child stuck at home with my abusive father in “self-structured homeschool”, the isolation and despair built and as I hit puberty turned into psychosis. I ended up trying to kill us both at several points until a neighbor got the cops involved. I was 11. Do not homeschool your damn kids unless you’re willing to put in the same amount of time that every teacher and administrator combined would. It’s a full time job and then some, I don’t think any parent is truly equipped. And even if you can teach them, schools are resources for issues that no parent is truly prepared for, like mood or personality disorders.
Oh my god, thats horrible. I'm so sorry, dude. I hope you're doing better now. Speaking from my own (wildly different) experience with an abusive family and mental/physical health issues, shit sucks. I'm glad you made it out alive.
I’m so sorry. I hope you have been able to find the support you need as an adult and sort of settle into yourself in the way it’s pretty impossible to do in that environment. I grew up in a very similar one, and when people ask me how homeschooling was, expecting to talk about social awkwardness and academics, I feel like the only honest things I can speak to are crushing depression, loneliness, fear, and just total hopelessness which is not usually what people were planning to talk about. Thankfully it does seem like there is more awareness about the potential for homeschooling to be a cover for abuse.
You deserved so much better. I have no pity for your father. He owed you healthcare and his neglect got him in trouble. I hope you are in a much better place these days.
the sex ed conversation is wild to me. my public high school taught abstinence only sex ed and made everyone sign a paper that stated they'd be abstinent until marriage. my high school was sued for having safe space signs, the LGBTQ+ support club was not allowed to host events, make signage, or have a presence on the school website. The most "liberal" things we were taught were evolution and climate change, and beforehand the teacher prefaced that he was only teaching it because it was on the AP exam.
@@AlgyPond the truth is kids from 6-10 start to pick up on these things and it's cool if you let them know what is what so they don't get manipulated in the future
I'm pretty sure if I had been homeschooled, the only thing I would've learned about evolution would've been lies to "debunk" it 😬 (I actually did learn a bunch of lies about evolution, hooray! But I also got actual information in the public schools I went to.)
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Im autistic and was homeschooled, my mom was a special ed teacher so she was qualified to deal with me I think. I think my experience was pretty positive. On another note, some of my other siblings are neurotypical and are not socially awkward at all imo. I think homeschool really does vary with who is teaching their kids
@@luthientinuviel3883 having an educator for a parent is the key here. I don't think any rational person would complain if a person with a teaching certification, especially for special education, homeschooled their kids. That might be one of the few homeschooling environments that has better outcomes than public school.
I went to a Christian school and the “yes of course we teach all ideologies” happens like this: “Christianity - the REAL religion Islam - racist comment, and fake religion Judaism - racist comment, they’re almost Christian’s so they’re somewhat correct Buddhism - racist comment, also fake And then the finale: if you believe anything that these fake religions say then you’re going to hell 😌” I’m so glad I was only there for high school, cause every day there was basically giving me an aneurysm as a queer person
except that those 2nd and 3rd relijjuns you listed are actually r-cyst.... also hell only exists because of the 3rd religion you listen. you just posted anti semtism and izzalahmapohbia. i am reporting you to the UK government and you will be extradited for hate crimes and you will go to jail
Yes, ugh! I had the same thought whenever the person in the Jubilee video said that (I was homeschooled by whole life by conservative Christian parents and did not have a good experience for various reasons)
Yes! I know people who were homeschooled for religious reasons and this was literally how they were taught. Their parents' religion is what's taught as right and everything else is taught as wrong. On the flip side if religion is talked about in schools it's talked about from a historical, anthropological, and sociological standpoint.
hinduism and other religions not even being mentioned is real 😭 they're either unaware of those religions or it's "racist comment. fake religion. only one god exists and he's jesus's dad"
18:08 hey paraeducator and recent college grad here, it's important to understand that what professors are NOT teachers. unless they're education professors, they are not required to ever learn even the basics of learning sciences and it shows. please do not think that what you experienced in college is the same or in any way comparable to what happens in a k-12 classroom
they have not read Piaget, they don't know any pedagogical frameworks, often times they don't even understand how to accommodate common disabilities or read an IEP. i have a video about this on my channel, diangalo, if you read this, i'd love it if you'd check it out because it's really interesting stuff. also i love you're channels
Skipping grades is where I peaked; it's where a lot of "gifted" kids peak. I wasn't "gifted" I was autistic with academically-relevant special interests. It took me a decade and a half after dropping out of college to figure out who I was and how to reapply those special interests
SAME. I was always reading at a "college level" since 6th grade. Sure I head huge breakdowns when I acquired a disability, that left me struggling to get to school twice a week. But that disorder, happened to be caused by the stress I faced thru out my life, living w my abusive father. the amount of stress hormones in a child's body, can change them permanently. When I moved out, and I could finally be away, my body IMPLODED on itself, and i was rendered bed & wheelchair bound for at least 7 months. I've been diagnosed with fibromyalgia since, and we are starting to learn that fibro can be cause from childhood trauma. I'm still fatigued beyond relief every day, and can only stay awake for about 12 hours a day. I'm still struggling to figure out that part of my life. but I can say it DEFINITELY was not caused from going to school. When I left, I also started to realize that being smart isn't an identity. And I had no idea what I wanted to do in my life. I think abusive parents can EASILY bring out the same problems in abused kids, from homeschooled kids.
Gifted is real. So is the misdiagnosis risk. Especially with autism or autism as a twice exceptionality, because it's similar genetics. Gifties just ARE median 3 years ahead: it's an atypical but natural pace, not a peak - and it's not subject specific (usually). But it's easy socially to nobble kids in stereotypically difficult areas. Math was sabotaged for me; it's reading for twice exceptional dyslexics. I caught up in math when I had the chance, (and yes, I later skipped and liked it - at least academically, that year had the worst toxic masculinity problem I ever saw) but it's sequential and I had to cram chunks, when I could've had a foundation laid without stress, except good stress. I loathe Renzulli et al who told all the convenient lies about gifties. Obvs they weren't convenient for the misdiagnosed, but it's still came about through wilful misrepresentation of gifties by exploitative minimising adults. Could we please call THEM names instead of putting lived experiences of atypicals in scare quotes? A colleague called Renzulli a cancer. (Or let's nickname him Renze, which means farts.)
@@zoekellam4083 I was skipped years ahead in history, math, science, music and gym classes. I fit the perfect definition of gifted, but it does not do anybody well to be the 12 year old getting the second highest grade in grade 10 AP Math or the 8 year old doing the same in an intro to deductive reasoning course in uni. I was lacking so much social development and was never forced to develop any study techniques, so the moment I actually had any freedom or needed to work at all, I completely face planted.
The relationship between neurodivergencies and skipping grades is so interesting to me. It really shows that school is not just a place for academic growth, but also personal. I was diagnosed with ADHD very late. I was moved ahead because bored me was an absolute menace lol I was still bored a lot but I am still convinced that skipping was very beneficial. It‘s always risky, though. You never know when overwhelm and frustration will make a kid shut down. I did well in school and managed to brute force my way through with no sustainable strategies. But then I crashed hard after submitting my Master‘s thesis. I had also suffered a lot in the years leading up to it. It‘s just that people in my life didn‘t take it seriously due to my good grades. But that‘s another story hah
The classic position of "I have a very detailed opinion about this and very specific examples...But I can't name a single one of these examples, studies, etc. You have to look that up on your own, but it's totally happening!"
You can hear the fox news anchors words coming out of their mouths and they have no idea how it got there. They fiercely believe things that some random lobbyist made up for the explicit reason of affirming their preexisting bias.
Yeah, my teachers were really outspoken on their political beliefs. Hard core religious conservatives who hated "weird" kids and believed in Satanic Panic 100%. They were silly, cruel and made a lot of kids miserable....and they taught lies. I was taught about "The Battle of Sandcreek", which was a massacre in reality. I was taught that Japanese Internment camps didn't exist, though my Uncle was born in one. Same teacher gave me bad grades if I didn't repeat his lies back to him. We had no sex ed, and pregnant girls were kicked out before they "inspired" other girls to get pregnant. The 80s were pretty hostile towards kids. Let's not bring that back.
D'Angelo just casually going on a shopping spree for random teachers is so awesome, like people needed that & some youtuber mid video essay just decided to do it !!
comprehensive sex education is so unbelievably important. I have seen some of the smartest people I know be SO IGNORANT about their own bodies, how sexuality even works, and gender identity, because they grew up in an "abstinence only" district and I grew up with comprehensive sex ed since grade 4.
@@XMUSEX0 around the same time they are taught about the birds and the bees in high school. If you're mentally ready and mature to understand how our plumbing down there works in every way, you're ready.
@@XMUSEX0I think as early as you could get a period tbh, and some girls are now getting it as young as third and fourth grade in the US:/ My school had 3-4 rounds of sex-education for us 1) in fourth grade they told us about puberty, what it was, what happened to your body, and periods 2) jr high they told us more about safe sex and what that meant/was, and say no to drugs/what some of those were 3) high school freshman year they had a semester class on a deep dive on STD’s, drugs, drinking, the danger of them, how to recognize them, and how to safely use them if we were interested ( to make sure kids didn’t get stupid and use alcohol or substances dangerously, they showed us examples of what can happen if you use them incorrectly ) So they covered some everything in each section, but had a deep dive on a specific topic each grade level, which I think was a good approach to such a serious but necessary discussion
Oh and for gender identity I think that should be taught when puberty is taught, in order to normalize it and reduce confusion among younger kids/normalize it to them The more it’s taught as a normal part of life- and not some taboo subject- less teasing will hopefully happen to the kids that need it:) ( also the concept of Queer love should be taught the same time as straight Love, Boy and Boy, Boy and Girl, and Girl and Girl - all are forms of love, and kids should be aware that it’s an option:))
@XMUSEX0 my parents took me and my sister out of sex Ed and how periods and our bodies work. We had no ideas how babies were made or that they came from you know- us. I got a call from her one night crying because she was a pregnant teen, destroying any chance of having an education, she dropped out of high-school and was abandoned by the teenager who got her pregnant. She had the baby and is completely reliant on us to keep her financially stable. But go on, tell me why it's a bad idea to educate the younger generation on how to stop themselves from becoming a statistic and making their lives 100 times harder. It's so easy to teach girls about the menstrual cycle, how they'll feel (achne, frustrated and all the hormone changes that happen as your body develop) and ways to protect yourself if you decide to have the tango because newsflash. Teenagers will with each other. I have no idea how sex Ed works for boys but after my sister got pregnant my parents changed their tune on my brother learning about it. I'm sure a quick Google search would come up with lesson presentations on it.
I think a big issue with the American schooling system (besides lack of funding and government tampering with the curriculum to cut out sex Ed, America’s racist past and present, etc) is parents thinking school is the only place kids should be learning. Education should not stop in the classroom or with homework, parents should also be involved in educating their children by watching educational content WITH them, studying WITH them, helping them explore their interests outside of “do you want to be an athlete or and author?” A lot of parents get angry with the teachers when their kids are struggling and falling behind, but personally have done nothing to figure out their children’s learning styles or looking into what might be troubling them. They’re raised by iPads, problematic twitch streamers, and underfunded teachers in overcrowded classrooms and wonder why their kids are unrecognizable to them
YUP! I used to work at a kumon and these parents would rather pay for shitty, over-expensive tutoring from underpaid high schoolers than sit and read with their kid at home.
I deeply appreciate your take on homeschooling. So many people just act like homeschooling is child abuse without realizing that there is nuance there and that there can be great ways to homeschooling.
Personally, I don't think homeschool is ideal. I a hundred percent agree with people saying public schools often suck but homeschooling is NOT the answer. Better funding and more cooperation between schools and government (not only schools getting told what to do by clueless people in charge) for example. Homeschooling just reinforces social hierarchies because most poor families don't have the means to teach their kids at home, while richer ones do. It will inherently end up with us more isolated and divided than before.
Rich children are rarely homeschooled. The rich send their children to private schools where they receive much a better education. It is this way nearly the whole world over. It has always been this way. It most likely always will be.
“Homeschooling just reinforces social hierarchies”. That is literally just public schooling in the United States, since school quality correlates heavily with property taxes. Often many are defacto segregated on racial lines in addition to social lines. It is definitely hierarchical while also potentially subjecting children to system issues of criminalization, bullying (In an AI generated world no less), and so forth. Honestly? It depends on the parent, but less economically advantaged parents can potentially benefit if they still have the ability to do so. It is not the solution, I agree, but it as an option may have benefits for those not as well off.
Yesss I’ve been looking for a comment like this. Most of the largest issues with public schooling is a lack of funding and resources, little to no support (both in and out of the school) and the more draconian or outdated to the point of oppressive views on children and their development. Pretty much all of these are able to be resolved with what you mentioned - time, attention, resources and cooperation. I personally really don’t think the public school system is the main issue here - the way we’ve allowed it to deteriorate/not progress is.
Big same!! My bestie from childhood is now an elementary school teacher and has posted her wishlist before, so hearing him so shocked and disappointed in the state of US education, and then DOING something about it for people like her?? My heart is full.
As that kid that got pushed "above grade level" from age 6, I cannot condone the blind push to perform beyond the supposed norm at all times. In the IB/IBMYP program especially, I was up until 3am most nights, after my afternoons full of community service and extracurriculars meant I didn't get home til 6pm at the soonest. Beyond the stress (undiagnosed ADHD,) being forced to "excel" at all subjects gave no time for passions and natural talents. As a result, I went into college in an honors program, with a scholarship, and....I had no idea what I really wanted to do.
Nope. 🙋🏽♀️gifted kid here who crashed and burned at 19, got pregnant at 20 and was like “lemme get my life together” having AP classes and staying up all times of night and stressing with my classmates just exacerbated my anxiety disorder that I’m JUST getting treated in my 40s 🤦🏽♀️thought the constant panic was normal 🤷🏽♀️😆
@@tchew2545 jesus, right? that "You mean y'all don't feel close to tears at all times???" moment is wild. I crashed and burned in a different way but i feel you and frequently wonder how I'd have turned out if I hadn't showed up to college already as mentally burned out as a 3rd-year med student lmao.
@@Beauty_Bot pretty much! By the time i was 18 i felt like a single mom who worked too hard, who loved her and never stopped 😭😭😭 I got it together tho… along with some lexapro 😭😭
Yuuup. Also ADHD, but my parents thought ADHD was just a "behavioral disorder" so none of us even considered I might be. I got great grades, was always ahead in some subject or another, got scholarships, chose the "practical" business degree and graduated with honors. Was severely depressed, anxious, and never wanted my degree in the first place (just wanted my parents to admire me). After graduation, when my mom asked what I want to do with my degree, I literally said "Forget about it." because I was so burnt out I didn't even care what she thought anymore. Those years were miserable. I was a lucky homeschooler bc I mostly got educated instead of neglected, but I would turn back the clock and go to therapy first instead of college.
As a gifted kid I’m convinced most of us had ADHD or were neurodivergent. When I took the autism test a couple years ago its was almost identical to the autism test they have now 👀
the funniest part is that they’re not even allowed to tell you what they believe even in a political science class even in college… these people on the homeschool side have not been in an institution of higher education in a very long time, if at all…
My sister is a teacher and me and her were debating to our parents that sex education should be taught FOR the protection of children from child abuse. A lot of kids who are sexually abused don't know what's happening to them is wrong because they haven't been taught that what is happening is wrong since they haven't had some form of education to protect them from this.
This. And also in my country, we explicitly teach students about grooming and what it looks like (I teach 13-16 year olds) because besides abuse at home, online is also where kids are most vulnerable.
Watching a doc about abused kids where the young girl said "He fell on me and hurt me with his body" My mom and i cried hard after she said tht! Kids NEED to be taught this stuff
For sex ed we can cover a lot of it by them watching Mama Doctor Jones (she did a reaction to a school board having an issue with her material being used in the school's sex ed classes as supplemental material because they couldn't guarantee that it was accurate amongst other things)
Not my homeschooled kid walking in on me watching this and saying "oh you're watching that guy again? He's so boring all he does is talk!" and walking out of the room 😂
I wasn't homeschooled by my parents, but I went to an online school. I literally became depressed, never left my room, my anxiety got terrible, and I couldn't even stand to be in public and have people so much as glance in my direction. I liked homeschool, but at the same time, it was actually terrible. I would never go back.
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I did see one, and guess what? he was conservative 💀 I'm sure the liberal teachers knew they'd be crucified for even hinting abt their politics, so they all hid it, but this was during trumps presidency so conservatives were so emboldened
Yeah any teacher that I had that spoke about politics was when we were seniors and they always prefaced it with "I'm not directing you on how to think, just sharing my opinion" because we were genuinely interested. You can't be expected to vote at 18 and not even know shit about politics outside of what's spoken about in your home.
I think you missed out on a really important part of this discussion. I’d highly suggest watching the John Oliver homeschooling video essay. A big issue with homeschooling is that there are little to no requirements for most states. There’s also no tracking of these kids. Neglectful parents can use the system to their advantage, and there have been many documented cases of child abuse. A huge positive to public school is that there are teachers marking you present each day. They can notice specific student behaviors that may indicate abuse. They can also note physical evidence of mistreatment. Child abuse is more often than not inflicted by someone in a child’s home. Keeping your kid out of sexual education classes and discouraging them from learning about their body is a glaring red flag. Public school is (obv) not a perfect system, but it’s still a beneficial tool to help keep kids safe.
I had the “it’s happening” argument just this week with an older person. They had watched a Fox News segment about kids being asked if they like being the gender they are. I told him that absolutely wasn’t happening. A- we live in a very red state so the idea is laughable. B- I have children in school currently so I would know more about what is going on in school than some almost 80 year old who saw it on an entertainment channel. I also know a lot of teachers personally! It’s absolutely not happening. He hit me with a “if you want to keep your eyes closed”. Eye roll.
@@MegCGZ1the fact that what pronouns question starts with boy girl makes me question the legitimacy of you supposed experience. It sounds more like you’re making something up because you only view she/her and he/him as girls and boys pronouns.
@@MegCGZ1a medical system collecting detailed, potentially medically relevant information from the parent of a prospective pediatric patient is not the same as asking these kinds of questions willy nilly in school. Whether you enjoy those questions or not, those things impact treatment. My kid is in his junior year and has never once been asked anything like this in school nor has he reported on any other kids being asked these questions (and he has known classmates spanning the gender identity spectrum since middle school). The big queer boogeymen (if they exist) are not hanging around at schools.
@@MegCGZ1 I fail to see how establishing a child's perception of themself is inappropriate for a child healthcare specialist. Just admit that you reject modern medicine and move on.
Buying the supplies from the teachers' wishlists is literally so sweet and definitely makes such a big difference. Both my mom and sister are teachers and every year I see them put up their wishlists asking for any help from anyone. It's infuriating how little our teachers are given and how poorly they're treated by the system and those that don't understand that they're only trying to help kids grow and learn and understand the world and how to be good, kind people.
THANK YOU for sharing the wishlists!! My mom is a teacher and it's crazy how much they're expected to do outside of working hours / with their own money.
My mom too and she spends basically all her evenings and a lot of her weekend doing stuff for school and it boils my blood because she isn’t getting paid to do all this extra stuff outside of working hours that they expect!
The best homeschooling situation I've seen was my harp teacher in high school and her family. They lived far out in the country (nearest school was 30-40 minutes away, and when the weather was bad, especially in winter, it was hard to get them to school as there were many gravel roads. There were other families nearby in a similar situation so they all came together. All of the parents had higher education degrees (including some with masters/phds) and they moved the kids around depending on which parent was best suited to teach. They also had a deal with the local school district, so one they were in middle school/high school the kids could participate in sports, school dance, etc. And once they reached high school, they had the option to take certain electives at the high school (e.g language classes). The kids had a lot of interactions outside the home exposing them docent ideologies, make friends outside of the immediate neighbors, and they interacted with other adults who then have the chance to notice is something bad is happening at home.
8:06 it’s always “I saw a book that teaches toddlers sexual positions but I can’t remember the name of it. I can guarantee that if I saw a book that was deeply disturbing like that, I’d make sure I wrote the name down to make sure I worn people.
“For you and the person you’re raising”… the way you phrased this is so refreshing. The way we discuss kids needs an overhaul. We treat them like future people rather than people in their own right. All of these arguments should be reframed to: Should people learn about sex? Should people have opportunities to socialize? Should people be limited in what they’re allowed to learn? Maybe then people would step back and consider what THEY deserve, and apply it to the people they’re raising. Maybe then we would stop treating kids like animals who don’t become fully human until they’re old enough to blame for things. Right now they get none of the autonomy of adults and none of the representation. They’re used as weapons in culture wars, and are told to sit down when they try to be heard. They’re entirely disenfranchised as a group.
I cannot stand jubilee. I had to unfollow them awhile back. Also the only person who sounds reasonable on the homeschooling front and seems well-intentioned is the woman in the cool black and white dress.
As a elementary school social worker, I love the little spot of emotion books!! Get wrecked Miss Anderson!! Thanks for sending her class those books!!! Very demure, very mindful.
As a homeschool survivor, thank you for acknowledging and making it clear that your situation was specific to you. Many others including myself were not as fortunate. For anyone looking for resources on homeschooling 💙 the Coalition for Responsible Home Education 💙 is THE ONLY organization fighting for homeschooled children’s rights, run by homeschool alumni. They’re doing the hard work of attempting to document and bring awareness to the flaws that allow negative homeschooling experiences to occur.
as a future educator, the scariest part about homeschooling is that there is no way to keep track of the safety of children if they are taught at home…
Yep. Until I became a teenager and had to literally fight them to get out of the house, there were about 16 years of my life where i could've just disappeared and it would've taken people years to notice, if ever. Maybe my Oma would've noticed eventually, but she was kept far away from us, so it would've been years - and she could've easily been lied to. Nothing scarier as a child than knowing that you are completely alone. I know sometimes neighbours call up about abused homeschooled children but from my experience with people in general and child protection in particular that's probably really rare that that happens and even rarer that anything is done about it. Most people mind their own business. No chance of that happening with me. I was a very quiet abused child - wasn't allowed to talk, so that helped. And just in case, my parents always bought houses in the middle of nowhere and told me it was because they liked privacy. The one time we lived with actual neighbours, my parents were constantly on edge and the curtains always closed. Apart from the abuse, lifelong trauma, and completely inadequate and in fact actively harmful 'education', I am also autistic. My parents don't believe in any invisible disability or mental health, so the suicidal autistic kid I was had no chance. I'm still not diagnosed now, even though everyone tells me I should look into it, because I have and a) it's expensive and b) you need background information from people who knew you as a child - and the only people there? My parents. And they do not know me. My parents would tell you I was socialized. Well, if being in a homeschool community for six years in which every single parent was EXACTLY like my own, and I had to witness absolutely criminal levels of neglect amd abuse (most of which went totally unrecognized and unaddressed) then yeah, I guess a cult counts as socialization. One example I can give: one so-called Christian man with a wife and eight kids had an affair with his neighbour (who went to the same church) and, with her full knowledge and consent, molested her three daughters while he was at it for two years. One of whom was the same age as his own eldest daughter - her best friend. The two older girls eventually reached out to the church leadership, who hushed it up and blamed them. The man boasted about it to another church man, and that man, thank goodness, took action and reported it to the police. He was subsequently shamed and removed from the church, which is disgusting, but he testified in court and got the guy sent away for 6 years. The whole church - including my parents of course - muddied the police investigation, lied for him. The horrible mother was never charged and the girls stayed with her. He was never charged with molestation of the youngest girl. Unfortunately he only served three and is still at this moment living entirely unsupervised with five underage children of his, including a baby that his complicit and enabling wife had with him the minute he got out of prison. She was financially supported by the church for the three years he was in prison so she could move around the country whenever he was transferred and never had to even get a job. My parents let me around him once he was released without telling me ANY of this. I only found out when I finally got Internet access and looked it up at 17. His children are all homeschooled and isolated. The baby almost died of whooping cough last year because they don't believe in vaccines. I have no proof he sexually abuses them . . . but he does. Even when I was nine years old, I had a bad feeling about him. I was at his house frequently for piano lessons and avoided him like the plague. I could sense just really dark energy and I still do. Side note: he and her as well beat their kids with a cane. I saw both the cane and one of the beatings and welts on the back of their necks when I was little. I also saw him kick them in the head in church. Never got charged with that of course. My parents are best friends with them - of course they are. I am not really friends with their 18 year old very brainwashed daughter who, for now, is still at home but planning on moving out in October. But I stay in contact with her because I know I am the closest thing her siblings have to an outside eye. Also because I vaguely hope I can help at least her break the cycle. It wasn't even a Catholic church, by the way. It was some kind of Reformed/Lutheran hybrid. And that is ONE example, and the only one that resulted in at least some legal action. I could give literally hundreds of other examples. And it all looked SO normal. Random outsiders, when we saw any, praised our parents for having such well behaved obedient children, told us how lucky we were. Maybe they sometimes thought we were a bit weird, but assumed that that was just religious homeschooling culture. Well, it is. It's unequivocally abuse. It is the norm to such an extent that it isn't worth the abuse of thousands of children just to help out a few exceptions. Fix public school - homeschooling is NOT the answer. It can never be regulated enough to be effective.
Homeschooling had a positive impact on my life. I loved it. But I recognize I have caring parents who are also trained educators, so I was in a position to succeed there. Some parents have no business being in charge of the education of their children. Some people should send their kids to public or private schools. Depends on the kid and the family dynamic. I have an overall positive view of home schooling but we as a “village” do need to make sure kids are safe and taught well no matter what school system they’re in, home, public, or private.
“The ABCs of LGBT” is a book by Ash Hardell (then Ashley Mardell) aimed at people like PARENTS to help them understand their kids, it’s not a book that’s like “A is for Asexual!” instead of Apple to teach kids the alphabet, holy shit, they’re not going to start singing about dildos on Sesame Street. Someone send homeschool woman a copy!! 😂😫
EXTREMELY similar to D’Angelo, I went through public school, homeschool, and college. Public School was EXTREMELY detrimental to me and homeschooling helped me flourish, but it’s absolutely NOT for everyone. My parents knew how to keep me socialized and gave me materials to have differing perspectives on life, while public school kept me stifled, bullied and ignorant. BUT, and this is a big BUT, it depends on both the home AND the school. Can the parents provide adequate and diverse education for their children? Will they let them take classes with other people- online, through a co-op, at the library? Are the schools actually focused in learning and not pushing kids through standardized tests and textbooks telling you what to think? Are they providing a safe and healthy environment for the child? In my state at least, the law was that my Mom had to present the year’s syllabus to the education department with a sign-off from actual educators and child specialists, and I think that was a great way to keep her and what she was teaching accountable while also not forcing me into an environment that would have stifled me.
same for me. My parents homeschooled us because the public schools in our area were horrible. It was the best decision they could've made for my education.
I dropped out of my PhD this week and you've put exactly why into words perfectly for me - "nowhere to go but down, actually, because I didn't even really have an identity outside of my academic performance whatsoever" - I'm really looking forward to building myself up outside of the academic world 😊
Honestly I resonate with this so much. I'm currently considering doing the same with my PhD, for exactly the same reasons. Thank you for sharing your experiences, it makes me more hopeful that if I do leave my PhD I can do it with my head held high.
I think that it’s so interesting hearing more conservative views on sex education, and I honestly think that American sex education overall falls into a “conservative”category for me. I’m Scandinavian, born in the 90s, and how sex was taught and talked about was so casual: you knew what sex was, you saw nudity and sex scenes in movies and it was shown through pictures in school, and all it taught me was that sex is so normal to have questions about in VERY early ages, but it’s something for older people. It also made boundaries a lot easier and clearer in my opinion. As teenagers learning about different ways to have sex through pictures both from the healthcare we had and school was so common? And it was used as a tool to point out the importance of figuring out what you yourself like and is okay with when it comes to sex. What do people consider to be good sex education? Genuine question, I think it’s so interesting!!
The part where you started gifting teachers and their classes stuff off their Amazon wish list made me fall in love a little I’m ngl. Thank you for supporting teachers!
I went to an incredibly small minded Christian school from kindergarten-12th grade: when people say they “teach kids about other religions”, it (shockingly) typically results in the adults just talking down about the other religions and everything that’s wrong with them - it was in no way supposed to be informative, it was to reaffirm how “good” our specific denomination was
I also went to a small K-12 Christian school! I was really lucky that the 2 teachers at my school who taught worldviews actually were informative - one had his degree in philosophy and taught it to us senior year, pointing out flaws in EVERY religion (including Christianity), and the other had a doctorate in theology. I think if I had had literally any of the other Bible teachers, they would've bashed the other religions and praised Christianity, but thanks to the two I had, I actually came out of high school with growing curiosity about understanding other peoples' views. It's what had me move away from hardcore conservative ideology, and I'm extremely grateful to those two teachers for being voices of reason in that echo chamber.
I have as much issue with parents who think 'public school is indoctrinating the minds of our youth with their woke lib agenda' as i do parents who neglect their child at home bc 'they should learn all these things from public school' (like how to cook, do taxes, being kind to others.) It shouldn't be 10000% one or the other. Learning shouldn't stop at school.
TBF, I do think a stronger home ec/shop class presence would help a lot of kids take care of themselves. Cooking, mending, home repair, taxes, labor rights, first aid, emergency preparedness...
@@Eloraurora i agree! Im glad i had those opportunities in public school since my parents didn't teach me themselves. There's a lot of nuance and everyone's circumstances are different; not all parents can teach and not all schools have good curriculum
@@Eloraurorain the uk, at least in my primary school, we had a first aid class every year (from I think age 5 and up?) covering different types of first aid scaled at our age level so like what to do if someone chokes, then what to do if you get a cut then I think when we were at the oldest class we did a couple different first aid things including chest compressions on one of those dummies. I think its such an important thing for kids to learn and i wish it was taught in schools universally since it can save so many!
@@lishanimations9852 It's been awhile, so I can't remember exactly what first aid training we received. There was always a fire safety day where they brought a mock house on a trailer bed and you had to practice feeling if the door was warm and crawl under the dry ice 'smoke,' holding your breath. Very exciting when you're eight, but I don't know how many other places in the US use that particular novelty.
these things are not on the same level though. failing to teach your kid to do laundry is nowhere near as detrimental as failing to teach them how to read. you can learn to do laundry as a 25 year old no problem, but there are developmental windows regarding concepts like literacy that, if missed, can set a child up to fall behind their peers for the rest of their life. and a lot of these fearful conservative parents who homeschool are doing just that - failing to teach their children how to think critically, how to read and write, how to do math at an age-appropriate level. they have no respect for teachers and think they can handle the job of educating their child alone. (then there are the parents of 5+ kids who claim to homeschool their entire brood. there is simply not enough time in the day to dedicate to each child's individual needs/level of development, so we have typically-developing (not intellectually disabled) children who read multiple grade levels below other children their age. it's infuriating because i feel like i have more concern for these children and their educations than their own parents do.
Well relatable. My parents fast-tracked me through school and yes, I was a super smart kid in school. Got into the number 1 university in my country at only 15 years old! Enrolled in a four year degree program, but did I graduate at 19? No, I graduated at 24. 9 years in university, I was so young, so impressionable, in an elite college surrounded by filthy rich teens and I wasn’t, I couldn’t connect to them, couldn’t afford to go out with them, didn’t belong to that community, at 15 I started smoking weed, at 16 I was hooked on to heroin and at 32 now I’m still suffering. Although I got 2 yeRs clean, the consequences of drugs and the hell I went through, still suffering.
I mean, people disagree about homeschool but the thing is most of them are right... good homeschooling is amazing and transformative, bad homeschooling can be tantamount to abuse, and there's every fucking thing in between too. One thing John Oliver pointed out is that there should at the very least be better regulation of homeschooling, like I'm not saying endless tests but there need to be SOME content requirements.
P.S. The kids there were all completely cool with each other's identities and gender expression and it was WONDERFUL. As usual, the only ones who found anything about queerness confusing or scary were the adults lol
D’Angelo buying a whole bunch of stuff off of teachers Amazon wishlists almost made me cry as the child of a teacher. Thank you so much for helping out ❤️❤️
It put a massive smile on my face to see D'angelo clear those Amazon wishlist. Maybe my feed is trash but it's easily one of the most wholesome and inspiring things I've seen on UA-cam in a long time.
I'm feeling very emotional over the section of you purchasing items from teachers amazon wishlists! Thank you!! I will make such a difference for these teachers and their school year
It's only "ideology" when it's not their ideology.
I mean, at least they are honest about it, not as teachers and schools who push their own stuff and assume their ideas shall be default and told to every child.
@@josepheridu3322They aren't, though. They will not refer to their own beliefs as ideology or agendas.
they also don't really know what that word means, it's just everything they don't like is ideology
and of course it's all the same ideology of a shadow cabal that wants to turn their kids into transgender communists or something
@@Aster_Risk I guess their arguments are like those used by native Americans against boarding schools. They want their children to be thought their own culture and values.
@@josepheridu3322not at all - they don’t consider their indoctrination as indoctrination.
On the sexual education thing: my dad used to say “if they are old enough to ask about it, they are old enough to hear the answer”
Love this. My best friend tells me all of the time that she wishes her parents responded to her curiosity with honesty and openness the way I do with my kids. I agree with your dad and approach any question from my kids the same way
Extremely true
@@katiebarrett6915 I agree. The information can be tailored in an age appropriate way.
Haha idk, my sister and I asked my mom what sex was or maybe we asked "where babies come from" when we were 4 and 6 respectively and she tried to explain and we got grossed out and she was like "Are you too young for this?" and we said yes and left the room. She tried to be informative but we definitely weren't old enough just because we asked. Then I think she forgot she hadn't actually given us "the talk" and we ended up learning about sex on the school bus and stuff from classmates. *shrugs* development is different for everyone.
@Arionlappy That was NOT you asking about sexuality that’s you asking about human development…it wasn’t directly tied to sex in your question and buses are NOT the ideal way to learn about sex. bffr just because you didn’t get any misinformation in the playground (you certainly did) doesn’t mean others won’t be harmed by such things.
Your mom just handled the question wrong but that doesn’t mean kids genuinely curious about human sexuality (not just mom’s baby bump/the stork) should be shielded from the truth.
“I don’t want to expose my children to any ideologies or sexualities,” says the conservative Christian husband and wife.
They're basically saying, "I don’t want to expose my children to being human beings"
"I want them to remain dumb and ignorant like me and my knowledge on actual scientific facts that exist"
I was homeschooled my entire life (didn’t properly graduate either) I had to do a “worldview test” where it would ask me questions about my beliefs on God, homosexuality, abortion, and how I thought the earth was created. I never properly learned how to do math, but I ended up very queer regardless of all the attempts and haven’t willingly went to a church in years
I really dont blame them. There is no reason to teach ideologies based on pure delusion in schools.
@@AdriftInTheWatersGorge an ideology where a man can magically become a woman just because he “identifies” as one *is* a form of willful ignorance.
ngl the “politics don’t belong in the classroom” argument always gave “i don’t want my kids to be exposed to any opinions that aren’t mine”. like, how do you expect your children to actually think for themselves with that mentality???? 💀
They don’t is the answer
@@cizzle4203 Exactly.
@@Magicwithizzexactly lol
Also there's tons of conservative teachers too, what actually happens is kids are exposed to a *variety* of opinions, which can be scary and overwhelming but it's the only way they'll develop their own unique worldview. The real issue is Conservatism is an *incredibly* narrow ideology vs the wide blanket term of "liberals" who famously disagree constantly. And nowadays if you have any amount of tolerance/empathy in your worldview you're pretty much automatically disqualified from a dozen of the right-wing culture-wars going on at any time and expelled from any conservative space.
And what are they going to do when it’s time to learn American government and economics? Politics are involved in these subjects.
As someone who was homeschooled by conservative parents who didn't teach about "the abcs of lgbt", I can assure you I am still queer. If your kid is gay, they are gay, it doesn't matter if they learned about it in school or not. Let your kids feel supported and seen by learning about queer identities.
This applies to a huge variety of issues, and it all stems from the flawed logic of “people can’t participate in or believe in things I don’t like if they don’t know about them”. “If I protect my kids from learning about being queer, they’ll never know that they can be queer and thus will be guaranteed cishet” “If I protect my kids from sex education, then they won’t be having it” “If we ban abortion, people will ‘take responsibility’ and birth and raise those kids”.
When, in reality, gatekeeping this stuff doesn’t stop people from getting involved with it; it just ensures that many will get involved from a deeply uninformed place and are more likely to be harmed because of it.
@@uniraffesaurwell said!
This!!!!! This exactly!!!
Yup. Transgender and homeschooled k-12. I was raised to believe queer people were bad, and my parents tried to push straight relationships on me and wonder why I kept failing. Now they are surprised I have an actual dating life now I accepted I was queer
My thing is that they're also going to find it anyway. If you can find it, your kid can.
The book reference at 8:28 is "it's perfectly normal". Kat Blaque did a review of it and she got emotional reading it because this book is one of the very few books made for children that honestly tells kids what sex is. And she felt like she needed a book like this one when she was younger. And this book has been credited in court for helping a child realize that they are experiencing sexual assault. Yes it doesn't hide from what sex is, but it isn't porn either. It's literally just an honest explanation and makes abundantly clear that sex should happen with consent. Wild concept. 10/10
Oh interesting!
that’s great
Kids def need to learn this stuff so they can be safer. I have always used real words with my son and told him things. Nothing graphic or over his level of comprehension, but it would be a disservice to him if I hadn't.
I found it on google and did a quick flip through. This book would have been great for me when I was younger! If I ever have kids it'll definitely be one on my bookshelf in the future
LOVE Kat B. Hello fellow introspective hot person!
dangelo randomly buying items for teachers is actually the sweetest thing ever 😭😭 we need these kinda of small moments of wholesomeness
I love that the kind gesture was followed by "get wrecked" 😂
@@jens2114 🤣🤣🤣
right it was so wholesome, gonna do the same when I get the chance 😭🙏
Get wrecked WITH KINDNESS AND GENEROSITY
Definitely subscribed!
I dated two guys who were homeschooled. The first had parents with backgrounds in education and had a very structured school experience. His parents would make a point of having him socialize with other homeschooled kids. The second was homeschooled starting at 10 by a hyper religious mother who frankly wanted him to be a live in nurse for a sick family member. He was isolated and his mother provided decades old books to him and he would basically have to educate himself based off these books. No structure and a lot of Christian BS and fearmongering that still affects his mental health and sexuality.
So what I'm saying is home schooling needs to be monitored and regulated. If you're just isolating your kids for the sake of religous brainwashing and putting zero effort into their upbringing and education, you should be charged with child abuse and neglect.
Homeschooled guys are awful. Hypertrads and complete children
That's a hugely overgeneralized statement. I've been married for 20 years to a man who was homeschooled from 2nd grade on. He is kind, self-motivated, agnostic, and a wonderful supporter of my pagan bisexual antics.
John Oliver did a segment on homeschooling and how there's a huge lobby that always pushes back against regulating homeschooling. It's evil.
@@MonatamiWhich one? Saying one person had decent parent became a good adult or the guy who didn't having issues? Or are you supporting people homeschooling to enforce religious dogma and abuse their kids?
@@Ashbrash1998 I think they were trying to respond to @thaloblue.
the lgbt topics thing is wild too bc like have you seen those little baby shirts with jokes about being a ladies man or whatever like whatever the fuck that is is FAR more inappropriate for children than being told that sometimes a girl will like a girl
@@XMUSEX0 im going to touch you.
@@XMUSEX0 Can you explain to me why a same-sex relationship is inherently inappropriate whereas an opposite-sex relationship is not?
You are psycho. Explain to me now what is sexual about aaying to a kid "sometimes Sally and Jenny love each other and get married, and sometimes Tommy and Peter do, too." @XMUSEX0
@@XMUSEX0
Guess kids aren't allowed around their own friggin parents, then😂
@@XMUSEX0I think you fail to realize that the reason adults can struggle to learn is because they themselves can set mental blocks of taught binaries or lock their associations that limit their learning; whereas children are blank slates where terms like "boy" or "girl" have little meaning to them beyond newer, basic associations placed on them from their relatively little life experiences.
Adults are socialized as children to understand information; so out of everyone, children will (and are more willing to) learn and understand concepts that you asserted as hard for adults. To children, the pronouns of he, she, they, zir, and it are all equally new concepts to learn and none of them are inherently more difficult for children to understand.
Why is it always the most weirdo insane parents who think they're qualified to educate their kids
Delusion.
Do you have children?
@@elleohwell1189 you don't have to be a parent to see someone else doing parenting poorly.
@@elleohwell1189 Did you know that all of us used to be children and can critique the mistakes we saw while growing up?
@@arowace498 ^ that part
Ideology = being LGBT+
CRT/DEI = black people/culture
Brainwashing = knowledge of non dominant cultures/peoples
The evolution of language is so fascinating. (/S)
"Socialism" = anytime something I don't like happens
THISS😭😭😭😭😭
@@whossoul or communism/commie LMAO
Gender studies = turning your kids trans..???
WOKE and SJW is when NOT racist and actually respects people! (i agree with u btw)
as someone from Eastern Europe where we don’t have homeschooling, the idea of a random parent who most probably failed some of the classes grading and teaching their child is crazy to me. Teachers in my country have to get a degree to have a deeper understanding of a subject they teach, as well as an understanding of child and teenage psychology.
Welcome to America RAHHHH 🗣️💥🦅
The US could really benefit from an understanding of child and teenage psychology
Yes, you need masters degree to be a teacher in finland
EXACTLY. And it's pretty common for universities to have programms specifically directed at future teachers that don't only teach them about their chosen field, but also about how to pass on this knowledge. And they have a mandated curriculum to teach at school, you can't just pick random subjects as I've heard it happen in America.
Eeeh the understanding of child and teenage psychology is a bit of a stretch. The overwhelming majority just have a degree in the subject they teach and have to take a test about teaching. Ultimately there's very little work or understanding of child and teenage cognitive development and psychology.
Most commonly only the lower grade teachers need a specific degree in being teachers for this age group.
And if we're being super honest here, most of them show a very determined lack of care or desire to learn about it and improve.
The number one argument for sexual education is that *it* *helps* *children* *understand* *when* *they* *are* *being* *abused* *at* *home*. You can argue about how to calibrate it and what exactly to include but anyone who just OPPOSES sexual education is either an unserious person (usually) or a perv.
Sex ed was the entire reason I figured out I was being abused at home, I had no idea otherwise that what I was experiencing was unusual, abusive. Of course, after being taught all of the signs of SA, I still denied the fact that I could check every single box for a year, it was difficult to come to terms with.
Exactly
I tried so had to explain this to my European roommate and she was like “it doesn’t happen that often to justify sex ed” and I thought “how naive”…wish i had said that out loud lol
@@grrawesomenessc.8399SAME
@@grrawesomenessc.8399 just wanted to say that i'm really sorry you experienced that. it really is hard to come to terms with such a vile form of abuse--especially from the people who are supposed to protect you the most. i am so glad that you eventually gained the words/understanding needed to recognize what was happening. i hope your healing journey has been restorative for you 💙💙
As someone who works at a school, I started crying when you cleared those teachers' wishlists! Such a kind thing to do!
As someone outside of the US and with many teacher friends in countries around the world, the country that claims to be the richest (it’s not) and more free (it’s not, and far from it), I find it unbelievable that teachers having to buy supplies is a thing for even one teacher. So many though. The USA is doing badly, but it’s not for the reasons Trump claims, it’s the opposite and it’s because of people like him.
@@jaybee4118yeah we know.
honestly could have just stood there watching him do that for 2 hours ! It was so nice and cool to see..
As someone who lives in and grew up in finland and never had to worry about school supplies.. still made me tear up. Amazing
Yeah loved that too.
Coming from a country that just doesn’t have homeschooling, the fact that it’s acceptable for parents who possibly failed courses to then teach their children, is absolutely wild to me.
also from a country eithout himeschooling here, I find homeschooling to not be awful per se, if the parents are actually knowledgable and do a LOT of research on how to teach, or just get a private tutor or even online classes I think it' great. other than that... no. oh and I find it wild that parents can just choose what not to teach from the curriculum...
Which country do you come from out of curiosity? I agree with your point. I feel as if some people in the U.S. equate teaching with little more than being a parent. I don't think that everyone truly respects education as a profession.
@@jessiemarie636They do not respect it. It's gross (that they don't.)
It's illegal where I'm from to not send kids before the ninth grade to school. After the ninth grade it's okay for them not to continue their education but any grade before that, their caretakers will be in violation of the law even if they are "homeschooling".
@@aimeekessell5022 the courses in school are generally useless in real life. A kid just needs to learn what he needs and likes. Not algebra and physics
“Get wrecked, random library in Missouri” while taking a completely unassuming tangent to support educators is hilarious and heartwarming 😂❤️
As someone in Missouri, this made me smile!
10:43 “If your kid is old enough to know what ‘Johnny likes sally’ means then he’s old enough to know what ‘Johnny likes Jimmy’ means” was really good
That’s a mic drop line, D’Angelo
Or Sally likes Sarah.
@@Emma88178yeah
him buying the teacher's supplies lists was so sweet 🥺 that act of kindness just made my day and I'm not even in school anymore
Literally! It’s so cute 😭😭😭 omg what a wonderful thing to do for a stranger.
I could have watched an entire video of D'Angelo buying from those lists!❤❤😢
Right? You see all this discourse around parents buying communal classroom supplies and people don't want universal free lunch cause they're like "fuck all the other kids except mind" meanwhile he's out here buying stuff for random teachers and kids when he's not even a parent himself.
this is the only reason i would want to become rich honestly
I cried.
10/10 recommend
Schooling is a way for teachers to also see if children are meeting their developmental goals, aren't being abused at home and have healthy communication skills. My parents never taught me about menstruation, sex education and good touch/bad touch, because these were "taboo," but my school teachers did and I'm so thankful for that.
Wish my teachers gave af like that
It sadly is also the main vehicle for which many children get their meals. I see no sadder indictment of my country, the United States, than the pervasive belief that free lunch should not be available to every child attending a public school. It should not take a genius to figure out that this alone is not only the right thing to do, but something which also pays for itself.
why are y'all interacting with this fucking troll that went out of their way to bash fucking pronouns lmao
It pisses me off so much that people think only the parents should teach about stuff like that when there’s many parents like yours who refuse to speak about it. I’m so glad you were able to be taught that in school
It's crazy how, during the pandemic, this country was all about not shutting down because "KIDS NEED TO BE AT SCHOOL..." but of course it's all subjective right?
I don’t normally comment on videos but as someone who was homeschooled for my whole life (and didn’t even pass fifth grade because of this) I just want to say, thank you so much for discussing this. There as so many states in America where it’s perfectly legal to completely deprive your child of a proper education and not many people are aware of it. It is such an overlooked issue in my opinion so thank you for bringing attention to it ❤
I was homeschooled as a child. It was done as a method to keep me isolated and only schooled on specific things. A lot of my fellow homeschooled kids ended up being incredibly intelligent and for a while I was one of them but then I got lazy, as children tend to do, and didn't bother trying learn things I didn't care about like math. Being homeschooled is one of the things I despise the most about my childhood. I'm socially awkward, struggle with jobs but do my best, and I have giant gaps in my education. My parents somehow escaped getting my tests done so my highschool diploma isn't considered valid. It's frustrating to explain to employers now. If you're going to homeschool your kids, do it right at least - if you're lazy, it'll cause a thousand problems for your kids into their adulthood.
can’t you take the test now to get your diploma?
wtf they screwed you, you have to go back to school to get a “vaild” diploma?
i grew up when virtual school first started to come out and in my opinion it is still better than homeschool. while regular school is better for interaction at least virtual gives you some interaction with students as well as you can join clubs. I also joined stuff outside of school that gave me interaction with kids my age. as result i wasn't socially awkward. Joining extracurricular activities outside of virtual school really helped. I feel like straight up homeschooling at home is not a good solution though.
I'm so sorry.
i was moved to home school about a year ago after always doing public school. And i agree so much with you. If i was still in public school I would be so much more social and have better mental health, and a better chance at jobs and collages. I feel as though home school only works if you devote so much time to being social, to being educated, and how to bring in character development such as self discipline.
Failing to teach children the science of their own bodies will lead to:
1. They grow up feeling ashamed and embarrassed about how their bodies are changing.
And
2. They are more susceptible to being abused or manipulated by adults with nefarious intentions.
KNOWLEDGE IS POWER.
Hildren deserve to be safe and protected, not traumatize by gore and s3x
They're also more likely to have sex younger when not taught about sex at an early age!
Indeed!!
@@whossoul if a parent is good at their job, no, no they will not 💀
@divine555 And that's the reason why you teach them using books appropriated to them. What do you think SE is? Watching p0rn? No, dear. Children would find p0rn, gore, violence, and other traumatic media by themselves (in this internet era with irresponsible parents you can see the consequences already), and if they didn't learn in an appropriate way about those topics, they will replicate those actions and being in danger.
When I was 6 yo, I was SA, and being raised in a catholic, conservative house with nobody to talk to me about SE, I never realized that was abuse until almost 10 years after. So don't try to say that SE is "a danger, violence, abuse to the poor, innocent children". Negligence is sending these same children to a world full of terrors without tools to defend themselves. I don't want to see my story and other's replicate.
D'Angelo University is still accepting new students and transfer students! We now have a ghost that roams the halls, a non-binary rowing team that made it to the national championship, and free cinnamon rolls in the cafeteria every Thursday!! Enroll now!
I'll consider it if you have Olympic chocolate muffins in the cafeteria
@@sadsassyqueen we're currently trying to crack the recipe. We have scientists in our lab dissecting and analyzing them. Stay tuned!
if they arent mall cinnamon rolls then i can't enroll..
@@NIGHTBLOODUSAGI they're my grandma's cinnamon rolls and she works really hard on them :(
Can I enroll? I'm 5 agender snakes in a human skinsuit
I had a friend like this.. Her ‘ideology’ was basically, ‘It’s fine if he’s taught he can be whatever he wants to be, unless he wants to be a girl.’ After that, was a conversation about how she stopped taking him to a library reading group because a ‘visibly trans person’ started bringing their kid and she didn’t want to explain why they had a beard and was wearing a dress.. I didn’t stay friends with her after that..
Honestly though, parents that don't think it's necessary for children and teens to be taught about their bodies in school and then won't teach them themselves are shooting themselves in the foot. That's how I ended up as a teen pregnancy statistic at 17 😅
Literally. My mom got pregnant at 16 and I was the result of that. Like, there are statistics proving abstinence only education results in higher rates of STIs/STDs and Teen Pregnancy.
not to mention other things like the risk of a child being sexually abused and never mentioning to anyone bc they think it isn't appropriate or, worse, they think it was their fault
Yeah I'm not sure what they think will happen with this train of thought.
I was home school. My mom was a nurse. She sat me down and told me about the birds and the bees in such graphic clinical detail that I was completely uninterested in having sex until I was an adult.
I knew a girl who got pregnant at 12. Genuinely had no idea that sex leads to pregnancy, even if you're not married. She thought she was too young to be pregnant even though she started her cycle. She didn't know having your period = fertility.
I think one of the things we don't talk enough about is that kids deserve their own life apart from the family. I don't know what my kids are up to at school. They're under the care of responsible adults at all times, but during those hours that theyre gone, they're discovering new things about themselves, making some mistakes, forming important bonds outside from us. That's so special. I don't need to know everything about my daughters. They shouldn't be under my watchful eye at all times. They're human beings with their own "selfness" that deserves to be explored.
omg you're so right! Your kids deserve (age appropriate level of) privacy and homeschooling doesn't really offer that that much.
I love the way u think
Parents aren't qualified to be teachers unless they go through the education and training to be one. They had other things to focus on. I'm pretty sure they can't teach updated calculus or computer science courses.
As a person that comes from a country in which homeschooling is prohibited, I can't imagine not have been able to have my privacy\private social life that public school gave me. I'm admittedly extremely territorial with my spaces and my personal privacy, but it would've been an absolute nightmare for me to have my parents control that side of my life as well, and they were already very controlling. Like, I'm neurodivergent and socially anxious, but even with that I'm grateful I had the experience of public school, I'd be much worse without it.
I'm happy my country doesn't allow any of this crap, the cons vastly outweight the pros.
Completely agree - it's comforting to know there are parents who think this way 💕
I'm a parent and therapist in Oklahoma so I'm considering homeschooling my kids for the opposite reasons most of these homeschooling parents give. Our superintendent, Ryan Walters has mandated the Bible be taught in every classroom, hired a Twitter troll with no experience that lives in another state to determine what library books we should ban, and worst of all is trying to replace school counselors with Christian chaplains. He doesn't want professionals with pesky ethics telling kids that it's OK to be lgbt. That's in addition to all the anti lgbt rhetoric and accusing every other teacher of grooming of they acknowledge lgbt people exist or indoctrinating our kids with CRT for teaching basic historical facts. I'm just sick of it and i decided to homeschool for pre-k and we'll see next year if things calm down. I'm worried about violence at this point and we already lost one trans student because of all the rhetoric. I want my kids to learn about a much more diverse reality than they are trying to teach here in Oklahoma.
@@TreeWars i know it's nuts right now 😔 my kids are 2 and 4 and my daughter is already ahead so i wasnt gonna make her go to half day prek at a random school she won't see again. We're on a lottery in our district and our local elementary doesn't do prek so it just seemed pointless when she's already learning to read and do basic math. I'm hoping things calm down and leadership changes in the next few years because i wasnt planning on staying out of work forever, but I'll do what i have to. Gotta figure out some groups to involve the kids in though.... it's like if you don't go to church, there's very few options for making friends or homeschool social groups. Maybe I'm just not looking in the right place though.
I think I saw him on tv when my parents were watching Fox once, and hearing him talk was making my blood boil
If I were in your spot I’d consider homeschooling too, as long as it wasn’t too isolating for my kids. I grew up in a rural area so for some school was the only way they socialized.
I’m also from Oklahoma, and Ryan Walters is a fucking idiot. thank you for not listening to his bullshit
Hey, I’m an Okie too! I’m doing my Senior year of HS in Epic for reasons unrelated to that weirdo, but I’m glad I got out of the public system before all that. I feel bad for my past teachers though. I was in Mid-Del and the teachers I had support the things he doesn’t and don’t support the things he does. Didn’t he say that teachers who didn’t abide by his rules would have their licenses revoked? That’s just absolutely nuts. There are so many explicitly catholic/christian schools in this state, I was in one from PK-7th. I don’t see why public schools also need to be Christian too when those are supposed to be places for everyone regardless of expression.
13:33 That is exactly right. I remember my mom telling me "now that you're in college, remember: Cs get degrees" when dropping me off and I couldn't believe it because for my entire life anything less than perfect wasn't good enough. I think she thought she could undo all that conditioning by just saying the words out loud, but I still pushed myself and beat myself up to seek perfection all the way through college. It's only in therapy years later that I've been learning to be kinder to myself and lower my expectations.
23:07 I love the deviation to gifting random teachers gifts and supplies 😭😭
glad someone mentioned it!!! it made me so happy
Ditto!! Go D'Angelo!
💯
As a former teacher, I was truly touched by that.
Yes! Oh, my heart when I saw that. I'm not in a great financial state to support myself, so I was so grateful to see that he did that. For a moment, things got better! It still makes me sad that even the very basic things out there we don't have for the kids. It broke my heart.
"It happens" lady absolutely spends daily time on Facebook. 😅
Yup... Then we bring up the "school shootings, it happens!" But gun control or some sort accountability just isn't in the cards now right?? 😂😂😂
Not to mention that quick pivot from 'It's in the curriculum' to 'Oh, it's in the school library.... Actually it's online'
😂😂😂😂
It's the exact same people who are fully convinced there are litterboxes in classrooms for furry children to use 🙄 I encountered one of these once and she was soooo convinced that it was really happening
@hockeygrrlmuse bwahahaha I read that one too! XD
as a home schooled kid, the worst and most scary thing about unregulated home schooling is just how easy it is for a parent to abuse that kid and that child having no where to go to report it or get help, they end up with no other adult figures in their life to run to or to talk about that abuse and understand it as wrong and i feel like that isn't talked about nearly as much as it should when the topic comes up, it's really sad, i feel like a lot of home schooling parents want to home school because they know they can do whatever they want to the kid and no one will be able to judge them or ask them questions like a teacher might, i know a lot of people have had a really good experience with being home schooled, but i think home schooling can just attract some really nasty parents
@@civet-coffee4442 parents should not need to register with the government to do nothing. Kids still get abused in school, lol. Why yall care how others parent?
Definitely! I think in general it takes a village to raise a child, and children should be able to develop healthy and safe relationships with other adults, which is something a child can do more easily at a public school with caring teachers. Removing that village or preventing it from even developing can be harmful even if the parent doesn’t have malicious intent imo
That is an extremely rare occurance--99.99% of homeschooling parents are just sick of how inept and beauracratic the public school system is (dont even get me started on the complete lack of enforcement on bullying policies). And abused children, sadly, usually do not speak to their teachers anyway about that kind of stuff.
@ErezElene do you have proof of that percentage? Do you have proof 99.9% of parents are all perfect angels who won't abuse having control of their child's education?
@Quinn-he3vn What I'm saying is, child abuse stats show abuse rates are the same across the educational spectrum (public, private, etc). Abusive parents are going to be abusive. There is nothing particular to parents who choose homeschooling that makes them more likely to abuse their kids. And it's insulting to imply that.
Mad respect for the casual buying of things in the middle of the video to help educators! Unexpected and pleasant surprise. 🖤
I was homeschooled from 2nd grade until freshman year of high-school by an abusive parent. My mother used homeschooling to isolate and control her children. My siblings and I were not actually taught for more than the 1st week of the school year. After that my mother got bored and expected us to learn completely on our own, we were not allowed to leave the table for any reason until the days school work was completed. I struggled and often was forced to stay at the table from 6 am until midnight until my father felt bad for me and sent me to bed. Eventually we began pretending to be done so that we could leave, my mother never checked if we actually did any work until the end of the school year when she would realize we did only a weeks worth of schooling the entire year and lose it on us. Then my parents would help forge work and backdate papers to make it look like we had done our schooling so we could pass the state evaluation and be moved to the next grade. This worked every year.
Jesus that's fucked. Kind of similar to me. Got homeschooled cause religion. The world is too dangerous and sinful after all. Got held back a grade because they obviously didnt know what they were doing. Sucks.
Oh you got moved to the next grade? Mine just got so bad to the point where I was 15 and cleaning and cooking for the family with nothing but a 4th grade education. I just lie and tell people I was unschooled. My sister got to have an expensive private school education at the same time btw.
@@isuck200 Oh God I'm sorry you went through that!
For most home schooled children, home schooling is done badly and even worse than in the state school system. Some parents pull their child out of school because of a disability like being hard of hearing or being on the spectrum so they fall behind. Isn't that what special schools and SEN teaching assistants in normal schools are for?
State school education isn't perfect. Teachers are underpaid and schools too large. They should have a maximum size of 500 children or students.
@@isuck200 That is horrible. I'm so sorry.
22:57 I’m about to cry 😭 as someone finishing their SPE. ED. degree it means so much to see you donate to classrooms. Like you were saying earlier, I’ve learned that it’s not “smartness” or an “achievement gap” it’s a lack of resources 100%. Anyways, your kind actions and kind words towards teachers really does mean a lot to a “selfless” job where we’re just suppose to make it happen and “remember our why”
I started crying and I’m not even a teacher 😭
thank you!!
As a parent who has a severely autistic child, you're the literal unsung heros of the world.
Thank you thank you so much! 🥰
I FELT MYSELF TEARING UP. this is so sweet
Homeschooling was used to abuse me and my siblings, and unfortunately, it's more common than some people think. So many people in our homeschool circle were being neglected or indoctrinated to think the world was evil, or abused. My mom was not even a little bit prepared to help me once I passed 3rd grade. I was never taught how to write a high school level paper. I stopped doing math in 4th grade when I stopped understanding. The only reason I graduated highschool is because the qualifications for graduation for homeschooling in my state were extremely lax, and I did really well in English because it was my special interest. Homeschooling messed me up for life, and now at almost 30, I'm still trying to overcome what homeschooling did for me. However, I fully agree with you that it can be helpful for specific situations!
I'm so happy to know I wasn't the only one who had "homeschooling" actually be neglect. My parents weren't present in teaching me at all and I do not understand basic education. I'm so proud of you for graduating! I'm trying to get mine despite dropping out of high school. I truly hope you'll be able to fully heal and overcome the abuse, neglect, and mindset that came from your experience.
So sorry you had to experience that ❤
was very interesting to hear D’Angelo talk about his learning style because my learning style is exactly the opposite of his and i was the “dumb kid” in school. I learn so much better with a human showing me/telling me and getting visuals than i ever do reading something, i just need that hands on experience.
I'm so tired of conservatives in this country lying to prove a point. I don't even care what the point is, if you have to lie then you've already lost me.
Internalized denial and mirror projection... is pretty much every single one of these fucks in existence
They usually believe what they're saying though
@@audreymarsh1827 yeah, they're not liars, they're delusional
It's not just this country, pal, it's sadly a very common conservative mindset and it really IS an ideology. I live in Russia, and everyone but especially our government of course has decided that we're some kind of beacon of traditional values, and a couple of people from other countries have already "fled" here to seek asylum from "the crazy progressive west".
And those that live here but don't support this propaganda are also supposed to move somewhere or just shut up and try not to go to prison. 🥲
@@b666rchd5 The Netherlands banked hard extreme-right in the end of 2023, and we are now having 4 extreme-right parties, all who embrace ultraconservative ideas. Along with the typical misplaced nostalgia for a time or a society that never existed.
The number 1 party is "The Party for Freedom" from Geert Wilders, a party with just as much disdain for the concept of freedom as the MAGA-extremists have.
His party has several very, VERY problematic views scarily identical to the NSDAP of Adolf Hitler.
I honestly don't know why so many people want to go back to the 50's. We have a former lawyer who loves to tout her knowledge of the law and how nuanced her takes are, who got convicted for group discrimination of muslim people literally for not being nuanced... She claims to be a feminist, but is a transphobe who at 54 went after a 22 year old transwoman, and wrote a transphobic manifest in which she destroyed feminism as something stupid and moronic.
And too many people EAT her statements up as if it's completely fine and normal :| .
“If your kid is old enough to know what Johnny likes Sally means, they’re old enough to know what Johnny likes Jimmy means”
That is such an amazing comment, because it’s true! Conservative people tend to act like LGBTQ concepts are inherently sexual and so they can’t be taught to kids in appropriate ways. But that’s not even close to correct, it really is as simple as “Claire used to be a boy, but now she’s a girl, she’s transgender” or “Penny and Sarah like each other, they’re Lesbians.” Wow, no “sexual” language required!
They don’t care, they’re just bigots
they also act like just having gay teachers around will turn all the kids gay. which is just straight up bs. I had an openly gay teacher (after a few years his bf started working at my school, everybody knew that they’re dating) and literally NO ONE cared or "decided" to become gay.
also, why is it always the same kind of boomers making up shit about schools even though they haven’t been in one for at least 50 years 💀
Yeah. That statement was perfect.
The first trans person I ever met was when I was in the 2nd grade. She was around our age, give or take a year, and the way teachers explained it to us was literally so simple. "Gina was born a boy but she's always felt more like a girl, so now she's gonna be one" and that was mostly it. We didn't need more details aside from the fact that wearing dresses and being called 'Gina' was gonna make her happy, so we called her Gina and complimented her dresses. Literally that simple
“You don’t get to indoctrinate my children, I do!” Sums up modern homeschooling (at least on the right)
“You got dem pride flags that they have to see 20 ft away, here in my home we will only show dem dah love of god, no indoctrination needed!”
Also i get the feeling that when she says she teachers other religions it’s probably “these religions exist, here is how these religions evolved over time” like in a history sense, but then she’s like “but here’s the right one”
Yup.
@@Sarah-re7cg I don't like school because it's generally a waste of time and money, it doesn't help the kid in life and completely slows their development. Other people are free to have their reasons
Check out Coalition for Responsible Home Education - the only org working to protect children in this country from this kind of abuse
22:44 as a 3rd year teacher in a community that is typically underserved, thank you for doing that for another teacher. I’ve seen some of my coworkers faces light up when things they need for the classroom get donated.
I'll never forget a panelist at a writer's convention who told us "you don't know every spelling mistake I've made in this speech" in regards to her dyslexia. She was an American professor with a full career in academia. It forever changed the way I view people who have grammatical errors in their writing; errors that can deny a grant to someone w a disability like dsylexia & lack of access to multiple editors when they submit their work for review. ONE error caught, and tens of thousands of dollars could go out the door for that writer immediately. Academic achievement and intelligence are not the same!
That's why I think people who are so quick to point out errors in spelling/grammar online (usually in a really snobby way) are not nearly as smart as they want to portray themselves. Like I know you still understand what the other person is trying to get across, why do you care so much if they used the wrong form of 'to' or forgot an apostrophe somewhere. If all you bring to a conversation is corrections to punctuation you are not bringing much lol.
@@samg6888 Being a butthead about spelling is the fastest way to get me to throw your opinion in the trash.
If the difference between "to" and "too" were actually all that important they wouldn't sound exactly the same.
@@holli3716 By your logic, there is no difference between lawyers and avocados.
@@holli3716 To add on to this topic, I think people who disregard an opinion just because of spelling or grammar are being ridiculous, for sure. I do think that for people sharing an opinion, it is important though to proofread what you wrote. If a comment is littered with typos and bad grammar, it tells me they either don't speak the language natively (which is fine, obviously), or that the person just didn't care enough about what they said to make it intelligible. Obviously I only apply this to dumb stuff, like I don't care about the grammar for an opinion on something random or trivial lol. But I do think words hold a lot of power and people should be thoughtful of what they say if they're commenting on something serious or controversial. Like people should try to make their point as clear as possible to be the most effective, if that makes sense.
@@valerielevasseur8674 Funny thing, that. The reason why we call them “avocados” is based on the Spanish word for lawye (abogado, literally “advocate”) through a French intermediary word (“l’avocat”).
It really is WHO teaches kids who ARE homeschooled. And there’s no teacher in public schools “forcing” kids into “liberal” ideologies. Because teachers have SO many others things to worry about 😭
no literally. they r worried about the kids vaping not making them gay 😭😭😭
seriously! before i went full no contact, my mom tried to tell me that my school has tried to indoctrinate me to approve of lgbt (i wasn't even out to her yet) and when i said we didnt even learn a single inkling of lgbt issues in a single one of my classes, even the civil rights movement just casually omitted stone wall entirely in my senior year, she responded to that with "well you are following the devil" like how. you got what you WANT which is that it wasnt taught and when i say it wasnt taught somehow thats also wrong???? like im just wrong about my own experience in school lmao. i came out right after that and didnt immediately get disowned but as mentioned i am no longer in contact so you can see how well things have gone lmao.
Not going to lie, there is one exception. Social studies teachers have too much leeway to be political if they wanted to. Almost everyone of my social studies teachers were libertarians.
For example, I watched a lot of John Stossel. Keep in mind this was in middle school by the social studies teacher for the center based gifted program.
@@PeripheralVisionary.my middle school history teacher was conservative and racist💀 even to his own students😭
@@PeripheralVisionary. homeschooled "teachers" will do way worse with political bullshit.
The fact that you gifted random teachers supplies literally made my day better. Thank you for being such a cool youtuber
22:34 i was not expecting this random turn of wholesomeness (idk why i wasn’t given you’re…you??) 😭😭😭 love from one random B to another 💜
homeschool can also make mental health issues and abuse much harder to spot. Speaking from unfortunate experience. As a young child stuck at home with my abusive father in “self-structured homeschool”, the isolation and despair built and as I hit puberty turned into psychosis. I ended up trying to kill us both at several points until a neighbor got the cops involved. I was 11.
Do not homeschool your damn kids unless you’re willing to put in the same amount of time that every teacher and administrator combined would. It’s a full time job and then some, I don’t think any parent is truly equipped. And even if you can teach them, schools are resources for issues that no parent is truly prepared for, like mood or personality disorders.
Oh my god, thats horrible. I'm so sorry, dude. I hope you're doing better now. Speaking from my own (wildly different) experience with an abusive family and mental/physical health issues, shit sucks. I'm glad you made it out alive.
I’m so sorry. I hope you have been able to find the support you need as an adult and sort of settle into yourself in the way it’s pretty impossible to do in that environment. I grew up in a very similar one, and when people ask me how homeschooling was, expecting to talk about social awkwardness and academics, I feel like the only honest things I can speak to are crushing depression, loneliness, fear, and just total hopelessness which is not usually what people were planning to talk about. Thankfully it does seem like there is more awareness about the potential for homeschooling to be a cover for abuse.
You deserved so much better. I have no pity for your father. He owed you healthcare and his neglect got him in trouble. I hope you are in a much better place these days.
Telling a teacher to get wrecked while buying their school supplies was surprisingly wholesome.
the sex ed conversation is wild to me. my public high school taught abstinence only sex ed and made everyone sign a paper that stated they'd be abstinent until marriage. my high school was sued for having safe space signs, the LGBTQ+ support club was not allowed to host events, make signage, or have a presence on the school website. The most "liberal" things we were taught were evolution and climate change, and beforehand the teacher prefaced that he was only teaching it because it was on the AP exam.
@@AlgyPond the truth is kids from 6-10 start to pick up on these things and it's cool if you let them know what is what so they don't get manipulated in the future
I'm pretty sure if I had been homeschooled, the only thing I would've learned about evolution would've been lies to "debunk" it 😬
(I actually did learn a bunch of lies about evolution, hooray! But I also got actual information in the public schools I went to.)
I think we only learned it because we were a STEM magnet school with required AP classes
What state is this?
Tennessee yeehaw 🤠
As a teacher, it really warms my heart to see you help so many teachers with their wishlists!! You would not believe how difficult it can be sometimes to get the supplies we need for our classes. Using your platform to spread the links is extremely helpful. Thank you. 😊
THIS STREAK OMFG
right like wow!
we are blessed
I know right!
They're on fire!
Best timeline.
I was an undiagnosed autistic child in public school. I didn’t need homeschooling to be the most socially awkward human alive
lol i was thinking the exact same thing
Im autistic and was homeschooled, my mom was a special ed teacher so she was qualified to deal with me I think. I think my experience was pretty positive. On another note, some of my other siblings are neurotypical and are not socially awkward at all imo. I think homeschool really does vary with who is teaching their kids
@@luthientinuviel3883aww
Same here haha
@@luthientinuviel3883 having an educator for a parent is the key here. I don't think any rational person would complain if a person with a teaching certification, especially for special education, homeschooled their kids. That might be one of the few homeschooling environments that has better outcomes than public school.
I went to a Christian school and the “yes of course we teach all ideologies” happens like this:
“Christianity - the REAL religion
Islam - racist comment, and fake religion
Judaism - racist comment, they’re almost Christian’s so they’re somewhat correct
Buddhism - racist comment, also fake
And then the finale: if you believe anything that these fake religions say then you’re going to hell 😌”
I’m so glad I was only there for high school, cause every day there was basically giving me an aneurysm as a queer person
except that those 2nd and 3rd relijjuns you listed are actually r-cyst....
also hell only exists because of the 3rd religion you listen.
you just posted anti semtism and izzalahmapohbia. i am reporting you to the UK government and you will be extradited for hate crimes and you will go to jail
Yes, ugh! I had the same thought whenever the person in the Jubilee video said that (I was homeschooled by whole life by conservative Christian parents and did not have a good experience for various reasons)
*my
Yes! I know people who were homeschooled for religious reasons and this was literally how they were taught. Their parents' religion is what's taught as right and everything else is taught as wrong. On the flip side if religion is talked about in schools it's talked about from a historical, anthropological, and sociological standpoint.
hinduism and other religions not even being mentioned is real 😭 they're either unaware of those religions or it's "racist comment. fake religion. only one god exists and he's jesus's dad"
18:08 hey paraeducator and recent college grad here, it's important to understand that what professors are NOT teachers. unless they're education professors, they are not required to ever learn even the basics of learning sciences and it shows. please do not think that what you experienced in college is the same or in any way comparable to what happens in a k-12 classroom
they have not read Piaget, they don't know any pedagogical frameworks, often times they don't even understand how to accommodate common disabilities or read an IEP. i have a video about this on my channel, diangalo, if you read this, i'd love it if you'd check it out because it's really interesting stuff. also i love you're channels
It’s wild to me that you can become a college professor with basically no formal training in how to do a huge component of your job
Skipping grades is where I peaked; it's where a lot of "gifted" kids peak. I wasn't "gifted" I was autistic with academically-relevant special interests. It took me a decade and a half after dropping out of college to figure out who I was and how to reapply those special interests
SAME. I was always reading at a "college level" since 6th grade. Sure I head huge breakdowns when I acquired a disability, that left me struggling to get to school twice a week.
But that disorder, happened to be caused by the stress I faced thru out my life, living w my abusive father. the amount of stress hormones in a child's body, can change them permanently. When I moved out, and I could finally be away, my body IMPLODED on itself, and i was rendered bed & wheelchair bound for at least 7 months. I've been diagnosed with fibromyalgia since, and we are starting to learn that fibro can be cause from childhood trauma. I'm still fatigued beyond relief every day, and can only stay awake for about 12 hours a day. I'm still struggling to figure out that part of my life. but I can say it DEFINITELY was not caused from going to school.
When I left, I also started to realize that being smart isn't an identity. And I had no idea what I wanted to do in my life.
I think abusive parents can EASILY bring out the same problems in abused kids, from homeschooled kids.
Gifted is real. So is the misdiagnosis risk. Especially with autism or autism as a twice exceptionality, because it's similar genetics.
Gifties just ARE median 3 years ahead: it's an atypical but natural pace, not a peak - and it's not subject specific (usually).
But it's easy socially to nobble kids in stereotypically difficult areas. Math was sabotaged for me; it's reading for twice exceptional dyslexics.
I caught up in math when I had the chance, (and yes, I later skipped and liked it - at least academically, that year had the worst toxic masculinity problem I ever saw) but it's sequential and I had to cram chunks, when I could've had a foundation laid without stress, except good stress.
I loathe Renzulli et al who told all the convenient lies about gifties. Obvs they weren't convenient for the misdiagnosed, but it's still came about through wilful misrepresentation of gifties by exploitative minimising adults.
Could we please call THEM names instead of putting lived experiences of atypicals in scare quotes? A colleague called Renzulli a cancer. (Or let's nickname him Renze, which means farts.)
Same.
@@zoekellam4083 I was skipped years ahead in history, math, science, music and gym classes. I fit the perfect definition of gifted, but it does not do anybody well to be the 12 year old getting the second highest grade in grade 10 AP Math or the 8 year old doing the same in an intro to deductive reasoning course in uni.
I was lacking so much social development and was never forced to develop any study techniques, so the moment I actually had any freedom or needed to work at all, I completely face planted.
The relationship between neurodivergencies and skipping grades is so interesting to me. It really shows that school is not just a place for academic growth, but also personal.
I was diagnosed with ADHD very late. I was moved ahead because bored me was an absolute menace lol I was still bored a lot but I am still convinced that skipping was very beneficial. It‘s always risky, though. You never know when overwhelm and frustration will make a kid shut down.
I did well in school and managed to brute force my way through with no sustainable strategies. But then I crashed hard after submitting my Master‘s thesis. I had also suffered a lot in the years leading up to it. It‘s just that people in my life didn‘t take it seriously due to my good grades. But that‘s another story hah
The classic position of "I have a very detailed opinion about this and very specific examples...But I can't name a single one of these examples, studies, etc. You have to look that up on your own, but it's totally happening!"
You can hear the fox news anchors words coming out of their mouths and they have no idea how it got there. They fiercely believe things that some random lobbyist made up for the explicit reason of affirming their preexisting bias.
Yeah, my teachers were really outspoken on their political beliefs. Hard core religious conservatives who hated "weird" kids and believed in Satanic Panic 100%. They were silly, cruel and made a lot of kids miserable....and they taught lies. I was taught about "The Battle of Sandcreek", which was a massacre in reality. I was taught that Japanese Internment camps didn't exist, though my Uncle was born in one. Same teacher gave me bad grades if I didn't repeat his lies back to him. We had no sex ed, and pregnant girls were kicked out before they "inspired" other girls to get pregnant. The 80s were pretty hostile towards kids. Let's not bring that back.
satanic pdfs exist there is scientific evidence court evidence police evidence intelligence agency evidence government evidence to prove it true
nanking never happened its a fake made up lie
D'Angelo just casually going on a shopping spree for random teachers is so awesome, like people needed that & some youtuber mid video essay just decided to do it !!
comprehensive sex education is so unbelievably important. I have seen some of the smartest people I know be SO IGNORANT about their own bodies, how sexuality even works, and gender identity, because they grew up in an "abstinence only" district and I grew up with comprehensive sex ed since grade 4.
@@XMUSEX0 around the same time they are taught about the birds and the bees in high school. If you're mentally ready and mature to understand how our plumbing down there works in every way, you're ready.
@@XMUSEX0Oh sweetie. Therapy isn't an insult. Everyone should go to therapy.
@@XMUSEX0I think as early as you could get a period tbh, and some girls are now getting it as young as third and fourth grade in the US:/
My school had 3-4 rounds of sex-education for us
1) in fourth grade they told us about puberty, what it was, what happened to your body, and periods
2) jr high they told us more about safe sex and what that meant/was, and say no to drugs/what some of those were
3) high school freshman year they had a semester class on a deep dive on STD’s, drugs, drinking, the danger of them, how to recognize them, and how to safely use them if we were interested ( to make sure kids didn’t get stupid and use alcohol or substances dangerously, they showed us examples of what can happen if you use them incorrectly )
So they covered some everything in each section, but had a deep dive on a specific topic each grade level, which I think was a good approach to such a serious but necessary discussion
Oh and for gender identity I think that should be taught when puberty is taught, in order to normalize it and reduce confusion among younger kids/normalize it to them
The more it’s taught as a normal part of life- and not some taboo subject- less teasing will hopefully happen to the kids that need it:)
( also the concept of Queer love should be taught the same time as straight Love,
Boy and Boy, Boy and Girl, and Girl and Girl - all are forms of love, and kids should be aware that it’s an option:))
@XMUSEX0 my parents took me and my sister out of sex Ed and how periods and our bodies work. We had no ideas how babies were made or that they came from you know- us. I got a call from her one night crying because she was a pregnant teen, destroying any chance of having an education, she dropped out of high-school and was abandoned by the teenager who got her pregnant. She had the baby and is completely reliant on us to keep her financially stable. But go on, tell me why it's a bad idea to educate the younger generation on how to stop themselves from becoming a statistic and making their lives 100 times harder.
It's so easy to teach girls about the menstrual cycle, how they'll feel (achne, frustrated and all the hormone changes that happen as your body develop) and ways to protect yourself if you decide to have the tango because newsflash. Teenagers will with each other. I have no idea how sex Ed works for boys but after my sister got pregnant my parents changed their tune on my brother learning about it. I'm sure a quick Google search would come up with lesson presentations on it.
I think a big issue with the American schooling system (besides lack of funding and government tampering with the curriculum to cut out sex Ed, America’s racist past and present, etc) is parents thinking school is the only place kids should be learning. Education should not stop in the classroom or with homework, parents should also be involved in educating their children by watching educational content WITH them, studying WITH them, helping them explore their interests outside of “do you want to be an athlete or and author?”
A lot of parents get angry with the teachers when their kids are struggling and falling behind, but personally have done nothing to figure out their children’s learning styles or looking into what might be troubling them. They’re raised by iPads, problematic twitch streamers, and underfunded teachers in overcrowded classrooms and wonder why their kids are unrecognizable to them
YUP! I used to work at a kumon and these parents would rather pay for shitty, over-expensive tutoring from underpaid high schoolers than sit and read with their kid at home.
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I’m so excited to be getting my teaching license. The climate in the US is so respectful toward educators and public schools right now 🙃
Voting Walz to help strengthen teacher unions.
This is sarcasm right?
@@cats9994 upside down smiley face usually indicates sarcasm or a fake smile
@@roryquinn8257 "upside down smiley face" um, acksually, it's the raised unibrow emoji 🙃🙃
well at least you will be paid well
I deeply appreciate your take on homeschooling. So many people just act like homeschooling is child abuse without realizing that there is nuance there and that there can be great ways to homeschooling.
Personally, I don't think homeschool is ideal. I a hundred percent agree with people saying public schools often suck but homeschooling is NOT the answer.
Better funding and more cooperation between schools and government (not only schools getting told what to do by clueless people in charge) for example.
Homeschooling just reinforces social hierarchies because most poor families don't have the means to teach their kids at home, while richer ones do. It will inherently end up with us more isolated and divided than before.
I agree.
Rich children are rarely homeschooled. The rich send their children to private schools where they receive much a better education. It is this way nearly the whole world over. It has always been this way. It most likely always will be.
such a good comment. 🎉🎉
“Homeschooling just reinforces social hierarchies”.
That is literally just public schooling in the United States, since school quality correlates heavily with property taxes. Often many are defacto segregated on racial lines in addition to social lines. It is definitely hierarchical while also potentially subjecting children to system issues of criminalization, bullying (In an AI generated world no less), and so forth.
Honestly? It depends on the parent, but less economically advantaged parents can potentially benefit if they still have the ability to do so. It is not the solution, I agree, but it as an option may have benefits for those not as well off.
Yesss I’ve been looking for a comment like this. Most of the largest issues with public schooling is a lack of funding and resources, little to no support (both in and out of the school) and the more draconian or outdated to the point of oppressive views on children and their development.
Pretty much all of these are able to be resolved with what you mentioned - time, attention, resources and cooperation.
I personally really don’t think the public school system is the main issue here - the way we’ve allowed it to deteriorate/not progress is.
23:57 seeing him donate to random teachers genuinely made me cry omg. d’angelo university is the best school
Big same!! My bestie from childhood is now an elementary school teacher and has posted her wishlist before, so hearing him so shocked and disappointed in the state of US education, and then DOING something about it for people like her?? My heart is full.
As that kid that got pushed "above grade level" from age 6, I cannot condone the blind push to perform beyond the supposed norm at all times. In the IB/IBMYP program especially, I was up until 3am most nights, after my afternoons full of community service and extracurriculars meant I didn't get home til 6pm at the soonest.
Beyond the stress (undiagnosed ADHD,) being forced to "excel" at all subjects gave no time for passions and natural talents. As a result, I went into college in an honors program, with a scholarship, and....I had no idea what I really wanted to do.
Nope. 🙋🏽♀️gifted kid here who crashed and burned at 19, got pregnant at 20 and was like “lemme get my life together” having AP classes and staying up all times of night and stressing with my classmates just exacerbated my anxiety disorder that I’m JUST getting treated in my 40s 🤦🏽♀️thought the constant panic was normal 🤷🏽♀️😆
@@tchew2545 jesus, right? that "You mean y'all don't feel close to tears at all times???" moment is wild. I crashed and burned in a different way but i feel you and frequently wonder how I'd have turned out if I hadn't showed up to college already as mentally burned out as a 3rd-year med student lmao.
@@Beauty_Bot pretty much! By the time i was 18 i felt like a single mom who worked too hard, who loved her and never stopped 😭😭😭 I got it together tho… along with some lexapro 😭😭
Yuuup. Also ADHD, but my parents thought ADHD was just a "behavioral disorder" so none of us even considered I might be. I got great grades, was always ahead in some subject or another, got scholarships, chose the "practical" business degree and graduated with honors. Was severely depressed, anxious, and never wanted my degree in the first place (just wanted my parents to admire me). After graduation, when my mom asked what I want to do with my degree, I literally said "Forget about it." because I was so burnt out I didn't even care what she thought anymore. Those years were miserable. I was a lucky homeschooler bc I mostly got educated instead of neglected, but I would turn back the clock and go to therapy first instead of college.
As a gifted kid I’m convinced most of us had ADHD or were neurodivergent. When I took the autism test a couple years ago its was almost identical to the autism test they have now 👀
the funniest part is that they’re not even allowed to tell you what they believe even in a political science class even in college… these people on the homeschool side have not been in an institution of higher education in a very long time, if at all…
My sister is a teacher and me and her were debating to our parents that sex education should be taught FOR the protection of children from child abuse. A lot of kids who are sexually abused don't know what's happening to them is wrong because they haven't been taught that what is happening is wrong since they haven't had some form of education to protect them from this.
This. And also in my country, we explicitly teach students about grooming and what it looks like (I teach 13-16 year olds) because besides abuse at home, online is also where kids are most vulnerable.
Watching a doc about abused kids where the young girl said
"He fell on me and hurt me with his body"
My mom and i cried hard after she said tht! Kids NEED to be taught this stuff
If I homeschooled my imaginary kids I would just sit them in front of your videos
For sex ed we can cover a lot of it by them watching Mama Doctor Jones (she did a reaction to a school board having an issue with her material being used in the school's sex ed classes as supplemental material because they couldn't guarantee that it was accurate amongst other things)
Not my homeschooled kid walking in on me watching this and saying "oh you're watching that guy again? He's so boring all he does is talk!" and walking out of the room 😂
Who is showing books of cunnalingus to children 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭”IT IS HAPPENING”
And are these teachers in the room with us now?
48 year old straight men don’t even know what that is…I’m sure the oblivious kids are fine.
I wasn't homeschooled by my parents, but I went to an online school.
I literally became depressed, never left my room, my anxiety got terrible, and I couldn't even stand to be in public and have people so much as glance in my direction. I liked homeschool, but at the same time, it was actually terrible. I would never go back.
Watching him buy teachers a bunch of supplies was so heartwarming ngl
I just got hired on Friday and am frantically putting together my Amazon Wishlist. Thanks for supporting the teachers who need the support. There are thousands of us.
I went to public school. I never ever once saw my teachers advertise their political views. Ever. These people are delusional.
I did see one, and guess what? he was conservative 💀 I'm sure the liberal teachers knew they'd be crucified for even hinting abt their politics, so they all hid it, but this was during trumps presidency so conservatives were so emboldened
Yeah any teacher that I had that spoke about politics was when we were seniors and they always prefaced it with "I'm not directing you on how to think, just sharing my opinion" because we were genuinely interested. You can't be expected to vote at 18 and not even know shit about politics outside of what's spoken about in your home.
My teachers did but it was easy to ignore. I was in high school for 9/11 lol
Only time I had this happen was a homophobic & transphobic teacher that snapped at a trans kid in my year and was immediately fired
Funnily enough, the only teacher I've had that constantly shared their political views was my conservative history teacher
I think you missed out on a really important part of this discussion. I’d highly suggest watching the John Oliver homeschooling video essay.
A big issue with homeschooling is that there are little to no requirements for most states. There’s also no tracking of these kids. Neglectful parents can use the system to their advantage, and there have been many documented cases of child abuse.
A huge positive to public school is that there are teachers marking you present each day. They can notice specific student behaviors that may indicate abuse. They can also note physical evidence of mistreatment. Child abuse is more often than not inflicted by someone in a child’s home. Keeping your kid out of sexual education classes and discouraging them from learning about their body is a glaring red flag. Public school is (obv) not a perfect system, but it’s still a beneficial tool to help keep kids safe.
I had the “it’s happening” argument just this week with an older person. They had watched a Fox News segment about kids being asked if they like being the gender they are. I told him that absolutely wasn’t happening. A- we live in a very red state so the idea is laughable. B- I have children in school currently so I would know more about what is going on in school than some almost 80 year old who saw it on an entertainment channel. I also know a lot of teachers personally! It’s absolutely not happening. He hit me with a “if you want to keep your eyes closed”. Eye roll.
@@MegCGZ1What happened? Please explain in excruciating detail instead of being vague.
@@MegCGZ1the fact that what pronouns question starts with boy girl makes me question the legitimacy of you supposed experience. It sounds more like you’re making something up because you only view she/her and he/him as girls and boys pronouns.
@@MegCGZ1a medical system collecting detailed, potentially medically relevant information from the parent of a prospective pediatric patient is not the same as asking these kinds of questions willy nilly in school. Whether you enjoy those questions or not, those things impact treatment. My kid is in his junior year and has never once been asked anything like this in school nor has he reported on any other kids being asked these questions (and he has known classmates spanning the gender identity spectrum since middle school). The big queer boogeymen (if they exist) are not hanging around at schools.
@@GalaxyRoll yes, everyone is making it up. That’s why you hear about it everyday. Just people hating the gays.
@@MegCGZ1 I fail to see how establishing a child's perception of themself is inappropriate for a child healthcare specialist. Just admit that you reject modern medicine and move on.
Buying the supplies from the teachers' wishlists is literally so sweet and definitely makes such a big difference. Both my mom and sister are teachers and every year I see them put up their wishlists asking for any help from anyone. It's infuriating how little our teachers are given and how poorly they're treated by the system and those that don't understand that they're only trying to help kids grow and learn and understand the world and how to be good, kind people.
THANK YOU for sharing the wishlists!! My mom is a teacher and it's crazy how much they're expected to do outside of working hours / with their own money.
My mom too and she spends basically all her evenings and a lot of her weekend doing stuff for school and it boils my blood because she isn’t getting paid to do all this extra stuff outside of working hours that they expect!
The best homeschooling situation I've seen was my harp teacher in high school and her family. They lived far out in the country (nearest school was 30-40 minutes away, and when the weather was bad, especially in winter, it was hard to get them to school as there were many gravel roads. There were other families nearby in a similar situation so they all came together. All of the parents had higher education degrees (including some with masters/phds) and they moved the kids around depending on which parent was best suited to teach. They also had a deal with the local school district, so one they were in middle school/high school the kids could participate in sports, school dance, etc. And once they reached high school, they had the option to take certain electives at the high school (e.g language classes). The kids had a lot of interactions outside the home exposing them docent ideologies, make friends outside of the immediate neighbors, and they interacted with other adults who then have the chance to notice is something bad is happening at home.
8:06 it’s always “I saw a book that teaches toddlers sexual positions but I can’t remember the name of it. I can guarantee that if I saw a book that was deeply disturbing like that, I’d make sure I wrote the name down to make sure I worn people.
Someone said that the book on question was called “It’s Perfectly Normal.” I looked at the preview and it had nothing of the sort.
“For you and the person you’re raising”… the way you phrased this is so refreshing.
The way we discuss kids needs an overhaul. We treat them like future people rather than people in their own right. All of these arguments should be reframed to:
Should people learn about sex?
Should people have opportunities to socialize?
Should people be limited in what they’re allowed to learn?
Maybe then people would step back and consider what THEY deserve, and apply it to the people they’re raising.
Maybe then we would stop treating kids like animals who don’t become fully human until they’re old enough to blame for things.
Right now they get none of the autonomy of adults and none of the representation. They’re used as weapons in culture wars, and are told to sit down when they try to be heard. They’re entirely disenfranchised as a group.
I cannot stand jubilee. I had to unfollow them awhile back. Also the only person who sounds reasonable on the homeschooling front and seems well-intentioned is the woman in the cool black and white dress.
As a elementary school social worker, I love the little spot of emotion books!! Get wrecked Miss Anderson!! Thanks for sending her class those books!!! Very demure, very mindful.
As a homeschool survivor, thank you for acknowledging and making it clear that your situation was specific to you. Many others including myself were not as fortunate. For anyone looking for resources on homeschooling 💙 the Coalition for Responsible Home Education 💙 is THE ONLY organization fighting for homeschooled children’s rights, run by homeschool alumni. They’re doing the hard work of attempting to document and bring awareness to the flaws that allow negative homeschooling experiences to occur.
I love CRHE
I love CRHE too ❤
6:07 “no, YOU don’t indoctrinate my kids! I indoctrinate my kids!” 💀
By ideology they most often mean general respect towards others.
as a future educator, the scariest part about homeschooling is that there is no way to keep track of the safety of children if they are taught at home…
Yep. Until I became a teenager and had to literally fight them to get out of the house, there were about 16 years of my life where i could've just disappeared and it would've taken people years to notice, if ever. Maybe my Oma would've noticed eventually, but she was kept far away from us, so it would've been years - and she could've easily been lied to. Nothing scarier as a child than knowing that you are completely alone. I know sometimes neighbours call up about abused homeschooled children but from my experience with people in general and child protection in particular that's probably really rare that that happens and even rarer that anything is done about it. Most people mind their own business. No chance of that happening with me. I was a very quiet abused child - wasn't allowed to talk, so that helped. And just in case, my parents always bought houses in the middle of nowhere and told me it was because they liked privacy. The one time we lived with actual neighbours, my parents were constantly on edge and the curtains always closed. Apart from the abuse, lifelong trauma, and completely inadequate and in fact actively harmful 'education', I am also autistic. My parents don't believe in any invisible disability or mental health, so the suicidal autistic kid I was had no chance. I'm still not diagnosed now, even though everyone tells me I should look into it, because I have and a) it's expensive and b) you need background information from people who knew you as a child - and the only people there? My parents. And they do not know me. My parents would tell you I was socialized. Well, if being in a homeschool community for six years in which every single parent was EXACTLY like my own, and I had to witness absolutely criminal levels of neglect amd abuse (most of which went totally unrecognized and unaddressed) then yeah, I guess a cult counts as socialization. One example I can give: one so-called Christian man with a wife and eight kids had an affair with his neighbour (who went to the same church) and, with her full knowledge and consent, molested her three daughters while he was at it for two years. One of whom was the same age as his own eldest daughter - her best friend. The two older girls eventually reached out to the church leadership, who hushed it up and blamed them. The man boasted about it to another church man, and that man, thank goodness, took action and reported it to the police. He was subsequently shamed and removed from the church, which is disgusting, but he testified in court and got the guy sent away for 6 years. The whole church - including my parents of course - muddied the police investigation, lied for him. The horrible mother was never charged and the girls stayed with her. He was never charged with molestation of the youngest girl. Unfortunately he only served three and is still at this moment living entirely unsupervised with five underage children of his, including a baby that his complicit and enabling wife had with him the minute he got out of prison. She was financially supported by the church for the three years he was in prison so she could move around the country whenever he was transferred and never had to even get a job. My parents let me around him once he was released without telling me ANY of this. I only found out when I finally got Internet access and looked it up at 17. His children are all homeschooled and isolated. The baby almost died of whooping cough last year because they don't believe in vaccines. I have no proof he sexually abuses them . . . but he does. Even when I was nine years old, I had a bad feeling about him. I was at his house frequently for piano lessons and avoided him like the plague. I could sense just really dark energy and I still do. Side note: he and her as well beat their kids with a cane. I saw both the cane and one of the beatings and welts on the back of their necks when I was little. I also saw him kick them in the head in church. Never got charged with that of course. My parents are best friends with them - of course they are. I am not really friends with their 18 year old very brainwashed daughter who, for now, is still at home but planning on moving out in October. But I stay in contact with her because I know I am the closest thing her siblings have to an outside eye. Also because I vaguely hope I can help at least her break the cycle. It wasn't even a Catholic church, by the way. It was some kind of Reformed/Lutheran hybrid. And that is ONE example, and the only one that resulted in at least some legal action. I could give literally hundreds of other examples. And it all looked SO normal. Random outsiders, when we saw any, praised our parents for having such well behaved obedient children, told us how lucky we were. Maybe they sometimes thought we were a bit weird, but assumed that that was just religious homeschooling culture. Well, it is. It's unequivocally abuse. It is the norm to such an extent that it isn't worth the abuse of thousands of children just to help out a few exceptions. Fix public school - homeschooling is NOT the answer. It can never be regulated enough to be effective.
Homeschooling had a positive impact on my life. I loved it.
But I recognize I have caring parents who are also trained educators, so I was in a position to succeed there. Some parents have no business being in charge of the education of their children. Some people should send their kids to public or private schools. Depends on the kid and the family dynamic.
I have an overall positive view of home schooling but we as a “village” do need to make sure kids are safe and taught well no matter what school system they’re in, home, public, or private.
“The ABCs of LGBT” is a book by Ash Hardell (then Ashley Mardell) aimed at people like PARENTS to help them understand their kids, it’s not a book that’s like “A is for Asexual!” instead of Apple to teach kids the alphabet, holy shit, they’re not going to start singing about dildos on Sesame Street. Someone send homeschool woman a copy!! 😂😫
she'd probably burn it based off the cover 💀
@@Roman-bw2fo another great thing about rainbows! We know anyone who doesn’t like them is dead inside! 😃
@@Roman-bw2fo in fairness it’s quite a thick book with lots of big words, it’s probably above her level.
EXTREMELY similar to D’Angelo, I went through public school, homeschool, and college. Public School was EXTREMELY detrimental to me and homeschooling helped me flourish, but it’s absolutely NOT for everyone. My parents knew how to keep me socialized and gave me materials to have differing perspectives on life, while public school kept me stifled, bullied and ignorant. BUT, and this is a big BUT, it depends on both the home AND the school. Can the parents provide adequate and diverse education for their children? Will they let them take classes with other people- online, through a co-op, at the library? Are the schools actually focused in learning and not pushing kids through standardized tests and textbooks telling you what to think? Are they providing a safe and healthy environment for the child?
In my state at least, the law was that my Mom had to present the year’s syllabus to the education department with a sign-off from actual educators and child specialists, and I think that was a great way to keep her and what she was teaching accountable while also not forcing me into an environment that would have stifled me.
Right, it's the only way for some of us!
same for me. My parents homeschooled us because the public schools in our area were horrible. It was the best decision they could've made for my education.
I dropped out of my PhD this week and you've put exactly why into words perfectly for me - "nowhere to go but down, actually, because I didn't even really have an identity outside of my academic performance whatsoever" - I'm really looking forward to building myself up outside of the academic world 😊
Honestly I resonate with this so much. I'm currently considering doing the same with my PhD, for exactly the same reasons. Thank you for sharing your experiences, it makes me more hopeful that if I do leave my PhD I can do it with my head held high.
I think that it’s so interesting hearing more conservative views on sex education, and I honestly think that American sex education overall falls into a “conservative”category for me. I’m Scandinavian, born in the 90s, and how sex was taught and talked about was so casual: you knew what sex was, you saw nudity and sex scenes in movies and it was shown through pictures in school, and all it taught me was that sex is so normal to have questions about in VERY early ages, but it’s something for older people. It also made boundaries a lot easier and clearer in my opinion.
As teenagers learning about different ways to have sex through pictures both from the healthcare we had and school was so common? And it was used as a tool to point out the importance of figuring out what you yourself like and is okay with when it comes to sex.
What do people consider to be good sex education? Genuine question, I think it’s so interesting!!
The part where you started gifting teachers and their classes stuff off their Amazon wish list made me fall in love a little I’m ngl. Thank you for supporting teachers!
I went to an incredibly small minded Christian school from kindergarten-12th grade: when people say they “teach kids about other religions”, it (shockingly) typically results in the adults just talking down about the other religions and everything that’s wrong with them - it was in no way supposed to be informative, it was to reaffirm how “good” our specific denomination was
I also went to a small K-12 Christian school! I was really lucky that the 2 teachers at my school who taught worldviews actually were informative - one had his degree in philosophy and taught it to us senior year, pointing out flaws in EVERY religion (including Christianity), and the other had a doctorate in theology. I think if I had had literally any of the other Bible teachers, they would've bashed the other religions and praised Christianity, but thanks to the two I had, I actually came out of high school with growing curiosity about understanding other peoples' views. It's what had me move away from hardcore conservative ideology, and I'm extremely grateful to those two teachers for being voices of reason in that echo chamber.
I have as much issue with parents who think 'public school is indoctrinating the minds of our youth with their woke lib agenda' as i do parents who neglect their child at home bc 'they should learn all these things from public school' (like how to cook, do taxes, being kind to others.) It shouldn't be 10000% one or the other. Learning shouldn't stop at school.
TBF, I do think a stronger home ec/shop class presence would help a lot of kids take care of themselves. Cooking, mending, home repair, taxes, labor rights, first aid, emergency preparedness...
@@Eloraurora i agree! Im glad i had those opportunities in public school since my parents didn't teach me themselves. There's a lot of nuance and everyone's circumstances are different; not all parents can teach and not all schools have good curriculum
@@Eloraurorain the uk, at least in my primary school, we had a first aid class every year (from I think age 5 and up?) covering different types of first aid scaled at our age level so like what to do if someone chokes, then what to do if you get a cut then I think when we were at the oldest class we did a couple different first aid things including chest compressions on one of those dummies. I think its such an important thing for kids to learn and i wish it was taught in schools universally since it can save so many!
@@lishanimations9852 It's been awhile, so I can't remember exactly what first aid training we received. There was always a fire safety day where they brought a mock house on a trailer bed and you had to practice feeling if the door was warm and crawl under the dry ice 'smoke,' holding your breath. Very exciting when you're eight, but I don't know how many other places in the US use that particular novelty.
these things are not on the same level though. failing to teach your kid to do laundry is nowhere near as detrimental as failing to teach them how to read. you can learn to do laundry as a 25 year old no problem, but there are developmental windows regarding concepts like literacy that, if missed, can set a child up to fall behind their peers for the rest of their life. and a lot of these fearful conservative parents who homeschool are doing just that - failing to teach their children how to think critically, how to read and write, how to do math at an age-appropriate level. they have no respect for teachers and think they can handle the job of educating their child alone. (then there are the parents of 5+ kids who claim to homeschool their entire brood. there is simply not enough time in the day to dedicate to each child's individual needs/level of development, so we have typically-developing (not intellectually disabled) children who read multiple grade levels below other children their age. it's infuriating because i feel like i have more concern for these children and their educations than their own parents do.
Well relatable.
My parents fast-tracked me through school and yes, I was a super smart kid in school.
Got into the number 1 university in my country at only 15 years old! Enrolled in a four year degree program, but did I graduate at 19? No, I graduated at 24.
9 years in university, I was so young, so impressionable, in an elite college surrounded by filthy rich teens and I wasn’t, I couldn’t connect to them, couldn’t afford to go out with them, didn’t belong to that community, at 15 I started smoking weed, at 16 I was hooked on to heroin and at 32 now I’m still suffering. Although I got 2 yeRs clean, the consequences of drugs and the hell I went through, still suffering.
2 years clean is a HUGE accomplishment! Wishing you the best on your journey
I mean, people disagree about homeschool but the thing is most of them are right... good homeschooling is amazing and transformative, bad homeschooling can be tantamount to abuse, and there's every fucking thing in between too. One thing John Oliver pointed out is that there should at the very least be better regulation of homeschooling, like I'm not saying endless tests but there need to be SOME content requirements.
I'm speaking as someone who started a program for homeschooled kids for a previous employer btw. It was at an educational farm.
P.S. The kids there were all completely cool with each other's identities and gender expression and it was WONDERFUL. As usual, the only ones who found anything about queerness confusing or scary were the adults lol
At least there are checks and balances that can prevent public schools from going near the worse end of that scale.
Agreed!
The lady in blue saying indoctrination is okay in the home is one of the main reasons I believe people don’t support homeschooling.
D’Angelo buying a whole bunch of stuff off of teachers Amazon wishlists almost made me cry as the child of a teacher. Thank you so much for helping out ❤️❤️
"It IS happening." = "I have no idea what I'm talking about."
D'Angelo jus casually buying a few schools some supplies was cute asf
I was scrolling the comments to find this :)
It put a massive smile on my face to see D'angelo clear those Amazon wishlist. Maybe my feed is trash but it's easily one of the most wholesome and inspiring things I've seen on UA-cam in a long time.
D’Angelo starts D’Angeloing at 00:01
I love when he says "It's D'Angelo time" and starts D'angeloing all over the place
new verb waiting for the wikitionary entry to drop y'all
thank you i needed to know this👍 :D
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I like that he sums the videos in one word so I don’t have to watch the whole thing
I'm feeling very emotional over the section of you purchasing items from teachers amazon wishlists! Thank you!! I will make such a difference for these teachers and their school year