Dont try to pretend to your kids that the world will kneel before them and opportunities are endless. Set realistic expectations for the world. Tell them that they have to work to earn something and that the world is not as PC and straight forward as someone might tell them. The world is not simple, its harsh, its diverse, its complicated. But always encourage them to figure their own way out. Thats how you build realistic expactations and confidence.
True. Kids have to understand that things don't always go as planned and that failures will come along with successes. No one has so charmed a life that they never make a mistake or face rejection. The world won't always be our friend and parents/teachers/guidance counselors should make kids understand that. Kids need encouragement but they also need guidance.
Well according to Joe. Kids will stick forks into outlets so you cant let them be independent and make mistakes. Being able to be completely free to socialize and interact with your 10 year old peers by hanging at the park or walking together to the nearest bagel shop from 3pm (after school) till dark (6pm) when street lights come on cause you know pedophiles and abductors in the badass streets of his multi million dollar suburban town.
@@pakpala1 sounds like you are selling propaganda, let me make up my own mind to whether or not his ideas/books are bullshit By all means disagree with his ideas, but don't tell me what i should do (implying i shouldn't listen to him because YOU think it's bullshit)
He's an idiot who talks about science without understanding it. What was done on the allergic kids is a poorly controlled experiment (not that the researchers were bad but just that experimenting on humans is intrinsically difficult) with a small sample size. This experiment needs to be widely repeated on different kids with different ethnicity, countries, living conditions, and many other variables to make the conclusion appliable to all kids. Just because this experiment got a result doesn't mean we can jump to "giving peanut power to kids prevent allergy." Right now what he is scientifically allowed to say is just "these particular kids, who are significantly different from the general population of kids in that they're predisposed to allergy, seem to have lower rates of allergy when given nuts." These findings are interesting and prompt further studies, but they are not sufficient to establish such general conclusion as "giving peanut power to kids prevent allergy."
I had a conversation with my 9 year old about 20 minutes ago about other kids being mean and not liking her. Nearly everywhere we go, a kid (almost always a different kid) that she goes to school with will see her, and go out their way to say hi to her. I told her that she's popular, and she argued with me, and said all the other kids hate her. I told her if that was true, then those kids wouldn't be so eager for her attention outside of school. I think sometimes children will get a negative idea in their head, and will develop a certain level of confirmation bias when it comes to that negativity.
@FuckYouAllToPieces I don't think the P.C. culture has as much to do with it as the fact that people can get away with saying whatever they want to whoever they want without worrying about that person beating them unconscious. It makes them feel better because they can finally treat someone the way that someone treated them when they were growing up, and they didn't stand up for themselves. Bless his heart.
@Irving Ceron Yeah that was blatant trolling. I was stating most people doing the trolling wouldn't actually do it to someone in person, and I stand by that. I'm guessing you assumed I was threatening the guy. I thought it was pretty funny. It's obviously a joke.
My parents let me Do whatever I wanted but early on they said if I drank and drove, got someone pregnant or got addicted to hard drugs I was out of the house. Shitload of freedom and pretty easy rules to follow, and I think not being sheltered helped me in the long run. Being sheltered is just as harmful to kids as anything in my opinion .
Same, I never saw my dad til I was an adult. It gives you perspective and worldlyness. Not expecting some ominous father figure to help you out or tell you how to think. Not just biological.
@@alexkirrmann8534 yeah. I was lucky...had two parents that gave me a lot of freedom. I think my worldlyness come from when I joined the Marines, lived in 5 states and deployed all over the world. I'd never advocate joining the military but it definitely helped me expand my views and experiences...but doing that was made easier by the freedom my parents gave me growing up. Not feeling like you're on a pre-designed path isn't something I was necessarily thankful for as a kid but as an adult I realize just how important that was
@@RJ-qs6nm agreed, I joined the army and did overseas stuff. But I have a philosophy which comes from one of our founder fathers. I study war and politics so my children can study philosophy and science. I don't wish the military on anyone but it made me strong. I'm not scared of anyone and it's not because I think I'm better then anyone either. Which is hard to explain and it gets me in lots of trouble in the civilian world. I have known human beings that make bosses look like children and it's hard to take orders from people like that.
@@alexkirrmann8534 I get it. I'm sure most people who are ex military feel the same way at one point or another. I once had to answer to a major who looked like Ronnie Coleman and killed a shit ton of people, now I answer to some fat guy behind a desk. But it's two different worlds, which is hard to see sometimes.
When I was in 6th grade (I'm 33) me and my friends were on some swings. Behind us were a few first graders that were gonna play soccer. One kid was like, "no pushing, no shoving, no hitting." One of the other first graders looked at him and said, "you're a pussy." It was fantastic.
Avocado and banana use to make my tongue and lips swell really bad when I was 7 years old. My dad told me: “Eat little amounts every other day and your system will get used to it”... I did, until today I absolutely love avocado 🥑 and 🍌 bananas; no swell whatsoever.
When my daughter was about two months she developed a fever. Being a first time mother, of course I took her to the pediatrician (he also happened to be my pediatrician when I was little). He told me not to give her Tylenol because her body was trying to fight something off and I needed to give her a chance to do it. He also told me not to run after her wiping her nose in her hands whenever she got dirty, but a little dirt wasn’t going to hurt and that it could even strengthen the immune system. Made sense to me, so I decided right then and there that I was not going to be a helicopter mom, and I have two great, well-adjusted kids, 25 and 24 years, who have never had anything more than sniffles, and TRUST me when I say they were into EVERYthing when they were kids.
Schools that "ban bullying" punish someone for sticking up for themself. At my high school and my former middle school, if someone hits you (and whether you defend yourself or not) both people involved get suspended. So they have punished standing up for yourself and the only way to handle conflict is to go to the guidance counselor. Even then they probably won't do anything and just tell you to ignore them
I’m sorry... what? 😧 both kids are banned? Kids should’ve encouraged to handle their own situations I mean in real life there is no guidance counselor. Gosh I hate hearing that
When I was young my parents were super protective. Every time I got a sniffle the doc told them to pump me full of antibiotics and of course they did because good parents listen to their doctors. Well when I turned 10 I was diagnosed with a late onset severe peanut allergy. On top of my countless allergies to polling and cats and all that. Now I've undergone the Oral Immuno Therapy treatment and I have toeat peanuts every day to keep my tolerance up. Moral of the story: don't coddle your kids or they have to eat peanuts every day of their life so they don't have to live in fear
@@l.w.paradis2108 can honestly be a mixed bag of emotions. i think most important thing is try to grow from it and dont take it personally at the end of the day. cant get through life without growth
@@meowth8050 I wasn't bullied until adulthood. Workplace bullying is a criminal offense in a lot of countries. Here, it means tough luck, look for a new job. I don't care about "growth," so called. My family is abroad, I need money to retire and emigrate.
@@l.w.paradis2108 thats a different story all together if its work place bullying which i know about, being a victim myself and seeing it done to others. its a shame how ignorant we can be even as adults. theres many ways to deal with it but its hard to eliminate. some people hate themselves so much they have to put others down to feel good
This reminds me of the black mirror episode where a mother went through a program where she can control what her daughter can see and hear via technology. She decided to filter so much of life to where the daughter growing up was definitely altered.
When I was in high school and you did something embarrassing you just switched school or prayed it only got spread around to a small group of people. Social media insures that all of your embarrassing and social escapades remain immortal. No wonder juvenile depression is skyrocketing today's culture expects perfection and ostracizes those whom fall short...
THIS. Social media is ubiquitous and potentially immortal. Anyone on earth can see it. This is an entirely different environment for a child approaching puberty, who WILL have overly sensitive moments. The point is to not get stuck in them, and not be shaped by them -- and not have the whole world see them. When I was a kid, it was rare for journalists to get permission to take a picture of a famous person's child. Use of children in advertising was frowned upon and regulated. People were appalled at stage Moms, and felt that child actors deserved special consideration and protection. And the kids weren't cry babies at all.
And there are no statute of limitations on anything either! You can lose your entire career and never work in your industry again over a decade-old Tweet you made when you were 14. Absolutely bonkers.
@@snakejunt Yes, and it is heartbreaking. Parents have GOT to say no until their child graduates from high school, and warn warn warn after that. Offers of admission to Harvard have been withdrawn over tweets and such.
Taking away someone's stress doesn't help them because stress is inevitable. Teaching someone to deal with stress is helpful. Life is full of challenges, so we have to challenge our kids and reward them for pushing through those challenges.
If I ever have the chance to be a father, I'll do everything in my power to empower and support my kids but I'll also try to teach them that life doesn't always go the way you want it to. There will be people who are assholes, there will be rejections, and there will be days when you just don't want to do it anymore. But the key to living a good life is moving forward despite the disappointments we may face, not letting our fears drain us and keep us from pursuing the things we want.
I remember being bullied as a kid by a couple of guys in my class. Only a half a dozen people seen it and knew about it. Today you get bullied online and the whole school knows about it the next day. No wonder these kids are depressed all the time.
Many many parents today are weak parents, not saying that they are bad parents, some are very good parents in being providers, care-givers, fun, trips, presents etc.., BUT, in teaching kids how to be strong, confident, enforcing discipline, being the bad-guy when necessary, teaching self-reliance, teaching life skills, offering guidance, teaching how to overcome challenges, etc.. many parents are failing. Many parents are teaching their kids (whether consciously or sub-consciously) weakness. Tough pill to swallow but its true.
I love the u.s. as religious as any place in the world. As many issues as it has.. Deflects all blame to the rest of the world while simultaneously saying beat your children constantly. Pretty glad the u.s also has freedom from religion so i don't feel cohersed into having children. Thats what religion likes to do. Always that slick cohersion.
We need more strong men and women teaching in the classroom who understand this principle and less of these weak lefty women and men who are full of good intentions and bad ideas.
Honestly I was raised in a sheltered household throughout my childhood years because my parents were too poor to let me experience more in life, (ex; summer camps, driving, not many friends ) made me realize that lifestyle gave me a lot more anxiety and depression and made it more difficult for me to try and control my emotions but as I became more self aware of it all, it really helped. If only things weren’t so expensive for everything so I can experience more and be exposed more then I wouldn’t be having so much anxiety problems...
This is why sending your kids to martial arts school is extremely important. Because three times a week your children will be challenged and different ways. And these challenges will prepare them for any kind of social interaction including of course attacks on their physical. This guy is right on the money, we all need challenges in life to see what we're made of and when we fall from those challenges, it gives us a chance to do things better the second round if we're lucky enough to get a second chance. Nobody should be bullied but every kid should have healthy challenges. Build a stronger human race that way guaranteed
No. That's baby sitting glorified. Soccer is the only sport. It's contact. it's team. It's winning and losing against strangers. It's all socio economic and geo. It's the closest to real life kids get until college.
Joe, We just had the same situation last month. Flying back from Charleston it was announced that due to a passenger with a nut allergy there would be no peanuts served and we were asked to not consume nut containing snacks on the flight. We happened to have a can of peanuts with us. I was quite surprised that the concern of one suppressed that of 87 others.
This reminds me of one time in elementary school i was playing soccer with kids my age, and one much younger kid joined us. I think i might of taken the ball away from him once in a fine soccer move, and then a teacher pulled me out of class later that day to told me what I did was wrong. When the teacher was telling me this, I was extremely confused because it wasn't like i was overly mean to the kid, or picked on them specifically, just a case of being way too protective.
@Matthew Mallaber...bcuz sumtimes we think we r smarter than we really r, one time i took the streets to get to work bcuz i saw the line gettin on the frwy was a little long so i thought id b smart n take the streets since its minimal stop n go @ traffic lights n stops signs n what not...got to work 25 min late that day, n i am NEVER late to work, co worker of mine who takes the same frwy to work in the same entrance got on it 10 min after i drove by it n was @ work already brown nosing the boss, who is gay, but thats neither here nor there, u run the ball broseph!!! cost them a ring
You give the ball to Marshawn Lynch! Just like everyone knew Michael Jordan was going to take the last shot of the game. Give him the ball and your trust that everyone else on the team will do their part and live with the outcome.
I just packed both my grade school age kids peanut butter sandwiches for lunch, no issue at all, and they attend public school in New York. On the other hand, my older son asked for a piece of cake for breakfast, then called me a bully when I said no.
Same with peanut allergies as with Lactose intolerance. I am from Bulgaria and we have a long tradition of consuming deary products, mainly yogurt and white cheese. I know of NO ONE that is Lactose intolerant, but i constantly hear of people complaining about it in the western countries.
I'm a vet so, I walk that fine balance of being kind but, I know the world ain't a kind place so I try to develop confidence in real areas in their lives like building things with their hands, don't start a fight and if ya have to fight you win at all cost and protect those being bullied. I want strong independent kind kids that go out of their way for others and to lead, but, it's on them in the end to use what I teach them. Love your children but, they are stronger than they look and can bloody well clean their rooms themselves.
You don't want your kid to be bullyed? Take him to some martial arts classes. Not because you want him to fight the bully, just for the confidence needed to stand up for himself, and the bully will back down in most of the cases.
My buddy is a bubble wrap parent. He had three kids. The oldest girls is a SJW that graduated college with a degree in gender studies. She is my godchild. Gave her $500.00 for graduating high school and $250.00 for graduating college. She has spoken less than 50 words to me over the last ten years (she gets nothing now). His other son and daughter have both flunked out of college in less than a year. His gf told me that his daughter had a crying fit because she could not fill out an application (could not read and understand it). My friend sat down and filled it out for her. Glad I am not him and that I have no kids.
Sounds very... MmmmMm... "plausible" Up there with, "My mate works as a bank cashier/teller and you'd be surprised to learn those who flex the most are living beyond their means; whilst the rough bastard looking is a Millionaire" 💩👀
I grew up with fragile parents and that has in turn made me fragile in some ways. I'm 25 now and the last couple of years I've really have been trying to improve myself. I've started sticking up for myself, I've started to advocate for myself, I've started to be more assertive, and I haven't been shying away from confrontation. It's been a real eye-opener how little opposition I've faced because of how rare genuine self-confidence is. It's nice to have that advantage, however, I have never felt more alienated in my life. People are afraid to interact with me in any way that might cause conflict, so they usually avoid me or just default to agreeing with me. For the first time in my life, I actually crave a fight.
This is interesting I told my coworkers that my Mom as a Teen would allow me to get a daily bus pass and go around town by myself. They were shocked! I saw it as an adventure.
I was bullied from primary till the end of middleschool without threat of violence (except the last 3 years there was a threat) as a boy and it fucked me up! I've been able to recover from the trauma for the most part but i'm still working on it as a 20 year old
Written in history, Indian king Chnadragupta Mourya from Mourya dynasty was said to practice 'Mithridatism' which was the practice of consuming snake's venom on a daily basis in small amount to develop immunity and later when his enemies tried to posion him, he alone survived and his wife died. Clearly a great example for the above reference.
I get his point but I beg to differ. If you observe kids long enough you'll realize that very often they are brutal with each other and sometimes down right evil. Parents and caregivers have a very good reason for freaking out about bullying.
It was raining that day and I overheard a little girl asking his dad for an umbrella getting out of the car, the dad said “I gave you a jacket already”.
There is a line between “kids fighting and working through issues” vs bullying, which I don’t know why no else says this, is, in some instances, socially sanctioned child abuse. It’s not healthy and can be damaging.
So what about the pregnant moms who ate peanut butter and a huge variety of foods, and also gave it to their child.... but the child developed a peanut allergy anyway? 🤷♀️ Coming from someone who deals w their child having nuts allergies, I have my own suspicions... #1 his allergy reaction to peanut butter started immediately following his MMR vaccine (no, I’m not antivax, but it shouldn’t be off the table that something went wrong there since both have to do with immunity). #2 doc told me to take Zantac twice a day while pregnant for the worst indigestion/reflux I ever felt, and I never had those problems before or after pregnancy - only during. Makes me think something was a already wrong with the gut (me or my child’s) and possible the Zantac and MMR could have been what made the cup spill over, so to speak. Immune system might not have been able to handle that vaccine or so many at once, and the Zantac probably made my gut worse... because it actually didn’t help at all when taking it, but the doc insisted that that was all I could do. I also didnt start having the indigestion or reflux until after they gave me a flu shot while pregnant. I never get that shot, but I did when pregnant because the medical ppl were bullies when it came to that... and it really wasnt a big thing like it seems to be today w all the propaganda pushing to get flu shots every year. I think there is something to be said about how the pregnant mom feels when she is pregnant, esp when it comes to digestion. The problems were prob already there.. my child probably couldnt handle foods that I was eating for reasons I dont know. And the prenatal vitamins I had to take before bed were terrible.. made me sick to my stomach, which is why I took them before bed. For reference.. this was all back in 2005.
Bullying is done for unreasonable things. Bullying doesn’t equal conflict. They can still experience conflict in this world and it will shape them in good or bad ways. But bullying shouldn’t be tolerated at all!! Bullying is a direct result from adults children are surrounded by. Not parents but any adult they learn that trait from. We shouldn’t allow that. Respect and Toughness is a learned behavior. Just like bullying we should always strive for respect. To get it and to give it.
Exposure therapy. I get pretty bad social anxiety and it has screwed with my life. The way to get better is to expose myself to uncomfortable situations while dropping safety behaviours until I get bored with the exercise. Then I move on to the next thing I am afraid of. Progressive desensitisation. I am a whole lot better than I used to be, but this shit carries a fuck ton of baggage with it and it's a real pain in the arse to sift through it all.
@@SL-zg9zi Just look for a book on Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. Doesn't need to be social anxiety disorder specific. It's slightly different than exposure therapy, but the stats apparently seem to say it gets the best results
just tell them “the people online don’t know anything about you, they’re only insulting you based on their own thoughts and feelings, not yours” reach this from a young enough age and they will be content with themselves
I disagree with Jonathan about the playground monitor. I always hade one throughout primary and high school in australia (k-12). You are not 100% protected from being bullied or whatever due to the enormous number of kids and there are usually 1 or 2 adults on patrol, they cant be everywhere at once and its a good thing they cant be. So there is an element there where you are exposed so danger but its always a good thing to know that if you fall off something and get seriously hurt or someone wants to cave your head in you have somewhere to run to to seek help quickly.
It’s hilarious that he brought up peanut allergies because growing up I was allergic. I told my mom I feel sick when I eat peanut butter sandwiches and she would just say “you’ll get used to it.” Haha brought back memories.
That's so true because I see it that when I was around 12 years old we used to go to play ground to play soccer and we used to return home with dirty clothes and one of my friend's mother who was too caring didn't allowed him play and she would usually go to our school with complaints about very small issue. And now that we are in college he is very awkward because of these reasons. I might not have been able to explain it very well but you get the point
Kids back in my day who used to get bullied just listened to Korn or something and rock out, they wore their hearts in their sleeve and now that i think about it was a very courageous coping mechanism, nowadays kids either deny it and become part of the problem or go inward and fetishize and glamorize being bullied, its very bizzare and sad, its like no room to even just be a loner anymore because of how suffocating social media has made society for them.
I was bullied pretty badly from like 12-15 or so, maybe effects me a little today but think it's evolved my character and perception in a more realistic view of the world
"We couldn't prove it, so we didn't put it in the book" Do you know how important this sentence is? So they did the research, but the results didn't agree with them. They dropped it completely! They didn't make unfounded claims, they didn't manipulate the outcome in order not to waste all the research they'd done. This is an honourable thing! If only more authors, influencers, etc had that level of integrity
Toughen your kids up. Force them to make an unironic Tik Tok video and force them to watch every reply.
calm down satan
Hahah
What is tik tok
Alex Smith lol damn. Very true
@@Enrique-peralta A site for pedos and bullies.
"Maybe... maybe if touching a nut kills you, you're supposed to die." - Louis CK
Louis CK touched a nut and he didn't die, but his career did.
@@RaySquirrel what are you talking about? he just came up with a special
@@TheGunmanChannel amen
RaySquirrel the nut touched him
@@wackpendejo3000 its a joke
Dont try to pretend to your kids that the world will kneel before them and opportunities are endless. Set realistic expectations for the world. Tell them that they have to work to earn something and that the world is not as PC and straight forward as someone might tell them. The world is not simple, its harsh, its diverse, its complicated. But always encourage them to figure their own way out. Thats how you build realistic expactations and confidence.
True. Kids have to understand that things don't always go as planned and that failures will come along with successes. No one has so charmed a life that they never make a mistake or face rejection. The world won't always be our friend and parents/teachers/guidance counselors should make kids understand that. Kids need encouragement but they also need guidance.
Sounds like you're saying raise a loser, this is America, you can actually be wildly successful here.
@@micahjohnsonboxing6409 Fuck a sellout.
Well according to Joe. Kids will stick forks into outlets so you cant let them be independent and make mistakes.
Being able to be completely free to socialize and interact with your 10 year old peers by hanging at the park or walking together to the nearest bagel shop from 3pm (after school) till dark (6pm) when street lights come on cause you know pedophiles and abductors in the badass streets of his multi million dollar suburban town.
How about we make the world a better place.
This feels like an ASMR ep cause that dude has a very calming voice haha
Was thinking the same 😁
He modulates his voice to sell his books and his BS ideas.
😂😂😂
@@pakpala1 so were you bullied or the bully? LOL
@@earthatom7 Stay on topic. The guy is trying to sell books. People trying to sell stuff say the darndest things.
This dude is smart and very articulate on these important concepts.
Hmmmm! He is trying to sell his BS ideas in his BS books...
He's done great work on American political traits too.
@@pakpala1 sounds like you are selling propaganda, let me make up my own mind to whether or not his ideas/books are bullshit
By all means disagree with his ideas, but don't tell me what i should do (implying i shouldn't listen to him because YOU think it's bullshit)
He's an idiot who talks about science without understanding it. What was done on the allergic kids is a poorly controlled experiment (not that the researchers were bad but just that experimenting on humans is intrinsically difficult) with a small sample size. This experiment needs to be widely repeated on different kids with different ethnicity, countries, living conditions, and many other variables to make the conclusion appliable to all kids. Just because this experiment got a result doesn't mean we can jump to "giving peanut power to kids prevent allergy." Right now what he is scientifically allowed to say is just "these particular kids, who are significantly different from the general population of kids in that they're predisposed to allergy, seem to have lower rates of allergy when given nuts." These findings are interesting and prompt further studies, but they are not sufficient to establish such general conclusion as "giving peanut power to kids prevent allergy."
I dont really know who he is but i love him lmao
I had a conversation with my 9 year old about 20 minutes ago about other kids being mean and not liking her. Nearly everywhere we go, a kid (almost always a different kid) that she goes to school with will see her, and go out their way to say hi to her. I told her that she's popular, and she argued with me, and said all the other kids hate her. I told her if that was true, then those kids wouldn't be so eager for her attention outside of school. I think sometimes children will get a negative idea in their head, and will develop a certain level of confirmation bias when it comes to that negativity.
TheSwoleBroscientist 😭🤣😭🤣😭🤣
@TheSwoleBroscientist the way people talk shit over the internet never ceases to amaze me
@TheSwoleBroscientist 🤣🤣🤣
@FuckYouAllToPieces I don't think the P.C. culture has as much to do with it as the fact that people can get away with saying whatever they want to whoever they want without worrying about that person beating them unconscious. It makes them feel better because they can finally treat someone the way that someone treated them when they were growing up, and they didn't stand up for themselves. Bless his heart.
@Irving Ceron Yeah that was blatant trolling. I was stating most people doing the trolling wouldn't actually do it to someone in person, and I stand by that. I'm guessing you assumed I was threatening the guy. I thought it was pretty funny. It's obviously a joke.
My parents let me Do whatever I wanted but early on they said if I drank and drove, got someone pregnant or got addicted to hard drugs I was out of the house. Shitload of freedom and pretty easy rules to follow, and I think not being sheltered helped me in the long run. Being sheltered is just as harmful to kids as anything in my opinion .
Same, I never saw my dad til I was an adult. It gives you perspective and worldlyness. Not expecting some ominous father figure to help you out or tell you how to think. Not just biological.
@@alexkirrmann8534 yeah. I was lucky...had two parents that gave me a lot of freedom. I think my worldlyness come from when I joined the Marines, lived in 5 states and deployed all over the world. I'd never advocate joining the military but it definitely helped me expand my views and experiences...but doing that was made easier by the freedom my parents gave me growing up.
Not feeling like you're on a pre-designed path isn't something I was necessarily thankful for as a kid but as an adult I realize just how important that was
@@RJ-qs6nm agreed, I joined the army and did overseas stuff. But I have a philosophy which comes from one of our founder fathers. I study war and politics so my children can study philosophy and science. I don't wish the military on anyone but it made me strong. I'm not scared of anyone and it's not because I think I'm better then anyone either. Which is hard to explain and it gets me in lots of trouble in the civilian world. I have known human beings that make bosses look like children and it's hard to take orders from people like that.
That sounds really narcissistic.
@@alexkirrmann8534 I get it. I'm sure most people who are ex military feel the same way at one point or another. I once had to answer to a major who looked like Ronnie Coleman and killed a shit ton of people, now I answer to some fat guy behind a desk. But it's two different worlds, which is hard to see sometimes.
When I was in 6th grade (I'm 33) me and my friends were on some swings. Behind us were a few first graders that were gonna play soccer. One kid was like, "no pushing, no shoving, no hitting." One of the other first graders looked at him and said, "you're a pussy." It was fantastic.
Hah I give you my Reddit gold
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I mean, it is soccer though :P
In where I live boys are brutal they play football like it is judgment day they even warned me like hey sista move ! You are close to our goal post.
Pushing and hitting are not allowed in soccer (football)
Joe “can’t hydrate my guests” rogan
Cotton mouth clicking
Guys voice and the lip smacking and mouth noises were to much for me to watch
tj bonesla 😂 right!
Yea man, great subject matter that they are discussing, but it's very challenging to tune out the knob-slurping SFX going on here.
@@dacrd lmao!
I 100% agree with this. I am a former teacher and the way the school system coddles kids is crippling them in every way.
Why did you quit teaching? I’m just curious because I know a lot of teachers that have left the field.
LOVE THIS GUY.... What a nice change to have a voice saying "Kids need to be kids"...
Schools are excluding the kids from going home with me in my van after school instead of their parents, this bullying needs to stop.
Fuck that!! BDS BITCH!
lmao
Avocado and banana use to make my tongue and lips swell really bad when I was 7 years old. My dad told me: “Eat little amounts every other day and your system will get used to it”... I did, until today I absolutely love avocado 🥑 and 🍌 bananas; no swell whatsoever.
Good thing u added those emojis. Otherwise i wouldnt have known what u meant
@@crussteasock4047 Ah! The always welcome cynical comment. Enjoy your 🥑 🍌
@@piticfilms you're a good sport
When my daughter was about two months she developed a fever. Being a first time mother, of course I took her to the pediatrician (he also happened to be my pediatrician when I was little). He told me not to give her Tylenol because her body was trying to fight something off and I needed to give her a chance to do it. He also told me not to run after her wiping her nose in her hands whenever she got dirty, but a little dirt wasn’t going to hurt and that it could even strengthen the immune system. Made sense to me, so I decided right then and there that I was not going to be a helicopter mom, and I have two great, well-adjusted kids, 25 and 24 years, who have never had anything more than sniffles, and TRUST me when I say they were into EVERYthing when they were kids.
I grew up in the 70's. We we're RELENTLESS to each other. Sad to see how parents are today when you know instinctively what this guy is saying.
Schools that "ban bullying" punish someone for sticking up for themself. At my high school and my former middle school, if someone hits you (and whether you defend yourself or not) both people involved get suspended. So they have punished standing up for yourself and the only way to handle conflict is to go to the guidance counselor. Even then they probably won't do anything and just tell you to ignore them
I’m sorry... what? 😧 both kids are banned? Kids should’ve encouraged to handle their own situations I mean in real life there is no guidance counselor. Gosh I hate hearing that
When I was young my parents were super protective. Every time I got a sniffle the doc told them to pump me full of antibiotics and of course they did because good parents listen to their doctors.
Well when I turned 10 I was diagnosed with a late onset severe peanut allergy. On top of my countless allergies to polling and cats and all that.
Now I've undergone the Oral Immuno Therapy treatment and I have toeat peanuts every day to keep my tolerance up.
Moral of the story: don't coddle your kids or they have to eat peanuts every day of their life so they don't have to live in fear
Everyone later laughs about the times they were teased in school. No one who was bullied laughs about it, ever. They are not the same thing.
yeah but you do laugh if you got payback or if it was a rivalry that was later resolved
@@meowth8050 That is true. Or at least a good possibility.
@@l.w.paradis2108 can honestly be a mixed bag of emotions. i think most important thing is try to grow from it and dont take it personally at the end of the day. cant get through life without growth
@@meowth8050 I wasn't bullied until adulthood. Workplace bullying is a criminal offense in a lot of countries. Here, it means tough luck, look for a new job.
I don't care about "growth," so called. My family is abroad, I need money to retire and emigrate.
@@l.w.paradis2108 thats a different story all together if its work place bullying which i know about, being a victim myself and seeing it done to others. its a shame how ignorant we can be even as adults. theres many ways to deal with it but its hard to eliminate. some people hate themselves so much they have to put others down to feel good
This guy's voice can put an insomniac to sleep.
I love his voice
This reminds me of the black mirror episode where a mother went through a program where she can control what her daughter can see and hear via technology. She decided to filter so much of life to where the daughter growing up was definitely altered.
Was the episode Arkangel?
It's so soothing to listen to an erudite with such a nice, friendly voice. What a great podcast this was.
Nice word use! Gonna make that my word of the day.
When I was in high school and you did something embarrassing you just switched school or prayed it only got spread around to a small group of people. Social media insures that all of your embarrassing and social escapades remain immortal. No wonder juvenile depression is skyrocketing today's culture expects perfection and ostracizes those whom fall short...
*ensures
THIS.
Social media is ubiquitous and potentially immortal. Anyone on earth can see it. This is an entirely different environment for a child approaching puberty, who WILL have overly sensitive moments. The point is to not get stuck in them, and not be shaped by them -- and not have the whole world see them.
When I was a kid, it was rare for journalists to get permission to take a picture of a famous person's child. Use of children in advertising was frowned upon and regulated. People were appalled at stage Moms, and felt that child actors deserved special consideration and protection. And the kids weren't cry babies at all.
And there are no statute of limitations on anything either! You can lose your entire career and never work in your industry again over a decade-old Tweet you made when you were 14. Absolutely bonkers.
@@snakejunt Yes, and it is heartbreaking. Parents have GOT to say no until their child graduates from high school, and warn warn warn after that. Offers of admission to Harvard have been withdrawn over tweets and such.
There isn't a 14 year old on earth who never did anything they would want to put behind them. Not one.
Taking away someone's stress doesn't help them because stress is inevitable. Teaching someone to deal with stress is helpful. Life is full of challenges, so we have to challenge our kids and reward them for pushing through those challenges.
If I ever have the chance to be a father, I'll do everything in my power to empower and support my kids but I'll also try to teach them that life doesn't always go the way you want it to. There will be people who are assholes, there will be rejections, and there will be days when you just don't want to do it anymore. But the key to living a good life is moving forward despite the disappointments we may face, not letting our fears drain us and keep us from pursuing the things we want.
I remember being bullied as a kid by a couple of guys in my class. Only a half a dozen people seen it and knew about it. Today you get bullied online and the whole school knows about it the next day. No wonder these kids are depressed all the time.
Ok, sure, but what about raising Anti-Fragile Babies?
The last time I dropped one, it broke...
You win!!
Yep! Finally I person who can see through the BS this dude is trying to sell.
You're supposed to gradually introduce the dropping. Start from a lower height next time.
Must have been a dud. They are meant to bounce. Be honest, you didn't throw the baby did you?
Really I just turned it on and off and it worked again
You have so much reach to your viewer's. I look to you for so much. Thank you.
Many many parents today are weak parents, not saying that they are bad parents, some are very good parents in being providers, care-givers, fun, trips, presents etc.., BUT, in teaching kids how to be strong, confident, enforcing discipline, being the bad-guy when necessary, teaching self-reliance, teaching life skills, offering guidance, teaching how to overcome challenges, etc.. many parents are failing. Many parents are teaching their kids (whether consciously or sub-consciously) weakness. Tough pill to swallow but its true.
That’s exactly it well done on your perspective ❤ never olwould of thought of it like that
Kids need a lot of understanding and love along with the constant beatings
I love the u.s. as religious as any place in the world. As many issues as it has.. Deflects all blame to the rest of the world while simultaneously saying beat your children constantly. Pretty glad the u.s also has freedom from religion so i don't feel cohersed into having children. Thats what religion likes to do. Always that slick cohersion.
Mike J Lol have you seen how parents treat their kids in India. US is so tame compared to other countries, idiot
outdoor activities and face to face communication are recommended
This guy hit all the nails on all of the heads. Excellent commentary!
Reminds me of that Black mirror episode where the mother gets her daughter that implant in her head
He's the kind of professor I wish I had.
We need more strong men and women teaching in the classroom who understand this principle and less of these weak lefty women and men who are full of good intentions and bad ideas.
Joe "I have a friend" Rogan
That's what happens when you actually interact with people instead of sitting on your ass on youtube all day
No it’s Joe “I have a shit ton of friends” Rogan
Honestly I was raised in a sheltered household throughout my childhood years because my parents were too poor to let me experience more in life, (ex; summer camps, driving, not many friends ) made me realize that lifestyle gave me a lot more anxiety and depression and made it more difficult for me to try and control my emotions but as I became more self aware of it all, it really helped. If only things weren’t so expensive for everything so I can experience more and be exposed more then I wouldn’t be having so much anxiety problems...
Sorry if my English grammar sucks, it’s not my first language
This is why sending your kids to martial arts school is extremely important. Because three times a week your children will be challenged and different ways. And these challenges will prepare them for any kind of social interaction including of course attacks on their physical. This guy is right on the money, we all need challenges in life to see what we're made of and when we fall from those challenges, it gives us a chance to do things better the second round if we're lucky enough to get a second chance. Nobody should be bullied but every kid should have healthy challenges. Build a stronger human race that way guaranteed
No. That's baby sitting glorified. Soccer is the only sport. It's contact. it's team. It's winning and losing against strangers. It's all socio economic and geo. It's the closest to real life kids get until college.
*That which does not kill us makes us stronger*
Hey! I heard about this from Jordan Peterson first, but yay more sources and specifics. 😁
I grew up in rural Appalachia...... problem solved........
Same.
My best memories from elementary school is when I got into fights during the breaks 😅
Joe, We just had the same situation last month. Flying back from Charleston it was announced that due to a passenger with a nut allergy there would be no peanuts served and we were asked to not consume nut containing snacks on the flight. We happened to have a can of peanuts with us. I was quite surprised that the concern of one suppressed that of 87 others.
This reminds me of one time in elementary school i was playing soccer with kids my age, and one much younger kid joined us. I think i might of taken the ball away from him once in a fine soccer move, and then a teacher pulled me out of class later that day to told me what I did was wrong. When the teacher was telling me this, I was extremely confused because it wasn't like i was overly mean to the kid, or picked on them specifically, just a case of being way too protective.
i still cant believe seattle didnt run the ball
How do you not run the ball in that situation!
@Matthew Mallaber...bcuz sumtimes we think we r smarter than we really r, one time i took the streets to get to work bcuz i saw the line gettin on the frwy was a little long so i thought id b smart n take the streets since its minimal stop n go @ traffic lights n stops signs n what not...got to work 25 min late that day, n i am NEVER late to work, co worker of mine who takes the same frwy to work in the same entrance got on it 10 min after i drove by it n was @ work already brown nosing the boss, who is gay, but thats neither here nor there, u run the ball broseph!!! cost them a ring
You give the ball to Marshawn Lynch! Just like everyone knew Michael Jordan was going to take the last shot of the game. Give him the ball and your trust that everyone else on the team will do their part and live with the outcome.
@Matthew Mallaber...fucken A brother...peace n blessing from Upland Ca
@@tonydiaz9458 back at ya from Western NY.
I wish I could show this to the students, parents and faculty at the school I teach at....
I just packed both my grade school age kids peanut butter sandwiches for lunch, no issue at all, and they attend public school in New York. On the other hand, my older son asked for a piece of cake for breakfast, then called me a bully when I said no.
You bully give him the cake
Good intentions, bad ideas. Sums things up right there.
Same with peanut allergies as with Lactose intolerance. I am from Bulgaria and we have a long tradition of consuming deary products, mainly yogurt and white cheese. I know of NO ONE that is Lactose intolerant, but i constantly hear of people complaining about it in the western countries.
over protective parents and kids having allergies/fragility has been a trope for a reason... Art Imitating life
I'm a vet so, I walk that fine balance of being kind but, I know the world ain't a kind place so I try to develop confidence in real areas in their lives like building things with their hands, don't start a fight and if ya have to fight you win at all cost and protect those being bullied. I want strong independent kind kids that go out of their way for others and to lead, but, it's on them in the end to use what I teach them. Love your children but, they are stronger than they look and can bloody well clean their rooms themselves.
You don't want your kid to be bullyed? Take him to some martial arts classes. Not because you want him to fight the bully, just for the confidence needed to stand up for himself, and the bully will back down in most of the cases.
My buddy is a bubble wrap parent. He had three kids. The oldest girls is a SJW that graduated college with a degree in gender studies. She is my godchild. Gave her $500.00 for graduating high school and $250.00 for graduating college. She has spoken less than 50 words to me over the last ten years (she gets nothing now). His other son and daughter have both flunked out of college in less than a year. His gf told me that his daughter had a crying fit because she could not fill out an application (could not read and understand it). My friend sat down and filled it out for her. Glad I am not him and that I have no kids.
Sounds very... MmmmMm... "plausible"
Up there with, "My mate works as a bank cashier/teller and you'd be surprised to learn those who flex the most are living beyond their means; whilst the rough bastard looking is a Millionaire" 💩👀
I grew up with fragile parents and that has in turn made me fragile in some ways. I'm 25 now and the last couple of years I've really have been trying to improve myself. I've started sticking up for myself, I've started to advocate for myself, I've started to be more assertive, and I haven't been shying away from confrontation. It's been a real eye-opener how little opposition I've faced because of how rare genuine self-confidence is. It's nice to have that advantage, however, I have never felt more alienated in my life. People are afraid to interact with me in any way that might cause conflict, so they usually avoid me or just default to agreeing with me. For the first time in my life, I actually crave a fight.
Literally your villain origin story🤣
This is interesting I told my coworkers that my Mom as a Teen would allow me to get a daily bus pass and go around town by myself. They were shocked! I saw it as an adventure.
If you can't eat peanuts in an area with others allergic to them they need to die.
Reid Plyler 🖕🏻
@@IrishRunningVlog wow crap genes and bad attitude.
Darwin agrees lol
My second son has a peanuts allergy and my wife used to snort peanut dust, it didn't help build a defense.
@@jcmoney11111 I can't tell if you're serious/joking/trolling... Good job 👍
Get this man some H2O!!!
LOL uncle joey was right about the allergy thing 😂🤣
I was bullied from primary till the end of middleschool without threat of violence (except the last 3 years there was a threat) as a boy and it fucked me up! I've been able to recover from the trauma for the most part but i'm still working on it as a 20 year old
@bryan joiner Bryan is great craic!!
Written in history, Indian king Chnadragupta Mourya from Mourya dynasty was said to practice 'Mithridatism' which was the practice of consuming snake's venom on a daily basis in small amount to develop immunity and later when his enemies tried to posion him, he alone survived and his wife died. Clearly a great example for the above reference.
I get his point but I beg to differ. If you observe kids long enough you'll realize that very often they are brutal with each other and sometimes down right evil. Parents and caregivers have a very good reason for freaking out about bullying.
Please keep up the good work. Please
Send your kids to public Scottish schools, that'll fix 'em
That bad huh?
Or Mexicans remember blay blades 😂
He makes so much sense ,, interesting dude
It was raining that day and I overheard a little girl asking his dad for an umbrella getting out of the car, the dad said “I gave you a jacket already”.
My elementary school needs to see this. If anything their policy about conflicts is worse at this point...
I had the same thing on a plane rogan
There is a line between “kids fighting and working through issues” vs bullying, which I don’t know why no else says this, is, in some instances, socially sanctioned child abuse. It’s not healthy and can be damaging.
So what about the pregnant moms who ate peanut butter and a huge variety of foods, and also gave it to their child.... but the child developed a peanut allergy anyway? 🤷♀️ Coming from someone who deals w their child having nuts allergies, I have my own suspicions... #1 his allergy reaction to peanut butter started immediately following his MMR vaccine (no, I’m not antivax, but it shouldn’t be off the table that something went wrong there since both have to do with immunity). #2 doc told me to take Zantac twice a day while pregnant for the worst indigestion/reflux I ever felt, and I never had those problems before or after pregnancy - only during. Makes me think something was a already wrong with the gut (me or my child’s) and possible the Zantac and MMR could have been what made the cup spill over, so to speak. Immune system might not have been able to handle that vaccine or so many at once, and the Zantac probably made my gut worse... because it actually didn’t help at all when taking it, but the doc insisted that that was all I could do. I also didnt start having the indigestion or reflux until after they gave me a flu shot while pregnant. I never get that shot, but I did when pregnant because the medical ppl were bullies when it came to that... and it really wasnt a big thing like it seems to be today w all the propaganda pushing to get flu shots every year. I think there is something to be said about how the pregnant mom feels when she is pregnant, esp when it comes to digestion. The problems were prob already there.. my child probably couldnt handle foods that I was eating for reasons I dont know. And the prenatal vitamins I had to take before bed were terrible.. made me sick to my stomach, which is why I took them before bed. For reference.. this was all back in 2005.
Definitely think you're onto something there. The Vs can cause these sort of allergic reactions in children.
Bullying is done for unreasonable things. Bullying doesn’t equal conflict. They can still experience conflict in this world and it will shape them in good or bad ways. But bullying shouldn’t be tolerated at all!! Bullying is a direct result from adults children are surrounded by. Not parents but any adult they learn that trait from. We shouldn’t allow that. Respect and Toughness is a learned behavior. Just like bullying we should always strive for respect. To get it and to give it.
even the broken glass is helping kids (from a certain age). my 3yo has gotten more careful after a while of getting glassware.
Joe Rogan. I love what you do.
Anyone know why this one was taken down in its full form? Can only find a few clips
Fix your mic's there ligit pickin up every sound every slerp and mouth slappin
bigwillsrides literally couldn’t watch because of that.
Not the mic fault, he needs to drink water forreal
Better than not hearing him at all I suppose
Not if you like ASMR ( ͡~ ͜ʖ ͡°)
Didn't really notice, now I can't stop hearing it
Exposure therapy. I get pretty bad social anxiety and it has screwed with my life. The way to get better is to expose myself to uncomfortable situations while dropping safety behaviours until I get bored with the exercise. Then I move on to the next thing I am afraid of. Progressive desensitisation.
I am a whole lot better than I used to be, but this shit carries a fuck ton of baggage with it and it's a real pain in the arse to sift through it all.
@@SL-zg9zi Just look for a book on Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. Doesn't need to be social anxiety disorder specific.
It's slightly different than exposure therapy, but the stats apparently seem to say it gets the best results
The link does not work.. i serached it but i cant find the whole vid..
"Are you suggesting we raise a generation of super kids? "
just tell them “the people online don’t know anything about you, they’re only insulting you based on their own thoughts and feelings, not yours” reach this from a young enough age and they will be content with themselves
I disagree with Jonathan about the playground monitor. I always hade one throughout primary and high school in australia (k-12). You are not 100% protected from being bullied or whatever due to the enormous number of kids and there are usually 1 or 2 adults on patrol, they cant be everywhere at once and its a good thing they cant be. So there is an element there where you are exposed so danger but its always a good thing to know that if you fall off something and get seriously hurt or someone wants to cave your head in you have somewhere to run to to seek help quickly.
100%
5:11 - correct me if I'm wrong but is that not a Jim Jefferies bit about eating nuts on a plane?
😂
Ricky Gervais* Ricky is funnier as all brits are.
I wish he would chillax on that doctor voice tone.. PLEASE LISTEN TO ME.
Carlo Ancelotti on JRE? Never knew
Joe "one punch man" rogan
This is one of the few guests where Joe actually read their book
Joe, please assess the fatherless household.. I personally think this is a huge problem leading to fragile children.
Time to show this clip to the wife!
When I was 9-12 years old, after school, I just left the house and played with my friends. My parents didn't know where I was. Or that I even left.
Joe "ASMR 2019" Rogan
If I see one more earnin app ad I might break a glass container
I like listening to this guy's voice
It’s hilarious that he brought up peanut allergies because growing up I was allergic. I told my mom I feel sick when I eat peanut butter sandwiches and she would just say “you’ll get used to it.” Haha brought back memories.
So you did get used to it?
That's so true because I see it that when I was around 12 years old we used to go to play ground to play soccer and we used to return home with dirty clothes and one of my friend's mother who was too caring didn't allowed him play and she would usually go to our school with complaints about very small issue. And now that we are in college he is very awkward because of these reasons. I might not have been able to explain it very well but you get the point
Joey Diaz had a bit on peanut allergies
Louis Ck too. It's a bit dark for some people but funny as hell
weakness should be wiped out
Kids back in my day who used to get bullied just listened to Korn or something and rock out, they wore their hearts in their sleeve and now that i think about it was a very courageous coping mechanism, nowadays kids either deny it and become part of the problem or go inward and fetishize and glamorize being bullied, its very bizzare and sad, its like no room to even just be a loner anymore because of how suffocating social media has made society for them.
This is not new news grandmas were saying this about allergies and kids getting sick when I was a kid
I was bullied pretty badly from like 12-15 or so, maybe effects me a little today but think it's evolved my character and perception in a more realistic view of the world
Or, we could just release all the bans on peanuts and let things work themselves out... Just a thought.
Good choice of guest, Joe!
"We couldn't prove it, so we didn't put it in the book"
Do you know how important this sentence is?
So they did the research, but the results didn't agree with them. They dropped it completely! They didn't make unfounded claims, they didn't manipulate the outcome in order not to waste all the research they'd done. This is an honourable thing!
If only more authors, influencers, etc had that level of integrity
Put them in an XBL lobby