My personality ENFJ literally describes me. Of course some facts have to be a bit off so I don’t take it really seriously, but I do like the idea of the types. It was easier for me to understand myself.
As an INFJ, I’ve definitely made mental notes on people who have invalidated my emotions and have never disclosed anything personal about myself again. Seems like INFJs are very cautious about who they choose to vent to or seek advice from.
yep I'm starting to do this now what's annoying is that all the people o trust invalidate my feelings so I end up talking about my emotions with my cat. yes ofc she doesn't physically comfort me, but her cuddles are enough for me. sometime I wonder where I would be without her🥺
im an infj too,, and i resonate with this sm cuz whenever i talk to certain people no matter how close they are i take note of how they deal with my vents or whenever i talk to them when i down,, so i aso end up having not many people to confide in comfortably and thats q scary :(
As an INFJ, I can be empathetic. But when it's my turn to express how I feel or vent, some people would be physically there but not really willing to lend an ear. It hurts sometimes that we don't get the same amount of sympathy at least. And when I don't open up, I am told that I am too distant or indifferent. I feel like I don't belong in this "dimension" or something. And yeah, telling INFJs that they're too sensitive is that red button that must not be pushed.
I relate to this so much. The feeling that you're there for them because you care so much, but then no one is really there for you and it's like you don't fit in anywhere. It's really tough.
I agree with both of you... It's so hard And sometimes, i just want people to listen to me.. not telling me what to do and all of that stuff.. i just want them to lend their ears
The absolute worst thing for INFJ's is being attacked for who they are. If we made a genuine mistake, alright you know. If we could do something differently, that's fair. If you're telling me i'm dumb, too sensitive, not empathic, ignorant etc. then you're just upsetting me with how wrong you are.
Yeah, I guess it’s convenient or me since I’m INFJ, but I agree, they should have other types. Hopefully they’ll start soon, can’t wait to look into the other personality types!
“You should be ashamed” that one really pisses me off. No one is more critical of me than myself, so when more people attempt to keep adding on top of it, I just disconnect from the conversation and stop listening to the conversation. Also, “you’re too sensitive” does it for me too.I’ve always thought there was something wrong with me, but am I’m learning a lot about myself now than anything my parents ever taught me. I’ve only ever learned how to work and how to obey, but never taught how to be me.
The "you should be ashamed" torn apart my heart so bad. It triggers a lot since we really care about how do we act in front of the others and reflect ourselves from it :((
Yeah the you should be ashamed one scratches the deepest layers of my already beaten ego in this world when someone says that its just game over to talking to them in the future but i cant really shut off what they say after that i just keep listening as everyword they say after that hits me again and again
if you really are are an infj then I have a question.How will you feel if someone told you they thought you were smart but you are actually not,(after spending time with you,in an argument
definitely the “i’ve had it worse than you”! i can’t even BELIEVE people would want to say this in the first place!! i feel like it would effect all people, maybe not just infjs. and “you’re too sensitive” definitely.
my brother sounds like he's competing with me when it comes to "I've had it worse than you" things. If I say I have a headache, he has to say he's had a migraine for 2 days, that my headache is nothing (just an example, not a real situation). Talk about an inferiority complex that goes so far you need to actually be worse than someone to feel better about yourself.
Well my dad and brother say I’m to sensitive all the time and It drives me mad also I get a lot of people say to me (well a lot of my friends) say I’ve had it worse than you, not those exact words but I’ll Tell them how I feel and I get “well at least No one hates you”
*7 things you should never say to an INFJ* 0:36 - You’re too sensitive 1:05 - Let’s wing it 1:29 - You should be ashamed of yourself 1:59 - Here’s some advice 2:25 - I’ve had it worse than you 3:00 - Can you be more practical? 3:28 - But that’s how we’ve always done things ❤️❤️❤️ from *High Living - animated videos* 🚀🌙
This is all so true, as an INFJ the “you should be more practical” is so true for me. I’ll admit I daydream and dream a lot, I have HUGE imaginations, some people think I’m weird for that, and also the “I’m too sensitive” is also very true. I had therapy for 6 months before, to atleast defend myself now. And I’ve had people tell me they had it “way more worse then me” mostly when I was in middle school, this is also another reason why I WAS introverted and I lacked the confidence and courage to speak up for 3 whole years. Now I’m just getting my life on track, being an INFJ certainly doesn’t make me feel special at all, honestly I wished to change myself before, but a few people have taught me to accept the way I am. So please to whoever is an INFJ, If this is happening to you in your life, make sure to always be positive and don’t let other people’s opinion matter to you if they do say something bad to you. ^^ ♥️
This made me so happy! I'm also an INFJ and sometimes i feel ashamed over who I am and i get really sad when no one understands me. I just feel so trapped but this gave me some confidece! 💕
I'm glad that I'm not the only who thinks like this. I'm totally not confident in what I do and I am mostly lonely but I'm happy that we INFJs understand each other. It's really grateful.
I get the feeling you'd be REALLY great at D&D... I'm not exactly the INFJ... well... really... I don't fit ANY of the archetypes... BUT I do play and run (GM) games. It takes a LOT of imagination to jump out of our hum-drum reality into something of Tolkien or Lovecraft and beyond... There's probably an RPG out there to fit you if you look... and likely a group that'll love you to death for joining and bringing the imagination... In spite of whatever you see online, LOTS of us still RP by "theater of the mind", too... ;o)
One of the most hurtful things I was called by my toxic ex-boyfriend was "You're being a crybaby" as well as "You're way too sensitive" like literally all the time. When his jokes were made at my expense to make fun of me. I broke up with him because I got tired of being disrespected so yeah #1 really resonated with me. Fellow INFJs, there is nothing wrong with being sensitive. Empathy is beautiful, and our emotions are valid.
Very true friend. Im an ENFP and my best friend and hopefully future girlfriend (an infj as well) and I always try to understand each other. Dont be afraid to walk away if someone is unwilling to communicate. Altho dont be complacent and disloyal either (not at all implying you were, simply stating a principle). Ive found this saying to be true, "understand, then be understood". Sometimes that means walking away because people have work to do on themselves. Find someone who doesnt attack you for being you. I think about a scripture actually, "showing them honor as to weaker vessels" (refering to women in general). It was refering to alabaster jars, perfume jars from egypt, because they were precious and extraordinarily valuable, but also delicate, and to be treated with care :) Hope you find the man who can understand that :)
1. "you're too sensitive" 0:36 2. "let's wing it" 1:06 3. "you should be ashamed of yourself!" 1:29 4. "here's some advice" 2:00 5. "I've had it worse than you." 2:25 6. "Can you be more practical?" 3:00 7. "But that's how we've always done things" 3:29 I hope I could help!
"Old soul" is too broad. I am an enfj and most of these apply to me too. The main difference is that the "e" stands for extroverted and the "i" for introverted. The letters mean something.
@@jamiekrhea You just made a point for me that I did not express in my post. Yes old soul is a broad term. Which is why I prefer it over INFJ or ENFJ. Because old souls are encompassing of both INFJ's and ENFJ's. They also delve in great depth, all social, natural/physical, and mental constructs. Thats because they have tapped into the history that preceded them. I am far happier and subdued in knowing that I am an old soul.
I hate when I hear “you’re exaggerating, it’s no big deal.” Well it’s a big deal to me. I hate when my husband rolls his eyes at me. I told him if he continues to do that he’ll find himself single because I have no problem being single. Actually I think it’s easier sometimes because I don’t have to explain my way of thinking all the time to people who don’t get it. I’m an INFJ-advocate. Can you do a video on the different types of INFJs?
My best friend is an infj and while I understand how you feel, altho maybe threatening him with your absence isnt the most healthy way to express that your not communicating well. Im not saying hes justified, but we have to remember dear friend, two wrongs dont make a right :) try to understand where hes coming from and adjust. Maybe he feels attacked or simply isnt relating to the method of communication. A great quote comes to mind, "understand, then be understood". I hope that helps :)
Actually you should understand just cause it’s a big deal to you in the inside, when you look at the bigger picture with you in it, that issue becomes less of an importance. That’s what your missing. It is and is not a big deal, depending on who’s perspective your asking.
I can confirm that all seven are extremely accurate, especially being told it’s your own fault! It doesn’t help, I tend to be extremely hard on myself and it being shoved into my face that I messed up makes things worse
It's especially heinous to say when it's actually THEIR fault and not yours. This is why I have issues with accountability and apologizing; I know when I'm wrong, and if I'm not, I won't say sorry for something I'm not guilty of. That doesn't stop people from trying to guilt-trip me, but hopefully one day they'll catch on to the fact that I'm not playing their games.
Everything is so own point my ex girlfriend said all that, I don't trust people that easily but I trusted her and confided in her and then she said all these things to me since then I think that everything is my fault, even though I know that is not true but still everything hurts. That's some damage that I haven't been able to fix.
I think "you should be ashamed of yourself" is by far the worst. It makes you feel bad for what you've done and on top of that makes you feel bad and unsensitive for not feeling bad about it. It also puts your moral principles and integrity at stake witch is by far the worst thing you could ever think of criticising in my case
As a INFJ I can relate to all Of these. I hates especialy when you ask someone how they are and they answers with "fine" and then starts small talking, let's just say that's a good way to make me hate you😅
"can you be more practical?" That's what my parents always tells me. That's why all these times, I thought it's my fault that I'm not practical but now I know that it's just part of my personality.
If someone tries to tell me that they've had it worse than me, my first response would likely be to call their bluff. No one who's ever truly suffered would use that experience to one-up others and shame them for feeling bad about a situation that they likely have every right to be upset about. Instead, they would be empathetic and humble because they understand what it's like to be invalidated and wouldn't wish that upon others. People who lack empathy have never had to lift a finger to get respect, so they don't get to go on a soapbox rant about how much wrong the world has done to them when that's never been the case.
you know... some people just want to put you down. I mentioned my brother up there and I'm sorry but I have to use him as an example again. When telling to him I had been molested by a family friend when I was a child... his response? "He didn't do it just to you, he did it to another girl I know as well". So there you have it, it's not necessarily their suffering that comes into play, they just have to make you feel like your problems are smaller than anybody else's.
Actually... lots of people use their own suffering as a justification to inflict suffering on others or to put them down / elevate themselves. They may use it to try to garner sympathy or use it to invalidate. It's a common tactic of narcissts. I've done a lot of studying on people opposite from us empathic folks.... A precursor of clinical narcissism is actually intense suffering that's unable to be overcome.
Having an INFJ as a partner this definitely hits home. In retrospect I've had to wrap my head around a lot of these mistake points. Thankfully she's very patient. Theese are very good pointers that I've had to learn the hard way sadly.
Very accurate. But the lets wing it part? I sometimes kind of want to test something out when I have no choice, because why not? Maybe it’ll work. So its 50/50 for me, yes I hate making something without a plan but being an INFJ doesn’t mean you always have a plan. So winging it isn’t that bad for us I think.
I am an INTP and I basically agree except the "wing it" one only when I'm doing something serious. Like, I'm in a group project and my teammates say "IDK let's wing it". WTF dude, this shit is important
As an INFJ, it can be hard when you challenge yourself to open to someone you really love and then they brutally invalidate your emotions. It's not like you cannot speak to that person again, you still love them and need them in your life, but you start to doubt your love, and that's really scary. And you become even more closed in general. The best thing to do is to continue to make an effort and try a different approach to share your feelings. But the pain is still very present, and can last for quite some time. But we just need to learn to forgive them and yourself
That’s over 70 million people. That’s still a ton of people. More people will also watch a video on their own mbti type, so you can expect most of its viewers to be the type in the video.
This is pretty accurate for me lol. When people try to give me advice, I have already thought of my problems from several angles. I've been invalidated by these kind of statements by family, "friends", bullies, coworker... several people. Really grinds my gears. That frustration and anger often stems from fear that the person is right and I'm disappointing others. Turns into a lot of sadness and feelings of shame. But I'm working on it.
Being an INFJ, I hated being told I was too sensitive as a kid, and “you should be ashamed of yourself” just reinforced a guilty conscience. On the other hand, I’ve never been that bothered by “let’s wing it” as I love to be adventurous, but having plans or events be really last-minute was frustrating.
As an INFJ, it shocked me after I realize my parents said almost all of these things to me. Maybe that's why I keep my distance from them now, and choose to share things with my close friends. Thank you for the insights!
Completely agree hehe, everytime I take the personalities test I get INFJ since I was around 16. I've turned to others but my friend/boyfriend/family when they say I'm too sensitive. I'm trying journaling nowadays since sometimes I can't get them listening or stop giving me advice. Mi boyfriend is ESTJ, he is so practical and I'm trying to learn from him but I've noticed that since it is not natural on me I go back to my way of doing things according to my creative thoughts hehe 😅🤗 love you all! Thanks for doing this!!
INFJ high-five! I journal for the same reason. It's become a great way to track which things constantly upset me so I can change the situation in whatever ways I can.
I am an INFJ who grew up in an abusive household and heard all these exact phrases from the narcissists in my life. Due to this I developed BPD and now struggling with my emotions and life feeling very lonely. Even the therapists I visited used few of these phrases which did hurt me a lot. I am slowly learning that I can't control what people say or do and if they choose cruelty over empathy it clearly defines who they are and not who I am. Though it hurts when it comes from people you are close with. Also trying to control people never helps. INFJs are magnets for ASPDs so watch out. Take care of your mental health.
I'm an INFJ and it's a miracle I made it to retirement with the type of job I had. There was a high incentive to stay A pension & lifetime medical, so I made it. But, it sure wasn't the job for an INFJ. I now feel full of peace, creative and relaxed and so happy. I hate having company as they tell me what to do with my new house. I mean, I would never go to their houses and say those things. I love to fly solo. It suits me. Vacations, home, everything just me & my pets.
I'm an INFJ and when I was younger my dad always never listened to why I was upset and always said I was too sensitive and I always thought that and my old friends used to make fun of me for it and a few years later I found out about personality types and then I found out I was an INFJ and I revised why I was like this and I didn't feel like I was overly sensitive anymore and thank you for these videos they always make me feel like I'm not the only one like this and am glad to hear there are other people like me. and also have a good day :]
"You're too sensitive" Bruh I'm Infj and this is so true- My friend said that to me while I was venting out my feelings to them because I thought they'd understand, boy I was wrong.. Now I'm here keeping my emotions contained at all costs and just listens to other people's venting instead 🥲
How come all the bad stereotypes surrounding other personality types are “True” yet all bad stereotypes for INFJs are just “Misunderstandings”? I’m curious what your take on this is.
As an INFJ i can admit this is all true it really hurts when someone gives you random advice or tell you its your fault and tbh i am not that practical so this is very relatable.
As an Infj this video really hits home because I don’t want to hear ‘Here’s some advice’ ever. Just the other day for example I was telling my friend that I m how I m so sick and can’t breathe and couldn’t sleep whole night because of it made this bag by myself and I m thinking of doing this and she’d go like “no you should get up and take walk.” You don’t understand that I can’t I k sick for god’s sake. I can’t move my body. Maybe your body works different when its sick. But mine doesn’t even let me eat something. I totally understand how she just wanted the best for me. But All I wanted was for her to hear that I m not okay like make me scream and complain for once in a while. I didn’t want to hear what I should do I can’t do that’s the reason I m telling you this. And also the “I’ve had it worse than you” feels so condescending like okay maybe but can I have this moment to myself. I feel tired for always having it in and never letting it out. Can I have this moment to feel how utterly broken I am not how you are more broken than me. It always feels like I m giving my ear to everybody when they want it but never getting that in return. And honestly it’s exhausting.
@@ichsehnursoaus check out aspergers from the inside or ask an autistic. And then have Gabor Mate twist everything u thought u knew with his wild claims? Truth is, most of what we know about the disorder is pseudoscience so it’s best to just find out what bits that are actually true, and take whatever your autistic friends say seriously.
Here are 7 things you should definitely avoid saying to an INFJ. “Calm down!” ... “You're just not trying hard enough.” ... “I'm fine.” - when you know you aren't. ... “No one will ever understand you.” ... “You're doing too much.” ... “You make it difficult to love you.” ... “You're so boring.
@@susannaseveroni4489 maybe not wanting help meaning? when infj cares about someone doing anything for this human and sometimes this is so much but when this person say this to you that's a little bit hurt but facts important too
The “you should be ashamed of yourself” makes me cry almost instantly. It always makes me feel like I’m useless,not worth it and just a waste of space. BUT. I’ve learned to live with it. Even if I do vent,it’s not very often and usually once or twice in a few months. I like keeping to myself to not feel like a burden. All of those are horrible things to say to anyone. Especially a perfectionist personality type. Hope that all of you are begetter now
dude i didn't realize i was an INFJ until i looked more into it, even some of my friends say i have a “rare” personality which made me surprised that i'm also an INFJ! i def agree with all these
I am an INFJ, and I always try to make time for friends! But it really hurts when I try to talk about what’s on my mind and it seems as if I just told all of this to a wall! No one seemed to as heard or cared about what I wanted to vent and/or say! And it was so hard to actually bring out what I vented about in the first place! I took out so much effort just to be ignored! I just want a few people who actually care…
The moment a person compares my struggles to theirs and says 'I've had it worse' it just crushes my soul and I can never talk to them again. IDKY people have the need to compare problems as my problems gave me anxiety and PTSD and you just straight up dismissed it because according to you, you have struggled more. I just wish people shut up.
1. 0:35 "You're too sensitive" 2. 1:05 "Let's wing it" 3. 1:28 "You should be ashamed of yourself" 4. 1:59 "Here's some advice" 5. 2:25 "I've had it worse that you" 6. 2:59 "Can you be more practical?" 7. 3:29 "But that's how we've always done things"
I hardly ever tell people how I feel but a few days ago me my mom and dad were talking and I was telling them how I was really feeling about things. It brought me to tears. And all my mom had to say was “we’re adults. Let’s be real here.” Never speaking to her again
What makes me mad the most is when someone says “ They had it worse than you “ It’s like are they even listening to our problems? And instead they think of others.
I feel like sometimes i'm INFJ-T and INTJ. I just like alone, but i love socialize in small circle group that have good impact to each other. If that person too negative, INFJ will cut you forever. We don't like toxic people!
Another thing not to say to infjs(or just me hehe) when they look like they are about to cry: "Are you okay?" I immediately start crying when i hear that😭✋
The last point made me smile. “Buts that’s how we’ve always done things.” Haha as an INFJ, that motivates me more to change it up. Why commit to one idea when there are so many different solutions or ways of approaching something?
I suggest the "INFJ's" on this comment section to study the cognitive functions and not call themselves one because of online tests and because they identified themselves with videos about the type.
Im an INFJ sometimes people don’t understand me and what I’m going through in life but my BFFs understand me and help me get through it and comfort me when I’m feeling down
When I finally tried to open up a bit about my worries or anxieties it turns out that they're just something minor , and it's just another day of me being " sensitive "
1. 0:36 - You're way too sensitive 2. 1:06 - let's just wing it 3. 1:29 - be ashamed 4. 1:59 - Advice 5. 2:26 - I've had it worse 6. 2:59 - be practical 7. 3:29 that's how we always did it
Dear psych2go 🥺: I want to thank you for all your videos, cuz they help me a lot in my life.. it'll be so helpful if you upload another video about depression and it impact in relationships! Thnx again ❤️!
These INFJ videos are reading me like an open book and its interesting to see and understand things finally and not constantly think that there is something wrong with me. Thank you.
I’m going to vent a little now so… I’m used as a scape goat a lot as one time someone did something bad to the teachers work and wrote my name on it i felt scared, worried and ashamed of myself as i thought i should of done something.But gladly someone else went up a rubbed my name off and when the the teacher came back they told the teacher what happened. Their are people in my life that i love and hate. The first one and me are always told “Aw you are cute together you should be in a relationship!” IT MAKES ME PISSED!! Me and them are FRIENDS!! The second join class for a little bit of time and then needed to leave and when the teacher told us they left i was shattered and i thought i was not a good enough friend for them but then i was told it was not my folt. The last one just straight up ignored me and that was a problem as i wanted their time and their love but i leave them alone. Thank you for reading this sorry if it was too long.
As an infj, this is all so true I can't help myself but cry watching this video because it felt like someone understand me To the all Infj out there, stay strong !
I hate that my parents will force me to be extraverted in real life esp interacting with my cousins like I should be the first one to talk to them little did they know I am super extroverted on the internet 🤪
"I know what's best for you" "You're too impulsive" First, I reflect everyday. I'm obsessed on knowing myself and self-control; hence, I know myself. Also, I don't ask help from people so I don't need advice from someone who won't help me when I need them. Also, all decisions I make have a reason. I plan them so long before I act on it.
As a depressed INFJ the "I've had it worse than you" it's me so much. I become so angry, hurt and sad that i end up crying not being able to express myself in words.
Yes, I've encountered all of these in my past. From friends, family members, coworkers... Oh, I've been called "too sensitive" so many times. It's taken several months worth of therapy and reassurance from friends to learn to accept my feelings without judgement. I've also learned that my sensitivity gives me insight that a lot of other people seem to not notice until I point it out to them. One of my brothers is one of those narcissistic types who lives by "just wing it" for every facet of his life. When he came back home, he'd push those ideals onto me, who relied heavily on structure and predictable outcomes to feel comfortable. Of course, he didn't respect that about me, and constantly challenged it, to the point it drove him to explosive anger from me struggling to adapt to "his way". The one that wounds me the worst is "you should be ashamed of yourself". That line of thinking causes me to recede into my shell very reliably. Whether it was dealing with an upset manager over a simple mistake on my part, or trying to be open and honest about facets of myself when trying to make friends, I'd always recede into my head in those situations. Going full introvert and closing off the world around me from feeling the shame and embarrassment wash over me. I've been shamed for being a furry, a tech geek, my gender and sexuality... The list goes on and on, and every time, I'd just recede into my shell. "Here's some advice" is a guaranteed way to upset me. Especially if the "advice" doesn't even come close to what I'm going through. They usually get just as upset with me for "rejecting their advice" when I explain how it doesn't help, and I grow frustrated as the conversation devolves from talking about my problems to what they think will "fix" my problems. When I'm feeling down and depressed, my mom likes to say the "I've had it worse than you" one, in a long-winded roundabout way. Every time, I get upset with her, and she spits back "you just need perspective to realize your life isn't that bad. I'd kill to have your life when I was growing up." She doesn't seem to understand why saying these things upsets me so much. "Can you be more practical?" Or "I wish you'd grow up" as my dad put it. It's not that I don't know how to do the chores around the house, or that I lack motivation or lack the skills to prioritize effectively, it's that I'm stuck in my head quite often, lost in my imaginative world with a disconnect from reality for several hours at a time. Still though, my parents keep pushing more and more responsibilities onto me, and get upset with me when I lose track and forget to do them, since I'm so engrossed in what I'm thinking about. "But that's how we have always done things..." Yep, I've dealt with this too. I have a tendency to do tasks in my way, since I actually give thought to how to do the task more efficiently. It comes to a head when my mom wants me to clean something a certain way, and I ask "why" every time. She usually gets impatient with me and just goes "just do it my way" instead of taking the time to explain why her way is better, or is willing to consider how my way of doing it is easier. Same thing happens at work, where sometimes my input is considered, and other times it's rejected because it goes against corporate policies that were set from higher up.
Can you do a video with the different types of INFJs ? There are many INFJs that are mistyped with other mbtis like INFP, INTP, ISTJ For being a "rare mbti" many people who are really INFJs end up not believing and taking other MBTIs.
Idk, but I took the test twice, once I got ISFP and the other time I got INFJ, I don't what am I. But what they mentioned here applies to me to a hell of a level. Except that I myself say "let's wing it" when it isn't something that would end up in serious consequences
@@valis3363 I had the same thing, for a long time I thought I was an INFP until I found out that I was actually a 4w5 INFJ and that's why I got confused for so long, for you to be absolutely sure of your MBTI, it's better take the ennagram test too.
Could be that he/she did something incompatible with you, small talks a lot, likes things you dont, her/his mind isnt capable of understanding you, there could be a lot of options (assuming you are INFJ). The intentions could also be incorrect...
@Oliver Erz I'm INFJ myself, and those i mentioned are usually the issues we face for having a rather complex mind. It's hard to find someone that can fully understand us because our inner world is uh... Strange... to say the least. So, if we see signs of small talk or simple minded people, we tend to get bored and/or lose all interest. In my case, only one person manages to understand my inner world, and she is INFP :)
Do you believe in personality types? Comment below what's yours.
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hmm,, well i have the hyper personality type !!
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My personality ENFJ literally describes me. Of course some facts have to be a bit off so I don’t take it really seriously, but I do like the idea of the types. It was easier for me to understand myself.
I am not sure abt my personality type yet, but am truly and purely triggered by these words. 🙂
I do believe in them.
Saying “you're too sensitive” to an INFJ is like signing up for your own death sentence.
Lol
EXACTLY
So... you have chosen the door slam.
Or saying: "You're drowning in a glass of water" when... really not. ;-;
Makes sense...
As an INFJ, I’ve definitely made mental notes on people who have invalidated my emotions and have never disclosed anything personal about myself again. Seems like INFJs are very cautious about who they choose to vent to or seek advice from.
Same here, as an INFJ I agree
yep I'm starting to do this now
what's annoying is that all the people o trust invalidate my feelings so I end up talking about my emotions with my cat.
yes ofc she doesn't physically comfort me, but her cuddles are enough for me.
sometime I wonder where I would be without her🥺
I don't even bother to seek for someone for advice they will all judge anyw, even if they talk nice to u when u tell them about what u going through
im an infj too,, and i resonate with this sm cuz whenever i talk to certain people no matter how close they are i take note of how they deal with my vents or whenever i talk to them when i down,, so i aso end up having not many people to confide in comfortably and thats q scary :(
Same
As an INFJ, I can be empathetic. But when it's my turn to express how I feel or vent, some people would be physically there but not really willing to lend an ear. It hurts sometimes that we don't get the same amount of sympathy at least. And when I don't open up, I am told that I am too distant or indifferent. I feel like I don't belong in this "dimension" or something. And yeah, telling INFJs that they're too sensitive is that red button that must not be pushed.
I relate to this so much. The feeling that you're there for them because you care so much, but then no one is really there for you and it's like you don't fit in anywhere. It's really tough.
I agree with both of you... It's so hard
And sometimes, i just want people to listen to me.. not telling me what to do and all of that stuff.. i just want them to lend their ears
I can relate as well, sometimes is just hard for people to at least litsen
I can totally relate to this. I'm even confused to myself of what I really am sometimes. and it hurts
You're just too sensitive.
/s
"Be careful with your words. One they are said, they can only be forgiven, not forgotten" - Joker
society
yep 😂
What? That made no sense. I'd like to think the Joker makes sense, at least when he talks. Grammar is important.
@@strangewayfaringstranger I think he meant 'once' instead of 'one'
Yes but i hope the other one is always doing good when i say this may im not suppost to be here😊
The absolute worst thing for INFJ's is being attacked for who they are. If we made a genuine mistake, alright you know. If we could do something differently, that's fair. If you're telling me i'm dumb, too sensitive, not empathic, ignorant etc. then you're just upsetting me with how wrong you are.
huh, yeah
“You’re too sensitive”
**starts crying**
Me: *cries with you*
Chain reaction cryin of INFJs
Me the INFJ-T squeezing you all with my massive, long hugs to recharge you with my empathy and love 😌
@@PrinceJaredJ Thank you so much💓
@@samriddhipant5889 You're welcome Sam💙
If this is happening, I would like to request a series of this that is just every personality on the MBTI thing.
If i wanna know about these Personality types, i visit Frank James' Channel, he is very detailed about it. Also, funny :)
A series of videos on things one should not to say to each MBTI personality type... Good idea. 💡
AGREE
Yeah, I guess it’s convenient or me since I’m INFJ, but I agree, they should have other types. Hopefully they’ll start soon, can’t wait to look into the other personality types!
@@ichsehnursoaus It's Just Kevin is good, too.
“You should be ashamed” that one really pisses me off. No one is more critical of me than myself, so when more people attempt to keep adding on top of it, I just disconnect from the conversation and stop listening to the conversation. Also, “you’re too sensitive” does it for me too.I’ve always thought there was something wrong with me, but am I’m learning a lot about myself now than anything my parents ever taught me. I’ve only ever learned how to work and how to obey, but never taught how to be me.
The "you should be ashamed" torn apart my heart so bad. It triggers a lot since we really care about how do we act in front of the others and reflect ourselves from it :((
@Dajex16 I can relate so much to this, still on the learning journey however
Yeah the you should be ashamed one scratches the deepest layers of my already beaten ego in this world when someone says that its just game over to talking to them in the future but i cant really shut off what they say after that i just keep listening as everyword they say after that hits me again and again
if you really are are an infj then I have a question.How will you feel if someone told you they thought you were smart but you are actually not,(after spending time with you,in an argument
literally the sentence "you're too sensitive" is something that makes me burst out in tears
definitely the “i’ve had it worse than you”! i can’t even BELIEVE people would want to say this in the first place!! i feel like it would effect all people, maybe not just infjs. and “you’re too sensitive” definitely.
Yes, that's really insensitive and selfish to say.
You should never say those to anyone.
my brother sounds like he's competing with me when it comes to "I've had it worse than you" things. If I say I have a headache, he has to say he's had a migraine for 2 days, that my headache is nothing (just an example, not a real situation). Talk about an inferiority complex that goes so far you need to actually be worse than someone to feel better about yourself.
Well my dad and brother say I’m to sensitive all the time and It drives me mad also I get a lot of people say to me (well a lot of my friends) say I’ve had it worse than you, not those exact words but I’ll
Tell them how I feel and I get “well at least No one hates you”
@@Psych2go people don’t care ‘bout how they feel unfortunately they feel like being a jackass they be a jackass
*7 things you should never say to an INFJ*
0:36 - You’re too sensitive
1:05 - Let’s wing it
1:29 - You should be ashamed of yourself
1:59 - Here’s some advice
2:25 - I’ve had it worse than you
3:00 - Can you be more practical?
3:28 - But that’s how we’ve always done things
❤️❤️❤️ from *High Living - animated videos* 🚀🌙
I relate to almost all of these but I'm not an INFJ??? huh
@@GraciesMelodies Maybe you are mistyped.
Thank you so much
Thank you, this is helpful.
@@GraciesMelodies
What type are u?
This is all so true, as an INFJ the “you should be more practical” is so true for me. I’ll admit I daydream and dream a lot, I have HUGE imaginations, some people think I’m weird for that, and also the “I’m too sensitive” is also very true. I had therapy for 6 months before, to atleast defend myself now. And I’ve had people tell me they had it “way more worse then me” mostly when I was in middle school, this is also another reason why I WAS introverted and I lacked the confidence and courage to speak up for 3 whole years. Now I’m just getting my life on track, being an INFJ certainly doesn’t make me feel special at all, honestly I wished to change myself before, but a few people have taught me to accept the way I am.
So please to whoever is an INFJ, If this is happening to you in your life, make sure to always be positive and don’t let other people’s opinion matter to you if they do say something bad to you. ^^ ♥️
This made me so happy! I'm also an INFJ and sometimes i feel ashamed over who I am and i get really sad when no one understands me. I just feel so trapped but this gave me some confidece! 💕
I'm glad that I'm not the only who thinks like this. I'm totally not confident in what I do and I am mostly lonely but I'm happy that we INFJs understand each other. It's really grateful.
I get the feeling you'd be REALLY great at D&D... I'm not exactly the INFJ... well... really... I don't fit ANY of the archetypes... BUT I do play and run (GM) games. It takes a LOT of imagination to jump out of our hum-drum reality into something of Tolkien or Lovecraft and beyond... There's probably an RPG out there to fit you if you look... and likely a group that'll love you to death for joining and bringing the imagination...
In spite of whatever you see online, LOTS of us still RP by "theater of the mind", too... ;o)
Yes, I daydream alot too
Tbh huge imaginations help your build in developing your skills at something your good at i guess
"You should be ashamed"
Shame is probably the worst feeling i've ever had in my life, so i can perfectly relate to this
True
"you're too sensi-"
I'll show you how sensitive YOU can really be.
Being an INFJ, I find it really cool that you're doing these. Keep up the good work, love your videos! This video is really accurate too.
It does really help, it seems like there’s not a lot of material for our personality type…
@@jninja5758 I mean, we are pretty rare, so...
Thanks Graice for the feedback! We appreciate you!
@@Psych2go You're very welcome!
@@dabestorkposta it’s rare true. But we are all attracted to this type of content? So that is why so many of us are here
One of the most hurtful things I was called by my toxic ex-boyfriend was "You're being a crybaby" as well as "You're way too sensitive" like literally all the time. When his jokes were made at my expense to make fun of me. I broke up with him because I got tired of being disrespected so yeah #1 really resonated with me. Fellow INFJs, there is nothing wrong with being sensitive. Empathy is beautiful, and our emotions are valid.
Very true friend. Im an ENFP and my best friend and hopefully future girlfriend (an infj as well) and I always try to understand each other. Dont be afraid to walk away if someone is unwilling to communicate. Altho dont be complacent and disloyal either (not at all implying you were, simply stating a principle). Ive found this saying to be true, "understand, then be understood". Sometimes that means walking away because people have work to do on themselves. Find someone who doesnt attack you for being you. I think about a scripture actually, "showing them honor as to weaker vessels" (refering to women in general). It was refering to alabaster jars, perfume jars from egypt, because they were precious and extraordinarily valuable, but also delicate, and to be treated with care :) Hope you find the man who can understand that :)
@@saisusato2871 Are you a fellow brother or sister? 😌 IYKYK
1. "you're too sensitive" 0:36
2. "let's wing it" 1:06
3. "you should be ashamed of yourself!" 1:29
4. "here's some advice" 2:00
5. "I've had it worse than you." 2:25
6. "Can you be more practical?" 3:00
7. "But that's how we've always done things" 3:29
I hope I could help!
:)
Thank you ! This really helps .
how is this comment a month ago ??!
why does it say this was 1 month ago
Are you a time traveler?
As an INFJ i hate criticism from others. I have my own critic in my head that already puts me down, thank you very much.
In the old days. This was called an old soul. Which I think sounds better than INFJ. Old soul sounds far more prestigious.
"Old soul" is too broad. I am an enfj and most of these apply to me too. The main difference is that the "e" stands for extroverted and the "i" for introverted. The letters mean something.
@@jamiekrhea
You just made a point for me that I did not express in my post. Yes old soul is a broad term. Which is why I prefer it over INFJ or ENFJ. Because old souls are encompassing of both INFJ's and ENFJ's. They also delve in great depth, all social, natural/physical, and mental constructs. Thats because they have tapped into the history that preceded them. I am far happier and subdued in knowing that I am an old soul.
I hate when I hear “you’re exaggerating, it’s no big deal.” Well it’s a big deal to me. I hate when my husband rolls his eyes at me. I told him if he continues to do that he’ll find himself single because I have no problem being single. Actually I think it’s easier sometimes because I don’t have to explain my way of thinking all the time to people who don’t get it. I’m an INFJ-advocate.
Can you do a video on the different types of INFJs?
same. i guess this is coming from us slamdoor thing
@@professorcoco4838 really.. my sensitivity is seen as such a mess ppl literally say this
" I knew u will make things worse"
Like c'mon, it hurts
Yeah, I hate when that happens, like, well if isn't a big deal for you then leave me alone
My best friend is an infj and while I understand how you feel, altho maybe threatening him with your absence isnt the most healthy way to express that your not communicating well. Im not saying hes justified, but we have to remember dear friend, two wrongs dont make a right :) try to understand where hes coming from and adjust. Maybe he feels attacked or simply isnt relating to the method of communication. A great quote comes to mind, "understand, then be understood". I hope that helps :)
Actually you should understand just cause it’s a big deal to you in the inside, when you look at the bigger picture with you in it, that issue becomes less of an importance.
That’s what your missing. It is and is not a big deal, depending on who’s perspective your asking.
I got told I was too sensitive by a boss.
I asked for clarification. "Sensitive like a finely-tuned machine, or aware when I'm being insulted?"
"Being mature is knowing that Joker never said any of these quotes"
-Joker
Hell ye
ain't 14 but this is -Deep- Fax
@@vladdostupidthings6549 im 12 XD
I can confirm that all seven are extremely accurate, especially being told it’s your own fault! It doesn’t help, I tend to be extremely hard on myself and it being shoved into my face that I messed up makes things worse
If they only knew that you’re already beating yourself up in your head far worse than what they’re saying verbally
ua-cam.com/video/gfje8kAvXE0/v-deo.html..
Louder for the people in the back, please.
It's especially heinous to say when it's actually THEIR fault and not yours. This is why I have issues with accountability and apologizing; I know when I'm wrong, and if I'm not, I won't say sorry for something I'm not guilty of. That doesn't stop people from trying to guilt-trip me, but hopefully one day they'll catch on to the fact that I'm not playing their games.
Everything is so own point my ex girlfriend said all that, I don't trust people that easily but I trusted her and confided in her and then she said all these things to me since then I think that everything is my fault, even though I know that is not true but still everything hurts. That's some damage that I haven't been able to fix.
Personally I’m an INFJ and I think this video is facts
ua-cam.com/video/gfje8kAvXE0/v-deo.html .
Same
Why do I think I'm also an INFJ with the facts of this video XD
I think im more of an infj because i had it worse
^^^
If I hear “you are too sensitive”, that person immediately turns me off. It’s like asking us to not be who we fundamentally are.
"i've had it worse than you" not gonna lie, this sentences really breaks me. its totally proves that they didn't understand me.
I think "you should be ashamed of yourself" is by far the worst. It makes you feel bad for what you've done and on top of that makes you feel bad and unsensitive for not feeling bad about it. It also puts your moral principles and integrity at stake witch is by far the worst thing you could ever think of criticising in my case
As a INFJ I can relate to all Of these. I hates especialy when you ask someone how they are and they answers with "fine" and then starts small talking, let's just say that's a good way to make me hate you😅
Agreed...
@@nickyb5851 I love your profile pic!!!
How tf is this comment 4 days ago?!
How is this comment 4 days ago-
Hi time traveller!
"can you be more practical?" That's what my parents always tells me. That's why all these times, I thought it's my fault that I'm not practical but now I know that it's just part of my personality.
Psych2go's videos are starting to become actual therapy for us.
Yeah :) but actually it is a fun video
As a HSP, who's also an INFJ-T with anxiety and anger issues, I could relate to this beyond expectations.
As an INFJ, this is way too relatable 😭
ua-cam.com/video/gfje8kAvXE0/v-deo.html .
I’ll send this to everyone who knows me “what you should never say to me”
Good idea, hopefully they'll catch on quickly.
@JJ Olatunji 🅥 cute but you a bot
You'll give them ammo for when they're mad, though.
If someone tries to tell me that they've had it worse than me, my first response would likely be to call their bluff. No one who's ever truly suffered would use that experience to one-up others and shame them for feeling bad about a situation that they likely have every right to be upset about. Instead, they would be empathetic and humble because they understand what it's like to be invalidated and wouldn't wish that upon others. People who lack empathy have never had to lift a finger to get respect, so they don't get to go on a soapbox rant about how much wrong the world has done to them when that's never been the case.
I completely agree to that!
you know... some people just want to put you down. I mentioned my brother up there and I'm sorry but I have to use him as an example again. When telling to him I had been molested by a family friend when I was a child... his response? "He didn't do it just to you, he did it to another girl I know as well". So there you have it, it's not necessarily their suffering that comes into play, they just have to make you feel like your problems are smaller than anybody else's.
Actually... lots of people use their own suffering as a justification to inflict suffering on others or to put them down / elevate themselves. They may use it to try to garner sympathy or use it to invalidate. It's a common tactic of narcissts. I've done a lot of studying on people opposite from us empathic folks.... A precursor of clinical narcissism is actually intense suffering that's unable to be overcome.
As an INFJ the worst thing someone told me was : " you disapponted me"
@What Am I
Yep...
I started crying when reached the let others down part 😢
Can’t someone just listen to me, it’s all I want, I’m an infj and completely agree ❤️
Well I can't hear you but I can read what you write.
"You're too sensitive"... yeah, the best thing to say to me if you want me angry, lol.
Imagine knowing someone as helpful as Psych2Go 🙄❤️
Yes in real life?
@@Psych2go Yes☺️
Im an INFJ and i can say i do nearly everything these videos say so yes i do believe in them
Having an INFJ as a partner this definitely hits home. In retrospect I've had to wrap my head around a lot of these mistake points. Thankfully she's very patient. Theese are very good pointers that I've had to learn the hard way sadly.
Hello, just in case anyone hasn't said Good Morning to you, here Good Morning, am proud that you survive another day
3:12 the Crumb drawing is just the cutest
Very accurate. But the lets wing it part? I sometimes kind of want to test something out when I have no choice, because why not? Maybe it’ll work. So its 50/50 for me, yes I hate making something without a plan but being an INFJ doesn’t mean you always have a plan. So winging it isn’t that bad for us I think.
I am an INTP and I basically agree except the "wing it" one only when I'm doing something serious. Like, I'm in a group project and my teammates say "IDK let's wing it". WTF dude, this shit is important
Yeah, as another INTP I usually only "wing" things when it's not that important.
@@danielyuan9862 It's just that I'm lazy and if something is not important I don't wanna waste thought on it
My moms an INFP
@@danielyuan9862 I only put wings on cars
As an INFJ, it can be hard when you challenge yourself to open to someone you really love and then they brutally invalidate your emotions.
It's not like you cannot speak to that person again, you still love them and need them in your life, but you start to doubt your love, and that's really scary. And you become even more closed in general.
The best thing to do is to continue to make an effort and try a different approach to share your feelings. But the pain is still very present, and can last for quite some time.
But we just need to learn to forgive them and yourself
Fun fact: INFJ is the rarest mbti type, with only 1.5%, and yet, 99% of the viewers are INFJ.
É foda né, Geraldo, foi exatamente o que eu pensei.
@@nick_vs2648 muito foda Nick
I know it's strange xD I guess every person who took the test and got the result came here
That’s over 70 million people. That’s still a ton of people. More people will also watch a video on their own mbti type, so you can expect most of its viewers to be the type in the video.
@@xyphor317 indeed
This is pretty accurate for me lol. When people try to give me advice, I have already thought of my problems from several angles. I've been invalidated by these kind of statements by family, "friends", bullies, coworker... several people. Really grinds my gears. That frustration and anger often stems from fear that the person is right and I'm disappointing others. Turns into a lot of sadness and feelings of shame. But I'm working on it.
Being an INFJ, I hated being told I was too sensitive as a kid, and “you should be ashamed of yourself” just reinforced a guilty conscience. On the other hand, I’ve never been that bothered by “let’s wing it” as I love to be adventurous, but having plans or events be really last-minute was frustrating.
Same.
As an INFJ, it shocked me after I realize my parents said almost all of these things to me. Maybe that's why I keep my distance from them now, and choose to share things with my close friends. Thank you for the insights!
"INFJ is the rarest personality type"
comment section:
"As an INFJ"
I counted 24 INFJs lol
I mean, there are roughly 140 million of us,being as it's about 2% of the population
Loool
This channel keeps making videos about INFJ too 🤷♀️
@@dabestorkposta Well, 6 million in America- Our population is roughly 310 million😊
Completely agree hehe, everytime I take the personalities test I get INFJ since I was around 16. I've turned to others but my friend/boyfriend/family when they say I'm too sensitive. I'm trying journaling nowadays since sometimes I can't get them listening or stop giving me advice. Mi boyfriend is ESTJ, he is so practical and I'm trying to learn from him but I've noticed that since it is not natural on me I go back to my way of doing things according to my creative thoughts hehe 😅🤗 love you all! Thanks for doing this!!
INFJ high-five! I journal for the same reason. It's become a great way to track which things constantly upset me so I can change the situation in whatever ways I can.
Yeah,🎉🎉 journaling is very helpful , don't skip even a day 😂 , because then things get piled in my head .
I am an INFJ who grew up in an abusive household and heard all these exact phrases from the narcissists in my life. Due to this I developed BPD and now struggling with my emotions and life feeling very lonely. Even the therapists I visited used few of these phrases which did hurt me a lot. I am slowly learning that I can't control what people say or do and if they choose cruelty over empathy it clearly defines who they are and not who I am. Though it hurts when it comes from people you are close with. Also trying to control people never helps. INFJs are magnets for ASPDs so watch out. Take care of your mental health.
As an infj, I completely agree with this!
I'm an INFJ and it's a miracle I made it to retirement with the type of job I had. There was a high incentive to stay A pension & lifetime medical, so I made it. But, it sure wasn't the job for an INFJ. I now feel full of peace, creative and relaxed and so happy. I hate having company as they tell me what to do with my new house. I mean, I would never go to their houses and say those things. I love to fly solo. It suits me. Vacations, home, everything just me & my pets.
You sound like a great person to me. You know what you want and what makes you happy. I had similar experience with my last job too.
As an INFJ, I agree with all of these.
I hate when people say these kind of things to me.
It makes me feel like.. I'm not good enough.
I'm an INFJ and when I was younger my dad always never listened to why I was upset and always said I was too sensitive and I always thought that and my old friends used to make fun of me for it and a few years later I found out about personality types and then I found out I was an INFJ and I revised why I was like this and I didn't feel like I was overly sensitive anymore and thank you for these videos they always make me feel like I'm not the only one like this and am glad to hear there are other people like me. and also have a good day :]
"You're too sensitive"
Bruh I'm Infj and this is so true-
My friend said that to me while I was venting out my feelings to them because I thought they'd understand, boy I was wrong.. Now I'm here keeping my emotions contained at all costs and just listens to other people's venting instead 🥲
Hm relatable
Noooo, don't keep them contained, not at all cost, the price is too high :(
How come all the bad stereotypes surrounding other personality types are “True” yet all bad stereotypes for INFJs are just “Misunderstandings”? I’m curious what your take on this is.
As an INFJ i can admit this is all true it really hurts when someone gives you random advice or tell you its your fault and tbh i am not that practical so this is very relatable.
As an Infj this video really hits home because I don’t want to hear ‘Here’s some advice’ ever. Just the other day for example I was telling my friend that I m how I m so sick and can’t breathe and couldn’t sleep whole night because of it made this bag by myself and I m thinking of doing this and she’d go like “no you should get up and take walk.” You don’t understand that I can’t I k sick for god’s sake. I can’t move my body. Maybe your body works different when its sick. But mine doesn’t even let me eat something. I totally understand how she just wanted the best for me. But All I wanted was for her to hear that I m not okay like make me scream and complain for once in a while. I didn’t want to hear what I should do I can’t do that’s the reason I m telling you this. And also the “I’ve had it worse than you” feels so condescending like okay maybe but can I have this moment to myself. I feel tired for always having it in and never letting it out. Can I have this moment to feel how utterly broken I am not how you are more broken than me. It always feels like I m giving my ear to everybody when they want it but never getting that in return. And honestly it’s exhausting.
I wish that there was a video like “7 things you can never say to an autistic person” because there is to much involuntary discrimination against us
As an autistic person, I second this.
I want to learn more about people on the autistic spectrum
@@ichsehnursoaus check out aspergers from the inside or ask an autistic.
And then have Gabor Mate twist everything u thought u knew with his wild claims?
Truth is, most of what we know about the disorder is pseudoscience so it’s best to just find out what bits that are actually true, and take whatever your autistic friends say seriously.
Here are 7 things you should definitely avoid saying to an INFJ.
“Calm down!” ...
“You're just not trying hard enough.” ...
“I'm fine.” - when you know you aren't. ...
“No one will ever understand you.” ...
“You're doing too much.” ...
“You make it difficult to love you.” ...
“You're so boring.
Sorry but what do you mean by "you're doing too much"? Cause my sis is an INFJ and I don't want to unintentionally hurt her :(
@@susannaseveroni4489 then intentionally hurt her to assert dominance
Im just joking sorry
ua-cam.com/video/gfje8kAvXE0/v-deo.html .
@@susannaseveroni4489 maybe not wanting help meaning? when infj cares about someone doing anything for this human and sometimes this is so much but when this person say this to you that's a little bit hurt but facts important too
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"Others have it worse" bruh almost everyone got to hear that from our parents and that's bad😭
Saying "it's okay, don't be sad, my experience is worse than yours" is like saying "don't be happy, 'cause happier than you"
As an INFJ:
Others: You're SOOO SENSITIVE
Me: At least I'm not as insensitive as you
The “you should be ashamed of yourself” makes me cry almost instantly. It always makes me feel like I’m useless,not worth it and just a waste of space. BUT. I’ve learned to live with it. Even if I do vent,it’s not very often and usually once or twice in a few months. I like keeping to myself to not feel like a burden. All of those are horrible things to say to anyone. Especially a perfectionist personality type. Hope that all of you are begetter now
dude i didn't realize i was an INFJ until i looked more into it, even some of my friends say i have a “rare” personality which made me surprised that i'm also an INFJ! i def agree with all these
I am an INFJ, and I always try to make time for friends! But it really hurts when I try to talk about what’s on my mind and it seems as if I just told all of this to a wall! No one seemed to as heard or cared about what I wanted to vent and/or say! And it was so hard to actually bring out what I vented about in the first place! I took out so much effort just to be ignored! I just want a few people who actually care…
The moment a person compares my struggles to theirs and says 'I've had it worse' it just crushes my soul and I can never talk to them again. IDKY people have the need to compare problems as my problems gave me anxiety and PTSD and you just straight up dismissed it because according to you, you have struggled more. I just wish people shut up.
1. 0:35 "You're too sensitive"
2. 1:05 "Let's wing it"
3. 1:28 "You should be ashamed of yourself"
4. 1:59 "Here's some advice"
5. 2:25 "I've had it worse that you"
6. 2:59 "Can you be more practical?"
7. 3:29 "But that's how we've always done things"
I really enjoy these videos but a suggestion could be maybe doing a variety of different types of personality types?
If i wanna know about these Personality types, i visit Frank James' Channel, he is very detailed about it. Also, funny :)
I hardly ever tell people how I feel but a few days ago me my mom and dad were talking and I was telling them how I was really feeling about things. It brought me to tears. And all my mom had to say was “we’re adults. Let’s be real here.” Never speaking to her again
What makes me mad the most is when someone says “ They had it worse than you “ It’s like are they even listening to our problems? And instead they think of others.
I feel like sometimes i'm INFJ-T and INTJ. I just like alone, but i love socialize in small circle group that have good impact to each other. If that person too negative, INFJ will cut you forever. We don't like toxic people!
Yes, I relate to ALL of them, especially #3
( Imma INFJ )
Just took a test, found out I’m an INFJ. Been researching a ton recently lol. So weird these videos explain stuff like they’ve know me my whole life.
your voice is so relaxing 😊
Your voice sounds like it’s from a sleep playlist, it sounds very comforting
Another thing not to say to infjs(or just me hehe) when they look like they are about to cry:
"Are you okay?"
I immediately start crying when i hear that😭✋
The last point made me smile.
“Buts that’s how we’ve always done things.”
Haha as an INFJ, that motivates me more to change it up. Why commit to one idea when there are so many different solutions or ways of approaching something?
I suggest the "INFJ's" on this comment section to study the cognitive functions and not call themselves one because of online tests and because they identified themselves with videos about the type.
Im an INFJ sometimes people don’t understand me and what I’m going through in life but my BFFs understand me and help me get through it and comfort me when I’m feeling down
When I finally tried to open up a bit about my worries or anxieties it turns out that they're just something minor , and it's just another day of me being " sensitive "
1. 0:36 - You're way too sensitive
2. 1:06 - let's just wing it
3. 1:29 - be ashamed
4. 1:59 - Advice
5. 2:26 - I've had it worse
6. 2:59 - be practical
7. 3:29 that's how we always did it
Dear psych2go 🥺:
I want to thank you for all your videos, cuz they help me a lot in my life.. it'll be so helpful if you upload another video about depression and it impact in relationships!
Thnx again ❤️!
These INFJ videos are reading me like an open book and its interesting to see and understand things finally and not constantly think that there is something wrong with me. Thank you.
Dang we really out here time traveling
I’m going to vent a little now so…
I’m used as a scape goat a lot as one time someone did something bad to the teachers work and wrote my name on it i felt scared, worried and ashamed of myself as i thought i should of done something.But gladly someone else went up a rubbed my name off and when the the teacher came back they told the teacher what happened.
Their are people in my life that i love and hate. The first one and me are always told “Aw you are cute together you should be in a relationship!”
IT MAKES ME PISSED!! Me and them are FRIENDS!! The second join class for a little bit of time and then needed to leave and when the teacher told us they left i was shattered and i thought i was not a good enough friend for them but then i was told it was not my folt. The last one just straight up ignored me and that was a problem as i wanted their time and their love but i leave them alone.
Thank you for reading this sorry if it was too long.
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As an infj, this is all so true
I can't help myself but cry watching this video because it felt like someone understand me
To the all Infj out there, stay strong !
I hate that my parents will force me to be extraverted in real life esp interacting with my cousins like I should be the first one to talk to them
little did they know I am super extroverted on the internet 🤪
"I know what's best for you"
"You're too impulsive"
First, I reflect everyday. I'm obsessed on knowing myself and self-control; hence, I know myself. Also, I don't ask help from people so I don't need advice from someone who won't help me when I need them. Also, all decisions I make have a reason. I plan them so long before I act on it.
As a depressed INFJ the "I've had it worse than you" it's me so much. I become so angry, hurt and sad that i end up crying not being able to express myself in words.
Yes, I've encountered all of these in my past. From friends, family members, coworkers...
Oh, I've been called "too sensitive" so many times. It's taken several months worth of therapy and reassurance from friends to learn to accept my feelings without judgement. I've also learned that my sensitivity gives me insight that a lot of other people seem to not notice until I point it out to them.
One of my brothers is one of those narcissistic types who lives by "just wing it" for every facet of his life. When he came back home, he'd push those ideals onto me, who relied heavily on structure and predictable outcomes to feel comfortable. Of course, he didn't respect that about me, and constantly challenged it, to the point it drove him to explosive anger from me struggling to adapt to "his way".
The one that wounds me the worst is "you should be ashamed of yourself". That line of thinking causes me to recede into my shell very reliably. Whether it was dealing with an upset manager over a simple mistake on my part, or trying to be open and honest about facets of myself when trying to make friends, I'd always recede into my head in those situations. Going full introvert and closing off the world around me from feeling the shame and embarrassment wash over me. I've been shamed for being a furry, a tech geek, my gender and sexuality... The list goes on and on, and every time, I'd just recede into my shell.
"Here's some advice" is a guaranteed way to upset me. Especially if the "advice" doesn't even come close to what I'm going through. They usually get just as upset with me for "rejecting their advice" when I explain how it doesn't help, and I grow frustrated as the conversation devolves from talking about my problems to what they think will "fix" my problems.
When I'm feeling down and depressed, my mom likes to say the "I've had it worse than you" one, in a long-winded roundabout way. Every time, I get upset with her, and she spits back "you just need perspective to realize your life isn't that bad. I'd kill to have your life when I was growing up." She doesn't seem to understand why saying these things upsets me so much.
"Can you be more practical?" Or "I wish you'd grow up" as my dad put it. It's not that I don't know how to do the chores around the house, or that I lack motivation or lack the skills to prioritize effectively, it's that I'm stuck in my head quite often, lost in my imaginative world with a disconnect from reality for several hours at a time. Still though, my parents keep pushing more and more responsibilities onto me, and get upset with me when I lose track and forget to do them, since I'm so engrossed in what I'm thinking about.
"But that's how we have always done things..." Yep, I've dealt with this too. I have a tendency to do tasks in my way, since I actually give thought to how to do the task more efficiently. It comes to a head when my mom wants me to clean something a certain way, and I ask "why" every time. She usually gets impatient with me and just goes "just do it my way" instead of taking the time to explain why her way is better, or is willing to consider how my way of doing it is easier. Same thing happens at work, where sometimes my input is considered, and other times it's rejected because it goes against corporate policies that were set from higher up.
Can you do a video with the different types of INFJs ?
There are many INFJs that are mistyped with other mbtis like INFP, INTP, ISTJ
For being a "rare mbti" many people who are really INFJs end up not believing and taking other MBTIs.
Idk, but I took the test twice, once I got ISFP and the other time I got INFJ, I don't what am I. But what they mentioned here applies to me to a hell of a level. Except that I myself say "let's wing it" when it isn't something that would end up in serious consequences
If i wanna know about these Personality types, i visit Frank James' Channel, he is very detailed about it. Also, funny :)
@@valis3363 I had the same thing, for a long time I thought I was an INFP until I found out that I was actually a 4w5 INFJ and that's why I got confused for so long, for you to be absolutely sure of your MBTI, it's better take the ennagram test too.
THANK U FOR MAKING THIS OMG TIME TO SEND IT TO EVERYONE I KNOW NOW
Hey if you have a crush and they like you back, but then you loose all feelings for them, what could be the reason for that?
I have this same question-
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Could be that he/she did something incompatible with you, small talks a lot, likes things you dont, her/his mind isnt capable of understanding you, there could be a lot of options (assuming you are INFJ).
The intentions could also be incorrect...
Maybe that they bore you lol
@Oliver Erz I'm INFJ myself, and those i mentioned are usually the issues we face for having a rather complex mind. It's hard to find someone that can fully understand us because our inner world is uh... Strange... to say the least. So, if we see signs of small talk or simple minded people, we tend to get bored and/or lose all interest.
In my case, only one person manages to understand my inner world, and she is INFP :)
Bold of you to assume I'm going to ask someone what their personality type is before I start verbally tearing them a new one.
Waiting for such list of ENTJ, ETA: *none*
Yes... I am waithing for Isfp.... too
@@machalatte3 you have right...
@Oliver Erz yes its true but we are humans too... I like to see more mbti types ( I have a lot of friends) . I am an introvert with a lot of friends.
@@PurpleMysticBlueberry due to intuitive bias i doubt that will happen