Me: oh yeah, I’m totally an INFJ Also me: watches every single “Are you an INFJ?” video because I need to be constantly reassured and validated or else I think I’m faking my own personality
@@Cvandyful as an ISTP, I admit, I said this to xNFx’s. Why make social and personal situations difficult with trying to dive deep and reading into implications-
@@Laura-YuI'm never angry about it. I am frustrated and also always reminding myself to be gracious. It is likely true that I understand them more than they do me. Thanks for the interaction.
Did any other INFJ’s get told that they were pretty mature for their age when they were younger? I feel like since INFJ’s are practically social chameleons, I had an easy time talking to both the adults and the kids without ever being able to actually fit in with either of them.
Don't worry, being the rarest personality type isn't as cool as other types think. Being rarest also means being rarely understood. So, be happy with what you are. - An INFJ
Long before I knew my type, I liked the fact that I am somewhat different and original. Although it often came with many problems, I wouldn't change it. I always thought - better that some people don't get me and my values than go against my values and feel bad about it just because someone failed to understand the bigger picture. My values are my values and if you don't like it, you know where the backside of the door is.
Me an INFJ, reading all the comments so that I can relate to people and assure myself that there are people who go through the same situation and feel the same as myself. Phew!
No way, I was going to cmmt this. Why is this whole cmmt section so relatable ?! Am I really an INFJ as the test says and the cmmts I can relate or this is just a conspiracy of humans to tell basic human traits and trick people into believing they are Infj ?
Right? I made the test several times and watched videos about it and really could relate but at the same time I'm like "nah I don't know if I do this" or "this character trait isn't that distinctive" So on the one hand I feel finally understood, but on the other hand I question it every time because I am unsure if it fits 100%
@@blackcat6374 the first time I took the test, I got ESTP 😱😱😱 Then I got ENFJ, then INTJ. But after truly listening to myself, I finally got INFJ 😁😁😁😁😁
INFJs be like: anxiously planning unimportant tasks, yet not having the perfect plan to achieve their goals, they have a vision though. Just things come up... You know.
I’d rather be any other type. It sucks so bad for so many reasons and I’m not just saying that to sound edgy. Anybody wishing they were INFJ to be “rare” or whatever is because they don’t understand the significant drawbacks that are included.
True that, I was deeply disappointed finding out, I wanted to be an INTP or INTJ instead 😞 Maybe, because I just dislike some of my traits like the confirmation thingy 😅
When I first found out I was INFJ, i was MAD 😂 i was like "i don't want to be different!" I also felt left out and like no one understood me cause of something else, then only to found out that I was the world's "rarest personality type"?? Yeah, that didn't sit well with me
@@NocturnalCachalot LMAO same 😂 Then took a test (on 16personalities off course 😂) and got INFP, I was like OK, the description is kinda me. I didn't bother until two years later I was like let me redo it for fun, and somehow got INFJ. I came to know people get mistyped as INFJ on that site hence proceeded doing tests on other sites too, I keep getting INFJ, INFP or INTJ. I somehow found this channel and I have never felt so exposed since then due to how much I relate to stuff on the INFJ videos, I also checked the cognitive functions but like in my head I'm still looking for that confirmation that it really is my type😂
Pull the iconic "i really wanna stay, trust me, like I REALLY WANNA stay, i wanna stay so bad that I REPEAT AND EMPHASIZE HOW MUCH I WISH TO STAY, but oh bummer- I have this excuse I iust came up with on the spot to escape this social situation and I really must go k bye-"
This is funny because I got instagram recently, and people from all my different social groups are following me and I'm not sure what to post that will appeal to all of them
I really think we should say “the least common personality type,” because soooo many people in online groups latch on to the word RARE. They wear it like an elitist badge of honor. “I have the rarest personality type therefore I’m special.” Which, honestly, doesn’t seem like a very INFJ thing to do.
True I mean being infj isn't that cool and special as others think. It is just the least common and one of mbti types. Every mbti personality has its unique strengths and weaknesses.
As an INFJ I feel the pressure of being the RAREST type, and I'm like "I don't know if I am that special" "what if I am faking my entire personality" so this video made me really really happy and more relaxed, thanks Frank P.S I did do the test I'm no just saying that I am an INFJ.
Sometimes it helps us to sleep at nights telling to ourselves that how "cool" and rare we are, and sometimes those same things keep us at nights. It's a double edged sword.
@XxkittystickerzxX Yes! Most "INFJs" are not INFJs. Many of them seem to lack Ti-logic to easily see "why it is the case" that there are so many INFJs in these "circles". It is blatantly obvious.
Lol, that's so true. But I know for a fact that I'm an INFJ cause I did multiple personality type quizzes personally over a large span of time, and I also did a couple for work/school related, and in specialised psychological testing.
Wow me too! I'm a strange creative graphic designer who's strangely into spreadsheets and databases. I even taught the payroll officer a thing or two XD.
Hey, if you haven't heard of Notion.so, then you're in for a treat!!! Databases, note taking, lists, you name it. I use this thing every single day for every aspect of my life 😍
I think the hardest thing about being an INFJ is the amount of alone time needed-I mean HOW do we even function in families, the work place, and society if we mostly avoid socializing 🙈 then when we do socialize we care too much and get Insta-drained
I have a family member who at the least is an extreme introvert. They never smile, rarely laugh, uaually a straight zombie face. No emotion.I find it draining. Reminds me of autism. Thing is. It doesn’t take much for them to be drained AT ALL. It’s strange. Though I do try and understand it. Seems lonely to me. But, 🤷♀️.
Man I skip all social situations, including family events. I don't know how to act, then overthinking how people negatively thinks of me, how to act in a way I can prove them wrong. Then I just get anxiety and decide to fake some emergency and skip it all together
@@nndlovu1878 yeah I can see that. The appeal of being "unigue" and "rare" - this is why some people want to identify as an INFJ but in reality, there is only one YOU in the world and, no matter how many people share the same qualities...no one else can be YOU. For me it's like - every personality type is beautiful in it's own way. Imagine if everyone in the world had the same personality type...chaos, mankind today would literally cease to exist. Every personality type has something incredibly valuable to offer the world. Each comes with a slightly different way of learning new information, seeing the world, making decisions, and interacting with others. And that means that we each have the potential to positively impact the world in different ways.
@@sunnymorning228 While I've always wondered what it would be like to be crammed into a room with a bunch of other INFJ's, you're correct in saying that each and every personality type is important and brings something new to this world! We need different perspectives and unique qualities to expand the dynamics of society. Well said.
Mann nobody wants this, they talk behind our backs but wont dare say it to our face, alphas rallying the group against us. Then we have to assert our dominance using logic and ethics.
as an INFJ i reallllly relate to over-planning. i literally have specific times for certain things. i start work at 3:45, so i park my car at 3:35, wait until 3:39 to get ready to leave, get out my car at 3:41, walk to a specific part of the road until 3:43, and then i enter work. like wtf is wrong with me?? i take being an INFJ to another level sometimes.
Omg, I completely understand you. I have a time for everything I do, (when I'm at home though, I just don't care but this can be also because currently I have too much free time), but when I was studying I had even the time to do "nothing" planned.
NO I DO THAT TOOO. I just feel the urge to schedule my routine and WRITE A TO DO LIST. If i have lots of things to do, i like to break it down so that its easier and seems more "doable". If i dont make a to do list, ill panic on what i should do first because maybe A is much more efficient at this time but B is much easier to do! Planning my friend PLANNING IS KEY.
@@okplay9446 except there always are, specially when it happened multiple times before "No, thing X doesn't mean Y, you are being crazy" "yeah? And why did you do thing X _again_ after these several other occasions? We already talked about it, there must be a reason and Y makes sense, what is it then?"
Which doubles down as a good example of giving bad examples you see. Unintentional yeah but that's what gets the most laughs out of people I've seen. You dont mean it to be funny but for them it's actually funny.
I think a toaster wasn't the best example - as I don't perceive toasters as having a qualitative function, with toasters either it works or it doesn't. I wanted to buy a gaming chair however and was more swayed by the reviews telling me how much they loved it than necessarily a run down of its features.
INTJs maybe 😂 my husband prefers reviews like this because "I don't need my toaster to make coffee and do my taxes, I just need it to make toast. It doesn't have to be the best, toast is toast."
@@Emily-mv4cx my dad was an ISTP and that’s exactly him. Even buying a real Christmas tree when I was a kid… He would point at a tree and say let’s get this one. It was as if he was saying, hey this one has needles, it’ll do, and it’s green. LoL never mind what we kids wanted 🌲
I've taken 3 personality tests and got INFJ every time and I hear being a woman and an INFJ is even more rare... I have mixed feelings about this but its comforting to hear someone describe ..exactly who I am and say "we" .. it makes me feel understood and not so alone, its nice 🙂 thanks
Bring INFJ, had to do switch my mindset for when at work in comparison to my normal life. When geared to personal life, come out as INFJ every time. When forced to talk to others in a work setting, I wear an ENFP mask. There might be a lot of ENFP’s out there that are actually INFJ, if they switch their thinking to regular life, and not working life.
I'm an INFJ and I've dated at least 3 INFJs so I've always been skeptical of how rare we are...or we just have an innate ability to find each other, or...(cue the over-analyzing process).
I tried out improv theatre, and it was really really difficult, but also So much fun! And now I'm better at being spontaneous and thinking on my feet, so it's definitely possible to improve it though!
I've taken the MBTI test so many times and I get both INFJ INTJ and thats because I believe that its important to understand when you need to think logically and when feeling is better. Because sometimes emotion can only get in the way of making a decision. On the other hand it can also be one sided if you only think logically. And I need to have both sides in order to make a decision that I can be sure that I am making the right decision.
Same... but what gets me is I go and read the INTJ personality and I can't relate to it as much as the INFJ one. So that tends to give me more reassurance... and I say that yet here I am watching this video to gain more validation :)
I do agree with you that sometimes when making decisions, one has to figure out the best approach. Sometimes T decisions will not work for F problems. If someone you love hurt you deeply, all the rationality in the world won't help fix it. You need either an apology or an infj door slam to fix it imho. I hate when T say, just get over it. Or you're too sensative. Try a little tenderness and sympathy. When F is hurting, "you're too sensative", just makes you sound like an A hole.
Oh! Now I feel like a failed INFJ! I would get stressed by keeping notes. I can't even keep a diary because I feel too much pressure to communicate my thoughts with it. I'd write what I think my diary would 'want' to hear. 😂
“Reality isn’t happening so much in the outside world, but in my inner understanding of the outside world“ woah I’ve never heard such a great description of the reality I’m experiencing!
"They tend to act differently depending on who they're around." Me, just realising why I feel like I'm acting differently with some of my friends compared to others: 😳 IT ALL MAKES SENSE NOW
Ikr, I've been told I'm acting like my cousin after spending some time with her and only recently I've come to realisation that It might be the cameleon effect.. And now when reading your comment I've also realised that I act differently around my cousin and my friend too.
I’m an INFJ, but I don’t think it’s important how “rare” someone’s personality is. I’m the type of person who has a soft spot for literally everyone, so as long as they’re a good person, rare or otherwise, I’m chill with whoever. Everyone’s important no matter their four letter personality type
I agree with you. Being an INFJ doesn't mean you're on top of the world and people claiming "lololol im the rarest type say respect to me bro" just make me tired. I mean, I have no problem with INFJ but those, well, are just cringy af. Considering INTJ are the most uncommon type by now.
“Even if you feel weird, and that nobody can relate to you... you’re not alone and you’re not broken somehow...” Wow! I wasn’t expecting to get emotional at the end of the video. Lol Thank you for those encouraging words of wisdom. Great video (as always)!
It's not that I feel like I don't know who I am, it's just that sometimes I feel like a walking contradiction, and the contradictions all make sense in the context they are expressed in. Now, the fakeness can be real. Often I pretend to care when I just don't give a shit. However, if I somehow make a personal connection with someone, I care too much. There's the walking contradiction again. Damnit.
“infjs are social chameleons” “focused on how they need to act around other people in order to put everyone at ease/fit in” “shape shift in order to get along with others” *alexa play mirrorball by taylor swift!*
Yeah this explains everything. I thought I am not an INFJ because I do this a lot. I thought Im a half extro then these lines hits me. And that was the time I admit, Im infj haha
I always described myself as a “floater” in high school. I didn’t have a group, I had a friend in every group.. I could always fit in wherever. Often times I didn’t want to fit in anywhere though. I didn’t want to be committed to a friend group
Yeah same like just couldn't connect with people felt almost older than people in some ways like some of my friends friends were talking about doing stuff and I would be like I can see where this is going and it isn't going to end good so just never joined in with it like house parties and that sort of thing.
As an INFJ i found out I can make poems, hence I made a poem to all the other INFJs out there: My Self esteem is so down, you can't even see the ground My Ego is do high, I can't even see the sky but the combination of both is nevertheless as a heartless composition of I - N - F - J - S (INFJs)
So you’re saying my spontaneous plan to go hiking with my dog at 6am this Saturday in hopes of not running into anyone who’ll try to start a conversation with me isn’t actually spontaneous?
I'm glad I re-watched this video. I've been in a bit of a personality type crisis. I've doubted myself a little bit because you hear how often the infj is mistyped or how rare it is. On top of that it's also easy to self type incorrectly because you do chameleon so much. It always stresses me out in these comments sections when people seem so confident about what type they are. I feel like I'm better at guessing other people's types then understanding my own. But this video, everything you list, struck me as true.
I hate when I visit people at new places and can't find a good place to park ahead of time. Had a situation where I drove 7hrs to another state and didn't get the address until I was on my way. I was so nerve racked for where I was going to park. Which was not fun while driving 7hrs by myself.
I recently discovered that I've been an INFJ my whole life, but I thought I was extroverted because I wasn't afraid to socialize with others. I always felt like I was being dramatic for feeling like no one understood me, but now I know I'm rare...which doesn't really help me lol
How other people feel vs. how I feel when making decisions is my biggest issue. I'll make decisions based on how other people feel/will feel and end up suffering in silence
I did this all the time and I still do. But somehow I learned to put myself first (at least in some situations) and it gets easier with time. Nevertheless whenever I do it I am still wondering how other people feel about it. I guess you can never shut it off completely just learn to live with it (which is totally fine)
7:10 OMG YES. Everytime I found something I find interesting, I feel the NEED to tell and talk about it with someone, I just love explainig everything to everyone lol. Especially theories about things like movies or series or whatever, and just silly fats about animals lol
when i got into mbti recently i wanted to tell everyone about it, but knowing it wouldnt fit into the conversation at all, i just kept it to myself :( made me really sad
Very true! I am glad my parents and friends listen to me ramble on about weird things I heard in a youtube video. It is also weird being the introvert in class raising your hand to input your "connection trees" of what y'all just learned just to get validation that you actually are learning the right thing. Please tell me this comment makes sense.
The, "Who am I...really?" Question can be answered in part by asking which types of friends do you enjoy hanging out with the most. It can better be answered by periodically isolating yourself for a few days or weeks and finding out what you do for fun on your own, instead of being influenced by what everyone else enjoys. What types of books do you pick out for yourself? What movies/UA-cam videos do you watch? What music do you listen to? What do you think about? The hard thing is that while I'm drained so darn quick (like two hours is plenty guys, no we really don't need to find another activity to do) I'm also highly social. Can any other INFJs tell me if they're also constantly torn between, "I wanna hang out with my favorite people all the time!" And, "Wow I'm so tired. Where's the bed??"
Since I started watching this channel I understand myself more than I ever did and as an INFJ you know I naturally spend too much time trying to understand myself everyday already. The overplanning for every small mundane task is a huge part of my life and I wasn't even that aware of how unusual it is until I heard Frank talk about it for the first time.
I'm an INFJ and my sister is an ESFP. She was always making me do stuff spur of the moment and it stressed me out. Now, however, we have a great system. I plan our elaborate vacations and book all the hotels and activities months in advance. And then once we arrive, I sit back and she figures out where we eat and what to do in the downtime (I've learned to leave *shudder* hours blank on the schedule so she can drag me on adventures)
Well if it is the rarest, then the 3k people who have commented out of the 7B+ people in the world, it means theres a 1 in 2,333,333.33 chance that you'll meet one of them.
We really are bad at giving examples, huh? A while ago I was talking to my friend about some stuff I was going through emotionally. After I realised I was unloading a bunch of abstract crap on her, I said "i can give you an example if you're confused". And she said "yes please". And it took me so long to find a real life situation to apply to what I had been talking about... I even got confused just thinking about it.
yooooo i had the same problem too when i tried to talk to the psychiatrists about what i feel and how i feel usually, but then they always ask "what kind of situatione that make you feel like that/what did you do? can you give us some examples?)" and i was there like uhhhhh you think i can reflect the details on what actually happened back then on the spot?? explaining how i feel is already difficult enough for me???? aaand yeah of course i got misdiagnosed. like twice already i'm not even surprised at this point
The problem is only 30% of the population understands abstract thinking. 70% are concrete thinkers. Just try using a story to tell what you mean. You know,like jesus did. Oh yeah that didnt understand him either 🤷♂️
That explaining part hit me so hard. It happened once when I was explaining something specific in concept to my friend but when she asked about examples it all got messed up, the convo was getting messier and wider 😂
As an INFJ, I can’t tell if my personality and ADHD are friends or enemies🤔 And that point about not knowing who you really are: Those personality tests are so difficult when you feel that your answers will depend on the circumstances. Like, I have to choose both options!
Being an INFJ with ADHD,OCD,dyslexia and having Aspergers is a shit show for myself! Every one of them want to put in their 2 cents on every situation! Overthinking is an understatement! Door mat? More like an oriental rug for people! My house is sparkling and extremely inviting though! I have nothing because I give everything away including all of my time! Well, I used to but now I've become even more introverted and now that I'm older my intuition is off the charts and so many people can't stand my personality,I see in them that it's nothing but jealousy though and that makes me enjoy my alone time even more!! I literally feel and see either good or evil ooze out of people!! I read people thoughts before they even have them. My resting bitch face doesn't change from what it is most of the time. People think I always look mad but that rarely happens. I'm so glad to finally know that I am not alone in this universe!! I just wish I could meet more people like me, even one person like me but since there's actually less than 1.5% of us in the world and I haven't met one other infj in 40 years, I doubt I will but it would be a dream come true to finally have someone that shares the same thoughrs,feelings, wants&needs without having to be a chameleon, bored or disgusted by narcissistic egotistical people that suck my energy and then up that use&abuse me then leave me for dead, honestly hoping for that to happen without a care in the world or for the world. The world is run by a bunch of narcissists but through the ascension process, the infjs are Rising Up,realizing our true potential and purpose and will take over the wrongfully placed power,turn it around and make this world a much better place! That's why we are here! We are going to save humanity as a whole! What you think becomes reality! Stay positive, make friends with your intuition and learn to sharpen it like a knife and beware the evilness that will try to destroy you! Facts! Peace,love and power to the people! Shine on INFJ's, angels,watchers, starseeds,healers,empaths, good people! Peace on earth and good will to men is here and now! Shine bright superstars, shine bright! 😇🙏
few weeks back, im crying after I arguing with my family about the dangerous of plastic straws and they legit just laughed in my face 🥴 being infj it's fascinating and hurts at the same time, i take things too seriously it suck
It's really difficult at times to be an INFJ. Sometimes I just want to fit in without all the strategical thinking it involves, just to interact in a social setting.
"You're not alone and you're not broken somehow. You have something unique to offer the world, don't forget that." His way of ending this video comforts me.
I thought I'm mistyped (even if I can relate with pretty much all of these) but I just did another test (my 3rd ) and still gets INFJ, so yea pretty sure I'm an INFJ
16personalities has their own... definition for the types? It’s not like pure Myers Briggs. if people really cared about the actual MBTI types they’d study cognitive functions. So I don’t think 16personalities necessarily mistypes people, it’s just not the same... as... MBTI...
The giving examples part killed me. I was wondering to myself one day why I have a hard time sharing stories at parties... I just don't have one I can pull off the top of my head, unless I'd rehearsed it for the specific purpose of telling it at parties. I much prefer talking about the meaning of life. Lol!
@@yurisurran9869 "Am I really INFJ even though my life experiences and these videos talk about all the things I have been through?" "I guess so, but there's always that chance I'm not INFJ"
Omg, I'm totally cracking up over the planning "Chipotle" analogy. Best ever insight to the INFJ, that's me. Before I go to any restaurant, I Google the menu, choose what I want, lol at the parking lot, etc. 🤣🤣🤣
11. You describe your mind and personality using examples by Frank James... Just to save energy and to finally enjoy what it feels like to be understood! Ahahha greetings from Italy! 😀😀🇮🇹
I've been taking LOTS of 16 personalities test and I keep getting different results. Seeing this I've never felt so accomplished and so relating. I always ask my close friends how and what I do and how they see me when I do things lol because I always tell them there are things about me that only those people around me can define because I can't really tell
“This makes INFJs very routine oriented” Pfft that’s not me “When the iPhone updates its operating system, an INFJ might have a brief panic attack” *holding a 4-year old phone which has missed at least 3 software updates* Roasted
Somewhat the same as mine, 4 year old phone, to me it feels fine but when my mum uses it, she asks me Why is your phone so slow? And stuff like that...
You’ve got that example thing right. I hate job interviews when they say , “ Tell me a time when thus and so happened and how did you handle it? Or, “ You’re in a specific situation. How do you respond?” ( My mind : who’s involved?do I know them? Are we friends or just coworkers? etc.etc.etc.).😳
I guess I will always be: Yes, I am INFJ, 100% accurate. About an hour later: Analyzing everything to make sure I didn't miss anything and possibly not being INFJ
me: **watches stuff about isfj** me: oh that sounds like me haha also me: **watches stuff about infj** me: oh that sounds like me too _[confused screaming]_
Well, people arent exclusively typed by one MBTI type only so ppl tend to shift(?) types. The type that were given by the test is just the type we tend to be like. Like we arent limited to one type only. Am i making sense? Sorry im not very good with words
@Rose Marian That's literally an INFJ thing, thinking we're wrong and that we're another personality type, and constantly re-taking MBTI tests to prove you're not an INFJ and then you're still an INFJ lol
Struggling to follow my inner compass definitely hits home. When I tell someone about something I want to do, it's rarely met with excitement. It makes me feel I'm disappointing others and I avoid chasing what I actually want
"They will over plan, even something as simple as going to Chipotle" Urgh not me looking at the menu at home and deciding what I want before I go into any restaurant ever 😅 Another thing I guess that goes along with the over planning is basically because we don't like to be caught off guard because it leads to panic. Like being thrust into a new physical environment or meeting a new group of people or trying a new activity you've never done often doesn't seem like "an exciting new adventure" but rather anxiety and panic at not knowing what to do and how to act but if you had planned it then maybe you would.
Ugh, as a INFJ with bad eyesight I relate to this too much. I will look up directions, menus, prices, everything before hand because I worry I’ll freeze up on the spot or not be able to see the menu. Don’t wanna waste people’s time or my time!!
I've already known that I'm an INFJ for almost a year now (shout out to my INFP acquaintance for introducing me to MBTI), so instead of seeing if I relate to these signs, I'm just imagining all of the baby INFJs watching this, nodding along and getting excited. Hello, baby INFJs, and INFPs who think that they are INFJs 💛
your words at the end made my eyes water. ive always felt wierd, different, misunderstood, and broken. since i was a child ive felt this way. i have always thought too much, felt too much, just im too much. and listening to you shows me im not alone, and reading the comments too.
I am so confused by myself but I'm more confused that people can't understand me as I understand them and it's too disappointing. I feel that whenever I meet someone new in my life, I just have to send them this video for them to get to know me better 🤷🏼♀️
The few friends I had used to call me weird when I was young, but now I get it. I still feel like I don't fit in literally anywhere! Every time I hit it off with anyone, I'm always thinking about how they'll bolt when they find out the "real" me. These videos have been very insightful, thanks.
You hit the nail on the head with this one. But as I've gotten older, I've started to avoid social interaction as much as possible. Just too exhausting. Do I mind being alone most of the time? Hell no. After losing my wife to cancer, I'm convinced that I'm not going to find someone that understands me and my quirks. That and I just don't feel it's worth the effort to get to know someone else at this stage in my life. I've even narrowed my social circle down to just one, and he seems to have the same problems navigating life as I do.
Oh my gosh the thing you said about using intuition instead of facts to draw conclusions is sooooo true. Writing English essays is so hard for me because I love reading and finding theme and stuff, but then I'm expected to explain where that theme came from. You want specific examples? I don't know! I just got the vibes. Any examples I might find would be vague at best because I'm reading into everything so much.
I was shocked at the "asking for permission" part, but I also just spent two weeks asking anyone around me what they think about me subscribing to the gym.
INFJ's : the rarest personality type, who , by the way, have more videos made about them and more blogs and articles written about them than any other type.
The videos are made by INFJ's because they felt different, misunderstood and searched for answers why are they like this, then wanted to explain their personality to the rest of the world, to feel more understood. Not all of the other personalities searched for answers about their personality.
us infjs should band together and psychologically analyze eachother so we don't have to do it for ourselves, while also getting to dissect other people's brains. it's a win-win any way i see it
Me: oh yeah, I’m totally an INFJ
Also me: watches every single “Are you an INFJ?” video because I need to be constantly reassured and validated or else I think I’m faking my own personality
Oh no this is too real xd can relate
I can relate to this so much!!!!!
Yeh, it's like taking a test hundred times it's not enough, we NEED have 100% sure.
Hahaha same!
If there is room for overthinking we gonna do it
Being an INFJ is being aware of everything all the time, and seeing how other people ignore all of it. It's frustrating.
Being an INFJ: Always being told I read too much into everything.
Ugh yesss. Both irritating and sad to see others have such poor insight into their own actions. Then to have to watch the aftermath unfold, too 🤦🏻♀️
@@Cvandyful as an ISTP, I admit, I said this to xNFx’s. Why make social and personal situations difficult with trying to dive deep and reading into implications-
@@Laura-YuI'm never angry about it. I am frustrated and also always reminding myself to be gracious. It is likely true that I understand them more than they do me. Thanks for the interaction.
This pandemic is the MOST FRUSTRATING AND REAL example of this and I want it to over please.
Did any other INFJ’s get told that they were pretty mature for their age when they were younger? I feel like since INFJ’s are practically social chameleons, I had an easy time talking to both the adults and the kids without ever being able to actually fit in with either of them.
Got this a lot tho
Multiple times
Yes, for sure. Some people would say,"your an old soul for your age". I would think, "um, I guess thats ok- hmm."
I was told I seemed like a 40yr old when I was just 24 👍
Yessss!
Hey fellow INFJs, i know you're overthinking right now
Hahaha. Correct.
you got me!
You got me there
Yep
So true hahahaha
Don't worry, being the rarest personality type isn't as cool as other types think. Being rarest also means being rarely understood. So, be happy with what you are.
- An INFJ
Long before I knew my type, I liked the fact that I am somewhat different and original. Although it often came with many problems, I wouldn't change it. I always thought - better that some people don't get me and my values than go against my values and feel bad about it just because someone failed to understand the bigger picture. My values are my values and if you don't like it, you know where the backside of the door is.
@@PriHL you sound like an infp
@@sikai385 I have about 0 "P" in me. Definitely INFJ, and "J" af.
As an INFJ, I can confirm.
Exactly what I be thinking 😔
Me an INFJ, reading all the comments so that I can relate to people and assure myself that there are people who go through the same situation and feel the same as myself. Phew!
Apn indians h na isliye.
Holy relatable 😆
True
No way, I was going to cmmt this. Why is this whole cmmt section so relatable ?! Am I really an INFJ as the test says and the cmmts I can relate or this is just a conspiracy of humans to tell basic human traits and trick people into believing they are Infj ?
Same😵
Me: I know I'm an INFJ
Also me: Am I really an INFJ?
Same
Right? I made the test several times and watched videos about it and really could relate but at the same time I'm like "nah I don't know if I do this" or "this character trait isn't that distinctive"
So on the one hand I feel finally understood, but on the other hand I question it every time because I am unsure if it fits 100%
Me every two weeks:
Until this moment I have believed that instead of an INFJ I might be an: INTJ, INTP, INFP, and ENFJ
@@blackcat6374 lol same
@@blackcat6374 the first time I took the test, I got ESTP 😱😱😱 Then I got ENFJ, then INTJ. But after truly listening to myself, I finally got INFJ 😁😁😁😁😁
INFJs be like: anxiously planning unimportant tasks, yet not having the perfect plan to achieve their goals, they have a vision though. Just things come up... You know.
Yeah seems about right
Te is the true planner I think.. not that Ni Ti can't.. Te is all about execution and also "anything that works".. it's the HOW
@@cass8330 I'm a bit relieved to hear that
Truth
"I'm in this comments...and I liked"
INFJs don’t actually think they’re INFJs 😂
yes
I can relate. I want to stay as an INFJ but I have to take at least 2 or 3 Tests a week to make sure I'm still an INFJ
@@TheBoardOfAlphas you are right .... I do the same thing too
I have taken MBTI test 4 time and every time i got INFJ but still have a doubt!! 😂
@@TheBoardOfAlphas LMFAO
or another title, ‘being called out for 12 minutes straight’
yeahh lol
Same
ua-cam.com/video/CPl14Olcze0/v-deo.html🙏👍
I feel you
Hahaha for real
Another sign: you don't really feel good about being an INFJ.
I’d rather be any other type. It sucks so bad for so many reasons and I’m not just saying that to sound edgy. Anybody wishing they were INFJ to be “rare” or whatever is because they don’t understand the significant drawbacks that are included.
I would say that is one of the first signs. Fi critic is a real hag.
True that, I was deeply disappointed finding out, I wanted to be an INTP or INTJ instead 😞
Maybe, because I just dislike some of my traits like the confirmation thingy 😅
When I first found out I was INFJ, i was MAD 😂 i was like "i don't want to be different!" I also felt left out and like no one understood me cause of something else, then only to found out that I was the world's "rarest personality type"?? Yeah, that didn't sit well with me
@@NocturnalCachalot LMAO same 😂
Then took a test (on 16personalities off course 😂) and got INFP, I was like OK, the description is kinda me. I didn't bother until two years later I was like let me redo it for fun, and somehow got INFJ. I came to know people get mistyped as INFJ on that site hence proceeded doing tests on other sites too, I keep getting INFJ, INFP or INTJ. I somehow found this channel and I have never felt so exposed since then due to how much I relate to stuff on the INFJ videos, I also checked the cognitive functions but like in my head I'm still looking for that confirmation that it really is my type😂
"You are not alone. You are not broken somehow. You have something unique to offer." 😭
Thank you 🥺
Yea, but what exactly?
True
I see happu to see these comments
@@eddyhypnotizer2481 My thoughts exactly!
i felt this too
Thank you. 😭💔🙏🏼
That awkward moment when your separate friend groups meet for the first time and you don't know how to act because you're a social chameleon 😅
Just slowly walk away.
@@FlashBangBANGz ..and watch the explosion from a distance?
Pull the iconic "i really wanna stay, trust me, like I REALLY WANNA stay, i wanna stay so bad that I REPEAT AND EMPHASIZE HOW MUCH I WISH TO STAY, but oh bummer- I have this excuse I iust came up with on the spot to escape this social situation and I really must go k bye-"
This is funny because I got instagram recently, and people from all my different social groups are following me and I'm not sure what to post that will appeal to all of them
IKR!!
I really think we should say “the least common personality type,” because soooo many people in online groups latch on to the word RARE. They wear it like an elitist badge of honor. “I have the rarest personality type therefore I’m special.” Which, honestly, doesn’t seem like a very INFJ thing to do.
The truth is that no one is special in this world. We are all in the same boat.
True I mean being infj isn't that cool and special as others think. It is just the least common and one of mbti types. Every mbti personality has its unique strengths and weaknesses.
Finally. Rare does not mean useful
Being the least common is pretty lonely too
@@celmoon5024 I disagree. The truth is that everyone is special in this world in their own way, shape and form.
As an INFJ I feel the pressure of being the RAREST type, and I'm like "I don't know if I am that special" "what if I am faking my entire personality" so this video made me really really happy and more relaxed, thanks Frank
P.S I did do the test I'm no just saying that I am an INFJ.
Sometimes it helps us to sleep at nights telling to ourselves that how "cool" and rare we are, and sometimes those same things keep us at nights. It's a double edged sword.
@@dinkin_flicka14 Exactly, it's really weird how much can a little personality test make our heads
EXACTLY
It feels like a responsibility God-
I feel u
SAMMMMMMMMMEE
INFJ’s are so rare
everyone: I’M AN INFJ
...
Maybe we tend to attract each other 🤷🏻♀️:)
This should easily be logically figured out as to why that seems to be the case.
😂🤣😂
@XxkittystickerzxX Yes! Most "INFJs" are not INFJs. Many of them seem to lack Ti-logic to easily see "why it is the case" that there are so many INFJs in these "circles". It is blatantly obvious.
It’s funny how u know me better than most people..
Damn, that hits hard
True it felt like I was getting dragged.
You know people?!
Ikr like literally
When a 13 minute youtube video explains how you are better than you ever could lol...
“I can be spontaneous if I planned for it” is the perfect description
*INFJ is the rarest personality type*
Everyone: You know, I am something of an INFJ myself.
Its getting annoying. I'm confused if I'm an INFJ now..
Lol, that's so true. But I know for a fact that I'm an INFJ cause I did multiple personality type quizzes personally over a large span of time, and I also did a couple for work/school related, and in specialised psychological testing.
Not me I'm an ENFJ 😏
cmon we searched for this.
@@ezriquinn6706 eyyyyy enfj squad
“INFJs tend to overplan” - hmmm that explains my crazy spreadsheeting all of the time. I love me a spreadsheet 💕
Wow me too! I'm a strange creative graphic designer who's strangely into spreadsheets and databases. I even taught the payroll officer a thing or two XD.
Or lists of lists, lol
ua-cam.com/video/CPl14Olcze0/v-deo.html. 👍🙏
@@Z-LightfulMemories i came here to also reply lists lol!!
Hey, if you haven't heard of Notion.so, then you're in for a treat!!! Databases, note taking, lists, you name it. I use this thing every single day for every aspect of my life 😍
I think the hardest thing about being an INFJ is the amount of alone time needed-I mean HOW do we even function in families, the work place, and society if we mostly avoid socializing 🙈 then when we do socialize we care too much and get Insta-drained
I have a family member who at the least is an extreme introvert. They never smile, rarely laugh, uaually a straight zombie face. No emotion.I find it draining. Reminds me of autism. Thing is. It doesn’t take much for them to be drained AT ALL. It’s strange. Though I do try and understand it. Seems lonely to me. But, 🤷♀️.
Man I skip all social situations, including family events. I don't know how to act, then overthinking how people negatively thinks of me, how to act in a way I can prove them wrong. Then I just get anxiety and decide to fake some emergency and skip it all together
Honestly I dont like how overhyped our personality type is.
@@nndlovu1878 yeah I can see that. The appeal of being "unigue" and "rare" - this is why some people want to identify as an INFJ but in reality, there is only one YOU in the world and, no matter how many people share the same qualities...no one else can be YOU.
For me it's like - every personality type is beautiful in it's own way. Imagine if everyone in the world had the same personality type...chaos, mankind today would literally cease to exist. Every personality type has something incredibly valuable to offer the world. Each comes with a slightly different way of learning new information, seeing the world, making decisions, and interacting with others. And that means that we each have the potential to positively impact the world in different ways.
@@sunnymorning228 While I've always wondered what it would be like to be crammed into a room with a bunch of other INFJ's, you're correct in saying that each and every personality type is important and brings something new to this world! We need different perspectives and unique qualities to expand the dynamics of society. Well said.
Ifkr!! And thanks for putting " our". It makes me and others feel included
It doesn't feel rare anymore
Mann nobody wants this, they talk behind our backs but wont dare say it to our face, alphas rallying the group against us. Then we have to assert our dominance using logic and ethics.
I can be spontaneous if I plan for it! 😅😅 sooooo truuuee!!
Yeah, me
the only way to be haha
If this ain’t me 😂😂
as an INFJ i reallllly relate to over-planning. i literally have specific times for certain things. i start work at 3:45, so i park my car at 3:35, wait until 3:39 to get ready to leave, get out my car at 3:41, walk to a specific part of the road until 3:43, and then i enter work. like wtf is wrong with me?? i take being an INFJ to another level sometimes.
I feel seen by this text
Not me showing up to everything at least 15 min early just to sit in my car and wait to be on time...
Omg, I completely understand you. I have a time for everything I do, (when I'm at home though, I just don't care but this can be also because currently I have too much free time), but when I was studying I had even the time to do "nothing" planned.
my friend found my notebook where i made plans like this and the bitch had the audacity to laugh at me
NO I DO THAT TOOO.
I just feel the urge to schedule my routine and WRITE A TO DO LIST. If i have lots of things to do, i like to break it down so that its easier and seems more "doable". If i dont make a to do list, ill panic on what i should do first because maybe A is much more efficient at this time but B is much easier to do! Planning my friend PLANNING IS KEY.
Being an INFJ: People are always telling me I read too much into everything. 💁♀️
Same
My brother often tells me I look for a deeper meaning when there is none to be found
@@okplay9446 except there always are, specially when it happened multiple times before
"No, thing X doesn't mean Y, you are being crazy" "yeah? And why did you do thing X _again_ after these several other occasions? We already talked about it, there must be a reason and Y makes sense, what is it then?"
“This toaster makes toast.” - I don’t think any personality type would be impressed by this kind of review 😂
Which doubles down as a good example of giving bad examples you see. Unintentional yeah but that's what gets the most laughs out of people I've seen. You dont mean it to be funny but for them it's actually funny.
I think a toaster wasn't the best example - as I don't perceive toasters as having a qualitative function, with toasters either it works or it doesn't. I wanted to buy a gaming chair however and was more swayed by the reviews telling me how much they loved it than necessarily a run down of its features.
Actually, for comedic value - some would.
INTJs maybe 😂 my husband prefers reviews like this because "I don't need my toaster to make coffee and do my taxes, I just need it to make toast. It doesn't have to be the best, toast is toast."
@@Emily-mv4cx my dad was an ISTP and that’s exactly him. Even buying a real Christmas tree when I was a kid… He would point at a tree and say let’s get this one. It was as if he was saying, hey this one has needles, it’ll do, and it’s green. LoL never mind what we kids wanted 🌲
I've taken 3 personality tests and got INFJ every time and I hear being a woman and an INFJ is even more rare... I have mixed feelings about this but its comforting to hear someone describe ..exactly who I am and say "we" .. it makes me feel understood and not so alone, its nice 🙂 thanks
Bring INFJ, had to do switch my mindset for when at work in comparison to my normal life. When geared to personal life, come out as INFJ every time.
When forced to talk to others in a work setting, I wear an ENFP mask. There might be a lot of ENFP’s out there that are actually INFJ, if they switch their thinking to regular life, and not working life.
I'm an INFJ and I've dated at least 3 INFJs so I've always been skeptical of how rare we are...or we just have an innate ability to find each other, or...(cue the over-analyzing process).
Video: "The rarest personality type"
Apparently all the Infjs of the world are here, in this comment section
I feel alone.
@@mythmakergwen same 😔
I'm am INFP
Lol
There are like 80-140 million INFJs out there man.
@@lukayaroslav9914 🤣
I feel we are slow (not dumb, just over-process things), not flexible and therefore over-plan things
I agree with that
Agreed. I have ADD on top of being an INFJ, which makes for interesting times... I am literally a walking contradiction.
yep...
I have a inferiority complex of being slow. But sometimes I amaze myself.
I tried out improv theatre, and it was really really difficult, but also So much fun! And now I'm better at being spontaneous and thinking on my feet, so it's definitely possible to improve it though!
I've taken the MBTI test so many times and I get both INFJ INTJ and thats because I believe that its important to understand when you need to think logically and when feeling is better. Because sometimes emotion can only get in the way of making a decision. On the other hand it can also be one sided if you only think logically. And I need to have both sides in order to make a decision that I can be sure that I am making the right decision.
Same... but what gets me is I go and read the INTJ personality and I can't relate to it as much as the INFJ one. So that tends to give me more reassurance... and I say that yet here I am watching this video to gain more validation :)
This is also a common thing for people who were trained to "act rationally". Men are often put under this pressure in the USA at least.
Same
Maybe you're an Infj with a strong T current? My husband is an ST, and from him, I'm learning to use my T function more.
I do agree with you that sometimes when making decisions, one has to figure out the best approach. Sometimes T decisions will not work for F problems. If someone you love hurt you deeply, all the rationality in the world won't help fix it. You need either an apology or an infj door slam to fix it imho. I hate when T say, just get over it. Or you're too sensative. Try a little tenderness and sympathy. When F is hurting, "you're too sensative", just makes you sound like an A hole.
I’m an INFJ and I have a million notebooks and sticky notes with lists and plans and schedules...
I may have a problem
omg same and sometimes i write the same lists over and over again, i swear you can find hundreds of lists in my room with the same aspects 💀
I thought it was just me 🤪
I am definately not going to tell you about my trello
Oh! Now I feel like a failed INFJ! I would get stressed by keeping notes. I can't even keep a diary because I feel too much pressure to communicate my thoughts with it. I'd write what I think my diary would 'want' to hear. 😂
Same here
“Reality isn’t happening so much in the outside world, but in my inner understanding of the outside world“ woah I’ve never heard such a great description of the reality I’m experiencing!
"They tend to act differently depending on who they're around."
Me, just realising why I feel like I'm acting differently with some of my friends compared to others: 😳 IT ALL MAKES SENSE NOW
Ikr, I've been told I'm acting like my cousin after spending some time with her and only recently I've come to realisation that It might be the cameleon effect..
And now when reading your comment I've also realised that I act differently around my cousin and my friend too.
I’m an INFJ, but I don’t think it’s important how “rare” someone’s personality is. I’m the type of person who has a soft spot for literally everyone, so as long as they’re a good person, rare or otherwise, I’m chill with whoever. Everyone’s important no matter their four letter personality type
Agreed.
I agree with you.
Being an INFJ doesn't mean you're on top of the world and people claiming "lololol im the rarest type say respect to me bro" just make me tired. I mean, I have no problem with INFJ but those, well, are just cringy af. Considering INTJ are the most uncommon type by now.
Yep exactly
“Even if you feel weird, and that nobody can relate to you... you’re not alone and you’re not broken somehow...” Wow! I wasn’t expecting to get emotional at the end of the video. Lol Thank you for those encouraging words of wisdom. Great video (as always)!
Yup...this feels good to listen, more than self help videos
Yeah! You don’t know how much I needed to hear that right now!
I over plan, then never use the plan I over planned
Why is this me lol
My mind is like a funnel. Haven't heard that one before.
Me too
Yeah and if to much goes into the funnel to fast it overflows which is a disaster
"Number 3: You need permission to do what you want to do."
So true!
💯👍🏻
Planning spontaneity, planning conversations, planning a day weeks in advance, planning, and more planning. Sounds about right.
Yep
It's not that I feel like I don't know who I am, it's just that sometimes I feel like a walking contradiction, and the contradictions all make sense in the context they are expressed in. Now, the fakeness can be real. Often I pretend to care when I just don't give a shit. However, if I somehow make a personal connection with someone, I care too much. There's the walking contradiction again. Damnit.
“infjs are social chameleons” “focused on how they need to act around other people in order to put everyone at ease/fit in” “shape shift in order to get along with others” *alexa play mirrorball by taylor swift!*
Hahahaha 🤣
Soulmate we are!!💜
Yeah this explains everything. I thought I am not an INFJ because I do this a lot. I thought Im a half extro then these lines hits me. And that was the time I admit, Im infj haha
I always described myself as a “floater” in high school. I didn’t have a group, I had a friend in every group.. I could always fit in wherever. Often times I didn’t want to fit in anywhere though. I didn’t want to be committed to a friend group
I was the same way, had my best friend but otherwise just floated around
Yeah same like just couldn't connect with people felt almost older than people in some ways like some of my friends friends were talking about doing stuff and I would be like I can see where this is going and it isn't going to end good so just never joined in with it like house parties and that sort of thing.
I've always had different friends each year. I'd even switch who i hang out with during the year lol.
did all INFJ’s have the same high school experience or what
ME
As an INFJ i found out I can make poems, hence I made a poem to all the other INFJs out there:
My Self esteem is so down, you can't even see the ground
My Ego is do high, I can't even see the sky
but the combination of both is nevertheless
as a heartless composition of I - N - F - J - S (INFJs)
So you’re saying my spontaneous plan to go hiking with my dog at 6am this Saturday in hopes of not running into anyone who’ll try to start a conversation with me isn’t actually spontaneous?
😂😂😂 Glad I’m not the only one. I’ve been known to duck and hide when I see people in the grocery store that I know even if I really like them.
No... You are most likely not an INFJ
Oh thanks for posting this comment... its a good conversation starter :-)
Me an infj : *sees the title*
am I still an infj, idk let's find out
Same 😂😂😂
Lol me tryna convince myself I’m not an INFJ so I can be free from myself
Facts lol. I’m constantly like 🤔
Lol....well..yeah
Yeesssss😂😂💔
I'm glad I re-watched this video. I've been in a bit of a personality type crisis. I've doubted myself a little bit because you hear how often the infj is mistyped or how rare it is. On top of that it's also easy to self type incorrectly because you do chameleon so much. It always stresses me out in these comments sections when people seem so confident about what type they are. I feel like I'm better at guessing other people's types then understanding my own. But this video, everything you list, struck me as true.
"Whats the parking situation like" I HAVE NEVER BEEN MORE ATTACKED
sameeeeee HAHAHAHA
I hate when I visit people at new places and can't find a good place to park ahead of time. Had a situation where I drove 7hrs to another state and didn't get the address until I was on my way. I was so nerve racked for where I was going to park. Which was not fun while driving 7hrs by myself.
The first thing i ask
Me, an INFJ: *SEES A VIDEO ABOUT MY OWN PERSONALITY TYPE SO THAT I GET TO UNDERSTAND MYSELF BETTER AND BECOME A BETTER PERSON*
Clicks immediately
I recently discovered that I've been an INFJ my whole life, but I thought I was extroverted because I wasn't afraid to socialize with others. I always felt like I was being dramatic for feeling like no one understood me, but now I know I'm rare...which doesn't really help me lol
How other people feel vs. how I feel when making decisions is my biggest issue. I'll make decisions based on how other people feel/will feel and end up suffering in silence
😭
I'm legit from doing this just now 😂
I did this all the time and I still do. But somehow I learned to put myself first (at least in some situations) and it gets easier with time. Nevertheless whenever I do it I am still wondering how other people feel about it. I guess you can never shut it off completely just learn to live with it (which is totally fine)
7:10 OMG YES. Everytime I found something I find interesting, I feel the NEED to tell and talk about it with someone, I just love explainig everything to everyone lol. Especially theories about things like movies or series or whatever, and just silly fats about animals lol
when i got into mbti recently i wanted to tell everyone about it, but knowing it wouldnt fit into the conversation at all, i just kept it to myself :( made me really sad
Very true! I am glad my parents and friends listen to me ramble on about weird things I heard in a youtube video. It is also weird being the introvert in class raising your hand to input your "connection trees" of what y'all just learned just to get validation that you actually are learning the right thing. Please tell me this comment makes sense.
The, "Who am I...really?" Question can be answered in part by asking which types of friends do you enjoy hanging out with the most. It can better be answered by periodically isolating yourself for a few days or weeks and finding out what you do for fun on your own, instead of being influenced by what everyone else enjoys. What types of books do you pick out for yourself? What movies/UA-cam videos do you watch? What music do you listen to? What do you think about? The hard thing is that while I'm drained so darn quick (like two hours is plenty guys, no we really don't need to find another activity to do) I'm also highly social. Can any other INFJs tell me if they're also constantly torn between, "I wanna hang out with my favorite people all the time!" And, "Wow I'm so tired. Where's the bed??"
That’s funny! If I isolated myself Id be fine.
to INFJ.... you are not alone... there are people who experience the same as yours ...
me: that's nice! / but don't really want to be with the, /
I have met many INFJ'S online in telegram. Though my experience with all of them was not so very good but definitely learnt many things
@@intersightphotography Can you give examples of your experience with them?
Since I started watching this channel I understand myself more than I ever did and as an INFJ you know I naturally spend too much time trying to understand myself everyday already. The overplanning for every small mundane task is a huge part of my life and I wasn't even that aware of how unusual it is until I heard Frank talk about it for the first time.
I'm an INFJ and my sister is an ESFP. She was always making me do stuff spur of the moment and it stressed me out. Now, however, we have a great system. I plan our elaborate vacations and book all the hotels and activities months in advance. And then once we arrive, I sit back and she figures out where we eat and what to do in the downtime (I've learned to leave *shudder* hours blank on the schedule so she can drag me on adventures)
is being INFJ genetic or does it come from upbringing or even trauma? sometimes I think this personality type has a lot of traumatized individuals.
Yup traumatizing events could make a person INFJ (in my case)
@@gayaquinn7177 and in my case...
@Humanity Skills it is known that personality is a mix of genes and experience. I don't think a personality type can be 100% genetic and unchanging
@Humanity Skills but... you did 😆
I swear most of INFJs at least have one ST parent, or worse abusive parents
The title: INFJ’s are the rarest personality type
The INFJ’s in the comment section: *allow me to introduce myself*
Obviously not all r
Well if it is the rarest, then the 3k people who have commented out of the 7B+ people in the world, it means theres a 1 in 2,333,333.33 chance that you'll meet one of them.
it’s nice knowing that i’m not the only one who thinks this way!! sending love to my precious infjs
We really are bad at giving examples, huh? A while ago I was talking to my friend about some stuff I was going through emotionally. After I realised I was unloading a bunch of abstract crap on her, I said "i can give you an example if you're confused". And she said "yes please". And it took me so long to find a real life situation to apply to what I had been talking about... I even got confused just thinking about it.
yooooo i had the same problem too when i tried to talk to the psychiatrists about what i feel and how i feel usually, but then they always ask "what kind of situatione that make you feel like that/what did you do? can you give us some examples?)" and i was there like uhhhhh you think i can reflect the details on what actually happened back then on the spot?? explaining how i feel is already difficult enough for me????
aaand yeah of course i got misdiagnosed. like twice already i'm not even surprised at this point
@@luneakvic oh no bless you 😂🌟
@@readerofareader thanks homie, bless you too 😁✨
I have that same problem. I hate it!!
The problem is only 30% of the population understands abstract thinking. 70% are concrete thinkers.
Just try using a story to tell what you mean. You know,like jesus did. Oh yeah that didnt understand him either 🤷♂️
I'm an INFP, it's amazing how just one letter changes the personality so much
We have completely different cognitive functions.
@@hunkydory3521 oh. Thanks
That explaining part hit me so hard. It happened once when I was explaining something specific in concept to my friend but when she asked about examples it all got messed up, the convo was getting messier and wider 😂
As an INFJ, I can’t tell if my personality and ADHD are friends or enemies🤔 And that point about not knowing who you really are: Those personality tests are so difficult when you feel that your answers will depend on the circumstances. Like, I have to choose both options!
YES! And I genuinely mean the capital letters and exclamation mark, not exaggerating.
Same but about ADD, i don't think ADHD or ADD are always bad things even.
If you can control your energy then it might even be advantage
OMG HELP-
That’s the exact same position I’m in-
I am so glad I’m not alone
Being an INFJ with ADHD,OCD,dyslexia and having Aspergers is a shit show for myself! Every one of them want to put in their 2 cents on every situation! Overthinking is an understatement! Door mat? More like an oriental rug for people! My house is sparkling and extremely inviting though! I have nothing because I give everything away including all of my time! Well, I used to but now I've become even more introverted and now that I'm older my intuition is off the charts and so many people can't stand my personality,I see in them that it's nothing but jealousy though and that makes me enjoy my alone time even more!! I literally feel and see either good or evil ooze out of people!! I read people thoughts before they even have them. My resting bitch face doesn't change from what it is most of the time. People think I always look mad but that rarely happens. I'm so glad to finally know that I am not alone in this universe!! I just wish I could meet more people like me, even one person like me but since there's actually less than 1.5% of us in the world and I haven't met one other infj in 40 years, I doubt I will but it would be a dream come true to finally have someone that shares the same thoughrs,feelings, wants&needs without having to be a chameleon, bored or disgusted by narcissistic egotistical people that suck my energy and then up that use&abuse me then leave me for dead, honestly hoping for that to happen without a care in the world or for the world. The world is run by a bunch of narcissists but through the ascension process, the infjs are Rising Up,realizing our true potential and purpose and will take over the wrongfully placed power,turn it around and make this world a much better place! That's why we are here! We are going to save humanity as a whole! What you think becomes reality! Stay positive, make friends with your intuition and learn to sharpen it like a knife and beware the evilness that will try to destroy you! Facts! Peace,love and power to the people! Shine on INFJ's, angels,watchers, starseeds,healers,empaths, good people! Peace on earth and good will to men is here and now! Shine bright superstars, shine bright! 😇🙏
@@risingup1822 j here, can definitely relate! What you said is mostly how my mind processes 😮
few weeks back, im crying after I arguing with my family about the dangerous of plastic straws and they legit just laughed in my face 🥴 being infj it's fascinating and hurts at the same time, i take things too seriously it suck
Damn poor baby
Yep here I had it happen...I'm a vegetarian...and tried to explain it to a judger...ended up crying
It's really difficult at times to be an INFJ. Sometimes I just want to fit in without all the strategical thinking it involves, just to interact in a social setting.
"You're not alone and you're not broken somehow. You have something unique to offer the world, don't forget that."
His way of ending this video comforts me.
*"tHe RaReSt pErSoNaLiTy tYpE"*
16p: hold my mistyping
HAHHAHA
😂😂😂
i get mistyped all the time
I thought I'm mistyped (even if I can relate with pretty much all of these) but I just did another test (my 3rd ) and still gets INFJ, so yea pretty sure I'm an INFJ
16personalities has their own... definition for the types? It’s not like pure Myers Briggs. if people really cared about the actual MBTI types they’d study cognitive functions. So I don’t think 16personalities necessarily mistypes people, it’s just not the same... as... MBTI...
The giving examples part killed me. I was wondering to myself one day why I have a hard time sharing stories at parties... I just don't have one I can pull off the top of my head, unless I'd rehearsed it for the specific purpose of telling it at parties. I much prefer talking about the meaning of life. Lol!
Another sign I'm an INFJ. I clicked this video to try to understand what I'm really like.
Then there's me who still seeks for confirmation if I'm INFJ 😑
Same
@@yurisurran9869 "Am I really INFJ even though my life experiences and these videos talk about all the things I have been through?" "I guess so, but there's always that chance I'm not INFJ"
Same lol
Omg, I'm totally cracking up over the planning "Chipotle" analogy. Best ever insight to the INFJ, that's me. Before I go to any restaurant, I Google the menu, choose what I want, lol at the parking lot, etc. 🤣🤣🤣
Me too 😆
welcome to the club😂😂😂
I literally just wrote the same thing LOL not researching menu's before going out to eat gives me ridiculous anxiety! lol
@@markb9663 me too! 🤣
And « do you like it ? Do you love it ? » 😂😂😂
This was so accurate, thanks for explaining those points!! Now I'm sure that I'm still an INFJ, specifically an Advocate 😭✨
Appreciate:
"not knowing WHO you really are"
Before it becomes:
"not knowing WHAT you really are"
11. You describe your mind and personality using examples by Frank James... Just to save energy and to finally enjoy what it feels like to be understood! Ahahha greetings from Italy! 😀😀🇮🇹
Esattamente quello che faccio con mio marito 🤣
I've been taking LOTS of 16 personalities test and I keep getting different results. Seeing this I've never felt so accomplished and so relating. I always ask my close friends how and what I do and how they see me when I do things lol because I always tell them there are things about me that only those people around me can define because I can't really tell
“This makes INFJs very routine oriented”
Pfft that’s not me
“When the iPhone updates its operating system, an INFJ might have a brief panic attack”
*holding a 4-year old phone which has missed at least 3 software updates*
Roasted
My phone is 7 years old and barely working. Still don't want to update the software or the actual phone.
Somewhat the same as mine, 4 year old phone, to me it feels fine but when my mum uses it, she asks me Why is your phone so slow? And stuff like that...
just update your phone. there's no point in not wanting to do that.
i thought i was the only one, i'm so glad i'm not alone
My software update is mad at me cause I ignore him all the time
12:01
FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT. THANK YOU, FRANK
You’ve got that example thing right. I hate job interviews when they say , “ Tell me a time when thus and so happened and how did you handle it? Or, “ You’re in a specific situation. How do you respond?” ( My mind : who’s involved?do I know them? Are we friends or just coworkers? etc.etc.etc.).😳
me as an INFJ: laughing at myself so much because it's so true
How
I guess I will always be: Yes, I am INFJ, 100% accurate.
About an hour later: Analyzing everything to make sure I didn't miss anything and possibly not being INFJ
Man the example one hurts. I've been frustrated with this my whole life at least now I know I'm not alone :')
Nah but the social chameleon one 💀💀💀💀
Frank : for an infj it might be an extra struggle to eat right
Me who forgets when I ate or what I ate: sweats nervously
It's either I barely eat or I eat so much
me who eats a crapton of food:
This sounds like an ed, not trying to be mean but u should really check this out
Me: *has ramen noodles and nuts everyday and tends to skip meals*
Nah.
Omg this is literally me 🤣
me: **watches stuff about isfj**
me: oh that sounds like me haha
also me: **watches stuff about infj**
me: oh that sounds like me too
_[confused screaming]_
You may be a IXFJ
Well, people arent exclusively typed by one MBTI type only so ppl tend to shift(?) types. The type that were given by the test is just the type we tend to be like. Like we arent limited to one type only. Am i making sense? Sorry im not very good with words
THIS HAPPENED TO ME YESTERDAY BRUH HAHAHAHA, imma keep thinking I'm an INFJ, even tho it's hard
@Rose Marian That's literally an INFJ thing, thinking we're wrong and that we're another personality type, and constantly re-taking MBTI tests to prove you're not an INFJ and then you're still an INFJ lol
@@miriii_6066 no you can't shift types. yeah you can seem like another type in behavior, but MBTI is based on cognitive functions not behavior.
After reading all the comments, I don't feel as alone as I did 12 minutes and 48 seconds ago. Thank you for this! TT
Struggling to follow my inner compass definitely hits home. When I tell someone about something I want to do, it's rarely met with excitement. It makes me feel I'm disappointing others and I avoid chasing what I actually want
#3 hit me hard.
Yep, definately an INFJ
(INtroverted Frank James)
🤣
"They will over plan, even something as simple as going to Chipotle" Urgh not me looking at the menu at home and deciding what I want before I go into any restaurant ever 😅
Another thing I guess that goes along with the over planning is basically because we don't like to be caught off guard because it leads to panic.
Like being thrust into a new physical environment or meeting a new group of people or trying a new activity you've never done often doesn't seem like "an exciting new adventure" but rather anxiety and panic at not knowing what to do and how to act but if you had planned it then maybe you would.
Ugh, as a INFJ with bad eyesight I relate to this too much. I will look up directions, menus, prices, everything before hand because I worry I’ll freeze up on the spot or not be able to see the menu. Don’t wanna waste people’s time or my time!!
I've already known that I'm an INFJ for almost a year now (shout out to my INFP acquaintance for introducing me to MBTI), so instead of seeing if I relate to these signs, I'm just imagining all of the baby INFJs watching this, nodding along and getting excited.
Hello, baby INFJs, and INFPs who think that they are INFJs 💛
your words at the end made my eyes water. ive always felt wierd, different, misunderstood, and broken. since i was a child ive felt this way. i have always thought too much, felt too much, just im too much. and listening to you shows me im not alone, and reading the comments too.
I am so confused by myself but I'm more confused that people can't understand me as I understand them and it's too disappointing. I feel that whenever I meet someone new in my life, I just have to send them this video for them to get to know me better 🤷🏼♀️
As INFJ and left-handed person i understand well what "rare" means 😂
Same here
Lol cool😂
not so cool. Right?
-infj
Same. I’m also a red head and autistic too so I guess that makes me more “rare”.
The few friends I had used to call me weird when I was young, but now I get it. I still feel like I don't fit in literally anywhere! Every time I hit it off with anyone, I'm always thinking about how they'll bolt when they find out the "real" me. These videos have been very insightful, thanks.
Muchas gracias. The closing was very warm and compassionate
I feel like Frank James has bought a toaster recently going off a passionate review that was not accurate to the toaster's real world function
It wasn't a toaster. It was THE INTERNET (🖤Jen Barber) and virtual communication...
Excuse me Mr. "INFJs really like to plan." I only have four different calendars.
You hit the nail on the head with this one. But as I've gotten older, I've started to avoid social interaction as much as possible. Just too exhausting. Do I mind being alone most of the time? Hell no. After losing my wife to cancer, I'm convinced that I'm not going to find someone that understands me and my quirks. That and I just don't feel it's worth the effort to get to know someone else at this stage in my life. I've even narrowed my social circle down to just one, and he seems to have the same problems navigating life as I do.
At least at the end of the day I know I'm not the only one. Those explain a lot why I don't really have friends, no one understands me lol
Oh my gosh the thing you said about using intuition instead of facts to draw conclusions is sooooo true. Writing English essays is so hard for me because I love reading and finding theme and stuff, but then I'm expected to explain where that theme came from. You want specific examples? I don't know! I just got the vibes. Any examples I might find would be vague at best because I'm reading into everything so much.
I was shocked at the "asking for permission" part, but I also just spent two weeks asking anyone around me what they think about me subscribing to the gym.
Sign 1: You actually know what an INFJ is.
😂😂😂 and you're sure you're but it's never enough to learn more.
one of the best so far 😀😀😀
INFJ's : the rarest personality type, who , by the way, have more videos made about them and more blogs and articles written about them than any other type.
Why????
@@gwendyb7077 Because they're rare...?
That's ironic but true
The videos are made by INFJ's because they felt different, misunderstood and searched for answers why are they like this, then wanted to explain their personality to the rest of the world, to feel more understood. Not all of the other personalities searched for answers about their personality.
Over-represented. Why?
Because social media is a perfect medium of expression for INFx.
us infjs should band together and psychologically analyze eachother so we don't have to do it for ourselves, while also getting to dissect other people's brains. it's a win-win any way i see it