@@naseerahmed7138 the things that caused the relationship to end are probably still there. Additionally, review the Iron Rule of Tomasi regarding the matter
Let us beware of destination addiction. That's the pre-occupation with the idea that happiness is in the next place, with the next partner, and the next job. Until we give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where we are.
@Ferencz Otvos thank you very much! Not only am I over her but now I realize how toxic she was and how my life is better without her! If you yearn to be with someone who treats you bad, then you have a problem within yourself! She taught me this and I am grateful! Take care.
I have watched this video over 10 times, suffering for 2 months and I was going to send a text, then I came back to watch it again to find a motivation for not to contact her, now I have found the most important part of it all for me, the point is, the pain that I'm felling although it is bad it is motivating me to do amazing things, like I was fat and lost 20 kilos in a little while, worked out, I'm making more money then I ever had in my business, etc.. as hurtful as it may be, it's one of the greatest motivation for life that I could ever have, I'll actually not contact her and use this motivation for as long as it may last. Thank you my friend. Big hug from Brazil!
Watching again a year latter, heart broken again haha, but this girl is actually hot, for real, super beautiful, but hey, as unbelievable as It may seam we always find someone better on the way. Back on the video again. I hate break up, but I can do nothing other then take my awesome dog to the park and pick up numbers on the way.
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After 9 years in a relationship and having a breakup. Ill need to watch this video everyday for a long time till it sticks in my mind. Kind of like a motivation!
Yeah, I'm in the exact same situation right now. I guess this video helped a little bit, but nine years is so much more complicated to deal with than this situation of a girl someone hooked up with once or twice. NOT the same.
Hey have to say thank you man! My gf of 3 years broke things a few days ago, first 2 days i was a mess, watched lot of No contact videos till I found this! And it changed my viue totally! And i appreciate it a lot! The relationship was broken as F, but i still love here to pieces! But i know there is no way we are ment to be! And you helped to open my eye's and cave me a peace inside, that i have misses for years! Soo truly thanks buddy!!!
Hey man, just wanted to say I've come back to this video after 8 years. I watched this video right after my first ever breakup, I was with her for over a year and she broke up with me when I was 15. You helped me more than you think, and I've realized that time is the only asset that can heal. I remember the feeling of just being torn and questioning everything. Anyone dealing with this you got this! Push on through, take care of yourself the best you can. Once again man, thank you very much ❤
I will keep playing this video from 30:38 to 32:30 every time I feel lonely, every day until I am clear and focused only on myself. It is also nice to read comments and see the results for those who listened to Leo years ago and those who didn't. I know exactly the type of high quality guy I should be with but have let loneliness tempt me into settling, with horrible regrets in the end. Focus on your vision and you will attract someone of high quality. DO NOT GO BACK TO YOUR EX! He/She is your ex for a reason, and usually a good one. Thanks Leo.
learning did happen. I found out I was in a relationship with a narcissist, and I am a codependent. Now I'm struggling with Cpsd, but I've commited to self development, every day, and I'm starting to learn more and more, and the path keeps revealing to me. You are my mentor.
I just came out of a 5 year long relationship just devastated. Feeling lonely, abandoned and "back to square one". Nowhere else to go I had to move to my parents. My stuff is still at her place 3 hours from here. So the next step is to pull myself together and get my stuff here. On top of that I need to set a goal in my life and do what I should've done YEARS ago. I've procrastinated so many things that it's truly scary. That by the way was also one of the reasons why our relationship ended. Of course we both made mistakes but I'm more focused on myself now.
Ana Chavez watch all kinds of break up videos here on utube, read, read, read about it and one day you'll understand what you're going through and, that's going to help. it will inspire you to move forward... Vas a estar bien :-)
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Thank you so much for your help Leo. I broke up with my bf yesterday and I was feeling shitty for leaving him. I wanted to come back to him, hoping that he'll forgive me for what I said yesterday. But after watching this video and other your video about bad relationships I understood that it was a great idea for me to break up with my ex. I wasn't feeling happy with him most of the time bc sometimes he was pushing me away without even noticing. Your videos helped me a lot, Leo. Thank you. I can't start moving on and leaving him in the past and totally forget about this relationship between us. Thank you Leo for your help!
This wasn't the immediate relief that I initially thought watching this would give me. I still hurt, but I feel like I have thicker skin now. I can deal with this. This longing for my ex is the product of my lack of confidence in both dating and socializing. I will from this day, work on this weakness. Thank you for making this video. It's been eleven months of thinking what if... I am now thinking; what now, and what happens next?
An extremely crazy thing happened to me for a year. I fell in love with a psychopathic narcissist. I did not want to run away from the passion, I mean, I did not want to run away from a relationship. I wanted to have all kind of experience in life. So I threw myself into this "love"... But it all became a terrible nightmare... Now after a year of coming and going, so much pain and agony, everything is over. But the sofering is terrible. But i see the break up as positively as possible. I do observe my inner world, my soul, my thoughts and emotions. I do meditation and yoga. I try to live intensely the present moment, the here and now. A certain detachment is created between me and my emotions. A certain distance is crated between my observation and my feelings of angry. I use everything as an apprenticeship. I loved this video! thanks!
Fantastic. Ive watched this 4 times today. I call it therapy with Leo. Its definitely changed my mindset after my wife and I split five months ago. Now. I can release and let go and go grow. Work on the new me that deserves happiness. Thank you sir.
life has taught me that women that persue men are purpose driven and they can do it again in a snap, with someone else the second you don't deliver for them. Women that can be persued and agree to be with you are the keepers you can bring home to meet Mum and Dad.
Thank you for taking the time to make videos like this Leo. I'm going through a break up right now and it's hurting like hell. I know the problems lie with me and I think they stem from childhood & adolescent experiences beyond my control. I have severe jealousy issues as a result and have watched your video relating to the subject a few times to help me find the answers and remedies I desperately need before I'm forced to live my life lonely and unloved. I'm also doing a lot of research into attraction / pick up but right now my confidence level is at an all time low. I'm struggling to even make eye contact with girls. But that is unlike me and I know I have it within me to be attractive. I'm just terrified to end up back where I've just been. I'm not really sure why I'm typing all this personal stuff out. It feels as if it is helping though. So to anyone out there going through your own break up right now. Know that you're not alone. It's so fucking shit this feeling. But I've been here so many times before I can tell you now ot really does get better. I took 5 yrs out from any serious relationships after my last big break up. Which was definitely needed and I went on an unguided journey of self discovery. Which led me to travel to some amazing destinations and meet some equally amazing and beautiful people. But i realise now I never really faced up to the dark memories lurking in my past. I just tried to ignore them in a hope they'd vanish. vanish they didn't but hide they did!! Only to come back with a vengance when I needed them least. Please if you're reading this and it sounds familiar do yourself a favour and seek professional help to rid yourself of the pain or if you feel strong enough to face up to those things alone go there and take the time to fix it while you still can. Because I'm 34 now and I wish I had done this years ago. I've lost so much as a result in that time. But it's onwards and upwards from here. As I'm sure it will be for you too. I wish you all happiness and peace... Thank you again Leo.... N
+Nathan Walton You're doing just fine. Here is the thing. Always know, we are in this world solo, we came solo and leave solo., our job is to connect with another soul to give and receive; that is knowledge or whatever our soul requires, if you're in a relationship where you dont gain or give to one-another theres no real reason to continue. This said, NEVER make one your entire life, you only hurt A LOT when you make a soul your world - it should be part of your life and I say only 10-20% of it, the rest should be YOUR world, your work, your hobbies, your friends, family, your "ME" time. You only get hurt when you make one person your whole world and when he/she leaves, guess what your world collapses, cuz he/she WAS the world you once had. Have you noticed, every time you go through a break up and after so long, you connect with another soul (not just a rebound, but an actual connection) that you tell yourself this is way better than the last, and you fall in love again and well, it MAY end and again you go through the same break up feeling and then it continues,it's cuz this is how it is until we reach the time of complete fulfills and only then we'll attract the right partner into our lives, each soul that came to your life, you've learned something new from, whether it was your fault (the break up) or theirs, it made you a better version of yourself, and eventually you'll get to a point where you know it all and you'll have a successful relationship. The only note, as said by Leo, you win ONLY if you improve yourself, you'll lose when you give up and don't work on yourself to become self-actualized. I always tell myself, if I break up (say it was her fault - cheated etc), I want to improve so much (financially, physically, spiritually etc) that she would see me and think, what a mistake it was to leave him; - not to be broken down so bad and say get addicted to drugs and alcohol that one day she crosses my path and says thank God Im not with this loser, lol;... trust me, Its YOUR time to improve on EVERY ASPECT of your life, from finances, to your spiritual beliefs (meditation etc), workout, etc and you'll soon become more complete and a better version of yourself, only then you can attract the most amazing girls into your life and only then you can actually take the relationship to where it needs to be. Read a lot of life altering books, not sure if you read POWER OF NOW, but get on that, watch more of Leo's videos, find your passion and replace the negative thoughts (wish he/she was here, what could it be, what is he/she up to, I wonder this etc...) to all that's positive, socialize and become a peoples person, in no time you'll become a lot stronger - and you'll laugh to this. Best M
Hi Michael, Even if you wrote this a year ago, thanks, because it's comforting words! Nice to read .. thank you. I like the way Eckhard Tolle thinks.. however his thinking is no-thouhts.. ;-) Bye bye, and I wish everyone lots of love coming from the heart, Malou
I watched this video 3 years ago after my worst break up, I'm watching it again today after my break up last night....doesn't feel quite the same, but this is all very powerful...thank you so much
Leo, I want to thank you so much for your videos! Hearing you speak about these things makes me see my situation much differently. My ex told me that I need to resolve my anger issues, thinking people are always out to hurt me, and overthinking. He said I need to change for myself and I'll be much happier, and no matter how much I want to change for him, I now realize he's right and he was never out to make me feel bad about myself. We needed to break up, so I could see that I truly was living a toxic lifestyle that was causing my own unhappiness. Thank you for the motivation, for the wisdom, and the "Don't go back to your ex" 3 times. I needed you to say it 3 times---it's like you knew that I was listening and writing down your good points, but still plotting how to get him back! LOL Thank you so much for shedding light and sharing your personal experience!
17 years old I know I have a lot of struggles to go through I need to be strong He left me after almost 2 years being so rude and cruel But now getting stronger day by day Focusing on myself ❤ Please pray for me😊
Work on yourself first and foremost.while you are doing this you will meet the right person who likes you for you. You are way to young to get tied up into one person and are going to have this great adventure ahead of you.
Leo is one of the great advisors I have ever seen. His advices are very useful especially to all men/women who are facing breakups. Thank you for sharing your video with us.
I have no words to thank you enough. I feel a lot better. I've been going back to her every time I thought of her for the last 10 months though she was mistreating me and calling me names. I badly wanted her back. She made me feel guilty for what I did not do on purpose. I lost myself for almost a year now. Finally I gained the courage to let her go. I've started to move on. Leo, tbh, your video helped me to the core. Thank you.
I am taking full responsibility for my break up. it was only 2 months. she said she was in love and all of that but after 1 month she changed. now she lost her interest in me. I feel like a looser that I had her and couldn't keep her. I know my mistakes that's the worst part. time can heal everything. love was my drug. and she was my drug dealer.
Fucking same man, but, you know, and its hard to say this, she may only have been in love with the *image* of love, having a boyfriend, being able to cuddle with someone no matter how long, being able to kiss someone whenever, without actually caring about the person and getting to really know them...
@RasOye what mistake do you think you made exactly? I f you don't mind sharing. Im in the same boat but we were together for about 8 months. I was dumped by her before because her mom didn't want her dating and I wasnt hurt because I knew she still felt for me, but this time she felt guilty that I loved her more than she loved me. I feel like Im losing her and theres nothing I can do, we decided to take a break until she feels ready for a relationship but idk if she'll ever want me again. She used to believe Love was a choice since feelings eventually fade and that it's enough to love someone, that there is no "i love you more" and that there's just love. Somewhere down the line I guess she changed her mind
wow dude. Your repeating the mantra at the end was so powerful. DO NOT GO BACK TO YOUR EX. Feels like a wake up slap in the face. Thanks man that's beautiful.
very good video. Some people continue to be their ''weak'' self for the rest of their lifes. They need to break up with the wrong person to discover they need to Boost themselves and FREE themselves ;)
Man, I just found this video after breaking up with my girlfriend. I'm exactly going through what you said, I was needy, I just wanted to get her back, but then I found out she gave me all the responsibility for what happened. She wont admit she has problems as well and this is a clear sign of insecurity. I feel motivated to work on myself and work for what I like, even though I miss her, so that one day I'll be finally in peace with myself and I'll be able to get in a healthy,longlasting relationship. Even after 7 years your video still helps people like me, I'll never thank you enough.
No, no ex back. I keep sensing you're hurting. I sense hurt. Your voice cracked every time you spoke of "ex". I'm sorry for you. That girl passed up a nice guy. Her loss.
Damn that hurts, first truly deep love. We broke up several times and I was always the one running to get her back, fighting for her or so I thought and I did eventually got her back several times, but its all short term treatment in the end there is something wrong with relationship on fundamental level. It's just time to move on. That video was very helpful
Thank you so much Leo. This video really helped. Going through a break up now. Came outta the blue, so I didn't see it coming. I'm just a week into it but whew.. It's been a tough week. Thank you again Leo.
I've been through multiple breakups and focusing on personal development and life purpose right now after some dating recently. All of this stuff Leo said is so true you guys. You gotta be strong and expand your life and stick with this plan. sometimes I get off track and come back study more and more but I know I get better and internally stronger through time.
Wow, this was great. The "do not go back to your ex" remark is right on the money. Don't do it. I made that mistake. He cheated on me and I still went back to him. We eventually broke-up again, and it was still hard for me to let go of him. Now, I'm moving on, but I wasted three years of my life with him. I'm going to use these amazing tips. Thank you so much for this and for all of your videos!
Really needing this one, appreciate it a lot Leo my ex Left for someone else due to fact that I did deeply some neediness, jealousy, clingy and controlling. It breaks my heart so bad that I didn't had the strength or the knowledge to fix this all during the relationship. For the fact that I suffer from PTSD and he suffers from depression it really did sabotage the little progress I was making when I was trying to build myself in a positive way, I felt like I was pushing a lot in the relationship for us to grow and I guess he wasn't ready. It was a horrible cycle. I started to feel numb within myself and lost. It's been almost 2 months since he left and now that I been listening to your video's it's been helping me that there is still hope for a new relationship and I will be at my healthiest state, I am just too tired of the drama. I want peace in a relationship, I am glad that I can and will continue to develop myself. Thank you.
omg. Does anyone else feel like he was legit talkihng straight to you. Everything you mentioned Leo, I'm going through. You hit the nail on the head with this one. D: It's so hard not to go back... fml -.-
Though this video is coming to me a few years after my break up, I both sadly and gladly say it is useful. I have developed and sustained over the years a short temper, anger, jealousy with and without reason, that same toxic negativity you mentioned, plus the depression, and grotesquely enough, neediness. These things have proven your statements correct. I made my own mind up on a few things today that have been making me miserable. I am going to eradicate them from my life. I also successfully engaged in my second day of your 5-min recitation. Moving forward in bounds. Thank you for laying it out plain for me when you said there are "no one unique soul mates." I was stuck on that belief for a long time and it makes sense when I hear it. Oh. The Hollywood love spell thing you mentioned--- spot on. I've been choking for breath under that blanket for a long time.What a veil. Thank you for posting another video today. And another thank you for personally (as far as I can tell) responding to our comments. Its comforting for me to believe that you are actually reachable and physically reading what we have to say. Flattery is not my intention here. I'm merely trying to say that I'm finding something I need here. So thanks. a lot.
hi leo, so very happy to be part of your videos, watching this video at the right point of the juncture in my life. i really appreciate your work you putting in here, really really worked for me . not only this video but all previous ones watched.. keep going leo,
Thanks for this video, I’m currently week 3 of my break up of a 6 year relationship and I’m in pieces. I’m finding it rough as hell but this video has made a lot of sense. I’m trying to get my cards in order and get motivated for a better future but it’s hard right now.
Joshua Lim hi there. Ummm you could say I’m doing well .... I met a new girl last February and we now 4 months pregnant. I look back at this message and think how much I’ve grown and changed (all for the better). There’s no denying a breakup is shitty and it’s hard and at time’s desperately horrible, but I came to realise it’s a fantastic time to grow and learn about yourself, it’s also a great time to focus on yourself and do all the things you’ve ever wanted to do and weren’t able to. You have to stay positive though I promise it will get better. May I ask what your situation is?
@@flaigus Thanks for the reply and encouragement. It's encouraging to hear stories like yours. For me, it was a 6 year relationship with a girl who was also my best friend for a long time before that, which slowly fizzled as our lifestyles and lives in general grew apart. I had thought of ending it several times, but loved her (still do) and didn't want to hurt her so I did what I could to make it work. I knew it may have eventually ended and I thought i'd be OK with the feelings, but the day after it actually happened, I was feeling lower than ever and lost. Completely obsessed with negative feelings such as loneliness, jealousy, anger, despair, regret & nostalgia. My work has suffered as a result. The feelings quickly grow exhausting, and there is no end to it other than the temporary solace of a night's sleep when you happen not to dream of her. Day after day I work on myself physically, spiritually, and nurture my hobbies - because happiness and contentment ultimately come from within. I feel like knowing this, as well as knowing of stories such as yours that prove time heals and better times are ahead, is of a great help. Meditation and the support of friends have been my greatest ally. Just typing this out helps as well, so thanks for the opportunity. I'm happy for you kind stranger, and hope for the best for you and your family!
Joshua Lim totally relate to all those feelings you’re going through mate. I took a lot of solace in the fact that what I was feeling wasn’t unusual and I even found out people I know were going through tough breakups. I used to to listen to a lot of sad music I think that helped, I dunno it kinda felt like there was another person going though the same thing and we were empathising together, and boy is there a lot of breakup songs. Some of best songs ever written are about heart ache. I would also tell anyone that would listen to me that I was finding it hard it’s amazing how many people are willing to listen to you when you’re low. I will also say like you I thought about ending my relationship several times and that has to be for a reason I’m sure one day you’ll realise it’s for the best, and ultimately there’s a reason you broke up. This I promise you. In the mean time there’s lots of material online here on UA-cam and I read a couple books, I kinda look back at that time and think it was a bit silly but hey it helped a lot so.... also if you’re able to join a gym it really helped me, I got in shape looked and felt better, I’m sure you’ve already lost weight and aren’t finding much comfort in food. Can’t beat that break up diet. Break contact with her for a month/6 weeks whatever it takes to get you thinking beyond her. Again I know it’s corny but it will get better.
You helped me overcome my break up blues Leo. I just realized that everything happens for a reason and I am happy of where I am today because without heartaches I'm still the woman who's afraid to face the challenges in life.
It can be a uphill battle but nonetheless you can overcome it. It's been hard for me to get over my ex,but I'm working on bettering myself in all area's of life. Sometimes break up happens for a reason, so someone who will apperciate you more can enter into your life.
Thanks alot Leo. I came across your video because of a break up. I had already started following personal development trough a page on Facebook called Spirit Science. I've been watching your videos ever since I broked up with my daughter's mom two months ago. I'm subscribed to your newsletter and bought the books on your page. I feel I'm on track now and I have became over enthusiastic with personal development. You're personality just glows. I respect the type of person you are. I just cant find a way to thank you so much.
Your videos are just amazing. I have watched a lot of them, and I highly appreciate them. Your advice and knowledge has helped tons of people, I know it's really helped me. I'm really trying to get my life together, and focus on my future and what's ahead. I really just wanted to thank you so much for what you do, you're a really motivational, and intelligent person. I hope you continue to make videos, Thanks so much.
My ex and I broke up about a week ago and he hurt me soooo much I know I'm young only 18 but I feel like I will never have anyone again. I feel lonely and sad cause I did everything I could and it wasn't enough.
It's honestly so common to feel that, but I PROMISE you that you will find someone else and they will make you feel brand new and even better than your ex did. Just hold in there and focus on yourself and looking after yourself! x
was in your shoes, got back with the person because I was weak now broken up once again, I gotta tell you one thing. Set personal goals you are 18 so am I, going to college soon and one thing I realize is that setting personal goals and have personal aspirations help so much during these break ups because you don't feel lost and have something else that you love aside from the ex. 1st time we broke up, I was devastated and traumatized, this time I felt at ease. free to do whatever I want and finally can focus on what is important. Seriously though, the ex isnt the only person that is going to be good or "the one". There is always the better one out there no matter how in love you are, you just gotta find him/her.
Leo! I love you! Thank you so much. I needed to hear this! I'm already stronger from this experience than i ever tought i would be. I've grown so much! I quitted smoking, gotten the body i always wanted, started working on my insecurities by taking the responsibility for my emotions and taking classes about this. My life got a course again and i'm bettering every week. Nice to come here and getting the things i do confirmed. I watch alot of your videos and read the books you listed on your website! And once again thank you for being an extraordinary guide on this journey with advanced personal development, i'm sure i say that for alot of us. Glad i found you. You're the man. Cheers.
Leo, I want to thank you for this particular video, it changed my whole life. I start over almost 2 years ago, and since then I never stop working on me and creating myself as a successful, strong and NOT needy individual.
Friends aren't that important to me because I don't like a lot of people. More people means more drama and after getting screwed over I've become really self conscious and have very little confidence
Man this is really eye opener... I've been suffering the last 20 days but now it's the perfect opportunity to make changes in my life. Thanks a lot Leo!! Greets from Peru.
+The Skating Crafter 😂😂😂😂 too funny. Well, at least you get that. My ex told me he was in love with his ex and was going to build a life with her. The same woman he told me not to be concerned about. smh. I'm trying to heal from this.
Leo i watch your videos every single day.you are a true inspiring bro and they are helping me alot.I had a break up 6 months ago because of stupid decisions and it broke my heart so bad and i cried and became more weak, did'nt act life a man, i loved this girl so much and i thought she is the one and i will marry her and i was her first person who dated her and i was her first kiss i'm 25 and she is almost 18 .but didn't realize i was stupid not to love myself first,i had so many flaws and bad habits and I was that kind of person Desperate,Needy,lazy,Fat,get angry so fast,jealous,not honest and not respectful with my self even didn't focus on my career,and not taking actions on my goals and self improvement,but i still getting back some flashback about her and i missed her.Even maybe she has a new boyfrd rgt now and time to time i check her out on social media but everytime i do that many flashbacks start to invade my head.But thanks God i;m going to a mentor Life coach and i'm doing my best to cut off all bad habits and working on improving my self and focus on my future to be successful in life.Again thanks Leo so much for your videos keep inspiring us cz u make me feel comfortable and relief my mind every time i watch ur videos.Thank you bro
Belive Nothing, No matter where you read it or who has said it, not even if I have sait it, unless it agrees With your own reason and your own COMMON SENSE
Thank you so much. You have helped me beyond words, buth with meditation and dealing with the trauma of a break-up. You have redirected me from misery to incredible growth. Again, THANK YOU
I feel like my breakup is a bit different. I could go back to my ex at any time if I wanted to, but I'm not sure if it is the right choice. We were together for 2 years and we loved each other a lot, we bought plush toys and hugged trees together and we were just being weird the way we could never be with anyone else. But she was very jealous of all my friends, to the point that she could not stand it anymore and ended up making me choose between her and all my friends. If I let her do that to me, she would control me like that for the rest of my life and I stopped feeling the freedom I should feel in life. I didn't make a clear choice, so over time our relationship was getting colder until it was over. I know I must continue with my life and become stronger, but the beautiful memories make me cry every time I think about it..
Lyirog i was stuck only a year with a man that till today I dunno why I felt attracted to him. I am super picky, authentic ADHD person. I felt potential in him despite and maybe because of being single for years I was causious and honest about it. But it turned out he was traumatized in childhood. Don't know how, heard from his ex. And the fact I don't really know him is also a big deal. I only knew he emotionally abused me and the confusion and wanting to know WTF, also the fights and manipulation (especially after break up that was ugly and twisted) was so exhausting that I avoided the pain. He had qualities that kept the love alive, but It was obvious that love wasnt the love I can and want to feel with anyone. I distanced my self drastically. Tempered people are another thing, traumatized and developing traits of BPD =never wrong, apologize, take responsibility, lack of emphaty. Confusing, that's the worst and I rather meet someone (and have, so speaking of experience ) who was super jealous, controlling, a bit physically violent cause it is so easy to see (especially by outsiders too) that person is toxic, needs help. I left. Ironically He had qualities (unlike my recent ex) like taking care of me, supporting, not putting me down for forgetting bathroom light off... emphaty etc. Look your childhood closer (Auch) even if it was ok, but sure u know there was issues. Then study your ex gf's behavior. Look into personality disorders....do online testing about yourself too, cause it is Always a good thing to make sure am I OK. No. Matter what information is power and I know you WANT HELP AND TO FEEL NORMAL.
Im in that same situation atm too. My partner has bpd and was very controlling which made me want to escape, which i did 6 weeks ago. Now im being hoovered big time with poetry and old romantic pics sent to my phone, promises to change.. It's all so tempting to go back but I've gone through so much pain to get out. What Leo said at the end of this clip was great reassurance that we are on the right path and that going back will just increase our codepence with them. We do need to work on ourselves to reach our full potential. After all, we only have one life. Might as well make the most of it.
I can relate to what most people posted in this thread. Insecurity, deep inner bitterness, jealousy, and selfishness are only a few of the worst destroyers in a relationship. Just broke up 24 hours ago and even though, you know what the reasons were most of the time, it does not stop you from thinking of how you could have worked things out if there was willingness and commitment. I believe that childhood issues can be addressed which can lead to a lot of issues such as jealousy and insecurity, but it has to start with the person realizing that there is a problem, because if not, the person will be dating the same guy or girl, but with a different name, meaning that it is not them, but maybe you or the person with these issues who needs self-awareness.
Wow Leo! This is the video I started with on your channel and I must say after going through countless videos of others over months, you are the one who finally made sense. Thank you so much. I found you at the most needed time of my life. Just amazing, deep and wise stuff in every video of yours I have watched till now. This is actually my first youtube comment and my first subscription ever. Keep up the good work. My target for now. 100 days of self improvement with 1 hour a day of self-actualization.Kudos!
I'm standing here re-listening this video for the third time..and can't stop crying...i've told him since the beginning that I m not sure about the relationship but step by step he convinced me to think of us as "we"..but when i was in a bad mood or i don t know from where this thought came..in 7 months i break up with him about 5 times..i never trust him enough..and now it's over without saying anything...
Leo, this is one of the most clarifying videos I've seen. I have come around to the idea that going back to that relationship was so I didn't have to work on me. This video really clarified things I knew deep down, but didn't want to admit to. Thank you -
My ex broke up with me saying I'm a mess. Have been dating her for 5 yrs and in just 1 week she fells for another guy and left me. I stopped communicating with her but she keeps texting me saying why can't we be friends. I haven't replied and I'M NEVER GOING BACK TO THAT PERSON WHO LEFT ME SAYING I'M A BIG MESS WHEN I WAS AT MY WEAKEST POINT. *DO NOT GO BACK TO YOUR EX*
Omg. Did I write this? My ex of four years also left me and got a new girl a week later. He also keeps asking me why we can’t be friends. Maybe because you’re a fucking asshole??? lol
You do not know this. But I am from Singapore and your video awakened me. I am struggling from a breakup and i actually wrote down notes as you spoke to me. I dont do that much in lectures but i feel so inspired by your talks. This is by far the heaviest breakup after 3 years and thank you the final 3 reminders of DO NOT GO BACK TO YOUR EX. You are a good person. I will keep following you and learn under your wing. Youbgot yourself a loyal subscriber. Thank you for improving my life.
thank you so much Leo. Im so happy with my break up because i know its time to move on and this is the perfect opportunity to actualize myself and become all the things that i want :) this has truly made me see things in a positive way, can't thank you enough!
Dude, loving your videos, my fiance left me turned my world upside down and everything you say hits the nail on the head! Awesome stuff! Thanks for your work :)
I just broke up with my first girlfriend. It lasted 4 months, and it was a steady decline since day one.If I have any advice I can give on top of what Leo just said, LISTEN to your feelings. Don't overthink stuff, just allow yourself to feel; I was hurting real bad throughout those months because my gf could not reciprocate the love I had for her, blaming her personality, but in the end, she just wasn't in love, and her and I both knew but kept going hoping things would get better. It doesn't get better.
I had a feeling this would be good from just your first few words. I think I was compelled to hit the subscribe button from just your intro. No one need inform you that you have a real talent. Indeed I am despaired and you do a great job of connecting with me, the audience. I'm only half way through the video actually but must thank you for this production.
wow, usually you nail the topics, however, you missed a huge part in relationships which is dropping ones ego and listening to the other person talk. Have you ever been with a person who talks the majority of the time and then the few times you get to talk you get the feeling they're not even listening to you, they're just waiting for their turn to talk again. If a person gets the feeling you don't truly care what they have to say they'll eventually leave.
Well, sure. That's why I stressed learning how to communicate and understanding how the opposite sex thinks. You have to develop relationship management skills if you want a successful relationship.
This was best so far speech I ever heard from a person. This plan you talked about , is the plan that I had never thought that I have to make. I feel an emptiness in my heart for years now because of hard breaks up. I am facing a huge break up right now and I am leaving my last hope to your plan. I'll try the best . Thanks a lot Leo. Thanks a lot.
After having gone through so much over the past year (including a break-up with someone I’ve been completely co-dependent with for 8-years), I can ALWAYS seek refuge in one of your videos. This one really did it for me and what I’m currently going through. Thank you thank you thank you!!!
bree bell same here. Just got out of a 6 year co-dependent relationship. It felt like someone died.. it was so bad. I sobbed and sobbed for days. I'm so much better now. I'm more stable and accepting what's happening. I wish you the best.
This just really described me. Especially the childhood issues, the not having my life in check and having lost all of my motivation because of these past/childhood issues :( I could really relate to this video and it inspires me a lot. I hope it does so for all the other people that have just broken up too! They're tough times, but it's true that we have to push forward and make ourselves better instead of dwelling in the past. And I also relate a lot to the "Toxic Emotional Values" part. The funny thing is that I only became like that after being in this last relationship! :'( I was never ever a needy, jealous or depressed person before, I had all I needed. I dipped down and down more and more into this hole while I was actually in this relationship. And I was in it for 2 years. I have lost myself completely, lost my motivation, interests, everything :'( I'm starting anew. My mind is giving me yet another optical illusion, telling me that it would all be just so much easier if I could just commit suicide :'( and I know it's not a good thought, but it keeps lingering there in the back of my mind. All in all, THANK YOU for this video!! :( ... I really appreciate that people like you, that have been through these things get the courage to ENcourage people that are going through the same in the present!! Thank you!
my favorite video, I think the same, the most painful break up I had some months ago was the best thing happened to me. That pain is so useful to push me for growth in different areas of my life that I don't wanna lose it. I feel like losing it in these days, but I keep remembering it not to lose that speed of my growth and that passion inside
My boyfriend broke up with me after 5 years. I honestly thought he was the love of my life. He said he doesn't feel the true passion and love to me anymore, and I'm not his soulmate, and he needs to be sure about somebody who he want to spend the rest of his life. I respect that and that's why I know there is nothing to fight about, and I love him so much so I want him to be happy, but I feel so damn terrible that I can't even explain that. I don't want to do enything, everything, even simple things are scary to do. And he came clean that there is a girl that he have a great connection with. I have never felt so much pain. Thank You for that video it helped me. I realised that I stopped growing, I just stuck, but I don't feel like I really can deal with it all. But I want to try. I hope that is the best thing that ever happened to me.
My gf broke up w me 3 months ago & I thought she was my "one," my soulmate. She said she wasn't sure if I was hers. I loved her so much & I still feel like I do. I long to be w her again cuz she was a total game changer but at the same time I hafta respect that she could admit something like that, cuz it's definitely not easy to hear but I can imagine it wasn't easy to say either. What I'm trying to say is, I feel you & I'm sorry you're hurting, & I believe we will both be more than okay.
Gabriel Arellano I'm having the time of my life! I lost my best friend, but I found 3 new friends that I didn't expect. They got me fixed. I still miss him, but most of the time I'm finally who I wanted to be. I realised so many things that I got so comfortable that I stopped growing. I see more clearly I enjoy every day, I appreciate bad thing more. He was stopping me from this, and although I want to hug him, kiss him, have him I feel so much better. I finally love myself again. Don't worry man the sun is still shining for you, there are only big clouds. It happened for a reason, you have to gain from it Wish you the best!
kejajko wow good to hear!! Anielle Damasceno she did because she really practiced the abundance mentality. If you get stuck moaning about your ex, you'll be still.. if you do what you've always done, you'll get the same results. The feelings and neediness will slowly fade as long as you focus on yourself and force yourself to be a better person and move on. I know it's hard but you can do it.. watch this guy's videos.. check out Coach Corey Wayne's as well.. good stuff.
Anielle Damasceno I know,, I'm there myself.. in the process of getting over a girlfriend I deeply loved but took for granted. I made mistakes and still do when we talk every now and again.. but everyday I feel better by seeing this guy's videos and coach corey wayne's as well.. hope you get better soon.
Leo, I needed to hear this. I'm still going to be hurt for a little while, but hearing what you had to say about developing the greatest version of yourself. Realizing what went wrong, and doing what you are able to do to not repeat your mistakes. Everything in this video about improving yourself is so raw and it's tough but it's so necessary. I've been binging these videos but this is the one that I can resonate with.
Despite how much I liked this video and all the advice, then there are certainly also past relationships that are worth rekindling. I'm specifically thinking of good relationships that were broken up because one or both parties had issues that destroyed the relationship, but if the issues could be dealt with, then the relationship could work. A perfect example is the book "The truth" by former pickup artist Neil Strauss, in where he leaves his best relationship ever simply because he has trauma. I'm also considering going back to my ex, because there was really only one thing wrong, and if that's something that can be fixed, then it's worth rekindling. But obviously, if it can't be fixed then it should be left alone. But I haven't decided on this yet :-). Everything else about her was essentially perfect. It's worth noting that I was the one who broke up, and maybe we should just have had a serious conversation about the issue (although we had spoken about it before) and then had a period where we tried to make it work, and if it failed, then we should have broken up. All my other relationships I'm glad are over. After some of them I was angry; after others I was relieved. All good signs that I shouldn't go back (which I didn't) :-).
Dear Leo. Today as we are about to start 2016 I have to tell that I have been seeing this video like 4 or 5 times and everytime it gets wiser and deeper into my mind. Me? Now broken hearted but your video brings lights of hope to my life. I have the feeling you can count on me as one of your future followers. Blessings and happy 2016 for you. Regards from Mexico.
DO NOT GO BACK TO YOUR EX...DO NOT GO BACK TO YOUR EX...DO NOT GO BACK TO YOUR EX...I LOVE IT...
Main message from the video: Instead of imagining how to get the perfect partner, make yourself into that perfect partner first and the rest is easy
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trust him don't go back to your ex. I made the mistake.
Why?
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What happened?
Ne oldu sana?
@@naseerahmed7138 the things that caused the relationship to end are probably still there. Additionally, review the Iron Rule of Tomasi regarding the matter
I also tried... DO NOT DO IT
I tried many times. And it always ended with the same outcome.
Don't go back but also don't rush into something new until you work on yourself!
Amen! Been there, done that, learned that!!!
Let us beware of destination addiction. That's the pre-occupation with the idea that happiness is in the next place, with the next partner, and the next job. Until we give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where we are.
i bet 200k a heroin shot ull tske in 5 minutes will make u happy
Last week I was watching your "How to have amazing sex" video to make her happier. But now I am here.
haha :)
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Hang in there. You are not the only one....
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🤣😂🤣... I’ve watched that too a few years back and now I’m here. Leo gives it to you raw man. Love this guy.
I love when Leo gives us a little peak into his personal life
Do not go back to my EX
Catalina MaGoo best advice ever
Lol. U made my day.
Lol
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I just want to stop the pain... i can't take it anymore
Lol.. what about now?
It's almost year over.
im over the pain more or less but i cant stop thinking about her, its driving me nuts.
@Ferencz Otvos thank you very much! Not only am I over her but now I realize how toxic she was and how my life is better without her! If you yearn to be with someone who treats you bad, then you have a problem within yourself! She taught me this and I am grateful! Take care.
Hope you are doing fine now.
what about now dude ?
I have watched this video over 10 times, suffering for 2 months and I was going to send a text, then I came back to watch it again to find a motivation for not to contact her, now I have found the most important part of it all for me, the point is, the pain that I'm felling although it is bad it is motivating me to do amazing things, like I was fat and lost 20 kilos in a little while, worked out, I'm making more money then I ever had in my business, etc.. as hurtful as it may be, it's one of the greatest motivation for life that I could ever have, I'll actually not contact her and use this motivation for as long as it may last. Thank you my friend. Big hug from Brazil!
Watching again a year latter, heart broken again haha, but this girl is actually hot, for real, super beautiful, but hey, as unbelievable as It may seam we always find someone better on the way. Back on the video again. I hate break up, but I can do nothing other then take my awesome dog to the park and pick up numbers on the way.
facts man how are you lol
Rick Nois everyone wants to know what are you up to now? Can you feel us in? You need your own Tv show
Rick Nois how are you doing now?
It's breaking my heart to hear this my friend. But it clearly shows that there is always another one. Everyone wonders how you are now.
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Leo please advise me the list of books for healthy communication
Thank u
After 9 years in a relationship and having a breakup. Ill need to watch this video everyday for a long time till it sticks in my mind. Kind of like a motivation!
Darren Turner Reading this now, tore my heart. How've you been?
Update ?
9 years is a long time man. I dunno how you dealt with it. Please give a positive update. Give the rest of us, from a fresh break up, some hope.
Yeah, I'm in the exact same situation right now. I guess this video helped a little bit, but nine years is so much more complicated to deal with than this situation of a girl someone hooked up with once or twice. NOT the same.
Darren Turner Hope you're doing fine now.
Hey have to say thank you man! My gf of 3 years broke things a few days ago, first 2 days i was a mess, watched lot of No contact videos till
I found this! And it changed my viue totally! And i appreciate it a lot!
The relationship was broken as F, but i still love here to pieces! But i know there is no way we are ment to be! And you helped to open my eye's and cave me a peace inside, that i have misses for years!
Soo truly thanks buddy!!!
Great! :)
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Hey man, just wanted to say I've come back to this video after 8 years. I watched this video right after my first ever breakup, I was with her for over a year and she broke up with me when I was 15. You helped me more than you think, and I've realized that time is the only asset that can heal. I remember the feeling of just being torn and questioning everything. Anyone dealing with this you got this! Push on through, take care of yourself the best you can. Once again man, thank you very much ❤
DO NOT GO, BACK TO YOUR ex ! Watching this for the 3rd time.
I will keep playing this video from 30:38 to 32:30 every time I feel lonely, every day until I am clear and focused only on myself. It is also nice to read comments and see the results for those who listened to Leo years ago and those who didn't. I know exactly the type of high quality guy I should be with but have let loneliness tempt me into settling, with horrible regrets in the end. Focus on your vision and you will attract someone of high quality. DO NOT GO BACK TO YOUR EX! He/She is your ex for a reason, and usually a good one. Thanks Leo.
its been 5 time i listen to him to not go back to your ex...... i think now i understand
learning did happen. I found out I was in a relationship with a narcissist, and I am a codependent. Now I'm struggling with Cpsd, but I've commited to self development, every day, and I'm starting to learn more and more, and the path keeps revealing to me. You are my mentor.
I just came out of a 5 year long relationship just devastated. Feeling lonely, abandoned and "back to square one". Nowhere else to go I had to move to my parents. My stuff is still at her place 3 hours from here. So the next step is to pull myself together and get my stuff here. On top of that I need to set a goal in my life and do what I should've done YEARS ago. I've procrastinated so many things that it's truly scary. That by the way was also one of the reasons why our relationship ended. Of course we both made mistakes but I'm more focused on myself now.
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I guess sometimes one has to hit bottom in order to realise certain things.
I take it that he ended the relationship?
Ana Chavez watch all kinds of break up videos here on utube, read, read, read about it and one day you'll understand what you're going through and, that's going to help. it will inspire you to move forward... Vas a estar bien :-)
Same situation right now.... it's been almost 6 years. I will move my stuff back home tomorrow. How are things after two years?
Going through the same thing in the last few days after 3 years, moved back in with family, it helps to be around family and friends
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Thank you so much for your help Leo. I broke up with my bf yesterday and I was feeling shitty for leaving him. I wanted to come back to him, hoping that he'll forgive me for what I said yesterday. But after watching this video and other your video about bad relationships I understood that it was a great idea for me to break up with my ex. I wasn't feeling happy with him most of the time bc sometimes he was pushing me away without even noticing. Your videos helped me a lot, Leo. Thank you. I can't start moving on and leaving him in the past and totally forget about this relationship between us. Thank you Leo for your help!
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Absolutely amazing! Thank you, thank you, thank you!
ive got borderline personality disorder. life with me has been a hell
This wasn't the immediate relief that I initially thought watching this would give me. I still hurt, but I feel like I have thicker skin now. I can deal with this. This longing for my ex is the product of my lack of confidence in both dating and socializing. I will from this day, work on this weakness.
Thank you for making this video. It's been eleven months of thinking what if...
I am now thinking; what now, and what happens next?
Hows it going?
An extremely crazy thing happened to me for a year. I fell in love with a psychopathic narcissist. I did not want to run away from the passion, I mean, I did not want to run away from a relationship. I wanted to have all kind of experience in life. So I threw myself into this "love"... But it all became a terrible nightmare... Now after a year of coming and going, so much pain and agony, everything is over. But the sofering is terrible. But i see the break up as positively as possible. I do observe my inner world, my soul, my thoughts and emotions. I do meditation and yoga. I try to live intensely the present moment, the here and now. A certain detachment is created between me and my emotions. A certain distance is crated between my observation and my feelings of angry. I use everything as an apprenticeship. I loved this video! thanks!
Fantastic. Ive watched this 4 times today. I call it therapy with Leo. Its definitely changed my mindset after my wife and I split five months ago. Now. I can release and let go and go grow. Work on the new me that deserves happiness. Thank you sir.
life has taught me that women that persue men are purpose driven and they can do it again in a snap, with someone else the second you don't deliver for them. Women that can be persued and agree to be with you are the keepers you can bring home to meet Mum and Dad.
I don't want my ex back, so that's a good start. But I feel lost.
Thank you for taking the time to make videos like this Leo.
I'm going through a break up right now and it's hurting like hell. I know the problems lie with me and I think they stem from childhood & adolescent experiences beyond my control. I have severe jealousy issues as a result and have watched your video relating to the subject a few times to help me find the answers and remedies I desperately need before I'm forced to live my life lonely and unloved.
I'm also doing a lot of research into attraction / pick up but right now my confidence level is at an all time low. I'm struggling to even make eye contact with girls. But that is unlike me and I know I have it within me to be attractive. I'm just terrified to end up back where I've just been.
I'm not really sure why I'm typing all this personal stuff out. It feels as if it is helping though. So to anyone out there going through your own break up right now. Know that you're not alone. It's so fucking shit this feeling. But I've been here so many times before I can tell you now ot really does get better. I took 5 yrs out from any serious relationships after my last big break up. Which was definitely needed and I went on an unguided journey of self discovery. Which led me to travel to some amazing destinations and meet some equally amazing and beautiful people. But i realise now I never really faced up to the dark memories lurking in my past. I just tried to ignore them in a hope they'd vanish. vanish they didn't but hide they did!!
Only to come back with a vengance when I needed them least.
Please if you're reading this and it sounds familiar do yourself a favour and seek professional help to rid yourself of the pain or if you feel strong enough to face up to those things alone go there and take the time to fix it while you still can. Because I'm 34 now and I wish I had done this years ago. I've lost so much as a result in that time.
But it's onwards and upwards from here. As I'm sure it will be for you too.
I wish you all happiness and peace...
Thank you again Leo....
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No worries man; you'll pull through.
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You're doing just fine. Here is the thing. Always know, we are in this world solo, we came solo and leave solo., our job is to connect with another soul to give and receive; that is knowledge or whatever our soul requires, if you're in a relationship where you dont gain or give to one-another theres no real reason to continue. This said, NEVER make one your entire life, you only hurt A LOT when you make a soul your world - it should be part of your life and I say only 10-20% of it, the rest should be YOUR world, your work, your hobbies, your friends, family, your "ME" time. You only get hurt when you make one person your whole world and when he/she leaves, guess what your world collapses, cuz he/she WAS the world you once had.
Have you noticed, every time you go through a break up and after so long, you connect with another soul (not just a rebound, but an actual connection) that you tell yourself this is way better than the last, and you fall in love again and well, it MAY end and again you go through the same break up feeling and then it continues,it's cuz this is how it is until we reach the time of complete fulfills and only then we'll attract the right partner into our lives, each soul that came to your life, you've learned something new from, whether it was your fault (the break up) or theirs, it made you a better version of yourself, and eventually you'll get to a point where you know it all and you'll have a successful relationship.
The only note, as said by Leo, you win ONLY if you improve yourself, you'll lose when you give up and don't work on yourself to become self-actualized.
I always tell myself, if I break up (say it was her fault - cheated etc), I want to improve so much (financially, physically, spiritually etc) that she would see me and think, what a mistake it was to leave him; - not to be broken down so bad and say get addicted to drugs and alcohol that one day she crosses my path and says thank God Im not with this loser, lol;... trust me,
Its YOUR time to improve on EVERY ASPECT of your life, from finances, to your spiritual beliefs (meditation etc), workout, etc and you'll soon become more complete and a better version of yourself, only then you can attract the most amazing girls into your life and only then you can actually take the relationship to where it needs to be.
Read a lot of life altering books, not sure if you read POWER OF NOW, but get on that, watch more of Leo's videos, find your passion and replace the negative thoughts (wish he/she was here, what could it be, what is he/she up to, I wonder this etc...) to all that's positive, socialize and become a peoples person, in no time you'll become a lot stronger - and you'll laugh to this.
Best
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Hi Michael,
Even if you wrote this a year ago, thanks, because it's comforting words! Nice to read .. thank you.
I like the way Eckhard Tolle thinks.. however his thinking is no-thouhts.. ;-)
Bye bye, and I wish everyone lots of love coming from the heart, Malou
I watched this video 3 years ago after my worst break up, I'm watching it again today after my break up last night....doesn't feel quite the same, but this is all very powerful...thank you so much
I removed facebook from my phone. Probably that is why I am feeling a little lighter
engadge I did the same
Leo, I want to thank you so much for your videos! Hearing you speak about these things makes me see my situation much differently. My ex told me that I need to resolve my anger issues, thinking people are always out to hurt me, and overthinking. He said I need to change for myself and I'll be much happier, and no matter how much I want to change for him, I now realize he's right and he was never out to make me feel bad about myself. We needed to break up, so I could see that I truly was living a toxic lifestyle that was causing my own unhappiness. Thank you for the motivation, for the wisdom, and the "Don't go back to your ex" 3 times. I needed you to say it 3 times---it's like you knew that I was listening and writing down your good points, but still plotting how to get him back! LOL Thank you so much for shedding light and sharing your personal experience!
Hehehe... How did I know?! ;)
Welcome :)
sometimes they give you good reason to be angry , try to control the verbal abuse when you are angry and the relationship can be salvageable .
Thanks Leo !
17 years old
I know I have a lot of struggles to go through I need to be strong
He left me after almost 2 years being so rude and cruel
But now getting stronger day by day
Focusing on myself ❤
Please pray for me😊
Work on yourself first and foremost.while you are doing this you will meet the right person who likes you for you. You are way to young to get tied up into one person and are going to have this great adventure ahead of you.
What a toxic little fuck
this has got to be one of the best breakup videos. real and actionable.
Leo is one of the great advisors I have ever seen. His advices are very useful especially to all men/women who are facing breakups. Thank you for sharing your video with us.
I have no words to thank you enough. I feel a lot better. I've been going back to her every time I thought of her for the last 10 months though she was mistreating me and calling me names. I badly wanted her back. She made me feel guilty for what I did not do on purpose. I lost myself for almost a year now. Finally I gained the courage to let her go. I've started to move on. Leo, tbh, your video helped me to the core. Thank you.
DO NOT GO BACK TO YOUR EX. I watch this video a few times a week just to hear Leo tell me those final words.
PERFECT! JUST WHAT I REALLY NEEDED TO HEAR!
THANKS MAN!
GOD BLESS YOU!
HUGS FROM BRAZIL!
I am taking full responsibility for my break up. it was only 2 months. she said she was in love and all of that but after 1 month she changed. now she lost her interest in me. I feel like a looser that I had her and couldn't keep her. I know my mistakes that's the worst part. time can heal everything. love was my drug. and she was my drug dealer.
How are you now? At present, I'm in that situation
i am a lot better my friend. You will be. Trust me .
Thanks for the reply. Take care :)
Fucking same man, but, you know, and its hard to say this, she may only have been in love with the *image* of love, having a boyfriend, being able to cuddle with someone no matter how long, being able to kiss someone whenever, without actually caring about the person and getting to really know them...
@RasOye what mistake do you think you made exactly? I f you don't mind sharing. Im in the same boat but we were together for about 8 months. I was dumped by her before because her mom didn't want her dating and I wasnt hurt because I knew she still felt for me, but this time she felt guilty that I loved her more than she loved me. I feel like Im losing her and theres nothing I can do, we decided to take a break until she feels ready for a relationship but idk if she'll ever want me again. She used to believe Love was a choice since feelings eventually fade and that it's enough to love someone, that there is no "i love you more" and that there's just love. Somewhere down the line I guess she changed her mind
wow dude. Your repeating the mantra at the end was so powerful. DO NOT GO BACK TO YOUR EX. Feels like a wake up slap in the face. Thanks man that's beautiful.
very good video. Some people continue to be their ''weak'' self for the rest of their lifes.
They need to break up with the wrong person to discover they need to Boost themselves and FREE themselves ;)
Man, I just found this video after breaking up with my girlfriend. I'm exactly going through what you said, I was needy, I just wanted to get her back, but then I found out she gave me all the responsibility for what happened. She wont admit she has problems as well and this is a clear sign of insecurity. I feel motivated to work on myself and work for what I like, even though I miss her, so that one day I'll be finally in peace with myself and I'll be able to get in a healthy,longlasting relationship. Even after 7 years your video still helps people like me, I'll never thank you enough.
No, no ex back. I keep sensing you're hurting. I sense hurt. Your voice cracked every time you spoke of "ex". I'm sorry for you. That girl passed up a nice guy. Her loss.
This is such a relief from the crap that people tell you what you want to hear, thanks Leo...
Damn that hurts, first truly deep love. We broke up several times and I was always the one running to get her back, fighting for her or so I thought and I did eventually got her back several times, but its all short term treatment in the end there is something wrong with relationship on fundamental level. It's just time to move on. That video was very helpful
brother. that has honestly, truly. changed everything iv been looking at since my break up. thank you so much. feeling blessed after watching this man
Thank you so much Leo. This video really helped. Going through a break up now. Came outta the blue, so I didn't see it coming. I'm just a week into it but whew.. It's been a tough week. Thank you again Leo.
Joe Goudeau The exact same thing happened to me. This video really helped me get over the fact that me and my ex are done.
Hi Joe. Did things get better? I'm going through that now.
I've been through multiple breakups and focusing on personal development and life purpose right now after some dating recently. All of this stuff Leo said is so true you guys. You gotta be strong and expand your life and stick with this plan. sometimes I get off track and come back study more and more but I know I get better and internally stronger through time.
Wow, this was great. The "do not go back to your ex" remark is right on the money. Don't do it. I made that mistake. He cheated on me and I still went back to him. We eventually broke-up again, and it was still hard for me to let go of him. Now, I'm moving on, but I wasted three years of my life with him. I'm going to use these amazing tips. Thank you so much for this and for all of your videos!
Not wasted. You learned an important lesson! And probably had a lot of good times too.
Really needing this one, appreciate it a lot Leo my ex Left for someone else due to fact that I did deeply some neediness, jealousy, clingy and controlling. It breaks my heart so bad that I didn't had the strength or the knowledge to fix this all during the relationship. For the fact that I suffer from PTSD and he suffers from depression it really did sabotage the little progress I was making when I was trying to build myself in a positive way, I felt like I was pushing a lot in the relationship for us to grow and I guess he wasn't ready. It was a horrible cycle. I started to feel numb within myself and lost. It's been almost 2 months since he left and now that I been listening to your video's it's been helping me that there is still hope for a new relationship and I will be at my healthiest state, I am just too tired of the drama. I want peace in a relationship, I am glad that I can and will continue to develop myself. Thank you.
omg. Does anyone else feel like he was legit talkihng straight to you. Everything you mentioned Leo, I'm going through. You hit the nail on the head with this one. D: It's so hard not to go back... fml -.-
Though this video is coming to me a few years after my break up, I both sadly and gladly say it is useful. I have developed and sustained over the years a short temper, anger, jealousy with and without reason, that same toxic negativity you mentioned, plus the depression, and grotesquely enough, neediness. These things have proven your statements correct. I made my own mind up on a few things today that have been making me miserable. I am going to eradicate them from my life. I also successfully engaged in my second day of your 5-min recitation. Moving forward in bounds. Thank you for laying it out plain for me when you said there are "no one unique soul mates." I was stuck on that belief for a long time and it makes sense when I hear it. Oh. The Hollywood love spell thing you mentioned--- spot on. I've been choking for breath under that blanket for a long time.What a veil. Thank you for posting another video today. And another thank you for personally (as far as I can tell) responding to our comments. Its comforting for me to believe that you are actually reachable and physically reading what we have to say. Flattery is not my intention here. I'm merely trying to say that I'm finding something I need here. So thanks. a lot.
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"DO NOT GO BACK TO YOUR EX!" X4 Love it!!
hi leo, so very happy to be part of your videos, watching this video at the right point of the juncture in my life. i really appreciate your work you putting in here, really really worked for me . not only this video but all previous ones watched.. keep going leo,
Thanks for this video, I’m currently week 3 of my break up of a 6 year relationship and I’m in pieces. I’m finding it rough as hell but this video has made a lot of sense. I’m trying to get my cards in order and get motivated for a better future but it’s hard right now.
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It’s been a week for me. 6 year relationship over just like that. I feel like dying🥺
How are you feeling now my friend? I'm 1 month out of mine and it was the worst feeling ever. Already feeling better, slowly. Hope you're well.
Joshua Lim hi there. Ummm you could say I’m doing well .... I met a new girl last February and we now 4 months pregnant. I look back at this message and think how much I’ve grown and changed (all for the better). There’s no denying a breakup is shitty and it’s hard and at time’s desperately horrible, but I came to realise it’s a fantastic time to grow and learn about yourself, it’s also a great time to focus on yourself and do all the things you’ve ever wanted to do and weren’t able to. You have to stay positive though I promise it will get better.
May I ask what your situation is?
@@flaigus Thanks for the reply and encouragement. It's encouraging to hear stories like yours. For me, it was a 6 year relationship with a girl who was also my best friend for a long time before that, which slowly fizzled as our lifestyles and lives in general grew apart. I had thought of ending it several times, but loved her (still do) and didn't want to hurt her so I did what I could to make it work.
I knew it may have eventually ended and I thought i'd be OK with the feelings, but the day after it actually happened, I was feeling lower than ever and lost. Completely obsessed with negative feelings such as loneliness, jealousy, anger, despair, regret & nostalgia. My work has suffered as a result. The feelings quickly grow exhausting, and there is no end to it other than the temporary solace of a night's sleep when you happen not to dream of her.
Day after day I work on myself physically, spiritually, and nurture my hobbies - because happiness and contentment ultimately come from within. I feel like knowing this, as well as knowing of stories such as yours that prove time heals and better times are ahead, is of a great help. Meditation and the support of friends have been my greatest ally.
Just typing this out helps as well, so thanks for the opportunity. I'm happy for you kind stranger, and hope for the best for you and your family!
Joshua Lim totally relate to all those feelings you’re going through mate. I took a lot of solace in the fact that what I was feeling wasn’t unusual and I even found out people I know were going through tough breakups. I used to to listen to a lot of sad music I think that helped, I dunno it kinda felt like there was another person going though the same thing and we were empathising together, and boy is there a lot of breakup songs. Some of best songs ever written are about heart ache.
I would also tell anyone that would listen to me that I was finding it hard it’s amazing how many people are willing to listen to you when you’re low.
I will also say like you I thought about ending my relationship several times and that has to be for a reason I’m sure one day you’ll realise it’s for the best, and ultimately there’s a reason you broke up. This I promise you.
In the mean time there’s lots of material online here on UA-cam and I read a couple books, I kinda look back at that time and think it was a bit silly but hey it helped a lot so....
also if you’re able to join a gym it really helped me, I got in shape looked and felt better, I’m sure you’ve already lost weight and aren’t finding much comfort in food. Can’t beat that break up diet.
Break contact with her for a month/6 weeks whatever it takes to get you thinking beyond her.
Again I know it’s corny but it will get better.
You helped me overcome my break up blues Leo. I just realized that everything happens for a reason and I am happy of where I am today because without heartaches I'm still the woman who's afraid to face the challenges in life.
It can be a uphill battle but nonetheless you can overcome it. It's been hard for me to get over my ex,but I'm working on bettering myself in all area's of life. Sometimes break up happens for a reason, so someone who will apperciate you more can enter into your life.
Thanks alot Leo. I came across your video because of a break up. I had already started following personal development trough a page on Facebook called Spirit Science. I've been watching your videos ever since I broked up with my daughter's mom two months ago. I'm subscribed to your newsletter and bought the books on your page. I feel I'm on track now and I have became over enthusiastic with personal development. You're personality just glows. I respect the type of person you are. I just cant find a way to thank you so much.
Your videos are just amazing. I have watched a lot of them, and I highly appreciate them. Your advice and knowledge has helped tons of people, I know it's really helped me. I'm really trying to get my life together, and focus on my future and what's ahead. I really just wanted to thank you so much for what you do, you're a really motivational, and intelligent person. I hope you continue to make videos, Thanks so much.
Thanks :)
My brother, you have no idea how much I needed to see this right now. Thank you
My ex and I broke up about a week ago and he hurt me soooo much I know I'm young only 18 but I feel like I will never have anyone again. I feel lonely and sad cause I did everything I could and it wasn't enough.
Be strong... I'm going through the same thing. Time will do its job.
It's honestly so common to feel that, but I PROMISE you that you will find someone else and they will make you feel brand new and even better than your ex did. Just hold in there and focus on yourself and looking after yourself! x
was in your shoes, got back with the person because I was weak now broken up once again, I gotta tell you one thing. Set personal goals you are 18 so am I, going to college soon and one thing I realize is that setting personal goals and have personal aspirations help so much during these break ups because you don't feel lost and have something else that you love aside from the ex. 1st time we broke up, I was devastated and traumatized, this time I felt at ease. free to do whatever I want and finally can focus on what is important. Seriously though, the ex isnt the only person that is going to be good or "the one". There is always the better one out there no matter how in love you are, you just gotta find him/her.
Tashya S thank you lovely! I am doing better.
Suba thanks love!
Leo! I love you! Thank you so much. I needed to hear this! I'm already stronger from this experience than i ever tought i would be. I've grown so much! I quitted smoking, gotten the body i always wanted, started working on my insecurities by taking the responsibility for my emotions and taking classes about this. My life got a course again and i'm bettering every week. Nice to come here and getting the things i do confirmed. I watch alot of your videos and read the books you listed on your website! And once again thank you for being an extraordinary guide on this journey with advanced personal development, i'm sure i say that for alot of us. Glad i found you. You're the man. Cheers.
Thank you so much Leo. Honestly thank you so much. Thank you
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Leo, I want to thank you for this particular video, it changed my whole life. I start over almost 2 years ago, and since then I never stop working on me and creating myself as a successful, strong and NOT needy individual.
Friends aren't that important to me because I don't like a lot of people. More people means more drama and after getting screwed over I've become really self conscious and have very little confidence
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Man this is really eye opener... I've been suffering the last 20 days but now it's the perfect opportunity to make changes in my life. Thanks a lot Leo!! Greets from Peru.
How I'm dealing with one: watching UA-cam and eating in the dark. Hiding in my room😣😥
I feel your pain man. I feel your pain. 😢😢
My ex is an ass. He texted me last month all like "hey I still care about you blah blah blah" and I was like stfu
+The Skating Crafter 😂😂😂😂 too funny. Well, at least you get that. My ex told me he was in love with his ex and was going to build a life with her. The same woman he told me not to be concerned about. smh. I'm trying to heal from this.
My gf just broke up with me 1 hr ago
+Lol Bruh my boyfriend just broke up with me 45 mins ago
This is actually the most helpful video on this topic. You also explained quite precisely the reasons for break up. All the advice here is golden.
Thanks for this. I've been playing from 30 minutes on every day just to remind myself to not go back to my ex because it isnt worth it.
Leo i watch your videos every single day.you are a true inspiring bro and they are helping me alot.I had a break up 6 months ago because of stupid decisions and it broke my heart so bad and i cried and became more weak, did'nt act life a man, i loved this girl so much and i thought she is the one and i will marry her and i was her first person who dated her and i was her first kiss i'm 25 and she is almost 18 .but didn't realize i was stupid not to love myself first,i had so many flaws and bad habits and I was that kind of person Desperate,Needy,lazy,Fat,get angry so fast,jealous,not honest and not respectful with my self even didn't focus on my career,and not taking actions on my goals and self improvement,but i still getting back some flashback about her and i missed her.Even maybe she has a new boyfrd rgt now and time to time i check her out on social media but everytime i do that many flashbacks start to invade my head.But thanks God i;m going to a mentor Life coach and i'm doing my best to cut off all bad habits and working on improving my self and focus on my future to be successful in life.Again thanks Leo so much for your videos keep inspiring us cz u make me feel comfortable and relief my mind every time i watch ur videos.Thank you bro
Yeah, that's how it usually goes with your first love.
Belive Nothing,
No matter where you read it
or who has said it,
not even if I have sait it,
unless it agrees With your own reason and your own COMMON SENSE
whaat if your judgement is wrong wont you be stuck for good
Lol
Thank you so much. You have helped me beyond words, buth with meditation and dealing with the trauma of a break-up. You have redirected me from misery to incredible growth. Again, THANK YOU
I feel like my breakup is a bit different. I could go back to my ex at any time if I wanted to, but I'm not sure if it is the right choice. We were together for 2 years and we loved each other a lot, we bought plush toys and hugged trees together and we were just being weird the way we could never be with anyone else. But she was very jealous of all my friends, to the point that she could not stand it anymore and ended up making me choose between her and all my friends. If I let her do that to me, she would control me like that for the rest of my life and I stopped feeling the freedom I should feel in life. I didn't make a clear choice, so over time our relationship was getting colder until it was over.
I know I must continue with my life and become stronger, but the beautiful memories make me cry every time I think about it..
HUGE RED FLAG: The girl pushes you to choose between "her" OR "friends and family."
Lyirog i was stuck only a year with a man that till today I dunno why I felt attracted to him. I am super picky, authentic ADHD person. I felt potential in him despite and maybe because of being single for years I was causious and honest about it. But it turned out he was traumatized in childhood. Don't know how, heard from his ex. And the fact I don't really know him is also a big deal. I only knew he emotionally abused me and the confusion and wanting to know WTF, also the fights and manipulation (especially after break up that was ugly and twisted) was so exhausting that I avoided the pain. He had qualities that kept the love alive, but It was obvious that love wasnt the love I can and want to feel with anyone. I distanced my self drastically.
Tempered people are another thing, traumatized and developing traits of BPD =never wrong, apologize, take responsibility, lack of emphaty. Confusing, that's the worst
and I rather meet someone (and have, so speaking of experience ) who was super jealous, controlling, a bit physically violent cause it is so easy to see (especially by outsiders too) that person is toxic, needs help. I left. Ironically He had qualities (unlike my recent ex) like taking care of me, supporting, not putting me down for forgetting bathroom light off... emphaty etc.
Look your childhood closer (Auch) even if it was ok, but sure u know there was issues. Then study your ex gf's behavior. Look into personality disorders....do online testing about yourself too, cause it is Always a good thing to make sure am I OK. No. Matter what information is power and I know you WANT HELP AND TO FEEL NORMAL.
Im in that same situation atm too. My partner has bpd and was very controlling which made me want to escape, which i did 6 weeks ago. Now im being hoovered big time with poetry and old romantic pics sent to my phone, promises to change.. It's all so tempting to go back but I've gone through so much pain to get out. What Leo said at the end of this clip was great reassurance that we are on the right path and that going back will just increase our codepence with them. We do need to work on ourselves to reach our full potential. After all, we only have one life. Might as well make the most of it.
Same
I can relate to what most people posted in this thread. Insecurity, deep inner bitterness, jealousy, and selfishness are only a few of the worst destroyers in a relationship. Just broke up 24 hours ago and even though, you know what the reasons were most of the time, it does not stop you from thinking of how you could have worked things out if there was willingness and commitment. I believe that childhood issues can be addressed which can lead to a lot of issues such as jealousy and insecurity, but it has to start with the person realizing that there is a problem, because if not, the person will be dating the same guy or girl, but with a different name, meaning that it is not them, but maybe you or the person with these issues who needs self-awareness.
This guy has spoken so much sense to me of late.
Thanks man. Inspiring me to help myself in this dark time.
I love this... 32:04
"So... in summary..."
Thanks for that, Leo. :)
Wow Leo! This is the video I started with on your channel and I must say after going through countless videos of others over months, you are the one who finally made sense. Thank you so much. I found you at the most needed time of my life. Just amazing, deep and wise stuff in every video of yours I have watched till now. This is actually my first youtube comment and my first subscription ever. Keep up the good work. My target for now. 100 days of self improvement with 1 hour a day of self-actualization.Kudos!
"if you're a woman it's not so much your job to attract the man, you do it through your looks"...
"Women don't approach guys"
So rigid...
Was a bit disappointed he didn't mention that women can also approach a guy obviously. It's more a society thing
I'm standing here re-listening this video for the third time..and can't stop crying...i've told him since the beginning that I m not sure about the relationship but step by step he convinced me to think of us as "we"..but when i was in a bad mood or i don t know from where this thought came..in 7 months i break up with him about 5 times..i never trust him enough..and now it's over without saying anything...
i'm done with her. i'm done with all of them.
never again.
Leo, this is one of the most clarifying videos I've seen. I have come around to the idea that going back to that relationship was so I didn't have to work on me. This video really clarified things I knew deep down, but didn't want to admit to. Thank you -
My ex broke up with me saying I'm a mess. Have been dating her for 5 yrs and in just 1 week she fells for another guy and left me.
I stopped communicating with her but she keeps texting me saying why can't we be friends. I haven't replied and I'M NEVER GOING BACK TO THAT PERSON WHO LEFT ME SAYING I'M A BIG MESS WHEN I WAS AT MY WEAKEST POINT. *DO NOT GO BACK TO YOUR EX*
Sooo brave!!! Bravo!
@@20do11 you will have to be brave when you are alone lol.
Omg. Did I write this? My ex of four years also left me and got a new girl a week later. He also keeps asking me why we can’t be friends. Maybe because you’re a fucking asshole??? lol
Dinil Dinesh How are you doing now?
These tips just ring bells but I just needed to be reminded of them ...Thanks Leo
Great video. Really resonated. Thank you very much, time to be a better man!
You do not know this. But I am from Singapore and your video awakened me. I am struggling from a breakup and i actually wrote down notes as you spoke to me.
I dont do that much in lectures but i feel so inspired by your talks. This is by far the heaviest breakup after 3 years and thank you the final 3 reminders of DO NOT GO BACK TO YOUR EX.
You are a good person. I will keep following you and learn under your wing. Youbgot yourself a loyal subscriber. Thank you for improving my life.
Welcome aboard :)
I love you guy. I love myself!! Dude you have helped me so much. I feel so much better now.
thank you so much Leo. Im so happy with my break up because i know its time to move on and this is the perfect opportunity to actualize myself and become all the things that i want :) this has truly made me see things in a positive way, can't thank you enough!
Dude, loving your videos, my fiance left me turned my world upside down and everything you say hits the nail on the head! Awesome stuff! Thanks for your work :)
Relationships are the most important thing in our lives and this video is a gift!
I just broke up with my first girlfriend. It lasted 4 months, and it was a steady decline since day one.If I have any advice I can give on top of what Leo just said, LISTEN to your feelings. Don't overthink stuff, just allow yourself to feel; I was hurting real bad throughout those months because my gf could not reciprocate the love I had for her, blaming her personality, but in the end, she just wasn't in love, and her and I both knew but kept going hoping things would get better. It doesn't get better.
I had a feeling this would be good from just your first few words. I think I was compelled to hit the subscribe button from just your intro. No one need inform you that you have a real talent. Indeed I am despaired and you do a great job of connecting with me, the audience. I'm only half way through the video actually but must thank you for this production.
HOLY SHITTTTTTT WWWWOOOOOOWWWWW!!! "WEAK SELF" DUDE! WOOOOOOWWWWWW THAT GOT ME LIKE BAM! SHAZOW! KAZAAAAAMMMMM!!! YOU ARE FRIGGIN AWESOME!
This video brought a smile to my face, especially at the end. "Do NOT go back to your ex." Thank you, Leo.
wow, usually you nail the topics, however, you missed a huge part in relationships which is dropping ones ego and listening to the other person talk. Have you ever been with a person who talks the majority of the time and then the few times you get to talk you get the feeling they're not even listening to you, they're just waiting for their turn to talk again. If a person gets the feeling you don't truly care what they have to say they'll eventually leave.
Well, sure. That's why I stressed learning how to communicate and understanding how the opposite sex thinks. You have to develop relationship management skills if you want a successful relationship.
Actualized.org Leo (Mr.Perfect) you should make a video about how men think. ;P
fitaw g Haha, if all men think like me, then they think perfectly ;)
RAW FOOD PHILOSOPHY soooo true omg!
Just happened to me
This was best so far speech I ever heard from a person. This plan you talked about , is the plan that I had never thought that I have to make. I feel an emptiness in my heart for years now because of hard breaks up. I am facing a huge break up right now and I am leaving my last hope to your plan. I'll try the best . Thanks a lot Leo. Thanks a lot.
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After having gone through so much over the past year (including a break-up with someone I’ve been completely co-dependent with for 8-years), I can ALWAYS seek refuge in one of your videos. This one really did it for me and what I’m currently going through. Thank you thank you thank you!!!
bree bell same here. Just got out of a 6 year co-dependent relationship. It felt like someone died.. it was so bad. I sobbed and sobbed for days. I'm so much better now. I'm more stable and accepting what's happening. I wish you the best.
so happy to hear about you, unfortunately I cry all day and I cannot accept the situation. my life is a mess.
join me19888 I'm still struggling. I think about him every minute of the day, or so it seems. Idk how I'm going to get over it..
This just really described me. Especially the childhood issues, the not having my life in check and having lost all of my motivation because of these past/childhood issues :(
I could really relate to this video and it inspires me a lot. I hope it does so for all the other people that have just broken up too!
They're tough times, but it's true that we have to push forward and make ourselves better instead of dwelling in the past.
And I also relate a lot to the "Toxic Emotional Values" part.
The funny thing is that I only became like that after being in this last relationship! :'( I was never ever a needy, jealous or depressed person before, I had all I needed. I dipped down and down more and more into this hole while I was actually in this relationship. And I was in it for 2 years. I have lost myself completely, lost my motivation, interests, everything :'( I'm starting anew.
My mind is giving me yet another optical illusion, telling me that it would all be just so much easier if I could just commit suicide :'( and I know it's not a good thought, but it keeps lingering there in the back of my mind.
All in all, THANK YOU for this video!! :( ... I really appreciate that people like you, that have been through these things get the courage to ENcourage people that are going through the same in the present!! Thank you!
my favorite video, I think the same, the most painful break up I had some months ago was the best thing happened to me. That pain is so useful to push me for growth in different areas of my life that I don't wanna lose it. I feel like losing it in these days, but I keep remembering it not to lose that speed of my growth and that passion inside
My boyfriend broke up with me after 5 years. I honestly thought he was the love of my life. He said he doesn't feel the true passion and love to me anymore, and I'm not his soulmate, and he needs to be sure about somebody who he want to spend the rest of his life. I respect that and that's why I know there is nothing to fight about, and I love him so much so I want him to be happy, but I feel so damn terrible that I can't even explain that. I don't want to do enything, everything, even simple things are scary to do. And he came clean that there is a girl that he have a great connection with. I have never felt so much pain.
Thank You for that video it helped me. I realised that I stopped growing, I just stuck, but I don't feel like I really can deal with it all. But I want to try. I hope that is the best thing that ever happened to me.
My gf broke up w me 3 months ago & I thought she was my "one," my soulmate. She said she wasn't sure if I was hers. I loved her so much & I still feel like I do. I long to be w her again cuz she was a total game changer but at the same time I hafta respect that she could admit something like that, cuz it's definitely not easy to hear but I can imagine it wasn't easy to say either. What I'm trying to say is, I feel you & I'm sorry you're hurting, & I believe we will both be more than okay.
kejajko after a month how are you doing? im going through something similar to yours
Gabriel Arellano
I'm having the time of my life! I lost my best friend, but I found 3 new friends that I didn't expect. They got me fixed. I still miss him, but most of the time I'm finally who I wanted to be. I realised so many things that I got so comfortable that I stopped growing. I see more clearly I enjoy every day, I appreciate bad thing more. He was stopping me from this, and although I want to hug him, kiss him, have him I feel so much better. I finally love myself again. Don't worry man the sun is still shining for you, there are only big clouds. It happened for a reason, you have to gain from it Wish you the best!
kejajko wow good to hear!!
Anielle Damasceno she did because she really practiced the abundance mentality. If you get stuck moaning about your ex, you'll be still.. if you do what you've always done, you'll get the same results. The feelings and neediness will slowly fade as long as you focus on yourself and force yourself to be a better person and move on. I know it's hard but you can do it.. watch this guy's videos.. check out Coach Corey Wayne's as well.. good stuff.
Anielle Damasceno I know,, I'm there myself.. in the process of getting over a girlfriend I deeply loved but took for granted. I made mistakes and still do when we talk every now and again.. but everyday I feel better by seeing this guy's videos and coach corey wayne's as well.. hope you get better soon.
Leo, I needed to hear this. I'm still going to be hurt for a little while, but hearing what you had to say about developing the greatest version of yourself. Realizing what went wrong, and doing what you are able to do to not repeat your mistakes. Everything in this video about improving yourself is so raw and it's tough but it's so necessary. I've been binging these videos but this is the one that I can resonate with.
Despite how much I liked this video and all the advice, then there are certainly also past relationships that are worth rekindling. I'm specifically thinking of good relationships that were broken up because one or both parties had issues that destroyed the relationship, but if the issues could be dealt with, then the relationship could work. A perfect example is the book "The truth" by former pickup artist Neil Strauss, in where he leaves his best relationship ever simply because he has trauma.
I'm also considering going back to my ex, because there was really only one thing wrong, and if that's something that can be fixed, then it's worth rekindling. But obviously, if it can't be fixed then it should be left alone. But I haven't decided on this yet :-). Everything else about her was essentially perfect. It's worth noting that I was the one who broke up, and maybe we should just have had a serious conversation about the issue (although we had spoken about it before) and then had a period where we tried to make it work, and if it failed, then we should have broken up. All my other relationships I'm glad are over. After some of them I was angry; after others I was relieved. All good signs that I shouldn't go back (which I didn't) :-).
same here
Dear Leo. Today as we are about to start 2016 I have to tell that I have been seeing this video like 4 or 5 times and everytime it gets wiser and deeper into my mind. Me? Now broken hearted but your video brings lights of hope to my life. I have the feeling you can count on me as one of your future followers. Blessings and happy 2016 for you. Regards from Mexico.