how i deal with limiting beliefs & negative thoughts
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- Опубліковано 9 лип 2024
- shadow work and why we all need it
I spent so much of my life running away from negative thoughts. When I wasn't running from them, I was trying to fight them. A lot of times, they would win and I would buy into a lot of my insecurities, self doubts, and worries. I finally realized that my anxiety was coming from the fight I was putting up with my negative thoughts.
Learning to sit with, observe, and learn from negative thoughts has honestly started to change my life. Doing shadow work is giving me space to work through limiting beliefs that were holding me back from a lot of inner peace and success. In this video, I share how I got started with shadow work, how I use it to deal with self doubts on a daily basis, and how you can to.
0:00-4:21 running from negativity doesn't work
4:21 sitting with your negative thoughts
7:09 learning from your negative thoughts
9:56 breaking through limiting beliefs
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Something I learned in therapy is imagining your negative thoughts like a door in your mind that you choose not to go through.
I get this at work since I'm in an EXTREMELY toxic work environment (bullying, favoritism, but I'm getting out in less than 30 days so whatever, get my bag and finish my master's program lol). So if I decide to go into the "door" of the negative thoughts of "I'm not good enough, that's why they bully me because they know I suck and I actually do suck, blahblahblah", I know that I'm going to be in that space. But instead I can stop at "I'm not good enou- wait...I know this room, I don't want to be in this room" and then it helps me get back to the reality of "I'm being bullied, I'm doing the best I can, and I'm leaving soon."
That was such a long explanation lol but I hope it makes sense!
yess
@@marianna380 💚 hope it made sense/helped
That makes PERFECT sense, and it wasn't too long of an explanation, it was really helpful and sweet of you to share that with us. Thank-you 😁🥰!
@@kikib8434 I'm happy that it helps! It's okay to know that these "rooms" or chains of thoughts are there in our minds but we don't have to entertain them or go down the rabbit hole
Oh my goodness I was in the same situation as you last year! My work environment was so toxic a coworker (a man) even but his hands on me! That's how serious the bullying was for me. I hope your doing well and out of that job ❤
does anyone else just gets super excited and happy when lynette uploads cause skdjdjksd same
me
Thank youuu🥺❤️
Yeah she's good to do you tube. KEEP GOING LYNETTE. This was extremely helpful
I do
yessss. i be so excited to watch her when i get free time
Shadow work for me is kinda like journaling your emotions and the things bothering you and you can also cry in front of a mirror because it helps you feel the emotion and release it❤️
this is coming at such perfect timing
I'm so glad❤️
Agree!!💗
same with me it’s so crazy, i am so thankful for lynette❤️
same with me it’s so crazy, i am so thankful for lynette❤️
Everytime!
Sitting with them is harder when it’s not an overnight fix. Because you may be sitting with those emotions for a month or months even. I feel that validation here is key. Validating your emotions keeps the suffering at bay or non existent. Allow yourself to feel. Allow your self to rest if your body says rest. Societal norms on how to deal with our feelings is so f’d up and backward because we live in such a state of urgency. Healing is not linear
You better say that Rosa!!!!
THISSS. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, so so true.
Affirmations have really helped me as well a shadow work and clearing ceremonies. For the clearing ceremonies I'll write down, "I clear away all the ways that I feel unworthy, I clear away all the ways I feel..., etc." on some paper and the negative thoughts and emotions that I had been suppressing just flow out of me it's crazy. Then I take the pieces of paper outside and burn them to release them and let go. Then I'll listen to affirmation videos and meditate to them to fill my sub-conscience up with more helpful thoughts. I've been doing it for the past couple of months and it definitely helped me with that anxiety you were talking about.
That’s so amazing, I’ve been doing something similar too! When I realized how much I felt was weighing me down I was on a beach and said ‘I let go of all that doesn’t serve me’ and literally felt like things that were holding me down were washing away. So powerful
Acceptance and tolerance is such a huge breakthrough, it’s not easy but it’s life changing. Allowing ur thoughts to just be thoughts is such a crazy concept, but it takes the power away from thoughts and allows u to take that confidence and power back!! Needed this reminder♥️
Yes ❤️
The timing is impeccable. I’ve been feeling low at times, and it’s so hard not to think negatively sometimes especially when others seem to have it all together.
What I've learned over the past few month or so is that when I have negative thoughts, it's more than likely some sort of fear or insecurity within me. I have to stop myself and ask (in my head) "what am I so afraid of?" Is it the people around me? Is it the way I'm dressed? Whenever I get a second to sit and think, I ponder on the answers to these questions. Most of the time, it's stuff I can't even control (people's opinions/thoughts). That's mainly what I'm working on now. There's so much more I want to say, but I don't want to leave too long of a comment. Thanks for everything you do, Lynette
This video is SO👏NECESSARY👏 for me right now, thanks girl!
Yay I'm so glad this could help!
Listen, I literally want you to know that watching your videos have been giving me the UMPH to get over myself, get my shit together and put my best foot forward with my channel. Thank you for this!
I'm so so glad they could help❤️
I just started my spiritual journey in may, and am sharing it in my channel as well! In addition to journaling and paying attention to who and what triggers me and why, I do morning walks (more like morning saunters) . I slow down, and I focus on the Beauty around me, my favorite are watching birds fly!
OMG, I give this analogy about being a mountain and your thoughts are clouds passing to my GF!! She's just getting into meditation and asks me how do I clear my mind... I had to let her know that a clear mind isn't my goal when I meditate, it's to assess my feelings and heal from within. ❤ Meditating and journaling have helped me so much with my mental... it's a necessity for me now
Yesss it took me so long to realize this!!
Homegirl be on her personal development ISH lol! Exactly what I encourage people to do. Keep up the good work!
I love meditating it really helps me center myself and take a step back and look into what I am thinking
Yesss it's amazing how much it can help
You should make a podcast. You have the most amazing thoughts and I would love to learn and listen to you through a podcast:))
You have no idea how much you are helping me with your videos. You are one of the few youtubers that actually have an impact and you have the potential of changing lives for real. Thank you, thank you, thank you! I came across your channel last week - I have been going through so many of your videos, they touch on points that make a lot of sense to me. I hope the universe will repay you for the kindness that you put out into the world.
You are quickly becoming my favorite youtuber! I love the variety and depth of your videos and just how real you are!
Thank you so much!
Hearing this and feeling like people went through the same thing makes me feel understood and less lonely. Thank you.
I came across a quote that said "It's OKAY to feel other emotions other than happiness." I'm learning to sit with my anxiety and fears and allow them to pass by instead of avoid them and be like "no no no!!" when negative thoughts come.
I don’t know u, and I love you. The mindfulness u hold is gold. So great with explaining stuff thank u for being here for us. Please keep it up. U are helping so many!!!
Crying bc I needed this reminder 🥲
🥺❤️ wishing you the best!
YOU REALLY MADE THIS FOR ME
omg ❤️❤️❤️
shadow work still scares me so much but im trying to learn to be okay with this part of me... the analogy you shared on being a mountain with everything in your head just passing around you was incredibly inspiring and enlightening and I will be trying that out!!
It can be really scary at first but it's so so worth. Wishing you the best❤️
@@LynetteAdkins omg thank you so much! it means a lot to me that you reached out! can’t wait to see what you have in store, you’re so inspirational for me! ❤️
in case anybody else is a bit lost about journaling and how to get writing - for me just using these monthly prompt lists from pinterest or wherever really helped :)
You are not your thoughts,
that’s one of my biggest takeaways from doing this work.
Journaling and meditation and my own quiet space.
This was a great video. Let’s talk about why it is so difficult to find a good therapist fit 🥲
Hope everything goes only up for you, cause you're delivering so much value, thanks!
Thank you!
perfect timing, tysm!! to everyone else, remember that it will get better soon. there is always light at the end of the tunnel.
Yes yes yes❤️
Absolutely love the direction your channel is taking, I’m so inspired by you to create more introspective and transparent content like yours! Thank you so much for sharing! I love this ♥️
Thank you so much! ❤️
I get distracted by how pretty her face is. Love the contents. I’m a newly master degree graduate who is figuring out what to do with my life. I’m also practicing doing things out of love not from fear but it’s hard when it comes to money.
i get distracted by it too 🙌🏽 and good luckto you!
@@inactive2190 thanks 😊 love your channel just subscribed
I'm glad that I found your video, I really needed to learn how to stop running away from my negative thoughts and instead understand them and try to change the things in my life that are making the negative thoughts pop in my mind.
I really needed this, I struggle with negative thoughts and feelings of anxiety and it's blocking my manifestations and me moving forward. Thank you for this❤
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The gene keys (specifically the venus sequence) is so helpful when you wanna dig DEEP into your shadow patterns / programming.
I’m going to look into this, thank you!
I’ve just found your account and this is just perfect time for me, I had a similar childhood to you and watching this is something I needed right now
I'm only 48 sec in and if I could like this a thousand times!!!!!
I also get deeper into shadow work at the Moment, so keep us updated on your experience!!
Loved this video. I feel like this has been me lately trying to be positive but falling into the negative thoughts and figuring out a way not to have them ! Looks like I’ve been doing shadow work and didn’t even know it lol.
Yesss I didn’t realize there was a name for it until recently!
Omg this really couldn’t have come at a better time HOLY thank you!
I'm so glad❤️🥺
Anxiety coming from the reaction to negative thoughts is so true thank you for this video it’s so helpful!! 💃🏼
This was needed. ❤ I needed to deal with the source of my problems.
This is the content people need! Subscribed and Notifs On. Thanks for your selfless sharing ❤️, from money truths to lifestyle to personal transformations. Your channel popped in from the recommendations today, and sometimes, YT is NOT wrong. God bless you.
Wow, I’m so glad this was helpful. Thank you❤️
such a powerful 11 minutes!!! Thank you for sharing this Lynette.
I get soooo excited every time you upload. I feel like you and I have the same mentality and I always agree with what you're saying!
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Your videos have been so helpful for me lately, especially as someone who wants to pursue content creation on UA-cam. I really love and appreciate your advice, you're so mature and thoughtful !! keep it up queen
So obsessed with these videos 🌸✨
Thank you!
I always find myself taking so many notes when I watch your videos, thank you!!
I really needed this....thank you♥️♥️
PERFECT timing thank you 🙏🏼
I needed to hear this today!
Needed this
Your channel and content is helping me so much 💗 keep it coming !!
This definitely helped me!!! I’m afraid of feeling love bc of abuse from my childhood😩 smh!! At least now I know so I can work on myself in those areas. Thnx Lynette💙
This video is very much a gem. Thank you for sharing!
You really helped with me with my mental health. The best
Really liked this video, very relevant for what im going through now!
Such a helpful video!! Thank you 😌
I can listen to you all day 💕💕
Keep post these UA-cam videos of your. They absolutely wonderful. You're making me motivated.
I can relate when you said you didnt fit in growing up ,just know you have alot of people here rooting for your success.
Thank you ❤️ wishing you the best as well
Needed this 🤍
Literally PERFECT TIMINGGGGG
Yayyy❤️
also another video idea if you would like:
how do you surround yourself with the people that have the same goals as you and build a relationship/friendship with them?
i do believe that “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
Definitelyyy still working on this but can share my experience so far for sure ❤️
My gosh literally starting to go through this with my therapist but I have been pushing off all those negative thoughts and only letting them come up in session. This is so helpful right now!!
I'm so glad this was helpful!
Love these tactical and valuable lessons! I will incorporate sitting with and questioning my negative emotions when journaling!
Yesss wishing you the best❤️
this video was timely and resonated so much! thank you🤍
I’m so glad ❤️
You make great videos...Thank you!
Thanks for the tips
this was very helpful :)
So relatable sis
Great video keep up the good work
thank you so much Lynette
Amazing thank u
Yessss godess energy!!!!
Thanks for the video graduating in the summer and my mind is going a bit crazy
I’m glad it could help, wishing you the best ❤️
This video is literally talking to me lol thanks a lot!
I’m in Austin also and on the same wavelength. Let’s grab coffee and take a hike. We see things very similarly. 💛
Oh this is great. I bought moldavite 2 months ago and it has FORCED me to do a lot of shadow work. And it's helped me in many other ways as well but the shadow work is a big one. Shadow work is soooooo important oh my gosh I wish more people would bring awareness to it so thank you for making a video on it!!
Omggg I got moldavite recently too, I'm so glad to hear shadow work has been helping you as well!
Lynette Adkins omg that’s awesome!!! It has literally changed my life in so many ways!!
Shadow work and meditation!!!!!
BESTIE YOUR VIDEOS ARE ALWAYS ON TIME ASSFHHJKDDKL💕✨🧚
Love these kinds of videos
ily
Thank you, I feel a bit lighter
8:45 damn this is deep!
Loved this video 👏🏻 💖 P.S your nails 😍💙🧡
Thank you!❤️
I would get triggered by some pretty common things in films or books or conversations and my mind and body would be flooded with negative emotions and bad memories on repeat. I would turn the movie off, stop reading, stop the conversation but after a while, I started to tell myself not to run away. And it's gotten easier. I was triggered only today, and I continued reading and told myself; look the thought appeared, you felt it, but the world didn't end. Everything is exactly as it was before you were triggered. You are exactly in the same place, your world hasn't actually imploded. It's OK thay you were reminded of this shitty thing, but it's gone now and you can come back to where you were. The journey has many ups and downs! Some days you can fight it, others you can't. But you keep going for those days when you can keep it together.
Ty
can you please make a video about how to deal with parents/friends/family that don’t support you
Yes!
I liked the video before I even started watching 😭 Lynette is my innanet good sis 💛 lmao
Wow thank you🥺💕
Love you
Love this but also your fillers look so natural hun!
Thank you!!
Do you have books on the ideas you talk about that you would recommend?
(i.e. shadow-work)
I tried journaling,but I’ve never stayed consistent with it. How can stay consistent with it when I only right when I have strong feeling toward an event or how I’m feeling?
I need you to write a book x
Omg people who really go thru a spiritual journey have such similar experiences 😭😭😭
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
much needed !!
I need to work on meditation 🧘♀️.
First time to know shadow work, how to apply it?
I feel like i'm having a conversation with you.🥺