Thanks! Another very useful video. Even though I'm doing the U. Kent course myself, it's helpful to hear your notes, your take on various aspects, and simply putting all of that out here on the web. This week's material has particularly brought to the forefront of my consciousness, how well I mask, and my masking process. I have an internal file cabinet, in which I store observations I've made about what behaviors are appropriate in a particular situation in which I find myself. I consult it frequently, and I find it really useful. I feel positively about my file cabinet, because it enables me to not feel like I'm out of it in a social or other group situation. I know I've been watching other people all my life, to figure out what I should do.
Really interesting analogy. For me, I'd describe it more like a mental rolodex whirring around in my brain helping me with appropriate responses in given situations. I really enjoyed the contrast of Georgina sharing going through similar masking machinations, with Damian just really not giving a f*** about any of it. They both make me laugh, I could be educated and entertained by them both for hours.
I couldn’t agree more about the pervasive anxiety. It was the unexplained and omnipresent anxiety and social anxiety I have experienced since I was a young child that eventually led me to realize I may be autistic. As someone said, it seems unlikely to find an autistic person who hasn’t experienced trauma… I feel the same about anxiety. I believe Paul M. from “autism from the inside” said he is not troubled by anxiety,(Though I could have that wrong), which I found utterly fascinating! I guess like so many things, some of these traits or co-occurrences can affect people in diverging or even opposite ways.
Wow, that must be nice! I think looking back I'd never known anything BUT anxiety, so really had no idea I even had it until I got a formal diagnosis of anxiety disorder alongside my ASC and later ADHD. Now I know it's a thing I really want to ease it back and just find ways to be happier.
When my partner was in grad school I essentially was living alone and for about 2 years I was able to live on this very consistent schedule. I lost a bunch of weight (stress eating is a major coping mechanism for me) and when they were finished my life just...well they came in like a wrecking ball lol. Caused a very long period of disregulation for me and hard times for our relationship. If I had known then what I am starting to figure out now that could have been avoided or minimized.
Hey !! another well thought out video and your points are well explained. I mentioned you in my favourite Autism UA-camrs video :) hoping your week has been good ?
Thanks so much! Yeah, tiring week but good. Been to All Points East music festival - loved the music but the noise and crowds are a lot! Hope you're having a good week too!
The refrigerator parents theory that I too considered for me isn't that horrifying anymore as I believe now my mother's coldness or lack of affection is un diagnosed autism too...makes sense .that's my theory.
Interesting. I'm interested in learning about the impact of the carnivorous lifestyle on autism. I like prediction deficit. A few years ago I began speaking of experiential myopia. Gets so tiresome running into the proverbial wall and being baffled by not seeing it. Like the wall jumps out of nowhere. Thanks for another video to chew and digest.
I'm interested in what you mean by the carnivorous lifestyle - it was super interesting for me to hear about how common autism and digestive disorders can be. I've struggle with gut and digestion issues most of my life - about 10 years ago it was identified as IBD/Colitis. NEVER occurred to me until relatively recently there was a link, but the brain-gut axis is a massive thing that I'm now trying to educate myself about. I'm pescatarian but one of the things I'm wondering about the link now, is whether repetitive dietary input (we like eating the same things and I had very little dietary variety for years) leads to lack of diversity in the gut microbiome, which may lead to problems. This is fascinating to me, but I'm not sure if that's the angle you were considering also?
@@amineurodivergentthankfully, though AudHD, I've always been quite the foodie. Cast iron gut😂. Although, I had many battles with my mother as a child for not touching vegetables. I'm undefeated with staying at the table for uncounted hours for not buckling.
I have been trying to find this video I watched recently and have finally found it (I might have mentioned something about it in a comment from my other channel Traci K) because I thought you and others might find it interesting. From what I can tell, it seems to be saying that Autism has been around for a VERY long time indeed and it could be the case that "we were here first" and that neurotypicality is the aberration lol. The video itself is called 'The Ancient Roots of Autism Susceptibility Genes' on the channel Autism Research Institute. ua-cam.com/video/5PqX4zBap4s/v-deo.html&ab_channel=AutismResearchInstitute
Oh yeah, it's been around forever. I'm really annoyed with myself now I didn't reiterate that at the start of this video, I said it in a previous one, I hope the implication isn't that it's only been around since the early 20th Century b/c that's when it was first named medically. Super frustrated with myself for not reiterating that at the start of this video now. Temple Grandin has a great line that without autistic people thinking outside the box we never would have come out of our caves or crossed to the next valley in search of better. Thanks for the video (I'm surprised but pleased the YT police allowed the link to publish) - I've added to my watch list!
👋 Hi! Not related to this specific topic, but can any of us dance? And not look awkward? My nephew's wedding is in 2 weeks, when I dance it looks so NOT rhythmic!! I can't follow group dances either. I'm in month 5 of my Autism discovery,
I can only dance freestyle to stuff like House music. Anything coordinated is not going to happen. I'll go left when everyone else is going right and not even realise. And I can't move the left arm along with the right leg, that sort of thing.
Good grief no. Can only speak from personal experience but weddings are a nightmare for me because of both. a) feel very self conscious and have zero ability for rhythmic freestyle dancing and b) following group dances/ ceilidhs are awful because it's a whole bunch of rules and sequencing for something I have zero interest in participating in and find quite overwhelming and annoying. I've hated ceilidhs since school, which is not ideal for a Scotsman, and I've always been such a grinch at weddings, generally can get through dinner and polite table chat but when the dancing starts I'm outside with a cigarette hiding and waiting for the time when it's acceptable to leave.....
The wedding was 2 days ago...I danced!!! It was fun b/c I didn't care how I looked, I was with my favorite people, the ones I love a lot and I just stopped thinking about how I looked! I had on fancy sparkly outfit with those sleeves that are like wings almost and it was so much fun to move around in that!. My room was very close so I could take breaks from the noise and stimuli. It was a dog friendly venue, so I walked my dog during my breaks, it was near the Shenandoah Mountains, very beautiful!
Ah great - really glad you're enjoying it. I think you maybe have to pay extra for a certificate of completion, which is probably worth it if you're doing it for continuous professional development, but I was just doing it out of personal interest so just did the 'free' four-week access version online with no certificate. Absorbing the info was enough for me, but a certificate could be useful. They offer you the chance to upgrade at the start of the final week, I believe.
Thanks! Another very useful video. Even though I'm doing the U. Kent course myself, it's helpful to hear your notes, your take on various aspects, and simply putting all of that out here on the web.
This week's material has particularly brought to the forefront of my consciousness, how well I mask, and my masking process. I have an internal file cabinet, in which I store observations I've made about what behaviors are appropriate in a particular situation in which I find myself. I consult it frequently, and I find it really useful. I feel positively about my file cabinet, because it enables me to not feel like I'm out of it in a social or other group situation. I know I've been watching other people all my life, to figure out what I should do.
Really interesting analogy. For me, I'd describe it more like a mental rolodex whirring around in my brain helping me with appropriate responses in given situations. I really enjoyed the contrast of Georgina sharing going through similar masking machinations, with Damian just really not giving a f*** about any of it. They both make me laugh, I could be educated and entertained by them both for hours.
I couldn’t agree more about the pervasive anxiety. It was the unexplained and omnipresent anxiety and social anxiety I have experienced since I was a young child that eventually led me to realize I may be autistic. As someone said, it seems unlikely to find an autistic person who hasn’t experienced trauma… I feel the same about anxiety. I believe Paul M. from “autism from the inside” said he is not troubled by anxiety,(Though I could have that wrong), which I found utterly fascinating! I guess like so many things, some of these traits or co-occurrences can affect people in diverging or even opposite ways.
Wow, that must be nice! I think looking back I'd never known anything BUT anxiety, so really had no idea I even had it until I got a formal diagnosis of anxiety disorder alongside my ASC and later ADHD. Now I know it's a thing I really want to ease it back and just find ways to be happier.
Big picture thinking autistic here. Helps that I also literally think in pictures and visualisations
When my partner was in grad school I essentially was living alone and for about 2 years I was able to live on this very consistent schedule. I lost a bunch of weight (stress eating is a major coping mechanism for me) and when they were finished my life just...well they came in like a wrecking ball lol. Caused a very long period of disregulation for me and hard times for our relationship.
If I had known then what I am starting to figure out now that could have been avoided or minimized.
Hey !! another well thought out video and your points are well explained. I mentioned you in my favourite Autism UA-camrs video :) hoping your week has been good ?
Thanks so much! Yeah, tiring week but good. Been to All Points East music festival - loved the music but the noise and crowds are a lot! Hope you're having a good week too!
I have 2 kids on spectrum and ex husband. Very interesting thankyou.
The refrigerator parents theory that I too considered for me isn't that horrifying anymore as I believe now my mother's coldness or lack of affection is un diagnosed autism too...makes sense .that's my theory.
Refrigerator parents has always been a sloppy concept, it never should have been let out of the ‘think tank’…
Interesting. I'm interested in learning about the impact of the carnivorous lifestyle on autism. I like prediction deficit. A few years ago I began speaking of experiential myopia. Gets so tiresome running into the proverbial wall and being baffled by not seeing it. Like the wall jumps out of nowhere. Thanks for another video to chew and digest.
I'm interested in what you mean by the carnivorous lifestyle - it was super interesting for me to hear about how common autism and digestive disorders can be. I've struggle with gut and digestion issues most of my life - about 10 years ago it was identified as IBD/Colitis. NEVER occurred to me until relatively recently there was a link, but the brain-gut axis is a massive thing that I'm now trying to educate myself about. I'm pescatarian but one of the things I'm wondering about the link now, is whether repetitive dietary input (we like eating the same things and I had very little dietary variety for years) leads to lack of diversity in the gut microbiome, which may lead to problems. This is fascinating to me, but I'm not sure if that's the angle you were considering also?
@@amineurodivergentthankfully, though AudHD, I've always been quite the foodie. Cast iron gut😂. Although, I had many battles with my mother as a child for not touching vegetables. I'm undefeated with staying at the table for uncounted hours for not buckling.
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I have been trying to find this video I watched recently and have finally found it (I might have mentioned something about it in a comment from my other channel Traci K) because I thought you and others might find it interesting. From what I can tell, it seems to be saying that Autism has been around for a VERY long time indeed and it could be the case that "we were here first" and that neurotypicality is the aberration lol. The video itself is called 'The Ancient Roots of Autism Susceptibility Genes' on the channel Autism Research Institute.
ua-cam.com/video/5PqX4zBap4s/v-deo.html&ab_channel=AutismResearchInstitute
Oh yeah, it's been around forever. I'm really annoyed with myself now I didn't reiterate that at the start of this video, I said it in a previous one, I hope the implication isn't that it's only been around since the early 20th Century b/c that's when it was first named medically. Super frustrated with myself for not reiterating that at the start of this video now. Temple Grandin has a great line that without autistic people thinking outside the box we never would have come out of our caves or crossed to the next valley in search of better. Thanks for the video (I'm surprised but pleased the YT police allowed the link to publish) - I've added to my watch list!
Cool. It is a bit science-heavy, so you might need a few spare spoons to watch it, or watch it in bits.@@amineurodivergent
👋 Hi! Not related to this specific topic, but can any of us dance? And not look awkward? My nephew's wedding is in 2 weeks, when I dance it looks so NOT rhythmic!! I can't follow group dances either. I'm in month 5 of my Autism discovery,
I can only dance freestyle to stuff like House music. Anything coordinated is not going to happen. I'll go left when everyone else is going right and not even realise. And I can't move the left arm along with the right leg, that sort of thing.
Good grief no. Can only speak from personal experience but weddings are a nightmare for me because of both. a) feel very self conscious and have zero ability for rhythmic freestyle dancing and b) following group dances/ ceilidhs are awful because it's a whole bunch of rules and sequencing for something I have zero interest in participating in and find quite overwhelming and annoying. I've hated ceilidhs since school, which is not ideal for a Scotsman, and I've always been such a grinch at weddings, generally can get through dinner and polite table chat but when the dancing starts I'm outside with a cigarette hiding and waiting for the time when it's acceptable to leave.....
The wedding was 2 days ago...I danced!!! It was fun b/c I didn't care how I looked, I was with my favorite people, the ones I love a lot and I just stopped thinking about how I looked! I had on fancy sparkly outfit with those sleeves that are like wings almost and it was so much fun to move around in that!. My room was very close so I could take breaks from the noise and stimuli. It was a dog friendly venue, so I walked my dog during my breaks, it was near the Shenandoah Mountains, very beautiful!
@@kathymorris12312 Ah lovely - beautiful part of the world! So glad it went well and you were able to enjoy the experience!
I am doing the University understanding autism course now two weeks in do I get a certificate….did you?I hope so.
Ah great - really glad you're enjoying it. I think you maybe have to pay extra for a certificate of completion, which is probably worth it if you're doing it for continuous professional development, but I was just doing it out of personal interest so just did the 'free' four-week access version online with no certificate. Absorbing the info was enough for me, but a certificate could be useful. They offer you the chance to upgrade at the start of the final week, I believe.