Autism, Uneven Productivity & Executive Function Challenges in Autistic Adults

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  • Hi! I'm Orion Kelly and I'm Autistic. On this video I explore the topic of executive functioning and productivity challenges for Autistic people. Plus, I share my personal lived experiences as an #actuallyautistic person. #orionkelly #autism #asd #autismsigns #whatautismfeelslike
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  • @Stormbrise
    @Stormbrise Рік тому +70

    One of my main issues with executive function is task switching. However, one task may be waiting on input from someone else. This leads to something the ADHD community is calling ADHD task paralysis. The inability to reorder tasks because of the ‘plan’ and you do not want to be hyperfocused in something else when you need to switch back to that plan. So you in other words procrastinate, for lack of a better word, until you get the other input you need. It has to deal with task switching, and you know us, we hate to switch our plans for the day. Delve further into task switching would be my suggestion for a topic. Dr. K, The HealthyGamerGG on UA-cam has a ADHD Memes video a couple of weeks old as of the day of the release of this video where he discusses this task paralysis.

    • @mrs.jennifer3339
      @mrs.jennifer3339 Рік тому +5

      YESSSSSSS! ...TEACH ME!! 😃👍
      LOL
      SERIOUSLY...😐 THIS IS TOTALLY NEW TO ME & TOTALLY MAKES 100% SENSE!! 🤗

    • @Stormbrise
      @Stormbrise Рік тому

      @@mrs.jennifer3339 Look up HealthyGamerGG, I am unable to post a link. Maybe Orion Can?

  • @Nate-hb8tw
    @Nate-hb8tw Рік тому +30

    My s/o doesn't understand how much energy it takes to switch from one thing to another, to rearrange my intended plans and cram new stuff in... then to still be in a good mood. I'm finding it hard to convey just how "wrong" it feels when things get messed up, like why the need for structure is so important. Umm it just is! I wish it wasn't too!

  • @elizabethf8078
    @elizabethf8078 Рік тому +13

    Executive function and time blindness are the reasons I can't get promoted.On the other hand, I thank God I've held a job down for 19 years. It's a bewildering mix of gratitude and utter disappointment in myself. Diagnosed 10 years ago w/Asperger's/autism and ADHD.

  • @rainerwahnsinn3265
    @rainerwahnsinn3265 Рік тому +20

    Sadly, I can't build a routine or use calendars etc. I can't commit to fixed dates/times because I always feel like I'm not able to do things on time. So the calendar or fixed date just builds pressure and maybe some fear of failing. I think this feeling often triggers demand avoidance wich makes things even more complicated.

    • @srldwg
      @srldwg Рік тому +4

      I understand. I am like that too.

    • @almondmilksoda
      @almondmilksoda 7 місяців тому +2

      I have this issue too. As soon as I put a time limit on something, I get freaked out. Even as a kid, I hated playing video games that had missions with time limits.

    • @lasu1002
      @lasu1002 2 місяці тому

      I find the same thing at times. If I have a hard line on something, my brain right away starts handing me thoughts of "how can I get out of this?" or "when else can I do it that isn't now?" Curious if you have tried setting multiple dates/times for the same thing (like every Monday for 6 weeks with permission to do or not do on a particular Monday)? Or giving your self a week to do a task and trying gently each day, instead of setting an two hour window on Monday (for example)? It's not 100% but I find if I build in permission to not to do thing, I sometimes am more willing to do it.

  • @agathoklesmartinios8414
    @agathoklesmartinios8414 Рік тому +16

    Another example that I think ties in somewhat with the trouble prioritising tasks: going through a college syllabus wanting to mark the important bits, but being unable to differentiate what is important, what isn't, if levels of importance should be applied (i.e. different colour highlighters), etc. Something I struggled with a lot while in university.

    • @amandamandamands
      @amandamandamands Рік тому +5

      I couldn't tell what were the important bits to highlight in high school when they would tell you to do that to help you to study.

  • @kdcraft89
    @kdcraft89 11 місяців тому +6

    I have routines for the kitchen and bathroom cleaning built into cooking, showering. I actually like doing them. These are the 2 areas that need to stay clean and always are. The rest of the house, when it needs it. I also will lay out the materials for a particular task, like gardening, in advance, say the night before. This makes it much, much, much easier to do the task. It's the first step and I will then begin to visualize doing it. I will go through the steps in my mind. Sometimes I will talk them out loud if they are tricky. If it's in my imagination, it makes it so much easier to do.
    One bad habit, though, is leaving out things that I need to do so I don't forget to do them. Right now, I have a lamp that needs repair sitting in my living room. I finally went to the repair shop for a specialized part. The parts guy only comes in sometimes (M,W,F but not always so call ahead). When I finally got to the shop to be told this, I felt overwhelmed. This then felt like an anchor had been tied around my leg. I love the lamp, so this may help overcome the problem. My guess is the next step will be to talk to the guy and then wait weeks for a part, if it even exists.
    Unfortunately, the single lamp is not the only thing I have "sitting out" waiting for a task to be completed. But if I put it away, I will totally forget. I'm a highly visual person, so the extraneous things bother me, but also why I have to leave them in sight. Lists of them don't work for me, but make my brain overload. Plus making a list is another hard task to do. I do have some lists for specific things, but they are specialized things, like building a cabinet. These are accompanied by visual plans that I design.
    Every day I have the impression that life has too many moving parts, all going in different directions. Easy to become overwhelmed. A routine is soooo important for me.

  • @ErikaEmody
    @ErikaEmody Рік тому +25

    Listening twice. I love this. I’m self-Dx AuDHD. it’s a daily thing!

    • @srldwg
      @srldwg Рік тому +4

      Yes. It is an immense challenge.

  • @srldwg
    @srldwg Рік тому +11

    When you talked about getting support from others to help you, it reminded me of a story. To be clear, I was undiagnosed at the time and didn't completely understand my brain.
    I will tell this story out of order, to tell one of the 2 most helpful things in it. I had never moved out of a residence by myself before. My psychiatrist said to me "What? It's easy, just pack everything up." Same exact thing from my therapist. I walked out of those sessions only feeling more panicked. I called my closest friend and she said "Grab one box, pick one tiny area, put one thing in at a time." I got off the phone with her and felt the difference from anxiety to being made to feel more anxious, to feeling extremely more calm.
    I had been living in an apartment by myself for the first time ever. I lived there 2 months short of 2 years. I had been under immense stress, because I was in danger of becoming homeless.
    Fast forward to getting help overall from a village of people (mostly emotional support, and calming tips), and general resources available (a place for low income people where you get a case manager, who gets you the psychiatrist, then gets you the therapist...). I ended up in a group home due to simple (not complicated advice and tips people were bombarding me with with) from my mother.

  • @MusicSparkleStar09
    @MusicSparkleStar09 Рік тому +7

    I wish some of these suggestions were feasible...ADHD is often on the opposite side saying "yeah no, we don't like that" 😅 It's hard to appease them both.
    One of my coping mechanisms, I suppose, is to make everything that I need to do as efficient as possible to make up for the days where my brain isn't doing as well. And hyperfocus (which has plenty of drawbacks of course). Trying too hard to present as neurotypical by overachieving is absolutely a thing - but you may not realize you're doing it depending on what your interpretation of a "normal" work pace is. 🙃

  • @annerigby4400
    @annerigby4400 11 місяців тому +5

    All recognisable and then there is 'create a routine'. For me a routine is a schedule of things to get done at specific times during the day, the week, the month, etc. I have made so many schedules for the kids, for myself, even for a school (yes, really, and it was a good one), that it has become a joke. I am really absolutely fantastic at making schedules and planning, but I am incapable (tried and tested) of sticking to a routine or a schedule or a plan for any length of time no matter how hard I have tried. I have used technology to remind me, but I just ignore it. I don't want to ignore it, but I am always reminded just at the moment when I cannot/will not do whatever it reminds me of, at that moment. And yet, the routines or schedules or plans I make are very good. They make sense, they would be really efficient and practical and great if I could only use them. I have made hour by hour routines, activity by activity with time allocation schedules, simple reminder lists with time reminders, etc. I certainly do love making schedules. Is there such a thing as not being able to follow a routine/schedule/plan because it is scheduled, part of a routine or a plan? is that contradictory or what!?

  • @kuibeiguahua
    @kuibeiguahua Рік тому +5

    I’m more of a menu person than a routine person, audhd requires novelty every ten days, so I try to build up a reservoir of self care before I set out to do something

  • @Inquiring_Together
    @Inquiring_Together Рік тому +4

    The inertia difficulty does get better with scheduling a routine. Taking large tasks and breaking them down allows for a well founded completed task overall. Mindfulness makes for consistent state of mind that adheres to routine. Self-care is like watering the soil of our tasked 🌺 .

  • @amandamandamands
    @amandamandamands Рік тому +5

    I will quite often get overwhelmed and have to have someone notice and help me work out exactly which bit it is that is the problem. If I can't do one bit no matter how far down the process I can't do the whole thing. If someone helps me to break it into smaller tasks (I never think to do it cause it is one task) then I can quite often do some of it. I also need the reassurance that it is OK to stop and leave it when I get to the bit that I am stuck on.
    I can't do to do lists cause I never remember to go back and look at them (never remembered to open my homework diary either). If I see a long list of things to do that is immediate overwhelm even if all of them are things that would only take 5mins to do.

  • @keylanoslokj1806
    @keylanoslokj1806 Рік тому +8

    Multi tasking is my nightmare. So true😢. I've lost jobs because of it

  • @katjs
    @katjs Рік тому +18

    You have no idea how much this video just resonated with me. The video as a whole was great but the bit about being kind to myself by being patient and persistent hit me right in the feels. I've been in a deep deep deep rut and very unkind to myself and I just woke up telling myself I need to snap out of it. I really needed to hear the idea of breaking down large tasks as well. And to think I was about to blast out of bed to go from one extreme to the other, then discovered this video had posted and decided to watch..... anyway, just thanks.

  • @philippabertacco7919
    @philippabertacco7919 Рік тому +3

    Oh my gosh. This is exactly what I needed to hear today. I'm 48 and have recently realised that I'm autistic in the process of getting my daughter diagnosed. What a relief to know the thing that has plagued my whole life has a name... demand avoidance! I've often wondered if I'm simply insane, not being able to do things that people need me to do. Sometimes I just CAN'T do the thing, and it causes me and my OCD massive anxiety. My executive function is also extremely impaired and I've chased after an answer literally my whole life. I'm a mom of 4, and when my husband and father-in-law died after a brief fight with covid, I had to take over 4 businesses in a toxic environment. The stress this has caused me as a perfectionistic OCD, ADHD and autistic single mom nearly broke me.
    You're wonderful, and I'm so glad I found your channel.

  • @civetcawfee
    @civetcawfee Рік тому +5

    I've definitely felt sympathy for others who have commented about work issues involving their neurodivergence, but finally feel I've experienced it this week.
    I was in the middle of a repetitive task & was told 3 pieces of information that would alter my usual schedule for just a few days, but had problems hearing part of it because of noise interference & being generally preoccupied with the work in front of me. I entirely did not process another part & accidentally neglected a duty, then when I asked if I could get the directions in an email because I was having trouble processing the information via verbal communication, was basically told the directions are too minor and don't warrant sending an email.
    I know this was rather insignificant, and I didn't losey job, but I know a few more degrees of empathy for people who have these adverse work experiences.
    It is very frustrating because I just want to do a good job, and asked for what seemed like a small accommodation, but ultimately was told I need to work on my communication and comprehension (I know!...I'm trying to make it work).
    All that said to unburden myself of this thought & unpleasant feelings somewhere it's more likely to be understood.
    I appreciate the content and community, and hope you're all able to find something helpful, enlightening, and positive here. Having these videos helps me be kinder to myself and understanding of others, as well as motivating some strategizing (going to carry a small notepad & pencil at work).

  • @rachel_sj
    @rachel_sj Рік тому +17

    This video, along with the one on Autistic Inertia is an absolute Godsend!! I love how you’re able to speak aloud what, sometimes, cannot be spoken or realized! 😊
    I plan on sharpening my Prioritization, Reward, and Patience skills since those are the ones that are a challenge for me!! 😅

  • @jeremiahinyangotu4023
    @jeremiahinyangotu4023 Рік тому +3

    1:03-1:08 pretty much all 3 happened to me when my mom made dinner late, and i went to bed late, and I was supposed to submit an assignment for college at 11pm, but I accidentally slept through the deadline. I emailed my lecturer twice, and fortunately, he reopened the submissions online for me to post it. Next time, i'm just gonna submit the assignment slightly earlier

  • @stolenzephyr
    @stolenzephyr Рік тому +7

    I've also been thinking about autistic inertia as the full definition of inertia. That an object in motion tends to stay in motion. So if I get started, I'll be able to keep going! Also, each law of motion includes "unless acted upon by an outside force" which means I can try to use external motivators to help me get started. Also that external factors can derail me, like multitasking.

  • @SK-is2ux
    @SK-is2ux 10 місяців тому +2

    I have to keep restarting this video because honestly it has all my hackles up and so I’m not really absorbing it. I trust Orion, and that this is some good stuff. However, it is really hard for me to not just throw a boot through the television on this!! I don’t think my demand avoidance is ready for this

  • @DavidLazarus
    @DavidLazarus Рік тому +3

    Excellent video! I am not going to deny that me being expected to "multi-task" at work is stressful. I generally don't have a problem prioritizing things and breaking down large tasks into smaller bits. However, some people tend to interrupt the logical priority of something. Like today, there was a job that wasn't due until tomorrow. Yet, a coworker asked me to focus on it rather than a job that was due today. I can handle noise to a degree. Especially if it's a relatively constant and not to jarring noise. A fan or the hum of a machine. People talking can be distracting because it makes me want to listen. However, in something like a coffee shop or restaurant environment, that is less of a problem because there are several groups of people talking and it becomes more like the "hum of the room".

  • @g6qwerty
    @g6qwerty Рік тому +4

    I try to get moving, then when I finally get moving some one comes along and piles upon even more shit for me to do and it killed any forward movement I just had started, especially if i'm not feeling particularly well or strong, so even just asking for me to help you can crush me.
    And the hardest problem of sorting tasks, is I often don't know which task is more important or which one to pick over the other. I treid turning to my grandma for help but all she says is just do it anways like wtf how dose that even help me get unfrozen?

  • @vegandolls
    @vegandolls Рік тому +5

    i need this. I'm having such an upsetting time with this very subject. It feels so hopeless

  • @electron2601
    @electron2601 Рік тому +5

    This is a solid video on executive functioning struggles and how to cope with it.

  • @donnanewby3386
    @donnanewby3386 Рік тому +2

    Putting some of the key words on the screen in big words is helpful, thank you

  • @Miss_Maddam
    @Miss_Maddam Рік тому +2

    I like that you added key Subtitles on the screen, it really helps!

  • @Mariposula
    @Mariposula Рік тому +12

    You described what it has been the story of my life. I never understood why I struggle so much with this and now I know it is part of ASD

  • @Lullyart
    @Lullyart Рік тому +1

    😂😂😂 this guy is describing my whole life and daily struggles….. 😅😅😅

  • @Kleineganz
    @Kleineganz Рік тому +2

    I related to this video so much (and I'm a late-diagnosed autistic person, diagnosed at age 50!). Besides my autism, unfortunately I have the additional challenge of suffering from ME/CFS. So, no matter how well planned out my days are (I learned some great planning strategies from taking some Franklin Covey time management seminars about 20 years ago), when my ME/CFS flares up, all plans go out the window. On those days, it's difficult to even get out of bed, much less work on any of my tasks. So, I'm forever plagued with uneven productivity, regardless. I just play catch-up on days when I have more energy.

  • @skillit32
    @skillit32 Рік тому +5

    Thanks for this video today! Just what I needed! ❤

  • @paulmryglod4802
    @paulmryglod4802 Рік тому +1

    Peaks and valleys is what my dad says about it. Uneven productivity.

  • @Robert_Byland
    @Robert_Byland Рік тому +4

    My autistic discovery was four years ago at 46yo. The discovery prompted me to reorganize my entire lifestyle. Routines quickly became... routine! No longer dominated by my PTSD, I've become far less reactive, and more stable. Now that I'm eating properly and exercising daily, I've lost over 70kgs and added 20kgs of muscle. I'm still burned out, but at least I'm happy now.

  • @pipoffeesh
    @pipoffeesh 6 місяців тому

    As someone who has been having executive function issues and was following the impulses all day in leu of doing college homework, I feel called out in an uncannily specific way. In all seriousness though, thanks Orion for making these! They've taught me more about the tism than anything else.

  • @WilliamAlanPhoto
    @WilliamAlanPhoto Рік тому +1

    Dead on right. I've been watching this video for 3 days... it seems like.

  • @chrismaxwell1624
    @chrismaxwell1624 Рік тому +1

    I don't do routines so I tell myself. But I'm finding I have tons of routines that are subconscious. All denying my routines, because I think people will just disrupt me helps ease anxiety that I didn't even understand I even had or what anxiety really was. In fact I thought I never got anxiety because I couldn't recognize it. So they I get on this med to reduce anxiety and I'm like oh that what anxiety is. I had no idea, that just seemed normal way of being.

  • @Sonya54675
    @Sonya54675 Рік тому +2

    Thank you for the astronaut example, this is really helpful.

  • @barbann9708
    @barbann9708 Рік тому +1

    I have 2 autistic grandchildren and am just realizing I am autistic myself. How could I have not seen it? Now I am much more forgiving of my shortcomings and better able to find ways to make progress or learn to work around it. Thanks.

  • @cpottervlog8122
    @cpottervlog8122 2 місяці тому

    Idk how many times I saw the phrase "he has trouble staying on task" on report cards as a kid

  • @Shnikey
    @Shnikey 8 місяців тому +1

    This is so freaking healing to hear. I’m not alone. This is amazing. 🙏🏻

  • @elizabethfarnsworth3425
    @elizabethfarnsworth3425 11 місяців тому +1

    This is solid advice for all of us, autistic or not. Going to show it to all my grandkids!

  • @oliviachipperfield6029
    @oliviachipperfield6029 10 місяців тому +1

    Great advice!! Thank you

  • @michelebriere9569
    @michelebriere9569 7 місяців тому

    I could never get my boss to understand that I needed to complete a task before starting something new.

  • @Acerheart
    @Acerheart Рік тому +1

    Thanks for the vid, Orion ❤

  • @rebeckajarl3934
    @rebeckajarl3934 Рік тому +1

    I need planers and task lists if I'm supposed to be able to use them. First to handle my trauma with them and also just as you said keep them detailed step by step but only letting me see the first one to three steps otherwise I will still be overwhelmed. And I definitely need help with not being stressed by time-slots finish this in this a lotted time are probably where most of my trauma with productivity comes from. Because the time was never enough.

  • @M.j.7
    @M.j.7 Рік тому +1

    Planning out my day has been the only way I have ever been productive… I’m a hard worker & efficient bc I know what needs to be done, but outside of work my life has always been a hot mess.

  • @sophynixon
    @sophynixon Рік тому

    Thank you for the useful info and tips, Orion. 😊

  • @whitneymason406
    @whitneymason406 Рік тому +1

    Thanks for covering this! Definitely something I struggle with!

  • @kathywebb6606
    @kathywebb6606 Рік тому

    As a recent subscriber, I enjoy all your vids - but this one really resonated with me! I have each and every one of the issues you listed! Am implementing some of your solutions now.

  • @silverymoon5516
    @silverymoon5516 Рік тому +1

    Again Orion I do thank you for the information and helpful suggestions.

  • @corsai7506
    @corsai7506 Рік тому +1

    Dude your a godsend, Attwood is proud!

  • @joerns485
    @joerns485 Рік тому +1

    This is how i discovered that I am autistic. I was doing a simple oil change when my college told me what to do after that. So I was distracted for a second and I forgot to tighten the oil filter. The result was a catastrophic engine damage worth of about €20.000. I couldn't understand why I just made such a terrible mistake (I'm a car mechanic and was doing this for over 25 years by then). When I tried to figure out why this happened, I read the Wikipedia entry about ASD and I immediately knew: that's it!

  • @KithKintsugi
    @KithKintsugi Рік тому +1

    Orion help me. This is 100% spot on, and I was living functionally enough using all the very same strategies you list here; it Works! …until I became a mother, when set in at least 2 1/2 decades of 24/7 demand of receptivity and responsiveness to the kaleidoscopic changing needs of multiple (also neurodivergent) children, which shifted my personal gravitational attraction from a center to… like… cosmic level “everything everyone everywhere everywhen” and I have been these many years a lunatic hanging on for dear life to the end of the train I used to be driving. It’s a joy, a pleasure, and a privilege to serve in loving and playful energy, but my own room, my own desk, and any spaces not of immediate crisis management urgency or child safety priority have not been the “which spaces NEED attention today” for years, so every day begins and ends in chaos and there is no day off to catch up and no relief in sight, ever, until the job is complete. I want to regain functionality WHILE my children are still with me so they can reap the fruits of my best self. As it is, I feel sad that they’ve not even really properly met me, like actual me and not well meaning but cripplingly disorderly, frantic, and often self loathing me. How can any of these tactics be applied in a world with scattered gravity?

  • @radiationroom
    @radiationroom Рік тому +1

    Thank You!

  • @damiancampbell7534
    @damiancampbell7534 Рік тому +2

    I wish making a daily routine would work for me, but it just doesn't. Same with prioritizing tasks. I wonder if I also have adhd because of that.

  • @jamesgeary4294
    @jamesgeary4294 5 місяців тому

    I literally and invariably have problems with all these aspects of executive function. Oddly it's especially when I'm at home. I can't convince myself to start anything I don't absolutely have to. Even when I do, I get flustered if there's a lot of tasks or I have to stop and start them. However, in other environments like work, I tend to be better but still have issues.

  • @justnotrelevant
    @justnotrelevant Рік тому +1

    Love this! Thanks, I'd love to see you do more without cutting....so we can see the 'real you' more. I'm sure it will inspire 😊

  • @rebeckajarl3934
    @rebeckajarl3934 Рік тому +1

    Thank this helped so much with my biggest I cannot be autistic because I can't stick to a routine and like safe impulsivity. Like do you want to come with to this at the end of the work day. If its a person or persons I feel safe with and like, my energy level are enough and the activity feels safe or fun to me I will definitely go along. If they ask a week in advance I can't predict my energy level for that day. The whole I want to but probably can't worry monster can help stress me out so I can't have the energy needed. So a last minute invitation that I definitely can say no to with full acceptance and lack of relief of she said no. Is probably the best way to get me to socialise.

  • @Wingedmagician
    @Wingedmagician Рік тому +1

    Weird timing for me. I was just thinking about this topic. Thanks

  • @deborahparnell8862
    @deborahparnell8862 Рік тому +2

    ty..xoxo 🥰🖐👍🤟✌🤪

  • @hollieverafter
    @hollieverafter 8 місяців тому

    Hi Orion! I have a question and I'm struggling to ask it properly, so I hope this makes sense. I apologize for the length. Brevity is not my strong suite😂. So, I'm 50 and just beginning my journey to figure out who I am as an autistic person. I'm learning SO much from you and other YT autists. It's incredibly freeing...and terrifying...learning there are reason as to why I am the way I am. Simultaneous joy and grief. However...My biggest question right now is how to distinguish between challenges I can work on (that are worth the time and energy of digging deep) and challenges that just ARE and I may need to make changes to accommodate them to live my best, most balanced life? Example... I am a travel professional with a top agency in the US that specializes in Disney and Universal. I absolutely love my team. Obviously, I work with clients. But I detest phone calls (LOL). Unless it's a guest with an emergency, make it an email! As my business began to grow, I have struggled more and more with the demands from guests. Now, please understand, I LOVE travel and sharing my expertise. One of my greatest joys in life is bringing value to people's experiences. But I'm afraid I may not be able to continue growing my client base or working directly with guests over the long run. I'm really good at what I do, but it's coming at a definite cost. For the past few years, I've thought I just need more knowledge to overcome my roadblocks in order to be more like the top agents who are also my close friends. I've consumed so much information...business, marketing, motivation, personal development, etc... looking for the key to it all. Then I found out I wasn't broken, I'm autistic. I know changes need to be made on some level because this isn't working and I can't educate myself out of it, no matter how hard I try. But I also have no idea how to figure it out. I'm so afraid of making the wrong choice. Being 50, I don't want to waste any more of my life trying to fit into others' ideas of what I should be. But I don't want to throw the baby out with the bathwater, either.

    • @hollieverafter
      @hollieverafter 8 місяців тому

      I suppose I'm wondering how to determine which limitations can be managed over time and which would be best to accept and accommodate.

  • @alifmuhammadchicago
    @alifmuhammadchicago Рік тому +1

    Heeeey. That index is nothing but 00:00. ROFL 🤣 was that on purpose? If so, that's awesome.

  • @livelearnandteach7402
    @livelearnandteach7402 Рік тому +2

    Do autistic people put off a task they know they should do then stress about the fact they still gotta do it while doing other tasks with no issue?

  • @MorriganJade
    @MorriganJade Рік тому +1

    Wait! Impulsiveness?! What else?! Hyperactive moments?!

  • @riarosemarimoto5591
    @riarosemarimoto5591 3 місяці тому

    And promiscuity because some need attention from opposite sex. So they don’t actual relationship. They have encounters because of poor follow ups and not consistent. So they have frequent sexual encounters

  • @davestambaugh7282
    @davestambaugh7282 Рік тому +3

    Although I am now retired I worked eleven years for the last company and they never said anything about my uneven productivity. In fact they had me working fifty hours a week even though they had me work on the bosses chopper motorcycle parts just to keep me around when they really needed my unique skills.

    • @srldwg
      @srldwg Рік тому +1

      Was that a special interest of yours?
      Also, I had to learn this the hard way - just because someone doesn't say something out loud to you, doesn't mean that they aren't thinking it.
      I actually had s coworker at my old job pull me aside and try to explain to me the lengths that my boss was going to to accommodate me. I was shocked. "But my boss never said anything? How can that be." It took me several times of situations like this happening to grasp the idea that, a thought about a person's performance, behavior, abilities can still exist without it being said.
      It's the idea that if something felt off or not quite right, gone were the days that I would just blow it off because nothing verbal was being stated in the most obvious way (which is the kind of communication that works best with Autistic people).
      I would talk to the boss, coworker, etc., and find out that I was right the majority of the time. Even though unspoken, the issue was still there.

  • @allythearts5439
    @allythearts5439 11 місяців тому +1

    Can you please speak to my dad he is the main one mocking me and im a female autistic adult

  • @doroma6920
    @doroma6920 7 місяців тому +1

    4:58 I am folding laundry and listening to you. Is that multitasking?

    • @orionkelly
      @orionkelly  7 місяців тому +2

      You’re doing one of those things badly 😁

    • @doroma6920
      @doroma6920 7 місяців тому +1

      @@orionkelly XD

  • @gurfatehsingh4328
    @gurfatehsingh4328 Рік тому +1

    This sounds just like learning a new language and alphabet...

  • @amandamandamands
    @amandamandamands Рік тому +3

    I didn't want to hit like because it was 404 likes.

  • @lrwiersum
    @lrwiersum 8 місяців тому +1

    When I can't even talk.......

  • @DeadDancers
    @DeadDancers 4 місяці тому +1

    I really like the tips you have to offer, but I feel like you take 100,000 years to get to the point.

    • @orionkelly
      @orionkelly  4 місяці тому

      I’m working on it. It’s hard for my Autistic mind.

  • @Kittypaws90
    @Kittypaws90 Місяць тому

    are you like australia or something? your english sounds weird, hello from usa. hehe

  • @shiralony
    @shiralony Рік тому

    The amount of times I stopped listening to the video because distractions.

  • @thecreativemastermin
    @thecreativemastermin Рік тому

    This is nothing new. Honestly, NT creators do a better job of explaining the same things over and over again.

    • @srldwg
      @srldwg Рік тому +2

      It was new to me.

  • @JJ-qo7th
    @JJ-qo7th Рік тому +1

    So, for task switching, if I have a lot of work ahead of me involving various tasks that I'll do over and over again, what I'll do is try to get as many iterations of a given task done as possible so I don't have to keep going through the procedure and switching throughout. For example: I'm an electrician installing a new lighting system. That means figuring out where the junction boxes will go, shooting supports into the decking above the ceiling, installing the boxes, installing the conduit between boxes, pulling wire...
    So I first figure out where all of them are going to go.
    Then I walk the floor and paint dots on the spot where I plan to shoot any box supports.
    Then I cut threaded rods of my chosen length, one for each box.
    Then I shoot them all up in the spots where they belong.
    Then I prepare each box. I have X that just have one connector in one side, Y that pass through, Z that T, and Q that +.
    Then when all of the boxes are ready, I start putting them on the supports with nuts and washers.
    Then when all of the boxes are supported, I start sticking conduit in them and supporting them, with longer threaded rods that were prepared for this purpose.
    Instead of building a complete system in one direction as I go, I do the whole system in stages so I'm only ever messing around with hardware once, only ever messing around with boxes and fittings once, only ever running pipe once, instead of rod, box and fittings, hardware, pipe...switching modes and tools each time.
    I do hundreds of iterations per floor for one system. That's thousands of task switches. OR I can do hundreds of iterations of one task, then hundreds of the next, then hundreds of the next, and stay in the same mode.

  • @mrs.jennifer3339
    @mrs.jennifer3339 Рік тому +6

    "MY LIFE"... MY ENTIRE LIFE is a 💁"LAST MINUTE SCRAMBLE!"
    YESSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!! 😲
    O-M-Gosssssssssshhhhhhhh!!!!
    I GET IT NOW!! 👏😯
    THIS IS WHY I LOVE WATCHING YOUR VERY INFORMATIVELY INFORMATIONAL VIDS!!! YOU GET ME!!! 👌🤓👍
    FYI... LET YOUR "WILD" OUT...
    YOU ARE EXTREMELY *NATURALLY* FUNNY... SO JUST REALLY LET IT OUT.... BCUZ I KNOW YOU ALWAYS HOLD BACK... "
    (PAST MASKING TRAUMAS)
    YOU ARE LIKE WIIIIIICKED FUNNY... SO STOP EDITING IT... I ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR & I MUST SAY... MANY PEOPLE DON'T ALWAYS.. "GET" MY HUMOR....... RIGHT AWAY THAT IS🙄
    EVENTUALLY IT FINALLY HITS & THEY ARE LIKE "OMG??🤔OMG!!! I GET IT!!! THAT WAS SOOOOO FUNNY?!?!👏😂" ... & LMK LATER WHAT THEY THOUGHT.....
    (😳😐😒⏳⏱️📆😖😐🤨🧐)
    .... I CAN'T HELP IF OTHER PEOPLE ARE SOOOOOOOO MUUUUUUCH SLOWER TO THE "PUNCH"
    🙅 😑✋ 🤷 LMAO!!! 🤭🤫😉
    THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ALL YOUR WORK!! 🤗

    • @srldwg
      @srldwg Рік тому

      I agree, he is extremely witty, clever and funny. Also the most raw and unfiltered channel from an Autistic person I have found yet. I love all these things about him and his videos!