COMING OUT STORY COLE LANKFORD

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  • Опубліковано 26 лют 2013
  • this is my coming out story

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  • @lafond66
    @lafond66 11 років тому +4

    Wow, sorry it was so difficult for you for a while. People can be really cruel, especially kids. Great video, thanks for sharing it with everyone. Hopefully it'll help people.

  • @Queerific
    @Queerific 11 років тому +14

    Your story will touch someone .. This will be a catalyst in making it easier for someone else.. Your courage shines! THANK YOU!!!

  • @Tomi-kd5rr
    @Tomi-kd5rr 3 роки тому +2

    this randomly appeared after 7 years but proud of you dude ❤️

  • @junodog2008
    @junodog2008 11 років тому +10

    Great story man. Sorry you had a tough time in the beginning. I kept myself silent about who I was to my friends and family until I was 23. At that time though, I served in the Marines before DADT was repealed, which is why I never re-enlisted. Was tired of hiding who I was. Your story will help many others who are struggling with finding who they are. Thank you.

  • @garricksaro1380
    @garricksaro1380 5 років тому +3

    It’s up to parents to teach their children the spectrum between boys and girls at a young age. There is no need to make your children suffer. Every child has the right to be happy. We teach them about the birds and the bees but, nothing in between. This has to change.

  • @sleekcartim
    @sleekcartim 11 років тому +3

    Glad your story is part of our community. It's sometimes hard for kids to imagine those things can happen to them too. Kids think of themselves as being (intellectually) mature, but really theyre not emotionally mature. This is the main reason we tell kids to wait for sex & to come out. Your story is more important because your teaching them a serious life lesson. I know how much courage it takes to do this 1st hand, good for you HUGZ!
    THX for your service to ur community also!
    1 LIFE

  • @vee1rotate
    @vee1rotate 11 років тому +1

    Wow. You've got a lot of courage. Hanging out in these tough, macho environments (football team, military) even after coming out, dealing with your dad, all that takes a lot of guts, and you've got them! It gets better, and it's getting better. And thank you for your service to our country! And for making this video!

  • @CaptainA4Equality
    @CaptainA4Equality 11 років тому +2

    Hey Cole,
    Thanks for sharing your story, I totally can relate to your journey, Myself I spent alot of time in school (everyday) not excepting who I was because, you hear so much bad negative in kids, people putting you down. When you hear enough bad, that you start to believe it. It's easier to believe the bad over the good. I was raised in Utah! Even though I couldn't change who I was, I tried to deny it and also tried suicide. I'm here and "It does get better!"
    Cole, THX for your service too.

  • @QuinnieBlaze
    @QuinnieBlaze 11 років тому +7

    Your so brave and such an inspiration to everyone....you should be very proud of yourself, n ur right "It does get better" Great video and thanks for ur service for this country

  • @adriancrow1143
    @adriancrow1143 4 роки тому +1

    You are a courageous and beautiful young man. Congratulations for overcoming the homophobia from those closed minded Neanderthals that could not get passed their insecurities and narrow minded ways.

  • @dawgeral333
    @dawgeral333 10 років тому +8

    Wow! So great. Well said. Thank you!!

  • @firesong83
    @firesong83 Рік тому

    I really want to thank you for your story. I am 73 and came out in 1970. I also served in the USN. At that time being gay in the military was guaranteed to get a prison sentence if discovered. It is nice to know that the fight for equality is appreciated by people of a younger age.😅

  • @liamcavanagh1001
    @liamcavanagh1001 11 років тому +1

    Your such a strong person, I came out about a month ago, but it was controlled, and no nob heads found out, I wish itmwas the same for you!!!! Your an inspiration!!!

  • @regyme
    @regyme 11 років тому +1

    Coming out is so different for different people, but the fact they did it shows strength

  • @mosichat
    @mosichat 4 роки тому +1

    Very cool. Always be true to serving your country & always do the right thing.

  • @kevingriffin143
    @kevingriffin143 5 років тому +1

    Thanks for the story and thanks for serving our country!

  • @okimlistening2u
    @okimlistening2u 11 років тому +12

    Cole, I just want to affirm everything you said. I've taught high school for several decades and know how vicious high school kids can be about anyone who is different. They do not understand how mean their behavior is. You should never feel bad about being gay. There is nothing wrong with it and what is wrong is the ignorance of the people who do not accept it. There is nothing sinful about being gay, it is as innocent as being straight is. Keep up the good work, Cole. You are a good guy!

    • @keithnewton8981
      @keithnewton8981 4 роки тому

      You as a teacher should be shaping children and teaching them how to be better people so between the parents and teacher what your telling me is you're doing crap job at teaching diversity and acceptance.
      When i went through high school inbygr UK in the 1980s there was now major issue about sex ir sexuality we had out gay students and they where treated no different to ither students, one thing i do not us there was never a great need to be dating anyone at school and ot hardly went on in our year very few people dated. Your at school to learn abd develop to experience things long term relationship where not important. So bulling of students went one but by year 10 people where to busy with there education. To be worried about stupid group and who you hung around wuth maybe it was different in less academic schools but in our those who disrupted the education where removed, so we never had the gangs or fights. Because tge teacher kept control but they taught not to accept whst were where tokd by press media ir govt. To find out for ourselves. We where taught homosexual and heterosexual where equal that we where born with out sexuality and thst it was ok to love the same sex or opposite, that there was nothing wrong in exploring our sexuality. That we treat all people equally till they prove use wrong.
      Being gay was never an issue.
      So your statement saddens me. We had teacher who cared. You sound like a teacher who given up trying to shape children to make them more open questioning and understanding to remove that brutality from school where it should not be in the first place. Who runs the schools.

    • @okimlistening2u
      @okimlistening2u 4 роки тому +1

      Thank you, Keith, for your comment. I have taught over 6000 students and counseled over another 2000 young people. I have taught in public inner city high schools and upscale private schools. I have never experienced the idealistic picture that you have painted. Instead, I have seen exactly what Cole has described. While Cole is now serving in the military in Italy, he is from the USA. You seem to be from a different time period and a different country. My reputation as a teacher was that I was the most difficult academician in each school where I served. My reputation as a counselor was that I was the one that students could most identify with because of my open-mindedness and ability to have empathy with them. Unfortunately in this age here in the USA, Cole's story is quite typical. I will say that since he made his video 7 years ago, the social situation is beginning to change in some large cities and the movement is towards greater acceptance and understanding. I attribute that to education. @@keithnewton8981

  • @MrHcoboi82
    @MrHcoboi82 11 років тому +3

    cole you have totally told the truth and I thank you for putting your story out there, im gay and the son of a military family and am planning on joining the Navy to serve my country as well. I hope there can be many more people like us that can help others come to grips with themselves and realize that it does get better over time. thank you buddy

  • @bobh5087
    @bobh5087 4 роки тому

    Thank you for the Good Words. They will help others who are struggling. 👍♥️

  • @colelankord
    @colelankord  11 років тому +15

    just know you are loved and that people know what your going through and thanks for coming out for every person that comes out it makes it easier for otheres

    • @JL-re1rx
      @JL-re1rx 4 роки тому

      Thanks for sharing, Cole!! Cheers!!!

    • @karenvarti1636
      @karenvarti1636 4 роки тому

      You are FABULOUS XXX

  • @sieghartchaos
    @sieghartchaos 11 років тому +3

    Yeah, ive been there, i know how it feels. when my friends found out about me, they casted me away. only some of them stood up for me. It would be nice if you can make more videos about yourself and post them on youtube., it doesnt have to be your past. Im sure a lot of us wanna hear more about you.

  • @JesseDukee
    @JesseDukee 11 років тому +10

    very moving story man, thank you for sharing

    • @julianmartinez3060
      @julianmartinez3060 6 років тому +2

      Jesse Duke come back plz

    • @mitchellc2723
      @mitchellc2723 5 років тому +1

      Jesse, we love you story also. Love to see a life update.

  • @jethrobodineus
    @jethrobodineus 4 роки тому

    I viewed tons of “Coming Out” stories on UA-cam; and by far, yours is the best!!

  • @alexmillesfoodie
    @alexmillesfoodie 11 років тому +1

    That sounds like a very ruff situation but I think something some people need to hear. That it isnt always so easy for everyone. I think so awesome you were willing to share that you were able to share that to. If you ever want to talk some time id love too

  • @todd716
    @todd716 11 років тому +1

    Thanks so much for sharing, big Hugs to you.

  • @AnthonyAgee
    @AnthonyAgee 6 років тому +5

    Glad you're being you...Thanks for serving this country...

  • @montakafree
    @montakafree 11 років тому +9

    I'm glad everything is okay for you, very moving story.

    • @robertbrolo486
      @robertbrolo486 5 років тому

      Lamont Willams Ww go Military Hero's .Com.

  • @MRO1970
    @MRO1970 Рік тому

    Thanks bud 😘, you were of great help. 💐

  • @Attu2000
    @Attu2000 10 років тому +9

    I do not know you, but i am so proud of you! hope you meet a great guy who deserves you and have a great life!

  • @Karilus75
    @Karilus75 11 років тому +4

    Sorry you had to live that... I worked in an ARMY base for 8 years, I always hoped to meet other gay people, but it was always hard for them to be out in the ARMY, I miss my friends, but I dont miss working at the Exchange (i saw the bag)... thank you for sharing your story...

  • @globalman
    @globalman 9 років тому +4

    Thank you for your sharing. I hope it helps someone. It is amazing to see these videos. I hope you all appreciate that you have something that was not available when I was in my 20's. It would have changed my life. I accept how it is one cannot go back or change the past. But I rejoice at the courage of the many young men who do this so that others might have a better life.
    Ps, I'm glad you took that cap off to give us the chance to see how really handsome you are. Wish you all the best and that your life be filled with joy and love.

  • @ohiorich1
    @ohiorich1 5 років тому +1

    I applaud you. I love the realness in what and how you say this. Great video

  • @ferny514
    @ferny514 10 років тому +11

    omg! thx fo sharing your story!! you are too cute!!

  • @markskoda8862
    @markskoda8862 4 роки тому +1

    Well done. This will help a lot of people.

  • @gavinmccune93
    @gavinmccune93 4 роки тому

    What a profound story.

  • @mitchellc2723
    @mitchellc2723 5 років тому

    That is a great story and I'm glad that you shared from your heart.

  • @donaldstorm4959
    @donaldstorm4959 5 років тому +3

    I'm glad you told your story I was also in the military after high school but I never came out in my school, My cousin who is in the same school you came out in junior high that's 8th and 9th grade high school is 10th 11th and 12th grade. I saw the kind of stuff that he went through I wanted no part of it. I dated men who were in their mid to late twenties nobody from school.love your story. Was totally awesome you got some nice brothers.

  • @bradleyhaines4108
    @bradleyhaines4108 4 роки тому

    I have been through the same be strong your beautiful lots of love and wishing you the best

  • @colelankord
    @colelankord  11 років тому +9

    thanx you i am sorry for not being on my youtube i thought that this would be the only video i would post but i have decided to post more soon the word needs to get out there it gets better

    • @headlights4395
      @headlights4395 3 роки тому

      Knowledge is power. If family, religion, or culture makes coming out difficult for someone, the following blog post about homosexuality may provide valuable help: “Homophobia: To the Community” homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html

  • @xsublimechik69x
    @xsublimechik69x 11 років тому +2

    I am so happy that u r an openly gay soldier! I joined the army in 2007. I couldn't come out yet but now I love that everyone can come out and we can be a family doing it.

  • @CoopyKat
    @CoopyKat 3 роки тому +1

    It amazes me how many people say they got "beat up" but I never hear anything about an ARREST. Do minors think they are exempt from getting help from the cops?! The reason these bully punks, aka LOSERS, get away with this is because their victims let them get away with it. I'm glad your brother beat up at least one of the 3 losers - but you could have had them expelled from the school and arrested.

  • @robiyelton4964
    @robiyelton4964 5 років тому +1

    Thank you for your Service

  • @SofMusicBlob
    @SofMusicBlob 11 років тому

    You're absolutely amazing

  • @sadguyfoundout11
    @sadguyfoundout11 11 років тому

    Take the garbage out u silly willy! Great story! Very inspirational!

  • @MrChristerj
    @MrChristerj 5 років тому +1

    To say "being gay is wrong" is like saying being blue eyed is wrong. You cannot be wrong because you are.

  • @davidmambrose4210
    @davidmambrose4210 11 місяців тому

    ITS GOOD TO HEAR FROM A NON-COLLEGE STUDENT REGULAR GUY. I WISH YOU THE BEST. I AM 79 AND CAME OUT 50 YEARS AGO. BEST MOVE I EVER MADE, I HAVE A LOVING SPOUSE AND A HAPPY HOME. HANG IN THERE COLE!

  • @TheGamerhavoc
    @TheGamerhavoc 11 років тому +1

    thank you for your support i am glad i can inspire you, if you need anything please just ask

  • @davidwilson5556
    @davidwilson5556 11 місяців тому

    Your one amazing young man 💗😚😘🐱🐱😘❤️☺️🙂

  • @deaundrepuritty
    @deaundrepuritty 9 років тому +5

    Cole sorry I'm seeing this 2 years late. But I want you to know that you are so amazing! Shame on your dad for what he did to you, no one deserves that but good to know he's coming around! And hell, I would have beat those kids too! My brother is in the army too! But you keep doing you! And your really cute too so...! Lol. I'm thinking about uploading my own coming out story video soon 😁

  • @colelankord
    @colelankord  11 років тому +1

    thanx for the comment i wish i could reply to everybody and i read your comment it lifted my spirits

  • @DeepDJ68
    @DeepDJ68 11 років тому +1

    Thanks that was great

  • @Broadwaybutterfly21
    @Broadwaybutterfly21 10 років тому +1

    I totally feel you. I don't even have that one person to talk to and it's so hard

    • @mitchellc2723
      @mitchellc2723 5 років тому

      I hope you have found one person.

  • @MegaLadygaga7
    @MegaLadygaga7 11 років тому +1

    I just came out last year and I am now a junior in high school and it was hard at first but yeah like you said it does get better and thank you for sharing

  • @arielfuentes1893
    @arielfuentes1893 5 років тому

    I am glad I found your video is true life gets better i relate to you in so many ways thanks for defending tis country United States needs more young people like you in the armed forces I lived in Israel and they are so open they do have a great defense force there thanks for sharing your story and thanks again for defending us I hope you give us more videos and updates of your life

  • @wmcelhatton
    @wmcelhatton 4 роки тому +1

    I’m really sorry you went through such shit. You beat it & that’s what matters. You are stronger than the bigots.

  • @PeterRodriguezz
    @PeterRodriguezz 11 років тому +4

    Could tell you were in one of the branches instantly, (it was the cabinet haha Same style i've always had in every barracks room) Oh & the PX bag was a dead give away at the beginning. ^_^ In all seriousness, though, words well put & wish you the best, battle.
    Just wondering, What's your MOS (to be assigned a unit in Italy, I'm jealous :])

  • @regyme
    @regyme 11 років тому +2

    I came out when I was 16, I also have 2 sisters, one is bi-sexual and the other is a lesbian and she is a veteran like you too. I really loved this video and I wish you the best in the Armed Forces and your personal life

  • @tahfaa66
    @tahfaa66 Рік тому

    Thank you. ❤

  • @Dedeiden251
    @Dedeiden251 11 років тому +4

    i really wanna give u a hug :D

    • @morisangudui1025
      @morisangudui1025 4 роки тому

      I just want to say that I am very impressed with your Coming Out Story as it was brief and went straight to the point. I feel like I want to meet you in person.

  • @MatthewLush
    @MatthewLush 11 років тому

    Love you Cole!

  • @fumarate1
    @fumarate1 11 місяців тому

    It aint always easy I suffered mental problems for years dealing with my sexuality.

  • @francisnguyen5700
    @francisnguyen5700 4 роки тому

  • @tonyanderson6235
    @tonyanderson6235 2 роки тому

    You are a good oersin

  • @muhammadmuhaiminhisham7387
    @muhammadmuhaiminhisham7387 4 роки тому

    Peace be upon you, as a fellow human beings I just want to say that:-
    If you got anybody in your life that ever speak to you ''how did it come to this'' in the wrong ways, you know what I mean. This is what you tell them, you just look at straight into their eyes and you says:
    1. Humanity is about we bring ourselves to loves someone else, no matter what colour, no matter what race, no matter what religion, and no matter what gender. Humanity just want us to be loved, and to be able to love somebody back.
    2. When you get to God, He doesn’t judge you by your sexuality, He judges you by what type of individual you are.
    3. And in God's eyes kindness and love are what it’s all about.

  • @kevintangney1849
    @kevintangney1849 5 років тому +2

    FYI, it's relatively easy now to be LGBT and Christian. Just look for a Congregational church that is "Open and Affirming." The Congregational churches are often referred to collectively as "The United Church of Christ."

  • @shonester
    @shonester 11 років тому +1

    Wow man..your dad is lucky you forgave him. Thanks for making the video.

  • @ChangeChasing
    @ChangeChasing 11 років тому +1

    If you lived anywhere near me. Id marry you.

  • @dubon9999
    @dubon9999 11 місяців тому +1

    I send all my love and support to all the LGBT people of the world ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You all are important and very valuable even though we live in a world that makes you all believe otherwise. Remember always be proud of who you are 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 You all make from this world a better place ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 LGBT people are a rainbow of love in a world full of hate, but with difference of our straight partners, we all are united over a same flag 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 The flag of LGBT love ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 And we all must be united against hate, violence, discrimination and intolerance ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 We all are like a great family and we must fight to destroy hate ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Remember, LGBT people is love and love always wins ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 I don't care about your race, nationality, biological gender, health condition, religion or any other condition ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 If you are an LGBT person you have all my love and my support ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You guys are not alone in this fight and all the LGBT people of all over the world needs to understand this messagge, cause just united we will win against hate and we don't have to allow that nothing divide us. Never feel bad of who you are and never allow that this cruel world change who you really are or turn off your light and your shine ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You all born that way and remember LGBT people of all the world, at the end, love always wins ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

  • @deanhallhereck2259
    @deanhallhereck2259 6 років тому +2

    Much love to you Cole, you took the right decission, death would have only maed things worst, it would have taking all meaning off of your life, of what you really are, and for sure another worst issue for you, because you would have been a loser to your own self... I wish you love and success forever! :D

  • @colelankord
    @colelankord  11 років тому +1

    thanx you

  • @Paulinrnke
    @Paulinrnke 5 років тому +1

    Good for you. Your head is together. And it’s great that you have forgiven your father. And it’s good that you think he’s a good guy but he isn’t.
    A father that beats up a ninth grade son is not a good guy.

  • @karenvarti1636
    @karenvarti1636 4 роки тому

    VERY BIG, BEAUTIFUL AND BRAVE GUY XXX

  • @jamesknight3738
    @jamesknight3738 5 років тому +1

    I'm gay too I understand

  • @colelankord
    @colelankord  11 років тому +1

    omg i am the biggest fan thanx for the comment

  • @dogdog92000
    @dogdog92000 4 роки тому

    hi . would you say you'r accepted as gay in the military? or that this is two separate parts of your life?

  • @colelankord
    @colelankord  11 років тому +3

    thanx for the comment totaly a big fan of u and ur bf

    • @robertbrolo486
      @robertbrolo486 5 років тому

      Cole lankfotd + 5 years ago Bro u are a nice military Hero.

    • @bigmannjunior5865
      @bigmannjunior5865 5 років тому

      cole lankford hey how are you doing?

    • @robertbrolo486
      @robertbrolo486 5 років тому

      @@bigmannjunior5865 im on I.G nd Whats App 1+1 501 563 2829.

  • @roncantrell2836
    @roncantrell2836 3 роки тому

    This was 7 years ago. Are you still that cute?

    • @Oneorb
      @Oneorb 2 роки тому

      Actually I am

  • @colelankord
    @colelankord  11 років тому

    21

  • @keithnewton8981
    @keithnewton8981 4 роки тому

    Where were your teachers. Protect you. I am so glad you had a friend sorry it could not be your family.
    But dont you think its time your nation changed

  • @anujsharma-lt1vv
    @anujsharma-lt1vv 5 років тому +1

    My hero

  • @eqcr2177
    @eqcr2177 5 років тому +2

    Your dad beat you up, that is not good and good men don't do that. I am glad that he is 'okay with you now' but gay bashing is never okay.

  • @Thewebsiteking
    @Thewebsiteking 11 років тому

    are you the oldest or youngest or middle

  • @jourellelane1686
    @jourellelane1686 5 років тому

    KO SELUR EVOL YAG
    BEEN THERE DONE THAT

  • @NF-im1wq
    @NF-im1wq 5 років тому +1

    I am so sory that you got beat up. I got shot for being gay

    • @bleu1306
      @bleu1306 5 років тому

      Wow. Sorry to hear that

  • @zajournals
    @zajournals 4 роки тому

    In a way, I pity the haters, bigots, religious hypocrites, whatever, because they must be incredibly disturbed within themselves to care so much about who loves who, and want to control that (which brings in arrogance). I laugh at those who hide behind 'religious belief,' especially when they deny it. I'd have more respect for those who just admit they're a bigot.
    Thanks to the religious bigots, and social media, our younger generations are rejecting religions exponentially. They realize you don't need religions' dogma to believe in whatever god you choose.

  • @kiranroopsharma3684
    @kiranroopsharma3684 4 роки тому

    Please God save this innocent child from the path which leads to fires of hell and show him the true path .And save him from perverts below who are encourageing him by sending theses messages. Have mercy on these wretched souls.

  • @ernstdh
    @ernstdh 5 років тому