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old people are like: “you young people are so irresponsible. you don’t wanna get married? grow up!” and then turn right back around and say “gotta get back to the old ball and chain, amiright fellas?”
Honestly, my number one response from boomers asking me if I'm married/have kids and I reply that I don't is along the lines of "so smart!". Which is kind of the same energy, now that I think about it.
For the sex. Just like women get married so they can live without having to pay bills. "Romance" is a scam created by corporations, to get people to dump their money into unsubstantial gestures.
“I should’ve married your brother he has a swimming pool in his back yard what do you have gonorrhea which you should’ve told me about” I am literally crying 😂
As a lesbian this really moved me. I've heard many great speeches about supporting the LGBTQ+ community, but this brought tears to my eyes. Thank you, Emily. WE all needed that.
That's not right either, you're simply good at maths and not smarter than people who have other intellectual skills. You're not racist, but time to stop being ableist too.
Next let’s talk about parents that ALWAYS complain about their kids & how hard parenthood is like “I don’t have a social life anymore” “Kids are so expensive” etc.
Alyssa i hate that shit. Like don’t get me wrong I get parenting is hard, I’ve been a full time nanny, but like lots of those people think they’re better than people who don’t have kids. That shit rubs me the wrong way.
(I cant edit my other comment to add this ) She also always complains about music in the house and "how im controling her life" when im askkng her not to do things because they make me uncomfortable
I’ve noticed in media (Both movies and books) that’s there’s A LOT of dysfunction in relationships, whether it be cheating, abuse, etc it’s just.. everywhere meanwhile whenever there is a relationship that isn’t dysfunctional it’s portrayed as perfect with ZERO flaws and as soon as the perfect couple fights, they break up immediately
Yessssss!!!! Like I specifically remember trying to look for positive relationship role models (bc neither me nor my bf had that growing up) and not being able to come up with anybody
Cierra Brown relationships aren’t meant to be easy, people are going to fight they have different beliefs, hobbies and traits. It takes fights to strengthen the relationship. The media not portraying human relationships correctly is poor. Yes some relationships won’t fight that much but breaking up after the first fight shows they weren’t strong and it can be misleading for young people.
Because lazy ass writers don't want to put the time and effort into writing "boring" relationships. Give me cute, well written, domestic fluff over cliche and melodramatic CW bullshit any day. That shit's exhausting.
i feel like part of the whole “the wife is always right” thing in some cases is that husbands refuse to take any responsibility or develop any basic life skills, and so they just expect their wives to always tell them what they’re supposed to be doing. it’s like the lazy husband trope except the husbands openly acknowledge that their wives are pulling all the weight in their relationship, and still aren’t doing anything to fix it.
I don’t know what’s worse: this or the article I found by a woman who says that you should always tell your husband he’s right even when he’s not. How’s he gonna learn things, then?
My dad is like that .I didn't know that when I was younger , but while growing up I understood it. Now that my mom is gone , my dad just wants me to take all those responsibilities 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️. He asks me to cook ? And I should learn it if I don't know how .. I mean even he can do that, he's the adult here so..
My mother and father were married for 36 years, until my mother passed away. My dad says that my mom was the best thing that ever happened to him. They said that they grew together throughout their marriage. You are right Emily the media and many sitcoms do not show healthy marriages.
@@skyhope5105 honestly what are you talking about? Are you implying that my mother and father lied to me about their marriage? Now that she is dead she cannot defend herself? What does that even mean? I can tell you first hand growing up and seeing them together that they had a happy, healthy marriage. I could tell by watching them interact with each other and how my life growing up with them was. I talked with them about their marriage growing up about what makes a good marriage. When my mom passed on from complications due to cancer and I talked with my dad after she was gone he would tell me about how much he missed her.
@@skyhope5105 Seriously can't you see that your comment is very rude? Think before you say something to someone especially when you have never met them irl.
My dad always tells me he loved my mom a lot when they were together. Even though she passed away when I was really young, I learned a lot about her and they genuinely seemed happy. Wonder how my life would be today if she had lived :(
This is why I really like Jake Peralta and Amy Santiago from Brooklyn 99 because they are actually a healthy couple and even though they have disagreements and problems they work them out and compromise. Also they tell each other "I love you," all the time even when they're competing and its so cute.
José Benardi it was stupid that they didn’t properly discuss it earlier, but they had a structured debate was a sign of a pretty healthy relationship. They solved it well too
@@eviekenyon574 The exchange was confrontational, even aggressive. Out of the bat Amy issued the ultimatum that boiled down to "either we do this or we're through". The so called debate was more akin to peer pressure than to genuine dialogue.
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@@josebenardi1554 I don't recall that episode, never existed I will deny it's existence until the end of my days
when emily mentioned healthy relationships they were literally my first thought but i do think the writers could have handled the “do we want kids or not” debate a little better
@@PGOuma you know...you're not wrong I just assumed OP was on lunch break but wasn't allowed to use their phone in the open. OP go get your edu-ma-cation
the ‘nagging wife/lazy husband’ trope used to make me feel so shit about myself cause it always portrays woman as hysterical and annoying, idk if I sound dumb but it reinforces the ‘I’m not like other girls’ thing where I didnt want to be seen by boys as annoying so I would make fun of ‘girly’ things IDK WHY GIRLS ARE SO MUCH NICER UGH I WAS SO DUMB
Honestly though, I don't think I went through that phrase but rather a "the girls I know bully me, therefore everyone hates me" stage. I still don't have a very good mindset, but I'm trying. I also went through a "I'm done with every guy ever because they are rude" stage. I'm bi and I have girl friends and boy friends so I don't really think I'm like that anymore. Lots of guys are still rude to me, and I have lots of bullies, but since I know everyone in that school, I can say I have almost the highest number of friends in the school despite the bullies and people who won't talk to me.
@@soup4720 Maybe because it could easily be edited to something bad or something the UA-camr doesn't agree with and it'd look bad that they hearted it so it automatically loses the heart if it gets edited. It's happened to me once before so I'm happy to know that it does that cause I was confused when I'd lost it.
I feel like the whole "game over" and horrible husband trope thing is mostly the older generations doing. They got married at a time when marrying for love was still relatively uncharted territory and strict gender rolls were still a thing. But the younger generations better understand marrying for love and go with the flow a little bit more I feel, denying these tropes for the most part.
I've seen marriage cards and t-shirts like that from these days though. It doesn't mean anyone is buying those of course. I've once read something about all the stupid jokes around marriage as a bad thing that I liked. It said: "You cannot marry ironically."
Nah it’s because of the patriarchy. The system was strong back then ofc so it’s made to be that way. If your logic was right, the “game over” should apply to women as well. But no they were pushed into marriage by deluding them into thinking it’s beautiful and helpful to them while men were conditioned to believe the opposite.
@@hillian6413 men tend to feel entitled when they are financially contributing to every once of emotional and physical power from the woman. She becomes the slave in a marriage. Men should not be given power. They will fall.
When I was little I would see these bad marriage troupes and relationships being played out on TV and movies, and I would be SO confused. To me, I thought if marriage is as bad as they’re amping it up to be, why do people get married? It made me nervous to get married when I got older because I thought I would hate my life/spouse. Also, this isn’t a marriage troupe but it irks me when people praise a man for taking care of his kids (basic things like taking them to school or packing their lunch)? Or just doing nice things for their wife. Like...that’s the bare minimum people. He SHOULD be doing that.
It really depends on the relationship. If a guy is working 60+ hours a week at a physically and mentally demanding job and his wife's "only" job is taking care of the kids and house, doesn't it make sense that he would have less to almost no responsibility where those things are concerned? Of course, if both people are working the same amount, sure, responsibility should be shared but, otherwise, the person doing more outside the house should be doing less inside the house out of fairness. This doesn't include emotional support of anyone in my opinion, just chores and the like. Emotional support should be given when needed to whoever no matter what. Realistically, a housewife works about 12 hours a day (assuming she has kids under 4-5) but the work involved isn't especially hard and there is down-time during those hours... especially once you get the rhythm down and figure out how to efficiently multi-task. Assuming the wife is the only one taking care of the house and kids even on the weekend, it's about a 65 hour work-week (9-10 hours a day). The work-time involved goes down as the kids age making it make even less sense where fairness is concerned for a man whose working long hours to help out around the house with the chores. Of course, this concept stays the same even if the genders are reversed.
@@Haylla2008 yea yea of course it depends. anyone with a brain cell would know this. but how it's portrayed, the guy can reasonably do these things. you don't see a fair representation.
@@ggundercover3681 It's so good to have you here to explain to others that their thoughts are obvious. And where would the people who didn't have the same exact reasoning and thoughts that I had be at if they didn't have you here telling them they're idiots? You contribute so much. P.S. I was speaking in general... so there is that.
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there are two types of unhappy people in marriages: Those who expect their spouse to change once they get married, and those who expect their spouse to never change once they get married! Basically, people aren't furniture they change in unpredictable ways over time. You get the marriage the two of you create together, so If you approach it that you ignore the petty stuff (unless you feel it will lead to a stabbin' in ten years or something) and talk through the important stuff and realize the other person is an actual three dimensional person and just their role (husband, wife, whatever) you have a pretty good chance to have a functional marriage. ...unless you marry a psychopath because they are hot/rich; that never ends well! ;)
There is a saying " a man who married the woman he loves is lucky but a man who loves the woman that he is married to is the wise and joyous" basically you need to choose to commit to the person your spouse is at the moment not who they were when you married them.
History: Men have greatly benefitted from marriages while it had a mostly negative impact on women especially mentally Media: haha once a man gets married it's over for him!!he's trapped! His life is done!! The wife is happy and he's suffering🤣👍👫 GaMe OvEr PaL 😂👌
Once a woman gets married she becomes the slave . And the guy still has freedom. Or the man gets trapped some way. Then she divorces him and takes everything from him. Or he cheats on her with many woman.
Marriage can have mutual benefits though. Also nowadays in the 1st world, with the option of divorce, many people are happy together. Also, mental health has only been talked about in any capacity within the past 100 years, so it would be really difficult to tell what would have been going on mentally. However, on a more historical basis (i.e. Before the right to vote for women) I can agree with you. The state couldn't (or wouldn't) ban forced marriages, so that's the kind of life they would be subjected to for the rest of their lives.
@@capylost Ikr like is it not possible anymore for two people to just love eachother and they both benefit from the marriage because they both have a partner that loves and cares for them? Sad how many don't seem to believe in that anymore.
Lowkey I grew up watching 'Married with Children' and thought that was how marriage was. Until I realized both of my parents were hardworking, and lazy in their down time. Also their favorite hobby together is roasting me. So...yay marriage...
I think some people want to get married to "whoever" because of some social rule they believe in, like "when your age is above X, marriage is necessary", or people will think you are a loser and weird, like you don't fit with your friends anymore also, cause they are all married too.
❤ fr! And it's really annoying. That's why I lot of people just settle down with anybody even if it's toxic especially as a woman; they'll tell you biological clock is ticking as if producing kids is the only reason for your existence. Personally, I like kids but i don't think kids are for everyone & so is marriage.
I honestly believe that I hear this shit so often because the older generations were pressured into unhappy marriages due to societal norms and are angry that we're making advised decisions about our own lives.
Not really. My parents had a 'desi' arranged marriage, and well, they don't like each other very much, but they're still together because of society and family pressure. Honestly, they didn't have an arranged marriage, it was forced marriage. But for my and my sister's sake they try to tolerate each other (doesn't really work tbh) but even if they fight a lot, they're still great parents and contribute equally to the family.
@@veenarani5413 Just because they try for you doesnt mean it's a healthy relationship. As a Nigerian with parents who literally are the most incompatible people who SHOULD divorce for the sake of their kids since their literally toxic and such a bad representative of a relationship that I'm kinda scared to get married that's just my two cents.
In Need of a break same! I feel my parents are just trying to stay together for me and my siblings, but with all the yelling and arguing I feel like it’s better if they split :/ and I can’t see myself getting married for that reason as well
As someone who is married, she hit the nail on the head. Getting back to my wife is a privilege, not a burden. She’s really easygoing and we both work together. That’s how it’s supposed to be. I’ll admit. There is a little bit of a “game over” when you get married, you didn’t run out of lives and lose though. The game is over because you finished it, and now it’s time to start a new game - building a life together.
I've been married for about 3 years now. Honestly, I think that the 'marriage is game over thing' is the worst one. To be honest, I think marriage should basically change nothing! If you were happy before, then you get to go on being happy. Like, I don't feel my relationship changed for being married. I liked it before, I like it now, and I hope I'll continue liking it tomorrow. I don't feel trapped or like I've lost out for getting married. It's more just like...the same. In the best way possible. That said I'm quite gay so maybe that changes things.
Me too, I've been married for a while now. Our relationship is really good. Our understanding, cooperation and care made it better. Neither of us feel trapped, at all.
I have met men in my line of work that won’t even read a piece of paper without their wife there and when I tell them that their wife can’t sign the paper for them because she is his wife not guardian they get confused and refused to look at it 🙈
literally one of my favorite videos you have ever made. the way marriage is treated in film is so strange. Yeah my dad does say go ask your mother sometimes but my mom does the same thing. They do it to get on the same page, not shirk responsibility and that's never shown. It's as if dynamic views of marriage are nonexist almost in film
There's this show called 'Daria.' The protagonist's parents (Helen and Jake) follow some of these tropes. Helen makes most of the money and is really busy, and she always insists on making all the decisions and bossing people around. Jake doesn't make as much money. He's always trying things to try to get more, but his money making plans don't work out. He likes sports, and sometimes just sits on the couch yelling at the screen. There was this one episode where the family goes to this family counselling type thing. Helen realizes that she's controlling and mean, and Jake talks about how much he dislikes Helen's bossiness. "She won't even let me drink milk if I want to!" It's clear that they both care, but Helen is blinded by her need to be in control, and Jake feels stifled by Helen. It was honestly sad. They obviously had things they needed to work out.
relationships should always be an equal partnership in which both people are actively working towards the other's happiness. if someone is unhappy it is their own responsibility to make that known to their partner. That last one has always bothered me so hard. Like, where did it come from? Why would anyone get married if that was the case? And you know what bothers me even more? Manipulative and controlling partners using marriage as a finishing line, so that after they cross that line, they now no longer have to hide their abusive behaviour and the other person is left going "after we got married it's like he/she is a different person entirely" or "they were never like this before we got married". I HATE that .
To the first part: Love is better as a commitment than a feeling to rely on constantly. As such, I think marriage will last only as long as one is willing commit to it, which is notably hard.
@bloodybleeder Well that’s just your experience. Other people may have it different, it’s what a healthy relationship is. You sound like you need to get out of yours and find a better spouse. Controlling people are too difficult to live with.
The other weird thing is people in real life that I have met who say that say "the wife is always right" or joke about "happy wife, happy life" are almost always the guys that have this huge inflated ego and wanna be the "head of the household". At least that's been my experience...
never have i ever fantasized about getting married or proposed to. i hate dresses and jewellery and i don't want to spend that much money on something that just _isn't necessary._ you don't need a legal document and a fancy event to love your s/o.
I am mid thirties, married for almost 15 years. This seems to be the age where some of my friends are waking up and leaving their husbands for being exactly like the guy in your intro skit. I remember learning in university and that on average married men are healthier and live longer than unmarried men, and married women are less healthy and die earlier than unmarried woman. Marriage is really hard on women especially after you add kids. Even people who intend for things to be different often fall into the gender roles where woman manage 80% or more of household/childcare responsibilities and often work outside the home as well. Hope the current gen of 20 somethings will have better luck.
I believe abuse statistics also skew the averages against married women, but hopefully as you say the younger generation will have the tools to recognize and support healthy relationships that older generations didn’t have access to.
My marriage doesn't match up with any of these tropes lmao. My parents on the other hand? Eeeehhh, yeah they fit a few. I feel like it's a boomer thing
husband: *spends 20 mins trying to ask his wife if he should donate a dollar to charity" cashier: so are you going to donate? husband: uh, no. me: like really dude.
You make good points! Many of which I've thought to myself. I'd like to explore the "wife is always right" trope a little more - it's that the stereotype of men is that they're unwilling to engage in discussion or deal with any problems she might be bringing up. If she's always right, she makes all the decisions and he is absolved of responsibility.
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This trope comes from the fact that men are at work when these shows aired and thus they catered to female audiences, and still do to this day. I.e. dumb husband trope really got the hyuk hyuks from test audiences. Its like the modern female round table talk shows, The View, The Talk, etc where they kiss each others asses, praise each other, make stupid assumptions about men (usually their own husbands), sexist jokes about men and make excuses for womens bad behavior. Wendy Williams, famously said, "just lie to your husband about being on birth control when he says he doesn't want anymore kids. He can't control your body!" And the all female audience cheers when dude literally DOESN'T want any more kids for whatever reason. Lo and behold they're flabbergasted when talking to actual men about how wrong they were about us. I had an ex gf who would get mad that I didn't fit those stupid stereotypes. I ruined her excuse to be lazy and have an untidy place lol!
@Thelondonbadger It both erases the man's agency AND places responsibility entirely on the woman. It's not just misandric, because those phrases are often used by men to get out of discussions. On the surface they may seem to be ideas that benefit women, but are also used as excuses for men who don't want to engage.
@Thelondonbadger Emily is not responding to nothing. These are patterns in heterosexual relationships that are satirized BECAUSE of their relatability. Of course we all want all parties in a relationship to be responsible and empathetic. I am amazed you've somehow developed the idea that women do nothing in relationships. Consider childcare and household management, which is traditionally the woman's responsibility, and look up emotional labor. You are exactly right that many women DO find their male partners to act like children who pay rent, because they don't engage in household chores or management and don't always engage in the relationship emotionally honestly.
Sometimes I get annoyed with my dad because mom can do so many things for the household while he just sits around and drinks beer. He does a few things though and that's great but the amount of work is not equal. If I move in with my boyfriend I will make sure we take turns doing chores because I would lose my mind otherwise.
I miss the Monica and Chandler. That was a relationship that was adorable. Even further back Mad about you, Helen Hunt and Paul Reiser. They had an amazing relationship. They had real struggles that effected their relationship almost ending it but they still overcame them.
My dad aint lazy either. _But my brother sure is_ Im so glad my family is healthy and functional. And that my parents love each other to the moon and back.
Dude finally someone is talking about this, it's annoyed me for years and my church even did a lesson on it one day too saying how it's getting a little out of hand
"I am feeling negative amounts of attraction towards you right now, I actually think I would feel more attracted to the animated character Mater from the hit Pixar film Cars," I burst out laughing that is actually hilarious.
Happy spouse, happy house is a much better motto🏡 both people’s needs, desires and feelings matter. If this were the template for more people, maybe there would be less misery going on
@@WellValUa Also. They're confusing asexual with aromantic. And that's coming from someone who's still confused about asexuality. No matter how many people try and explain it I'm just like "Bullshit. You have to have some desire. It's what makes us human."
@@roxassora2706 agree with the first part, part the last part... The ability of abstract thinking makes us humans. Some animals have sexual desire and all of them have mating instinct. So zero libido doesn't make anyone less human
Loved that you mentioned the Dad's and Mum's side of it. It's such an inaccurate portrayal! I love the way that you put it across though. Funny and sarcastic as always. Thank you Emily :)
It’s so weird cuz we have thousands of movie and shows about true love and chasing the girl of your dreams and finding the love of your life, only to later grow to hate your soulmate the second you get married and “tied down”?? It’s so rare to see media depicting healthy long lasting relationship bw two grown ups cuz it’s boring to them i guess. The only passionate part of love is the falling and dating stage to them. It’s hard to romanticize the hard work it takes to keep a relationship healthy
@Thelondonbadger oh honey now this is hilarious, I do know what you're trying to say but I did spend a good minute laughing at the sentence "tv isnt real" when theres a tv in my living room hahaha lol okay anyway What I assume you meant to say was that television shows are just fiction and thus have no real bearing on the real world. However, fiction of all sort of media types has a significant impact on our daily lives. I'm not gonna spoon feed you a media studies course, but maybe try to think about why stories are so vital to the human experience. Anyway fiction may not be real but the stories we tell each other are important.
These tropes bug me the heck out. As a married person, these tropes are not accurate, especially if you marry the right person. Maybe in dysfunctional marriages.
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Yeah.. just marry someone you actually like! :)
How tall are you?
Voted again, and you're really good at playing a married man.
old people are like: “you young people are so irresponsible. you don’t wanna get married? grow up!”
and then turn right back around and say “gotta get back to the old ball and chain, amiright fellas?”
Boomers
Honestly, my number one response from boomers asking me if I'm married/have kids and I reply that I don't is along the lines of "so smart!". Which is kind of the same energy, now that I think about it.
Oh the boomers
ughhh i hate that so. much.
I pretend I tried
The "Marriage is a Trap" always annoyed me like, if you think your wife is such a burden on you, why are you getting married????
Right?
They want a free maid I bet
Yeah the "Marriage is a trap" is such a boomer joke.
LazyLifeHappyLife yea legit
For the sex. Just like women get married so they can live without having to pay bills. "Romance" is a scam created by corporations, to get people to dump their money into unsubstantial gestures.
A happy marriage is my number 1 fetish
*hOnEsTlY*
Mine is leather
Mine is consent,equality than a healthy and happy relationship/marriage
SpiltOrangeJuice YEE-HAW do you mean then or than
Thats unrealistic just choose bdsm like the rest of us
“I should’ve married your brother he has a swimming pool in his back yard what do you have gonorrhea which you should’ve told me about”
I am literally crying 😂
Emily really does have a great sense of humor. :)
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The truth lmao
Im so moved..
She has a way with words.🤣🤣
@@imalazypudding5392 and I'm so gay
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As a lesbian this really moved me. I've heard many great speeches about supporting the LGBTQ+ community, but this brought tears to my eyes. Thank you, Emily. WE all needed that.
“I’m good at math, not because I’m Asian, but because I’m smart.” Dude you are my hero
Ikr
Lmao
That's not right either, you're simply good at maths and not smarter than people who have other intellectual skills. You're not racist, but time to stop being ableist too.
I'm horrible at math even though I am Asian. Most of the kids in my Asian school are great at math. Some are very stupid and can be assholes.
@@irokosalei5133 Excuse me what?
Next let’s talk about parents that ALWAYS complain about their kids & how hard parenthood is like
“I don’t have a social life anymore”
“Kids are so expensive” etc.
Alyssa i hate that shit. Like don’t get me wrong I get parenting is hard, I’ve been a full time nanny, but like lots of those people think they’re better than people who don’t have kids. That shit rubs me the wrong way.
Especially if they insinuate your life is somehow easy because you don't have kids.
Who decided to have kids? Y'all did. No more complaining
(I cant edit my other comment to add this )
She also always complains about music in the house and "how im controling her life" when im askkng her not to do things because they make me uncomfortable
Those things are true, though. Maybe you're not a very good friend.
I’ve noticed in media (Both movies and books) that’s there’s A LOT of dysfunction in relationships, whether it be cheating, abuse, etc it’s just.. everywhere meanwhile whenever there is a relationship that isn’t dysfunctional it’s portrayed as perfect with ZERO flaws and as soon as the perfect couple fights, they break up immediately
Media: “Realism? Pfff what’s that?”
Yessssss!!!! Like I specifically remember trying to look for positive relationship role models (bc neither me nor my bf had that growing up) and not being able to come up with anybody
Cierra Brown relationships aren’t meant to be easy, people are going to fight they have different beliefs, hobbies and traits. It takes fights to strengthen the relationship. The media not portraying human relationships correctly is poor. Yes some relationships won’t fight that much but breaking up after the first fight shows they weren’t strong and it can be misleading for young people.
Yeah they're just caricatures :/ and then it gives unrealistic expectations in relationships.
Because lazy ass writers don't want to put the time and effort into writing "boring" relationships. Give me cute, well written, domestic fluff over cliche and melodramatic CW bullshit any day. That shit's exhausting.
i feel like part of the whole “the wife is always right” thing in some cases is that husbands refuse to take any responsibility or develop any basic life skills, and so they just expect their wives to always tell them what they’re supposed to be doing. it’s like the lazy husband trope except the husbands openly acknowledge that their wives are pulling all the weight in their relationship, and still aren’t doing anything to fix it.
I don’t know what’s worse: this or the article I found by a woman who says that you should always tell your husband he’s right even when he’s not. How’s he gonna learn things, then?
My gf joke about this all the time (we take turns lol). I hope to God nobody actually believes this though
Yeah. My dad is like that.
It's hella stupid.
Like, use your brain man. You are 40 years old 🙄
My dad is like that .I didn't know that when I was younger , but while growing up I understood it. Now that my mom is gone , my dad just wants me to take all those responsibilities 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️. He asks me to cook ? And I should learn it if I don't know how .. I mean even he can do that, he's the adult here so..
@@pranspat2969 I’m really sorry to hear that and I hope things get better soon
And by the way hi army💜
My mother and father were married for 36 years, until my mother passed away. My dad says that my mom was the best thing that ever happened to him. They said that they grew together throughout their marriage. You are right Emily the media and many sitcoms do not show healthy marriages.
Are you sure you are not being lied?
After she died i guess she cant defend herself
@@skyhope5105 honestly what are you talking about? Are you implying that my mother and father lied to me about their marriage? Now that she is dead she cannot defend herself? What does that even mean? I can tell you first hand growing up and seeing them together that they had a happy, healthy marriage. I could tell by watching them interact with each other and how my life growing up with them was. I talked with them about their marriage growing up about what makes a good marriage. When my mom passed on from complications due to cancer and I talked with my dad after she was gone he would tell me about how much he missed her.
@@skyhope5105 Seriously can't you see that your comment is very rude? Think before you say something to someone especially when you have never met them irl.
OldSchool the johnny depp thing is true
My dad always tells me he loved my mom a lot when they were together. Even though she passed away when I was really young, I learned a lot about her and they genuinely seemed happy. Wonder how my life would be today if she had lived :(
My personal favourite from this troupe is the wedding cake toppers that have the bride pulling the groom by the throat. Straight ppl be wildin
SO TRUEEE
Or when the groom writes "Help me" at the bottom of his shoes so people can see it when he kneels at the altar
@@cutiekoo7162 oh god I've never heard of that one??? Damn it just gets worse
DieBoss Eyyy I felt that 😔 it’s not that bad...
I didn't even know that was a thing omg
Me and my bed are in a healthy relationship
Me too. I sleep with my Bed every night.
Idk It seems like you are too dependant
I bought my love new bedsheets this valentine
can’t wait to see her wearing it
good
Friestheartist yesssss I agreee love my bed :3
Are you kidding me wOmAN
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I swear to god this is how heterosexual boomers relate to each other and I'm scared.
LMAO
IKR
My grandparents
Who put you on this planet
Mine too honestly. Both maternal and paternal.
my parents are like these ahhhh-
This is why I really like Jake Peralta and Amy Santiago from Brooklyn 99 because they are actually a healthy couple and even though they have disagreements and problems they work them out and compromise. Also they tell each other "I love you," all the time even when they're competing and its so cute.
The way they dealt with "whether have children or not" was anything but healthy.
José Benardi it was stupid that they didn’t properly discuss it earlier, but they had a structured debate was a sign of a pretty healthy relationship. They solved it well too
@@eviekenyon574 The exchange was confrontational, even aggressive. Out of the bat Amy issued the ultimatum that boiled down to "either we do this or we're through". The so called debate was more akin to peer pressure than to genuine dialogue.
@@josebenardi1554 I don't recall that episode, never existed
I will deny it's existence until the end of my days
when emily mentioned healthy relationships they were literally my first thought but i do think the writers could have handled the “do we want kids or not” debate a little better
Hiding in my school bathroom to watch this
Lmaooo don't get caught
No, get caught! >:( You should be learning! You can always come back to this later
Moon Shine Down
It’s fine I’m skipping French class
@@PGOuma you know...you're not wrong
I just assumed OP was on lunch break but wasn't allowed to use their phone in the open.
OP go get your edu-ma-cation
@@soup4720 oui oui
the ‘nagging wife/lazy husband’ trope used to make me feel so shit about myself cause it always portrays woman as hysterical and annoying, idk if I sound dumb but it reinforces the ‘I’m not like other girls’ thing where I didnt want to be seen by boys as annoying so I would make fun of ‘girly’ things IDK WHY GIRLS ARE SO MUCH NICER UGH I WAS SO DUMB
EXACTLY I have always hated it. It’s so stupid that people actually treat each other like that.
Yes! I used to make fun of girls for liking pink and I got over that 'I'm not like other girls' phase and I really like pink now lol
It happens. You weren't dumb, you just made a mistake.
Honestly though, I don't think I went through that phrase but rather a "the girls I know bully me, therefore everyone hates me" stage. I still don't have a very good mindset, but I'm trying. I also went through a "I'm done with every guy ever because they are rude" stage. I'm bi and I have girl friends and boy friends so I don't really think I'm like that anymore. Lots of guys are still rude to me, and I have lots of bullies, but since I know everyone in that school, I can say I have almost the highest number of friends in the school despite the bullies and people who won't talk to me.
Oh I did that too- thank god it was in elementary tho and for one year but yay you changed!
I read a quote somewhere, that said: " Marriage is not game over, marriage is a level up"
Edit: Thank you so much for the ♥️ \(^.^)/
Oof when you edit your comment you lose the heart
@@soup4720 Why is that?
Yuuko Kagami idk dude it’s been like that forever
@@soup4720 Maybe because it could easily be edited to something bad or something the UA-camr doesn't agree with and it'd look bad that they hearted it so it automatically loses the heart if it gets edited. It's happened to me once before so I'm happy to know that it does that cause I was confused when I'd lost it.
@@yuukokagami Yeah, that's what I thought.
”Happy wife, happy life.
I'm gay.
Oh, uhh happy gay, better day.
Tea!”
I. Love. That.
Emily with no relationship experience offering the best advice. Coaches dont play
I feel like the whole "game over" and horrible husband trope thing is mostly the older generations doing. They got married at a time when marrying for love was still relatively uncharted territory and strict gender rolls were still a thing. But the younger generations better understand marrying for love and go with the flow a little bit more I feel, denying these tropes for the most part.
I've seen marriage cards and t-shirts like that from these days though. It doesn't mean anyone is buying those of course.
I've once read something about all the stupid jokes around marriage as a bad thing that I liked. It said:
"You cannot marry ironically."
Nah it’s because of the patriarchy. The system was strong back then ofc so it’s made to be that way. If your logic was right, the “game over” should apply to women as well. But no they were pushed into marriage by deluding them into thinking it’s beautiful and helpful to them while men were conditioned to believe the opposite.
@@zakeernalir2871 You right
My dad is not lazy tf he’s been getting milk for 12 years🤦🏾♂️
Right my dad is amazing
But when he finally back he bout to pull up ceo of Mayfield
I think she means he "left to get milk" and then never came back you guys (so he's not lazy, he been getting milk) I might wrong but...
@@dahli8043 I read it that way too.
That joke is so repetitive.
I’m so glad that she’s getting sponsorships 🥺🥺🥺
"Could you help me with some laundry I think I'm having some back pain from CARRYING THE WEIGHT OF THIS FAMILY" Damn😶
@Thelondonbadger I see what you are trying to do, but there is a difference between financially contributing and emotionally contributing.
@@hillian6413 men tend to feel entitled when they are financially contributing to every once of emotional and physical power from the woman. She becomes the slave in a marriage. Men should not be given power. They will fall.
@Thelondonbadger but in the skit he wasn't.... Calm down a bit.
When I was little I would see these bad marriage troupes and relationships being played out on TV and movies, and I would be SO confused. To me, I thought if marriage is as bad as they’re amping it up to be, why do people get married? It made me nervous to get married when I got older because I thought I would hate my life/spouse.
Also, this isn’t a marriage troupe but it irks me when people praise a man for taking care of his kids (basic things like taking them to school or packing their lunch)? Or just doing nice things for their wife. Like...that’s the bare minimum people. He SHOULD be doing that.
It really depends on the relationship. If a guy is working 60+ hours a week at a physically and mentally demanding job and his wife's "only" job is taking care of the kids and house, doesn't it make sense that he would have less to almost no responsibility where those things are concerned? Of course, if both people are working the same amount, sure, responsibility should be shared but, otherwise, the person doing more outside the house should be doing less inside the house out of fairness. This doesn't include emotional support of anyone in my opinion, just chores and the like. Emotional support should be given when needed to whoever no matter what. Realistically, a housewife works about 12 hours a day (assuming she has kids under 4-5) but the work involved isn't especially hard and there is down-time during those hours... especially once you get the rhythm down and figure out how to efficiently multi-task. Assuming the wife is the only one taking care of the house and kids even on the weekend, it's about a 65 hour work-week (9-10 hours a day). The work-time involved goes down as the kids age making it make even less sense where fairness is concerned for a man whose working long hours to help out around the house with the chores. Of course, this concept stays the same even if the genders are reversed.
@@Haylla2008 yea yea of course it depends. anyone with a brain cell would know this. but how it's portrayed, the guy can reasonably do these things. you don't see a fair representation.
@@ggundercover3681 It's so good to have you here to explain to others that their thoughts are obvious. And where would the people who didn't have the same exact reasoning and thoughts that I had be at if they didn't have you here telling them they're idiots? You contribute so much.
P.S. I was speaking in general... so there is that.
As a gay man myself, I can confirm-happy gay, better day.
Same
I mean, tea
Same here
@@popi5476 Am bisexual. Am confused
Ada Escamilla You can still be happy gay.
Remember kids
If 2x+4=10
Then x= Chuck e Cheese is a chain of American family entertainment centers and restaurants. The chain is the primary brand of CEC Entertainment, Inc. and is headquartered in Irving, Texas.
The more you know👍
7/11, Taco Bueno, ATT, ExxonMobil and Game Stop are also headquartered in Irving ,Tx. South Irving sucks, Las Colinas is really nice.
Cheers from Tx.
X=3
Did it so nobody has to
Trin&EL. Thank you for your service
@@user-oq1tr7ys5i I was born in Texas. I love that state.
@@ApplePi3.1415 thank you, but I actually did it before reading the comment section
there are two types of unhappy people in marriages:
Those who expect their spouse to change once they get married, and those who expect their spouse to never change once they get married!
Basically, people aren't furniture they change in unpredictable ways over time. You get the marriage the two of you create together, so If you approach it that you ignore the petty stuff (unless you feel it will lead to a stabbin' in ten years or something) and talk through the important stuff and realize the other person is an actual three dimensional person and just their role (husband, wife, whatever) you have a pretty good chance to have a functional marriage.
...unless you marry a psychopath because they are hot/rich; that never ends well!
;)
There is a saying " a man who married the woman he loves is lucky but a man who loves the woman that he is married to is the wise and joyous" basically you need to choose to commit to the person your spouse is at the moment not who they were when you married them.
This is so true! I'm saving this quote lol
History: Men have greatly benefitted from marriages while it had a mostly negative impact on women especially mentally
Media: haha once a man gets married it's over for him!!he's trapped! His life is done!! The wife is happy and he's suffering🤣👍👫 GaMe OvEr PaL 😂👌
Once a woman gets married she becomes the slave .
And the guy still has freedom.
Or the man gets trapped some way.
Then she divorces him and takes everything from him.
Or he cheats on her with many woman.
Marriage can have mutual benefits though. Also nowadays in the 1st world, with the option of divorce, many people are happy together.
Also, mental health has only been talked about in any capacity within the past 100 years, so it would be really difficult to tell what would have been going on mentally.
However, on a more historical basis (i.e. Before the right to vote for women) I can agree with you. The state couldn't (or wouldn't) ban forced marriages, so that's the kind of life they would be subjected to for the rest of their lives.
Bruuuhhh....stop😂😂😂
C Stone or they're a happy couple that love each other? y'all dont need to be so negative ffs
@@capylost Ikr like is it not possible anymore for two people to just love eachother and they both benefit from the marriage because they both have a partner that loves and cares for them? Sad how many don't seem to believe in that anymore.
Lowkey I grew up watching 'Married with Children' and thought that was how marriage was.
Until I realized both of my parents were hardworking, and lazy in their down time. Also their favorite hobby together is roasting me. So...yay marriage...
I think some people want to get married to "whoever" because of some social rule they believe in, like "when your age is above X, marriage is necessary", or people will think you are a loser and weird, like you don't fit with your friends anymore also, cause they are all married too.
❤ fr! And it's really annoying. That's why I lot of people just settle down with anybody even if it's toxic especially as a woman; they'll tell you biological clock is ticking as if producing kids is the only reason for your existence. Personally, I like kids but i don't think kids are for everyone & so is marriage.
„But today we are gonna talk about marriages that are... uh... not as healthy“
*hears dad shouting downstairs*
I'm so sorry for laughing 😂😂
:(
Good Luck Charlie does a great job at portraying a positive yet realistic marriage *(Bob Ducan is Daddy)* which sucks that it got cancelled *:(*
Moon Shine Down BOB DUNCAN 😍🤤😍🥴
It had like 4 seasons though dude so at least it lasted a while
But like his nudes got leaked and I can’t look at the show the same 😭😭
@@hannahstolzer2085 EW WHAT HE HAS NUDES??
Actually, if memory serves me correct the show had a proper series finale. I still miss it though :c
*_"Happy gay, better day"_*
-Gerald 2k20
no,
"Happy day, better gay."
Day gay, happy better
"happy gay better day"
- Emily; 2020
cry baby's hurt what are you talking about that’s gerald
@@itspronounceddie8129 my bad, you're right
I think u mean Gerald
This comment is right above a comment that credits Gerald with the quote.
Happy ace, better personal space.
I honestly believe that I hear this shit so often because the older generations were pressured into unhappy marriages due to societal norms and are angry that we're making advised decisions about our own lives.
An example of what I personally refer to as "Bucket Crab Syndrome"
Ong
the first skit really describes every single desi arranged marriage ever.
Not really. My parents had a 'desi' arranged marriage, and well, they don't like each other very much, but they're still together because of society and family pressure. Honestly, they didn't have an arranged marriage, it was forced marriage. But for my and my sister's sake they try to tolerate each other (doesn't really work tbh) but even if they fight a lot, they're still great parents and contribute equally to the family.
@@veenarani5413 Just because they try for you doesnt mean it's a healthy relationship. As a Nigerian with parents who literally are the most incompatible people who SHOULD divorce for the sake of their kids since their literally toxic and such a bad representative of a relationship that I'm kinda scared to get married that's just my two cents.
In Need of a break same! I feel my parents are just trying to stay together for me and my siblings, but with all the yelling and arguing I feel like it’s better if they split :/ and I can’t see myself getting married for that reason as well
Not true. Please differentiate your experiences from other people’s
How can we trust this if it isn't even Emily?
Finally somebody asking the real questions here
I don't think about Relationships
Why?
Im gonna be forever alone and Im happy
:)
And honestly there shouldn't be anything wrong with that
Me but sad
Yo good for you man. Single club for life!
I think about relationships a lot. I am alone and not happy.
As someone who is married, she hit the nail on the head.
Getting back to my wife is a privilege, not a burden. She’s really easygoing and we both work together. That’s how it’s supposed to be.
I’ll admit. There is a little bit of a “game over” when you get married, you didn’t run out of lives and lose though. The game is over because you finished it, and now it’s time to start a new game - building a life together.
awww...the last part was cute!
Now THAT is a good wholesome marriage 😁
The best thing I've read ever 😊
6:49
"Happy gay, better day"
That needs to be put on shirt ASAP! 😂
There's a subreddit called r/arethestraightsOK dedicated to this phenomenon.
I usually watch people react to the subreddit and most of the time the straights aren't ok
@@mikuwopukwana2538 if u want wholesome straight stuff then r/thestraightsareok is nice for u to get a little hope in humanity back
Is the name a MCR reference?
I've been married for about 3 years now. Honestly, I think that the 'marriage is game over thing' is the worst one. To be honest, I think marriage should basically change nothing! If you were happy before, then you get to go on being happy.
Like, I don't feel my relationship changed for being married. I liked it before, I like it now, and I hope I'll continue liking it tomorrow. I don't feel trapped or like I've lost out for getting married. It's more just like...the same. In the best way possible.
That said I'm quite gay so maybe that changes things.
Me too, I've been married for a while now. Our relationship is really good. Our understanding, cooperation and care made it better. Neither of us feel trapped, at all.
I was literally watching some of your old videos roughly two hours ago
Also, I'm tired of the loveless tv marriages😐 its dumb
I have met men in my line of work that won’t even read a piece of paper without their wife there and when I tell them that their wife can’t sign the paper for them because she is his wife not guardian they get confused and refused to look at it 🙈
I love your name
“Happy gay, happy day” 100% gonna send that to my gay best friend
@Thelondonbadger okay but like sexuality doesnt make you-
Oh yikes you have a “gay best friend” they’re more than who they love sweetie.
"Im good at maths, not because Im asian, because Im smart"
Im smart too dont call me out like that, you meanie
literally one of my favorite videos you have ever made. the way marriage is treated in film is so strange. Yeah my dad does say go ask your mother sometimes but my mom does the same thing. They do it to get on the same page, not shirk responsibility and that's never shown. It's as if dynamic views of marriage are nonexist almost in film
@Thelondonbadger Sir this is a denny's
@Thelondonbadger Ok Zoomer
Okay the mom/wife thing is true in our family...sadly...
There's this show called 'Daria.' The protagonist's parents (Helen and Jake) follow some of these tropes. Helen makes most of the money and is really busy, and she always insists on making all the decisions and bossing people around. Jake doesn't make as much money. He's always trying things to try to get more, but his money making plans don't work out. He likes sports, and sometimes just sits on the couch yelling at the screen.
There was this one episode where the family goes to this family counselling type thing. Helen realizes that she's controlling and mean, and Jake talks about how much he dislikes Helen's bossiness. "She won't even let me drink milk if I want to!" It's clear that they both care, but Helen is blinded by her need to be in control, and Jake feels stifled by Helen. It was honestly sad. They obviously had things they needed to work out.
"Man's a man. You know how it is, right? Happy wife, happy life."
"I'm gay."
"Oh...well, uh...happy gay...better...day."
"I mean...tea."
What did she mean by tea?
@@nileenakh it means the person's spitting some real facts
relationships should always be an equal partnership in which both people are actively working towards the other's happiness. if someone is unhappy it is their own responsibility to make that known to their partner. That last one has always bothered me so hard. Like, where did it come from? Why would anyone get married if that was the case? And you know what bothers me even more? Manipulative and controlling partners using marriage as a finishing line, so that after they cross that line, they now no longer have to hide their abusive behaviour and the other person is left going "after we got married it's like he/she is a different person entirely" or "they were never like this before we got married". I HATE that .
"im good at math but not because im asian but because im smart"
literal queen
If the history of Chuck E. Cheese isn’t algebra then that explains why my math grades have been so poor
To the first part: Love is better as a commitment than a feeling to rely on constantly. As such, I think marriage will last only as long as one is willing commit to it, which is notably hard.
Me: Can I (insert thing here)
Dad: Ask your mother
Me: Mom, can I (insert thing here)
Mom: Ask your father
Me:....
They aren’t lazy, they’re exhausted. The whole trope stems from the traditional “go to work to support the family man” and the “house wife.”
Finally, someone said it. I am so sick of the "my wife is my ball and chain" jokes!
Wheres the lie tho? I haven't hung out with my married male friends in years.
@bloodybleeder
Well that’s just your experience. Other people may have it different, it’s what a healthy relationship is. You sound like you need to get out of yours and find a better spouse. Controlling people are too difficult to live with.
The other weird thing is people in real life that I have met who say that say "the wife is always right" or joke about "happy wife, happy life" are almost always the guys that have this huge inflated ego and wanna be the "head of the household". At least that's been my experience...
emily: the queen of smooth and well done sponsered segments 👏🏻💅🏼🥰
I didn't realise the bad dad troupe was a troupe...
He just sits around and yells about how my sisters and I should do more around the house.
never have i ever fantasized about getting married or proposed to. i hate dresses and jewellery and i don't want to spend that much money on something that just _isn't necessary._ you don't need a legal document and a fancy event to love your s/o.
I am mid thirties, married for almost 15 years. This seems to be the age where some of my friends are waking up and leaving their husbands for being exactly like the guy in your intro skit.
I remember learning in university and that on average married men are healthier and live longer than unmarried men, and married women are less healthy and die earlier than unmarried woman.
Marriage is really hard on women especially after you add kids. Even people who intend for things to be different often fall into the gender roles where woman manage 80% or more of household/childcare responsibilities and often work outside the home as well.
Hope the current gen of 20 somethings will have better luck.
I believe abuse statistics also skew the averages against married women, but hopefully as you say the younger generation will have the tools to recognize and support healthy relationships that older generations didn’t have access to.
My marriage doesn't match up with any of these tropes lmao. My parents on the other hand? Eeeehhh, yeah they fit a few. I feel like it's a boomer thing
You’re the funniest freaking being in existence, and you’re also hella nice and pretty, bro, the fact that you ain’t married is hella hard to believe.
That’s crazy I was just talking to my friend about marriages! So you fantasize about how bad your marriage will be one day.
"I'm good at math, not because I'm Asian but because I'm smart" this is my new Instagram bio and you can't stop me
Marriage is the opposite of “game over”. Marriage is like starting life all over again.
husband: *spends 20 mins trying to ask his wife if he should donate a dollar to charity"
cashier: so are you going to donate?
husband: uh, no.
me: like really dude.
@NotEvenEmily
They have to save for the divorce lawyers
You make good points! Many of which I've thought to myself. I'd like to explore the "wife is always right" trope a little more - it's that the stereotype of men is that they're unwilling to engage in discussion or deal with any problems she might be bringing up. If she's always right, she makes all the decisions and he is absolved of responsibility.
This trope comes from the fact that men are at work when these shows aired and thus they catered to female audiences, and still do to this day. I.e. dumb husband trope really got the hyuk hyuks from test audiences. Its like the modern female round table talk shows, The View, The Talk, etc where they kiss each others asses, praise each other, make stupid assumptions about men (usually their own husbands), sexist jokes about men and make excuses for womens bad behavior. Wendy Williams, famously said, "just lie to your husband about being on birth control when he says he doesn't want anymore kids. He can't control your body!" And the all female audience cheers when dude literally DOESN'T want any more kids for whatever reason. Lo and behold they're flabbergasted when talking to actual men about how wrong they were about us. I had an ex gf who would get mad that I didn't fit those stupid stereotypes. I ruined her excuse to be lazy and have an untidy place lol!
@Thelondonbadger It both erases the man's agency AND places responsibility entirely on the woman. It's not just misandric, because those phrases are often used by men to get out of discussions. On the surface they may seem to be ideas that benefit women, but are also used as excuses for men who don't want to engage.
@Thelondonbadger Emily is not responding to nothing. These are patterns in heterosexual relationships that are satirized BECAUSE of their relatability. Of course we all want all parties in a relationship to be responsible and empathetic. I am amazed you've somehow developed the idea that women do nothing in relationships. Consider childcare and household management, which is traditionally the woman's responsibility, and look up emotional labor. You are exactly right that many women DO find their male partners to act like children who pay rent, because they don't engage in household chores or management and don't always engage in the relationship emotionally honestly.
There are really relationships like these. Sitcoms are a warning of how not to be.
Sometimes I get annoyed with my dad because mom can do so many things for the household while he just sits around and drinks beer. He does a few things though and that's great but the amount of work is not equal. If I move in with my boyfriend I will make sure we take turns doing chores because I would lose my mind otherwise.
“I believe the answer is the mitochondria” HAHA OH MY GOD I JUST HEARD THE PRESIDENT ONE
Why is every one of your videos so relatable even when it’s about marriage 🤣
I miss the Monica and Chandler. That was a relationship that was adorable. Even further back Mad about you, Helen Hunt and Paul Reiser. They had an amazing relationship. They had real struggles that effected their relationship almost ending it but they still overcame them.
My dad aint lazy either. _But my brother sure is_
Im so glad my family is healthy and functional. And that my parents love each other to the moon and back.
Dude finally someone is talking about this, it's annoyed me for years and my church even did a lesson on it one day too saying how it's getting a little out of hand
The only “she’s the boss” trope that’s valid is Chris Fleming’s Gayle
I mean, tea
This is why I’m planning on staying single for life! :D
👍
The last blooper is the type of self confidence I’m aspire towards
"I am feeling negative amounts of attraction towards you right now, I actually think I would feel more attracted to the animated character Mater from the hit Pixar film Cars," I burst out laughing that is actually hilarious.
Wow a GREAT take! I’m a 22 year old guy who can’t wait to get married. I also get really riled up by the way society drags marriage through the mud.
We should all strive to find love like the parents in the Addams Family.
I hate the fact that my parents are like this
Happy spouse, happy house is a much better motto🏡 both people’s needs, desires and feelings matter. If this were the template for more people, maybe there would be less misery going on
That is partially true about controling my wife wasn't controling until I got married then after that .. all she did was try to make all the decisions
I hope you're safe, this sounds like how many abusive relationships begin. It's not normal and it's not gender specific. Please be careful.
"I should have married your brother..." caught hella off guard 😂😂😂😂😂
*My asexual ass, with no plans on marriage:* HA!
[REDACTED] God same
Hail the unicorns.
but you still might want to find a soulmate or a partner? and then marry when you're older so the whole inheritance thing gets easier
@@WellValUa Also. They're confusing asexual with aromantic. And that's coming from someone who's still confused about asexuality. No matter how many people try and explain it I'm just like "Bullshit. You have to have some desire. It's what makes us human."
@@roxassora2706 agree with the first part, part the last part... The ability of abstract thinking makes us humans. Some animals have sexual desire and all of them have mating instinct. So zero libido doesn't make anyone less human
"The game hey the game,listen to me woman" is so incredibly funny
Unfortunately the majority of my life was with the drunk lazy dad, but he’s changing it so we can fix our relationship!
I just realized that my parents are the overworking mom and lazy dad stereotype except KEKSad
Loved that you mentioned the Dad's and Mum's side of it. It's such an inaccurate portrayal! I love the way that you put it across though. Funny and sarcastic as always. Thank you Emily :)
"The trap" is just another TV trope, no guy I know refers to it that way.
It’s so weird cuz we have thousands of movie and shows about true love and chasing the girl of your dreams and finding the love of your life, only to later grow to hate your soulmate the second you get married and “tied down”?? It’s so rare to see media depicting healthy long lasting relationship bw two grown ups cuz it’s boring to them i guess. The only passionate part of love is the falling and dating stage to them. It’s hard to romanticize the hard work it takes to keep a relationship healthy
@Thelondonbadger oh honey now this is hilarious, I do know what you're trying to say but I did spend a good minute laughing at the sentence "tv isnt real" when theres a tv in my living room hahaha lol okay anyway
What I assume you meant to say was that television shows are just fiction and thus have no real bearing on the real world. However, fiction of all sort of media types has a significant impact on our daily lives. I'm not gonna spoon feed you a media studies course, but maybe try to think about why stories are so vital to the human experience. Anyway fiction may not be real but the stories we tell each other are important.
“Happy gay, happy day” just became a permanent part of my vocabulary
These tropes bug me the heck out. As a married person, these tropes are not accurate, especially if you marry the right person. Maybe in dysfunctional marriages.
THAT LAST ONE!! YES!! I've always felt that way
Dad Emily: “Happy life happy wife”
Gay Emily: “I’m gay”
😂
For a generation that likes to put down same-sex marriage, they really do complain a lot about the straight marriage they have with their wife.