Thank you for you work :) People struggling with cptsd need to hear this and understand that there is nothing wrong with us - that is what trauma does to us.
Thank you for yet another helpful video Karuna! I have learned so much about trauma after leaving my home when i became 18. I always knew something wasn't 'right'. I could feel something happened to me but for so long i didn't know what it was and i lived in pain thinking it was normal. I lived with trauma from a very young age so it became my reality and who i was, forgetting about my true nature. But i never gave up and now that the frozen feelings are slowly showing themselves to me i can accept and integrate them and i am so thankful for this because it's the most beautiful experience i have ever had. Every time i let go of something i get intensely happy and grateful. I thank you for spreading this awareness, it is very important and forgotten knowledge.
Breakthru while watching this: I had been thinking 'when I finally heal my CPTSD, I'll be able to 'catch up' to others.' But what's really true is, I have already worked my ass off from Inside the debilitating state to be where I am and feel safe... because of the trauma I have spent years pursuing my true dreams, my art, traveling, because I never felt safe and I was trying absolutely everything to come home. I've even purchased a remote piece of land to get far enough away from society to feel safe. So now, when I come home to myself, I'll be a mid-30s person with their dreams already in place! The trauma made me Hustle to 'get out'. Regardless of material possessions or pursuing goals, it strikes me that Because of our pain, when we come Home, we will be in an even greater state of joy and self love than the average person. I am seeing this now as an incredible gift. 💖
i greatly appreciate this video. I've been looking for a way to comprehend why I hurt so much when I try to work on my trama. this makes much more sense than how others have tried to explain to me.
Coming from a deeply painful past. I can say what you say is true. I learned fear at a very young age. I learned that it was best (safer) to not be seen even though I wanted to be seen with everything that I was. I learned to settle for whatever came my way just hoping that I would somehow I would find where I needed to be. Trama hurts because it rips us from ourselves. Because of this my identity became whos ever identity it was outside if me. I could become enmeshed with anyone or anything and not know who I was. I was enmeshed with Christianity because there was acceptance and I had no problem with someone controlling my thinking. I learned what I felt or thought didn't matter... what I am didn't matter. My abuse that was mental emotional physical and sexual played out over the course of my childhood. I had an awakening two years ago when I was in Crestone Colorado in nature. God Sacred Creator source or whatever name you wish to give the divine became more real to me. Being in nature with Mother earth is the purest form of spirituality to me. It's the purest form of beauty. I do have a question. What does an Empath do to protect themselves from a world full of pain? The reason I ask this is because I hurt all the time because of the direction the world is going in... primarily over the USA.
I was forced to believe similar. Religion was jammed down my throat as a young child. Religion never really resonated with me. Nature does resonate. I get what you are saying. May you continue to heal, and I’m so sorry. ❤️💕🌺🌹
I'm so sorry to learn of such a painful past. Thank you for this sharing (which also helps others) and thank you for your insights about the powerfully transformative beauty of nature. Your question is so relevant; it's a great topic for a video. I'll plan to create a vid on this topic soon, so stay tuned. x Karuna
Thank you for viewing Gretchen. My channel has a library of videos dedicated to the healing/settling process. I hope they are helpful. I suggest starting with topics of greatest interest to you and then see where they lead. With warmth and massive respect for your journey thus far, Karuna
this is a very informative video 🤍. I have a Question please . Can I heal my trauma while living in the same house with my parents?. One of my parents was violent ,with no control over their anger and I still hold the fear ,meanwhile the other is almost Absent and avoiding. Unfortunately I have to spend half of the year in their house. The abuse has stopped years ago but I still feel suffocated as if I lost all my progress and my autonomy. The instilled fear holds me chained as my child self was . will it be better if I completely left? Thank you 🤍
Thank you for viewing. This is a really good question and I have this topic on my future video list. Please know many factors are at play here. Yes, it is possible to heal while living in the same house as parents: I mentor/guide people during my sessions who live in the same house and there is substantial progress for those dedicated to healing (and not repeating old patterns). It depends the person's desire, clarity and commitment to healing. Importantly, it also depends upon the level of the parental dysfunction!! When we are a sprout rising up from the compost, we can't withstand being flattened over again and again by the thunderstorms of parents. We need time and space to grow a healthy stalk that then keeps us strong. How do we find that space/time? However, this stated: We must remember that when living with abusive parents, we are at the spawning site for the trauma! Yikes. Of course, it goes without saying that if you're being abused, it's best to depart. Some children, especially those who endured emotional abuse/narcissistic abuse, will minimize the situation (somebody always had it worse). Yet, emotional abuse slowly destabilizes the heart/mind over time, often to the point of futility. Adult children handle these situations in unique ways: Some live with their parents, while clear on their healing path and forging their autonomy; some stop visiting and go no or little contact; some try their best to keep and often awkward "peace" (while suffering in the family's denial). It depends on your state of clarity and stability and how well you can hold up and continue with your healing goals! It also depends on the level of your parent's dysfunction and how willing they are to listen, to understand and to make a shift of their own accord (small shifts for them can be a triumph). Some of us leave the spawning site of trauma and go far away, but, also, for some of us, this is not realistic at present due to a variety of factors. In this case, the healing assignment at hand may include the parents in the vicinity for a period of time. Stay focused! Become even more trauma informed! I hope this helps. Thanks again for viewing. Massive respect to you, x Karuna
Thank you for you work :) People struggling with cptsd need to hear this and understand that there is nothing wrong with us - that is what trauma does to us.
Thank you for yet another helpful video Karuna! I have learned so much about trauma after leaving my home when i became 18. I always knew something wasn't 'right'. I could feel something happened to me but for so long i didn't know what it was and i lived in pain thinking it was normal. I lived with trauma from a very young age so it became my reality and who i was, forgetting about my true nature. But i never gave up and now that the frozen feelings are slowly showing themselves to me i can accept and integrate them and i am so thankful for this because it's the most beautiful experience i have ever had. Every time i let go of something i get intensely happy and grateful. I thank you for spreading this awareness, it is very important and forgotten knowledge.
Thank you for sharing your experience here and your profound insights, Kevin. I'm glad you never gave up! x Karuna
I love your energy. Feels safe and loving. Thanks for your video!
Breakthru while watching this:
I had been thinking 'when I finally heal my CPTSD, I'll be able to 'catch up' to others.' But what's really true is, I have already worked my ass off from Inside the debilitating state to be where I am and feel safe... because of the trauma I have spent years pursuing my true dreams, my art, traveling, because I never felt safe and I was trying absolutely everything to come home. I've even purchased a remote piece of land to get far enough away from society to feel safe. So now, when I come home to myself, I'll be a mid-30s person with their dreams already in place! The trauma made me Hustle to 'get out'.
Regardless of material possessions or pursuing goals, it strikes me that Because of our pain, when we come Home, we will be in an even greater state of joy and self love than the average person. I am seeing this now as an incredible gift. 💖
Thank you so much for your wisdom and sharing it helps explain things that as a Man helps so much
i greatly appreciate this video. I've been looking for a way to comprehend why I hurt so much when I try to work on my trama. this makes much more sense than how others have tried to explain to me.
Coming from a deeply painful past. I can say what you say is true. I learned fear at a very young age. I learned that it was best (safer) to not be seen even though I wanted to be seen with everything that I was. I learned to settle for whatever came my way just hoping that I would somehow I would find where I needed to be. Trama hurts because it rips us from ourselves. Because of this my identity became whos ever identity it was outside if me. I could become enmeshed with anyone or anything and not know who I was. I was enmeshed with Christianity because there was acceptance and I had no problem with someone controlling my thinking. I learned what I felt or thought didn't matter... what I am didn't matter. My abuse that was mental emotional physical and sexual played out over the course of my childhood.
I had an awakening two years ago when I was in Crestone Colorado in nature. God Sacred Creator source or whatever name you wish to give the divine became more real to me. Being in nature with Mother earth is the purest form of spirituality to me. It's the purest form of beauty.
I do have a question.
What does an Empath do to protect themselves from a world full of pain?
The reason I ask this is because I hurt all the time because of the direction the world is going in... primarily over the USA.
I was forced to believe similar. Religion was jammed down my throat as a young child. Religion never really resonated with me. Nature does resonate. I get what you are saying. May you continue to heal, and I’m so sorry. ❤️💕🌺🌹
I'm so sorry to learn of such a painful past. Thank you for this sharing (which also helps others) and thank you for your insights about the powerfully transformative beauty of nature. Your question is so relevant; it's a great topic for a video. I'll plan to create a vid on this topic soon, so stay tuned. x Karuna
How? How do we settle?
Thank you for viewing Gretchen. My channel has a library of videos dedicated to the healing/settling process. I hope they are helpful. I suggest starting with topics of greatest interest to you and then see where they lead. With warmth and massive respect for your journey thus far, Karuna
this is a very informative video 🤍. I have a Question please . Can I heal my trauma while living in the same house with my parents?. One of my parents was violent ,with no control over their anger and I still hold the fear ,meanwhile the other is almost Absent and avoiding. Unfortunately I have to spend half of the year in their house. The abuse has stopped years ago but I still feel suffocated as if I lost all my progress and my autonomy. The instilled fear holds me chained as my child self was . will it be better if I completely left? Thank you 🤍
Thank you for viewing. This is a really good question and I have this topic on my future video list. Please know many factors are at play here. Yes, it is possible to heal while living in the same house as parents: I mentor/guide people during my sessions who live in the same house and there is substantial progress for those dedicated to healing (and not repeating old patterns). It depends the person's desire, clarity and commitment to healing.
Importantly, it also depends upon the level of the parental dysfunction!! When we are a sprout rising up from the compost, we can't withstand being flattened over again and again by the thunderstorms of parents. We need time and space to grow a healthy stalk that then keeps us strong. How do we find that space/time?
However, this stated: We must remember that when living with abusive parents, we are at the spawning site for the trauma! Yikes. Of course, it goes without saying that if you're being abused, it's best to depart. Some children, especially those who endured emotional abuse/narcissistic abuse, will minimize the situation (somebody always had it worse). Yet, emotional abuse slowly destabilizes the heart/mind over time, often to the point of futility.
Adult children handle these situations in unique ways: Some live with their parents, while clear on their healing path and forging their autonomy; some stop visiting and go no or little contact; some try their best to keep and often awkward "peace" (while suffering in the family's denial).
It depends on your state of clarity and stability and how well you can hold up and continue with your healing goals! It also depends on the level of your parent's dysfunction and how willing they are to listen, to understand and to make a shift of their own accord (small shifts for them can be a triumph).
Some of us leave the spawning site of trauma and go far away, but, also, for some of us, this is not realistic at present due to a variety of factors. In this case, the healing assignment at hand may include the parents in the vicinity for a period of time. Stay focused! Become even more trauma informed!
I hope this helps. Thanks again for viewing. Massive respect to you, x Karuna