Mental Resistance: Why you feel "stuck"
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I fight that chatter every morning and will continue to until I see change in all the areas I wish to make changes! Getting out of bed is the toughest challenge for me currently 👌
I think that first thing in the morning and right before bed a lot of people experience elevated mental resistance.
You really changed my life. I have always had extreme performance anxiety, constantly keeping me stuck in negative thoughts and putting myself down. I'm still a work in progress, but honestly, thank you so much for being you and doing this. I have gained so much strength and I will keeping watching your video's. I'm healing ♡
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Its 2 days I've discovered you and by gosh..you've helped me more than my own therapist. Thank you thank you and thank you for offering this extraordinary information. Bless you.
... it’s can be so easy to get lost in this world , thank you ! This was much needed
Your Sunday videos are the best way to start the week. 👏🏼🔥 “I can change. You can can change. We can all change.” 🙌🏼 Love you and the collective of #selfhealers you have awoken. Thank you! ❤️🙏🏼
Hey lady! thanks for being here.
Life can be utter hell sometimes but remember:
Each new now moment affords another opportunity...
I really need to consciously accept this so that I can make changes 🌐🦋
This is my first youtube comment on any video and I'm so grateful that you shared this. From battling daily with the subconscious to the societal pressures and comparisons, it is overwhelming! Its difficult to quiet " the chatter" but your breakdown is so helpful and motivating!
😢😢😢😢 I'm crying because when my mind says "Go back to bed!" I listen.... 😢😢😢😢
I particularly love that video. Using facts (the brain, the subconscious that takes care of our heart beat) to explain mental resistance, it all makes so much sense now! Thank you
I did this to myself this morning where I was telling myself instead of getting up to work out, why don't you give yourself a break, its Sunday, your body hurts and you don't need to work out today you can work out tomorrow. I did my exercise anyway without taking any shortcuts knowing I shouldn't listen to my mind(: thank you for your videos!
I see you showing up!
Hmm, I look forward to exercising.
I am using her future journaling on this very habit! I have been trying to break sleeping in for years. My body is awake but my mind always convinces me to go back to sleep. The mind is powerful and I started to relapse after one week. Sleeping in makes me feel so terrible that I got new resolve and started again today. Then I just watched this by chance ! Thanks Nicole for a way to break this habit (that apparently you have too! )
Yes! I love the way that Internal Family Systems works with this resistance. It views the resistance as individual parts that have agendas for us to not change and validates and works with them individually to incorporate them into the bigger system and our bigger direction. Listening, validating, and finding those golden intentions that resistant parts are trying to bring us by resisting change. Then slowly seeking to unfold them with love and attention while integrating them into relationship with the rest of our parts in a healthy supportive way.
iam Having resistance even watching this video that's how far my brain is a lose case .
thank you for helping me become better.
r u getting better at just doing it?
Complacency is being normalized and applauded while most people demonize the existence of non-conformity out of fear of seeking the truth within us. Because of this, most people just tolerate the life they don’t really want to live just so other people will like them and just fit in. Because of that, they feel emotionally trapped and powerless. That’s when I started my personal development channel and finally think outside the box. I’m glad I did because it taught me so many lessons that I will never trade with anything.
Resistance is a part of change. It sure is! And thanks for the: your subconsious is trying to pull you back into that range (of normality or habits) I like how you frame that. When I try to change my thought imidiatly try to manipulative me into NOT changing. I will remeber that it's just trying to pull me back into comfort and I will refuse! 😁
Brilliant thank you. It also explains why it seems to take energy to make changes too.
I just discovered you when i listened to Andy frisellas podcast and im so happy. I feel like you just went into my brain and simplified my complicated anxious thoughts and at the same time , assured me that im on the right path to changing my mentality and habits.
Hi! thanks for listening to the podcast and making your way over here. I'm glad it has assured you you're on the right path.
I see a lot of comments about how hard it is to get out of bed, for me it’s the opposite. I’m really sick with an incurable autoimmune disease and I should be resting now but I’m starting to see the patterns I have in which I use productivity as a coping mechanism in order to bury my feelings and essentially run from myself. I throw myself into work and it’s starting to take a toll on me, I feel stuck because it doesn’t matter how successful I am if my body, mind, and soul are not able to heal because I’m addicted to my own stress & high pressure stakes.
I feel like my mom does this.
I hope you feel better and you break out of this cycle. I am exactly the opposite. I dwell on useless thoughts and wallow in self pity.
I hope we all find a balance in life.
Dank Rainbow Moon I have autoimmunity as well, however I rest often, sleep a lot and lowered my daily load of tasks dramatically in the name of healing. I’m still at the same severity, so try not to beat yourself up over it, and do the self-care that you can. 💓🙏🏼 I hope you find the balance you need for happiness!
(There are cures in aurveda but you may not have access)
You need to do more of self love ( metta meditation...), which can slowly reverse the inverse conditioning. Basically the principle is to LOVE your whole self ( body, mind, soul)..
Rest, sleep, nutrition, exercise , fresh air, mental spacing out, de-cluttred lifestyle, caring companionship, altruism ( generosity, Patience, compassion, eqanimity, joy Etc).
Listen to the messages given by your body and consciousness.
Sounds basic but it's the prolonged deprivation of these that has gradually ruined the body's 7 systems...
So begin with some medications and major lifestyle changes .main thing is not to lose hope.❤❤❤
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I very much appreciate your work thank you. The idea of me choosing something rather than letting my subconscious choose it for me is empowering.
I have been learning and am still learning every day that I need not listen to the thoughts in my head. Really ever. I got this! .... I like this lady. a lot of habit gurus don’t prepare u for the mental chatter aka homeostatic impulse that is gonna knock u back down. And then u feel like it’s impossible, why did I even try? Smh. Thank you for this video.
Thank you for so many helpful, non judgmental posts!
Sending you so much love, dr. nicole!
Felt and appreciated. Thank you Sreeja!
Super helpful video. I am feeling EXTREMELY stuck currently. Ive been learning as much as I can about the subconscious mind to gain awareness, but this video has been the most helpful I've come across! Thank you! :)
Wow, Dr. Nicole, thank you so much for saying these words....they are super extraordinary and enlightening, yet simple: "I choose...not my subconscious." This will be my new response to my own chatter. Thank you for this tool. I am very grateful for your channel. Many blessings to you, doctor!
A brilliant explanation of how the subconscious mind controls our patterns of thoughts and behaviors! Only someone truly educated and experienced could explain it so well. Keep up the important work, can't wait for the next video!
Thank you so much for this. I've always given myself such a hard time about the difficulty inherent in making changes and it's really hurt my self-esteem which just fuels the cycle ("I'm just weak, lazy, etc."). Your explanation is so helpful and I'm going to try to use it to be kinder to myself.
I decided not to go back for my second 48-hour week at a factory temp job this morning. Underemployment for 4 months due to COVID-19 may have drained my bank account, but it filled my spirit, and that job almost killed me. I can find a job that ignites my soul. I will find a way to generate income that ignites my soul. I will survive.
God guided me back to the job. It's all about mindset. This girl is teaching people like us how to be happy with our circumstances and to embrace every opportunity as a gift. Not to run away from what is here because we are always where we need to be.
I'd encourage you to change jobs.. but I would be cautious when it comes to rushing it. But you know that already. I hope you find something that works for you :)
@@hgzmatt one step at a time (:
Thanks alot now I know I'm not crazy
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Thank you for this! I've been feeling stuck for many years now. I understand now. 🌸💙 It's like I'm trying to break down/through a wall...x
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Thank you for taking the time to watch, Jeanna! Happy sunday!
I love this so True! We all have what it takes to Change! 🙌🏽🌱✨✨
This is probably the most important message I have ever heard. Thank you...x
( FACTS OVA FEELINGS). So Many People Stay Stuck because They Don't Actually Want Awareness they want to feel good they don't understand the awareness is the path they wud have to take in order to genuinely get them there
Thank you for the accurate info, not many people have enough knowledge to realize what they are going through and therefore can't search for accurate information to help mitigate mental and emotional issues etc. Also how to evaluate the mental and emotional states of the "Self" throughout the day and most importantly at the stars and finish of the day whenever that may be
You are wonderful. Thank you for all your wisdom and sharing it. I so need and appreciate your wisdom in this period of my life. Very timely.
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Allison, I'm always hoping that these videos are simple and easy to understand. It's an honor to share. Light and love!
So simply explained, so grateful, thank you
Such a lovely explanation of how our subconscious mind controls our thoughts...
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You’re changing my life, thank you Dr. Nicole
I appreciate the nice concise explanation on mental resistance, I never knew how to label what would go on in my mind like this.
Always love watching your videos Dr Nicole! You are truly instrumental in facilitating my healing. Thank you for sharing your gift with the world (: #selfhealers
Thank you so, so much #selfhealers
Basically, what you are saying is quite trivial to me: we all have default and routine ways of thinking and acting that we have established over the years of living. Sometimes we need to make a conscious effort to overcome our routine ways, which requires doing things differently from the way we would do them by default. So we have to overcome a resistance, in order to not get stuck in the loop, that limits our range of behavior and thought.
What psychologists love to ignore: that there is most likely no such thing as free will. Our consciousness is not subject to conscious decision, but to the neurobiological conditions that we find ourselves with. The neurobiological conditions is predetermined mostly genetically (not subject to the individual's own decisions and actions) and environmentally (our environment during upbringing, no influence on that one; beneficial and adverse environmental influences). So the individual has no saying in those main factors, that determine his / her cognitive-neurological development. Once you are grown and supposed to take responsibility for your own actions, you only have the brain available, that was shaped by those factors you could not influence. One person is lucky and equipped with a brain that allows him to fullfil all the demands that society puts on him, while another person ends up homeless on the street, because he's not able to maintain the focus, motivation and persistency required to make a living in a free market, post-communal, individualistic, neoliberal society. The first one we as a society adore as a smart, educated and successful person, while we look down on the latter and blame him for not meeting the norms and expectations.
Our thoughts and actions are manifestations of our underlying neurobiological condition: you can not perform an action that is outside of the physical-biological capacity of your brain to process information and solve a given task. For example: you cannot solve a complex maths formula, if you have not acquired the necessary neuronal cell networks that contains all the learned building blocks of knowledge (through learning / practice) that are required for that task. Same with more abstract cognitions and behaviours. Our ability to perform them is linked to learned and neurobiologically established patterns. We cannot perform an required behavior or task out of the blue.
Good comment. Also, trauma will often interfere with one's ability to make changes. It's a very complex topic. And you're right - there is no free will.
Loved this video! Thank you for sharing and thank you for being so brave and so confident! Much love for you here 🙌🏼😘
Much love and appreciation!
I am learning so much thank you!
Thank you for your work!
OMG I LOVE this. I'm trying to narrow down and get better about negative self talk which is for me my ego replaying my worst hits, doubts, and pains as I try to do new things or rebuild trust and strengthen my mind and resolve.
I'm going to check on your meditation video and try doing it when I wake up instead of reaching for my phone as much
I am with you! Negative self talk can be paralyzing!!! One thing that REALLY helped me is when I understood that the ego is trying to protect me. And even that negative self talk is trying to help you - although horrendous at it's job! You gotta talk back to it and tell it that you are no longer 10 years old and it's not helping you anymore. You got tthis!!!
@@CelinaBelizan345 YES! I generally have really high expectations for myself and hugh confidence. I try to hold myself to my capabilities. But I hit rock bottom a few years ago, only saving grace was my job. So now I'm learning about the whys and how to counteract them.
Best of luck on your journey as well
Wonderful presentation. Thank you.
great video - thank you for sharing your knowledge
Great explanation about why we are stuck!
I wish you could do a video on being stuck but in a bigger context, as in, being stuck because of trauma and anxiety, not being able to know what you want to do in life, jumping from one thing to another, afraid of taking action, coping with avoiding in different aspects in your life, feeling inadequate, existential crisis so on. These patterns that does not seem easy to change, and that occurs time after time again during a lifespan that doesnt allow growth. Do you have any videos that can answer some of these topics, Thank you for being awesome and sharing important information and helping us to heal.
This is such a thoughtful, helpful and generous video. Thank you and bless you ❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing
Thank you for this. Please do more videos on changing the subconscious mind and mind patterns
Many thanks I am really enjoying your videos. I like the combination of theory, personal experience and things for me to incorporate in my life. 🌞 clear delivery well done ☺️
Thank you :)
Thank you!
I am trainable!
Great presentation! Starting some small new habits tomorrow and this is encouraging. I will train my behavior by practicing my intentions and quieting the “chatter”.
Thank you so much🙏🏼
This is so important thanks for sharing 🖤🖤
This was helpful. Thank you!
This is so detailed. Thank you!
Thankx for sharing 😍
You are amazing. Thank you
The choice to change
Big part of changing is in our brain.
totally.
I loved this video! I live with chronic illness and struggle to figure out what is mental resistance and what is my body's limits. Do you have any insight in how I could decipher this? ❤️
I think it can be really helpful to practice getting into the body. This will allow you to understand when you're having physical exhaustion vs. mental resistance. The body scan meditation video I have is helpful for this. If you practice it daily, you'll be able to make the connection with time.
@@TheHolisticPsychologist Awesome, thank you! I will give that a try 😊
Thank you so much!
Thankyou I m actually trying to change and do better things now and this is a problem I was facing ... thankyou 🙈
Thank you for your lesson👍
Thank you 💚🌻💙❤💚
I seriously needed this today. I feel so confused and lost. My medicine isn't at a theraputic dose anymore. I have to swtich therapists. I already moved my med check up but I feel like I am in limbo waiting. I feel frustrated because I have the nicest tool box full of the best coping mechanisms. Even with that tool box, I feel like I am back to parroting instead of actually feeling the skills. I wish I could hit reset like in a video game.
Sending you love
Adore your content !! Much love 💛🙌🏼
My ex sent me here. Best friend in the world decided that this was what i needed. Fighting procrastination
So how come we can trust our physiological subconscious but not the psychological? When your mind tells you to sleep in a bit more, isn’t that your body saying i need more sleep? Why then should we ignore that physiological need? It’s like if the body says im hungry and you force it to stay hungry. Doesn’t make sense really.
Came from your Instagram! I'm a UA-cam lover and reeeeally excited to follow u here now :)
I'm stuck but at a mental level that affects everything. My brain has normalized very damaging habits on the way I think and address myself. While I try to 'fight' it, I bring it up first to 'fight' it, so I reinforce it just once again, and all my brain takes from this endeavor is the reinforcement of the negative thinking paths and habits then I am "stuck" because I've been doing this for so long! It becomes so normal and no amount of rational thinking helps because it's the default now. I'm trying though. It shouldn't be anyone's normal.
Great informationnnnn!
Love the video but can you make the letters darker or the contrast stronger so I can see the board a little better
Thanks
I love this video wow! Thank you🙏
I feel like I’m going crazy because I want to change but literally my body will not cooperate. I’m trying affirmations and it temporarily makes me feel good. But I don’t think it’s working. How do we take steps to believe in ourselves ?
Been seriously struggling since i got back into school. Its tough to just sit down and do the work. I just want to tune out and play video games.
Thank You !
welcome!
I can get out of bed no problem
Plenty motivated but I do things that just don’t serve me well due to just being anxious. So I believe I just Goto auto pilot for familiarity.
It’s just brutal
You are beautiful 😍 thank you for sharing ❤️
Great video, thx a lot from France! Ps: I love your ig account, helped me a lot since I started following it last year ✌️
Great video.
Not sure you read comments on some of your older videos - but I wondered about resistance with decision making. I really struggle with decision making and understanding my own intuition. I just never seem to find clarity. But a particular decision has caused so much resistance internally and I know the more I don’t decide the worse it gets but I can’t understand how to get past it.
I get Shiz done. I’m tired of just doing it.
Thank you for this! What would you say to someone who is injured and has arthritis and when they wake up on 5/6 hours of it so great sleep, they feel the pain in their body? In that case, it would be best to listen more so to the body and not push it right? This often happens and it’s been a debilitating but strengthening exercise in my patience.
Amazing video
i am usually not commenting , but now i take the "choice" to comment,
thank you for the lecture 👍,tldr; so to make a change is to choose
hmm maybe i could say if you ever felt "stuck" is because you haven't choose yet ,
we haven't take the decision yet so it felt stuck
I would love if you made a work book for this subject to help folks move through this.
Thankyou
Where’d you get the dope ass whiteboard lol?
Bam bam
Hi Dr Nicole, thank you very much for sharing this. Would this apply to fatigue? I'm 31 and have been really struggling with severe fatigue since March. I'm a new mum and just want to be able to enjoy my baby but unable to do the most basic of things. Many thanks 😊
Being a new mom is exhausting!!!!!! You DO have to take care of yourself and recognize that you might be recovering from pregnancy, not sleeping enough, and perhaps even feeling an underlying anxiety about "doing it right" (which can all drain you). Drink tons of water- I mean tons. I do think at some point with mothers (or at least with me) I did have to take control of the situation. Not so much because I wasnt justified for being exhausted but because I was resigned to it. It was becoming a habit. I see it so much with the moms I work with. BUT You are just a few months out tho, now is not the time. Rooting for you momma!!!!
"I choose to do this, not my sub conscience."
Hi Nicole. Thanks for this. I have a question about getting used to feeling different as a result of making conscious choices to change. It feels odd sometimes, knowing that one is in the middle of a process that requires an ongoing commitment. Do you have any advice about coming to terms with those feelings? Thanks in advance!
Yes, it can really feel strange (due to the homeostatic impulse) as we are adjusting to the new changes. It brings up a lot of physical and mental changes. I find journaling and meditation to be most helpful. I think the more understanding we have that this is "normal" and part of the process, the more we can accept it. The more we accept it, the better.
This is interesting! But, how do you stop reasoning with your subconscious? Is the reasoning part of the comfort mentality?