Why YOU MUST Voluntarily Face Suffering in Life : Jordan Peterson Motivation
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- Опубліковано 20 вер 2024
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Jordan is talking about why you must face some sort of discomfort in life in order to progress. He starts off by saying that you should not be looking for comfort in life. A very true statement. In fact, life is not set up so that we can pursue the pleasures in life and wallow in them. Life is set up so that we should always be challenging ourselves in order to grow. That's why Peterson discourages the oedipal mother who seeks to protect her child from the world. Because what will happen is the child will never be exposed to the dangerous and malevolent world and so won't ever grow. He also adds that you don't make people less anxious by exposing them to that that they are afraid of. You instead make them braver. The video is packed with more details on why an individual should voluntarily face suffering in order to progress. Enjoy!
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A wise man said, "Life is about suffering and a person who gets it suffers less."
Life is not inherently 'suffering', it's a test, Life also offers Joy, and that joy is also part of the test..Humanity is in confusion and denial and the antidote is acceptance, mercy and hope
It's very similar to "excuses (comfort) make today easy but tomorrow harder, discipline (worth suffering for) makes today hard but to tomorrow easier.
Easy path leads to a hard life,
Hard path leads to an easy life.
I’ve never met a strong person with an easy past. Embrace the discomfort. That’s where the magic happens. 💪🏼💕
but becoming strong is only valuable if life is tough right? won't it be better if life is effortless?
@@MasterOS
If life was effortless, how would growth happen? I prefer to grow rather than being stagnant.
@@healthynewvibes Isn't growth only valuable if there was a requirement to be stronger? if life was effortless growth loses it's value
You write it like discomfort is your codename for sex
@@MasterOS maybe… but that is not the world we live in. Our world consists of constant challenges and barriers.
Good luck to you with trying to live an effortless life. I choose effort, strength, and growth. 🙏🏼
*5 things to quit for all people:*
*1. Caring about what others think*
*2. Not believing in yourself*
*3. Not prioritizing your health*
*4. Wasting your precious time*
*5. Chasing meaningless relationships*
I find the first point to always need a little more clarification, because people tend to take it the wrong way: it's not about ignoring and dismissing other people's opinion of you right away, thinking you know better. It is advisable to take that opinion in, analyze it, judge for yourself whether it is ill-intended or not, judge whether that person might "know something you don't" (a point of Dr. Peterson) and finally choose whether or not to act based on that opinion. What you must not do is let the negative forces imposed on you by others, whether that is words or actions, discourage you and put you down.
@@eminemfan3333 I like how Kipling put it
"...If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you
but make allowance for their doubting too
...If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you
If all men count with you, but none too much..."
@@treebeardtheent2200 yeah, that is indeed well put
@@eminemfan3333 One of the only good things personally for me that the shut downs facilitated was that I used some of my time to memorize the entire poem.
For those who don't know, the name of the poem is
"If" by Rudyard Kipling
Same man who wrote The Jungle Book (not the Disney versions),
The Man Who Would be King and many other things.
I think point 1 should be not caring too much what others think.
Meaningless suffering is killing your soul. If you accept suffering voluntairy then you transcend it. Thank you Professor.
You truly find yourself on the other side of suffering!
*”If you believe in yourself and have dedication and pride - and never quit, you'll be a winner. The price of victory is high but so are the rewards.” - Bear Bryant*
Those who refuse to pay the price of achievement don't get the easy ride they expect either. It's very costly to just let life beat you.
So, to me the smart play is to pay and taste achievement.
I believe that selfdiscipline is a major factor in order to succeed in life (life in terms of material wealth).
" If you don´t escape, if you allow the suffering to be there, if you are ready to face it, if you are not trying somehow to forget it, then you are different. Suffering is there but just around you; it is not in the center, it is on the periphery. It is impossible for suffering to be in the center; it is not in the nature of things. It is always on the periphery and you are the center.
So when you allow it to happen, you don´t escape, you don´t run, you are not in a panic, suddenly you become aware that suffering is there on the periphery as if happening to someone else, not to you, and you are looking at it. A subtle joy spreads all over your being because you have realized one of the basic truths of life, that you are bliss and not suffering."
You speak truth. You study Bible and psychology. . Thank you Mr Peterson learning and grateful for you, keep up the good work 👍🙏 Grace you have
Life is not inherently 'suffering', it's a test, Life also offers Joy, and that joy is also part of the test..Humanity is in confusion and denial and the antidote is acceptance, mercy and hope
I just searched "why we settle for less" and this name, Jordan Peterson, is a wondeful gift in return. Not what I sought but, as a psychology grad due to start a sport and exercise psych msc, this is some great material to follow up on. I love the laymans language and accessible delivery
Jordan Peterson is a great leader and beacon of light in this modern age of great darkness.
Correct. Trials and tribulations in life are inevitable, and the trick is to deal with them with courage and honour.
After watching this video and due to my current life circumstances, the only word that comes to mind is BRILLIANT!!!. So very well-articulated!!!
"excuses (comfort) make today easy but tomorrow harder, discipline (worth suffering for) makes today hard but to tomorrow easier.
Easy path leads to a hard life,
Hard path leads to an easy life.
People who got to undure the most enjoys life the most.
We've collectively created ourselves a maze of an extremely complex life getting out of which takes much more strength and stamina than by the prior generations. Today it takes more energy to build a life that promises the comfort zone we always strive for than years before so we don't have to worry about anything but the pleasures we get from the life experience. By doing this, we are contributing to the complexity of life the future generations would have a harder time to deal with !!
i've been waiting all my life to have a power house psychiatrist school the world at doing whats morally right.
blessed to have Jordan schooling, stepping up and doing whats morally right in his situation the best he can!
Dustin, hope you see this. You can’t find comfort, but only in Jesus. And in the marriage the Lord gave us. I love you always, and hope you know that I challenged you because that’s love. You challenged me and I’m greatful for that.
When we go through difficult times ... i hear you .. i was so struck, zombied for so long.. try
to hang in there to see light in the tunnel
ok this is the kind of honesty, I missed during my time in school.
I can understand when tough love is important , but needless suffering is just wrong.
Jordan Peterson. God bless and strengthen you. 🙌✊✊✊🙌
I’m currently training my subconscious to shake the emotions of “I don’t want to/feel like doin this”. Especially if the task is for my greater good. No one’s exempt from facing hardships in life
how are you doing this?
@@junaidnaveed5214 taking actions despite how i "feel". U generally not gonna feel like doing most things but its important to get things done
@@supreemcourt9181that's powerful I respect that
Thank you for your strong advice. Thank you for putting yourself out there being vulnerable for the rest of
I do not give a Flying F you being Clinical Board Cert Psychologist. You HAVE Not experienced what you are preaching which is nothing new.
I like how Mr. Peterson says "Carry a load heavy enough so that if you carry it, you have some self respect". It's true when you commit yourself to bigger things you will find meaning in life and you will find a lot of pride and satisfaction.
Yes life is an adventure, to experience ups and downs, good and evil, the result is depends on our choices in life, without God we cannot make the best of it.
Love this guys advice
This man is a genius! We have to protect him!
Jordan Peterson is one of the most valuable voices in the world right now.
I'd rather listen to an off the cuff perspective of his, then any formalised script from a modern political "leader".
Life is comfort That's what everyone wants you can cope and reject it or you can embrace and accept it
Thank you for your wonderful explanations. I needed to hear what I did not wanted to accept.
"The essential nature of reality is suffering." - Wow, those words are heavy.
By chance or by destiny, Dr Peterson has understood Buddhism, Jainism,Hinduism and Christianity(all of them are same if you understand them well enough) It might not be enlightenment, but this is no less. Maybe you find your way across the river and may you find the end of all goals 🙏🏻🙏🏻
This is really special. Really. This is the poetry of life I always seek. The study of psychology has a place in daily life when delivered like this. We should be talking like this more and listening
Dont always agree with Jordan Peterson but damn he does have wisdom to say
This guy Jordan - is amazing.
Only problem with Jordan Peterson is that now I’m watching all his videos on repeat.
"The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing."
This is good advice.
Big facts
Why did I cry when I listened to this?
Maybe because you agree with it. You just feel it
Jordan you a super hero. Thank you Sir.
He is not a hero and learn the definition.
Thank you for a brilliant message.
"One can not always cure, but one can always care."
~Ajahn Brahm~
thanks, at a late age....it's not too late. thanks for this video!
I love your comments and I love DR Peterson as he is articulating so brilliantly the truth that we have so many times been lied 🤥 about..Now, there is another quote I have found recently and that I have immediately grasped with relief and that is: « There is no education like adversity. »
this video is part of the missing link...OMGOODNESS this is my battle!!!! daily suffering, i finally accept it now...thanks for helping me.
I'm glad that now I know how to behave at a party. Thanks professor. Now I'm good.
Thanks for sharing!
Words of wisdom!
Know Jesus.....Know Peace.
I know suffering, loss, cancer beaten, depression, anxiety, mental issues from severe childhood abuse, mental, so I know the pain of lifelong ocd, adhd, bipolar. When I finally turned it all over to God last year, peace has finally come to an extent. He is in control once you let Him. The trouble in this life, people choose man over God. That's my story. Put God First.....
:)
Thank you for making this video!
Thanks you so much for sharing i am enjoying listening and very truth and educational.
Dear Wise,
I'd say the way to avoid meaningless suffering is to minimise risk, such as staying out of woods containing Grizzly bears. Alternatively, If you have to traverse such a region do it in numbers and armed. If you're afraid of elevators, using the stairs is a healthier option.
Frank.
Jordan I truly respect your wisdom and your excellent advice which is based on your deep thought and reasoning! I have listened to well in excess of 100 of your videos! However , you have very little experience in dating since you have been in a lifelong relationship and marriage, I would not ask you for financial advice either since these are not your areas of expertise. I listen carefully to mentors with actual results , not opinions,. Thank you!
Assumptions are dangerous...
His, and i say his as to not inflate his ego any further. Is extremely off putting. No , not the only literature of his i've listened to.
I have to ask people not to lie and not to spread false rumors. Please pray for me 🙏
Don't ever let a scorpion convince you to carry him across a river, no matter how logical his arguments seem to be.
Can anyone tell me where the entire talk is available? So powerful…..
Someone once said, 'To be physically comfortable - is to be spiritually uncomfortable - and visa versa.' ;)
An x boyfriend used to help me through things by saying , 'See it as a CHALEEENGE - NOT an ORDEAAAL' !!
It worked..most of the time. ;)))
Follow Vygoskijs example. You have to get out of your comfort zone to the zone were you can do things with help. And when you feel comfortable you go out of that zone again.
It makes life more tolerable.
HIT ME
This quote from the Joker actor Heath Ledger from "The Dark Knight" made a huge impact on me and inspired me to create a philosophy. It helped me make peace with all of that. Through practices of all kinds. I have learned to love my trauma, my illness, my feelings, my thoughts, my conflicts, my life and ultimately my suffering. The hits are a fact of life and the key to enlightenment. A hit affects you, internally or superficially. Everyone and everything has this HIT ME side in it. HIT ME always works. And you will never be disappointed with this life expectation. Because something always hits you. Even if you don't want to be hit by something, it still hits you. Hence, it still works as a life expectation. It even works when positive things hit you. Like soft raindrops or a soap bubble. Same as joy or bliss. Hit me all the way, in any way, anyway (even if sometimes or often I don't want it). If you commit yourself to such an idea, you decipher the path to enlightenment. It is therefore a good reason to follow the path of loving our suffering. Because it brings you great benefits. From ourselves, when we don't want to be hit and don't want to take in the hits, to the desire to be hit and take in the hits. It always works, regardless of the form. Once one has developed a certain level of this practice, one masters the suffering and becomes truly enlightened. And for conflicts, but also that which hits us in general, I quote Bruce Lee: "I do not hit. It hits all by itself."
Wanting Not Wanting
Wanting and not wanting is a hypnotic spiral and by wanting not wanting, you get into the everchanging flow of yin and yang.
The Way Out Of The Abyss
Only when we can accept, what we want to let go, can we let go, of what we want to accept.
A peaceful mind is the cure for restlessness.
And love is the cure for a broken spirit.
Pain is strength in disguise waiting to be revealed. And it takes a lot of strength to cry. Because when we cry, we open ourselves to the pain we experience.
When all the waves are crashing down on you, there is faith to get you through. Express your belief in reality and believe in it. This is how you get through the waves.
We make mistakes because we are not perfect. And for this fact I am grateful that I make mistakes.
Remember that the solution to any problem, is the problem itself. It came into existence and it won't leave you.
A sacrifice for love is a sacrifice worth dying for. We don't have to undo the things we do wrong or have done wrong in life. We die for it and thus sacrifice ourselves for love.
Hence, die for your negative qualities. And live for your positive qualities. That is the sacrifice and the salvation of the human spirit.
The guilt we feel is the one that enslaves us. Only when we also remember our innocence are we free at the same time.
There is nothing in this universe that can harm a mad person. Except to make the mad person even more insane through harm.
When one is ready to take in all hits, in order to gain strength from them and at the same time is ready to pass on all the love out of compassion to others; one will be as strong as a demon and as compassionate as an angel. A demonic angel.
A victory can be achieved by resolving the battles within.
When you give up fighting yourself and instead start absorbing yourself; you will be invincible.
When you change the powers that hold you back, into the powers that hold your back, you will be unstoppable.
You are an example of what a human being is capable of. Use the hits as fuel for the ascent.
Because the greatest bliss is found when you make peace with your suffering. Because suffering is the root of blissfulness. If you love your suffering, blissfulness arises. And blissfulness is the key to heaven on earth.
When you conquer yourself by loving yourself, your fears, your pain and ultimately your suffering; then it will transform you and you will be reborn.
In order to overcome suffering, one must become suffering oneself.
Because when you are one with all, you are bound by nothing and therefore free from everything.
And by becoming one with suffering, you master it.
The journey to enlightenment is a process that involves a lot of suffering. But in the end, every moment of suffering will be worth it. Because choosing to suffer consciously is the springboard to enlightenment.
This is how you remember your origin and you begin to embody it.
Because where there is suffering, the love spark resides. And the fire is kindled where God or consciousness enters and spreads.
Become Ryu, the dragon. Become suffering. Have a relationship with the suffering (HIT ME) from sadness to madness. Want the not wanting. And become the suffering yourself, (HIT ME) and the hits. And Ryu, the dragon spreads its wings and rises with the darkening and the enlightenment. So the dragon finds the way out of the abyss.
What is pain if not the absolute.
Pain doesn’t mean you are healing or growing, but that there is a need for adjustment.
Let’s say you break your leg. You’d think “only time heals broken bones” and that isn’t “wrong” but,
Once the bone is healed, it is not the same bone that it was before you broke it.
The same theory could be applied to your psyche, persona and/or ego - The pain whether it sets its root in the spiritual, metaphysical and/or emotional form.
And for the leg, there was a need for change.
Your nerves are now aligned again.
You will never walk on the same leg as you did before the fracture.
But it sure looks like the same leg from the outside, doesn’t it?
It feels the same, it is no longer broken, but whole.
Still, your bone will be marginally stronger than it used to be at the place of the fracture.
Change or adjustment is a necessity, but alignment is not, unless you are able to use the absolute to guide you to a higher standard of living/being.
Be seldom aware.
This comment section, is just as interesting as Jordans speech in my opinion 👍
💪🧡🙏🌱Thank you!!
I am not afraid of a anything! But I am tired of daily pain. It tires, it makes you want to die. So maybe I went looking for why? And how can a merciful God, not have mercy?
My "Boss" has been calling me, and I'm too afraid to answer because I was "Away" the first time, and the second time..but I know that I must eventually call my "Boss"...I can't keep thinking that I already disappointed him the first time by not answering....I should stop thinking too much about it, and simply call him tomorrow morning. I haven't been avoiding his call, it's just not near my phone or was sleeping...please texting is not an option, this is a professional matter that doesn't call for texting.
I wish someone has told me this before.
Love it
Could you share the source videos please? Especially the one from the last part of the video. I‘d love to hear the whole talk of peterson 🙏🏼
Jordan Peterson is what happens to a man who values critical thinking, more then peace and happiness ! The idea that you need to go out of your way, to find challenging, uncomfortable situations in order to grow is ludicrous ! Jordan once again is looking for answers using the cosmological perspective "to look outward from self to the cosmos for answers" the only other perspective available to us is the psychological, "To look inward to self for the answers" ! This perspective is the one needed for personal growth ! Unfortunately this requires a meditative practice ! After listening to Jordan speak, it becomes increasingly clear that he does not meditate ! If he did, his happiness would be evident ! I don't take advice from people who are clearly unhappy !
Trues
What if my fear is physical pain? Shall I induce pain in myself to get used to it and get over it? But the pain I'm afraid of is quite severe and in the most real sense of the word, terrifying.
NO!!! What physical pain are you referring to specifically?
@@brendynbeard605 hi, I am afraid to open doors because often I get that electricity discharge. Same happens with cars. All other metal surfaces are ok. Any advice? People look at me strange when I either keep making "ouch" comments or gingerly double tap handles before opening doors 😑
@@TurningTesting I used to have the same issue. Get rid of electrical conducting clothing, jewelry etc. For me, it was polyester clothing and underwear. Switch to all cotton or natural fiber clothing. Cotton underwear. The static shock went away.
@@pascalrouen can confirm, totally works. Thank you for responding! 🌻
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That's what I said original sin sometimes invisible spirit gets activated without knowing or knowingly people call spiritual spouse soul tie cannot cut have to uprooted remove from root then in that empty place way becomes open for Holy spirit
Oh if only facing it were optional!
Hey friend, would you like to mention the link to the full videos too?
"Essential nature of human being is suffering" until human being have realized what's behind it by going through the suffering. Is that what it means?
"And those who realize it suffer less"
- the wisdom of Michael Savage
I need to hear this before I get let go from my job. No to the JAB!!!
What if your family is your comfort zone? Should you get rid of your family?
Elevator is scary jordan. Coworker and I had an experience that we almost saw a nun get crushed by the elevator doors cuz the thing just violently shut closed by itself as soon as she went in. Like she has a demon wanna kill her or something came out of the saw films.
Is he discussing "Exposure Therapy" ?
The devil lies in the word "voluntarily". What does it take to make someone undertake hardship "voluntarily"? What bridges the gap between avoidance and voluntarily facing a threat? Is it shedding an unhealthy or dysfunctional belief? Is it getting long withheld reassurance that would otherwise give one the confidence to take action? Or is it simply a switch turned on in someone's brain?
Can agree to disagree
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Hey man what fonts did you use in this video?
@@wiseadvicemotivation5457 thanks
Except the christ example, everything else he said makes sense. Amazing guy, JP
Yes, Jesus is the symbol of voluntary suffering leading to transcendence which represents the archetype of ego-death and spiritual rebirth. A process depicted in Alchemy, in ancient myths and 'Books of the Dead' like the 'Tibetan Bardo Thödol' or the Egyptian 'Pert Em Hru'. It’s all about to free ourself from the struggle of ‘Good against Evil’ which keeps the mind in the lowest state of self-recognition.
Face your demons, and they will leave..The truth is a devil repellent
Amor fati - Nietzsche
Jesus suffered to save you ✝️ He didn't have to ❤️ but He loves you so much
There is productive suffering and then there is getting up at 4:30am to exercise. Stop that.
Its Brutal! Dim Witted Parents that Ignored Their Kids.....Or controlled them strickly!.....Criticiizing
What more meaningless than believing there in no after live and every thing is random.
pick up your cross
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Can i meet you?
Good and evil...? Well I know the Editor is evil for sure for making making the split of "good/evil" slightly offset so that it's not centered but a little bit to the left... 0:10
Both parents should work together to raise loved confident children, do we protect the vulnerable enough? Why in a modern civilisation do fathers still kill women and children in domestic situations, is it any wonder women become fearful or over protective or go the other way detach in depression and stress, I wish societies would judge their vulnerable less and actually try to create more harmonious environments.
It’s not just men, it’s coming from both sides who don’t want to commit or responsibility and don’t even respect the relationship. That’s the problem we have because everyone is so fast paced nowadays we all get bored of people and view connections as objects.
@Janice Lewis: If we are to believe the Left, we should have a safe, honorable society...eventually. However, as JP says, there are evil people with bad intentions toward others, who have no intention of obeying rules of common decency. Thanks.
It is more of a heart problem than a societal problem. People in societies have problems, and now they bring all their frustrations to vulnerable and blameless individuals. How do you fix a broken wo/man?
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Kind of seems pointless to suffer for it's own sake. You suffer because of your false identity with being a man trapped in flesh and bone. But you're not the man in the flesh and bone. Find out who you are.
Once I was in the woods and there was a bear. I was real quiet but then I released a large, long, stinky, loud nervous fart . The bear smelled it and ran away.