Not Even Wild Horses Can Drag A Man Away From A Woman Who Understands This
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Sadly, I’ve come to discover that the man I’ve been married to for 34 years is not the man I thought he was. You cannot truly know someone who doesn’t want to be truly known.
I had the same situation with the man I was married to for 33 years. God bless and help us both.
Bless you both.
Preach!!!! If people keep others at a distance and don’t allow others to get too close to know them? 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
People change, it’s not your fault, when we trust someone, we tend to be less observant as well.
34 years? so you were too lazy to actually know him.And YOU pushed him away. You destroyed it.
You might not even like him, girls remember it's just excitement... not love, not earned, not built over time, not anything meaningful
Wow is that true!
I DID NOT like this man! I knew he was good looking and sexy. But, what a jerk! Reminded me of a junior high school teacher I had. I used to think, “Someone LOVES YOU!?” And, yes, he was married.
After years of working for his hard ass, he started chasing me. Fck. I liked it - A LOT! He was a man amongst boys.
Nothing ever happened though. He was married so, I couldn’t reciprocate. But, I’ve never forgotten him, as I sit here alone, years after his wife died, too.
*Scarcity mindset is a response to actual scarcity.* If you're a strictly monogamous woman wanting a long-term, deep love relationship with a compatible man with similar values - who's not into porn, kink, hookups etc. - there's not a sea of men to fish from. Ultimately, they'd need to reciprocally choose you too, which narrows the tiny pool of alternatives further.
Hey can you explain your comment... Ple
Once only
I hear you sis. A man that rejects porn, fantasising about others and glancing at other women he finds visually appealing when you’re out in public together… I’d rather be single til my death than settle for this kind of behaviour, if this is all that’s on offer.
@@mariasmith7338 I broke up with one like that, calling women hot and say couples need to be best friends and share things. And yet there are advices out there supporting this and tell women not to expect men to fantasize only them.
@@mariasmith7338 🙂 right...
Dear Brian, I've been watching your videos for years and I always love how logical and soothing they are.
I met a great guy 10 days ago, who kind of love bombed me until he was refused s*x and.... then proceeded to do the usual fboy antics. I deleted at the first red flag. Blocked him at the perfect timing. I'm so proud of myself ! The chemistry and connection and charm and "I'm looking for a relationship too" were all there... as well as the red flags! I did not even need to see more. My friends advised me to be a tiny bit more gentle but nope ! When I was done, I was done, without a goodbye. Thank you for your help Brian, I'm so happy to have gotten there.
GIRL I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. I should do this too! But I'm not strong enough
I don't know you but I'm proud of you. Especially if friends advised you to be gentle. You did the right thing.
Well done to you, know your worth. I've stepped into my own power and the guy I'm dating knows this, I'm a high value woman with plenty of options, he's not the only fish in the sea.
Go ladies! Go ladies! 👍
I'm at that phase in my life... No more red flag collection. I'm done at the first whiff. I don't play around or negotiate. I absolutely LOVE my solitude so I want someone who will give me better than what I am single.
My (now)ex husband used to admire other women while he was out with me. I assumed he thought it was amusing for him to see me looking upset and jealous , 🥺which I was . Twenty years later I know realise I was playing right into his hands . Unfortunately I was young and naïve and at the mercy of my hormones . Now I wouldn’t allow my self to be so disrespected ! 😌
Sorry to hear that, am glad he’s now an ex husband . Just like my ex, used to look and talk about other women like I don’t exist. Men like that should come with warning labels to keep well away of you want to stay toxic free!
@@Duncanexgirlfriend Thanks 🙏 Hope you are enjoying life now too 👍
I wonder what would have happened if you did that to him? I had a creep type like this when I was young and he thought women liked to be admired but it made them uncomfortable esp from this older, married man. I tried to explain that girls like to dress up for themselves to feel good or their bf, not him. He was very narcissistic so I did some of his behaviour back to him and he lost his temper!
Yes, this is your fault too.
Sorry you had to go through that.
We put so much pressure on ourselves once we meet someone who we think is truly great.
And then this may drive us crazy. We're filling in all the gaps with our imagination and we start strategising how not to mess it up.
But the truth is.. *You don't know him yet!*
Loved this video. Very different from everything out there. Not some sleezy mind games.
A great inspiration for my own channel.
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@@marie2810 Labas. Nežinau ar pilnai sutinku. Pilna vyrų, kurie turi 10 kartų pakartoti tekstą savo galvoje prieš tai kai išdrįsta pasisveikinti su moterim 😊
women rush too much. take your time ladies
@@munix9351 so true..
You have no idea how much your videos are helping women. Absolutely love your channel.
It does go both ways...I don't like men who aggressively pursue me. I get along well with men at work and at play, and get to know them pretty well before he ever asks for a date or phone number. By that time, we are friends, I already know where I'm going with that person or not... Will I give him my phone or not. A man who instantly makes up his mind that he will 'have' me, before he has the slightest idea of who I am, will go nowhere with me
detach from the outcome. be brave about your feelings. overly cautious or acting afraid to upset a man- no. just be true to your self. simple. but its good to be educated about the differences between men & women
I learned to just go with the flow, enjoy what’s on right now than worrying about yesterday today and tomorrow
A man who is supportive and not competitive is IMP, we want to feel appreciated, respected, loved, versus feeling dismissed, criticised, invalidated. Mutual reciprocity is key, a balanced stable relationship is refreshing & amazing.
My partner and I agreed that our relationship is comparable to 2 golden retrievers that have the ability talk lol works for us!
Perfectly timed reminder to not get ahead of ourselves and see him as "the one" too soon when we are meeting someone new who seems so promising!
I have to give my head wobble when I feel like I’m becoming stupidly attached 😂❤
It's really hard to find that kind of guy who is truly stand by your side for years....1-2 from 100. that is why we try to give a chance maybe even in the beggining to the potentials.
never give a chance just move and pivot
The more confident I am that I can make tough decisions, even with loved one & intimate partners, I am able to enjoy what the other person offers me for the time they offer it. This shifted my mindset and allows men to choose me rather than be obligated to me. That freedom has my man desiring to prove himself to me so I pick him. And when I pick him, he feels the luckiest man in the world. It's a beautiful way to love each other.
only God can fill your void n fulfill your needs. looking to other humans to meet your needs is silly n never works. and...if you meet a man or woman who seems so incredible when youre first together beware, they are probably a narcissist n very toxic!!! set immediate boundaries n say no...narcs cannot tolerate this n will most likely show their hand if you do this👍
You're so accurate Brian! When I find a great guy, immediately I think about him as the ONLY great guy... Specially with bad background. You are so right! Thanks for the video! Very helpful
what is a great guy though?? that's the problem!! too many women have wasted their time because a guy was nice. a great guy is trained. he never arrives like that
This is by far the best 👌 video of you, where poor women are not blamed and instead encouraged to be just themselves around men they are truly interested.
Yes it all takes time. Your voice is soothing. I've had to learn the hard way not to rush or jump into anything fast.
After a good while, like two years, you know if he's a good guy, not while you are vetting
What you said seems easier said then done. I had 3 dates and already I am craving the 4th one and hoping it all works out. But I need to have patience and I realise I don't know if he is the one yet and just take it slow and go with the flow.
how dit it go ?
God bless this emotionally intelligent and self aware angel 👼
Oh My Goddess, you are SO FUNNY!! I think exactly like that...damn. Thank you for the humor, it helps me not judge myself so much.
The Scarcity Mindset got me every time🥲
The unicorn, the genie in the bottle to grant 3 wishes. Lol laughed so hard but it all makes sense. Sometimes we're in love with the idea of the guy but the real him looks nothing like we imaged him. 💨Poof💨 It's better to get to know the guy for who he really is then how you want to imagine him. It's great to wake up to the real person so you can choose wisely.
This came at the right time thank you. I needed waking up
You truly have a way of making everything funny while also making great connections! Great sense of humor. You are appreciated.
Yeah I’m greatly overvaluing the promise of a relationship and tripping over myself!
And I completely agree with sharing everything right at the start. I’ve definitely noticed how when I didn’t people would leave anyway for those reasons, and felt resentful that I didn’t share it at first, and I find that only sensible.
Now I share things right away, and you know what I now have? People who reciprocate. People who can handle and are equipped with the things I come with. Committed people. No more flimsy people who run when trouble comes! Was the biggest change for me!
It doesn’t matter how long you’ve known someone, some things are just a no go for some someone! It’s also more respectful of my own time and emotional attachment to bring up what I’m all about right at the get go. Much better!
Agree! Why waste time right?!! Lol
A lot of great comments here, some I share similar experiences with, currently in a very traumatic situation… I started reading Why Men Love Bitches, why men marry bitches, and I saw all the mistakes I made.. honestly, I was naive .. It would be a miracle if I ever found someone who genuinely would have my back knowing the kind of heart I have and not try to take me for granted .. oh well.
So, so true. Thank you Brian!
Brian , you're the best. I can see how terrible I am with getting carried away by someone whom I don't even know. I believe I am not the same person I was in my teenagehood, adulthood and now.
Aww, you haven't been "terrible." Just human. And now you know. Best of luck in connecting with that special someone!
Go with the flow… That sums up the right mindset !
Thank you Brian, as always spot on & timely 🙏💫💖
This video made me laugh alot simply because it's so true. Currently getting to know someone platonically which is allowing me to show him who I really am. As opposed to the over excited loon I was when I was trying to speak to him at 1st. So far so good. But I think we've a long way to go before anything serious comes about, which suits me fine. Too many times I've jumped in too fast only to seriously regret it afterwards. Interestingly it was him that suggested that we go down the platonic route 1st. Which is really very refreshing.
What a refreshing perspective, thank you for sharing
Thank you. Magnificent advice!
Hey!
I am Greatful for your every speech.
"Very insightful and helpful as always!, Thank you Brian, you just Brilliant 💞."
Great video, thank you, Bryan! Please consider making a video about maintaining relationships with the guys that have proved themselves to be a big deal by putting in the work over time, even years. Much appreciated 🙂
This is an amazing video!!! Thank you
Brian I Love getting videos from you!
You Really Know So Much and you're Always more than 99% Right!
Sometimes the Bell Rings and You're
Geert, I love your humor! Thanks for all the practical pointers
Thank you Brian. 🙋♀️💖
Yay ! New Video , I love you Brian ! Love your Videos 💖😊💖
I loved when you said, he’s the bad guy by the way he looks! Duh! 😂😂
I just found you here on YT and watched a few of your very insightful videos made all the better with your dry humor lol. Great work!
Good job Geert. You made so much sense😅
I enjoy watching your videos. You have such a great personality. Thanks for these videos
Thank you for this.
Excellent perspective. Completely hillarious intro as well. Kudos to you.
I m a fan of your thoughts.
Love you Brian, good stuff.
Can you record a video about "Why a man comes back after a long time and tells about his relationship?" I personally don't see any logic in this behaviour.
Good advice 💓 thank you
Great vid, great advice 👍😊
Great video, definitely helped my perspective.
Thank you. You are very funny and true.
Awesome video and great advice. Love this!!
Geert, thank you this makes soo much sense! 👍
Love your videos. I snort a lot laughing and learn
Hi Brian, can you please make a video on how to reject a guy clearly yet respectfully. I have one who I have told repeatedly - we’re not similar enough, I don’t see you like that, I’m not interested, ignored him even. Yet I still get invites to come over for dinner. I don’t know how to be clearer.
No other option then to block him. If he knows where u live, I guess get crazy and show him you're serious. Cause if that's the case, that's a no Bueno situation and he needs to know to leave u alone.
This is a great video indeed.
i’m really glad that i watched this - yes, the scarcity mindset kicks in like crazy
Awesome!
Thank you. 🙂
Hi Thomas thank you for asking me how 🤔 Iam!
I met an amazing guy whom I met at the time my son died from a freak accident from Anaphylaxis October 2021. He passed away 48hrs after a wasp sting to his neck!!
Life's providence kicked in and my friend Peter came into my life and he's now my best friend. 🙂🌸
Your imagination is the limit of your love.
Excellent content …. You added a different perspective and a way to approach a burgeoning relationship. Practical … I can apply this. Thanks.
You are so helpful and I love your jokes about your name
I appreciate you
If only I’d seen this earlier!
Your humour slays me but you got it.
“Go with the flow” has led many women to the bed, pregnant and left…. So . Hell no.
I met the man, God intended for me to marry. But then I met the parents. I would have sworn he was adopted. I fought thru their Narcissism to gain their Golden Child but it nearly killed me. He was worth it and I would do it again.
I just love your real name. Seriously:-)
Yeah I have done just about every mistake here in my present relationship. Amazingly he is still interested. We have a very passionate relationship with not a lot of other interaction at this time. I feel like that might be the main reason he is still around but he has recently been saying that he loves me. So… I just want to learn more about emotional maturity. I’m happy with all of the sex because it’s extremely satisfying, but I also would like this relationship to grow in other ways over time. Thank you 🙏
You see, I see all these relationship advices from western people.... Now, I have lived in the west but originally from Asia - what I can say and is only based on data and facts: Western people always believe in logic (of course that's right in many aspects of life) but is it that reliable when making decisions about love relationships? If so, then why are there still so many divorces in Western societies and all sort of open relationships etc when people are supposed to be more logical in these societies? This is not the case in Asian societies, wherein feelings have the same weight as logic. Oftentimes there's something else beyond logic. We can also follow our gut instinct when trying to figure out whose good for us. Feelings are there for a reason - so you can't discount why they are there (of course, this is if one is a regular person without any mental or psychological issues and are emotionally unstable) After all, people evolve, things / situations change - what's good for us now, may not be in the future. And we don't know that in the present - we can't predict the future also. Perhaps don't overthink. Enjoy the moment and just allow things to develop naturally. People will always reveal their true selves over time and love (much like life) is a gamble. Don't be cynical about love - it's a beautiful thing.
Just happened this guy for 5 years gives me every signal we vibe we are like mirrors i finally give him my number and he becomes a ghost. And i became poof...gone
LOLs great video!
I have been loving your videos and it’s really helping me at the moment - I started to trust again and he let me down 😞
Ha Ha Ha I agree the vetting process
I love you so much ❤️ ❤️
🙏🏻u Brain
If he is not a big deal yet, does that mean I can keep my options open?
I love your real name! So lovely! : )
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The men I am interested in have no clue how to treat me like a lady , and still put effort into being extremely successful themselves , but still know how to have time to be romantic too
The only way to 'not stuff it up' these days when men can just swipe left onto the next woman, is to miraculously have perfect mental and physical health, a FANtastic attitude, be a world traveller, 6ft tall and look like a model. Oh; And have lots of money. That's my cynical self talking. Luckily we have Geert - he's MY perfect guy!! I will just watch his videos and get my fix. Forget relationships! Too hard!!! Geert ticks just about all my boxes!!
I like your real name much better 😁
Nox❤❤❤
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I have so many better things to do than spend any brain space on this
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Not enough horses
You are nice:)
No sh&t…..😂
Big hint, they're all frogs. And the video isn't really about the title.
it is not my job to succumb to HIM all tbe time
50 / 50
grow up
own your part
Understands what?
Your birth name is actually easier to remember than your pen name. Why choose a generic name that is so forgettable? You have built your platform, not on your name but your advice. Use your birth name.
This advice, while sound, won't work for most women. It's advice that works for men. Women are usually on a biological clock, and they need to be sure of the guy sooner rather than later. Spending years "discovering" a guy is considered a "waste of time", as he might actually be a literal waste of their biological time. Most women want kids, so they can't do what you've suggested in this video.