"The Great Rescue" of Relationships - Teal Swan
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- Опубліковано 24 жов 2014
- Most people are rescuers in relationships and they don’t even know it. The people we are inexplicably drawn to have the same wound that we do. And because they have the same wound that we do, it causes a flare up in the wound we both share.
Here’s where the rescuer dynamic comes in. In this episode, Teal explains that on a subconscious level, you have always wanted to heal your wound. But you are unconscious of that wound. And so the only way to see it is to step in front of a mirror. The mirror is your partner. And when you step in front of your partner and recognize the wound, you then start to try to heal the wound in the reflection. Thinking subconsciously, “If I can just heal that wound in this other person, I’ll have healed it in myself.” You are insatiably attracted to people who provide you with the opportunity to become aware of and heal that wound, thus becoming a rescuer to that hurt aspect of them and you.
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why are these things not taught in schools? In the "how to live properly" class. Life would be ssso easy, with these teachings.
Marik D. Hammerhead Blue Well it's a power struggle I think. It's like the Yin and Yang trying to balance.
It doesn't serve the state.
The pledge of allegiance does..
Teal, can you please make a video about "Daddy Issues". I'm an identical twin and my sister has always had anger issues and dated really old men. I seem to have coped better. I would like to understand more about how not having both male and female influences effects the development of the self.
What's very funny is that I wrote a man I've fallen in love with a letter and in that letter I told him that I Loved him as if he was this deep part of myself that I was always looking for. I love him as if he was me and essentially he is me. And I promised to always give him the respect and love he deserved like I would give myself. It's just crazy that I would stumble across this video and she's talking about our partner reflecting ourselves. I feel like by me telling him I would love him and respect him as if he were part of me, I am in fact also telling myself that I love and respect myself 😄😄 this is just so amazing!!!!!!!
It all makes sense! I love that awakening feeling and how my brain tries to find more proof throughout the day...
These videos are like your own personal therapy course. Thank you so much for this level of love! 🙏🏾🥰♥️
My goodness! This was on the spot it's as if she explained the loner issue just for me. Thank you Teal!
As a rescuer its almost scary how precise and on the spot Teal Swan described me! Teal Swan just nailed it. Deep respect to you Teal, and thanks for uploading
I know all these things, but now I found you a person that can explain it in simple way so everyone can understand it. For me this is a gold mind for me and my clients. Thank you so much!!! What a healing blessing you are......
Your wisdom and insights NEVER fails to blow me away. Thank you for sharing them xxx
We've been together since 1977 and still have same pain around certain issues. I know it's up to me to heal and evolve, I feel unvalidated and emotionally alone. Inner child work has helped, still feel stuck.
THank you Teal ! It helps to see things from your point of view on this, you are SO on POINT . Thanks, I dearly love somebody and we both needed to hear this.
Can you talk about when people fall in love with parts of you (aspects of you or what you can give) or fall in love with how you make them feel rather than actually being in love with you/your soul? Thanks!
I get you
It’s a dysfunctional type of love that is purely transactional. To love is to take someone as a part of yourself, therefore consider their best interests as your own. In order to take someone as per of yourself you have to want to and you have to accept all parts because if you form an idea based solely off one aspect of a person, you’re creating an overlay (it’s not the full truth of them).
Your voice is soothing. I cried a little. I searched this topic the whole day and only now I feel the resonance.
"DAMMMNNNNN.. YES"
What I literally say after watching any & all teal's videos .... Your cognitive advice has guided me through many a trouble and triumph teal, Thankyou for being you 🙏🏼💜 namastè
Oh my goodness Teal......I'm off to do my list, but most of it was covered here, amazing..
Loved this information. Thank you Teal and Teal Tribe! Keep up the great work.
Teal is amazing at seeing patterns and likely the 2 ones she used are the most prevalent within humanity at this time, therefore so many of us resonate. I am no difference both in relating to the pattern of the woman described but also in the way I indeed, unconsciously sought to heal myself through my relationships. The last man I sort of dated briefly is such a powerful (and most recent for me) example. This is so illuminating and I'm so grateful to notice that I am smack dab in the middle of closing this loop and healing my loneliness wound 🙏🥰
You are amazing Teal. You just nail it down to what it is. Thank you so much for giving me tools that really provoke a change. I love you.
one of the best of Teal's videos!
Woao Teal that was so good, thanks. I had been a rescuer all my life. Still am, I going to go ahead and watch the "Find your negative imprint video.
Thank you Teal for sharing, your teachings are incredibly deep and helpful.
Thanks so much Teal! For this and for the re-directing to neg. imprint video, I found the feeling to be 'disrespect' and thesaurus also helped, you're doing pretty good job here!
Great video, Teal! Thank you for posting.
Glad you improved the audio quality of your videos.
Looking for negative patterns in past relationships, also the non-romantic ones is really important. Thanks for the video.
Hey Teal, I hope you see this comment. Not specifically this video... more the Anxiety/worry videos (also the fragmentation video), but I need you to know that your insight and wisdom has saved my twin flame/DM DF relationship. re-integrating him into my life has been one of the most trying times I can remember in this lifetime (i.e. that I can currently consciously remember) and I've ben in constant fear of regression (oximoron) until I was guided to listen to you. I am soooo grateful for you, you helped me in my moment of need and I am here if ever you need, as well.
Your wise, kind words are so helpful. Thank you Teal.
Teal this lipstick color looks amazing on you! Love it! And thank you for your love and knowledge. I look forward to every Saturday!!!
Enlightened. Thank you Teal.
Thank you so much for this video, Teal. I appreciate you.
This video is a strong turning point in the healing of my broken heart.
thank you, thank you, thank you.
What if instead of a relationship record you just have a very long list of exclusively unrequited love/attraction?
I needed this one on the deepest level. It is like this video was made just for me... Thank You!
With the class clown/wallflower examples, I've also noticed this. The more I learn about people, we seem opposite by how we behave, yet our core issue can be exactly the same.
That’s the nature of duality/polarity. Two extremes are like two sides of the same vibrational coin. That’s why Teal talks about AND consciousness where you stretch yourself to accommodate both extremes and find yourself somewhere in the middle, detached from both. It’s the healthiest way to be.
Thank you for recommending this video on Instagram today ❤️
Excellent! Great video as always! Thanks Teal!
Blowing my mind one video at a time. Thank you ❤️
Wow, this is eye opening
Yet again brilliant. Thank you
Good as always! Thank you!
This video is important especially if you're a healer in anyway... I feel. Thank you. 💚🕊
Thank you very much Teal. I always questioned as to why we attract the opposite of ourselves in relationships if law of attraction is true. Wow so profound!
Im in the proccess of breaking up with my very first boyfriend of 2 years and your helpin me sort through this teal. this video is almost describing the issues were having
Thank You Teal
This pretty much described my last relationship.
thank you! this is beautiful...
thank you, Teal You have a great gift.
Excellent reminder I received from this video. I will remember that everything that happens in the external world is a reflection from my internal world. Thank you Teal. I appreciate all about you (the yin and the yan). :D You, as well, have a good week.
Thank you.
Wow that was powerful!
Very wonderful, Teal.
You're such a healing to the world!!💜
Such an enlightening video thank you always sharing your truth!
Do we not attract people who will help us to evolve? Then what better than to attract someone who mirrors our own subconscious neurosis? Because it gives the opportunity for both to become aware of the patterns at work as they look in the 'mirror' and develop what is lacking inside themselves. But if only one is capable of doing this, then the relationship will probably never be healthy.
Well of coarse, but the person needs to be AWARE of his/her neurosis in the first place ;)
The person becomes aware ONLY because it is mirrored back from someone else, that's the mechanism at work in humans.
What Teal says is that you have to heal first and then find a person when you are healed not before. Heal the wounds first.
How do you heal the wounds first if you don't attract the mirror in someone else, to show you what wounds you need to heal? And what if you attract that wounded soul that is alike to you, and you both help each other resolve your issues and live the rest of your life together? And also what am I attracting once the 'wounds' are healed? We are always attracting our subconscious self, to make us whole. Like I said, if both partners are aware of their shadows, there's no reason why they can't flourish with a little work. You can bet you bottom dollar that Teal and Sarbdeep have issues, but they are still together, no?
luis alejandro It seems some wounds you can not heal alone... Relationships can be a amazing healer :)
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This came in at such a perfect timing! Like as soon as I click on a dating site message i put myself up on to connect to more men as options in my dating life. I saw this new video beep to me on youtube.
I realise now yes I have been looking for men that i wish to rescue so i can rescue myself. I find the worst men in the world but also the best men at face value. But through all the men i see a similarity. I think they are almost all emotionally detached and fear to love and open their heart. Perhaps probably they say they will never love again but wishes for companionship. Its not funny but this is an epiphany for me. Earlier today i ask an angel share me a message from a any choice of movies i will watch. I watch a movie from hallmark 3 wise woman on youtube.
An event in the movie shares a scene where the young girl screams at the angel in the fountain that she will never ever love again. And then i got a big shock. A past memory that I had when I was very very young. I said I give up on Love and I Hate everyone!
And in that movie hallmark 3 wise woman, the lady learn to heal. She said she will open her heart and start loving again and love to everyone she meets! She will never forget how to love and feel love again!
Now for me in my position, yes when I was young I was very angry youth and hated God hated Life Hated my Parents and Families. I Had no real close friends only 1 but was a wallflower rather than class clown.
But right now im learning to take off many more masks. It feels like im peeling off a nail from my fingers. That painful yes. After realising the thick masks ive been wearing to become a clown entertainer in my young adult.
I guess thats what this saeed means when he says be serious... that there are important people in London who will look at me and evaluate my messages as a starseed. I may have to rethink if i was wearing a mask when i made the London Masterpiece UA-cam Video.
Right now im allowing myself to be more impulsive in portraying my trueself rather than controlling my facial reaction and emotions using my minds. So that i am more authenthic. Hopefully this will be the best miracle ever today! I already believe this is a Billion Years Healing ! Thank you Sister Teal! Much love from Malaysia! X Mazzz
I get goosebumps from looking into your eyes.
Thank you for all you do. You are a wonderful woman!
Thanks Teal you help me integrate my relationships
Teal I can't tell you how much you shed so much light you are light in a dark world now I understand what the Bible means when it talks about light and darkness i know you are a very big blessing to the earth thank you very much
Brilliant work as usual xxx
This is GOLD! Thank you Teal :)
Thank you! 🙂
I'm so happy you did this video. I just wanted to suggest that if one does find them self in a relationship where the partner reflects the negative imprint, before thinking about ending the relationship, integrate your own negative imprint first and wait to see if that energy of integration spreads to your partner who is working with the same trauma. In another video you talk about the emotional scale and raising your vibration in more depth. If I remember correctly one suggestion for raising your vibration was to surround yourself with positive people. This is an opportunity for you to be that positive person for your partner. Of course if your partner is resistant and in turn lowers your vibration then it would be appropriate to end that relationship.
thank you very much lots of love
thanks
Another wonderful video!
You are brilliant and you are right!
Definitely a rescuer. This makes me realize I need to change the way I approach a relationship. Thanks. :)
Thank you !
It's kind of weird, I have always ended as the rescuer of my ex-partners, they always come from dysfunctional families or domestic violence and I always have high desire to protect them or help them to overcome their wounds, would it be possible that are my own wounds to heal? but my parents were always there, they always overprotected me..
Johanna Roncal Araujo
Maybe that is your problem. Overprotection does not equal love.
Look at you exes again and try to see why you are trying to rescue them?
Usualy people are resueres because they want to be loved.
Why do you want to feel love, what made you feel not loved enough?
learn to nurture yourself and stop looking for yourself in another. Relationships can be great, but the only relationship that will never leave you and the most important one to foster is the one with yourself.
Absolutely brilliant girl
What if all we need is to connect, I am abandoned on this planet. With no one left alive that I can go get a hug from. You have said a million times we need to experience the opposite, so let's do it. I am a very good hugger, massager. I lost much when I had my strokes 10 years ago, so I need help. I have tried it by myself for years, a can't handle this life on my own. That's what the whole thing boils down to. And who better to help me than you my queen?
This is intense.
I really needed this :)
thank you xxx
Well said.
...this was good speaking about the wounding process. While listening, I associated themes related to Chiron placement in the natal chart as well as in the natal chart of the `other'. There is a partnership in the Greek meaning of the word `therapeutikos'. The processing of wound healing does involve the human contact. It is important though for those participants to be aware of the problematic issues associated with transference/countertransference. This balanced partnership is then a `working' relationship.
Brilliant, Thank you :)
Thank you, Teal
aglisalkuna
so good
Very, very accurate
That's a cool way to look at it!
Teal, can you do a video on crying and what it does to your emotional body? I'd love to hear your perspective on it.
Yes please
well said, , i've been attracted to men with my same traumas but opposite ways to survive. This is how relationships are meant to be, and their purpose. Indeed i learned a lot from everybody. then I went on from there, and I did not need to suffer anymore
+Eli666Ms Same.
brillianttttt
wow-nail on head
Please, do an episode about zodiac signs. do they stay the same in other lives? Are we "Geminis" in all our lives? Or do we change?
Healing others does help heal your own wounds
An apex of expressivity at 2;20: the sideways glance.
!Wow!!!! Teal it makes completly sense to me I can see this in my past relashionships. Thank you for all the information that you share with us. God bless you! sorry If I have bad spelling I am from Mexico Thanks!!!
thank you✌💙🔥
Soulmate: the person that you are interacting with. Love 'em or not.
Deff will be thinking over my last relationship choices thanks real 😄
What is the music that is playing in the intro? Its hauntingly beautiful!
Be with the one with whom you feel not good enough
Me-me-me-me-me!!!!!!! *EARS OPEN* Thank you Teal.
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU 💛🧡💖💚💙💜🖤
Awesome. I love your videos. The only thing I'm confused about is, if we're attracted to our mirror image to heal our own wounds, then won't that other person also want to become our rescuer and heal us too? Why do only WE (the ones watching) end up becoming the rescuer?
All ur videos are made in perfect timing and the creepy thing is that every time ur clothes are same as mine! Not just in exact shade but in style and everything! Every time! Thats little scary :P
I had discovered most of what you say on my own while writing and painting. But you just solved a big missing part. The girl I am attracted to was nice to me and I thought that's the reason I liked her. And now that I think about it, a lot of girls were nice to me. So I guess she shared my wound. Her father had died in an accident and she lacks the care of a loving father. In my case, I am so distant from my father emotionally because he choses money before me, and we barely talk even though we live in the same house; so I also lack the care of a loving father.
Now I really need to rethink about her. I hope I don't like her after this. I am not confident enough to like someone.
Makes sense, I'm dating a man that has PTSD just like me and I am relieved that we understand each other when we need to be alone yet I've been working on myself and I'm ready to take it further but he isn't ... I'm unable to end it because of my abandonment issue I guess I need to work more on my shadow work Ty for this video this helps to sift through my confusion